I have some exciting videos on the roster for February guyssss 😍 But, ya'll know I want to make content for YOU so let me know what you're struggling with right now so I can make some videos for you! ⬇🦋
Can you make a video for us girlies who want to follow our dreams of launching a podcast! Like can you share insight on content creation and how to grow an audience ✨
I know you’ve touched on this before. But can you dedicate a video to cringey/ embarrassing moments. They seem so crippling right now and hard to get over. I always feel like a weirdo and that I say the most awkward things. I don’t want to talk anymore because I’m embarrassed to talk in front of people. Even friends now Would SO appreciate it if you wanted another video idea. Thank you!!
I had to want change in order for change to happen. I had to identify the root of my insecurity to discover the reason behind my low self-esteem. It has taken me approximately 2 years and a few months to love myself. I had to read books, watch self-empowering TH-cam videos, journal, and train my mind to re-learn new habits and get rid of the bad habits. Growing up I wasn't the topic of the party and once I graduated high school I grew into my looks and womanhood. I became the woman I always wanted to be from the physique, physical appearance, and wardrobe. Everything I've ever wanted was in the palm of my hands and I still felt unfulfilled. It's important get rid of seeking validation because as you mentioned it's not consistent and if that's the only way we feed our souls we'll forever go hungry.
I definitely needed this video!! I have been feeling like i'm in my divine feminine energy lately and as my confidence has been building up, I'm attracting opportunities and people that are good for me! I started talking to someone new and even though i still have anxiety about connections with others bc i'm an anxious attachment, I have been doing a good job at staying patient, taking my time and really focusing on myself and upgrading my life before i even begin to think about a new relationship and it's been really really nice
I tell people I like things about ‘em, to the point of I have to hold myself back, because I do it SO often (I’m autistic; our brutal honesty goes both ways). I’ve found that there will be times - ESPECIALLY if you’re on you’re own shit and look great - people will be hesitant or put off, when complimented; especially, by someone they feel intimidated by/looks better than them. My mother always says I’m like the aunts, from ‘Practical Magic,’ when they walk around town, saying “hello” to everyone they pass by - no matter if those people are out off by ‘em, or not. Which, honestly, is what I do. Hell, I would even attempt to talk with the people who “bullied” me, in school. I really don’t care if people like me or not - though, I’ve never understood why people have to be mean (which, I have a stunted ability to register red flags, due to brain damage, also. I do experience anxiety, though, not too much fear). I don’t care if I can’t stand someone.. If I see something I appreciate about ‘em - I’ll tell ‘em. I think it’s the right thing to do. People like to feel seen. And perhaps that bit of interaction is enough to shift their mood. Which, often, makes my life easier, also - because it, most often, leads to a better connection and interactions. It helps break the ice. Though, it’s important to know when One is being honest in their compliments - and when they are doing it, in attempt to manipulate through flattery.
I was looking for validation before.. but now I don't!!! You've literally changed my life. You always hype my up whenever I remember you!! Damnnn you are just like my big sister!! I LOVE YOUUU SO MUCHHH!!!! And CONGRATULATIONS you deserve it queen SLAYYY
Im so glad you made this video bc after a falling out with a friend last year, I started to take my self-validation more seriously. Its so important to have your own back and validate yourself bc everybody else is gonna think what they think so as long as ur sure and comfortable in urself, then ur good :)
One thing I appreciate about you the most is your honesty. Many women believe they’re entitled to compliments without wanting to acknowledge others around them, I’ve seen many girl-friendships were there’s like a designated complimenter and complimentee, and usually the ones who give have the lowest self confidence. I believe everybody is valuable. You gotta give the energy you wish to receive (biggest lesson from this vid)😊 Congrats on the plaque again, you are so much love. I feel like your victories are my victories ❤❤❤
wow i love how you talked about having an inner child within you.. i always seek other people for validation because when i was a child i received it from either my parents, school, or friends relatives. But as i grew older my brain was trained to receive validation and not generate myself. I want to try practicing these habits and not feel like I am being self absorbed cause there is a difference.
I love your talks & your morning uploads because it always makes my day! 😊 Congrats on your youtube award!! 🎉 You've worked so hard to earn your subscribers. Your channel may grow slowly but your subscribers are loyal. You have longevity in this space, because the work you do is helping people to re-build themselves & to find themselves again. Your content teaches people about self-love, confidence & developing good self-esteem, which is so fundamentally important in a toxic society where positive things are lacking! Thank you for all that you do. Again Congratulations love 🥂
Awww thank you so much I’m so grateful for you!!! And you’re very right and that’s honestly my biggest focus, is to create the community that we have and to put out content that truly changes lives. So happy to have you here with me 🥰🙏🏼❤️
This is the kind of talk WE NEED ! MERCI ! I remember clearly, when I was about 13-14 years old, I had SO MUCH confidence (I don't know where from) but I would keep saying "I am just so beautiful". I remember one day, a guy told me "You should wait for others to tell you you're beautiful" and I laughed because I knew how weird it could seem to tell people how beautiful I felt. Then I lost it for years. Still now I am constantly looking for others to validate anything I do (or almost). And you can guess, that does not make me happy AT ALL. I can even feel that it feels like I get less respect from some people (even close to me) because they can probably feel I'm waaay to insecure when I have everything to feel secure and to be always a better version. Your talk is inspiring, it makes me reflect and I wanna change right now. I already change my routine this morning thanks to one of you video I saw yesterday. Thank you again from France (we don't find this kind of content here !)
It’s hard living life always seeking validation - an ok- from people to do what you want, be who you want, go where you want, etc. Unfortunately I think it’s something mainly women suffer from in general, but it can cause this lack of confidence that Makes you miss out on so much. Rooting for all of us to say f that and only get approval from ourselves . Listen to your intuition :)
I've already watched this, but watching it again because I wanna be reminded again to stop seeking validations from others and start validating yourself.
Elicia, this is just the video I need! I'm a high school senior starting out self-improvement. As a teen, it's really easy to fall into the trap of comparing myself to other girls on social media or irl and wishing I'd receive the same amount of validating comments as they do. But you reminded me that the first step should always be to validate myself! Even though my body's not like those social media girls', I'm not the most diligent and organized student, and I'm not super popular in high school, I still have a lot of creativity, humor, and dreams within me that I ought to validate! :3 This video is like transferring some kind of a glowing, orange positive energy from you to me 🧡🧡🧡
Really proud of how far you’ve come and the people you’ve inspired. It’s really rare to find someone you inspires people in their own matured version of themselves and tries so hard to be a better person. I love the power u have sis. Ily 🖤
There was a time when I validated certain people, said nice things to them, wanted to please them because they are relatives of my partner but they never validated me and then I came to this point where I said f*** off, instead of validating people like them I started validating myself, no matter if they appreciate my decision or not. Now I couldn't care less. I have my own life, I'm a wonderful woman no matter what some unsecure people think of themselves or me, it's not my problem. My task in life is to focus on my life and not to please others. Not even if these people are family. You deserve respect, If they are not showing their respect towards you, they don't deserve you in their life because you deserve better.
Elicia! I'm so happy for you. You nearly have 150k subscribers and you've created a platform where so many feel seen and understood. I live close to my family in law. My husband always wants to spend our week ends at their place, but they're always invalidate me and my recent successes. My choices are always been questioned and I've been making some changes in my life, deciding that I wanted to be a writer and create a platform for women where we all feel safe. I won't tell other people my plans, but my step family just treats me like I'm just depressed and lost, telling people around them that I'm still in the same place as the last 5 years where I was looking for what I wanted in life, always having a new project and doing it until I didn't like it anymore. This time this is so different. I've succeeded my treatment and my therapy and I've been mastering the tools to understand my emotions and behaviours. I've healed so many trauma wounds. I've healed my inner child deeply. They still treat me like the traumatized little girl that didn't know what she wants. I didn't ask for their validation, but I think I still craved it unconsciously. They're my only family. I'm an orphan who had to escape her abusive and neglecting family. My brother wanted to kill me. I came into their home and they welcomed me into their homes. This is also why I can't just keep my distance with them, I would feel so ungrateful for trying to protect my peace, while they're criticizing me because they feel bad about themselves. They're in so much pain. I feel like they can't support me if I get better. It's very lonely for me, because I don't have anyone else. My husband is my best friend so it's okay. He's the reason I wanted to get better in the first place. I'm learning everyday, and I'm so grateful for your work. I'm so happy to see that your success expands so much everyday. I'm sending you all the love and support. Have a great mars day!
Wow. This is big. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through but also so proud of how resilient you’ve been… truly inspiring. Please know that I’m here for you, we are ALL here as a community and you are never alone. I hope my content continues to bring you some sense of inspiration and peace to keep going. Sending you so much love ❤️
Yup! A lot of people are just straight up useless (as in their thought process doesn’t even make sense and they never think deeply about ANYTHING). Looking to them for validation is like sending yourself to hell
I feel like a lot of that insecurity of “I need someone else’s input” comes from the way we grew up or just social media culture in general. From parents specifically, if you grew up being told that what you were doing was wrong constantly then in adulthood it makes sense that you don’t feel secure in your decisions. Social media amplifies that by constantly showing us the best parts of others, which in turn, constantly makes us feel like we aren’t doing enough. In reality these type of insecurities make sense because of the world we live in. I’ve definitely gone through a long journey of trying to find confidence within myself and I’m not even legal yet, like from a young age these ideas are instilled in us. Don’t ever feel bad or judge yourself when you realize you aren’t being the best version of you, but understand that you can do better and just knowing that will help you be better for you and the people around you.
5 minutes into the video and i do agree with you sooo much! i used to find validation through being successful at school/university by getting good grades, scholarships, and so on to build the most perfect CV i could think of. and ever since i got my dream job, i struggled a lot bc i simply had no new course to pass or anything like that. i really need to validate myself simply by being me and loving me here and now
I loved this and you!!!! I have been questioning myself on why I need validation from other people so much lately and your video came at the perfect time!! Thank you for allowing me to finally understand what it means to show up for myself. I feel so empowered knowing that I do have my back, that I do trust and believe in myself, and my decisions can finally be my own. 💖💖
At what point in your self improvement journey did you realize that everything you love/ use to love was at the point of no return? Like completely clearing out old mindsets, friends, beliefs & even routines? Did one day you have like a eureka moment and decided enough was enough and go full force or did you watch things slowly come to life ?
Congratulations 🎉 I am so proud of how far you’ve come. I have been really hard on myself on this healing journey. I’m learning to be more compassionate, patient and understanding with myself. I am a work in progress and I will get through this ❤
Hey thank you so much for this video. Honestly I struggled with self belief for a very long time. As the eldest, you're the example that you're siblings and I've always had that mind set of perfection.
i cannot thank you enough for doing this. You are truly a blessing and im sooo garteful that i found this account. Dont give up the work even if you feel like your message doesnt reach to enough people, there will be always at least one person who appreciates your work 💗
Whew this hit hard -- just what I needed while going through this extensive process of being my own soft landing, it's a journey but who else is gonna do it? Congratulations on 100k by the Way!!
Just sharing that I am obsessed with your videos! Feels like I'm chatting with a friend but I feel like I learn so much from your videos and always feel so empowered after. Thank you and congrats on 100K!
I NEEDED this video so bad! Thank you so much!! And congratulations - you deserve it so so much!! Could you please do a video on how to move on from toxic and abusive childhood and family ? And on how we can stop being afraid to go on dates with men because of the abuse we suffered as children (idk if what I’m saying makes sense lol) ?
This vid is so relatable ❤ i have on many times changed my outfit which i really wanted to wear because I didn’t get validation from my mom ! I am overly dependent on my mom for validation . Sometimes its cute but my mom has a set of fears and reservations which makes her not like anything I wear
Aw my heart 😢 I like that you acknowledged that sometimes it’s okay to get validation from your mom 💗 but definitely comes to the point where you need to do you!!!
I swear omg i relate to being scared of giving compliments bc i feel like people wouldn’t like it or think i’m weird or think i’m trying to hard, whatever,,, for saying that when i don’t know them just exactly like how u said it
You are going to skyrocket, I'm calling it. Keep up the good work! I like putting your talks in the background while doing homework to keep me motivated.
I watched this in the right time. Your content is truly Godsend to me. I always asked people about my outfits so I wore this one outfit which I really liked but when I asked my sister she was like nah and I was discouraged but then I watched this video and decided to wear it and it felt good to just trust myself and opinion but people complimenting it was just the cherry on top 😍❤️
Love this Video! And truly believe that if you want validation you have to spread it around to others too. But also that it doesn't matter if people do not validate you because you have to be your own biggest fan at the end of the day to achieve what you want.
You’ve quickly become my fave in the last few days. I’ve had tons of your videos in my Watch Later & i finally was able to binge some of my playlist & you got me sooooo motivated! Thank youuu girly keep it up!
THIS is the video that brought me to your channel. And after a scroll through your page, I can see you speak on so many things that are important to myself at this point in life as well as countless others. Thank you. 💖
Thanks a lot for your sharing. The old me kept asking and validation from my family about my ability and my beauty, even when I met some of my friend, they gave some compliments and I didn't trust that I have a lovely voice and attractive face...But, I'll be a person who have a good communication skill and become a talent one ❤ I really appreciate your sharing ❤ Thank you ❤
So glad I could watch this. Still catching up and i will do so...(Promise!). Firstly, Congratulations once again! Seeing you show the 100k PlayButton i felt like my friend was showing this to us. We are so proud of you Elicia. Secondly, this VIDEO. GOSH! This was something I really needed to hear. No wonder I feel empty even when i thought i craved the external validation. We still dont feel peaceful. It still doenst feel complete without our own hype up. No wonder I end up denying or not believing the external validation. Such a contradiction. As if what we really needed more than anything was our own validation. You explained it so well. Im so glad you brought this up. Thank you once again!
I appreciate your continued support for me and my channel my love 💗 and you're so right about external validation. You know I'm here to always help and guide you guys and always know that this is something I've had to go through as well 🥰
Congrats !!! I love seeing your Channel grow I remember being here at 1k and knowing you’d blow up because you were so authentic and real you deserve it there’s many more great things to come for you
Wow, I was unsure when I clicked the video because there's a lot of empty encouraging videos that say nothing out there, but I loved this one!! I loved the ideas and your energy 🥰 I'm subscribing!
thank you for this video ❤ i've recently been in a bad mental state and this video came at a perfect time! watching this has made me realise some things i need to change about myself
I really loved this video. I recently discovered your channel and I'm so glad I did. Your words are like hugs to the soul! And beautiful reminders of what life is. Thank you so much 💗
As the jovial and happy person among my friend group, I find it very easy to complement them and hype them up, I could say all my friends are comfortable talking to me and staying around me, recently have been sick and also going through a breakup Started keeping to myself a little bit cause I was trying to heal and boom everybody thought I was beefing, I did not tell them I was going through a breakup because I wanted to be sure I am not getting back together with the guy But they could have just asked what's wrong with me, I felt soo bad
Omg your videos always come through when I need them ☺️ I use to have a open bite my whole life up until age 24 I got braces and they’ll be coming off soon but anyways I’ve become the most insecure these last couple of months. I’ve been taking care of my skin getting facials, braces for my teeth , eating more healthy and taking care of my real hair and wearing it but yet I’ve still been feeling so ugly and low i don’t know if it’s social media or what but i never cared for people thoughts of me but now I do more than EVERRRR and don’t understand why 😔 I hype everyone up around but nobody Around me hype me up NOT MY FRIENDS OR MY BOYFRIEND.. I Get my hair done, nails & feet and my boyfriend probably says NOTHING NOT EVEN A “ bae you look so cute or you look great bae “ 😔
But the thing is I don’t share my insecurities with family & friends. I just smile and keep it going and everybody comes to me to hype them up when they low but nobody do it for me
Thank you, girl 🎉 so beautifully put. You helped me so much. You are moving more than you know by just being the light and the truth. I understand this is your first commission exciting sales, and it is the same as what I'm getting and excited af to the that action with every day.
Omg this video was so good i learned alot it helped me alot god bless u and please make more amazing videos like this im gonna keep watching u because u are so real and tell us so many important things 🙏🙏🙏✨✨🌺
Note to self: When you are asking everyone for permission, you are asking them for permission to do something. Do what you want to do. Follow your inner guide. 3.5/5 At the end of the day, their lives are unaffected.
thankyou so much for teaching me about those topics I really feel so stuck and i needed to hear about this really feel like you are a friend i never had haha
Ilysm ❤ love this channel. Love you. Every video is like a needed therapy session. So thank you for this channel. So very very much! Self love is really a journey. I know I’ll get to where I wanna be! ❤
Thank you for this wonderful video! I am new to you're channel and I am already feeling super inspired by you. I never even thought much about validation in my life but watching this has helped me to see things in a new and clearer way. Thank you for exploring the topic with such clarity and confidence.
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I have some exciting videos on the roster for February guyssss 😍 But, ya'll know I want to make content for YOU so let me know what you're struggling with right now so I can make some videos for you! ⬇🦋
Sometimes I struggle with jealousy and I don’t know how to be content with what I have and where I am right now
Can you make a video for us girlies who want to follow our dreams of launching a podcast! Like can you share insight on content creation and how to grow an audience ✨
I would love a video on the power of believing in yourself!! 🫶🏻
Can u make a video on how keep going if u have family issues or any issues of that sort?
I know you’ve touched on this before. But can you dedicate a video to cringey/ embarrassing moments. They seem so crippling right now and hard to get over. I always feel like a weirdo and that I say the most awkward things. I don’t want to talk anymore because I’m embarrassed to talk in front of people. Even friends now
Would SO appreciate it if you wanted another video idea. Thank you!!
I had to want change in order for change to happen. I had to identify the root of my insecurity to discover the reason behind my low self-esteem. It has taken me approximately 2 years and a few months to love myself. I had to read books, watch self-empowering TH-cam videos, journal, and train my mind to re-learn new habits and get rid of the bad habits. Growing up I wasn't the topic of the party and once I graduated high school I grew into my looks and womanhood. I became the woman I always wanted to be from the physique, physical appearance, and wardrobe. Everything I've ever wanted was in the palm of my hands and I still felt unfulfilled. It's important get rid of seeking validation because as you mentioned it's not consistent and if that's the only way we feed our souls we'll forever go hungry.
Yaaaaaaaasss!!!
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I definitely needed this video!! I have been feeling like i'm in my divine feminine energy lately and as my confidence has been building up, I'm attracting opportunities and people that are good for me! I started talking to someone new and even though i still have anxiety about connections with others bc i'm an anxious attachment, I have been doing a good job at staying patient, taking my time and really focusing on myself and upgrading my life before i even begin to think about a new relationship and it's been really really nice
Omg girl I’m so damn proud of YOU😍❤️
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Love this for you ❤
I tell people I like things about ‘em, to the point of I have to hold myself back, because I do it SO often (I’m autistic; our brutal honesty goes both ways).
I’ve found that there will be times - ESPECIALLY if you’re on you’re own shit and look great - people will be hesitant or put off, when complimented; especially, by someone they feel intimidated by/looks better than them.
My mother always says I’m like the aunts, from ‘Practical Magic,’ when they walk around town, saying “hello” to everyone they pass by - no matter if those people are out off by ‘em, or not.
Which, honestly, is what I do.
Hell, I would even attempt to talk with the people who “bullied” me, in school.
I really don’t care if people like me or not - though, I’ve never understood why people have to be mean (which, I have a stunted ability to register red flags, due to brain damage, also. I do experience anxiety, though, not too much fear).
I don’t care if I can’t stand someone.. If I see something I appreciate about ‘em - I’ll tell ‘em.
I think it’s the right thing to do.
People like to feel seen. And perhaps that bit of interaction is enough to shift their mood.
Which, often, makes my life easier, also - because it, most often, leads to a better connection and interactions.
It helps break the ice.
Though, it’s important to know when One is being honest in their compliments - and when they are doing it, in attempt to manipulate through flattery.
You are soooo real 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I was looking for validation before.. but now I don't!!!
You've literally changed my life. You always hype my up whenever I remember you!! Damnnn you are just like my big sister!! I LOVE YOUUU SO MUCHHH!!!!
And CONGRATULATIONS you deserve it queen SLAYYY
AWWW I LOVE YOU BABEEEE
Im so glad you made this video bc after a falling out with a friend last year, I started to take my self-validation more seriously. Its so important to have your own back and validate yourself bc everybody else is gonna think what they think so as long as ur sure and comfortable in urself, then ur good :)
Be your own best friend ❤️🦋
One thing I appreciate about you the most is your honesty. Many women believe they’re entitled to compliments without wanting to acknowledge others around them, I’ve seen many girl-friendships were there’s like a designated complimenter and complimentee, and usually the ones who give have the lowest self confidence. I believe everybody is valuable.
You gotta give the energy you wish to receive (biggest lesson from this vid)😊
Congrats on the plaque again, you are so much love. I feel like your victories are my victories ❤❤❤
Aw I always appreciate you!!! 👏🏼❤️❤️
wow i love how you talked about having an inner child within you.. i always seek other people for validation because when i was a child i received it from either my parents, school, or friends relatives. But as i grew older my brain was trained to receive validation and not generate myself. I want to try practicing these habits and not feel like I am being self absorbed cause there is a difference.
I love your talks & your morning uploads because it always makes my day! 😊 Congrats on your youtube award!! 🎉 You've worked so hard to earn your subscribers. Your channel may grow slowly but your subscribers are loyal. You have longevity in this space, because the work you do is helping people to re-build themselves & to find themselves again. Your content teaches people about self-love, confidence & developing good self-esteem, which is so fundamentally important in a toxic society where positive things are lacking! Thank you for all that you do. Again Congratulations love 🥂
Awww thank you so much I’m so grateful for you!!! And you’re very right and that’s honestly my biggest focus, is to create the community that we have and to put out content that truly changes lives. So happy to have you here with me 🥰🙏🏼❤️
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This is the kind of talk WE NEED ! MERCI ! I remember clearly, when I was about 13-14 years old, I had SO MUCH confidence (I don't know where from) but I would keep saying "I am just so beautiful". I remember one day, a guy told me "You should wait for others to tell you you're beautiful" and I laughed because I knew how weird it could seem to tell people how beautiful I felt. Then I lost it for years. Still now I am constantly looking for others to validate anything I do (or almost). And you can guess, that does not make me happy AT ALL. I can even feel that it feels like I get less respect from some people (even close to me) because they can probably feel I'm waaay to insecure when I have everything to feel secure and to be always a better version. Your talk is inspiring, it makes me reflect and I wanna change right now. I already change my routine this morning thanks to one of you video I saw yesterday. Thank you again from France (we don't find this kind of content here !)
I love validating myself. Its regenerizing, vitalizing and a stupendous confidence boost. 🎉😊
It’s hard living life always seeking validation - an ok- from people to do what you want, be who you want, go where you want, etc. Unfortunately I think it’s something mainly women suffer from in general, but it can cause this lack of confidence that Makes you miss out on so much. Rooting for all of us to say f that and only get approval from ourselves . Listen to your intuition :)
I've already watched this, but watching it again because I wanna be reminded again to stop seeking validations from others and start validating yourself.
Elicia, this is just the video I need! I'm a high school senior starting out self-improvement. As a teen, it's really easy to fall into the trap of comparing myself to other girls on social media or irl and wishing I'd receive the same amount of validating comments as they do. But you reminded me that the first step should always be to validate myself! Even though my body's not like those social media girls', I'm not the most diligent and organized student, and I'm not super popular in high school, I still have a lot of creativity, humor, and dreams within me that I ought to validate! :3 This video is like transferring some kind of a glowing, orange positive energy from you to me 🧡🧡🧡
Tbh I could never finish your videos bc I feel sooo attacked but it’s a push to hear and NEED TO HEAR. You share your story but your voice is BOLD.
Omg I love the honestly!!!!! Thank you love 😭😭
Really proud of how far you’ve come and the people you’ve inspired. It’s really rare to find someone you inspires people in their own matured version of themselves and tries so hard to be a better person. I love the power u have sis. Ily 🖤
Wow. I love you. Thank you so so so much for this 🥹❤️
There was a time when I validated certain people, said nice things to them, wanted to please them because they are relatives of my partner but they never validated me and then I came to this point where I said f*** off, instead of validating people like them I started validating myself, no matter if they appreciate my decision or not. Now I couldn't care less. I have my own life, I'm a wonderful woman no matter what some unsecure people think of themselves or me, it's not my problem. My task in life is to focus on my life and not to please others. Not even if these people are family. You deserve respect, If they are not showing their respect towards you, they don't deserve you in their life because you deserve better.
Elicia! I'm so happy for you. You nearly have 150k subscribers and you've created a platform where so many feel seen and understood.
I live close to my family in law. My husband always wants to spend our week ends at their place, but they're always invalidate me and my recent successes. My choices are always been questioned and I've been making some changes in my life, deciding that I wanted to be a writer and create a platform for women where we all feel safe. I won't tell other people my plans, but my step family just treats me like I'm just depressed and lost, telling people around them that I'm still in the same place as the last 5 years where I was looking for what I wanted in life, always having a new project and doing it until I didn't like it anymore. This time this is so different. I've succeeded my treatment and my therapy and I've been mastering the tools to understand my emotions and behaviours. I've healed so many trauma wounds. I've healed my inner child deeply.
They still treat me like the traumatized little girl that didn't know what she wants. I didn't ask for their validation, but I think I still craved it unconsciously. They're my only family. I'm an orphan who had to escape her abusive and neglecting family. My brother wanted to kill me. I came into their home and they welcomed me into their homes. This is also why I can't just keep my distance with them, I would feel so ungrateful for trying to protect my peace, while they're criticizing me because they feel bad about themselves. They're in so much pain. I feel like they can't support me if I get better.
It's very lonely for me, because I don't have anyone else. My husband is my best friend so it's okay. He's the reason I wanted to get better in the first place.
I'm learning everyday, and I'm so grateful for your work. I'm so happy to see that your success expands so much everyday. I'm sending you all the love and support. Have a great mars day!
Wow. This is big. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through but also so proud of how resilient you’ve been… truly inspiring. Please know that I’m here for you, we are ALL here as a community and you are never alone. I hope my content continues to bring you some sense of inspiration and peace to keep going. Sending you so much love ❤️
Yup! A lot of people are just straight up useless (as in their thought process doesn’t even make sense and they never think deeply about ANYTHING). Looking to them for validation is like sending yourself to hell
I feel like a lot of that insecurity of “I need someone else’s input” comes from the way we grew up or just social media culture in general. From parents specifically, if you grew up being told that what you were doing was wrong constantly then in adulthood it makes sense that you don’t feel secure in your decisions. Social media amplifies that by constantly showing us the best parts of others, which in turn, constantly makes us feel like we aren’t doing enough. In reality these type of insecurities make sense because of the world we live in. I’ve definitely gone through a long journey of trying to find confidence within myself and I’m not even legal yet, like from a young age these ideas are instilled in us. Don’t ever feel bad or judge yourself when you realize you aren’t being the best version of you, but understand that you can do better and just knowing that will help you be better for you and the people around you.
5 minutes into the video and i do agree with you sooo much! i used to find validation through being successful at school/university by getting good grades, scholarships, and so on to build the most perfect CV i could think of. and ever since i got my dream job, i struggled a lot bc i simply had no new course to pass or anything like that. i really need to validate myself simply by being me and loving me here and now
Yes omg. You are SO damn worthy ❤️
That's so true.i stay away from such people. With low energy
I loved this and you!!!! I have been questioning myself on why I need validation from other people so much lately and your video came at the perfect time!! Thank you for allowing me to finally understand what it means to show up for myself. I feel so empowered knowing that I do have my back, that I do trust and believe in myself, and my decisions can finally be my own. 💖💖
when she said "we're not having that anymore", I felt it.
I LOOVE how blunt you are!
Hahaah omg thank you!!!’
At what point in your self improvement journey did you realize that everything you love/ use to love was at the point of no return? Like completely clearing out old mindsets, friends, beliefs & even routines? Did one day you have like a eureka moment and decided enough was enough and go full force or did you watch things slowly come to life ?
things slowly come together! life is a literal journey 🦋
Congratulations 🎉 I am so proud of how far you’ve come. I have been really hard on myself on this healing journey. I’m learning to be more compassionate, patient and understanding with myself. I am a work in progress and I will get through this ❤
Thank you my love!!! I’m so proud of you too 🥰
So proud of you Kay!
@@wolfiesasha887 thank you 💓
This woman right here helped me get through my life for REAL ! 🍀
We are getting what we are putting… i hype up my friends all the time, i am happy for their successes and i am not getting it back
wow i’ve been struggling with this since i stopped seeking validation in relationships. i appreciate this and will be working towards this!
Hey thank you so much for this video. Honestly I struggled with self belief for a very long time. As the eldest, you're the example that you're siblings and I've always had that mind set of perfection.
i cannot thank you enough for doing this. You are truly a blessing and im sooo garteful that i found this account. Dont give up the work even if you feel like your message doesnt reach to enough people, there will be always at least one person who appreciates your work 💗
Always gunna be here. I got you 🥰❤️
Whew this hit hard -- just what I needed while going through this extensive process of being my own soft landing, it's a journey but who else is gonna do it? Congratulations on 100k by the Way!!
Sometimes it's a must to hear videos like this from time to time 👏🏼
Just sharing that I am obsessed with your videos! Feels like I'm chatting with a friend but I feel like I learn so much from your videos and always feel so empowered after. Thank you and congrats on 100K!
aww thank you so much 💗
I NEEDED this video so bad! Thank you so much!! And congratulations - you deserve it so so much!! Could you please do a video on how to move on from toxic and abusive childhood and family ? And on how we can stop being afraid to go on dates with men because of the abuse we suffered as children (idk if what I’m saying makes sense lol) ?
Watch TheWizardLiz
@@Tshego_Genevieve I already watch her videos
Thank you so much love!!! And yes definitely going to cover these topics, i got you babe ❤️
@@UnicornPizza Your music playlist is so good, it also has my fav tracks
@@fallininlooove Thank you! :)
This vid is so relatable ❤ i have on many times changed my outfit which i really wanted to wear because I didn’t get validation from my mom ! I am overly dependent on my mom for validation . Sometimes its cute but my mom has a set of fears and reservations which makes her not like anything I wear
Aw my heart 😢 I like that you acknowledged that sometimes it’s okay to get validation from your mom 💗 but definitely comes to the point where you need to do you!!!
Your videos are so knowledgeable I can listen to you talk 24/7
Omg ily 🥹
Wow. Thank you for freeing me from the shackles of external validation.
I swear omg i relate to being scared of giving compliments bc i feel like people wouldn’t like it or think i’m weird or think i’m trying to hard, whatever,,, for saying that when i don’t know them just exactly like how u said it
You are going to skyrocket, I'm calling it. Keep up the good work! I like putting your talks in the background while doing homework to keep me motivated.
I appreciate you so much 🥰
@@eliciagoguen :) I really like your talks, so I downloaded a podcast app and I listen to them while looking at my comics too.
I watched this in the right time. Your content is truly Godsend to me. I always asked people about my outfits so I wore this one outfit which I really liked but when I asked my sister she was like nah and I was discouraged but then I watched this video and decided to wear it and it felt good to just trust myself and opinion but people complimenting it was just the cherry on top 😍❤️
“ It’s an old story “ thank you ! 17:19
I validate and support others it's my best quality
Love this Video! And truly believe that if you want validation you have to spread it around to others too. But also that it doesn't matter if people do not validate you because you have to be your own biggest fan at the end of the day to achieve what you want.
Yes babe!!!!
This brought a smile to my face, congratulations you deserve it!
Thank you lovely 🥹
Thank you. I def struggle with this because I always used the outside world to reassure myself. It’s a habbit I need to break
You’ve quickly become my fave in the last few days. I’ve had tons of your videos in my Watch Later & i finally was able to binge some of my playlist & you got me sooooo motivated! Thank youuu girly keep it up!
Awww thanks my love 🥰
THIS is the video that brought me to your channel. And after a scroll through your page, I can see you speak on so many things that are important to myself at this point in life as well as countless others. Thank you. 💖
"THAT IS AN OLD STORY AND I HAVE THE POWER TO NOT LISTEN TO THAT STORY" YES.
Everytime I'm thinking about something. You make a video about it. Thank you!
Thanks a lot for your sharing. The old me kept asking and validation from my family about my ability and my beauty, even when I met some of my friend, they gave some compliments and I didn't trust that I have a lovely voice and attractive face...But, I'll be a person who have a good communication skill and become a talent one ❤
I really appreciate your sharing ❤
Thank you ❤
So glad I could watch this. Still catching up and i will do so...(Promise!). Firstly, Congratulations once again! Seeing you show the 100k PlayButton i felt like my friend was showing this to us. We are so proud of you Elicia. Secondly, this VIDEO. GOSH! This was something I really needed to hear. No wonder I feel empty even when i thought i craved the external validation. We still dont feel peaceful. It still doenst feel complete without our own hype up. No wonder I end up denying or not believing the external validation. Such a contradiction. As if what we really needed more than anything was our own validation. You explained it so well. Im so glad you brought this up. Thank you once again!
I appreciate your continued support for me and my channel my love 💗 and you're so right about external validation. You know I'm here to always help and guide you guys and always know that this is something I've had to go through as well 🥰
Your so right.... Get it girl, Thank you for being awesome 😎
Congrats !!! I love seeing your Channel grow I remember being here at 1k and knowing you’d blow up because you were so authentic and real you deserve it there’s many more great things to come for you
Omg thank you for staying with me 🥹🥹❤️❤️❤️
Wow, I was unsure when I clicked the video because there's a lot of empty encouraging videos that say nothing out there, but I loved this one!! I loved the ideas and your energy 🥰 I'm subscribing!
thank you for this video ❤ i've recently been in a bad mental state and this video came at a perfect time! watching this has made me realise some things i need to change about myself
I really loved this video. I recently discovered your channel and I'm so glad I did. Your words are like hugs to the soul! And beautiful reminders of what life is. Thank you so much 💗
Aww thank you so much babe 🥹❤️
As the jovial and happy person among my friend group, I find it very easy to complement them and hype them up, I could say all my friends are comfortable talking to me and staying around me, recently have been sick and also going through a breakup
Started keeping to myself a little bit cause I was trying to heal and boom everybody thought I was beefing, I did not tell them I was going through a breakup because I wanted to be sure I am not getting back together with the guy
But they could have just asked what's wrong with me, I felt soo bad
cool how this aligns with the leo full moon 🥰 all about not letting external validation define you
I love listening to your talks while I'm getting ready, it helps me focus and it really makes me feel better about what I'm doing too. thank you sm!
Omg your videos always come through when I need them ☺️ I use to have a open bite my whole life up until age 24 I got braces and they’ll be coming off soon but anyways I’ve become the most insecure these last couple of months. I’ve been taking care of my skin getting facials, braces for my teeth , eating more healthy and taking care of my real hair and wearing it but yet I’ve still been feeling so ugly and low i don’t know if it’s social media or what but i never cared for people thoughts of me but now I do more than EVERRRR and don’t understand why 😔 I hype everyone up around but nobody Around me hype me up NOT MY FRIENDS OR MY BOYFRIEND.. I Get my hair done, nails & feet and my boyfriend probably says NOTHING NOT EVEN A “ bae you look so cute or you look great bae “ 😔
But the thing is I don’t share my insecurities with family & friends. I just smile and keep it going and everybody comes to me to hype them up when they low but nobody do it for me
@@ebonythomas3111 sis, your boyfriend doesn't hype you up ?!?!??!??
You’re gorgeous honey! I hope you know that. Listen to some Dylan James overnight tracks to help address with your limiting beliefs. ❤
Thank you, girl 🎉 so beautifully put. You helped me so much. You are moving more than you know by just being the light and the truth. I understand this is your first commission exciting sales, and it is the same as what I'm getting and excited af to the that action with every day.
“It’s an old story” I love it! thank you 💕
I don’t know about being with people with similar interests… it took my some years to realize being comfortable is the enemy of growth
absolutely loved this video, ur so well spoken and it's an amazing thing that u help other people evolve and gain confidence
Omg this video was so good i learned alot it helped me alot god bless u and please make more amazing videos like this im gonna keep watching u because u are so real and tell us so many important things 🙏🙏🙏✨✨🌺
Note to self: When you are asking everyone for permission, you are asking them for permission to do something. Do what you want to do. Follow your inner guide. 3.5/5
At the end of the day, their lives are unaffected.
Now this is what social media was for. Sharing helpful information
Awww you’re welcome ❤️
I love the way you speak, you really inspired change in myself and how I view others. Keep being awesome!
Prioritize yourself first so you can be the best version of yourself to prioritize others. Took me years to realize this.
Yes, yes, talk to us about manifestations!!
I really needed to hear this from someone. Ive been going through some stuff and you really made me feel so much better. Thank you!! New subscriber :)
glad to have elicia to teach us life things no one did
I got you babes!!!
I validate people! I totally agree with you ❤ thanks for sharing
she’s really best friend material
Omg ily 🥹
oh god! congradulations!!!! i watch you here from brazil and i´m just addicted about it! you made my life pretty much better and you deserve it!
Aww thank you my love 😍
thankyou so much for teaching me about those topics I really feel so stuck and i needed to hear about this really feel like you are a friend i never had haha
omg you lowkey look like aubrey plaza!!!! loved this video
It's a good day over here when Elicia posts ✨✨
Ily 🥹❤️
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I feel this especially on valentines day.
I've been listening to your podcast and seeing your videos and I really love them, keep going I'm proud of you. 🖤
Awww thank you so much for listening 🥹
Hi Elicia,
i have put two comments on your videos, and yet again another video that i need ( project of my reality)
Keep it up Queen!
Ilysm ❤ love this channel. Love you. Every video is like a needed therapy session. So thank you for this channel. So very very much! Self love is really a journey. I know I’ll get to where I wanna be! ❤
Aww I love you!!!🥹❤️
LOVED THIS.!!!!! THANK YOU.!!!! ❤
Glad I found your channel sis
You helped me sooo much with your Videos, can't wait for your book !! Lots of love from Germany 🫶🏻❤
This was very helpful im ready for self improvement
thank you so much . I needed this !!❤️🔥
This video came to my timeline exactly when I needed it. ✨❤️
I got YOU😍
@@eliciagoguen 🥰
The big sister that I wished I had in my life
Love that you give real helpful tips. These talks are great!
its my first visit and i must say i love you
Love you right back 🤍
Well said dear this definitely ongoing process & congratulations on your TH-cam plaque ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉💯💯💯🤗🤗
Thank you my love ❤️❤️❤️
@@eliciagoguen you’re very welcome I’m a new subscriber to your channel yayy ❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗
Almost at 200k already 🔥 YT is doing you good ‼️
2:22 YES EXACTLY
Thank you for this wonderful video! I am new to you're channel and I am already feeling super inspired by you.
I never even thought much about validation in my life but watching this has helped me to see things in a new and clearer way.
Thank you for exploring the topic with such clarity and confidence.
you always have the perfect video for my current situations 😭💕 thank you so much
I love youuuuu❤️