An Interview with my Alcoholic Uncle | a short film by Arthur Cauty

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  • @acauty
    @acauty  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    PART 2 OUT NOW: th-cam.com/video/31CxgPIQzaI/w-d-xo.html

  • @sraimand1982
    @sraimand1982 5 ปีที่แล้ว +922

    I drank whiskey for 8 years straight. Morning to night. From the age of 28 to 36 years old. I never missed a day. This video impacted me so deeply. (this man looks just like my father who smacked his head in the bathroom while in a drunken stooper and died in my arms). Seeing how this man had let his son down and gave up on life assisted me in my decision to stop drinking and be a better father. I have been sober for one year now. To those who are battling alcoholism I say this...be strong and think about the future. As hard as it may be. Do it for yourself and your loved ones

    • @sarahsmyth5383
      @sarahsmyth5383 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Wow that's great well done an keep going.

    • @sethdoeslegalmeth3162
      @sethdoeslegalmeth3162 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      when i was 16 my father drunkenly hit his head on the bathtub died a few days later its been 2 years later and i've turned to weed to feel better

    • @ayeevizzy8723
      @ayeevizzy8723 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's just awesome!

    • @sraimand1982
      @sraimand1982 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@sethdoeslegalmeth3162 I had to let the herb go too. I felt like I started over compensating with how much I was smoking. And the fact that it is so damn expensive now. But I totally understand.

    • @Damathmatical
      @Damathmatical 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Keep coming back it works if you work it

  • @tonimarx6405
    @tonimarx6405 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I was completely out of my mind for 25yrs due to alcoholism and it's a miracle i survived.
    Towards the end i had lost half my body weight and smelt like i was rotting, which i was. I lived on bread, white whine and valium.
    The unbelievable loneliness and misery i felt was indescribable but it was that vast suffering that made me decide to approach life from a different angle and that meant putting the bottle down.
    Getting sober was one of the most traumatic and profound things i've eve done. When i wake up each morning and hear the birds and see the light flowing through my window i often become overwhelmed with gratitude for life.
    That gratitude sustains me.

    • @willbrown7364
      @willbrown7364 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      God bless you. I hope your strength is infectious to those who need it

  • @nazariteknightwatching9537
    @nazariteknightwatching9537 7 ปีที่แล้ว +657

    I've been sober 18 yrs, prayers.

    • @adamcoyne230
      @adamcoyne230 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bearded pecker.

    • @JohnDoe69986
      @JohnDoe69986 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If you’re still out there somewhere congratulations man

    • @manano06
      @manano06 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congrats! Hope you are still doing well!

    • @noneya9035
      @noneya9035 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Im on five years in August. Blessings to you!!!

    • @TheHunter-en3bm
      @TheHunter-en3bm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Larry Schroeder Shut up, idiot.

  • @peterhughes4767
    @peterhughes4767 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I'm just over 8 years sober now, it can be done, and there is a better life after alcohol.

    • @Steve-e7p
      @Steve-e7p 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      36 years sober, it can be done and life is fantastic.

    • @jeffreymarcum9658
      @jeffreymarcum9658 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It's hard to feel like there's a way through but there is and it's worth it

  • @Mattnoble80
    @Mattnoble80 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I’m clean and sober for 586 days, I finally feel better. I hope this man can. What a great painting of him. He has something to live for

    • @williambass5933
      @williambass5933 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just happened to see your post and wanted to say,, you can do it!!

    • @US_ARMY_25_INF._DIV.
      @US_ARMY_25_INF._DIV. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      one drink is one drink too many.....a thousand drinks is never enough......i always think of this when i want to drink to chase a buzz i will never catch...

  • @SMC01ful
    @SMC01ful 7 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    Man, I'm lucky I've been able to cut the hell out of my drinking. From about 18 to 40, I drunk heavily for about 20 years. I have a long line of alcoholics in the family. The cool thing is I only drunk once last year, and twice so far this one. The shit was ruining my life. Depression, anxiety, anger, just a fucking horrible cycle. Alcohol is brilliant for helping you run away from some tough shit in your life, but it all comes back snarling. If you have a chance think about what you enjoyed before drinking. Find the kid you lost amongst it all, try and find the sparks you don't need alcohol for and grow. Love to you all. You can do it.

    • @lupebernabe
      @lupebernabe 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      SMC01ful thanks for this. I'm drinking a lot and Im 33. Lost both mum and dad in less than 2 years even my job due to drinking. I'm a mess.

    • @ClintScottFischer
      @ClintScottFischer 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      SMC01ful Jesus, it's like I could have written this. I'm still wrapped up in a cycle, but being unemployed and broke certainly is preventing me from drinking. A lot of alcohol abuse on both sides of my family. It cost me a marriage. I'm so depressed I can't see straight or get out of bed some days. I'm definitely much more conscious of the problem more than I ever have been before. God bless you.

    • @tacomuncher634
      @tacomuncher634 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      SMC01ful thank you for sharing the part about doing what you loved before drinking took over really hits the feels. My parents/grandparents are addicts. Runs in the family I guess.

    • @xOGMETALHEAD206x
      @xOGMETALHEAD206x 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SMC01ful that’s really powerful advice. Thank you for sharing that. Wow

    • @gunsmokegaloreyt6840
      @gunsmokegaloreyt6840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s really good

  • @mynamesjudge
    @mynamesjudge 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1473

    I'm two weeks sober. Hopefully it sticks this time.

    • @p0llenp0ny
      @p0llenp0ny 7 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Best of luck to you.

    • @maxlhalt1222
      @maxlhalt1222 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      mynamesjudge congrats dude!

    • @jakewilliams8296
      @jakewilliams8296 7 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      mynamesjudge
      I quit drinking and smoking cold turkey. 4 years later, and still on the right track of being 100% sober.
      If I can do it, then you can too! :)

    • @plasticbudgie
      @plasticbudgie 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Keep us updated bro hope it goes well for you, stick at it you can do it! much love

    • @robrobinson8328
      @robrobinson8328 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      God bless you, I'm a severe alcoholic, and can't stop. I sometimes just pray for it to kill me!!

  • @jimothyshorts
    @jimothyshorts 6 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    My step dad, who was the only dad I knew, just passed in May. He would have been 59 in June 3, but his body gad been failing for some time. Dialysis every other day and he still drank. My cousin, who was more of a brother to me, drank himself dead at the age of 47 last August. He'd let me sleep in his bed and he'd sleep on the couch if I ever needed somewhere to stay. No one else in my family was or is like that in my family. Any time of day or night I could count on him. My Aunt died 5 years ago and my cousin turned from alcoholic to a raging alcoholic. We didn't speak much in those 5 years because of his drinking, but I tried to warn him and he'd just say; "I can't quit. I'm an alcoholic." He wouldn't budge. Same as my dad. I am alone most every day and rarely talk to people so I wanted to share. If it's inappropriate I can delete this post.

    • @AOpenHearts
      @AOpenHearts 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      you can tlk to me if you like

    • @warrenrooks2251
      @warrenrooks2251 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Alcoholism is often referred to a a family disease I’m sure you can see why. Contact your local AA they’ll point you in the right direction. Your not alone thinking you’ll be alright!✌️

    • @herblewis3788
      @herblewis3788 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you and God Bless You for sharing.

    • @mshomefire
      @mshomefire 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Inspiration thanks

    • @MG-cs1su
      @MG-cs1su 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Did you ever try going to meetings of al-anon, they are 12 step meetings for family or friends of alcoholics, yes alcoholism is a family disease. These meetings might just help you pal.

  • @traciehigginsChaCha
    @traciehigginsChaCha ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I’ve been sober for 12 years and I continue to watch things like this to remind me how horrible my life was. I really pray he gets sober before he passes for his sons sake if nothing else. One day at a time sweet Jesus 🙏

  • @geraldek4948
    @geraldek4948 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    6 years of sobriety lying on the couch the next thing I knew I was heading to the store for a 12 pack and no force in the world was stopping me.I was of course only going to have four beers sober up and have four the next day. Result.
    3 hospitalizations in two months once with a 4 point 0 blood alcohol content two detox treatments hallucinations unable to walk had to take a wheelchair and have assistance for the bathroom. Fainted in the TV room. A big iron worker caught me and saved me from cracking my head open. Got out of detox couldn't sleep one night and was proud of myself for not running to alcohol for insomnia. A minute later I was out the door and bought a 12 pack 6 30am. A customer commented- now there's a breakfast of champions - I wasn't proud to hear that. Went home slammed about 8 beers. For some reason I threw all of it up and then threw the rest away which probably prevented me from another hospitalizations. I felt the devil that morning and realized then that over treatment AA etc the most important thing is you just have to hate the evil shit and know that it is a terrible sin before God. October 13 2023 will be one year sober
    Never lose hope folks
    Hate that poison shit with all the power you can muster

    • @johnking7772
      @johnking7772 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Best wishes to you. You can do it, you can get free. I know you can.

    • @geraldek4948
      @geraldek4948 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@johnking7772
      Still sober
      Thank you for your concern and support

    • @Joeypeeps69
      @Joeypeeps69 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      God Bless you.

    • @cockyhemi
      @cockyhemi 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      August 7, 2023 after 30 years of drinking. Stay strong.

  • @goodcompany6494
    @goodcompany6494 5 ปีที่แล้ว +135

    I am amazed how much punishment the human body can tolerate.

    • @lodersracing
      @lodersracing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Exactly, and can recover from aswell.

    • @lilnikki2025
      @lilnikki2025 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      So am I. I am 32 years old, I drank for over a decade, I am a recovering alcoholic. I am now left with peripheral neuropathy down my left side...liver and kidney and pancreas damage and problems, just to name a few. I am 179 days clean from the liquor. My medications are alot and more than anything, I have lost my son, and now he is grown, I am only a horror story. Blessings to you all. Peace and love. We do recover. One day at a time, learning to forgive yourself is the hardest. I will keep trying.x

    • @goodcompany6494
      @goodcompany6494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@lilnikki2025 Wow, I think every day that is added to sobriety makes it easier. Waking up and not feeling ill is one bonus. Plus, you get your life back. Bless you in your recovery.

    • @jacobtorres6098
      @jacobtorres6098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lilnikki2025 how is your son grown already?

    • @eminemobama736
      @eminemobama736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jacobtorres6098 What a stupid and insensitive question

  • @manueladarazsdi9675
    @manueladarazsdi9675 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1236

    that cough alone will kill him...

    • @geoffjoffy
      @geoffjoffy 7 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Yeah it's nasty.

    • @annetterichards5271
      @annetterichards5271 7 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Manuela Darazsdi emphysema or COPD.

    • @chockpea
      @chockpea 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      OH FUCK HERE WE GO WITH THE RIGHTEOUS BULLSHIT - you do realise Alcoholism is a disease right.

    • @fatyowls
      @fatyowls 7 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      It's not a fucking disease it's choice simple as that like smoking.

    • @chockpea
      @chockpea 7 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Umm yes it is.

  • @Dat_Dude_Danny1
    @Dat_Dude_Danny1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    I've been in his shoes. Had my last drink in August of 2009. Thank God!

    • @MrGoogelaar
      @MrGoogelaar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      So that is what happened to his shoes! Just joking, keep up and good luck to you!

    • @imbissbronko6581
      @imbissbronko6581 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what size does he wear

    • @imbissbronko6581
      @imbissbronko6581 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Salim Al-Jabry lmaoo

    • @SB-hs4yn
      @SB-hs4yn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      2 years late but congrats man! Glad to hear you're doing good :)

    • @Dat_Dude_Danny1
      @Dat_Dude_Danny1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@SB-hs4yn Thank you for the kind words, God Bless You.
      By the Grace of God it will be 11 years without the drink on August 29th.

  • @helenalovelock1030
    @helenalovelock1030 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    My uncle passed away from alcoholism. He had to have triple bypass surgery and was told if he drank again he would die… even that didn’t stop him he started drinking again. That’s how powerful alcohol addiction is. Even in the face of death he didn’t or couldn’t stop 😔😔😔

    • @James-wd9ib
      @James-wd9ib ปีที่แล้ว +3

      When you're stuck in a biochemical rut, getting to "normal" is a daily struggle. Sorry for saying this, but I sincerely wish certain oils and combustibles would be legalized as a form of harm reduction therapy for more serious, more debilitating addictions. Don't care if you agree with me, members of my family have been slaves to the bottle.

  • @laius6047
    @laius6047 6 ปีที่แล้ว +303

    its not the alcohol, its the underlying problems. My dad is an alcoholic and been all his life, and he talks about it the same way as this man, "I don't know" "its alright". People like that suffered something in their early lives that can not be undone. Unable to connect emotionally and communicate their feelings

    • @samjones4451
      @samjones4451 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Trauma in childhood is common.Often suppressing anger and rage feelings towards insensitive parents who have their own issues from their childhood.

    • @sharonhargraves4137
      @sharonhargraves4137 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      so are you living with a partner??????????? had a child out of wedlock? Use Jesus Christ"s name as a cussword? still think you are a better person than your dad? pppffftttt

    • @verzeda
      @verzeda 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Kdotdot 9
      I was hoping to find that comment and I did. bless you

    • @sarahughes154
      @sarahughes154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Not always trauma, some people are genetically predisposed to addiction.

    • @nahzewilliams5912
      @nahzewilliams5912 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@samjones4451 this summs me up perfectly

  • @BUGZYFANG
    @BUGZYFANG 4 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    This guy is my future if I dont stop...

    • @ameera117
      @ameera117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hope youre doing well! It's so worth it in the end.

    • @jaywill6343
      @jaywill6343 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You got it homie

    • @OrangeDiamond33
      @OrangeDiamond33 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Bro me too. How are we gonna fix this?

    • @OrangeDiamond33
      @OrangeDiamond33 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Armando Sturzenegger I drink at least half a liter of 100 proof whiskey a night. If you’re only drinking a few shots per night you can quit easy. I recommend you stop now before you get like me and can’t function without it. Save yourself my friend. Please

    • @joelwagner9570
      @joelwagner9570 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I understand.., completely!!!

  • @krich451
    @krich451 5 ปีที่แล้ว +251

    Sounds like the smoking is doing about as much damage as the drinking.

    • @kirilbellic3602
      @kirilbellic3602 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Not to his state of mind, that's why he is really like this, a mindset.

    • @benbourke4032
      @benbourke4032 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      He's just depressed as fuck

  • @calbudd2838
    @calbudd2838 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm 10 years sober this month. Watching videos of this man and others makes me thankful to God for my sobriety and to have gotten out of that hellish lifestyle.

  • @imveryhungry112
    @imveryhungry112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I was an alcoholic in the military. I can't explain this, it sounds crazy, but alcohol became my close friend. I found comfort in alcohol. I would get off work and immediately start drinking jack Daniel's and it was like I was hanging out with my friend. I knew it was wrong, but I just couldn't stop. Alcohol is insidious and slowly takes over your life.

    • @liam2427
      @liam2427 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      we store our memories and associations with drugs and alcohol in the same places we store human relationships. Addiction is insidious indeed.

    • @meaganhiller3029
      @meaganhiller3029 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@liam2427 I’ve never heard it explained in that way…..such a horrible horrible thing :-( watching someone lull themselves slowly. I have been clean for almost 11 years and what finally changed me was being in a relationship with another addict. Switching seats and being on the other side of it. Nasty nasty nasty. Gut wrenching. Telling everyone to be quiet everytime he went to the bathroom. Hearing the lighter, knowing what he was doing and being scared.

    • @larryyoder4861
      @larryyoder4861 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @NitrodamousGreat analogy

    • @mor9n243
      @mor9n243 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Marines drank the most my sponsor was a former marine

    • @imveryhungry112
      @imveryhungry112 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @mor9n243 I know and it sucks :(

  • @HellaBella
    @HellaBella 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    What killed me is when he said everything is working. Like no it’s not. You can’t get around, you can’t support your family, you are feeling like shit. The level of denial is crazy. It’s so pitiful to watch. Major courage for sharing though!

    • @TheMabes69
      @TheMabes69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      this....

    • @moarawkwarder
      @moarawkwarder หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dead on. Parent is an alcoholic, can relate.

  • @SeaJayBelfast
    @SeaJayBelfast 7 ปีที่แล้ว +422

    Feel so damn sorry for that kid.

    • @rickybobby2679
      @rickybobby2679 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You me and 165 others

    • @matthewmathers2944
      @matthewmathers2944 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      He is clearly an alcoholic not just a functioning alcoholic. it's front up pure severe alcoholism this man is just so depressed about everything then drinks booze to counteract depression and makes his severe depression into extreme depression? This man is proberly depressed from just the simple fact of relying on booze and drinking to excess and not wanting to live this way. If that was me strict warning parental advisory do not attempt this. I'm not condoning suggesting advising or making people consider or racinalize or decide this type of thinking because this his isn't in an ideal sense but if that was me I woul have straight up killed myself with a block gun at point blank range. Please don't attempt if you're struggling like this get the professional help you deserve need and require Im saying stuff like this and think like that partly because I'm depressed too so my thinking process and thought ps ain't exactly racinal.

    • @simonacland9028
      @simonacland9028 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      why? he just had a blessing knowing what depression does

    • @juliovillagran4105
      @juliovillagran4105 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Prick, Scumbag College it would help you. It'll give you a first hand experience of the dangers of alcohol.

    • @Tackforkaffet83
      @Tackforkaffet83 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Reading all the comments it’s so important to point out that alcoholism is a disease. It’s not something anyone wants to have, it’s not by choice, it’s not something that you can just quit having.
      Addiction is a full blow pandemic and it has been for hundreds of years. Covid pales in comparison if you look at the number of deaths alcohol and drug addiction causes every year.
      We as a society need to wake up and let these people get the help they need on the same terms as any person with a potential fatal disease.
      There is help to be had for these people but the stigma is killing them.

  • @jcardigan355
    @jcardigan355 7 ปีที่แล้ว +646

    I saw the video thumbnail and was certain this was Charles Manson until I pressed play

  • @oscarslife5497
    @oscarslife5497 7 ปีที่แล้ว +590

    This guy is quite healthy by Scottish standards.

    • @duffysullivan2794
      @duffysullivan2794 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Duncan MacOckiner Com'on, it can't THAT bad over there!

    • @nicholasking3171
      @nicholasking3171 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Duffy Sullivan eh. Depends on how good er' liver is. Or how Traditional lol

    • @facforrester
      @facforrester 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Scotts here , we love the drink

    • @duffysullivan2794
      @duffysullivan2794 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Pivate User I was a drinker. Not terrible, but always had a beer or 3 after work. Then I got the idea to quit for one week. Thought, if I could not stop drinking for a week, I had a problem. Week went by and I felt so much better I decided to continue for 1 more week. After that week I realized that alcohol was a liability, not an asset. I felt so much better, and was able to get so much more done. This was 20 years ago. I really do not miss drinking at all. At family gatherings, maybe twice a year, I will have 1/2 glass of wine with dinner. Even that is getting to be too much. I can feel uncomfortable in my stomach and even get a slight headache just from drinking that little amount.

    • @MsSharon28
      @MsSharon28 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      that is rubbish,take a look at the epidemic in russia.

  • @iiwii8622
    @iiwii8622 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Heartbreaking. I watched my little brother go down like this. He was ten years younger than me, he was 41. He served 22 years in the Royal Marine Commandos, including 3 tours of Afghanistan, and I think that impacted him in a big way and turned him massively onto the alcohol.
    He used to be this, excitable, funny, loveable bundle of energy, then he came back from Afghanistan and hit the aclochol and it was like he just morphed into this entirely different human. Unpredictable, aggressive, spiteful and nasty. As much as I loved that kid, I've got to be honest, that's what he became like.
    I'm not naive, I know what Royal Marines are trained to do, but the rate at which I watched my lovely little brother deteriorate? It hurts me a year on from his death (he killed himself 2 week a year ago today). He got absolutely hammered one night, went down to his garage and hung himself. Alcohol killed him, he may have been the abuser but that accessible, cheap, readily available thing stripped my brother, and for that reason I fucking hate alcohol

    • @adamcaroline705
      @adamcaroline705 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hey mate I am so sorry to hear about your brother, I am a former bootneck, I have been down the path of alcohol. I quit nearly a year ago and don’t miss it at all. I wish you the best in your future.

    • @Treeman196
      @Treeman196 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sad to Hear that lad rip for a royal

    • @josephhertzberg2734
      @josephhertzberg2734 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So many vets from that war are ending themselves, on both sides of the pond

    • @ma3stro681
      @ma3stro681 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Booze has also sucked the life out of my younger brother. He’s a functioning alcoholic, but i just feel he’s weak as he won’t address his addictions …

    • @mandyharrison3799
      @mandyharrison3799 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So so sorry for your loss. Alcohol is very addictive substance and ruins lives. I hope you are ok. You are not alone. X

  • @littlericho4963
    @littlericho4963 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I'm nearly three years sober and my mind tells me it wasn't that bad and this brings it all back. The hopelessness ....the disease of alcoholism is truly horrible.

    • @davidmt23
      @davidmt23 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me too, sober for 2 years and beginning to forget what a shit place I was in and that I could handle a couple of beers.
      Back to the rooms for me I think.
      Good luck to everyone

    • @gregorymoats4007
      @gregorymoats4007 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s not a disease. It’s a coping strategy that chokes the life out of those who engage it…

    • @toddcampbell9044
      @toddcampbell9044 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m over years sober from alcohol. Congratulations too

  • @TheRealHarsjan
    @TheRealHarsjan 7 ปีที่แล้ว +405

    amazing he still has his wife

    • @lewiscranston881
      @lewiscranston881 7 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      TheRealHarsjan He probably isn't an aggressive drunk like a lot of alcoholics so that helps.

    • @letsbehonest4221
      @letsbehonest4221 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      TheRealHarsjan yer toss that bit#h back over the boarder 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @alfiecoates1
      @alfiecoates1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      gotohell gotohell this is England.

    • @beepot2764
      @beepot2764 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      TheRealHarsjan my mom stayed with my drunk dad til she died. I don't know why but she loved him immensely. Dad's dying from liver failure, colon cancer, ammonia on the brain and a plethora of other health problems.

    • @illlusion7515
      @illlusion7515 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yea some people care.

  • @ignacio22022
    @ignacio22022 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    i am a chronic alcoholic,ive been sober 10 years but i know ill always be an alcoholic..its like a cancer..when it comes back it comes back strong and kills you,one drink is all it takes.

    • @bcatblues725
      @bcatblues725 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’ve been sober for 23 years of alcohol and substance. But I’m still an alcoholic and a drug addict You aren’t alone in that because I am the same way if I took a pain pill that’s all it would take same with drinking.
      Congratulations on being sober it’s the best

    • @Duke_2373
      @Duke_2373 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      11 yrs sober as i write this, stayed in the bottle for 23 yrs. 8yrs in prison, probably saved my life. This poor guy looks as if he has just accepted his fate. Ive burried lots of friends around this disease.

    • @MrEmiko29
      @MrEmiko29 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just hit 9 years, but lately I have felt the pull, even though my sister died 3 years ago, even though a best friend died 4 years ago, and even though my 28yr old son wrecked his car badly drunk and has 1 year sober in 4 days. I have 9 years of sobriety and it's so strong that it's trying to call me after all I seen. That's why I'm here.

  • @glgl1472
    @glgl1472 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Looking at this man is exactly the face I saw when I was 21... Meaning that if I didn't quit drinking I would look like him so that's the last drink I had ........when I was 21... That was 40 years ago.

    • @ygkavoi
      @ygkavoi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      wow 💯

  • @kristinowens899
    @kristinowens899 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    The amount of pain this man has GOT to be in, it's just heartbreaking. Not to mention the guilt.

  • @cortneyrollins3357
    @cortneyrollins3357 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    His son's painting of his dad says it all,he still loves and looks up to him...alcohol is evil,this guy is no doubt a good person underneath it all but he is missing out on such precious things

  • @MrLetmein2011
    @MrLetmein2011 7 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    This short clip was very powerful for me….
    I used to be very addicted to alcohol ,about 20 years ago and I remember the horror of waking up with cuts and bruises and only vaguely remembering how they happened.
    I noted your uncle doesn't go out any more , I was getting beaten up a lot and people eventually didn't want to know me but the alcohol cushions you from all the horror .
    I still have drinking episodes and more often than not I'm embarrassed by my behaviour
    when drunk . I live in the UK where its not uncommon to be robbed while drunk because you don't put up any resistance.
    Alcohol is dangerous ,much more dangerous than we ever admit.

  • @mikeremington7063
    @mikeremington7063 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    So many people have been in this exact spot. A lot of respect for the 20 something year olds who got sober after living like this. It’s a deep dark hole not a lot of people actually escape.

    • @fooneosz443
      @fooneosz443 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s me

    • @TheMetalhead678
      @TheMetalhead678 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm 26 and the way I live isn't too far off from this man.

    • @larryyoder4861
      @larryyoder4861 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Smoking and drinking is even more dangerous

  • @susanbickersteth2526
    @susanbickersteth2526 5 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    The body is amazing at healing if you quit drinking and smoking. You may give yourself more time with your family. God speed

    • @stever507
      @stever507 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Your absolutely right!! Fasting also heals

    • @naedatanner8832
      @naedatanner8832 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe he doesn't want time with his family!☹☹

    • @GamingForTheRecentlyDeceased
      @GamingForTheRecentlyDeceased 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@susanbickersteth2526 actually your body and esp your liver is really good at healing you just have to provide the right environment for healing.

    • @fdation
      @fdation 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It definitely recovers fast he just has to stop and it will happen quickly.

    • @mustangw8ford415
      @mustangw8ford415 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God recovery

  • @rustylove3033
    @rustylove3033 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I was for a long time........
    I'm only 10 months sober and things have turned around in my life and I pray that they stay that way. God help him

    • @MG-cs1su
      @MG-cs1su 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well done 👍

    • @finnicvoice4974
      @finnicvoice4974 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      10 months sober is really impressive! Good job!

  • @5150defiant
    @5150defiant 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I also had an Alcoholic uncle Named John, It's been a few yrs now since he passed. But What the end of his life turned out too be because of drinking was horrible to watch, He couldn't remember anything an everyday he slipped farther an farther away from Us. This was a Man full of Life but at the End He couldn't Even unwrap a piece of Gum all because He just wanted too have a few drinks an a good time, It ended with him waiting for a Liver an slipping into a coma an passing away. Since he's passed His Lil brother Earl Passed away as well also a alcoholic, If You have a family member who has a problem with alcohol do whatever it takes to get them the help it needs, it starts with Love an support don't wait One day there fine the next all them yrs of abuse catch up in an instant an by them its far too late, RIP Uncle Johnny We Love an Miss You!.

  • @JuiceOg0311
    @JuiceOg0311 7 ปีที่แล้ว +251

    that cough is gut wrenching to hear. i haven't smoked in 5 years and i started sounding like that at 30. It scared me so bad i quit immediately and it sucked try to stay away from them cigs.

    • @jimdor8353
      @jimdor8353 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      me too

    • @Blueswailer
      @Blueswailer 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      He sounds like he has fluid in his lungs.. Sounds horrid. Good on ya for quitting. I quit cigs 6 months ago, was two packs a day at the heaviest. Can't lie, I still have dreams where I smoke cigarrettes and would like to spark up sometimes but it's not worth a slow poisoning of the respiratory system.

    • @wakonbp
      @wakonbp 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Algiz how would cigs put fluid in his lungs? I don't smoke cigs so I'm pretty clueless

    • @lillipadd7857
      @lillipadd7857 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Noobly234 theyl be absolutley full of flem and tar and muck

    • @standardworkaround
      @standardworkaround 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Noobly234 the smoke destroys the system your lung has of keeping the fluid from building up.

  • @countsmyth
    @countsmyth 7 ปีที่แล้ว +156

    He looks like a wizard. Sad way to end a life.

    • @countsmyth
      @countsmyth 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      "Yes, more nuance is uneeded"...ok. "Wizards don't die. Read a history book" you believe wizards are immortal? How old are you? 5?

    • @m.w.6526
      @m.w.6526 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Um, yeah wizards existed throughout history and still exist today. Some are immortal and it can be proven by carbon dating bone fragments and stuff like that. And no, im not "5", I'm 20. Good evening to you.

    • @MrZakc
      @MrZakc 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Max Werner your a moron

    • @youngop
      @youngop 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wizards don't die man...

    • @MrPwe3
      @MrPwe3 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Chris Campbell whey its that guy

  • @liveecarbme
    @liveecarbme 7 ปีที่แล้ว +375

    Alcohol is poison.

    • @Dylan-cj4hh
      @Dylan-cj4hh 7 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Cigol Zëlev it literally is, people think it's a figure of speech...

    • @laza_mma1052
      @laza_mma1052 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      most things are poison if you take too much.

    • @donrutter6765
      @donrutter6765 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Especially wood alcohol.

    • @enricod2061
      @enricod2061 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's not poison, drinking alcohol is wood alcohol or ethanol made from fermentation of sugars from fruits, grains, plants, and herbs. It's a blood thinner and kills of bacteria first and foremost. The alcohol for human consumption is ethanol and it's distilled, unlike isopropyl, methanol, butane, propane which have many uses. Many types of alcohols are found in living beings and are created naturally as lipids in organic and living beings.

    • @dirtydan179
      @dirtydan179 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Tasty, tasty poison.

  • @zvocnikk
    @zvocnikk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    After 7 years of heavy drinking every day I'm 2 years sober now. It was really really hard at the begining (need to eat diazepam because of withdrawal), but life is so much better now. I don't miss those misery days at all. Life is beautiful without alcohol.

    • @joekraft5913
      @joekraft5913 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Any words of advice? I'm one day sober, been a daily drinker for about 7 years aswell, people dont realize at some point you aren't even drinking because you enjoy it, its just the withdrawls are so damn terrible :(

    • @lestercombs1871
      @lestercombs1871 ปีที่แล้ว

      You got this Joe

  • @CPeetG
    @CPeetG 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    This is about how bad my Dad is. He weighs 103 lbs, has Emphysema and still smoking, he barely eats and just sits in his chair all day drinking and watching TV. I don’t understand how this happens to people. My family is going to try an intervention specialist, hoping he’ll agree to detox and rehab. It’s heartbreaking for all involved. 😔

    • @acauty
      @acauty  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So sorry to hear that. Sending love.

    • @CPeetG
      @CPeetG 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Arthur Cauty
      Thank you 🙏🏻

    • @OtterSkull
      @OtterSkull 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm sorry, I wish you and your family the best.

    • @CPeetG
      @CPeetG 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Joshua - Thanks. Unfortunately my Dad passed away about a month ago. 😢

    • @OtterSkull
      @OtterSkull 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@CPeetG May he rest in peace 😞 I'm so sorry to read that, I lost My father to terminal prostate cancer a year ago, so I can understand the pain and the despair of not being able to do anything, I'm just a complete stranger, but from the bottom of My heart l wish you all strength and I send you all a virtual hug, stay strong.

  • @annetterichards5271
    @annetterichards5271 7 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    He was handsome as a younger man. His wife and his son are the ones suffering the most.

    • @richardbryant3169
      @richardbryant3169 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Annette Ruiz yes it's always the family who suffers the most, to a certain degree alcoholics are oblivious to the damage they are causing and can be quite selfish.

    • @annetterichards5271
      @annetterichards5271 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Richard Bryant addicts are definitely selfish. it a a shame that the love from their family isn't enough to become sober.

    • @richardbryant3169
      @richardbryant3169 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Annette Ruiz, yes I agree

    • @beepot2764
      @beepot2764 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The saddest part is that most do know how damaging their behavior is to the family. They are never oblivious to it. They thrive off of any attention and will use family as a boon to get sober and then as an excuse as to why they can't stay sober. Addiction fucks with your brain in terrible ways.

    • @gdhse3
      @gdhse3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Annette Betancourt ... Unfortunately, everyone suffers!

  • @smmusicplus96
    @smmusicplus96 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My 65 year old father is a year sober after 50 years of drinking and drugging that snowballed into a severe problem. Since he's been sober he gained a healthy amount of weight and he's no longer jaundiced and grey in complexion. He's my Hero again and he's inspired me to adress my problem with alcohol.

  • @derrickmillion
    @derrickmillion 7 ปีที่แล้ว +133

    it was really sad when they asked about his son' opinion on his drinking

    • @toprightchannel3080
      @toprightchannel3080 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yes it was sad. I got the impression that his son simply respects his dad too much to bring up such a contentious issue.

    • @ducttapeheart
      @ducttapeheart 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Cait L. the addiction itself is a mental illness.

  • @richardfisher1764
    @richardfisher1764 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I had a friend who died an alcoholic at 52. He looked about 75 when he died.
    I personally got gripped by it years ago. But really healthy now. Gym, martial arts etc. The desire needs to be strong though. Alcohol is a shocking drug. I used to love the irresponsibility it gave me. Was always a good get out clause.
    I wish him luck

  • @Ralph85Williams85
    @Ralph85Williams85 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Child of an alcoholic mother here. Glad to see you exposed some truth about the struggles of an alcoholic.

  • @TheJAITKEN1
    @TheJAITKEN1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    This is scary as this is the road I'm going down unless I fix up!

    • @rayoflight7416
      @rayoflight7416 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Good luck mate, stay strong. You'll get content again without the booze I believe in you

    • @thomascampr
      @thomascampr 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jon A It's definitely a wake up call.

    • @divyenduraina
      @divyenduraina 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Drink boooooze

  • @highnumber9494
    @highnumber9494 7 ปีที่แล้ว +489

    Those pictures of him as a young man seem to be from the 80's or 90's. Based on that, this man is nowhere as old as he looks.

    • @acauty
      @acauty  7 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      You're right. I think he was in his mid 60's when I filmed this

    • @highnumber9494
      @highnumber9494 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Is he still alive?

    • @acauty
      @acauty  7 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      Yeah he's hanging in there!

    • @PaulaLidai
      @PaulaLidai 7 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      I just prayed for full healing and deliverance for him. In Jesus name. Amen.

    • @kristinaclark4264
      @kristinaclark4264 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      High Number that's so sad...

  • @richardbrough6463
    @richardbrough6463 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Watching this was like talking to my father in the last year of his life, the denial, the minimisation of subsequent injuries (such as the facial injury of the man in this video). My father died of septic shock as a result of alcoholism. To anybody out there with a close relative plagued by alcoholism, please try and help them see what they're doing before it's too late.

  • @TCJV1
    @TCJV1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was clean 3 months until my marriage fell apart. I picked the bottle back up and have been on a binder for nearly a year. How I've managed to hold down a job is amazing. How there are friends out there that still love me is amazing. It keeps me awake at night with the question of how a beverage/substance can be this powerful. This simple beverage has made me feel more alone than anything. I constantly feel anxious, and feel like a deserve nothing short but the worst hell. I hate it so much, yet I'm on my 7th drink. Here's hoping I find solace soon.

    • @HobiesGarageBBQ
      @HobiesGarageBBQ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Gotta keep trying, never give up. Try everything because different things work for different people. There's no one solution. Anyone telling you that is part of a cult.

  • @deadmanprodinc
    @deadmanprodinc 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I can relate as generations of my family are plagued with alcoholism (in varying degrees) from functional to severe. Lots of divorce, some moderate abuse and lots of broken families. I resisted becoming like that but fell into addiction myself after a divorce, my failure at marriage, the rejection and all of the change division of family brought. I'm happy to say our most recent generation seems to be turning the corner on this trend. Glad I stopped in here, your post has generated a lot of discussion. Lots of relatable stories, support, camaraderie and some great success stories! Glad I stopped in!

  • @sonnyboy5566
    @sonnyboy5566 7 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    Very well made. A short film but full of meaning.

    • @acauty
      @acauty  7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      thank you!

    • @mychannel-jd8yy
      @mychannel-jd8yy 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Arthur Cauty has he tried to seek help or attend as meetings?

    • @acauty
      @acauty  7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Many of us have tried to help, including doctors, but he doesn't accept (or maybe even believe) that alcohol is the problem. There is no shortage of people who want to help, he just isn't willing to accept it.

    • @jwcleaning5677
      @jwcleaning5677 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      cthehollowman see what you mean mate defiantly relate to that. it's the "yets"

  • @nazariog.1155
    @nazariog.1155 7 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This is some serious stuff, I'm in recovery myself and I shouldn't be alive. Alcoholism is real, thanks for the video.

  • @CraigMansfield
    @CraigMansfield 5 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    If Patrick did that painting at 03:04, he's very talented.

    • @pollixo5701
      @pollixo5701 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      djdjd dmn patrick is the son

  • @greatlakesdweller59
    @greatlakesdweller59 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My family tree is full of similar situations and worse. The buck stopped with me. Sober since age 24. I'm 65 now. One healthy, beautiful, vibrant day at a time.

  • @nickbagelboy
    @nickbagelboy 7 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Being a smoker and watching this, hearing him breathe made it so hard for me to breathe. Oh my gosh. I felt so short of breath watching/hearing him.

    • @dirtydan179
      @dirtydan179 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      give it up, c'mon

    • @tschakalili
      @tschakalili 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same... we have to stop !!!

    • @cornelius2993
      @cornelius2993 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Try the Electronic way, it's less harming. It's Not easy. Start the Day with a cigarette, then switch over. After some days/Weeks you will be able to quit the morning cigarette Later (half a year or so), if you are able, reduce nicotine.. Many people made It like this

    • @joshuacalebbevington
      @joshuacalebbevington 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's not hard to stop pussy I'm trying to stop alcohol and bozos

    • @jonathanmaurice1309
      @jonathanmaurice1309 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      In a lot of cases e cigs can cause a worse addiction than cigs. Party due to the amount of nicotiene and the way the nicotiene hits your body. Cigs will do you in a the best thing you can do is search for help. I struggle with my problems for a couple of years and still am having a hard time. I found someone going through the same thing and it helped me out. My prayers go out to you stay strong.

  • @racheltison6333
    @racheltison6333 7 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    20 days sober today.

    • @eazylagi8469
      @eazylagi8469 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rachel Tison keep it up thats awesome

    • @abesodessyrobinson1022
      @abesodessyrobinson1022 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      R u still sober?

    • @KM-uo9zc
      @KM-uo9zc 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      How's life?

    • @derekweinerttv4163
      @derekweinerttv4163 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not anymore

    • @thelastfreedomfighter2646
      @thelastfreedomfighter2646 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The fuck is wrong with you, white blue haired sjw bitches like you can never handle living in the greatest country in the world and it's stupid to be frank.

  • @BigMamou367
    @BigMamou367 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I grew up in a home living with 3 generations of alcoholics. I'm 56 and haven't forgotten it either. Luckily my parents quit drinking. I feel very very bad for his son. But it's his father love him anyway and forgive him. Thank you so much for sharing your Uncle with us. I think his couch might get to him before the sciroccos does. God Bless

  • @alexanderrietveld
    @alexanderrietveld 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My father died from emphysema. This man doesn’t have much time left whether he quits tobacco and/or alcohol. My mum died of cirrhosis. He doesn’t seem to have the retain much fluids or he has diuretics but his heart will probably fail before cirrhosis does. My thoughts go out to his son and wife. Addiction is so sad for all involved

  • @itscrimmy2348
    @itscrimmy2348 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    He's killing himself.. that's no way to live. It's so sad

  • @michygeorg
    @michygeorg 7 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    So sad. Reminds me of my grandpa. It's bad enough when someone already has alcohol problems, but then they experience immense grief and it puts them over the edge. I think friends and family need to take a more active role when they know someone with alcohol and drug problems, they need to help them find ways of dealing with whatever they are going through. Like Brand says, too many people are abandoned when they need help most. Prison and abandonment isn't the answer. Of course, the addict needs to actually want help, you can't always save someone. But at least try..

    • @jwcleaning5677
      @jwcleaning5677 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      michygeorg completely relate to this #odaat

    • @snoop-doggviews637
      @snoop-doggviews637 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      michygeorg no

    • @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE
      @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lemon Turd Yes...

    • @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE
      @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      addiction has much more to do with the persons lifestyle rather the the drugs dependence.
      One can be as one says " a functioning alcoholic"
      But as soon as shit hits the fan and that person cant access alcohol or said drug , is usually where problems start,.
      If heroin addicts had a unlimited supply of heroin AND items they desired, they would:
      1. die from overdose at some time.
      2. be perfectly fine and continue a proper lifestyle.
      It's when they don't get the drugs where problems start to happen with almost every drug other then alcohol and depressents.
      Methadone is a good example of this, they get their daily drink and continue on with their lives.
      Of course this varies wildly per person and mental illness/crippling depression is also a leading factor to most addictions.

    • @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE
      @BeanieBrony1995PSQUEE 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Functioning individuals dependent on alcohol and other drugs is a very real thing lol, if you think they don't exist your either ignorant or you've seen alcohol do some bad shit to your family or something.
      Although obviously they are a rare site to see as out of the thousands of alcoholics I have met, only a select few were completely "super functioning alcoholics".
      maybe the term" alcoholic" is more widespread to you thinking of the ones that drink a handle of vodka(60 ouncer/pounder) etc everyday, obviously there no way of being a functioning alcoholic drinking those numbers, but for that guy that drinks fine wine everyday(only at nights, mind you and only one drinking session per day) but he is still "dependent" on the substance or otherwise he may have seizures, etc...
      That's just fact if you drink everyday even lets say a mickey a day, it's smarter to continue drinking untill you have found a outpatient rehab or some facility of some kind that will administer benzodiazapenes on site as qiuting drinking as an alcoholic on your own is one of the most dangerous things you can do for your body...(I wouldn't call this anywhere near "no return").
      "Addicts are a waste of skin"
      sigh* you are a fucking idiot IF you classify that statement whole, so what about that poor 46 year old woman who was on a opiod and was never told about their addictive effects, to only be TOLD BY THE GOVERNMENT, that she should go on "methadone".(a even worse substance ten times more powerful then oxycodone and ten times more difficult in every regard to get off of)
      Just don't say addicts are a waste of skin...
      You establish the persons usability as a human being, then go from there...
      If what's his face wan'ts to drink everyday as long as he doesn't interfere with others, works his good dues as a citizen of his/her country and puts in his/her few cents as a human being,
      Then what's it to you to say "they are a waste of skin" fuck, they could be alcoholics and have done MORE THEN YOURSELF for society actually making you the "waste of skin" if that situation were afold.
      If Martin Luther Kj became an alcoholic after all his speeches, hes still has done a lot.
      It's about your contribution, not you, your habits or even the destructive behaviour you may have caused but the good you did in the long run.
      Of course, like I said, these people are a rare site but to say all addicts are a waste of skin is much to broad of a statement.

  • @JesusIsTheWord
    @JesusIsTheWord 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Matthew 11:28-30
    28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
    29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
    30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

  • @jonvia
    @jonvia ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This reminds me of my grandpa. Shut him self away from the world just so he could slowly kill himself with drinking instead of living his life at retirement age. Sad when this happens to anyone but you got to remember nobody forces you to drink. Its all self inflicting. Thank you for posting this. More people need to be educated on long term alcohol use bc it wont be shown on television. Too many companies make big money off of drinkers. Governments included.

  • @harveysmith100
    @harveysmith100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am 58 years old and have been ill for the last 25 years. The doctors couldn't find anything wrong with me but I was doubled up with stomach pain a various joint pains and fatigue.
    Then I read a book called the Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate.
    Oh, I forgot to mention, I have be sober since I was 17.
    I suffer from PTSD from being brought up by a single parent alcoholic.
    You aren't just damaging yourself.

  • @mogusmonroe9431
    @mogusmonroe9431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Reading other alcoholic's comments have been very encouraging. No politics in alcoholism.

  • @NuclearCow100
    @NuclearCow100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm 29 and almost 5 months sober. Never touching the stuff again. Thank you for sharing.

    • @acauty
      @acauty  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Congrats. All the best!

  • @janedoh2625
    @janedoh2625 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I have an alcoholic uncle too. He just went to jail for aggravated assault after wrecking a 4-wheeler into a neighbor's house... all of which was seen by his grandson who was screaming and crying as they took him away in handcuffs :( FAMILY disease is right.

    • @uppercutgrandma4425
      @uppercutgrandma4425 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jane Doh Nopers. Your Uncle had a history of deeper issues than the bottle.

    • @uppercutgrandma4425
      @uppercutgrandma4425 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Roy Vice I bet you 5 US bucks I'm right.

    • @beepot2764
      @beepot2764 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      uppercut grandma betcha 20 I could find a line of alcoholics in her family history.

    • @uppercutgrandma4425
      @uppercutgrandma4425 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      bee pot The initial wager was that booze abusr is a byproduct of a larger/deeper scale problem. That would just be a contributing factor.

  • @allisontaylor1818
    @allisontaylor1818 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My Dad(an alcoholic)died alone at 80...on the floor of his apartment,we never thought he would live that long...I feel your pain.

  • @daleandrews3552
    @daleandrews3552 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My story is so lengthy it's not easy to tell. I preferred vodka and water (with ice of course) with a little lemon or lime "twist" at a bar. At home, I used lemon or lime juice in sqeeze bottles sold commercially (everybody's seen those cute little platic bottles shaped and colored like a lemon or lime) instead. This was to give it a little flavor besides the vodka by itself. Somewhere way back I had heard that the white liquors (vodka, gin, tequila)didn't give the hangover like colored liquors like the whiskey do. Also, I used water instead of soda or fruit juice to cut down on the consumption of those and the negative effects of excessive consumption of too much of those (like nausea the following day). So, basically my theory was if I did it that way, at least the hangover would be from the booze itself instead of overconsumption of a carbonated beverage (too much Sprite) or the acidity of the fruit (orange) juice. I chose Taaka vodka b/c cost wise it was the best choice. It wasn't as pricey as Gilbey's, Absolut or Shmirnoff, and it wasn't the cheap rotgut stuff. So see, at least there WAS some method in how I minimized the negatives. It took a near death incident where I was hospitalized for acute kidney failure after mixing alcohol with oxycodone (the high is legendary, and unfortunately LETHAL!) to get me sober. That brush with death did it for me.

    • @timberwolvesxx7250
      @timberwolvesxx7250 ปีที่แล้ว

      a man of good taste. vodka, soda, ice and a hint of lemon

  • @krisscanlon4051
    @krisscanlon4051 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    12 years ago I got sober...8/21/2012 it can be done...killing yourself to live. This is sad but it's true when trying to live "pain free". Addiction is like almost being there in life. You're almost alive. Bless his soul...

  • @joshperez7294
    @joshperez7294 7 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Amazing short film. Keep up the amazing work and best wishes for your uncle.

    • @acauty
      @acauty  7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks Josh

  • @jaimeperez7602
    @jaimeperez7602 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I can feel his pain ....lost my grandfather and uncle to alcohol... and if I don't stop I'm going to see em soon. It's a horrible vicious disease. Good short film thanks for sharing.

    • @maddiebear7166
      @maddiebear7166 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you have gotten help since this post. It is horrible and I never thought I would be one myself. Please know it is possible and go to rehab, AA, whatever can help. I knew I had a problem and I still couldn’t get help on my own. It eventually becomes a habit and something when you do stop aside from potential withdraw symptoms it’s tough to have to readjust to life feeling and dealing with things. Good luck and I hope you have gotten help and if you need any advice I am here.

  • @benelh1282
    @benelh1282 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This reduced me to tears. I lost my mum back in July 2018 due to alcohol addiction. She was only 51 years old...
    Just wish she took the help that was given.
    Anyone who sees this and is struggling or hurting, I can definitely assure you that you are not alone and are loved. Please speak out.

  • @TroyDeanMusic
    @TroyDeanMusic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    I cant believe hes only 22!!

    • @nr3592
      @nr3592 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Not funny man. Look at his eyes.

    • @TroyDeanMusic
      @TroyDeanMusic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😅😅😅

    • @njsarface1977
      @njsarface1977 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@prunehead that's not even comedy.

    • @kvonkirk2340
      @kvonkirk2340 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I admit I laughed. Yes it's sad that he's so depressed at least he's not on meth or an opiate.

    • @TroyDeanMusic
      @TroyDeanMusic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Cmon it was funny 😅

  • @dudekdudek9095
    @dudekdudek9095 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Saw my successful business man / family man cousin lose everything and his life from alcoholism and he was only 45!! Destroyed his liver which is a awful way to die ,,, He was at our cottage on Gulfcoast of Fla when he got deathly sick ,, vomiting up blood all over the cottage then when paramedics arrived he couldn't answer the door couldn't get out of bed so they beat the door in!! He never really came back to life was in a coma for 10 days and died !! 100% true story of the fkkd up damage the #1 legal drug in the world can do to a person who can't control it ,,,

  • @andyappleton3353
    @andyappleton3353 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The real question is why this man thinks life is intolerable without being intoxicated. I know what it is to be drunk and what it is to be sober. The problem is that sober hurts so much that I'd rather drink into numbness and indifference, but then drunkenness makes all the reasons you drank in the first place so much worse if and when you do sober up. So you keep drinking so as to avoid life itself, and the shame that's made so much worse after. It's easy to pass judgement upon people you don't know or care about.

    • @kaankeser6662
      @kaankeser6662 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The world is unbearable if you are vulnerable and emotional.World is a nasty place full of dirt..And if you are not badass enough it will beat you and keep you on your knees.Its a total chaos and war.So people like me(alcoholics) does not want to hurt nobody so they drink..Drinking makes you numb and you can tolerate this world.Not every clever men drink but the drinkers are mostly deep sensitive too much thinkers..

    • @shugalluful
      @shugalluful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kaankeser6662 Amen brother.....couldn't have said it better. I was sober for 22 years - rehab, AA, psycho therapy....the whole thing. There were some really good years in that time span. Got my shit together, got a college degree in Rehabilitation, started checking out Buddhism and myticism ....ended up working as a counselor in rehabs when my depression (life long) began to rise up. I was a good little boy and took my ever increasing doses of psych meds. The last 13 years I worked as a prison counselor. That experience broke me.....It was brutalizing...physically, spiritually, psychologically. My last year working in the prison I started drinking again. Just said "fuck it....I can't do this anymore...I want out." Constantly witnessing the horror that humans inflict on each other and themselves.....I could no longer see the point of my career .....it was easier to just drink....However, I have a wife and daughter and my drinking began to harm them. I have wrestled my demons down to the point that once a month I buy 2 -3 bottles of liquor get quietly smashed for 2-3 days and stop for the rest of the month....but I'm so closed off to the rest of the world. I hope that both you & Andy A. are still kicking around....not often I interact with people who understand..........peace.....tg

    • @talithajane8155
      @talithajane8155 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shugalluful I feel you, my mother is a chronic alcoholic and the pain this inflicts on me is so unbearably torturous - I often feel like I am drifting, floating. The mind is a battle field, its completely out of my control and accepting she will die soon from the abuse after spending 25 years isolating and drunk is leaving me with a heavy burden, it sucks that I feel her misery, its as though she bore me to feel her agony and she took the easy route out, so it feels - I just can't handle the pressure of living in society with this heavy weight on my shoulders. the parallels of love and hate are too close to describe or fathom to even understand my own emotions, Im starting a degree in a month and I hope to fully immerse myself into something of usefulness as a way to escape the dark dread of becoming an alcoholic myself, giving up on the world and its suffering. wish me luck ...

  • @CaptchaNeon
    @CaptchaNeon 7 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    *If only alcohol commercials showed things like this, people would know the truth about alcohol*

    • @hollycline2427
      @hollycline2427 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I totally Agree 100

    • @beriking
      @beriking 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Everybody knows the truth about alcohol, nobody just wants to admit it.

    • @MrAnime-jb6re
      @MrAnime-jb6re 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Captcha Neon The fuck are you talking about? You mean the truth of alcoholism? Most people who drink can handle it and don't end up like this guy.

    • @MsSharon28
      @MsSharon28 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      too much tax to lose.

    • @moensh420
      @moensh420 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I mean, it's not like everyone halfway intelligent knows that already...

  • @diondavies9971
    @diondavies9971 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi my uncle was an alcoholic for 10 years and I've grown up with it, go back to 3 months ago and my mother went to check on him and unfortunately he was found dead on the chair. I saw him every Tuesday to watch a movie with him and I think this was the most upsetting death I have ever experienced and as a 14 year old girl it is not something someone should go through

  • @CT-pv9gu
    @CT-pv9gu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It really pisses me of that alcohol is legal. It ruins so many lives. Underneath all the alcoholism I reckon this guy is a good person at heart. Alcohol will rob you of that, I'm sure of it.

    • @peegtaar5113
      @peegtaar5113 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Alcohol does not ruins any lives, people ruins thereself by taking it, everybody is resposible for thereself..it sounds hard but in the end we HAVE to do whats best for our self by making a choice.

    • @E0011
      @E0011 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Making it illegal won't help. People like him need psychological support.

    • @aj5690
      @aj5690 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Heroin is illegal and the US is currently in the grips of an epidemic. It's about providing people with support to get out of addiction.

  • @AtemiRaven
    @AtemiRaven 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This brings me back to a really dark time in my early twenties where all I did for about two and a half years was drink and smoke pot.
    In the end what stopped me from leaving it behind me was I was basically self medicating for depression.
    It is amazing how much damage alcohol does to your body because by the time I stopped when I was 24 I had the energy level and fitness level of a 60 year old man.
    Willing to bet it is the same for this guy. And many other alcoholics.
    Hard to stop drinking when you are incapable of being happy sober.

    • @godisgreat5141
      @godisgreat5141 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      How ru doing now? Anymore tips? Asking for a friend of mine cause this sounds similar. Respond asap thanks

    • @kaankeser6662
      @kaankeser6662 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Two and a half year..This guy probably doing for 25 years..

  • @chrischapman7657
    @chrischapman7657 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Unfortunately, in his age and condition, it might do more harm if he quit drinking at this point

  • @sakaspuds
    @sakaspuds 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    i've never spoken to john, but he seems like a good guy, i feel sorry for him that he has let the drinking damage him so much

  • @ElricX
    @ElricX 7 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    But for the grace of God that would be me. That or incredible luck. 10 years sober. Demon alcohol had me bad! There is a solution though ☺️

    • @santos5969
      @santos5969 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Im sorry but where's gods grace for this man? Give yourself some credit Jeff.

    • @Kevin-qg5mk
      @Kevin-qg5mk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not sure how I feel on this. To me you got to want to

    • @angie_is_tired
      @angie_is_tired 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You a friend of Bill’s? How are you doing? What do you do if you accept that there’s a solution that works for some people, but your brain misfires sometimes, making you incapable of grasping that solution?

  • @OrganNLou
    @OrganNLou 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is so depressing! I lost my grandfather to the drink. He was so brilliant and I miss him so.

  • @CraigMansfield
    @CraigMansfield 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Shame.
    Handsome guy with a great voice.
    I don't drink anymore. I realised it wasn't making me happy, so I just stopped.
    Never missed it.

    • @Wildmanmercury
      @Wildmanmercury 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Craig VR same. It doesn’t make me happier or alleviate suffering. It just numbs me. No thanks.

  • @hanginwithlois
    @hanginwithlois 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for making this. Alcoholism has taken many members of my family.

  • @rocknrollboise
    @rocknrollboise 7 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    The cigarettes are killing him just as fast, it seems...

    • @gingerNinja688
      @gingerNinja688 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Fuck me he still alive now and think how many cigs he been through and he still going. I would carry on smoking if I were him he ain't got shit to loose and he ain't dead from the cigs so why stop now?

    • @monopolymoney2703
      @monopolymoney2703 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Chinpoko yea like i dont see why people hate on somebody who still smokes with lung cancer i mean they already gonna die from it nothing to lose

    • @ScrubsTheNewcomers
      @ScrubsTheNewcomers 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well it's about quality of life I think. Besides, cancer doesn't always equal certain death.

    • @diamondpeakproductions
      @diamondpeakproductions 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      lack of movement too. no o2 being circulated- cause of cancer, not the tobacco

  • @howardmanley3388
    @howardmanley3388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    An alcoholic never wants to admit that he’s an alcoholic.... i’m 37 years sober now because God revealed himself to me.. there’s no more crucial moment in a persons life then when he or she is encountered by God, that moment sets in motion the rest of one’s life...( It sure did mine ) 🙏

  • @amberlewis861
    @amberlewis861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    To bring awareness about this topic,so meaningful

  • @Joel-wu5oj
    @Joel-wu5oj ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Every year I'm sober, Makes me hate alcohol even more , nothing good comes out of it. 9 years, Thank You Jesus...

  • @hudsontoo1212
    @hudsontoo1212 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    AA man. Saved my life 7 years no booze- started a huge business, got married and got a new life. I feel bad for this man.

    • @beepot2764
      @beepot2764 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hudsontoo1212 glad it worked for you. Most call it trading an addiction for another.

    • @hazelrobinson3416
      @hazelrobinson3416 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      hudsontoo1212 n

    • @parson7260
      @parson7260 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      What kind of business did you start?

    • @markusrose9667
      @markusrose9667 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      bee pot ALL of those people who call it trading one addiction for another are idiots who for some reason are too stupid or arrogant to notice the difference between an “addiction” that leaves you happy, healthy and content, and an addiction that leaves you looking and feeling like this man.

    • @HobiesGarageBBQ
      @HobiesGarageBBQ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@markusrose9667 Who says all those people don't realize that their addiction to AA doesn't make them healthy or more happy? You just said they say that. Why put words in someone else's mouth?
      For the 5 % of people that AA does work for, they become addicted to the meetings and the rituals and the fellowship, you name it. It's still an addiction.
      There's no one answer to treating addiction just like the same diet doesn't work for everyone. When I stop drinking I go on work-out binges. Instead of working out twice a week I go like five times and watch work-out videos and read articles - you name it. Is that healthier than drinking?
      Of course.
      But it's still the transfer of the addiction to another outlet.

  • @timpani1950
    @timpani1950 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    My father was a heavy drinker, or whatever you would like to call it. Sad as hell when the drinking causes more damage than the imaginary demons being anesthetized.

  • @gl3110
    @gl3110 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Its like watching an interview with my dad from 5 years ago. He was able to get better, hopefully your uncle has or will do.

  • @kathybuckley2338
    @kathybuckley2338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I read a few comments there, no asks why? .....why is he like this? As a recovering alcoholic I know why I drank. There is always a reason. I hope he is ok. God bless him, his wife & son with a better life down a better path .....Amen 🙏🏻❤

  • @sammiV55
    @sammiV55 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I knew your uncle when he lived in Victoria Park in Plymouth and we went to Jura with Jimmy and Carey to help build the Wicker Man! John built geodesic domes and rocks in the garden from paper mache!! Sending love and best wishes John x

  • @redpilledpatriot8484
    @redpilledpatriot8484 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I was an alcoholic.. BAD. I had years where maybe 3 or 4 days of the year I did not get wasted. I never thought I’d be able to stop. But I did. Somehow after a decade of that I could care less if I drank, being around someone drinking no longer bothers me, I never thought that possible. In the last 5 years I can count on one hand how many times I drank and never to the point of being wasted and always on only special occasion such as a wedding or a cruise ship. People, all things are possible in Christ, it is because of him I have no care for alcohol.

  • @adamkaufmann3301
    @adamkaufmann3301 7 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    This captures something ineffable. The whole mood and the pull inside from the weight of this disease.

    • @MrMastrsushi
      @MrMastrsushi 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It isn't a disease, it's a mental disorder. When people put the word disease on Alcoholism or Obesity it's very dangerous. It spreads the idea that they inevitable victims.

    • @MrMastrsushi
      @MrMastrsushi 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Edit: "You are total idiot" Yeah, you seem like you're about to piss yourself. I never claimed they consider themselves victims, they are by society.

    • @brendar9363
      @brendar9363 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me - I'm sorry but the opioid issue is full of victimization. Kids who stole their grandparents pills are victims of big pharma. People who snorted their pills instead of taking them as directed are victims of big pharma. You may very well be correct in terms of alcoholics. But the opioid epidemic is full of victims.

    • @Me-wx8sl
      @Me-wx8sl 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I stand by my original comments. Alcoholics and addicts are not victims. Why would you blame big pharm companies but not Ciroc vodka? Once again, the public has very little knowledge of this disease. Addiction of any kind, is nature and nurture. And hell yes I'm ready to piss myself, because I read comments like yours that spew nonsense and lies.

    • @brendar9363
      @brendar9363 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me - watch a few of the opioid segments. I'm not spewing it. I'm repeating it.

  • @DEATHANDSADDNESS
    @DEATHANDSADDNESS 7 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    When you stop wearing shoes, its time to make some tough decisions.

    • @brandonmcmahon1997
      @brandonmcmahon1997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ARCTIC TOWER why wear shoes if you’re not leaving the house 😂

    • @erniebuchinski3614
      @erniebuchinski3614 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We should all walk a mile in his shoes. No, wait . . .

    • @videochannel5707
      @videochannel5707 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@brandonmcmahon1997 Alcohol kills your nerve system, it hits into your feet and its hard to walk with shoes and can make pain, then it kills your brain nerves, been there too, with liver damage feets get swollen wich makes walking and using shoes more painful.

  • @laurentbourdon5053
    @laurentbourdon5053 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It’s interesting that some people say that « drinking isn’t the cause », « depression is ». When I stopped drinking, 95% of my depression went away. No meds were effective, as long I was still drinking.

    • @feelsman7837
      @feelsman7837 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Those people are delusional, they are equivalent to uplifting Pinterest quotes.

  • @loveandlightloveandlight3846
    @loveandlightloveandlight3846 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Godbless all the alcoholics wherever they are and guide them into the light and out of despair and darkness

    • @jesusismylord1496
      @jesusismylord1496 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jesus is the light without Him we all burn in Hell