HOW TO CONTROL YOUR MOUTH!
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HOOK: This hole and this little red thing inside this hole gets us in more trouble than any other part of our body. So, how do we control it? That’s what we’re gonna talk about today.
INTRODUCTION:
Hey what’s up everyone welcome back to the BEAT. Today we are talking about how to control our mouth (the same advice goes for our communication on Facebook too). And in James 3 the Bible gives us some very practical advice on how to tame our tongue.
#1 - Be AWARE of the PITFALLS
James says we ALL stumble in MANY ways and ANYONE who says they are not at fault is PERFECT. The reason why we ALL struggle with our mouth is because there are so many different ways we can sin with our tongue.
Slander, gossip, lie, complaining, critical spirit, cursing, exaggerate, discourage, curse, not following through, dirty jokes, outbursts of anger (aka “go off on folk”), half-truths, sarcasm, boasting, complaining, etc.
And so James says because there are so many ways we can STUMBLE we should be mindful of how our mouths can be used to tear someone down.
#2 - Be INTENTIONAL and Speak positivity - Notice here by using the illustration of a horse to illustrate how something small can a very to make a HUGE positive impact.
One of the reasons why this is so critical is because when you praise and encourage people you earn the right to correct them when they are wrong. TRUTH is best received when TIME is invested and TRUST is established and one of the ways of doing this is to be known as an encourager; someone who makes small deposits into people’s lives over time by encouraging them, complimenting them, offering constructive criticism designed to make them a better person and add value to them. And so for many of us because it’s not our nature we need to be INTENTIONAL about speaking LIFE into other people’s lives.
#3 - Be CAUTIOUS and THINK before you SPEAK - James says, “consider” or “think about” the fire you could start simply by not filtering what comes in your mind so that it doesn’t come out of your mouth. (Some people have no filter between their mind and their mouth.) I want to encourage you to use this acronym on a daily basis (maybe even a minute by minute basis depending on how bad it is) before you prepare to blast this person with venom. This acronym alone will help many of your relationships thrive.
T - Is it TRUE?
H - Is it HELPFUL?
I - Is it INSPIRING
N - Is it NECESSARY?
K - Is it KIND?
Just this acronym alone will save us a world of trouble in our relationships.
#4 - BE GENTLE and Check your Tone - v. 6 - James says here our tongue has the power to “stain the whole body” (ESV) - Wedding dress Illustration: Many of us have really good things to say but it’s never received by others because what we’re saying is not packaged right. People will hardly notice the dress because their focus will be on the stain. Prov. 15:1 - “A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Our presentation immediately turns people off so that people don’t receive what we’re saying.
Amen! The tongue is small, but is quick to do damage. Be quick to listen, and slow to speak!
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I once heard, "the mouth is to be used for two things, eating and praising God!" Praise Jesus, He allowed me to remember this to post here! Amen
The real problem is more than our tongues but our minds. Sin starts in the mind, I guarantee you that if we teach our minds on the word of God more likely most things we say will be in line with his words. Alot of times we say thinks because the movies we watch, the music we listen to. Even the foods we eat can affect our minds. Most people I believe is easily influence, in this case try and hang out with good people mostly. But most importantly pray because without prayers nothing that we do will make sense.
Well said, amen
Explain the food part?
@@NarrowPath_7 so much of the food we eat is complete garbage (at least in the USA) and the chemicals and additives wreak havoc on our bodies and minds. Think about it: how do you feel after a few days of nothing but sugary, highly processed junk food and soda? Your mind is sluggish and your body feels lousy. But after a few days of eating nothing but natural whole food and water you feel completely different! You're more likely to make poor decisions and be mean and nasty because you aren't getting proper nutrition. Generally speaking of course.
@@jaxmom09 oh like that you meant. Well thankfully I'm not from the USA.
@@NarrowPath_7 you can find that kind of food all over the world, not just the USA. It's just not normalized and pushed to be eaten daily as hard as it is here. That kind of food is far more convenient and easy to find for the average person here who's always on the go, plus it seems much cheaper.
Father Lord, Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips” (for it is written in Psalm 141:3).
Our mouth is powerful it has the power to speak life or death. I definitely need to tame my mouth and learn to control it. Please pray for me 🙏🙏🙏
My biggest issue, quick to talk 😲 without thinking first ...great advice brother! 😃
I'll try to remember and enforce this...
I'm the same way. God bless. 😊
I’m like that too.But my mind is so weird I don’t know where the weird thought or sentence come from
Same
GOD BLESS YOU ALLEN! I really really needed to hear this. I realize this is one of the BIGGEST sins that I struggle with. And it is the cause of a lot of my relationship problems. I believe it comes from the family I grew up in, where everyone just screamed at each other and belittled one another. It truly was toxic, and I subconsciously picked it up. NOT an excuse, but it helps to understand why I am the way I am.
I will pray that God will help me through this with the Holy Spirit.
Thank you so much Allen!
I had the same upbringing and struggle with my to this day.
Thank you so much for this! I actually teared up reading those "Top 4 Scriptures" at the end. It never ceases to amaze me how the Bible was written during a world so different from our current generation, but how it is still so accurate about how we should live out daily lives. The Bible does not "offer good advice" that's helpful for a lot of people, it literally gives us the perfect foundation upon how we MUST live our lives. There is simply no other way to do it, there is the right way and numerous wrong ways and the Bible gives us the only right way.
I can't thank you enough for your T.H.I.N.K. acronym, I'll be posting that all over my home!
I clicked on this because I need help taming my tongue. It has hurt some feelings of lately. Not knowing the implications that it may have on someone. Even though I say I’m sorry, and they may forgive me. These people will never forget. Now I can’t help but think about what I said every time I see these people. I guess this is god showing me humility.
While we are absolutely forgiven for our sins, unfortunately they can have life-long consequences. God will of course forgive us and so often will the people we hurt, but He doesn't always spare us of the repercussions. We must be very careful with our tongues; it's wonderful that you recognize that you need help, I'm here rewatching this for the same reason. I hope that you've made a lot of progress and are doing much better! Check out Dr. Charles Stanley's sermons called "The Danger of Anger", Wretched Radio has fantastic videos on anger too if that's the cause of your words.
I must say this is one of my biggest weaknesses.
Thank you so much Allan. I have a huge problem controlling my mouth especially when I'm upset. Could you do a video about how to calm down anger? Thanks again.
i hate the way im too chatty
Mya Visbal introverts appreciate you ❤
Agreed.
Me too! I
Thank you Denzel Washington, all of your videos really help me.
MindDrift i was looking for this
I was going to say the same about DW looks...lol
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I know this was an old video but I really needed this, I've got to control my mouth especially with people I truly don't like. You are right, as a Christian I'm supposed to bring light and love into people's lives not blast them and spit venom about them, especially behind their back. I needed this, and I see another similar video recommended. I want change my tongue and speak with love and kindness, even when it's hard because you never know what is going on in someone else's life.
This was truly amazing.
Awesome advice to live by ✨🙌🏽✨
This is an excellent msg! Watching in 2019..short but to the point! Love the acronym..will start using it tomorrow. Thank You, pastor! Going to do a study based on this vid! Thank you for the scriptures to look up..God bless your ministry
Thank you SO much for this acronym! I will carry this with me..
Thanks man of God I really need to saturate myself in God's word please pray for me because I need to love and let my mouth glorify God. It's hard because of the flesh.☝🏾️😪😢😭
Didn't think I had a problem until I saw this video. Thank you Pastor. God bless!!💕
Back here, after 4 years. I needed this word of God to mediate upon and to mirror myself into the victory of who I am in christ. It is already in me, I am victorious and I am what God says I am. Thank you Jesus.
I am so ecstatic that I've found your channel lol.
Hey BlogWithTK! Thanks so much for sharing that. I too am so excited about what God is doing on this channel and more specifically, in this BEAT community we have created. I think you'll find the videos helpful, encouraging and convicting as well. I look forward to engaging more with you on some of the other videos. Take care,
THE BEAT by Allen Parr Yes. I'm watching several videos daily. I like the delivery, very digestible. Please stay interactive with this channel as it grows. Wishing you much success and blessings also to your subscribers 🙏
BlogWithTK we claim it in Jesus name,amen.
Me too! :) God is good!
I watched this right after outbursting with anger Through this video God talked to me..We are created in God's image so our words should be Holy and blessing to others..Thank you brother God bless you and continue to teach you more and more..
THIS IS ME 🙌🏽... I have been praying about my mouth, my tone and jokes. It is not by chance that I scrolled and found this.
Appreciate these insights Bro. Allen Parr - very helpful to keep these thoughts in mind during our daily walk.
I will definitely watch this video repeatedly. Well explained (i.e., good use of YOUR tongue!!) and practical. I'm going to take the THINK acronym and write it down both in card and poster size so I can remind myself about the way to speak wisely. I'm also going to study my Heavenly Father's word about the pitfalls of an untamed tongue vs. the benefits a godly one. Thank you for this excellent, straightforward teaching and advice. Especially appropriate for an age when far too often I/we put my/our thoughts out on blast without considering the consequences, both in this life and eternally.
Wow..directly after i pray in the morning i need to listen to this video...usually I'm an encouraging person but after listening to this I see that i need to tweek MANY areas in my life✨
i didn’t know complaining was a sin!!!😐thank youu so much for this video
Thank you so much!!!! Your videos are such a blessing.
Your videos are awesome!! I like them especally because they are so short.
I was really blessed by what you shared. Right on time. Thank you very much.
Love your THINK acromny. Something I really needed to work on. Many thanks. God bless you Man and your work. Amen
thank you very much for this, so helpful. And thank you for the notes below so I can print them out.
Beautifully said.
This was very encouraging. Thank you
THANK YOU SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!! Now I can finally control my big mouth and be a positive friend to all. Props to you :) :) :)
Not sure how i got here but im happy i did! You have a new subscriber😊
Everyone keep me in your prayers! I lost my wife and son😢
Curt lee
I am very sorry for your loss. I pray Jesus is holding you through this very difficult time. I cannot imagine what you are going through but reach out to the Lord only he can comfort you. I trust your wife and son are saved and are resting peacefully with him. Xxx
Its ok, jesus is there his love is eternal
God bless bro
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Tempo lee sorry for your loss 🙏🏾
Thank you for serving and sharing.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you
speak Lord,(have mercy on me)im listening....help me Jesus i pray😢😔😊🤗
Great video. All good advice to remember. . How we need help with this area, for sure.
The fact i actually had to search this... is honestly beyond me...but i need this extra help so thank you
I love your videos very much so helpful and useful every time. You do a wonderful job I’m Thankful to God for what you do!!! Now I gotta not just be a hearer but a doer of this word. At least now I know It needs to be done. Tame the tongue!!!
I love your videos they help me out! I needed this because I'm having trouble controling what I say.
It is a continual struggle for ALL of us. Trust me! Thank you for sharing!
Show me how to have sex with a woman
I love your videos!! God is Definitely using u!! Praise God! I curse alot!!!
2:43- I loved this part a lot ! thank u
So wonderful, your THINK. Going to listen again.
This channel is AWESOME !!!! Thank you ..I can learn so much from your videos ....
Thank you Mr. Parr, I needed this. I've noticed in my corrective criticism isn't going over so well if my tone isn't in tune. appreciate the reminder, thanks.
Amen, you're welcome Janice
Matthew 23:8-10 "[8] But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren.
[9] And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
[10] Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ."
Mr. is derived from Master, which Jesus said not to call people.
I need this the most.. thank u so much
Thank you for your videos Mr Parr. I am praying God will continue to work in my heart in this area. I grew up in a very verbally abusive home and I catch myself going in that direction with my own husband and children. Due to not dealing with things right away or let my frustrations build up, I deal with it in anger and rage. And unfortunately my beautiful children get the brunt of it.
Matthew 23:8-10 "[8] But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren.
[9] And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
[10] Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ."
In my mind, I would speak in the name of justice against injustice. My words are intended to draw attention to an evil that is covered. I intend no harm but pure justice.
Thank you for this video,thanks for all your video!
Thanks Elena!
What you say is true Allan and that think us a great reminder der...buuuttt...the real soultion to controlling the mouth...is the heart ! Our heart and innerman are directly connected to the tongue...if we fux the heart and confirm it to God's word we won't need to worry about our words.
Wow thank you for this video your awesome !!
Si true and inspiring I'm going to try harder.
Very helpful!
This is the major thing I struggle with.This video was for me. It was posted on my birthday 🎂 October 20th
Very very good video sharing. It really enlighten me.
After 4 years of watching this video of which was save on my TH-cam playlist I remember and realised the need to re- watch this topic because I'm not happy with the way I interact with people on my choice of words. So help me God with this journey on daily meditation on this word of God and this particular topic.
Hey Allen. Please can you do teaching on mental health?
thank you an God continue to bless you.
God bless you sir
I needed to hear this, I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed. When I was young and I would try and speak up it would become a tounge twister or I would have trouble getting across what I was trying to say.not to mention being called stupid? Retarded? Dumb? Every name in the book. So I reached a point where I thought I'm better staying quiet. But I still had a lot to say just never said it. Know I'm speaking out and it tends to get me in hot water. Not only that? But those closest to me rarely take me seriously because they just look at my past even when I know I'm right. I can give them any sort of factual information and they come back every time with. Who said that? Where did you hear that?and if I don't remember who said it? What time they said it? What day they said it? Or word for word? It's invalid
😓😓😓😓😥😥😥😥😥😥 Dissapointed with my life... Clearly need to change
Well, I encourage you to do so then.
Only God. Only Prayer!!🙏💕
God loves you , it's not about us anymore but it's about Christ I pray to God that He helps you
Great video man! Really want to know if humorous sarcasm is bad? The type of sarcasm the likes of Steve Harvey would use.
I agree and disagree. We live in an age where people hold their feelings on their shoulders. People choose to remember what they want to remember about you. There have been times where what a person has said to me has really hurt me at the time BUT God has turned it around for my good. There have been times when I say an encouraging word to someone, and he or she just throws it down. I think that sometimes, it also has to do with how the other person is receiving what you say. Yes, I agree that we should be gentle, BUT that does NOT guarantee that the person still not get offended. These days, people are easily offended by even the slightest compliment.
Dorothea Dixon
Agree with you. Remember we are in the last days and we are warned people will become like this. Keep doing what you are doing as it's the right thing even if you are not appreciated. Jesus know your heart and sees everything. He wilk reward you. ☺
Dorothea Dixon when we speak we should speak in love, if someone gets offended there's nothing you can really do about that.
for me yes I definitely have trouble controlling my mouth I have a anger problem and other family members of mine do as well but what gets me extremely angry is not my mouth but people purposely reflecting negative energy onto someone they don't like you can feel negative energy that's what I need help with
Amen thanks bro
Oh my! I really need help with this!!!
Thank you!
Thanks for posting this brother. I really needed to be reminded of what the Word of God says about the tongue! I have a lot of hard work ahead of me but I want to change. Thanks again for being a blessing!
Thank you
Yes thank u
Neeeeeeeeeded this!!!
Hallelujah 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I love this video, but my biggest struggle is I'm suffering from some health issues and my hormones are controlling my attitude. I feel terrible all the time and its making my life so hard to keep this hole in my head shut.
Some people just so care about being honest / direct, even what they say is hurtful
Amen!
My mouth is my biggest stumbling block wish i can tame it.thanks for the advice
I remember hearing years ago that "the mouth is made for two purposes, eating and praising God!" And Yes, one can praise God while kissing the one He has placed our lives. Praise Jesus, He is coming soon.
excellent
I. Love to her what you have to say about manson. An eaststar
My God!!! This is good but soooooooo hard
Fuego
Amen
I'm having problems with controlling my anger I'm always snapping on people for the littlest things especially when people is coming in my house stealing from me that makes me snap even though they be lying saying they didn't do it when I have witnessed them doing it and it's just so hard for me to set boundaries down when they keep stepping on my boundaries so I snapped and I explode and I'm the bad person so how do I deal with people like that that don't care and then look at you like the angry black woman when you do something back I feel like I'm unworthy of God definitely I know God is not pleased with me because I can't control my anger or my hands and I come here today so y'all can pray for me 🙏🙏🙏😔
im thinking about just getting a childrens Bible so true when say othes purposely reflect negative energy not cool at all especially when it effects children and mentally challenged people this is why i hardly go outside anymore to much negative energy
I'm such a dick and so blunt and I try so hard not to be that way. It's just the word's fly out of my mouth before I have a chance to think about it. I've said some things that were so rude that it makes my head hurt thinking about it.
Hey King, we all have. The great thing is that God has grace and usually the people around us do as well. The key is not to focus on your past, focus on how you can make changes to improve moving forward.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr well said
I watch this because I'm cursing and being very sarcastic at school and because my parents found out about it.
Is it a Venial or a mortal sin to cuss?
Can i get an AMEN?
G Maduro Amen
G Maduro amen
G Maduro ok... AMEN
Amen
How about an amen and a thumbs up?
What if our friends and us use roasting as like a love language? I mean we only pick on each other because we know we’re only teasing and we treat everyone else respectfully. After hearing this once I tried to treat my very best friend with respect and she ended up crying thinking she had done something wrong.
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i make trouble and feel down after i reply unnecessary talk with relatives
Lord help us!
Can I ask you a question mrs.parr, when you listen to musics/videos that have cursing in,as a Christian is it ok to listen to it even if it doesn't effect you?
It affects you. Music is spiritual. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you discernment
I have done that... 😐 can you help me.
I am being murdered right now these people keep cutting snd stabbing my tounge I need help fast I.sm dying they keep cutting mytounge cursrss help me!!
Rhonda Pickett- Jackson, MS
Dawn BoydNateea Hodges Sheila Brown- Lansing, MI roaming
Knives
If I stub my toe and curse is that sin?
THank you for this video!
Could you add to your videos subtitles in spanish?
I really need to and others have asked. Thank you for reminding me. Let me see if I can do that.