this idea is so interesting to me! I was legit talking to my roommate about this concept yesterday but didn't know that it had a term. Maybe we don't have the right to a "soulmate" or w/e and the only way to have positive relationships is to craft them into what you need for them. But we're never really told that, especially in terms of romantic partners? Marriage is often pitched as the 'end goal', the moment you found a person that should make you happy forever. But that's WILDLY unreasonable. It would make more sense that marriage is the beginning of an agreement with your SO; an understanding that yall want to be together FIRST AND FOREMOST. So the relationship is all problem solving to that main point staying in each other life. we decide how to show up for each other. When I looked at it that way; it seemed a lot more clear that one person can't be everything you need, like you beautifully said. An SO (or friend, etc.) is not a means to an end of your loneliness. They're someone you fuck with. If we looked at all of our relationships more as "I like what this person brings to my life'" instead of "what should x person with x title be bringing to my life?" we'd be have a lot more flexibility in our connections and love would come from your community instead of dependent on a single person. anyway I really like your video, sounds like we had the same immigrant parents lmao and school experience so I related to your thought process a lot :) idk if im an RA yet but I'm deff prioritizing making intentional relationships now that in my the post-grad chapter of my life lol
Loved the way you put those concepts and glad you found out there was a term for something you were thinking about. That has always brought clarity to me. I have really found peace in my relationships with RA philosophy. Instead of agonizing over “why can’t my relationship with this person be like -this strict definition of that role-“ I value them for what they are even if it’s not “normal.”
I love your video so much, I want to share with loved ones and community members! I am so excited to grow and strengthen my own understanding and foundation of relationship anarchy for myself and for others.
I am about half way through this. You are doing an excellent job of explaining relationship anarchy. I feel this is at the core of who I am. I look back on my life and I have considered myself a lifelong social anarchist only occasionally lead astray. I have only recently discovered relationship anarchy. It's almost like a part of my life has been missing. I have spent so much energy on trying to make relationships work in environments that were very repressive for me.
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this idea is so interesting to me! I was legit talking to my roommate about this concept yesterday but didn't know that it had a term.
Maybe we don't have the right to a "soulmate" or w/e and the only way to have positive relationships is to craft them into what you need for them. But we're never really told that, especially in terms of romantic partners? Marriage is often pitched as the 'end goal', the moment you found a person that should make you happy forever. But that's WILDLY unreasonable. It would make more sense that marriage is the beginning of an agreement with your SO; an understanding that yall want to be together FIRST AND FOREMOST. So the relationship is all problem solving to that main point staying in each other life. we decide how to show up for each other.
When I looked at it that way; it seemed a lot more clear that one person can't be everything you need, like you beautifully said. An SO (or friend, etc.) is not a means to an end of your loneliness. They're someone you fuck with. If we looked at all of our relationships more as "I like what this person brings to my life'" instead of "what should x person with x title be bringing to my life?" we'd be have a lot more flexibility in our connections and love would come from your community instead of dependent on a single person.
anyway I really like your video, sounds like we had the same immigrant parents lmao and school experience so I related to your thought process a lot :) idk if im an RA yet but I'm deff prioritizing making intentional relationships now that in my the post-grad chapter of my life lol
Loved the way you put those concepts and glad you found out there was a term for something you were thinking about. That has always brought clarity to me. I have really found peace in my relationships with RA philosophy. Instead of agonizing over “why can’t my relationship with this person be like -this strict definition of that role-“ I value them for what they are even if it’s not “normal.”
I appreciate you introducing this topic to me!
I just discovered this vid. I dig it. I'm planning on getting a RA tattoo this year. You framed all of this in a great way for viewers.
i am so excited for this!!
I love your video so much, I want to share with loved ones and community members! I am so excited to grow and strengthen my own understanding and foundation of relationship anarchy for myself and for others.
Interesting take on RA 👍
i liked your video! good reflections
I am about half way through this. You are doing an excellent job of explaining relationship anarchy. I feel this is at the core of who I am. I look back on my life and I have considered myself a lifelong social anarchist only occasionally lead astray. I have only recently discovered relationship anarchy. It's almost like a part of my life has been missing. I have spent so much energy on trying to make relationships work in environments that were very repressive for me.
Is the RA TH-cam channel link working for anyone else?