HAPPY SUNDAY! If you are looking for a therapist, click this link sis 💕happy to share a new resource for your elevation journey! growtherapy.co/mayagalore
My Dear, When your life is surrendered to God, just know he has got the very best for you , nothing less. Please enjoy and sit in where you are currently. Peace and blessings to you. ❤
But also i am OH SO PROUD OF YOU. I’ve been following since 2020 and you truly help me prioritize ME. Especially being a young 28 mom of 1 and a preachers wife! ❤ we are besties in my mind lol
I was in a similar situation, everyone, friends and family told me how "lucky" I was to have a husband like him. Then the questions came, does he have a brother, uncle, etc., but I knew the truth but was too ashamed to speak up. I also made more money, which he despised, but that was my situation long before we ever met. After our child was born, I endured years of depression, extra weight that I couldn't get rid of and was drinking way too much alcohol. All the while, he was thriving. Finally, after renewing my relationship with God, which he also despised, and finding a good therapist, I chose myself, our child and filed for divorce. I lost a lot of so called friends but let it be known, if you want this MOFO take him, cause I'm done! Since then, I've been moving on up, and haven't looked back! Please, keep telling your story, never mind the nay sayers (this is the first time I've ever posted this part of my story online) and I've been divorced for more than five years. Thank you for your courage, Maya!
Your story is so similar to mine. No one around me knew the truth because I too was ashamed. And I’ve already shared that I was the breadwinner too. I dumped the wine corks I collected during that time but there were soooo many 🤦🏾♀️ so happy you finally chose you!!! thanks for sharing sis. This makes me feel I did right by sharing my story ☺️❤️
Grrrrrlllll if I didn't know better I'd think I wrote this post. This is my story except the child, thank God. There are so many women in these one-sided toxic relationships pretending just to save face, no more.
@@nadinefrancis3452. Those types of dudes are energy vampires. They steal the energy and put it towards themselves. You will know you are with the wrong one when all your stuff starts to go downhill.
Sounds like my story as well. And just like you, Ive never really spoken out or posted anything. I’ve been way too embarrassed and ashamed. I lost so much of myself in my marriage. I’ve officially been divorced since 2020 but a lot of the emotional and mental damage still weighs heavy on me and I know it’s time for me to truly start making some changes.
I started choosing myself this past May. Since then I’ve got back in the gym, lost 16 pounds and counting, a promotion at work, decluttered my home, better relationship with my daughters, and reconnected with a great group of girl friends. I’m so happy for you Maya! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! ♥️
35:48 It is VERY common for a father to be in the house but not be PRESENT. Some ppl like to brag about coming from a 2 parent household…but did they really?
I like how you didn't say anything at all, but said quite a bit. Lol, we understand. Always choose you! Zero regrets, just lessons for a better future.
@@MayaGalore We do! Because I am You. You are Me. Not just because we're African Amer, + Female + LIbra! Its much DEEPER than that. Thats what I teach on my channel!
Hi Maya! Please keep sharing YOUR story for as long as you want to on YOUR channel. As a married woman, you remind me to take care of myself and that it is ok to put myself first sometimes.Keep doing you!!😊
I think therapy is good for everyone. To me therapy is like bodybuilding but for your emotions, your emotional skills, and emotional intelligence. Who doesn't need that? 🤷🏾♀️
One thing that stuck out to me is that fact that you, someone who is family oriented and values community, got married to someone who didn’t even have a single person there at your wedding. I feel like there are things you shouldn’t compromise and say “it’s fine” to when these are the things you value
Agreed. And at the time, i didn’t think it was a big deal that no one was there for him. But my family did. So happy to have evolved from that version of me 🙏🏾
You go girl 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I RARELY ever comment under videos but had to on this one. I don’t think you understand the magnitude of this video and how it will inspire someone. May God lead you to the man of your dreams where the only thing you’ll need to compromise is in choosing which restaurant to eat at lol kudos to you girl!!!🥂
I loved the way you addressed those who have said they are tired of hearing you talk about certain things. When ever I see people comment this I think the same thing, they can click off if they don't want to hear it. May God continue to bless your journey.
I’ve been following you for years & to this day you’re still my fave creator. I initially was so happy about your marriage, but I soon started noticing you becoming more depressed/anxious (and that wasn’t like you AT ALL), and a few more things I won’t mention. But I’m so proud of you for putting yourself first & realizing you don’t have to settle, but that you deserve nothing but the best.
At age 54, never married but i have been in relationships that were good, bad and ugly. When you decide to focus on yourself, everything God places in you is revealed. I gave myself back to Christ and it has been peaceful. Not in a rush to date but follow the steps with God and enjoy life again. We live, we learn and we Grow! Keep pushing Maya because you’re doing what is best for you and your daughter! 🥰♥️
One of God's daughter here. I truly believe that God's hand is all up in and through my healing journey. Other people's stories and how they navigate challenges gives me hope that I too will eventually see change and that God is working in my life. I'm so grateful for you sharing your journey. I have seen miracles in your journey. Thank you because your voice, your story matters and has been a healing force in my life.
I did the same thing sis after 6 months of marriage. It was so toxic!!!! And I completely ignored it. As soon as we got married he showed his ass. That was it!! other people saw the signs, but I chose to think God is going to fix it. The number lies he was creating a unsafe place for my children and myself. I am so very much Happy Now. I have grown tremendously, I know myself a lot better now
Please know sharing your truth is so valuable. It’s clear to me as a supporter that it’s part of your ministry. You will continue to help & inspire so many. Wishing you continued success! 💜
Maya, you should be so proud of yourself! We stay in terrible situations for sooo long sometimes. I feel like you identified what wasn't serving you so quickly and rectified the situation ASAP!!! I'm in awe!
Public service announcement! If you are using your journey to touch ONE person….present 🙋🏾♀️. I’m 10 months post “choosing me” and it was 110% your vlogs that helped me make the decision and continue to not relapse. Yes therapy too. But my girl math calculations equaled if this beautiful woman can “choose herself” ON THE INTERNET. I can too…I needed to see your transparent vlogs, I didn’t miss a post. So thank you for sharing
That "inner self" work is so crazy, but it is very rewarding. When you truly start to live your own life for you it's a beautiful thing and that self-work may take some time there's no start date or end date on healing or self-work, it's all a process.
I cannot tell you how timely this message is for me and I want to thank you so much for sharing your story. I was doubting myself and this is confirmation I am doing the right thing.
Maya! The way you spoke TRUTH when yu said when you choose urself ur gona be a villain in somebody’s story. When I say this is sooooo true. Some people don’t care how unhappy or uncomfortable yu are as long as they have what they want from yu, whatever it might be. Thank yu for putting that into those words. Perfect perfect PERFECT way to describe being in a position to stand on business for urself.
First things first I just want to say how extremely proud of you for being soooo brave as sister , friend , woman of God who who was not only self-less enough to step out and invite us into your journey , but believing in the strength to begin again and live as a women. So thank you thank you for that , this video was so needed and I see the peace and glow in your face that ik when its time for me to get there ( bc ik im almost thru transition )that its going to be amazing ,and just understanding the strength of embracing each level. Thank you sis for this, I pray you keep going and if its ment we cross paths in person to exchange that goddess energy !!!! I wish you the best and blessings !!!
The TH-cam algorithm is wayyyyy off! I always wait for Maya’s videos on Sunday, it’s what I watch while meal prepping and preparing to for my week. These last five weeks my notifications haven’t gone off til 7pm EST. TH-cam has to fix this problem
Thank you for your openness and vulnerability. Your words were confirmation for what I’ve been doing. I’m currently choosing myself and quietly making my exit strategy. I’m extremely excited just thinking about not having to cater to anyone else’s feelings while neglecting my own. I went back and forth for weeks but now I’ve prayed and God has told me that it’s okay to move on. What people think has nothing to do with me. I pray ALL women in situations where they are neglecting themselves are blessed with the power to choose themselves!!!
I feel you when you come to your senses and change your life around. To others it seems sudden but you knew the red flags just thinking you could deal with it. I went thru a parallel situation and the only way to get thru it is giving it to God. He knew our plans so he already knew we would eventually see our “mistakes.” Happy one year of choosing yourself! It’s been over 5 years for me! 🎉❤🙌🏾
So question: When you first met him and got married I remember you saying how God told you he was your husband and your sister told you what he would look like and etc. How do you feel about all of those feeling now, being that you feel like you wasn’t supposed to be married to him. I feel like you were it was apart of your story. Also, this cut is EATING ❤
I know it was supposed to be a part of my story. I wouldn’t be this version without it. And the truth is, he DID become my husband. So I’m running with that 🫶🏾 im still searching for complete clarity on this, which is why I’ve never addressed it ❤️
@@MayaGalore I think the reason is this…free will. God has given all of us free will and the power to choose for ourselves. He doesn’t micro manage our lives or influence us to do one thing or another. He lovingly steps back and allows us to make our own decisions and provides his word as a guide so we’re not completely clueless. ❤
I think it’s important that the fact that it be addressed that there’s a clear distinction between God telling you someone IS your husband because God is not a man who shall lie. Whether he became your husband or not, he was not your God ordained husband and I kinda feel like there may have been some deeper things here in the spirit that you need to seek God about Maya. Discernment is key with EVERYONE!
@@jasthelovebugI agree. God’s name should have NEVER been mentioned. He is not the author of confusion. That’s why it’s important to have a personal relationship with God so that His voice is clear and drowns out every other voice. God said to seek Him FIRST and the other things will be added to us.
All things work together for the good of them….. In order to Develop Discernment you must go through something in life. It’s unfair to judge someone’s level of discernment when you don’t personally know them! Maya I’m glad for your growth. Your discernment will strengthen as you Grow in Him!!!! Continue to SOAR@MayaGalore
OMG even though I can’t relate to your life story growing up I will tell you this it was so freeing for me when I heard my therapist tell me “it’s your parents fault” and “it starts at the root” I totally looked at my life completely different than ever before. I felt like I didn’t even know my life was my parents fault. I thought things were all on me. I thought things were supposed to fall all on my shoulders but I was so wrong. I’ll stop there because that’s a revelation for me, right now!
Maya thank you for sharing your journey with us, idk for others but it has helped me a lot, knowing that as women we go through a lot quietly but voices like yours help us free ourselves. Thank you and I wish all the best for you and may God continue to bless you.
42:33 idk why you sharing that is causing me tears, but Maya I am so happy for you, whatever your opinion on divorce is is your opinion and your belief the ones who matter don’t mind and the ones who mind don’t matter. We see your growth. We see your light. Not just in you, but in your daughter too. 365 days later… you’re still here and your standing and still growing. That’s God and we (I) see it. ❤️😘
Hi Maya Southside of Atl mother of one 23 year old, married 34 years to a great country man 😊 I want to tell you what I tell my daughter, the quality of men is not what you all deserve. These men are looking for a mother because unfortunately in our culture the fathers are absent. The young men are being taken care of a lot of time by mama and grandma until a female or some females come along and take care of that position. It is sad and pathetic but I’ve seen females with sons who basically treat them like they treat their girls, sometimes I think to teach them not to take care of a woman, if it isn’t her but that in turn means he is in a miserable position attempting to be a man with grown women and has to pretend because he didn’t learn! My husband spoils our daughter and expects that anyone she attracts better be the same. You are so right that what kids see is what they learn. Your mother was strong and handling everything because a lot of men think if they make the money you should be able to pick up the rest, I’m sorry you saw that but know she didn’t know it would make an imprint on your future. You’re breaking that cycle and no matter who thinks your struggle to do this should be shorter,it’s not their call. You got this!!❤
Everything you said resonates with me so much. Because I did exactly what my mom did. Everything. And it almost ate me alive. I’m grateful to be able to break the cycle because i don’t want my daughter growing up seeing exactly what i wanted to shield her from ❤️
I recently began choosing myself also. I am currently going through a divorce and restarted therapy. I realized in therapy that I also celebrated the bare minimum in my relationship. No more! Also, I tried not to get into the same type of relationships my mom was in, but I realized that I focused so heavily on what I didn't want, that I never figured what I wanted (and deserved). No more of that, either! I also feel like once my husband and I separated, God started showing up and out in my life as well. Keep going, Maya! 😊
No one warns us about the "what is this!" moment. Turned 35 in January and asked the same question in tears February!!!!! And just had that moment last week!!! You're not alone sis.
Therapy is a must and it’s in lifelong journey. I enjoyed talking to my therapist and I’ve never at the point where I feel like I don’t need them because life changes and so does my needs desires and issues. It is a lifelong commitment for me. it’s almost like going to serve God at church. You can never have too much church and you will never graduate from church.
After 29 years of being together and 27 years of marriage, I knew I needed to make a change. Thank you for sharing the many takeaways during the past year. Maya, I am a huge people pleaser, and therapy has really shaken my world up. I could not fight for better to show up on my own anymore. I chose to leave earlier this year in hopes that would work, but it didn't. So, a week ago, I filed for divorce. I feel all all the emotions, but I will keep pressing forward. I am ready to share that part of me now on my channel, and I believe it will be helpful just as your story was helpful for me. Thank you, sis ❤
I’ve been hesitant to say this because I thought I might be overthinking it, but the more you share, the more I see how everything comes together. I’ve been subscribed to you for years, but after you got married, I stopped watching your videos. And when I would try I would just turn it off. Then, out of nowhere, I was drawn back to your content and started watching you again and found out you were divorced. For the longest time, I couldn’t figure out what had changed. Your content doesn’t seem different, so it really puzzled me. But as I hear you speak more, it feels like God has been working in your life in a powerful way. All things truly do come together for His glory. Sometimes, He allows certain things to happen to shift us into a new season. And sometimes, we lose people along the way because they’re not meant to share in the next chapter of our journey. Sometimes we have to go through things and experience things to learn and also to prepare us for the glory that is coming. And when it all comes together in the end you see that God had his hand on you the entire time and even through through the suffering, the confusion, the hurt, He still carried you bc it was all in the plans. I’m so happy to see His plan unfolding in your life and to witness the FAVORED growth you’re experiencing. Girl, I’m just glad to be here, cheering you on and watching it all happen.
You had your own plans with what you wanted when you first moved to Atlanta and God had a different vision for you! It’s hard to not get your hearts desires when you want it but when you choose God and really listen to him that’s when things start to come together. You’re giving that same glow from before you moved and I’m happy for you!
Mya, this was such a beautiful blessing to me. Thank you for saying the things that I've been feeling lately. This was absolutely a word I needed to hear.
If you don't want to hear about the influencers life then click off. Pls don't apologize for being you. It takes courage to share your story. We can all benefit from it in some way. Lets just start encouraging the people we follow instead of nagging especially when they didn't ask. ❤
I rarely comment but thank you so much for being vulnerable. And thank you for showing us what choosing yourself looks like. As a follower I could see the change and that you weren't happy and honestly I was in a similar situation. You choosing you and glowing up afterwards is a great example for us all. Thank you❤
The part where you talked about having a father in the house but he is not doing anything, just existing in the household. I as well hrew up seeing my mother doing everything and thats the person i have grown up to become, i find myself doing the most with people around me -putting people's needs & want before what i truly want, not enforcing any boundaries and to say i have literally lost myself. I'm struggling to rebuild myself😔
Thank you Maya for always being vulnerable and sharing even when you don’t have too. I’ve been following your platform for years and watching you elevate has been amazing. Watching your videos has always been encouraging and uplifting. I had to learn how to choose myself and walk away from things that no longer served me.
let me pause this video at 8:30 and say this: you should never have to apolpgize and/or make a disclaimer for speaking about your life. This is your space, and we are here to support you in all things towards your healing and growth. Anyone who does not want to hear it, does not want to hear you. God bless you Maya and I'm praying for you
Maya, I am so happy for you! And I am glad that I found you back in 2020 because you have helped me in so many ways! Hopefully one day I can bump into you and we can have a conversation! Blessings to you sis! 🫶🏾
Hi Maya. I have never commented on your blogs. I totally enjoy your content. Your experience/testimony has been so helpful to me. It is super selfish for anyone to want to hear/see the good and avoid the challenges. Please continue being your authentic self. Coming from an older sister.
Maya, i want to let you know the same thing happened to me with my Divorce because I was never suppose to be Married to that man. I feel like he was holding my Growth up & that we was not Going to grow together in the right direction. 4mts after my Divorce I met the man of my Dreams & my actual Husband. Your Divorce was a lesson & for Growth. Keep going & raising your standards & Self Worth day by day.
This is definitely why I try to vet really thoroughly really early bc once you are invested it’s harder to let go. Sometimes we have to learn by experience bc experience is the best teacher. You left a bad situation earlier than a lot of others and that’s a good thing. And the more you read the Word.. and especially Proverbs it will teach you about deceit, and learning what abuse is and how manipulators operate it will help a lot. Also these men can really but up a good front and representative in the beginning so discernment is key and always being willing to walk away instead of compromising your values, self respect, and worth. The world will tell you high standards are toxic but it will save u when most of those standards are rooted in character and treatment.. and of course finances bc a man who doesn’t work doesn’t eat.
Ms. Maya, thank you so much for this. Keep it going Ms. Ma'am you've got this. I'm right there with you and yes therapy has definitely helped me see me in the trauma.
Please keep sharing your wisdom gained. You don't go through these trials for only yourself it does truly help all of us. Thank you for trusting us to receive this message through you, as it was flowing. You're doing an amazing job on your content. That b roll song was perfect foreshadowing. Loved this!
Talk about anything you want to talk about on your channel boo! Anybody who doesn’t like it doesn’t have to watch it. I’m proud of you, keep choosing you! You are helping so many of us ❤
The way to heal wounds is to talk about it and then stop talking about it. You must let go of the past and you must let go of wounds that you are trying to heal. Yes it’s hard for some not speak on it but in order to heal and to move on, you must put it to rest once and for all your daughter loves you. She looks up to you and that’s great that you showing her you can be strong, but please you are a strong woman, and you must heal from that which had you bind and depressed and made you feel less than what you should have been feeling more power and more blessings to you young lady, stay strong
I respect a woman who chooses herself because that is a strong woman and someday you will make a strong daughter by the path you’re going on stay strong Maya❤❤
I have loved watching your growth this past year!! I'm sooo happy for you and wish many blessings over your life. Thanks for reminding me to choose myself!! ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Maya I have been using Grow Therapy for 6 months now and it has been the absolute best therapy I have had. I went through serious trauma and I have healed a lot so you are on the right track 😊🙏🏾
We’re so proud of your healing journey and grateful that Grow Therapy could support you along the way. Thank you for sharing your story-you’ve got this! 💜
I can relate to your upbringing and the dynamics between your mother and father. i never really had the word to articulate how i felt about it but you hit the nail on the head for me. thank you for sharing.
First and foremost.....THE HAIR IS EVERYTHING! It's giving black Betty Boop! =) Secondly, I commend you for having the courage to not only choose you, but to tell other women to do the same. The word says, " We are overcomers by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony." Rev 12:11 ❤
Thanks for speaking on it, I’m 22, turning 23 and my mom’s not really savvy on these kinds of things. We’re close but idk sometimes I need the extra advice and your channel is like having a cool auntie I can look up to
You have grown so much Maya. So many of us have low self esteem and stay with who accepts us. A light went off when you spoke of not accepting the younger gentlemen because you had learned why you usually accepted someone. You are helping many women young and old. Keep letting God use you.
This was a phenomenal Vlog, and so needed. Thank you for being vulnerable for the sake of helping women of all ages. May God continue to Bless you and your family.🙏🏾💖
I will never understand ppl who criticize what TH-camrs decide to share in their personal videos. I appreciate what you do share with us Maya and allowing us a window into your life. It helps more of us than you know!!
This is currently my life situation and the way I feel like God purposely allowed me to find you is crazy. You are speaking everything that I could not verbalize for awhile and it’s very mind boggling to me. Thank you sharing all that you share and being as vulnerable as you are being. This is very healing. Thank you Maya.
This is also an example for influencers to trust their viewers opinion just like they expect us to trust their opinion of products, lifestyle etc. However, this is a great journey to continue to influence/help viewers avoid, learn & do better💓
HAPPY SUNDAY! If you are looking for a therapist, click this link sis 💕happy to share a new resource for your elevation journey!
growtherapy.co/mayagalore
❤ thank u maya, is all I can say!
My Dear,
When your life is surrendered to God, just know he has got the very best for you , nothing less. Please enjoy and sit in where you are currently. Peace and blessings to you. ❤
Hi! Just a suggestion (i watch every week!) can you add the music song and artist on the video?
But also i am OH SO PROUD OF YOU. I’ve been following since 2020 and you truly help me prioritize ME. Especially being a young 28 mom of 1 and a preachers wife! ❤ we are besties in my mind lol
Thank you for sharing!❤
I was in a similar situation, everyone, friends and family told me how "lucky" I was to have a husband like him. Then the questions came, does he have a brother, uncle, etc., but I knew the truth but was too ashamed to speak up. I also made more money, which he despised, but that was my situation long before we ever met. After our child was born, I endured years of depression, extra weight that I couldn't get rid of and was drinking way too much alcohol. All the while, he was thriving. Finally, after renewing my relationship with God, which he also despised, and finding a good therapist, I chose myself, our child and filed for divorce. I lost a lot of so called friends but let it be known, if you want this MOFO take him, cause I'm done! Since then, I've been moving on up, and haven't looked back! Please, keep telling your story, never mind the nay sayers (this is the first time I've ever posted this part of my story online) and I've been divorced for more than five years. Thank you for your courage, Maya!
Your story is so similar to mine. No one around me knew the truth because I too was ashamed. And I’ve already shared that I was the breadwinner too. I dumped the wine corks I collected during that time but there were soooo many 🤦🏾♀️ so happy you finally chose you!!! thanks for sharing sis. This makes me feel I did right by sharing my story ☺️❤️
Grrrrrlllll if I didn't know better I'd think I wrote this post. This is my story except the child, thank God. There are so many women in these one-sided toxic relationships pretending just to save face, no more.
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@@nadinefrancis3452. Those types of dudes are energy vampires. They steal the energy and put it towards themselves. You will know you are with the wrong one when all your stuff starts to go downhill.
Sounds like my story as well. And just like you, Ive never really spoken out or posted anything. I’ve been way too embarrassed and ashamed. I lost so much of myself in my marriage. I’ve officially been divorced since 2020 but a lot of the emotional and mental damage still weighs heavy on me and I know it’s time for me to truly start making some changes.
“When you choose yourself, you’re gonna end up being somebody’s villain.” - Maya
A WORD.
🗣️PREACH Maya👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
ok i felt this quote fr
I started choosing myself this past May. Since then I’ve got back in the gym, lost 16 pounds and counting, a promotion at work, decluttered my home, better relationship with my daughters, and reconnected with a great group of girl friends.
I’m so happy for you Maya! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! ♥️
Love this for youuu 🥹🙌🏾
@@MayaGalore Thank you 🥰
Congrats! Nothing better than peace
Congrats to you! Working towards ALL of these same things to be my reality for 2025 🎉
I am going to be 70 years young and I look forward to see you every Sunday❤
In my 60s and learning so much here Maya!! ! Keep it coming!
I look forward to becoming 70. It’s a blessing to keep living. Happy early birthday.
Happy, Blessed Birthday in advance!!!!! May your year be filled with blissful abundance❤
You will never regret choosing yourself in the end
35:48 It is VERY common for a father to be in the house but not be PRESENT. Some ppl like to brag about coming from a 2 parent household…but did they really?
I had to realize I was a married single parent and I refused for my children to think that was normal. So your comment is TRUTH!
@ because if they’re not helping/contributing then what’s the point?
I like how you didn't say anything at all, but said quite a bit. Lol, we understand. Always choose you! Zero regrets, just lessons for a better future.
The girls that get it, get it 🫶🏾
You're right. Never regret choosing yourself.
@@MayaGalore We do! Because I am You. You are Me. Not just because we're African Amer, + Female + LIbra! Its much DEEPER than that. Thats what I teach on my channel!
True but telling her mom’s business …. leave mom out and just say it 🤦🏽♀️ Protect him but blast mom ….. that’s a no for me.
Hi Maya! Please keep sharing YOUR story for as long as you want to on YOUR channel. As a married woman, you remind me to take care of myself and that it is ok to put myself first sometimes.Keep doing you!!😊
Thank you sis 🥹🫶🏾
Such a beautiful journey and you do it with such class. You chose YOU❤
I think therapy is good for everyone. To me therapy is like bodybuilding but for your emotions, your emotional skills, and emotional intelligence. Who doesn't need that? 🤷🏾♀️
Whew! I agree!! 🙌🏾
Therapy is like a gym for your emotions ❤
One thing that stuck out to me is that fact that you, someone who is family oriented and values community, got married to someone who didn’t even have a single person there at your wedding. I feel like there are things you shouldn’t compromise and say “it’s fine” to when these are the things you value
Agreed. And at the time, i didn’t think it was a big deal that no one was there for him. But my family did. So happy to have evolved from that version of me 🙏🏾
Yeah I was like he ain’t got a cousin, homeboy or nothing 😅
@@MayaGaloreyou should listen to observations of family members and friends, cos they see what you don't
Maya! This is your TH-cam. Talk about what you want. These people are disrespectful! Periodt!!!
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You go girl 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I RARELY ever comment under videos but had to on this one. I don’t think you understand the magnitude of this video and how it will inspire someone. May God lead you to the man of your dreams where the only thing you’ll need to compromise is in choosing which restaurant to eat at lol kudos to you girl!!!🥂
I’m so happy you shared this sis!! 🥹🙌🏾 thank you!!! ☺️🙏🏾
"When you choose yourself, you’re gonna end up being somebody’s villain." *immediately hit 👍* Baybeee that's a word!
I loved the way you addressed those who have said they are tired of hearing you talk about certain things. When ever I see people comment this I think the same thing, they can click off if they don't want to hear it. May God continue to bless your journey.
I’ve been following you for years & to this day you’re still my fave creator. I initially was so happy about your marriage, but I soon started noticing you becoming more depressed/anxious (and that wasn’t like you AT ALL), and a few more things I won’t mention. But I’m so proud of you for putting yourself first & realizing you don’t have to settle, but that you deserve nothing but the best.
At age 54, never married but i have been in relationships that were good, bad and ugly. When you decide to focus on yourself, everything God places in you is revealed. I gave myself back to Christ and it has been peaceful. Not in a rush to date but follow the steps with God and enjoy life again. We live, we learn and we Grow! Keep pushing Maya because you’re doing what is best for you and your daughter! 🥰♥️
I totally agree!! Thank you sis 🙏🏾❤️
Well Said!
One of God's daughter here. I truly believe that God's hand is all up in and through my healing journey. Other people's stories and how they navigate challenges gives me hope that I too will eventually see change and that God is working in my life. I'm so grateful for you sharing your journey. I have seen miracles in your journey. Thank you because your voice, your story matters and has been a healing force in my life.
Im so glad me sharing gives you hope sister 🥹🫶🏾
I did the same thing sis after 6 months of marriage. It was so toxic!!!! And I completely ignored it. As soon as we got married he showed his ass. That was it!! other people saw the signs, but I chose to think God is going to fix it. The number lies he was creating a unsafe place for my children and myself. I am so very much Happy Now. I have grown tremendously, I know myself a lot better now
Maya 🤟🏾 your journey has helped me don’t ever stop telling your story.
Please know sharing your truth is so valuable. It’s clear to me as a supporter that it’s part of your ministry.
You will continue to help
& inspire so many. Wishing you continued success! 💜
I believe it’s part of my ministry as well. Not easy to do but I go where God leads ❤️
Yeah she did very well
@@MayaGalore. Well done 👏
Maya, you should be so proud of yourself! We stay in terrible situations for sooo long sometimes. I feel like you identified what wasn't serving you so quickly and rectified the situation ASAP!!! I'm in awe!
Public service announcement! If you are using your journey to touch ONE person….present 🙋🏾♀️. I’m 10 months post “choosing me” and it was 110% your vlogs that helped me make the decision and continue to not relapse. Yes therapy too. But my girl math calculations equaled if this beautiful woman can “choose herself” ON THE INTERNET. I can too…I needed to see your transparent vlogs, I didn’t miss a post. So thank you for sharing
Wow 🥲 thank you for sharing. THIS right here is why I share though it’s tough for me sometimes. Congratulations sis. I love this for you 🥹🫶🏾
That "inner self" work is so crazy, but it is very rewarding. When you truly start to live your own life for you it's a beautiful thing and that self-work may take some time there's no start date or end date on healing or self-work, it's all a process.
It’s the hardest journey but SO worth it 🙌🏾
I cannot tell you how timely this message is for me and I want to thank you so much for sharing your story. I was doubting myself and this is confirmation I am doing the right thing.
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I’m so proud that you are speaking about this you don’t understand how much you are helping others this is such a inspiring watch
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Giiirl....I've put 2 and 2 together lol....Wishing you better for the future and hope you find someone who aligns with your values❤
Maya! The way you spoke TRUTH when yu said when you choose urself ur gona be a villain in somebody’s story. When I say this is sooooo true. Some people don’t care how unhappy or uncomfortable yu are as long as they have what they want from yu, whatever it might be. Thank yu for putting that into those words. Perfect perfect PERFECT way to describe being in a position to stand on business for urself.
I know it was hard to share this with this internet, but just know this will help someone else out here who is feeling the exact same thing.
First things first I just want to say how extremely proud of you for being soooo brave as sister , friend , woman of God who who was not only self-less enough to step out and invite us into your journey , but believing in the strength to begin again and live as a women. So thank you thank you for that , this video was so needed and I see the peace and glow in your face that ik when its time for me to get there ( bc ik im almost thru transition )that its going to be amazing ,and just understanding the strength of embracing each level. Thank you sis for this, I pray you keep going and if its ment we cross paths in person to exchange that goddess energy !!!! I wish you the best and blessings !!!
Honey I’m 42 and I’m definitely choosing me more and more every day. It’s a must!
I’m so glad that you made this video. There are women who need your testimony, so thank you for sharing your life and journey with us.
The TH-cam algorithm is wayyyyy off! I always wait for Maya’s videos on Sunday, it’s what I watch while meal prepping and preparing to for my week. These last five weeks my notifications haven’t gone off til 7pm EST. TH-cam has to fix this problem
Happy Sunday, This is your channel, and you have the right to tell your story. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your openness and vulnerability. Your words were confirmation for what I’ve been doing. I’m currently choosing myself and quietly making my exit strategy. I’m extremely excited just thinking about not having to cater to anyone else’s feelings while neglecting my own. I went back and forth for weeks but now I’ve prayed and God has told me that it’s okay to move on. What people think has nothing to do with me. I pray ALL women in situations where they are neglecting themselves are blessed with the power to choose themselves!!!
I feel you when you come to your senses and change your life around. To others it seems sudden but you knew the red flags just thinking you could deal with it. I went thru a parallel situation and the only way to get thru it is giving it to God. He knew our plans so he already knew we would eventually see our “mistakes.” Happy one year of choosing yourself! It’s been over 5 years for me! 🎉❤🙌🏾
Yes Mya ladies choose yourself and don’t look back forge ahead
Sharing your story helps someone turn their tests into a testimony. Keep sharing because we appreciate it
So question: When you first met him and got married I remember you saying how God told you he was your husband and your sister told you what he would look like and etc. How do you feel about all of those feeling now, being that you feel like you wasn’t supposed to be married to him.
I feel like you were it was apart of your story. Also, this cut is EATING ❤
I know it was supposed to be a part of my story. I wouldn’t be this version without it. And the truth is, he DID become my husband. So I’m running with that 🫶🏾 im still searching for complete clarity on this, which is why I’ve never addressed it ❤️
@@MayaGalore I think the reason is this…free will. God has given all of us free will and the power to choose for ourselves. He doesn’t micro manage our lives or influence us to do one thing or another. He lovingly steps back and allows us to make our own decisions and provides his word as a guide so we’re not completely clueless. ❤
I think it’s important that the fact that it be addressed that there’s a clear distinction between God telling you someone IS your husband because God is not a man who shall lie. Whether he became your husband or not, he was not your God ordained husband and I kinda feel like there may have been some deeper things here in the spirit that you need to seek God about Maya. Discernment is key with EVERYONE!
@@jasthelovebugI agree. God’s name should have NEVER been mentioned. He is not the author of confusion. That’s why it’s important to have a personal relationship with God so that His voice is clear and drowns out every other voice. God said to seek Him FIRST and the other things will be added to us.
All things work together for the good of them….. In order to Develop Discernment you must go through something in life. It’s unfair to judge someone’s level of discernment when you don’t personally know them! Maya I’m glad for your growth. Your discernment will strengthen as you Grow in Him!!!! Continue to SOAR@MayaGalore
OMG even though I can’t relate to your life story growing up I will tell you this it was so freeing for me when I heard my therapist tell me “it’s your parents fault” and “it starts at the root” I totally looked at my life completely different than ever before. I felt like I didn’t even know my life was my parents fault. I thought things were all on me. I thought things were supposed to fall all on my shoulders but I was so wrong. I’ll stop there because that’s a revelation for me, right now!
Great vlog! Thank you for the empowerment Maya you are a gem✨
Maya thank you for sharing your journey with us, idk for others but it has helped me a lot, knowing that as women we go through a lot quietly but voices like yours help us free ourselves. Thank you and I wish all the best for you and may God continue to bless you.
Thanks sis. Needed to hear this 🫶🏾
42:33 idk why you sharing that is causing me tears, but Maya I am so happy for you, whatever your opinion on divorce is is your opinion and your belief the ones who matter don’t mind and the ones who mind don’t matter. We see your growth. We see your light. Not just in you, but in your daughter too. 365 days later… you’re still here and your standing and still growing. That’s God and we (I) see it. ❤️😘
Hi Maya Southside of Atl mother of one 23 year old, married 34 years to a great country man 😊 I want to tell you what I tell my daughter, the quality of men is not what you all deserve. These men are looking for a mother because unfortunately in our culture the fathers are absent. The young men are being taken care of a lot of time by mama and grandma until a female or some females come along and take care of that position. It is sad and pathetic but I’ve seen females with sons who basically treat them like they treat their girls, sometimes I think to teach them not to take care of a woman, if it isn’t her but that in turn means he is in a miserable position attempting to be a man with grown women and has to pretend because he didn’t learn! My husband spoils our daughter and expects that anyone she attracts better be the same. You are so right that what kids see is what they learn. Your mother was strong and handling everything because a lot of men think if they make the money you should be able to pick up the rest, I’m sorry you saw that but know she didn’t know it would make an imprint on your future. You’re breaking that cycle and no matter who thinks your struggle to do this should be shorter,it’s not their call. You got this!!❤
Everything you said resonates with me so much. Because I did exactly what my mom did. Everything. And it almost ate me alive. I’m grateful to be able to break the cycle because i don’t want my daughter growing up seeing exactly what i wanted to shield her from ❤️
@ And that’s why I said you got this! Believe she notices! You will be fine. ❤️🙏🏽🌹
I recently began choosing myself also. I am currently going through a divorce and restarted therapy. I realized in therapy that I also celebrated the bare minimum in my relationship. No more! Also, I tried not to get into the same type of relationships my mom was in, but I realized that I focused so heavily on what I didn't want, that I never figured what I wanted (and deserved). No more of that, either!
I also feel like once my husband and I separated, God started showing up and out in my life as well. Keep going, Maya! 😊
No one warns us about the "what is this!" moment. Turned 35 in January and asked the same question in tears February!!!!! And just had that moment last week!!! You're not alone sis.
Thank you 🙏🏽 @MayaGalore for telling your story you have put the biggest smile on my face today ❤
Therapy is a must and it’s in lifelong journey. I enjoyed talking to my therapist and I’ve never at the point where I feel like I don’t need them because life changes and so does my needs desires and issues. It is a lifelong commitment for me. it’s almost like going to serve God at church. You can never have too much church and you will never graduate from church.
After 29 years of being together and 27 years of marriage, I knew I needed to make a change. Thank you for sharing the many takeaways during the past year. Maya, I am a huge people pleaser, and therapy has really shaken my world up. I could not fight for better to show up on my own anymore. I chose to leave earlier this year in hopes that would work, but it didn't. So, a week ago, I filed for divorce. I feel all all the emotions, but I will keep pressing forward. I am ready to share that part of me now on my channel, and I believe it will be helpful just as your story was helpful for me. Thank you, sis ❤
You’re 100% correct….. that’s why I’m ALWAYS choosing myself! I will never be sad and you’re happy! Not on my watch!
I’ve been hesitant to say this because I thought I might be overthinking it, but the more you share, the more I see how everything comes together. I’ve been subscribed to you for years, but after you got married, I stopped watching your videos. And when I would try I would just turn it off. Then, out of nowhere, I was drawn back to your content and started watching you again and found out you were divorced. For the longest time, I couldn’t figure out what had changed. Your content doesn’t seem different, so it really puzzled me. But as I hear you speak more, it feels like God has been working in your life in a powerful way.
All things truly do come together for His glory. Sometimes, He allows certain things to happen to shift us into a new season. And sometimes, we lose people along the way because they’re not meant to share in the next chapter of our journey. Sometimes we have to go through things and experience things to learn and also to prepare us for the glory that is coming. And when it all comes together in the end you see that God had his hand on you the entire time and even through through the suffering, the confusion, the hurt, He still carried you bc it was all in the plans.
I’m so happy to see His plan unfolding in your life and to witness the FAVORED growth you’re experiencing. Girl, I’m just glad to be here, cheering you on and watching it all happen.
I’m so proud of you for CHOOSING YOU!!! 🫶🏾
You had your own plans with what you wanted when you first moved to Atlanta and God had a different vision for you! It’s hard to not get your hearts desires when you want it but when you choose God and really listen to him that’s when things start to come together. You’re giving that same glow from before you moved and I’m happy for you!
Thank you for your obedience!!!! This was a WHOLE ENTIRE word!
Mya, this was such a beautiful blessing to me. Thank you for saying the things that I've been feeling lately. This was absolutely a word I needed to hear.
Thanks for sharing. These comments confirm why I was supposed to make this video☺️🙏🏾 (because I definitely struggled with whether or not to share)
If you don't want to hear about the influencers life then click off. Pls don't apologize for being you. It takes courage to share your story. We can all benefit from it in some way. Lets just start encouraging the people we follow instead of nagging especially when they didn't ask. ❤
Thank you babe 🙏🏾❤️
Happy Sunday Maya and Galore Gang!
I rarely comment but thank you so much for being vulnerable. And thank you for showing us what choosing yourself looks like. As a follower I could see the change and that you weren't happy and honestly I was in a similar situation. You choosing you and glowing up afterwards is a great example for us all. Thank you❤
I'm super proud of you for choosing you.Most of us witness the transformation.🌹🌹🌹
The part where you talked about having a father in the house but he is not doing anything, just existing in the household.
I as well hrew up seeing my mother doing everything and thats the person i have grown up to become, i find myself doing the most with people around me
-putting people's needs & want before what i truly want, not enforcing any boundaries and to say i have literally lost myself.
I'm struggling to rebuild myself😔
Thank you Maya for always being vulnerable and sharing even when you don’t have too. I’ve been following your platform for years and watching you elevate has been amazing. Watching your videos has always been encouraging and uplifting. I had to learn how to choose myself and walk away from things that no longer served me.
I just want to say thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with us. Thanks sis 💕
let me pause this video at 8:30 and say this: you should never have to apolpgize and/or make a disclaimer for speaking about your life. This is your space, and we are here to support you in all things towards your healing and growth. Anyone who does not want to hear it, does not want to hear you. God bless you Maya and I'm praying for you
Maya, I am so happy for you! And I am glad that I found you back in 2020 because you have helped me in so many ways! Hopefully one day I can bump into you and we can have a conversation! Blessings to you sis! 🫶🏾
Thank you sis!! ☺️🫶🏾
Hi Maya. I have never commented on your blogs. I totally enjoy your content. Your experience/testimony has been so helpful to me. It is super selfish for anyone to want to hear/see the good and avoid the challenges. Please continue being your authentic self. Coming from an older sister.
Maya, i want to let you know the same thing happened to me with my Divorce because I was never suppose to be Married to that man. I feel like he was holding my Growth up & that we was not Going to grow together in the right direction. 4mts after my Divorce I met the man of my Dreams & my actual Husband. Your Divorce was a lesson & for Growth. Keep going & raising your standards & Self Worth day by day.
This is definitely why I try to vet really thoroughly really early bc once you are invested it’s harder to let go. Sometimes we have to learn by experience bc experience is the best teacher. You left a bad situation earlier than a lot of others and that’s a good thing. And the more you read the Word.. and especially Proverbs it will teach you about deceit, and learning what abuse is and how manipulators operate it will help a lot. Also these men can really but up a good front and representative in the beginning so discernment is key and always being willing to walk away instead of compromising your values, self respect, and worth. The world will tell you high standards are toxic but it will save u when most of those standards are rooted in character and treatment.. and of course finances bc a man who doesn’t work doesn’t eat.
Ms. Maya, thank you so much for this. Keep it going Ms. Ma'am you've got this. I'm right there with you and yes therapy has definitely helped me see me in the trauma.
I needed this video and message today. I’m glad you found it in your heart to share ❤
Please keep sharing your wisdom gained. You don't go through these trials for only yourself it does truly help all of us. Thank you for trusting us to receive this message through you, as it was flowing. You're doing an amazing job on your content. That b roll song was perfect foreshadowing. Loved this!
Thank you Beautiful for this!! Alot of us needed to hear this❤❤❤❤
Talk about anything you want to talk about on your channel boo! Anybody who doesn’t like it doesn’t have to watch it. I’m proud of you, keep choosing you! You are helping so many of us ❤
The way to heal wounds is to talk about it and then stop talking about it. You must let go of the past and you must let go of wounds that you are trying to heal. Yes it’s hard for some not speak on it but in order to heal and to move on, you must put it to rest once and for all your daughter loves you. She looks up to you and that’s great that you showing her you can be strong, but please you are a strong woman, and you must heal from that which had you bind and depressed and made you feel less than what you should have been feeling more power and more blessings to you young lady, stay strong
I respect a woman who chooses herself because that is a strong woman and someday you will make a strong daughter by the path you’re going on stay strong Maya❤❤
I have loved watching your growth this past year!! I'm sooo happy for you and wish many blessings over your life. Thanks for reminding me to choose myself!! ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Maya I have been using Grow Therapy for 6 months now and it has been the absolute best therapy I have had. I went through serious trauma and I have healed a lot so you are on the right track 😊🙏🏾
We’re so proud of your healing journey and grateful that Grow Therapy could support you along the way. Thank you for sharing your story-you’ve got this! 💜
I can relate to your upbringing and the dynamics between your mother and father. i never really had the word to articulate how i felt about it but you hit the nail on the head for me. thank you for sharing.
We all needed this video ❤ Thank you beautiful! God Bless you 🙏🏽
I’m so glad I found your channel you are beautiful and an inspiration!!!!
Hi Maya thank you so much for being you and helping me... I hope you're able to find a great therapist..
Me too!! 🙌🏾
First and foremost.....THE HAIR IS EVERYTHING! It's giving black Betty Boop! =) Secondly, I commend you for having the courage to not only choose you, but to tell other women to do the same. The word says, " We are overcomers by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony." Rev 12:11 ❤
Thanks for speaking on it, I’m 22, turning 23 and my mom’s not really savvy on these kinds of things. We’re close but idk sometimes I need the extra advice and your channel is like having a cool auntie I can look up to
You have grown so much Maya. So many of us have low self esteem and stay with who accepts us. A light went off when you spoke of not accepting the younger gentlemen because you had learned why you usually accepted someone. You are helping many women young and old. Keep letting God use you.
Maya, you are an inspiration. Please share your truth. In life, there are always going to be hater. I am proud of your journey ❤
Thank you so much 🥹🫶🏾
10:51 I’m proud of you too Maya!💗🤞🏽✨
This was a phenomenal Vlog, and so needed. Thank you for being vulnerable for the sake of helping women of all ages. May God continue to Bless you and your family.🙏🏾💖
Yess choosing your self is one of the best things you can do your mental health and your self care !
I will never understand ppl who criticize what TH-camrs decide to share in their personal videos. I appreciate what you do share with us Maya and allowing us a window into your life. It helps more of us than you know!!
This is currently my life situation and the way I feel like God purposely allowed me to find you is crazy. You are speaking everything that I could not verbalize for awhile and it’s very mind boggling to me. Thank you sharing all that you share and being as vulnerable as you are being. This is very healing. Thank you Maya.
I really needed this maya
"When you choose yourself, you're going to end up being somebody's villain!!" Whewww!!! EVERYTHING that you said in this video was a WORD!!!!
This is also an example for influencers to trust their viewers opinion just like they expect us to trust their opinion of products, lifestyle etc. However, this is a great journey to continue to influence/help viewers avoid, learn & do better💓
Thanks I needed this going through a divorce myself. And definitely choosing me!
Choosing yourself is the best thing you can do!! For you AND for others 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I’m currently going through this right now. So glad I found your channel.
Congratulations on choosing you. Wishing you all the best.
Congrats Maya! Thannks for the transparency! It's appreciated!
Happy Sunday Maya! Oh how Iook forward to your Sunday uploads. 💕
Maya...I am loving your approach to your life. Keep ensuring that you prioritize you and your daughter...stay blessed!
Yes Sis! Happy Freedom Anniversary! I enjoy being the villain in someone's life when it comes to my self care.🙌🏿🥰
Cheers for choosing yourself 🥂 I'm just loving the positive space you're in now 🤗
Go you! Your message is needed for a lot of people..Thank you for sharing!