i don't know what its like to come out because i'm not gay or trans or any of that but I've watched many youtubers stories about coming out and its sad to me that families can treat another member like what they're feeling is wrong and that they can't accept them for it i mean yeah your transitioning and yeah there's going to be changes but that doesn't mean your not the person they raised you to be, that's a part of you but that's not who you are your more then just a gender your gender doesn't define you its what you do and being yourself and happy that matters
I'm really sorry your father reacted like that, for some reason it seems to be dads who react worse to trans men quite often. My dad was awful to begin with and said similar things about how I'd never be a man etc., and now he calls me son and tells me "you make a good looking boy" etc. - I'm not saying your father will do the same, but all you can do is just focus on keeping yourself happy and healthy and hope he gets his shit together eventually. I went months and months without seeing or speaking to my dad, while he basically had a (literal) mental breakdown over it - I just took care of myself and hoped he would realize how much healthier and happier I was eventually, which he did. Anyway, congratulations on coming up 5 months on T now! I hope things are getting a lot better for you
This made me cry, bc it took me back to when I came out. It was and still is hell. For someone to tell you what you are or are not is really shitty. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Thanks for sharing your story Jett !
OMG !!! ok im a bit starstruck now bc i really look up to you and i didn't think you'd reply. you're really helping me to work through my own sexuality and gender issues. so thank you so much for being such an inspiration. im basically in the same boat with my family , they don't understand and the only way they're reacting is with hate. but im working as hard as i can to let who i really am shine through. so thank you for everything that you do, from closets are for clothes to your insta and this channel .
Amira Lumpkin like I said in my videos, ill talk to anyone to help out! stay proud and you'll find that loving yourself can come easy. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can message me on my insta or tumblr. im here for you(:
I've been following you on instagram for a while and I just think its amazing how you stood up for yourself and that you were so brave through your experience😊 You have a huge support from everyone here and thank you for sharing this with us👑
This is heart-breaking. I'm so sorry to hear about these difficulties, but dayum, do I respect and admire your courage to just be you. Its the little (and big) things that normal people do that change the world and people's minds!
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end
stay strong my dude ♡ , life sometimes can suck specially when part of your family doesn't accept you but I swear they'll come around and if they don't is their lost. I'm not trans but coming out as a lesbian was probably the hardest thing I've been through ,my mom and dad came around but sadly my brotgers never did...even after I lost one of my older brothers nothing changed. my advice is just stay strong and live your life don't let anyone get on the way of your happiness
I just came back from watching your latest video (which was amazing btw) and all I can say is that I'm so proud of you. I remember when I found your channel, and this was the first video that I watched. I was hurting so much for you. But seeing how far you've come is such an indescribably beautiful thing. As a trans guy who is pre-t and living in an unaccepting household, you give me so much hope. I'm so happy for you bro. Keep being awesome.
My father also reacted badly after initially being supportive... Hes normally this patient, progressive guy but he actually called me up in tears and said he couldn't support me cutting up my "beautiful body". It killed me. I ended up delaying transitioning over 10 years, now I'm 34 and he's not saying anything, maybe because he's realized I'm not getting anywhere in my life in this body, I don't know. I feel your pain. I'm glad you're being true to yourself
Jett I just want tell you that I really admire you, but mostly right now I just want to thank you for posting this story because as a young transguy who is still in highschool and is terrified of the future because of my family I never heard anyone living their life this way despite their family. Hearing that your family isn't accepting is horrible but it really let's people like me realize that my future will happen no matter what and honestly it's just a relief to hear that not everyones parents are completely accepting because I felt so alone. Keep making videos and being awesome.
Knight Emmette i'm so glad you found this video! You're definitely not alone. Many parents may react this way, just not every one is comfortable talking about their family issues. If you ever need someone to talk to, the best way to get ahold of me is DMing me on instagram or message me on tumblr. I'm here for you. Always
Much love to you, my friend. This is a beautiful video - I can't imagine what you've been through and what you've worked to overcome. I wish you well on your journey and hope that today finds you well.
FIRST OF ALL: -hugs- you are a strong person and I'm very inspire and impressed by your strength. :,) second: keep building that army!!! there are places one can work where gender doesn't even mean anything and I'm so glad for that! I hope things work out with u and ur family!!
Man. :( Sorry it happened like that. But I'm glad you got supporters and that your mom seems to be coming around with it. I've come out to pretty much everyone I know a few years back. Friends for the most part took it well. family.. alright. my mom and dad (who are divorced as well) took it.... they wanted to support me, but I could tell and sense their disapproval of it. I have definitely gotten some of the "but you're a girl" and "you're not a boy, no matter what you change" type of comments. even a few "why would you wanna be a boy, it sucks". But I went for my T-shots either way. about 6 months in (with a few appointments missed), I eventually took a break. I felt maybe I was at a stage I felt comfortable at. kind of in between. but as time went on up until now, I've realized I've gone nowhere but spiraled down to where I am now and am realizing again... no. this isn't who I am. And I realized why I was so afraid to continue. I let them win. I felt trapped. and not very confident at all that I could ever pass as a male or suit one. that I'd never fit in. and I know full well how much most of my family disapproves of it and see's it as wrong. most which are Christians. I'm still hesitating coming out a second time because when I told my mom that I was stopping my transition.. she was so happy about it. and I feel like I'm going to disappoint and hurt her greatly. I love her a lot and she is a great mom for the most part. But I know I gotta do this. Anyways. Thanks for sharing. and I hope the best for the rest of your journey with it. ^-^
THANX for your Video! You are my Idol. Your way, your tears are the same as mine! My mother Killer me and my soul with her reaction and words. Cruel. I have to do it alone. Love for all ftms in the world from Germany.
It was tough for me to come out as gay. I'm sure that it tougher coming out as transgender. People are scared of what they don't understand. You are brave, tough and articulate. You will do amazing things in your life. BTW, you are a very cute boy! :-)
I would never know how it would feel living through that. I have many family problems like custody and the divorce but I am not trans. I dont know how it feels not being called by your pronouns or not being accepted of your true gender. The gender that IS you. Not born as. To me , you are really brave for confronting,standing up and now you are on Testosterone. :) you are amazing.
I recently came out to my dad abt being a transmale but I promised to have a least a child or so before living out the rest of my days as a man. Problem is... I have a friend whom I have to met yet but love dearly... except he's not into the dating a guy thing... but I don't think I could see myself going to public events and being in dresses and heels instead of a tuxedo.. or even being forever buried in a coffin wearing a dress. I came out to my most trusted sister and my dad recently they took it a whole lot better than I thought he would...I still have to come out to my mom... oh god, lol... she's a christian, so I understand how you feel... cause she doesn't agree with the LGBTQ scene... AT ALL. So... she might not be so bad... idk, I'll have to wait. She might know or suspect, but won't or isn't saying anything. I like how you stood up to your dad... must've been hard tho. Jet's a nice name, btw... I'm Levian Lazarus. :)
Levi Isaacs-Campbell hello Levian! Although it was sweet of you to compromise with your father to make him happy, this is YOUR life to live. Life is too short to be put on hold. You find your happiness and hold onto it forever. I'm proud of you for coming out to your dad and sister, that takes a lot of courage! I respect your bravery. And i wish you the best of luck coming out to your mom. If you ever need someone to talk to, you know where to find me(:
It's cool that you have the courage to come out, Its a really hard thing to do. Good luck on you're transition and it's so funny that that's your name because my dads name is Levi Lazar XD
I'm still trying to figure out who I am, since I was able to go to school I felt like a boy. Other girls thought I was weird and I ended up with no friends. That lasted about two to three years and then I started to act like a girl ever since. Now I'm thirteen and I really feel like I'm sort of empty. It really sucks that I'm young and people think I'm just growing and I don't know shit, when really I've kinda felt this since I've started school.
This story is so awful to hear. I'm going through shit with my family too. It fucking sucks. My parents are also divorced and somehow they keep pointing fingers to each other - even now that I am transitioning? Can they not get over themselves for one second to help me out?? Anyhow, my parents thinking that they know who I am is just painful. Asking for different pronouns is so important... if your parents can't do that - that's so demoralising. I'm happy that your mom came around - I really hope that mine will too. Thank you for this vid!!! We gonna rule :D
I feel you man, I'm older (25) but got this exact same reaction from my Mum and sister. It's so infuriating to be told you are not who you say you are, and that they 'know you'. Obviously they do not.. seriously everything you just described I got the exact some reactions from my family. people are shitty...
I sometimes want to go on t just becuase I know I would end up so fucking good looking and a perfect man, but Im in my 20s now and also my fam would freak out so nah maybe next life huh
I am terrified that this is what's going to happen when I come out because my parents are kind of homophobic, especially my mother. My parents are also divorced but not religious
neither of my parents support me. the only reason I'm called toni at work I'd because I was hired after I told them that's the name o wanted. but no one really uses he/him pronouns. my friends still call me Ayla (my birth name) and one of my managers at work one day was like "Toni... ayla whoever you are" and I felt so disrespected.
I'm so glad my family accepts me how I am. Its now like normal for them. Different thing with my friends... one of them told me that hes so sad about it, cause "me as a girl" isnt there anymore. He is angry about me because he thinks "me as a boy" kind of "killed" "me as a girl"... Damn! Well I live in Germany (and btw I hope my english isnt too Bad;)) and there you get your hormone blockers payed by the health insurance until your 18 years old or sth like that. So he told me that its unbelievable that I get my blockers for free now. I dont "really" need them. yeah. sure. I can survive without it like the other girls do... Then he was so angry about his grandfather has to pay his hearing aid on his own. That was the point our friendship was over. Of course his grandfather cant survive without his hearing aid. FUCK OF OK I know thats not that bad like your family leaves you but I had to tell someone.. Julian☺
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end
i don't know what its like to come out because i'm not gay or trans or any of that but I've watched many youtubers stories about coming out and its sad to me that families can treat another member like what they're feeling is wrong and that they can't accept them for it i mean yeah your transitioning and yeah there's going to be changes but that doesn't mean your not the person they raised you to be, that's a part of you but that's not who you are your more then just a gender your gender doesn't define you its what you do and being yourself and happy that matters
Jessy Mae beautifully said
I'm really sorry your father reacted like that, for some reason it seems to be dads who react worse to trans men quite often. My dad was awful to begin with and said similar things about how I'd never be a man etc., and now he calls me son and tells me "you make a good looking boy" etc. - I'm not saying your father will do the same, but all you can do is just focus on keeping yourself happy and healthy and hope he gets his shit together eventually. I went months and months without seeing or speaking to my dad, while he basically had a (literal) mental breakdown over it - I just took care of myself and hoped he would realize how much healthier and happier I was eventually, which he did. Anyway, congratulations on coming up 5 months on T now! I hope things are getting a lot better for you
JosephRosalie Thank you so much for that, brother! much love to you!
This made me cry, bc it took me back to when I came out. It was and still is hell. For someone to tell you what you are or are not is really shitty. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Thanks for sharing your story Jett !
Amira Lumpkin Coming out is a very brave thing to do in the first place. I admire your courage. Thanks for being you!
OMG !!! ok im a bit starstruck now bc i really look up to you and i didn't think you'd reply. you're really helping me to work through my own sexuality and gender issues. so thank you so much for being such an inspiration. im basically in the same boat with my family , they don't understand and the only way they're reacting is with hate. but im working as hard as i can to let who i really am shine through. so thank you for everything that you do, from closets are for clothes to your insta and this channel .
Amira Lumpkin like I said in my videos, ill talk to anyone to help out! stay proud and you'll find that loving yourself can come easy. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can message me on my insta or tumblr. im here for you(:
thank you so much
I've been following you on instagram for a while and I just think its amazing how you stood up for yourself and that you were so brave through your experience😊 You have a huge support from everyone here and thank you for sharing this with us👑
This is heart-breaking. I'm so sorry to hear about these difficulties, but dayum, do I respect and admire your courage to just be you. Its the little (and big) things that normal people do that change the world and people's minds!
u need to make more videos i love them!!!!!!!!!
Yeah, hes AMAZING 😊 I can't wait to watch more. I thought I'd start at the beginning. Btw, I'm a new Subscriber of you too
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end
stay strong my dude ♡ , life sometimes can suck specially when part of your family doesn't accept you but I swear they'll come around and if they don't is their lost. I'm not trans but coming out as a lesbian was probably the hardest thing I've been through ,my mom and dad came around but sadly my brotgers never did...even after I lost one of my older brothers nothing changed. my advice is just stay strong and live your life don't let anyone get on the way of your happiness
I just came back from watching your latest video (which was amazing btw) and all I can say is that I'm so proud of you. I remember when I found your channel, and this was the first video that I watched. I was hurting so much for you. But seeing how far you've come is such an indescribably beautiful thing. As a trans guy who is pre-t and living in an unaccepting household, you give me so much hope. I'm so happy for you bro. Keep being awesome.
Don't worry random stranger, we all love you, you silly little leek!
But seriously though, coming out is super difficult and we're proud of ya
My heart goes out to Jett. 💖💖💖
My father also reacted badly after initially being supportive... Hes normally this patient, progressive guy but he actually called me up in tears and said he couldn't support me cutting up my "beautiful body". It killed me. I ended up delaying transitioning over 10 years, now I'm 34 and he's not saying anything, maybe because he's realized I'm not getting anywhere in my life in this body, I don't know. I feel your pain. I'm glad you're being true to yourself
Jett I just want tell you that I really admire you, but mostly right now I just want to thank you for posting this story because as a young transguy who is still in highschool and is terrified of the future because of my family I never heard anyone living their life this way despite their family. Hearing that your family isn't accepting is horrible but it really let's people like me realize that my future will happen no matter what and honestly it's just a relief to hear that not everyones parents are completely accepting because I felt so alone. Keep making videos and being awesome.
Knight Emmette i'm so glad you found this video! You're definitely not alone. Many parents may react this way, just not every one is comfortable talking about their family issues. If you ever need someone to talk to, the best way to get ahold of me is DMing me on instagram or message me on tumblr. I'm here for you. Always
I dont have to worry about being fired. the company i work for is really good. especially with equality.
Much love to you, my friend. This is a beautiful video - I can't imagine what you've been through and what you've worked to overcome. I wish you well on your journey and hope that today finds you well.
FIRST OF ALL: -hugs- you are a strong person and I'm very inspire and impressed by your strength. :,)
second: keep building that army!!! there are places one can work where gender doesn't even mean anything and I'm so glad for that! I hope things work out with u and ur family!!
Love your perspective on all this, I think you nailed the best way to look at it.
Man. :( Sorry it happened like that. But I'm glad you got supporters and that your mom seems to be coming around with it.
I've come out to pretty much everyone I know a few years back. Friends for the most part took it well. family.. alright. my mom and dad (who are divorced as well) took it.... they wanted to support me, but I could tell and sense their disapproval of it. I have definitely gotten some of the "but you're a girl" and "you're not a boy, no matter what you change" type of comments. even a few "why would you wanna be a boy, it sucks". But I went for my T-shots either way. about 6 months in (with a few appointments missed), I eventually took a break. I felt maybe I was at a stage I felt comfortable at. kind of in between. but as time went on up until now, I've realized I've gone nowhere but spiraled down to where I am now and am realizing again... no. this isn't who I am.
And I realized why I was so afraid to continue.
I let them win. I felt trapped. and not very confident at all that I could ever pass as a male or suit one. that I'd never fit in. and I know full well how much most of my family disapproves of it and see's it as wrong. most which are Christians. I'm still hesitating coming out a second time because when I told my mom that I was stopping my transition.. she was so happy about it. and I feel like I'm going to disappoint and hurt her greatly. I love her a lot and she is a great mom for the most part. But I know I gotta do this.
Anyways. Thanks for sharing. and I hope the best for the rest of your journey with it. ^-^
THANX for your Video! You are my Idol. Your way, your tears are the same as mine! My mother Killer me and my soul with her reaction and words. Cruel. I have to do it alone. Love for all ftms in the world from Germany.
thank you for sharing your story. It has really helped me and I am ready to tell my family. Thank you
It was tough for me to come out as gay. I'm sure that it tougher coming out as transgender. People are scared of what they don't understand. You are brave, tough and articulate. You will do amazing things in your life. BTW, you are a very cute boy! :-)
Randy Thomas thank you(:
Stay Strong hun, you'll get through this! Much love!
I would never know how it would feel living through that. I have many family problems like custody and the divorce but I am not trans. I dont know how it feels not being called by your pronouns or not being accepted of your true gender. The gender that IS you. Not born as. To me , you are really brave for confronting,standing up and now you are on Testosterone. :) you are amazing.
I recently came out to my dad abt being a transmale but I promised to have a least a child or so before living out the rest of my days as a man.
Problem is... I have a friend whom I have to met yet but love dearly... except he's not into the dating a guy thing... but I don't think I could see myself going to public events and being in dresses and heels instead of a tuxedo.. or even being forever buried in a coffin wearing a dress.
I came out to my most trusted sister and my dad recently they took it a whole lot better than I thought he would...I still have to come out to my mom... oh god, lol... she's a christian, so I understand how you feel... cause she doesn't agree with the LGBTQ scene... AT ALL.
So... she might not be so bad... idk, I'll have to wait.
She might know or suspect, but won't or isn't saying anything.
I like how you stood up to your dad... must've been hard tho.
Jet's a nice name, btw... I'm Levian Lazarus. :)
Levi Isaacs-Campbell hello Levian! Although it was sweet of you to compromise with your father to make him happy, this is YOUR life to live. Life is too short to be put on hold. You find your happiness and hold onto it forever. I'm proud of you for coming out to your dad and sister, that takes a lot of courage! I respect your bravery. And i wish you the best of luck coming out to your mom. If you ever need someone to talk to, you know where to find me(:
Jett Taylor Thx man, that means a lot. :D
It's cool that you have the courage to come out, Its a really hard thing to do. Good luck on you're transition and it's so funny that that's your name because my dads name is Levi Lazar XD
Reed Lazar Thanks, man. :)
And that's really cool! :D
It's an awesome name. XD
I'm still trying to figure out who I am, since I was able to go to school I felt like a boy. Other girls thought I was weird and I ended up with no friends. That lasted about two to three years and then I started to act like a girl ever since. Now I'm thirteen and I really feel like I'm sort of empty. It really sucks that I'm young and people think I'm just growing and I don't know shit, when really I've kinda felt this since I've started school.
I swear I just want to hug you and give you a safe space.
This story is so awful to hear. I'm going through shit with my family too. It fucking sucks. My parents are also divorced and somehow they keep pointing fingers to each other - even now that I am transitioning? Can they not get over themselves for one second to help me out?? Anyhow, my parents thinking that they know who I am is just painful. Asking for different pronouns is so important... if your parents can't do that - that's so demoralising. I'm happy that your mom came around - I really hope that mine will too. Thank you for this vid!!! We gonna rule :D
I feel you man, I'm older (25) but got this exact same reaction from my Mum and sister. It's so infuriating to be told you are not who you say you are, and that they 'know you'. Obviously they do not.. seriously everything you just described I got the exact some reactions from my family. people are shitty...
I recently came out as trans and i am only 13 so it was super hard
It's been 3 years, how you doing?
You're really cute.
And your story is really sad and scary.
But I admire your bravery.
I sometimes want to go on t just becuase I know I would end up so fucking good looking and a perfect man, but Im in my 20s now and also my fam would freak out so nah maybe next life huh
You should do what makes you happy and what you can afford. If your family doesn't support you then they don't deserve to be your family.
its okay the age if its making you happy then do I.
You could press discrimination charhes against your dad. It's illegal to fire people because of their gender.
I am terrified that this is what's going to happen when I come out because my parents are kind of homophobic, especially my mother. My parents are also divorced but not religious
I know what you're going through bro. No one can tell you who you are but you. My dad is the exact same way. Just hang in there. :)
Thank you for sharing you story. Has anything changed with your brother and dad? This is the firat video I've seen from you xx
you took that like a troop if i was you i would haveleft the state you rock !!!
I think about coming out then I remember the time I was 4 years old
neither of my parents support me. the only reason I'm called toni at work I'd because I was hired after I told them that's the name o wanted. but no one really uses he/him pronouns. my friends still call me Ayla (my birth name) and one of my managers at work one day was like "Toni... ayla whoever you are" and I felt so disrespected.
I believe I was fired yesterday for being transgender from my job.i was called in the office yesterday after work I in office and let go for no reason
💖💖💖
I'm so glad my family accepts me how I am. Its now like normal for them. Different thing with my friends... one of them told me that hes so sad about it, cause "me as a girl" isnt there anymore. He is angry about me because he thinks "me as a boy" kind of "killed" "me as a girl"... Damn! Well I live in Germany (and btw I hope my english isnt too Bad;)) and there you get your hormone blockers payed by the health insurance until your 18 years old or sth like that. So he told me that its unbelievable that I get my blockers for free now. I dont "really" need them. yeah. sure. I can survive without it like the other girls do... Then he was so angry about his grandfather has to pay his hearing aid on his own. That was the point our friendship was over. Of course his grandfather cant survive without his hearing aid. FUCK OF
OK I know thats not that bad like your family leaves you but I had to tell someone..
Julian☺
I feel so bad for you. You deserve to be accepted for who you are and those people who don't respect you may go to hell.
and btw, you're hot as fuck.
☺️
May I just say you are SO attractive
So let me this straight if I am not mistaken your father is your Manger?
how dare people say things like that and how dare your mom say she wanted to die because you want to be a boy stay stong
+Kaeli Patterson Agreed, exact same shit my Mum said when I came out.
Handsome
Fuck. I'm sorry man
Ya it was akward
"When I found out that I was transgender". What is that? Like a pregnancy test?
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end
man, you are inspiring. it's amazing the amount of positivity you have reatianed even after your family tried to put you down. I've been thinking a lot about coming out to my family and I feel like I'm finally ready to and this makes me feel so much better about how I know they'll react. This makes me feel like i'll be okay in the end