In this life you honestly need to be secure and move away from presenting yourself based on what’s trending but more on what you are able to stick with confidently in the long run
To be honest, if your booty is big enough a man aint even caring how the face look, WE dont like make up and weave. But a man will settle for it to get some box if he thirsty and desperate.
They absolutely understand what natural beauty is. It’s a matter of if you are actually accentuating you natural beauty. I have gotten compliments from men specifically for wearing my natural hair and no make up. It’s refreshing and o them because so many women don’t.
Very heavy on women applying pressure on other women to adhere to beauty standards. My aunts scold me to tears for having 4c hair and not wearing makeup 😅
@yegra your aunt is trying to help you get the straighten comb do facials and if you need it a little make up look presentable a lot of our girls look a mess!
@@jacquelinekinchen-gordon5397 thank you for your advice, ma'am but I'd like to believe I don't owe anyone beauty. As long as I look presentable and modest wherever I find myself, I don't see any issue with having a bare face with lip gloss on and a tightly coiled hair texture.
@@yegra Stay strong out there sis. I gotta admit i get a sense of satisfaction seeing people triggered by African hair. I will stand for African Beauty no matter what.😏💙🌍🌹🌺🥰
Many times I feel like men don't even know what they want. They just want who they want. Some will still leave the aesthetic for who doesn't do that lol. Just be yourself.
@@TheMaxymama I started in middle school with Retinols but it was because I had acne and it was prescribed by a dermatologist to help with that. I didn’t know it was a anti-aging product until I was a grown up tbh
Not really shocking. I could see more young ones doing it because so many are terrified to look older. So many people look down on people....mainly women who look older. They treat attractive YOUNGER looking women better, like they are more important, worth more, more valuable, more desirable and etc etc. They treat women they deem to be less attractive or OLDER looking the opposite way. They usually don't even want to help oler looking or less attractive women when they need it. I watched that myself. All the guys helped me, an able bodied woman because I looked young(like 20-25) and pretty despite the fact I was about to be 40, and they didn't help the older looking, overweight disabled woman or her little girl.
That 14 year old is too young to be so pre-occupied by the way she looks. As a mom to a baby girl, I am doing my best to embrace my natural beauty as an example to her. Great video as always 💗
14 years old and worried about anti aging products? I was still watching cartoons and playing video games at 14 years old. Who told these children to act like old women?
The problem is women esp BW look at themselves through the male gaze. And rate themselves off of what men think. Then further more compare themselves to Europeans and their standards. Which BW aren’t white and that shouldn’t even be a comparison, at that point BW should have beauty standards for themselves. Outside what men think and/or what other races think. The quicker you stand in what you were given and enhance what God blessed you with and know there’s nothing wrong with your hair or features. The easier it is to love yourself. Why would anyone take critique from a group of people (men, esp BM) who hate themselves or can’t even execute the basics of human decency on a daily basis. This is for women who want families as well, a huge part of attraction is confidence, like true confidence. As a more watered down example. If you lack confidence, men can see that and that’s how you become their prey. Idk I just think women esp BW lose bc of this type of mindset of comparison, lack of confidence, lack or loving yourself, and seeing yourself through the male gaze.
Also having kids with parents who don't appreciate themselves is what continues this inferiority mentality among people. That's why colorism persists. People who love themselves don't perpetuate this mentality.
Its all about enhancing your natural features and looking in line with what is normative. We (men) can tell when augmentation is done but if that enhancement in line with your general aesthetic its attractive. This makes sense because men are attracted to women as women not caricatures of women
@Tinuola there's a video about girl pretty vs guy pretty that is sorta about what you're discussing th-cam.com/video/ufDYGZoDEsQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=RSDucMKxjniWBdeX. I think as men we are concerned with what our kids would looks like particularly daugthers so the enhanced natural look is always more attractive to us. Whereas the glam look does nothing for us. I also think the female gaze now is more impactful than the male gaze. Women are undergoing enhancements we as men in general view as extra and don't take seriously past maybe a fling
The comments are talking about the retinol this young lady is using, did you see the nials though?? I could barely wear nail polish or lipstick at 14....My dad was not having it
To be honest if your hair is not natural or you got make up on your face a dude is only look at your body an ignores your face. i done it before for a hook up. but if she has wig or weave i know i cant take her seriously. just a hook up
This video is spot on👌 I could never be one of those girlies who always have a full face makeup done. 99.9% of the time when I’m going about my day you’ll catch me with no makeup. I’m just too lazy to get up extra early to get my makeup done 🤣🤣🤣
Nowadays women can look however they desire to look. There is a solution for it all.No eyebrows, you can get them. No lips you can get them. Big nose you can fix that. No hair that can be fixed.
If you’re doing all this for yourself GREAT, AWESOME. If you’re doing all this to appeal to the male gaze, ladies you are wasting your time! I’ve witness men put their “stuff” in a hole in a wall, a crackhead on the street, a fish mouth, a goat, etc; THEY DO NOT CARE! CATER TO YOURSELF! Forget the trends and societal pressures- they come and go. If you’re gonna do these things do them to make yourself happy ❤ I know the patriarchy is standing strong but you can be stronger, f it! Beautiful video mamas, and you’re literally gorgeous. ❤
Problem.is we don't know how retinol will result used from a young age, SoF great idea for everyone. I've been told I'm natural but I always wear make up but not loads glamour style. Without make up I look ok but not as pretty.
Why do we care what men want? They are the ones who benefit from marriage, not us! They should be the one making this video about how to be more attractive.
That one doing all those apple cider vinegar, construction paper etc, is just doing too much. And I don't see any difference between she & any other 20-40 y.o. female of her ethnicity.🙄
If a girl has make up on her face. I am not approaching her. BUT GIRL ONE IS FINE. Most women with make up on their face, dont look attractive with out. Unless your pretty or fine with out make up im never marrying you, I dont want my kids to look like that. But Girl 1 the real natural girl is fine and she looks young 0:57 she is my type. Girl 2 aestheically i am not attracted too Girl 3 reminds me of rupaul with that look
You probably wouldn't know that she has makeup on. To be honest men can't tell the difference. Men would most likely choose 2 because she isn't changing her looks but enhancing them. She wouldn't look any different.
@@Tinuola thank you yes the male gaze is far different than female gaze. An older lady who has a TH-cam channel name Nneka onlyifor is more towards the male gaze that's why she has a mostly male audience. Another lady I know complained about having to wear make up and not have her hair so natural to keep her female viewers engaged. If you notice the women flock more to women who have the beat face to the gods and straighten hair slaying. It's what attracts mostly black female viewers..
@@Tinuola as for slightly different most women look totally different without make up. In my 47 years one of co workers I saw with out make up. She needs to wear it every day. Because her face is hard to look at. With the make up she is 4/10 in the face. But you can look at her. Other young co-workers look 30ish with make up. When I see them without it. My heart fluttered those youthful beauty OMG. Men over 35 and over 45 prefer youthful faces on women. So wearing make up actually is disservice to you unless it makes you look 25 years younger than what you are. If you wear make up to look no older than 18 years old then that would be a benefit. Otherwise just go natural unless she is really ugly
@@Tinuola it IS weird because I know one of the Nigerian women in the photos and she does not consent to using her photo this way. it's a very odd dynamic as the women have nothing to do with your message
the little girl uses retinol TWICE a day?!?! even adults shouldn't be doing that
Seriously. I just know it's going to affect her later in life. I thought retinol is only needed when the signs of aging start showing up
In this life you honestly need to be secure and move away from presenting yourself based on what’s trending but more on what you are able to stick with confidently in the long run
😊❤ Yes
Absolutely!! Our body is not a trend🫶🏽
@@Tinuolaabsolutely 💯
This is such a good point.
This is so true. Men just don't understand what natural beauty is anymore they go for what is presentable so to say aesthetical look
Exactly!!
To be honest, if your booty is big enough a man aint even caring how the face look, WE dont like make up and weave. But a man will settle for it to get some box if he thirsty and desperate.
They absolutely understand what natural beauty is. It’s a matter of if you are actually accentuating you natural beauty. I have gotten compliments from men specifically for wearing my natural hair and no make up. It’s refreshing and o them because so many women don’t.
Very heavy on women applying pressure on other women to adhere to beauty standards. My aunts scold me to tears for having 4c hair and not wearing makeup 😅
Crazy tings😆
These, my aunts and parents have been scolding me for wearing my natural hair and no longer covering it with braids.
@yegra your aunt is trying to help you get the straighten comb do facials and if you need it a little make up look presentable a lot of our girls look a mess!
@@jacquelinekinchen-gordon5397 thank you for your advice, ma'am but I'd like to believe I don't owe anyone beauty. As long as I look presentable and modest wherever I find myself, I don't see any issue with having a bare face with lip gloss on and a tightly coiled hair texture.
@@yegra Stay strong out there sis. I gotta admit i get a sense of satisfaction seeing people triggered by African hair. I will stand for African Beauty no matter what.😏💙🌍🌹🌺🥰
Many times I feel like men don't even know what they want. They just want who they want. Some will still leave the aesthetic for who doesn't do that lol. Just be yourself.
this is so true lol
I'm shocked by that 14 year old already doing anti-aging. And using retinol twice a day?! 🤷🏾♀️ it's only meant to be used at night
Yep and it really not catered towards younger people
A lot of people say to use it while you’re young to get a better effect
@@jasminscarbrough2596 Yes but they mean mid 20s, not as a pre-teen. Starting at 12 is a bit insane. She should only be doing sun protection.
@@TheMaxymama I started in middle school with Retinols but it was because I had acne and it was prescribed by a dermatologist to help with that.
I didn’t know it was a anti-aging product until I was a grown up tbh
Not really shocking. I could see more young ones doing it because so many are terrified to look older.
So many people look down on people....mainly women who look older.
They treat attractive YOUNGER looking women better, like they are more important, worth more, more valuable, more desirable and etc etc.
They treat women they deem to be less attractive or OLDER looking the opposite way. They usually don't even want to help oler looking or less attractive women when they need it. I watched that myself.
All the guys helped me, an able bodied woman because I looked young(like 20-25) and pretty despite the fact I was about to be 40,
and they didn't help the older looking, overweight disabled woman or her little girl.
Oooo you hit the nail on the head…. The natural beauty “aesthetic” is completely different from actual natural beauty 😊 haha
That 14 year old is too young to be so pre-occupied by the way she looks. As a mom to a baby girl, I am doing my best to embrace my natural beauty as an example to her. Great video as always 💗
Absolutely love this! And congrats girll!! You’re both blessed to have each other🤍
@@Tinuola thank you! can’t believe she’s already 14 months old 🥹😭
Aww that’s cute!☺️
Where is that little girl's parent's? Who is buying all that?
I'm really hoping she's joking or rage baiting because ain't no way 😳
Good qs!
@@AboutBritney hope so too😬
I hope that young girl put this much effort into her future aka what’s going into head! I don’t care what you do gravity wins in the end.
louderrr!!
14 years old and worried about anti aging products? I was still watching cartoons and playing video games at 14 years old. Who told these children to act like old women?
It's the influencers
😂😂😂
The problem is women esp BW look at themselves through the male gaze. And rate themselves off of what men think. Then further more compare themselves to Europeans and their standards. Which BW aren’t white and that shouldn’t even be a comparison, at that point BW should have beauty standards for themselves. Outside what men think and/or what other races think. The quicker you stand in what you were given and enhance what God blessed you with and know there’s nothing wrong with your hair or features. The easier it is to love yourself. Why would anyone take critique from a group of people (men, esp BM) who hate themselves or can’t even execute the basics of human decency on a daily basis. This is for women who want families as well, a huge part of attraction is confidence, like true confidence. As a more watered down example. If you lack confidence, men can see that and that’s how you become their prey. Idk I just think women esp BW lose bc of this type of mindset of comparison, lack of confidence, lack or loving yourself, and seeing yourself through the male gaze.
Also having kids with parents who don't appreciate themselves is what continues this inferiority mentality among people. That's why colorism persists. People who love themselves don't perpetuate this mentality.
Its all about enhancing your natural features and looking in line with what is normative. We (men) can tell when augmentation is done but if that enhancement in line with your general aesthetic its attractive. This makes sense because men are attracted to women as women not caricatures of women
Wow, I literally said the same thing 😁
Well said! TFS🙏🏾
@Tinuola there's a video about girl pretty vs guy pretty that is sorta about what you're discussing th-cam.com/video/ufDYGZoDEsQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=RSDucMKxjniWBdeX. I think as men we are concerned with what our kids would looks like particularly daugthers so the enhanced natural look is always more attractive to us. Whereas the glam look does nothing for us. I also think the female gaze now is more impactful than the male gaze. Women are undergoing enhancements we as men in general view as extra and don't take seriously past maybe a fling
@@ChiTheAesthete I’ll check out the video, thanks.
Also that’s an interesting take on ‘what kids would look like’. Never heard that one before.
The comments are talking about the retinol this young lady is using, did you see the nials though?? I could barely wear nail polish or lipstick at 14....My dad was not having it
Men can’t even spot a bad wig..lol
They aren't that unaware lol. They can definitely tell when Women are very obviously wearing fake hair.
To be honest if your hair is not natural or you got make up on your face a dude is only look at your body an ignores your face. i done it before for a hook up. but if she has wig or weave i know i cant take her seriously. just a hook up
The ironic part is the child that is doing all of that actually could pass for 25 ☹️
I was looking for this comment.
I thought she was atleast 20 lordt
2:56 These babies look older than the adults😩
Can’t imagine using retinol and so much makeup as a teenager 🥲
I love the clean girl makeup. Yet to crack it but I love when I see women with no makeup make 😍🥰
Right! I do too🤗
This video is spot on👌 I could never be one of those girlies who always have a full face makeup done. 99.9% of the time when I’m going about my day you’ll catch me with no makeup. I’m just too lazy to get up extra early to get my makeup done 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂
Nowadays women can look however they desire to look. There is a solution for it all.No eyebrows, you can get them. No lips you can get them. Big nose you can fix that. No hair that can be fixed.
Just do You !
If you’re doing all this for yourself GREAT, AWESOME. If you’re doing all this to appeal to the male gaze, ladies you are wasting your time! I’ve witness men put their “stuff” in a hole in a wall, a crackhead on the street, a fish mouth, a goat, etc; THEY DO NOT CARE! CATER TO YOURSELF! Forget the trends and societal pressures- they come and go. If you’re gonna do these things do them to make yourself happy ❤ I know the patriarchy is standing strong but you can be stronger, f it!
Beautiful video mamas, and you’re literally gorgeous. ❤
Thank you!!
Spot on! And let me also add this…I’m 40. The natural aesthetic immediately reduces the appearance of your age.
Love your channel girll❤❤
Thank you so much Chioma!!
U ate wit this 1 ma’am
Problem.is we don't know how retinol will result used from a young age, SoF great idea for everyone. I've been told I'm natural but I always wear make up but not loads glamour style. Without make up I look ok but not as pretty.
My Ex wife had Dreadlocs.
But she had clear skin and her face was prettier.
She was an 8/10 with out make up.
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Can you do a video on natural beauty. Just show all natural pretty girls.
With No make up
noted! kindly subscribe so you get notified if I drop it🤗
@@Tinuola already subscribed your welcome
your very beautiful 💕
Thank you
Why do we care what men want? They are the ones who benefit from marriage, not us! They should be the one making this video about how to be more attractive.
🤣🤣🤣
Great comment
thank youu
That one doing all those apple cider vinegar, construction paper etc, is just doing too much. And I don't see any difference between she & any other 20-40 y.o. female of her ethnicity.🙄
If a girl has make up on her face. I am not approaching her. BUT GIRL ONE IS FINE.
Most women with make up on their face, dont look attractive with out.
Unless your pretty or fine with out make up im never marrying you, I dont want my kids to look like that.
But Girl 1 the real natural girl is fine and she looks young 0:57 she is my type.
Girl 2 aestheically i am not attracted too
Girl 3 reminds me of rupaul with that look
You probably wouldn't know that she has makeup on. To be honest men can't tell the difference. Men would most likely choose 2 because she isn't changing her looks but enhancing them. She wouldn't look any different.
i like your take. very refreshing. thanks for sharing!
exactly! but she would still look slightly different without makeup tho.
@@Tinuola thank you yes the male gaze is far different than female gaze. An older lady who has a TH-cam channel name Nneka onlyifor is more towards the male gaze that's why she has a mostly male audience.
Another lady I know complained about having to wear make up and not have her hair so natural to keep her female viewers engaged.
If you notice the women flock more to women who have the beat face to the gods and straighten hair slaying.
It's what attracts mostly black female viewers..
@@Tinuola as for slightly different most women look totally different without make up.
In my 47 years one of co workers I saw with out make up. She needs to wear it every day. Because her face is hard to look at. With the make up she is 4/10 in the face. But you can look at her.
Other young co-workers look 30ish with make up. When I see them without it. My heart fluttered those youthful beauty OMG. Men over 35 and over 45 prefer youthful faces on women.
So wearing make up actually is disservice to you unless it makes you look 25 years younger than what you are. If you wear make up to look no older than 18 years old then that would be a benefit. Otherwise just go natural unless she is really ugly
The high maintenance to be low maintenance beauty hoax:
th-cam.com/video/MVqzudAbymE/w-d-xo.html
such a weird video
What’s weird about it?
@@Tinuola you are using other black women's personal photos without acknowledging who they are.
That’s not weird, people repost other people’s photos everyday on the internet.
However, I’ll keep that in mind!
@@Tinuola it IS weird because I know one of the Nigerian women in the photos and she does not consent to using her photo this way. it's a very odd dynamic as the women have nothing to do with your message