Oh dear... I had this lesson, too. I was about 18 and my parents decided to move to a smaller appartement because I would finish school soon and leave. My new room was much smaller so I had to store some things in the garage. Just for half a year or so. When I had my own apartement and wanted to have them back, the boxes where so mouldy that I tossed everything. Including favourite books from my childhood. This taught me: If you do not have space for something in your apartement, better let it Go. Donating or selling things is better than store them until they are destroyed. My aunt just gave me children books from my Cousin that were stored in the basement for 20 years. They were in good condition, but they smelled like basement and I did not want to give them to my kids. Hard lesson...
Maybe one suggestion for the Dalmatian collection, is (when/if you're ready to let it go) you could sell it online as 'lot collection' and donate the money to a charity that works to prevent bullying, or offer counseling services to affected youth. Possibly a way to let go of the hurt and also help someone else who was affected by bullying as well.🤗 💗💗💗 Also, you could possibly use the dresser in the corner to organize your crafting supplies (once the mold has been addressed and permanently fixed). Great job. Looks amazing!!👍💯😊
@@ahoardersheart I was also bullied as a little girl and child, so I can TOTALLY understand. In one of my most painful memories I was teased by neighborhood boys because I was a child of a single parent. They ripped my winter coat off and stompped it into dog poop and snow, so that I couldn't wear it, and I had to finish walking home from school in freezing temps without one. (I was 5 years old and it was my kindergarten year. )I didn't understand why I was being targeted, but I went deep internally and became extremely introverted. My stuffed animals became My "safe friends", and aside from My one best friend, I avoided all other kids if possible. I'll never forget that little purple stuffed jacket, or how awful bullying feels. I'm now raising my own son to be as loving and compassionate as possible. He loves our animals and playing (gently) with other children as well. Healing is possible. Only do what you want to do when you're ready. Thank You for sharing your journey and healing with us, Ms. Heart.💗💗💗.
I’m watching all of your videos its like a clean along with you and I’m obsessed with the retro blanket. It reminds me of some thing I would’ve had in my childhood someone would’ve knitted or something. ❤
December 2023: I've never hoarded. I'm trying to have fewer just in case items. Every day, I toss, recycle, or give away 20 to 25 items. I have a bag of items to sell, too. There's also a pile for the library. We don't need very much. Tina, Al's wife
My daughter is a collector of Dalmatian things I totally get you because feel this started for her in school when she was having difficulty . She’s amazing with how she’s moving on . And you are too 😊
When I see those sentimental things you hoarded bc of being bullied I just think about all the negative emotions attached to those items. I had items like that too. It felt so good when I finally let them go bc that negative energy was no longer with me and I didn't see them to be reminded of what happened.
It hurts to let them go, but it's so liberating and rewarding when you do. It's like the past is swept out to shore, and you can begin again. Congrats on that feeling-- it's like the final destination of the de-clutter!
I agree I let go of thing from my past and I felt free to finally become the person I know God wants me to be. Im still a work in progress. Thank for sharing 🤩
It took me a long time to let go of my diaries. There were 99% negative memories in there because that was one way that I coped. They are completely irreplaceable. Letting them go... I dwell on that old feeling less than before, and positivity is very important for my health.
Exactly. It seems like they just carry the negative emotions of that time, even though it was something you truly loved. It’s ok to let go of things you love because they hurt you.
My Grandma was a hoarder and watching your episodes has helped me understand her a little more. That is another way you are helping people. Thank you for putting yourself out there!
Another day of accomplishment! I asked the men for anything they did not like or not wearing from their closet. We dropped a big bag off at the homeless shelter this morning My son( a pro artist ) did the same with art supplies and donated to the local art teacher. We also dropped off garden goodies and clothes for Alan’s sister. Whew! TY for the inspiration for others!
I too was bullied in school, I lived in a small town & so I was with the same kids throughout my childhood...it wasn’t fun...high school was a little better... Your doing a great job!! I am still struggling to even start decluttering...I am going through totes of old magazines from 3 or 4 or yrs ago or older that I’ve kept...I finally quit ordering magazines... I can’t believe all the money I spent & wasted over the years!!! It’s unbelievable!!
I realize that it is best to circle back maybe 3, 4, 5 times before you are able to let go of the most difficult items, however, those sentimental pieces that were acquired at the time when you felt your lowest and have those negative memories attached to them, those items are actually holding you back from healing all the way. Until you get rid of them and let them go you will always have that sad box sitting their reminding your brain and bringing up the sad memories that are attached to that period in time. I hope that makes sense and in the not so distant future you will allow yourself to let go of the crappy memories and love yourself enough to heal. Because this isn't about hoarding, hoarding is just a symptom of the core issue.
I agree with Karen Ricketson. My sons are 38 and 41. They told me no cards because they would not know the people. But their pictures, etc they did want. So they were put into an album for each of them and handed over. They were happy and after 42 years I let the rest go. I feel good. And a good job to you❣️❣️❣️
Thanks for making these videos. I just moved and am literally living amongst boxes. Your videos inspire me to open and organize a couple of boxes instead of ignoring it.
I know you had water in your basement, but I would definitely put a dehumidifier in there. You'd be amazed at how much water is removed from the air, the air quality is so much better, and it will help or eliminate the mold issue(depending on if you have water continually coming in). Also, there are specialists that can waterproof and clean your damaged basement walls.
Believe me, even i die got rid off sentimental things. Ones you are done, you won't miss a thing. They are just bad memories. You will colect brand new good memories 😍
It's true that they're bad memories. You had to rely on stuffies and things to feel safe and that was so unfair to you. Now you can feel safe in your home with your family, no longer being bullied. I'm glad your healing and I'm glad you're doing it at your own pace.
*WHEEEE* that’s an awesome outta here pile! When I first started watching, I’d wonder how your husband handled you being a hoarder. Turns out he’s kinda a hoarder too 🤔 He has a good approach to clearing out so that’s handy. You’re getting there!
I had a baby shower tub too. I found a 15 year old Target gift card (still worked!) from my husband’s aunt who had passed away about 10 years ago! 😱 I sure hope I sent her a thank you back then!
I was bullied in middle school too and while I’m not a hoarder, I spent many years afterwards doing things to spite the bullies. Thinking to myself, “See? I’m not what you thought I was.” But then I realized that that was giving them way too much power over my life, that I was allowing them to still control me years after they were gone. So I ask you to really think about those things that you’ve hoarded from that era of your life: Do they actually bring you comfort now, or are they inviting these horrible people into your new life? Are you thinking of how happy you currently are when you look at them, or of the bad emotions you were trying to ward off all those years ago? Whatever you decide, I’m so proud of how far you’ve come in your healing. I’d just hate for some mean middle schoolers to have any part in decisions you make as a thriving adult.
Yes this! (I' ve been bullied too and definitely have had internal talks with my bullies for years before letting go) Love how you ask the right questions with love and respectfully. And leave it to her to find the answers for herself. ❤
Wow that space is amazing. I love when you find boxes and totes empty it means you’ve them already done. 👏👏👏 Fantastic job as always. I agree with a few suggestions about the Dalmatian stuff, writing the letter to a younger you, selling the stuff and donating the money to a charity but whatever and whenever you do that release it with love (which I know will be hard) but you don’t need the reminding of that time of your life. Your a fantastic woman whose a great wife and mother and with all life’s ups and downs can still think, help and share with others both with physical stuff being donated and emotionally helping people understand hoarding, motivating us and encouraging us to release stuff. Thanks as always for letting us be part of your journey. Stay safe and well. Joes wife Mary 👍🦄💖💐
you did amazing in this one! you didn't let the mold losses slow you down, you didnt let finding sentimentals stop you in your tracks! youve grown so much!!
Miss Heart, this was such a good declutter, well done! 🤩 You’ve come such a long way! When you showed us that empty space and the Wall that was a moment 👏👏👏
you're doing the right thing for your kids. good job. My Dad hoarded (mostly the basement) for over 40 yrs and once in a while he would allow us to sell something but basically both he and my mom said they would leave it to me to deal with when they're gone. (My brother is an even worse hoarder so I'm the only one capable of dealing with it / letting it all go). It's taken over 3 yrs after Dad's passing to sell off most of Dad's stuff... it made Mom money but she fought me the whole way and said "I don't need the money". Yet, she didn't want me to throw it out either. There's still some items to go. It's been a real burden.... both mentally and physically (he hoarded large pieces of oak antique furniture and I'm a mid-age lady and had to hoist this stuff out of the basement myself). Yes mold is a real problem even with wood furniture and it's hard on the living children to deal with items... breathing mold and also feeling guilty getting rid of the deceased parent's stuff.
Great work, it looks so good when you switch from cardboard to plastic boxes and toss all the trash! I hope you are able to fix the wall from the outside, so it hopefully doesn't leak anymore when it's raining heavily in fall. :)
I am so worried about those baseball cards from the molded box. I know the hubby is attached but I hope he thinks of safety first. I love how you're getting stronger with each episode! Keep chugging.
Both my parents where extreme hoarders I grew up in roach infested and tons of rotting food flying and mold every where even with no working toilets and showers wholes in the walls and floors. Cause I grew up in that I'm now a minimalist and after 12 yes of purging my parents place all by my self I'm now haveing to remodel the entire house and yes still got 3 rooms to declutter
Yay!! No need to stall progress with debating about the sentimental childhood/baby things. Keep for now and keep on moving through the piles. You have progressed so far!!! So inspiring!
You did the right things by putting aside the two sentimental bins and you kept moving. Trying to tackle them before you are ready would just slow you down. I agree with some suggestions for when you are ready, get rid of trash, identify what is usable (I have reused a bunch of the gift bags from my baby shower) and keep what really means something to you. Cards with messages can be treasured but ones with only signatures can probably go.
Woohoo! New video! Amazing treat after a tiresome Monday :) Thanks to your motivational videos I was able to get rid two full bins of CDs/DVDs/PC games. Thank you 💓
Wow! That corner is seriously opening up! Once it is open all the way - I think it would be smart to start putting stuff in it in categories. For example, put all the crafting bins, and sentimental bins in just that corner. That way when you do a crafting Konmari you know where they all are. :)
Thank you both ❤️❤️ Yes we really need to deep clean that back corner!! I want to put my sentimental & crafts things there but I would devastated if it got destroyed bc of mold!
Great job my friend! If you have some pavers or bricks leftover you could put them under the wrapped up chest just in case any more water gets in. The wooden legs could get damaged by the water if they get wet. See ya soon!
Wow! You found some heartstring boxes, made the decision to keep them then kept on going. I’m so proud of you not to let that bog you down. Also I’m so glad you got the Dalmatians out of the cardboard box and into a safer container. That tossy tossy pile was huge!!! For the wall, wash it down with vinegar or hydrogen peroxide. Let dry completely, then paint with KILZ primer or KILZ primer/paint combo (I think you can get it at Home Depot).
You did amazing sweety! I went through all my sentimental things last week and it was tough. While i couldn't throw away any of the hand written cards, i did get rid of envelopes and packaging that i put away with it. And i wanted to thank you for giving me the motivation to do that. You really make it seem so achiveable to go through the things and to take the breaks i need. So thank you :)
I saw somewhere that vinegar helps with mold! Nice job, you're getting better and better each day, you really inspire me to declutter my own things. Sentimental itens are hard, but we'll make it someday. I love your channel 💗
I love to watch your progress!! You are doing an awesome job!!! I love the comment about selling your dalmatian collection and donating to a charity that focuses on bullying! Turn the negative into a positive!!! I know you will your personality and positively will allow you to get to that point. You are amazing and all Heart!!!! ♡
The baby bin will be difficult to sort. When you feel ready maybe toss or recycle the gift bags and tissue paper, but keep the cards. That way its not too big of a toss of items but a start on tackling it.
Don't worry about keeping things like the dalmation stuff right now. You're still going through the first part, decluttering phase one. Phase one is getting rid of actual trash and easy things. Once that's halved what's in your basement you have some breathing space and can slowly go through phase two which is the slightly more difficult stuff, when you can see it all together and think rationally about it (like, do I really need 700 rolls of ribbon haha) and eventually, phase three which is the things you'd never thought you could let go of but you will be able to like sentimental things. This is a totally made up strategy by the way and just how I've figured out how to deal with hoarding myself. Phase one is just reducing my clutter and leaving big decisions till later and it stops my anxiety knowing I don't need to feel bad about saving the harder stuff till later. It's the only way I can cope with doing it and it's really working for me! I'm even getting rid of some 'phase two' stuff in phase one because I'm not feeling the pressure if that makes sense? It's a bit like konmarie round two is always easier than round one and you always get rid of more the second time that you couldn't bear to part with the first go. It's a slow process but we're still moving forward every day :)
Well put👏 a few episodes ago I left a very similar comment🙂 This is her first phase, of just looking for things to toss. The next phase is “choosing” what to keep. Baby steps, but really you have to face each item. You only get better by trying💪💪💪
For the baby shower stuff, you could make a shadowbox collage with pieces of your favorites and toss the rest. You save and preserve memories and declutter the rest.
Mrs Heart, I'm not sure if this is still available. I used TILEX on a black stained wall. Came off with little effort. Some of the discoloration may be mildew. Not quite so scary. Thank you for sharing your journey and your heart.♥️
Wow I totally would have wanted to keep the ninja turtle comforter. I think the declutering gods were watching and then rewarded you with the empty boxes!!
Ah yes, you were gifted someone else's stuff that you didn't need. BTDT. I remember getting a bunch of non functional Christmas lights and having them hang around because we maybe could fix them. Mold and empty boxes, actually very fulfilling to do the tossy tossy!
hello from germany, hi miss heart............I find it remarkable that you manage all of this, keep going on and never resting, almost anyone can start that but also continue to do it and go beyond yourself, so some stumble, well done .....................................it started with me as a teenager and when I moved out at the age of 22 I already had over 120 boxes, 65 of them with books ... by 30 my apartment was full to the brim .... I started giving things away or donating. The main thing is to be away and free ... i have given friends (3-4) the most important things they need when moving out of their parents' house and still i am not missing anything!!!!!!..................... now I'll be 41 and clear out the things I never use once a year .... ok I have a husband and soon two children, the big one is 3 and he has lots of toys but soon he has to share with the baby.
Any chance you could go through the baby shower box and “tossy tossy” the non-sentimental things like tissue paper and gift bags? I mean I get wanting to keep the cards and maybe some other things, but if you tossed half that tub you may feel very accomplished. Keep up the great work.
I was helping my nephew clean out his closet. He saved empty goody bags. I suggested he empty them and flatten them. We got rid of tissue paper, ribbon, boxes,and lots of other things he didn't want. Different people attach meaning to different things. Tina
I once helped clean closets so a house could be sold. We found suitcases full of extra wedding invitations. Like 40 years old. Then, I was helping someone else, and again, there must have been 100 invitations, never sent, 40 years old. I said to the ladies, keep 4 sets, or 10 sets. Tina
I'm very proud of you. Lots of tossy tossy today 😄 My mind would want to let go of those memories associated with the Dalmatians, I imagine another child would be so pleased to have those toys. Either way, you made really good choices today ❤✨
Remember you don't HAVE to get rid of things you love, those 101 Dalmatians things are lovely, and you might part ways with a few, but it's okay to keep some of it!! Xx
Hello there you're doing a great job I am also proud of you there is a product at Home Depot called OdoBan there will help you take that musty smell out of your basement once you've emptied it did you spend scrub down that wall with but at the same time you need to have someone come out and tell you what's happening with the foundation of that wall but you're doing a great job keep up the good work God continues to bless you be blessed.
So so so great! Every little bits counts and getting a handle on the mold is super important. When you are done with the kitchen, it might be worth finding out what it will take to get the downstairs bathroom operational! As the boys get older (and smellier) you will want another bathroom. Keep up the good work!
November 2024. Three of us live in a 2BR apartment near Chicago. I keep one heavy blanket for each bed. We each have 2 towels. Two sets of sheets for each bed. Another bag of craft items left yesterday. Tina, Al's wife
That was great! It was very inspiring! Our big item trash day is this week and I'm going to throw out an old crib that I never even used. It just takes up space and collects dust and doesn't make me happy so it will be gone.
Every time you find or mention your Dalmatian collecting, you also mention the bullying. So they are a strong reminder of the negativity of that time. I hope that at some point you can work trough those bittersweet items.
I am praying & meditating on it now ❤️🙏🏻❤️ I realized that they do remind me of bullying but they also remind me of how much comfort they brought during a difficult time. I think deep down, if difficult times come again, then maybe those items will bring me comfort again ❤️🙏🏻❤️ It’s a security blanket.
If difficult times come again, I encourage you to lean on your loved ones and God for support. They can give you the love you need. No item can replace that.
Simple bleach and water is the best for cleaning mold off of walls. Sometimes you have to wipe down the wall a few times (especially with drywall). There is also mold resistant paint (Killz). Good luck!
I’ve found that diluted oil of cloves (you can find it in tiny bottles in the toothache section at drugstore maybe - we call them chemists) really works to kill the mould. It seems to recur more when I’ve tried to clean with bleach. It’s natural but still not nice for skin at cleaning strength so gloves and a mask. Upside is the basement will smell like Christmas lol! And yep.... Follow up with the killer paint once you’re waterproofing.
@@ahoardersheart No no no - please don't use bleach!!! Bleach can make mold way worse. Google it - bleach is a no-no! If you'd like to do it more naturally, get some cleaning vinegar (regular white vinegar but with a higher acetic level, but regular white vinegar works, too), spray it down, clean it up, and manually dry it up. To REALLY do a good job, get some tea tree oil and mix it into water, spray liberally getting into all the crevices, wipe it up, and manually dry. That said, this will only kill the mold that is on the surface. You will have mold spores flying around that you should probably get an air filter for. More importantly, you should have the source of the leak fixed ASAP.
Hey there ! I wanted to let you know that once mold is washed off thing, it's not harmful anymore. So if hubby really wants to keep those baseball card (I think), just make sure to wash them.😊 And I would say to keep mold to expend, you can try to ventilate at least 1h per day. Sending love ❤
I cannot tell you how excited and happy I was to see the wall appear. Do you have plans for that empty corner? I was thinking that you could neatly pack all the storage boxes that have been left in the middle, with their labels clearly showing. That might get the middle of the basement in to an easier space to declutter. - Edit: i read the other comments and I see that it might not be a great idea to stack things against an outside wall.
good job, take a mold cleaner and clean the wall. the sentimental things is for later that is alright. Even i have a lot of sentimental things letting go in steps. And when i clear them out it take some tears. butnow i am happy that i did it on the time when i saw that i had to much. first declutter the other things. big hug for you mine friend. Ellen
I was craving those laundry baskets. My downfall. Excellent decisions about moving and cleaning your hubby's stuff. Anything sentimental, you just stick in a nice tote and tuck away till you feel good about sorting. Looks great.
You’re doing amazing! You make me see that little decluttering here and there makes a big impact! I’m not a hoarder, just disabled so cleaning/organizing decluttering is physically challenging.
@@ahoardersheart Mrs Heart, not to pry, but have you thought about writing a letter to the young girl you used to be? You can comfort her, tell her its going to be ok, tell her she has a happy life and beautiful family to look forward to. I find writing to be therapeutic, maybe it could help in some way? I'm sorry you experienced bullying growing up, and I hope you know you didn't deserve any of it. God bless you for being so transparent and inspiring on your journey of healing.
@@ahoardersheart Make sure to use vinegar and tea tree oil. Bleach only works on non-porous surfaces, like bathroom tiles. Please don't use it on your walls. It can possibly make it worse.
I had to get a dehumidifier for my basement after a minor flood. The water seeped into the concrete and always smelled musty. I also got a couple of tubs of the stuff used in r.v.s to absorb moisture.
As allways great vid and inspo.you can also take pics.when your ready.youll still have an image of the item.but someone else to love the items win/ win
Oh dear... I had this lesson, too. I was about 18 and my parents decided to move to a smaller appartement because I would finish school soon and leave. My new room was much smaller so I had to store some things in the garage. Just for half a year or so. When I had my own apartement and wanted to have them back, the boxes where so mouldy that I tossed everything. Including favourite books from my childhood. This taught me: If you do not have space for something in your apartement, better let it Go. Donating or selling things is better than store them until they are destroyed. My aunt just gave me children books from my Cousin that were stored in the basement for 20 years. They were in good condition, but they smelled like basement and I did not want to give them to my kids. Hard lesson...
Maybe one suggestion for the Dalmatian collection, is (when/if you're ready to let it go) you could sell it online as 'lot collection' and donate the money to a charity that works to prevent bullying, or offer counseling services to affected youth. Possibly a way to let go of the hurt and also help someone else who was affected by bullying as well.🤗 💗💗💗 Also, you could possibly use the dresser in the corner to organize your crafting supplies (once the mold has been addressed and permanently fixed). Great job. Looks amazing!!👍💯😊
What an absolutely beautiful idea 💗 I’m going to write that in my journal, thank you for sharing that with me 🙏🏻❤️
Designed Life this is a great idea!
@@ahoardersheart I was also bullied as a little girl and child, so I can TOTALLY understand. In one of my most painful memories I was teased by neighborhood boys because I was a child of a single parent. They ripped my winter coat off and stompped it into dog poop and snow, so that I couldn't wear it, and I had to finish walking home from school in freezing temps without one. (I was 5 years old and it was my kindergarten year. )I didn't understand why I was being targeted, but I went deep internally and became extremely introverted. My stuffed animals became My "safe friends", and aside from My one best friend, I avoided all other kids if possible. I'll never forget that little purple stuffed jacket, or how awful bullying feels. I'm now raising my own son to be as loving and compassionate as possible. He loves our animals and playing (gently) with other children as well. Healing is possible. Only do what you want to do when you're ready. Thank You for sharing your journey and healing with us, Ms. Heart.💗💗💗.
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Great idea!
I’m watching all of your videos its like a clean along with you and I’m obsessed with the retro blanket. It reminds me of some thing I would’ve had in my childhood someone would’ve knitted or something. ❤
Whenever I declutter now I find my self saying "tossy tossy" when i find trash haha..
Mee too 😂
Oh yayyyyy!!! Purge Sisters 💗💗💗
I say ‘tossy toss’ and talk to myself like you talk to us 😍
December 2023: I've never hoarded. I'm trying to have fewer just in case items. Every day, I toss, recycle, or give away 20 to 25 items. I have a bag of items to
sell, too. There's also a pile for the library. We don't need very much. Tina, Al's wife
With baby shower memorabilia - do a scrapbook to save a sampling of cards, paper, etc. What a nice memory (easily storaable) item. 😀
YES! I was going to suggest the same thing..
Nice job. This totally motivates me to declutter. I love it!
Your doing great!!!
My daughter is a collector of Dalmatian things I totally get you because feel this started for her in school when she was having difficulty . She’s amazing with how she’s moving on . And you are too 😊
You need less bins less stuff more life 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 keep working at it
Tossy tossy.My favorite word now
Your 'Purge Sisters' moment was so adorable! Love that it sounds like a hard core girl gang getting stuff done 😄😄😄
Newton's law of decluttering, the more you do, the more you can do! Congratulations!
Love it ❤️❤️❤️
When I see those sentimental things you hoarded bc of being bullied I just think about all the negative emotions attached to those items. I had items like that too. It felt so good when I finally let them go bc that negative energy was no longer with me and I didn't see them to be reminded of what happened.
It hurts to let them go, but it's so liberating and rewarding when you do. It's like the past is swept out to shore, and you can begin again. Congrats on that feeling-- it's like the final destination of the de-clutter!
I agree I let go of thing from my past and I felt free to finally become the person I know God wants me to be. Im still a work in progress. Thank for sharing 🤩
It took me a long time to let go of my diaries. There were 99% negative memories in there because that was one way that I coped. They are completely irreplaceable. Letting them go... I dwell on that old feeling less than before, and positivity is very important for my health.
Exactly. It seems like they just carry the negative emotions of that time, even though it was something you truly loved. It’s ok to let go of things you love because they hurt you.
I used to feel that I needed to keep all items that brought up memories. Even negative ones. It was so freeing to let them go!
My Grandma was a hoarder and watching your episodes has helped me understand her a little more. That is another way you are helping people. Thank you for putting yourself out there!
Amazing way to go 😊
Another day of accomplishment! I asked the men for anything they did not like or not wearing from their closet. We dropped a big bag off at the homeless shelter this morning My son( a pro artist ) did the same with art supplies and donated to the local art teacher. We also dropped off garden goodies and clothes for Alan’s sister. Whew! TY for the inspiration for others!
I too was bullied in school, I lived in a small town & so I was with the same kids throughout my childhood...it wasn’t fun...high school was a little better...
Your doing a great job!!
I am still struggling to even start decluttering...I am going through totes of old magazines from 3 or 4 or yrs ago or older that I’ve kept...I finally quit ordering magazines...
I can’t believe all the money I spent & wasted over the years!!! It’s unbelievable!!
Heart Healers. How sweet.
I realize that it is best to circle back maybe 3, 4, 5 times before you are able to let go of the most difficult items, however, those sentimental pieces that were acquired at the time when you felt your lowest and have those negative memories attached to them, those items are actually holding you back from healing all the way. Until you get rid of them and let them go you will always have that sad box sitting their reminding your brain and bringing up the sad memories that are attached to that period in time. I hope that makes sense and in the not so distant future you will allow yourself to let go of the crappy memories and love yourself enough to heal. Because this isn't about hoarding, hoarding is just a symptom of the core issue.
I agree with Karen Ricketson. My sons are 38 and 41. They told me no cards because they would not know the people. But their pictures, etc they did want. So they were put into an album for each of them and handed over. They were happy and after 42 years I let the rest go. I feel good. And a good job to you❣️❣️❣️
Thanks for making these videos. I just moved and am literally living amongst boxes. Your videos inspire me to open and organize a couple of boxes instead of ignoring it.
You have grown so much, it has been great to see.
I know you had water in your basement, but I would definitely put a dehumidifier in there. You'd be amazed at how much water is removed from the air, the air quality is so much better, and it will help or eliminate the mold issue(depending on if you have water continually coming in). Also, there are specialists that can waterproof and clean your damaged basement walls.
Believe me, even i die got rid off sentimental things. Ones you are done, you won't miss a thing. They are just bad memories. You will colect brand new good memories 😍
Thank you for my friend ❤️🙏🏻❤️
It's true that they're bad memories. You had to rely on stuffies and things to feel safe and that was so unfair to you. Now you can feel safe in your home with your family, no longer being bullied. I'm glad your healing and I'm glad you're doing it at your own pace.
*WHEEEE* that’s an awesome outta here pile!
When I first started watching, I’d wonder how your husband handled you being a hoarder.
Turns out he’s kinda a hoarder too 🤔
He has a good approach to clearing out so that’s handy.
You’re getting there!
I realized that too as the weeks went on.
I had a baby shower tub too. I found a 15 year old Target gift card (still worked!) from my husband’s aunt who had passed away about 10 years ago! 😱 I sure hope I sent her a thank you back then!
Your tossy tossy pile was enormous today! Fantastic job!! You're already plowing through the back wall on your declutterthon! Woohoo!!!
I was bullied in middle school too and while I’m not a hoarder, I spent many years afterwards doing things to spite the bullies. Thinking to myself, “See? I’m not what you thought I was.” But then I realized that that was giving them way too much power over my life, that I was allowing them to still control me years after they were gone. So I ask you to really think about those things that you’ve hoarded from that era of your life: Do they actually bring you comfort now, or are they inviting these horrible people into your new life? Are you thinking of how happy you currently are when you look at them, or of the bad emotions you were trying to ward off all those years ago? Whatever you decide, I’m so proud of how far you’ve come in your healing. I’d just hate for some mean middle schoolers to have any part in decisions you make as a thriving adult.
Yes this! (I' ve been bullied too and definitely have had internal talks with my bullies for years before letting go) Love how you ask the right questions with love and respectfully. And leave it to her to find the answers for herself. ❤
Also I love how your videos are short and so sweet. And you're so pretty!
Wow that space is amazing. I love when you find boxes and totes empty it means you’ve them already done. 👏👏👏 Fantastic job as always. I agree with a few suggestions about the Dalmatian stuff, writing the letter to a younger you, selling the stuff and donating the money to a charity but whatever and whenever you do that release it with love (which I know will be hard) but you don’t need the reminding of that time of your life. Your a fantastic woman whose a great wife and mother and with all life’s ups and downs can still think, help and share with others both with physical stuff being donated and emotionally helping people understand hoarding, motivating us and encouraging us to release stuff. Thanks as always for letting us be part of your journey. Stay safe and well. Joes wife Mary 👍🦄💖💐
you did amazing in this one! you didn't let the mold losses slow you down, you didnt let finding sentimentals stop you in your tracks! youve grown so much!!
Thank you so so much my friend 💜🦄💜🦄💜
You did such a good job this episode! Keep it up. ❤️😊
Thank you so much!!! We got this 🌟🌟
Miss Heart, this was such a good declutter, well done! 🤩 You’ve come such a long way! When you showed us that empty space and the Wall that was a moment 👏👏👏
you're doing the right thing for your kids. good job. My Dad hoarded (mostly the basement) for over 40 yrs and once in a while he would allow us to sell something but basically both he and my mom said they would leave it to me to deal with when they're gone. (My brother is an even worse hoarder so I'm the only one capable of dealing with it / letting it all go). It's taken over 3 yrs after Dad's passing to sell off most of Dad's stuff... it made Mom money but she fought me the whole way and said "I don't need the money". Yet, she didn't want me to throw it out either. There's still some items to go. It's been a real burden.... both mentally and physically (he hoarded large pieces of oak antique furniture and I'm a mid-age lady and had to hoist this stuff out of the basement myself). Yes mold is a real problem even with wood furniture and it's hard on the living children to deal with items... breathing mold and also feeling guilty getting rid of the deceased parent's stuff.
Congratulations you did great tossy pile huge 💙💜
Thank you my sweetest friend 💜🦄💜
Great work, it looks so good when you switch from cardboard to plastic boxes and toss all the trash! I hope you are able to fix the wall from the outside, so it hopefully doesn't leak anymore when it's raining heavily in fall. :)
I just smile when I watch you declutter! I am so very happy for you! Lots of love ❤️
I am so worried about those baseball cards from the molded box. I know the hubby is attached but I hope he thinks of safety first.
I love how you're getting stronger with each episode! Keep chugging.
You do have a good point...something we would have to talk about, that is for sure!! Thank you ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Both my parents where extreme hoarders I grew up in roach infested and tons of rotting food flying and mold every where even with no working toilets and showers wholes in the walls and floors. Cause I grew up in that I'm now a minimalist and after 12 yes of purging my parents place all by my self I'm now haveing to remodel the entire house and yes still got 3 rooms to declutter
Yay!! No need to stall progress with debating about the sentimental childhood/baby things. Keep for now and keep on moving through the piles. You have progressed so far!!! So inspiring!
At least by putting sentimental clutter in a bin it won’t get moldy and you can make decisions later
You did the right things by putting aside the two sentimental bins and you kept moving. Trying to tackle them before you are ready would just slow you down. I agree with some suggestions for when you are ready, get rid of trash, identify what is usable (I have reused a bunch of the gift bags from my baby shower) and keep what really means something to you. Cards with messages can be treasured but ones with only signatures can probably go.
Woohoo! New video! Amazing treat after a tiresome Monday :)
Thanks to your motivational videos I was able to get rid two full bins of CDs/DVDs/PC games. Thank you 💓
Wow!!!! Look at you!!!! So proud of you 🌟🌟🌟
So uplifting, great job andkeep it up!!!
Wow! That corner is seriously opening up! Once it is open all the way - I think it would be smart to start putting stuff in it in categories. For example, put all the crafting bins, and sentimental bins in just that corner. That way when you do a crafting Konmari you know where they all are. :)
Sentimental and crafty stuff shouldn't get there before the mold is thoroughly treated. Loosing her beloved items this way would be really bad!
Thank you both ❤️❤️ Yes we really need to deep clean that back corner!! I want to put my sentimental & crafts things there but I would devastated if it got destroyed bc of mold!
@@christinabo63 absolutely! :)
Great job my friend! If you have some pavers or bricks leftover you could put them under the wrapped up chest just in case any more water gets in. The wooden legs could get damaged by the water if they get wet. See ya soon!
Moisture can seep through brick or cement pavers. I would recommend plastic.
Wow! You found some heartstring boxes, made the decision to keep them then kept on going. I’m so proud of you not to let that bog you down. Also I’m so glad you got the Dalmatians out of the cardboard box and into a safer container. That tossy tossy pile was huge!!! For the wall, wash it down with vinegar or hydrogen peroxide. Let dry completely, then paint with KILZ primer or KILZ primer/paint combo (I think you can get it at Home Depot).
Thank you so so much!!! I really appreciate your cleaning advice ❤️❤️
You did amazing sweety!
I went through all my sentimental things last week and it was tough. While i couldn't throw away any of the hand written cards, i did get rid of envelopes and packaging that i put away with it. And i wanted to thank you for giving me the motivation to do that. You really make it seem so achiveable to go through the things and to take the breaks i need. So thank you :)
I saw somewhere that vinegar helps with mold! Nice job, you're getting better and better each day, you really inspire me to declutter my own things. Sentimental itens are hard, but we'll make it someday. I love your channel 💗
I love to watch your progress!! You are doing an awesome job!!! I love the comment about selling your dalmatian collection and donating to a charity that focuses on bullying! Turn the negative into a positive!!! I know you will your personality and positively will allow you to get to that point. You are amazing and all Heart!!!! ♡
So so so happy to see the wall.... looking forward to see the 10k subscribers now!
Thanks for another great video!!💜💪👍
The baby bin will be difficult to sort. When you feel ready maybe toss or recycle the gift bags and tissue paper, but keep the cards. That way its not too big of a toss of items but a start on tackling it.
You should really hire mold remediation when you're done the first pass of decluttering ❤
Don't worry about keeping things like the dalmation stuff right now. You're still going through the first part, decluttering phase one. Phase one is getting rid of actual trash and easy things. Once that's halved what's in your basement you have some breathing space and can slowly go through phase two which is the slightly more difficult stuff, when you can see it all together and think rationally about it (like, do I really need 700 rolls of ribbon haha) and eventually, phase three which is the things you'd never thought you could let go of but you will be able to like sentimental things.
This is a totally made up strategy by the way and just how I've figured out how to deal with hoarding myself. Phase one is just reducing my clutter and leaving big decisions till later and it stops my anxiety knowing I don't need to feel bad about saving the harder stuff till later. It's the only way I can cope with doing it and it's really working for me! I'm even getting rid of some 'phase two' stuff in phase one because I'm not feeling the pressure if that makes sense? It's a bit like konmarie round two is always easier than round one and you always get rid of more the second time that you couldn't bear to part with the first go. It's a slow process but we're still moving forward every day :)
Well put👏 a few episodes ago I left a very similar comment🙂 This is her first phase, of just looking for things to toss. The next phase is “choosing” what to keep. Baby steps, but really you have to face each item. You only get better by trying💪💪💪
For the baby shower stuff, you could make a shadowbox collage with pieces of your favorites and toss the rest. You save and preserve memories and declutter the rest.
Mrs Heart, I'm not sure if this is still available. I used TILEX on a black stained wall. Came off with little effort. Some of the discoloration may be mildew. Not quite so scary. Thank you for sharing your journey and your heart.♥️
You are doing so well. I am so happy for you. you are getting better at making decisions and organizing.
You are getting stronger and stronger. 💪💪
Beautiful to see. ♡
Wow I totally would have wanted to keep the ninja turtle comforter. I think the declutering gods were watching and then rewarded you with the empty boxes!!
I just got rid of my baby shower stuff ,,, maybe 1 yr ago .. My "baby" ,, is 26yrs old 🥰💝
Yeah so glad this video got uploaded. Needed the motivation today to work on packing.
Whoo Hoo!!! This is the Motivation Station 🚉❤️ Lol And you are the Unicorn of the Day since you are the first comment 💜🦄💜
Ah yes, you were gifted someone else's stuff that you didn't need. BTDT. I remember getting a bunch of non functional Christmas lights and having them hang around because we maybe could fix them. Mold and empty boxes, actually very fulfilling to do the tossy tossy!
hello from germany, hi miss heart............I find it remarkable that you manage all of this, keep going on and never resting, almost anyone can start that but also continue to do it and go beyond yourself, so some stumble, well done .....................................it started with me as a teenager and when I moved out at the age of 22 I already had over 120 boxes, 65 of them with books ... by 30 my apartment was full to the brim .... I started giving things away or donating. The main thing is to be away and free ... i have given friends (3-4) the most important things they need when moving out of their parents' house and still i am not missing anything!!!!!!..................... now I'll be 41 and clear out the things I never use once a year .... ok I have a husband and soon two children, the big one is 3 and he has lots of toys but soon he has to share with the baby.
Any chance you could go through the baby shower box and “tossy tossy” the non-sentimental things like tissue paper and gift bags? I mean I get wanting to keep the cards and maybe some other things, but if you tossed half that tub you may feel very accomplished. Keep up the great work.
I was helping my nephew clean out his closet. He saved empty goody bags. I suggested he empty them and flatten them. We got rid of tissue paper, ribbon, boxes,and
lots of other things he didn't want. Different people attach meaning to different things.
Tina
I once helped clean closets so a house could be sold. We found suitcases full of extra wedding invitations. Like 40 years old. Then, I was helping someone else,
and again, there must have been 100 invitations, never sent, 40 years old. I said to the ladies, keep 4 sets, or 10 sets. Tina
My brother had that TMNT comforter....wow that brought back memories!
I'm very proud of you. Lots of tossy tossy today 😄
My mind would want to let go of those memories associated with the Dalmatians, I imagine another child would be so pleased to have those toys.
Either way, you made really good choices today ❤✨
Remember you don't HAVE to get rid of things you love, those 101 Dalmatians things are lovely, and you might part ways with a few, but it's okay to keep some of it!! Xx
In order to use your basment long term youll want to deal with the moisture and flooding. Id ask a few specialists and have it addressed
Hello there you're doing a great job I am also proud of you there is a product at Home Depot called OdoBan there will help you take that musty smell out of your basement once you've emptied it did you spend scrub down that wall with but at the same time you need to have someone come out and tell you what's happening with the foundation of that wall but you're doing a great job keep up the good work God continues to bless you be blessed.
You did awesome! Do the sentimental at the end and maybe you can honour them in a display case in the basement when you finish it
So so so great! Every little bits counts and getting a handle on the mold is super important. When you are done with the kitchen, it might be worth finding out what it will take to get the downstairs bathroom operational! As the boys get older (and smellier) you will want another bathroom. Keep up the good work!
November 2024. Three of us live in a 2BR apartment near Chicago. I keep one heavy blanket for each bed. We each have 2 towels. Two sets of sheets for each bed. Another bag of craft items left yesterday. Tina, Al's wife
You should send those Christmas cards out this year! That would be fun and different.
Way to go!!! It will be so good for you to be able to wash and disinfect those walls! Keep up your fantastic work!
Thank you so so much ❤️🙏🏻❤️
awesome job.
I see Dalmatian puzzles- why not use them? Your husband's Garfield notebook from school- use it for family notes and shopping lists.
Oh I love that ❤️❤️
YES!!!!! 😍
That was great! It was very inspiring! Our big item trash day is this week and I'm going to throw out an old crib that I never even used. It just takes up space and collects dust and doesn't make me happy so it will be gone.
Whoo Hoo 🌟🌟🌟 So happy for you!!!
You are doing so well, girl!👍 You are so motivating me to tackle cleaning & decluttering! Thank you🤗💗
Every time you find or mention your Dalmatian collecting, you also mention the bullying. So they are a strong reminder of the negativity of that time. I hope that at some point you can work trough those bittersweet items.
I am praying & meditating on it now ❤️🙏🏻❤️ I realized that they do remind me of bullying but they also remind me of how much comfort they brought during a difficult time. I think deep down, if difficult times come again, then maybe those items will bring me comfort again ❤️🙏🏻❤️ It’s a security blanket.
If difficult times come again, I encourage you to lean on your loved ones and God for support. They can give you the love you need. No item can replace that.
Simple bleach and water is the best for cleaning mold off of walls. Sometimes you have to wipe down the wall a few times (especially with drywall). There is also mold resistant paint (Killz). Good luck!
Thank you so so much!!! I really need to do this! I appreciate you helping me ❤️🙏🏻❤️
I’ve found that diluted oil of cloves (you can find it in tiny bottles in the toothache section at drugstore maybe - we call them chemists) really works to kill the mould. It seems to recur more when I’ve tried to clean with bleach. It’s natural but still not nice for skin at cleaning strength so gloves and a mask. Upside is the basement will smell like Christmas lol! And yep.... Follow up with the killer paint once you’re waterproofing.
I hope you can figure out where the water comes in and seal it up properly!
@@ahoardersheart No no no - please don't use bleach!!! Bleach can make mold way worse. Google it - bleach is a no-no!
If you'd like to do it more naturally, get some cleaning vinegar (regular white vinegar but with a higher acetic level, but regular white vinegar works, too), spray it down, clean it up, and manually dry it up. To REALLY do a good job, get some tea tree oil and mix it into water, spray liberally getting into all the crevices, wipe it up, and manually dry.
That said, this will only kill the mold that is on the surface. You will have mold spores flying around that you should probably get an air filter for. More importantly, you should have the source of the leak fixed ASAP.
@@o0Theresa0o You are 100% right. Bleach does not kill the mold unfortunately :( It only works on non-porous surfaces.
So much work, but you did great!
Hey there ! I wanted to let you know that once mold is washed off thing, it's not harmful anymore. So if hubby really wants to keep those baseball card (I think), just make sure to wash them.😊 And I would say to keep mold to expend, you can try to ventilate at least 1h per day. Sending love ❤
I cannot tell you how excited and happy I was to see the wall appear. Do you have plans for that empty corner? I was thinking that you could neatly pack all the storage boxes that have been left in the middle, with their labels clearly showing. That might get the middle of the basement in to an easier space to declutter. - Edit: i read the other comments and I see that it might not be a great idea to stack things against an outside wall.
So good one! Loved this episode and hope you soon fini that whole section to move further! Keep going girl!
Whoo Hoo!!! We got this 🌟🌟🌟
good job, take a mold cleaner and clean the wall. the sentimental things is for later that is alright. Even i have a lot of sentimental things letting go in steps. And when i clear them out it take some tears. butnow i am happy that i did it on the time when i saw that i had to much. first declutter the other things. big hug for you mine friend. Ellen
This episode had a lot of tossi tossies, it was great
You really did DECLUTTATON! Good job ms Heart 🥰💕😘💖🤗
I was craving those laundry baskets. My downfall. Excellent decisions about moving and cleaning your hubby's stuff. Anything sentimental, you just stick in a nice tote and tuck away till you feel good about sorting. Looks great.
You’re doing amazing! You make me see that little decluttering here and there makes a big impact! I’m not a hoarder, just disabled so cleaning/organizing decluttering is physically challenging.
So glad you removed that mold. It was surely affecting your health! 🥺😢
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Wow, you got rid of so much stuff! Congrats!!
Right!! DeclutterThon Lol 🌟🌟🌟
@@ahoardersheart Mrs Heart, not to pry, but have you thought about writing a letter to the young girl you used to be? You can comfort her, tell her its going to be ok, tell her she has a happy life and beautiful family to look forward to. I find writing to be therapeutic, maybe it could help in some way?
I'm sorry you experienced bullying growing up, and I hope you know you didn't deserve any of it. God bless you for being so transparent and inspiring on your journey of healing.
@@brandonc.5663 what a beautiful idea!
Great job! I love seeing your decluttering. Can't wait to see the rest of that back corner!
You can spray the wall with bleach and leave it for awhile then wipe it off you would have to open the windows for ventilation good job by the way 👍
Thank you so so much!! I needed good cleaning advice ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Noooooooo! Bleach is *not* a good way of handling mold. Please look this up.
@@ahoardersheart Make sure to use vinegar and tea tree oil. Bleach only works on non-porous surfaces, like bathroom tiles. Please don't use it on your walls. It can possibly make it worse.
I had to get a dehumidifier for my basement after a minor flood. The water seeped into the concrete and always smelled musty. I also got a couple of tubs of the stuff used in r.v.s to absorb moisture.
You should make videos every single day I rely like your videos.
Awe, you are the sweetest!! Know that I am sending you loving vibes & encouragement every day ❤️🌟❤️🌟❤️ We got this!!
All thank you very much for you thought an kindness ❤️
You welcome
I keep tossing boxes and other old papers and cardboard. Tina, Al's wife
As allways great vid and inspo.you can also take pics.when your ready.youll still have an image of the item.but someone else to love the items win/ win
You’re doing so good. I’m so happy with how far you have come and how much you got rid of today ❤️