your gut doesn't lie. learn to trust yourself again.
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- your gut doesn't lie. learn to trust yourself again. Black woman, trust your intuition. People pleasing drowns out your own inner voice and causes you to question yourself, become indecisive and have low self esteem. It's a gift. Listen to it. I'm learning to trust my intuition again and it's taking time. Your gut doesn't lie. I keep looking for permission from other people, but I know the truth all along. Here are some simple ways to learn to trust your intuition and trust yourself. Follow your gut. Trust yourself. You are trustworthy. Don't gaslight yourself or allow others to gaslight you. You know. Trust and follow that knowing.
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You are so therapeutic.. keep up the content therapy
🥺💛🌺 Thank you so much! That truly encourages me. Thank you for seeing me.
deeeeep. I think for me, I spent so many years just being "pushed" through the education system that I'm in my 30s and still figuring out what I like and don't like, what I love and don't love, what I can tolerate and what I can't and realizing that as I age, those things also change!
Wei!!! Hiiiiiiii!!! Thank you so much for watching and for sharing! And that is SO real! I can totally understand that. And the work of learning and unlearning at the same time, AND making room for being an ever-changing human being is SUCH a balancing act. 😊🌺🌻 I'm doing that same work and learning to actually be OKAY with what I find and not try to change my taste/preferences, etc. Thank you Wei! Love you!
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I definitely need to relearn to trust myself. On the path now.
Yeeeeees! I love that! I believe in you so much!!!
No validation needed. Do what works best for you and walk unapologetically in your truth.
I appreciate you so much!
@@AleciaRenece I appreciate your creativity and content. You were born for such a time as this. Be blessed!
Sis, this is a lesson I have learned the HARD way. I now trust myself more than anyone else. Intuition has VALUE!
YEEEEEES!!! Sis, Same here! I'm tired of learning the hard way and not trusting myself. Tuning out the noise of the outside world and hearing oneself is hard but worth it. Intuition has SO much value. 😊🌺🌻💛
When I was younger I wanted ti be liked and pleased people ..now I’m older I don’t care who likes me ..I’m secure in who I am as a person
I’m getting to know myself so much better .
I realized that I allowed so much nonsense because I didn’t know myself .
I’m so much more mature now . And I don’t justify or look for a crowd to support me anymore . Keyword anymore because once upon a time I wanted sisterhood in my life but I am uniquely me ! Then boom- people were copying me . Me ? Who wasn’t even secure enough to step out in the first place . So I’m going through life loving me and trusting myself and not allowing anyone to gaslight me . Everything you said makes so much sense . And as a survivor of a lot of abuse I get it . I give myself permission to speak !
Yeeeeeeeeeees! I love this so much! Thank you so much for sharing! You loving and choosing yourself is life changing! Much love and joy to you! I celebrate you! ☺️💛🌺
I’m working on trusting myself and I am learning myself now. My mom always picks on how I dress and I’ve tried to dress differently and I was miserable. I stayed in a 5 year relationship that I was through with our first breakup 1.5 yrs in but my friends convinced me to stay bc “I shouldn’t give up that easily” etc. I went to college for everyone else but me and never finished with $40,000 debt. Whew, I could go on and on… but I’m definitely learning how to stand up for myself even if it makes me the bad guy.
Wow. I’m 47 & just realized, I’ve never trusted myself. As a result of my childhood & past trauma, I was always looking for someone to tell me what to do because everything I thought or wanted to do was wrong(according to family) So, I would rely on everyone else to make decisions for me but when it didn’t go as planned, I got angry & blamed them. Wow, so toxic. These videos are really helping me. 😊🙏🏽
Girl, your videos are my current binge. Loving it. To this, I like to think of that questioning energy as my inner child (who has stayed needy because of trauma). I as the adult need to guide her through this and give her all the permission she needs to trust in herself. Remind her that her voice is hers and it makes a sound regardless of who else hears it. I work at reminding her that the messages she receives may not be heard by anyone else, but she has to trust herself enough to be the steward over that message. You are right, you don't need anyone else to tell you what you feel is what you feel. If, by some chance, what you feel/hear/see is a lesson for you and not the other person, trust the universe to let you know that. Continue to do your work Sis. I hear/see/feel you.
I love all of this. Much love and joy to you. This encouraged me!
For a short stint, I was wondering “why am I asking others about what I want to do?”
I will make my transition, and tell them later. L-O-L
I am 56 years old and just yesterday, I was having a conversation with someone regarding this journey I’ve been on since 2010 but I did not realized I was beginning to trust myself. Trusting my voice. Trusting that I can and hear the voice of The Most High and I began to be more confident in my decisions and what I felt in my gut. Since September 2021, I realized that I had not always trusted this God given part of me that He’s placed in all women and that’s our INTUITION!! I have been speaking that to my inner circle of family and friends the importance of trusting that. To watch this video, I was saying YES YES YES!! It is very powerful and it reassures me that it’s never too late to discover yourself. Thank you for following your instincts and listening to that voice inside to make this video. 💯🎯💕🙌🏽
Triple YES😄😉 Luv your feedback & this video!
Black guy here. I wish I knew what ‘my gut’ felt like sometimes. The church taught me that trusting myself was sinful or ‘of the flesh’ and only Jesus was trustworthy. I’ve relearned that my feelings are valid and my body is a lot more intelligent than I give it credit for. That said I wish I knew what that ‘gut feeling’ felt like so I could listen to it more often
Excellently done. I'm 63 and somewhere in my early 20s I realized I had to own what I knew, what I had heard, what I felt. Especially as a Black woman in a predominantly white environment. Which has been the majority of my life. Now, I call it quick and unapologetically. It causes folks to pause, but I am grown, been grown and it is their problem. It is my safety, my sanity, growth, and life. I listen to the Divine within, and in African traditional practices one of the seats within is your gut! Keep going, your doing great. Truly enjoy your channel.
Maaaanuh! I think about this soooo much lately... There is a pain that goes along with constantly second-guessing yourself. I meeeean---👀---Ooooh, GIRL! This is a heavy subject. 😳
The Father gave us gifts for edifying each other. He tells us to not covet, not to be envious of each other. Society taught us to strive to be better than everyone else. It is so exhausting. Use your gifts the best of your abilities. Do not hide them or misused them. The Father will lead the way.
Absolutely. 💛🌻😊
I don't know why but the "What should I eat/You know what you want to eat" statement had me cracking up hard! 🤣😂🤣😂 In hindsight I know why I'm laughing because it was funny!🤣😉😁
On a serious note, I too am a people pleaser but I am happy to say getting better. It's like I'm being overly nice...why? I thought I was being kind until it was revealed to me the difference between the two. There is a particular person I am trying to please but actually replaced the person A with the lack of love/acceptance I was NOT getting from person B. Crazy right?! So for now I just aim NOT to communicate with person A (unless necessary) until I pray this spirit out of me. I hate this about me and find it to be very problematic.
Yes! I am not even finish with the video (2 - minutes in) and I can relate! I am embracing a new journey, trusting my gut and using my skills without external validation. I am enjoying the peace and fully 'living' in the moment! It's so must better living without permission slips, I create my own field trips now!
Thank you for sharing so beautifully.... This has uplifted me so much. Yes I am trusting myself and God's guidance more and more. And peace is the result.
Thank you SO much! And I LOVE this so much! Trusting God definitely brings so much peace. Much love and joy to you!
Yes to all of this!
This totally resonated with me, and its exactly what I needed to hear with something I am going through right now. I walk a very unconventional road in life with my passions, and being a black woman. I do find it difficult to trust my inner voice. I'm not sure why black women have this challenge, but its good, in a way, to know that I'm not alone. Thanks. 🙏🏽
This is so helpful. I only recently started to learn myself, and realize that the things that I apologize for are just a part of me. I’m an introvert, homebody, book worm and that’s okay. Lol
Your content speaks to me so much. It so vulnerable and beautiful. 🙏🏿👍🏿👍🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thank you so much for hearing my heart! That means a lot to me! Much love and joy to you!!! 💛😊🌻🌺
I'm so grateful to have found your channel today. 🌻 Thank you for creating your channel. Subscribed!🥂
Listen! Sis,this resonates with me so much where I am on this life’s path right now. 3 minutes in and I had to comment. Thank you for sharing. I feel like for the past couple of years I have just been pushed to sit still and learn who I am. I mean who I really am and it does not fit with the other part of me that feels the need to keep going, block feelings and succeed financially. I want to experience this life in a way that feels comfortable to me but the way society is set up I now feel I need to set a solid foundation with myself to move through this life.
💛💛💛 *BIG HUGS* I COMPLETELY feel you on that. I'm doing that work as well and am surprised to see what comes up! I LOVE that you're discovering the TRUE you and loving her. I want you to experience all life has to offer you. All the joy. You can only get that by being all of yourself 💛🌺☺️ I believe this for you!
Thank you, from someone who "Overthinks" sometimes we are right. I'm 26 and starting to trust myself more. I love this video thank you for sharing.
💜 First of all,
I want to say thank you for doing what you do. I appreciate people like you people like (us). Secondly,
I would like to say I am currently in the same place in life.
I am 30 years old.
With two(2) kids,
And JUST NOW realizing How much I don't KNOW myself and Don't TRUST myself.
(it's Frustrating)
I'm just getting Grounded in Who I am.
And if I compare myself (which I know I shouldn't) to my sister she has understood and Applied a lot more lessons in her 22 years of life..... ......So sometimes when I go to her for advice - THAT'S when it clicks and I realize
I'm a little bit behind on "normal" shit!
I am a LATE BLOOMER.
((but thank God for people like you))
WE GOOD....Cuz
we got a song for that!
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Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I love you.✨
I love your SOUL.✨
I love what you .......✨
Bring to this world.
May your Soul always find...
Peace
Love
Joy
Healing &
Prosperity
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#SoulTribe
#Autumn #MyFavouriteSeaon
Awwwww yaaaaay! Much love and joy to you!!!
Thank you💜
For seeing me!!!
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@@AleciaRenece
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Yes. Yes. Yes. I definitely had issues trusting myself. I even connect with that whole idea of knowing when someone was gonna break up with me lol
Crystaaaaal! SAME!!!! I used to be like... "....maybe I'm tripping" and then be mad as I don't know what at myself when it happens for not believing myself. And I'm learning to trust myself as well. It's taking work, but I'm grateful. *BIG HUGS* 😊💛🌻
So much truth! Thank you, Alecia. Ever since I can remember I'd shut down in competition. Perhaps because of the glaring fact that there always has to be those who lose in competition. And what results in 'losing' is a questioning of self worth; which you clearly discuss in your videos is very harmful.
I completely agree with AL of this! Thank you so much for sharing this!
Good info. I’ve been faced plenty of times with not trusting myself.
I’m a work in progress.
Thank you 👍🏾
I trusted the Lord God more and have my self permission after 27 years of marriage that was fake. The last 12 years I, by Faith Moved Forward to do amazing things, that makes me smile and shake, to this very day!
Thanks for the encouragement, guess I’m gonna stop for that milk shake now...
I can relate to everything you said, this self gaslighting comes from trauma. I used to say do you know what I mean so much. My ex who was very abusive, would get so mad when I asked that. He thought I was saying it because he was slow, when I was asking to make sure I was explaining myself right.
I didn't trust myself in what I felt in relationships intimate. I was staying around longer when I should had ran for the hills sooner. I lost myself trying to keep others happy instead of asking myself what do I need and is the person giving it. Now I have boundaries I'm enjoying my singlehood. I will be single for 3 years I love learning about myself and hidden gifts no one will interrupt that
Besides I don't want to rush love. I want to focus on loving myself🙂
Your videos are so freeing. Thank you.
I've been on a spiritual journey for over a year of coming back to the remembrance of who I truly am and in that learning to truly trust myself. Knowing what choices I am making are ones that I want to make and what is serving me and letting go of that which no longer does. Thank you for this video it's just a reminder to continue to honor myself and do what is best for me.
Blessings to you!!🙌❤
Giiiirllllll preach
I'm trying to learn to trust myself... I'm on the same journey
So I'm hooked. I'm playing GTA v and have been binge watching / listening to your videos. Thank You. You're like a bestie I've never met. ♥️♥️♥️ this is my 5th video lol
How are you this wise at such a young age. I love the fact that you’re done so much self work.
I don't like competition either.
Another banger. My soul is so happy. Thanks Alecia!! 💜💜💜
So glad I found your channel. Great content. Thank you 🙏 ❤️
This makes my heart smile. I am SO happy you are here. ☺️💛🌺
Your videos have been my lifeline. This one just hits all the notes and I'm happy I'm not alone in these thoughts. For me that moment was when I entered college. I felt like a sore thumb for being myself and over time just felt like the more I was me the more opposition I received in navigating college. I was under the impression that I would find lifelong friends in college only to be implicitly told that my personality intimidated others, which alienated me from many. My first job out of school also added fuel to the fire; my system of getting things done was not up to par with how they wanted me to do it and I'm still recovering and healing from being let go from that space.
I'm working on returning to the version of my self that was 12 and unapologetically me. I was alone during that time but was the most confident and happy now looking back.
Thank you for being here and sharing your mind. I'm so glad I found your channel.
A few months ago, I realized I had an underlying habit of not trusting my decisions. I realized it permeated my whole life, even when driving places I have gone multiple times over months or years.
I used to get lost a lot on the North Texas highways, so I used a Garmin, then later Google maps. I developed a habit of using Google for every trip "just in case" I got distracted or drew a blank.
At first it was useful, then it became a crutch.
Recently I started using Google as a reference only before I leave for a familiar place. Seeing the route triggers my memory. If need be I screenshot the steps. Then I just drive and use my brain!
This may sound so simple to some people, but it is a big deal to me. I discovered that even when I miss an exit or forget a step in the directions, I know my local area enough to find my way back to where I need to be.
I have more confidence now, and my cell phone gets more rest. 🙂
I’ve never related more to a statement online. Same way for me, I’ve been using it as a crutch.I live in Texas and been in my city for two years and still don’t know some of the streets.. but I’m getting better at not using my phone.. thanks for saying this!!
It’s like I’m flexing this muscle of autonomy for the first time in my life. It hurts, it’s uncomfortable, but the more I strengthen it, the better off I feel. Thank God it didn’t atrophy. I’ve been people pleasing all my life and it ends now (well, technically tomorrow when I put in my two-week notice at a toxic job). But it took me months to get to this point. Thank you Alecia for making this. Wishing you all the best on your journey.
Thank you for the message
You're so welcome! I'm so happy you resonated with this! Much love and joy to you!
I feel you on the college comment...if i had known i probably wouldnt have went to college or went to college for creative writing
Because I'm a writer and multi passionated creative
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I learned to trust myself when my life completely fell apart after I made a series of major decisions based on what everyone else was telling me to do (even though in my core I felt like my life was off track). It was the best worst thing that could have happened to me.
I learned that I can’t be a passenger in my own life; I had to take control. I still struggle with autonomy, but I try to be very aware of my feelings and motivations. Journaling and therapy have been a huge help also. Love this content!
I wish I could like this video a thousand times. I’m learning to trust myself for the first time. Thank you Alecia
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Giiirrrl, listening to this I thought of Morgan Harper Nichols ... I'm not sure if you're familiar with her but I think you'd really love her story. She, like you, made the sacrifice to believe in herself. There were tough times but she stayed faithful and one day things just clicked and unique doors began to open for her.
You are clearly gifted. I really believe your unique path is absolutely available and slowly unfolding.
Thank you so much for sharing this!
This is amazing! Just what I needed to hear today. I am learning a lot of things this year and self-trust is one of them. Your video on giving yourself permission really resonated. Thank you for being here!
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I'm a few months shy of being half a hundred and can so relate.
I love this!
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I'm so happy you resonated with this ☺️💛🌺 much love and joy to you!
I love everything about this video. Thank you for shamans yes I resonate with so many things you shared. I have always been an intuitive person. Lol even typing that sentence I am fighting myself to stand in that truth. The part I resonated with the most is the part you shared about your musical talent. It took a lot of years and work to finally stand on the truth that yes I am very talented and I do not like competition at all. Everyone in my life to this day encourages Idols, The Voice, my own teaching/voice training, but I just love to sing and I am blessed that people says it sounds good. I am now content with using my voice at my local church leading worship and doing gig’s whenever I feel led to. That’s another thing I used to say yes to every invite to sing and work with people because well I was good after all, now I pray and discern where and with which project I share my calling with. When you shared that part I literally got goose bumps 😇🙈. Thank you for sharing.
Resonated.
Thank you so much Sis for this amazing video. This has helped me out so much. May the Lord continues to bless you. 🙌🏾 🔥❤️
You are so welcome! Thank you SO so much! 🌺😊💛🌻
This hit so any points. Thank you for sharing your experience. I said recently to a friend that I'm learning to have a healthy relationship with myself.
Thank you. I'm not a black woman lol but your content is very helpful
THANK YOU so timely even though you posted it months ago! Spot On👏🏽 Spot On👏🏽! Yes, many of us need to learn how to trust or regain in learning how to trust ourselves! Please know your words…your voice…your songs are very beneficial for older ones who lost the art of learning to give themselves permission to be different, etc You touched on it in various ways. Again thank you…I will so watch again & recommend😀. Peace ✌🏽& Harmony🎶
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This really blessed me today. Thank you
I'm so glad! It was my absolute PLEASURE!
I appreciate you. Omg. You and I sound exactly alike. Keep doing what you do. I'll keep supporting. 👂🙏
Goshhhhh I am so guilty! My daughter is so much more- I am so more strategic with her…
I didn’t trust her because of me… because of how I was raised. I’ll do better… IT IS MEEEE😭😭😭😭😩😩😩😩
I think it's because we as Black women and our experiences aren't validated
YOU are keeping YOU in bondage. Incessant whining, complaining, negativity. And who dresses YOU🤮
These years this is not a black woman only thing, be careful y'all not boxing y'all selves in. Somethings are a PEOPLE thing , everything is not a BLACK THING. STOP IT!!!!
I'm unapologetically Black and I am a Woman. All my videos will be geared specifically to Black women unless I decide otherwise, or have Male friends who I collaborate with show up. Everyone is welcome, but Black women are centered. And that is rare. I won't stop. You may want to find another creator to follow if rhat bothers you. I'm not boxing myself in, but sharing my own thoughts and experiences. That is FREEING. Too often people try to regulate what Black women do, how they should show up. I'm not "too Black" and I'm not "too woman". If that makes you uncomfortable, you have permission to leave. I just find it interesting that people are literally triggered by my existence and my perspective in life. What's that about? I don't have to speak to everyone if I don't want to. There are enough spaces for Men and White men in the world. Let us have our own. I do what I want on my channel and I enjoy it. 😊💛
Everybody has a right to talk about whatever they want on the internet. If as a Black Woman she wants to talk about her experience and also help Black Women in the process that's her prerogative. If you're not interested or you disagree, go somewhere else. You trying to police her content, and the content of other Black Women isn't constructive...it's more destructive than anything. If you're so passionate about PEOPLE go do something for PEOPLE somewhere else, but don't come onto some else platform trying to deter or control them from creating what they deem valuable. You're literally wasting your own time and energy being negative and divisive. You should stop it!
@@jamcalpin who said no? When someone says black Women, is it not all inclusive m, mrs gullible?
@@AleciaRenece Box-in-ism
@@ACB2K No, "Black Women", is not necessarily all inclusive. It's actually very clear and direct who the target audience is. If you want to glean from content that's not directed to you that's cool, but don't complain about something that's not meant for you (assuming you're not a Black Woman).
You saying "STOP IT!!!" is a no/negative command...
At my big age 😝 of 39 I’m just learning to trust myself and not squash my inner voice. My experience has been that if I refuse to listen to my body I will subconsciously sabotage myself. Engaging in risky behavior because instead of being honest that I don’t want to do something I’ll just blow up my spot to create a crisis. Appreciate you sharing - your channel is a healing ❤️🩹 place.