Is probably because she doesn’t have the answers on how to fix it or tools. So they took a big step & came on this show 🔥👏🏼 You all read the end. They are doing great 🙌🏼💪🏼
He don't want to leave because he don't want to give up that booty. AND, if he leaves, she is getting with another man, or woman, and he don't want to take an L in that regard. This is how most Men get down...
I love the judge but why she didn't call him out for dating a 14 year old when he was 19. I don't know who her parents is but he would of got a clean ass whooping for pulling that if that was my daughter
Y would she call that out it already happened no need to dwell on it he still been with her since then it's not like he left her for another 14 year old when she turned 18.
I feel this. My step kid is ten and looks 14. She don't go NO WHERE without us cuz these dudes out here are nasty and I'm not trying to go get her dad out of jail.
@@one_ice_cold_chiq God bless you. You recognize her body is a woman but her brain and emotions are still in child mode. Too bad we can’t trust that all men can demonstrate self control. Please teach your boys the same lesson.
@@Galworld761 I'm really more concerned about her boundaries. Her mother had her and her siblings around a molester and was encouraging her daughters to cuddle with and hug this dude. He took advantage of one of the other siblings and now the girls live with their dads. My step kid is like way too trusting and I know she has bad boundaries so we're trying to fix it. She thinks I'm mean but I was a grown looking teenage girl and I know these grown "men" out here dgaf about you being 13. Sad.
@@ricajoy6171 He is physically with her but cheating while with her and we don't know the age of the girls. He is not going to admit it on TV if he is molesting minors.
luvmifro1003 You are out of school by 17/18 unless you flunk. But she being 14 and him being 19/20 with a gf should have told her something right there but when your young and In love you do dumb things. She really doesnt know anything else but him, besides having cheats here and there but cheats are not relationships so I see why she has stayed and put up with it. Shes never known a happy, commited relationship so she has nothing to compare it to.
Melinda Kai it doesnt negate the fact they were cheating on each OR cheating with each when they were with other people. She probably got pregnant by him when she was cheating on the other guy with him.
Marriage is for mature people. They still cheating on each other cuz the other cheated. It's in the back of his mind that she like women more than men. And those are good reasons to get married? Ew yeah..Y'all should get married 😒😒
He’s cheating so I’m gonna cheat. And since she’s cheating now too, I gotta cheat again. Where does the logic come into play, when one of y’all get the Clap?
Who says they don't have the clap already when I was a kid I was taught that relationships are one guy one girl if you can't be loyal don't be together Love Is Love this is not love they're both Petty Tit for Tat doesn't work in any relationship it comes back to bite you both in the ass
They don't love one another, they love the thought of loving someone. He's tired of her behaviour, but he's the reason why she is how she is. She's tired of his behaviour, but she's allowing that behavior and keeping it going. And he's taking this all as a joke. Life and marriage isn't a joke. A relationship is hard work.
Cheating is cheating just because she cheats with women doesn't mean she gets a pass. If a woman with a man she thinks like men, people say she should bounce so why should he deal with a woman who he feels like women more. He's her cover and he's right to worry because she can meet a woman that can blow her mind. It's not just a play thing because she's doing women, she's cheating emotionally and physical as well. She won't initiate sex with him but with women. He deserves all of her and maybe he won't stray so much but he shouldn't be shocked if one day she leaves him for Ashley.
Noni Lovechild, exactly! That's part of the reason I can never be cool with bisexuality in a relationship or threesomes. A partner shouldn't have to share or want to share something that's meant only for them.
^5 Noni Lovechild! I just don't understand why dudes get so happy having a woman who is into bi-sexuality. Her being with another woman is still cheating (without him being there). It does not make it better just because it's not another man. I could not trust my woman around any of her girlfriends because I would always wonder if there is more to the relationship than just friends. How special can your relationship truly be if both of you are out here sharing yourselves with others?
Girl, 26 you better get out of there. Still young, can straighten up, find a man to Love and build a great life with. I never understand why people cheat or stay in relationships with cheating. Life is too short and that's nasty. Diseases, you don't know if they're using condoms. I'm too health consious for stuff like that.
light bright, for me it's about the betrayal. The only way to have a strong relationship is to have the kind of trust with another person where you trust them with your life and they trust you with theirs. Once that betrayal happens it's all over and just leads to disfunction. It seems better to me to just forgive and make a clean break right there, then go through the inevitable roller coaster of emotions trying to deal with the betrayal.
There's been alot of these long term relationships that started at age 12-15 lately. Like, how? 14 I had a boyfriend, but it was not that serious lol and damn sure no sex
I'm really glad they stayed together and worked things out. I really love the advice the judge gave them because a lot of times the community you live in and the people you're around affect the way you are in a relationship.
Esther, Idk if they should have stayed together all that back and forward cheating you only end up with two things............. 1. STD or 2. a baby! they have alot of growing up to do!
jarvis thomas I️ agree that they shouldn’t 12 years with back and forth cheating but since that time already passed and none of that happened. Moving forward they both agreed to leave those things in the past and start over and that’s why I’m glad they stayed together. IF they were gonna continue then I️ would’ve advised against it
Esther, I agree but you know, like i know the past is hard to put behind if she or he does one thing that reminds them of the past they going right back to it. but i wish them the best though!
That's because he's a clown.....and he just said that he had a girl when they met. What she didn't realize is that she cheated WITH him, now she's being cheated ON by him...she was blind.
OMG the advice Judge Lynn gave at the end was everything. I loved it. StArt today. Even. 😍💕💘💖💗💓💞💝💞💗💖💗💖💗💖💘. Just the two of us, we can make it if we try just the two of us, you and I
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking at this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of ones view and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and everyone's valid opinion, I honestly believe I completely forgot what I was going to say
It's a great thing what ur doing for these people who're lost in their relationships, I love what u doing mu Dear Judge I always watch ur TH-cam videos# from Algeria. By the way I'd love to buy ur book. 😉
The theory has a name “A love in the hood!” I love it lol Judge Toler is correct in the hood, we don’t get to witness healthy and positive relationships. Therefore we don’t know how to live correctly.
When someone shows you who they really are believe them!!!!!, the fact that he took an entire couch out the house stomped on it n told her now go get it, she should’ve left then.
I wonder why they never address the fact that there are some serious moral and legal issues with people being underage and aside from it being illegal that may be a huge factor for why they are having issues currently. She was 14 and he was 19. *side eye*
They seem really immature, they definitely not ready for marriage, SMDH ,too much cheating, No trust ,Also what's up with the bisexuality, there's nothing wrong with it ,but it's something that needs to be addressed
There is something wrong with it...however, when one says so, the PC police want to attack. They are not doing the things that lead to a productive and blessed relationship.
Wishing them the BEST!!! I think things will work out for them. We all have ups and downs in a relationship, what matters is HOW MUCH do you want the relationship and is it with one another or to move on. Basically, being truthful to yourself 1st will always make it worth your choice. Any thoughts????
This relationship was long past due to be OVER!!! you were way too young to even think about relationships... focus on you and your good man aka Mr. Right will find you when the timing is right for the both of you. Hopefully, she moved on... this is crazy... no way my (future) children both my boys and girls will be in relationships when they can't even have a stable one with themselves yet... kids need to learn the relationship logistics and basics throughout their teenage years... they need structure, guidance, love, warmth, compassion, and most importantly discipline during those crucial years. #thatsjustme #realtalk
Y’all are a beautiful brown couple. We all make mistakes in life and no one is perfect! Maturity and respect is critical in any relationship. Put all the nonsense behind you and move forward. I hope things work out for the both of you and I wish you nothing but the best!
They’re making a mockery of the institution of marriage.... those people are horrible, I hope they stay together cuz they deserve each other and no one else is gonna want them.
I took her advice because its a similar situation but i have got a libra and he does not listen..at all. Doesnt talk about how he feels and doesnt want me to either
If you are tired of him cheating, why stay?
I just said if he's not feeling appreciate, why stay??? People are so absent minded...
Cuisine 228: Africain food - Cuisine Africaine cuz she is gonna change him thats why! Just you wait and see🤣
Excatly
Is probably because she doesn’t have the answers on how to fix it or tools. So they took a big step & came on this show 🔥👏🏼 You all read the end. They are doing great 🙌🏼💪🏼
Cuisine 228: Africain food - Cuisine Africaine low -self-esteem & standards.
I swear Judge Lynne knows how to lay the truth down hard, I love her so much.
Me too girl she’s always 💯
Damn where her dad. No 19 year old preying on my 14 year old daughter
I don’t feel wanted or appreciated!!!!
Then leave!!!
He don't want to leave because he don't want to give up that booty. AND, if he leaves, she is getting with another man, or woman, and he don't want to take an L in that regard. This is how most Men get down...
No! I'm cheating on that ass! That'll show you!
because why leave when he can keep fucking her and fuck other chicks too?
I love the judge but why she didn't call him out for dating a 14 year old when he was 19. I don't know who her parents is but he would of got a clean ass whooping for pulling that if that was my daughter
Y would she call that out it already happened no need to dwell on it he still been with her since then it's not like he left her for another 14 year old when she turned 18.
I feel this. My step kid is ten and looks 14. She don't go NO WHERE without us cuz these dudes out here are nasty and I'm not trying to go get her dad out of jail.
@@one_ice_cold_chiq God bless you. You recognize her body is a woman but her brain and emotions are still in child mode. Too bad we can’t trust that all men can demonstrate self control. Please teach your boys the same lesson.
@@Galworld761 I'm really more concerned about her boundaries. Her mother had her and her siblings around a molester and was encouraging her daughters to cuddle with and hug this dude. He took advantage of one of the other siblings and now the girls live with their dads. My step kid is like way too trusting and I know she has bad boundaries so we're trying to fix it. She thinks I'm mean but I was a grown looking teenage girl and I know these grown "men" out here dgaf about you being 13. Sad.
@@ricajoy6171 He is physically with her but cheating while with her and we don't know the age of the girls. He is not going to admit it on TV if he is molesting minors.
Great advice from Judge Toler. She is such a wise and articulate sister.
She was 14 and he was 19 when they first started dating. That's all imma say for now
Esther Jean you mean the other way around
Donald Neil yeah
Esther Jean hey pretty lady
Why he still been in high school at 19 tho? 🤔
luvmifro1003 You are out of school by 17/18 unless you flunk. But she being 14 and him being 19/20 with a gf should have told her something right there but when your young and In love you do dumb things. She really doesnt know anything else but him, besides having cheats here and there but cheats are not relationships so I see why she has stayed and put up with it. Shes never known a happy, commited relationship so she has nothing to compare it to.
I appreciate the people who actually take the judge's advice cause a lot of people come on and completely disregard everything she tells them
They don’t need to be together. They don’t understand what a commitment relationship means. There not ready
They're definitely not ready
Is anyone else disturbed by the fact that she was 14 and he was 19 when they started to date?
This is scripted . Saw this storyline on a different episode just different people 🤔🤔🤔
Yup.
@@kilos4058 wow really?
Ain't shit real now a days smh
@@kilos4058 wordddd?
Yes I am
All this cheating and talking marriage? Good lawd!
I love Judge Toler and her responses and facial expressions 💜😂
When theyre together they cheat on each other. When theyre apart they cheat with each other. BOTH of them are career Side Pieces lol
Melinda Kai it doesnt negate the fact they were cheating on each OR cheating with each when they were with other people. She probably got pregnant by him when she was cheating on the other guy with him.
Judge gives the best advice. I come for the advice first then the entertainment
I dont think anyone knows how valuable I find Aunty Lynn's wisdom! You are definitely needed in this world. Thanks for giving us your jewels!!!!
Let him cheat in peace if you just going to stay
Mrs. Toler. You are the BEST. I want to be like you.
Marriage is for mature people. They still cheating on each other cuz the other cheated. It's in the back of his mind that she like women more than men. And those are good reasons to get married? Ew yeah..Y'all should get married 😒😒
Lol the judge just needs to know all the facts
He’s cheating so I’m gonna cheat. And since she’s cheating now too, I gotta cheat again. Where does the logic come into play, when one of y’all get the Clap?
Who says they don't have the clap already when I was a kid I was taught that relationships are one guy one girl if you can't be loyal don't be together Love Is Love this is not love they're both Petty Tit for Tat doesn't work in any relationship it comes back to bite you both in the ass
😂😂 the clap. Facts tho.
I haven't heard of the 👏 in years .😂😂😂😂
They don't love one another, they love the thought of loving someone.
He's tired of her behaviour, but he's the reason why she is how she is. She's tired of his behaviour, but she's allowing that behavior and keeping it going.
And he's taking this all as a joke. Life and marriage isn't a joke. A relationship is hard work.
Action speaks louder than words
Both need to take full responsibility of their actions. Interesting Video..
Im convinced Judge Lynn is a freak she always want the details🤣😂🤣😂
Michelle Nelson She wants the ratings!
Michelle Nelson yes I always think so she is freaky in bed
Michelle Nelson 😭😭😭😭😭
Michelle Nelson I think she swings both ways.
I sincerely hope so October3074! As fine as Judge Lynn is, yes indeed!
Marriage is not meant for them
Cheating is cheating just because she cheats with women doesn't mean she gets a pass. If a woman with a man she thinks like men, people say she should bounce so why should he deal with a woman who he feels like women more. He's her cover and he's right to worry because she can meet a woman that can blow her mind. It's not just a play thing because she's doing women, she's cheating emotionally and physical as well. She won't initiate sex with him but with women. He deserves all of her and maybe he won't stray so much but he shouldn't be shocked if one day she leaves him for Ashley.
Noni Lovechild, exactly! That's part of the reason I can never be cool with bisexuality in a relationship or threesomes. A partner shouldn't have to share or want to share something that's meant only for them.
^5 Noni Lovechild! I just don't understand why dudes get so happy having a woman who is into bi-sexuality. Her being with another woman is still cheating (without him being there). It does not make it better just because it's not another man. I could not trust my woman around any of her girlfriends because I would always wonder if there is more to the relationship than just friends. How special can your relationship truly be if both of you are out here sharing yourselves with others?
This week is crazy couples week on DC.
Love in da Hood😂😂😂...I just love Judge Lynn😏
Mz Dee hello
Girl, 26 you better get out of there. Still young, can straighten up, find a man to Love and build a great life with. I never understand why people cheat or stay in relationships with cheating. Life is too short and that's nasty. Diseases, you don't know if they're using condoms. I'm too health consious for stuff like that.
light bright, for me it's about the betrayal. The only way to have a strong relationship is to have the kind of trust with another person where you trust them with your life and they trust you with theirs. Once that betrayal happens it's all over and just leads to disfunction. It seems better to me to just forgive and make a clean break right there, then go through the inevitable roller coaster of emotions trying to deal with the betrayal.
Idc. I can't deal with cheating if I'm not enough, why are we together? That's the way I think and I'm 22. Yes I can forgive but I can also move on.
I'd never trust a man I'm not married to with my life.
light bright I totally agree with you.
light bright, shouldn't one have that kind of trust before they get married?
There's been alot of these long term relationships that started at age 12-15 lately. Like, how? 14 I had a boyfriend, but it was not that serious lol and damn sure no sex
EXACTLY!!!! Sit'chall young asses down somewhere with a science book or something!
I just eye roll 🙄
I just love this judge😘
Disloyalness 😑 oh ok
Right? I thought I was trippin
Dahlia Hall 😂😂😂
Lmaoooooo Jesus be a dictionary 😂
Dahlia Hall I was wondering if that annoyed anyone else like it annoyed me... ugh! 😂
That shit had me heated! They don't need a episode
I'm really glad they stayed together and worked things out. I really love the advice the judge gave them because a lot of times the community you live in and the people you're around affect the way you are in a relationship.
Esther, Idk if they should have stayed together all that back and forward cheating you only end up with two things............. 1. STD or 2. a baby! they have alot of growing up to do!
jarvis thomas I️ agree that they shouldn’t 12 years with back and forth cheating but since that time already passed and none of that happened. Moving forward they both agreed to leave those things in the past and start over and that’s why I’m glad they stayed together. IF they were gonna continue then I️ would’ve advised against it
Esther, I agree but you know, like i know the past is hard to put behind if she or he does one thing that reminds them of the past they going right back to it. but i wish them the best though!
jarvis thomas you right and same I️ hope they can work trough it
I see we have ourselves another member of the "Im gonna change him just you see" club🤣
Kenneth Barnes 🤣🤣🤣🤣 exactly, the club where all the members never obtain their goal -
😂 WHAT SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND IS THAT A MAN WILL CHANGE ONLY FOR THE ONE HE WANTS TO CHANGE FOR.
Mr Rutherford's smiling like if this is all a joke
That's because he's a clown.....and he just said that he had a girl when they met. What she didn't realize is that she cheated WITH him, now she's being cheated ON by him...she was blind.
Misty Blue highly immature on his behalf.
James Gibson Exactly
lovinglife beautifulmelodies You sure right about that
Misty Blue that's because he's an insensitive, snaggle toothed, bike riding bitch. 🚲
You always have the option of leaving someone if they cheat. People do know that right?
Did anyone else do the math?
He 31, she 26, been together 12 years
Don't that mean he was 19 and she was 14 when they started? Hmmm
Jesse Micheals how u doin
Mr Ele sweet. Lol
Yeah we get it he's N R Kelly but it takes two to tango she could have said no
Why wouldn't you love Judge Toler. She speaks with passion.
I feel like giving her a hug 🫂 🤗
Judge Toller saying “cool at the crib” makes me chuckle every time 😂🤣
The same way you got him. Is the same way you going to lose him
d'zire veal be gentle with her...she was just 14years old when this started
OMG the advice Judge Lynn gave at the end was everything. I loved it. StArt today. Even. 😍💕💘💖💗💓💞💝💞💗💖💗💖💗💖💘. Just the two of us, we can make it if we try just the two of us, you and I
You can't lay up with God knows who and expect a desire to be there. If the tables turn even hypothetically he'd be uninterested in her.
Such great advice, I wish them the best
Nice one again judge. Im glad they sought help to love each other right.
I wish them the best because underneath all that hostility is so much love between the. The Judge is completely right in this case, as usual.
Well to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking at this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of ones view and by trying to make it objective, and by considering each and everyone's valid opinion, I honestly believe I completely forgot what I was going to say
im to disgusted at the fact she was 14 and he was 19. idk thats just too much
It's a great thing what ur doing for these people who're lost in their relationships, I love what u doing mu Dear Judge I always watch ur TH-cam videos# from Algeria. By the way I'd love to buy ur book. 😉
might as well call it quits this is so petty you cheat but wanna get married, marriage aint gonna change a cheater either way
There is no coming back from all that mess once trust is gone it's gone
I'm glad they worked things out, I like them both separately and as a couple.
The theory has a name “A love in the hood!” I love it lol Judge Toler is correct in the hood, we don’t get to witness healthy and positive relationships. Therefore we don’t know how to live correctly.
I love this judge. She’s so intelligent. On top of that she’s gorgeous. Brains and beauty... I love it!!
If you don't feel appreciate then leave. He think this all a joke
d'zire veal she does too...licking on women and all....
Mr. Rutherford is that occurring? 😂
Queen Marlo Stg that was hilarious when she said that 😂😂😂😭😭😭😭💀
Brilliant!!!very helpful advice.
Could never marry someone who wasn’t loyal to me from beginning to present time
He jumped on the couch 😂😂😂😂😂
They are together for familiarity.....its obvious.....
What’s the point OMG
This was relationship therapy, not court.
Good job judge
Started dating while they were in high school? Is the editor saying he's slow or are they trying to pull one over us?
When someone shows you who they really are believe them!!!!!, the fact that he took an entire couch out the house stomped on it n told her now go get it, she should’ve left then.
I would love a update on all these couples
Wait! When they met she was 14 & he was 19???
Budget Madam Yes
I wonder why they never address the fact that there are some serious moral and legal issues with people being underage and aside from it being illegal that may be a huge factor for why they are having issues currently. She was 14 and he was 19. *side eye*
Love this couple! Much success!
Hot chocolate time ☕️😊 Love me my Judge Lynn ❤️
They seem really immature, they definitely not ready for marriage, SMDH ,too much cheating, No trust ,Also what's up with the bisexuality, there's nothing wrong with it ,but it's something that needs to be addressed
There is something wrong with it...however, when one says so, the PC police want to attack. They are not doing the things that lead to a productive and blessed relationship.
Wishing them the BEST!!! I think things will work out for them. We all have ups and downs in a relationship, what matters is HOW MUCH do you want the relationship and is it with one another or to move on. Basically, being truthful to yourself 1st will always make it worth your choice. Any thoughts????
The first place i will visit when i come to state is divorce court just to see judge i like you so much
This hurt my brain so bad, they are so dumb
No kids!!! Good for you👏
If someone cheats, why stay with them!
Love these episodes 💖😂
This relationship was long past due to be OVER!!! you were way too young to even think about relationships... focus on you and your good man aka Mr. Right will find you when the timing is right for the both of you. Hopefully, she moved on... this is crazy... no way my (future) children both my boys and girls will be in relationships when they can't even have a stable one with themselves yet... kids need to learn the relationship logistics and basics throughout their teenage years... they need structure, guidance, love, warmth, compassion, and most importantly discipline during those crucial years. #thatsjustme #realtalk
Never Fuck with a Laquasia!
Why did it look like Mr. Rutherford was trying to flirt with the judge? LOL
2:30 Judge Lynn reaction 🤣😁🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't take couples like this serious...
I feel dirty after watching this.
Lmao
Everytime he cheats he blames me for it, okay gurl how many chances do you give him to disrespect ya
They point fingers back and forth..so annoying..
I love judge Toler!
I need that book..😊
At 2:38 i died at the judges reaction
He prayed on her, he should be in the jail not divorce court !
This whole relationship is dumb and out of order!
Thanks for truth!
Judge got it WRONG!! The girl is waaay too young for this relationship. She should DATE many men and find a right one for her!!
judge lynn has the 4th love mantra down pack!
That is a good advice to them both
Y’all are a beautiful brown couple. We all make mistakes in life and no one is perfect! Maturity and respect is critical in any relationship. Put all the nonsense behind you and move forward. I hope things work out for the both of you and I wish you nothing but the best!
I lost my virginity to a man who lost his virginity to me. We have been married & in love 41 years & counting.
Bless you guys :-)
Ok. and? Im sure you guys have issues also.
My first love was in Kindergarten. I have no idea where he is or what happened to him.
Face it, some people are just stuck on stupid.
Dude looks like he lie about everything off top!
Wait, wait, wait!!! He was basically 19 and she was 14? Is that right?!!? I'm going to leave that right here... 😶😶😶😕😕😕😕😕
She must have been a freshman while he was a senior
They’re making a mockery of the institution of marriage.... those people are horrible, I hope they stay together cuz they deserve each other and no one else is gonna want them.
I took her advice because its a similar situation but i have got a libra and he does not listen..at all. Doesnt talk about how he feels and doesnt want me to either
Oh just dump him