I hope this helps you! Please let me know if you have any questions :) I've done a bunch of research but I'm still trying to figure things out myself! You might also be interested in my video on 15+ unity wedding ceremony ideas: th-cam.com/video/02Ek7-EBYXw/w-d-xo.html
Found this video very helpful, as my daughter is having a handfasting ceremony during her traditional wedding. I have only one thing to say and I'm not sure where I would put it I would rather it was private, but I don't know how to do that. When you play with your hair, it is distracting. It's lovely, but perhaps you should wear it down your back when you're making a video. ❤️
We are doing this! My ex is refusing to divorce me and it’s going to cost a fortune to do it. So in the meantime myself and my soul mate will do this until we can legally do it 🥰
Handfasting is not just a "tradition" to add to your wedding. Some of us handfast period. My love and I do it each year, commiting to each other for a year and a day. There are lots of reasons people do it, we do it because it reminds us to not take the relationship for granted, it does not involve "legal" or government and it is our kind of spritiual.
My person and I are doing this for our wedding. I am Irish (my first name is Irish Gaelic) and we're both not very religious do to bad experiences involving it, but I am wiccan and we're both also a percentage native American and want to have dream catchers at our ceremony. I am also scandinavian, so I would love to involve some Viking traditions. Our wedding will most certainly shock his Catholic parents and my biblical ones, but again it is OUR wedding. But your video was so helpful! Thank you! I subscribed!
I cannot get legally married as I would lose my social security disability. I am also an eclectic pagan so my fiancé and I would like to do a hand fasting ceremony as a symbolic marriage without getting legally married. So excited!
I don't know if it's different in each state but I'm on Social Security Disability and I got ❤married. It didn't affect it at all in the State of Florida. You probably checked already but if not, please double check. Hope that's helpful and Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! ❤
I’m a few weeks shy from my ceremony and will be doing a hand fasting. We did sooo much research on it, I love that there are so many ways to do it! We headed to our craft store and bought three types of ropes/chords of colors we wanted to represent us and our life as a couple. Thank you so much for this video, I can’t tell you how much I wish you made this video months ago LOL but it’s always late than never. ☺️ BTW I love that you decided to make your own chord! I too saw them on Etsy and felt they were really pretty but way pricey. I love the ones you did! We would have made our own but since we want to perform the “tie the knot” and display it we opted for the three individual chords.
Sigh... I love this! I'm glad you found something you like ....and I can't believe your wedding is so soon! Wow! Congratulations!! Sending you good vibes -- it sounds like it'll be absolutely beautiful!
Thank you for this. I am the friend who got ordained so I could marry a couple and it will be my first time doing this. I'm definitely going to adapt your script and incorporate your ideas into how we do this. And thanks for the tip about sleeves! I hadn't thought about that.
Thank you so much for this topic! When I originally started looking into it I couldn't find much. IF I ever get married or have a commitment ceremony ever again I want to do just handfasting ceremony.
This was really helpful, thanks! I'm getting married next year and we're having a handfasting ceremony but still need to work out the logistics of it. I have found that where I live (in the UK) there are a few celebrants who can do handfasting ceremonies so I'll be looking to use one of those! Getting married is a little more complicated here as you can't just have a friend or family member get officiated, and weddings have to take place in specific licensed venues. So what a lot of people do is have a licensed wedding in a registry office, then have a celebrant come to their actual venue and do an "unofficial" ceremony which is more personal and customised!
This is such a helpful video, thank you so much! Are you able to link the DIY handfasting ribbon video you mentioned? i love the idea of making our own handfasting ribbons - not only does it save money like you said, but its that extra personal touch
Hello! There are SO many beautiful ways to do it. I made ours with ribbon and macrame cord and inspired myself with some I saw being sold on Etsy. Search etsy for handfasting cords and you'll find some lovely ones
I absolutely love the symbolism and would love to incorporate handfasting into my upcoming ceremony. I'm just concerned about our super religious families not approving of it.😞
I get it. That's tough. Maybe you could show them some videos of handfastings being done in Scotland and Ireland (I think there are some on TH-cam) - sometimes they're even done in a church, along with a ring exchange and other traditions, and don't have to be incompatible with religious ceremonies
Your wedding is a day for the two of you to profess your love. You do it how you want! I personally wouldn't worry about what my parents want, it's not their wedding and it's not their marriage, but if you want to please your parents, you can add the handfasting into the traditional christian wedding/p :)
I’m sure you’ve done it by now and I’m sorry I missed it if that’s the case (add it to a vow renewal) my pastor grandfather use to do these and had no idea of the organ roots. If you are religious use the third cord (white or gold normally) to represent faith and how your relationship is strong because of the faith woven into it. If you’re Christian there’s a verse about a cord of three strands being stronger and I’m sure lots of other faiths incorporate things about rope or cord. Not religious the third can be your love, or the support of your community. Just some thoughts and I hope that helps. (My father is a pastor too and I’m a Christian witch so that’s a fun mix of letting things mean what people interpret them to mean while directing those interpretations)
I have actually seen these done at Irish Catholic weddings. Also you don’t have to make it a big deal. I’ve seen it done and didn’t even realize or even think anything about it. I just thought it was a really cute thing. If you have an already gotten married. I say go for it
I also recommend writing your own script. I wanted a broom ceremony as part of my wedding and because it was a Christian officiant and he didn’t understand the deep significance of the ceremony he made light of it by saying it was sweeping away the ‘dust bunnies’ of our past. I was really upset and it actually kind of ruined the ceremony for me. If I had taken the time to write something for him I am sure the minister would have just read it as written and I would have had the experience I was hoping for. Don’t just trust your officiant will infests f your desire for a hand fasting or what it means to you. Write it yourself.
Ugh I'm sorry it didn't go as planned for you. I hope you're able to have another ceremony -- maybe a renewal or something, and get the broom ceremony that you really wanted
Thank you! I got it from Nordstroms but last I checked, it wasn't available anymore :( wayfaringweddings.com/affordable-off-the-shoulder-wedding-dress-nordstrom-review/
Im Scottish Scandinavian and my fiance is German, i have always loved this part of my heritage i am going to the courthouse and and having a jp wedding with eing exchange. But is it to much to have a handfasting at my reception where everyone will be at as my public display??? Im also making my own hang fasting cords and my theme is midnight bayou for my wedding 😅 its very very cultural of all my heritages *not just Scottish and Scandinavian i have a lot more lol 😅 and i do hold true to what i have learned and been taught as tradition! * Is there a specific prayer thats prayed over it ???
@@BrittanyPlansaWedding My partner & I are getting married soon, & he wanted to incoperate handfasting into the ceremony, but didn't know much about it. So I've been doing a lot of research & this video really helped. We both love the idea of making our own cords, so that's what we're going to do. The ones you have are beatiful btw 🥰👍
Im a preist i would love to perform a handfasting wedding on my own and nobody asked me yet ,im allowed to do habd dasting wedding too waiting for the right couple for me yo do this
So my partner and I can’t legally get married due to us being on disability (if we legally marry our combined incomes become one and we lose approx $300 for every month). We are both pagan and our families are Christian and we are wanting to do a hand fasting for our wedding. We’re in MI and we’re not sure if any officiants would agree to “marry” us when we’re not making our marriage legal. Any advice?
Hi there! Sorry I'm so delayed on this... just seeing your message now. I wonder if it's an option for you to ask a close friend or family member to do the ceremony for you? If it doesn't have to be legal, is it necessary to have a "real" officiant? It might be much more personal (and take a lot of the pressure off) to have someone close to you perform the ceremony exactly as you want it.
Ok so we already have a infinity knot on our cord, is there a simple ceremony where we just lay the cords on and around our hands? It’s going to be something we’re doing apart from exchanging our rings.
Yeah, of course! I love the idea of simply laying them over your hands, no knot-tying necessary. It's simple and easy, no fuss. If you wanted to, you could have someone (or more than one person) special to you lay the cords over you and your partner's joined hands. Done!
Very good. I am doing a wedding ceremony and they’ve asked for this as part of the ceremony. Is it OK to do it at the end of the ceremony after the vows and ring exchanges?
My partner and I just agreed to ahndfast. We can't legally marry because we are polyamorous and in already legally married to a partner. But we are okay with our marriage not being legally recognized 🥰
I hope this helps you! Please let me know if you have any questions :) I've done a bunch of research but I'm still trying to figure things out myself! You might also be interested in my video on 15+ unity wedding ceremony ideas: th-cam.com/video/02Ek7-EBYXw/w-d-xo.html
Found this video very helpful, as my daughter is having a handfasting ceremony during her traditional wedding. I have only one thing to say and I'm not sure where I would put it I would rather it was private, but I don't know how to do that. When you play with your hair, it is distracting. It's lovely, but perhaps you should wear it down your back when you're making a video. ❤️
I kind of love the idea of saying your vows while your hands are being tied together so that your vows are being tied with your union
We are doing this! My ex is refusing to divorce me and it’s going to cost a fortune to do it. So in the meantime myself and my soul mate will do this until we can legally do it 🥰
Oh gaaahh, I'm so sorry... that's awful. Yes, a beautiful handfasting ceremony sounds like the way to go
Handfasting is not just a "tradition" to add to your wedding. Some of us handfast period. My love and I do it each year, commiting to each other for a year and a day. There are lots of reasons people do it, we do it because it reminds us to not take the relationship for granted, it does not involve "legal" or government and it is our kind of spritiual.
Great!
My person and I are doing this for our wedding. I am Irish (my first name is Irish Gaelic) and we're both not very religious do to bad experiences involving it, but I am wiccan and we're both also a percentage native American and want to have dream catchers at our ceremony. I am also scandinavian, so I would love to involve some Viking traditions. Our wedding will most certainly shock his Catholic parents and my biblical ones, but again it is OUR wedding. But your video was so helpful! Thank you! I subscribed!
Congratulations! And I'm glad you liked it!!
I think I'm going to make my own cord and surprise my fiancee with it on our wedding day :)
Oh, how sweeeeet! Let me know if you find a good way to make them! I made a short video about it but there are so many beautiful ways to do it!
This was really helpful!!! My partner and I were thinking about a handfasting ceremony and this helped us establish a starting point
Yay! I'm so glad. Handfastings are amazing.
Extremely helpful! Thank you. This has jumpstarted our ceremony design, so grateful for this video :)
Oh I’m so glad!!
I cannot get legally married as I would lose my social security disability. I am also an eclectic pagan so my fiancé and I would like to do a hand fasting ceremony as a symbolic marriage without getting legally married. So excited!
I'm doing this too :)
I don't know if it's different in each state but I'm on Social Security Disability and I got ❤married. It didn't affect it at all in the State of Florida. You probably checked already but if not, please double check. Hope that's helpful and Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! ❤
I’m a few weeks shy from my ceremony and will be doing a hand fasting. We did sooo much research on it, I love that there are so many ways to do it! We headed to our craft store and bought three types of ropes/chords of colors we wanted to represent us and our life as a couple.
Thank you so much for this video, I can’t tell you how much I wish you made this video months ago LOL but it’s always late than never. ☺️
BTW I love that you decided to make your own chord! I too saw them on Etsy and felt they were really pretty but way pricey. I love the ones you did! We would have made our own but since we want to perform the “tie the knot” and display it we opted for the three individual chords.
Sigh... I love this! I'm glad you found something you like ....and I can't believe your wedding is so soon! Wow! Congratulations!! Sending you good vibes -- it sounds like it'll be absolutely beautiful!
Thank you for this. I am the friend who got ordained so I could marry a couple and it will be my first time doing this. I'm definitely going to adapt your script and incorporate your ideas into how we do this.
And thanks for the tip about sleeves! I hadn't thought about that.
That’s amazing! I’m so glad I could help. I’m sure it’ll be beautiful.
Wow that is so awesome. Bless you for being such an awesome friend :)
I've never heard of this, so cool! I love that you can have different ways to tie it and the colors have different meanings!
Yeah, it's really beautiful! I'm not sure why it's not more popular
@@BrittanyPlansaWedding 😊😊
Thank you so much for this topic! When I originally started looking into it I couldn't find much. IF I ever get married or have a commitment ceremony ever again I want to do just handfasting ceremony.
Thank you! That was very useful! I will be performing the handfasting ceremony for my sister's wedding! I feel more prepared now! :)
Yay! Awesome -- good luck to you! It will be great
Its so funny because I just talked with my boyfriend about doing this as a part of our ceremony
Oh nice!! Let me know if you find any pretty photos/cords for inspiration! I'm still trying to decide exactly how we want to do it :)
Great video tips, thank you for all you shared, much appreciated 🌷
Thank you for watching! :)
This was really helpful, thanks! I'm getting married next year and we're having a handfasting ceremony but still need to work out the logistics of it. I have found that where I live (in the UK) there are a few celebrants who can do handfasting ceremonies so I'll be looking to use one of those! Getting married is a little more complicated here as you can't just have a friend or family member get officiated, and weddings have to take place in specific licensed venues. So what a lot of people do is have a licensed wedding in a registry office, then have a celebrant come to their actual venue and do an "unofficial" ceremony which is more personal and customised!
It's like that in many places in North America too! I guess it can be fun to do two ceremonies!
This is such a helpful video, thank you so much!
Are you able to link the DIY handfasting ribbon video you mentioned? i love the idea of making our own handfasting ribbons - not only does it save money like you said, but its that extra personal touch
Hello! There are SO many beautiful ways to do it. I made ours with ribbon and macrame cord and inspired myself with some I saw being sold on Etsy. Search etsy for handfasting cords and you'll find some lovely ones
I am also doing a handfasting and this was a great video!
Also, side note: i love your dress!!
Thank you! And congratulations
Thank you SOOO Much for this amazing video
You're welcome!
This was so helpful!!! Thank you for the info!
Yay, I'm so happy! You're welcome :)
I absolutely love the symbolism and would love to incorporate handfasting into my upcoming ceremony. I'm just concerned about our super religious families not approving of it.😞
I get it. That's tough. Maybe you could show them some videos of handfastings being done in Scotland and Ireland (I think there are some on TH-cam) - sometimes they're even done in a church, along with a ring exchange and other traditions, and don't have to be incompatible with religious ceremonies
Your wedding is a day for the two of you to profess your love. You do it how you want! I personally wouldn't worry about what my parents want, it's not their wedding and it's not their marriage, but if you want to please your parents, you can add the handfasting into the traditional christian wedding/p :)
I’m sure you’ve done it by now and I’m sorry I missed it if that’s the case (add it to a vow renewal) my pastor grandfather use to do these and had no idea of the organ roots. If you are religious use the third cord (white or gold normally) to represent faith and how your relationship is strong because of the faith woven into it. If you’re Christian there’s a verse about a cord of three strands being stronger and I’m sure lots of other faiths incorporate things about rope or cord.
Not religious the third can be your love, or the support of your community.
Just some thoughts and I hope that helps. (My father is a pastor too and I’m a Christian witch so that’s a fun mix of letting things mean what people interpret them to mean while directing those interpretations)
I have actually seen these done at Irish Catholic weddings. Also you don’t have to make it a big deal. I’ve seen it done and didn’t even realize or even think anything about it. I just thought it was a really cute thing. If you have an already gotten married. I say go for it
It's your wedding, what you and your fiancé want in the ceremony.
I also recommend writing your own script. I wanted a broom ceremony as part of my wedding and because it was a Christian officiant and he didn’t understand the deep significance of the ceremony he made light of it by saying it was sweeping away the ‘dust bunnies’ of our past. I was really upset and it actually kind of ruined the ceremony for me. If I had taken the time to write something for him I am sure the minister would have just read it as written and I would have had the experience I was hoping for. Don’t just trust your officiant will infests f your desire for a hand fasting or what it means to you. Write it yourself.
Ugh I'm sorry it didn't go as planned for you. I hope you're able to have another ceremony -- maybe a renewal or something, and get the broom ceremony that you really wanted
Sadly I am well past that. It was 30 yrs ago with a different husband lol but I hope you get the ceremony of your dreams.
How has no one commented on this beautiful dress you are wearing?!! Where do I find this?
Thank you! I got it from Nordstroms but last I checked, it wasn't available anymore :( wayfaringweddings.com/affordable-off-the-shoulder-wedding-dress-nordstrom-review/
My bf n I are going to do it as our own n more meaningful version of a promise ring.
What length are the ties before and after you join them?
Hi! I believe they were around three meters! Sorry - don't think I actually measured them... just eye-balled!
Im Scottish Scandinavian and my fiance is German, i have always loved this part of my heritage
i am going to the courthouse and and having a jp wedding with eing exchange. But is it to much to have a handfasting at my reception where everyone will be at as my public display???
Im also making my own hang fasting cords and my theme is midnight bayou for my wedding 😅 its very very cultural of all my heritages *not just Scottish and Scandinavian i have a lot more lol 😅 and i do hold true to what i have learned and been taught as tradition! *
Is there a specific prayer thats prayed over it ???
Love love love your content - thank you.
Where did you get the dress you're wearing as well, it's gorgeous !!!
Thank you! That's so sweet! The dress is from Nordstrom
Oh my goodness, thank you for THIS!!!💕
You’re welcome!! 💕
@@BrittanyPlansaWedding My partner & I are getting married soon, & he wanted to incoperate handfasting into the ceremony, but didn't know much about it. So I've been doing a lot of research & this video really helped. We both love the idea of making our own cords, so that's what we're going to do. The ones you have are beatiful btw 🥰👍
@@cassettetape7643 Yay, I'm so glad! It's just the most beautiful kind of ceremony (in my opinion!)
@@BrittanyPlansaWedding 😊😊😊
Thank you!!!!
You're welcome!
Im a preist i would love to perform a handfasting wedding on my own and nobody asked me yet ,im allowed to do habd dasting wedding too waiting for the right couple for me yo do this
I’ve always wanted a hand fasting ceremony. I don’t plan to get married for another 6 years at least
Take your time 👍❤️
Think it would be beautiful to have a hand fasting then doing the vows and rings (if needed) while being in a knot.
Love it!
My bf and i are def doing a handfasting ceremony when we get married one day 😭
So my partner and I can’t legally get married due to us being on disability (if we legally marry our combined incomes become one and we lose approx $300 for every month). We are both pagan and our families are Christian and we are wanting to do a hand fasting for our wedding. We’re in MI and we’re not sure if any officiants would agree to “marry” us when we’re not making our marriage legal. Any advice?
Hi there! Sorry I'm so delayed on this... just seeing your message now. I wonder if it's an option for you to ask a close friend or family member to do the ceremony for you? If it doesn't have to be legal, is it necessary to have a "real" officiant? It might be much more personal (and take a lot of the pressure off) to have someone close to you perform the ceremony exactly as you want it.
Ok so we already have a infinity knot on our cord, is there a simple ceremony where we just lay the cords on and around our hands? It’s going to be something we’re doing apart from exchanging our rings.
Yeah, of course! I love the idea of simply laying them over your hands, no knot-tying necessary. It's simple and easy, no fuss. If you wanted to, you could have someone (or more than one person) special to you lay the cords over you and your partner's joined hands. Done!
Very good. I am doing a wedding ceremony and they’ve asked for this as part of the ceremony. Is it OK to do it at the end of the ceremony after the vows and ring exchanges?
Oopsies, sorry just seeing your message now! If I'm not too late, I do think that's perfectly fine!
Okay, but what hair products do you use? 🤣
HA... just the cheap stuff and a curling iron!
In your sample script what is the first and second reading ?
I love that your script is gender neutral!
Thank you! I hope it's useful!
My partner and I just agreed to ahndfast. We can't legally marry because we are polyamorous and in already legally married to a partner. But we are okay with our marriage not being legally recognized 🥰
Yeah, it doesn't have to be legally recognized to be real :)
too much info not enough clarity.
Thank you for watching