You were not able to impress your friends on your own, with your own place but you have no problem using your man's apartment to flex to your friends with things that you did not earn.
If Grace wants to do whatever she wants, she should have stayed in her own apartment. The apartment is not hers because she is not on the lease. I have to wonder why she doesn't understand basic law.
Special occasions? I saved a bottle of Bollinger RD champagne for my wedding night and a 1983 Chateau Mouton Rothschild for the birth of our first child in 1993 (perfectly aged). Now that top tier wines have become “investments”, they have become prohibitively expensive. Let her spend the hundreds or even thousands of dollars to replace what she and her friends do thoughtlessly drank. She is self-entitled and needs to go.
He literally owes you ZERO, It IS HIS HOME. Y O U are NOT on the lease/deed. He made very good rules and of course you couldn't follow them IN.HIS.HOME. AND you all drank HIS EXPENSIVE WINE. AND you invited friends to a restaurant when he told you it was for you and him. You ALSO DO know some bottles can go for 4-5-6 figures right??? He should take you to court. SMDH.
what was the purpose of him having his girlfriend move in with him he wasn’t prepared to share? Ultimately, it’s about balancing your ownership rights with creating a healthy, equal relationship.
@@axlejohnson9156 You don't respect private property. The wine was not hers. The apartment is in his name. The moment she took the wine he was legally in his right to sue her.
The problem with this story is that he didn't record the conservation, and he didn't contact a lawyer immediately. It will be a she said he said. Don't let anyone live with you that doesn't have strong morals. He should have recorded her, and contacted a lawyer as soon as the wine was missing.
He proved that he cared more for his wine than he did for her. You tell me which is acceptable. She had a few friends over once in a while. And since he was such an ass about her entertaining friends in their place. She invited them to the restaurant. It's her night. He doesn't get to make all the rules. What an uptight super control freak.
@@axlejohnson9156 But he does. He made those rules a condition of her moving in and she ignored them, if she wanted her rules she shouls have stayed in her own place. Saying he cared more for his wine than her makes no sense, you can love someone and still be angry at their actions.
@@axlejohnson9156 She agreed to the rules about guests before she even moved in. The wine was never hers to give away to begin with. Just because you live with someone does not mean that you can simply take their things. This goes doubly so for something like his wine collection. Some people actually treat wine as an investment where they buy it with the intent of reselling it years later because it goes up in value, with some bottles costing over $100k. It was her birthday so, she was absolutely entitled to invite friends to join them. The problem was how she went about it. She knew he had been planning something private and intimate for just the two of them. She should have said that she'd rather they go out to eat with a group of people, and the two of them could possibly spend some time alone together later in the day instead of simply springing the changes on him like that and expecting him to roll with it, especially with the way she had been acting up to that point and knowing that he does not like crowds.
On one hand, he did agree to let her move in and therefore share his home. This was not a prison sentence for her, and he should have been prepared to compromise. However, she was clearly an extremely selfish, entitled and inconsiderate person who didn't take his concerns seriously at all. She abused her relationship with him constantly until she went too far. And it appears that she didn't learn anything from the experience. Even her friends saw that her behaviour was unforgivable. In the end, I had no sympathy for her at all and was just hoping that he got his wine replaced. 🍷😆
Special wines can reach up to multiple $1000 - $10,000. He should hand her a receipt and bill to compare the cost he paid, to the replacing costs. When she refuses talk her claims court
Ha, ha, ha, ha. Welllllllll, he acted like a push over for the whole time they were together, then when she moves into his apartment, he sets ground rules and boundaries that she thinks are irrelevant. Guess she got a surprise birthday after all. I’ve had similar experiences a couple of times. When you ask your girlfriend to move into your personal space, (apartment, house, etc), it is NOT your own personal space anymore. Expect her to change things, to add her little, (or big), touches. It’s a whole different residence once it becomes shared. If you want to find out how compatible the 2 of you are living together, go on a month long road trip together.
She should NOT have helped herself to he's wine collection. That was a stupid, thoughtless and selfish thing to do. But, to be honest, this guy belongs alone in he's self-made "personal" space. Nothing wrong with that. But a nightmare to live with. She made a huge mistake moving in with a guy like this. She should have seen that obvious red flag when he told her, no visitors, gatherings etc. This guy is not relationship or marriage material.
@davidnash8208 I agree with you completely. Although I don't blame her for wanting to spend her B-day with friends, she is nonetheless the AH for not communicating and just doing whatever she wants and ignoring his plans for which he did communicate.
They weren't compatable,She had over reached on some things,This guy had some mental issues in My opinion,He was way out of the norm. Introvert and extrovert.
@@MrDakaltiBugger One who I suspect has been lucky enough to never run across an SO who's REALLY GOOD at gaslighting. Which is what this felt like to me, but badly written, probably by an AI) And sorry, I was feeling weird when I wrote that and thought I was being funny. My apologies.
She completly disregarded his feelings! She never asked him if she could have some of HIS wine that specifically said was for special occasions! It was her friends she should have bought her own booze for her friends! Then he plans a special evening for the 2 of them, she knew that but still invited her friends! She was inconsiderate all the way around! Yes I'm a woman and I would have flipped my wig if someone disregarded myself and my things!
I can understand young couples moving in together and being blindsided with some aspect of the other persons personality. But how do adults find themselves in the same situation? The knly way i see it happening is if he is so inexperienced that he is a literal pushover. His setting boundaries at first indicate that he is at least experienced.
Jim is a child emotionally. No one is to play with his stuff. If it's so important. Then label it and lock it up. He had the entire apartment in lock down. Jim is just an insufferable ass.
She had a lucky escape, I’m a guy but I have a daughter and I would not want her with a controlling guy like that. Had they got married years of misery awaited.
Grace and her friends wanted to have a good time on Jim's dime and were shocked when he left and they had to pay for their own good time. She has no respect for him so he walked and I can't blame him.
You were not able to impress your friends on your own, with your own place but you have no problem using your man's apartment to flex to your friends with things that you did not earn.
Unless you are on the lease, deed, or mortgage...it is not yours and his, it's his!
Never give someone a key...once in, it's hard to get rid of them.
Those 2 are not compatible.
If Grace wants to do whatever she wants, she should have stayed in her own apartment. The apartment is not hers because she is not on the lease. I have to wonder why she doesn't understand basic law.
Special occasions? I saved a bottle of Bollinger RD champagne for my wedding night and a 1983 Chateau Mouton Rothschild for the birth of our first child in 1993 (perfectly aged). Now that top tier wines have become “investments”, they have become prohibitively expensive. Let her spend the hundreds or even thousands of dollars to replace what she and her friends do thoughtlessly drank.
She is self-entitled and needs to go.
He literally owes you ZERO, It IS HIS HOME. Y O U are NOT on the lease/deed. He made very good rules and of course you couldn't follow them IN.HIS.HOME. AND you all drank HIS EXPENSIVE WINE. AND you invited friends to a restaurant when he told you it was for you and him. You ALSO DO know some bottles can go for 4-5-6 figures right??? He should take you to court. SMDH.
Exactly, the level of entitlement is frightening.
@@draconisdragonheart4248 Isn't it though. Sadly there's more and more of these entitled fruitloops stories smdh!
Oh bullshit. They were sharing expenses. She had ever right to have a few friends over now and then. This dude is wound far too tight.
what was the purpose of him having his girlfriend move in with him he wasn’t prepared to share?
Ultimately, it’s about balancing your ownership rights with creating a healthy, equal relationship.
@@axlejohnson9156 You don't respect private property. The wine was not hers. The apartment is in his name. The moment she took the wine he was legally in his right to sue her.
Jim should have told her, I’ve checked on the replacement price for those bottles of wine. You owe me $1400.
The problem with this story is that he didn't record the conservation, and he didn't contact a lawyer immediately. It will be a she said he said. Don't let anyone live with you that doesn't have strong morals. He should have recorded her, and contacted a lawyer as soon as the wine was missing.
@@draconisdragonheart4248 it’s a short story. i envision jim having to sue grace’s dumb ass for the wine.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes
She a party girl and he sounds like he is on the spectrum. Bad mismatch
"This is how you repay me for everything! You should've just let me do whatever I wanted without consequence!' Said every woman always.
You made it clear to him, and he finally realized, that you cared more for your friends than you did for him.
He proved that he cared more for his wine than he did for her. You tell me which is acceptable. She had a few friends over
once in a while. And since he was such an ass about her entertaining friends in their place. She invited them to the restaurant.
It's her night. He doesn't get to make all the rules. What an uptight super control freak.
@@axlejohnson9156 But he does. He made those rules a condition of her moving in and she ignored them, if she wanted her rules she shouls have stayed in her own place. Saying he cared more for his wine than her makes no sense, you can love someone and still be angry at their actions.
@@axlejohnson9156 She agreed to the rules about guests before she even moved in. The wine was never hers to give away to begin with. Just because you live with someone does not mean that you can simply take their things.
This goes doubly so for something like his wine collection. Some people actually treat wine as an investment where they buy it with the intent of reselling it years later because it goes up in value, with some bottles costing over $100k.
It was her birthday so, she was absolutely entitled to invite friends to join them. The problem was how she went about it. She knew he had been planning something private and intimate for just the two of them. She should have said that she'd rather they go out to eat with a group of people, and the two of them could possibly spend some time alone together later in the day instead of simply springing the changes on him like that and expecting him to roll with it, especially with the way she had been acting up to that point and knowing that he does not like crowds.
On one hand, he did agree to let her move in and therefore share his home. This was not a prison sentence for her, and he should have been prepared to compromise. However, she was clearly an extremely selfish, entitled and inconsiderate person who didn't take his concerns seriously at all. She abused her relationship with him constantly until she went too far. And it appears that she didn't learn anything from the experience. Even her friends saw that her behaviour was unforgivable. In the end, I had no sympathy for her at all and was just hoping that he got his wine replaced. 🍷😆
He lives in an apartment, but has a cellar? Something is off here. Houses have cellars. Apartments don't.
Now go look up affluent apts that have wine cellars. They do exist.
Lol
Especially low-rise apartment buildings have (near) street level cellars / storage space for bicycles and other heavy stuff.
Talk about two different realities. She’s got to go. Never let them move in.
Special wines can reach up to multiple $1000 - $10,000. He should hand her a receipt and bill to compare the cost he paid, to the replacing costs. When she refuses talk her claims court
I agree. The story needed to clarify the value of the wine so we could see her reaction when she understood.
@voraginetheheresiarch2338 I highly doubt the laptop and jewelry he was holding hostage barely coverd one bottle
Some wines have sold for over half a million dollars.
@@winniethepoohandeeyore2 absolutely, wine is no joke when it comes to vintage. Wines from the Titanic go baseline for a few mill
@@benjin3993 Yep, imagine the taste of those wines WOWZERS!
Not compatible no wonder they broke up
Her failure to respect him and his boundaries broke them up
She showed him that she was not mature enough for a relationship! Just a spoiled child!
The moral of the story: Never marry a party girl unless you yourself is a party freak too.
Heard this story before. A good one every time.
So he collects it and she trashes his feelings by taking it w/o giving him a heads up.
Ha, ha, ha, ha. Welllllllll, he acted like a push over for the whole time they were together, then when she moves into his apartment, he sets ground rules and boundaries that she thinks are irrelevant. Guess she got a surprise birthday after all. I’ve had similar experiences a couple of times. When you ask your girlfriend to move into your personal space, (apartment, house, etc), it is NOT your own personal space anymore. Expect her to change things, to add her little, (or big), touches. It’s a whole different residence once it becomes shared. If you want to find out how compatible the 2 of you are living together, go on a month long road trip together.
Why do I have a feeling that there was a potential ring in the picture, but she never found that out?
She should NOT have helped herself to he's wine collection. That was a stupid, thoughtless and selfish thing to do. But, to be honest, this guy belongs alone in he's self-made "personal" space. Nothing wrong with that. But a nightmare to live with. She made a huge mistake moving in with a guy like this. She should have seen that obvious red flag when he told her, no visitors, gatherings etc. This guy is not relationship or marriage material.
I think the wine was a cheap bullet dodged
They just aren't compatible. She's inconsiderate and he a sanctimonious pedantic prick.
I don't blame her for wanting to celebrate her birthday with her friends. Everything else, she was the AH
She knew he planned an intimate dinner and just overrode him without telling him. Nasty trick.
@davidnash8208 I agree with you completely. Although I don't blame her for wanting to spend her B-day with friends, she is nonetheless the AH for not communicating and just doing whatever she wants and ignoring his plans for which he did communicate.
They weren't compatable,She had over reached on some things,This guy had some mental issues in My opinion,He was way out of the norm. Introvert and extrovert.
This trash is a total headache.
I wish this was longer so we could find out if Grace ever got therapy or learned anything.
That guy seems insufferable. He shouldn't have agreed to let her move in with that level of sensitivity
Grace, is that you?
Fuck off! he set ground rules and she didn't respect them.
nope, a guy with an alternate opinion. blasphemy I know
@@MrDakaltiBugger One who I suspect has been lucky enough to never run across an SO who's REALLY GOOD at gaslighting. Which is what this felt like to me, but badly written, probably by an AI)
And sorry, I was feeling weird when I wrote that and thought I was being funny. My apologies.
She completly disregarded his feelings! She never asked him if she could have some of HIS wine that specifically said was for special occasions! It was her friends she should have bought her own booze for her friends! Then he plans a special evening for the 2 of them, she knew that but still invited her friends! She was inconsiderate all the way around! Yes I'm a woman and I would have flipped my wig if someone disregarded myself and my things!
How much was the wine???
I can understand young couples moving in together and being blindsided with some aspect of the other persons personality. But how do adults find themselves in the same situation? The knly way i see it happening is if he is so inexperienced that he is a literal pushover. His setting boundaries at first indicate that he is at least experienced.
Jim is a child emotionally. No one is to play with his stuff. If it's so important. Then label it and lock it up.
He had the entire apartment in lock down. Jim is just an insufferable ass.
She had a lucky escape, I’m a guy but I have a daughter and I would not want her with a controlling guy like that. Had they got married years of misery awaited.
So you’re saying you raised a selfish daughter who doesn’t understand boundaries…. Got it.
Those are not what I have written, but if you’ve read other than what’s written, good luck with life.
He had boundaries and she agreed but broke them.
@@davidnash8208 very stifling boundaries.
Grace and her friends wanted to have a good time on Jim's dime and were shocked when he left and they had to pay for their own good time. She has no respect for him so he walked and I can't blame him.
She loves her friends so much she can move in and marry them instead
Too bad for the man . I doubt he has any friends and will be the man equivalent of the 'cat lady'. Maybe he will get a few dogs.
@ralphmowery2898 Mans best friend
Why doesn't he tell her how much the wine cost? Time to ask her to move out.