when you said being so nice and so positive is a coping mechanism so nobody can get mad at you -made my jaw drop. I've been going around pondering that one all day. I checked myself out doing that VERY thing today and it stopped me in my tracks. Now I can't unhear it!
This is amazing! Yesterday I was feeling everything that you covered, always trying to be positive, but really feeling super grumpy. I was even writing about Eeyore in a weekly email that I send out. Then I saw your video, listened to it and it's like you gave me permission to allow myself to FEEL all of my frustration and anger. I vented and got it all out and wow, do I ever feel better today. Thank you Nancy! What a timely gift. 🥰
Loved your podcast on Perfection dear Nancy . I think it has caused a paradigm shift, feel totally let off the hook !! This will be the same l feel 🙏🏻❤️ Thankyou xx
Great advice, so much rings true with me!! I often express rage and tears when I’m driving alone in my car(not road rage) just a safe space where I can scream, cry, growl etc.
Thank You for throwing yourself under the bus again Nancy! I knew there was a reason I kept avoiding this video. I am in the midst of learning to feel and respond to my precious body❤own it and claim my space in this beautiful life. I might be a life-long student. I am always told I am so nice. Again thank you
I am a Pollyanna, for sure. You know when you read an important book and the information is so transformational, or is meant to facilitate a shift for you, that you have to read and re-read each sentence as you go through it? This video was like that for me. I've gotten some of this feedback from my children, friends and teachers (you are too nice), and in being too nice, I've been an obstacle of sorts to some on their own path. I'm not sure how to word that. But, thank you for putting all of these truths together so mindfully. Humbling. Thank you.
Very well needed video! All those unexpressed angry emotions end up burying themselves deep into the body creating cancer and a variety of autoimmune disorders. So important to acknowledge how you are truly feeling before trying to change any thinking pattern.
Loved this! I used to live outside my body, and my life changed when I got in touch with my body and all the angry parts! I felt so sad for myself and all the dishonoring I did towards myself for all those years.
My favourite T Shirt I saw on the Internet said …. 2018 stay away from negative people, 2019 stay away from positive people, 2020 stay away from people 😂
Thank you for letting me know its okay to be angry, grumpy , etc. at times !! I've been feeling guilty that I'm not always upbeat, positive, optimistic, and always seeing good in everyone. I think I'm related to your daughter !!
Traveled on the " non-attachment" path for many years with the state of denial it can engender. I have been growing out of that and recently with all the new light shuffling old records there is much irritation to handle, so thank you again for all the practical teachings. And thank you also for your very Sweet Cheerfulness, love your laughter🙏💗🙏
Love this I I am being sincere. I was a people pleaser for so many decades then flipped and have become so frustrated and angry. I am now checking-in with my Team: Guides, Angels, Speakers like you, Heroes and Spiritual Masters. I really got a lot out of this video as you made it so much easier to understand with my crazy analytical Gemini/ Scorpio/Leo Mind! Thank you Nancy 🙏🏼💖🫶🏼🌟🤗✨
Fantastic subject. I spent a lot of years in a state of positive thinking yet was deeply unhappy, lol! I also went all day without food & water, always seen the good in everyone made excuses for other people's bad behaviour towards me. Now I'm a grounded realist and give myself permission to feel, be and do what I am in each moment, yet I still need to be aware of what I'm experiencing and allow myself to be ok with that. Breathwork & bodywork really helped me, most times after breathwork I'd be starving! Talking to the body and allowing either parts of the body or the whole body to talk unsensored is an incredible healing experience. Also using breathwork to breathe into your anger with an experienced breathwork therapist is very powerful as well as healing. The first time I had such a breathe left me in a space of peace for months!
I listened to a book "When the body says no" and it addresses being too nice and how it can negatively effect the body. It said that especially with MS and Parkinson that everyone who is effected by it is SO nice! Great book 😊
Omg, thank you! I almost ordered that a few months ago when it popped up. I just had an issue at work for "being too nice," when I didn't even think I was! Now I will order that book.
@momofairy9267 I just did a class yesterday for somatic breathing. The release I received was profound. I have been feeling stuck in my meditation and feel this will help with that and releasing the trauma in my body that I have pushed down for too many years 😕
In about 2006, by the release of the book The Secret, especially women became obsessed about thinking positive at all times. I saw how this old ancient esoteric principle was converted into a cheap superficial idea that became the law of attraction, which was making everyone hesitant to paying attention to civic affairs and the news at a time when it was essential to do so. Some writer said, I don’t remember who, said this was a PsyOp to make Americans veer away from reality and not pay attention to what was happening and that group was targeting the “spiritual community.” It’s interesting that a presidential nominee came out of this by first testing it by going into a UFO conference and saying he might run for president. The spiritual community now we see, were targeted. And still I don’t think people know. Regardless of its origins I’m glad people are waking up and hopefully becoming more grounded. It’s sad it has to be this way. I really hope we are all very clear by the time election comes in November. Thank you, Nancy.
I never liked that book. It was far too twee for me and I can see why now. I think many fell for this along with a lot of other spiritual nonsense. I live far enough to Glastonbury that a few visits there put things into perspective along with a course I attended that was a year long with four weekends away. Spiritual my ass. I have never seen so many people projecting and bypassing. It was more like being on a twelve step for recovering woo woos and I was disillusioned for a long time. There are still those groups and teachers out there probably making a small fortune off of disillusioned people looking for answers. It’s become a huge industry.
eons of suppression of women who were expected to be quiet/subservient... Recent planetary alignments = healing of the feminine, in women + men...BRING IT ON...about time!!!! 🙏🙏🙏
YES ! seeing the good in a friend for 55 years , and she betrayed me . I gave and gave and gave , because she also played the victim .. Others after this happened said , they could see her , manipulation to gain for her own selfish needs in this relationship .. I guess I enabled it, by not accepting it .
….”A coping mechanism so nobody can get mad at you.” WOW! Thank you Nancy’s teacher and Nancy for sharing this because my sister is a realist in the same way your daughter spoke to you showing real human emotions instead of sugar coating life and pushing it back at people with a disconnect false optimism.
Very helpful...I had a pattern of being disappointed in my 3D self...when "negative" emotions or illness comes about. I see the importance of accepting, feeling, allowing my body to be. To acknowledge it and honor it. This turned into a meditation on healing my womanhood. Thankful for you and this community. ❤❤❤
This is a brilliant video packed with so many lessons, especially how you learned to work with your body and vowed to keep it safe. I've learned over the years that my dear body actually holds many keys to my healing, because lifelong emotions have coalesced there. And that's exactly where I need to focus in order to feel what's there completely and let it finally release. You so well describe the processes that are at play here - boundaries, disconnecting from the body, repressing emotions, pretending to be Pollyana, etc. (I remember the Disney movie - I actually received a Pollyana doll as a child.) So, thank you for this dissection of Positive Thinking. By the way, I'm NOT a Pollyana - life has taught me the down side of that & I continue to refine how I listen and respond to the storms that arise. These days I often quote the line from Maya Angelou's beautiful poem: "And Still I Rise." Namaste
Thank you dearest Nancy, I resonate with some of those aspects of being Pollyanarish 😆 but over the years since I've been actively on my spiritual path, I've learned & still learning how to navigate my feelings & going with how I feel at any given time. Finding the balance in my life through meditation being out in nature, connecting with my guides & teachers, having a good laugh with my loved ones, journaling & ofcourse connecting with beautiful souls like yourself, helps me stay positive & uplifted. So if I do have periods where I feel irritated or angry, I will deal with it by being alone & processing the reason & doing my forgiveness work, being a student of ACIM is helping me tremendously in navigating my feelings, knowing that it ok to be angry as long as the feeling is processed & not stuffed down within. On the whole I am still positive & enjoy being that way, My friends tell me that I cheer them up & that's what I love to do. Once again many thanks for beloved time in helping us stay uplifted. 💙💙💖💖🙏 🌹🌹
this film was the start of my journey,-as a child whose mum had car accident where she lost her mind + I became a carer up until few years ago. The film, kind of carried me all these years.
Thank you! 🙏 I’ve certainly been shamed for not being positive enough in recent times. A lot of people can’t deal with ‘real’ feelings yet. It’s too ‘shameful’, too hard… That would mean unpacking and facing why. It’s also truly sad having real issues diminished by people with ‘false optimism’. I’m so grateful I can feel anger, alerting me to issues in my life and in this life. Thanks for putting words to this important topic 🙏💜
Thank you Nancy, it is just the right moment for me to listen to this talk. And you speak so beautiful about it. Greetings, Christina from the Netherlands ❤
Wow did I need this eye opener it's been me trying to fix everything and everybody and be positive all the time is exhausting I just need to be whatever I am going through happy angry sad whatever it is just be genuine and love myself and go through life fearlessly.
Thank you Nancy! This is a very under acknowledged topic and I deeply appreciate your self awareness and willingness to because and truthful about your own experience!
Very amazing share.... So happy you discovered this for yourself and then able to share such an important issue for all of us. Loved listening to you here.... Thanks a lot.
💚agreed - just from my humble perspective, it was attending a decent therapy, developing a daily practice of a decent meditation and other stabilising techniques, that helped me to develop a , secure sense of trusting my gut instinct and discernment, that was a more realistic take on my life, and supported me to take responsibility for whatever i experience in my life.💚
Thank you for a great video on a very pertinent topic. IFS (Internal family Systems) is very good in encouraging finding and dialoguing with those various 'parts' (e.g. the 'angry' part) within that we all have and understanding their points of view and how and why they came about, rather than further suppressing or admonishing them. As Gabor Mate says, when we don't say 'no', our bodies will say it for us. I call it 'terminal optimism'.
I just love your topics Nancy. All things in moderation and when things go wrong it is a test to the response mechanism. It's okay to shrug the shoulders and show dismay but also stop, pause and pause... all things in moderation. Anger can propel you out of depression. I was married to one of those unrealistic optomisism. It is annoying and have had to tell him, please be real... Real you and feel the real. I think an over possitive person is opperating out of fear and in a habitual pattern and in a bubble. Yes be in joy always, but don't over do it. All things in moderation and be ReAl.
This is an incredibly important video, Nancy! Work around accepting body whispers as an avenue to get in touch with intuition is the biggest part of my work. When people don't listen, they get sick or get weird accidents and crisis. Thank you for sharing it ❤
"We're not really nice" is one of the clear message I have received. It shocked me at first, but it sure was empowering. Moving forward I will revel in neutral curiosity/ detached benevolence. I have love for all but I don't need to like everything
Thank you for sharing this. I support my clients with this daily - it’s one of the hardest things for most people the be with, there is a story that happiness is ONLY rainbows and unicorns. I also am a work in progress, I am learning to be more joyful, and playful , I really didn’t have much connection to my body either. ❤️
Dear Nancy how I grow and learn I recognised our natural state is joy and we should not mix it with the expression happiness. Being authentic is expessing our emotions and work with them for the higher good. There is a persona me ..with the triggers..connected to past events..but thats not the real us..our authentic self higher self is able to see clearly the things for what they are..can see true lies..and stay neutral..neutral does not mean not having boundaries but having compassion without taking up other peoples stuff..being in higher vibration of joy ,, happiness has nothing to do with fake optimism..it has to do with knowing the truth and making choices moment by moment for our highest good..staying ,, standing ,, in trust in ourself that whatever comes we will be able to manage and we have the loving support from our higher team and ancestors. / fake happiness masks have nothing to do with optimism..fake joy cant be really expressed because our vibration is louder then our words or actions .. this is what I wanted to share. blessings
Reminds me of a Zen Koan.... Bankei's Miracle -------------------------- When Bankei was preaching at Ryumon temple, a Shinshu priest, who believed in salvation through the repitition of the name of the Buddha of Love, was jealous of his large audience and wanted to debate with him. Bankei was in the midst of a talk when the priest appeared, but the fellow made such a disturbance that bankei stopped his discourse and asked about the noise. “The founder of our sect,” boasted the priest, “had such miraculous powers that he held a brush in his hand on one bank of the river, his attendant held up a paper on the other bank, and the teacher wrote the holy name of Amida through the air. Can you do such a wonderful thing?” Bankei replied lightly: “Perhaps your fox can perform that trick, but that is not the manner of Zen. My miracle is that when I feel hungry I eat, and when I feel thirsty I drink.”
I think there's another side to the kindness movement as well. Some folks are mean/abusive & don't deserve kindness & in that case one can be neutral rather than nicey-nice or mean. Stuffing anger isn't healthy & can cause physical body distress. Denial is a huge factor & many are taught to sweep anything unpleasant under the rug @ all costs. It's really about balance on a continuum.
Thanks Nancy, I enjoyed this video and also admire your willingness to be consistently vulnerable. However please tell me that you are not still be watching the evenings news? Love to you and all
This was a great topic - thank you for covering. I’ve struggled with stuffing my emotions (gotten better over last 5 years), and naturally, I’m seeing my pre-teen daughter stuffing, especially anger. Ugh. How do I help her in a healthy way?
Here is a video I did a few years on emotions that you might enjoy. th-cam.com/video/wp6gVVmLovQ/w-d-xo.html As far as your teen daughter meditation is great if she is willing to do it but if not finding other creative or physical outlets is a great way to release energy.
I do feel I've forgotten how to laugh, a proper belly laugh. I'm not sure what joy is anymore. I do think a lot was 'forgotten' when my husband died 33 years ago. We use to play, laugh so much it could be heard by the neighbours! After he died I 'discovered' education study university career development. Life became serious, boring. Very rarely will I laugh like those times, really is once every few years.
I’m definitely not a Pollyanna, more a realist. I do however have a knowing about what is going on and know it’s all going to work out. Be the observer, don’t join in the drama, however!…….. Yesterday my car broke down and recovery came and due to where I broke down they had to block the gate to an allotment. Most people were lovely and understood but two people were rude and abusive to the recovery man because they had to wait a few minutes whilst he backed up his vehicle. I definitely did not send love and light, in fact I told both of them to stop being abusive and to get back into their cars and wait, which they did. Must be my authoritative voice. Spiritual or not I am not going to be a doormat, or let my recovery man be abused by rude, uncaring people. I was showing them how to be sovereign and not take abuse from anyone. 😂😂😂😂😂
As a realist it might be advisable to take 'abuse' from someone if they happen to be pointing the upper hand at you.Depends on how much you fancy your chances and the sum total of the consequences.There's not much big advice that will work for everyone in every situation.Circumstances alter cases in my opinion
Are you a water sign? Isn’t there a theory that water sees the best potential. I’ve been wondering if there is a connection in why I keep seeing the best in others and being a water sign.
Thank you, Nancy! Very interesting and compelling. For me, I have lately been feeling the need to feel, and listen to, my body even more. Recognizing that it is giving me information about a situation… The more we learn to take care of our bodies, we take care of ourselves, including our soul and spirit. For example, If our body tells us it is tired, it is time to “renew” and to listen, perhaps meditate, retreat for even a few minutes - and (hopefully) NOT to jack one’s self up on coffee. 🤣 Our bodies are our gateway to our intuition. The more we listen, the stronger the “muscle” becomes. I am a caregiver to my father 24 x 7… at first I chastised myself if ever I felt “short of patience” with him. Then I realized it was MY cue to take care of my self. Last night I simply took a shower. This simple act fortified me enough to return to the room and answer the same question for the 50th time (not exaggerating 🤣). Usually it is no problem to do so cheerfully. When I do not feel cheerful, then I know I need to take care of myself - and I’m getting better at doing so! I hope that this missive is helpful for others who can benefit from some additional self-care and who will further recognize the benefit of listening to their body. It truly is a key indicator as to when we need to self-care. Conversely, if there’s something that makes you feel really good then I hope you will do more of it! What brings you joy is a good thing to do… I believe we feel that joy in our bodies… our hearts and souls and even down to our feet and toes. The wisdom of our bodies! THANK YOU, Nancy! Another insightful and invaluable video! Much love and levity to ALL! ❤❤🤩
balance your thoughts, overly positive will trigger the downfall, its not healthy. you must create wisdom, not overly one or another. Deeper understanding is not created by focusing on duality in the head. the head is based on Ego, and the heart must be involved. And our lesson is compassion. people that are overly positive are very irritating really, delusional about what is good or bad. Dont call the negative as if it were "your body" its you, your body is you, just as much as your thoughts our mental state. We live through our body. but dont identify with one or the other. Detach and acknowledge at the same time. And dont get judgemental.
Thank you Nancy 🩷, I was a real Pollyanna i😅 and I just loved your video , very eye opening for me , especially the part about being nice and optimistic to be loved and not have anybody angry at me 😉but I can say that I’m better and more conscious of it .
when you said being so nice and so positive is a coping mechanism so nobody can get mad at you -made my jaw drop. I've been going around pondering that one all day. I checked myself out doing that VERY thing today and it stopped me in my tracks. Now I can't unhear it!
This is amazing! Yesterday I was feeling everything that you covered, always trying to be positive, but really feeling super grumpy. I was even writing about Eeyore in a weekly email that I send out. Then I saw your video, listened to it and it's like you gave me permission to allow myself to FEEL all of my frustration and anger. I vented and got it all out and wow, do I ever feel better today. Thank you Nancy! What a timely gift. 🥰
Loved your podcast on Perfection dear Nancy . I think it has caused a paradigm shift, feel totally let off the hook !!
This will be the same l feel 🙏🏻❤️ Thankyou xx
Great advice, so much rings true with me!! I often express rage and tears when I’m driving alone in my car(not road rage) just a safe space where I can scream, cry, growl etc.
Thank You for throwing yourself under the bus again Nancy! I knew there was a reason I kept avoiding this video. I am in the midst of learning to feel and respond to my precious body❤own it and claim my space in this beautiful life. I might be a life-long student. I am always told I am so nice. Again thank you
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I am a Pollyanna, for sure. You know when you read an important book and the information is so transformational, or is meant to facilitate a shift for you, that you have to read and re-read each sentence as you go through it? This video was like that for me. I've gotten some of this feedback from my children, friends and teachers (you are too nice), and in being too nice, I've been an obstacle of sorts to some on their own path. I'm not sure how to word that. But, thank you for putting all of these truths together so mindfully. Humbling. Thank you.
Beautifully said. Thank you!
Very well needed video! All those unexpressed angry emotions end up burying themselves deep into the body creating cancer and a variety of autoimmune disorders. So important to acknowledge how you are truly feeling before trying to change any thinking pattern.
Loved this! I used to live outside my body, and my life changed when I got in touch with my body and all the angry parts! I felt so sad for myself and all the dishonoring I did towards myself for all those years.
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My favourite T Shirt I saw on the Internet said …. 2018 stay away from negative people, 2019 stay away from positive people, 2020 stay away from people 😂
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yup!!!...only do little ones/nature/animals...😁
I seem to still get involved with people, look at Nancy she is a God send 😍, I have just learnt better boundaries . 🙏🏋️♂️
I love your chats, thank you Nancy for your openness and authenticity💖
You are so welcome
Thank you for letting me know its okay to be angry, grumpy , etc. at times !! I've been feeling guilty that I'm not always upbeat, positive, optimistic, and always seeing good in everyone. I think I'm related to your daughter !!
Traveled on the " non-attachment" path for many years with the state of denial it can engender. I have been growing out of that and recently with all the new light shuffling old records there is much irritation to handle, so thank you again for all the practical teachings. And thank you also for your very Sweet Cheerfulness, love your laughter🙏💗🙏
Love this I I am being sincere. I was a people pleaser for so many decades then flipped and have become so frustrated and angry. I am now checking-in with my Team: Guides, Angels, Speakers like you, Heroes and Spiritual Masters. I really got a lot out of this video as you made it so much easier to understand with my crazy analytical Gemini/ Scorpio/Leo Mind! Thank you Nancy 🙏🏼💖🫶🏼🌟🤗✨
Fantastic subject. I spent a lot of years in a state of positive thinking yet was deeply unhappy, lol! I also went all day without food & water, always seen the good in everyone made excuses for other people's bad behaviour towards me. Now I'm a grounded realist and give myself permission to feel, be and do what I am in each moment, yet I still need to be aware of what I'm experiencing and allow myself to be ok with that. Breathwork & bodywork really helped me, most times after breathwork I'd be starving! Talking to the body and allowing either parts of the body or the whole body to talk unsensored is an incredible healing experience. Also using breathwork to breathe into your anger with an experienced breathwork therapist is very powerful as well as healing. The first time I had such a breathe left me in a space of peace for months!
yup,yup, yup!!!! mantras/music with breathwork + qi gong/yoga....gardening.....playing with little ones
I listened to a book "When the body says no" and it addresses being too nice and how it can negatively effect the body. It said that especially with MS and Parkinson that everyone who is effected by it is SO nice! Great book 😊
yes, both parents with parkinsons - me=was heading that way, with fibromyalgia
Omg, thank you! I almost ordered that a few months ago when it popped up. I just had an issue at work for "being too nice," when I didn't even think I was! Now I will order that book.
@momofairy9267 I just did a class yesterday for somatic breathing. The release I received was profound. I have been feeling stuck in my meditation and feel this will help with that and releasing the trauma in my body that I have pushed down for too many years 😕
So special. Thanks Nancy. I used to see the spirit and not the personality which got me into trouble. 😂 we live and learn. I love ur energy ❤
In about 2006, by the release of the book The Secret, especially women became obsessed about thinking positive at all times. I saw how this old ancient esoteric principle was converted into a cheap superficial idea that became the law of attraction, which was making everyone hesitant to paying attention to civic affairs and the news at a time when it was essential to do so. Some writer said, I don’t remember who, said this was a PsyOp to make Americans veer away from reality and not pay attention to what was happening and that group was targeting the “spiritual community.” It’s interesting that a presidential nominee came out of this by first testing it by going into a UFO conference and saying he might run for president. The spiritual community now we see, were targeted. And still I don’t think people know.
Regardless of its origins I’m glad people are waking up and hopefully becoming more grounded. It’s sad it has to be this way. I really hope we are all very clear by the time election comes in November. Thank you, Nancy.
I never liked that book. It was far too twee for me and I can see why now. I think many fell for this along with a lot of other spiritual nonsense. I live far enough to Glastonbury that a few visits there put things into perspective along with a course I attended that was a year long with four weekends away. Spiritual my ass. I have never seen so many people projecting and bypassing. It was more like being on a twelve step for recovering woo woos and I was disillusioned for a long time. There are still those groups and teachers out there probably making a small fortune off of disillusioned people looking for answers. It’s become a huge industry.
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eons of suppression of women who were expected to be quiet/subservient... Recent planetary alignments = healing of the feminine, in women + men...BRING IT ON...about time!!!! 🙏🙏🙏
THANK YOU! That needed to be said! I have always felt this about that book & that group. Aargh!
YES ! seeing the good in a friend for 55 years , and she betrayed me . I gave and gave and gave , because she also played the victim .. Others after this happened said , they could see her , manipulation to gain for her own selfish needs in this relationship .. I guess I enabled it, by not accepting it .
Same here.
….”A coping mechanism so nobody can get mad at you.” WOW! Thank you Nancy’s teacher and Nancy for sharing this because my sister is a realist in the same way your daughter spoke to you showing real human emotions instead of sugar coating life and pushing it back at people with a disconnect false optimism.
Very helpful...I had a pattern of being disappointed in my 3D self...when "negative" emotions or illness comes about. I see the importance of accepting, feeling, allowing my body to be. To acknowledge it and honor it. This turned into a meditation on healing my womanhood. Thankful for you and this community. ❤❤❤
This is a brilliant video packed with so many lessons, especially how you learned to work with your body and vowed to keep it safe. I've learned over the years that my dear body actually holds many keys to my healing, because lifelong emotions have coalesced there. And that's exactly where I need to focus in order to feel what's there completely and let it finally release. You so well describe the processes that are at play here - boundaries, disconnecting from the body, repressing emotions, pretending to be Pollyana, etc. (I remember the Disney movie - I actually received a Pollyana doll as a child.) So, thank you for this dissection of Positive Thinking. By the way, I'm NOT a Pollyana - life has taught me the down side of that & I continue to refine how I listen and respond to the storms that arise. These days I often quote the line from Maya Angelou's beautiful poem: "And Still I Rise." Namaste
Ugh. Me. Me. Stomped on, betrayed repeatedly, thrown under the bus, used and abused. Thank you for giving the tips...
Thank you dearest Nancy, I resonate with some of those aspects of being Pollyanarish 😆 but over the years since I've been actively on my spiritual path, I've learned & still learning how to navigate my feelings & going with how I feel at any given time. Finding the balance in my life through meditation being out in nature, connecting with my guides & teachers, having a good laugh with my loved ones, journaling & ofcourse connecting with beautiful souls like yourself, helps me stay positive & uplifted. So if I do have periods where I feel irritated or angry, I will deal with it by being alone & processing the reason & doing my forgiveness work, being a student of ACIM is helping me tremendously in navigating my feelings, knowing that it ok to be angry as long as the feeling is processed & not stuffed down within. On the whole I am still positive & enjoy being that way, My friends tell me that I cheer them up & that's what I love to do. Once again many thanks for beloved time in helping us stay uplifted. 💙💙💖💖🙏 🌹🌹
The Disney movie from the 60s with Haley Mills and Jane Wyman entitled Pollyanna is where the term originated!
this film was the start of my journey,-as a child whose mum had car accident where she lost her mind + I became a carer up until few years ago. The film, kind of carried me all these years.
Brilliant Brilliant Brilliant 🎉❤
Thank you, Nancy, for being so honest!
Nancy I sincerely appreciate your wisdom 🙏🏼
I thought it came from the The Collective !?!
Hahaha Its resonate really so very much for me 😅👌❤️🙏☀️
That was awesome Nancy ❤️🎶👌🙏
This explains my sugar addiction! Constantly pouring the sugar bowl over my emotions. Thank you so much for this insight 🙏
Thank you! 🙏 I’ve certainly been shamed for not being positive enough in recent times. A lot of people can’t deal with ‘real’ feelings yet. It’s too ‘shameful’, too hard… That would mean unpacking and facing why. It’s also truly sad having real issues diminished by people with ‘false optimism’. I’m so grateful I can feel anger, alerting me to issues in my life and in this life. Thanks for putting words to this important topic 🙏💜
You are so welcome
Dear Nancy, you always make me smile, at myself, you are a good mirror for me 🙏💚🙏
Wow, thank you
This is an “AWESOME TOPIC”…!!
I Love your Aquarian Honesty!!
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I can totally relate to this vlog. It’s like therapy 💙🙏
Thank you Nancy, it is just the right moment for me to listen to this talk. And you speak so beautiful about it. Greetings, Christina from the Netherlands ❤
Wow did I need this eye opener it's been me trying to fix everything and everybody and be positive all the time is exhausting I just need to be whatever I am going through happy angry sad whatever it is just be genuine and love myself and go through life fearlessly.
Thankyou Nancy. This was so apt today ❤xx
Malignant optimist--love this phrase. Makes me do a double take: am I balancing realistically? Coping mech for sure.
Thank you Nancy! This is a very under acknowledged topic and I deeply appreciate your self awareness and willingness to because and truthful about your own experience!
Very amazing share.... So happy you discovered this for yourself and then able to share such an important issue for all of us. Loved listening to you here.... Thanks a lot.
You are so welcome!
Wow, this was a wonderful video. I got so much out of it. Thank you, thank you. You are amazing.
Dear Nancy, thank you for being so open and honest! 🙏💓🙏💓🙏💓
I really like the way you explain this. Very clear and thought.
💚agreed - just from my humble perspective, it was attending a decent therapy, developing a daily practice of a decent meditation and other stabilising techniques, that helped me to develop a , secure sense of trusting my gut instinct and discernment, that was a more realistic take on my life, and supported me to take responsibility for whatever i experience in my life.💚
Thank you for a great video on a very pertinent topic. IFS (Internal family Systems) is very good in encouraging finding and dialoguing with those various 'parts' (e.g. the 'angry' part) within that we all have and understanding their points of view and how and why they came about, rather than further suppressing or admonishing them. As Gabor Mate says, when we don't say 'no', our bodies will say it for us. I call it 'terminal optimism'.
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wow thank you for this laugh today ❤
I just love your topics Nancy. All things in moderation and when things go wrong it is a test to the response mechanism. It's okay to shrug the shoulders and show dismay but also stop, pause and pause... all things in moderation. Anger can propel you out of depression. I was married to one of those unrealistic optomisism. It is annoying and have had to tell him, please be real... Real you and feel the real. I think an over possitive person is opperating out of fear and in a habitual pattern and in a bubble. Yes be in joy always, but don't over do it. All things in moderation and be ReAl.
Thank you for sharing.
Thatnk you, so tired the moment that thinkingvpositive to create your wonderful reality -- only seeing one side of Apollo. Let's have yin and yang!
This is an incredibly important video, Nancy! Work around accepting body whispers as an avenue to get in touch with intuition is the biggest part of my work. When people don't listen, they get sick or get weird accidents and crisis. Thank you for sharing it ❤
Beautiful message! Thank you for sharing it.
Feeling a bit gobsmacked from my little bubble of positivity 🙃
Thank you Nancy! 💗🙏🏻
What a great heart-felt discussion. It's something no one talks about. What a gem I got so much from this. Thanks Nancy! xo
"We're not really nice" is one of the clear message I have received. It shocked me at first, but it sure was empowering. Moving forward I will revel in neutral curiosity/ detached benevolence. I have love for all but I don't need to like everything
Thank you for sharing this. Everything you talked about resonated deeply.
Me! You described me.
Wow, good video. Thank you Nancy
I love this. Thank you!
Can we form a support group for Pollyannas? ❤
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Thank you for sharing this. I support my clients with this daily - it’s one of the hardest things for most people the be with, there is a story that happiness is ONLY rainbows and unicorns. I also am a work in progress, I am learning to be more joyful, and playful , I really didn’t have much connection to my body either. ❤️
Thanks for sharing!!
Dear Nancy how I grow and learn I recognised our natural state is joy and we should not mix it with the expression happiness. Being authentic is expessing our emotions and work with them for the higher good. There is a persona me ..with the triggers..connected to past events..but thats not the real us..our authentic self higher self is able to see clearly the things for what they are..can see true lies..and stay neutral..neutral does not mean not having boundaries but having compassion without taking up other peoples stuff..being in higher vibration of joy ,, happiness has nothing to do with fake optimism..it has to do with knowing the truth and making choices moment by moment for our highest good..staying ,, standing ,, in trust in ourself that whatever comes we will be able to manage and we have the loving support from our higher team and ancestors. / fake happiness masks have nothing to do with optimism..fake joy cant be really expressed because our vibration is louder then our words or actions .. this is what I wanted to share. blessings
I have irrepressible optimism often times too much so for my husband and children! 😅
Reminds me of a Zen Koan....
Bankei's Miracle
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When Bankei was preaching at Ryumon temple, a Shinshu priest, who believed in salvation through the repitition of the name of the Buddha of Love, was jealous of his large audience and wanted to debate with him.
Bankei was in the midst of a talk when the priest appeared, but the fellow made such a disturbance that bankei stopped his discourse and asked about the noise.
“The founder of our sect,” boasted the priest, “had such miraculous powers that he held a brush in his hand on one bank of the river, his attendant held up a paper on the other bank, and the teacher wrote the holy name of Amida through the air. Can you do such a wonderful thing?”
Bankei replied lightly: “Perhaps your fox can perform that trick, but that is not the manner of Zen. My miracle is that when I feel hungry I eat, and when I feel thirsty I drink.”
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I think there's another side to the kindness movement as well. Some folks are mean/abusive & don't deserve kindness & in that case one can be neutral rather than nicey-nice or mean. Stuffing anger isn't healthy & can cause physical body distress. Denial is a huge factor & many are taught to sweep anything unpleasant under the rug @ all costs. It's really about balance on a continuum.
Thanks Nancy, I enjoyed this video and also admire your willingness to be consistently vulnerable. However please tell me that you are not still be watching the evenings news? Love to you and all
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This is an important discussion. Can we keep it going a bit more if there is more to share?
I am not every time , i am feeling so much i am angry, sade and i dont need that again. I really lost my energy. ❤
Pollyanna-ism runs rampant through the Spiritual Bypassing circles ⚪️⚫️
This was a great topic - thank you for covering. I’ve struggled with stuffing my emotions (gotten better over last 5 years), and naturally, I’m seeing my pre-teen daughter stuffing, especially anger. Ugh. How do I help her in a healthy way?
Here is a video I did a few years on emotions that you might enjoy. th-cam.com/video/wp6gVVmLovQ/w-d-xo.html As far as your teen daughter meditation is great if she is willing to do it but if not finding other creative or physical outlets is a great way to release energy.
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Its always darkest in the middle of the night😂Be a pessimist.You'll never be disappionted again
Hummm some people don t like positive people!!!i have a few around!!! If I am going to have an attitude I prefer to have a good one!!!❤
I do feel I've forgotten how to laugh, a proper belly laugh. I'm not sure what joy is anymore.
I do think a lot was 'forgotten' when my husband died 33 years ago. We use to play, laugh so much it could be heard by the neighbours! After he died I 'discovered' education study university career development. Life became serious, boring. Very rarely will I laugh like those times, really is once every few years.
I’m definitely not a Pollyanna, more a realist. I do however have a knowing about what is going on and know it’s all going to work out. Be the observer, don’t join in the drama, however!……..
Yesterday my car broke down and recovery came and due to where I broke down they had to block the gate to an allotment. Most people were lovely and understood but two people were rude and abusive to the recovery man because they had to wait a few minutes whilst he backed up his vehicle. I definitely did not send love and light, in fact I told both of them to stop being abusive and to get back into their cars and wait, which they did. Must be my authoritative voice. Spiritual or not I am not going to be a doormat, or let my recovery man be abused by rude, uncaring people. I was showing them how to be sovereign and not take abuse from anyone. 😂😂😂😂😂
As a realist it might be advisable to take 'abuse' from someone if they happen to be pointing the upper hand at you.Depends on how much you fancy your chances and the sum total of the consequences.There's not much big advice that will work for everyone in every situation.Circumstances alter cases in my opinion
And I often say Why did I come to this earth? Lol
It didn’t make sense to me
Are you a water sign? Isn’t there a theory that water sees the best potential. I’ve been wondering if there is a connection in why I keep seeing the best in others and being a water sign.
I am an aquarius. Water signs are connected to emotions so that might be why you see the best in others.
@@nancyrebecca thank you for all you do
i wonder if Eeyore had a thyroid issue:}
@jest_me_thee 😂 🤔 🧐
Haemorrhoids? ;-)
😂 probably he did!! 😄
Thank you, Nancy! Very interesting and compelling. For me, I have lately been feeling the need to feel, and listen to, my body even more. Recognizing that it is giving me information about a situation… The more we learn to take care of our bodies, we take care of ourselves, including our soul and spirit. For example, If our body tells us it is tired, it is time to “renew” and to listen, perhaps meditate, retreat for even a few minutes - and (hopefully) NOT to jack one’s self up on coffee. 🤣
Our bodies are our gateway to our intuition. The more we listen, the stronger the “muscle” becomes.
I am a caregiver to my father 24 x 7… at first I chastised myself if ever I felt “short of patience” with him. Then I realized it was MY cue to take care of my self. Last night I simply took a shower. This simple act fortified me enough to return to the room and answer the same question for the 50th time (not exaggerating 🤣). Usually it is no problem to do so cheerfully. When I do not feel cheerful, then I know I need to take care of myself - and I’m getting better at doing so! I hope that this missive is helpful for others who can benefit from some additional self-care and who will further recognize the benefit of listening to their body. It truly is a key indicator as to when we need to self-care. Conversely, if there’s something that makes you feel really good then I hope you will do more of it! What brings you joy is a good thing to do… I believe we feel that joy in our bodies… our hearts and souls and even down to our feet and toes. The wisdom of our bodies! THANK YOU, Nancy! Another insightful and invaluable video!
Much love and levity to ALL! ❤❤🤩
Thank you for sharing.
balance your thoughts, overly positive will trigger the downfall, its not healthy. you must create wisdom, not overly one or another. Deeper understanding is not created by focusing on duality in the head. the head is based on Ego, and the heart must be involved. And our lesson is compassion. people that are overly positive are very irritating really, delusional about what is good or bad. Dont call the negative as if it were "your body" its you, your body is you, just as much as your thoughts our mental state. We live through our body. but dont identify with one or the other. Detach and acknowledge at the same time. And dont get judgemental.
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One of the annoyed! Hahaha alternately jealous and afraid the rest of us are doomed! Haha
Tried sugar coating negative feelings and thoughts - they came back with a vengeance... 👿
I don't recommend it...
God no. I'm the pessimist and could use a little opti.
Your plant looks like a face with a bad hair cut. 😂
Thank you Nancy 🩷, I was a real Pollyanna i😅 and I just loved your video , very eye opening for me , especially the part about being nice and optimistic to be loved and not have anybody angry at me 😉but I can say that I’m better and more conscious of it .
Glad it was helpful!
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