I’ve been saying this for years and always got strange looks and pushback. Even from family. Dating is a modern idea/experiment. It has failed miserably.
@@jadonmuller1576 If you are an adult, just be friends without further expectations. It will naturally develop. If you are a teen, focus on school. I allow my daughters to have friends that are boys. Allowing a child (teens are children) to make an exclusive relationship commitment to another child is absurd. We won’t let them drive until they are 16, vote until they are 18, rent a car until they are 25, why on earth would we allow them to pledge their life to another emotionally immature human?
@@Adrenalean767 that isn’t what I said. I said “we” as in societal standards, recognizes that with age comes more maturity to handle more mature experiences but then they think dating us ok at 13 or 14. And of course it depends on the person. I’ve told my daughter that if she is mature enough, there is nothing wrong with marriage at 18.
Saw this on Tikotok and facebook reels.. THE FULL interview or the full video is much more truthful and fruitful.. kings and queens are these people... May it be that there are more of these people.. 👑👑👑👑👑👑❤❤❤❤
this is the absolute reality, my ex decided that we need to divorce when things got hard for us as we made to kids and now we are a broken family with 2 little kids and she jumped straightaway in someone's bed, not even a month after we decided to divorce .At the beginning i thought i was losing the love of my life but slowly I'm starting to realise that her not wanting to work on our relation is the best thing, this is what she has done with every relation she had in the past, jump out when it got hard.
Another reason divorce is so high is because of the teachings of people like Toure Roberts and Sarah Jakes, where they’re saying if you “feel he/she wasn’t really the ‘one’, it’s fine to divorce.” Because purportedly it wasn’t God who joined the two together. So basically, a get out of marriage free card for any Christian that wants a divorce, at any time.
There’s too many variables to dive into to fully null and void this conversation. It came up on my IG feed, and instantly I was like… No. This is from a Christian thought process, so I understand the short sighted thought on the matter, being a former believer. One issue is, he literally advocated for the type of dating he’s against. He gave no way to happen upon this dateless dating without seeing if this is right, accept for saying that god looks at the heart. So… You want me to not date. Pray. Trust. Believe. And allow god to navigate the relationship, once found. This is what I get from this… No blood. THAT, is what’s causing divorce. The only people falling for this nonsense are believers. 25% of Christian’s get a divorce. Only roughly 2% of Atheist get a divorce. Albeit far less Atheist even marry. Which shows that marriage is a religious construct now, versus a business transaction, like it use to be.
i think dating is necessary. because if you marry a toxic person it leads to divorce anyways. especially if you disagree with them in sex life and intimacy. at that point its not dating but if you been with each other long enough you will realize if you are using each other for sex or growing together. people are considered dumb for marrying someone less than a year within meeting each other and even dumber if they divorced soon after. i think dating always existed but the pheonomenon was just given a term later down the road. it is necessary to see if you are willing to commit to someone before setting the relationship in stone. remember the bible also states the devil comes in many forms. also eve chose to follow the snakes word over god and adams word and she ate the fruit. with that instance in mind she was misleaded, so judgement needs time time flourish before commiting.
Yes get to know someone is necessary, but like he said doing it the right way. Sex should be saved for marriage. Knowing his family or her family tells you a lot. I I learned a lot seeing how my father in law treated his wife, I knew God sent the right man.
Isn't it better to fast and pray? God knows the person better than you, so why not ask Him? You can never know a person because they can and will change in the future, let's humble ourselves and ask God. Dating has resulted in a high divorce rate.
I disagree on the divorce rate is the same as the world. Barna, did a study on this and found it to be only 15%. I've been a preacher for over 30 years. I've only seen about 8 divorces were both the husband and the wife were committed Christians. (In my mind, at least attending services 90% of the time) In those years of ministry, I only do Christian weddings.... meaning both are Christian dedicated. I do at least 6-8 pre-marital counseling classes. I've not had any divorces of whom I've married. Now there were a few couples I refused to marry because they were not ready or compatible. I know one of those went off and got married anyway... were divorced in a year.
dating is practicing divorce.....no better explanation can be given....so, the broken record...another issue that one does not teach, completely, the Bible...
or you can follow islam guidance in marriage, we muslim follow Jesus. but it hard to accept if good come from your "enemies" right. sorry to use my free of speech "here".
🤔😂 what are you talking about lol. First of all Muslims are not enemies. Secondly, we already have all the needed wisdom concerning that question of dating. Some christians just have to be more serious and study their Bible.
@@lesmerdesderika129 it is great if you never think Islam and Muslim are your enemies,but unfortunately many Christian nowdays leaving Christian and become atheist and hate all religions and religious people like Muslim. And media and movie always potray Muslim as enemy to Christian people.
be intentional. Focus on the inside, the heart, and most importantly, God. And do this together as a couple and find compatability, chemistry and all the other things that you want in a partner: sense of humor, kindness, family oriented, ambition etc...Instead of having premarital sex off the jump, letting lust and/or money lead the relationship, dating multiple partners at the same time and rinse and repeating.
Great advice. I believe We must also pray before consider courting. Let him lead your steps. It’s good to have someone you can serve God with.
I’ve been saying this for years and always got strange looks and pushback. Even from family. Dating is a modern idea/experiment. It has failed miserably.
I agree put how should I approach a girl the right way then I didn’t get it
@@jadonmuller1576 If you are an adult, just be friends without further expectations. It will naturally develop. If you are a teen, focus on school. I allow my daughters to have friends that are boys. Allowing a child (teens are children) to make an exclusive relationship commitment to another child is absurd. We won’t let them drive until they are 16, vote until they are 18, rent a car until they are 25, why on earth would we allow them to pledge their life to another emotionally immature human?
@@benb7727 so they cant get married until they're last 25.?
@@Adrenalean767 that isn’t what I said. I said “we” as in societal standards, recognizes that with age comes more maturity to handle more mature experiences but then they think dating us ok at 13 or 14. And of course it depends on the person. I’ve told my daughter that if she is mature enough, there is nothing wrong with marriage at 18.
@@benb7727 ahh ok
Saw this on Tikotok and facebook reels.. THE FULL interview or the full video is much more truthful and fruitful.. kings and queens are these people... May it be that there are more of these people.. 👑👑👑👑👑👑❤❤❤❤
I am a Moslem and Pastor Mike is on Point. Awesome sir!
Exactly! I’ve always said this. It’s the same as when couples want to live together and not get married.
You have so much revelation in you. Am glad i get to follow your teachings. Am so much inspired
wow, ive never heard anyone say it like that concerning dating. Thank God for this revelation
this is the absolute reality, my ex decided that we need to divorce when things got hard for us as we made to kids and now we are a broken family with 2 little kids and she jumped straightaway in someone's bed, not even a month after we decided to divorce .At the beginning i thought i was losing the love of my life but slowly I'm starting to realise that her not wanting to work on our relation is the best thing, this is what she has done with every relation she had in the past, jump out when it got hard.
Thanks so much Pastor Mike!!
Pastor Mike is wise beyond his years.
Really loved this discussion!!! So on point 😊
I really liked this better than the 20 second clip I came across
Me too
Even me on Instagram
Well done Pastor Mike🙏😇✅💯
Another reason divorce is so high is because of the teachings of people like Toure Roberts and Sarah Jakes, where they’re saying if you “feel he/she wasn’t really the ‘one’, it’s fine to divorce.” Because purportedly it wasn’t God who joined the two together. So basically, a get out of marriage free card for any Christian that wants a divorce, at any time.
Notice how they are all listening to him, and not trying to talk over him just like in the show The Real 😂
This was so good!
He kick the truth
There’s too many variables to dive into to fully null and void this conversation. It came up on my IG feed, and instantly I was like… No. This is from a Christian thought process, so I understand the short sighted thought on the matter, being a former believer.
One issue is, he literally advocated for the type of dating he’s against. He gave no way to happen upon this dateless dating without seeing if this is right, accept for saying that god looks at the heart.
So… You want me to not date. Pray. Trust. Believe. And allow god to navigate the relationship, once found. This is what I get from this…
No blood. THAT, is what’s causing divorce. The only people falling for this nonsense are believers.
25% of Christian’s get a divorce. Only roughly 2% of Atheist get a divorce. Albeit far less Atheist even marry. Which shows that marriage is a religious construct now, versus a business transaction, like it use to be.
Interesting commentary.
Where will i get this full episode!?
Thank you Tiktok
True,
i think dating is necessary. because if you marry a toxic person it leads to divorce anyways. especially if you disagree with them in sex life and intimacy. at that point its not dating but if you been with each other long enough you will realize if you are using each other for sex or growing together. people are considered dumb for marrying someone less than a year within meeting each other and even dumber if they divorced soon after. i think dating always existed but the pheonomenon was just given a term later down the road. it is necessary to see if you are willing to commit to someone before setting the relationship in stone. remember the bible also states the devil comes in many forms. also eve chose to follow the snakes word over god and adams word and she ate the fruit. with that instance in mind she was misleaded, so judgement needs time time flourish before commiting.
Yes get to know someone is necessary, but like he said doing it the right way. Sex should be saved for marriage. Knowing his family or her family tells you a lot. I I learned a lot seeing how my father in law treated his wife, I knew God sent the right man.
Most often dating means sex
Statistically people who are in arranged marriages last longer than those who date around to find someone.
@@animmigrantperspective3042 that because they have to stay together not be they always want to
Isn't it better to fast and pray? God knows the person better than you, so why not ask Him? You can never know a person because they can and will change in the future, let's humble ourselves and ask God. Dating has resulted in a high divorce rate.
I disagree on the divorce rate is the same as the world. Barna, did a study on this and found it to be only 15%. I've been a preacher for over 30 years. I've only seen about 8 divorces were both the husband and the wife were committed Christians. (In my mind, at least attending services 90% of the time) In those years of ministry, I only do Christian weddings.... meaning both are Christian dedicated. I do at least 6-8 pre-marital counseling classes. I've not had any divorces of whom I've married. Now there were a few couples I refused to marry because they were not ready or compatible. I know one of those went off and got married anyway... were divorced in a year.
Can you speak a little more about this because I was wondering about this topic and divorce rates
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And thus the reason for Islam prohibiting dating in the first place.....
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dating is practicing divorce.....no better explanation can be given....so, the broken record...another issue that one does not teach, completely, the Bible...
So,you have been happily married for 70 years??
Fear /respect God enough to submit to Him in all areas,both the man and woman.
Using God’s name in vain is wrong
or you can follow islam guidance in marriage, we muslim follow Jesus. but it hard to accept if good come from your "enemies" right. sorry to use my free of speech "here".
🤔😂 what are you talking about lol. First of all Muslims are not enemies. Secondly, we already have all the needed wisdom concerning that question of dating. Some christians just have to be more serious and study their Bible.
@@lesmerdesderika129 it is great if you never think Islam and Muslim are your enemies,but unfortunately many Christian nowdays leaving Christian and become atheist and hate all religions and religious people like Muslim. And media and movie always potray Muslim as enemy to Christian people.
No real useful information about dating at all in this video.
Yet here you are ! SMH
@@franklinmcclain6995 Say that again, increase some volume.
Maybe to you
But I've learnt a lot thanks 😊
It was talking about myths
be intentional. Focus on the inside, the heart, and most importantly, God. And do this together as a couple and find compatability, chemistry and all the other things that you want in a partner: sense of humor, kindness, family oriented, ambition etc...Instead of having premarital sex off the jump, letting lust and/or money lead the relationship, dating multiple partners at the same time and rinse and repeating.