five points 1. slow down 2. let someone finish their story 3. don't just ask questions; give information 4. be present 5. stop trying to look perfect all the time
I had been properly single for 13 years and I had given up. Then the man of my dreams walked into my life in February this year completely out of the blue!!... Have faith people!!
1- slow down (talking) 2- let someone finish their story 3- don't just ask qss, share info 4- be present (no distractions) 5- stop trying to be perfect
Hey y’all so I just got back. I️t wasn’t too bad. We went bowling which I suck at. We talked about our faith but I’m not sure if he’s attracted to me. He says he likes to take things slow which I do too. I guess we’ll just wait it out and see what happens. Keeping my options open!
I have been married for 28 years and every single tip is exactly what my husband would 100% agree with!...The hardest one for me is not interrupting mid sentence through his "story" it gets me every time, even though I know your tip is so true...its a girl thing! Love your videos 👍
Matthew I owe you a LOT. You've been a good mentor for me and not even mostly for dating, but for leaving a violent relationship. Can you imagine that your teachings gave me transformative thinking about myself and anough for me to stay away from a 9 years relationship? Your videos where there to help me feel confident I'd be able to find, attract and choose a guy that would complete my happiness. Thank you.
Broooo when he said “or just in a moment... look up at him” and then he stared and smiled I am not even kidding, I started blushing! Ugh I miss a human being’s looks and touch 😂😭
My woman did everything explained in this video, first time we've met on a date... It was December 2010, we got married in November 2012. I love her with all my heart, and she makes me happy every minute of the day!
Honestly this advice is spot on. I just started talking to a close friend who I’ve now developed romantic feelings for. He’s a little socially awkward and so it took me a while to get him to realize I was into him, but taking dating slow has worked so well for us. I watched this before we went out and it helped so much. I made myself remember listen to him intently and let him finish his thoughts, but also add to them when he’s done and keep the conversation going. No phone for 5 hours, no mirrors to check myself in as I walk by, just him and me. That lead to the most fun and best date I’ve ever been on and an opportunity for many more!!
Let someone finish their story and be present are crucial. It's a real turn off when someone isn't even really listening or engaged because they are too busy waiting to turn the conversation back to them.
I love your videos! I started watching after a 33 yr marriage failed and it REALLY works! I met the guy of my dreams; we dated then married 2 years to the day we met, 7 months ago. I couldn't be happier, I dare the universe to try! thank you Matthew!!!
I feel like this video would be a good to put into use at anytime during a relationship. Because all of those things are qualities that should remain in relationships to not only make it strong but keep it strong.
In my sales job there is a practice we call "power of 3" where you find out 3 things about the customer and you tell them 3 things about yourself. This creates rapport and trust. And you don't always have to start of being the questioner but freely tell the other person about yourself spontaneously. :)
Looking particularly "Radcliffe" today. I'm sorry, but between the hair and the shirt...I just keep seeing Harry Potter in an apron. Video content was on key doe :)
The first thing you mention is a thing I really struggle with. Not necessarily the talking too fast part. But the keep asking questions part is really accurate. Also because of anxiousness I sit completely still and stiff. My body language basically says “I really don’t like you”. I tense all my muscles because I am continuously reflecting on my behavior. It is something I am going to work on for my next date. First step was actually going on a date after a very long time. And damn what was I nervous. But I am proud of myself that I went. Unfortunately it didn’t work out with the guy. So the next step for my next date is to mind my body language. For me, dating really is a skill that should be practiced.
Ooooh! The first tip, that part where Matt was like, "Just look up at him, and look down again"... that look right there, that was super hot! Lol. I'm totally borrowing that. Sweet, simple, logical tips. I appreciate you Matt, you help take the anxiety, uncertainty and hesitation out of dating. you're amazing!
1) slow down 2) let someone finish their story 3) don’t just ask questions; share information 4) be present (put the phone away) 5) stop trying to be perfect/sexy/hotttttt all the time
Asking questions usually works for me. Guys tell me they’re not used to the other person taking an interest in their story and they find it refreshing.
I'm gonna take note of that Matthew. It's true that you need to take a moment and don't get too excited because it won't get you to where your going instead it will scare a man away from you.
Excellent advice! Being an authentic woman equates to spur of the moment interactions where we are confident in who we are without make-up. Loving ourselves just as we are! Thanks Matthew, love your videos!
I'm young, really young but I've been advicing friends about dating and they always tell me I'm so good at it😂 thanks Matthew.😍 This tips are something I should I tell them too😂
I have seen quite some of ur videos with my bestie who has huge but hilarious relationship issues with a guy she recently met. So i am not one of those people who is watching ur videos for relationship advice. I am a really socially awkward person who is desperately trying to be less awkward in front of people and I after observing the way u talk and act I will say that u are inspiring. The way u talk about confidence standards, right way of communication, I just love it. Actually I am learning how to talk to people in a human like manner from u. So thanks for that. I like ur advices. They are pretty logical and to the point. For a people repellant like me u are an accurate demonstration of how to talk and make people listen to u. Admire ur skills
I checked this video just to check and I actually did everything correct without realizing. Makes sense now! Thank you for this overview! It's really helpful! Ladies, listen to this! Also for Casual Dates: be natural. Keep your hygiene on point and focus on the beautiful attributes to save time and energy and you appear more confident! Real man love that! Now that doesn't mean you shouldn't doll up. Doll up when you feel like it! Not to impress someone!
Be1smaht yesss but what you mean judgemental Because i had 2 date from net and they were desaster because the other person like expacted somthing that i m not and they Forget that we only human
This is brilliant. I have always trying to do those things on dates. But at the same time I always get annoyed when my date couldn't even give us 5 seconds to breath, and keep telling his silly jokes instead of asking meaningful questions... lol.
Being natural and be yourself (myself) and trying not to impress someone is always worked for me, after three years being single I just found out that a guy likes me for who I am inside and out (tomboy btw) 😁😁😁
I know I'm guilty of interrupting conversations. This one guy talked so slow, his story was ear bleeding long & dull in the beginning. He kept hesitating & I just wanted to constantly end his sentences so he would get to the next one. But I slowed down & actually listened for once, yes...listened. He seemed to be less anxious after his story & he made me laugh so loud. His humor shone through by the end of his childhood story. Had I done my usual control freak interrupting, I would never have seen that humorous part of him that really is so attractive. Good tip Matthew!
Who here recognized themselves in #1 and #2 like I did? Although the reason I speak fast is so that I can get my sentence finished before someone else interrupts me, because I get interrupted on a routine basis...
I dated an older guy and he acted like he never heard about make-up or that women wear it and it takes some time to apply and it changes how women look. This was a concept that never seemed to register with him. And he'd dated women and had been married before (to someone who used makeup). I don't mind hurrying, being on time, going bare faced etc. but having a guy not seem to get it or understand the role makeup plays in women's lives (for the women who use it) is a bit odd to me.
Matthew thank you so much with all of your videos. Now im not a adult more of a younger teenager but my first date is next week and all of your videos help me so much. At first i was nervous to even talk normally around him but now I can just be myself. Thank you
I needed that little peep talk at the end. I watch all your videos since i fall for this guy but since he pulled away - about 5 wks ago I still cannot moved on w the guys that expressed interest for me. Haven't been on a date w any of them. I gonna try, thanks Matthew
LOVE ❤!!!!Your tips are heartening.I get excited to learn about body language&facial expressions. My hubby&I are delighted that we have spiced up our 10 year marriage from your insights.I am a student of the bliss point!!Life changing to see that pure sweetness is not the most delectable trait.
I have all of Matthew's Programs and they are all life-changers! If you do what he says, you really can attract any man! But buyer beware - it's up to you to resist those bad boys. You will be attractive, period. Like a bright light attracts bugs, it will be up to you to swat em' away. It is up to you to be discerning. Enjoy !!!!!!
I watched a couple of your videos before I went on a first date with this guy I met on tinder. Long story short it’s been 5weeks and he’s in my bed playing FIFA 😂
So glad to have the old Matthew back! Love this kind of videos are direct, clear and they go to the point!!! Actually I realized about number 5 yesterday!
I've watching your videos for the last two weeks, and I just had my first date two days ago, I got really nervous tho. Despite that, we will go on a date next weekend :) I'm so excited ^^ thank you
Your videos and talks are sooo insightful and very helpful!! ... i discovered you just 3 days ago and i am really enjoying all the support you have to offer... thank you 😊
OMG! I walked into Costco the other day and saw a cute guy and the thought of going over to say hi to him felt so awkward. We were in the freezer aisle and I was thinking what's a good way to start that conversation? Lol. "Come here often?" "Are you going to make my favorite meal tonight?" "Do you know how to cook or should we just meet at the restaurant for dinner?" Ahahaha my heart was beating so hard and all I did was froze in the freezer aisle. Couldn't get a word out.
Zari A ask for help, ask him for direction or to pass the mixed veg in the freezer in front of him or whatever, the easiest, most natural way to start a conversation, then you feel good about having started the conversation as well!
In regards to #3 I find that, generally speaking, guys tend to not reciprocate in asking questions. Most often I'll ask a question, he'll answer but won't then take the opportunity to reciprocate with a "How about you?" or "What are your thoughts on that?" A conversation is a two way street and I want to see that the guy is just as interested in getting to know about me as I am him.
I can honestly say I have been ticking all of these boxes.... but after my separation, the hardest thing is finding another man to demonstrate this to 😄
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
It’s funny. I love these videos and they have made me much more socially successful. However, they have also made me more self critical! I notice when I make a dating mistake now and I feel bad about it, when before I would have just glossed over it. I know I’m socially more competent, but sometimes I feel LESS secure because now I’m aware of my mistakes 😫
LittleMissPDX . I get some of the advice but telling you what to text to a guy or say to a guy to make him fall for you is kinda fake I do though enjoy the videos on the respecting yourself and your standards they are more helpful to people.
I feel the same way! But I'm starting to think it's a combination of watching weekly videos as well as not trusting myself enough to be in the moment and competent in what I've learned. Almost like test anxiety. I just gotta remember that a date's not a freakin' test! 😎
What Not To Do At a Stoplight Thanks for the tips 😎 What I meant by "test anxiety" was "I just learned these awesome skills! Lemme put them to use." * has massive panic attack * "There's no way I can be suave IRL 😭"
I watched this video because of your accent. I don’t need this advice cause I’m very happy being single and don’t need a man in my life just to be miserable. Girls, if you want no headache in your life? Stay single and be happy. 😃
Ok. I find it tricky to find the balance between asking questions, listening and then offering info. I guess the answer to that is being present. I find myself asking lots of questions but feel unfulfilled when he doesn't ask questions back. I'm not the best at offering info up on myself but I guess that is key
I just became a fan after watching the show The Single Wives which I believe you are referring to in this video. I am finding myself in the same boat as them. After 14 years of friendship and 6 years of marriage, my husband and I are calling it quits. I have very little experience dating so I am stressed. Your show and these TH-cam videos are giving me hope that I might come off 'normal' on my next date. I have been told that I am rather intimidating. Not aggressive but de-masculating as one guy put it. I think it bothers them that I can literally do everything they can do. I was a Tomboy that shadowed my Dad at construction sites and working on cars so I have a lot of 'guy skills'. Went on a date to a gun range and out shot the experienced guy and he cut it off with me after that. Some have even backed off once they found out I was more intelligent than them. I'm sorry but I have a hard time dumbing myself down to make my date feel superior. How can I find a great guy that will not feel intimidated because I am his equal?
Great video! There's one minor detail though.. women, in general, do not put their phones in their pockets - especially on a date. Many of our clothes do not have pockets, and if they do, a phone usually won't fit in it. There's a whole feminist movement asking for clothes for women with pockets. It's a minor detail, but it demonstrates that you are in touch with your audience's reality. I'm a huge fan, thanks for always sharing valuable advice for women!
The thing is this, if i ask a question(s) i WANT/EXPECT him to ask me back, How about you etc.? If he does not do that, its a clear sign for me that he is not really intersted in me as a person, who i am, what i like, what matters to me, etc. And i will def. NOT do all the talking-ask questions AND volunteer info. I do volunteer some info, but if i ask him something and he does not ask me back, or even if when i try to help him, just in case he is shy and say to him, is there anything you would like to KNOW about me? - to encourage him, if then he has very little or not much to say its a clear sign for me to NOT be with such a Person. Noone, at least not me has time for such people.
I went on a few dates with a guy who’d NEVER let me finish a story let alone a sentence. He’d interrupt me & when I’d try to interject, he’d speak over me as if I wasn’t saying anything. I couldn’t stand him & I called it quits. He texted me a few weeks ago saying he regrets messing things up with me, apparently he went on a date and got a drink thrown in his face, probably because he doesn’t shut up 😂 I told him he should regret it & ive met someone else 🤷🏻♀️
Matthew you're amazing, I wish you can help me and give me an advice on what to do or just wake me up and make me realize the real shit. You're such a great help
Actually, MOST of these points apply to job interviews as well. It's all a matter of making a good first impression. (1) Relax and slow down... (2) don't interrupt... (3) share, don't just press for info... connect... (4) be present, not distracted (a motto a mentor shared years before screens)... (5) don't worry about looking perfect... in real life, things are not perfect... be confident in the REAL YOU. People will take notice of these things.
five points
1. slow down
2. let someone finish their story
3. don't just ask questions; give information
4. be present
5. stop trying to look perfect all the time
Katy T Yes, Yes, yes! That's the thing.. That's the only thing!
Katy T thx
Katy T dont listen to the question ask them atuff
don't spoil!
Katy T lmao 😂 amazing shortcut
I had been properly single for 13 years and I had given up. Then the man of my dreams walked into my life in February this year completely out of the blue!!...
Have faith people!!
little miss sunshine congrats!
Gabriela thank you x
Awesome girl!!😊
Oooooh😊😀
This is great! How old are you ?
1- slow down (talking)
2- let someone finish their story
3- don't just ask qss, share info
4- be present (no distractions)
5- stop trying to be perfect
I have a 2nd date with a guy tomorrow. Pray for me y’all
nataliej92 - good luck! Update us alright?
So how was the date?
nataliej92 - Go girl!!
Hey y’all so I just got back. I️t wasn’t too bad. We went bowling which I suck at. We talked about our faith but I’m not sure if he’s attracted to me. He says he likes to take things slow which I do too. I guess we’ll just wait it out and see what happens. Keeping my options open!
If he wasn’t attracted to you he wouldn’t have asked you out on a second date. Men aren’t like women they decide these things immediately.
I have been married for 28 years and every single tip is exactly what my husband would 100% agree with!...The hardest one for me is not interrupting mid sentence through his "story" it gets me every time, even though I know your tip is so true...its a girl thing! Love your videos 👍
Matthew I owe you a LOT. You've been a good mentor for me and not even mostly for dating, but for leaving a violent relationship. Can you imagine that your teachings gave me transformative thinking about myself and anough for me to stay away from a 9 years relationship? Your videos where there to help me feel confident I'd be able to find, attract and choose a guy that would complete my happiness. Thank you.
I'm glad you found freedom at last.
Great advice.. Now only the date is missing
Noha H well hello 😂 try them on me
😂😂😂😂
RIGHT
😂 And if you're anything like me it might come every 40 years.
Broooo when he said “or just in a moment... look up at him” and then he stared and smiled I am not even kidding, I started blushing! Ugh I miss a human being’s looks and touch 😂😭
My woman did everything explained in this video, first time we've met on a date... It was December 2010, we got married in November 2012. I love her with all my heart, and she makes me happy every minute of the day!
"You don' t need to be perfect in order to feel great about yourself" 😨 The best advice I have ever heard in my french life !!
Honestly this advice is spot on. I just started talking to a close friend who I’ve now developed romantic feelings for. He’s a little socially awkward and so it took me a while to get him to realize I was into him, but taking dating slow has worked so well for us. I watched this before we went out and it helped so much. I made myself remember listen to him intently and let him finish his thoughts, but also add to them when he’s done and keep the conversation going. No phone for 5 hours, no mirrors to check myself in as I walk by, just him and me. That lead to the most fun and best date I’ve ever been on and an opportunity for many more!!
DID IT WORK OUT
Let someone finish their story and be present are crucial. It's a real turn off when someone isn't even really listening or engaged because they are too busy waiting to turn the conversation back to them.
Would you ever consider putting out a video on how to recognize a high value man?
BooBoo Kitty thank you soo much!
They call for a Date. Not Text. They pick up the check!
I love your videos! I started watching after a 33 yr marriage failed and it REALLY works! I met the guy of my dreams; we dated then married 2 years to the day we met, 7 months ago. I couldn't be happier, I dare the universe to try! thank you Matthew!!!
I feel like this video would be a good to put into use at anytime during a relationship. Because all of those things are qualities that should remain in relationships to not only make it strong but keep it strong.
Callie Cutsinger preach!
In my sales job there is a practice we call "power of 3" where you find out 3 things about the customer and you tell them 3 things about yourself. This creates rapport and trust. And you don't always have to start of being the questioner but freely tell the other person about yourself spontaneously. :)
Looking particularly "Radcliffe" today. I'm sorry, but between the hair and the shirt...I just keep seeing Harry Potter in an apron. Video content was on key doe :)
Lol!! I was thinking Radcliffe immediately too! Could be the hair??
Best comment ever 😂😂😂
Harry Potter and the Freudian Couch
*I finally know what true love feels like, and I can truly say that it is the most magical feeling in the world* 🥰
The first thing you mention is a thing I really struggle with. Not necessarily the talking too fast part. But the keep asking questions part is really accurate. Also because of anxiousness I sit completely still and stiff. My body language basically says “I really don’t like you”. I tense all my muscles because I am continuously reflecting on my behavior. It is something I am going to work on for my next date. First step was actually going on a date after a very long time. And damn what was I nervous. But I am proud of myself that I went. Unfortunately it didn’t work out with the guy. So the next step for my next date is to mind my body language. For me, dating really is a skill that should be practiced.
Ooooh! The first tip, that part where Matt was like, "Just look up at him, and look down again"... that look right there, that was super hot! Lol. I'm totally borrowing that. Sweet, simple, logical tips. I appreciate you Matt, you help take the anxiety, uncertainty and hesitation out of dating. you're amazing!
Can't wait for my date tomorrow!!!! We connect on so many levels!!!
Updatee???
1) slow down
2) let someone finish their story
3) don’t just ask questions; share information
4) be present (put the phone away)
5) stop trying to be perfect/sexy/hotttttt all the time
Asking questions usually works for me. Guys tell me they’re not used to the other person taking an interest in their story and they find it refreshing.
I'm gonna take note of that Matthew. It's true that you need to take a moment and don't get too excited because it won't get you to where your going instead it will scare a man away from you.
1:07 why am I so blushed?!
Excellent advice! Being an authentic woman equates to spur of the moment interactions where we are confident in who we are without make-up. Loving ourselves just as we are! Thanks Matthew, love your videos!
I'm young, really young but I've been advicing friends about dating and they always tell me I'm so good at it😂 thanks Matthew.😍 This tips are something I should I tell them too😂
I have seen quite some of ur videos with my bestie who has huge but hilarious relationship issues with a guy she recently met. So i am not one of those people who is watching ur videos for relationship advice. I am a really socially awkward person who is desperately trying to be less awkward in front of people and I after observing the way u talk and act I will say that u are inspiring. The way u talk about confidence standards, right way of communication, I just love it. Actually I am learning how to talk to people in a human like manner from u. So thanks for that. I like ur advices. They are pretty logical and to the point. For a people repellant like me u are an accurate demonstration of how to talk and make people listen to u. Admire ur skills
I checked this video just to check and I actually did everything correct without realizing. Makes sense now! Thank you for this overview! It's really helpful! Ladies, listen to this! Also for Casual Dates: be natural. Keep your hygiene on point and focus on the beautiful attributes to save time and energy and you appear more confident! Real man love that! Now that doesn't mean you shouldn't doll up. Doll up when you feel like it! Not to impress someone!
the "be present" demonstration was fantastic!
I’m meeting a guy I met online tomorrow for lunch. So far we click as texting pals. I’m going to try and remember some of these suggestions.
Karen Jensen good luck!!
Yay! That's exciting. How'd your date go?
I don't like online dating. Its waaaaay to easy and people are more judgemental than otherwise
Be1smaht yesss but what you mean judgemental Because i had 2 date from net and they were desaster because the other person like expacted somthing that i m not and they Forget that we only human
This is actually super correct advice for a date. Idk about making someone fall for you faster, but it's great date advice
can't stop watching your videos cause they're soooooo true
I just fell in love with you all over again Matthew. Hearing you reaffirm #5 for me put the biggest smile on my face. Thank you.
Thank you ☺tomorrow I'm going for a date for the first time😂
juna rana Good luck
juna rana have fun!
👏👏👏 You're going to do great and have an amazing time! Congrats on your 1st date.
Good luck 😊
go for it girl. and have an amazing time
Meeting LD bf for the 2nd time in a few weeks... good stuff to know!! Glad I found you. Your advice is always so spot-on!
This is brilliant. I have always trying to do those things on dates. But at the same time I always get annoyed when my date couldn't even give us 5 seconds to breath, and keep telling his silly jokes instead of asking meaningful questions... lol.
You give such great advice!! Thoughtful and practical.
You are so damn good!!
Shan BOODY whooooooooooa. Hi. Youre eeeeeeverywhere. Cool.
RIGHT? you both are like my baes!
Being natural and be yourself (myself) and trying not to impress someone is always worked for me, after three years being single I just found out that a guy likes me for who I am inside and out (tomboy btw) 😁😁😁
Yes I stopped trying to look perfect and had several guys tell me ‘wow, you have natural beauty too, you don’t even need makeup.’
Yo, darlings
Number 2 is absolutely true...so many women and men miss this...
GUUUYZ I HAVE. MY FIRST EVER DATE TOMORROW AND I'M FREAKING OUTT
How did it go? :)
I know I'm guilty of interrupting conversations. This one guy talked so slow, his story was ear bleeding long & dull in the beginning. He kept hesitating & I just wanted to constantly end his sentences so he would get to the next one. But I slowed down & actually listened for once, yes...listened. He seemed to be less anxious after his story & he made me laugh so loud. His humor shone through by the end of his childhood story. Had I done my usual control freak interrupting, I would never have seen that humorous part of him that really is so attractive. Good tip Matthew!
Who here recognized themselves in #1 and #2 like I did? Although the reason I speak fast is so that I can get my sentence finished before someone else interrupts me, because I get interrupted on a routine basis...
I dated an older guy and he acted like he never heard about make-up or that women wear it and it takes some time to apply and it changes how women look. This was a concept that never seemed to register with him. And he'd dated women and had been married before (to someone who used makeup). I don't mind hurrying, being on time, going bare faced etc. but having a guy not seem to get it or understand the role makeup plays in women's lives (for the women who use it) is a bit odd to me.
Matthew thank you so much with all of your videos. Now im not a adult more of a younger teenager but my first date is next week and all of your videos help me so much. At first i was nervous to even talk normally around him but now I can just be myself. Thank you
I needed that little peep talk at the end. I watch all your videos since i fall for this guy but since he pulled away - about 5 wks ago I still cannot moved on w the guys that expressed interest for me. Haven't been on a date w any of them.
I gonna try, thanks Matthew
LOVE ❤!!!!Your tips are heartening.I get excited to learn about body language&facial expressions. My hubby&I are delighted that we have spiced up our 10 year marriage from your insights.I am a student of the bliss point!!Life changing to see that pure sweetness is not the most delectable trait.
I have all of Matthew's Programs and they are all life-changers! If you do what he says, you really can attract any man! But buyer beware - it's up to you to resist those bad boys. You will be attractive, period. Like a bright light attracts bugs, it will be up to you to swat em' away. It is up to you to be discerning. Enjoy !!!!!!
I watched a couple of your videos before I went on a first date with this guy I met on tinder.
Long story short it’s been 5weeks and he’s in my bed playing FIFA 😂
Watch most of videos...forgot my guy now I'm in love with Matthew 😍😍
So glad to have the old Matthew back! Love this kind of videos are direct, clear and they go to the point!!! Actually I realized about number 5 yesterday!
I learned so much much from your videos! I just want to thank you! ❤
I've watching your videos for the last two weeks, and I just had my first date two days ago, I got really nervous tho. Despite that, we will go on a date next weekend :) I'm so excited ^^ thank you
Your videos and talks are sooo insightful and very helpful!! ... i discovered you just 3 days ago and i am really enjoying all the support you have to offer... thank you 😊
I need the courage just to say “ hi” to get the date #sociallyawkward
Just do it. Don't overthink. :) The more you think about it, the more you freeze yourself.
OMG! I walked into Costco the other day and saw a cute guy and the thought of going over to say hi to him felt so awkward. We were in the freezer aisle and I was thinking what's a good way to start that conversation? Lol.
"Come here often?"
"Are you going to make my favorite meal tonight?"
"Do you know how to cook or should we just meet at the restaurant for dinner?"
Ahahaha my heart was beating so hard and all I did was froze in the freezer aisle. Couldn't get a word out.
Zari A ask for help, ask him for direction or to pass the mixed veg in the freezer in front of him or whatever, the easiest, most natural way to start a conversation, then you feel good about having started the conversation as well!
J Lo great idea. Thank you and it's so easy and natural to do! Love it.
J Lo what to do when they approach you or you walk pass them on the street?
No wonder he fell in love with Camila cabello she is beautiful inside and out.
Brandy Davis she is bisexaual
In regards to #3 I find that, generally speaking, guys tend to not reciprocate in asking questions. Most often I'll ask a question, he'll answer but won't then take the opportunity to reciprocate with a "How about you?" or "What are your thoughts on that?" A conversation is a two way street and I want to see that the guy is just as interested in getting to know about me as I am him.
I can honestly say I have been ticking all of these boxes.... but after my separation, the hardest thing is finding another man to demonstrate this to 😄
Lol... When he said "distraction" my phone anounced "low battery"
this is so helpful im so glad your video pop up on my ads
Heyy Matt i liked especially the part where u actually demonstrated the" look at him and then look down" moment!
Matt you took my breath away.. Take a sip of your drink and then look up... Oh Gosh.. You are adorable
Great advice Matthew.
Thank mate!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
“Alright screw it let’s go and shoves self into hoodie” is a MOOD lol! 👏🏻🙌🏻
Good tips for guys too!
It’s funny. I love these videos and they have made me much more socially successful. However, they have also made me more self critical! I notice when I make a dating mistake now and I feel bad about it, when before I would have just glossed over it. I know I’m socially more competent, but sometimes I feel LESS secure because now I’m aware of my mistakes 😫
LittleMissPDX . I get some of the advice but telling you what to text to a guy or say to a guy to make him fall for you is kinda fake I do though enjoy the videos on the respecting yourself and your standards they are more helpful to people.
I feel the same way! But I'm starting to think it's a combination of watching weekly videos as well as not trusting myself enough to be in the moment and competent in what I've learned. Almost like test anxiety.
I just gotta remember that a date's not a freakin' test! 😎
What Not To Do At a Stoplight Thanks for the tips 😎 What I meant by "test anxiety" was "I just learned these awesome skills! Lemme put them to use." * has massive panic attack * "There's no way I can be suave IRL 😭"
love this! simple, yet amazing tips
Oh my goodness this video was made for me - the first three points felt like advice Matt would be giving me if he observed me on a date 😅😂
I watched this video because of your accent. I don’t need this advice cause I’m very happy being single and don’t need a man in my life just to be miserable. Girls, if you want no headache in your life? Stay single and be happy. 😃
@0:48-1:15
1. SLOW DOWN
2. do not interrupt and let people finish their story
I have my first date this weekend. Wish me luck guys 😊
Can you post a compilation video of you saying the word little ? That is my only request . Thank you ❤️
Paola Fernanda we also need "literally" ..... or excuse me "LIT-cherrally" .... I low-key love it lol
It’s interesting how British people make a lot of contractions out of words. Li’le, responsabi’a-tys, pathe’ic
Briana Crawford yes !! ❤️❤️
A story is a moment for us to make them feel significant huge, receiving
Thank you Matthew! Gorgeous tips. Sharing is caring❤️
I have a date on Saturday!!! Will use this tips! Thank uu ❤️
Hahahhahaha... i like ur look when u were explaining the 1st point.. Look down 👀 then look at him 😍
Ok. I find it tricky to find the balance between asking questions, listening and then offering info. I guess the answer to that is being present. I find myself asking lots of questions but feel unfulfilled when he doesn't ask questions back. I'm not the best at offering info up on myself but I guess that is key
This video has made me happier than anything in 2020 did ❤️
I like his couch😍
Couch? That's an entire floor made of soft goodness
oriana garrido lol
Shirley Hurley I like your couch
I just became a fan after watching the show The Single Wives which I believe you are referring to in this video. I am finding myself in the same boat as them. After 14 years of friendship and 6 years of marriage, my husband and I are calling it quits. I have very little experience dating so I am stressed. Your show and these TH-cam videos are giving me hope that I might come off 'normal' on my next date.
I have been told that I am rather intimidating. Not aggressive but de-masculating as one guy put it. I think it bothers them that I can literally do everything they can do. I was a Tomboy that shadowed my Dad at construction sites and working on cars so I have a lot of 'guy skills'. Went on a date to a gun range and out shot the experienced guy and he cut it off with me after that. Some have even backed off once they found out I was more intelligent than them. I'm sorry but I have a hard time dumbing myself down to make my date feel superior. How can I find a great guy that will not feel intimidated because I am his equal?
Is it just me or he looks like daniel radcliffe here
-1* get a date.
The hardest part 😭
Is it just me or you look super cute in this video? :p Love all the tips, esp. #2 and #5! Will try them out asap. :)
Have a great weekend, ladies! :)
Matthew what are you, INFJ or INTJ? Your videos are phenomenal.🎶
Great video! There's one minor detail though.. women, in general, do not put their phones in their pockets - especially on a date. Many of our clothes do not have pockets, and if they do, a phone usually won't fit in it. There's a whole feminist movement asking for clothes for women with pockets. It's a minor detail, but it demonstrates that you are in touch with your audience's reality. I'm a huge fan, thanks for always sharing valuable advice for women!
Love the new look ❤
I luck the 1,2 and 3 but with the 3 I talk so much about me when ever they share information with me so I'm trying it at work actionally ❤.
The thing is this, if i ask a question(s) i WANT/EXPECT him to ask me back, How about you etc.? If he does not do that, its a clear sign for me that he is not really intersted in me as a person, who i am, what i like, what matters to me, etc.
And i will def. NOT do all the talking-ask questions AND volunteer info. I do volunteer some info, but if i ask him something and he does not ask me back, or even if when i try to help him, just in case he is shy and say to him, is there anything you would like to KNOW about me? - to encourage him, if then he has very little or not much to say its a clear sign for me to NOT be with such a Person. Noone, at least not me has time for such people.
Thank you for all your advice its a great help for me! wish you goodluck
i love you matty
I went on a few dates with a guy who’d NEVER let me finish a story let alone a sentence. He’d interrupt me & when I’d try to interject, he’d speak over me as if I wasn’t saying anything. I couldn’t stand him & I called it quits. He texted me a few weeks ago saying he regrets messing things up with me, apparently he went on a date and got a drink thrown in his face, probably because he doesn’t shut up 😂 I told him he should regret it & ive met someone else 🤷🏻♀️
Matthew you're amazing, I wish you can help me and give me an advice on what to do or just wake me up and make me realize the real shit. You're such a great help
Matt you are amazing .... great video as always .... !!
when you're using this as advice on how to just make friends lol
Great practical clear easy advice! Excellent video :) Many thanks xXx
Actually, MOST of these points apply to job interviews as well. It's all a matter of making a good first impression. (1) Relax and slow down... (2) don't interrupt... (3) share, don't just press for info... connect... (4) be present, not distracted (a motto a mentor shared years before screens)... (5) don't worry about looking perfect... in real life, things are not perfect... be confident in the REAL YOU. People will take notice of these things.