One thing that helped me feel better and not so homesick was to remind myself that it’s completely normal to feel sad or out of place and that eventually I’ll get past it. I had to almost allow myself to feel emotional about it. ❤
for me, what rly helps is repeating or creating new routines that u used to do in ur old space so it feels more homey, and comfort things like favorite tv shows or movies and meals also r a big help!
When I had my own place, I made it to where I would watch a movie every night I could in the living room. Getting popcorn or snacks, or reading a book in the living room. Something about spending time in that common area made me really enjoy the place I had bought for myself.
My dear Ashley! I had the same "home situation" as you. And believe me, the thing that will make you feel like this is your home is TIME. It takes time. XO
I recently moved into my new place and something that helped a lot was becoming more familiar with the coffee shops, bookstores, grocery stores etc that are closest to my new place and not just the places that I used to go to because they make things comfortable etc.
Moving out on your own is a huge thing you are doing great, pushing yourself outside your comfort zone is hard. I've started over 3 times with just my clothes; best advice is make it YOUR space, things that bring you joy, no matter what it is. You will get more comfortable over time there, also do a game night with friends it may help you feel less issolated and lonely, do weekly check in with someone too.
so much love in my heart for you, ashley. i have been a super fan since the very beginning. i am 30 years old and you are one of my biggest role models. i feel like i have grown up with you. ❤
soo happy that everything is going well!!! make sure your always happy and remember to always take care of yourself , always will be here for u no matter what 🥹🫶🏻, ilysm 🥰
I struggled a lot with this when first moving out on my own. I’m close with both of my parents and very close with my sister. I met my person, my job was great, and I loved my new home but yet I felt so down and sad. Change is change whether it is good or bad. It takes a toll on us. It’s okay to miss how things used to be but now is the time to look forward to the future and be excited for all the new opportunities! Totally normal to feel what you are feeling!! ❤
Omg I went to college around the time you moved and have delt with home sickness because I’m somewhat close to home, so it’s easy to go home when it gets hard. I’ve been struggling making it feel like home at school and I love watching your videos of creating your new routines
Thanks for the amazing vlog as always dear ashley, for your shoulder go to a chiropractic and get your neck cracked what you have is disorder in your neck and this will help you raise back your shoulder and feel better when using it Hope you feel better dear ❤
I think maybe painting the kitchen in a colour you really love might help make you feel like home..because the kitchen is one of the places you show often and i feel like if you start there it might make a difference 🫶🏻
I felt the same way when I moved into my first apartment. It’s hard to live alone! I would suggest making your space more cozy. I noticed you have overhead lights, add more moody lights like lamps; string lights…etc. Also, add more rugs and curtains. Lastly, host as much as you can. Invite people over to you and take the time to decorate, prep, and fill your home with laughter and good company! Honestly, having more people over and making it comfortable for them-made me take more pride in my home and appreciate it. 😊
I wanted to share this because I felt similar to you when I moved into my new space and such. Not sure if you would relate to it but maybe another way of thinking of it. This happened over a span of almost 10 years but I moved out of my parents for graduate school, in with a roommate, then an apartment with my bestfriend, then back to my parents, then into a house with people, then back home to my parents, then I bought my house where I had tenants in the basement and my ex-partner with me on the main floor, then a roommate, then my now partner. I always had feelings of wanting a space to be mine and in my control and vibes so there were a few times where I just lived alone but I realized that... I love living with someone. Despite the fact that I am neurotic and love things my way and get annoyed at people for not having the same habits as me, I would much rather deal with those than be alone. At first I thought it was because I was scared of being alone or had some trauma where I couldn't be alone but I think I just love sharing my life with someone, romantic or otherwise. I love being a part of a community and living with someone and people gave me that. Don't get me wrong, I still love my alone time but there's always times where I get to be alone like when my partner goes to work or out with his friends, and I really love those times because I can do my own thing, but I don't love them enough to want it all the time. It kind of reminds me of the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" where you don't get to experience something often but when you do, you really appreciate it. I appreciate and *need* the times when I'm alone in my space but it's the balance for me. I'm not saying this is what you're experiencing but also, maybe it'll strike something within you :) I'm sorry you're still going through the thick of it but I know you'll figure it all out and what works for you.
I’m on my 3rd shoulder surgery. Physical therapy is a huge help and wearing your sling even when reading is helpful because it keeps the pressure off of the inflamed area. It surprised me when my doc mentioned watching TV and not just having my arm dangling around. it will get better
Hey Ashley, I moved from France to Toronto back in 2014, I moved a lot before I found my old place, I stayed there 4 years and half before moving last October with my boyfriend. Moving in my own place after years living with roommates and so far from family was a big change. I took time to decorate my place to make it feel like my nest, I also create some habits with myself like little night by myself with food I like, a movie I like (I heard watching movies/TV shows you have already seen is comforting because you know what's coming). Having friends over once in a while helped too. But for me it was mostly the decoration part. Hope you feel better, patience is key. Always a pleasure to watch your vlogs!
The frozen chicken burrito bowl from trader joes is SO good, it's been amazing to just throw in the microwave and add more chicken and cheese, and go back to campus for classes! would really recommend trying it! :)
Hey Ash! I love that quote by Mel Robbins too. Totally get what you’re going through. We moved house more than 5 years ago & I’ve yet to paint my room or organize it (sounds insane, right?) It’s so so so hard when you’re pining for the comfort of the familiar 😢 But I’m going to make a change as well. Starting now. Thanks for motivating me and giving me that push. Good luck with your physical therapy. It will definitely help you manage that pain in the long run. Lotsa ❤❤❤
I moved to my first own apartment when I was 18, and before that I lived in a group home for almost 3 years. I think my advice would be that no matter how many new habits and routines you create in your new space, never forget your "comfort things". For example, my comfort things were watching TH-cam content creators I've watched since I was 14 (you and Alisha, Zoella, and so on) and also having some of your comfort things with you in your new space, for example in my case I had my big teddy bear. Yes I know I'm 21, but my teddy bear was with me from my childhood home, to the group home, to my first apartment, to now when I live with my boyfriend. I think that just noticing small things in your day-day life that brings you happiness (inside your space) helps a lot too. But in my case, I moved in with my boyfriend, and I have never felt more at home, more at peace in my life. But living alone does teach you a lot. And whatever feelings come, let them. Love you xx (sorry if I didn't make sense haha)
"Growth is painful" I needed to hear this so much.. it's my first time away from home for an exchange program and I'm a huge family person so although I'm in greece (everyone loves greece and want to go there) I'm so unhappy cause it's so hard to be away from home and my family you're right growth is painful and I wanted to do the exchange program for growth I need to see the positive and power through it
Thanks for this chilled vlog. It was much needed for a Friday afternoon! Cheers so much. These sessions are truly great. The way you are so honest about therapy is very inspiring as a mental health advocate. I always recommend these to anyone who is struggling! The breakfast wrap suxh a great idea! Also, it's great that we have a safe space of community due to your partnership with better health! Hope you are well l, Ash. 🧡💫
Doing more things at home is a good start. Maybe hosting a party, nothing major, just a small group. Hosting can give you a sense of ownership, pride, and belonging in space.
You've spent the last two months with limited mobility and uncomfy sleep. That will tie into your mental health. Give yourself a little grace and know you've got a contributing factor. You got this!
It actually takes a year or two to really make a place really feel like your home. There are a lot of reasons for this, but time is the overall reason. We, as people, love to rush things. But transitions take time and you need to be kind to yourself when you are going through a transition. Living on your own for the first time is huge. It's like you are remapping your brain a bit; you have to do everything and you suddenly don't have your support system with you, physically anyways. (Talking about your sister ). Don't know if any of that makes sense or is useful. These are just some thoughts from the things I said to myself when I lived in my own for the first time.
Ashley, maybe you feel this way because you know at some point in the future you will be moving out and buying a house/apartment so this is why you are not completely feeling that this is your place. Doing some house renovations/wall painting as long as you are changing something in the house might help you feel that this is your place.
Ashley, I think you're getting a bit too concentrated on making this new home your home. It can't be that easy, especially when you compare it to different 'homes' where you've lived for years. Thinking about it will make it more difficult and it puts subconscious pressure on your brain.. Just live your life every day the way you would if you were still living at Alisha's, after a while - without noticing, you'll start to crave coming to it and you won't like to leave because you're so comfortable there. Plus, maybe you subconsciously think that this is your temporary home so maybe it's also related to that and you should try to make it clearer to your brain what you really plan to do there.
Fav donut: glazed 😂 basic b*tch over here! I loved the message at the end with the quote, really resonated with me today! Thank you for opening up like that! ❤
Random but genuin question from a German girl: How could Cale not be organic? Like are there for example artificial salats or what is the difference between an organic and non organic salat?
Organic produce is meant to imply that it was grown without the help of added chemicals such as pesticides. 🙂 As far as I know, "organic eggs" is just marketing though. All eggs are inherently organic but cage free/free range are distinctly different.
I suggest the sports bras from Victoria Secret that clasp and zip in the front. Would probably be easier on your shoulder. As a large chested girl it helps me a lot
Hi Ashley sounds like you are experiencing anxiety separation. You were use to living with someone and having others around you. I am sure Alisha is going through it as well. Good thing that you live close by and see each other often. It will get better with time.
I know this can be expensive, but maybe hire a interior designer. I would just recommend having her design your bedroom. Cuz just having your bedroom space a place that is relaxing and calming and your style is great and going to make u feel more at home.
I love your vulnerability!!! I think that just like you were doing with having Alisha come over for a night, something that may help you in this new adjustment is scheduling dates and nights you are going to host your friends at your house to continue creating memories in your new place and establishing a stronger sense of ownership or connection of your space...if that makes any sense? Based of what I see in your videos it seems like you do this already, but maybe intentionally having friend over for a night or hosting a girls night weekly could make a difference...also continuing to schedule your favorite activities and taking bits and pieces from the routine you had while living with Alisha and doing those things now may make the transition feel less weird. I understand where you're coming from and think its important to let yourself feel this way!!! You're figuring out how to navigate this newness....I love your videos and have for a really long time
If you haven’t yet you should defiantly sage. Than after that you can just use palo Santo wood. Sage gets rid of everything and palo santo gets rid of the bad juju
Hi! To feel better living in your new house and not miss the other one, try to do things that you where doing there, keep a routine that feel you comfortable and of course do something new that you aren’t doing there, it could be yoga or gym, inviting some friend to play some games or little party… keep going I love so so much your content and you bring me joy and inspiration every time I watch you grow and create content! 🤍🤍🤍
Comment your favorite donut! haha
Krispy Kreme glazed donuts & sourdough donuts.
cinnamon sugar ✨
Either cinnamon powder or plain donut
I'm glad that you are expressing how you are feeling about your new environment
Cookies and cream
One thing that helped me feel better and not so homesick was to remind myself that it’s completely normal to feel sad or out of place and that eventually I’ll get past it. I had to almost allow myself to feel emotional about it. ❤
This is brilliant 👏
for me, what rly helps is repeating or creating new routines that u used to do in ur old space so it feels more homey, and comfort things like favorite tv shows or movies and meals also r a big help!
When I had my own place, I made it to where I would watch a movie every night I could in the living room. Getting popcorn or snacks, or reading a book in the living room. Something about spending time in that common area made me really enjoy the place I had bought for myself.
the quote and what you say at the end of the video... thanks I needed that
My dear Ashley! I had the same "home situation" as you. And believe me, the thing that will make you feel like this is your home is TIME. It takes time. XO
I recently moved into my new place and something that helped a lot was becoming more familiar with the coffee shops, bookstores, grocery stores etc that are closest to my new place and not just the places that I used to go to because they make things comfortable etc.
This is so fun! My first premiere
Moving out on your own is a huge thing you are doing great, pushing yourself outside your comfort zone is hard. I've started over 3 times with just my clothes; best advice is make it YOUR space, things that bring you joy, no matter what it is. You will get more comfortable over time there, also do a game night with friends it may help you feel less issolated and lonely, do weekly check in with someone too.
I’d love a tutorial on that coffee machine and would to hear your take on it. I’ve never seen it before. So interesting
so much love in my heart for you, ashley. i have been a super fan since the very beginning. i am 30 years old and you are one of my biggest role models. i feel like i have grown up with you. ❤
soo happy that everything is going well!!! make sure your always happy and remember to always take care of yourself , always will be here for u no matter what 🥹🫶🏻, ilysm 🥰
Same though 💙 💫
I struggled a lot with this when first moving out on my own. I’m close with both of my parents and very close with my sister. I met my person, my job was great, and I loved my new home but yet I felt so down and sad. Change is change whether it is good or bad. It takes a toll on us. It’s okay to miss how things used to be but now is the time to look forward to the future and be excited for all the new opportunities! Totally normal to feel what you are feeling!! ❤
Where do you get your rings from? I love them and your Channel I watched you since 2018!!!!
Omg I went to college around the time you moved and have delt with home sickness because I’m somewhat close to home, so it’s easy to go home when it gets hard. I’ve been struggling making it feel like home at school and I love watching your videos of creating your new routines
Thanks for the amazing vlog as always dear ashley, for your shoulder go to a chiropractic and get your neck cracked what you have is disorder in your neck and this will help you raise back your shoulder and feel better when using it
Hope you feel better dear ❤
I think maybe painting the kitchen in a colour you really love might help make you feel like home..because the kitchen is one of the places you show often and i feel like if you start there it might make a difference 🫶🏻
Thanks for the breakfast inspo!
I felt the same way when I moved into my first apartment. It’s hard to live alone! I would suggest making your space more cozy.
I noticed you have overhead lights, add more moody lights like lamps; string lights…etc. Also, add more rugs and curtains.
Lastly, host as much as you can. Invite people over to you and take the time to decorate, prep, and fill your home with laughter and good company!
Honestly, having more people over and making it comfortable for them-made me take more pride in my home and appreciate it. 😊
this video made me feel so much better❤
I wanted to share this because I felt similar to you when I moved into my new space and such. Not sure if you would relate to it but maybe another way of thinking of it.
This happened over a span of almost 10 years but I moved out of my parents for graduate school, in with a roommate, then an apartment with my bestfriend, then back to my parents, then into a house with people, then back home to my parents, then I bought my house where I had tenants in the basement and my ex-partner with me on the main floor, then a roommate, then my now partner. I always had feelings of wanting a space to be mine and in my control and vibes so there were a few times where I just lived alone but I realized that... I love living with someone. Despite the fact that I am neurotic and love things my way and get annoyed at people for not having the same habits as me, I would much rather deal with those than be alone. At first I thought it was because I was scared of being alone or had some trauma where I couldn't be alone but I think I just love sharing my life with someone, romantic or otherwise. I love being a part of a community and living with someone and people gave me that. Don't get me wrong, I still love my alone time but there's always times where I get to be alone like when my partner goes to work or out with his friends, and I really love those times because I can do my own thing, but I don't love them enough to want it all the time. It kind of reminds me of the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" where you don't get to experience something often but when you do, you really appreciate it. I appreciate and *need* the times when I'm alone in my space but it's the balance for me.
I'm not saying this is what you're experiencing but also, maybe it'll strike something within you :) I'm sorry you're still going through the thick of it but I know you'll figure it all out and what works for you.
Thank you for this video, I’m also going through moving blues. ❤ You can do it Ash!
Everything is temporary. This feeling will pass too. Hang in there ❤️
I’m sorry the cut to when u we’re leaning over and doing circular motion with your arm, killed me it was so unexpected and funny! 😂😂❤❤😊
The quote at the beginning 😢 thank you @ashleynichole for it. I needed to see it
Love the fresh flowers.
So glad it’s slowly getting better! Keep up the good work for your arm.
You need a Hulken bag for your errands. Specially with a three story house.
I’m on my 3rd shoulder surgery. Physical therapy is a huge help and wearing your sling even when reading is helpful because it keeps the pressure off of the inflamed area. It surprised me when my doc mentioned watching TV and not just having my arm dangling around. it will get better
Hey Ashley, I moved from France to Toronto back in 2014, I moved a lot before I found my old place, I stayed there 4 years and half before moving last October with my boyfriend. Moving in my own place after years living with roommates and so far from family was a big change. I took time to decorate my place to make it feel like my nest, I also create some habits with myself like little night by myself with food I like, a movie I like (I heard watching movies/TV shows you have already seen is comforting because you know what's coming). Having friends over once in a while helped too. But for me it was mostly the decoration part. Hope you feel better, patience is key. Always a pleasure to watch your vlogs!
Tim Horton's Chocolate Glazed Donut!!! Hi from Canada :)
Loved the video! So appreciative of how open and transparent you are with your followers!
Same though. Hope you are having a great day! 🧡💫
The frozen chicken burrito bowl from trader joes is SO good, it's been amazing to just throw in the microwave and add more chicken and cheese, and go back to campus for classes! would really recommend trying it! :)
enjoying this! 💖
the eat sht package is literally the best thing ever
Hey Ash! I love that quote by Mel Robbins too. Totally get what you’re going through. We moved house more than 5 years ago & I’ve yet to paint my room or organize it (sounds insane, right?) It’s so so so hard when you’re pining for the comfort of the familiar 😢 But I’m going to make a change as well. Starting now. Thanks for motivating me and giving me that push. Good luck with your physical therapy. It will definitely help you manage that pain in the long run. Lotsa ❤❤❤
I moved to my first own apartment when I was 18, and before that I lived in a group home for almost 3 years. I think my advice would be that no matter how many new habits and routines you create in your new space, never forget your "comfort things". For example, my comfort things were watching TH-cam content creators I've watched since I was 14 (you and Alisha, Zoella, and so on) and also having some of your comfort things with you in your new space, for example in my case I had my big teddy bear. Yes I know I'm 21, but my teddy bear was with me from my childhood home, to the group home, to my first apartment, to now when I live with my boyfriend. I think that just noticing small things in your day-day life that brings you happiness (inside your space) helps a lot too. But in my case, I moved in with my boyfriend, and I have never felt more at home, more at peace in my life. But living alone does teach you a lot. And whatever feelings come, let them. Love you xx (sorry if I didn't make sense haha)
"Growth is painful" I needed to hear this so much.. it's my first time away from home for an exchange program and I'm a huge family person so although I'm in greece (everyone loves greece and want to go there) I'm so unhappy cause it's so hard to be away from home and my family you're right growth is painful and I wanted to do the exchange program for growth I need to see the positive and power through it
Absolute truth. Wishing you luck 💜 💫
Thanks for this chilled vlog. It was much needed for a Friday afternoon! Cheers so much. These sessions are truly great. The way you are so honest about therapy is very inspiring as a mental health advocate. I always recommend these to anyone who is struggling! The breakfast wrap suxh a great idea! Also, it's great that we have a safe space of community due to your partnership with better health! Hope you are well l, Ash. 🧡💫
Favorite 💕
You should get scented candles that remind you of home or a specific place or thing that you miss ❤
Doing more things at home is a good start. Maybe hosting a party, nothing major, just a small group. Hosting can give you a sense of ownership, pride, and belonging in space.
Interior designers know what they’re doing so they can really make your room look amazing and classy and put together.
Please more of these videos 💜❤️💜💜
The way I knew she was talking about her therapist only because she was ONCE again about to talk about her BetterHelp sponsorship
fr bruh PLEASE MAKE IT STOP
I feel the same way about my place and I have been here almost a year. It is a bit far from all my friends.
You've spent the last two months with limited mobility and uncomfy sleep. That will tie into your mental health. Give yourself a little grace and know you've got a contributing factor. You got this!
Absolutely agree. Mental Health first! 💜💫
The Benefit pore primer stuff is sometimes the only thing so wear after I moisturize. 😅
It actually takes a year or two to really make a place really feel like your home. There are a lot of reasons for this, but time is the overall reason. We, as people, love to rush things. But transitions take time and you need to be kind to yourself when you are going through a transition. Living on your own for the first time is huge. It's like you are remapping your brain a bit; you have to do everything and you suddenly don't have your support system with you, physically anyways. (Talking about your sister ). Don't know if any of that makes sense or is useful. These are just some thoughts from the things I said to myself when I lived in my own for the first time.
Ashley, maybe you feel this way because you know at some point in the future you will be moving out and buying a house/apartment so this is why you are not completely feeling that this is your place.
Doing some house renovations/wall painting as long as you are changing something in the house might help you feel that this is your place.
Yes absolutely agree with you there ❤️ 💫
Honestly just a glazed👌🏼
…also, your skin is GLOWING!!❤️
I love the thumbnail!!
Girl you’re hoop earrings are beautiful and I mean the ones you have in your ears.
ashley! where are your dreams from?
Comfort - that's what your videos provide me .... Coziness and comfort and just nice vibes ❤️ from🇮🇳
Remember that it takes about a year to feel like a space is yours!
love this vlog
Ashley, I think you're getting a bit too concentrated on making this new home your home. It can't be that easy, especially when you compare it to different 'homes' where you've lived for years. Thinking about it will make it more difficult and it puts subconscious pressure on your brain.. Just live your life every day the way you would if you were still living at Alisha's, after a while - without noticing, you'll start to crave coming to it and you won't like to leave because you're so comfortable there.
Plus, maybe you subconsciously think that this is your temporary home so maybe it's also related to that and you should try to make it clearer to your brain what you really plan to do there.
Very true. Take each day at a time. Positive thoughts ✨️
Mine is a sprinkle donut!
Glazed donuts 🎉🎉🎉
talking about fracture bone, lmao my bone is not even healed after 7 months post operative, it’s suck 😂
the muscle movement is not fully back to pre fracture which is again, suck 😂
Basic, but you can’t go wrong with glazed crispy cream
Fav donut: glazed 😂 basic b*tch over here! I loved the message at the end with the quote, really resonated with me today! Thank you for opening up like that! ❤
you give me almond mom vibes
glazed donut!
Random but genuin question from a German girl: How could Cale not be organic? Like are there for example artificial salats or what is the difference between an organic and non organic salat?
Organic produce is meant to imply that it was grown without the help of added chemicals such as pesticides. 🙂
As far as I know, "organic eggs" is just marketing though. All eggs are inherently organic but cage free/free range are distinctly different.
I suggest the sports bras from Victoria Secret that clasp and zip in the front. Would probably be easier on your shoulder. As a large chested girl it helps me a lot
ASH PLEASE DO A SIBLING SWITCH CHALLENGE WITH TKKKKKKKKKKKKK
Hi Ashley sounds like you are experiencing anxiety separation. You were use to living with someone and having others around you. I am sure Alisha is going through it as well. Good thing that you live close by and see each other often. It will get better with time.
I know this can be expensive, but maybe hire a interior designer. I would just recommend having her design your bedroom. Cuz just having your bedroom space a place that is relaxing and calming and your style is great and going to make u feel more at home.
How to did she mess up her shoulder ?
Do you actually use better help yourself?
The author of this quote is actually Mandy Hale.
I love your vulnerability!!! I think that just like you were doing with having Alisha come over for a night, something that may help you in this new adjustment is scheduling dates and nights you are going to host your friends at your house to continue creating memories in your new place and establishing a stronger sense of ownership or connection of your space...if that makes any sense? Based of what I see in your videos it seems like you do this already, but maybe intentionally having friend over for a night or hosting a girls night weekly could make a difference...also continuing to schedule your favorite activities and taking bits and pieces from the routine you had while living with Alisha and doing those things now may make the transition feel less weird. I understand where you're coming from and think its important to let yourself feel this way!!! You're figuring out how to navigate this newness....I love your videos and have for a really long time
Soooooo…..who sent the poop chocolate?!?!?! 😂😂😂
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If you haven’t yet you should defiantly sage. Than after that you can just use palo Santo wood. Sage gets rid of everything and palo santo gets rid of the bad juju
Let’s not put our bed pillows on the dirty floor. 👏
IS THIS JENN IM'S PREVIOUS HOUSE???? IT LOOKS LIKE IT
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Hi! To feel better living in your new house and not miss the other one, try to do things that you where doing there, keep a routine that feel you comfortable and of course do something new that you aren’t doing there, it could be yoga or gym, inviting some friend to play some games or little party… keep going I love so so much your content and you bring me joy and inspiration every time I watch you grow and create content! 🤍🤍🤍
Sensational idea. I am sure Ashley will feel better and more comfortable in her new place soon
LMAO we think ur not wearing it cause tk and alisha said u aren’t
Ashley, I would recommend hiring an interior designer, if possible if not, it’s fine. I just thought I would throw that out there.