@@joycevitecoskisilva luckily my parents split when i was super young, like 3 years old. i had to witness the night one of my friends/neighbors parents decided to get divorced when we were like 12 and that shit was so sad and awkward for me to experience i had to have my mom come pick me up bc they were all crying and the dad dipped out😭
That's for sure. I think that this is the only blink-182 song that has ever brought me to tears. I grew up in a household that was chaotic and very much like what they're describing. I never thought I would be on the other side of that. I never wanted that for my children. My daughter's father decided he does not want to be involved but we're doing fine without him. She's about 10 weeks old now and she is the fattest and cutest little baby I have ever seen. Those cheeks, I just want to eat them lol. Sometimes I feel bad for him because he's missing out but then I remember that he's keeping himself away. This song is helping me cope with this whole thing. It's not about us, I didn't want him anymore. I left him before I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the chance to be in his daughter's life. I told him if he wanted to be, I was not going to stop him at all. Like we wouldn't even have to go through the courts, I wouldn't care. He has chosen his path which is to continue on like nothing happened.something is wrong with him. I really think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath or a little bit of both. Anyway, that's not a digit him, that is really the truth. I found out that he goes through life using whoever will let him. I'm just so glad that music like this exists to help those of us who need the help. I actually read somewhere that people that listen to rock music are more emotionally well-adjusted. This is because it deals with the things in life that aren't so pleasant. IE this song.
I was 14 when this song came out. My parents were fighting. They finally divorced 3 years later. As a confused teenager, this song made the world feel a bit more normal. Now 35 and happily married. I hope Blink-182 realizes the comfort and outlet their songs provided everyone around my age. This song still gives me goosebumps.
"Here's your holiday" Never knew one line alone would make me tear up. Holidays are always a struggle, choosing to spend time with only one of them makes me guilty and I hate that I'm in this situation. This song makes me feel things and I am thankful for that, blink-182.
I could be wrong but I always thought they were referring to the parent having a holiday as in their free time or happiness away from the kids and or the other parent.
My parents separated when I was really really little so I don't remember them ever being together. For years there was fighting, yelling, throwing, crying, etc.. and it never truly got better until I was nine or ten. A broken family is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I can relate to this song.
Hailey Buchanan Happened to me when i was about 10(parents had been together for almost 20 years), my father drove my mother out. She wanted custody but he took us so he didn't have to pay support. That lead to her being so ashamed to have us over in her new apartment one she left cause she couldn't feed us that she told she was busy; this happened until we stopped trying. My father was never around either and i lived in an isolated country in the gulf. I grew up alone and disconnected; I feel you, Hailey Buchanan.
My parents split When I was 9 months old and I have no memories of them ever being together. My Father is in California and my Mother lives in Virginia. I currently live with my mom. The first time I heard of them actually fighting was from my father up until then i thought it was normal for the parents to be split. When i was 8 years old he started talking about her and what a bitch she was and how I should come live with him and one story he told me (Which is true) was that when they were about to split she slammed her own hand into a door, called the cops on him and told the cops that he did it. The only thing that kept my father out of jail was my big sister who told them that he didn't do it. Every summer and winter break from school I fly to California and stay with him. During this period he tells me stories of what it was like living with that "bitch" When I get home it's not as bad. My mom never really talks about my father. At home i have a stepdad who is pretty nice to me and treats me better than I think a stepdad should. But I feel bad for him because my mother is always on his case because he works long hours and she thinks he's cheating on her. Currently in California with dad listening about how mom is a "bitch" and I don't what is real and what he is making up to try and convince me to live with him. Many times (and I know this isn't a problem for most kids) but many times a year when i visit him he tries to give me wayyyy too much money like he once handed me 400$ for doing nothing, and I just feel uncomfortable accepting that money but it's rude to decline it -sincerely confused (I made a funny xD) get it like sincerely confused actually confused which is true? anyway I'm terrible at jokes ahaha
My son’s suicide song in 2022 he was 20, fix the problems people or walk away for good. You are still and always my hero Colton, and this song on your playlist before you left sticks with me and made the most sense. Don’t blame yourself anymore, it wasn’t your fault. None of it
Thanks for this. Seriously. There are tons of Colton’s out there. I was almost one of them. All it took for me was a pretty girl to have faith in me and that made me succeed. Not everyone has that champion rooting us on. And then, after my pops passed a month after his 60 birthday, I became vilified b/c I was asking general questions about the family. I was “naturally” supposed to know my own father threw me under the bus see the bus just so he did t have to answer to his bro & sis why his only son has no contact with him. Easy: my dad was the token white boy in the black neighborhoods. Mom represented Queens. Dad’s side represented southern deserters (see creation of WV) & Boston Bhramins. Those northern Irish Protestants were table manners strict. As opposed to my Italian (blended with Ukrainian) American extended madre side.😂
I hope I find that woman that is good for me because his mother isn’t and I’m still suffering in the same ways Colton did and you. Thanks for respecting and appreciating my voice for him and the rest of us whom have had to deal with abuse that turned to depression and giving up.
Both my parents got married three different times. This was my song when I was a kid. Now, two kids in and nine years strong, I'm still with my wife. We fight. We argue. We stay together for each other. We stay together for the kids. Relationships are hard work, and people are lazy.
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The one thing I have learned from both my parents is that people comstantly change. My parents have been divorced for 20 years and i'm only 22. I guess you could say that ai'm lucky becauase i don't remember them ever being together. I still see both of them on a regular basis and I love both of them with all my heart. They have sacrificed so much for me and I'll never be able to repay them. The biggest thing they have ever taught me is how tough it is to work on a relationship. I've seen both sides. My mom has been with several different partners and my dad has been with my step mom for 19 years. I've seen and heard every fight as well as the love they give. I don't think it as simple as people make it out to be. My ex step dad for instance was a one of the nicest and most generous people I know, but there was another side to him that wasn't so nice. He had a rough childhood (He was beaten with chains) and sometimes a different side of him cane out. Ir's funny because he inspiredbi me to persue a career in engineering, but I've seen sides of him that no kid should see. I guess my point is this, it is not as black and white as people make it out to be. I have dealt with stuff that no kid should have to, but it also made me who I am today. You just have to try and make the most out of your situation. Nobody's life is perfect, but the important thing is to do the best you can with what your given.
I'm struggling with my mom and dad right now :/ they divorced before I was born but its a constant custody battle. I lived with my mom for 13 years, then my dad took me for 2 years, now I'm back with my mom :/ I relate to this song.
David Hudson the point of the song is saying its selfish and destructive to divorceinstead of. working things out, marriage is just a game of forgiveness and how much your spouse can be forgiven by you for their mistakes, its basically "how much shit can you take?" For the first 5-10 years
The symbolism in this video is haunting, the kids in the video are standing in a broken home that keeps constantly getting wrecked. They star off as kids breaking stuff and acting out, as the video progresses they get older and older but still stand in the broken home, symbolizing them getting older but the scars and the broken home still remain looming over them because no amount of anything can fix those scars, and I can relate so much to that. This song never fails to make me emotional.
I was in fighting with my wife last week and suddenly my Spotify play this song. For now on, we promise to listen this song every time we get fights. To remember that our ego will be impacted to our children in the future. The key in the marriage is not about winning the fight but to apologize even if we are not fault.
Apologizing every time doesn't help either. Both sides need to be willing to look at their faults and if one side is always battling and the other is always apologizing the marriage is doomed.
I'm glad to hear that. Something else that may help you guys. It sounds stupid because I heard it on that show How I met your mother. A couple agreed that whenever they're fights would get too heated, they would say pause and come back to it later. I hope that helps. Personally, I'm listening to this tonight because my daughter's father decided he did not want to be involved. He's mad at me for escaping his control. She's almost a month old and we're doing fine without him. I honestly feel like you did me a favor by staying away. I told him either step up now or I'm not going to tolerate you popping in and out of her life whenever it's convenient for you. I'm not going to let him do that to my daughter. My dad wasn't around because of my mom keeping him away from court orders and stuff. It's not that he didn't want to be around, it's that she prevented him from doing so, legally. Am I angry at him? Sure because our daughter doesn't deserve this but like I said, we'll be better off without him.
@@ariskusuma6578I agree with this 100%. Cheating is the one thing I can't come back from anymore. I've started saying, I give somebody one chance to be training and then when they do, that's it. They're gone.
I always wished i could have his voice. And whe nyou seen people trying to imitate it it's so cringey lol. But yeah, incredibly distinguished/hauntingly-beautiful voice.
Much love to Mark, prayers for your cancer treatment. You're an absolute legend and the world needs you. I grew up listening to you and will never stop.
Much love from chris and the almighty God we have i know youve asked and he will heal you and you will be cancer free pray for it and it can happen trust me
As a growing guitar player in a broken home , this song struck a chord with me when it released. I covered it in our garage band during a fair, and now 20 years later I'm still singing and playing it in my kitchen. My wife and I have two beautiful boys, and we've been married 14 years. This song is the way I felt back then, and my wife and I have made it our mission to not repeat the sins of my parents. We are staying together for each other, and my kids will never feel this way.
I used to listen to this song, 20+ years ago as a young teen as I escaped into my room to avoid my parents fighting. Had no friends and got bullied a lot at school. To hear this song now, as a father, is just so eye opening.
To all the kids coming here to find solace while their families are falling apart... It's not your fault and you're not alone. Find someone you can talk to about it. Seriously. Do not let embarrassment and shame isolate yourself. It's easy to cling to a song because it echos your pain. That's okay, music is therapy. But there are other forms of therapy and outlets to consider. I was stubborn and waited too long to get help. I thought the memories would fade and life would get better on its own. Trauma will not go away by ignoring it. Don't hold it in. Someone will listen, even if they can't fully relate. I wish someone told me that at when I was a teenager. I'm in my 30s now and still dealing with it.
Thank you for the kind words. My 2 beautiful boys had to witness this. I lost so much time with them due to family court. No one ever wins in a divorce and I now can only imagine what they were thinking. It's been almost 20 year (I'm 41) and I can see the pain my kids felt. Mom and I get along great now but I wish is was always that way. Hell, we were kids ourselves getting a divorce. Love you all.
@@rjenkins79 Hello, my name is Gustavo from Lima, Peru. If you go to a coach, psychologist or psychiatrist, they will advise you on therapy. However, you can start by changing your mindset. If you have a positive and warrior mindset, you will be able to overcome any trauma that life has given you. Hug and be very happy!
@@StephenMatrese if by almost you mean five months from now, then yeah, almost - sorry dude, I just had to do it, don't hold it against me ;) for real though, sorry you had to go through that B.S. ✌
My mom died of cancer in 2009. Her and my dad always fought. Now I live with my stepmom and my dad who non-stop fight. I have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old (15 now). I did not realize it then, but this song is pretty much my life. When ever I listen to this, I smile because this is my favorite song, and I can always relate to it. I realize that there are kids way worse off than I am, but this song has a huge soft spot in my heart. It makes me feel like I am not alone.
DoubleJumpDude Yeah, I've kind of figured that out as time went on. You should never lower yourself to anyone else's standards just to fit in. If you feel like you have to do that, than you should not be around those people. Thanks for the support.
"have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old" - sorry for you mom, but yeah, youve been listening since you started walking, yeah, right :D
This song is why if there is no form of abuse, substance abuse, marital abandonment, or infidelity, you owe it to your children to try to work things out. My parents are still happily married but as a mother, this song just rips my heart out all these years later everytime I hear it. My heart goes out to children that survived ugly divorces.
Exactly, mark without Tom is too flat and boring and Tom without mark is just too much of that pop punk voice, and many people enjoy that but it’ll never compare to them together
@@keirstinfairclothpetersen3874 It shows that divorce, while in some cases necessary, puts a lot of the burden on the kids. You don't get rid of the actual issues, you just kick the can down the road and tell the kid to deal with a broken home, shared custody, and tons of mental trauma (not to mention the kid's usually 7-10 years old). Relationships are a lot of work and issues will pop up. However, once you're married with kids, you need to work through them and figure out a way to make it work. Otherwise, your kid will have no idea what their doing when they get married themselves.
This song came out the year before my parents divorced. I remember when the video came out about a year later, my family was falling apart. I was 11. I finally understood the song with the video. I related to the people at the end destroying everything. The metaphor of the house in ruins lives inside my head and appears in my dreams. Blink 182's music helped keep me calm during those scary and sad times. It was my source of comfort. I am forever grateful for them.
lyric: It's hard to wake up When the shades have been pulled shut This house is haunted It's so pathetic, it makes no sense at all I'm ripe with things to say The words rot and fall away What stupid poem, could fix this home? I'd read it every day So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night? Twenty years now lost It's not right Their anger hurts my ears Been running strong for seven years Rather than fix the problems They never solve them, it makes no sense at all I see them everyday We get along so why can't they? If this is what he wants And it's what she wants Then why is there so much pain? So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night Twenty years now lost It's not right So here's your holiday Hope you enjoy it this time You gave it all away It was mine So when you're dead and gone Will you remember this night Twenty years now lost It's not right It's not right It's not right It's not right
@@rodolfotsang4327 A series of events, basically he was being a douche to the other guys, specially to Mark, he created Boxcar racer and invited Travis, and when asked by him about Mark, he told him that Mark refused the invitation, but the reality is he left him out, and when Travis found out, they called him out on his BS, then they got in a hiatus for about 2-3 years, then the next album, the one called Blink-182, had to be produced at Tom´s pace and liking, because reasons, he kept neglcting Blink to focus on Angels and Airwaves, which kept pushing Mark and Travis´s buttons, to the point that they would diss him in interviews, citing him as the reason why albums would take so many years for them to produce and why they would be lacking in quality, he even stopped going on tours, and they had to bring other players in his place, eventually they had a major falling with Tom´s agent, altough Tom claimed he had nothing to do with that. No one is sure if Tom quit or if they kicked him out, the guys claim his agent just told them "Tom.Is.Out" and Tom claims he learned he had been kicked out via the press. But the fact is, it is very evident Tom was being a douche to his supposed best friends, included one who he claimed was like a brother.
Those aren't tears, my eyes are sweating...... Man this song hit me right in the feels... I grew up listening to them and even seeing them in concert back in middle school. They defined an entire generation and we all greatly appreciate the words to this song
my folks divorced twice (yes after 2 marriages to each other) and are now married happy as hell a 3rd time after 40 years together on and off but the damage it did to my brother and i probably will never get repaired. i think today's culture is to blame more then anything, people just don;t realize they HAVE to tough it out when kids are involved if it is at all possible
Been a fan of blink 182 since I was some angst driven teen, now I’m 30, got a son with a woman I thought loved me. Yeah we fought and argued but it never got bad. 2 days before Christmas 2020 she said she wasn’t happy anymore, didn’t love me etc. I left instead of fighting. This song helps. Love you Blink and thanks for the music
well, i mean it's better to split if one person isn't happy. obviously it's good to stay together for the kids if they're really young, but if it's a toxic relationship, no sense in being together. i've seen marriages where the love's gone, it's really just a contract, and it's pretty sad.
Oh friend, very hard, it's true no one rules anyone's heart. Who should be in our lives will be and welcome, who does not want to be, then continue long ... Greetings
27 with a wife and newborn baby. Listened to this again and I didn’t expect for my parents’ divorce to suddenly hit me again. Got literal chills. Thankfully my wife and I are a great team and we both understand that for us to be at our best for our son, our relationship with each other has to be at our best as well.
One of the most timeless and iconic songs ever made. Resonates to the core, speaks volumes about marriages. But even more so, it speaks volumes about the children involved in that said broken marriage. I wish everybody reading this, after listening to this song for 5 years now, to know that they're going to be okay. I know many won't care about what I have to say, but I mean it. It'll be alright. Stay strong to the kids out there.
It meant something to me. I grew up in a house full of chaos. My daughter's father has decided he doesn't want to be involved but we're doing okay. I honestly think he's a narcissist and I'm glad that he's not going to be around because he did us both a favor. She's almost a month old and I know she'll be better off without him in her life. So many people say, it's a shame that she won't have her father in her life. No, it really isn't. He would do her more harm than good by being in her life. I left him because he was a terrible partner and cheated on me constantly and I was just tired of it. He's mad at me for escaping his control so he thinks he's punishing me but really he's punishing his daughter. Once again he's shown me the kind of person he is and as I said, we'll be better off without him. Thank you for this.
Listening to this song. I feel it's my kids singing this to their mom. She gave it all away and never once thought it was theirs to begin with. Hope you enjoy your life now without us. Going on 2 years since you seen your kids.
I remember Howard Stern really connecting with this song when it first came out because he felt so much grief for his kids b/c of his divorce. Fast forward to 2022; I’m getting divorced and I can’t listen to this without crying for my 3 kids 😢 Divorce is awful; but spousal and child abuse is worse. I did what I had to; but it doesn’t change how hurt my children are feeling.
As a child whose mom didn't leave her abusive partner, thank you. I suffered through over 10 years of abuse because my mom couldn't/wouldn't leave and I still feel the impacts of the abuse now years later when I'm now married and have children.
My son's mother left me after 3 years taking hers 8 year old son (previous relationship/father) who was a huge part of my life and his and my relationship as well as OUR 18 MONTH old son. I've never been hurt by a woman nor hurt so much missing my son. 11 2hour visits since early July '22. Haven't seen him since 30th of October '22. His mother immediately entered a relationship with another man very shortly after she left me. Family court is tough and ongoing. She utilized a family court article 8 family abuse, all hearsay but the court granted a 1 year order of protection for her against me. I am trying to be civil and raise my son with his mother. If I even send a text message, I will be arrested, and she has not made any attempts to make any arrangements for me to see him. This song helps me when I cry. It helps me move forward and make sure that I will always be the best man and father for my son. It helps me put to rest the anger and resentment I have towards my son's mother. It's a great song and I am very grateful for the opportunity to share my situation that involves the importance of this song and that it still has a huge impact on my life as much now as it did years ago. Be well always
SAME! I remember Howard announcing that he and his wife were separating and how it killed him to have to tell each of his three young daughters. He was SO upset and would play this song and get wrecked on-air. He would say he didn't know what it was about but that he was ripped apart by it. When Howard made that announcement, I couldn't get out of bed! It struck me that I was coming to that same decision, and my kids were super young. Ugh...but yeah, I know there are other Howard fans out there that associate this song with his separation and later divorce.
As a kid from a family that tried to stay together for us, my parents had the best intentions, but the arguments at night were hard to hear. As good as the intentions are if the relationship doesn’t work, it can do more harm staying together than leaving each other.
amen, me too, hope you're better now. Fucked me up for 15 years but im over the hurdle id say. I dont blame my parents whatsoever but 10+ years of emotionless marriage and arguments because i was born wasnt the right decision. But whos to say id have made a better choice in their shoes?
@@OwnaDge all good thank you for asking glad to hear you’re doing much better. I totally agree you don’t know how you will handle it until you experience it yourself.
I remember when this song first came out. Was a teen at the time. My parents stayed together and raised my siblings and I until just a few years ago until my dad decided to divorce my mom. It hurt but now I understand why he did it. He stayed for his children ♡ even though my mom was heavily alcoholic and still is. He didn't give up on us♡ today he's moved on and lives away from us and even though we barely kept in touch. I am thankful he stayed and took care of us. He showed in his actions that we can take care of ourselves aswell and raise our own children and not leave our relationships & responsibilities ♡♡♡♡ miss my dad everyday & still pray my mom will quit drinking ❤
It's different when drinking and self-destructive behaviors are in the picture, but for many, one or both parents were simply selfish and unwilling to functionally work through problems.
Every time i hear this song gives me the chills.. "If this is what he wants and what she wants Then why is there so much pain?" I'm 28 and still hurts.
I was 17 when I first heard this song. Now I'm 28 and has a daughter. Everytime me and my wife argues, I scroll down to see the comments as to remind me how painful a divorce brings to a child. Thank you Tom, Mark and Travis for this great reminder.
I guess is more painful for a kid to live in a house where the parents are always fighting than having divorced parents. Just saying. My parents are divorced and I prefer them divorced than living together and always fighting.
I'm also a guitar player, I've been playing guitar since I was 2 years-old, I'm 28 years-old now. As someone who's probably been playing guitar longer, I'd like to share some incredible guitar songs with you; Joe Satriani - If I could Fly, Jeff Beck - Cause We've Ended as Lovers, Yngwie Malmsteen - I'll see the light tonight, Eric Johnson - Cliffs of Dover, Van Halen - Eruption, Matt Rach - Cannon Rock Final, Joe Satriani - Surfing with the Alien & e-mail me if you want to talk more about stuff; Dem0n@gmx.com
IMaDEM0N I'm 28 too! I've been playing consistently since I was 12. Thanks for the song list! There's a lot of good stuff out there and it's great to find people who know good music! Sorry for the late reply.
Man. When that first chorus hits…. Mixed and mastered to perfection. The guitars are absolutely massive. Jerry Finn was a musical wizard, RIP. What an album, what an era.
What a sad yet great song, people don’t realize how blessed we are growing up with both parents in the house. My prayers out to anyone dealing with their parents divorce. ❤️🙏🏼 stay strong!
I grew up with both parents until my mom died after years of drug use. I understand your sentiment but it was hell growing up. My dad did everything he could but all they did was fight and argue throw things. Having both parents isn't always a good thing. I hated my mother. My dad tried his damnedest to help her but he couldn't and it broke him. He never did drugs but you could see him wasting away. He wanted to keep us together he thought he could save her. In the end he couldn't. Some times divorce is the answer. She wasn't like that when they got married but they got married because of me. Then had my siblings. They never would have been together if I wasn't born. But they'd have been better if they'd divorced.
Yea I’m 31 now and come to think about it seeing that at 7 did bother me even tho I acted like it didn’t. The late 80s & 90s kids are the generation of divorce and broken families & that’s the truth
By far it's one of the best songs of blink. On the other hand, i don't angry much with the message of this song. If both parents tried to fix the relationship considering their child's needs and it didnt work out, then it would be better to be apart without neglecting the relationship with their kids. Staying for the kids living a lie as a family isn't a good choice
I think the title isn't meant to be taken literally. This song is told from a kid's perspective, "this house is haunted", "it makes no sense at all" are things a kid would think in a parents divorce situation, not understanding what's happening around. I think "stay together for the kids" is not an imperative sentence, but a description of what means to a kid for his parents to be "together". And I think that's implied in the line "and if it's what he wants, and what she wants, then why there's so much pain?", which I think is the kid showing the real meaning of the song: A son wants his parents to be happy, whatever they are married or not, because he'll be happy too. A divorced couple can raise a healthy kid if they had a friendly break up. But if they aren't happy (as you're saying) there's no point of being together.
I was 13 when this song came out. This is how he expressed our hardships from school and family, listening to these kinds of songs. We survived without social media to express our feelings. Now I'm 34, so I'm glad i grew up with the early 2000s rock music
+Destiny Tarver Our civilization has been descending into primitivism for at least the past 60 years. Soon we will be watching naked people chanting around a fire and worshiping magic.
I'm only 15, and once I got to high school I realized just how many kids have divorced parents. I honestly just don't understand how people can get married, have kids, and then just... end it. I guess I'm lucky that my parents are going on 22 years now, but I just don't feel lucky. I don't get why I should be considered lucky when my parents are happily together, everyone's parents should be. Straight respect to people who can make it through a divorce. I know I never could.
They say the best music is relatable. So for anyone out there that can relate to this, I’m sorry. Just know you’re not alone and a lot of us are going through/have gone through this. But we’re here for for you. That’s why this song was written. You’re not alone.
Never in my life I thought I'd get to sing this live... but I did. Started listening to blink at the age of 13, and it changed my life. I saw them live in Chile(always had a tiny hope of living my dream of seeing them live with Tom in the band) and when I got to sing Stay Together for the Kids felt like a band aid healing years of dreams and hopes. I love blink so fucking much, I cannot describe how wholesome and heartwarming that night was.
I remember listening to this daily as a teenager. Suffered 10 years of child abuse and when I was finally taken away I felt even more my world was falling apart around me. Now I know that that pain was the pain of growth for a better life ahead.
Having been through a family split in the pre teen years, this song still hits me in the feels. And I’m bordering 50. Timeless. One of the best harmonizing bands of all time to boot.
Such a powerful song that has most assuredly brought at least a few tears to the eyes of many youth and old alike that has experienced the misfortune of decay of marriage and divorce through parents or relatives for many years. 😢
This song hits harder now cause both my parents are no longer around...my mom died in 2015, and my dad took his own life back in September 2020...I’m 27 going on 28 now and this song makes much sense as it did when I was a teenager...:(
Everyone is nostalgic for their own partucular childhood soundtrack. I personally think the best time to be young and i must emphasize that I only mean music and culture. Anyways the best time i think was the 61-69 era. Real and plentiful LSD everywhere! People expressing themselves, uninhabited to the max. Plus some of the greatest rock musicians of all time came from that era. Im 31 and Blink 182 is the band that got me to pick up the guitar and music in general when I was 13. I never put it down and have been playing ever since. However even though I grew up on the 90s looking back I would love to experience things like woodstock and all the other amazing shows and experiences. Minus Vietnam and the draft of course lol.
All these years later, and my family is even more broken than it was when this came out. I used to listen to this because my parents fought and abused each other....now I'm listening to it while watching them continue to do the same, but also lose their home. This song will always hit hard. I'm just glad I got out of there. 🙂
Blink-182 is more talented than most critics give them credit for. The chemistry between Tom's edgy vocals and Mark's poignant verses make for a dynamic force to be reckoned with.
I was 8 when my parents separated I’ve a lot of trauma surrounding it and memory loss 12 years later I’m still not over it and it still effects me and sends me into dissociation This song still helps me process something I never understood as a kid Even tho I’m 30 this year, this song is so very important to me I’m glad it’s still here for me to listen to
@el060248 I’m seeing Blink in September and when they play this song I Will cry and I will feel extreme relief and healing in myself I have a very strong support system in my life and I’ve already been through therapy so don’t quite give a fuck about some random replying to TH-cam comments about my Situation I’ve already sorted myself out, maybe do the same for you instead of judging strangers 😂
Many of us feel your pain. I listened to this song frequently and would get misty eyed (I’m not someone who cries easily). Growing up I always told myself I want to be better than my parents. Be better parents to my kids. Let that be your goal if you plan to have kids. Selfishness will destroy relationships. Selflessness is the only thing that will keep a relationship together.
@@dacokc thank you for your kind words I have a partner of 8 years now, we don’t want kids or to get married, we only want each other and that’s good enough for us I’ve learned from their mistakes and changed and went through therapy and bettered myself, we communicate and we never do the silent treatment because I know it feels as a child and with a partner We do not do that now, we have amazing communication We will not repeat their mistakes and we will break the cycle
I was also 8 when my folks sat me and my younger sisters down to tell us they were divorcing. Super traumatic and I absolutely understand your pain. Weird because I also don’t remember much before that day. I made a decision that I would use my parents as an example of how not to live. I’m now 51, married 23 years and we have two great kids. This song hits right at home. Thanks for posting your note.
Still from this day my favourite blink song of all time and also my favourite to play on both guitar and drums … the main theme to my childhood. Blink the greatest band ever
Honestly, I'm so sorry to all the children going through all this. No one deserves it but it happens. Criticize me if you must but I'm going through a divorce right now. I tried so hard to keep it going but when only one party wants it, its a losing battle. I can only be the best father I can be and do right by my two children, my everythings. I know one day they're going to have to deal with this and I know its going to be hard. I'll stand beside them the whole time. The pain isn't just for the kids, I feel that pain everyday. I cry just thinking about how these two children, my blood, will have to live in two separate houses. I love my children more than I love anything. I feel for all the kids going through this. I'm sorry.
I would never abuse my children or my ex. My children are my life. I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I can't even fathom how a father could do that to his family. You and your mother never deserved what you went through but its very brave of you to come out and talk about it so that others going through similar situations know that they're not alone. I hope life has turned around for your mother and yourself. You both deserve the best.
I ask you please just be see your kids don't go months without seeing them phones call aren't the same just please make sure you don't give in and think it'll be easier to just see them next week do it that day even if it means not being able to do things you want to just do it for them
I have joint custody of my children. They're my world. I would never put off being with them for anything. No worries Daric. Thanks for the reply. Thanks for caring.
This song is powerful especially the last chorus with the piano section and that tom repeats "It's not right" a few times I get so emotional. This song is timeless
I''ve been listening to this song on repeat for nearly 7 months. I wasn't married, but I left a toxic 6 year relationship, we have 2 beautiful kids and I love them more than anything I could have possibly imagined. My life spiralled, I work away 5 days a week, she has the upper hand in their lives and I have nothing to say about it. I was in a dark place, I still am. It'll never be easy.. Even when the Ex texts you and makes you feel small , like you've never done enough for your kids, you start feeling like you have done all these things, even though they couldnt be further from the truth. I never thought I'd ever meet someone again. Just when I was about to end it all, the suffering and heartache, the way out. Someone walked into my life and she has lit up something inside me that I didn't think I'd find. Everything that crashed around me has started to build itself again. It's still not easy, and I still as a grown man sit on my bed and cry. But I just want everyone to know no matter how dark it gets, how long that tunnel seems, how easy it is to just jump. Wait. Because a split second later, the light comes into your life you've always been searching for. Someone out there is going through the same thing. You're not alone. We are not alone.
Went through the same shit 2.5 years ago man. Sounds very similar to your situation. Hang it there. It gets better. Show the kids your love they will see it.
I usually overthink when i'm alone, so here i am, stuck at home in quarantine and i was thinkin about when my parents divorced and felt the urge to listen to this song, it still hits hard everytime
I turned this song on after not hearing it since i was a kid. I started bawling instantly and remembered all the lyrics. I’m glad my parents didn’t stay together, they were so bad for each other. But I hear these words and feel like a huge chunk of my childhood was stolen from me. I’m giving birth to my son in 3 months and I pray my partner and I stay strong.. we always find a way to make things work.
I think it is specially the fact of knowing that you are not alone in experiencing these hard situations and that even successful people (such as blink182) has passed through it and did overcome it in a way... It is the feeling that there's HOPE ahead and that it is not the end of the world if you get the right strength and wisdom to canalize these intense feelings
But i'm serious Sommertimes it's better that your parents Split and get divorced. First when my parents get divorced an Split i was das but the I SAW my rather get happier with His News Girl friend i was happier too. Even If so gotnsoke mental health Problems because of my Mom im happyier than ever
These 3 guys pretty much raised an entire generation of people, Mark was the dad and Tom was the mom...Travis he's that weird neighbor who walks in your backyard so he can have his dog take a shit on it,but we love him anyway,but now dads remarried and moms gone chasing after Aliens.
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gotta respect them, they knew their target audience was "troubled" teens and they really helped a lot of those hurting kids with this one.
I was one of them.
@@joycevitecoskisilva luckily my parents split when i was super young, like 3 years old. i had to witness the night one of my friends/neighbors parents decided to get divorced when we were like 12 and that shit was so sad and awkward for me to experience i had to have my mom come pick me up bc they were all crying and the dad dipped out😭
true
Facts
That's for sure. I think that this is the only blink-182 song that has ever brought me to tears. I grew up in a household that was chaotic and very much like what they're describing. I never thought I would be on the other side of that. I never wanted that for my children. My daughter's father decided he does not want to be involved but we're doing fine without him. She's about 10 weeks old now and she is the fattest and cutest little baby I have ever seen. Those cheeks, I just want to eat them lol. Sometimes I feel bad for him because he's missing out but then I remember that he's keeping himself away. This song is helping me cope with this whole thing. It's not about us, I didn't want him anymore. I left him before I found out I was pregnant. I gave him the chance to be in his daughter's life. I told him if he wanted to be, I was not going to stop him at all. Like we wouldn't even have to go through the courts, I wouldn't care. He has chosen his path which is to continue on like nothing happened.something is wrong with him. I really think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath or a little bit of both. Anyway, that's not a digit him, that is really the truth. I found out that he goes through life using whoever will let him. I'm just so glad that music like this exists to help those of us who need the help. I actually read somewhere that people that listen to rock music are more emotionally well-adjusted. This is because it deals with the things in life that aren't so pleasant. IE this song.
This is easily one of the most powerful and relatable songs ever written.
you said it brother
@Diego-z1hTheir anger hurts my ears
You said it best brother. See what I did there? Lol
what a dweeb
Just came here from listening to Wonderful by Everclear, now that song hits hard.
I was 14 when this song came out. My parents were fighting. They finally divorced 3 years later. As a confused teenager, this song made the world feel a bit more normal. Now 35 and happily married. I hope Blink-182 realizes the comfort and outlet their songs provided everyone around my age. This song still gives me goosebumps.
Congrats, my friend!
Awesome buddy, greetings!!!!
we are same age my friend
1987 babies, let’s go!
100% agree, their music got me through some rough times
"Here's your holiday" Never knew one line alone would make me tear up. Holidays are always a struggle, choosing to spend time with only one of them makes me guilty and I hate that I'm in this situation. This song makes me feel things and I am thankful for that, blink-182.
I could be wrong but I always thought they were referring to the parent having a holiday as in their free time or happiness away from the kids and or the other parent.
Words of a mature person who has got the t shirt ,stay strong and be blessed by God .✨️🫂🙏
“If some stupid poem could fix this home I’d read it everyday” felt that
Tell me dude. I start to cry everytime I sing that.
Same
Its actually "What stupid poem could fix this home, I'd read it every day"
Same, this song is so impactful
@@arechi3208wow, you’re so cool 🤯stfu
Still one of the greatest songs of all time. Used to play this on my 512 mb MP3 player. On my way to school every morning
Cool story man!
me too, but I use Nokia 5320 Xpressmusic
#metoo
Nike 128 mb mp3
And I have had a 8 MB MP3 player!
My parents separated when I was really really little so I don't remember them ever being together. For years there was fighting, yelling, throwing, crying, etc.. and it never truly got better until I was nine or ten. A broken family is one of the hardest thing to deal with. I can relate to this song.
Hailey Buchanan Happened to me when i was about 10(parents had been together for almost 20 years), my father drove my mother out. She wanted custody but he took us so he didn't have to pay support. That lead to her being so ashamed to have us over in her new apartment one she left cause she couldn't feed us that she told she was busy; this happened until we stopped trying.
My father was never around either and i lived in an isolated country in the gulf.
I grew up alone and disconnected; I feel you, Hailey Buchanan.
I'm sorry Carbon Matrix I hope it's better now and if not I hope it gets better for you.
Hailey Buchanan Unfortunatly sometimes divorce is for the best. no child should ever have to hear his parents fight all the time
Thank you but, I'm now better than ever :D
My parents split When I was 9 months old and I have no memories of them ever being together. My Father is in California and my Mother lives in Virginia. I currently live with my mom. The first time I heard of them actually fighting was from my father up until then i thought it was normal for the parents to be split. When i was 8 years old he started talking about her and what a bitch she was and how I should come live with him and one story he told me (Which is true) was that when they were about to split she slammed her own hand into a door, called the cops on him and told the cops that he did it. The only thing that kept my father out of jail was my big sister who told them that he didn't do it. Every summer and winter break from school I fly to California and stay with him. During this period he tells me stories of what it was like living with that "bitch" When I get home it's not as bad. My mom never really talks about my father. At home i have a stepdad who is pretty nice to me and treats me better than I think a stepdad should. But I feel bad for him because my mother is always on his case because he works long hours and she thinks he's cheating on her. Currently in California with dad listening about how mom is a "bitch" and I don't what is real and what he is making up to try and convince me to live with him. Many times (and I know this isn't a problem for most kids) but many times a year when i visit him he tries to give me wayyyy too much money like he once handed me 400$ for doing nothing, and I just feel uncomfortable accepting that money but it's rude to decline it
-sincerely confused
(I made a funny xD)
get it like
sincerely confused
actually confused which is true?
anyway I'm terrible at jokes ahaha
My son’s suicide song in 2022 he was 20, fix the problems people or walk away for good. You are still and always my hero Colton, and this song on your playlist before you left sticks with me and made the most sense. Don’t blame yourself anymore, it wasn’t your fault. None of it
@@NickWixx thank you brother. Dealing with his mom still trying to get her help. All my love and thanks again means a lot
🙏🏻🙏🏻
you saying these dudes killed yo kid?
Thanks for this. Seriously. There are tons of Colton’s out there. I was almost one of them. All it took for me was a pretty girl to have faith in me and that made me succeed. Not everyone has that champion rooting us on. And then, after my pops passed a month after his 60 birthday, I became vilified b/c I was asking general questions about the family. I was “naturally” supposed to know my own father threw me under the bus see the bus just so he did t have to answer to his bro & sis why his only son has no contact with him.
Easy: my dad was the token white boy in the black neighborhoods.
Mom represented Queens. Dad’s side represented southern deserters (see creation of WV) & Boston Bhramins. Those northern Irish Protestants were table manners strict. As opposed to my Italian (blended with Ukrainian) American extended madre side.😂
I hope I find that woman that is good for me because his mother isn’t and I’m still suffering in the same ways Colton did and you. Thanks for respecting and appreciating my voice for him and the rest of us whom have had to deal with abuse that turned to depression and giving up.
Both my parents got married three different times. This was my song when I was a kid. Now, two kids in and nine years strong, I'm still with my wife. We fight. We argue. We stay together for each other. We stay together for the kids. Relationships are hard work, and people are lazy.
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The one thing I have learned from both my parents is that people comstantly change. My parents have been divorced for 20 years and i'm only 22. I guess you could say that ai'm lucky becauase i don't remember them ever being together. I still see both of them on a regular basis and I love both of them with all my heart. They have sacrificed so much for me and I'll never be able to repay them. The biggest thing they have ever taught me is how tough it is to work on a relationship. I've seen both sides. My mom has been with several different partners and my dad has been with my step mom for 19 years. I've seen and heard every fight as well as the love they give. I don't think it as simple as people make it out to be. My ex step dad for instance was a one of the nicest and most generous people I know, but there was another side to him that wasn't so nice. He had a rough childhood (He was beaten with chains) and sometimes a different side of him cane out. Ir's funny because he inspiredbi me to persue a career in engineering, but I've seen sides of him that no kid should see. I guess my point is this, it is not as black and white as people make it out to be. I have dealt with stuff that no kid should have to, but it also made me who I am today. You just have to try and make the most out of your situation. Nobody's life is perfect, but the important thing is to do the best you can with what your given.
I'm struggling with my mom and dad right now :/ they divorced before I was born but its a constant custody battle. I lived with my mom for 13 years, then my dad took me for 2 years, now I'm back with my mom :/ I relate to this song.
I love you. You do what's right by your kids.
David Hudson the point of the song is saying its selfish and destructive to divorceinstead of. working things out, marriage is just a game of forgiveness and how much your spouse can be forgiven by you for their mistakes, its basically "how much shit can you take?" For the first 5-10 years
The symbolism in this video is haunting, the kids in the video are standing in a broken home that keeps constantly getting wrecked. They star off as kids breaking stuff and acting out, as the video progresses they get older and older but still stand in the broken home, symbolizing them getting older but the scars and the broken home still remain looming over them because no amount of anything can fix those scars, and I can relate so much to that. This song never fails to make me emotional.
You better stick around Mark, the world needs you.
😭😭😭
100 fucking percent dude !
why u don't call superman.
Will be fine mate he is a tough dude
@@platabluesky37 supergirl
I was in fighting with my wife last week and suddenly my Spotify play this song. For now on, we promise to listen this song every time we get fights. To remember that our ego will be impacted to our children in the future. The key in the marriage is not about winning the fight but to apologize even if we are not fault.
You obviously haven't been married for too long!
@@EdwardCBurton as long as its not cheating, everything can be forgive even not forget bro. No matter how long ur marriage.
Apologizing every time doesn't help either. Both sides need to be willing to look at their faults and if one side is always battling and the other is always apologizing the marriage is doomed.
I'm glad to hear that. Something else that may help you guys. It sounds stupid because I heard it on that show How I met your mother. A couple agreed that whenever they're fights would get too heated, they would say pause and come back to it later. I hope that helps. Personally, I'm listening to this tonight because my daughter's father decided he did not want to be involved. He's mad at me for escaping his control. She's almost a month old and we're doing fine without him. I honestly feel like you did me a favor by staying away. I told him either step up now or I'm not going to tolerate you popping in and out of her life whenever it's convenient for you. I'm not going to let him do that to my daughter. My dad wasn't around because of my mom keeping him away from court orders and stuff. It's not that he didn't want to be around, it's that she prevented him from doing so, legally. Am I angry at him? Sure because our daughter doesn't deserve this but like I said, we'll be better off without him.
@@ariskusuma6578I agree with this 100%. Cheating is the one thing I can't come back from anymore. I've started saying, I give somebody one chance to be training and then when they do, that's it. They're gone.
Man, Tom has one of the coolest recording voices ever
I always wished i could have his voice. And whe nyou seen people trying to imitate it it's so cringey lol. But yeah, incredibly distinguished/hauntingly-beautiful voice.
voice perfect
Probably a lot of post production too
@@thenickfoxx mz
I try. Fail
Much love to Mark, prayers for your cancer treatment. You're an absolute legend and the world needs you. I grew up listening to you and will never stop.
Pop punk will never be the same without mark hope he feels better to
Much love from chris and the almighty God we have i know youve asked and he will heal you and you will be cancer free pray for it and it can happen trust me
amen
Preach brother
Amén
As a growing guitar player in a broken home , this song struck a chord with me when it released. I covered it in our garage band during a fair, and now 20 years later I'm still singing and playing it in my kitchen. My wife and I have two beautiful boys, and we've been married 14 years. This song is the way I felt back then, and my wife and I have made it our mission to not repeat the sins of my parents. We are staying together for each other, and my kids will never feel this way.
god bless u
@@Vincent-vn7xo God should be capitalized. He deserves no less.
Man i can relate. I also make the same promise to myself that i will become a better parent than my parents ever will. Let's be better yes?
oh god, grammar police!!@@mauser8515
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I used to listen to this song, 20+ years ago as a young teen as I escaped into my room to avoid my parents fighting. Had no friends and got bullied a lot at school. To hear this song now, as a father, is just so eye opening.
To all the kids coming here to find solace while their families are falling apart...
It's not your fault and you're not alone.
Find someone you can talk to about it. Seriously.
Do not let embarrassment and shame isolate yourself.
It's easy to cling to a song because it echos your pain.
That's okay, music is therapy.
But there are other forms of therapy and outlets to consider.
I was stubborn and waited too long to get help.
I thought the memories would fade and life would get better on its own.
Trauma will not go away by ignoring it.
Don't hold it in. Someone will listen, even if they can't fully relate.
I wish someone told me that at when I was a teenager.
I'm in my 30s now and still dealing with it.
excellently stated. power through it...
I hope someone who needs this will find it well say.
Thank you for the kind words. My 2 beautiful boys had to witness this. I lost so much time with them due to family court. No one ever wins in a divorce and I now can only imagine what they were thinking. It's been almost 20 year (I'm 41) and I can see the pain my kids felt. Mom and I get along great now but I wish is was always that way. Hell, we were kids ourselves getting a divorce. Love you all.
@@rjenkins79 Hello, my name is Gustavo from Lima, Peru. If you go to a coach, psychologist or psychiatrist, they will advise you on therapy. However, you can start by changing your mindset.
If you have a positive and warrior mindset, you will be able to overcome any trauma that life has given you. Hug and be very happy!
I needed this comment 15 years ago..
"Twenty years now lost" from when this song was made 2001-2021.
it's not roight
Makes me so glad my Mum had a great taste in music back in 2001
Jeez has it been that long I was barely twenty years old man I used to love this song ❤️ Tom's voice Punk Rock TV 🤩 miss those days.
fuck, my parents' legally separated 9/11/01, almost exactly 20 years
@@StephenMatrese if by almost you mean five months from now, then yeah, almost - sorry dude, I just had to do it, don't hold it against me ;) for real though, sorry you had to go through that B.S. ✌
My mom died of cancer in 2009. Her and my dad always fought. Now I live with my stepmom and my dad who non-stop fight. I have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old (15 now). I did not realize it then, but this song is pretty much my life. When ever I listen to this, I smile because this is my favorite song, and I can always relate to it. I realize that there are kids way worse off than I am, but this song has a huge soft spot in my heart. It makes me feel like I am not alone.
I share a very similar story to you, life's hard so stay strong! Never change for anyone and don't be influenced by anything, be yourself trust me.
DoubleJumpDude Yeah, I've kind of figured that out as time went on. You should never lower yourself to anyone else's standards just to fit in. If you feel like you have to do that, than you should not be around those people. Thanks for the support.
And my mom gone in 2008 this is song and adam song help me :( thanks blink 182 but blink now break up :(
"have been listening to blink since I was 3 or 4 years old" - sorry for you mom, but yeah, youve been listening since you started walking, yeah, right :D
Menah Suvaree in my dads truck maybe? Yeah, there's no way I could do it on my own unless I was super toddler or something.
This song is why if there is no form of abuse, substance abuse, marital abandonment, or infidelity, you owe it to your children to try to work things out. My parents are still happily married but as a mother, this song just rips my heart out all these years later everytime I hear it. My heart goes out to children that survived ugly divorces.
Mark and Tom really balance each other so well on the versus/chorus in this song
Feeling this is another song where they have a pretty good harmony.
Exactly, mark without Tom is too flat and boring and Tom without mark is just too much of that pop punk voice, and many people enjoy that but it’ll never compare to them together
Goosebumps at that chorus… EVERY TIME definitely one of the best blink songs ever
Same. Tom DeLong puts it in a way that strongly resonates with me
@@keirstinfairclothpetersen3874 It shows that divorce, while in some cases necessary, puts a lot of the burden on the kids. You don't get rid of the actual issues, you just kick the can down the road and tell the kid to deal with a broken home, shared custody, and tons of mental trauma (not to mention the kid's usually 7-10 years old). Relationships are a lot of work and issues will pop up. However, once you're married with kids, you need to work through them and figure out a way to make it work. Otherwise, your kid will have no idea what their doing when they get married themselves.
When i heard this as a kid i hated my parents. When i hear this in a loveless lonely marriage i love my kid's.
Me too. So much emotion.
Its by far my favorite 182 song because of the insanely powerful chorus. They nailed it
“If this is what he wants and this is what she wants, then why is there so much pain?”
Hits me everytime
This song came out the year before my parents divorced. I remember when the video came out about a year later, my family was falling apart. I was 11. I finally understood the song with the video. I related to the people at the end destroying everything. The metaphor of the house in ruins lives inside my head and appears in my dreams. Blink 182's music helped keep me calm during those scary and sad times. It was my source of comfort. I am forever grateful for them.
lyric:
It's hard to wake up
When the shades have been pulled shut
This house is haunted
It's so pathetic, it makes no sense at all
I'm ripe with things to say
The words rot and fall away
What stupid poem, could fix this home?
I'd read it every day
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night?
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
Their anger hurts my ears
Been running strong for seven years
Rather than fix the problems
They never solve them, it makes no sense at all
I see them everyday
We get along so why can't they?
If this is what he wants
And it's what she wants
Then why is there so much pain?
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
So here's your holiday
Hope you enjoy it this time
You gave it all away
It was mine
So when you're dead and gone
Will you remember this night
Twenty years now lost
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right
It's not right
Thank you!
❤
What is that mean? Iam so stupid i cant understand nothing
@Hunter Vonnegut I'll look em up, though I must say.. Crywank is a bit of a great band themselves.
He actually says “it burns strong for seven years”
Toms voice is legendary
I wish he was still with Blink 182
Jordan S what happen to him?
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@@rodolfotsang4327 became an alien hunter and conspiracy theorist.
@@rodolfotsang4327 A series of events, basically he was being a douche to the other guys, specially to Mark, he created Boxcar racer and invited Travis, and when asked by him about Mark, he told him that Mark refused the invitation, but the reality is he left him out, and when Travis found out, they called him out on his BS, then they got in a hiatus for about 2-3 years, then the next album, the one called Blink-182, had to be produced at Tom´s pace and liking, because reasons, he kept neglcting Blink to focus on Angels and Airwaves, which kept pushing Mark and Travis´s buttons, to the point that they would diss him in interviews, citing him as the reason why albums would take so many years for them to produce and why they would be lacking in quality, he even stopped going on tours, and they had to bring other players in his place, eventually they had a major falling with Tom´s agent, altough Tom claimed he had nothing to do with that. No one is sure if Tom quit or if they kicked him out, the guys claim his agent just told them "Tom.Is.Out" and Tom claims he learned he had been kicked out via the press. But the fact is, it is very evident Tom was being a douche to his supposed best friends, included one who he claimed was like a brother.
Those aren't tears, my eyes are sweating......
Man this song hit me right in the feels... I grew up listening to them and even seeing them in concert back in middle school. They defined an entire generation and we all greatly appreciate the words to this song
This song hits hard. Especially now that i'm an adult and the lyrics make so much more sense than it did when I was a kid.
Right...
Yup...
I was 15 that summer my parents got divorced. Than this cd dropped. Im 33 now. And love this song but deff hits way harder than it did than.
@@alexwarren4583 I feel ya. I was in third grade when my parents split. That was 1986 I'm 42 now.
my folks divorced twice (yes after 2 marriages to each other) and are now married happy as hell a 3rd time after 40 years together on and off but the damage it did to my brother and i probably will never get repaired. i think today's culture is to blame more then anything, people just don;t realize they HAVE to tough it out when kids are involved if it is at all possible
Been a fan of blink 182 since I was some angst driven teen, now I’m 30, got a son with a woman I thought loved me. Yeah we fought and argued but it never got bad. 2 days before Christmas 2020 she said she wasn’t happy anymore, didn’t love me etc. I left instead of fighting. This song helps. Love you Blink and thanks for the music
Stay strong brother just focus on yourself and your kid.
Oh man! That story... I give u some of My force!
well, i mean it's better to split if one person isn't happy. obviously it's good to stay together for the kids if they're really young, but if it's a toxic relationship, no sense in being together. i've seen marriages where the love's gone, it's really just a contract, and it's pretty sad.
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Oh friend, very hard, it's true no one rules anyone's heart. Who should be in our lives will be and welcome, who does not want to be, then continue long ... Greetings
20 years now gone and this song still makes me tear up.
Same! And damn. I can't believe it's been 20 years. I literally blinked (no pun intended) & I woke up as an adult with a mortgage & family.
@@jayde.moonstone.6458 keep it up guys! head high always!
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yeah, I feel you. It gets real shitty when they have both passed
Same 🥲
I cant get over to this masterpiece, still listening in 4 January 2024
6 January 2024 also :-) Love it
screaming it on 01/17/24 :’)
Same here🥺
Same 😂
Listening to the new(ish) track One More Time and it had me in my feelings. Haven't thought about Blink in over 15 years... God, time goes by fast.
"We get along so why can't they?" Hits home 💔
So true
The piano at the end always gives me chills
Same with Adam's Song.
It's really evoking, isn't it?
Damn, being the parent in this situation really puts this in a whole other perspective.. thanks blink, y’all got me through everything.
27 with a wife and newborn baby. Listened to this again and I didn’t expect for my parents’ divorce to suddenly hit me again. Got literal chills. Thankfully my wife and I are a great team and we both understand that for us to be at our best for our son, our relationship with each other has to be at our best as well.
Just like they thought.
One of the most timeless and iconic songs ever made. Resonates to the core, speaks volumes about marriages.
But even more so, it speaks volumes about the children involved in that said broken marriage.
I wish everybody reading this, after listening to this song for 5 years now, to know that they're going to be okay. I know many won't care about what I have to say, but I mean it. It'll be alright. Stay strong to the kids out there.
It meant something to me. I grew up in a house full of chaos. My daughter's father has decided he doesn't want to be involved but we're doing okay. I honestly think he's a narcissist and I'm glad that he's not going to be around because he did us both a favor. She's almost a month old and I know she'll be better off without him in her life. So many people say, it's a shame that she won't have her father in her life. No, it really isn't. He would do her more harm than good by being in her life. I left him because he was a terrible partner and cheated on me constantly and I was just tired of it. He's mad at me for escaping his control so he thinks he's punishing me but really he's punishing his daughter. Once again he's shown me the kind of person he is and as I said, we'll be better off without him. Thank you for this.
This is truly a heart-wrenching song. Blink had a way of capturing a particular feeling and putting into words what many people think.
I am sorry to anyone who ever had to grow up sad. For any reason. I feel for you. Whoever you are . I promise ya.
"If this what he wants and this is what she wants then why's there so much pain?"
No lyrics have ever resonated more of my past and family than this.
When youre a kid you like how a song sounds. But now as an adult, the lyrics make it 10x better.
Listening to this song. I feel it's my kids singing this to their mom. She gave it all away and never once thought it was theirs to begin with. Hope you enjoy your life now without us. Going on 2 years since you seen your kids.
You should have made better decisions.
I remember Howard Stern really connecting with this song when it first came out because he felt so much grief for his kids b/c of his divorce.
Fast forward to 2022; I’m getting divorced and I can’t listen to this without crying for my 3 kids 😢
Divorce is awful; but spousal and child abuse is worse. I did what I had to; but it doesn’t change how hurt my children are feeling.
Baba Booey! I remember Howard loving this song as well. This song hits close to home. Tom DeLonge has such a great voice
As a child whose mom didn't leave her abusive partner, thank you.
I suffered through over 10 years of abuse because my mom couldn't/wouldn't leave and I still feel the impacts of the abuse now years later when I'm now married and have children.
My best wishes for you and your kids. Stay strong man.
My son's mother left me after 3 years taking hers 8 year old son (previous relationship/father) who was a huge part of my life and his and my relationship as well as OUR 18 MONTH old son. I've never been hurt by a woman nor hurt so much missing my son. 11 2hour visits since early July '22. Haven't seen him since 30th of October '22. His mother immediately entered a relationship with another man very shortly after she left me. Family court is tough and ongoing. She utilized a family court article 8 family abuse, all hearsay but the court granted a 1 year order of protection for her against me. I am trying to be civil and raise my son with his mother. If I even send a text message, I will be arrested, and she has not made any attempts to make any arrangements for me to see him. This song helps me when I cry. It helps me move forward and make sure that I will always be the best man and father for my son. It helps me put to rest the anger and resentment I have towards my son's mother. It's a great song and I am very grateful for the opportunity to share my situation that involves the importance of this song and that it still has a huge impact on my life as much now as it did years ago. Be well always
SAME! I remember Howard announcing that he and his wife were separating and how it killed him to have to tell each of his three young daughters. He was SO upset and would play this song and get wrecked on-air. He would say he didn't know what it was about but that he was ripped apart by it. When Howard made that announcement, I couldn't get out of bed! It struck me that I was coming to that same decision, and my kids were super young. Ugh...but yeah, I know there are other Howard fans out there that associate this song with his separation and later divorce.
blink-182 is the greatest band ever. any song can speak to you for whatever way you're feeling and its fucking awesome.
i'm not a huge fan, but i relate to this song to much not to hear it every once in a while
I'm obsessed with blink 182
3:58
As a kid from a family that tried to stay together for us, my parents had the best intentions, but the arguments at night were hard to hear. As good as the intentions are if the relationship doesn’t work, it can do more harm staying together than leaving each other.
amen, me too, hope you're better now.
Fucked me up for 15 years but im over the hurdle id say. I dont blame my parents whatsoever but 10+ years of emotionless marriage and arguments because i was born wasnt the right decision. But whos to say id have made a better choice in their shoes?
@@OwnaDge all good thank you for asking glad to hear you’re doing much better. I totally agree you don’t know how you will handle it until you experience it yourself.
@@tgkafg will definitely check out that series thanks for the suggestion
Agreed, after 18 years of being the dodgeball they threw back and forth at each other, I'm honestly relieved mine separated.
Jesus christ, i thought i was the only one in this situation
One of the best songs of all time. So many of us didn't want or plan to go through that. So sorry, but you can let it out. Thanks Blink!
I remember when this song first came out. Was a teen at the time. My parents stayed together and raised my siblings and I until just a few years ago until my dad decided to divorce my mom. It hurt but now I understand why he did it. He stayed for his children ♡ even though my mom was heavily alcoholic and still is. He didn't give up on us♡ today he's moved on and lives away from us and even though we barely kept in touch. I am thankful he stayed and took care of us. He showed in his actions that we can take care of ourselves aswell and raise our own children and not leave our relationships & responsibilities ♡♡♡♡ miss my dad everyday & still pray my mom will quit drinking ❤
It's different when drinking and self-destructive behaviors are in the picture, but for many, one or both parents were simply selfish and unwilling to functionally work through problems.
Amen, sister!!
What a great dad
Every time i hear this song gives me the chills.. "If this is what he wants and what she wants Then why is there so much pain?" I'm 28 and still hurts.
China Ayala that's the truth right there
I was 17 when I first heard this song. Now I'm 28 and has a daughter. Everytime me and my wife argues, I scroll down to see the comments as to remind me how painful a divorce brings to a child. Thank you Tom, Mark and Travis for this great reminder.
👍👍👍👍👍
so do I
I mean .. you should just leave if TH-cam comments are the thing getting you by.....
I guess is more painful for a kid to live in a house where the parents are always fighting than having divorced parents. Just saying. My parents are divorced and I prefer them divorced than living together and always fighting.
Branded Quotes i have 16 years old, and i'm living this moment, and i love this song.
25 years later I’m still here
twenty years now lost ! 1:10
Just wish Mark Travis & Tom Stayed together for the kids :(
Bruh they just made a new album 😐😐
Tom isn`t back.
That's like having a step dad, it aint gonna be the same.
+Heleghen good
Tom will be back.. I hope.
Blink was my first concert when I was 13. Lost my shit when this song came on. 31 years old and still feeling this song in 2020
Yes
Hell yes. I'm 31 as well. 👍✌️👊
“Felling this” ;)
32. And I was 15 when I first saw them.
I’ll be 31 in October 🤘🏼 This song hits harder now that we’re older.
I remember when I learned how to play this song on guitar. The chorus is so powerful, esp. that low F# man. That low F# will tear a hole thru ur soul!
I'm also a guitar player, I've been playing guitar since I was 2 years-old, I'm 28 years-old now. As someone who's probably been playing guitar longer, I'd like to share some incredible guitar songs with you; Joe Satriani - If I could Fly, Jeff Beck - Cause We've Ended as Lovers, Yngwie Malmsteen - I'll see the light tonight, Eric Johnson - Cliffs of Dover, Van Halen - Eruption, Matt Rach - Cannon Rock Final, Joe Satriani - Surfing with the Alien & e-mail me if you want to talk more about stuff; Dem0n@gmx.com
You are so damn right!
yea first song i learned to play when i started...well other than seven nation army but thats cake
IMaDEM0N I'm 28 too! I've been playing consistently since I was 12. Thanks for the song list! There's a lot of good stuff out there and it's great to find people who know good music! Sorry for the late reply.
This is my favorite Blink song by far. The message and the deepness of this song touches on many levels. More parents should listen to this song
Man. When that first chorus hits…. Mixed and mastered to perfection. The guitars are absolutely massive. Jerry Finn was a musical wizard, RIP.
What an album, what an era.
Amazing 🎉👍
"Man. When that first chorus hits"...I always thought that too. It cranks so hard. Spot on brother
🤝🤝🤝 100%!
0:50 Tom Voice is Anger !!!!!! Best !!!!
What a sad yet great song, people don’t realize how blessed we are growing up with both parents in the house. My prayers out to anyone dealing with their parents divorce. ❤️🙏🏼 stay strong!
Amen, I'm one of the lucky few, parents still married, grew up with this music and love it and miss it so much
I grew up with both parents until my mom died after years of drug use. I understand your sentiment but it was hell growing up. My dad did everything he could but all they did was fight and argue throw things. Having both parents isn't always a good thing. I hated my mother. My dad tried his damnedest to help her but he couldn't and it broke him. He never did drugs but you could see him wasting away. He wanted to keep us together he thought he could save her. In the end he couldn't. Some times divorce is the answer. She wasn't like that when they got married but they got married because of me. Then had my siblings. They never would have been together if I wasn't born. But they'd have been better if they'd divorced.
cringe
@@Tranquil_Hobbyonly to you.
Yea I’m 31 now and come to think about it seeing that at 7 did bother me even tho I acted like it didn’t. The late 80s & 90s kids are the generation of divorce and broken families & that’s the truth
By far it's one of the best songs of blink. On the other hand, i don't angry much with the message of this song. If both parents tried to fix the relationship considering their child's needs and it didnt work out, then it would be better to be apart without neglecting the relationship with their kids. Staying for the kids living a lie as a family isn't a good choice
I think the title isn't meant to be taken literally. This song is told from a kid's perspective, "this house is haunted", "it makes no sense at all" are things a kid would think in a parents divorce situation, not understanding what's happening around. I think "stay together for the kids" is not an imperative sentence, but a description of what means to a kid for his parents to be "together". And I think that's implied in the line "and if it's what he wants, and what she wants, then why there's so much pain?", which I think is the kid showing the real meaning of the song: A son wants his parents to be happy, whatever they are married or not, because he'll be happy too. A divorced couple can raise a healthy kid if they had a friendly break up. But if they aren't happy (as you're saying) there's no point of being together.
I was 13 when this song came out. This is how he expressed our hardships from school and family, listening to these kinds of songs. We survived without social media to express our feelings. Now I'm 34, so I'm glad i grew up with the early 2000s rock music
Bruh, truth. The fact that the decline of music started with the rise of social media is no coincidence.
Obviously known for their goofy "pop," stuff, their heavy/emotional songs are fantastic. Really make ya feel a certain type of way.
That’s what make them special u wouldn’t think 🤔 that they would expose the truth cause when u do they hate u 😢for it
It’s not right
It would fit in box car racer album. I always think of "I Feel So" when hear this
What type of way??
@@charlesparker8805 sehnsucht
This is an unbelievably beautiful Blink song. One of their most emotionally nostalgic.
heard as a teenager, loved it for the beat.. and now here it is a parent.. that's an awesome feeling
Great song. As a teenager this really made me feel like my feelings were normal. Now in 2022, it still hits hard.
I know what you mean
@@fabioc.cifuentes8052 i don't
OMG! I remembering listening to this when I was in 3rd grade. Now I'm in the 3rd gear of my uni.
Good old days when MTV played songs like these.
Miss Anonymous now its all about the booty butt cheeks lol xD
+Destiny Tarver IKR juft fuck off Nicki Minaj! XD
+Miss Anonymous Me too!! Good old days.
+Destiny Tarver Our civilization has been descending into primitivism for at least the past 60 years. Soon we will be watching naked people chanting around a fire and worshiping magic.
Stan Darsh so true o.o ... well whats my age again has SEXY naked people ;)
This song hits hard. 2020 still blaring
I do too
Spaaam
same
Same ❤️👍🏻 💯
Is the bset
Amo mucho esta banda! Marcaron mi adolescencia a full, 2024 hasta q muera los voy a seguir ❤
blink 182, please stay together for my kids. they need to hear you
I'm only 15, and once I got to high school I realized just how many kids have divorced parents. I honestly just don't understand how people can get married, have kids, and then just... end it. I guess I'm lucky that my parents are going on 22 years now, but I just don't feel lucky. I don't get why I should be considered lucky when my parents are happily together, everyone's parents should be. Straight respect to people who can make it through a divorce. I know I never could.
Pick a good one friend. ;)
One of the best comments I've ever read. Faith in humanity is strong.
Same here :S
Same for me. It would be amazing if it wasn't so crest-fallen.
Keep your naivety. Just wait until you realize how many stupid stupid adults there are in the world.
They say the best music is relatable. So for anyone out there that can relate to this, I’m sorry. Just know you’re not alone and a lot of us are going through/have gone through this. But we’re here for for you. That’s why this song was written. You’re not alone.
Never in my life I thought I'd get to sing this live... but I did. Started listening to blink at the age of 13, and it changed my life. I saw them live in Chile(always had a tiny hope of living my dream of seeing them live with Tom in the band) and when I got to sing Stay Together for the Kids felt like a band aid healing years of dreams and hopes. I love blink so fucking much, I cannot describe how wholesome and heartwarming that night was.
"20 years now lost" Hits way too close to home.
This one still gives me chills.
Exactly, still
Stay Together For Blink-182
Not the same without Tom
Siluman Beriman that thing from doctor who used to scare the shit out of me when i was younger
i miss this type of music goin’ thru my ears🥲 23rd october 2023!🤟🏻
Been listening since I was 14. I'm 38 now. Blink 182 forever. ✊
18 and 30 now brother 🤟🏼
Exact same.
Started listening to em in 98, when I was 14. Now 38.
Crazy.. where did 24 years go.
I turned 35 on 7th of april bro
Since 14 and im 33 now
I remember listening to this daily as a teenager. Suffered 10 years of child abuse and when I was finally taken away I felt even more my world was falling apart around me. Now I know that that pain was the pain of growth for a better life ahead.
proud of u bro :)
Having been through a family split in the pre teen years, this song still hits me in the feels. And I’m bordering 50. Timeless. One of the best harmonizing bands of all time to boot.
Such a powerful song that has most assuredly brought at least a few tears to the eyes of many youth and old alike that has experienced the misfortune of decay of marriage and divorce through parents or relatives for many years. 😢
This song hits harder now cause both my parents are no longer around...my mom died in 2015, and my dad took his own life back in September 2020...I’m 27 going on 28 now and this song makes much sense as it did when I was a teenager...:(
we're here for you buddy. You're not alone
Stay strong!👊
Hurts me so much to read that. Sending much strength your way✨
I'm sorry for your losses, friend. I hope you're doing well. Please reach out for help when you need.
IM here for you stay strong and find help if u need 1❤️
I'm in tears 20 years later, feeling the same pain I felt when my parents divorced. But also feeling hope inside, not emptiness like before ...
Real music. I am so glad I was alive for this era. Real rap real rock real grunge and every thing else. 1995-2005
2006 had some bangers as well
91-99 for sure though.
Everyone is nostalgic for their own partucular childhood soundtrack. I personally think the best time to be young and i must emphasize that I only mean music and culture. Anyways the best time i think was the 61-69 era. Real and plentiful LSD everywhere! People expressing themselves, uninhabited to the max. Plus some of the greatest rock musicians of all time came from that era. Im 31 and Blink 182 is the band that got me to pick up the guitar and music in general when I was 13. I never put it down and have been playing ever since. However even though I grew up on the 90s looking back I would love to experience things like woodstock and all the other amazing shows and experiences. Minus Vietnam and the draft of course lol.
At 7 I knew too much
1990-2009
All these years later, and my family is even more broken than it was when this came out. I used to listen to this because my parents fought and abused each other....now I'm listening to it while watching them continue to do the same, but also lose their home. This song will always hit hard. I'm just glad I got out of there. 🙂
Blink-182 is more talented than most critics give them credit for. The chemistry between Tom's edgy vocals and Mark's poignant verses make for a dynamic force to be reckoned with.
100% agree. Tom never gets enough credit for his melody writing and his super catchy riffs. One of my top 5 musicians!
Listen to angels and airwaves toms matured and his music just gets better
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If this is what he wants/and is what she wants/then why’s there so much pain?!
That always gets me 😭💔
🤣
I was 8 when my parents separated
I’ve a lot of trauma surrounding it and memory loss
12 years later I’m still not over it and it still effects me and sends me into dissociation
This song still helps me process something I never understood as a kid
Even tho I’m 30 this year, this song is so very important to me
I’m glad it’s still here for me to listen to
Te entiendo
@el060248 I’m seeing Blink in September and when they play this song I Will cry and I will feel extreme relief and healing in myself
I have a very strong support system in my life and I’ve already been through therapy so don’t quite give a fuck about some random replying to TH-cam comments about my Situation
I’ve already sorted myself out, maybe do the same for you instead of judging strangers 😂
Many of us feel your pain.
I listened to this song frequently and would get misty eyed (I’m not someone who cries easily).
Growing up I always told myself I want to be better than my parents. Be better parents to my kids. Let that be your goal if you plan to have kids.
Selfishness will destroy relationships. Selflessness is the only thing that will keep a relationship together.
@@dacokc thank you for your kind words
I have a partner of 8 years now, we don’t want kids or to get married, we only want each other and that’s good enough for us
I’ve learned from their mistakes and changed and went through therapy and bettered myself, we communicate and we never do the silent treatment because I know it feels as a child and with a partner
We do not do that now, we have amazing communication
We will not repeat their mistakes and we will break the cycle
I was also 8 when my folks sat me and my younger sisters down to tell us they were divorcing. Super traumatic and I absolutely understand your pain. Weird because I also don’t remember much before that day. I made a decision that I would use my parents as an example of how not to live. I’m now 51, married 23 years and we have two great kids. This song hits right at home. Thanks for posting your note.
Still from this day my favourite blink song of all time and also my favourite to play on both guitar and drums … the main theme to my childhood. Blink the greatest band ever
My parents are splitting up.
This song is a therapy.
Thanks blink 182 :3
+Aelita sry to hear that! :/
Thx honey. These things happen sadly :(
+Aelita You'll get over it, trust me i did.
thx :) Im already feeling better its been 2 weeks and I happy to see them happy again.
So everything is better.
+Aelita Don't let it define your life.
This song still puts me in tears, flashes me back to my discman and headphones drowning out my parents fighting every day
I can't believe this song is fourteen years old already.
***** im glad im not 14 anymore though
Cyan Junkie I cant believe I missed these awesome songs when I was still a TEEN damn
Cyan Junkie lol I remember jamming to this when I was a fetus. reminds me so much of gestation
Cyan Junkie I was 4 years old when this came out.
Cyan Junkie I was 15 - 16 years old when this was on MTV. The channel itself has gone to shit and at no return. It should be nuked!
Been listening to Blink 182 and forgot how awesome their songs are.
Honestly, I'm so sorry to all the children going through all this. No one deserves it but it happens. Criticize me if you must but I'm going through a divorce right now. I tried so hard to keep it going but when only one party wants it, its a losing battle. I can only be the best father I can be and do right by my two children, my everythings. I know one day they're going to have to deal with this and I know its going to be hard. I'll stand beside them the whole time. The pain isn't just for the kids, I feel that pain everyday. I cry just thinking about how these two children, my blood, will have to live in two separate houses. I love my children more than I love anything. I feel for all the kids going through this. I'm sorry.
I would never abuse my children or my ex. My children are my life. I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I can't even fathom how a father could do that to his family. You and your mother never deserved what you went through but its very brave of you to come out and talk about it so that others going through similar situations know that they're not alone. I hope life has turned around for your mother and yourself. You both deserve the best.
I've been living through this for 13 years. is sucks. 4.5 years till I'm out of this hell.
I ask you please just be see your kids don't go months without seeing them phones call aren't the same just please make sure you don't give in and think it'll be easier to just see them next week do it that day even if it means not being able to do things you want to just do it for them
I have joint custody of my children. They're my world. I would never put off being with them for anything. No worries Daric. Thanks for the reply. Thanks for caring.
+Chad Searles I know you'll do good :)
This song is powerful especially the last chorus with the piano section and that tom repeats "It's not right" a few times I get so emotional. This song is timeless
Marks bit is so emotional, then Tom comes in like “Seeew HEWWRS YUUOUR HOLEEDAAAEEEY”
ENJOY IT THIS TOIME
IT WAS MOINNNEE ITS NOT ROIGHT
@@jackinthebox16 REMEMBER DIS NOIGHT TWEEENTY YEEARS NOIW LOSS
@@cinematicsterling6897 ITS NOT ROIGHTTT
😂😂😂 I laughed 10 minutes to this comment
Just saw them last night at acl they played this and it was everything! Crazy I’ve been listening to this band since 2000
19 years have passed, this song feels the same.
This thing hits harder now.
I''ve been listening to this song on repeat for nearly 7 months. I wasn't married, but I left a toxic 6 year relationship, we have 2 beautiful kids and I love them more than anything I could have possibly imagined. My life spiralled, I work away 5 days a week, she has the upper hand in their lives and I have nothing to say about it. I was in a dark place, I still am. It'll never be easy.. Even when the Ex texts you and makes you feel small , like you've never done enough for your kids, you start feeling like you have done all these things, even though they couldnt be further from the truth. I never thought I'd ever meet someone again. Just when I was about to end it all, the suffering and heartache, the way out. Someone walked into my life and she has lit up something inside me that I didn't think I'd find. Everything that crashed around me has started to build itself again. It's still not easy, and I still as a grown man sit on my bed and cry. But I just want everyone to know no matter how dark it gets, how long that tunnel seems, how easy it is to just jump. Wait. Because a split second later, the light comes into your life you've always been searching for. Someone out there is going through the same thing. You're not alone. We are not alone.
Feel you bro. Goin thru the same shit
Went through the same shit 2.5 years ago man. Sounds very similar to your situation. Hang it there. It gets better. Show the kids your love they will see it.
Thank you. I needed to read this.
Thank you.. I needed too read this..life has been a battle been times I've wanted too let it go myself and just say f*** everything..
I hope your right. Idk if there's any point in going on. So tired.
I usually overthink when i'm alone, so here i am, stuck at home in quarantine and i was thinkin about when my parents divorced and felt the urge to listen to this song, it still hits hard everytime
Rom 8:31
Stand strong friend... it gets better with time
Ansia Stark
It’ll get better, kid. Positive vibes headed your way!
Stay strong ❤️
Your daddy name tony? Take it easy
Ansia Stark hang in there
I turned this song on after not hearing it since i was a kid. I started bawling instantly and remembered all the lyrics. I’m glad my parents didn’t stay together, they were so bad for each other. But I hear these words and feel like a huge chunk of my childhood was stolen from me. I’m giving birth to my son in 3 months and I pray my partner and I stay strong.. we always find a way to make things work.
These guys didn’t even realize how much this song would fucking help kids just like me with problems we had no control over at home. Thank you, guys.
Damn that hits
We love you
I think it is specially the fact of knowing that you are not alone in experiencing these hard situations and that even successful people (such as blink182) has passed through it and did overcome it in a way... It is the feeling that there's HOPE ahead and that it is not the end of the world if you get the right strength and wisdom to canalize these intense feelings
But i'm serious Sommertimes it's better that your parents Split and get divorced. First when my parents get divorced an Split i was das but the I SAW my rather get happier with His News Girl friend i was happier too. Even If so gotnsoke mental health Problems because of my Mom im happyier than ever
I find Travis playing the drums releases a lot of stress for me
These 3 guys pretty much raised an entire generation of people, Mark was the dad and Tom was the mom...Travis he's that weird neighbor who walks in your backyard so he can have his dog take a shit on it,but we love him anyway,but now dads remarried and moms gone chasing after Aliens.
No shit...me too.
Ummm...
and jumping motorcycles over the grand canyons and doing PSAs on breast cancer
Omg that is so true...Especially the Travis part! :)
this is pretty accurate.
Im 38 and this song kills me. Love you b 182
Me toooo
Do you believe we are in end of days now?
@@ishiFNV What are the three things, or five even, you could impart upon us who have yet to attain your experience of a century?
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