She is 100% jealous of her daughter. Statements like 'she IS me' and 'we're identical' show that she claims her daughter as a possession. Possessions can't outshine their owners
Jennette mccurdy is a great example of some children's reaction to abuse. Jennette saw her mom as wonderful and only trying to help her when everything her mom did was abuse and for selfish reasons. It took her a very long time to realize what her mom did was wrong. I think this girl is going through the same thing..
I was raised by a narcissistic sociopath. I was her scapegoat/prime target , literally from birth. But I didn't realize it was abuse until my mid 30s. It's disgusting.
Absolutely. It took me decades to figure this out. I was actually researching why I struggle the way I do, or how I react the way I do. Like constantly apologizing, even if I had nothing to do with a situation. It's a trauma response. Thank goodness for videos addressing the issue.
The fact that she thinks being identical twin to her daughter (when she’s not) it shows just how jealous she is of her own daughter. It’s so sad that parents will be abusive to their kids.
Parents who try to live through their children disgust me… especially when it’s the mother who literally gave birth and created the human they are exploiting. Then they wonder why the child doesn’t want to be around them when they finally are able to move out
and she seems to have had work done too, though it’s honestly kinda hard to tell for sure past all the filtering and whatnot. everyone has every right to do what they want with their body, but they totally deserve to be shamed for being hypocritical about it and taking out their issues on their child 🤨 she’s so delusional
Fr my mother would say if told anybody I'd get taken away to foster care and mistreated awfully. It's hard to believe but real people like that exist gotta keep reminding that this motherly behavior is wild.
My parents used to lock me up in my bedroom, with a padlock....before I could even try and be a bad kid. Didn't realize it was abusive till I had kids of my own. I still hate them
i've been abused before and i behaved practically like her everytime my parents were around. i was scared of them so I'd pretend to be fine so they wouldn't do what they did anymore
“I’m not going to say what my daughter did because I would never publicly embarrass my daughter. I mean, except for the time I shaved her head and posted it online 2 days ago lol”
As a person who is a victim of phyiscal and verbal abuse from my own mother, the moment i saw the child agree with her mother is the moment i knew it was an abusive relationship. I know its a shot in the dark, but when i was younger, i was completely oblivious to the fact that i was being abused, and thought it was just punishment or discipline, when i found out it completely changed me as a person and now i want nothing to do with my mother or family - since they're aware of it and allow it to happen. Hope that girl finds the right people
@@robney6988 I'm a male, but yeah i'm doing okay i suppose. After about 15 years of abuse it still happens, but not as often as it used to. I got the authorities involved, and have had a lot of anger issues because of the resentment caused by the abuse. My doctor even said that i could possibly be a victim of Trauma, which yk, hurt a lot mentally.
I don't know if the girl believes in what she is saying or not. I used to believe that some of the stuff my parents were doing was normal because they made me believe it (and abuse is normalised way too much). But some of the stuff they did I knew it wasn't right, and yet I had to act like I liked them anyway just to avoid more abuse. I'd always say whatever they wanted me to to avoid punishment and that could be what this kid is doing, idk
Even if she thought its a deserved punishment she should have kept it offline...she did it for the clout and so people maybe side with her (in the matter that she looks like her doughtier when in fact she looks like a forgotten muppet)
This happened in 2015 in my area where a dad took a video of him cutting off his daughters hair for punishment and posting it. She later committed suicide because of this.
I know I would be a horrible parent, just a train wreck of raising another human… so I decided not to do that. My girlfriend and I love each other and we have been together for about 17 years but we know nothing is coming from our relationship 😂
@@MusicalSeizureGuy more people need to be like you two then, too many people try to have kids and think "I can learn to raise one" no, you either got it or you don't.
I wish people don’t go around TH-cam quoting the same things over and over again , creativity is dead. There is a thousand ways to say anything at any given moment and you just copy and paste some over used quote
it’s not about “being pretty is not as important as being smart”, it’s about the control that she took over that kid when she cut her hair off. she shouldn’t need to do that nor post it online to discipline her kid.
While claiming being pretty isn't more important than being educated...Like girl you make sure to put on the same filter for every video but you refuse to learn from your mistakes. She is most definitely jealous of her daughter.
I had to take a required parenting course during my divorce. I seem to distinctly remember hearing that cutting off a child’s hair, intentionally posting embarrassing stuff to punish them, etc is considered abuse. Maybe just here in Texas? Idk but I think it’s abuse.
“You don’t know the bond I have with my kid” is what my parent claimed around the block for years…years ago before I moved out of the country and stopped speaking to her. Sometimes a kid isn’t screaming and crying not because they are fine, but because they are afraid of “making parent look bad” Add that she’s still a kid, she probably is actually laughing but in ten years she is gonna look back and be like “why did my mother actually do that? Why didn’t I say something? Why wasn’t I as angry about it then as I am now?”
Abusive parents always justify it with “it’s out of love” but nah it’s not y’all need psychiatric help and the child needs to be removed from that environment asap this is just disgusting
Whenever an abusive boyfriend says he does it “out of love” everyone agrees it’s gross but parents will say the same thing and you’ll see others defending them. Make it make sense.
When I was about 6, I witnessed my dad attempt to cut my older sisters hair with scissors as some sort of punishment. It was quite a violent act since my sister tried to resist. She ended up with bleeding cuts up and down her forearms and chunks of hair missing. It’s sad when you grow up thinking those type of things are normal. Everything hit me pretty hard when I started to self reflect as an adult. I hope for this child’s sake, the mom tries to understand abuse and it’s many different forms. It’s never too late to be a better person 🫶
At 6:01 it is honestly f*cking hard to watch the kid try and smile and try to fake laugh all while flinching and trying to duck away from her moms arm around her.
@@dinodude1690 I'm not seeing it? (But that kamala harris style fake-laughing-while-talking face and the forced arm over the shoulder as she says it is like out of a movie . Could be a real ad on awareness)
The fact that she has not just cut her hair but made her wear a wig has got to be just more horrible because as kids we all use to think wigs were funny, so there is a chance they'll figure out shes wearing a wig and point and laugh at her. This is definitely going to give her trauma years later
I was seriously wondering what people were thinking but the hair she cut off I'm not sure are extensions or not. I went to a school where half the school wore locs or weaves and this was also a form of punishment (not typically by the parents tho if you know what I mean) to get them pulled or cut out. In certain communities, you gotta wear wigs if you want that straight, or even long, hair
@@boxtroll-chan5082From the original video you can tell it’s fake hair that she had cut off, im pretty sure she had just gotten it done and that’s why it was such a big punishment. But i can’t figure out if the wig thing is more of the punishment or to get the daughter to like her again by getting her a wig to hide her hair.
Okay I don't know if it's just me but this mom raising her kid like that seems like red carpet compared to my childhood, I feel it's kinda weird the backlash she is getting, sure I wouldn't do that to my kids but at least on video she seems fine kinda, the public shame is kinda messed up but i would take that rather than what I have lived
Public shaming aside, forcefully changing your child's appearance against their will is abuse and teaches them that people are allowed to do whatever they want to them. Kids with parents like that WILL grow up fated to have abusive relationships for the rest of their lives. Your actions towards your kids DO have a huge impact on their entire lives.
Can confirm. My mom forced me to get my long hair cut up to my chin when I was 9 bc i “didn’t take care of my long hair” (I loved my long hair sm, it was literally my pride and joy when I was little bc I loved how pretty I thought it was). Still haven’t recovered, I just remember sitting in that chair at the beauty salon and sobbing my eyes out while the hair stylist cringed a little and apologized profusely to me. I’m in therapy now and that keeps coming up when I talk abt my issues.
Bingo! I grew up in a household where I couldn’t make any decisions for myself, was forced to do things I didn’t wanna do and I thought it was normal because when you’re younger, you think your parents are doing what’s right for you. When I was dating in high school, my mom seemed jealous of my relationships. Even though they were all toxic and I eventually ended up in a very abusive relationship in which she told me to “stay quiet about it and don’t think about it”. My ex should have been in prison for what he did
"Being pretty ain't sh$t education comes first what I do to/for my childish definitely for her better! " and she's "highly educated" absolutely no self awareness on these internet streets!
Duude this is so traumatic and humiliating for this child. I remember being like 12 years old and crying from frustration bc I was struggling very hard cleaning my room. It seems dumb but it felt like a monumental task at the time. My mom came in with her phone and started recording me, laughing at me, and threatening to post it on Facebook. Nearly 15 years later that's still a traumatic memory for me. I can't imagine something like that happening and then actually posting it on tiktok. Her kid might say she's fine(she doesn't sound fine at all) that event will likely stick with her for her entire life. What that mother did shows an utter lack of respect for her kid and her autonomy. It's just gross.
That's the thing that really makes me sick. she's gonna grow up, realize what an awful situation she was in, and remember that it was BROADCASTED for millions to see, against her consent
It’s always very obvious when a parent is jealous of their child. I think that jealousy on the moms part plays a huge role in how she treats her daughter. Notice when she says “this is my baby, this is ME.” I was like yikes, something felt off about that comment.
and especially with her daughters hair type, it doesn't grow as fast and easy as common hair types which means it probably makes it even sadder since it will take a while to grow out. Even if she had hair that grows back fairly fast, I would be absolutely DEVASTATED.
Psychologically I wonder and want to ask the mom “Why is cutting hair and posting about it to the public a punishment?” I’d bet you the answer you get hints at humiliation, embarassment, degrading, and stealing sense of self/autonomy. This is also why they do it in the military. This mother has chosen that, instead of physical discipline, she will utilize psychological warfare. Sure, this kid seems okay right now…. She’s probably getting gaslit to think it’s appropriate… “at least I’m not beating you like my parents beat me.” This mother is a narcissist; reminds me of my own mother.
destroying someone's appearance is so much worse than giving them a spaken, slapping them upside the head, or anything of that sort concidering the generation nowadays.
The way she was talking about her daughter being her "identical twin" when she's not was so off putting. Even worse when she was talking " thats my daughter. That is me, she is me. " as if her daughter was a extention of herself... what tells me that this is more about jealousy than wanting her daughter off of tiktok is the fact that she literally put her daughter on tiktok herself humiliating her 😐 like what- the 'consequence' for what her daughter was doing was completely hypocritical of the action she got in trouble for in the first place.
in another video Caleb didn't mention is another TikTok talking about the issue and her daughter was beside her and she was asking her "did I abuse you? do you feel traumatized?" and she said no to all of them with her voice shaking and it was just so sad. She even said "Was this better than the abuse I could've done" and saying that sentence is such an ICK
There was this kid in 1st grade who made fun of someone with cancer and his parents shaved his head bald and he gut bullied for it for quite some time. but to be honest the kid went from "bully" to a very understanding and nice kid VERY quickly.
See that seems like maybe the only time something like that _would_ make sense, because the punishment directly relates to the offense. It's not just a ploy for control, it's "how about you experience, in a less permanent way, what you were bullying someone else for, and then see if you still think that's okay?"
Anyone else notice that, around 09:48 theres a bit of a flinch from the daughter, and that's in addition to the fact that the filter doesn't cover her features completely, and you can see in her expression that she isn't comfortable?
All kids deserve parents not all parents deserve kids. This applies soooo much to this situation and it’s so sad for that girl, and even worse her mom is probably going to get worse during puberty. I hope this girl gets help and that woman becomes a better mother
My aunt would always tell other people what I do when I’m doing something wrong, I don’t think she does it to embarrass me, I think she just does it to vent but even then it makes me super self councious of what other people think of me now and now I’m a people pleaser and even a push over cause I don’t want people to think of me how my aunt shows how I am. Once I voiced out how hurtful the things she does is, she stopped but even then I had to go to therapy as my over self conscious is always thinking about what people think of me. I can’t even imagine what that child has to go through when a bunch of strangers she doesn’t even know are seeing her ‘getting punished.’ This is how meek and people who don’t speak up are made. When her child grows up and cuts off all contact without saying anything she shouldn’t be surprised.
It’s bad enough to put your kids online for the world to see. But to put AND publicly shame your kids online for the world to see is just absolutely awful. I hope both that mother and her daughter get the respective help that both of them very much need.
Honestly, advice from someone who sells chocha or has on OF is probably some of the most valuable advice she could get. I'm sure they have first hand knowledge of what kind of parenting can push a girl in the wrong direction.
Single moms abusing their daughters into being their own emotional support will inevitably create a women who is so emotionally codependent with their mother that they can’t keep a man, therefore repeating the cycle when she turns around and emulated her mother’s behaviors to her own future children.
She is so envious of her daughters looks. She is NOWHERE NEAR her “twin” she’s a 4 maybe 5(w/the filter) her daughter is a solid 9. And her jealousy is what guides her *Appearance based punishments.
I'm so glad my parents weren't online. They are extreme narcissists who treated me and my siblings like garbage at home but as soon as we had guests over or visited someone else they made us to look like a perfect family. It was awful. Our father was the worst of the two. I can't imagine what it would've been like if we had been exploited online as well
It’s giving emotional abvse. The way the daughter’s eyes are glazed over abd the mom goes on and on about “wElL I ToLd you I WoUlD dO tHiS! So ThIs iS aLl yOuR fAulT! YoU DeSeRvEd ThIs!” And the daughter keeps smiling and laughing lije if she doesn’t there’s gonna be h3ll to pay
she literally cut her own daughter hair of because of jealousy, she just wanted for her daughter to look uglier than her and telling her that being pretty doesn’t matter. That’s just insane
If she was truly highly educated as she claims, she would know that public hair cutting was a humiliation tactic used by colonoizers on the Sikh in South Asia and the Indigenous in residential schools :/
It is a huge ick when parents say they're kid is them, like no they aren't. They are a person, a human who is separate from you. Stop trying to live through your kids
When I lived with my mom, she used to cut my hair. It was a lesson for me to learn. Thing is, I never did anything that bad. All I did was take a cookie without asking. I was only 9 at the time and my hair was so long it used to drag along the floor. Now I have major issues because of it. I used to think that love meant someone had to hurt you because of what my mom did to me growing up. This mother sickens me
I hate how the mom starts crapping on women that do $3x work like most of them want to. Like many, many mothers have to do that just to feed their kids and put a roof over their kids heads and she's just belittling them for trying their hardest.
When her daughter says her abusive boyfriend loves her and that she deserves what he did to her... she will have no one else to blame but her parenting.
“This is me right here” is something my narcissistic mother used to say all of the timeeee she acted jealous of me like I stole her youth. She also seen me as an extension of herself and that’s how all narcissistic parents view their kids… that’s the vibes im getting. I loved my mom until I was old enough to realize how big of a bully she really was. As a kid it’s easier to believe your parents want what’s best for you. It what you want to believe.
I had my fears that she could be a puerto rican mom living in the US but her saying “chocha” (one of the many Puerto Rican slangs for 🐱) confirmed it. If she’s not from PR, she’s definitely Caribbean that’s for sure.
The arm around the daughter makes me so uncomfortable. "Look how close we are! See everyone she's fine!" off camera "Do another tiktok with me or I'll shave off the rest of your hair"
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She is 100% jealous of her daughter. Statements like 'she IS me' and 'we're identical' show that she claims her daughter as a possession. Possessions can't outshine their owners
A typical narc parent
True
Also she talks about jealousy like it is only about looks. To me it seemed like she was jealous of her youth if anything
@@malee943 yes, textbook narcissistic mother/daughter relationship.
Your absolutely right
Jennette mccurdy is a great example of some children's reaction to abuse. Jennette saw her mom as wonderful and only trying to help her when everything her mom did was abuse and for selfish reasons. It took her a very long time to realize what her mom did was wrong. I think this girl is going through the same thing..
First time I heard the name of her book I was genuinely flabbergasted 🤣 until I did some research and yeah, fair enough 🤣
I was raised by a narcissistic sociopath. I was her scapegoat/prime target , literally from birth. But I didn't realize it was abuse until my mid 30s. It's disgusting.
Absolutely. It took me decades to figure this out. I was actually researching why I struggle the way I do, or how I react the way I do. Like constantly apologizing, even if I had nothing to do with a situation. It's a trauma response. Thank goodness for videos addressing the issue.
The fact that she thinks being identical twin to her daughter (when she’s not) it shows just how jealous she is of her own daughter. It’s so sad that parents will be abusive to their kids.
She looks like she is trying her best to infiltrate the Chinese government.
Parents who try to live through their children disgust me… especially when it’s the mother who literally gave birth and created the human they are exploiting. Then they wonder why the child doesn’t want to be around them when they finally are able to move out
She speaking like she's some kind of mitosis duplicating ameba
My father was abusive to me
They got the same eyes but otherwise don’t look anything alike. Parents living vicariously through their kids is just disgusting
It's ironic how she wants her daughter to prioritize education over vanity while she uses TikTok filters.
and she seems to have had work done too, though it’s honestly kinda hard to tell for sure past all the filtering and whatnot. everyone has every right to do what they want with their body, but they totally deserve to be shamed for being hypocritical about it and taking out their issues on their child 🤨 she’s so delusional
Not to mention that the girl probably felt obligated to be nice to her mom and do what she told her because of a fear that another thing might happen.
Unfortunately, Stockholm syndrome is becoming more common these days…..
The gun she was holding on her made that girl feel even more obligated, imo. Lol
"teaching your kids to behave is psychological abuse!!! Stockholm syndrome!!!" 🤓🤓🤓
She sounds like she crying is the worst part 😔
Fr my mother would say if told anybody I'd get taken away to foster care and mistreated awfully.
It's hard to believe but real people like that exist gotta keep reminding that this motherly behavior is wild.
My parents used to lock me up in my bedroom, with a padlock....before I could even try and be a bad kid. Didn't realize it was abusive till I had kids of my own. I still hate them
It’s messed up how many times I’ve heard a similar story.
@@emilydavis9548 it's to a point where I feel nothing while reading them
When I read "I still hate them" I thought you were talking about your kids 😭
@@rabbitman8535
BRUH
@@rabbitman8535 Maybe they are...
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That laughing feels so incredibly forced and it genuinely feels like a hostage situation.
I searched for this comment it put chills down my spine and they kept laughing randomly pretty unsettling
i've been abused before and i behaved practically like her everytime my parents were around. i was scared of them so I'd pretend to be fine so they wouldn't do what they did anymore
she’s manipulating her daughter to keep loving her telling her that this is normal, and she loves her. Horrible.
Hopefully she realizes she’s being mistreated and can move away
“I’m not going to say what my daughter did because I would never publicly embarrass my daughter. I mean, except for the time I shaved her head and posted it online 2 days ago lol”
saying that while she embarrassed her daughter made no senses at all !
Deadass 💀
You watch Oopmpaville?
@@a_little_demon who tf wants to be disciplined in front of millions
@@sumuduliyanawaduge4949 I know right ?
As a person who is a victim of phyiscal and verbal abuse from my own mother, the moment i saw the child agree with her mother is the moment i knew it was an abusive relationship. I know its a shot in the dark, but when i was younger, i was completely oblivious to the fact that i was being abused, and thought it was just punishment or discipline, when i found out it completely changed me as a person and now i want nothing to do with my mother or family - since they're aware of it and allow it to happen. Hope that girl finds the right people
I'm so sorry for you it's horrible even thinking that a mother could treat their own daughter this way I hope your doing well now
@@robney6988 I'm a male, but yeah i'm doing okay i suppose. After about 15 years of abuse it still happens, but not as often as it used to. I got the authorities involved, and have had a lot of anger issues because of the resentment caused by the abuse. My doctor even said that i could possibly be a victim of Trauma, which yk, hurt a lot mentally.
I don't know if the girl believes in what she is saying or not. I used to believe that some of the stuff my parents were doing was normal because they made me believe it (and abuse is normalised way too much). But some of the stuff they did I knew it wasn't right, and yet I had to act like I liked them anyway just to avoid more abuse. I'd always say whatever they wanted me to to avoid punishment and that could be what this kid is doing, idk
She's just mad she got caught being a narcissistic person and abusing her child so she's trying to call out other people for doing stuff
Even if she thought its a deserved punishment she should have kept it offline...she did it for the clout and so people maybe side with her (in the matter that she looks like her doughtier when in fact she looks like a forgotten muppet)
@@FriedSheep69 yep
Just like my ex fr
@@kirikocos you scared me I thought this was in one of my videos and I'm sorry that happened to you
This happened in 2015 in my area where a dad took a video of him cutting off his daughters hair for punishment and posting it. She later committed suicide because of this.
She is the definition of "Not all parents deserve kids"
But all kids deserve parents
I know I would be a horrible parent, just a train wreck of raising another human… so I decided not to do that. My girlfriend and I love each other and we have been together for about 17 years but we know nothing is coming from our relationship 😂
@@MusicalSeizureGuy more people need to be like you two then, too many people try to have kids and think "I can learn to raise one" no, you either got it or you don't.
@@sabertoothno34also to add on top of what you said; not all people can say that so that’s a medal of respect for that yk
I wish people don’t go around TH-cam quoting the same things over and over again , creativity is dead. There is a thousand ways to say anything at any given moment and you just copy and paste some over used quote
it’s not about “being pretty is not as important as being smart”, it’s about the control that she took over that kid when she cut her hair off. she shouldn’t need to do that nor post it online to discipline her kid.
The irony in the mother is how she doesn't educate herself on being a better parent whilst using a beauty filter and has split dyed hair.
While claiming being pretty isn't more important than being educated...Like girl you make sure to put on the same filter for every video but you refuse to learn from your mistakes. She is most definitely jealous of her daughter.
@@an-meTHANK YOU.
Cept she's not beautiful OR educated
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I had to take a required parenting course during my divorce. I seem to distinctly remember hearing that cutting off a child’s hair, intentionally posting embarrassing stuff to punish them, etc is considered abuse. Maybe just here in Texas? Idk but I think it’s abuse.
Here in Germany cutting someone's Hair off without consent counts as battery
@@thesavior9672 As it should
I'd consider it emotional abuse
@@thesavior9672 It's the same here in the US but not many people know that :(
oompa caught me off guard by going serious at the end
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@Don't Read My Profile Photo man don’t *bleep* my *bleep*
Yes more of this I like one way oompa!🥰💯
He may be funny haha but he is a genuine person
@Don't Read My Profile Photo okay
“You don’t know the bond I have with my kid” is what my parent claimed around the block for years…years ago before I moved out of the country and stopped speaking to her.
Sometimes a kid isn’t screaming and crying not because they are fine, but because they are afraid of “making parent look bad”
Add that she’s still a kid, she probably is actually laughing but in ten years she is gonna look back and be like “why did my mother actually do that? Why didn’t I say something? Why wasn’t I as angry about it then as I am now?”
Abusive parents always justify it with “it’s out of love” but nah it’s not y’all need psychiatric help and the child needs to be removed from that environment asap this is just disgusting
Whenever an abusive boyfriend says he does it “out of love” everyone agrees it’s gross but parents will say the same thing and you’ll see others defending them. Make it make sense.
When I was about 6, I witnessed my dad attempt to cut my older sisters hair with scissors as some sort of punishment. It was quite a violent act since my sister tried to resist. She ended up with bleeding cuts up and down her forearms and chunks of hair missing. It’s sad when you grow up thinking those type of things are normal. Everything hit me pretty hard when I started to self reflect as an adult. I hope for this child’s sake, the mom tries to understand abuse and it’s many different forms. It’s never too late to be a better person 🫶
You can even see the girl flinching when the mother puts her arm around her and says "you guys, this is my baby,.."
At 6:01 it is honestly f*cking hard to watch the kid try and smile and try to fake laugh all while flinching and trying to duck away from her moms arm around her.
@@dinodude1690 I'm not seeing it? (But that kamala harris style fake-laughing-while-talking face and the forced arm over the shoulder as she says it is like out of a movie . Could be a real ad on awareness)
@@dinodude1690 ohh at 10:00 mark I see my bad
@@dinodude1690Omg so horrible!
@@cavemanlovesmoke4394Oh no!
The fact that she has not just cut her hair but made her wear a wig has got to be just more horrible because as kids we all use to think wigs were funny, so there is a chance they'll figure out shes wearing a wig and point and laugh at her. This is definitely going to give her trauma years later
I got made fun of for wearing wigs.
@@emilydavis9548 I am sorry that happened to you
I was seriously wondering what people were thinking but the hair she cut off I'm not sure are extensions or not. I went to a school where half the school wore locs or weaves and this was also a form of punishment (not typically by the parents tho if you know what I mean) to get them pulled or cut out. In certain communities, you gotta wear wigs if you want that straight, or even long, hair
@@boxtroll-chan5082From the original video you can tell it’s fake hair that she had cut off, im pretty sure she had just gotten it done and that’s why it was such a big punishment. But i can’t figure out if the wig thing is more of the punishment or to get the daughter to like her again by getting her a wig to hide her hair.
Wow mom of the year, cut of your daughter's hair as punishment and then public humiliation.. such a heartwarming mom..
Humanity is so lost..
My question I'd how do these people look at there video and see them cutting there hair off and go hmm the rest of the world is gonna love this one
Okay I don't know if it's just me but this mom raising her kid like that seems like red carpet compared to my childhood, I feel it's kinda weird the backlash she is getting, sure I wouldn't do that to my kids but at least on video she seems fine kinda, the public shame is kinda messed up but i would take that rather than what I have lived
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@@itsyaboycancer7659Ikr?!
@@andrewjohnson442 Abuse is not a competition and shouldn't be treated like one.
If she honestly believed what she did was right she wouldn’t feel the need to defend it over and over again . Absolute joke of a mum
Public shaming aside, forcefully changing your child's appearance against their will is abuse and teaches them that people are allowed to do whatever they want to them. Kids with parents like that WILL grow up fated to have abusive relationships for the rest of their lives. Your actions towards your kids DO have a huge impact on their entire lives.
Can confirm. My mom forced me to get my long hair cut up to my chin when I was 9 bc i “didn’t take care of my long hair” (I loved my long hair sm, it was literally my pride and joy when I was little bc I loved how pretty I thought it was). Still haven’t recovered, I just remember sitting in that chair at the beauty salon and sobbing my eyes out while the hair stylist cringed a little and apologized profusely to me. I’m in therapy now and that keeps coming up when I talk abt my issues.
That and also dysphoria.
Bingo! I grew up in a household where I couldn’t make any decisions for myself, was forced to do things I didn’t wanna do and I thought it was normal because when you’re younger, you think your parents are doing what’s right for you. When I was dating in high school, my mom seemed jealous of my relationships. Even though they were all toxic and I eventually ended up in a very abusive relationship in which she told me to “stay quiet about it and don’t think about it”. My ex should have been in prison for what he did
Destroying a teen girls physical looks, is traumatizing! But then posting it online is humiliating, degrading and even worse abuse!!
"Being pretty ain't sh$t education comes first what I do to/for my childish definitely for her better! " and she's "highly educated" absolutely no self awareness on these internet streets!
Some parents make distinguishing the small line between discipline and abuse very hard.
Yep just like Hispanic parents 💀
@Don't Read My Profile Photo bro shut up
@@blackavar5723 cause it’s a no life 😂
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@Don't Read My Profile Photo I won't.
"Tell everyone you're ok or I'll cut your hair again."
- That mother, probably
Yes... Or maybe worse but definitely that's the situation...
"she thinks it's more important to look pretty than getting an education" while the mother has a filter which removes wrinkles, bad lighting etc,.
Duude this is so traumatic and humiliating for this child. I remember being like 12 years old and crying from frustration bc I was struggling very hard cleaning my room. It seems dumb but it felt like a monumental task at the time. My mom came in with her phone and started recording me, laughing at me, and threatening to post it on Facebook. Nearly 15 years later that's still a traumatic memory for me. I can't imagine something like that happening and then actually posting it on tiktok. Her kid might say she's fine(she doesn't sound fine at all) that event will likely stick with her for her entire life. What that mother did shows an utter lack of respect for her kid and her autonomy. It's just gross.
That's the thing that really makes me sick. she's gonna grow up, realize what an awful situation she was in, and remember that it was BROADCASTED for millions to see, against her consent
It looks like she physically altered her face and just ended up looking like the grinch
BRO I’M SO GLAD I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO THOUGHT THAT 😭
*shaves her daughters head and posts it online* “I’m not here to embarrass my daughter” 💀
Fr💀
I wrote this in the middle of the video I didn’t even realize Caleb said that too
Indeed, she only embarrassed herself
“being pretty doesn’t matter” but has the beauty filter on in every tiktok
It’s always very obvious when a parent is jealous of their child. I think that jealousy on the moms part plays a huge role in how she treats her daughter. Notice when she says “this is my baby, this is ME.” I was like yikes, something felt off about that comment.
I hope this girl finds all the support there is out there for her. I thought I heard something about her getting taken away from the mom?
I like how she says looks don't matter but proceeds to wear filters the entire time
and especially with her daughters hair type, it doesn't grow as fast and easy as common hair types which means it probably makes it even sadder since it will take a while to grow out. Even if she had hair that grows back fairly fast, I would be absolutely DEVASTATED.
Psychologically I wonder and want to ask the mom “Why is cutting hair and posting about it to the public a punishment?” I’d bet you the answer you get hints at humiliation, embarassment, degrading, and stealing sense of self/autonomy. This is also why they do it in the military. This mother has chosen that, instead of physical discipline, she will utilize psychological warfare. Sure, this kid seems okay right now…. She’s probably getting gaslit to think it’s appropriate… “at least I’m not beating you like my parents beat me.” This mother is a narcissist; reminds me of my own mother.
Thank you for addressing this situation, as there is a line between discipline and just pure abuse.
destroying someone's appearance is so much worse than giving them a spaken, slapping them upside the head, or anything of that sort concidering the generation nowadays.
The way she was talking about her daughter being her "identical twin" when she's not was so off putting. Even worse when she was talking " thats my daughter. That is me, she is me. " as if her daughter was a extention of herself... what tells me that this is more about jealousy than wanting her daughter off of tiktok is the fact that she literally put her daughter on tiktok herself humiliating her 😐 like what- the 'consequence' for what her daughter was doing was completely hypocritical of the action she got in trouble for in the first place.
put the redemption arc back up please i want to watch it
in another video Caleb didn't mention is another TikTok talking about the issue and her daughter was beside her and she was asking her "did I abuse you? do you feel traumatized?" and she said no to all of them with her voice shaking and it was just so sad. She even said "Was this better than the abuse I could've done" and saying that sentence is such an ICK
There was this kid in 1st grade who made fun of someone with cancer and his parents shaved his head bald and he gut bullied for it for quite some time. but to be honest the kid went from "bully" to a very understanding and nice kid VERY quickly.
See that seems like maybe the only time something like that _would_ make sense, because the punishment directly relates to the offense. It's not just a ploy for control, it's "how about you experience, in a less permanent way, what you were bullying someone else for, and then see if you still think that's okay?"
Anyone else notice that, around 09:48 theres a bit of a flinch from the daughter, and that's in addition to the fact that the filter doesn't cover her features completely, and you can see in her expression that she isn't comfortable?
As a person who has a narc mother i feel bad for the child i didn't understand when I was young either.. poor child.
Mother: looks don't matter.
Also Mother: has pretty red colored hair, and looks nice as much as possible
refuses to take a filter off in her videos
Don’t say “pretty” when referring to her
Imagine her reaction to someone trying to cut her hair ☠️
All kids deserve parents not all parents deserve kids. This applies soooo much to this situation and it’s so sad for that girl, and even worse her mom is probably going to get worse during puberty. I hope this girl gets help and that woman becomes a better mother
Calling someone a tarantula is now in my vocab. Thanks, Oompa
This way this mother is so focused on her daughter's education makes me feel like she is trying to live vicariously thru her daughter.
I feel like I've seen this already....
right
Thought I was tripping 😂
Yeah did this get deleted?
Listen, 👏🏾 I knew I couldn't be the only one.
had to reupload it for youtubes *TOS*
My aunt would always tell other people what I do when I’m doing something wrong, I don’t think she does it to embarrass me, I think she just does it to vent but even then it makes me super self councious of what other people think of me now and now I’m a people pleaser and even a push over cause I don’t want people to think of me how my aunt shows how I am. Once I voiced out how hurtful the things she does is, she stopped but even then I had to go to therapy as my over self conscious is always thinking about what people think of me. I can’t even imagine what that child has to go through when a bunch of strangers she doesn’t even know are seeing her ‘getting punished.’ This is how meek and people who don’t speak up are made.
When her child grows up and cuts off all contact without saying anything she shouldn’t be surprised.
The Edits On This Jawn Had My Dying💀
Tara’s editing has me losing my mind, even in the videos where the subject matter is dark
Has me in tears!!!!!😂
Bruh at 12:30 was so funny
It’s bad enough to put your kids online for the world to see.
But to put AND publicly shame your kids online for the world to see is just absolutely awful.
I hope both that mother and her daughter get the respective help that both of them very much need.
You missed SUCH a big opportunity to use the Michael Jordan "Please, get some help" @ around 15:37
Honestly, advice from someone who sells chocha or has on OF is probably some of the most valuable advice she could get. I'm sure they have first hand knowledge of what kind of parenting can push a girl in the wrong direction.
You got em both with one comment
Yep
@@ednygma1096 hi Nathanael :)
Single moms abusing their daughters into being their own emotional support will inevitably create a women who is so emotionally codependent with their mother that they can’t keep a man, therefore repeating the cycle when she turns around and emulated her mother’s behaviors to her own future children.
Oompa probably told his parents when bedtime was
Oompa adopted his parents
I never had a bed time
Bro I thought she was about to steal Christmas
Oompa never disappoints
@Don't Read My Profile Photo shut up bot
@Don't Read My Profile Photo okay i won't. Thanks for the info
@Don't Read My Profile Photo okay i wont.
Oomps.
@DontReadMyProfilePhoto_3thanks for the tip!
The editing in this video is just immaculate 😩🤩🤩
The mother looks like the live-action Grinch
I'm not a parent, but I have an insane amount of patience, I don't know how you can humiliate a kid this way.
She is so envious of her daughters looks. She is NOWHERE NEAR her “twin” she’s a 4 maybe 5(w/the filter) her daughter is a solid 9. And her jealousy is what guides her *Appearance based punishments.
Did anyone else see “The Redemption Arc starts now” video on Oompa’s channel? I didn’t get the Chance to watch it why did he delete it?
yeah it was on here and then deleted a few hours ago. idk why tho
I saw it too but didn't get to watch it... I'm guessing he took it down because of all the hate he's getting on the podcast video.
some people just don’t deserve social media
0:08 I REMEMBER WATCHING THAT VID WHEN I WAS LIKE 3 OR 4 AND I CRIED BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS SO SAD😭
“Education comes first”
Does she have any proof of hers?
I missed the follow ups! I was raised by a violent narcissist mom also. That poor girl. The fake laughing.. triggering.
This is a whole new level of gaslighting.......
I'm so glad my parents weren't online. They are extreme narcissists who treated me and my siblings like garbage at home but as soon as we had guests over or visited someone else they made us to look like a perfect family. It was awful. Our father was the worst of the two. I can't imagine what it would've been like if we had been exploited online as well
This is why the meme. "Stop it get some help." is meant to be around forever
It’s giving emotional abvse. The way the daughter’s eyes are glazed over abd the mom goes on and on about “wElL I ToLd you I WoUlD dO tHiS! So ThIs iS aLl yOuR fAulT! YoU DeSeRvEd ThIs!” And the daughter keeps smiling and laughing lije if she doesn’t there’s gonna be h3ll to pay
It makes me wonder how the girl’s mom grew up. Maybe her mom used humiliation as “lessons” too
she literally cut her own daughter hair of because of jealousy, she just wanted for her daughter to look uglier than her and telling her that being pretty doesn’t matter. That’s just insane
Funny when comedic, respectable when serious
If she was truly highly educated as she claims, she would know that public hair cutting was a humiliation tactic used by colonoizers on the Sikh in South Asia and the Indigenous in residential schools :/
I'm so grateful for Oomps bringing us the best content, and throwing in the occasional dodgeball reference 🙌🏼
It is a huge ick when parents say they're kid is them, like no they aren't. They are a person, a human who is separate from you. Stop trying to live through your kids
Bro the mom looks like she about to steal Christmas 💀💀💀
humiliation by a parent is the worst
When I lived with my mom, she used to cut my hair. It was a lesson for me to learn. Thing is, I never did anything that bad. All I did was take a cookie without asking. I was only 9 at the time and my hair was so long it used to drag along the floor. Now I have major issues because of it. I used to think that love meant someone had to hurt you because of what my mom did to me growing up. This mother sickens me
Typical narcissistic mother saying “this is me” and “I’m doing what’s best for her”
I don’t think I have seen Oompa get this disappointed before
I hate how the mom starts crapping on women that do $3x work like most of them want to. Like many, many mothers have to do that just to feed their kids and put a roof over their kids heads and she's just belittling them for trying their hardest.
Man.. my parents used to beat the soul out of me but at least they didn't post it online 🤣
I mean not any better though
@@SoloXxd well no but actually yes
3:43 she looks like shes about to steal my christmas
She's obsessed and jealous of her daughter. I hope this girl is okay
I dont know if hair cutting is exactly abusive, extremely questionable, but public humiliation on the internet is def abuse
My dad once threatened to shave my hair off as a punishment, I told him yes and to do it and he DIDNT 💀💀🗿
When her daughter says her abusive boyfriend loves her and that she deserves what he did to her... she will have no one else to blame but her parenting.
as an Irish person I can confirm that this is P A T A T O SERTAFID
“This is me right here” is something my narcissistic mother used to say all of the timeeee she acted jealous of me like I stole her youth. She also seen me as an extension of herself and that’s how all narcissistic parents view their kids… that’s the vibes im getting. I loved my mom until I was old enough to realize how big of a bully she really was. As a kid it’s easier to believe your parents want what’s best for you. It what you want to believe.
We have a saying here... "Just because you can, Doesn't mean you should."
I had my fears that she could be a puerto rican mom living in the US but her saying “chocha” (one of the many Puerto Rican slangs for 🐱) confirmed it. If she’s not from PR, she’s definitely Caribbean that’s for sure.
I find it funny how she says certain people can't have opinions lol like people don't have parents and can tell what's right parenting and what isn't
As a black mother I would never cut off all my baby hair, it take too much to grow it back. This mother is wrong. And the baby is scared. I’m furious
The arm around the daughter makes me so uncomfortable. "Look how close we are! See everyone she's fine!" off camera "Do another tiktok with me or I'll shave off the rest of your hair"
ya fr tho, shes talking bout beauty and then wears a filter is every tiktok