Hello! I when I found out about the dreadfuls website, i thought I couldn’t get one because I didn’t have a disorder and was sad until I found out about the fruit collection! ordered the strawberry one and the lemon one because im indecisive lol
The fruitfuls are very cute, i love my strawbunny. But rest assured u dont have to have a diagnosis to buy any of the others, due to the plushie oddfuls i have two of disorders that i dont have myself (bpd and fibromyalgia) u can see it as support for someone that u do know who has a disorder or support in general for ppl that do. There are also the latte lapins and their halloween collections as well as queer friendly and the love bunnies and frog as well as goth bunnies
Hay what ended up happening with your fawn. I'm not sure if it was your video but I remember somebody mentioning a patch on the back of the rabbit's head. Which is interesting cuz I had mines for a while and then I noticed that on the back of my rabbit's head on the same day or one or two days before I saw that video and I was worried I accidentally messed something up. Cuz it was only after something happened and I'm like oh no did did I stain it did I accidentally get something on it. But I think you're not and I'm like maybe that's just how the fur pattern was for that particular patch of fabric. And I think it's super cute. I noticed you're a rabbit has the same patch on the back of their head. I noticed with my rabbit the magnets have always been weak when it comes to attaching to the face. And you just got to get it just right. Can a hover it over the right spot you can't at least with my rabbit you can't just put it on you kind of got a hover it very close to the face and find the right magnet spot after that it should weekly connect and then it won't fall off. Cuz just putting it where the magnet should be doesn't always work cuz it doesn't always connect to the magnet and even if it does it doesn't work. With my other rabbits I could just put the magnets over it over and then they would just click down. And if I get his hands too close to each other they'll click together in place just like any other rabbit. I like to make my rabbits Express themselves through motions with their arms and all that. My boy is a silly boy. He's a boy but also he's very quiet and polite and nice and also he likes girly things and boy things. So because he wants to do girls night and boys night. He says he has enough feminine energy to call himself both man and woman. He is a guy. He considers himself a guy for all extensive purpose. But he does like that phrase I am both men, and women. He's such a silly guy fight responses his brother. I call my rabbit fawn. That's not his actual name I just do that because sometimes I call Frank Frankie and sometimes I call Frankie Mr fight. So I was calling Fawn Mr fawn along with his regular name. But somewhere along the way I just dropped the Mr part. His name is meadow Melody. I love him so much. Finding out about the fawn response was very helpful for me. Because due to spending so much on my life trying to fix myself to avoid conflict with certain people. I blamed myself for all conflict. I did know people would say you can't control other people's reactions. And I would think and say to myself yeah I know I can't control their reactions or their actions but I can control my actions and my actions cancel is a response if I do the wrong thing. Like if you do something mean of course somebody's going to be angry. So I didn't see it as me overcompensating or people pleasing to try to avoid conflict even if there wasn't any conflict and it was more in my head sometimes. I didn't see it that way. I guess the reason I didn't notice because it wasn't people pleasing. It was avoiding upsetting people because I thought they would hate me. So it would be imaginary things too like oh I think they don't like me because of this. So it's not people pleasing. But regardless I didn't see it as bad I just didn't see it as anything else as a fundamental failure on my own part to take the right actions to avoid conflict that I'm the one that started the conflict. I guess cuz I deemed my actions to be inappropriate. Like maybe if I spoke out on something maybe I would be too rude or maybe I shouldn't say that even if it's not bad or maybe I said something and somebody took it the wrong way and now they don't like me. Until the fawn response. I didn't realize fully how to get out of this pattern of thinking. It's hard to get out of it when it's not necessarily people pleasing, but conflict avoiding. Trying to take all the right actions to avoid a conflict even if there is none. Sorry I'm getting repetitive. Just got lost in thought sorry. It's like I have a hard time explaining it, and putting the right words to it. But at least I understand the pattern of behavior and where it comes from and how is affected my life all thanks to Fawn. and the one line about it could happen if you grew up I don't know how exactly they said it but I guess it's kind of like if you always had a walk on eggshells all the time.
Also notably I think one of my magnets in mines was weaker on the other side but I always figured it out. I do get where you're coming from cuz that's supposed that spoke to you. And it can't be disheartening if something doesn't work the way it's supposed to. With me I like that pose but seldom do I really have minds in that pose then again it's either loose arms or holding his face.
Oh they ended up sending me a replacement fawn so now I have 2. Oh no my OG is fully broken, it does not stay on at all, the new one stays on really well as do all my anxiety bunnies im really happy with the replacement and i see my OG as the naughty twin 😂 lol i like how u e given urs a personality sounds very much like my depression bunny earnest as he also likes “girly” things and wears a fluffy blue bow on his ear 🥰 Aww bless u i too often fawn to avoid conflict 🫂🫂🫂 i think it can be both, ppl pleasing and conflict avoidance. It certainly is for me, ill fawn if i know something im about to say could potentially make someone mad, pre emptively fawning to avoid conflict or to minimise someones potential upset with me. But also if someone is upset with me ill often fawn if im not sure if im in the wrong or if their upset came from seemingly no where. If i know the other person is in the wrong and theyre upset with me for saying they have upset me, ill then resport to fight response but i really hate confrontation, confronting someone is something i really only do when my backs against the wall and i wanna try and work through an issue but sometimes pol really dont like being told they upset u and turn it around to make it seem like ur in the wrong for bringing it up as an issue when for me to do that is really quite hard as i often let so much slide and as conflict makes me really scared and upset its something i only do if the person means a lot to me but theyve reslly done something hurtful i jus cant let slide without addressing it, so if they take that badly and i resort to fight, once ive said my piece that basically i know theyre wrong and out of order for taking it out on me ill often flee at that point
@@RhianChambers when you said when you're backed into a corner you revert to fight response it made me realize when I revert to freeze response. I always was like I don't think I do the freeze response. But I do that when I'm back in a corner, and it's really weird. It's a really really Pacific response that I do. If I'm in an argument with a loved one. My dad is the only one that was able to push me to the state. At one point it happened with my fiance a couple times, But for completely different reasons. (I was frustrated with him because if I brought up anything. he would always overcompensate. And over exaggerate the problem. Like I said you're not listening to me. He would take that as he's not listening to me ever so then he wouldn't talk during any conversation because he wanted me to be able to be the only one to talk. He's doing a lot better, And he's made a lot of progress. He has his own trauma of responses.) but when my freeze response comes out it's when I feel like no matter what I say the other person's not listening, And I can't get away from the conflict. So I just realized my freeze response is actually. To cover up my ears, and just start yelling. No words just yelling, and yelling, and yelling, and yelling. An even in that state I will unplug my ears every so often to see if it's safe for me to calm down. But if I hear somebody insulting me. I just parked my ears back up, and keep yelling. It's very rare for me to do this. That's why this happens more with my dad. Cuz he's very bad at listening, and sometimes he just gets pissy, and says really mean things. Don't get me wrong I love my dad. He doesn't really yell at me, And he's never hurt me physically. He always apologizes to me afterwards. It doesn't make it right. But all things considered this is the only bad thing he really does. Other than that he's a really great dad, and every other way. But thanks to Fawn I can now stop blaming myself for the conflict. It's ironic cuz I tried fixing myself so that I could avoid conflict with him. Which ended up hurting me, but also it gave me the tools to help myself. Does anytime I see anything on the internet I would use that to try to solve the conflict. But also that got me really interested in looking up stuff. And due to other things I've just become really fascinated with mental health. There's a couple of really great channels that I like, but I think of great advice. I'm not sure about the fourth one, but the first three aren't professionals in any way they're just normal people. Two of them are about parenting and one is about relationships. But I feel like the advice can be applied to many different situations. I have learned so much over last almost 10 years now. But I still got a long way to go on my journey of recovery. Also when I first saw all of the response bunnies. I felt like they could be used to look at them, and assess the situation, and go with your response is the appropriate response for now. I'm going to post a comment and then I'm going to make another reply basically well this is a reply but give me an example for each response
@@RhianChambers so I'll give a situation, and then I'll give what I think is the appropriate response. When somebody crosses a very important boundary. I feel like that's a fight response. Not yelling, or screaming. But fight as in standing up for yourself putting your foot down. Saying hey this is my boundary please respect it. Even if it seems silly to them. Like at my old place I didn't like people going into one room because that was my cat's room, and that was his safe Haven that he would go to when he was really stressed out. A friend of mine did that once or twice. I said it's fine because she's never really there. I move the stuff we need it for the game into my bedroom closet and when she asked why and I explained because she kept crossing my boundary. She said all that wasn't necessary we're not going to cross your boundary, But you did. Multiple times. Needless to say, and this person are not friends anymore. An example for the flight response. Would be kind of like a pick, and choose your battles, Or that serenity prayer. Sometimes there's things that just annoy Us. But it's not a big deal, or a boundary, And sometimes there's just things that aren't really worth getting into a fight over. Sometimes things are just live, and let be. No way I got that wrong. I think either way I look at each response, and ask what's a healthy version of this response. Flight responses removing yourself from the situation. If somebody is yelling at you it might be better to just walk away. If you need to step away from a situation for whatever reason even if like the reason is that you're over stimulated then it's okay to leave, and get some space. And the freeze response for me a healthy one would be to stop, and think. Take a moment to step back from the situation, and assess things. Maybe come back to it later when you feel ready. It's like a pause button. As for the fawn response. not sure the only thing I could think of is if you did something bad to hurt someone. It's having the ability to look at it from someone else's perspective. The ability to apologize, and make amends with necessity. Sometimes I think when an overactive fight response comes into play. Say if somebody gets defensive when you bring up something to them. It could be that they are defensive because they feel like they always have to defend themselves. The fight response is after all to protect yourself from threats. And sometimes due to how we were treated when we were a kid. It can be hard to turn off that fight response. But as people we got to learn that messing up doesn't make us bad people. I'm not defensive as in the sense that I tried to dismiss people's feelings. My defensiveness is more on the fawn response. Where I tried to explain my actions so that people will not get mad at me. like oh I'm sorry but I only did that because of this or blah blah blah blah blah. And I never realized that it could come off as very defensive. But defensive in the angry way. For me it was always like an apology. But it's not a proper apology. I also had a tendency of over-explaining or if I would ask a question I'd like I'm sorry to bother you and I know this is stupid but this is my question and yeah I know it's stupid and I'm sorry to bother you and I would repeat the apology because I forgot I already put it in there. Making the message too long and over explained. Also now I have two anxiety rabbits I ordered another one from the odd squad. I didn't know what rabbit I would get but I had a feeling if I was ever going to get a duplicate rabbit from the odd squad. It would be the anxiety bunny. I have three from the odd squad to me the more noticeable the defect the better. So I think I got pretty lucky with my three. My first two were a Pisces and a Gemini which is funny. cuz I really wanted a bunny with two heads but I knew they weren't going to have a factory defect like that. But here comes Gemini and I with two heads not a factory defect, but I got my two-headed rabbit. And I was hoping that Pisces would be the one that I got. I had just got in my response and a Pisces for my cousin. I thought Pisces was so pretty. But I'm an Aries so I thought I shouldn't get a Pisces. I'm glad I got my Pisces this way. I actually when I felt her I knew what was wrong immediately she's hunchbacked. And so her arms are kind of sewing in a weird way that. I think all of them though have little patches of slight fur sticking through the embroidery it's hard to notice I don't think Pisces has that but Gemini does and the anxiety one does. But you have to look close to see it I think. Either way Gemini didn't really have much factory defects. Just one leg that was shorter than the other, and now I don't even think it looks shorter than the other anymore for some reason. I also when I felt Pisces I felt like I had felt that feeling before that feel of a plushie exactly like that with the back. And then I remembered I had a dream about her I think. I'm only pretty positive I had that dream because I went to the site to check if the Pisces was as curved as I remembered but it wasn't it was more straight and standing up and I thought oh I guess I remembered wrong cuz I thought it was cool that was curved that way cuz it looks like it's swimming. Either way for my anxiety rabbit her bag has slight defect on the print where what was printed on it got bunched up a little bit and a couple places. And she is very very very very very very very understudied. And slightly smaller so her embroidery looks bigger on her. My anxiety rabbit and my fawn rabbit are my two biggest rabbits. But she's one of my smallest along with Pisces, fight, and midnight. She calls herself malice. And like her big sisters she has creative names for her worried bunnies. Her big sister's name is Mallory and her worry bunnies are called death and destruction. And Mallory goes by the nickname mal mal so like her big sister she goes by the nickname little Mal Mal. Her worry bunnies are named dynamite and TNT. They love their worry bunnies. They send them out to attack. They fight alongside their worry bunnies. Big mal mal is tired a lot. little Mal mal is very energetic. When you take out little Mal Mal worry bunnies she becomes very very flat. Not like she's not already flat with them in. Also one of her magnets stays, and goes on pretty good. And sometimes her other one accidentally stays. I was starting to think she didn't even have a magnet in her one hand until I felt the other hand, and her two cheeks. And then I realized her magnets are very very very very very very very very tiny. You know those little batteries that you would put in like a laser pointer. Yeah her magnets are that small. So if I want to attach your second magnet to her cheek I have to locate it then locate the one in her cheek and slightly hover it over but I have to really really pinpoint the exact spot to even get it to attach and then it will attach as long as I put the magnet over the magnet. But it's okay she prefers to have one hand on her cheek, and the other hand dangling. It just feels more natural that way. Which is weird because fun never has his magnets on his cheeks, or his hands together. Only sometimes on his cheeks or one-on-one cheek. And that's only I need to express emotion. Also Intel I saw your video, and you linked their hands together I had never once thought of making them hold hands. Or using their magnets in a different way. Now if I have tiny metal objects. They can pick them up. Like look at me I can hold things. Sorry if my messages are all over the place I have a tendency of rambling. Also spelling mistakes because I can't spell and so because I can't spell I use voice to text. I am very good at it not to brag I can type out entire paragraph without making a single mistake in one take without having to stop the voice to text but sometimes if I stop talking for even one second it stops itself. Also my ADHD makes me go all over the place when I talk. So I'm just going to leave the message off with I did get the ADHD rabbit. I did name her Hannah banana. That's what I felt like she said her name was. Because you can do so much with that name like hand henna a banana. Hand hand a banana a banana. Hannah hand banana a banana. Banana hand henna a Hannah banana. Hand banana a Hannah banana. So she likes the Hop, and bounced around saying that stuff.
@@RhianChambers also I forgot there were two other things I wanted to mention. I finally got the other two response rabbits. Flight and freeze. I ordered them on the Black Friday sale. I got seven more rabbits. I currently have 15 rabbits. And I can close my eyes, and randomly pick out a rabbit from the pile. An identify each rabbit based off feel alone, And do this, and until the pile is completely done. Sometimes they have different for textures a lot of them do have a very similar one with this very kind of Pacific soft one. But they also have different bills because different levels of stuffing. They also have different sizes so in a way body positivity. Get cuz they all have different body types, and different sizes. I don't even have to open my eyes to know that I'm right. I just know. But I can, and I did to confirm sometimes. And normally my fiance is there to confirm that I got it right. I'm thinking about making a video where I blindfold myself, and identify each rabbit by feeling. Also I randomly saw a picture of like 40 different rabbits, And aside from three I could identify all of them just based memory. I'm always checking the site cuz they're always coming out with new sketches for rabbits. They make rabbits as fast as rabbits make babies, or so the joke goes with rabbits making babies. So I keep adding new rabbits to my list that don't even have prototypes yet. I just added two new rabbits to my list a couple days ago. Because I saw two new sketches. Lol. I'm obsessed. Yeah sorry if I sound a little bit I don't know crazy. Lol
I am expecting my fawn. I saw a comment on a post of plushie dreadfuls that someone else got his fawn bunny and one of the magnets didn't work. Now l see your video and it makes me think that maybe many might have the same problem. I will let you know when mine arrives but really if it problematic l will be disappointed because it costed me 48 euros to buy which is so much higher price than the rest of them and it is a really expensive plush to purchase.
That may have been my comment 😅 i did leave a comment yesterday. Ill go check to see if theres anyone else besides myself saying the same thing. I know a few ppl liked my comment so maybe it is a design flaw. But PD are talking to me and trying to help me fix it but so far nothing had improved the issue. I think kine jus may be faulty. I agree tho if it is a design flaw they should reduce the price
@@RhianChambers Oh it may be your comment then. I remember they responded that you should get in touch with support group. Was this you they responded to ?
Yeah if it was on the allergy bunny post then it was me, i jus checked that post again and can only see my comment and that is what they advised me to do. Hopefully it is jus me and that its jus my bunny thats faulty
@@RhianChambers They will definitely replace it . I will let you know how mine is when it arrives because it takes a while to come to Greece. Your collection is beautiful and l watch your videos 🤩
Hello! I when I found out about the dreadfuls website, i thought I couldn’t get one because I didn’t have a disorder and was sad until I found out about the fruit collection! ordered the strawberry one and the lemon one because im indecisive lol
The fruitfuls are very cute, i love my strawbunny. But rest assured u dont have to have a diagnosis to buy any of the others, due to the plushie oddfuls i have two of disorders that i dont have myself (bpd and fibromyalgia) u can see it as support for someone that u do know who has a disorder or support in general for ppl that do. There are also the latte lapins and their halloween collections as well as queer friendly and the love bunnies and frog as well as goth bunnies
aww i’m sorry your fawn work 😭 sooo cute tho!!
Shes adorable i hope i can get a replacement
Okay!!!!! I need her!!!!
Yessss shes so stankin cute!!! 😍😍😍
Good video
Thank you 🫶🏽
I'm still waiting on my fawn. I'll let you know if her hands "fawn" for me!
Thank you, id appreciate that a lot. Cus im not sure if its a design flaw or if i jus got unlucky
Hay what ended up happening with your fawn. I'm not sure if it was your video but I remember somebody mentioning a patch on the back of the rabbit's head. Which is interesting cuz I had mines for a while and then I noticed that on the back of my rabbit's head on the same day or one or two days before I saw that video and I was worried I accidentally messed something up. Cuz it was only after something happened and I'm like oh no did did I stain it did I accidentally get something on it. But I think you're not and I'm like maybe that's just how the fur pattern was for that particular patch of fabric. And I think it's super cute. I noticed you're a rabbit has the same patch on the back of their head. I noticed with my rabbit the magnets have always been weak when it comes to attaching to the face. And you just got to get it just right. Can a hover it over the right spot you can't at least with my rabbit you can't just put it on you kind of got a hover it very close to the face and find the right magnet spot after that it should weekly connect and then it won't fall off. Cuz just putting it where the magnet should be doesn't always work cuz it doesn't always connect to the magnet and even if it does it doesn't work. With my other rabbits I could just put the magnets over it over and then they would just click down. And if I get his hands too close to each other they'll click together in place just like any other rabbit. I like to make my rabbits Express themselves through motions with their arms and all that. My boy is a silly boy. He's a boy but also he's very quiet and polite and nice and also he likes girly things and boy things. So because he wants to do girls night and boys night. He says he has enough feminine energy to call himself both man and woman. He is a guy. He considers himself a guy for all extensive purpose. But he does like that phrase I am both men, and women. He's such a silly guy fight responses his brother. I call my rabbit fawn. That's not his actual name I just do that because sometimes I call Frank Frankie and sometimes I call Frankie Mr fight. So I was calling Fawn Mr fawn along with his regular name. But somewhere along the way I just dropped the Mr part. His name is meadow Melody. I love him so much.
Finding out about the fawn response was very helpful for me. Because due to spending so much on my life trying to fix myself to avoid conflict with certain people. I blamed myself for all conflict. I did know people would say you can't control other people's reactions. And I would think and say to myself yeah I know I can't control their reactions or their actions but I can control my actions and my actions cancel is a response if I do the wrong thing. Like if you do something mean of course somebody's going to be angry.
So I didn't see it as me overcompensating or people pleasing to try to avoid conflict even if there wasn't any conflict and it was more in my head sometimes. I didn't see it that way. I guess the reason I didn't notice because it wasn't people pleasing. It was avoiding upsetting people because I thought they would hate me. So it would be imaginary things too like oh I think they don't like me because of this. So it's not people pleasing. But regardless I didn't see it as bad I just didn't see it as anything else as a fundamental failure on my own part to take the right actions to avoid conflict that I'm the one that started the conflict. I guess cuz I deemed my actions to be inappropriate. Like maybe if I spoke out on something maybe I would be too rude or maybe I shouldn't say that even if it's not bad or maybe I said something and somebody took it the wrong way and now they don't like me. Until the fawn response. I didn't realize fully how to get out of this pattern of thinking. It's hard to get out of it when it's not necessarily people pleasing, but conflict avoiding. Trying to take all the right actions to avoid a conflict even if there is none. Sorry I'm getting repetitive. Just got lost in thought sorry. It's like I have a hard time explaining it, and putting the right words to it. But at least I understand the pattern of behavior and where it comes from and how is affected my life all thanks to Fawn. and the one line about it could happen if you grew up I don't know how exactly they said it but I guess it's kind of like if you always had a walk on eggshells all the time.
Also notably I think one of my magnets in mines was weaker on the other side but I always figured it out.
I do get where you're coming from cuz that's supposed that spoke to you. And it can't be disheartening if something doesn't work the way it's supposed to. With me I like that pose but seldom do I really have minds in that pose then again it's either loose arms or holding his face.
Oh they ended up sending me a replacement fawn so now I have 2. Oh no my OG is fully broken, it does not stay on at all, the new one stays on really well as do all my anxiety bunnies im really happy with the replacement and i see my OG as the naughty twin 😂 lol i like how u e given urs a personality sounds very much like my depression bunny earnest as he also likes “girly” things and wears a fluffy blue bow on his ear 🥰
Aww bless u i too often fawn to avoid conflict 🫂🫂🫂 i think it can be both, ppl pleasing and conflict avoidance. It certainly is for me, ill fawn if i know something im about to say could potentially make someone mad, pre emptively fawning to avoid conflict or to minimise someones potential upset with me. But also if someone is upset with me ill often fawn if im not sure if im in the wrong or if their upset came from seemingly no where. If i know the other person is in the wrong and theyre upset with me for saying they have upset me, ill then resport to fight response but i really hate confrontation, confronting someone is something i really only do when my backs against the wall and i wanna try and work through an issue but sometimes pol really dont like being told they upset u and turn it around to make it seem like ur in the wrong for bringing it up as an issue when for me to do that is really quite hard as i often let so much slide and as conflict makes me really scared and upset its something i only do if the person means a lot to me but theyve reslly done something hurtful i jus cant let slide without addressing it, so if they take that badly and i resort to fight, once ive said my piece that basically i know theyre wrong and out of order for taking it out on me ill often flee at that point
@@RhianChambers when you said when you're backed into a corner you revert to fight response it made me realize when I revert to freeze response. I always was like I don't think I do the freeze response. But I do that when I'm back in a corner, and it's really weird. It's a really really Pacific response that I do. If I'm in an argument with a loved one. My dad is the only one that was able to push me to the state. At one point it happened with my fiance a couple times, But for completely different reasons. (I was frustrated with him because if I brought up anything. he would always overcompensate. And over exaggerate the problem. Like I said you're not listening to me. He would take that as he's not listening to me ever so then he wouldn't talk during any conversation because he wanted me to be able to be the only one to talk. He's doing a lot better, And he's made a lot of progress. He has his own trauma of responses.) but when my freeze response comes out it's when I feel like no matter what I say the other person's not listening, And I can't get away from the conflict. So I just realized my freeze response is actually. To cover up my ears, and just start yelling. No words just yelling, and yelling, and yelling, and yelling. An even in that state I will unplug my ears every so often to see if it's safe for me to calm down. But if I hear somebody insulting me. I just parked my ears back up, and keep yelling. It's very rare for me to do this. That's why this happens more with my dad. Cuz he's very bad at listening, and sometimes he just gets pissy, and says really mean things. Don't get me wrong I love my dad. He doesn't really yell at me, And he's never hurt me physically. He always apologizes to me afterwards. It doesn't make it right. But all things considered this is the only bad thing he really does. Other than that he's a really great dad, and every other way. But thanks to Fawn I can now stop blaming myself for the conflict. It's ironic cuz I tried fixing myself so that I could avoid conflict with him. Which ended up hurting me, but also it gave me the tools to help myself. Does anytime I see anything on the internet I would use that to try to solve the conflict. But also that got me really interested in looking up stuff. And due to other things I've just become really fascinated with mental health. There's a couple of really great channels that I like, but I think of great advice. I'm not sure about the fourth one, but the first three aren't professionals in any way they're just normal people. Two of them are about parenting and one is about relationships. But I feel like the advice can be applied to many different situations. I have learned so much over last almost 10 years now. But I still got a long way to go on my journey of recovery.
Also when I first saw all of the response bunnies. I felt like they could be used to look at them, and assess the situation, and go with your response is the appropriate response for now. I'm going to post a comment and then I'm going to make another reply basically well this is a reply but give me an example for each response
@@RhianChambers so I'll give a situation, and then I'll give what I think is the appropriate response.
When somebody crosses a very important boundary. I feel like that's a fight response. Not yelling, or screaming. But fight as in standing up for yourself putting your foot down. Saying hey this is my boundary please respect it. Even if it seems silly to them. Like at my old place I didn't like people going into one room because that was my cat's room, and that was his safe Haven that he would go to when he was really stressed out. A friend of mine did that once or twice. I said it's fine because she's never really there. I move the stuff we need it for the game into my bedroom closet and when she asked why and I explained because she kept crossing my boundary. She said all that wasn't necessary we're not going to cross your boundary, But you did. Multiple times. Needless to say, and this person are not friends anymore.
An example for the flight response. Would be kind of like a pick, and choose your battles, Or that serenity prayer. Sometimes there's things that just annoy Us. But it's not a big deal, or a boundary, And sometimes there's just things that aren't really worth getting into a fight over. Sometimes things are just live, and let be. No way I got that wrong. I think either way I look at each response, and ask what's a healthy version of this response. Flight responses removing yourself from the situation. If somebody is yelling at you it might be better to just walk away. If you need to step away from a situation for whatever reason even if like the reason is that you're over stimulated then it's okay to leave, and get some space.
And the freeze response for me a healthy one would be to stop, and think. Take a moment to step back from the situation, and assess things. Maybe come back to it later when you feel ready. It's like a pause button.
As for the fawn response. not sure the only thing I could think of is if you did something bad to hurt someone. It's having the ability to look at it from someone else's perspective. The ability to apologize, and make amends with necessity.
Sometimes I think when an overactive fight response comes into play. Say if somebody gets defensive when you bring up something to them. It could be that they are defensive because they feel like they always have to defend themselves. The fight response is after all to protect yourself from threats. And sometimes due to how we were treated when we were a kid. It can be hard to turn off that fight response. But as people we got to learn that messing up doesn't make us bad people. I'm not defensive as in the sense that I tried to dismiss people's feelings. My defensiveness is more on the fawn response. Where I tried to explain my actions so that people will not get mad at me. like oh I'm sorry but I only did that because of this or blah blah blah blah blah. And I never realized that it could come off as very defensive. But defensive in the angry way. For me it was always like an apology. But it's not a proper apology. I also had a tendency of over-explaining or if I would ask a question I'd like I'm sorry to bother you and I know this is stupid but this is my question and yeah I know it's stupid and I'm sorry to bother you and I would repeat the apology because I forgot I already put it in there. Making the message too long and over explained.
Also now I have two anxiety rabbits I ordered another one from the odd squad. I didn't know what rabbit I would get but I had a feeling if I was ever going to get a duplicate rabbit from the odd squad. It would be the anxiety bunny. I have three from the odd squad to me the more noticeable the defect the better. So I think I got pretty lucky with my three.
My first two were a Pisces and a Gemini which is funny. cuz I really wanted a bunny with two heads but I knew they weren't going to have a factory defect like that. But here comes Gemini and I with two heads not a factory defect, but I got my two-headed rabbit. And I was hoping that Pisces would be the one that I got. I had just got in my response and a Pisces for my cousin. I thought Pisces was so pretty. But I'm an Aries so I thought I shouldn't get a Pisces. I'm glad I got my Pisces this way. I actually when I felt her I knew what was wrong immediately she's hunchbacked. And so her arms are kind of sewing in a weird way that. I think all of them though have little patches of slight fur sticking through the embroidery it's hard to notice I don't think Pisces has that but Gemini does and the anxiety one does. But you have to look close to see it I think. Either way Gemini didn't really have much factory defects. Just one leg that was shorter than the other, and now I don't even think it looks shorter than the other anymore for some reason.
I also when I felt Pisces I felt like I had felt that feeling before that feel of a plushie exactly like that with the back. And then I remembered I had a dream about her I think. I'm only pretty positive I had that dream because I went to the site to check if the Pisces was as curved as I remembered but it wasn't it was more straight and standing up and I thought oh I guess I remembered wrong cuz I thought it was cool that was curved that way cuz it looks like it's swimming.
Either way for my anxiety rabbit her bag has slight defect on the print where what was printed on it got bunched up a little bit and a couple places. And she is very very very very very very very understudied. And slightly smaller so her embroidery looks bigger on her. My anxiety rabbit and my fawn rabbit are my two biggest rabbits. But she's one of my smallest along with Pisces, fight, and midnight. She calls herself malice. And like her big sisters she has creative names for her worried bunnies. Her big sister's name is Mallory and her worry bunnies are called death and destruction. And Mallory goes by the nickname mal mal so like her big sister she goes by the nickname little Mal Mal. Her worry bunnies are named dynamite and TNT. They love their worry bunnies. They send them out to attack. They fight alongside their worry bunnies. Big mal mal is tired a lot. little Mal mal is very energetic. When you take out little Mal Mal worry bunnies she becomes very very flat. Not like she's not already flat with them in. Also one of her magnets stays, and goes on pretty good. And sometimes her other one accidentally stays. I was starting to think she didn't even have a magnet in her one hand until I felt the other hand, and her two cheeks. And then I realized her magnets are very very very very very very very very tiny. You know those little batteries that you would put in like a laser pointer. Yeah her magnets are that small. So if I want to attach your second magnet to her cheek I have to locate it then locate the one in her cheek and slightly hover it over but I have to really really pinpoint the exact spot to even get it to attach and then it will attach as long as I put the magnet over the magnet. But it's okay she prefers to have one hand on her cheek, and the other hand dangling. It just feels more natural that way. Which is weird because fun never has his magnets on his cheeks, or his hands together. Only sometimes on his cheeks or one-on-one cheek. And that's only I need to express emotion. Also Intel I saw your video, and you linked their hands together I had never once thought of making them hold hands. Or using their magnets in a different way. Now if I have tiny metal objects. They can pick them up. Like look at me I can hold things. Sorry if my messages are all over the place I have a tendency of rambling.
Also spelling mistakes because I can't spell and so because I can't spell I use voice to text. I am very good at it not to brag I can type out entire paragraph without making a single mistake in one take without having to stop the voice to text but sometimes if I stop talking for even one second it stops itself. Also my ADHD makes me go all over the place when I talk. So I'm just going to leave the message off with I did get the ADHD rabbit. I did name her Hannah banana. That's what I felt like she said her name was. Because you can do so much with that name like hand henna a banana. Hand hand a banana a banana. Hannah hand banana a banana. Banana hand henna a Hannah banana. Hand banana a Hannah banana. So she likes the Hop, and bounced around saying that stuff.
@@RhianChambers also I forgot there were two other things I wanted to mention. I finally got the other two response rabbits. Flight and freeze. I ordered them on the Black Friday sale. I got seven more rabbits.
I currently have 15 rabbits. And I can close my eyes, and randomly pick out a rabbit from the pile. An identify each rabbit based off feel alone, And do this, and until the pile is completely done. Sometimes they have different for textures a lot of them do have a very similar one with this very kind of Pacific soft one. But they also have different bills because different levels of stuffing. They also have different sizes so in a way body positivity. Get cuz they all have different body types, and different sizes. I don't even have to open my eyes to know that I'm right. I just know. But I can, and I did to confirm sometimes. And normally my fiance is there to confirm that I got it right. I'm thinking about making a video where I blindfold myself, and identify each rabbit by feeling. Also I randomly saw a picture of like 40 different rabbits, And aside from three I could identify all of them just based memory. I'm always checking the site cuz they're always coming out with new sketches for rabbits. They make rabbits as fast as rabbits make babies, or so the joke goes with rabbits making babies. So I keep adding new rabbits to my list that don't even have prototypes yet. I just added two new rabbits to my list a couple days ago. Because I saw two new sketches. Lol. I'm obsessed. Yeah sorry if I sound a little bit I don't know crazy. Lol
I am expecting my fawn. I saw a comment on a post of plushie dreadfuls that someone else got his fawn bunny and one of the magnets didn't work. Now l see your video and it makes me think that maybe many might have the same problem. I will let you know when mine arrives but really if it problematic l will be disappointed because it costed me 48 euros to buy which is so much higher price than the rest of them and it is a really expensive plush to purchase.
That may have been my comment 😅 i did leave a comment yesterday. Ill go check to see if theres anyone else besides myself saying the same thing. I know a few ppl liked my comment so maybe it is a design flaw. But PD are talking to me and trying to help me fix it but so far nothing had improved the issue. I think kine jus may be faulty. I agree tho if it is a design flaw they should reduce the price
@@RhianChambers Oh it may be your comment then. I remember they responded that you should get in touch with support group. Was this you they responded to ?
Yeah if it was on the allergy bunny post then it was me, i jus checked that post again and can only see my comment and that is what they advised me to do. Hopefully it is jus me and that its jus my bunny thats faulty
@@RhianChambers They will definitely replace it . I will let you know how mine is when it arrives because it takes a while to come to Greece. Your collection is beautiful and l watch your videos 🤩
@annapetrou3722 omg id love to visit greece, it beautiful there 🤩 i hope ur arrives fault free 🙌🏽🙌🏽 and thank you so much 🥰 im glad u enjoy my vids