Same here I used to cry of loneliness when my parents were there physically but through the years I thought that was normal to feel that way. Now I know why I felt that way as a kid even today.
Very true.. u also attract those with inner child work needed.. Stay on yr own path Also my childhood was not great, grew up disabled, and both parents were rather judgemental and I tend to feel people via me the same. But I give myself the hardest time.
I never thought all this was my-fault. I was always very aware, that my parents are insane people who had no love for me and my sister. But it has taken me 52 years to be able to talk about it, where I and others can understand it clearly. But to this day my parents will NOT admit that they have done anything wrong. I have never married or have kids because I didn't want to make the same mistakes and put a child through what I went through. Thanks Candace for helping people heal this crap.
EvenStar LoveAnanda I have the same situation at age 59 I can name what it is ... Narcissist abuser mother , ex narcissist abuser husband, I am the scapegoat, sister gold child became a narcissist.... Thank God for the community and the helping good humans on the videos!!! Thank you !!! 💜
EvenStar LoveAnanda , the same story here. Only I am 35 (in Eastern Europe this I am considered to be a super old spinster.. my relatives already gave up on me and dont even bother to ask if I am going to have children).
I can definitely relate. Keeping myself small so that I wouldn't draw too much attention or make other people feel bad. But going back and healing my original wounds has been a process but I feel so much more powerful. 🖤🖤🖤
YES. This is spot on. And very timely considering I just became more conscious of these patterns and cycles within my family the other day... because I finally stood up and advocated on my own behalf and I saw things clearly because of course I received backlash in return for stepping outside the dysfunctional family system, but it felt damn good lol even though it was terrifying. I have felt this way my whole life and I'm sick of it!!! Other peoples insecurities about my light shining is THEIR problem!! Its not mine, it never was, and it never will be. Im tired of living for everyone else, its about time I started living for me, and if you dont like it... too bad, bye! ✌ I dont stop others from shining and in fact build them up so that they can shine, so what's stopping me from doing that for myself? ME, and fear. I am in the process of letting this go because I'm done hiding so that others won't "feel bad." I deserve to be me just as much as anybody else!!!! EPIGENETICS. Thanks so much for the video Candace!!! I love this. 🙏❤😘😇
Kate Grace - Thank you for sharing this Kate. I distanced my self from my hurting family a few years ago, but the rest of it is me to a T. Thank you for reminding me of why I did. It seems I had forgotten that. Much Love
khanehdiangurl thanks so much for sharing and reaching out as well. I can relate in that I have already distanced myself from/ cut off my narcissistic mother, my sister, and two brothers, all who are not well. I am only in contact with 1 brother and my father and step family. I'm starting to see just how unhealthy my father is though as well and how his distorted perceptions and denial has spread over into the thinking process of my step mother. She is still aware he is in denial, but will often enable this instead of standing her ground and protecting those in our family who can see things more clearly (my step sisters, brother and I) Luckily, my brother and I are in the healing process... but in regards to everyone else, I'll never go back, that decision was one of the best I've made in my life so far. Thanks again and sending you light & love as well ❤🙏😇
I did that all my life. With girl friends, with men in my life. I had to bring that all up to consciousness and work through the pain, start actually and really loving and validating myself so I could finally start manifesting long lasting, true and honest friendships and heal the relationship with my family too. I'm still struggling on the romantic relationship part though. I'm still validating myself but I'm always expecting abandonment (father-daughter relationship trauma...), and that still makes me suffer, so I'm trying really hard not to sabotage myself and go through that shadow work :-)
One sentence I once read was "You didn't ask for trauma to hurt you, it's not your fault you had to experience it." that made me realize and get rid the guilt, maybe it can help !
My biggest desire is to fly. I've been on a personal growth journey and recently I started taking skydiving classes. I jumped with two instructors to keep me level and I got to fly the parachute through a cloud, then land by myself. WOW.. My inner child is so happy right now. It's truly amazing how blissful I feel. Personal growth rocks. : ) I wanted to share that with your channel and you of coarse. take care
At 48 i actually started making a huge timeline of my life that I hung up on the wall (and i the am still filling in the gaps..) 🙌❤️✌️☺️ all your words resonate with me sooo much! 👍
Holy moly. So much of this sunk in for the first time - I really had to work on my own understanding of it. Expertly delivered as always, just took me a bit to process. And now that I have - I’m thrilled. Thank you Candace, Shane
Oh Candace you don't even know how much you help me settle things inside of myself… I finally went no contact with my narcissistic mother (4 months!) and I've really been trying to work through what it means to accept myself. Personally it has been beyond the physical self care as I've always taken pretty good care of myself physically and nutritionally with dancing, yoga, and veganism but I've been really working on self talk; where that stems from and how to validate my inner child. There are many wounds but it is so reassuring to know that my angels sent an amazing being to bring darkness into the light. Namaste ✨💗
Oh heck! I love the fact it’s not me! Not as I have nothing to work on, but as far as healing the inner child. Let’s do this, fresh start is how I see it!
"SPOT ON" I am 53 & have told myself that my whole life not knowing any better or different- " it must be me" everybody leaves, i am still trying to heal & find the right help!! OMG Its like you are me - talking to me.....😥
My whole identity is just something that was created to survive. My mom sexually abused me as a child. Most people still cant picture how this happens if you are a boy. The loneliness and isolation in the shame is unbelievable.
Thank you so much, every word you say explains it exactly the way it feels. It helps to name things. And it also made me go back to stages of childhood when, while I remember suffering, sadness and feeling lonely, I also somehow took it in as normal. Now I truly understand it is not. Thank you again.
Uperline restriction creates the need for external validation. Thats deep and cool. Self sabotage, we may not be worthy of cool things. You abandon and reject others first! Upgrade beliefs: tribal injury. Other people coudn't see above it also. That's a huge one. Unfortunatelly you almost have to fight your own way through all that. TH-cam has been a great teacher
Candace you are such a godsend. Truly. I've only recently learned that my original wound is. I'm in couseling and am making progress. Thank you for these videos. My wounding was such that I created alters in childhood but I know now that they're all me and worthy of love. Thank you.
Seriously SPOT ON with my entire childhood story!!! This has confirmed exactly what I thought had been going on!! I’ve been healing myself and always felt like something was wrong with me. When I found out I’m a Highly Sensitive Person so much of this made sense!! Candace thank you so much for this!! I have even more clarity now!
Bingo when you said REPARENTING,TRIBAL INJURY, SELF-SABOTAGE I see this current pattern playing out on my current timeline am also healing those shadow aspects in me THANKS A TON 🍯🌻🦚
Thank you for your support and guiding me through this as I currently am working on "reparenting" myself thru EMDR with my therapist... WOW powerfully healing stuff!
I wish I had you with me as a person to talk to. You hit it all on the spot!!! I am now 🌟 starting to understand all this shit!! I need to shine my light and live my best authentic life for ME!!! Thank you for your wisdom and your light!🙏💜💝💛
Deborah Archuleta Awwww consider doing my emotional rehab program. I host live calls with the group every week and it’s a ton of healing info, videos, everything! 💜 Intuitively you feel like a fit
Don't fight the feeling, accept it. It is here for a reason and by not wanting to feel it, you are basically dissociating a part of yourself. We will not find the missing parts of ourselves in the joyful and happy feelings. Those parts are deeply buried underneath the pain of not being accepted for who we really are. We will find our missing parts by accepting the difficult emotions and that's okay to need help with those things.
Thank you Candace! I can't believe it's been over 2 months since this video came out. I never watched it. I think I avoided it because I was frustrated with myself at the time. I so appreciate the free content you put on TH-cam. ❤
This is 100% me... I often don't know how to describe my issues, but it's like you've sensed it and here is the solution. Thanks a lot, this video means so much.. 🙏🙏❤
It is so deep in us that we are not even aware of it and struggle all our life!!!! What a pity and a waste of life, right??? Not knowing and living who we really are !!!!
Wow. Its new moon on pisces, my moon sign, mercury in retrograde and neptune as well and i came across this. And im just crying of happiness and relieve for something i always knew but had to doubt because i always thought there was something wrong with me.
Thank you so much candace , i just talk to my inner child for the first time , i felt like there is a warm loving amazing energy inside my heart center and it keep growing , my inner child is awseame Omg it's better than any girl i meet before , it's fucking awseame i literally imaging myself giving in you the warmest hug and kiss for what you share whit us in this video thank you so much thank you so much thank you so much
After being relax and 1 year and half working of inner peace . I reach to good place ..then reach to selfsapatag ..i was diffect for me to know my inner child is the reason of all this sapatg ..my innerchild had bad memorirs and injury
This is amazing and You are amazing Candace! Thank you so much for this video, i can definitely related to everything you mentioned on this video. You made me see the inner child me more clearly and i am so grateful for you. Thank you so so much Candace, Stay blessed
Thank you once again for your insights. This presentation is astonishingly synchronistic in a chain of recent events in my life. This all makes me happier and more positive than I've been in many years. Namaste...
I have come to see my parents as wounded people and that I was a 'lost child.' The youngest of three I decided from a very young age never to come to my parents with my fears and concerns because they would never deal with it. My mother was depressed and isolated and has histrionic and narcissistic personality traits (not the disorder) my dad was always at work and culturally torn between his birth family and his children. He just never dealt with that. I now find it very difficult to closely relate to anyone or to have any motivation.
This is the first of your videos I watched, your message it's misic to my ears. So much truth about honoring who we really are by not believing somwthing is wrong with us... Thanks for this powerful message🙏😍
I just found you this evening and light switches are going off My mind is working over time Thank you I thought it was my husband that broke me But it was my parents 😔 I’ve never felt loved ever
There a many issues that make me start to shrivel inside myself and become unassertive such as debates and arguments with people about “hot topics” and just arguments in general cause me to withdraw and this is an issue I need to stop abs accept where I am and proceed cautiously
What then if we decided to do what they feel is right to bring the joy or change in our lives and people in our *current* life who claim to support us (be it friends, family, whoever) really *do* become threatened by it in some way? It can be very disheartening. While I'm sure it's the exact blueprint from yesterday making itself evident in the now, it can still be challenging to proceed. And it's very easy to say, "Just move away from them and find new people to be around," and much harder to do when one feels like no one is in their corner or to be trusted.
Oh man you are good! You are really helping at the current moment!!! Also please if you could do videos on how to raise HSP children as I think my 3 year old daughter may be also HSP like me
Just getting to see your videos. My logical brain knows all of this but my inner being/heart/gut/esteem blocking thing can’t seem to come out! Does that make sense even? Married 27 yrs to a narcissist but must have had a wounded inner child going in. Irish immigrant where families were not demonstrative, father worked a lot mother had three children each a year apart. Overwhelmed culture shock for them and survival as immigrants and I think that is where my issues began. Add on bullying from women as I developed and sexual abuse from men and boys while still trying to fit in to new culture. Feel like a broken person most of my life as a result. Don’t know if I need healing from inner child or narcissistic abuse or both. Your videos make more sense than most at the moment! Thank you
Candace... What if I already realised that... and I'm still not ok. I feel hatred. And at the same time I am mourning because it wasn't my fault, yes, but. IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT, AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHOM.
Still working on this. I keep looking and finding mom's that ultimately can't give me what I need. I have some negative coping skills, writing, leaving voicemails, that has actually stopped my therapist from seeing me. Don't get the impression that it is to the point that they feel scared, they just mentally can't handle my behavior and this, let me go. It has just happened to me again. I would think a therapist would help you would help you work through those behaviors, but I guess not.
Candace van Dell the sad part is? My therapist didn't have an issue with my weekly voicemails, it was her manager. She found out about my voicemails and actually threatened to have me charged with harassment. My therapist used to always say hi when she saw me in the hall. Since this? She walks by me with her head down and doesn't speak. The all know that I have huge abandonment issues. :(
But I don't hate myself. I never self-blamed. Now what?? See this is where all of these teachings dont help me. I never thought I did anything wrong. I always knew the abuse was the abuse. So, now how do I help myself?? There is still a huge disconnect not being addressed here.
working on healing myself but sometimes I just want to give up because I feel like im far too damaged and traumatized to actually fix my mental health damage. I feel like im damaged goods
lostinwonderland87 it’s a very long process. One week I feel like maybe I can make it then next I’m a fuckin mess. But one thing I know is I can’t live being miserable and repeating the same pattern. Change is hard! No one will save you but you and guess what.... YOU ARE FUCKING WORTH SAVING! look for the little wins, the small changes, be patient and gentle with yourself but don’t give up!
@@MarianaRodriguez-ru5bw TRUE! After Spending MANY Years... Supporting n Neglecting SELF! It Would Be Treason....To GIVE UP On SPENDING As MUCH n FOREVER Helping To BE The MOST MENTALLY STABLE MIND Possible!!!!! It Like WRITING A LOVE 😍 STORY To SELF. AFTER Begging n Being Made A Fool of Because Lack The NORMAL Nutrition / WORDS 🥰 ✍️ To Encourage GROWTH. Like A Baby Needs To Survive 💯
You are great. Love your stuff. My only question is do you actually experience people overcoming these issues? Stories of average people overcoming wounds would be very encouraging. Thank you 😊
I remember feeling lonely as a child but I didnt know why. I still feel that way now. I need to get better.
Same here I used to cry of loneliness when my parents were there physically but through the years I thought that was normal to feel that way. Now I know why I felt that way as a kid even today.
Very nice 🙌
Very true.. u also attract those with inner child work needed..
Stay on yr own path
Also my childhood was not great, grew up disabled, and both parents were rather judgemental and I tend to feel people via me the same. But I give myself the hardest time.
I am love
I deserve unconditional love💓❤️
I am worthy
Everything I want is on its way 👍👏
I never thought all this was my-fault.
I was always very aware, that my parents are insane people who had no love for me and my sister.
But it has taken me 52 years to be able to talk about it, where I and others can understand it clearly.
But to this day my parents will NOT admit that they have done anything wrong.
I have never married or have kids because I didn't want to make the same mistakes and put a child through what I went through.
Thanks Candace for helping people heal this crap.
Thank you for sharing. I absolutely understand. X
My story is similar.
EvenStar LoveAnanda I have the same situation at age 59 I can name what it is ... Narcissist abuser mother , ex narcissist abuser husband, I am the scapegoat, sister gold child became a narcissist.... Thank God for the community and the helping good humans on the videos!!! Thank you !!! 💜
Are these people Organic Portals or NPCs?
None Player Characters in the Matrix?
EvenStar LoveAnanda , the same story here. Only I am 35 (in Eastern Europe this I am considered to be a super old spinster.. my relatives already gave up on me and dont even bother to ask if I am going to have children).
GIRL YOU DID NOT HAVE TO COME FOR US LIKE THIS!! EVERY SINGLE WORD IS SPOT ON!
Isn't it just? Love Candace!
I can definitely relate. Keeping myself small so that I wouldn't draw too much attention or make other people feel bad.
But going back and healing my original wounds has been a process but I feel so much more powerful. 🖤🖤🖤
Beautiful!!!
YES. This is spot on. And very timely considering I just became more conscious of these patterns and cycles within my family the other day... because I finally stood up and advocated on my own behalf and I saw things clearly because of course I received backlash in return for stepping outside the dysfunctional family system, but it felt damn good lol even though it was terrifying. I have felt this way my whole life and I'm sick of it!!! Other peoples insecurities about my light shining is THEIR problem!! Its not mine, it never was, and it never will be. Im tired of living for everyone else, its about time I started living for me, and if you dont like it... too bad, bye! ✌ I dont stop others from shining and in fact build them up so that they can shine, so what's stopping me from doing that for myself? ME, and fear. I am in the process of letting this go because I'm done hiding so that others won't "feel bad." I deserve to be me just as much as anybody else!!!! EPIGENETICS. Thanks so much for the video Candace!!! I love this. 🙏❤😘😇
Kate Grace - Thank you for sharing this Kate. I distanced my self from my hurting family a few years ago, but the rest of it is me to a T. Thank you for reminding me of why I did. It seems I had forgotten that. Much Love
khanehdiangurl thanks so much for sharing and reaching out as well. I can relate in that I have already distanced myself from/ cut off my narcissistic mother, my sister, and two brothers, all who are not well. I am only in contact with 1 brother and my father and step family. I'm starting to see just how unhealthy my father is though as well and how his distorted perceptions and denial has spread over into the thinking process of my step mother. She is still aware he is in denial, but will often enable this instead of standing her ground and protecting those in our family who can see things more clearly (my step sisters, brother and I) Luckily, my brother and I are in the healing process... but in regards to everyone else, I'll never go back, that decision was one of the best I've made in my life so far. Thanks again and sending you light & love as well ❤🙏😇
I love it!! GO sister xoxo
"Being totally non-judgemental with what you feel" - this is fab.
I did that all my life. With girl friends, with men in my life. I had to bring that all up to consciousness and work through the pain, start actually and really loving and validating myself so I could finally start manifesting long lasting, true and honest friendships and heal the relationship with my family too. I'm still struggling on the romantic relationship part though. I'm still validating myself but I'm always expecting abandonment (father-daughter relationship trauma...), and that still makes me suffer, so I'm trying really hard not to sabotage myself and go through that shadow work :-)
One sentence I once read was "You didn't ask for trauma to hurt you, it's not your fault you had to experience it." that made me realize and get rid the guilt, maybe it can help !
My biggest desire is to fly. I've been on a personal growth journey and recently I started taking skydiving classes. I jumped with two instructors to keep me level and I got to fly the parachute through a cloud, then land by myself. WOW.. My inner child is so happy right now. It's truly amazing how blissful I feel. Personal growth rocks. : ) I wanted to share that with your channel and you of coarse. take care
Feeling FeNi ha ha wonderful! Fly high my friend.
That’s beautiful❤️
At 48 i actually started making a huge timeline of my life that I hung up on the wall (and i the am still filling in the gaps..) 🙌❤️✌️☺️ all your words resonate with me sooo much! 👍
Holy moly. So much of this sunk in for the first time - I really had to work on my own understanding of it. Expertly delivered as always, just took me a bit to process. And now that I have - I’m thrilled. Thank you Candace, Shane
I love how you brought light to “tribal wounds” and “emotional genetics”... thank you so much Candace 🙏😇 ❤️
Carly Pastore Yes that really makes sense. Those thoughts and ideas get passed down to from generation to generation, whether right or wrong.
Oh Candace you don't even know how much you help me settle things inside of myself… I finally went no contact with my narcissistic mother (4 months!) and I've
really been trying to work through what it means to accept myself. Personally it has been beyond the physical self care as I've always taken pretty good care of myself physically and nutritionally with dancing, yoga, and veganism but I've been really working on self talk; where that stems from and how to validate my inner child. There are many wounds but it is so reassuring to know that my angels sent an amazing being to bring darkness into the light. Namaste ✨💗
Yes the "inner critic". Your inner child is angry. She needs your love! X
Yes. I Am Proud Of The Person That I Am Becoming...❤ Thank you. Love And Light To All💟
Oh heck! I love the fact it’s not me! Not as I have nothing to work on, but as far as healing the inner child.
Let’s do this, fresh start is how I see it!
Thank you. Really hit a spot. Ready to heal my inner child.
"SPOT ON" I am 53 & have told myself that my whole life not knowing any better or different- " it must be me" everybody leaves, i am still trying to heal & find the right help!!
OMG Its like you are me - talking to me.....😥
My whole identity is just something that was created to survive.
My mom sexually abused me as a child. Most people still cant picture how this happens if you are a boy. The loneliness and isolation in the shame is unbelievable.
Thank you so much, every word you say explains it exactly the way it feels. It helps to name things. And it also made me go back to stages of childhood when, while I remember suffering, sadness and feeling lonely, I also somehow took it in as normal. Now I truly understand it is not. Thank you again.
Uperline restriction creates the need for external validation. Thats deep and cool.
Self sabotage, we may not be worthy of cool things. You abandon and reject others first! Upgrade beliefs: tribal injury. Other people coudn't see above it also. That's a huge one. Unfortunatelly you almost have to fight your own way through all that. TH-cam has been a great teacher
Candace you are such a godsend. Truly. I've only recently learned that my original wound is. I'm in couseling and am making progress. Thank you for these videos. My wounding was such that I created alters in childhood but I know now that they're all me and worthy of love. Thank you.
Seriously SPOT ON with my entire childhood story!!! This has confirmed exactly what I thought had been going on!! I’ve been healing myself and always felt like something was wrong with me. When I found out I’m a Highly Sensitive Person so much of this made sense!! Candace thank you so much for this!! I have even more clarity now!
When I think of the image of an angel: I think of Candace Van Dell. You are amazing inside and out! xo
Thank you Candace for your easy digestible information, and always such informative and insightful content !!
Thank you so much for this Candace. This really opened my eyes to inner child wounds, behavioural patterns and how to heal them.
Bingo when you said REPARENTING,TRIBAL INJURY, SELF-SABOTAGE I see this current pattern playing out on my current timeline am also healing those shadow aspects in me THANKS A TON 🍯🌻🦚
Grateful for this message. Thank you.
Thank you for your support and guiding me through this as I currently am working on "reparenting" myself thru EMDR with my therapist... WOW powerfully healing stuff!
I wish I had you with me as a person to talk to. You hit it all on the spot!!! I am now 🌟 starting to understand all this shit!! I need to shine my light and live my best authentic life for ME!!! Thank you for your wisdom and your light!🙏💜💝💛
Deborah Archuleta Awwww consider doing my emotional rehab program. I host live calls with the group every week and it’s a ton of healing info, videos, everything! 💜 Intuitively you feel like a fit
This was very helpful and needed! Today is not the greatest ever and seeing this helped to restore a bit of peace to me. Thank you 🙌
I feel so bad bout myself all the time really badly lately. I feel like I've given up even trying to feel better .
Don't fight the feeling, accept it. It is here for a reason and by not wanting to feel it, you are basically dissociating a part of yourself.
We will not find the missing parts of ourselves in the joyful and happy feelings. Those parts are deeply buried underneath the pain of not being accepted for who we really are. We will find our missing parts by accepting the difficult emotions and that's okay to need help with those things.
@@JorisVDC Completely agree with this, very well said :-)
Yes I think the fear of rejection stops people from doing lots of things
Candace is brilliant, I have not listened to a more accurate explanation on this subject.
Thanks ❤️ baby steps 😊 very thankful for your video.
I Just found you 3 days ago & you are exactly what i have been searching for!!!! I'm excited!!! Thank you!!!
Thank you Candace! I can't believe it's been over 2 months since this video came out. I never watched it. I think I avoided it because I was frustrated with myself at the time. I so appreciate the free content you put on TH-cam. ❤
Your YT channel is Heaven to me. Thank you so much for the effort.
Very Warm Regards from Holland.
Awww thanks so much!!!
This is 100% me... I often don't know how to describe my issues, but it's like you've sensed it and here is the solution. Thanks a lot, this video means so much.. 🙏🙏❤
Beautiful, thanks so much for sharing! It gets better and better x
Thank you so much ! I'm from Morroco and i just discovered your channel, so truthful and straight to the point. So grateful, bravo !
Thank you Candace, you helped me start healing myself
It is so deep in us that we are not even aware of it and struggle all our life!!!! What a pity and a waste of life, right??? Not knowing and living who we really are !!!!
This is the video I needed. I've been introspecting about this issue I have with myself for a long time; now it's time to do the healing work.
this is how i feel
i'm mad and sad at the same time , it feels this is my personality and can't be changed it's to big to change 😲
Wow. Its new moon on pisces, my moon sign, mercury in retrograde and neptune as well and i came across this. And im just crying of happiness and relieve for something i always knew but had to doubt because i always thought there was something wrong with me.
Thank you so much candace , i just talk to my inner child for the first time , i felt like there is a warm loving amazing energy inside my heart center and it keep growing , my inner child is awseame Omg it's better than any girl i meet before , it's fucking awseame
i literally imaging myself giving in you the warmest hug and kiss for what you share whit us in this video
thank you so much thank you so much thank you so much
I was scared so much, I put up so many walls, hopefully this course will guide me in the right direction ✌💜💙💙🌟
This is it! You’re on to something! Great video
After being relax and 1 year and half working of inner peace . I reach to good place ..then reach to selfsapatag ..i was diffect for me to know my inner child is the reason of all this sapatg ..my innerchild had bad memorirs and injury
Thank you so much Candace for sharing your insights! Exactly what I Need to hear. You are an angel. Please keep sharing.
Healing truly begins when you give your life to Christ. When all else fails cry out to God and He will pick you up!! Psalms 51
Your videos have been helping me and shedding so much light on everything that’s been going on with me. Thank you so much 🙏
This is amazing and You are amazing Candace! Thank you so much for this video, i can definitely related to everything you mentioned on this video. You made me see the inner child me more clearly and i am so grateful for you. Thank you so so much Candace, Stay blessed
This is spot on though and you explain it so well
Thanks so much! DON'T GIVE UP!!
Thank you once again for your insights. This presentation is astonishingly synchronistic in a chain of recent events in my life. This all makes me happier and more positive than I've been in many years. Namaste...
Yeah this brought me to my knees. Thank you so much Candace 💓
I have come to see my parents as wounded people and that I was a 'lost child.' The youngest of three I decided from a very young age never to come to my parents with my fears and concerns because they would never deal with it. My mother was depressed and isolated and has histrionic and narcissistic personality traits (not the disorder) my dad was always at work and culturally torn between his birth family and his children. He just never dealt with that. I now find it very difficult to closely relate to anyone or to have any motivation.
Awww synchronicity ;-) Happy bday!
This is the first of your videos I watched, your message it's misic to my ears. So much truth about honoring who we really are by not believing somwthing is wrong with us...
Thanks for this powerful message🙏😍
Thank you!
Thank you for this message I feel like it resonated with me a lot
Great words. Thank you. I'd love to hear some tips on re-parenting techniques.
Saying " there must be a better way". A Course In Miracals" Bob
I just found you this evening and light switches are going off
My mind is working over time
Thank you
I thought it was my husband that broke me
But it was my parents 😔
I’ve never felt loved ever
Shame
Sorry to read that. Sending you love and light ❤️
Thank you Candace. Bob
There a many issues that make me start to shrivel inside myself and become unassertive such as debates and arguments with people about “hot topics” and just arguments in general cause me to withdraw and this is an issue I need to stop abs accept where I am and proceed cautiously
Thank you. This is very helpful 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Great information I always learn something new when I watch your videos !
Jimmy Aleman Awww I’m so glad!!
What then if we decided to do what they feel is right to bring the joy or change in our lives and people in our *current* life who claim to support us (be it friends, family, whoever) really *do* become threatened by it in some way? It can be very disheartening. While I'm sure it's the exact blueprint from yesterday making itself evident in the now, it can still be challenging to proceed. And it's very easy to say, "Just move away from them and find new people to be around," and much harder to do when one feels like no one is in their corner or to be trusted.
Keep up the great work fellow light worker !!
Love your videos thank you so much peace love and light😊✌️💖🌟
GOD BLESS YOU!!!!
Great Energy! Thank you so much!
OMG this helps a lot. Thank you so much. You help me trough my healing process.
Spot on. Exactly my experience. Wow
Amazing! Thank you!
I love hearing you talk
Thank you so much for that! I felt that shift. In the process of change. Much peace love and blessings to you!
Blessings to you!!
OMG this video is awesome thank you so much girl ....I spent every day ,thinking cos of me ,this that the other ,this just opens up my world xxx
So thank you so much for this
Thank you so much
Thankx so much Candance🤗
Very welcome X
Best video on youtube!
You're awesome ty for your wisdom
Oh man you are good! You are really helping at the current moment!!! Also please if you could do videos on how to raise HSP children as I think my 3 year old daughter may be also HSP like me
This was amazing. Thank you.
Needed to hear this 💓
Just getting to see your videos. My logical brain knows all of this but my inner being/heart/gut/esteem blocking thing can’t seem to come out! Does that make sense even? Married 27 yrs to a narcissist but must have had a wounded inner child going in. Irish immigrant where families were not demonstrative, father worked a lot mother had three children each a year apart. Overwhelmed culture shock for them and survival as immigrants and I think that is where my issues began. Add on bullying from women as I developed and sexual abuse from men and boys while still trying to fit in to new culture. Feel like a broken person most of my life as a result. Don’t know if I need healing from inner child or narcissistic abuse or both. Your videos make more sense than most at the moment! Thank you
Candace... What if I already realised that... and I'm still not ok. I feel hatred. And at the same time I am mourning because it wasn't my fault, yes, but. IT WAS SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT, AND I KNOW EXACTLY WHOM.
Hiya I’ve just came across this video today. I will subscribe & see what your channel is like 👍😊
You're so fucken amazing. Thank you for your clarity! 💕
Wow thank you
So spot on, thank you so much i really needed this
Still working on this. I keep looking and finding mom's that ultimately can't give me what I need. I have some negative coping skills, writing, leaving voicemails, that has actually stopped my therapist from seeing me. Don't get the impression that it is to the point that they feel scared, they just mentally can't handle my behavior and this, let me go. It has just happened to me again. I would think a therapist would help you would help you work through those behaviors, but I guess not.
I hear you. It sounds like your therapist has specific boundaries and maybe they got crossed? I think you can find someone who will work WITH you ;-)
Candace van Dell the sad part is? My therapist didn't have an issue with my weekly voicemails, it was her manager. She found out about my voicemails and actually threatened to have me charged with harassment. My therapist used to always say hi when she saw me in the hall. Since this? She walks by me with her head down and doesn't speak. The all know that I have huge abandonment issues. :(
Candace Ion I’m so sorry!!
But I don't hate myself. I never self-blamed. Now what?? See this is where all of these teachings dont help me. I never thought I did anything wrong. I always knew the abuse was the abuse. So, now how do I help myself?? There is still a huge disconnect not being addressed here.
working on healing myself but sometimes I just want to give up because I feel like im far too damaged and traumatized to actually fix my mental health damage. I feel like im damaged goods
lostinwonderland87 it’s a very long process. One week I feel like maybe I can make it then next I’m a fuckin mess. But one thing I know is I can’t live being miserable and repeating the same pattern. Change is hard! No one will save you but you and guess what.... YOU ARE FUCKING WORTH SAVING! look for the little wins, the small changes, be patient and gentle with yourself but don’t give up!
@@MarianaRodriguez-ru5bw it's been fucking black, crushing pain, but I think I can make it but...
@@MarianaRodriguez-ru5bw TRUE! After Spending MANY Years... Supporting n Neglecting SELF! It Would Be Treason....To GIVE UP On SPENDING As MUCH n FOREVER Helping To BE The MOST MENTALLY STABLE MIND Possible!!!!! It Like WRITING A LOVE 😍 STORY To SELF. AFTER Begging n Being Made A Fool of Because Lack The NORMAL Nutrition / WORDS 🥰 ✍️ To Encourage GROWTH. Like A Baby Needs To Survive 💯
You are great. Love your stuff. My only question is do you actually experience people overcoming these issues? Stories of average people overcoming wounds would be very encouraging. Thank you 😊
Thank You ✨🙏
thank you
very welcome!