Ugh I hate people like that, I have really bad sensory issues when it comes to meats, specifically whole meats like pork, steak or lamb. I've gotten better with it over time, but still have issues, my mom, dad and sibling, always forced me to eat the stuff that would make me gag, (Recently though they've gotten better) but I still get people who think I'm just a brat.
People will always have their opinions, i tend to just be annoying back. I eat raw meat i prefer taste texture and i think it’s healthier (though not all raw just red meat and some fish) when the bad bacteria are limited by controlling source, processing if any (try to get grass fed high quality meat from farm) and with proper preserving and eating in clean environment after all the necessary precautions. Anyway people say stuff so i say stuff about them eating the foods that people classify as normal so then it just turns toxic which idm coz they started it and i wont feel bad about returning the behaviour.
NTA. I mean you tried to communicate boundaries, tell them when they were crossing said boundaries and warned them they needed to stop. What did they expect when they kept at it??? He literally warned them of the consequences of their actions and they ignored him so now they have to deal with the hole THEY dug. Also I don’t get why they are so bothered by what she eats. Like she isn’t hurting anyone by eating her food and having a preference, she isn’t forcing them to do anything and OP and his wife even bring their own food to dinners so they don’t have to make any adjustments to the food everyone else eats.
i use the saying everyone has there own eating habits and you shouldn't force your eating habits on others and did they forget that you told them before and now its like they forgot or got sick of it op should just not eat with them if they want to be immature op should just tell them until you guys can grow up and be adults about peoples way of life then we no longer be with you
Not the asshole. She got issues she's working through and they make sure the kids are still taken care of. I see nothing wrong with that. Family are being assholes.
I get that love is love and all that bull, but you have to be careful who you have kids with. If he thinks her disordered eating won’t impact his kids he’s a fool. I’d like to hear his family’s version of events.
Fair, but it’s also worth acknowledging her issues are trauma based, and she studied everything to make sure her kids don’t share her trauma. Also said his parents were comparing her plate to her kids- moms was with only her special foods, kids was a colorful full plate (which is a good thing.) So it’s kind of different in that way. So long as she continues to improve and get better, and she and dad let their kids know that, then I’d say it’s nothing to be worried about
No and the parents doesn't force them to eat certain things, they introduced eating new foods in a better way instead, and how much but the family use this to pick on the wife since she has a certain diet and eats less
I think learning to introduce new foods and help kids discover what they like to eat is a much better idea than just forcing them to eat stuff they don't like.
@@aliceandrade7164 Nowhere in the video does it say that... or really anything about how the kids eat except for the "colorful plate" remark, that can mean anything good or bad. This is why i'm asking if the kids have an eating disorder too, because at the end OP says that his family should stop talking about how the wife and the kids eat without giving any context on how the kids eat.
Everyone is such a snowflake these days. His wife needs a "team" to help her eat??? It's a basic biological function. The family is probably concerned the mental illness will rub off on the kids.
Team is probably doctor and therapist. Basic biological functions can be overridden by the brain. Breathing is a basic function, but pilots need to have "put on mask" as the first step otherwise they won't put them on until it is too late
it is a basic biological function but the wife developed eating disorder becuase of her family when she was little, and that disorder isnt easy to heal or recover from. OP's family may be focused more on the mental illness aspect but thats becuase they are more educated in that matter now, much better than making it a generational trauma.
Food trauma sucks ass man. Ever eat a bunch of something and then throw it back up because you had the flu or something? Most people don’t want to eat that food again because it’s a traumatic experience. Same thing happens when you force kids to eat things they don’t like, force them to eat all of it, and proceed to be mean to them for being upset. Thus creating food trauma. Pro-tip to getting your kids to like food (worked for everyone in my family): Try it, and if you don’t like it, you can spit it out. A safe bet to encourage they’ll be brave in the face of trying something new, even if they don’t always like it. Helps you find more things they do like even when they are picky.
What would you do in this situation?
NTA. They really don't understand how trauma works.
Ugh I hate people like that, I have really bad sensory issues when it comes to meats, specifically whole meats like pork, steak or lamb. I've gotten better with it over time, but still have issues, my mom, dad and sibling, always forced me to eat the stuff that would make me gag, (Recently though they've gotten better) but I still get people who think I'm just a brat.
People will always have their opinions, i tend to just be annoying back. I eat raw meat i prefer taste texture and i think it’s healthier (though not all raw just red meat and some fish) when the bad bacteria are limited by controlling source, processing if any (try to get grass fed high quality meat from farm) and with proper preserving and eating in clean environment after all the necessary precautions.
Anyway people say stuff so i say stuff about them eating the foods that people classify as normal so then it just turns toxic which idm coz they started it and i wont feel bad about returning the behaviour.
NTA. I mean you tried to communicate boundaries, tell them when they were crossing said boundaries and warned them they needed to stop. What did they expect when they kept at it??? He literally warned them of the consequences of their actions and they ignored him so now they have to deal with the hole THEY dug.
Also I don’t get why they are so bothered by what she eats. Like she isn’t hurting anyone by eating her food and having a preference, she isn’t forcing them to do anything and OP and his wife even bring their own food to dinners so they don’t have to make any adjustments to the food everyone else eats.
They are being so disrespectful to your wife I wouldn't bother seeing them anymore. NTA
Who are you talking to?
i use the saying everyone has there own eating habits and you shouldn't force your eating habits on others and did they forget that you told them before and now its like they forgot or got sick of it op should just not eat with them if they want to be immature op should just tell them until you guys can grow up and be adults about peoples way of life then we no longer be with you
Nta I heard this one before. This is no contact worthy.
Not the asshole.
She got issues she's working through and they make sure the kids are still taken care of.
I see nothing wrong with that.
Family are being assholes.
I get that love is love and all that bull, but you have to be careful who you have kids with. If he thinks her disordered eating won’t impact his kids he’s a fool. I’d like to hear his family’s version of events.
Fair, but it’s also worth acknowledging her issues are trauma based, and she studied everything to make sure her kids don’t share her trauma. Also said his parents were comparing her plate to her kids- moms was with only her special foods, kids was a colorful full plate (which is a good thing.)
So it’s kind of different in that way. So long as she continues to improve and get better, and she and dad let their kids know that, then I’d say it’s nothing to be worried about
I don't get it. Do the kids have eating disorders too?
No and the parents doesn't force them to eat certain things, they introduced eating new foods in a better way instead, and how much but the family use this to pick on the wife since she has a certain diet and eats less
I think learning to introduce new foods and help kids discover what they like to eat is a much better idea than just forcing them to eat stuff they don't like.
@@shortangel333 Was that what i asked?
@@aliceandrade7164 Nowhere in the video does it say that... or really anything about how the kids eat except for the "colorful plate" remark, that can mean anything good or bad.
This is why i'm asking if the kids have an eating disorder too, because at the end OP says that his family should stop talking about how the wife and the kids eat without giving any context on how the kids eat.
I don't think so, it only seems like the wife does because op only mentions not being food that the wife can eat
Everyone is such a snowflake these days. His wife needs a "team" to help her eat??? It's a basic biological function. The family is probably concerned the mental illness will rub off on the kids.
Team is probably doctor and therapist. Basic biological functions can be overridden by the brain. Breathing is a basic function, but pilots need to have "put on mask" as the first step otherwise they won't put them on until it is too late
it is a basic biological function but the wife developed eating disorder becuase of her family when she was little, and that disorder isnt easy to heal or recover from.
OP's family may be focused more on the mental illness aspect but thats becuase they are more educated in that matter now, much better than making it a generational trauma.
Food trauma sucks ass man. Ever eat a bunch of something and then throw it back up because you had the flu or something? Most people don’t want to eat that food again because it’s a traumatic experience.
Same thing happens when you force kids to eat things they don’t like, force them to eat all of it, and proceed to be mean to them for being upset. Thus creating food trauma.
Pro-tip to getting your kids to like food (worked for everyone in my family): Try it, and if you don’t like it, you can spit it out. A safe bet to encourage they’ll be brave in the face of trying something new, even if they don’t always like it. Helps you find more things they do like even when they are picky.