So true! I lived this for almost 13 years, STUCK!! The trauma bond is real and it’s a daily fight! Especially during healing. It does get better though. I promise!! ❤️
Your explanations for why a narcissist keeps coming back helps me make sense of his behavior. He appears to have a narcissistic flying monkey who is also really sick. Thank you so much for this video!
My ex gf’s son is her flying monkey but I believe he is also a narc. He reached out to me but I stayed in no contact and didn’t reply to his text through his wife’s phone as I have everyone close to her blocked.
I have made it clear I don't want to see her. I didn't intentionally leave any door open. The narcissist went around my blocks, which really passed me off. I went full no contact. I never shadowed her social media, nor contacted her in any way.
I have never had any ruminations and am living well. He is not in my life now. This so-called relationship was a 5-month period of deceitful interactions on his part to try to extract behaviors from me that I refused to participate in. He cannot do anything to contact me. The door is locked and dead-bolted. Thank you for this video.
Wow! Sounds like you knew what u were in for,and ready for it. Good for u for being so strong👏 I plan to be just as aware and my eyes wide open next time.
Or when they block you first, so they control when we can talk. I have him blocked on everything, but anytime I search him on Facebook to block him, he doesn’t come up! He strategically blocks and unblocks me to send messages or I have a missed fb call, then I am blocked again. It’s our last and only connection, and only messages when I am finally moving past my feelings for him, so frustrating, their plan works!
It’s hard to divorce yourself. Or dump yourself. Because you were just saying yourself in that love bombing phase. But nah, this time I’m do resilient. I’m over it thank you.
Self awareness can be very helpful and some and small number of people have insight, usually the more injured type.. At times best addiction therapists were addicts themselves, many therapists have experienced things and work on self and than help others
This happens a lot and people find all kinds of justifications to not block.
That vending machine analogy is pretty good
So true! I lived this for almost 13 years, STUCK!! The trauma bond is real and it’s a daily fight! Especially during healing. It does get better though. I promise!! ❤️
I have also noticed they prefer to speak on the phone versus texting so they can control the conversation, manipulate it.
100% why
@@RawMotivations 🙏
Super spot with this observarion !!!
And you don’t have a record.
They need a mirror and a scapegoat.
Your explanations for why a narcissist keeps coming back helps me make sense of his behavior. He appears to have a narcissistic flying monkey who is also really sick. Thank you so much for this video!
Appreciate it, i hope you are doing well!
My ex gf’s son is her flying monkey but I believe he is also a narc. He reached out to me but I stayed in no contact and didn’t reply to his text through his wife’s phone as I have everyone close to her blocked.
Sounds like a lot of games, no wonder it makes you crazy,I never knew when he was serious o😢r toying with me.
The keep coming back is always about power, and gaining leverage. Spot on
I have made it clear I don't want to see her. I didn't intentionally leave any door open. The narcissist went around my blocks, which really passed me off. I went full no contact. I never shadowed her social media, nor contacted her in any way.
I have never had any ruminations and am living well. He is not in my life now. This so-called relationship was a 5-month period of deceitful interactions on his part to try to extract behaviors from me that I refused to participate in. He cannot do anything to contact me. The door is locked and dead-bolted. Thank you for this video.
Wow! Sounds like you knew what u were in for,and ready for it. Good for u for being so strong👏 I plan to be just as aware and my eyes wide open next time.
Deceitful interactions to extract certain behaviours.
That is so so accurate.
The perpetrator always returns to the scene of the crime...kinda.
Ty for the video
Or when they block you first, so they control when we can talk. I have him blocked on everything, but anytime I search him on Facebook to block him, he doesn’t come up! He strategically blocks and unblocks me to send messages or I have a missed fb call, then I am blocked again. It’s our last and only connection, and only messages when I am finally moving past my feelings for him, so frustrating, their plan works!
It's like Dracula, you have to invite him in.
Great analogy! ☺
@@morganadavies8319 TY!😀💜
Right!
Spot on as always 🎯
Brilliant analogy Ben 👏 comparing me to a vending machine! That got my attention!
:D
He married his main supply and is happy with her. He is dead to me. No contact and no response equals no hoover or coming back.😊
🌱🌏💚 Thank you Ben
It’s hard to divorce yourself. Or dump yourself. Because you were just saying yourself in that love bombing phase. But nah, this time I’m do resilient. I’m over it thank you.
Even if he blocked me everywhere first before I had the chance?
I am curious about the fact that you say that narcissists cannot change, yet you are a self-aware narcissist who has changed.
He's still a narcissist and these things still live in him. He's just more self aware in real time. It gives him time to stop and think.
Self awareness can be very helpful and some and small number of people have insight, usually the more injured type.. At times best addiction therapists were addicts themselves, many therapists have experienced things and work on self and than help others