This video came in handy. Mine engagement broke 5months ago and i felt i was gonna die being my one and only relationship of almost 5years. But I'm grateful to God i survived the lowest moment. A broken relationship indeed is better than a broken marriage.
17 years old me is just here storing all these virtues from solutions mama inside cooler till when they’ll come handy. Thank you for these words of wisdom ma😊😊
You have to start the prayer now prayer is like drop of water you have to start dropping the prayer now at God time your will be answered pls do not wait on till you are ready.As you are praying to have the best career in life, job ,buy a nice house, you have to start telling God to pls when God time comes to give you a God fearing husband and God fearing in-law. It only God that known the right time for each of you.
Thank you for sharing this, Solutions. I can totally relate to this story because same thing happened to me and I noticed I started losing myself, I compromised on a lot of things and there was so much uncertainty as to if I’ll be happy if I go on with it or if it was the will of God for my life. The decision to end the engagement wasn’t easy but every time I look back, I’m thankful, happy and proud that I made that decision.
My gosh. This story is literally answers to prayers. I had a dream of being in a similar situation (being engaged to someone I was clearly unsure of). In waking life, I'm not even in a relationship. As I was praying about it, I stumbled on your video--- literally minutes after. And it further clarified my dream for me. So while you might think this is random tea for Team Solutions (which it is😉), your timing was perfectly ordered by God, for me. Thank you😍. God is kind!🙏🙌
Thank you Tolulope Solutions... I came to understand this some weeks ago before leaving my former relationship. I broke my rules and values just to please him... When I could finally see and understand how far I have gone, I was able to make the right choice to retrace my steps back to my maker. Thank you once again for your story. It's a blessing.
Wow this came at the right time Will be getting engaged to a guy I do constantly feel unsure of But me watching this now am gonna make a right decision A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage Thanks solutions
The most pain full thing in life is a broken marriage for those who have being the before.The ladies have said it all.A broken relationship is far far better than a broken marriage.It good to marry a believer that have the fear of God.Tolulope may you be bless with more wisdom that why i said it the holyspirit that direct you to do these post.God bless you family.Amen
The truth is that when the relationship feels unsure, stressing then it is not the right one. If u feel you are doing too much and there is little reciprocation,,runnnnnn. I now look back and I am happy I left such relationships
I walked away from a 7 year old relationship 12 years ago..God gave me the insight to count the loss and move on..That was the greatest decision of my life..There is no fear in love..when you feel fear..run.leave for your life
THIS THIS THIS!!!!! I’m actually at this particular boat in my life and All you said just made sense to me. The time wasted is “worth” it instead of not getting it right. Thank you so much Aunty Tolu.
Great testimony Tolu. Can you do a video on why your in-laws rejected you at first? And what made them change their minds? Please get their permission before filming it oooo.
The summary of all this is that, the person was never God's will for your life, End of story. that is why entering a relationship without being led by God, is at your own risk, Thank God for his mercies!!
Like you said mama, family approval is important, even though am no longer in a relationship, looking back after my break up this year Feb, close to 4 years in the relationship, there are things I see now that I was blind to and I started seeing things from my mum's perspective too which I once ignored..I once thought I wouldn't cope with the breakup but am doing fine now and trying to work on myself to be better before the right person comes along... Thanks for sharing
Omo this video is deep and answers to the many issues I’ve been dealing with. Funny how I’ve been seeing this video on my TL and not click it till someone actually sent it to me. Omo this God when he hints and you don’t listen he sends a confirmation to nudge you.
Wahala for who no dey follow your content back to back. Thanks so much ma Really learnt a lot from you ever since i subscribed to your TH-camc channel Not ever a mistake joining this channel
Thanks for giving us make up tutorial once in a year... The last one was December 15th,2019....between... The matter discussed will help a lot of people.. Merry Christmas to you and your family 😍
Wow!!! This is my exact story. Everything you said. I experienced the exact same in 2018. Will not even go into the story but thank you for sharing this. Someday soon, I will share mine when God permits me. God bless you again.
Amennnnn to all the Prayers! I totally agree and understand My last relationship failed cos I wasn’t sure i wanted to do Life with this person 99 percent of the time i was in doubt and I kept telling God if this isn’t your will then I don’t want it Thanks for sharing This Tolu. God bless You 🙏🏽
This is my present situation, i'm with someone in which i question myself everyday if i want to be with him on the long run, i'm so confused but i'm not so sure if to end it or not so this is my prayer everytime. To this end i'm curious how yours ended. How did God answer this prayer for you?
Mrs Tolulope Solutions Adejumo! Watching your vlogs is a breath of fresh air for me. If it doesn't make me laugh, it teaches me something. I am not in a relationship but this is timely. It is for me. I will not rush things, I will be shameless, it doesn't matter how long it's been if it's not good for new, I'm dropping it. I agree with you when you say family should agree. I'm also of the opinion that my family and my guy's family should have a relationship. It matters to me. I loved watching this vlog. It pained me though that Soteria wasn't here to say "hello guys". He he😅 When you said "I can't do makeup" , I was shook but then I heard "...and talk". Ehen! PS, red lipstick and hair looks so good on you😍😍😍
My last relationship was exactly like the one you had then I losted my value totally and was too much in love infact it affected my relationship with God and almost turn him to semigod Thank God for Grace It's better am single now than to still be in such unhealthy relationship
The relationship should be purposeful. You are very correct, you need to know about it before him going ahead to propose.. not knowing the how and when but what and why one should know.
Thank you sis Tolulope for obedience to the Holy Spirit and for doing putting this video out, it's surely a blessing for me watching this, it's giving me clearance on certain things.
I am so particular with making the right choice when it comes to relationship, dating and marriage with the help of the holy spirit and i am thanking God for your life ma because this was so helpful to me. God bless you ma.
This video speaks to me loudly at this particular point of my life and I hope in few years I will come back here and be proud of the decision I will make from the lessons I learnt here
Although I wasn't engaged. I went through a similar situation when I was 22 as well. It was a difficult breakup. I did not have peace about the relationship. Peace is important.
Peace is very important.Marriage is a long journey a journey of over 70 years you have to get it right by the help of God he is the only one that can choose for you .Amen
Love this story,a lot to learn for people who are thinking of getting married. Did I hear you say you are now elderly?Omo,may be you are getting older but not elderly baby girl. Leave the elderly for us older ones!!Love all your contents
Thanks dear as it just looks like you were narrating my experience. I am also happy I ended the courtship and trust God for his perfect will in Marriage. God bless you
Wow you have good foundation set out and really want to honor God in your life and relationship, God saw your heart I believe!!! God got your back , I love your personality dear,You’re blessed!!!
The unrest and uncertainty were signs...sounds like you didn't have peace of mind concerning the relationship....and that's all the confirmation that you need to not go ahead. I recently experienced something like this. And I also made the same prayer, 'Lord if he is not your will, take him away' and He did. I felt bad a bit but I trust that God's best is on His way to me 😊. PS: Amen to your prayer o! My marriage shall be blissful 🤗
How did God answer this prayer for you? This is my present prayer but i'm scared i might be blocking the answer. He's a really good person and his family is lovely and they like me, i just don't get why i feel uneasy about the relationship... Is it because i tend to over think things or it's a sign?
@@kemiabiodun1306 Hi Kemi. My case was almost similar to yours, only that I didn't meet his family. I was also feeling uncertain but I thought it was because we hadn't dated for long. So I kept praying and just waited it out. As time went on, first, I started to notice some things about him that I wasn't comfortable with, secondly, the feelings just started to wane, and thirdly, he started to loose interest (this is someone that was very serious about marrying me form the start o). We eventually broke it off after about 9 months of dating. I'd advise that you keep praying and don't bother about time going. Tell God to show you who he (intending spouse) truly is. That's part of the prayer I made. The fact that you are feeling uneasy is not something overlook. I'll also make a short prayer for you right now. Cheers 🤗❤️
Thank you for responding ... Actually we haven't dated for long either and certainly I've seen some things that i actually i'm not comfortable with and i spoke to him about it and he's open minded about learning and unlearning different traits so this puts be back to square one of maybe i'm just over thinking, he's actually putting effort to be better so why am i feeling uneasy. Thank you for your prayer thoughts, it means a lot.
@@kemiabiodun1306 You are welcome love, keep praying and waiting in faith for God to answer however way He chooses to. He could give you a 'go ahead' or an emphatic No. Also watch out for those things you've pointed out, and if he will actually make the change he says he'll make. #WatchAndPray ❤️
Solutions mama you're indeed a blessing to our world...you have no idea how much this video has ministered to me...I was in a similar situation wasn't engaged though but had future plans with this person,so many things weren't adding up,broke up few months ago twasnt at all easy but #a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Thank you for this. It is precious! God bless you. I can't put it in words. But thank you for reminding me to make sure I don't loose myself in a relationship. Thank you for doing one thing that I still do,I keep on praying till I say I do at the altar. God bless you so much 🥰😍
Thanks for this lovely video though I’m a year late to this party 😁😁 but I’m blessed nonetheless and I took a nugget or two away. God bless you real good
I also experience d same thing with my ex although i didn't realise it till we broke up and i start thanking God after looking back at everything in d relationship
Thank you for this video Tolu. Take home point for me: "if you see that the person has mouth more than action, that is a red flag!"
@@prophettaiwoojo971 fake account. Leave this place!!!
I literally did not date a guy because he talks too much and ends up saying more than he delivered
This video came in handy. Mine engagement broke 5months ago and i felt i was gonna die being my one and only relationship of almost 5years. But I'm grateful to God i survived the lowest moment. A broken relationship indeed is better than a broken marriage.
Same here😣
So True...
17 years old me is just here storing all these virtues from solutions mama inside cooler till when they’ll come handy. Thank you for these words of wisdom ma😊😊
You have to start the prayer now prayer is like drop of water you have to start dropping the prayer now at God time your will be answered pls do not wait on till you are ready.As you are praying to have the best career in life, job ,buy a nice house,
you have to start telling God to pls when God time comes to give you a God fearing husband and God fearing in-law. It only God that known the right time for each of you.
@@debbieoputah1630 Thank you so much. I really appreciate this
@@prophettaiwoojo971 oh wow🤭 but does the real Pastor Chris know that there’s an imposter somewhere?
Woooow. We are plentyyyy 😂
Thank you for sharing this, Solutions.
I can totally relate to this story because same thing happened to me and I noticed I started losing myself, I compromised on a lot of things and there was so much uncertainty as to if I’ll be happy if I go on with it or if it was the will of God for my life. The decision to end the engagement wasn’t easy but every time I look back, I’m thankful, happy and proud that I made that decision.
My gosh. This story is literally answers to prayers. I had a dream of being in a similar situation (being engaged to someone I was clearly unsure of). In waking life, I'm not even in a relationship. As I was praying about it, I stumbled on your video--- literally minutes after. And it further clarified my dream for me. So while you might think this is random tea for Team Solutions (which it is😉), your timing was perfectly ordered by God, for me. Thank you😍. God is kind!🙏🙌
The timing is perfect for me too, thank you ma❤
Thank you Tolulope Solutions... I came to understand this some weeks ago before leaving my former relationship. I broke my rules and values just to please him... When I could finally see and understand how far I have gone, I was able to make the right choice to retrace my steps back to my maker. Thank you once again for your story. It's a blessing.
This video was timely. God just used you to clear confusion from my head.
Wow this came at the right time
Will be getting engaged to a guy I do constantly feel unsure of
But me watching this now am gonna make a right decision
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Thanks solutions
The most pain full thing in life is a broken marriage for those who have being the before.The ladies have said it all.A broken
relationship is far far better than a broken marriage.It good to marry a believer that have the fear of God.Tolulope may you be
bless with more wisdom that why i said it the holyspirit that direct you to do these post.God bless you family.Amen
The truth is that when the relationship feels unsure, stressing then it is not the right one. If u feel you are doing too much and there is little reciprocation,,runnnnnn. I now look back and I am happy I left such relationships
My marriage will be blissful mad fruitful in the name of Jesus Amen!.
Amen!
Just broke up few hours again. It wasn't worth it. it's not easy to go through the break up
Eye opener👁 for a woman that is not finding peace about that relationship, engagement or marriage proposal
I am glad it did not work out so you can meet someone like your husband, down to earth man, respectful. God had a reason.
I walked away from a 7 year old relationship 12 years ago..God gave me the insight to count the loss and move on..That was the greatest decision of my life..There is no fear in love..when you feel fear..run.leave for your life
THIS THIS THIS!!!!! I’m actually at this particular boat in my life and All you said just made sense to me.
The time wasted is “worth” it instead of not getting it right. Thank you so much Aunty Tolu.
This is timely and educative
Know The Timeline, Don't Just Date
Don't lose yourself in trying to please your partner
Thank you so much for this mama solutions. A broken courtship is far better than a broken marriage.
You really made this video for me, indeed the Holy Spirit sent this for me. God bless you and Amen to your prayers.
U're even beautiful without makeup Jere😍😘😘😘
Great testimony Tolu. Can you do a video on why your in-laws rejected you at first? And what made them change their minds? Please get their permission before filming it oooo.
The summary of all this is that, the person was never God's will for your life, End of story. that is why entering a relationship without being led by God, is at your own risk, Thank God for his mercies!!
Ahhh! The way the Holy Spirit speaks! 🥺❤️❤️❤️ I am tempted to just say God bless you Holy Spirit! 🥺❤️
I am a huge solutions fan but you see this skin glow, heuuuu it got me mesmerized. It was hard to concentrate 😍🙈
Like you said mama, family approval is important, even though am no longer in a relationship, looking back after my break up this year Feb, close to 4 years in the relationship, there are things I see now that I was blind to and I started seeing things from my mum's perspective too which I once ignored..I once thought I wouldn't cope with the breakup but am doing fine now and trying to work on myself to be better before the right person comes along... Thanks for sharing
I understand where u coming from sis. May God see u through as u work on urself 🙏
You know it’s lit when it’s Tolulope Solutions that comes up as a notification😍💙
How am i just finding this channel???? You're such a blessing ma🤗
I pray I get it right in the Name of Jesus🙏🙏
Thanks For This Mama Solutions💓💓
Omo this video is deep and answers to the many issues I’ve been dealing with. Funny how I’ve been seeing this video on my TL and not click it till someone actually sent it to me. Omo this God when he hints and you don’t listen he sends a confirmation to nudge you.
i can totally relate
Amen.. my marriage will be beautiful, blissful,successful
This girl is fine sha, Pst. Gbemiga really carry eye go market o. Lol Beautiful inside out 😘😘😘
Wahala for who no dey follow your content back to back. Thanks so much ma
Really learnt a lot from you ever since i subscribed to your TH-camc channel
Not ever a mistake joining this channel
That part about losing yourself and values to please your partner is just too real! Thank you for this video!
I'm not even bothered about the gist, its the vibes that you both have.....
PG give us wisdom
Thank you for this solutions.
Ain't gonna live my life for people and I am to know my value in my relationship.✌
PG with all the wisdom 🤣🙌🏽🙌🏽
Road to 70k subscribers!!!! Whoop!!!!😍😍🎊🎊
Thanks for sharing Solutions 💓. May God's will be done in our lives.
We will have happy, blissful and godly homes. Where God's presence will reside.
Thanks for giving us make up tutorial once in a year... The last one was December 15th,2019....between... The matter discussed will help a lot of people.. Merry Christmas to you and your family 😍
I have physiology major tomorrow,here I am ,watching and hearing gist😂😂😂😂
Wow!!!
This is my exact story. Everything you said. I experienced the exact same in 2018. Will not even go into the story but thank you for sharing this. Someday soon, I will share mine when God permits me.
God bless you again.
Aunty Tolu you are glowing ooo ....mama whats your skincare plug😍😍
Momma your skin is glowing 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Lmaooo something similar happened to me when I was 21! 😂
Amennnnn to all the Prayers! I totally agree and understand
My last relationship failed cos I wasn’t sure i wanted to do Life with this person 99 percent of the time i was in doubt and I kept telling God if this isn’t your will then I don’t want it
Thanks for sharing This Tolu. God bless You 🙏🏽
This is my present situation, i'm with someone in which i question myself everyday if i want to be with him on the long run, i'm so confused but i'm not so sure if to end it or not so this is my prayer everytime. To this end i'm curious how yours ended. How did God answer this prayer for you?
Mrs Tolulope Solutions Adejumo!
Watching your vlogs is a breath of fresh air for me. If it doesn't make me laugh, it teaches me something.
I am not in a relationship but this is timely. It is for me. I will not rush things, I will be shameless, it doesn't matter how long it's been if it's not good for new, I'm dropping it.
I agree with you when you say family should agree. I'm also of the opinion that my family and my guy's family should have a relationship. It matters to me.
I loved watching this vlog. It pained me though that Soteria wasn't here to say "hello guys". He he😅
When you said "I can't do makeup" , I was shook but then I heard "...and talk". Ehen!
PS, red lipstick and hair looks so good on you😍😍😍
My last relationship was exactly like the one you had then
I losted my value totally and was too much in love infact it affected my relationship with God and almost turn him to semigod
Thank God for Grace
It's better am single now than to still be in such unhealthy relationship
Thanks for sharing..
Take home for me..Don't loose your self trying to please someone.
Thank you Ma ❤️
We young ladies are really learning from you .
Don't lost yourself,trying to please someone else💪
Thank you for this video. My relationship ended 2 weeks ago and it has been difficult moving on but this video really helped.
Aww, all will work out for your good
The right person will come
@@PatriciaAbijah Amen. Thanks
@@StephanieEmordi Amen. Thank you
The relationship should be purposeful. You are very correct, you need to know about it before him going ahead to propose.. not knowing the how and when but what and why one should know.
Thank you sis Tolulope for obedience to the Holy Spirit and for doing putting this video out, it's surely a blessing for me watching this, it's giving me clearance on certain things.
It's not just only about i love him,he loves me, he loves God...Very insightful 👍
Very good you are sharing your experience with the youth which very helpful
I wish you had the slighest clue how this video has helped me today. Amen to all your prayers🙏
I wasn't expecting this😍😍😍
Thank you momma. Lemme watch before I drop full comment😂
Wow lovely video ma thanks for sharing and wow your skin glow
You look amazing 😍
I am so particular with making the right choice when it comes to relationship, dating and marriage with the help of the holy spirit and i am thanking God for your life ma because this was so helpful to me. God bless you ma.
A chance to rewrite that odd story...
Thank YOU LORD!
This video speaks to me loudly at this particular point of my life and I hope in few years I will come back here and be proud of the decision I will make from the lessons I learnt here
Thank you so much for sharing this story, I am in the same situation, it takes more than love for me and for God.
Although I wasn't engaged. I went through a similar situation when I was 22 as well. It was a difficult breakup. I did not have peace about the relationship. Peace is important.
Peace is very important.Marriage is a long journey a journey of over 70 years you have to get it right by the help of God he is the only one that can choose for you .Amen
These are really good indicators to watch out for in a relationship before marriage. Thanks for sharing this real life event with us.
Love this story,a lot to learn for people who are thinking of getting married.
Did I hear you say you are now elderly?Omo,may be you are getting older but not elderly baby girl. Leave the elderly for us older ones!!Love all your contents
Thanks dear as it just looks like you were narrating my experience. I am also happy I ended the courtship and trust God for his perfect will in Marriage. God bless you
Thanks for this lovely video. I had almost the same experience, but I thank God. I'm happily married now.
I say Amen to your prayer❤ I willl get int right and my marriage willl bring glory to God!❤
Thank God you had a second chance. Not many had it that way.
God will continue to bless this family in Jesus 🙏🙏
Wow you have good foundation set out and really want to honor God in your life and relationship, God saw your heart I believe!!! God got your back , I love your personality dear,You’re blessed!!!
The unrest and uncertainty were signs...sounds like you didn't have peace of mind concerning the relationship....and that's all the confirmation that you need to not go ahead. I recently experienced something like this. And I also made the same prayer, 'Lord if he is not your will, take him away' and He did. I felt bad a bit but I trust that God's best is on His way to me 😊.
PS: Amen to your prayer o! My marriage shall be blissful 🤗
How did God answer this prayer for you? This is my present prayer but i'm scared i might be blocking the answer. He's a really good person and his family is lovely and they like me, i just don't get why i feel uneasy about the relationship... Is it because i tend to over think things or it's a sign?
@@kemiabiodun1306 Hi Kemi. My case was almost similar to yours, only that I didn't meet his family. I was also feeling uncertain but I thought it was because we hadn't dated for long. So I kept praying and just waited it out. As time went on, first, I started to notice some things about him that I wasn't comfortable with, secondly, the feelings just started to wane, and thirdly, he started to loose interest (this is someone that was very serious about marrying me form the start o). We eventually broke it off after about 9 months of dating.
I'd advise that you keep praying and don't bother about time going. Tell God to show you who he (intending spouse) truly is. That's part of the prayer I made. The fact that you are feeling uneasy is not something overlook.
I'll also make a short prayer for you right now.
Cheers 🤗❤️
Thank you for responding ... Actually we haven't dated for long either and certainly I've seen some things that i actually i'm not comfortable with and i spoke to him about it and he's open minded about learning and unlearning different traits so this puts be back to square one of maybe i'm just over thinking, he's actually putting effort to be better so why am i feeling uneasy. Thank you for your prayer thoughts, it means a lot.
@@kemiabiodun1306 You are welcome love, keep praying and waiting in faith for God to answer however way He chooses to. He could give you a 'go ahead' or an emphatic No. Also watch out for those things you've pointed out, and if he will actually make the change he says he'll make. #WatchAndPray ❤️
Thank you for your time.
Your skin is looking beautiful. Love the glow
Tolulope was created for me, seriously you are always timely mama
It’s the “It’s my life, it’s my journey” for me ooo
Apttt👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you Tolulope ❤️💙
Merry Christmas to the Adejumos.
Your skin is popping.... This video came at the right time, thank you. Merry Christmas!
This particular vlog is inspiring, I personally can relate because this happened to me.
God bless you dear and I love your makeup 🔥🔥🔥
wow... I love you ma with every part of me. thanks for always teaching and bringing light to our path.
Solutions mama you're indeed a blessing to our world...you have no idea how much this video has ministered to me...I was in a similar situation wasn't engaged though but had future plans with this person,so many things weren't adding up,broke up few months ago twasnt at all easy but #a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Thank you Ma for this. Really timely. You don't live your life for anybody..no pressure. Thank you Ma.
The Holy Spirit doesn't miss! God bless you x
Thank you for this. It is precious! God bless you. I can't put it in words. But thank you for reminding me to make sure I don't loose myself in a relationship. Thank you for doing one thing that I still do,I keep on praying till I say I do at the altar. God bless you so much 🥰😍
Define the relationship ✅
Hmmm doing it with uncertainty is not worth the time being wasted 😭
This was really timely for me
Thanks mama solutions ❤❤
Happy Proposalversary 😂 👏🏾 👏🏾 thank you so much for the guidelines.... Something general to look out for
Hmmm...been there done that...undefined relationships are unnecessary 💔 Land mines. Communication is key and always yourself.
That’s the man of wisdom ooo thanking God 🙌🏻🙏🙌🏻🙏 congratulations 🎉🍾🎈
I bet you he will be so jealous he lost you.❤️
This video is on time.
Thanks for yielding to the spirit of God.
Thanks for this lovely video though I’m a year late to this party 😁😁 but I’m blessed nonetheless and I took a nugget or two away. God bless you real good
I haven't even watched the video yet but MashaAllah you skin looks real good 😍😍😍
I also experience d same thing with my ex although i didn't realise it till we broke up and i start thanking God after looking back at everything in d relationship
Same here dear thank God he saved me too
This is timely😔😔 Thank you Mama
This is so on point, Sensitivity to the Holy Spirit is Everything, and that heavenly Peace
Lovely video I really enjoyed watching 🥰
A year late to the party but I can relate with this 100%
Losing yourself... Really detrimental. That value system is really important
I can totally relate to this story....am happy God equally gave me the opportunity to right it
This was very timely! God bless you Tolu!
Your skin!!😘😘😘😍😍🥰🥰. So beautiful!!! Looking so hydrated and clean!! Skin goals!!😘😘
I can totally relate to all of this...thank God for grace to leave when I could🙏🏽... thanks for sharing ❤