WHY MY PREVIOUS ENGAGEMENT FAILED; PLUS GET READY WITH ME || TOLULOPE SOLUTIONS ADEJUMO
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- As it is my 4 years 'proposalversary' with my husband today, I had the leading to share this on here. I hope it blesses someone and saves someone from a lifetime of pain. xo.
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This video came in handy. Mine engagement broke 5months ago and i felt i was gonna die being my one and only relationship of almost 5years. But I'm grateful to God i survived the lowest moment. A broken relationship indeed is better than a broken marriage.
Same here😣
So True...
Thank you for sharing this, Solutions.
I can totally relate to this story because same thing happened to me and I noticed I started losing myself, I compromised on a lot of things and there was so much uncertainty as to if I’ll be happy if I go on with it or if it was the will of God for my life. The decision to end the engagement wasn’t easy but every time I look back, I’m thankful, happy and proud that I made that decision.
Thank you for this video Tolu. Take home point for me: "if you see that the person has mouth more than action, that is a red flag!"
@@prophettaiwoojo971 fake account. Leave this place!!!
I literally did not date a guy because he talks too much and ends up saying more than he delivered
Just broke up few hours again. It wasn't worth it. it's not easy to go through the break up
Thank you Tolulope Solutions... I came to understand this some weeks ago before leaving my former relationship. I broke my rules and values just to please him... When I could finally see and understand how far I have gone, I was able to make the right choice to retrace my steps back to my maker. Thank you once again for your story. It's a blessing.
This video was timely. God just used you to clear confusion from my head.
My gosh. This story is literally answers to prayers. I had a dream of being in a similar situation (being engaged to someone I was clearly unsure of). In waking life, I'm not even in a relationship. As I was praying about it, I stumbled on your video--- literally minutes after. And it further clarified my dream for me. So while you might think this is random tea for Team Solutions (which it is😉), your timing was perfectly ordered by God, for me. Thank you😍. God is kind!🙏🙌
The timing is perfect for me too, thank you ma❤
Great testimony Tolu. Can you do a video on why your in-laws rejected you at first? And what made them change their minds? Please get their permission before filming it oooo.
Thanks for giving us make up tutorial once in a year... The last one was December 15th,2019....between... The matter discussed will help a lot of people.. Merry Christmas to you and your family 😍
You really made this video for me, indeed the Holy Spirit sent this for me. God bless you and Amen to your prayers.
My marriage will be blissful mad fruitful in the name of Jesus Amen!.
Amen!
The truth is that when the relationship feels unsure, stressing then it is not the right one. If u feel you are doing too much and there is little reciprocation,,runnnnnn. I now look back and I am happy I left such relationships
I walked away from a 7 year old relationship 12 years ago..God gave me the insight to count the loss and move on..That was the greatest decision of my life..There is no fear in love..when you feel fear..run.leave for your life
Like you said mama, family approval is important, even though am no longer in a relationship, looking back after my break up this year Feb, close to 4 years in the relationship, there are things I see now that I was blind to and I started seeing things from my mum's perspective too which I once ignored..I once thought I wouldn't cope with the breakup but am doing fine now and trying to work on myself to be better before the right person comes along... Thanks for sharing
I understand where u coming from sis. May God see u through as u work on urself 🙏
Wow this came at the right time
Will be getting engaged to a guy I do constantly feel unsure of
But me watching this now am gonna make a right decision
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Thanks solutions
The most pain full thing in life is a broken marriage for those who have being the before.The ladies have said it all.A broken
relationship is far far better than a broken marriage.It good to marry a believer that have the fear of God.Tolulope may you be
bless with more wisdom that why i said it the holyspirit that direct you to do these post.God bless you family.Amen
Aunty Tolu you are glowing ooo ....mama whats your skincare plug😍😍
The summary of all this is that, the person was never God's will for your life, End of story. that is why entering a relationship without being led by God, is at your own risk, Thank God for his mercies!!
This is timely and educative
Know The Timeline, Don't Just Date
Don't lose yourself in trying to please your partner
THIS THIS THIS!!!!! I’m actually at this particular boat in my life and All you said just made sense to me.
The time wasted is “worth” it instead of not getting it right. Thank you so much Aunty Tolu.
Thank you for this video. My relationship ended 2 weeks ago and it has been difficult moving on but this video really helped.
Aww, all will work out for your good
The right person will come
@@PatriciaAbijah Amen. Thanks
@@StephanieEmordi Amen. Thank you
Lmaooo something similar happened to me when I was 21! 😂
I am 24 n I have been dating this guy who is 30 for two years. We have planned marriage but watching this video gives me the answers I have been looking for. I am in a relationship that I don't feel happy at all because I have to always go against my values for this person who doesn't appreciate or do the same thing for me. Just like u said we say we are in love but it's more than love for me because apart from the fact that we are in a relationship I don't feel that joy like most ladies when they are planning on marriage I thought it's just me but hearing ur story made me realise not wanting to go ahead with it. My family are asking y I stayed for 2 years before deciding to leave but the thing is I thought it would change but it didn't. I feel if he cant make u happy in a relationship he can't do that when u get married. Pls how do I go on with this? I need help Because I can't settle for less.
Pls don't settle for what you know it's not good for you, I once walked out of a relationship of almost five years, I'm not married yet, and I won't still settle for less, your purpose and life is most important, I hope this encourages you to move ahead to better things
You know that and the end of the day, everybody would go back to their homes and lock their door, the pressure would not be there forever. Do you sis.
In all honesty, it doesn’t matter how long you have been in a relationship to break it off! I was once in a relationship for 4 years and didn’t end in marriage! The major thing for me was that my heart and spirit was not at rest even though I was seemingly in love! Then I came across the bible verse that says perfect love casts out all fear! That was the rhema moment for me! I got the courage to leave!
Marriage is a lifetime decision which you prayerfully have to go into! I pray you make the right decision according to God’s purpose!
Tolu A m
Tank you all so much.. now I feel more relaxed to take my decision.
Please what's the title of the song at the end? And I think TH-cam should have a love ❤reaction cuz this was good
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Mrs Tolulope Solutions Adejumo!
Watching your vlogs is a breath of fresh air for me. If it doesn't make me laugh, it teaches me something.
I am not in a relationship but this is timely. It is for me. I will not rush things, I will be shameless, it doesn't matter how long it's been if it's not good for new, I'm dropping it.
I agree with you when you say family should agree. I'm also of the opinion that my family and my guy's family should have a relationship. It matters to me.
I loved watching this vlog. It pained me though that Soteria wasn't here to say "hello guys". He he😅
When you said "I can't do makeup" , I was shook but then I heard "...and talk". Ehen!
PS, red lipstick and hair looks so good on you😍😍😍
Eye opener👁 for a woman that is not finding peace about that relationship, engagement or marriage proposal
The unrest and uncertainty were signs...sounds like you didn't have peace of mind concerning the relationship....and that's all the confirmation that you need to not go ahead. I recently experienced something like this. And I also made the same prayer, 'Lord if he is not your will, take him away' and He did. I felt bad a bit but I trust that God's best is on His way to me 😊.
PS: Amen to your prayer o! My marriage shall be blissful 🤗
How did God answer this prayer for you? This is my present prayer but i'm scared i might be blocking the answer. He's a really good person and his family is lovely and they like me, i just don't get why i feel uneasy about the relationship... Is it because i tend to over think things or it's a sign?
@@kemiabiodun1306 Hi Kemi. My case was almost similar to yours, only that I didn't meet his family. I was also feeling uncertain but I thought it was because we hadn't dated for long. So I kept praying and just waited it out. As time went on, first, I started to notice some things about him that I wasn't comfortable with, secondly, the feelings just started to wane, and thirdly, he started to loose interest (this is someone that was very serious about marrying me form the start o). We eventually broke it off after about 9 months of dating.
I'd advise that you keep praying and don't bother about time going. Tell God to show you who he (intending spouse) truly is. That's part of the prayer I made. The fact that you are feeling uneasy is not something overlook.
I'll also make a short prayer for you right now.
Cheers 🤗❤️
Thank you for responding ... Actually we haven't dated for long either and certainly I've seen some things that i actually i'm not comfortable with and i spoke to him about it and he's open minded about learning and unlearning different traits so this puts be back to square one of maybe i'm just over thinking, he's actually putting effort to be better so why am i feeling uneasy. Thank you for your prayer thoughts, it means a lot.
@@kemiabiodun1306 You are welcome love, keep praying and waiting in faith for God to answer however way He chooses to. He could give you a 'go ahead' or an emphatic No. Also watch out for those things you've pointed out, and if he will actually make the change he says he'll make. #WatchAndPray ❤️
Thank you for your time.
17 years old me is just here storing all these virtues from solutions mama inside cooler till when they’ll come handy. Thank you for these words of wisdom ma😊😊
You have to start the prayer now prayer is like drop of water you have to start dropping the prayer now at God time your will be answered pls do not wait on till you are ready.As you are praying to have the best career in life, job ,buy a nice house,
you have to start telling God to pls when God time comes to give you a God fearing husband and God fearing in-law. It only God that known the right time for each of you.
@@debbieoputah1630 Thank you so much. I really appreciate this
@@prophettaiwoojo971 oh wow🤭 but does the real Pastor Chris know that there’s an imposter somewhere?
Woooow. We are plentyyyy 😂
Omo this video is deep and answers to the many issues I’ve been dealing with. Funny how I’ve been seeing this video on my TL and not click it till someone actually sent it to me. Omo this God when he hints and you don’t listen he sends a confirmation to nudge you.
i can totally relate
I am glad it did not work out so you can meet someone like your husband, down to earth man, respectful. God had a reason.
I am a huge solutions fan but you see this skin glow, heuuuu it got me mesmerized. It was hard to concentrate 😍🙈
Its how this video just popped up for me and i just watched it again and this time....... the message in this video speaks directly to me. Thank you solutions. Gob bless you for yielding to this purpose.
Although I wasn't engaged. I went through a similar situation when I was 22 as well. It was a difficult breakup. I did not have peace about the relationship. Peace is important.
Peace is very important.Marriage is a long journey a journey of over 70 years you have to get it right by the help of God he is the only one that can choose for you .Amen
Thank you so much for this mama solutions. A broken courtship is far better than a broken marriage.
Amennnnn to all the Prayers! I totally agree and understand
My last relationship failed cos I wasn’t sure i wanted to do Life with this person 99 percent of the time i was in doubt and I kept telling God if this isn’t your will then I don’t want it
Thanks for sharing This Tolu. God bless You 🙏🏽
This is my present situation, i'm with someone in which i question myself everyday if i want to be with him on the long run, i'm so confused but i'm not so sure if to end it or not so this is my prayer everytime. To this end i'm curious how yours ended. How did God answer this prayer for you?
This girl is fine sha, Pst. Gbemiga really carry eye go market o. Lol Beautiful inside out 😘😘😘
U're even beautiful without makeup Jere😍😘😘😘
Hmmm doing it with uncertainty is not worth the time being wasted 😭
This was really timely for me
Thanks mama solutions ❤❤
0:07 “I film about faith, marriage, lifestyle and motherhood”
Sisters pray for a Godly husband who will finish your intro when you run out of breath ooo!!!
I say ehnnnn
Yes you are right
My last relationship was exactly like the one you had then
I losted my value totally and was too much in love infact it affected my relationship with God and almost turn him to semigod
Thank God for Grace
It's better am single now than to still be in such unhealthy relationship
Thank you for this solutions.
Ain't gonna live my life for people and I am to know my value in my relationship.✌
I pray I get it right in the Name of Jesus🙏🙏
Thanks For This Mama Solutions💓💓
How am i just finding this channel???? You're such a blessing ma🤗
Very good you are sharing your experience with the youth which very helpful
Notification geng 🥰🥰..... Thank you Mama Solutions 😘... Happy Christmas and New Year in advance mam💖🤗🤗
I'm not even bothered about the gist, its the vibes that you both have.....
PG give us wisdom
Thank you sis Tolulope for obedience to the Holy Spirit and for doing putting this video out, it's surely a blessing for me watching this, it's giving me clearance on certain things.
Thanks for sharing Solutions 💓. May God's will be done in our lives.
We will have happy, blissful and godly homes. Where God's presence will reside.
I have physiology major tomorrow,here I am ,watching and hearing gist😂😂😂😂
I am so particular with making the right choice when it comes to relationship, dating and marriage with the help of the holy spirit and i am thanking God for your life ma because this was so helpful to me. God bless you ma.
A chance to rewrite that odd story...
Thank YOU LORD!
Wow lovely video ma thanks for sharing and wow your skin glow
You look amazing 😍
I wish you had the slighest clue how this video has helped me today. Amen to all your prayers🙏
Road to 70k subscribers!!!! Whoop!!!!😍😍🎊🎊
Thanks so much for sharing this Mama!!
Kindly check your mail,I dropped a message for you.
💞💞💞💞
This particular vlog is inspiring, I personally can relate because this happened to me.
Thanks for this lovely video though I’m a year late to this party 😁😁 but I’m blessed nonetheless and I took a nugget or two away. God bless you real good
Ahhh! The way the Holy Spirit speaks! 🥺❤️❤️❤️ I am tempted to just say God bless you Holy Spirit! 🥺❤️
PG with all the wisdom 🤣🙌🏽🙌🏽
Aunty Tolu, I can't concentrate, your skin is not letting me. Please, give us skincare routine, tainks and God blezz. 🥰🥰
Yes o
Thank you so much for sharing this story, I am in the same situation, it takes more than love for me and for God.
The relationship should be purposeful. You are very correct, you need to know about it before him going ahead to propose.. not knowing the how and when but what and why one should know.
Wahala for who no dey follow your content back to back. Thanks so much ma
Really learnt a lot from you ever since i subscribed to your TH-camc channel
Not ever a mistake joining this channel
Love this story,a lot to learn for people who are thinking of getting married.
Did I hear you say you are now elderly?Omo,may be you are getting older but not elderly baby girl. Leave the elderly for us older ones!!Love all your contents
Solutions: what do you have to say, 4 years...
PG: don waka
🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂
Amen.. my marriage will be beautiful, blissful,successful
I also experience d same thing with my ex although i didn't realise it till we broke up and i start thanking God after looking back at everything in d relationship
Same here dear thank God he saved me too
Thank you for this. It is precious! God bless you. I can't put it in words. But thank you for reminding me to make sure I don't loose myself in a relationship. Thank you for doing one thing that I still do,I keep on praying till I say I do at the altar. God bless you so much 🥰😍
This video speaks to me loudly at this particular point of my life and I hope in few years I will come back here and be proud of the decision I will make from the lessons I learnt here
Hmmm...been there done that...undefined relationships are unnecessary 💔 Land mines. Communication is key and always yourself.
Thanks for sharing..
Take home for me..Don't loose your self trying to please someone.
Story of my life... I’ve been engaged since June but I’m not certain about this man not even love part
I don’t want to make a decision now
Till taking my time tho
But this really nice to watch and hear
@@prophettaiwoojo971
Thank you sir
Is it only the kebbi orphanage
Can I send to any orphanage here too
@@oladiranvictoria4398 I think it is a scam.
Yeah
I just discovered too
Momma your skin is glowing 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Thanks dear as it just looks like you were narrating my experience. I am also happy I ended the courtship and trust God for his perfect will in Marriage. God bless you
Getting more fairer
I beg solutions, share ur cream wt me
Merry Christmas to the Adejumos.
wow... I love you ma with every part of me. thanks for always teaching and bringing light to our path.
Thank you for this video.I have been with this guy for about 4 yrs. He proposed to me over a yr plus when I moved abroad. Finances is a big problem and I have been doing a lot but he is just giving me words...Every time i try to talk to him, he acts like a victim saying because I have it good. i really don't know what to do. I can really relate to this video.
Take a bow my dear. Finance is very important in marriage. I am suffering from this.. got married with convictions that all will be well...it's been 13years now..I pay the bills
Thank you so much. I am really sorry about that. I ended the relationship shortly after the video.
@@osayiokungbowa488 👏👏👏
Your skin is popping.... This video came at the right time, thank you. Merry Christmas!
Happy Proposalversary 😂 👏🏾 👏🏾 thank you so much for the guidelines.... Something general to look out for
I haven't even watched the video yet but MashaAllah you skin looks real good 😍😍😍
I wasn't expecting this😍😍😍
Thank you momma. Lemme watch before I drop full comment😂
Thank you Ma ❤️
We young ladies are really learning from you .
I had a similar experience! We thank God for your resilience Tolu baby! Merry xmasssss! kisses to Sote!
Solutions mama you're indeed a blessing to our world...you have no idea how much this video has ministered to me...I was in a similar situation wasn't engaged though but had future plans with this person,so many things weren't adding up,broke up few months ago twasnt at all easy but #a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
Thank you for the video. I learnt a lot from all you've shared.
Nice makeup and your skin looks really nice and even. Any skincare tips? Plss
That part about losing yourself and values to please your partner is just too real! Thank you for this video!
You know it’s lit when it’s Tolulope Solutions that comes up as a notification😍💙
A year late to the party but I can relate with this 100%
Define the relationship ✅
Don't lost yourself,trying to please someone else💪
Was on this exact boat before.
🚩No peace
🚩Mom met him but didn't agree he was God's choice for me. She was so sure but like you I kept trying to convince her
🚩I lost myself trying to please him
🚩The pressure from him was so much. Had to keep pressing break
🚩Some attitude he was displaying wasn't good. Was aturn offfor me (always looking down on others and feeling he was perfect)... I kept saying/thinking I could change him😂😂 as though I was the Holy Spirit
🚩Wouldn't pick up some calls in my presence... Ah...
The red flags were plenty Abeg..... Till today I ask myself what I was doing in that relationship sef... Kai.... It was so not me
He proposed and it took me like 5mins before I could accept ashe didit in an eatery with "a whole crowd of witnesses"(I knew he wasn't the one oh.. I was already thinking of how to break up with him before that day). Didn't want to embarrass him ne oh... I returned the ring the next day.
I can relate sis.... Narcissism is real. Thank God you finally found the courage and strength to walk away to begin the journey to finding yourself again....❤
Perfect
I did same too and am Glad
I can relate with your story 100%,we ladies sometimes know this person isnt it at all but we just hang in there because we are looking for emotional support or something
God help us!
Thanks for this lovely video. I had almost the same experience, but I thank God. I'm happily married now.
Wow you have good foundation set out and really want to honor God in your life and relationship, God saw your heart I believe!!! God got your back , I love your personality dear,You’re blessed!!!
I really see myself in this🥺🥺
Thank you so much for sharing❤
Same here😒
This dropped on my birthday and thank you Tolulope.....I was having a conversation with a friend about purposeless relationships and I always say,it I don’t know about others but if our families don’t agree we can’t marry family is a big deal not just for you two but for the kids you will bring forth infact there is peace in knowing your families have your back 🤗🤗 merry Christmas to you and yours ♥️♥️
Thank you Ma for this. Really timely. You don't live your life for anybody..no pressure. Thank you Ma.
Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family, thank you for constantly blessing us with entertaining, God- centered content!
Notification gang...I clicked so fast😂😂😂💓💓💓💓💓
You know it! 😂😂
Thank you very much Mama for this video. I am the kind of person that would stay in just to avoid wahala. Thank you very much for this ma'am. God bless you, Olori ebi ♥️
Wow!!!
This is my exact story. Everything you said. I experienced the exact same in 2018. Will not even go into the story but thank you for sharing this. Someday soon, I will share mine when God permits me.
God bless you again.