@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper Thanks for asking. I've felt like this for the last 6 years. I know if I leave my situation it will lift the pressure, but it's scary.
I always felt so bad for Alex, even getting good grades, straight A's on tests and trying her best, Claire always turned her attention to Hailey and every little and meanless thing she did, leaving Alex behind.
It happens a lot, parents tend to ignore their 'smart' children because they feel like they don't need as much attention as the screw up of the family. My boyfriend always did a lot better in school than his sister and his sister was always a bit of a walking disaster so his parents basically neglected him for years and are now wondering why the bright child is developing mental issues as well
Yeah, and i think the saddest part was when Alex won almost all the school awards and Luke didn't want to hurt mannys feeling and claire said that he deserve the integrity award and that she is proud of him. AND Alex walks through wearing all her medals and saying 'maybe next year alex', it was actually meant to be a funny thing bjt it was so sad, they never told alex that they are proid of her while they always tell luke and hailey they are proud of them
I love how this episode dealt with the struggle of a sensitive introverted nerd with anxiety & borderline loneliness! This episode is by far my most favourite one..and Alex Dunphy my fav character
I rewatch Modern Family all the time and what you described is my reaction to this episode every time. Alex is my favorite character in the show, followed by Mitch and then Phil. I think that's because Alex and Mitch are the only characters who seem like they are human. They are complicated and have real depth. Next to them, all the other characters seem like just caricatures (including Phil). I like Phil because he's the funniest and he gives the show heart.
I love Modern Family but sometimes I feel like Alex and occasionally Mitch are the only characters on who feel like they are real human beings with complex emotions. Everyone else (including Phil whom I love) are just caricatures, especially towards the final seasons.
I feel like jay's emotions get explored occasionally as well, and i like that in later seasons hailey becomes an actual character, but yeah, i agree with you. Everyone else is kinda one dimentional.
@@wasd_totallyreal_dsaw9865 There are one or two moments for all characters (except maybe Lily and Joe). Even Cam had one when they get denied a baby but actually Mitch outperformed him in that scene. But yes, Jay gets a lot of moments too right after Alex and Mitch. However, I think Jay's character growth stopped in early seasons. He was supposed to be the stuck up old man with a hot wife and a step son that he had to put up with. In fact, the only purpose of having Manny as a character was to give Jay that growth and they kinda do it in the first 3-4 episodes of Season 1.
i still feel like its characters are more fleshed than alot of other sitcoms but i kind of agree with. Although the final 4 seasons arent here in the uk yet.
As an academic burnout who just honestly gave up with trying and just maximizing my happiness this episode made me cry. I feel like some people just think if you're smart/responsible you can do it all and that's not true at all you eventually need a break and you'll fail just like anybody does but somehow someway the mistake is amplified when you do it and nobody really knows the strain it has on you.
No child or adolescent should have this much pressure on his/her shoulders. Phil and Claire were right in wanting to talk to her during this episode and it shows great parenting prowess, but I feel like the signs were there since forever and they just ignored them. What's worse about this episode is that most of the people that put a lot of pressure on themselves go unchecked for years, only realising something might be wrong by their second or third divorce or when they're old and people are avoiding them.
My parents once unironically referenced the "self-cleaning oven" line when talking about how "great" I am at getting over emotional setbacks. This episode is almost hilariously on the nose.
I used to get straight A’s since the first grade to the second year in college, only to realize I was pressured since high school and didn’t realize that I don’t really like education or even being in a school or a college so I dropped out and everyone in my surroundings were shocked and disappointed that I left college to attend theatre and filmmaking classes! Even though I’m not actually working in these things and I’m not getting formal academic education but I’m learning and I couldn’t be more happier... trust me guys it’s not worth it doing something for others, even if you liked being looked at as the smart one.. do something you actually love to do! ❤️
But i'm confused..how do you know what you want in the end? I felt like i'm in this position right now..actually, all of my life, i just study study and study, achieve good grades, join college organization and become their leader but..sometimes and deep inside, i felt it's meaningless because i don't know exactly what i want to achieve..i think i'm wasting my time for nothing because till now, i'm still clueless..
@@user-jo3go8fe3g I was doing fine Improve nights, comedy sketches, backstage crew in a play,,, I was working for free at first but then things started changes I started getting payed more not what you might think but good and then corona happened and all comedy clubs and theaters closed 🙃
@@flowerhanna58 don’t focus on achievements,, focus on enjoying the things you do, I worked in a bakery and restaurants ,, it’s literally one of the hardest and stressful jobs and I hated ,, then I worked as a backstage crew in a local theatre it’s as stressful and hard as those jobs,, but because I love the place I was pushing myself and I enjoyed it, Search for the place where you don’t care what time is it during the work-hours, that’s what you should do, the happier you are the less stressed you will be the more creative you’ll become, the more goals you’ll achieve!
@@d7neu250 I totally agree with you. I mean, we can't always have everything, have a job we really love and earn a lot of money at the same time. It's not impossible, but it takes time though. Just enjoy what we do and success will come along.
When Alex said this I almost bursted into tears. Alex is my fav character, but bc she is a lot like me, and in this episode was like if she was talking to me.
That’s the same thing I thought. Haha Her brain moves super fast. She has 100 thoughts at once. The irony is if someone aside from her therapist were to ask her “Hey Alex, seems like you have something on your mind, what are ya thinking?” She would more than likely reply “Aw nothing.”
Can I say that I actually cried at this episode coz I actually understand Alex? She tried harder more than others and just becoz she looked like she could handle it doesnt mean she didnt experience the pain and struggles. And what's even sadder? She isnt being appreciated enough
The amount of relation to Alex Dunphy is crazy, but so helpful with my feeling. As a middle child, similar to her, I cry every time this episode comes on. I've binged watched this show 6 times in a row now, and I don't care to stop. It hits home so hard and helps me remember being a child. The Dunphy family reminds me of mine so incredibly much 🖤
Wow... I was a kid like Alex... I also have a brother and a sister (my brother has the same personality as Luke and my sister is literally Hayley); my parents are awesome... but I always put so much pressure on myself, which made me suffer a lot when I was a teenager and a college student.
I feel this as me constantly focusing on schoolwork (also in my junior year) with having a large family. my siblings don’t devote their school time as much as I do so to see Alex’s character represent mine almost is remarkable
This is a funny show, and i don't even cry on sad movies/shows, but i related to this episode so much that i broke down. I was literally crying my heart out.
Damn. This is so me. I still have this anxiety. My fam sees as the smart kid and now i grew up being scared of doing something wrong, not doing enough and just failing in general.
I remember when she was actually going through real life struggles with her mom offscreen around the time she filmed this, I always look at this episode as her telling the world that’s it’s more common than you think
I’m in the middle of a marathon of this show. Alex is my favorite character on the show up to this point. I love this episode. This is the only episode so far that remotely focused on Alex. This show’s writers ignore her more than Phil and Claire do. Look, I get it, this show wanted to make sofia earn her billion dollar paycheck but damn, there are many more interesting characters on the show in my opinion.
I don't get the Sofia comment? Felt a bit thrown in there, and, since she was a well established celebrity, she is deserving of whatever 'billions' she makes. I don't see how her pay changed the plot for Alex and I'm getting the sense that ppl are uncomfortable seeing a woman in her bag
This show falls back on humour about things going chaotically wrong whenever they need to fill out their episodes. Since Alex is a practical character, I can see why there’s not much for her to do in those episodes.
I always felt really really bad for her since she would often get ignored and pushed to the side by her own family. I remember this one episode where she came home from collage and no one cared even though she marked it on the calendar. Also when one of the family member asks her how she's doing not because they want to know but because they want to get something out of her and when she starts expressing her emotions they cut her off and use her. It was always really heart breaking to see..
I rewatched this when just a few hours ago, my mom asked for the first time in a long time about my final year on college. I was surprised when she's asking me that but i felt so disappointed when i ask her why, she answer "because your three sister has successfully graduated within 3 years and you're almost 4 years, you're the last child and you should keep it up" then i answer "well, maybe i will be your first child to break the record". I answer that spontaneously as i thought she was cared for me.. which i think maybe a little bit but still... And yes, i always try to be a perfection like Alex even though i'm the last child. My sister is also a perfection. But then again, i realized i can't keep it up with them... But at the same time, i asked myself "am i going to embarrass myself if i'm late or what?" .. i can't explain my pressure to my parents because i know they won't understand well and if they do, they will try to ask me a lot of question, trying to solve my problem or just answer "just do it, why you have to be overthinking?" And both of this, it's... It's really annoying.... So i just smile, being quiet to do my things, so yeah i felt kinda alone. Trust me, i'm doing my best to graduate from college even though thinking about the future always makes me scared, i'm always scared that i'm going to failed... I.. i also try to believe in myself more because... I'm the only one who understand myself well... Sorry if my english is messed up, i just want to let out my anger tonight #lol hope everything will be okay tho...
Lo que más me gustó de Modern Family, cada que me sentía mal veía este capítulo. Suelo encerrarme tanto en mis actividades que al final la soledad pega horrible, son vacíos que jamás se llenan. I feel like Alex :(
The thing I always enjoyed was seeing how each of the three Dumphy kids DID have traits similar to their parents Phil and Claire. The scene in the classroom with Claire showed the Alex DID have some similarities to her Mom and I loved it!
This is how I feel. I feel like I could do a lot better than I am currently doing, and then making me think like this hurts my other activities like grades.
I used to get As and Bs... Yes not the most impressive grades but I did good in school and I was trying to figure out college, got a job, learning to drive and planning to be an exchange student for 5 months. I had a complete mental break down in the middle of my 11th yr and it was bad enough to prevent me from going to school. Eventually I just withdrew and now 4 yrs later I'm still a mess who can't handle the slightest thing. I'm afraid if I get better I will break down again, every time I think of school the first that comes to mind was the dark place I was at during my last bits of school. I don't know if I'll ever get better and I'm too afraid to try.
I relate to Alex so much especially in this scene…My family doesn’t understand me too. I love them but they don’t. They don’t put pressure on me academically but I do to myself and they think my feelings are unimportant. I’m a middle child too and I have a big sister and a little one yet neither of them feels the pressure I feel, not academically or in the topic of success. I often ask why do I feel this while we grew up in the same household. I don’t why but I’m just built that way and I just want my mom and dad to say “I don’t know how you do it with this much to do and this much pressure. We understand you and we are proud of you.” (the way Claire did to Alex) Yet they never do. My dad motivates me to get better grades though doesn’t understands me when I want to work and not go out. When it comes to my mom…One moment I feel like she understands and then she starts arguing with me on why I feel so intense pressure. I really love my parents they are the best. However, they never REALLY understood me in any matter and treat me like I have anger issues. (because they dont understand the fact that I get angry because I am under HUGE pressure.) :/ On top of this I feel left out just because of this. Middle child syndrome is literally living and breathing me.
Seriously Alex was so ignored in the series, I know it was probably to mirror, ‘middle child syndrome’, but it just got so annoying when the writers would constantly focus on immature and selfish Haley and her stupid relationships, (with the exception of Andy). When the writers realised they couldn’t have Haley end up with Andy because the actor was too busy, we had to put up with her really creepy relationship with the older weather guy before getting knocked up by Dylan of all people! It was just so cliche and predictable, I wish they had concentrated on Alex and given her major storyline instead.
It was probably because the show’s comedy leaned heavily on lighthearted hijinks and chaos, and the Alexes of this world are less likely to get themselves into those situations.
I honestly get and relate to a lot of what Alex says and goes through, but the thing I can just never stand about her is despite everything, she still puts herself above the rest of her family, and in more than one occasion has expressed this and insulted her family’s intelligence directly, it just… I don’t know, annoys me about how she says she has a lack of support and attention
The writers themselves put in a lot of humour about Haley, Luke and Phil being not so smart. Most of the jokes about Luke and Phil in particular don’t rely on Alex’s commentary.
It's not that asian kids are way smarter just that they are more hardworking because of their upbringing and as immigrant children feel the need to earn their place in a foreign country . Any how i gave up on this rat race a few years ago i don't really get stressed out of proportion now . Someone once told me that it is only you who can free your mind ironically enough that person was of Indian decent and now that i think of it one of the coolest guys i have ever met , wish we could have been friends back then .
I love claire and phil but I always felt like they didn't take care about alex that much bc neither of them could relate to her. claire related to haley a lot and phil to luke, but my dear alex was left behind.
One main reason why I hate Claire was that yeah it's important that when one of your kids wins a lot of stuff don't make the other kids feel bad about them not getting anything but she did it so much to Alex that she felt like she had to keep getting more, putter her through stress etc. Like when she got Luke that award and was so happy for him when Alex got a lot and didn't even say she was proud. SMH.
But think of it from Claire's perspective though. She has to live in a house with 4 children (including Phil) and take care of them. Sure, Phil sometimes persevere as a Dad figure, but mostly he's a child too. And in the situation, there's only so much Claire can do. She knows Alex is smart and independent, so she focuses on the other two. She didn't know what Alex was going through because she's never been like Alex. And on this episode, she understands what it means to be Alex is thus she appreciates Alex in the end. Claire has been going through a lot the whole show and yet is a really good mom to her kids. Honestly, after Alex, Claire is my favorite character of the show. Also, the not-so-smart kid's small achievements are definitely special compared to the smart kid's 100th award. Not saying one is better than the other, but both are just different.
I always really disliked Alex, but I think a big part of that was a fear of being like her. Moreover, treating others the way she did. I am really glad she had a few episodes like this one where she could redeem herself a bit
I feel like all the adults characters here are so toxic. No one ever wants to apologize or saying they're wrong first. There has to be something happening and made it ended worst so they can apologize.
@@voiceacticon667they never want to admit they're wrong to their s.o because their s.o always said something like "I told you so" so it build up their system in hiding things.
I feel like phil and claire never really say I'm proud of you to Alex because she always show her cockiness to her siblings but it could be fix if they just show good parenting honestly.
"Feeling overwhelmed and like you're not doing enough at the same time" I can totally relate. Anyone else?
Right here
How do you feel now
@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper Thanks for asking. I've felt like this for the last 6 years. I know if I leave my situation it will lift the pressure, but it's scary.
@@chantelles3641 gahhhh 😭
me too :(
I always felt so bad for Alex, even getting good grades, straight A's on tests and trying her best, Claire always turned her attention to Hailey and every little and meanless thing she did, leaving Alex behind.
It happens a lot, parents tend to ignore their 'smart' children because they feel like they don't need as much attention as the screw up of the family. My boyfriend always did a lot better in school than his sister and his sister was always a bit of a walking disaster so his parents basically neglected him for years and are now wondering why the bright child is developing mental issues as well
Yeah, and i think the saddest part was when Alex won almost all the school awards and Luke didn't want to hurt mannys feeling and claire said that he deserve the integrity award and that she is proud of him. AND Alex walks through wearing all her medals and saying 'maybe next year alex', it was actually meant to be a funny thing bjt it was so sad, they never told alex that they are proid of her while they always tell luke and hailey they are proud of them
Well imo, Claire is probably the worst character on the show.
@@roronoaworo shes tied with Jay for me,
@@clonnlijinhlong8220 jay?why jay?
Jay is a misunderstood teddy bear
I love how this episode dealt with the struggle of a sensitive introverted nerd with anxiety & borderline loneliness! This episode is by far my most favourite one..and Alex Dunphy my fav character
Me too
I have never related to Alex more than when I saw this episode
I cried at the end of the episode when she hugged Claire
That's me
Yes
Tbh when Alex said "They don't get me." I cried a little, later that episode when Alex and Claire had their moment I just turned into a waterfall
I rewatch Modern Family all the time and what you described is my reaction to this episode every time.
Alex is my favorite character in the show, followed by Mitch and then Phil. I think that's because Alex and Mitch are the only characters who seem like they are human. They are complicated and have real depth. Next to them, all the other characters seem like just caricatures (including Phil). I like Phil because he's the funniest and he gives the show heart.
What episode is this?
I feel you on this.
Alex is my favorite character on the show.
@@cartoonfreak9635 season 5 episode 12
me too. I love Alex so much, she deserves more credit
I love Modern Family but sometimes I feel like Alex and occasionally Mitch are the only characters on who feel like they are real human beings with complex emotions. Everyone else (including Phil whom I love) are just caricatures, especially towards the final seasons.
I feel like jay's emotions get explored occasionally as well, and i like that in later seasons hailey becomes an actual character, but yeah, i agree with you. Everyone else is kinda one dimentional.
I agree 100 %!
@@wasd_totallyreal_dsaw9865 There are one or two moments for all characters (except maybe Lily and Joe). Even Cam had one when they get denied a baby but actually Mitch outperformed him in that scene.
But yes, Jay gets a lot of moments too right after Alex and Mitch. However, I think Jay's character growth stopped in early seasons. He was supposed to be the stuck up old man with a hot wife and a step son that he had to put up with. In fact, the only purpose of having Manny as a character was to give Jay that growth and they kinda do it in the first 3-4 episodes of Season 1.
i still feel like its characters are more fleshed than alot of other sitcoms but i kind of agree with. Although the final 4 seasons arent here in the uk yet.
Yeah like sometimes they explore Claire's complexity, other times (most times) we are supposed to see her as a Karen.
Also Haley's own Beckyness, oy
As an academic burnout who just honestly gave up with trying and just maximizing my happiness this episode made me cry. I feel like some people just think if you're smart/responsible you can do it all and that's not true at all you eventually need a break and you'll fail just like anybody does but somehow someway the mistake is amplified when you do it and nobody really knows the strain it has on you.
Maybe try not to maximize happiness. That's an unobtainable standard.
@@JDog2656 yes and maybe try to lower our threshold of what makes us happy.
....the feeling of being overwhelmed but also like you aren't doing enough at the same time.
Me 24/7
The WORST feeling in the world
This I can relate to. A lot.
how so?
No child or adolescent should have this much pressure on his/her shoulders. Phil and Claire were right in wanting to talk to her during this episode and it shows great parenting prowess, but I feel like the signs were there since forever and they just ignored them.
What's worse about this episode is that most of the people that put a lot of pressure on themselves go unchecked for years, only realising something might be wrong by their second or third divorce or when they're old and people are avoiding them.
I feel like she is the last person to say ‘eye doctor’ and not ‘optician’ tho
Ophthalmologist or optometrist depending on the specialist in question, actually.
@@KyleRayner12 for a new prescription tho?
I think it's an American thing to say eye doctor
@@conkrcstf6405 these americans mate
Good catch.
The writers fouled that one up.
Someone should’ve caught that slip up in post production.
My parents once unironically referenced the "self-cleaning oven" line when talking about how "great" I am at getting over emotional setbacks. This episode is almost hilariously on the nose.
I used to get straight A’s since the first grade to the second year in college, only to realize I was pressured since high school and didn’t realize that I don’t really like education or even being in a school or a college so I dropped out and everyone in my surroundings were shocked and disappointed that I left college to attend theatre and filmmaking classes! Even though I’m not actually working in these things and I’m not getting formal academic education but I’m learning and I couldn’t be more happier... trust me guys it’s not worth it doing something for others, even if you liked being looked at as the smart one.. do something you actually love to do! ❤️
Do you earn enough money?
But i'm confused..how do you know what you want in the end? I felt like i'm in this position right now..actually, all of my life, i just study study and study, achieve good grades, join college organization and become their leader but..sometimes and deep inside, i felt it's meaningless because i don't know exactly what i want to achieve..i think i'm wasting my time for nothing because till now, i'm still clueless..
@@user-jo3go8fe3g I was doing fine Improve nights, comedy sketches, backstage crew in a play,,, I was working for free at first but then things started changes I started getting payed more not what you might think but good and then corona happened and all comedy clubs and theaters closed 🙃
@@flowerhanna58 don’t focus on achievements,, focus on enjoying the things you do, I worked in a bakery and restaurants ,, it’s literally one of the hardest and stressful jobs and I hated ,, then I worked as a backstage crew in a local theatre it’s as stressful and hard as those jobs,, but because I love the place I was pushing myself and I enjoyed it, Search for the place where you don’t care what time is it during the work-hours, that’s what you should do, the happier you are the less stressed you will be the more creative you’ll become, the more goals you’ll achieve!
@@d7neu250 I totally agree with you. I mean, we can't always have everything, have a job we really love and earn a lot of money at the same time. It's not impossible, but it takes time though. Just enjoy what we do and success will come along.
When Alex said this I almost bursted into tears. Alex is my fav character, but bc she is a lot like me, and in this episode was like if she was talking to me.
This episode was so sad....
Holy crap Alex was thinking about a lot of stuff in that moment!
That’s the same thing I thought. Haha
Her brain moves super fast.
She has 100 thoughts at once.
The irony is if someone aside from her therapist were to ask her
“Hey Alex, seems like you have something on your mind,
what are ya thinking?”
She would more than likely reply
“Aw nothing.”
Can I say that I actually cried at this episode coz I actually understand Alex? She tried harder more than others and just becoz she looked like she could handle it doesnt mean she didnt experience the pain and struggles. And what's even sadder? She isnt being appreciated enough
episode???
@@sabrinaestigoy984 season 5 episode 12 if im not mistaken
@@hayes3557 thanks
The amount of relation to Alex Dunphy is crazy, but so helpful with my feeling. As a middle child, similar to her, I cry every time this episode comes on. I've binged watched this show 6 times in a row now, and I don't care to stop. It hits home so hard and helps me remember being a child. The Dunphy family reminds me of mine so incredibly much 🖤
Wow... I was a kid like Alex... I also have a brother and a sister (my brother has the same personality as Luke and my sister is literally Hayley); my parents are awesome... but I always put so much pressure on myself, which made me suffer a lot when I was a teenager and a college student.
Same
Explain in details, please?
haha same
"Did you even have SATs...or Asian kids?" LOL
LOL
Alex is me... I'm gonna talk with my therapist a lot more openly.
At least she has a councellor
It's not your fault.
I feel this as me constantly focusing on schoolwork (also in my junior year) with having a large family. my siblings don’t devote their school time as much as I do so to see Alex’s character represent mine almost is remarkable
I relate so much to Alex with her smarts. Sometimes I feel the same with my 2 jobs, home, and school life. I'm in college and it hits so close to me
I find it amusing that how on TV "deep breath" Calms the person instantly.
Cut for time. Same reason why we don’t see the characters taking a dump!
This is a funny show, and i don't even cry on sad movies/shows, but i related to this episode so much that i broke down. I was literally crying my heart out.
I kinda liked how the doctor called out her snide comments without being mean.
Damn. This is so me. I still have this anxiety. My fam sees as the smart kid and now i grew up being scared of doing something wrong, not doing enough and just failing in general.
I remember when she was actually going through real life struggles with her mom offscreen around the time she filmed this, I always look at this episode as her telling the world that’s it’s more common than you think
I’m in the middle of a marathon of this show.
Alex is my favorite character on the show up to this point.
I love this episode.
This is the only episode so far that remotely focused on Alex.
This show’s writers ignore her more than Phil and Claire do.
Look, I get it, this show wanted to make sofia earn her billion dollar paycheck
but damn, there are many more interesting characters on the show in my opinion.
I don't get the Sofia comment? Felt a bit thrown in there, and, since she was a well established celebrity, she is deserving of whatever 'billions' she makes. I don't see how her pay changed the plot for Alex and I'm getting the sense that ppl are uncomfortable seeing a woman in her bag
I thin undeck the halls is a good Alex episode too.
This show falls back on humour about things going chaotically wrong whenever they need to fill out their episodes. Since Alex is a practical character, I can see why there’s not much for her to do in those episodes.
it always bothered me how obvious claire and phil were about who their favorite kids were. alex was always a last thought. i still love this show tho
coming back to this after hitting rock bottom after an academic burnout hits different fr.
The most relatable character in the series.
I always felt really really bad for her since she would often get ignored and pushed to the side by her own family. I remember this one episode where she came home from collage and no one cared even though she marked it on the calendar. Also when one of the family member asks her how she's doing not because they want to know but because they want to get something out of her and when she starts expressing her emotions they cut her off and use her. It was always really heart breaking to see..
When I was 16, I need therapy but my family can’t afford it, I remembered going to the school therapist’s and I cried for hours
Finally a character that thinks as much as me.
I have never felt more seen by a tv show. I love Alex so much and she is sooooo relatable
most relatable scene/episode that ive ever watched. couldnt agree more
This episode made me bawwwwl
This episode is relatable I have always felt alone thank you for this it really helped me
which episode?
i remember crying when i first watched this episode. i totaly relate her
I loved this storyline for Alex sm. A lot of young people relate to this.
this episode was definitely a tear jerker. feeling alone in your own family sucks so hard
If you ever had a melt down before this is relatable, and it comes in so many different forms for different people.
This therapist is wise and funny
True
She's my fav character. She deserved so much better from her family, from universe ..
I rewatched this when just a few hours ago, my mom asked for the first time in a long time about my final year on college. I was surprised when she's asking me that but i felt so disappointed when i ask her why, she answer "because your three sister has successfully graduated within 3 years and you're almost 4 years, you're the last child and you should keep it up" then i answer "well, maybe i will be your first child to break the record". I answer that spontaneously as i thought she was cared for me.. which i think maybe a little bit but still... And yes, i always try to be a perfection like Alex even though i'm the last child. My sister is also a perfection. But then again, i realized i can't keep it up with them... But at the same time, i asked myself "am i going to embarrass myself if i'm late or what?" .. i can't explain my pressure to my parents because i know they won't understand well and if they do, they will try to ask me a lot of question, trying to solve my problem or just answer "just do it, why you have to be overthinking?" And both of this, it's... It's really annoying.... So i just smile, being quiet to do my things, so yeah i felt kinda alone. Trust me, i'm doing my best to graduate from college even though thinking about the future always makes me scared, i'm always scared that i'm going to failed... I.. i also try to believe in myself more because... I'm the only one who understand myself well... Sorry if my english is messed up, i just want to let out my anger tonight #lol hope everything will be okay tho...
I feel so sorry for Alex or anyone for that matter who has been in a similar situation like her.
Lo que más me gustó de Modern Family, cada que me sentía mal veía este capítulo. Suelo encerrarme tanto en mis actividades que al final la soledad pega horrible, son vacíos que jamás se llenan.
I feel like Alex :(
I still didn’t finish the show but this might be the best episode yet .. I wasn’t as good as Alex at school but I was struggling with anxiety and ADHD
The thing I always enjoyed was seeing how each of the three Dumphy kids DID have traits similar to their parents Phil and Claire. The scene in the classroom with Claire showed the Alex DID have some similarities to her Mom and I loved it!
you cut out the best parts of the video where she hugs claire. ive said it before and will repeat it again. That scene will never not make me cry.
When Alex gets through with him, the therapist is going to need a therapist.
Such is life in the twenty-first century.
Im impressed more often
I loved this episode
which episode?
Alex needs a hug man
This is how I feel. I feel like I could do a lot better than I am currently doing, and then making me think like this hurts my other activities like grades.
Wish they had done more on this. She needed to see someone badly.
She’s literally me fr
I used to get As and Bs... Yes not the most impressive grades but I did good in school and I was trying to figure out college, got a job, learning to drive and planning to be an exchange student for 5 months. I had a complete mental break down in the middle of my 11th yr and it was bad enough to prevent me from going to school. Eventually I just withdrew and now 4 yrs later I'm still a mess who can't handle the slightest thing. I'm afraid if I get better I will break down again, every time I think of school the first that comes to mind was the dark place I was at during my last bits of school. I don't know if I'll ever get better and I'm too afraid to try.
"Wow." -Spongebob Squarepants, Owen Wilson, and this Therapist dude
This scene is so accurate.
This. This is what happens if there’s so much in my head but I don’t talk to anyone.
Here I am watching this instead of studying
I relate to Alex so much especially in this scene…My family doesn’t understand me too. I love them but they don’t. They don’t put pressure on me academically but I do to myself and they think my feelings are unimportant. I’m a middle child too and I have a big sister and a little one yet neither of them feels the pressure I feel, not academically or in the topic of success. I often ask why do I feel this while we grew up in the same household. I don’t why but I’m just built that way and I just want my mom and dad to say “I don’t know how you do it with this much to do and this much pressure. We understand you and we are proud of you.” (the way Claire did to Alex) Yet they never do. My dad motivates me to get better grades though doesn’t understands me when I want to work and not go out. When it comes to my mom…One moment I feel like she understands and then she starts arguing with me on why I feel so intense pressure. I really love my parents they are the best. However, they never REALLY understood me in any matter and treat me like I have anger issues. (because they dont understand the fact that I get angry because I am under HUGE pressure.) :/
On top of this I feel left out just because of this. Middle child syndrome is literally living and breathing me.
I can relate. Wish I can communicate with my brother and dad
Its not always the introverted nerd people student athletes can relate to this you know i mean everyone i guess can relate snd feel the same way too
0:48 genuinely did not expect that
this scene hit too close to home
i remember watching this while at work and cried when alex hugger her mom
'did you have SATS or Asian Kids?'..... Ded ...LMAO
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I have adhd lol, my brain works exactly like Alex just spoke lol
Therapist looks like the love child of walter white and jesse pinkman... can't unsee it
i feel kind of alone🥺
Dude you okay?
@@paulbabu6426 like ur gonna help me
@@paulbabu6426 He means yes
I never saw more episodes of her and the therapist
She & I have so much in common
Seriously Alex was so ignored in the series, I know it was probably to mirror, ‘middle child syndrome’, but it just got so annoying when the writers would constantly focus on immature and selfish Haley and her stupid relationships, (with the exception of Andy).
When the writers realised they couldn’t have Haley end up with Andy because the actor was too busy, we had to put up with her really creepy relationship with the older weather guy before getting knocked up by Dylan of all people! It was just so cliche and predictable, I wish they had concentrated on Alex and given her major storyline instead.
It was probably because the show’s comedy leaned heavily on lighthearted hijinks and chaos, and the Alexes of this world are less likely to get themselves into those situations.
Way she acts like me. I'm also thinking like her 💀
I honestly get and relate to a lot of what Alex says and goes through, but the thing I can just never stand about her is despite everything, she still puts herself above the rest of her family, and in more than one occasion has expressed this and insulted her family’s intelligence directly, it just… I don’t know, annoys me about how she says she has a lack of support and attention
The writers themselves put in a lot of humour about Haley, Luke and Phil being not so smart. Most of the jokes about Luke and Phil in particular don’t rely on Alex’s commentary.
Poor Alex
It's not that asian kids are way smarter just that they are more hardworking because of their upbringing and as immigrant children feel the need to earn their place in a foreign country . Any how i gave up on this rat race a few years ago i don't really get stressed out of proportion now . Someone once told me that it is only you who can free your mind ironically enough that person was of Indian decent and now that i think of it one of the coolest guys i have ever met , wish we could have been friends back then .
Which episode is it
what episode is this
I love claire and phil but I always felt like they didn't take care about alex that much bc neither of them could relate to her. claire related to haley a lot and phil to luke, but my dear alex was left behind.
Asian Kids. Funny as heck
What season, what episode is this?
People dealing with OCD is worse than anything.
As a non american viewer & MF fans, I recognise a few cameo in the series heheh
This guy’s been a psychiatrist my whole life.
I haven't finished this show yet but I'm on season 6 and I feel like Alex gets no attention
One main reason why I hate Claire was that yeah it's important that when one of your kids wins a lot of stuff don't make the other kids feel bad about them not getting anything but she did it so much to Alex that she felt like she had to keep getting more, putter her through stress etc. Like when she got Luke that award and was so happy for him when Alex got a lot and didn't even say she was proud. SMH.
But think of it from Claire's perspective though. She has to live in a house with 4 children (including Phil) and take care of them. Sure, Phil sometimes persevere as a Dad figure, but mostly he's a child too. And in the situation, there's only so much Claire can do. She knows Alex is smart and independent, so she focuses on the other two. She didn't know what Alex was going through because she's never been like Alex. And on this episode, she understands what it means to be Alex is thus she appreciates Alex in the end. Claire has been going through a lot the whole show and yet is a really good mom to her kids. Honestly, after Alex, Claire is my favorite character of the show.
Also, the not-so-smart kid's small achievements are definitely special compared to the smart kid's 100th award. Not saying one is better than the other, but both are just different.
I always really disliked Alex, but I think a big part of that was a fear of being like her. Moreover, treating others the way she did. I am really glad she had a few episodes like this one where she could redeem herself a bit
If you look up cute in the dictionary, You'll see a pic of Alex Dunphy.
doesn't she represent what you have to be to get good grades??????????????
Which episode is this, I don't remember it at all 😂🤔
S5:E12
@@kristianhansen8746 Thanks!
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I'm sorry, but why does the counsellor look like Bryan Cranston + Aaron Paul
That is what I thought as well
What episode is this?
episode 12 season 5
I feel like all the adults characters here are so toxic. No one ever wants to apologize or saying they're wrong first. There has to be something happening and made it ended worst so they can apologize.
what are you talking about?
@@voiceacticon667they never want to admit they're wrong to their s.o because their s.o always said something like "I told you so" so it build up their system in hiding things.
I feel like phil and claire never really say I'm proud of you to Alex because she always show her cockiness to her siblings but it could be fix if they just show good parenting honestly.
I hate claire for what she did to Alex !