Hey y'all. We needed to clear some things up because some of you feel that my in laws did not like me because I'm black. Watch the next video at the end of this one. I hope this clears up all the questions and assumptions.
@Shelly W. I disagree with you because the husband is part black himself. If she were non black that would not make them automatically like her. You have too many assumptions and preconceived notions. One of his parents is black.
My husband and I are a bi-racial couple. His family did not like me. They said if we have kids they would have problems in life because of who they are and we would be lucky if our marriage lasted 6 years. Things got worse until we had our daughter and life was so much better when they realized that baby was part a of them. By the time we had our son you could never guess that at one time they did not like me. We did not last 6 years but we are going on 42 years of marriage in July. Had to tell my story. You guys are a beautiful family. 💜U
My husband and I are a bi-racial couple we will be celebrating our 39th years of marriage this August and look forward to our Ruby next year ! My mother-in-law had her concerns but then so did a lot of others. We have two beautiful daughters age 35 and 33 and our beautiful grandson age Five! We HAVE BEEN BLESSED ❤️
Iam a Latina my husband a Mexican, my in laws never never liked me cause he was going to marry another girl a Mexican, but he meant me , so we got married , 5 beautiful children , 50yrs ago and yet they still HATE me. I've survived.
Wow! I am sure that situation brought you and your husband closer together. After 50 yrs later only God can change them or anyone else to love and accept the way God loves and accepts us. Continued blessings to you and your family.❤🙏❤
Marjorie Tillman. A Latina is several races , iam spanish, German, French, Mexican. A mexican is all from Mexico , and he has been a great supporter, and going , and with the bless of God we don't age, the Lord blessed us with great children , all 5 professionals, 8 grandkids, 2 professionals and going. The Lord is so good. Yes we've had our ups and downs. But now we travel , and have fun.
My husband’s mom had passed away when he was 18, so I never had a mother-in-law, but Lord, I had a Grandmother-in-law that disliked me because I was the second wife. When I felt in my heart how she was, I basically told my husband that I had a grandmother and didn’t need another one, and that he could visit his grandmother all he wants, but WITHOUT me. Needless to say, she passed away, but in her final days, I went with him to visit her in the hospital and it turned out I was the only person that understood what she was saying (she had a stroke). She held my hand so tight in that hospital that I knew she was trying to apologize to me. My hubby and I will be married 30 years this December. My advice is you just have to be your true self. I just love your channel!
It was karma, whatever anyone does in life come back around… just have to wait patiently. In laws? I don’t know what that is because I have absolutely nothing to do with them evils! I’m so happy for you the fact that you are free from them vilains 👿.
I’m black and I’m currently engaged to another BLACK MAN and some of his family members still don’t like me. So race isn’t always the issue as some of you have mentioned. As long as you get respect, who cares. However, I hope whatever hate they have for me goes down the drain. I’m here to stay! They are a beautiful family and I’m glad they overcame that! Y’all pray for positive things for me.
@Carmen Fox the FATHER rebuke you Carmen you speak as the foolish women speaks(job2:10,,Mark 10:9 [9]What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.....JESUS is the LORD
@Carmen Foxout of every nation under heaven. Receive hear how the HOLY SPIRIT speaks in All tongues languages out of every Nation under heaven that includes the English tongue,,Acts 2:4-5 [4]And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. [5]And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven.
@Carmen Fox Acts 2:4-47 [4]And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. [5]And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven. [6]Now when this was noised abroad, the multitude came together, and were confounded, because that every man heard them speak in his own language. [7]And they were all amazed and marvelled, saying one to another, Behold, are not all these which speak Galilaeans? [8]And how hear we every man in our own tongue, wherein we were born? [9]Parthians, and Medes, and Elamites, and the dwellers in Mesopotamia, and in Judaea, and Cappadocia, in Pontus, and Asia, [10]Phrygia, and Pamphylia, in Egypt, and in the parts of Libya about Cyrene, and strangers of Rome, Jews and proselytes, [11]Cretes and Arabians, we do hear them speak in our tongues the wonderful works of God. [12]And they were all amazed, and were in doubt, saying one to another, What meaneth this? [13]Others mocking said, These men are full of new wine. [14]But Peter, standing up with the eleven, lifted up his voice, and said unto them, Ye men of Judaea, and all ye that dwell at Jerusalem, be this known unto you, and hearken to my words: [15]For these are not drunken, as ye suppose, seeing it is but the third hour of the day. [16]But this is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel; [17]And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: [18]And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy: [19]And I will shew wonders in heaven above, and signs in the earth beneath; blood, and fire, and vapour of smoke: [20]The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before that great and notable day of the Lord come: [21]And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved. [22]Ye men of Israel, hear these words; Jesus of Nazareth, a man approved of God among you by miracles and wonders and signs, which God did by him in the midst of you, as ye yourselves also know: [23]Him, being delivered by the determinate counsel and foreknowledge of God, ye have taken, and by wicked hands have crucified and slain: [24]Whom God hath raised up, having loosed the pains of death: because it was not possible that he should be holden of it. [25]For David speaketh concerning him, I foresaw the Lord always before my face, for he is on my right hand, that I should not be moved: [26]Therefore did my heart rejoice, and my tongue was glad; moreover also my flesh shall rest in hope: [27]Because thou wilt not leave my soul in hell, neither wilt thou suffer thine Holy One to see corruption. [28]Thou hast made known to me the ways of life; thou shalt make me full of joy with thy countenance. [29]Men and brethren, let me freely speak unto you of the patriarch David, that he is both dead and buried, and his sepulchre is with us unto this day. [30]Therefore being a prophet, and knowing that God had sworn with an oath to him, that of the fruit of his loins, according to the flesh, he would raise up Christ to sit on his throne; [31]He seeing this before spake of the resurrection of Christ, that his soul was not left in hell, neither his flesh did see corruption. [32]This Jesus hath God raised up, whereof we all are witnesses. [33]Therefore being by the right hand of God exalted, and having received of the Father the promise of the Holy Ghost, he hath shed forth this, which ye now see and hear. [34]For David is not ascended into the heavens: but he saith himself, The LORD said unto my Lord, Sit thou on my right hand, [35]Until I make thy foes thy footstool. [36]Therefore let all the house of Israel know assuredly, that God hath made that same Jesus, whom ye have crucified, both Lord and Christ. [37]Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do? [38]Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. [39]For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call. [40]And with many other words did he testify and exhort, saying, Save yourselves from this untoward generation. [41]Then they that gladly received his word were baptized: and the same day there were added unto them about three thousand souls. [42]And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers. [43]And fear came upon every soul: and many wonders and signs were done by the apostles. [44]And all that believed were together, and had all things common; [45]And sold their possessions and goods, and parted them to all men, as every man had need. [46]And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart, [47]Praising God, and having favour with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be saved.
@Carmen Fox Psalms 19:2-3 [2]Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge. [3]There is no speech nor language, where their voice is not heard.
The issue with in-laws seems to be they don't accept or understand that their son/daughter are growing up and branching out to form their own family. I'm thankful to have a great in-law family, but it was definitely work to get there!
She looks like a woman who takes no nonsense, but looking at the guy his charms love and good personality has sustained the marriage.. This is what I like to see..
I'm Jamaican and my husband is Haitian. I remember when I met my mother in law and she spoke creole to me just to see if I was Haitian. The family were very upset that he didn't married a Haitian. They made life very difficult for me for years they even said that it wouldn't last. I never uttered a word to them.. never argued with we just lived our lives. In the end the family grew to love not that it mattered because we just celebrated 23 years of marriage. I thank God that my husband always had my back. My advise is to be respectful stay true to who you are when they see that you are a loving person that cares for your spouse they will have to accept their decision.
Tiffanybrown368...YOU would antagonize your family for marrying a Haitian. As a Jamaican with many Haitian friends, I beg to differ. Kinda curious to know what your reason is...
This was a very important subject to address. A lot of families face this problem starting out. My mom did not agree with my choice for a mate simply because he was unequally yoked with me and divorced. She attended the wedding because my Dad saw things differently. Later on in our marriage she and my hubby got along great Four days ago we celebrated our forty fourth year. You have to follow your heart, you can’t please everybody all the time. Thank you I am sure you helped many. Love you all!
Glad to hear that you all didn’t retaliate anger with anger .... but chose to act and display the love that is so prevalent in your marriage ... beautiful couple 🤗
Wow! My in-laws hated me for no reason!! Wow! It’s amazing how people misjudge you! I did the same thing.. I stayed away and my husband when he did go he went alone. My kids felt the negative energy and would not go with him! Those were some crazy years! I got a card years later that said that same thing! How she saw what a wonderful mother was and how much she loved the way our family was! This was so touching… thanks for sharing
I never had a good relationship with my ex husbands mother especially....she never gave me a proper chance....she called me black and ugly early and this is from a black woman....we eloped as a result...when our son was born ...one of his cousins pointed to his ears and said he would not be dark as me because his ears was lighter....i made an effort to keep my son as far away from those self hating people as much as possible....he is remarried now to a lighter skinned mixed woman...maybe she will be accepted....by them...my son does not have a relationship with his father or those people and it is for the best...if i had to do it over again i would have paid attention to those red flags.
😥💔 Ugh I'm so sorry this happened to you. People can be so ugly sometimes especially on the inside & it always hurts the most when it comes from your own.. so I'm so sorry that happened omg but at least you've gotten your baby boy out of all this❤️. I wish you & your son the best.. take care❤️
You guys are real! People go through hoops to portray a perfect life, but we know there is no such thing! This upload will help someone! Love you guys❤
I can't believe your family didn't like dajuana.....she is sweet and down to earth, but it's because they thought they were losing you but was actually gaining more😉
I've been through a lot of mess and drama with my in laws. I no longer have anything to do with them and it is easier for me this way, but difficult for my husband and our children. I'm afro Cuban and my husband is Mexican and Puerto Rican, and I know for sure they wanted him to marry a white girl. I know everyone's situation is different, but think twice about marrying someone whose family has decided that they don't like you even before they meet you. This goes especially if your S. O. has not put their family in check with regard to you, and they are really close to their family and completely comfortable with letting them be in their business all the time. This was the case for me and it put undue strain on my marriage. Having children in this situation only makes it worse. When you marry someone you do marry their family. Life is too short to be trying to prove yourself to people all the time. It sounds harsh to start off a marriage with ultimatums and ground rules, but they are necessary when you have in laws that act a fool. 😒
I feel you, it was the exact same for me. We have to be the ones to take all the foolishness until enough is enough. Sometimes, even the ones closest to you mean you no good and are toxic. Once you find, you will never be enough, as I did, you have to move on and not allow that to interrupt your quality of life.
Having healthy boundaries is not a bad thing and I had to set them with my in-laws as well and my husband has had a hard time putting them in check too. But recently he had a conversation with them after me having a breakdown about how they treat me. They were so rude to my husband (their son) and dismissive he was shocked and kept saying to me that he didn't understand why they were acting that way and then his mom said she only came to visit to see our daughter. That hurt my husband and when he said it hurt him she said oh please you know what I mean. It was later revealed that his parents and sister have zero intention of visiting us or being around us expect maybe once a year for 2-4 days for our daughters birthday. He chose to then make his own boundaries with mine and they have abided so far. Sometimes you have to let your S.O. experience the pain in order to understand your hurt; it broke my heart because I didn't know that would happen but happy we are on the same page now.
@@tiffanyphoenix-zitz5106 That's really awful. I'm glad your husband has finally come to understand what they put you through. Sending love and prayers your way.
The main key is Curtis appears to have stood strong and been respectful to both sides and kudos to you D for being someone that was easy to defend. Sometimes the in-laws and the spouse can put the other spouse in the middle and try to make them choose.
I'm glad that you get along with in-laws. My in-laws don't like me and it doesn't bother me at all. I was taught when people show you they true colors acknowledge it, accept it, and move on. We both are happy and our kids are to.
My in-laws didn't like me as well. But one day I gotton very ill. And my ex mother-in-law took very good care of me where my mother did not. That I will always cherish and never forget what a good soul my ex mother-in-law had for me. Till this day. I know even though I'm not married to the family any- more. I would never forget it. I will always have love some for the most of the family. You just have to stay strong and stay positive and keep your faith. Life is too short. I'm so glad everything worked out with your in-laws. You are strong woman sister. 🙏♥️
I have been married twice. My first husband died. I’ve been very fortunate to have had great relationships with both my MILs. Here’s an important piece of advice: Women set the tone for the entire family, from the core family to extended family. Curtis is right. You need to keep things positive!
My husband's family didn't like me either, and I rarely see them. I think my problem was trying to hard to get their approval, maybe I came off as not being myself. I just felt like no one was good enough for him in their eyes and his previous relationships were short and didn't last over 2 years, I must have done something right because we have been married for over forty years and have 13 grandkids and 6 great grands, so regardless of what others think you still can maintain a loving relationship but it does help to get that family support. God bless
Patty May god strengthen you.i am in a marriage where my inlaws HATE ME.to the point where they almost convince my husband to kill me.yes i know it sounds crazy.im filing my divorce
Literally going through the same exact thing with my “in laws” (not married yet) and to hear that you guys have gotten through it is VERY inspiring! Patients is the key 🔑🤞🏾. Thank you!
All I can say to you is: please, please and please pray a lot of it sister… not everyone stories are the same. I’ve been to hell and back with them creatures… now I have nothing to do with them. It’s that bad. Good luck
Well, my story, unfortunately, ended up with a divorce. We have 2 kids and I have taken them back home so they can be surrounded by people who actually love them and not fake it in front of me. Just know that there is 50/50 so choose wisely because my husband, he was strong for 3 years to fight for our relationship after we got married but he could not handle the manipulation and he started playing referee, trying to force everyone to like each other while his family refused to even go to a therapist to solve their issues but he wanted me to accept whatever his mother wanted so I stopped it and I made sure I will not please a man that wants to please his mother more than his own wife and kids so I filled for divorce. If I will ever get married again, my in-laws will have to love me or it is a deal breaker and I have learned the hard way. I won't do this mistake again!
Not sure what it is, but there is definitely something genuine’isk about your family. If ever I wanted to see a family excel and go higher, it is your alls family. Continue to be BLESSED AND EXCEL! I’m calling it now - you guys will be huge and in turn will be a huge blessings to others! I truly believe that! 🙏
So glad that things all worked out. Duana, so glad you didn't get out of character and escalate the tension. Curtis was so right when he said you can't take those harsh words back.
The key factor here is TIME: Time heals all wounds. Time has made you stronger and wiser and may it continues to strengthen the bond between both families.
I feel your wife’s pain. I’m still going through it after 17 years of marriage. Korean mil is no joke. She thinks I’m taking her son away from them and the funny thing is my family is the same towards my hubby they love him. Keep making videos you guys are awesome!
Thanks for sharing that. I couldn't stand my sister's husband, but I've learned to tolerate him to keep the peace. I think all families have a hard time with new people coming into the family eve if they say they don't. Side note, Duana has the prettiest smile.
Great that you guys are in a good place with your in laws. I didn’t have a good relationship with my mother in law when I was younger. I’m a widow now but me and my mother in law get along great 👍 now.
Diane D. Glad that things are good between you two now. I am sure your beloved hubby would love that too. God bless you till that day when you are reunited with him🖤🖤🖤
Our situations are very similar. Most of my "in laws" really didn't like me and almost 26 years later, I still don't know why. From what I thought, we were all OK until he asked me to marry him. They even had a meeting to stop our wedding. My brother n love stood up for us, which was a blessing. I bit my tongue, a lot because I didn't know what I (personally) did to any of the family. But I feel like I was taking him away from them. We are sooooo close now! God is such a healer! I am extremely blessed to be a part of this family. Never say anything you can't take back. Words will not be forgotten. So proud of you both! Continue blessing others!
We wrestle not against flesh and blood. People don’t just not like someone for no reason. There’s always a spirit behind it. Could be a spirit of jealousy, anger, envy, etc.
I love this couple, I just tuned into them. Continued success on your marriage, family, and life. Great Man, Great Woman. Thanks for sharing your lives with us.
I saw how happy you were Duana when your Mother n law gave you a birthday card. She kept saying " that was you, that was you" when you read her card. So happy things are smoother now. Family is very important, for the.kids as well. No need including them.in adult hang ups..
Maybe because Curtis is a simp for Duana, the family probably felt a type of way. He’s not allowed to have female friends etc, and is always with Duana and the kids. Seems like Duana wears the pants but I guess that works for them 🤷♀️
You are definitely better than me. I would have been OUT. Especially if your husband didn’t defend you. My husband’s family did that to me and he just let them. One time…he said something, but it was too late and it wasn’t enough. Divorced now. But we’re friends. Glad things worked out for you both. ❤️
My daughter is in an interracial relationship & the bf's family are passive-aggressive racists. There ARE times though when they may as well wear the confederate flag & those times are becoming more frequent as they see the relationship still going strong While Duana & Curtis are and have been patient - I am NOT especially when my daughter calls upset trying to turn the other cheek. Her bf meekly tries to come to her defense but rarely For her sake I Hope they have a good outcome like Duana & Curtis
I agree. I did leave when my S.O. didn’t defend me at all in situations when we both know the accusations were wrong. Glad y’all made it through that rough patch 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Praise God🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I’m so blessed that I’ve always gotten along with my in-laws. All of them even the cousins. My family loves my husband. I’ve heard horror stories about in-laws so I know I’m very blessed.
Dicey Icey If your in laws don't like you - be extra nice to them. Don't ignore them. Show them you love your partner and his/her family. In time you will melt their hearts. If not, you still did the right thing. In time most get used to it and the positive you bring will be what they remember. Sometimes difficult in laws can actually bring couples closer together. They need the love and support of each other more - which can turn into a blessing. Parents often have an image of who their kids will marry. Suddenly when that person is completely different and another race - it can jolt them at first. They need time love and patience to realize the world is not going to fall around them. In interracial relationships extra patience is required. God bless PS. Enjoyed the series from tonyevans.org on kingdom family. Well worth a listen
It's important to always be respectful no matter what and Duana, I'm so proud of you 👏. In-laws are first protective of their sons/daughters until they are sure that your feelings for their child are sincere. On the other hand some in-laws are just craaaazy. I pray that God's peace, love and joy will continue to be with you all 😊
No matter what is going on, in your perspective families you stand together as one. Godly examples. As my pastor Tony Evans says. It's a Kingdom Marriage. Your purpose and direction isn't affected by what others are doing. Blessings
Hey! Duana. I haven't been able to post comments due to work. I've been a subscriber ( number 7 LOL) very early on. I think it depends on several factors, but the main one is if the man stands up and doesn't allow his family to mistreat or disrespect you. In addition, a man who thinks for himself and not a Mama's Boy. Many times Mom's treat their sons as if they're their man even sister's. Curtis mentioned about not saying hurtful words that can't be taken back. My ex Mom and sister said many hurtful words that indefinitely destroyed the relationship and they no longer have a relationship with me nor their niece or granddaughter ( she's sees them during holidays) due to their actions she unfortunately seen and experienced to the point she needed counseling. My ex admitted he should've never allowed them to become that comfortable. Personally, I will never let them back in in anyway. I have to keep my sanity and peace of mind and for our daughter, too. I, also personally can't be friends/continue to be around those who were wishing for the demise of my relationship. Thankfully, she's loved, happy and a great child with other family.
I’m glad I didn’t have this issue,I would’ve been TERRIBLE if they treated me like that.....I don’t do well with disrespect. It was just jealousy & envy on their part,glad y’all are still going strong 💪🏽❤️
I absolutely think you two are absolutely AWESOME! God bless, peace and praise! You both are georgous, and a beautiful duo! Peace, love, happiness, love and laughter! Adrian NC, USA
Sometimes race has something to do with it. Other times, people aren't going like you regardless of your racial make up. I'm just glad you guys were able to navigate through the whole negative situations. Sometimes, it'll take time for families to warm up to eachother.
Oh my gosh, you guys are mirroring me, I always play cool around anyone, love conquers all. I know my in laws didn't like our marriage, they were skeptical waiting for a divorce, but we have been married for 6 years and love is what we preach and respecting one another, and giving people their space. We are still going strong thank God. Good luck to all those struggling, just give it time it will all come to pass. Love you all
Gives me hope that one day it will change. I have been nothing but kind and generous to everyone on my husband's side of the family but still not accepted or appreciated by a sister of his. However, his mother (before she passed) warmed up to me when my mother passed away and told me she was here for me and I can consider her as my 2nd mother & that meant everything to me. You are right. Sometimes we just need to be patient and maybe things will workout. All I know is that life is too short to have dislike for someone that you call family. Thank you for sharing! ❤
Such a beautiful and down to earth family!!!…..like they say, looks aren’t everything! It’s a kind and loving heart that really matters and this lovely couple has it all!!! Wonderful parents to their 3 adorable children at that!!! I love watching all their videos and so nice to know that there are still some good hearted people in the world!!! Keep the videos rolling!!! God be with you two & entire family!!! God Bless!!!
Great topic! My ex let me know his family didn't like me during an arguement we were having and I had no idea. Didn't make me any difference though I still treated them with respect I just don't go out of way for them so I felt this topic. 👍
Thank you so much for this video! My fiancé’s mother never liked me from the beginning. It caused so much chaos in our relationship I became very depressed and suffered anxiety so bad I ended up getting sick. I never felt enough. It’s like every time I tried to make a conversation with his mom she made it to something bad. She never liked me no matter how hard I tried. I felt so uncomfortable going over but I did it for my fiancé. But every time I’d leave I’d leave in tears. I couldn’t believe I was being treated this way. My fiancé stopped going over because he knew how uncomfortable I was there and then his mom and sisters blamed me. I just could never please them. It was so bad that I ended up breaking up with this man but we are currently talking again and I just found out his dad is telling him to not be with me that he should try someone new. His sister is telling him he should let me “suffer.” Which is super hurtful. It brings up so much pain again. I’m so afraid that he’s always going to choose his family over me. It always felt like I had to compete. His mom would not let him grow on his own. The Bible says that a man should leave his family and protect his wife or future wife. I think now he’s seeing this but I also am having that depression and anxiety kick back in because I’m afraid he’s going to allow his family to decide for him again. And they were the reason our relationship ended after 8 years & we never got married in the first place. It’s like I always had to prove to them I was “good enough.” It’s very draining to my self esteem. I cried today. And I just pray for the best.
WHY ARE YOU BACK TO TALKING WITH HIM???? WALK AWAY AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. After breaking off the relationship the first time, thhis time tjings should be different because he has had time to reflect. YOU ARE HARMING YOURSELF. THIS MAN IS NOT FOR YOU. WALL AWAY.
Truly appreciate your honesty, you've definitely helped someone with this video it's not you, it's mostly other people's insecurities. Continue to be yourselves 💘💘💘💘💘💘
If you expect someone to say yes ma'am or no ma'am to your parents, you should let them know ahead of time. Because, even though I'm older, no one in my family ever said yes or no "ma'am," just saying yes or no was sufficient. So, do not assume automatically that someone knows to say it
In-laws are a trip sometimes. I personally feel that as long as I don't have to live with them, then it won't be a problem. I would never disrespect them as long as they don't disrespect me.
My inlaws live n Germany and at most times I have felt that was a good thing. In the beginning I felt that she didnt think I was good enough for her son, yet the rest of the family fell in love with me. MIL and I would butt heads regarding almost everything and that endes whennshe was saying something to my husband in german and she didnt realize I spoke german and understood everything she said (she doesn't speak englisch) That right there changed our relationship. 25 yrs later I love her like my own mom and we will celebrate her 90th bday in Germany this June. My family never had an issue with my husband, my mom is biracial, my dad is 1/4 native, my brother in laws...one Scot, one Italian, SIL, Australian... International families rock!
Makes me wonder if they wanted you to be with a white woman or mix. Maybe because she was Black, that is why they beg=haved that way. Colorism is real in these streets.
EUNICE AMAKALA ,but how can his mom be racist when her ex is black, and her kids are mixed? But you are right Racism is real and we can’t never change that , my in laws didn’t like me either, cause am not white, his mom told me once that each race should stay together., with their own kind!
Y'all put it out there. That will help a lot of families. Communication is the key. I believe the genuine love you have for each other has not only been the glue that has cemented your beautiful family, but it is so powerful that it spread to the other family members and friends. You are such an amazing family and I am so happy that you are continuing to share and spread your love to be a powerful example for the world to see and emulate! 🎉🎉🎉💙💖💖💙💙🎉🎉🎉
I was not my mother- inlawas choice for my husband, but I had to keep an open heart and an open mind with this, and maintain respect for his parents even when I disagreed with them and just let time show your love toward your mate and family. If inlaws are good people at heart they will see this love you two share and come around. If not continue to live your best life in love and pray for negative family members in your life., and above all be willing to listen and hear each other out with respect. You two and the kids are a beautiful family who could not help but love what you represent God bless you and may more good things come your way!
My husband's father doesn't like me. Hasn't for many years now. His mom is deceased. I have no idea why he doesn't like me. He used to do things like walk up to the group and speak to everyone by name except me. Or if it was myselfcand another person, he'd speak to them. Then when I'd speak, he'd jump like I surprised him because he never new I was there. I'd go to his house with my husband and again he'd ignore me. I said something to my husband and he just w/o thst he's old. I just stopped going over. I don't have to put up with that mess. And I stopped calling him Dad. He doesn't deserve it. I'm sorry you experienced that but happy things are better between you & the family.
OMG, When I discovered Jamie and Nikki, I fell in love with their relationship/marriage. Then I discovered Gabe and Babe. After that April & Justin, The Daily Davidsons, McClure family and now I've fallen in love with your family - The Curly Coopers. So glad I found y'all (yeah, I'm a southerner). I tell my friends to subscribe to your channel all the time. I hope the growth continue with abundance of subscribers.
I'm glad to hear that the in-laws are no problem and that y'all worked out the differences. Maybe I'll take the approach you took. However, I choose not to get along with my in-laws because I can't pretend. They treat my husband like if he is a stranger, sort of like he is imposing on the rest of the family. What makes it worse is that it has been that way from before he came out off the womb he used to share stories with me of how he was treated. I just find it hard to talk to them like nothing is happening. One Christmas, when everybody was just being merry but he had nothing to eat, (I meant nothing except water), they ate in his presence, flaunted their table of food, laughed at how much they had to eat but they never offered him a crumb of bread. Then they don't have any remorse at all. Uptil today they would behave like that if they get a chance to demoralize him. Over the years he took it but he got to the point of saying, no more. I don't know how to approach them with a smiling, cherry face. I don't have that grace as yet. I can't lie. Maybe I have to take it to the Lord in prayer. It hurts.
The grass is never greener on the other side but you worked at it and made it through. I'm going to stay positive and say this was a great video. Take care of yourself .
Hey y'all. We needed to clear some things up because some of you feel that my in laws did not like me because I'm black. Watch the next video at the end of this one. I hope this clears up all the questions and assumptions.
hi not worry good love God love anyone
No one can judge eny one.
I got it that it was because they felt that they were losing someone they loved ❤️
Shelly W. P,
@Shelly W. I disagree with you because the husband is part black himself. If she were non black that would not make them automatically like her. You have too many assumptions and preconceived notions. One of his parents is black.
My husband and I are a bi-racial couple. His family did not like me. They said if we have kids they would have problems in life because of who they are and we would be lucky if our marriage lasted 6 years. Things got worse until we had our daughter and life was so much better when they realized that baby was part a of them. By the time we had our son you could never guess that at one time they did not like me. We did not last 6 years but we are going on 42 years of marriage in July. Had to tell my story. You guys are a beautiful family. 💜U
My husband and I are a bi-racial couple we will be celebrating our 39th years of marriage this August and look forward to our Ruby next year !
My mother-in-law had her concerns but then so did a lot of others.
We have two beautiful daughters age 35 and 33 and our beautiful grandson age Five!
We HAVE BEEN BLESSED ❤️
WOW! 42 years??? Praise GOD! 🙌🏽
@@cachetabucknall7347 WOW! You are so Blessed to be married 39 years in an Interracial marriage. Blessings 🙌🏽
@@GailBecker-MSED-CM-Author 45 July 8 almost here.💙
They are not bi racial.
Iam a Latina my husband a Mexican, my in laws never never liked me cause he was going to marry another girl a Mexican, but he meant me , so we got married , 5 beautiful children , 50yrs ago and yet they still HATE me. I've survived.
Sorry you a living that but thank you for sharing and having the strength to continue on... 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@Marjorie Tillman that's what I thought
Wow! I am sure that situation brought you and your husband closer together.
After 50 yrs later only God can change them or anyone else to love and accept the way God loves and accepts us.
Continued blessings to you and your family.❤🙏❤
Marjorie Tillman. A Latina is several races , iam spanish, German, French, Mexican. A mexican is all from Mexico , and he has been a great supporter, and going , and with the bless of God we don't age, the Lord blessed us with great children , all 5 professionals, 8 grandkids, 2 professionals and going. The Lord is so good. Yes we've had our ups and downs. But now we travel , and have fun.
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As long as the husbands remember to cleave UNTO THEIR WIVES things usually work out well.
Touche'
INDEED!
Best comment!
Not if wife is a bitch though
My husband’s mom had passed away when he was 18, so I never had a mother-in-law, but Lord, I had a Grandmother-in-law that disliked me because I was the second wife. When I felt in my heart how she was, I basically told my husband that I had a grandmother and didn’t need another one, and that he could visit his grandmother all he wants, but WITHOUT me. Needless to say, she passed away, but in her final days, I went with him to visit her in the hospital and it turned out I was the only person that understood what she was saying (she had a stroke). She held my hand so tight in that hospital that I knew she was trying to apologize to me. My hubby and I will be married 30 years this December. My advice is you just have to be your true self. I just love your channel!
Thank you for your advice. I just have to hold out that one day his mom and sister will change for the better and see how we truly are.
Such a sweet story that you provided her with some comfort in her apology very kind of you. She knows her grandson is in good hands with you.
It was karma, whatever anyone does in life come back around… just have to wait patiently. In laws? I don’t know what that is because I have absolutely nothing to do with them evils! I’m so happy for you the fact that you are free from them vilains 👿.
Some in-laws you can never be good enough for them..
Yep!
So true
@@ROSE_01234 free
Amen
Because jealousy and envy kick in!
I’m black and I’m currently engaged to another BLACK MAN and some of his family members still don’t like me. So race isn’t always the issue as some of you have mentioned. As long as you get respect, who cares. However, I hope whatever hate they have for me goes down the drain. I’m here to stay! They are a beautiful family and I’m glad they overcame that! Y’all pray for positive things for me.
Thank you. It was not about race at all. I don't even see how they came up with that lol. I pray that things get better for you and your fiancé.
What's your gender Kels?
Same here it's not always about race,hang in their guys by the way i'm a Black male.
Correct me if I'm wrong but I believe his father is a black man. So I wouldn't think race would be a issue.
Like that some family they pretending like you... only God help
But don't you see, nobody can break what GOD meant to be!
Amen
@Carmen Fox the FATHER rebuke you Carmen you speak as the foolish women speaks(job2:10,,Mark 10:9
[9]What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.....JESUS is the LORD
@Carmen Foxout of every nation under heaven. Receive hear how the HOLY SPIRIT speaks in All tongues languages out of every Nation under heaven that includes the English tongue,,Acts 2:4-5
[4]And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.
[5]And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven.
@Carmen Fox Acts 2:4-47
[4]And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.
[5]And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven.
[6]Now when this was noised abroad, the multitude came together, and were confounded, because that every man heard them speak in his own language.
[7]And they were all amazed and marvelled, saying one to another, Behold, are not all these which speak Galilaeans?
[8]And how hear we every man in our own tongue, wherein we were born?
[9]Parthians, and Medes, and Elamites, and the dwellers in Mesopotamia, and in Judaea, and Cappadocia, in Pontus, and Asia,
[10]Phrygia, and Pamphylia, in Egypt, and in the parts of Libya about Cyrene, and strangers of Rome, Jews and proselytes,
[11]Cretes and Arabians, we do hear them speak in our tongues the wonderful works of God.
[12]And they were all amazed, and were in doubt, saying one to another, What meaneth this?
[13]Others mocking said, These men are full of new wine.
[14]But Peter, standing up with the eleven, lifted up his voice, and said unto them, Ye men of Judaea, and all ye that dwell at Jerusalem, be this known unto you, and hearken to my words:
[15]For these are not drunken, as ye suppose, seeing it is but the third hour of the day.
[16]But this is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel;
[17]And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams:
[18]And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy:
[19]And I will shew wonders in heaven above, and signs in the earth beneath; blood, and fire, and vapour of smoke:
[20]The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before that great and notable day of the Lord come:
[21]And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved.
[22]Ye men of Israel, hear these words; Jesus of Nazareth, a man approved of God among you by miracles and wonders and signs, which God did by him in the midst of you, as ye yourselves also know:
[23]Him, being delivered by the determinate counsel and foreknowledge of God, ye have taken, and by wicked hands have crucified and slain:
[24]Whom God hath raised up, having loosed the pains of death: because it was not possible that he should be holden of it.
[25]For David speaketh concerning him, I foresaw the Lord always before my face, for he is on my right hand, that I should not be moved:
[26]Therefore did my heart rejoice, and my tongue was glad; moreover also my flesh shall rest in hope:
[27]Because thou wilt not leave my soul in hell, neither wilt thou suffer thine Holy One to see corruption.
[28]Thou hast made known to me the ways of life; thou shalt make me full of joy with thy countenance.
[29]Men and brethren, let me freely speak unto you of the patriarch David, that he is both dead and buried, and his sepulchre is with us unto this day.
[30]Therefore being a prophet, and knowing that God had sworn with an oath to him, that of the fruit of his loins, according to the flesh, he would raise up Christ to sit on his throne;
[31]He seeing this before spake of the resurrection of Christ, that his soul was not left in hell, neither his flesh did see corruption.
[32]This Jesus hath God raised up, whereof we all are witnesses.
[33]Therefore being by the right hand of God exalted, and having received of the Father the promise of the Holy Ghost, he hath shed forth this, which ye now see and hear.
[34]For David is not ascended into the heavens: but he saith himself, The LORD said unto my Lord, Sit thou on my right hand,
[35]Until I make thy foes thy footstool.
[36]Therefore let all the house of Israel know assuredly, that God hath made that same Jesus, whom ye have crucified, both Lord and Christ.
[37]Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, Men and brethren, what shall we do?
[38]Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
[39]For the promise is unto you, and to your children, and to all that are afar off, even as many as the Lord our God shall call.
[40]And with many other words did he testify and exhort, saying, Save yourselves from this untoward generation.
[41]Then they that gladly received his word were baptized: and the same day there were added unto them about three thousand souls.
[42]And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.
[43]And fear came upon every soul: and many wonders and signs were done by the apostles.
[44]And all that believed were together, and had all things common;
[45]And sold their possessions and goods, and parted them to all men, as every man had need.
[46]And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,
[47]Praising God, and having favour with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be saved.
@Carmen Fox Psalms 19:2-3
[2]Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge.
[3]There is no speech nor language, where their voice is not heard.
The issue with in-laws seems to be they don't accept or understand that their son/daughter are growing up and branching out to form their own family. I'm thankful to have a great in-law family, but it was definitely work to get there!
I think that’s what it was. So glad things are way better. I’m glad we got past the hard times☺️
She looks like a woman who takes no nonsense, but looking at the guy his charms love and good personality has sustained the marriage..
This is what I like to see..
I'm Jamaican and my husband is Haitian. I remember when I met my mother in law and she spoke creole to me just to see if I was Haitian. The family were very upset that he didn't married a Haitian. They made life very difficult for me for years they even said that it wouldn't last. I never uttered a word to them.. never argued with we just lived our lives. In the end the family grew to love not that it mattered because we just celebrated 23 years of marriage. I thank God that my husband always had my back.
My advise is to be respectful stay true to who you are when they see that you are a loving person that cares for your spouse they will have to accept their decision.
Thanks for sharing. I am Jamaican too.
@@Ardz.Feelings As a Jamaican you know damn well we would antagonize our family members for marrying Haitian.
Tiffanybrown368...YOU would antagonize your family for marrying a Haitian. As a Jamaican with many Haitian friends, I beg to differ. Kinda curious to know what your reason is...
This was a very important subject to address. A lot of families face this problem starting out. My mom did not agree with my choice for a mate simply because he was unequally yoked with me and divorced. She attended the wedding because my Dad saw things differently. Later on in our marriage she and my hubby got along great Four days ago we celebrated our forty fourth year. You have to follow your heart, you can’t please everybody all the time. Thank you I am sure you helped many. Love you all!
That is a blessing. That’s exactly what we wanted to share. I’m glad things worked out for you guys 😀
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Glad to hear that you all didn’t retaliate anger with anger .... but chose to act and display the love that is so prevalent in your marriage ... beautiful couple 🤗
Wow! My in-laws hated me for no reason!! Wow! It’s amazing how people misjudge you! I did the same thing.. I stayed away and my husband when he did go he went alone. My kids felt the negative energy and would not go with him! Those were some crazy years! I got a card years later that said that same thing! How she saw what a wonderful mother was and how much she loved the way our family was! This was so touching… thanks for sharing
I never had a good relationship with my ex husbands mother especially....she never gave me a proper chance....she called me black and ugly early and this is from a black woman....we eloped as a result...when our son was born ...one of his cousins pointed to his ears and said he would not be dark as me because his ears was lighter....i made an effort to keep my son as far away from those self hating people as much as possible....he is remarried now to a lighter skinned mixed woman...maybe she will be accepted....by them...my son does not have a relationship with his father or those people and it is for the best...if i had to do it over again i would have paid attention to those red flags.
😥💔 Ugh I'm so sorry this happened to you. People can be so ugly sometimes especially on the inside & it always hurts the most when it comes from your own.. so I'm so sorry that happened omg but at least you've gotten your baby boy out of all this❤️. I wish you & your son the best.. take care❤️
Wow. Such a shame...and very ignorant.
You're beautiful!
Delores Dyer Sigh... I’m so sorry...
@@LadyV7 ...and very arrogant!
You guys are real! People go through hoops to portray a perfect life, but we know there is no such thing! This upload will help someone! Love you guys❤
That’s what we want to do. Help others get through life’s differences.
@@TheCurlyCoopers ❤😍
I can't believe your family didn't like dajuana.....she is sweet and down to earth, but it's because they thought they were losing you but was actually gaining more😉
I've been through a lot of mess and drama with my in laws. I no longer have anything to do with them and it is easier for me this way, but difficult for my husband and our children. I'm afro Cuban and my husband is Mexican and Puerto Rican, and I know for sure they wanted him to marry a white girl. I know everyone's situation is different, but think twice about marrying someone whose family has decided that they don't like you even before they meet you. This goes especially if your S. O. has not put their family in check with regard to you, and they are really close to their family and completely comfortable with letting them be in their business all the time. This was the case for me and it put undue strain on my marriage. Having children in this situation only makes it worse. When you marry someone you do marry their family. Life is too short to be trying to prove yourself to people all the time. It sounds harsh to start off a marriage with ultimatums and ground rules, but they are necessary when you have in laws that act a fool. 😒
I feel you, it was the exact same for me. We have to be the ones to take all the foolishness until enough is enough. Sometimes, even the ones closest to you mean you no good and are toxic. Once you find, you will never be enough, as I did, you have to move on and not allow that to interrupt your quality of life.
Having healthy boundaries is not a bad thing and I had to set them with my in-laws as well and my husband has had a hard time putting them in check too. But recently he had a conversation with them after me having a breakdown about how they treat me. They were so rude to my husband (their son) and dismissive he was shocked and kept saying to me that he didn't understand why they were acting that way and then his mom said she only came to visit to see our daughter. That hurt my husband and when he said it hurt him she said oh please you know what I mean. It was later revealed that his parents and sister have zero intention of visiting us or being around us expect maybe once a year for 2-4 days for our daughters birthday. He chose to then make his own boundaries with mine and they have abided so far. Sometimes you have to let your S.O. experience the pain in order to understand your hurt; it broke my heart because I didn't know that would happen but happy we are on the same page now.
I am so sorry you have to go through that.
@@tiffanyphoenix-zitz5106 That's really awful. I'm glad your husband has finally come to understand what they put you through. Sending love and prayers your way.
25 years with my husband and it is still issues!! This is a great discussion
The main key is Curtis appears to have stood strong and been respectful to both sides and kudos to you D for being someone that was easy to defend. Sometimes the in-laws and the spouse can put the other spouse in the middle and try to make them choose.
I'm glad that you get along with in-laws. My in-laws don't like me and it doesn't bother me at all. I was taught when people show you they true colors acknowledge it, accept it, and move on. We both are happy and our kids are to.
Amen!!!!
My husband and I have been married for 24 years, I have always gotten along with my in- laws thankfully.
You guys are a gorgeous family
My in-laws didn't like me as well. But one day I gotton very ill. And my ex mother-in-law took very good care of me where my mother did not. That I will always cherish and never forget what a good soul my ex mother-in-law had for me. Till this day. I know even though I'm not married to the family any- more. I would never forget it. I will always have love some for the most of the family. You just have to stay strong and stay positive and keep your faith. Life is too short. I'm so glad everything worked out with your in-laws. You are strong woman sister. 🙏♥️
My grandma passed away before I was born and my mother speaks very highly of her. She said they were friends.
I have been married twice. My first husband died. I’ve been very fortunate to have had great relationships with both my MILs. Here’s an important piece of advice: Women set the tone for the entire family, from the core family to extended family. Curtis is right. You need to keep things positive!
That is great. I agree very much.
Let’s get this beautiful family to 100k tell your friends and family to subscribe to one of the best families on TH-cam hands down 😍😍😍
THANK YOU JAY☺️ We are definitely getting there. 31k to go!!!
💢Yes, Lets get the Curly Coopers to 100,000 Subscribers💢
💥Thanks for sharing, I know it was hard to share this story.💥
Love you'll ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
jay joyholla, yes they are on the way
My husband's family didn't like me either, and I rarely see them. I think my problem was trying to hard to get their approval, maybe I came off as not being myself. I just felt like no one was good enough for him in their eyes and his previous relationships were short and didn't last over 2 years, I must have done something right because we have been married for over forty years and have 13 grandkids and 6 great grands, so regardless of what others think you still can maintain a loving relationship but it does help to get that family support. God bless
Awe, to God be the glory!!
Detrix Hogan thank you and God bless you.
You said something here. You definitely can have a wonderful relationship without others approval. Congratulations on 40 years of marriage.
Patty
May god strengthen you.i am in a marriage where my inlaws HATE ME.to the point where they almost convince my husband to kill me.yes i know it sounds crazy.im filing my divorce
@@charlottesmith7279 I've seen this on ID CHANNEL and know this to be true, sadly. Be safe and discreet.
Literally going through the same exact thing with my “in laws” (not married yet) and to hear that you guys have gotten through it is VERY inspiring! Patients is the key 🔑🤞🏾.
Thank you!
Tip go have conversation with your future mother inlaw only both
All I can say to you is: please, please and please pray a lot of it sister… not everyone stories are the same. I’ve been to hell and back with them creatures… now I have nothing to do with them. It’s that bad. Good luck
Well, my story, unfortunately, ended up with a divorce. We have 2 kids and I have taken them back home so they can be surrounded by people who actually love them and not fake it in front of me. Just know that there is 50/50 so choose wisely because my husband, he was strong for 3 years to fight for our relationship after we got married but he could not handle the manipulation and he started playing referee, trying to force everyone to like each other while his family refused to even go to a therapist to solve their issues but he wanted me to accept whatever his mother wanted so I stopped it and I made sure I will not please a man that wants to please his mother more than his own wife and kids so I filled for divorce. If I will ever get married again, my in-laws will have to love me or it is a deal breaker and I have learned the hard way. I won't do this mistake again!
Not sure what it is, but there is definitely something genuine’isk about your family. If ever I wanted to see a family excel and go higher, it is your alls family. Continue to be BLESSED AND EXCEL! I’m calling it now - you guys will be huge and in turn will be a huge blessings to others! I truly believe that! 🙏
Thank you so much ☺️
In-Laws can be a little tricky, so you have to be really patient and handle issues with kitty gloves...but normally later down the road it works out..
You are soooooo right Omari. Everything worked out just fine ☺️
Yes, she does have a beautiful smile. GB
Mine shows me they love me infront of their son but out there i dont know and i dont care! All that matters He loves me, respets me .
Have I read Acholi girl?!!! You better go home! am coming for you right this minute.
@@luwagasylvia3282 🤣🤣🤣come join me we go home together
@@favouredwoman87 when are you going honey?!!
@@luwagasylvia3282 am going in october
@@favouredwoman87 too bad I'm out of there😥. safe journey honey.
I will be there in Feb next year!
My husband family didn't like me 4 years ago... But hes still heeeerrrreeeee!!!! 🙄💯
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Well, he married you and NOT your family.... Oh well...
Amen to that
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So glad that things all worked out. Duana, so glad you didn't get out of character and escalate the tension. Curtis was so right when he said you can't take those harsh words back.
Dang I just realized that your husband looks like a younger El Debarge.
Wow,he does kinda of favor the DeBarge Brothers.
Oh yes,!!!!!!
He does .... Doesn't he😃
That's so so true. I said it from the beginning of the video. Before I even saw this comment.
Omg. I said the exact thing the first time I seen them
I agree
The key factor here is TIME: Time heals all wounds. Time has made you stronger and wiser and may it continues to strengthen the bond between both families.
I feel your wife’s pain. I’m still going through it after 17 years of marriage. Korean mil is no joke. She thinks I’m taking her son away from them and the funny thing is my family is the same towards my hubby they love him. Keep making videos you guys are awesome!
Thanks for sharing that. I couldn't stand my sister's husband, but I've learned to tolerate him to keep the peace. I think all families have a hard time with new people coming into the family eve if they say they don't. Side note, Duana has the prettiest smile.
Thanks for watching. I agree. It takes some getting use to others. Thanks Jack ☺️
Glad y'all made it through! God bless and will continue! Y'all are family goals!!!
Thank you. I wouldn’t change my in laws for nothing ☺️
Great that you guys are in a good place with your in laws. I didn’t have a good relationship with my mother in law when I was younger. I’m a widow now but me and my mother in law get along great 👍 now.
Diane D., so sorry to hear that, God bless.
Sorry for your loss. Glad things are better now.
Diane D. Glad that things are good between you two now.
I am sure your beloved hubby would love that too.
God bless you till that day when you are reunited with him🖤🖤🖤
Patty Cake thank you.
Black Angel thank you for the love.
Our situations are very similar. Most of my "in laws" really didn't like me and almost 26 years later, I still don't know why. From what I thought, we were all OK until he asked me to marry him. They even had a meeting to stop our wedding. My brother n love stood up for us, which was a blessing. I bit my tongue, a lot because I didn't know what I (personally) did to any of the family. But I feel like I was taking him away from them. We are sooooo close now! God is such a healer! I am extremely blessed to be a part of this family. Never say anything you can't take back. Words will not be forgotten. So proud of you both! Continue blessing others!
We wrestle not against flesh and blood. People don’t just not like someone for no reason. There’s always a spirit behind it. Could be a spirit of jealousy, anger, envy, etc.
I like you guys together. In-laws are a process to get through.
I love this couple, I just tuned into them. Continued success on your marriage, family, and life. Great Man, Great Woman. Thanks for sharing your lives with us.
I am glad you made it guys and stay together, because some of us did not and now living as single moms.
I'm happy for you, may God bless your family
I saw how happy you were Duana when your Mother n law gave you a birthday card. She kept saying " that was you, that was you" when you read her card. So happy things are smoother now. Family is very important, for the.kids as well. No need including them.in adult hang ups..
How can they not like her, I think she's awesome. She reminds me of my best friend.
Maybe because Curtis is a simp for Duana, the family probably felt a type of way. He’s not allowed to have female friends etc, and is always with Duana and the kids. Seems like Duana wears the pants but I guess that works for them 🤷♀️
What a beautiful family, the children are particularly gorgeous.
Well done guys, God Bless.
I love your union, beauty and strength. Go forth in constant and continual prosperity. GOD BLESS the whole family!! Smiles!!
You are definitely better than me. I would have been OUT. Especially if your husband didn’t defend you.
My husband’s family did that to me and he just let them. One time…he said something, but it was too late and it wasn’t enough. Divorced now. But we’re friends.
Glad things worked out for you both. ❤️
U did right thing!!
My daughter is in an interracial relationship & the bf's family are passive-aggressive racists.
There ARE times though when they may as well wear the confederate flag & those times are becoming more frequent as they see the relationship still going strong
While Duana & Curtis are and have been patient - I am NOT especially when my daughter calls upset trying to turn the other cheek.
Her bf meekly tries to come to her defense but rarely
For her sake I Hope they have a good outcome like Duana & Curtis
I agree. I did leave when my S.O. didn’t defend me at all in situations when we both know the accusations were wrong.
Glad y’all made it through that rough patch 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Praise God🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I'm so glad everyone was able to work through the lumps and bumps of dealing with in-laws. You two are so awesome!!
I’m so blessed that I’ve always gotten along with my in-laws. All of them even the cousins. My family loves my husband. I’ve heard horror stories about in-laws so I know I’m very blessed.
Me and my husband are newly weds and my in laws hate me but I don’t care 🤷♀️lol
I pray it gets better. My husband said it didn’t bother him but deep down I know it had to at least a little. I could tell by talking to him.
Dicey Icey, please read my comment. GB
Dicey Icey If your in laws don't like you - be extra nice to them. Don't ignore them. Show them you love your partner and his/her family. In time you will melt their hearts. If not, you still did the right thing.
In time most get used to it and the positive you bring will be what they remember.
Sometimes difficult in laws can actually bring couples closer together. They need the love and support of each other more - which can turn into a blessing.
Parents often have an image of who their kids will marry. Suddenly when that person is completely different and another race - it can jolt them at first. They need time love and patience to realize the world is not going to fall around them.
In interracial relationships extra patience is required.
God bless
PS. Enjoyed the series from tonyevans.org on kingdom family. Well worth a listen
@@blackangel6003 That the perfect way to be and to do...
it depends on what you did and said if you didnt do anything to them then oh well you married him not his family
It's important to always be respectful no matter what and Duana, I'm so proud of you 👏. In-laws are first protective of their sons/daughters until they are sure that your feelings for their child are sincere. On the other hand some in-laws are just craaaazy. I pray that God's peace, love and joy will continue to be with you all 😊
Respect goes both ways.
No matter what is going on, in your perspective families you stand together as one. Godly examples. As my pastor Tony Evans says. It's a Kingdom Marriage. Your purpose and direction isn't affected by what others are doing. Blessings
Hey! Duana. I haven't been able to post comments due to work. I've been a subscriber ( number 7 LOL) very early on. I think it depends on several factors, but the main one is if the man stands up and doesn't allow his family to mistreat or disrespect you. In addition, a man who thinks for himself and not a Mama's Boy. Many times Mom's treat their sons as if they're their man even sister's. Curtis mentioned about not saying hurtful words that can't be taken back. My ex Mom and sister said many hurtful words that indefinitely destroyed the relationship and they no longer have a relationship with me nor their niece or granddaughter ( she's sees them during holidays) due to their actions she unfortunately seen and experienced to the point she needed counseling. My ex admitted he should've never allowed them to become that comfortable. Personally, I will never let them back in in anyway. I have to keep my sanity and peace of mind and for our daughter, too. I, also personally can't be friends/continue to be around those who were wishing for the demise of my relationship. Thankfully, she's loved, happy and a great child with other family.
I’m glad I didn’t have this issue,I would’ve been TERRIBLE if they treated me like that.....I don’t do well with disrespect. It was just jealousy & envy on their part,glad y’all are still going strong 💪🏽❤️
Such a beautiful family May Jehovah keep continue blessing you guys love ❤️
Amen.
Amen
I absolutely think you two are absolutely AWESOME! God bless, peace and praise! You both are georgous, and a beautiful duo! Peace, love, happiness, love and laughter! Adrian NC, USA
I love you guys, you appear happy with so much love and humor. What healthy fine kids too.
Sometimes race has something to do with it. Other times, people aren't going like you regardless of your racial make up. I'm just glad you guys were able to navigate through the whole negative situations. Sometimes, it'll take time for families to warm up to eachother.
I’m happy the family is getting along, after all you’re awesome!!!
Oh my gosh, you guys are mirroring me, I always play cool around anyone, love conquers all. I know my in laws didn't like our marriage, they were skeptical waiting for a divorce, but we have been married for 6 years and love is what we preach and respecting one another, and giving people their space. We are still going strong thank God. Good luck to all those struggling, just give it time it will all come to pass. Love you all
Awwwww Duana Iove you too sis. Kurt is so true her is very straight forward.
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Cherish, nurture and protect that relationship ladies. 😍
So glad everything worked out and we are enjoying this beautiful family 💕🙏🙏
Gives me hope that one day it will change. I have been nothing but kind and generous to everyone on my husband's side of the family but still not accepted or appreciated by a sister of his. However, his mother (before she passed) warmed up to me when my mother passed away and told me she was here for me and I can consider her as my 2nd mother & that meant everything to me. You are right. Sometimes we just need to be patient and maybe things will workout. All I know is that life is too short to have dislike for someone that you call family. Thank you for sharing! ❤
Thanks for sharing your story
I really respect you both. Much love
Thank you ☺️
Thank God for happy endings! You guys are a beautiful couple.😊
Curtis sounds like the dad on King of the Hill. 😁
I love the way y'all interact with each....such a beautiful family...
Such a beautiful and down to earth family!!!…..like they say, looks aren’t everything! It’s a kind and loving heart that really matters and this lovely couple has it all!!! Wonderful parents to their 3 adorable children at that!!! I love watching all their videos and so nice to know that there are still some good hearted people in the world!!! Keep the videos rolling!!! God be with you two & entire family!!! God Bless!!!
Excellent transparency!
Great topic! My ex let me know his family didn't like me during an arguement we were having and I had no idea. Didn't make me any difference though I still treated them with respect I just don't go out of way for them so I felt this topic. 👍
Smooth or not
I'm with their Son not them.
case closed
I'm with u on that..
True but some of their behaviour can affect your relationship for the worse
Thank you so much for this video! My fiancé’s mother never liked me from the beginning. It caused so much chaos in our relationship I became very depressed and suffered anxiety so bad I ended up getting sick. I never felt enough. It’s like every time I tried to make a conversation with his mom she made it to something bad. She never liked me no matter how hard I tried. I felt so uncomfortable going over but I did it for my fiancé. But every time I’d leave I’d leave in tears. I couldn’t believe I was being treated this way. My fiancé stopped going over because he knew how uncomfortable I was there and then his mom and sisters blamed me. I just could never please them. It was so bad that I ended up breaking up with this man but we are currently talking again and I just found out his dad is telling him to not be with me that he should try someone new. His sister is telling him he should let me “suffer.” Which is super hurtful. It brings up so much pain again. I’m so afraid that he’s always going to choose his family over me. It always felt like I had to compete. His mom would not let him grow on his own. The Bible says that a man should leave his family and protect his wife or future wife. I think now he’s seeing this but I also am having that depression and anxiety kick back in because I’m afraid he’s going to allow his family to decide for him again. And they were the reason our relationship ended after 8 years & we never got married in the first place. It’s like I always had to prove to them I was “good enough.” It’s very draining to my self esteem. I cried today. And I just pray for the best.
If he does not stand for you , save your life and leave this relationship.
@@judahsdaughter5806 Thank you for your kind encouraging words.
WHY ARE YOU BACK TO TALKING WITH HIM???? WALK AWAY AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. After breaking off the relationship the first time, thhis time tjings should be different because he has had time to reflect.
YOU ARE HARMING YOURSELF. THIS MAN IS NOT FOR YOU. WALL AWAY.
I wish I was married I enjoyed watching this was really touching for me I appreciate you all
Still have a problem with my. ..., dont know why.....maybe, cause they dont understand me!!!!! Very happy for you two lovely people!!
Be Strong in the Lord, God see what you are going through, just pray for others and enjoy your family.
Very beautiful! Patience is powerful! Thanks for sharing your story. I pray for your continued success. Long live love!❤️
Truly appreciate your honesty, you've definitely helped someone with this video it's not you, it's mostly other people's insecurities. Continue to be yourselves
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If you expect someone to say yes ma'am or no ma'am to your parents, you should let them know ahead of time. Because, even though I'm older, no one in my family ever said yes or no "ma'am," just saying yes or no was sufficient. So, do not assume automatically that someone knows to say it
In-laws are a trip sometimes. I personally feel that as long as I don't have to live with them, then it won't be a problem. I would never disrespect them as long as they don't disrespect me.
This hits home more ways than one! I’m glad that you guys were comfortable enough to share this with us! May God continue to bless you guys ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story Love has no color.☺
My inlaws live n Germany and at most times I have felt that was a good thing. In the beginning I felt that she didnt think I was good enough for her son, yet the rest of the family fell in love with me. MIL and I would butt heads regarding almost everything and that endes whennshe was saying something to my husband in german and she didnt realize I spoke german and understood everything she said (she doesn't speak englisch) That right there changed our relationship. 25 yrs later I love her like my own mom and we will celebrate her 90th bday in Germany this June.
My family never had an issue with my husband, my mom is biracial, my dad is 1/4 native, my brother in laws...one Scot, one Italian, SIL, Australian...
International families rock!
Duana... did you just say “down to erff”? 😂 love it.
I'm happy to hear that both sides of the families are at peace with one another. May God continue blessing your family always.💖
His accent is sooooo country! I live and 1 1/2 south west of Columbus and I can even hear it clearly!
Wow I'm in Columbus as well glad you guys weathered the storm
Makes me wonder if they wanted you to be with a white woman or mix. Maybe because she was Black, that is why they beg=haved that way. Colorism is real in these streets.
EUNICE AMAKALA Say it again. We must not kid ourselves when it comes to this...
EUNICE AMAKALA ,but how can his mom be racist when her ex is black, and her kids are mixed? But you are right Racism is real and we can’t never change that , my in laws didn’t like me either, cause am not white, his mom told me once that each race should stay together., with their own kind!
I doubt it. That would be odd considering the fact that Curtis dad (and half his family) is Black.
prob becasue if they just met her and didnt really get to know her it prob was becasue she was a darker blk woman
@@BritneyDearestFamilyVlogs That doesn't mean anything.
Y'all put it out there. That will help a lot of families. Communication is the key. I believe the genuine love you have for each other has not only been the glue that has cemented your beautiful family, but it is so powerful that it spread to the other family members and friends. You are such an amazing family and I am so happy that you are continuing to share and spread your love to be a powerful example for the world to see and emulate! 🎉🎉🎉💙💖💖💙💙🎉🎉🎉
Beautiful family, you two are so wise and relaxed with each other.
I was not my mother- inlawas choice for my husband, but I had to keep an open heart and an open mind with this, and maintain respect for his parents even when I disagreed with them and just let time show your love toward your mate and family. If inlaws are good people at heart they will see this love you two share and come around. If not continue to live your best life in love and pray for negative family members in your life., and above all be willing to listen and hear each other out with respect. You two and the kids are a beautiful family who could not help but love what you represent God bless you and may more good things come your way!
When it's all said and done...you are beautiful together. Cultural differences are normal
My husband's father doesn't like me. Hasn't for many years now. His mom is deceased. I have no idea why he doesn't like me. He used to do things like walk up to the group and speak to everyone by name except me. Or if it was myselfcand another person, he'd speak to them. Then when I'd speak, he'd jump like I surprised him because he never new I was there. I'd go to his house with my husband and again he'd ignore me. I said something to my husband and he just w/o thst he's old. I just stopped going over. I don't have to put up with that mess. And I stopped calling him Dad. He doesn't deserve it. I'm sorry you experienced that but happy things are better between you & the family.
I would have left the man after the first meeting with his rude disrespectful father.
I like those wise open and adult words ....... I love your beautiful family ❤
It happens sometimes in many relationships, but time can mend all. You two have a wonderful family.
OMG, When I discovered Jamie and Nikki, I fell in love with their relationship/marriage. Then I discovered Gabe and Babe. After that April & Justin, The Daily Davidsons, McClure family and now I've fallen in love with your family - The Curly Coopers. So glad I found y'all (yeah, I'm a southerner). I tell my friends to subscribe to your channel all the time. I hope the growth continue with abundance of subscribers.
RedBone 54 you seem obsessed
Thank you so much. I love those channels too.
@@aussies_are_white0057 Obsessed? Nah. Just love "Love". Anything wrong with that?
We love “love” too☺️
@@justlesa7355 nothing wrong at all! ❤💛💜
You both look good together. God Bless you all
Thank you ☺️
I think it's soo cool you guys having a good relationship with your in-laws, such a Blessing!, thanks so much for sharing! 👏 👏
I am so overjoyed that everything has worked out for the families.
Alesha Thomas me too☺️
I'm glad to hear that the in-laws are no problem and that y'all worked out the differences. Maybe I'll take the approach you took. However, I choose not to get along with my in-laws because I can't pretend. They treat my husband like if he is a stranger, sort of like he is imposing on the rest of the family. What makes it worse is that it has been that way from before he came out off the womb he used to share stories with me of how he was treated. I just find it hard to talk to them like nothing is happening. One Christmas, when everybody was just being merry but he had nothing to eat, (I meant nothing except water), they ate in his presence, flaunted their table of food, laughed at how much they had to eat but they never offered him a crumb of bread. Then they don't have any remorse at all. Uptil today they would behave like that if they get a chance to demoralize him. Over the years he took it but he got to the point of saying, no more. I don't know how to approach them with a smiling, cherry face. I don't have that grace as yet. I can't lie. Maybe I have to take it to the Lord in prayer. It hurts.
The grass is never greener on the other side but you worked at it and made it through. I'm going to stay positive and say this was a great video. Take care of yourself .