Wow I don't know if I've ever used my own name in my self-talk but I just did and it brought me so into the moment. Wow! That's so practical but something I've never thought of before. That's so fucking cool!
Does keeping a journal of these types of incidents help in the same way? In a broader sense, is there a benefit to keeping an honest journal? Are there things that should be included in the writing?
@@GetMoreConfidence Will do. Whanted to say aswell i started your Not Nice programm and its amazing. I feel like u lived my life and understund me, at deep level. Good luck to you
If i was someone better, I could have done better, If i was more knowledgeable, have more charisma and more xyz, It could have gone other way, whats the point, fuck it.
@@GetMoreConfidence I guess so, what happens is you go do that and gradually improve but then there are others who have been doing that for longer. You set the goal and go to gym and pick up 40lb and gradually go to 55lb and you feel proud of progress then the dude comes stare you in the face and pick up 3 45lb and seek competition then what?
The answer is simple...stop comparing yourself to others. No matter who you are on this earth, there is ALWAYS someone better at something than you. Comparing yourself is fruitless. Concentrate on comparing yourself to YOU yesterday, last week, last year, etc. How are you improving on that scale?
Thank you this definitely hits home with me as someone who is very rejection sensitive and I always come down harshly on myself when I fail . Putting forth greater effort is a big inside job when it comes to not beating up on yourself when things go wrong
this is not so easy why do you make this giving us FALSE HOPES one can not be free from fears like this THE FEAR WHEN PRESENT GIVE YOU NO TIME TO THINK OR TRY ANY TECH TO BE OUR OF IT YOU JUST FLIGHT OR FREEZE OR FIGHT YOU SAY OR DO THINGS THAT MAKE THINGS WORST AND YOU SUFFER MORE THEN THE SOLUTION HERE IS TO AVOID WHAT IS PAINFUL ANYWAY ANYCOST
My friend, there is always going to be discomfort with growth. It's not going to kill you or harm you, but it is something we all have to face. Everything you want out of life is just on the other side of discomfort.
I have a problem speaking up for myself and saying how I feel and saying what I really wanna say out of fear of judgment or caring about how others think rather than caring how I think and thinking about what others think or have to say when I really need to be thinking about what I wanna do and what I wanna say so it's kind of hard but I feel theses videos are helping me overcome my problems and regain confidence and control again I really want to express myself and hold conversations without worrying and talking to many women without fear or worries and hopping in conversations or groups who are talking about the things I like instead of holding back because of fear thankyou very much for these videos it makes me happy to see and feel a lil change
Hell yes it can. confidence is made of self esteem and social skills. meditation is an incredible way to raise self esteem and so your confidence. Learn to love yourself with meditation and it will revolutionize your confidence
Daniel Novis I've had painfully low self worth and self everything issues since I'm a child. It is multi factorial,meaning it could be environmental, or from poor academic performance, sibling rivalry, poor adult role models. Not easy to tackle it especially if it's all you know
i have been trying meditation for 2 weeks now, only 15-20mins per day and i have noticed a huge increase in my confidence. it made me go deeper into my mind to findout why i have always been a shy lil bitch and why im so afraid to speak up. Now i have identified those small issues thats holding me back and now i have been coming out of my comfort zone and being more confident having convos with random ppl.
Good video but I have a problem. I have been told over and over again that I am creepy or they are uncomfortable with me. I am so tired of hearing this that I have shut everything out now. I don't like going out anymore and I have become so hard on myself. So I have isolated myself from everyone and kept to myself. Yes I do feel ashamed and I sometimes blame my parents or higher power for being the way I am. I sometimes scream at myself and sometimes even hurt myself to the point where afterwards I even scare myself. Sorry about the rant but I understand what you are talking about . I keep watching your videos hoping to find the answer one day.
you are only as creepy as far as you buy into their opinion of you. so firstly screw those people that tell you you're creepy dude! they don't know you like you know you and your opinion is the only one that matters. love yourself for who you are, don't criticize yourself with the wasted breathe of morons. secondly, our social skills are purely a series of learned behaviours. LEARNED being the main word there. meaning, if you want to you can change how you come across. it's most likely just habits you've picked up, ITS NOT YOU AS A PERSON. let's say you maintain eye contact for too long, try and make a conscious effort to stare less. if you fail or don't do it perfectly at first then please please please show yourself some love and compassion and patience. just remember that YOU decide how you see yourself and no one else. I don't know if you've seen Dr Aziz's talk on 'holding your reality' but I highly recommend it pal
Thank you for the kind words. Means alot to me. I do try and practice Dr. Aziz's principals but sometimes it just gets tiring when as hard as you try to change, others get in the way and crush you down. I have left most of my friends because of this so I am trying hard to find GOOD people to be with now.
I'd recommend working on yourself a bit first before looking at finding other people bud. From what you were saying there seems to be a lot of self esteem problems. Work on loving yourself before trying to make others love you and you'll find that 1) self-love is the purest and most sustainable love there is and 2) you'll find it a thousand times easier to hold your reality and laugh in the faces of people who put you down because you'll see how utterly insignificant their opinions of you are, and 3) you'll find good people are naturally drawn to you. I know it gets tiring pal, I get that, but that's because you're practicing a new skill like playing piano or something. Take breaks, recoup and then get up and keep practicing and before you know it you'll find it easy and do it without even conscious thought. The best advice I was ever told was to be your own best friend and truly love yourself for the unique and mental oddity of the universe that you are
+Bernie Smatavicius Only a very cruel person tells someone that they're creepy and uncomfortable to be around. You are wise to find better people. I used to think that most people are kind and good but now I see that probably the majority are not. In the past few years I have had to let go of almost all of my so-called friends and family because they were being mean to me; I'm now starting over from scratch. So don't think you're odd to have problems with mean people--there are a lot of them and you are smart to get away from them, even if it means being alone a lot until you find better ones. Take care.
Why do you say "THEIR" personality? HER personality! Also be careful about someone at work for many reasons: it may interfere with your duties, or her duties, or both; she may burn you with "harassment" claims either now or in the future; Other co-workers and customers or whatever may get upset and claim something against you or the two of you; she may be manipulating you; You or her may have to find another job fast even if both of you are into each other; She is a human with free-will and 50% right to choose relationship or not, and if you ignore her right to choose you know what that makes you? Your best chances are by socializing politely with her over time, get to know each other, respect her right to choose even if she chooses "wrong". Get to know her, she might be phony or not as good for you as you thought.
Yes I have experienced this n it’s not ez to not be harsh on yourself when rejection happens. I get really harsh on myself that can impact my self steam.
This Dr. Completely rewired and reprogrammed my mindsets!😅...how idiot I was!. Now I know where all my stress was coming from since startet watching ur videos...God bless Dr Aziz.
Getting no from a friend who says he’s there to support while am preparing for the toughest exam of my life, and then whenever I call for some support or guidance, the first thing he says is No. and Ouch that hurts a lot...and i feel lonely and all by myself then and dismayed and really loose my self pride. Thank you Dr. heres my comment
It says”the more confident you are, so is ur voice”, It reflects from ur voice, loud and clear. Please tips to improve this part as its major thing to improve confidence..
I have been watching your videos for a while and have a been very helpful to speak more empathetically with other people and myself. I hope you are well...
No worries, they are all online streaming videos. However, the Confidence Code is no longer available. It's not a part of my new flagship offering, Confidence University. You can check it out here: TheConfidenceUniversity.com
That program doesn't exist anymore. Check out my new flagship program at www.TheConfidenceUniversity.com It's more affordable and contains all of the same information, and more.
Hey you changed my life with three words. Performance vs. connection. I couldn’t articulate why and how to get rid of the thousand mirrors that followed me but I shattered them all using connection. You are the best! Thank you so much
Dr. Aziz, I've been a huge fan since your first book. Thank you for continuing to make new material. Super helpful. :)
Wow I don't know if I've ever used my own name in my self-talk but I just did and it brought me so into the moment. Wow! That's so practical but something I've never thought of before. That's so fucking cool!
The more i see this "Confidence Code" the more i want it. Take my money! XD
It's now included in my flagship program, Confidence University. Check it out here: www.TheConfidenceUniversity.com
Love your stuff. Please never stop making these or your podcast Shrink for the shy guy
I must put myself out there
Very wise video.
Thank you!
Wow just fantastic advice thanks Aziz.
Glad it was helpful!
Does keeping a journal of these types of incidents help in the same way?
In a broader sense, is there a benefit to keeping an honest journal? Are there things that should be included in the writing?
Daniel Kazmer there's always benefit to journaling! And there's no hard rules about doing it, just whatever works best for you.
Damn good and infornation wellpresented. Just watched few of your videos and understood a lot. Thank you and Bless you
Thank you! Keep watching. :)
@@GetMoreConfidence Will do. Whanted to say aswell i started your Not Nice programm and its amazing. I feel like u lived my life and understund me, at deep level. Good luck to you
Thank you!!!
thanks for sharing + you are Handsome :D
WHO WANTS FEEL PAIN WE RUN AWAY THE PAIN FRO ANY COST PLEASE IF YOU WANT TEACH US HELP US FIND ANOTHER WAY
I'm not sure what you're asking here.
Amazing!
Thanks!
I am in love with you
Thank you for sharing1
If i was someone better, I could have done better, If i was more knowledgeable, have more charisma and more xyz, It could have gone other way, whats the point, fuck it.
The point is always ongoing personal development and and an ever-increasing better and more fulfilling life!
@@GetMoreConfidence I guess so, what happens is you go do that and gradually improve but then there are others who have been doing that for longer. You set the goal and go to gym and pick up 40lb and gradually go to 55lb and you feel proud of progress then the dude comes stare you in the face and pick up 3 45lb and seek competition then what?
The answer is simple...stop comparing yourself to others. No matter who you are on this earth, there is ALWAYS someone better at something than you. Comparing yourself is fruitless. Concentrate on comparing yourself to YOU yesterday, last week, last year, etc. How are you improving on that scale?
@@GetMoreConfidence Always a novice or noob as I just leave whatever i start when I notice I'm far behind the competition.
@@hopelessthug Make this your mantra, "I am my only competition. No one else matters."
Yes, just talking about it really does have a therapeutic effect. Thanks for all that you do.
Thank you this definitely hits home with me as someone who is very rejection sensitive and I always come down harshly on myself when I fail . Putting forth greater effort is a big inside job when it comes to not beating up on yourself when things go wrong
this is not so easy why do you make this giving us FALSE HOPES one can not be free from fears like this THE FEAR WHEN PRESENT GIVE YOU NO TIME TO THINK OR TRY ANY TECH TO BE OUR OF IT YOU JUST FLIGHT OR FREEZE OR FIGHT YOU SAY OR DO THINGS THAT MAKE THINGS WORST AND YOU SUFFER MORE THEN THE SOLUTION HERE IS TO AVOID WHAT IS PAINFUL ANYWAY ANYCOST
My friend, there is always going to be discomfort with growth. It's not going to kill you or harm you, but it is something we all have to face. Everything you want out of life is just on the other side of discomfort.
I have a problem speaking up for myself and saying how I feel and saying what I really wanna say out of fear of judgment or caring about how others think rather than caring how I think and thinking about what others think or have to say when I really need to be thinking about what I wanna do and what I wanna say so it's kind of hard but I feel theses videos are helping me overcome my problems and regain confidence and control again I really want to express myself and hold conversations without worrying and talking to many women without fear or worries and hopping in conversations or groups who are talking about the things I like instead of holding back because of fear thankyou very much for these videos it makes me happy to see and feel a lil change
You're very welcome!
Can meditation help with confidence?
Hell yes it can. confidence is made of self esteem and social skills. meditation is an incredible way to raise self esteem and so your confidence. Learn to love yourself with meditation and it will revolutionize your confidence
Daniel Novis I've had painfully low self worth and self everything issues since I'm a child. It is multi factorial,meaning it could be environmental, or from poor academic performance, sibling rivalry, poor adult role models. Not easy to tackle it especially if it's all you know
i have been trying meditation for 2 weeks now, only 15-20mins per day and i have noticed a huge increase in my confidence. it made me go deeper into my mind to findout why i have always been a shy lil bitch and why im so afraid to speak up. Now i have identified those small issues thats holding me back and now i have been coming out of my comfort zone and being more confident having convos with random ppl.
Good video but I have a problem. I have been told over and over again that I am creepy or they are uncomfortable with me. I am so tired of hearing this that I have shut everything out now. I don't like going out anymore and I have become so hard on myself. So I have isolated myself from everyone and kept to myself. Yes I do feel ashamed and I sometimes blame my parents or higher power for being the way I am. I sometimes scream at myself and sometimes even hurt myself to the point where afterwards I even scare myself. Sorry about the rant but I understand what you are talking about . I keep watching your videos hoping to find the answer one day.
you are only as creepy as far as you buy into their opinion of you. so firstly screw those people that tell you you're creepy dude! they don't know you like you know you and your opinion is the only one that matters. love yourself for who you are, don't criticize yourself with the wasted breathe of morons. secondly, our social skills are purely a series of learned behaviours. LEARNED being the main word there. meaning, if you want to you can change how you come across. it's most likely just habits you've picked up, ITS NOT YOU AS A PERSON. let's say you maintain eye contact for too long, try and make a conscious effort to stare less. if you fail or don't do it perfectly at first then please please please show yourself some love and compassion and patience. just remember that YOU decide how you see yourself and no one else.
I don't know if you've seen Dr Aziz's talk on 'holding your reality' but I highly recommend it pal
Thank you for the kind words. Means alot to me. I do try and practice Dr. Aziz's principals but sometimes it just gets tiring when as hard as you try to change, others get in the way and crush you down. I have left most of my friends because of this so I am trying hard to find GOOD people to be with now.
I'd recommend working on yourself a bit first before looking at finding other people bud. From what you were saying there seems to be a lot of self esteem problems. Work on loving yourself before trying to make others love you and you'll find that 1) self-love is the purest and most sustainable love there is and 2) you'll find it a thousand times easier to hold your reality and laugh in the faces of people who put you down because you'll see how utterly insignificant their opinions of you are, and 3) you'll find good people are naturally drawn to you.
I know it gets tiring pal, I get that, but that's because you're practicing a new skill like playing piano or something. Take breaks, recoup and then get up and keep practicing and before you know it you'll find it easy and do it without even conscious thought. The best advice I was ever told was to be your own best friend and truly love yourself for the unique and mental oddity of the universe that you are
+Bernie Smatavicius Only a very cruel person tells someone that they're creepy and uncomfortable to be around. You are wise to find better people. I used to think that most people are kind and good but now I see that probably the majority are not. In the past few years I have had to let go of almost all of my so-called friends and family because they were being mean to me; I'm now starting over from scratch. So don't think you're odd to have problems with mean people--there are a lot of them and you are smart to get away from them, even if it means being alone a lot until you find better ones. Take care.
Thank you for the kind words
I didn't smash a girl at work who'm I love their personality, I feel like shit it was a risk I needed to take.
I'll refer back to a popular quote from hockey star Wayne Gretzky, "You miss 100% of the shots you never take."
Why do you say "THEIR" personality? HER personality! Also be careful about someone at work for many reasons: it may interfere with your duties, or her duties, or both; she may burn you with "harassment" claims either now or in the future; Other co-workers and customers or whatever may get upset and claim something against you or the two of you; she may be manipulating you; You or her may have to find another job fast even if both of you are into each other; She is a human with free-will and 50% right to choose relationship or not, and if you ignore her right to choose you know what that makes you? Your best chances are by socializing politely with her over time, get to know each other, respect her right to choose even if she chooses "wrong". Get to know her, she might be phony or not as good for you as you thought.
You helped me.Thanks.
Yes I have experienced this n it’s not ez to not be harsh on yourself when rejection happens. I get really harsh on myself that can impact my self steam.
bruh i thought the word 'tenacity' right before you said it. that was nuts haha
I am quite a tenacious sonuvagun, so that makes sense i guess :p
jake W it does! :)
Ms Ex Lexi 😁😁
Hi Dr Aziz, please focus on a plan to through the sports clubs
great video, & very helpfull... now practice, & apply is next...
I know how to do it just after I have a hard time analyzing it myself, idk it’s just WERID:(
Quite a common challenge. You're not alone.
This Dr. Completely rewired and reprogrammed my mindsets!😅...how idiot I was!. Now I know where all my stress was coming from since startet watching ur videos...God bless Dr Aziz.
That's so awesome to hear. Keep up the great work!
Man that was great, I am so related to it, that I almost cried. Seriously very good.
Awesome!
I LOVE THIS! ❤
I feel like my value and my worth is low could u give me some tips? I want my confidence to be high
That's what my whole channel is about. You'll find several hundred videos to help you here.
Thanks 🙂. Sometimes I tell my inner circle about the problems I have with my dating life they criticise me. The worst feeling ever.
Sounds like you need a better, more supportive inner circle.
Getting no from a friend who says he’s there to support while am preparing for the toughest exam of my life, and then whenever I call for some support or guidance, the first thing he says is No. and Ouch that hurts a lot...and i feel lonely and all by myself then and dismayed and really loose my self pride.
Thank you Dr. heres my comment
Yes, that sucks. It might be time to upgrade your friends.
It says”the more confident you are, so is ur voice”, It reflects from ur voice, loud and clear. Please tips to improve this part as its major thing to improve confidence..
It comes along with developing your overall confidence.
I have been watching your videos for a while and have a been very helpful to speak more empathetically with other people and myself. I hope you are well...
That's so awesome Edwin, thank you!
Or some other person could have nailed her.lol just kidding good topic though thank you
LOL You're welcome!
Is there a book or electronic version of the confidence code? I’m interested in checking it out but I don’t have a DVD player
No worries, they are all online streaming videos. However, the Confidence Code is no longer available. It's not a part of my new flagship offering, Confidence University. You can check it out here: TheConfidenceUniversity.com
😪 Iam 18, I don't have the money to pay for the confidence spiral
*code
That program doesn't exist anymore. Check out my new flagship program at www.TheConfidenceUniversity.com It's more affordable and contains all of the same information, and more.
I’m a virgin
As we all were at some point in our lives. Is this currently a positive or a negative for you?
Get More Confidence positive I don’t mind
Awesome then!
Hey you changed my life with three words. Performance vs. connection. I couldn’t articulate why and how to get rid of the thousand mirrors that followed me but I shattered them all using connection. You are the best! Thank you so much
Thanks for what you do, it's very helpful.
I'm so glad you're getting value from the information!
Loved it!!
Thank you!
I love how you explain yourself
Thanks!
You bet
Thank you veryy much for all you do
nice video thanks
Your channel is awesome 👏
Thank you so much 😀
I never thought of 2 now I am gonna be thinking of it thx a lot, jk.