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Pea you nailed it , iv'e been in the Philippines 10 years and all this still happens to me all the time ,I am 6 foot tall and a white American with blue eyes and i get called an americono all the time by strangers .
The 'cano tax. Oh, and btw, if you didn't fit in back home, not fitting in in the Philippines won't be a big deal. That's the nice thing about not fitting in. You can do it absolutely anywhere, which means you can do it everywhere.
@@TheFilipinaPea That is a pretty good mindset Not fitting in can be done everywhere although in a Christian Country that speaks and writes in English with Ms Pea as your guide I suspect one could fit in pretty well Hope life goes well for you this week Ms Pea.......
The blunt honesty and lack of blanket statements is so refreshing to hear. I didn't realize how much I've missed hearing somebody speak their mind honestly without being angry about it
Love my Filipina, met in our 20’s and married for 15years. Best thing that ever happened to me. Beautiful culture and beautiful people that are almost always the kindest people ever
How refreshing to hear someone speak the truth while still being polite. Me and my wife would really like to visit your country one day. Greetings from Texas, USA.
I’ve always enjoyed being the minority when traveling. I’ve not meant a warmer, kinder ethnic group than Filipino’s. Embrace the difference! Elegant today Pea!
@@TheFilipinaPea How well liked are Filipinos in other islands? I heard they fight each other and it is dangerous to them to ravel to rival islands, is this true?
I enjoy being in the Philippines. People are nice and polite, I try to always be kind and respectful. My wife says when I walk around the subdivision she says it’s like I’m running to be the mayor. I talk to everyone who wants to talk. Life is good in the province.
Lolol Mine tells me why am I letting another Filipina be nice to me and why am I shaking hands and saying hello to some LOL LOL then she says quit being an F boy. I just say I'm being nice that's all and polite
Why "less than flattering"? In the West we fool ourselves that we're all the same, but everybody knows it's a lie. Most people self-segregate, and the concept of integration is a total fallacy. (Genuine integration requires the death of your true self, ethnic roots, etc, in exchange with the adoption of a foreign culture. I find this both a cruel expectation, and completely unrealistic proposition.)
I've been to a few Southeast Asian countries on business and everything you said was spot on. Being a 6'3, 105kg white Aussie I tend to stand out; stooping under things and bumping into stuff. It's the few times I've ever discovered a world not built for me. People take photos and stop to look at me. They laugh a little when I try and order food by mangling their language. It's never been a negative experience. In fact it's kind of an honour. And you hit the nail on the head. On first meeting I get mistaken for American.
I’m a white American in a city of 1.1 million Malaysians. All of this is true and has been experienced. It’s an honor to be a foreigner. They want to touch you , take pictures with you , attempt English with you and almost always be friendly with you. My job is to assimilate into my family and respect all within their country. Learning Chinese and Malay has helped as they all respect that
I know there are many businesses run by Chinese Malaysians rather than Malay but why learn Mandarin. It is much more used that it was? The Chinese invasion is much bigger in Malaysia than it was say 20 years ago?
@@Rdkng07 Not really. I've seen plenty of channels of Black Americans traveling in different countries and they are not welcomed very much. There are many places, including Philippines where the desired skin color is a lighter, whiter pigmentation. It may not be everyone's experience and some places may be more open then others but no matter where you go its a good idea to go fully aware of all situations you may need to prepare for.
When I lived in Italy, I was known as "The American" in our little town. When I visit Latin America, I'm a Gringo. In Thailand we're farangs. I have zero problems being called foreigner in The P.I. because it's true- I am not from there, I am foreign. If people get upset about those kinds of things, I'd guess they haven't faced much hardship in their lives, because there's so many worse things that can happen to you than someone pointing out that you're different in some way. At 6'2 and 260lbs (120 kg), I have zero chance of "blending in" wherever I travel in Asia, so why try to pretend? Describe me how ya want... it doesn't change the reality of who I am.
@@canardeur8390Presumably, he was called 'the American' simply because that's what he is. Here in Portugal, I've always been referred to as, 'the English'. Been here over 20 years. All my friends and neighbours are Portuguese. They all know my name and use it in conversation with me, but refer to me as the English when referring to me. No problem. I am and always will be English.
I don’t understand why the term “foreigner” would be offensive? That’s basic logic. I visit the Philippines, I’m the foreigner. I guess the truth is offensive?! Odd. Call me American, foreigner, interloper, I’m easy either way 😅.
From a culture of political correctness, every word becomes offensive. Filipinos also describe people by race, sexual orientation(ie. gay, lesbian, tomboy), fat, old... which would seem offensive to some very westernized people too. It feels funny to be next to a filipino who freely says stuff that could get me scolded or fired for saying the same.
Using explicit, factual adjectives to describe someone is so much better than when a Filipino tries to use pronouns. With that the 4 or 5 people in the story all shift back and forth from being male and female, and after initial introduction to the story, their names are never used again to distinguish them.
I love your honest, straight forward, no BS way of explaining this. People need to get over their interpretation of words and the nuances of their meanings. A word like foreigner may be offensive to SOME people in West, but not everyone who uses the word means it as an insult. Also, most people in the West lump together Asians. They couldn't tell the difference between a Filipino, Chinese, Japanese, or Korean person and really don't care enough to learn. So don't get pissed when they can't tell the difference between an American, Canadian, or Australian (and don't care to either).
As someone who has been overseas in Southwest Asia as a Naval Veteran during "the no-fly zone," this video really hits home. When I taught English in Korea, I was "looked out" for because I had American English to teach their kids, and it was a very profitable business during the early 2000's. Once one of the local blue-collar workers saw how well I was treated, my eyes got opened pretty quickly to the "underpinnings" of my worth. Now, after many years of not travelling, I am heading to meet my Filipina GF. I know already what to expect when I get there from the many previous years of "cultural adaptations," so I know I just need to be true to myself and enjoy the attention I receive. Great job again Pea as always!
Understanding the "underpinnings" of your worth was pure gold. Every man must understand the underpinnings of his worth in EVERY situation when dealing with Asians. "You can always replace your husband, but not your family". This statement exemplifies worth as a foreigner. There is no such thing as "multiculturalism" in every culture beyond the West. Don't be fooled.
Just wanted to say, “thank you” for your valuable insight and intellect. I’ve been researching my visit before coming and you have been very helpful. Keep up the great work!
I hope you remember me, miss Pea, I am an Aussie, I was chatting with you, way back when you first had this channel, you are very informative, I am blown away how much you know about us and our interaction with your people . Now that I have lived full time in the Philippines for 12 years, I find myself knowing most of what you say, after dating so many Filipina here. No matter how we are looked at, or what the culture differences are, all that matters to me is how I am treated and everyone is so nice, it’s not a honeymoon period, even after 12 years I am still treated exactly the same. The people here are so welcoming to us foreigners. I am always accepted in anyone’s home as if we have known each other for years. No need to worry that we will never be accepted as a local, because we are treated so well anyway.
Very fortunate to be a Filipino American. I can play both cards culturally, I don’t attract attention, I can blend in any environment and I can own land and a business without marrying a Filipina.
Same I move to the US at age 8 . I still understand Tagalog and Bicol when I go home my relatives from the province and in Manila treat me as a family member not as a foreigner and if I want too I can also buy land plus my parents still have land in the province and Will transfer to me being the eldest and I will sell it once they pass away. Extra income that I’ll put in the Philippine bank once I retire in Makati in a few years. I blend until I open my mouth need to practice d and practice my Tagalog and Bicol so I can totally blend in completely.
I was treated very well by the Philippine people in Cebu . I was there a month, and was treated very well , and respected by everyone. I loved my time there. I cannot wait to see more of the Philippines and the less populated areas
I'm an American of Mexican descent that has lived over two years with my Filipina wife in the Philippines. I work full-time at a Filipino company in a good position. My wife's family lives in the province and I lived there with her the first year after moving here. What i saw in the province was wow this foreigner is pogi, but after awhile they were just happy to jam with me, my wife, and her family. In Manila I was treated just as another with limited Tagalog. But my co-workers and wife's family see me as their own. I think you have to carry yourself to embrace Filipino culture and try to integrate. After all you are here so respect society here.
@@JosephMarquez-pj9dp Sorry, I know many Mexicans from Mexico. They are not similar. Last time I checked, most Mexican men who come to the USA work for a living and support their families. The oldest daughters are not required to bring in the cash and support the rest of her parents family. Never seen a Mexican begging everywhere I went in the USA. Calling me, "Joe" is mocking us White Americans in the Philippines. Even the Fillipino men are beggars and will bother you for cash or to buy them something. The Mexicans of Asia is nonsense. Try eating a Taco and it is crap.
I enjoy your perspective and humor. My significant other is Filipina, but was adopted and has lived in the USA since a young child, but a lot of this still rings true.
I am thinking about going to the PHs for 3 months. Please tell me about the racism, I would appreciate it. Especially in the area of dining out and also dating.
I remember that the guards on the subdivision where I live in Mindanao thought I was an American ex-serviceman. I'm Aussie, but it didn't bother me. Pretty soon I got used to being called "sir", which rarely ever happens in Australia. Since I'm married to a Filipina grandmother who is a Higaonon baylan, I have learned to accept and follow her culture. I can think and speak in Bisaya (and sing in Bisaya and Tagalog as well as a few other Filipino languages such as Kapampangan, Ilokano, Hiligaynon, Tausug and Sama Bajao). My wife has taught me some of her tribal language, Higaonon Binukid. I speak in Bisaya and Higaonon Binukid at our local tindahan, because the mother of the family there is Higaonon, and the family there is related to my wife's late father's family. I don't feel like an outsider here, and I even had a case back in the pandemic when a health worker giving me a booster vaccination asked where I came from. I told her I'm Australian. She said "Oh, I don't hear that accent". That said, I have had a few people look at me in a way that didn't exactly make me feel like they appreciated my presence. Of course, that's understandable. It can happen anywhere. Thanks again for an entertaining video, Miss Pea.
I've lived in The Philippines and Thailand; The Thais call us "farang:. As a Westerner in Asia, I feel I'm tolerated more than accepted. A Filipino can become a USA citizen and accepted as an "American"; however, most Americans will never be a citizen of the Philippines or truly accepted as a Filipino.
Because you’re not Filipino. Farang or Laowai, Gaijin are offensive to me. Rather a friendly hey Joe over those aforementioned names. Filipino far more outgoing and friendly.
Hi Pea, I stumbled upon this page and I'm glad that I did. Actually, I went ahead and checked out a few of your videos. Nice. But, I especially found this one to be VERY informative and very well done. I definitely learned something. And since I'm a guy, yes, you look very nice too. 🥰 You're putting out some really good stuff for us to see. Keep On, Keeping On!! 😊
You are correct, it is kind of a compliment. Not an insult. Last week at a food park. The family mentioned they had never been out to eat before. They are coming back tomorrow for his wife's Birthday. It is a great pleasure to treat them like family. Because they make me feel like family.
I am an American Indian. While in the Marines at subic bay I was able to blend into crowd. I met some truly great people and was treated as an honored guest. I am the third generation of my family to serve in the military and to go to the Philippines. Me, my uncle and grandpa all have had the same experience of meeting and getting to know philippine people.
A guy I was in the Navy with mariied a Filipina. After he retired they decided to move to the PI. That didn't last long. My bud and his wife both decided it wasn't worth being the family ATM. They moved back to the USA and are happier for it. Pretty sure they also distanced themselves from the PI family or they would have been in the poorhouse. And it's not just in the PI. I remember seeing a documentary about a woman who was the child of a Vietnamese woman and a US soldier. She grew up in the US and when in her twenties, she finally tracked down her Vietnamese family. She had a wonderful reunion with her mother and her half brothers. Wonderful until the mother asked her when she was going to start sending her money and how much it should be. The film makers captured that exact moment and the look on the daughter's face immediately showed how crushed she was. The mother just couldn't understand why she felt that way. Just remember that when you marry into an Asian family, a lot of times you are marrying the entire family.
There doesn't even have to be a foreigner involved. My friend's mom came to the U.S. from Cambodia in the 80's. She met and married a fellow Cambodian immigrant. Recently she sent $10k she'd saved up to her family back in Cambodia to build a house for her to retire to there. Later she discovered her family had partied it up with the money and now it's all gone with no new house in sight
Agree 100 percent and it took me almost marrying one to find that out. I was also in the Navy and you are warned about this before you ever go there. I was stationed in Guam and we visited P.I. every weekend. Lots of guys fell in love and some married and had great wives and others not so much. I never married one but there were times when I wish I had but not anymore. I got lucky and found a great woman stateside.
right and no matter what you station in life, if you are a American you will always be rich. because if youre not worried about what or if you will eat today you are rich and always will be to them
I cut off contract with a woman who was trying to get money from me, when she realized I was gonna replace her she took my boundaries serious. You don’t have to marry the whole family. You’re still a big catch, that’s what most don’t understand.
Also be aware that when a Filipino asks you if they can "borrow" something they don't return it unless you hound them constantly that you want it back....and if its money they have "borrowed" you can certainly kiss that good bye. I've learned the hard way....
@@neildillon837: You are 100% correct! I lived in the Philippines for six years, and experienced this over and over and over, and never seemed to learn for the first two years I was there. Filipinos would promise that they were going to repay me, beg until they were blue in the face, cry, and tell that they were not like other Filipinos, but never repay. It’s a cultural thing. There is simply no obligation to repay a loan in the Philippines, and to ask for repayment is considered to be shameful, so no Filipino does so. It’s all tied up with the shame associated with being cheap. To be called cheap is a huge insult in the Philippines, and what better proof of being cheap than to ask for the return of a loan or to save money? So, you may wonder why Filipinos lend money since they know that it will never be repaid? It’s for the tremendous prestige and one-up-man’s-ship gained by it! In Filipino eyes, if I lend you money, this not only proves that I actually have money, but makes me better than up, and of a higher social class than you. Filipinos are extremely vain, and love nothing better than to brag.
@@joelbattiston1139 : No offense, but if you knew the Philippine culture you would not be sending your girlfriend money, and you definitely would not be thinking of marrying her, because nothing is as it seems in the Philippines - nothing, not the girl, not the people, nothing that you see, observe, or hear. I know that it is impossible for you to believe this, but I would beg you to do some investigation among Aussie guys who have married Filipinas. Your time would repay you a thousand times over.
@@majorronaldmandell7835 - the Philippines has a poverty mindset and until you spend a lot of time there you won't understand it. Clearly you do and your advice is spot on. As you said, nothing is as it seems and until you've spent time there, you don't realize that.
I speak Tagalog pretty much fluently but there is no way my accent will ever disappear. I felt like I belonged when we lived in Philippines. I love it and miss it. I used to do everything with my brother in law’s and everyone in the family except a select few treated me like I was part of the family. The community treated me like I was part of them. It’s because I did everything they did. If they were going fishing I was right beside them. I would go to the forest and get food when we needed with my brother in laws. The only ones that would make fun of the way I spoke were people who didn’t know me. Just like Filipinos have an accent in English, I will always have a Kano accent when I speak Tagalog. So will Filipinos except you for who you are? yes! I felt so much part of the community and they treated me so that I didn’t look at them as Filipino but as brothers and sisters. I learned to be part of the community. That’s what Americans lack here in the United States is learning how to live as one. My brothers were over there and never received the same treatment I got because they couldn’t learn to become part of the community.
You experienced the effects of "Coca-colonization", in a country that was a $20M- paid-for spoil of war then brutally conquered, yet later embraced the conqueror's supposedly benevolence. This country's history has been unique -- three imperialistic conquerors and a present third-world republic. Of the three conquerors, one still smells good, and natives long - by hook or crook - to live in that conqueror's homeland. The republic sucks.
Yeah, I think I'd be good being considered a foreigner. I can't fish or hunt as I've never done either in my 42 years on Earth. I COULD learn to fish even though I rarely eat fish because I have a fear of swallowing a bone and it getting caught in my throat. I couldn't hunt though because I could neither kill nor skin an animal. No I'm not a vegetarian or vegan, I just couldn't do it. If it's a choice between hunting for meat or foraging fruits/vegetables, I'll forage any day. As far as other things they may do, I might be down with it.
Well said. My favorite thing about the Philippines is also the hardest to vocalize -- it's like time traveling to when my grandparents were young, before the US became nothing but a series of fenced off suburban homes and strip malls. It's a vibrant community. And if you embrace it and make yourself part of that community, they will embrace you back. But it is a two way street. You must fulfil your part in the bargain too.
Love It 😂 Canadian here Pea and I've experienced at least 90% of what you discussed but have never once been offended. My future sister-in-law once referred to me as Americano and I corrected her saying ‘I’m not American, I’m Canadian’ She asked ‘What’s the difference’ then I asked ‘What’s the difference between Filipinos and Japanese?’ she got it! In the neighbourhood I’m referred to as my Filipina’s ‘Asawa Kano’ … I’m OK with this. Great Video, thanks for sharing!
@TheFilipinaPea as a Canadian, it's kinda offencive to be called American. We love and respect our US neighbors but Canadians are usually nicer people. Better educated, too, per capita. Lol... I know somebody is going to have a problem with my statements. Bring on the debate!
@@frozenpann I as an American married a Canadian, and this is such delusional BS! Every Canada Day you guys spend asking yourselves 'What does it mean to be Canadian?' The ONLY answer you all agree on is: You arent American! LMAO You guys are the little kid brother that no one takes seriously! I love ya Canada, had some great times, met some great people, would pick up a rifle and surely defend you, but y'all think a bit too highly of yourselves! ha ha ha (BTW, i can trace my ancestors back to Canada, before they left for a BETTER life in the States. I have a natural affinity for Canada because of this also!)
@@frozenpann So, the only difference you can state is a national stereotype? Canada is culturally American and tightly knit into the American sphere of influence. You might use km, over-regulate private industry, and have a parliamentary style government, but you are still culturally American.
I’m an American who has lived and worked and wandered overseas for 24 of my adult years. Almost everywhere I go I am immediately treated as a celebrity and honored guest BECAUSE I am an American/Foreigner. People want to know where I’m from, they invite me into their homes, feed me, introduce me to the available women they know (😁), and fight over who will carry my suitcase to the bus stop when I leave. Back in the States no one pays attention to me. I want to yell, “Hey, everybody, I’m here! Why aren’t you all over me caressing me physically and emotionally?” In other words, I am the last person who will ever take offense at being treated differently. Long live my “foreigner” status! 😄
You beat me to it my man I love all the attention I love to ham it up sometimes being taller and more muscular build show them I can out drink them get loud pick out the big guy and scare him to kick his ass then tip everyone more money than they make in a week they love the crap out of me and it's not really a lot of money 😂😂😂
Hi Pea! I really like how I'm treated when in the Philippines. I even got used to catching people staring at me because I understand I'm a foreigner. It's always a polite curiosity. Great video once again. 🎉
What a treat to hear an honest discussion of cultural differences and still be pleasantly speaking. I was in Manila on r&r from Vietnam in 1967. Beautiful country and people.
At 6' 205 lbs, I'm taller and heavier than 99 percent of the Filipinos/Filipinas. And I have been to the Philippines twice and you are right. I had filipinas and kids always wanting to take pics with me. Also EVERYONE was very warm and accepting.
No romance or family connection with the Philippines. Just a modest anecdote: I’m a non-Anglosaxon European and happened some day to be in a Luzon village pretty far from Manila with some Filipino friends from Quezon City. As we walked down a street, a little boy from the local community started waving at us and, when he spotted me, he started shouting « American, American! ». It was the first time he ever saw a White in flesh and blood and he was obviously convinced that all Whites were Americans. It hardly came as a surprise to me but my Filipino friends and I were amused and we had an improvised football (soccer) match with the little boy. It made my day and I’m sure it also made his.
@@yagi3925: Yes! I’m an American. During the years I lived in the Philippines, I was asked numerous times what part of America Australia, Germany and other countries were located. One thing I learned over there was never to mention that my ancestors came from Ireland, or any other country because they would then lose respect for you, spread rumors that you were not a “real” American, and that you were a liar. Another thing to never ever mention is that you are divorced. You may be asked this question every single day by the same people for years, always swearing that you can trust them to keep it a strict secret, but if you tell them (any secret), they will immediately tell everyone they know. If you ask them why they ratted on you, they will ask you what made you think that they would not tell. When you reply that the reason was that they had swore to you dozens of times that they would never tell, they will ask you again, what made you think that they would not tell. When you tell them the reason again, they will ask you again what made you think that they would not rat on you. . . This can go on all day. If you live there long enough you will learn that in the Filipino culture there is no requirement to tell the truth, and it is not expected. Pure and simple. You will also learn many other things about the culture. Because of their culture, they do not think anything like us. For instance, there is no tomorrow for them, or a yesterday - just today. Therefore they do not plan ahead, nor do they save, or safe guard important documents. . . You will learn that right and wrong are subjective, not objective as in the West. You will learn that there is no obligation to repay loans in the Philippines, and that it is shameful to ask for repayment of a loan. You will learn that there is no obligation in the culture to tell the truth - none whatsoever. You will learn that this is only the barest tip of the iceberg, and if you learn the culture well enough you will learn that their culture is so far apart from ours that it is almost impossible to find anything that you agree on if married. You will learn that you can ever change or teach a Filipina. They know what they know, and that’s it. For instance, they will never learn to save money, no matter if you explain the value of doing for the next 30 years, and show they examples. I know all of this, I tied for over 30 years, as have those few of my American friends who remained married long enough to their Filipina wives. Remember, Filipinos do not have to keep any promise. There is no obligation. There is no shame in it. They are entirely pragmatic. Regardless of what they say, or promise, they will always do what is best for themselves at the moment, most especially leaving you in a heart beat for someone younger, more handsome, with s’more prestigious or higher paying job. . .
Filipinos are the 4th largest immigration group to Australia. It is illegal to discriminate against people on the grounds of race or nationality. Philippines have laws against immigrants, this makes them a provincial society inter alia.
If you are not from the country, we are foreigners. Foreigners seem to be welcomed in the Philippines. I look forward to my visit soon and explore where I wish to retire to.
I just want reciprocity and fairness. If Kano cannot own land in the PI, then OFWs in the USA shouldn't either. If Kano cannot talk trash about Filipinos, or the Filipino gov, without risking getting deported--then the same should go for OFWs in the USA.
Huge difference between living here and just visiting. True, at best, we are just 'second-hand' residents (or paying guests with less privileges, if you like). Also, make sure you NEVER run out of money, nor get get cut off from accessing it.
@@tomr9661 The land ownership laws are ‘racist’? And just what ‘race’ are they against, since they mostly affect the Chinese. Maybe you think it’s an ‘anti-Asian’ law? 😆 I think you need to look up the definition of the word racist 🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea I think YOU really need to study the laws of your own country, don't act ignorant. if you do not have Filipino blood, you cannot own land, period, it's called racism everywhere else but not in PH. Discrimination against land ownership or anything else based on race is called racism. YOU look it up.
Fun fact pea, I live in Appalachia, and I've watched several of your videos up to this point. And I've noticed a lot of the ways that y'all was raised, is very similar to how we were raised, considering this is one of the poorest parts of the country.
Fun fact: Appalachia is FILLED with WHYTE people, not people of color! And they are STILL poor! Many people of color like to pretend that only they can be poor because whyte people conspire to keep them that way. NOPE, rich elites conspire to keep ALL of us that way, regardless of skin tone. Surprise, surprise, surprise!
glad I found your channel, trying to navigate the pluses and minuses about life in the PI. I’ve travelled a lot and experienced many cultures, really trying to see everyone as people just like me and not attach labels. thanks for your honesty, looking forward to watching more videos
Very smart new logo, very professional! Being a “foreigner” is a full-time job then? 😅 I was a farang in Thailand and locals asked me to pose for pictures with them in Bangladesh, when children were touching my arm to see if I was real and alive. Nothing new under the Sun Pea! What I mean is that I don’t see why people could object or dislike being called “a foreigner” ! This is exactly what we are! 😂Always a pleasure anyway dear Pea 🥰😘❤️
American-Filipino hybrids are God awful cute. My sisters married Americans both black and white and believe me, their children are the most beautiful human beings you will ever see but that's not the only bonus, a majority of them are smart... as in resourceful smart. If you seen how Filipinos do things, they can make something out of nothing.
I generally love Filipinos, and my wife is a Filipina, and we live in the US now. Amazed, how they will ask you anything; your age, your weight in Kg., whether you are hairy, etc. Since I married my wife, her mother (father died) is not treated well by my wife's extended family (aunts and uncles). They are jealous and they think that her mother has hit the jackpot. Emotions like that are very troubling for me.
Here I'm always called Sir, they hardly look in my bag almost like I'm beyond anything petty, and I never worry when eating out as to who handles my food. I like that.
If someone gets offended by this, they should not go there to visit. Being called a foreigner is not offensive it's a fact. People are too sensitive nowadays.
Hey Pea, every time you sound like you say the Filipina " bee " here, I luv Ur channel! As I've mentioned many times to you, like your style and you always impress me as you appear exceptionally wise beyond your years ....... your message here is not much different many other cultures, its same with my culture American Indian .......... all the best Pea !
It's roughly what I would expect. Personally, I appreciate the honesty. All I would ask is that if i'm friendly to them, they'll be friendly to me. This attitude doesn't even always work out in the western world either though. To me, it's all about intent, if "foreigner" isn't said with disdain, I don't care in the slightest, because as you say, it's really just descriptive and accurate. As long as they don't mind if I respond by saying they're the ones with the accent :P and once i get to know everyone, what does it matter to me if they use "foreigner" to describe me to their other friends when I become relevant, so long as they aren't saying nasty things?
I am a Brit and often get asked if I am Australian or American, I come back with a smile and ask the asker if they are Chinese which always gets a giggle.
The Filipino public's awareness of "white people" having different nationalities besides just American is starting to catch up now with reality! Interestingly, most "Western" faces I see nowadays in real life tend to be Europeans now instead of Americans; and most US citizens I personally come across here these days tend to be Fil-Ams (whether by naturalization or because of their parentage)! 🤣🤣🤣
The preconceptions of some ignorant Brits of Filipinos are quite rude. Seen as 3rd world or passively poor. Those who travel or have a broader outlook see Filipinos as proud, loving, friendly, strong, and hard working. It's why we love you guys. Don't ever change to fit in. Let the rest of the world catch up to you.
@@nondompom Well having made my home here for 11 years and knowing I will never return to the UK I guess my outlook is broad enough. I feel a freedom here that in the West seems to be dying and the willingness to laugh and have fun is infectious. Moving to the Philippines was the smartest choice I have ever made.
This is the most accuracy description of how foreigners are perceived in the Philippines. Being a foreigner who has visited the Philippines 3 times, this all happened to me
This is in reference to being called foreigner and why it can feel racist but it isnt. I work at a place that's 90% black people. Some who don't know my name refer to me as "white boy". It started to bother me at some point but I thought about it, and in conversation if they said "that white boy" and they were referring to me, they said that cause they wanted the person to know who she is talking and that for better or worse is the best identifier. They don't hate me (some might). They don't hate white people (some though do). 99% of time, "white boy" is about accuracy of the fact, not as a derogatory thing. I found myself backspacing "black" to "African american" in this message and realized just how people assuming words are racist are ingrained deep. People are racist, not words. Context and intent means something and without it equals about nothing. if you can't imagine a white person calling a black person black with no disdain behind it, you probably are racist. People are black sometimes. It's ok. Sometimes it's even great. Sometimes not. The color doesn't matter though
@@legatomodi3522 If you called them black boy you would be fired and hated for such racism. Go ahead and try it. Say black boy come here. When you Id someone by the color of their skin you are reducing them as a person. What do you think slavers did to slaves?
@@carmelopappalardo8477Racist or not. It is how it is and its normal behavior in all counties mostly not in a bad way.. Come over or complain but you can't change it.
@carmelopappalardo8477 i dont think they mean I'm a slave when they say boy though. Its not very offensive in that sense. You're right in that I cant say that to a black person without immediate sometimes violent consequences, but i don't want to say that to a black person anyways. Here's something I learned in my years; people who accuse you of being racist will accuse you of being racist eventually no matter how hard you try not to be. Theres dumb people out there that think every unpleasant or rude white person to them is acting out of racial hate. Any disagreement or perceived slight is because white people hate black people. Thats not cool, but you can't fix those people. Most black people aren't like that, at least i don't think most of them are.ti noticed in so many examples of paranoid schizophrenic people race is an issue in alot of them. White people black people it don't matter. When the brain degrades to that level you think everyone's out to get you for any difference from yourself. So I think the conclusion is, racism is a human disease that afflicts the mentally ill of all colors. Theres no reason for black and white people to fight. This is both of our country we both belong here and we ain't going nowhere so it's important to try to get along with folks instead of degenerating into hate
I’m an American. One day I was traveling with my Filipina girlfriend in the Philippines when we ran into another American who according to my wife spoke perfect Tagalog. As soon as were alone she commented to me, “As soon as I saw how well he spoke Tagalog, I lost all respect for him,”. Digest this for a moment. It is another example of the colonial mentality so prevalent in the Philippines.
It shows a saying I heard once regarding Filipinos. That being " No matter what you do, you will never be fully accepted nor be fully accepted as part of the family by Filipinos."
@@samuelschick8813 Well of course not! This is human nature. Not even just humans but most other living beings. Would we expect a group of cats to accept a bunny rabbit as part of their cat family?
@ChineduOpara , Lot of mental gymnastics in your comment. Reason being there are several cases that debunk your animal claim. But just as well not to get close to or make friends with Filipinos, the most dishonest, immoral, undisciplined and corrupt people I have ever ran into.
As a native-born American who has lived in Davao City off an on for 30 years, I love it when all the kids in the area tell the Scotsman across the street he is the American man from England. He assumes this is my doing, it isn't, it is the Dutchman and the German who keeps encouraging them. I do encourage that pair. As someone who speaks Bisaya, Ilocano, and passable Taglog I can confirm everyone I deal with regularly in Davoa expects it out of me. Of course, when I am back in Seattle and start talking to some old lola or tita at the Asian grocery store they are not just amazed, but instantly trying to set me up with some young and no doubt pretty relative who is still back in the Philippines. They always seem disappointed when I tell them I am happily married. My trips out into the provinces are also often like you say as well. Even in towns with 100k people I meet people who have never seen a foreigner, in person. We just aren't that common in Mindanao, even in places like Tagum with 300k or GenSan with 700k. While young women are a lot more touchy feely than most American men will be comfortable with, they are not the ones that I should warn guys about. I remember going to a wedding in rural Agusan Del Sur and my MIL taking me around and introducing me, when one 80+ year old lola actually grabbed my package and started smiling at my wife, who also did her part to thoroughly embarrass me by making outrageously sized approximations with her hands. The prized stallion effect is certainly real too. It was one thing before we had kids she and her cousins would joke about sharing me since there weren't enough foreigners to go around. Now, that we have a blue-eyed, pale skin almost four-year-old daughter with a somewhat pointy nose I am almost scared when they suggest such things and remind them that too much excitement might give me a heart attack. The fact that she and I have a blue eyed daughter also goes a long way to boosting the family claim of descending from Spanish blood. To wrap it up because we look different we will always be foreign, but as I regularly prove when I sit down with the local tricycle drivers and we go through several bags of balut and buckets of Red Horse, it is possible to be seen as a local, too.
Leaving my country of birth at 4yo, I’ve always been a foreigner, but being accused of coming from the U/S, which accounts for only 4% of the global population, is hard to accept. 😵💫
@@TheStygianKing I'm in the dark concerning the navigation over the Styx. Will one of you tell me, so that I too can tell you, so that we both shall know? The Norse one-eyed ruler was "Odin" y-clept. His other "one-eyed-one was not a monk! Wink and it will seem to be obscure. Wink, wank, wonk. LOL.
@@waltthomas-s2d In shadows deep where secrets lie, The Stygian truths whisper to the sky. Not just Odin with his sight so keen, Across the myths, the all-seeing are seen. From the Greek shores where Styx flows, To Odin's watch, where the ravens crows, The eyes that see, the hearts that feel, Uncover the layers for the world to reveal.
I love how you explain things here straight on, almost like you have some Dutch heritage (just joking, you are much too nice for that :)). Keep going with these videos, I really enjoy them and looking at the comments, so do a lot of others. When living in Malaysia, driving a Malaysian car, I always noticed foreigners get waved through, including me. It thought that was funny. I do think the only exception was the Singaporean cars, they did get stopped (mostly for speeding) and Malaysian cars didn't, including the ones with foreigners in it (ask me how I know :)). I'm always aware that I am a foreigner when I'm travelling outside the Netherlands. Even living in Aotearoa / NZ for almost 10 years, I still feel a foreigner!
@@TheFilipinaPea BTW, I think of you as one smart/motivated person making a difference in peoples' lives...regardless of your race, sex, age, etc...another naked truth dear INFJ
@@nk863we are just “dirty white boys”, who don’t play “head games”. The Filipinas can be “cold as ice” (tampo), give us a “blue morning blue day” but they are “hot blooded”. And, face it, we are here,,, “waiting for a girl like you” (them), even tho we are a “long long way from home”. A good Filipina will have you thinking, “it feels like first time”, they are “urgent”, a real “head knocker”. If you can say, “I want to know what love is”, find a good Filipina, she’ll give you “double vision”. Don’t cheat on her, “juke box hero”. Or, “the damage is done”.
I have been watching your presentations for about a year, with great appreciation for your honesty and your candidness. So, may I congratulate you on the sincerity of your objectivity concerning the obvious concerns which a “foreigner” may have should one be seriously thinking about uprooting themselves and attempting to integrate into another culture, particularly one as seemingly dramatically different from their own. I am an African-American of an advanced age. And I can definitely relate to many of the points you made throughout this presentation, because I have encountered those same experiences right here in my own country. I have been made to feel like someone who doesn’t belong, even as a child growing up in America. And there was a period in my life when I seriously considered removing myself from this environment, as many other African-American men have done, (most of whom expatriated to Europe). However, after watching your presentations, I have arrived at the conclusion that living in your society wouldn’t be appropriate for someone, with my background and life experiences, like me. I have no desire to forever be considered a foreigner in a foreign land. That said, it may well be a golden opportunity for some.
Hi Pea, I had some of these same questions. I noticed that the Chinese tourists are looked up to by the Filipinos, and it appeares that the Chinese consider themselves to be the elite of the Asian race. Or at least, that’s the way it appears to me. I asked my Filipina spouse if my perception was accurate. She confirmed that my observation was correct. I asked why the Filipinos cater to their aloof attitudes. She said that the Chinese own a large portion of the hotels and restaurants. It was my understanding that “Foreigners” ( are the Chinese not foreigners ) couldn’t work or own businesses in the Philippines. Or at least, not on a Tourist Visa. I’m learning that the Chinese have intermarried with the Philippine citizens and have established themselves as the dominate citizens in the Philippines. I’m not sure about this but, there is also some status associated with having a two letter last name? It just really ticks me off, to see the Chinese Coast Guard intimidating the Philippine Coast Guard, and encroaching upon the Philippine sovereignty in the South China Sea, yet they are welcomed here in Cebu with open arms :(
Upto 40% of Fiilipinos have some Chinese ancestry Chinese traders were their before the Spanish arrived 500 years ago so its part of them not just a current thing
Difference local Chinese blended into d Filipino local cultures,norms ,habits etc over a long period could b decades but Mainland Chinese who came to d Philippines include those economic opportunists,money launders/gamblers,and those criminals wanted in their own country @fugitives and those crooks who sneaked into Philippines,took advantage of d "lighter law"(as compared to China)to engage in drugs snuggling and manufacturing knowing d laxity of local long wide coastline and can easily bribe those in authority (in Philippines)
You might want to investigate that a little more. In most of SE Asia, the business communities are dominated by ethnic Chinese. (I'm married to one). They are not necessarily connected to the PRC. On the other hand, pre pandemic, there were many PRC Chinese owned resorts in Thailand too, and they tried to buy up the whole supply chain to maximize income. The Philippines CG are quite right to respond robustly to PRC incursions on their sovereignty. No one respects a weakling and Western "reasonableness" is often seen as weak by the rest of the world.
I prefer being an outsider, and I have come to terms with the fact that I will always be one, and I am content with that. I appreciate the way I am treated as a foreigner in the Philippines, but this is merely my personal perspective ✌🏿
I appreciate your transparency of truth and the many facts and reminders. The tribe piece is very profound and many may not be able to understand this. Thank you again and I wish joy peace and blessings to you your family and what you continue to do! Grateful,
Understand the American thing...married to a Filipino, every time we visit the Islands....I'm American, even though I'm British, and this is from relatives! From strangers in the market..."hello Joe", left right and centre. Tiny Vehicles, yup me climbing in, is like a clown into one of those clown cars...prices..oh yes. As for fitting in, yes, I am the "family foreigner". Damn Pea, right on the head
I've been there many times wonderfull country warm and helpfull people ...I met a beautiful lady got married.she came to live with me in UK and that was 23years ago..next year we will move out there to live ...
My Filipina wife’s mother has always accepted me even when we first met in 1991! She would even refuse to cook for her daughter unless I was invited to eat!! When my wife passed away last year her family still excepts me as part of the family!! I will be going back to visit sometime soon! Your videos give me more insight on my in-laws what they might be thinking!I really love the ending of your video today! Pea you continue to get more and more beautiful with every episode!! Thank you for what you do!! Take care!!!
The thought of going somewhere and everybody knowing my name blows my mind I'm sure at first it would be quite the experience that guy Joe must have had quite the experience😂😅😂 on another note I really appreciate your willingness to be upfront and honest I believe you are being very sincere and speaking from your heart which means a lot and shows your character quite well you must have had a very good upbringing I can only pray that my children who are about your age have friends as well-adjusted As You Are❤😊❤
I'm half White/Filipino. Almost everything she says here I've experience it when i was there in philly. They never suspect im also a filipino because most of my white features are shown but overall they were friendly and welcoming, especially my filipino relatives.
@@CustomMuscleCarAccessories : Yeah! I had a friend in high school who was half white American, and half Filipino. None of us ever suspected that he was half Filipino. Thirty years after graduation from high school I went to visit this guy, and brought my Filipina girlfriend with me. She immediately recognized him as being half Filipino! Wow!
when i went to china 20 years ago, as i was walking around i saw a local staring at me as he was walking & then he walked right into a pole I'm sure it happens all the time when people see a girl a pretty as pea.
On my first trip an elderly gentleman on a bicycle swivelled his head to stare at me as he rode past through the roadworks, I expected something similar 😮
Pea, this vid has brightened my day, thank you, an being called the "foreigner" to me is far from being offensive, oh an you are beautiful inside an out
I was In China for five months as a college student, in the interior of the country. As a 6’4 white guy, literally everyone was staring at me. I got it. Never bothered me.
I was the first foreigner in many Chinese towns I visited, the whole street stopped to stare, then someone would address me in English! 😅 Except when I lived in Sanya, where shop assistants always spoke in Russian..
@@ianrichardson3228: That happened to me as well. Usually it was very broken English but I always appreciated the effort and went out of my way to talk to them and to talk slowly.
I find it insulting. It implies Americans are either the worst or the best of westerners (neither) and I look like one. If anything then americans look like me a native northern european
I would feel insulted. 😅 While visiting Kyiv many years ago, the 1st thing I would say to a Ukrainian I was chatting up was "I'm Canadian, not American". To avoid getting stuck with the negative stereotypes. And I actually crossed paths with a few American tourists while I was there. Yikes! They were awful! 😬
What an ignorant comment. This guy must of failed his geography class, lol. I am Canadian, which makes me American. The Americas are continents, anyone living in North, or South America, is an American.
I was called American several times there, I didnt mind. It was funny. I am an Eastern-European. It was even funnier, when they said, it is easy to me to have a convo in english, or learn it, because I am white. As a Hungarian, my native language is probably closer to tagalog than to engilsh. 😂
Hi Pea, another fine video. I can't wait to get to Dumaguete this November and find out for myself how I will be received. I'm not too worried, your videos in the past have shed a lot of light on the subject, and I'm ready to explore. See you soon.
i think that in Duma theyve seen so many Americans that you may not get attention but in other places you will for sure. when i went to meet my now wife i was sir Bryan when i got there, it made me happy. when i left the USA i was nothing but a broken down old man but when i got there i was treated so good. it made it hard to leave the Philippines for sure.
Thanks Pea even though I was a missionary and tried to learn the culture you have helped me heap's in understanding how and why I am treated the way I am. Thanks for being so open and straight forward. Keep up the great work for people like me.
One thing I would like to know is how do Filipino men feel about foreigners coming there to find a wife to take back to their western country? Never really hear that side of the story when people talk about being a passport bro.
I'm Canadian, and I would not be at all offended being called a foreigner in a land in which I was not born and raised. Nor would I ever be offended if mistaken for an American. This is because I've never in my life drank the Canadian education system/media/government/pop-culture Kool Aid that's been poured down on us for going on sixty years. You see, in the absence of a we-the-people style constitution, Canada's oligarchic er, "Liberal" government has gone to great lengths to preach the narrative to Canadians that we somehow are more free than Americans and have a better standard of living than our friends to the south do. Both are blatantly false. But I guess that, as our government slowly usurped our freedom and basic human rights in a death-of-a-thousand-cuts agenda, they figured that they could slowly brainwash Canadians into hating the US. Such a psy-op would be deemed necessary lest Canadians, upon seeing their own liberty being stolen, look toward those greener and freer pastures on the other side of the 49th parallel and then want to (gasp!) LEAVE. The horror! So yeah, mistake me for an American. I'd consider it a badge of honour.
Nice job Pea! A very articulate explanation on a complex and multi layered topic called culture. I used to travel to Manila on biz and would be greeted as “Joe.” I thought it was funny. Greetings from 🇺🇸
You had me at naked. Being offended at words people use is being overly sensitive. That's a person that lives a life of drama and you shouldn't waste your time on them.
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I just watched the foreigner video, where did you learn english so well. Also I love when you dump on western woman about passport boys
"How do you do my fellow Asian?"
Pea you nailed it , iv'e been in the Philippines 10 years and all this still happens to me all the time ,I am 6 foot tall and a white American with blue eyes and i get called an americono all the time by strangers .
The 'cano tax.
Oh, and btw, if you didn't fit in back home, not fitting in in the Philippines won't be a big deal. That's the nice thing about not fitting in. You can do it absolutely anywhere, which means you can do it everywhere.
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Hah yeah, being an outcast in the states is a lot harder than being an outcast here. Filipino cuiture is MUCH more polite.
My point exactly.
@@TheFilipinaPea That is a pretty good mindset Not fitting in can be done everywhere although in a Christian Country that speaks and writes in English with Ms Pea as your guide I suspect one could fit in pretty well Hope life goes well for you this week Ms Pea.......
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The blunt honesty and lack of blanket statements is so refreshing to hear. I didn't realize how much I've missed hearing somebody speak their mind honestly without being angry about it
If I speak like that, You will call us racist
Love my Filipina, met in our 20’s and married for 15years. Best thing that ever happened to me. Beautiful culture and beautiful people that are almost always the kindest people ever
Pinay ? I always thought that was the term
How refreshing to hear someone speak the truth while still being polite. Me and my wife would really like to visit your country one day. Greetings from Texas, USA.
I’ve always enjoyed being the minority when traveling. I’ve not meant a warmer, kinder ethnic group than Filipino’s. Embrace the difference! Elegant today Pea!
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Even when they have little food they will still make sure you have something to eat.💓
@@TheFilipinaPea How well liked are Filipinos in other islands? I heard they fight each other and it is dangerous to them to ravel to rival islands, is this true?
Being an outsider in many countries means you will have 1. no friends 2. no GF.
Being an outsider in the PH means 1. many new friends 2. a nice GF.
Philippines rock! :) ❤
I enjoy being in the Philippines. People are nice and polite, I try to always be kind and respectful. My wife says when I walk around the subdivision she says it’s like I’m running to be the mayor. I talk to everyone who wants to talk. Life is good in the province.
My wife says the same thing. 😁
So you both are running for the mayor position 😂😂😂😂😂
Lolol Mine tells me why am I letting another Filipina be nice to me and why am I shaking hands and saying hello to some LOL LOL then she says quit being an F boy. I just say I'm being nice that's all and polite
@@ronmerkus5941 😄😄😄 just being myself.
How do you deal with people you stop and talk to always asking for money?
The honesty is refreshing. These less than flattering videos are a big part of why I keep coming back to this channel.
@@jessegitchell8114 😂😂😂
Why "less than flattering"? In the West we fool ourselves that we're all the same, but everybody knows it's a lie. Most people self-segregate, and the concept of integration is a total fallacy. (Genuine integration requires the death of your true self, ethnic roots, etc, in exchange with the adoption of a foreign culture. I find this both a cruel expectation, and completely unrealistic proposition.)
I've been to a few Southeast Asian countries on business and everything you said was spot on. Being a 6'3, 105kg white Aussie I tend to stand out; stooping under things and bumping into stuff. It's the few times I've ever discovered a world not built for me. People take photos and stop to look at me. They laugh a little when I try and order food by mangling their language. It's never been a negative experience. In fact it's kind of an honour.
And you hit the nail on the head. On first meeting I get mistaken for American.
I’m a white American in a city of 1.1 million Malaysians. All of this is true and has been experienced. It’s an honor to be a foreigner. They want to touch you , take pictures with you , attempt English with you and almost always be friendly with you.
My job is to assimilate into my family and respect all within their country.
Learning Chinese and Malay has helped as they all respect that
Bro, you should just enjoy your celebrity status. Don't fit in.
Do you mind mentioning which city you're in..? Also, did you take Chinese classes to learn the language?
Time to stop bringing skin color into the conversation. Just saying you're american is enough in this context yes?
I know there are many businesses run by Chinese Malaysians rather than Malay but why learn Mandarin. It is much more used that it was? The Chinese invasion is much bigger in Malaysia than it was say 20 years ago?
@@Rdkng07 Not really. I've seen plenty of channels of Black Americans traveling in different countries and they are not welcomed very much. There are many places, including Philippines where the desired skin color is a lighter, whiter pigmentation. It may not be everyone's experience and some places may be more open then others but no matter where you go its a good idea to go fully aware of all situations you may need to prepare for.
When I lived in Italy, I was known as "The American" in our little town. When I visit Latin America, I'm a Gringo. In Thailand we're farangs. I have zero problems being called foreigner in The P.I. because it's true- I am not from there, I am foreign. If people get upset about those kinds of things, I'd guess they haven't faced much hardship in their lives, because there's so many worse things that can happen to you than someone pointing out that you're different in some way. At 6'2 and 260lbs (120 kg), I have zero chance of "blending in" wherever I travel in Asia, so why try to pretend? Describe me how ya want... it doesn't change the reality of who I am.
Good attitude, CP 👍👍😊
You were called "The American" in Italy, probably due to the movie of the same name.
@CerebralPrimate niiiice .... love the true blue humble confidence 💙 👌....way to represent
@@canardeur8390Presumably, he was called 'the American' simply because that's what he is. Here in Portugal, I've always been referred to as, 'the English'. Been here over 20 years. All my friends and neighbours are Portuguese. They all know my name and use it in conversation with me, but refer to me as the English when referring to me. No problem. I am and always will be English.
As long as I'm not called late for dinner I don't care.
I don’t understand why the term “foreigner” would be offensive? That’s basic logic. I visit the Philippines, I’m the foreigner. I guess the truth is offensive?! Odd. Call me American, foreigner, interloper, I’m easy either way 😅.
Exactly! For some reason, some people really don’t like it 😳👍
From a culture of political correctness, every word becomes offensive. Filipinos also describe people by race, sexual orientation(ie. gay, lesbian, tomboy), fat, old... which would seem offensive to some very westernized people too. It feels funny to be next to a filipino who freely says stuff that could get me scolded or fired for saying the same.
@@TheFilipinaPeathey want to take over the white people's land. So they are trying to destroy the idea of foreigners and native people.
If that fragile, they should stay at home.
Using explicit, factual adjectives to describe someone is so much better than when a Filipino tries to use pronouns. With that the 4 or 5 people in the story all shift back and forth from being male and female, and after initial introduction to the story, their names are never used again to distinguish them.
I love your honest, straight forward, no BS way of explaining this. People need to get over their interpretation of words and the nuances of their meanings. A word like foreigner may be offensive to SOME people in West, but not everyone who uses the word means it as an insult.
Also, most people in the West lump together Asians. They couldn't tell the difference between a Filipino, Chinese, Japanese, or Korean person and really don't care enough to learn. So don't get pissed when they can't tell the difference between an American, Canadian, or Australian (and don't care to either).
As someone who has been overseas in Southwest Asia as a Naval Veteran during "the no-fly zone," this video really hits home. When I taught English in Korea, I was "looked out" for because I had American English to teach their kids, and it was a very profitable business during the early 2000's. Once one of the local blue-collar workers saw how well I was treated, my eyes got opened pretty quickly to the "underpinnings" of my worth. Now, after many years of not travelling, I am heading to meet my Filipina GF. I know already what to expect when I get there from the many previous years of "cultural adaptations," so I know I just need to be true to myself and enjoy the attention I receive. Great job again Pea as always!
Understanding the "underpinnings" of your worth was pure gold. Every man must understand the underpinnings of his worth in EVERY situation when dealing with Asians.
"You can always replace your husband, but not your family". This statement exemplifies worth as a foreigner. There is no such thing as "multiculturalism" in every culture beyond the West. Don't be fooled.
I love being a foreigner there. Everyone is friendly and warm. Be respectful and nice and the Filipinos will be the same.
Same for me.
@@josiah5776Only because they want your money 💰. Won't you foreigners ever learn 😮
Knot all times atall
@@UNKNOWN-un6nz Love the spelling 🤣
@@samual3006took the words right out of my mouth. 😂
Thanks! A longtime admirer that did not know I could get like this. May God bless you and those you love.
Oh my, Ken! Thanks so much, and I’ll put it towards the project we talked about ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Just wanted to say, “thank you” for your valuable insight and intellect. I’ve been researching my visit before coming and you have been very helpful. Keep up the great work!
I hope you remember me, miss Pea, I am an Aussie, I was chatting with you, way back when you first had this channel, you are very informative, I am blown away how much you know about us and our interaction with your people .
Now that I have lived full time in the Philippines for 12 years, I find myself knowing most of what you say, after dating so many Filipina here.
No matter how we are looked at, or what the culture differences are, all that matters to me is how I am treated and everyone is so nice, it’s not a honeymoon period, even after 12 years I am still treated exactly the same.
The people here are so welcoming to us foreigners.
I am always accepted in anyone’s home as if we have known each other for years.
No need to worry that we will never be accepted as a local, because we are treated so well anyway.
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Hi Craig! Thanks for sticking with me so long 👍❤️
Very fortunate to be a Filipino American. I can play both cards culturally, I don’t attract attention, I can blend in any environment and I can own land and a business without marrying a Filipina.
As a Filam myself I also blend in until I open my mouth.
That’s exactly what I went through when I took my undergrad in Manila years ago.
Same I move to the US at age 8 . I still understand Tagalog and Bicol when I go home my relatives from the province and in Manila treat me as a family member not as a foreigner and if I want too I can also buy land plus my parents still have land in the province and Will transfer to me being the eldest and I will sell it once they pass away. Extra income that I’ll put in the Philippine bank once I retire in Makati in a few years. I blend until I open my mouth need to practice d and practice my Tagalog and Bicol so I can totally blend in completely.
Yes, very lucky because both countries allow dual citizenship.
@@vidong1704Even for Americans?
I was treated very well by the Philippine people in Cebu . I was there a month, and was treated very well , and respected by everyone. I loved my time there. I cannot wait to see more of the Philippines and the less populated areas
Great to see you again
...and always let the ads play
John! Glad you’re here - I was almost worried 🤣👍
I'm an American of Mexican descent that has lived over two years with my Filipina wife in the Philippines. I work full-time at a Filipino company in a good position. My wife's family lives in the province and I lived there with her the first year after moving here. What i saw in the province was wow this foreigner is pogi, but after awhile they were just happy to jam with me, my wife, and her family. In Manila I was treated just as another with limited Tagalog. But my co-workers and wife's family see me as their own. I think you have to carry yourself to embrace Filipino culture and try to integrate. After all you are here so respect society here.
Good advice for people migrating to any country including the US
@@homersapien3552 Mexicans and Flipinos are lo mismo their cultures and history are very similar. So the reception is very warm like mi casa tu casa.
You are Hispanic, Americans are of European descent.
@@JosephMarquez-pj9dp Sorry, I know many Mexicans from Mexico. They are not similar. Last time I checked, most Mexican men who come to the USA work for a living and support their families. The oldest daughters are not required to bring in the cash and support the rest of her parents family. Never seen a Mexican begging everywhere I went in the USA. Calling me, "Joe" is mocking us White Americans in the Philippines. Even the Fillipino men are beggars and will bother you for cash or to buy them something. The Mexicans of Asia is nonsense. Try eating a Taco and it is crap.
If only people coming to America respected our culture but now we have to bow down to them.
I enjoy your perspective and humor. My significant other is Filipina, but was adopted and has lived in the USA since a young child, but a lot of this still rings true.
I am black from America. I am mostly called a black American since I have been in the Philippines. I see no harm.
I would prefer to be called a black or white American etc than "foreigner" all the time... sounds better.
@@dollarjilt1 , exactly. It showed respect for me. In return I showed respect for them. It’s been all good. Just have wisdom with everything you do.
@@dollarjilt1 "Hey, Joe!" "Hello, Joe!" All the time... Lol
When I visited Thailand many, many years ago with a friend of mine, the girls would call out to him, "Hey Chocolate Man!!"
I am thinking about going to the PHs for 3 months. Please tell me about the racism, I would appreciate it. Especially in the area of dining out and also dating.
I remember that the guards on the subdivision where I live in Mindanao thought I was an American ex-serviceman. I'm Aussie, but it didn't bother me. Pretty soon I got used to being called "sir", which rarely ever happens in Australia. Since I'm married to a Filipina grandmother who is a Higaonon baylan, I have learned to accept and follow her culture. I can think and speak in Bisaya (and sing in Bisaya and Tagalog as well as a few other Filipino languages such as Kapampangan, Ilokano, Hiligaynon, Tausug and Sama Bajao). My wife has taught me some of her tribal language, Higaonon Binukid. I speak in Bisaya and Higaonon Binukid at our local tindahan, because the mother of the family there is Higaonon, and the family there is related to my wife's late father's family. I don't feel like an outsider here, and I even had a case back in the pandemic when a health worker giving me a booster vaccination asked where I came from. I told her I'm Australian. She said "Oh, I don't hear that accent". That said, I have had a few people look at me in a way that didn't exactly make me feel like they appreciated my presence. Of course, that's understandable. It can happen anywhere. Thanks again for an entertaining video, Miss Pea.
My wifes European. She can't pick out various English language accents either. It's normal.
I've lived in The Philippines and Thailand; The Thais call us "farang:. As a Westerner in Asia, I feel I'm tolerated more than accepted. A Filipino can become a USA citizen and accepted as an "American"; however, most Americans will never be a citizen of the Philippines or truly accepted as a Filipino.
Just don't do the mistake I made, and bring your Filipina wife to America... You will slowly watch her become Western...
Sad but true 👍
@@QuentinStygerbut is is multi genetic as Filipino is not a race only a nationality, it isn’t a homogeneous society as Japan, S. N. Korea etc
as a filipino, i can confirm
Because you’re not Filipino. Farang or Laowai, Gaijin are offensive to me. Rather a friendly hey Joe over those aforementioned names. Filipino far more outgoing and friendly.
Hi Pea, I stumbled upon this page and I'm glad that I did. Actually, I went ahead and checked out a few of your videos. Nice. But, I especially found this one to be VERY informative and very well done. I definitely learned something. And since I'm a guy, yes, you look very nice too. 🥰 You're putting out some really good stuff for us to see. Keep On, Keeping On!! 😊
You are correct, it is kind of a compliment. Not an insult. Last week at a food park. The family mentioned they had never been out to eat before. They are coming back tomorrow for his wife's Birthday. It is a great pleasure to treat them like family. Because they make me feel like family.
I am an American Indian. While in the Marines at subic bay I was able to blend into crowd. I met some truly great people and was treated as an honored guest. I am the third generation of my family to serve in the military and to go to the Philippines. Me, my uncle and grandpa all have had the same experience of meeting and getting to know philippine people.
You are Indian, Americans are of European descent, not Asian.
@@1Surt lol. My people have been here at least 15,000 years. Our creation stories state we have been here since the Great Basin was a large lake.
@@Steven-rp7li Again, Americans are of European descent, not Asian.
@@Kenobi-vu9mb 'Native American' is a misnomer as there was no America prior to Europeans creating it. Europeans are the Native Americans, not you.
@@1Surt you really need to understand what he is saying.
A guy I was in the Navy with mariied a Filipina. After he retired they decided to move to the PI. That didn't last long. My bud and his wife both decided it wasn't worth being the family ATM. They moved back to the USA and are happier for it. Pretty sure they also distanced themselves from the PI family or they would have been in the poorhouse.
And it's not just in the PI. I remember seeing a documentary about a woman who was the child of a Vietnamese woman and a US soldier. She grew up in the US and when in her twenties, she finally tracked down her Vietnamese family. She had a wonderful reunion with her mother and her half brothers. Wonderful until the mother asked her when she was going to start sending her money and how much it should be. The film makers captured that exact moment and the look on the daughter's face immediately showed how crushed she was. The mother just couldn't understand why she felt that way. Just remember that when you marry into an Asian family, a lot of times you are marrying the entire family.
There doesn't even have to be a foreigner involved. My friend's mom came to the U.S. from Cambodia in the 80's. She met and married a fellow Cambodian immigrant. Recently she sent $10k she'd saved up to her family back in Cambodia to build a house for her to retire to there. Later she discovered her family had partied it up with the money and now it's all gone with no new house in sight
@@JesseOsby- she was stupid
Agree 100 percent and it took me almost marrying one to find that out. I was also in the Navy and you are warned about this before you ever go there. I was stationed in Guam and we visited P.I. every weekend. Lots of guys fell in love and some married and had great wives and others not so much. I never married one but there were times when I wish I had but not anymore. I got lucky and found a great woman stateside.
right and no matter what you station in life, if you are a American you will always be rich. because if youre not worried about what or if you will eat today you are rich and always will be to them
I cut off contract with a woman who was trying to get money from me, when she realized I was gonna replace her she took my boundaries serious.
You don’t have to marry the whole family. You’re still a big catch, that’s what most don’t understand.
I love a woman who can speak logically instead of emotionally keep up the good work 😊
Also be aware that when a Filipino asks you if they can "borrow" something they don't return it unless you hound them constantly that you want it back....and if its money they have "borrowed" you can certainly kiss that good bye. I've learned the hard way....
@@neildillon837: You are 100% correct! I lived in the Philippines for six years, and experienced this over and over and over, and never seemed to learn for the first two years I was there. Filipinos would promise that they were going to repay me, beg until they were blue in the face, cry, and tell that they were not like other Filipinos, but never repay. It’s a cultural thing. There is simply no obligation to repay a loan in the Philippines, and to ask for repayment is considered to be shameful, so no Filipino does so. It’s all tied up with the shame associated with being cheap. To be called cheap is a huge insult in the Philippines, and what better proof of being cheap than to ask for the return of a loan or to save money? So, you may wonder why Filipinos lend money since they know that it will never be repaid? It’s for the tremendous prestige and one-up-man’s-ship gained by it! In Filipino eyes, if I lend you money, this not only proves that I actually have money, but makes me better than up, and of a higher social class than you. Filipinos are extremely vain, and love nothing better than to brag.
@@joelbattiston1139 : No offense, but if you knew the Philippine culture you would not be sending your girlfriend money, and you definitely would not be thinking of marrying her, because nothing is as it seems in the Philippines - nothing, not the girl, not the people, nothing that you see, observe, or hear. I know that it is impossible for you to believe this, but I would beg you to do some investigation among Aussie guys who have married Filipinas. Your time would repay you a thousand times over.
@@majorronaldmandell7835 - the Philippines has a poverty mindset and until you spend a lot of time there you won't understand it. Clearly you do and your advice is spot on. As you said, nothing is as it seems and until you've spent time there, you don't realize that.
yap very true , they view you as an atm nothing more ......
@@davidcann5045 what's wrong with that?
I speak Tagalog pretty much fluently but there is no way my accent will ever disappear. I felt like I belonged when we lived in Philippines. I love it and miss it. I used to do everything with my brother in law’s and everyone in the family except a select few treated me like I was part of the family. The community treated me like I was part of them. It’s because I did everything they did. If they were going fishing I was right beside them. I would go to the forest and get food when we needed with my brother in laws. The only ones that would make fun of the way I spoke were people who didn’t know me. Just like Filipinos have an accent in English, I will always have a Kano accent when I speak Tagalog. So will Filipinos except you for who you are? yes! I felt so much part of the community and they treated me so that I didn’t look at them as Filipino but as brothers and sisters. I learned to be part of the community. That’s what Americans lack here in the United States is learning how to live as one. My brothers were over there and never received the same treatment I got because they couldn’t learn to become part of the community.
You experienced the effects of "Coca-colonization", in a country that was a $20M- paid-for spoil of war then brutally conquered, yet later embraced the conqueror's supposedly benevolence. This country's history has been unique -- three imperialistic conquerors and a present third-world republic. Of the three conquerors, one still smells good, and natives long - by hook or crook - to live in that conqueror's homeland. The republic sucks.
Yeah, I think I'd be good being considered a foreigner. I can't fish or hunt as I've never done either in my 42 years on Earth. I COULD learn to fish even though I rarely eat fish because I have a fear of swallowing a bone and it getting caught in my throat. I couldn't hunt though because I could neither kill nor skin an animal. No I'm not a vegetarian or vegan, I just couldn't do it. If it's a choice between hunting for meat or foraging fruits/vegetables, I'll forage any day. As far as other things they may do, I might be down with it.
Well said. My favorite thing about the Philippines is also the hardest to vocalize -- it's like time traveling to when my grandparents were young, before the US became nothing but a series of fenced off suburban homes and strip malls. It's a vibrant community. And if you embrace it and make yourself part of that community, they will embrace you back. But it is a two way street. You must fulfil your part in the bargain too.
This is a VERY VERY well put together and spoken video, nice job!
Love It 😂 Canadian here Pea and I've experienced at least 90% of what you discussed but have never once been offended. My future sister-in-law once referred to me as Americano and I corrected her saying ‘I’m not American, I’m Canadian’ She asked ‘What’s the difference’ then I asked ‘What’s the difference between Filipinos and Japanese?’ she got it! In the neighbourhood I’m referred to as my Filipina’s ‘Asawa Kano’ … I’m OK with this. Great Video, thanks for sharing!
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You made a Filipino understand? Amazing! 👍👍👍😁
@TheFilipinaPea as a Canadian, it's kinda offencive to be called American. We love and respect our US neighbors but Canadians are usually nicer people. Better educated, too, per capita.
Lol... I know somebody is going to have a problem with my statements.
Bring on the debate!
Canadian and American are almost the same since they all live in North America and speak English unless if you live in those French Canadian areas.
@@frozenpann I as an American married a Canadian, and this is such delusional BS! Every Canada Day you guys spend asking yourselves 'What does it mean to be Canadian?' The ONLY answer you all agree on is: You arent American! LMAO You guys are the little kid brother that no one takes seriously! I love ya Canada, had some great times, met some great people, would pick up a rifle and surely defend you, but y'all think a bit too highly of yourselves! ha ha ha (BTW, i can trace my ancestors back to Canada, before they left for a BETTER life in the States. I have a natural affinity for Canada because of this also!)
@@frozenpann So, the only difference you can state is a national stereotype? Canada is culturally American and tightly knit into the American sphere of influence. You might use km, over-regulate private industry, and have a parliamentary style government, but you are still culturally American.
I’m an American who has lived and worked and wandered overseas for 24 of my adult years. Almost everywhere I go I am immediately treated as a celebrity and honored guest BECAUSE I am an American/Foreigner. People want to know where I’m from, they invite me into their homes, feed me, introduce me to the available women they know (😁), and fight over who will carry my suitcase to the bus stop when I leave. Back in the States no one pays attention to me. I want to yell, “Hey, everybody, I’m here! Why aren’t you all over me caressing me physically and emotionally?” In other words, I am the last person who will ever take offense at being treated differently. Long live my “foreigner” status! 😄
They treat you like a celebrity because they know what you have in your pockets and they want a some of it. 😂
No way that caring happens in most of Europe. I lived there 7 yrs.
Dude trust me. In their mind a white American = $$$$. Try saying "No" a few times, then see how friendly they REALLY are!
You beat me to it my man I love all the attention I love to ham it up sometimes being taller and more muscular build show them I can out drink them get loud pick out the big guy and scare him to kick his ass then tip everyone more money than they make in a week they love the crap out of me and it's not really a lot of money 😂😂😂
@DustinKillyact you sound like a prick mate
Hi Pea! I really like how I'm treated when in the Philippines. I even got used to catching people staring at me because I understand I'm a foreigner. It's always a polite curiosity. Great video once again. 🎉
‘A polite curiosity’ - I like that 👍😊
What a treat to hear an honest discussion of cultural differences and still be pleasantly speaking. I was in Manila on r&r from Vietnam in 1967. Beautiful country and people.
Hi Pea! Always nice to see you. Like a member of our family! 👋😁❤
You’re certainly a member of mine ❤️😊👋
Great video content, as per usual ! 🤩
Thanks, PWT! 😊❤️👍
At 6' 205 lbs, I'm taller and heavier than 99 percent of the Filipinos/Filipinas. And I have been to the Philippines twice and you are right. I had filipinas and kids always wanting to take pics with me. Also EVERYONE was very warm and accepting.
In a hardware store in the Philippines I met a gentleman who was 6'9 and well over 300 pounds! Lol The man was the Filipino Shrek! Lol
They may have thought you were a giant
My money would be on little Pacquiao
I think it would be awesome if your font for "Pea" used a round pea for the middle of the E & A. Just a random thought 😅 Love the channel!
A friend was working in Korea and bought a shirt that said
“Just because I’m white, doesn’t mean I’m American”
It had the English at the bottom
No romance or family connection with the Philippines. Just a modest anecdote: I’m a non-Anglosaxon European and happened some day to be in a Luzon village pretty far from Manila with some Filipino friends from Quezon City. As we walked down a street, a little boy from the local community started waving at us and, when he spotted me, he started shouting « American, American! ». It was the first time he ever saw a White in flesh and blood and he was obviously convinced that all Whites were Americans. It hardly came as a surprise to me but my Filipino friends and I were amused and we had an improvised football (soccer) match with the little boy. It made my day and I’m sure it also made his.
@@yagi3925: Yes! I’m an American. During the years I lived in the Philippines, I was asked numerous times what part of America Australia, Germany and other countries were located. One thing I learned over there was never to mention that my ancestors came from Ireland, or any other country because they would then lose respect for you, spread rumors that you were not a “real” American, and that you were a liar. Another thing to never ever mention is that you are divorced. You may be asked this question every single day by the same people for years, always swearing that you can trust them to keep it a strict secret, but if you tell them (any secret), they will immediately tell everyone they know. If you ask them why they ratted on you, they will ask you what made you think that they would not tell. When you reply that the reason was that they had swore to you dozens of times that they would never tell, they will ask you again, what made you think that they would not tell. When you tell them the reason again, they will ask you again what made you think that they would not rat on you. . . This can go on all day.
If you live there long enough you will learn that in the Filipino culture there is no requirement to tell the truth, and it is not expected. Pure and simple. You will also learn many other things about the culture. Because of their culture, they do not think anything like us. For instance, there is no tomorrow for them, or a yesterday - just today. Therefore they do not plan ahead, nor do they save, or safe guard important documents. . . You will learn that right and wrong are subjective, not objective as in the West. You will learn that there is no obligation to repay loans in the Philippines, and that it is shameful to ask for repayment of a loan. You will learn that there is no obligation in the culture to tell the truth - none whatsoever. You will learn that this is only the barest tip of the iceberg, and if you learn the culture well enough you will learn that their culture is so far apart from ours that it is almost impossible to find anything that you agree on if married. You will learn that you can ever change or teach a Filipina. They know what they know, and that’s it. For instance, they will never learn to save money, no matter if you explain the value of doing for the next 30 years, and show they examples. I know all of this, I tied for over 30 years, as have those few of my American friends who remained married long enough to their Filipina wives. Remember, Filipinos do not have to keep any promise. There is no obligation. There is no shame in it. They are entirely pragmatic. Regardless of what they say, or promise, they will always do what is best for themselves at the moment, most especially leaving you in a heart beat for someone younger, more handsome, with s’more prestigious or higher paying job. . .
@@majorronaldmandell7835 somebody got really hurt by a Filipina
@@skariarecords: Hundreds of thousands of guys have been hurt by Filipinas. Which guy are you referring to?
Filipinos are the 4th largest immigration group to Australia. It is illegal to discriminate against people on the grounds of race or nationality. Philippines have laws against immigrants, this makes them a provincial society inter alia.
Aussies are pretty good at accepting others, we are a successful multicultural society.
lol a little knowledge is dangerous
@@laggordo BS, Aussie's discriminate against the Aboriginal people and immigration all the time. .
I love your sophisticated, clear way to explain things. Greetings from Europe.
I have not seen anything from you for a few months. All I can say is wow! Don’t know why I haven’t watched more! So beautiful! And smart!
If you are not from the country, we are foreigners. Foreigners seem to be welcomed in the Philippines. I look forward to my visit soon and explore where I wish to retire to.
Did you listen to the video? it sounds like our $$$ are welcomed, but OUR presence is tolerated! ha ha ha
I just want reciprocity and fairness. If Kano cannot own land in the PI, then OFWs in the USA shouldn't either. If Kano cannot talk trash about Filipinos, or the Filipino gov, without risking getting deported--then the same should go for OFWs in the USA.
Sounds fine to me - I’ve been hoping for years that we’d allow foreign ownership of land, as well as foreign investment 👍
Huge difference between living here and just visiting. True, at best, we are just 'second-hand' residents (or paying guests with less privileges, if you like). Also, make sure you NEVER run out of money, nor get get cut off from accessing it.
Hers is a BS response. The land ownership laws are indeed racist. She just won't come out and say it. Discrimination is never acceptable, - anywhere.
@@tomr9661
The land ownership laws are ‘racist’?
And just what ‘race’ are they against, since they mostly affect the Chinese. Maybe you think it’s an ‘anti-Asian’ law? 😆
I think you need to look up the definition of the word racist 🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea I think YOU really need to study the laws of your own country, don't act ignorant. if you do not have Filipino blood, you cannot own land, period, it's called racism everywhere else but not in PH. Discrimination against land ownership or anything else based on race is called racism. YOU look it up.
Fun fact pea, I live in Appalachia, and I've watched several of your videos up to this point. And I've noticed a lot of the ways that y'all was raised, is very similar to how we were raised, considering this is one of the poorest parts of the country.
Fun fact: Appalachia is FILLED with WHYTE people, not people of color! And they are STILL poor! Many people of color like to pretend that only they can be poor because whyte people conspire to keep them that way. NOPE, rich elites conspire to keep ALL of us that way, regardless of skin tone. Surprise, surprise, surprise!
glad I found your channel, trying to navigate the pluses and minuses about life in the PI. I’ve travelled a lot and experienced many cultures, really trying to see everyone as people just like me and not attach labels. thanks for your honesty, looking forward to watching more videos
Very smart new logo, very professional!
Being a “foreigner” is a full-time job then? 😅
I was a farang in Thailand and locals asked me to pose for pictures with them in Bangladesh, when children were touching my arm to see if I was real and alive.
Nothing new under the Sun Pea!
What I mean is that I don’t see why people could object or dislike being called “a foreigner” !
This is exactly what we are! 😂Always a pleasure anyway dear Pea 🥰😘❤️
Good Evening Pea. I can hardly wait to hear this
Well hello, Warf! ❤️👋😊
American-Filipino hybrids are God awful cute. My sisters married Americans both black and white and believe me, their children are the most beautiful human beings you will ever see but that's not the only bonus, a majority of them are smart... as in resourceful smart. If you seen how Filipinos do things, they can make something out of nothing.
I generally love Filipinos, and my wife is a Filipina, and we live in the US now. Amazed, how they will ask you anything; your age, your weight in Kg., whether you are hairy, etc. Since I married my wife, her mother (father died) is not treated well by my wife's extended family (aunts and uncles). They are jealous and they think that her mother has hit the jackpot. Emotions like that are very troubling for me.
Here I'm always called Sir, they hardly look in my bag almost like I'm beyond anything petty, and I never worry when eating out as to who handles my food. I like that.
If someone gets offended by this, they should not go there to visit. Being called a foreigner is not offensive it's a fact. People are too sensitive nowadays.
Just don't call me a Americano ...I'm Irish der
@Davesaid9253 nothing wrong with that
@Davesaid9253 oh the ones I met in mars did.i take it your from a far away planet.
@@dubinatub1 Theres more Irish in America than in Ireland. Therefore America is more Irish than Ireland
Love your info videos Pea
Thanks Scott! ❤️👍
Hey Pea, every time you sound like you say the Filipina " bee " here, I luv Ur channel! As I've mentioned many times to you, like your style and you always impress me as you appear exceptionally wise beyond your years ....... your message here is not much different many other cultures, its same with my culture American Indian .......... all the best Pea !
It's roughly what I would expect. Personally, I appreciate the honesty. All I would ask is that if i'm friendly to them, they'll be friendly to me. This attitude doesn't even always work out in the western world either though. To me, it's all about intent, if "foreigner" isn't said with disdain, I don't care in the slightest, because as you say, it's really just descriptive and accurate. As long as they don't mind if I respond by saying they're the ones with the accent :P and once i get to know everyone, what does it matter to me if they use "foreigner" to describe me to their other friends when I become relevant, so long as they aren't saying nasty things?
I am a Brit and often get asked if I am Australian or American, I come back with a smile and ask the asker if they are Chinese which always gets a giggle.
The Filipino public's awareness of "white people" having different nationalities besides just American is starting to catch up now with reality! Interestingly, most "Western" faces I see nowadays in real life tend to be Europeans now instead of Americans; and most US citizens I personally come across here these days tend to be Fil-Ams (whether by naturalization or because of their parentage)! 🤣🤣🤣
The preconceptions of some ignorant Brits of Filipinos are quite rude. Seen as 3rd world or passively poor. Those who travel or have a broader outlook see Filipinos as proud, loving, friendly, strong, and hard working.
It's why we love you guys.
Don't ever change to fit in. Let the rest of the world catch up to you.
@@nondompom Well having made my home here for 11 years and knowing I will never return to the UK I guess my outlook is broad enough. I feel a freedom here that in the West seems to be dying and the willingness to laugh and have fun is infectious. Moving to the Philippines was the smartest choice I have ever made.
This is the most accuracy description of how foreigners are perceived in the Philippines. Being a foreigner who has visited the Philippines 3 times, this all happened to me
Thanks, Stop 👍👍❤️
Your program is great… you’re doing a really good job ✨🌙
This is in reference to being called foreigner and why it can feel racist but it isnt. I work at a place that's 90% black people. Some who don't know my name refer to me as "white boy". It started to bother me at some point but I thought about it, and in conversation if they said "that white boy" and they were referring to me, they said that cause they wanted the person to know who she is talking and that for better or worse is the best identifier. They don't hate me (some might). They don't hate white people (some though do). 99% of time, "white boy" is about accuracy of the fact, not as a derogatory thing. I found myself backspacing "black" to "African american" in this message and realized just how people assuming words are racist are ingrained deep. People are racist, not words. Context and intent means something and without it equals about nothing. if you can't imagine a white person calling a black person black with no disdain behind it, you probably are racist. People are black sometimes. It's ok. Sometimes it's even great. Sometimes not. The color doesn't matter though
@@legatomodi3522 It is racist.
@carmelopappalardo8477 I disagree
@@legatomodi3522 If you called them black boy you would be fired and hated for such racism. Go ahead and try it. Say black boy come here. When you Id someone by the color of their skin you are reducing them as a person. What do you think slavers did to slaves?
@@carmelopappalardo8477Racist or not. It is how it is and its normal behavior in all counties mostly not in a bad way.. Come over or complain but you can't change it.
@carmelopappalardo8477 i dont think they mean I'm a slave when they say boy though. Its not very offensive in that sense. You're right in that I cant say that to a black person without immediate sometimes violent consequences, but i don't want to say that to a black person anyways. Here's something I learned in my years; people who accuse you of being racist will accuse you of being racist eventually no matter how hard you try not to be. Theres dumb people out there that think every unpleasant or rude white person to them is acting out of racial hate. Any disagreement or perceived slight is because white people hate black people. Thats not cool, but you can't fix those people. Most black people aren't like that, at least i don't think most of them are.ti noticed in so many examples of paranoid schizophrenic people race is an issue in alot of them. White people black people it don't matter. When the brain degrades to that level you think everyone's out to get you for any difference from yourself. So I think the conclusion is, racism is a human disease that afflicts the mentally ill of all colors. Theres no reason for black and white people to fight. This is both of our country we both belong here and we ain't going nowhere so it's important to try to get along with folks instead of degenerating into hate
Hi pea! ❤ Have a wonderful day !
TotP! You’re fourth tonight 😳👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea hahaha getting closer !
I’m an American. One day I was traveling with my Filipina girlfriend in the Philippines when we ran into another American who according to my wife spoke perfect Tagalog. As soon as were alone she commented to me, “As soon as I saw how well he spoke Tagalog, I lost all respect for him,”. Digest this for a moment. It is another example of the colonial mentality so prevalent in the Philippines.
It shows a saying I heard once regarding Filipinos. That being " No matter what you do, you will never be fully accepted nor be fully accepted as part of the family by Filipinos."
@@samuelschick8813 Well of course not! This is human nature. Not even just humans but most other living beings. Would we expect a group of cats to accept a bunny rabbit as part of their cat family?
@ChineduOpara , Lot of mental gymnastics in your comment. Reason being there are several cases that debunk your animal claim. But just as well not to get close to or make friends with Filipinos, the most dishonest, immoral, undisciplined and corrupt people I have ever ran into.
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Soooo, that day you traveled with your gf … and your wife? Kitchen sink…
As a native-born American who has lived in Davao City off an on for 30 years, I love it when all the kids in the area tell the Scotsman across the street he is the American man from England. He assumes this is my doing, it isn't, it is the Dutchman and the German who keeps encouraging them. I do encourage that pair.
As someone who speaks Bisaya, Ilocano, and passable Taglog I can confirm everyone I deal with regularly in Davoa expects it out of me. Of course, when I am back in Seattle and start talking to some old lola or tita at the Asian grocery store they are not just amazed, but instantly trying to set me up with some young and no doubt pretty relative who is still back in the Philippines. They always seem disappointed when I tell them I am happily married.
My trips out into the provinces are also often like you say as well. Even in towns with 100k people I meet people who have never seen a foreigner, in person. We just aren't that common in Mindanao, even in places like Tagum with 300k or GenSan with 700k. While young women are a lot more touchy feely than most American men will be comfortable with, they are not the ones that I should warn guys about. I remember going to a wedding in rural Agusan Del Sur and my MIL taking me around and introducing me, when one 80+ year old lola actually grabbed my package and started smiling at my wife, who also did her part to thoroughly embarrass me by making outrageously sized approximations with her hands.
The prized stallion effect is certainly real too. It was one thing before we had kids she and her cousins would joke about sharing me since there weren't enough foreigners to go around. Now, that we have a blue-eyed, pale skin almost four-year-old daughter with a somewhat pointy nose I am almost scared when they suggest such things and remind them that too much excitement might give me a heart attack. The fact that she and I have a blue eyed daughter also goes a long way to boosting the family claim of descending from Spanish blood.
To wrap it up because we look different we will always be foreign, but as I regularly prove when I sit down with the local tricycle drivers and we go through several bags of balut and buckets of Red Horse, it is possible to be seen as a local, too.
Leaving my country of birth at 4yo, I’ve always been a foreigner, but being accused of coming from the U/S, which accounts for only 4% of the global population, is hard to accept. 😵💫
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Get over it. Our culture is global! 😂
Don't like be called Joe. Just call me kiwi
You might not be a US citizen but your sister Josey might be.lol
@@user-pb2ce4tk1-izzy No, They're Canadian, definitely don't like being called "American"! Same for all my other rellies worldwide 😂
Pea have a wonderful day! Your voice is good as a host.
Maybe I should try for tv 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea I really think you should some day, you are doing delightful here in TH-cam.
As always Great video Pea
I see the seeing eye, see? 😊
I see the seeing eye, see? 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea I know that you know that I know What a one-eyed man sees
@@TheStygianKing
I'm in the dark concerning the navigation over the Styx.
Will one of you tell me, so that I too can tell you, so that we both shall know?
The Norse one-eyed ruler was "Odin" y-clept. His other "one-eyed-one was not a monk! Wink and it will seem to be obscure. Wink, wank, wonk. LOL.
@@waltthomas-s2d
In shadows deep where secrets lie,
The Stygian truths whisper to the sky.
Not just Odin with his sight so keen,
Across the myths, the all-seeing are seen.
From the Greek shores where Styx flows,
To Odin's watch, where the ravens crows,
The eyes that see, the hearts that feel,
Uncover the layers for the world to reveal.
I love how you explain things here straight on, almost like you have some Dutch heritage (just joking, you are much too nice for that :)). Keep going with these videos, I really enjoy them and looking at the comments, so do a lot of others.
When living in Malaysia, driving a Malaysian car, I always noticed foreigners get waved through, including me. It thought that was funny. I do think the only exception was the Singaporean cars, they did get stopped (mostly for speeding) and Malaysian cars didn't, including the ones with foreigners in it (ask me how I know :)). I'm always aware that I am a foreigner when I'm travelling outside the Netherlands. Even living in Aotearoa / NZ for almost 10 years, I still feel a foreigner!
The naked truth...foreigners are viewed as a source of money and expected to pay.
That too! 🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea BTW, I think of you as one smart/motivated person making a difference in peoples' lives...regardless of your race, sex, age, etc...another naked truth dear INFJ
Considering the way they view their own children as a source of money, you could look at that as being treated as part of the family :D
@@TheFilipinaPea Foreigner is a great rock group.
@@nk863we are just “dirty white boys”, who don’t play “head games”. The Filipinas can be “cold as ice” (tampo), give us a “blue morning blue day” but they are “hot blooded”. And, face it, we are here,,, “waiting for a girl like you” (them), even tho we are a “long long way from home”. A good Filipina will have you thinking, “it feels like first time”, they are “urgent”, a real “head knocker”. If you can say, “I want to know what love is”, find a good Filipina, she’ll give you “double vision”. Don’t cheat on her, “juke box hero”. Or, “the damage is done”.
Filipino see foreigner as bank accounts and ATM machines
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Help, Pea! I think I married Imelda. My wife wants many bags and shoes!
hi traveling terry
Terry grabs the silver medal! Maybe it was Imelda’s? 😳🥈👍
@@lude4u2nv HI shout out Anthony
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She is a king-maker. You could be the next President of the Philippines!
I have been watching your presentations for about a year, with great appreciation for your honesty and your candidness. So, may I congratulate you on the sincerity of your objectivity concerning the obvious concerns which a “foreigner” may have should one be seriously thinking about uprooting themselves and attempting to integrate into another culture, particularly one as seemingly dramatically different from their own.
I am an African-American of an advanced age. And I can definitely relate to many of the points you made throughout this presentation, because I have encountered those same experiences right here in my own country. I have been made to feel like someone who doesn’t belong, even as a child growing up in America. And there was a period in my life when I seriously considered removing myself from this environment, as many other African-American men have done, (most of whom expatriated to Europe). However, after watching your presentations, I have arrived at the conclusion that living in your society wouldn’t be appropriate for someone, with my background and life experiences, like me. I have no desire to forever be considered a foreigner in a foreign land. That said, it may well be a golden opportunity for some.
Pea you are looking so gorgeous on your outfit..Much love from a fan from Nigeria
Hello to Nigeria! 🇳🇬
@@TheFilipinaPea Thanks for your reply and flying our flag..I hope to visit the Philippines soon
Hi Pea, I had some of these same questions. I noticed that the Chinese tourists are looked up to by the Filipinos, and it appeares that the Chinese consider themselves to be the elite of the Asian race. Or at least, that’s the way it appears to me. I asked my Filipina spouse if my perception was accurate. She confirmed that my observation was correct. I asked why the Filipinos cater to their aloof attitudes. She said that the Chinese own a large portion of the hotels and restaurants. It was my understanding that “Foreigners” ( are the Chinese not foreigners ) couldn’t work or own businesses in the Philippines. Or at least, not on a Tourist Visa. I’m learning that the Chinese have intermarried with the Philippine citizens and have established themselves as the dominate citizens in the Philippines. I’m not sure about this but, there is also some status associated with having a two letter last name? It just really ticks me off, to see the Chinese Coast Guard intimidating the Philippine Coast Guard, and encroaching upon the Philippine sovereignty in the South China Sea, yet they are welcomed here in Cebu with open arms :(
Upto 40% of Fiilipinos have some Chinese ancestry Chinese traders were their before the Spanish arrived 500 years ago so its part of them not just a current thing
Difference local Chinese blended into d Filipino local cultures,norms ,habits etc over a long period could b decades but Mainland Chinese who came to d Philippines include those economic opportunists,money launders/gamblers,and those criminals wanted in their own country @fugitives and those crooks who sneaked into Philippines,took advantage of d "lighter law"(as compared to China)to engage in drugs snuggling and manufacturing knowing d laxity of local long wide coastline and can easily bribe those in authority (in Philippines)
@@ThanaykhwamMai-ff4ni I'd love to learn more about these Chinese "Drug Snugglers". It sounds so cosy.😂
@@LordLucan-7 rampant even used ambulance in connivance with d local Mayor at Quezon years back. Busted
You might want to investigate that a little more. In most of SE Asia, the business communities are dominated by ethnic Chinese. (I'm married to one). They are not necessarily connected to the PRC. On the other hand, pre pandemic, there were many PRC Chinese owned resorts in Thailand too, and they tried to buy up the whole supply chain to maximize income. The Philippines CG are quite right to respond robustly to PRC incursions on their sovereignty. No one respects a weakling and Western "reasonableness" is often seen as weak by the rest of the world.
I prefer being an outsider, and I have come to terms with the fact that I will always be one, and I am content with that. I appreciate the way I am treated as a foreigner in the Philippines, but this is merely my personal perspective ✌🏿
Then it’s a perfect fit 🤣👍
I appreciate your transparency of truth and the many facts and reminders.
The tribe piece is very profound and many may not be able to understand this. Thank you again and I wish joy peace and blessings to you your family and what you continue to do!
Grateful,
Understand the American thing...married to a Filipino, every time we visit the Islands....I'm American, even though I'm British, and this is from relatives! From strangers in the market..."hello Joe", left right and centre. Tiny Vehicles, yup me climbing in, is like a clown into one of those clown cars...prices..oh yes. As for fitting in, yes, I am the "family foreigner". Damn Pea, right on the head
Thanks, Dalek - I’m glad I got it right! The Doctor would be proud of me 😢🤣🤣
Kano just means foreigner, and they don't care you're not actually an American.
I've been there many times wonderfull country warm and helpfull people ...I met a beautiful lady got married.she came to live with me in UK and that was 23years ago..next year we will move out there to live ...
My Filipina wife’s mother has always accepted me even when we first met in 1991! She would even refuse to cook for her daughter unless I was invited to eat!! When my wife passed away last year her family still excepts me as part of the family!! I will be going back to visit sometime soon! Your videos give me more insight on my in-laws what they might be thinking!I really love the ending of your video today! Pea you continue to get more and more beautiful with every episode!! Thank you for what you do!! Take care!!!
You hit the jackpot, Jeff ❤️👍
The thought of going somewhere and everybody knowing my name blows my mind I'm sure at first it would be quite the experience that guy Joe must have had quite the experience😂😅😂 on another note I really appreciate your willingness to be upfront and honest I believe you are being very sincere and speaking from your heart which means a lot and shows your character quite well you must have had a very good upbringing I can only pray that my children who are about your age have friends as well-adjusted As You Are❤😊❤
I'm half White/Filipino. Almost everything she says here I've experience it when i was there in philly. They never suspect im also a filipino because most of my white features are shown but overall they were friendly and welcoming, especially my filipino relatives.
@@CustomMuscleCarAccessories : Yeah! I had a friend in high school who was half white American, and half Filipino. None of us ever suspected that he was half Filipino. Thirty years after graduation from high school I went to visit this guy, and brought my Filipina girlfriend with me. She immediately recognized him as being half Filipino! Wow!
Goodevening Filipina Pea, I immediately clicked on your latest video ❤❤❤. Gonna love watching this ❤❤.
I sure do appreciate that, Ezekiel 👍👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea I'll always be supporting this channel 😊😍.
when i went to china 20 years ago, as i was walking around i saw a local staring at me as he was walking & then he walked right into a pole
I'm sure it happens all the time when people see a girl a pretty as pea.
On my first trip an elderly gentleman on a bicycle swivelled his head to stare at me as he rode past through the roadworks, I expected something similar 😮
Serves him right 🤣🤣
That happens in Poland all the time & nobody ever gets hurt.
@@spincube5734 🤣😂😅😁😅😆
@@TheFilipinaPea or left :)
Pea, this vid has brightened my day, thank you, an being called the "foreigner" to me is far from being offensive, oh an you are beautiful inside an out
And the Pea is looking better and better.
I was In China for five months as a college student, in the interior of the country. As a 6’4 white guy, literally everyone was staring at me. I got it. Never bothered me.
I was the first foreigner in many Chinese towns I visited, the whole street stopped to stare, then someone would address me in English! 😅 Except when I lived in Sanya, where shop assistants always spoke in Russian..
@@ianrichardson3228: That happened to me as well. Usually it was very broken English but I always appreciated the effort and went out of my way to talk to them and to talk slowly.
"Some of you Brits, Canadians, Aussies!" There! Imagine you are none of those and look like none of those and you still get called American.
I find it insulting. It implies Americans are either the worst or the best of westerners (neither) and I look like one. If anything then americans look like me a native northern european
Accept the fact that the world looks at America as the symbol of the west , and get out of your feelings
I would feel insulted. 😅 While visiting Kyiv many years ago, the 1st thing I would say to a Ukrainian I was chatting up was "I'm Canadian, not American". To avoid getting stuck with the negative stereotypes. And I actually crossed paths with a few American tourists while I was there. Yikes! They were awful! 😬
What an ignorant comment. This guy must of failed his geography class, lol. I am Canadian, which makes me American. The Americas are continents, anyone living in North, or South America, is an American.
I was called American several times there, I didnt mind. It was funny. I am an Eastern-European.
It was even funnier, when they said, it is easy to me to have a convo in english, or learn it, because I am white. As a Hungarian, my native language is probably closer to tagalog than to engilsh. 😂
Listening to you is very unique. As I listen I realize it's like Listening to a friend. You're amazing.
If you’re bothered by being called a foreigner in someone else’s country, then stay home.
The blue in the dress looks good on you.
Thanks, Famous Amos! ❤️😊
Hi Pea, another fine video. I can't wait to get to Dumaguete this November and find out for myself how I will be received. I'm not too worried, your videos in the past have shed a lot of light on the subject, and I'm ready to explore. See you soon.
You’ll be well prepared, ECB 👍😊❤️
i think that in Duma theyve seen so many Americans that you may not get attention but in other places you will for sure. when i went to meet my now wife i was sir Bryan when i got there, it made me happy. when i left the USA i was nothing but a broken down old man but when i got there i was treated so good. it made it hard to leave the Philippines for sure.
Thanks Pea even though I was a missionary and tried to learn the culture you have helped me heap's in understanding how and why I am treated the way I am. Thanks for being so open and straight forward. Keep up the great work for people like me.
One thing I would like to know is how do Filipino men feel about foreigners coming there to find a wife to take back to their western country? Never really hear that side of the story when people talk about being a passport bro.
Goodbye😊
Japan is not much different. Except feminism has gotten through customs.
That's going to ruin their country just like it's ruined the United States
I'm Canadian, and I would not be at all offended being called a foreigner in a land in which I was not born and raised. Nor would I ever be offended if mistaken for an American. This is because I've never in my life drank the Canadian education system/media/government/pop-culture Kool Aid that's been poured down on us for going on sixty years.
You see, in the absence of a we-the-people style constitution, Canada's oligarchic er, "Liberal" government has gone to great lengths to preach the narrative to Canadians that we somehow are more free than Americans and have a better standard of living than our friends to the south do.
Both are blatantly false. But I guess that, as our government slowly usurped our freedom and basic human rights in a death-of-a-thousand-cuts agenda, they figured that they could slowly brainwash Canadians into hating the US. Such a psy-op would be deemed necessary lest Canadians, upon seeing their own liberty being stolen, look toward those greener and freer pastures on the other side of the 49th parallel and then want to (gasp!) LEAVE. The horror! So yeah, mistake me for an American. I'd consider it a badge of honour.
@@zeus014 don’t like it in Canada, don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
@@roygolden2628 you spelled Iran wrong.
Nice job Pea! A very articulate explanation on a complex and multi layered topic called culture. I used to travel to Manila on biz and would be greeted as “Joe.” I thought it was funny. Greetings from 🇺🇸
You had me at naked. Being offended at words people use is being overly sensitive. That's a person that lives a life of drama and you shouldn't waste your time on them.
Not true at all. Words carry meaning and vibration and wether we like it or not they can be painful and hurt someone or can words of uplifting nature.