The way Max keeps getting panic attacks when he reads the letters is deeply relatable to me. He values them and wants to respond, but he has to get over the anxiety from his past first
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10) We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10) We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
Then I think the movie did its job. Part of the story is trying to explore the unknown which makes us scared, so that we can grow as pple. Life is scary,it is dreary, but its also an amazing expierence and worth living❤ " and that's when I knew, you only need one good friend,to get you through a bad day"
I love how this movie portrays Aspenger syndrome. It actually looks a lot like real life. My twin sister has Aspenger, and she absolutely loves this movie ♡ I showed to her before she was diagnosed, and even before she knew what Aspenger was, she could relate to Max a lot. I love her to pieces and, yes, this is a sad movie, but everytime I see it, my heart fills with joy and love.
Sad but beautiful. The ending scene always gets me every time. Knowing he laminated all of her letters and kept them all glued to his ceiling was just beautiful and pure. He died, yes but died smiling...
strange!!! I also have a twin sister, we're both 21 and she's been diagnosed with aspergers since high school I believe. it's a struggle, that's for sure
I cannot express how happy I am that you are talking about this movie. I relate a lot with the themes of loneliness and acceptance, and the movie's presentation and style is truly nothing like anything I have ever seen before. I hope that your video brings more attention back to this movie, because it truly is a special film with a lot to say.
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10) We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
I really like this film. It has the most accurate portrayal of Aspergers I have ever seen in media, which is a big deal to me as I have the syndrome as well. I really connected with Max and all the little things that make sense to him but to the rest of the world seem odd or different. I understood the difficulties in recognizing social cues as well as the difficulties with anxiety and feelings of isolation. I think Max said it best: "I find the world very confusing and chaotic, because my mind is very literal and logical. I have trouble understanding the expressions of people's faces. I'm hypersensitive, clumsy, and I can get very concerned. I like solving puzzles. I have trouble expressing my emotions." Now Aspergers affects everyone differently, and I consider myself to be on the lighter end of the spectrum, but to hear something that is able to say that which I've always had trouble conveying is such a big relief.
Im hypersensitive too tho. Im also very literal and try to apply logic to things that shouldnt need it or have it. Ur not alone internet stranger, i feel u so deeply
I swear this is the first movie I heard of that actually had an Aspi in it actually dealing with accurate struggles. As an Aspi as well it’s honestly refreshing :)
Just got diagnosed with Autism Spectrum disorder, the type that would’ve been called Aspergers some years ago, but that’s not a registered condition in the uk anymore since it basically falls under Autism, so it’s easier to diagnose with ASD for psychiatrists. I like the message of normality in this movie. Autism is an intrinsically unique way of being, and it’s not a disease or an affliction, it’s just another way of being. My brother was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was younger, and we are both incredibly different. He was basically a child prodigy, but took a while to get to the same level of emotional intelligence as an average kid, and is currently doing a Phd and does ballroom dancing! He was always the stereotypical ‘cold but smart’ guy and was horrible to me when we were little, but as we’ve both grown we’re actually able to have pleasant conversations, which i think is pretty cool. I on the other hand have mastered ‘masking’ (when neuro-divergent people put significant effort into acting ‘’’normal’’’) through mild bullying when i was younger and hundreds of ‘micro-aggressions’. It’s caused me to be incredibly anxious about every little thing i do that might draw attention to myself in unfamiliar social interactions. I struggle with things being ‘out of place’ and having to change plans suddenly, i just really like my way of being, keeping my room, even my bloomin minecraft inventory. If kids had never made fun of me for acting different, if adults hadn’t told me to stay quiet all the time and enforced behaviour that was a result of pure stress, i might be a lot happier today. All I need from others is a little understanding, and acceptance of my different state of being ‘normal’. Of course, I still need to learn and mature in many aspects myself, but it’s a lot easier with the help of others. Hopefully, since i got my diagnosis last week, I’ll finally have something to show to people, and get help with some of the other stuff. Sorry for the rant, just kinda needed to get this outta my system. Thanks if you read
I relate to you about the masking and having asd in general . It's hard for girls to be diagnosed in the US because of the fact that we are (typically) better at masking and being "chameleons" than the "average male autistic". I say, everyone just may experience this differently. I need plans to be set in place and not change , take words and sentence structure quite literally, and can get overwhelmed by sudden noises or sensations. I cannot always understand people's intentions or cues and that's landed me in some crappy situations. Anyway, thanks for your share! I 😊
It is truly rare for me to find a movie I've never even heard of before, much less an animated movie about depression and self acceptance. Good job for spreading the word of this movie.
I started to cry while simply watching CLIPS of this movie. I don't think I could handle watching the whole thing. Such a beautiful and impactful movie
There was one scene that no one seems to brought up is when Max became upset about the letter that Mary saying about his Asperger syndrome there was this old man that that was tossing cigarette buds on the ground Max became very upset it looks like he was about to clobber the the old man but then the old man apologize which causes Max's anger to disappear did he realize that people aren't perfect
My god I could sob watching this one. It's so relatable as an autistic person who also deals with the same crap and has all their life... Coincidentally all my friends are "penpals" too! Aka over the internet :) And i love and cherish every single one!! Goodness though does this movie hit hard, all the very dark themes in between the sweetness...
Holy hell. So many films are sad for the sake of it and force sadness into their films cheaply “the dog died etc” but this is sad in how tragic it is. Especially as these are very real issues, and these two people seem to deserve them the least. Thanks for covering this film, especially as it’s outside the usual kind you make videos on.
I found out about this movie when I did an art course after high school. One of the classes I had was sculpting, and the teacher was the lead sculptor(?) of this movie. Super cool guy, I learned a lot from him that year. Anyway, he spoke about working on the film in class and showed us photos of some of the characters at an exhibition they were shown at. I went home and watched the movie (thankfully already spoiled about the fact that she lived because I had seen the model of the baby she went on to birth). Let me tell you, 17 year old, undiagnosed autistic ADHD, thrust into the world on her own for the first me little me was NOT prepared for what that movie was about to show me. It’s really stuck with me over the years
I went to high school and was friends with the actress that voiced young Mary. We also analysed the movie in literature class (a class were were in together) as part of our curriculum lol she was so embarrassed because the teacher was low-key fangirling :')
man, this really hit hard. as a person with autism maxs struggles seriously hit close to home. this movie better expresses what i experience than words can explain. everything about not understanding any social cues to the massive anxiety attacks and how he copes with them to how he has issues with physically expressing emotion is so comforting to me to see. and to think i accidentally watched this as a 9 year old after my parents thought it was a kids animation.
My younger brother has aspergers. Watching this movie without knowing anything about it was amazing. As i started learning more about max i knew what he had, but wasn't sure if they were going to label it in the movie. But it was so damn well done. Such a sad and powerful story
My dad downloaded this movie and asked me if I wanted to watch it when I was, like, 10-11? I didn't understand any of the metaphors and I didn't even remember Max was an aspie. I just knew it was sad and had a bittersweet ending. All this is pretty ironic now that I'm 17 going on 18 and working towards getting my autism diagnosis. Hits different, that's for sure. Seems like I'll have to rewatch this movie soon.
Facts: 3:13 throwing tied shoes up on those wires is what drug sellers do to give others notice. like a little sign that says hey we are selling things around here.
I saw this movie when it first came out, but stopped maybe halfway through after Mary asks where babies come from. I remember seeing Max panicking and then shutting the movie off. It's rare that I do that. But I didn't fully understand what was going on as I was still a child and the movie was unsettling to me - something about it was reaching deep down inside and seeming to touch on this type of depression. Australian movies tend to do that somehow, tapping into this raw nerve and emotion while oftentimes balancing being goofy and light hearted. Wasn't until high school that I saw the film again, this time for class, and I could appreciate it way more. I'm glad it's getting talked about and being brought to people's attention.
When I was a kid we had just gotten Netflix, and this is the first movie I watched. It was really special, and even though I bawled my damn eyes out, I was able to recognize how well done it was even as a child
Holy crap Max is so endearing! I myself have a condition like Max and know many people that have it too, and it really makes me look at this stuff in a new light. This is great!
Holy shit this movie is like a core memory for me as a child. I just found it on netflix or something when i was around 12 and it was so captivating and confusing for me and i related to it a lot but i dont think i quite knew why
This movie helped me understand my depression + autism. And helped me understand that my parents are addicts, and that it's not normal. (For those wanting to judge, my mom took me out of school or she would "kill herself" if she was alone). I didn't have friends, ever. I saw this movie years ago and it felt like a fever dream. Thank you for covering this. Also ignore those people judging you for your hair color. I live in small town Texas, and my hair has been every color of the rainbow. It's not for attention, it's expression. It's a way of expressing myself physically in a way I can't express verbally. Edit: just finished the video and remembered how sad this movie makes me. I wish I were normal. I want to be Mary, not Max. For those of you like me, I want to say I love you, whatever way you accept it.
Been meaning to rewatch this one for a long time. I've watched this one when I was really really young and it never got out of my head. Funny how this is the exact type of content that I love today
I remember casually watching this movie when I was like 14 and it blew me away how sad it was. It was the first time I walked away from a movie actually thinking critically
This movie basically made me feel so much better about my autism. I have the exact same symptoms Max has, but instead of fearing love I crave it, only I don’t exactly know how it works and every time I get anything close to it everything just ends up horribly wrong
Jdnahshsb I'm so happy you have watched this. I stumbled upon it years ago and DANG this movie still sticks with me. I was suicidal at the time and watched it alone not knowing how dark this movie is. I was destroyed and my roommate comes into the livingroom to me bawling my eyes out. I made him watch it with me and watched it a second time. Whenever we are really low and need support we text eachother "Sorry, I've got to go...my tears are smudging up the page..." To let eachother know we need support and help.
I found this movie back in 2013 and ITS SO GOOD. It was NOT what I thought it was gonna be, but I'm so glad I watched it. So rich and complex, I wasn't prepared. Thanks for shining light on it!
I watched this movie when i was little and oh boy i was scarred for life, watching your recap the plot and the event brought tears in my eyes, even though it hits hard I don’t regret watching it.
i'm glad you talked about mary and max, it's such a hidden gem. i got so emotional watching the movie when younger and hearing max talk about his struggles because i could relate on so many levels. as someone who was diagnosed with aspergers pretty late in life (just before graduation), the things he said about self-acceptance and how there was nothing wrong with him really hit home because i'd always been told otherwise. i really appreciate the message of this movie, and i'm thankful that there's some good autistic representation out there that doesn't just make the person the butt of every joke. the movie is refreshingly human, is what i think i'm getting at
i watched this movie at a very young age. my dad and i randomly selected it one saturday morning thinking it was just another claymation kids movie and once we realized that i probably wasnt the target audience, we had already fallen in love with the film. both me and my dad would describe ourselves as melancholy which is why even as a little kid, i felt deeply connected with this movie. i never rewatched the film which is generally something i enjoy but to this day i still think about chocolate hotdogs
Omg, this movie was my childhood!!! I remember watching it when I was very, VERY young. To the point I didn’t know if it was a distant memory or a fever dream. Then I saw someone mention it in a TH-cam video a few years ago. I was so happy because the biggest thing I could remember was the ending where she goes to visit him with her baby and he’s dead.
Mary and Max is one of my favourite films. I come from Melbourne, and remember watching it in the Cinema when it first came out and fall in love with this film. Now almost 15 years later, on a trip back home to Australia, I introduced my fiancé. I am proud to admit I cried a lot, knowing how sad and beautiful this film is. Growing up in Melbourne, I felt a lot like Mary and found comfort in my own pen pals during an early digital age. And we need to remind ourselves of the film's important message and theme. Whilst also learning not to get too angry at the world, and celebrate those little joys and the people around us who do help us out, even if we don't fully appreciate them.
I'm happy to see someone talking about this movie! It was one of my favourite ones as a child, like a comfort movie. Sadly it seems to be one of the lesser known ones
i remember when i first stumbled upon this at like the age of 10 (wouldn’t recommend watching it at such a young age however) and watched it everyday because i loved it so much, i think it’s very underrated and a lot more people should know about it.
I didn't really get this movie as a kid but it still deeply affected (read: startled) me (especially that one scene w/Mary as an adult). So glad you made a vid on it so all the now-adults can truly appreciate its themes.
I was diagnosed with Aspergers as a child and this movie was the first time I saw representation of Aspies, so I have very fond memories of watching it c:
Max smiling while overlooking all the letters Mary sent him over the years made me tear up so damn fast. Definitely gotta give this one a watch soon, thanks for showing us this!
Honestly, the most powerful scene to me was by far the moment where Mary is intoxicated, about to take an overdose, and about to die. The way she acts like the composer and the music itself is insanely powerful. It broke my heart
I saw this in my high school film studies class ! It’s such a great movie. I really wanted to get a tattoo of the homeless man outside where they change his can to say “keep your money I want change” :(
As an autistic individual I can say that this movie is great. It’s the best representation of someone on the spectrum I’ve seen. We are all different so not all of us have the difficulties max has, but it’s definitely the most well worked representation. I don’t see myself as defective, because I’m not, I just view the world and respond to it differently than others. There is nothing wrong with me, I’m merely different and have trouble doing some things. I think one of the thing I related to the most with max, was not being able to understand why people do the things they do sometimes. Things that are logical, like not littering. It’s a wonderful movie, that’s very deep and thought provoking
I remember I found this movie by complete accident thinking it was a horror movie when I rented it with my mom back in middle school I was so confused when the cheery music started playing in the menu and when I watched it I was so surprised by how deep it was
This movie helped me through an excruciating breakup, through the death of my mother, and all other sorts of turbulence. "I forgive you because you are not perfect. You are imperfect and so am I. All humans are imperfect." And "Love yourself first." Those quotes carry me forward, even now.
I watched this movie on a whim and the final scene of the movie made me cry so hard! It’s another one of those movies I’ve only seen once but it had such an impact on me
Thank you for talking about this movie. The first time I watched it I was dealing with the diagnosis of my Bpd and the fact that my family didn’t understand or support me. I felt confused and abnormal, but this movie made me accept myself, yes I deal with things differently, sometimes it sucks but my illness doesn’t define me, and that I’m much more than that :)
I saw this years and years ago and still think about it sometimes, on random gray days. It was in the kid's section of the library. OH HOW WRONG THEY WERE. But such a wonderful surprise.
After reading the title of this video I added Marry & Max to my watch list! I wasn't disappointed! As an Aspie adult, I deeply related to both of the characters struggles. You sent me to watch this movie and I'm very grateful!
I thought this was a kids movie back when dvd stores were still around…and boy was I traumatised but it always lingered on my mind so as an adult I rewatched it and man this shit hit hard
I remember watching this movie years ago, I always remembered exactly what happened in the movie but I couldn't remember the title. The second I saw this video in my notifications, I knew this was it. Thank you for talking about this.
I remember watching this movie a long time ago probably 13 or 14 thinking it was gunna be light hearted and then I ended up balling my eyes out and had a whole new perspective on life.
God I got flashbacks from seeing this movie at my parents friends house as a kid. Never been so terrified and sad at the same time, especially since I didn’t know that much English at that time since I was nine or eight years old. My parents explained it to me afterwards though and I think it helped me understand other people and their struggles. But I don’t really recommend people showing this movie to a nine year old. My parents are just special and wanted us to know about these kind of stuff at an early age I guess lol.
I watched this movie as a child and it actually gave me a lot of comfort? Because around the time I first watched it I got my autism (it was Aspergers at the time but it’s changed and both conditions are recognised as being under one spectrum). It was the first time I had ever seen a character like me having the same condition I did. It helped me feel more normal, no matter how depressing it was.
i haven't watched this movie but based on what i saw in here i think its a pretty good take on how neurotypical people treat ppl on the autism spectrum and how they view autism as some curable disease. of course not having autism would make a nd persons life easier and the sentiment is there but many autistic ppl have stated there is nothing wrong with them, which is true. their brain functions differently and that's not wrong at all. if it weren't for society viewing them as sick and different, they wouldn't struggle as much. they wouldn't feel the pressure from society to behave a certain way and i feel like that's why he passed away with a smile, because she finally understood that in the end. she learned you don't fix things that aren't broken and you don't change people who don't need changing also when he removed the "m" not only did he state he'd never write her name again, but he'd never be able to write his own either. she betrayed him by putting his name in writing where it shouldn't have been. i can imagine he'd never want it to be written again. removing the "m" removed them both from possibilities. it was removing their friendship as a whole
I love how even though Mary's letters are stressful and induce panic attacks, Max still copes with the stress to respond in a timely manner despite it disrupting his routine.
I both love and hate how much I relate to this movie. I actually live near the town Mary lived in, my mother is also an alcoholic, I was bullied at school, my dad loved to "borrow" things and I remember having to go school with buttons missing on my clothes. I also relate to Max as I was recently diagnosed with ASD and also get frequent anxiety attacks. I never thought I could relate to fictional characters as much as this. At times it felt like I was watching a movie based on me but with enough changes made to avoid copyright
I'm happy you liked it. I happen to pick this movie up at a HalfPrice Books and was more than pleased with the story. Character studies always hit me the hardest. This was a great example of that, with that story coming from 2 sides of the conversation. I didn't know where it was going till it was over, and that's the best story you can tell. Maybe one day I can share this movie's impacted on my onw life.
One of my fave movies of all time! Makes me cry every time and reminds me there are good people in this world and to never judge someone who is different.
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The way Max keeps getting panic attacks when he reads the letters is deeply relatable to me. He values them and wants to respond, but he has to get over the anxiety from his past first
Same, i relate a bit too much
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)
We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
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Yeah, for me it's responding or reaching out to DM's of people I know. Call it bad experience entrenching on the new.
Farting in a crowded elevator, and then claiming responsibility has to be one of the most Chad Moves. Never change Max.
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)
We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
What does that even mean
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Chad?
This movie confused the shit out of me when I was a child. I also found it absolutely terrifying
Then I think the movie did its job. Part of the story is trying to explore the unknown which makes us scared, so that we can grow as pple. Life is scary,it is dreary, but its also an amazing expierence and worth living❤ " and that's when I knew, you only need one good friend,to get you through a bad day"
I mean, you saw the character design.
I think it's pretty easy to see why you found it terrifying
I was terrified of Wallace and Gromit as a kid. There's something about claymation that is just disturbing LOL
Yeah i wasnt scared of Coraline unlike others but i know if i saw this i wouldbe shit myself
@@tylociraptor8131 For me it was Chicken Run. i wasnt scared of wallace and gromit for some reason
I love how this movie portrays Aspenger syndrome. It actually looks a lot like real life. My twin sister has Aspenger, and she absolutely loves this movie ♡ I showed to her before she was diagnosed, and even before she knew what Aspenger was, she could relate to Max a lot. I love her to pieces and, yes, this is a sad movie, but everytime I see it, my heart fills with joy and love.
Sad but beautiful. The ending scene always gets me every time. Knowing he laminated all of her letters and kept them all glued to his ceiling was just beautiful and pure. He died, yes but died smiling...
strange!!! I also have a twin sister, we're both 21 and she's been diagnosed with aspergers since high school I believe. it's a struggle, that's for sure
I saw it before I knew, and it meant so, SO much. I felt so SEEN.
I cannot express how happy I am that you are talking about this movie. I relate a lot with the themes of loneliness and acceptance, and the movie's presentation and style is truly nothing like anything I have ever seen before. I hope that your video brings more attention back to this movie, because it truly is a special film with a lot to say.
For we must all appear before “the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” (2 Corinthians 5:10)
We will be judged for every deed we do whether is be good or bad. This isn’t something to worry about even if our bad deeds out weigh our good. Because none are good before God, all have sinned against Him and cursed His name, but He in His tender loving mercy hath given us His Son as our ransom. When Jesus was dying all of Gods wrath and judgement was poured out onto Him even though He was sinless. He was sacrificed and tortured on our behalf though we are sinful and carnal. Christ payed our sin debt with His perfect sinless blood so we may escape judgment and have everlasting life. But this great gift is only for those who accept it and accept Him ❤️
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I really like this film. It has the most accurate portrayal of Aspergers I have ever seen in media, which is a big deal to me as I have the syndrome as well. I really connected with Max and all the little things that make sense to him but to the rest of the world seem odd or different. I understood the difficulties in recognizing social cues as well as the difficulties with anxiety and feelings of isolation.
I think Max said it best: "I find the world very confusing and chaotic, because my mind is very literal and logical. I have trouble understanding the expressions of people's faces. I'm hypersensitive, clumsy, and I can get very concerned. I like solving puzzles. I have trouble expressing my emotions."
Now Aspergers affects everyone differently, and I consider myself to be on the lighter end of the spectrum, but to hear something that is able to say that which I've always had trouble conveying is such a big relief.
Yeah its prob the most accurate rep ive seen besides maybe peacemaker and will graham (even tho those two are headcanons for me lol)
Im hypersensitive too tho. Im also very literal and try to apply logic to things that shouldnt need it or have it. Ur not alone internet stranger, i feel u so deeply
@@ghoulishtoad will is so autistic. I headcanon the lady in queen's gambit as autistic
@@lancechiasson7126 same, sometimes I'll say something and not figure out that it could come off as insensitive until later.
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I mean I've seen other people headcannon Will Graham, but I thought the Peacemaker thing was just me lol
This isn't so ba-
"He could feel love but not express it"
Oh
"He finds out he has aspergers"
Oh no
"He physically cannot cry"
OH NO IT'S ME
I’m sorry friend, we accept you for who you are here.
This community is very supportive.
I swear this is the first movie I heard of that actually had an Aspi in it actually dealing with accurate struggles. As an Aspi as well it’s honestly refreshing :)
@@ac1dsplash723 Same here, friend. I don't like the look of this film, but it's a high quality film regardless. More things like this needs to exist.
Haha... yeah... :(
It’s about time somebody talked about this movie. It needs way more recognition.
Check out Steve Reviews’ video in this movie, he does a really good job.
Just got diagnosed with Autism Spectrum disorder, the type that would’ve been called Aspergers some years ago, but that’s not a registered condition in the uk anymore since it basically falls under Autism, so it’s easier to diagnose with ASD for psychiatrists. I like the message of normality in this movie.
Autism is an intrinsically unique way of being, and it’s not a disease or an affliction, it’s just another way of being.
My brother was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was younger, and we are both incredibly different.
He was basically a child prodigy, but took a while to get to the same level of emotional intelligence as an average kid, and is currently doing a Phd and does ballroom dancing!
He was always the stereotypical ‘cold but smart’ guy and was horrible to me when we were little, but as we’ve both grown we’re actually able to have pleasant conversations, which i think is pretty cool.
I on the other hand have mastered ‘masking’ (when neuro-divergent people put significant effort into acting ‘’’normal’’’) through mild bullying when i was younger and hundreds of ‘micro-aggressions’. It’s caused me to be incredibly anxious about every little thing i do that might draw attention to myself in unfamiliar social interactions. I struggle with things being ‘out of place’ and having to change plans suddenly, i just really like my way of being, keeping my room, even my bloomin minecraft inventory.
If kids had never made fun of me for acting different, if adults hadn’t told me to stay quiet all the time and enforced behaviour that was a result of pure stress, i might be a lot happier today.
All I need from others is a little understanding, and acceptance of my different state of being ‘normal’. Of course, I still need to learn and mature in many aspects myself, but it’s a lot easier with the help of others.
Hopefully, since i got my diagnosis last week, I’ll finally have something to show to people, and get help with some of the other stuff.
Sorry for the rant, just kinda needed to get this outta my system. Thanks if you read
I relate to you about the masking and having asd in general . It's hard for girls to be diagnosed in the US because of the fact that we are (typically) better at masking and being "chameleons" than the "average male autistic". I say, everyone just may experience this differently.
I need plans to be set in place and not change , take words and sentence structure quite literally, and can get overwhelmed by sudden noises or sensations. I cannot always understand people's intentions or cues and that's landed me in some crappy situations.
Anyway, thanks for your share! I 😊
sending you love
it can be so different from person to person, but I feel like we all can see parts of ourselves in this film. and it's so powerful.
I relate a lot to this, thank you for sharing.💜
He did all three goals in his life but the one that brought him most happiness was being friends with Mary 😢
It is truly rare for me to find a movie I've never even heard of before, much less an animated movie about depression and self acceptance. Good job for spreading the word of this movie.
I started to cry while simply watching CLIPS of this movie. I don't think I could handle watching the whole thing. Such a beautiful and impactful movie
There was one scene that no one seems to brought up is when Max became upset about the letter that Mary saying about his Asperger syndrome there was this old man that that was tossing cigarette buds on the ground Max became very upset it looks like he was about to clobber the the old man but then the old man apologize which causes Max's anger to disappear did he realize that people aren't perfect
My god I could sob watching this one. It's so relatable as an autistic person who also deals with the same crap and has all their life... Coincidentally all my friends are "penpals" too! Aka over the internet :) And i love and cherish every single one!! Goodness though does this movie hit hard, all the very dark themes in between the sweetness...
So happy for u :-D
and I saw myself in both of them SO much.
i first saw this movie as an 11 year old, im like 22 now and this movie still hits me deep every time i watch it
@@abigel_____3725 what the fuck
I'M SO HAPPY YOU'VE FINALLY MADE THIS VIDEO, I'VE BEEN WAITING FOREVER TO SEE YOU EXPERIENCE MARY AND MAX!!!
This is my all time favorite movie, used to watch it with my dad all the time. It used to be on Netflix but they sadly took it off
Do people even fall for these bots?
@@itisi07 I’d love to think no one would, but some peeps prob click the link just cuz it’s there lol
@Jabraan They do this with every big TH-camr the only way that we can make them go is by ignoring them and reporting them
@@itsyaboijordan415 yea! Keep reporting please. I do it everytime I come across that kind of post.
They have it here on TH-cam (:
Holy hell. So many films are sad for the sake of it and force sadness into their films cheaply “the dog died etc” but this is sad in how tragic it is. Especially as these are very real issues, and these two people seem to deserve them the least. Thanks for covering this film, especially as it’s outside the usual kind you make videos on.
I found out about this movie when I did an art course after high school. One of the classes I had was sculpting, and the teacher was the lead sculptor(?) of this movie. Super cool guy, I learned a lot from him that year. Anyway, he spoke about working on the film in class and showed us photos of some of the characters at an exhibition they were shown at. I went home and watched the movie (thankfully already spoiled about the fact that she lived because I had seen the model of the baby she went on to birth). Let me tell you, 17 year old, undiagnosed autistic ADHD, thrust into the world on her own for the first me little me was NOT prepared for what that movie was about to show me. It’s really stuck with me over the years
I went to high school and was friends with the actress that voiced young Mary. We also analysed the movie in literature class (a class were were in together) as part of our curriculum lol she was so embarrassed because the teacher was low-key fangirling :')
One of my favorite movies. Watched it randomly one day years ago, and I was hooked. It’s so sad and heartbreakingly sweet.
Finally some Mary and Max recognition
man, this really hit hard. as a person with autism maxs struggles seriously hit close to home. this movie better expresses what i experience than words can explain. everything about not understanding any social cues to the massive anxiety attacks and how he copes with them to how he has issues with physically expressing emotion is so comforting to me to see. and to think i accidentally watched this as a 9 year old after my parents thought it was a kids animation.
The audio quality on this video is amazing. Bionic's soothing voice in my ear telling me about a depressing movie 🙏
My younger brother has aspergers. Watching this movie without knowing anything about it was amazing. As i started learning more about max i knew what he had, but wasn't sure if they were going to label it in the movie. But it was so damn well done. Such a sad and powerful story
My dad downloaded this movie and asked me if I wanted to watch it when I was, like, 10-11? I didn't understand any of the metaphors and I didn't even remember Max was an aspie. I just knew it was sad and had a bittersweet ending.
All this is pretty ironic now that I'm 17 going on 18 and working towards getting my autism diagnosis. Hits different, that's for sure.
Seems like I'll have to rewatch this movie soon.
This is one of my favorite movies! Rip Phillip Seymour Hoffman.
Facts: 3:13 throwing tied shoes up on those wires is what drug sellers do to give others notice. like a little sign that says hey we are selling things around here.
In 2014 I looked up "Coraline " and Netflix was like, we don't have that terrifying movie BUT we recommend this mentally terrifying movie, kid.
Oh god...
When I looked up coraline what actually appeared was monster house. Less depressing, but for a 10 yo I was TERRIFIED.
I saw this movie when it first came out, but stopped maybe halfway through after Mary asks where babies come from. I remember seeing Max panicking and then shutting the movie off. It's rare that I do that. But I didn't fully understand what was going on as I was still a child and the movie was unsettling to me - something about it was reaching deep down inside and seeming to touch on this type of depression. Australian movies tend to do that somehow, tapping into this raw nerve and emotion while oftentimes balancing being goofy and light hearted.
Wasn't until high school that I saw the film again, this time for class, and I could appreciate it way more.
I'm glad it's getting talked about and being brought to people's attention.
When I was a kid we had just gotten Netflix, and this is the first movie I watched. It was really special, and even though I bawled my damn eyes out, I was able to recognize how well done it was even as a child
as a guy with aspergers this is the most accurate representation of aspergers i've ever seen in film.
I noticed that the baby also has the birthmark Mary had. With whtmat she learned hopefully she can teach the kid self love just like Max.
You go into this movie expecting some kind of dark child molesty stuff. You come out completely shook.
Holy crap Max is so endearing! I myself have a condition like Max and know many people that have it too, and it really makes me look at this stuff in a new light. This is great!
Holy shit this movie is like a core memory for me as a child. I just found it on netflix or something when i was around 12 and it was so captivating and confusing for me and i related to it a lot but i dont think i quite knew why
This movie helped me understand my depression + autism. And helped me understand that my parents are addicts, and that it's not normal. (For those wanting to judge, my mom took me out of school or she would "kill herself" if she was alone). I didn't have friends, ever. I saw this movie years ago and it felt like a fever dream. Thank you for covering this.
Also ignore those people judging you for your hair color. I live in small town Texas, and my hair has been every color of the rainbow. It's not for attention, it's expression. It's a way of expressing myself physically in a way I can't express verbally.
Edit: just finished the video and remembered how sad this movie makes me. I wish I were normal. I want to be Mary, not Max.
For those of you like me, I want to say I love you, whatever way you accept it.
We had to watch this on our animation course and like, I dunno why but the artstyle made me anxious?? Like the animation is amazing but I feel uneasy
Been meaning to rewatch this one for a long time. I've watched this one when I was really really young and it never got out of my head. Funny how this is the exact type of content that I love today
The writing, the stop motion and the music is just perfect.
This isn't just a movie, it's a masterpiece.
"Maybe you were born with Aspergers and you didn't even know it"
I did not expect that line to speak to me like that, you scared me holy shit
I remember casually watching this movie when I was like 14 and it blew me away how sad it was. It was the first time I walked away from a movie actually thinking critically
I’m never going to find another character as relatable as Max…
Same!
Donatello from rottmnt could be a contender.
This movie basically made me feel so much better about my autism. I have the exact same symptoms Max has, but instead of fearing love I crave it, only I don’t exactly know how it works and every time I get anything close to it everything just ends up horribly wrong
In fact the things that really gave me huge panic attacks and still do are when people bring up my grades or when a phone rings out of the blue
Jdnahshsb I'm so happy you have watched this. I stumbled upon it years ago and DANG this movie still sticks with me.
I was suicidal at the time and watched it alone not knowing how dark this movie is. I was destroyed and my roommate comes into the livingroom to me bawling my eyes out. I made him watch it with me and watched it a second time. Whenever we are really low and need support we text eachother "Sorry, I've got to go...my tears are smudging up the page..."
To let eachother know we need support and help.
I found this movie back in 2013 and ITS SO GOOD. It was NOT what I thought it was gonna be, but I'm so glad I watched it. So rich and complex, I wasn't prepared. Thanks for shining light on it!
I watched this movie when i was little and oh boy i was scarred for life, watching your recap the plot and the event brought tears in my eyes, even though it hits hard I don’t regret watching it.
i'm glad you talked about mary and max, it's such a hidden gem. i got so emotional watching the movie when younger and hearing max talk about his struggles because i could relate on so many levels. as someone who was diagnosed with aspergers pretty late in life (just before graduation), the things he said about self-acceptance and how there was nothing wrong with him really hit home because i'd always been told otherwise. i really appreciate the message of this movie, and i'm thankful that there's some good autistic representation out there that doesn't just make the person the butt of every joke. the movie is refreshingly human, is what i think i'm getting at
I have autism, and just hearing the review felt so relatable I nearly cried.
I cried in every form with this film.
The movie is free on TH-cam rn!
i watched this movie at a very young age. my dad and i randomly selected it one saturday morning thinking it was just another claymation kids movie and once we realized that i probably wasnt the target audience, we had already fallen in love with the film. both me and my dad would describe ourselves as melancholy which is why even as a little kid, i felt deeply connected with this movie. i never rewatched the film which is generally something i enjoy but to this day i still think about chocolate hotdogs
“You are my best friend, you are my only friend”- Max
😭
Omg, this movie was my childhood!!! I remember watching it when I was very, VERY young. To the point I didn’t know if it was a distant memory or a fever dream. Then I saw someone mention it in a TH-cam video a few years ago. I was so happy because the biggest thing I could remember was the ending where she goes to visit him with her baby and he’s dead.
Mary and Max is one of my favourite films. I come from Melbourne, and remember watching it in the Cinema when it first came out and fall in love with this film. Now almost 15 years later, on a trip back home to Australia, I introduced my fiancé. I am proud to admit I cried a lot, knowing how sad and beautiful this film is. Growing up in Melbourne, I felt a lot like Mary and found comfort in my own pen pals during an early digital age. And we need to remind ourselves of the film's important message and theme. Whilst also learning not to get too angry at the world, and celebrate those little joys and the people around us who do help us out, even if we don't fully appreciate them.
I recall loving this movie. I was happy to "relive" it & enjoy the stop-motion shots through this video
I'm happy to see someone talking about this movie! It was one of my favourite ones as a child, like a comfort movie. Sadly it seems to be one of the lesser known ones
This just resurfaced a memory I forgot I had holy shit I watch this when I was so young I think it kinda traumatized me or smth
i remember when i first stumbled upon this at like the age of 10 (wouldn’t recommend watching it at such a young age however) and watched it everyday because i loved it so much, i think it’s very underrated and a lot more people should know about it.
“Max dies with a smile on his face. Something he was never able to do” well yeah obviously you only die once
you just pulled a repressed memory from my brain, i remember this movie so clearly now
I didn't really get this movie as a kid but it still deeply affected (read: startled) me (especially that one scene w/Mary as an adult). So glad you made a vid on it so all the now-adults can truly appreciate its themes.
I was diagnosed with Aspergers as a child and this movie was the first time I saw representation of Aspies, so I have very fond memories of watching it c:
Max smiling while overlooking all the letters Mary sent him over the years made me tear up so damn fast. Definitely gotta give this one a watch soon, thanks for showing us this!
Honestly, the most powerful scene to me was by far the moment where Mary is intoxicated, about to take an overdose, and about to die. The way she acts like the composer and the music itself is insanely powerful. It broke my heart
I saw this in my high school film studies class ! It’s such a great movie. I really wanted to get a tattoo of the homeless man outside where they change his can to say “keep your money I want change” :(
You should check out "The life of a zucchini"- similiarly twisted and dark "movie for children". The first scene itself makes you say wtf.
i remember seeing half of this movie on netflix as a kid. i’ve been trying to find it since then
As an autistic individual I can say that this movie is great. It’s the best representation of someone on the spectrum I’ve seen. We are all different so not all of us have the difficulties max has, but it’s definitely the most well worked representation.
I don’t see myself as defective, because I’m not, I just view the world and respond to it differently than others. There is nothing wrong with me, I’m merely different and have trouble doing some things.
I think one of the thing I related to the most with max, was not being able to understand why people do the things they do sometimes. Things that are logical, like not littering.
It’s a wonderful movie, that’s very deep and thought provoking
I remember I found this movie by complete accident thinking it was a horror movie when I rented it with my mom back in middle school
I was so confused when the cheery music started playing in the menu and when I watched it I was so surprised by how deep it was
dude i watched this as a kid and i loved it
This movie helped me through an excruciating breakup, through the death of my mother, and all other sorts of turbulence.
"I forgive you because you are not perfect. You are imperfect and so am I. All humans are imperfect."
And
"Love yourself first."
Those quotes carry me forward, even now.
“We don’t get to choose our warts. They are a part of us.”
-Max.
I watched this movie on a whim and the final scene of the movie made me cry so hard! It’s another one of those movies I’ve only seen once but it had such an impact on me
So lowkey addicted to you're channel rn and I can already tell you'll get to 1million in no time.
Literally made me weep at the end, one of my favorites
Thank you for talking about this movie. The first time I watched it I was dealing with the diagnosis of my Bpd and the fact that my family didn’t understand or support me. I felt confused and abnormal, but this movie made me accept myself, yes I deal with things differently, sometimes it sucks but my illness doesn’t define me, and that I’m much more than that :)
As someone with asperger's this movie truly spoke to me.
6:48 I love how Adam Elliot included one of his shorts.
I saw this years and years ago and still think about it sometimes, on random gray days. It was in the kid's section of the library. OH HOW WRONG THEY WERE. But such a wonderful surprise.
After reading the title of this video I added Marry & Max to my watch list! I wasn't disappointed! As an Aspie adult, I deeply related to both of the characters struggles. You sent me to watch this movie and I'm very grateful!
I'm crying in the club, yall.
I thought this was a kids movie back when dvd stores were still around…and boy was I traumatised but it always lingered on my mind so as an adult I rewatched it and man this shit hit hard
i LOVE this movie. it's one of my favorites. if i remember correctly, it's a true story.
THANK YOU FOR EXPOSING THIS MOVIE TO MORE PEOPLE BECAUSE ITS A FRIGGIN MASTERPIECE
As a person with autism myself, I can relate to Max. I love this movie so much!
Being autistic myself, I can relate so much to Max.
I see myself as half Mary, half Max. I need the order but I'm so emotional. I'm creative but don't understand why people do things.
I remember watching this movie years ago, I always remembered exactly what happened in the movie but I couldn't remember the title. The second I saw this video in my notifications, I knew this was it. Thank you for talking about this.
I cannot believe I haven't heard of this movie it's so tragically beautiful. Thank you for for this!
I remember watching this movie a long time ago probably 13 or 14 thinking it was gunna be light hearted and then I ended up balling my eyes out and had a whole new perspective on life.
God I got flashbacks from seeing this movie at my parents friends house as a kid. Never been so terrified and sad at the same time, especially since I didn’t know that much English at that time since I was nine or eight years old. My parents explained it to me afterwards though and I think it helped me understand other people and their struggles. But I don’t really recommend people showing this movie to a nine year old. My parents are just special and wanted us to know about these kind of stuff at an early age I guess lol.
I watched this movie as a child and it actually gave me a lot of comfort? Because around the time I first watched it I got my autism (it was Aspergers at the time but it’s changed and both conditions are recognised as being under one spectrum). It was the first time I had ever seen a character like me having the same condition I did. It helped me feel more normal, no matter how depressing it was.
i haven't watched this movie but based on what i saw in here i think its a pretty good take on how neurotypical people treat ppl on the autism spectrum and how they view autism as some curable disease. of course not having autism would make a nd persons life easier and the sentiment is there but many autistic ppl have stated there is nothing wrong with them, which is true. their brain functions differently and that's not wrong at all. if it weren't for society viewing them as sick and different, they wouldn't struggle as much. they wouldn't feel the pressure from society to behave a certain way and i feel like that's why he passed away with a smile, because she finally understood that in the end. she learned you don't fix things that aren't broken and you don't change people who don't need changing
also when he removed the "m" not only did he state he'd never write her name again, but he'd never be able to write his own either. she betrayed him by putting his name in writing where it shouldn't have been. i can imagine he'd never want it to be written again. removing the "m" removed them both from possibilities. it was removing their friendship as a whole
I have loved this movie for YEARS. Im so happy rn
I love how even though Mary's letters are stressful and induce panic attacks, Max still copes with the stress to respond in a timely manner despite it disrupting his routine.
I both love and hate how much I relate to this movie. I actually live near the town Mary lived in, my mother is also an alcoholic, I was bullied at school, my dad loved to "borrow" things and I remember having to go school with buttons missing on my clothes. I also relate to Max as I was recently diagnosed with ASD and also get frequent anxiety attacks. I never thought I could relate to fictional characters as much as this. At times it felt like I was watching a movie based on me but with enough changes made to avoid copyright
I'm happy you liked it. I happen to pick this movie up at a HalfPrice Books and was more than pleased with the story.
Character studies always hit me the hardest. This was a great example of that, with that story coming from 2 sides of the conversation.
I didn't know where it was going till it was over, and that's the best story you can tell.
Maybe one day I can share this movie's impacted on my onw life.
And I don't think we need a cure either.
Tear jerking. A great representation of mental health in cinema
I never noticed how bionic looks like discount Orlando Bloom
One of my fave movies of all time! Makes me cry every time and reminds me there are good people in this world and to never judge someone who is different.
Well my heart is broke....thanks movie...