Ukuqhela kakubi sana! She wouldn’t have even reached the top step kwami yoh. I would’ve asked her to walk down those very stairs & leave my home. Angeke.
I was body shamed by my aunt at a family gathering.. Me and my cousin(who's petite) were coming back from the shops and we put the goods on the table and sat down,aunt came in and said "no wonder y'all are so big, cant even put stuff where they belong". It got to me so badly I broke down cause I knew it was directed to me. I've always avoided comments about my weight especially when it comes from strangers cause they don't know crap about my life but it gets to me when it's a family member because that should be my safe place away from all the body shaming.. Thank you for sharing this. I LOVE YOU SIS❤️ .
I’m so sorry you had to go through that mama. Ag 😔. The very same people that should be protecting us hey. It’s sad. But one day is one day kuzolunga. It’s my pleasure and I love you too 🤗❤️
Siza you're here to change certain narratives... dump stereotypical thinking. I love this... You're defs an influencer! We are learning from you sis ❤️
The saddest thing is learning to love yourself, accepting your body and getting to a point of smiling when you're naked in front of the mirror and then someone triggers you with unnecessary comments which will be playing in your head long after they have left and forgotten about you.
I love how you said "sometimes you won't know what a person is going through" sometimes I wake up personally feeling like I left my confidence in my sleep. I wake up with insecurities about my weight and little things that people say will trigger so many emotions. Thank you so much for this ❤
Vele va nghenaphi? Especially when: 1. God who made me is not complaining 2. My parents accept, love and are proud of me 3. When I love myself just the way I am 4. When my GG mommy inspires, motivates and advices me. Uzo nghenaphi umuntu🙄. You are beautiful Siza and I really like how you handled the situation with her excuses on top of that. We as women need to stand together and uplift each other. 💕💕💕💕
I can see you are addressing us with a triggering issue but have you seen how gorgeous you look😍😍😍 I'll have to rewatch the video coz your beauty distracted me😢😍😍 umuhle Ntombooo😰
Body shaming has been my life and I used to cry a lot until my mom told me that everyone who body shames you has a problem. My dear mom continue, girl look yourself in the mirror and tell me what you see,you are so very beautiful very pretty indeed. Siza you are pretty confident and through out your life you will attract negativety. Jeolus don't even bother married to the man who loves you very much. Keep shining dearest.🙏🏾🙏🏾
Siza, last Dec I got in trouble because I said to my aunt commenting about weight is not a greeting because there is alot going on with her looks but we not saying anything, when my family wanted to call me to order I explained where I was coming from and it went on to many other avenues, asking my recently married cousin about kids and all that other stuff like you saying that has NOTHING to do with them, I told them our houses don't have dogs that bite, and if they carry on with this behavior we won't go home anymore... People were shook, my dad even stood with me because he saw ukhuthi I was at my last wit with this behavior, ndi dikwe finish! I stand with u, mindfulness is important, kindness important and I will repeat my Dec stance if I have to o, it needs to change. The movement continues 🤜🏾
True. Older people really dont know how to speak to people. They get rude and still expect respect... Im also vocal but elders hate the truth and they see it as disrespect. We need to stand our ground and voice out our feelings. Im happy you didn't let her go without voicing out your feelings ❤️❤️
Your story time is so spot on. Went home for the weekend for the first time after giving birth and my moms friend says 'you dont look like you breastfeeding yazi, usually people that are breastfeeding are so skinny'. That time its been only 3 months and ive actually lost 14 kg's... I had a brief moment of explosion in my head at that time but I decided to let it slide, since my baby was born ive been soo intentional about protecting my peace. I echo your sentiments exactly, rest bafwethu! Futhi kube ngisho njalo kuye 😂😂😂😂
Ngabe ushilo Yazi 🤣🤣🤣. Yho ngeke andbthese are the very same women that should be protecting us and holding us down. I’m so glad you’re intentional about protecting your peace mama. Sorry you had to go through that man Ag 😔🤗❤️
I applaud you for keeping your cool. A few ago weeks a male colleague of mine made some body shaming remarks to me, I honestly couldn't keep my cool. I got physical(not proud) but I really felt like the guy was being ignorant nje. You have no idea what I am dealing with, I might be having a medical issue that is the cause of my weight gain. Hay no people must rest maan.
So so true hey. Also most of the time we can’t control how we react which then causes an even bigger issue. Abantu bazofa coz of their big mouths smh. So sorry you had to go through that hey 😔❤️
i saw someone on the comment section say it was probably the way you handled the situation & its not like you even handled it badly. most people would have probably been extremely rude to uSarah & chased her out . abanye ke could have even hit her cause some people dont take nonsense at all . you handled the situation very well because you didnt belittle or say rude things to her instead you decided to let her know where she was wrong & telling her not to do that to the next person . you expanded her knowledge & that shows how much of a great woman that you are . you radiate positive energy & that is very good.
I’ve been body shammed by my aunts, female church members, my mom and random other people in the streets. When are people honestly going to keep their nasty opinions to themselves about other people’s bodies. Hayi suka man! 😔🙄 Well done Siza on handling the situation with such grace. I can’t imagine how much chill it took you not to come out a can. ❤️💐
I'm so proud of you for "saying" something... Siyabonga joh... I've had those a lot of times, I excerise and constantly on eating plans not because I wanna lose weight but because I wanna keep healthy and someone said but there are no results.. I kept quiet but I wish I could go back to that moment and giver her my mind...
Hi Siza i think wena u are a nice person nje under G-general . This are trully convos we should be having daily . For wena u might have been able to think and internalise it during the day when that lady was working and even be strong enought to speak to her about it . What about that boy or girl who cant even say anything after such words, this is also what causes di mental health issues to those who are not as stong as you Siza . #Little education is dangerous Not education in a formal sense but in an informal way where we learn to teach each other to be sensetive and think before speaking anything . Ohhh but o montle shammmmmm #Summer colours #You popping sisterrrrsssss
That is why it's so important for us to be sensitive, how what we say and how we say it because not everyone is strong enough to brush things off. So these are definitely conversations we need to constantly have with the older generation, the current generation and the future generation. 🙌🏾 Thank you so much Moja. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for addressing the behavior Siza, I just feel like we tolerate so much body shame from our elders/ family or loved ones and it needs to stop, they need to know when to shut it ... my body and my struggles are my business. 🥰✌🏽
"Umshado uyakthanda" got to me. I got married just a month before lockdown and haven't been back at work/ gym since. I have been struggling with how I look for a while now, even prior to marriage so every time I hear that line I am triggered and it sticks. People bodyshame with smiles on their face like it's nothing. Arg, thank you for this video.
Hey Gentle Giants 💕💕 I'm so annoyed Especially as a thick girl, small comments can make you feel so self conscious Thank you for standing up for us #roadto20k PS that 20k giveaway eyami guyzini let's not fight angisho
I love how you corrected her inlove and you being intentional to inform her to never comment on people's weight. Thank you for this I will now know how to respond ❤️❤️
yhooo SIza in all honesty i know this video was not meant to be an emotional one but rather educational but somehow i found myself crying to a point where i had to pause a bit from watching not because of anything bad that you said but i acually realised how heavy my heart has been and how i supressed everything i felt people would call be sdudla or other names but i would laugh and brush it off and think to my self that because it is a norm in our society for bigger people to be called that so i might as well settle for that but i was lying to my self clearly because i just realized how everything hurt me and how its continuing to hurt me ...and with how you are also comfortable with your body even around your husband is really admirable ...i wish i can reach that stage cause im not even comfortable undressing infront of someone else and your videos are really helping me with my self acceptance journey
We live in a toxic world where people do not mind their business, we go through a lot as individuals!! I like the way you addressed the issue Siza, personally have learnt a lot from this video. I lost my husband in 2012 and I have decided to wear my ring and my friends, family and colleagues are always making a big issue out of it Thank you so much Siza now I will not get angry but explain in a calm manner💖 You have a good heart, you are a motivator, influencer and YES YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL MY DEAR😍😍😍😍
Obviously we were not there to grasp tones but there is so much power in you being able to remove yourself and show her perspective in general because even though she might not be genuinely sorry, it will always be in the back of her mind to be calculated and thoughtful with her words or intensions... we really don’t even need to feel sorry for you because you my dear resonate Power!!!! Keep at it 💫💫
You treated it well MmaNdlovu. It truly is a taught thing, a teaching that is so invasive and insensitive. It’s currently how we feel about the “married for so long and no babies yet?” comment.
I've had the same experience with my family, honestly it's disgusting. I almost fell into a depression because of these kind of comments, and when you try to speak to them they always say " you must take the kind of things to heart". People don't understand these things really do affect people.
I always tell my son, u can't hate on ppl u don't know or say negative things about them. I tell him, '' asibizan ngama gama'' meaning if some1 is chubby don't say sdudla or umbize nento anayo😔😩 this society we live in tho... 😞
I really love the way you addressed the situation, I'm actually going through the same situation everywhere I go. All my mother's friends feel the need to body shame me every time they come to visit and I fear to respond or address it because I'm scared I'll come off rude and they'll think I'm disrespectful..... I'm constantly told to go to the gym or my mother should lock up the fridge or I should get my jaw locked..... BTW YOU LOOK STUNNING AND I LOVE YOU ❤️❤️❤️
You and me. The same person. I hate it. I fought with my mom about it because she said I needed to change my attitude when someone says such. I'm like wtf woman. Now I'm in the wrong when I'm the one being offended.
I'm so sorry that you're going through such 💔 but remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful in every way. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. ❤ Sis, perhaps you should talk to them (respectfully) that it bothers you. If they react or feel like you're disrespectful, that's on them but they'll know not to speak rudely about your body.
You should definitely address it mama. Or maybe even ask your mom to speak to her friends on her behalf. They have no right to do that. Ag man thank you so much and I love you too. 🤗❤️
Thank you for this! People really don’t know how to treat the next person. The lady that stays with us always comments on my weight. I even started a diet she’d comment saying, “ hhay ngeke soke sibone” or “ ngeke uze unciphe wena khohlwa”. It was literally my first day on the diet I was so pissed, I asked her if she was a dietitian since she knew so much of weightloss. She stopped commenting that day. I was so tired of being body shamed.
People don’t realize the amount of psychological damage they can cause to a person with those snaaks comments. Umuntu talks nonsense then walks away her life continues while it takes you weeks to get over what was said. I’m happy you spoke to her it’s the only way it will stop
Most of my body shamers are family members who cover their body-shaming as " caring for my health". My aunt once said to me that once I lose weight I will find a man and that I will be beautiful. I finally learned that not every opinion matters and I love how you approached the situation. I had to teach some of my family members how to be mindful of their words. I agree with everything you said in this video and even watched it with my mom.
What your aunt said was definitely bullying and body shaming Ag. I’m so glad you’ve empowered some of your family members. That’s amazing to see mama. Thank you for watching this with your mom. Aawwww 🙏🏾❤️
I agree so much with you here - it starts at home, teach you parents, sisters and aunts. I actually cannot stand people who complain about this but their own families body shame friends who come over to their places or events. I sat my mom down because she honestly didn't know it offends people to say 'Waze wakhulphala mtanam!' even if you mean well. Cima cima cima nje that you have the right to comment about other people's business. Thula! Rest!
Kudos to you for sitting her down babe. Most of the time it’s learnt behavior which gets past down from generation to generation hence we have to be change the narrative thina ngoba abayboni into ewrong
Very informative video . I sent the link to my aunt who didn’t really understand why i was offended when she commented on my weight gain . You literally put my thoughts into words. Siyabonga 🥺🙏
I commend how you handled the situation siza. it really shows you're a woman of virtue. the fact that she's older and you were able to approach in a right way. ukuth abone naye ukuth njengomuntu okhulile. Abantu abadala abakwazi ukukhuluma especially about izinto ezi sensitive. resulting to us sibe affected mentally. i don't understand people who feel as if kuright to pick on somebody's weight or looks and they don't even apologize. it's totally disrespectful and out of line.
What a comment! I have been wanting to try Krispy Kreme for so long, so when I finally decided to go buy at PnP because it was the closest outlet that sells the doughnuts. The cashier said to me that I'm still eating doughnuts at my size. Probably won't forget it but I tore the doughnuts apart - they were delicious! I have learn to go "buzz off" at such negativity. Thanks for sharing the story!
i'm very happy with how you dealt with the situation. no matter who you are mntkbw , getting body shamed gets to u even if its for 2 minutes then you forget. but futhi ukuuqhela kakbi lo uzokuxelela ngomzimba wakho KWAKHO. and people enter no where!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we love you sis, keep flourishing
Thing is weight is a very sensitive issue. I had a fallout recently with one of my colleagues making funny comments like "you're ruining that lovely body by gaining weight." I asked her if she has ever told me that i have a lovely body and she went mute. People have no right to speak about such because we have different struggles, could be genes, hormones etc.
I get that a lot too. It could be from cashier at a petrol station where I am a regular, and I’ll carry on and pretend as if I didn’t hear what they said to avoid being in a muddy state with them. I also tell myself that hurt people, hurt people and to me it also comes across as jealousy (I think) to see a black woman soldiering on and somewhat get a shock in their system given where they are in life. Not making an excuse for such abuse, but zikhonkotha ehambayo!
Thank you siza... We face this alot as young and old women... You know some people loose or gain weight because of sicknesses etc. Then people start to make such comments and they don't know how they fill in that skin, body etc. There's a lot to say but thank you so much hopefully people who do that they change from their behavior we need to build each other as women...enjoy day too.
I also was body-shamed by a security guard at a mall, a week ago. He said "You are standing in the way, people will not be able to pass. Awuboni usdudla sdudla?" I turned around and I saw an old man, old enough to be my mother's older brother. I felt myself heating up and then I wanted to let it go. I then said no ways, I am addressing this. If I can address my family at home, including the older generation then lo tata naye I can address him. I said "ntate do not call me sdudla. It is very inappropriate and offensive. I know what I look like, I see myself in the mirror every day. Do not ever call me sdudla." He then laughed and said, "But you are fat, what must I say fatty?" I cringed and my voice came out higher than I thought it would, my friend joined in on this and he laughed. My other friend Tshiamo found us in the middle of it all and she joined this fight, she told him off then added "ungenaphi wena umdala kangaka endabeni yomzimba?" and even threatened to report him. Another lady we do not know joined in also and told him off. When we left, he was quiet and no longer laughed. He seemed very sour and moved away from us. I do not know if he will do it again to another woman but I left that mall feeling powerful and not small. I stood up for myself and it is all thanks to you Siza. I am a very affirmative person but when people used to call me sdudla, I would brush it off or I would find something extremely mean to say about their body or skin and that did not make me feel better because I would feel like a bully too. Now I am a happy hot girl, not a sdudla.
I always get body shamed by my family members and I dont say anything and they don't know how it has affected my confidence and the way I look at myself . People ned to stop with the body shaming because they don't know what the person is going through . People should just learn to mind their own business, they must REST!!!! Thank you Siza for motivating us , sharing with us your story and I love the way you say REST 😂😂😂♥️. We love you Mama♥️♥️🥺
People need to stop commenting on peoples flaws period! we have mirrors in our homes we know what we look like and we are okay with it what we cant change we learning to love ,I remember growing up and being called names in senior primary because I had really bad acne ,it was the pits shame , people broke my sself esteem with the negative comments it took me a long time to love and accept myself .
Wait, in your own home haybo the nerve 🤔, I love how you handled the situation, so calm and muture, hayi if it was me kwakuzonyiwa shame. People need to drink water and mind their business really. Mme Ndlovu those earings sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😍, you are beautiful 😍😍
I love the way you handled the situation Siza. I have been body-shamed by people in the name of jokes. Sadly those people just laugh it away kuthiwe nawe you take things serious. If it makes me feel somehow then it is definitely wrong but the society we live in never sees a problem with it.
Siza wam hle but love the approach you took, so lady like and mature. Am currently also being asked questions about my weight and why sometimes I handle it well sometimes it goes south because it comes from judgemental and disrespectful place, sicela umuntu nomuntu ancome adlule if awaz mele thini thula because our mouths are the sharpest weapons we own. Umntu akanake inxaki zakhe hle, asizifundiseni ukuthi okungasifuni sikuyeke❤
I'm glad you addressed it Siza... Body shaming ain't cool whether fully figured or petite there's no need for someone to comment on your body... It's mine mus so ungena phi... You also mentioned fertility yoh that one gets to me tjerr people just talk without thinking I get the fertility comment most of the time "kanti when are you having kids you are 30 after 30 it's hard having kids" eish ungena phi 🙄🤷🏽♀️
Thank you very much for confronting her❤️. You are totally correct, the older black generation are just so entitled to make comments about our weight, skin etc, with the excuse that we "take things too personally" or "una itliziyo encane"
Thank you for sharing and also confronting the situation. It wasn't easy but it really has to be done as you said. Clearly Sarah was suffering coz of the stairs. All she had to say was " I'm suffering coz of the stairs" Periodt, not project her issues on you. I have big feet, when I was younger I was called " Big foot" and "Loaf size" by some men at the market. Ever since then I started buying smaller sized shoes... they hurt. Years later I'm suffering the consequences ALONE! My hubby is sweet, he pushes me to buy those loaf sized shoes and rock them and be happy. That has definitely boosted my confidence. We should love one another not tear each other down ♡♡♡
Semhle Sis Siza 😍 Thank you so much for this vid, I was body shamed some time last week and I was surprised that people still pass such remarks. 😓 I'm taking everything I learnt from this video and using it going forward 😊♥️
Siza you really have a good heart coz someone in your place would have reacted differently. Weight is a very sensitive topic and I'm glad you corrected and educated her♥️ #Roadto20K
Hi Siza, you handled the matter in a mature manner and what’s even better is that you maintained your confidence throughout the confrontation. You’ve taught me a lot from this video, thank you for sharing your story. Kudos to you, Queen. 👏🏽
I get you. I hate it when ppl say negative things about others. I'm a size 34, but bliv me wen I say I've been body shamed at work, uth ubheka lomuntu who's doing that😳 n I think to myself yey if I were to say what I see myself ppl will cry but for peace sake Ive kept quiet to a point where I've cut communication except for business purposes cz I feel like the minute I confront you or behave in the same manner, ngeke sizwane. I told the 2 ukuth however I look, angikulandanga ebhish, if how I look or how I do things kungahambi nama debit order akho, usalala udlile, how is it your business 🙄 yey ngashiselwa😒 some1, inlaw uth kimi I look like I'm still pregnant, and that was 5 days after I've given birth😒 njani... Listen these ppl dnt know wen to stop... Worse ke Sarah ndini uzosebenza😩 jus keep shining wena Siza, some of us c beauty 😘
Yoh trust me I get your point Siza. I'm a short person and always get such irritating comments about my hight as if ngizenzile ukuthi ngibe mfisha. And it's mostly family and family friends for me. The people who should be protecting me. Ukuthi bangenaphi angazi....they must just go rest nam I agree! I'm proud of how you handled it hey, not many would handle it that way hey, I wouldn't have lol she wouldn't even have cleaned my house ngoba I would have asked for someone else immediately. I love your make up look by the way 😍 umuhle ❤
You're absolutely beautiful,people can be so annoying. I have experience with body shaming throughout my entire life, as long as im happy to hell with people's opinions. They even have the nerve to ask when you'll join a gym.
Sorry for what happened to you hle sis no one should be saying whatever they like about ppls bodies. But what you were discussing about with your hairstylist is very crucial. Health is key whether over weight od under weight. When it threatens your well being close ppl around you say it, I know we don't want to hear that but they also don't want to lose you over something that can be dealt with and controlled. We have bad eating habits, we are not making healthy decisions when it comes to our health most of the time. And that road lead to many health problems. Am speaking from experience because I am someone who is struggling to put some weight off, and made a decision to look after myself because I have kids and I want to be there when my kids grow up. Am not saying am not gonna die but at least I am willing to do what I can to stay healthy. Leading a healthy lifestyle is good for everyone, they say prevention is better that cure. Let's just take care of ourselves. Let's not be ignorant. We are All beautiful in our own way yes. I agree. But let's stay healthy
I totally agree. And when we speak about health I believe it’s the ones close to you or the ones who care about you or whatever the case may be that would bring it up if they feel like it’s getting out of hand, nalapho the approach is very important. Like I said, people are dealing with a lot and have a lot of healing to do so another person’s ignorance or unkindness can literally push them over the edge. However with this story it was a whole lotta ignorance and learnt behavior that I had to correct at that point. We all just need to be aware of what we’re saying, to who and how. Even if it’s health related, BE KIND. Don’t be unnecessary.
Once had a fight with my Momz because she always does that to me😭shii hurts actually it's breaking, I ended up hating my body and I still do. I try by all means to lose weight but ngiya hluleka and but at the same time I am tired of being body shamed by my loved ones. I like how you addressed it Sis👏🏼❤️
It's the look for me😍😍😍 Thank you for the heads up mama♥️I hope people have learnt that commenting on people's weights and other things is not a compliment
I absolutely hate it when people make such comments about people’s bodies! “Oh you’re so fat, oh you’re so skinny, when are you having a baby, why did you have a baby” all that nonsense really gets to me. My best friend liked making such comments (mind you, I’m actually very happy with my body weight and had been working hard towards my current weight) the first thing she and her fiancé would say after not seeing me since the lock down was “oh my goodness, you’re so fat” and that time I’m thinking, I’m 58kg and I’m actually happy with my weight.
So inspired and proud of you Siza. These conversations must be had. And regarding the concerns about health and what not, I hardly believe that health concerns are the reason why majority of people feel the need to comment on other people's weight. It's just u'kthanda izindaba. And you'll find that many plus size people are leading far healthier lives than those who appear look tinier. People must "rest" ngempela 😂😂. Side note: You're super gorgeous 💕 (not that you need a reminder from me since that's Zwandi's field of expertise 😅)
These conversations definitely need to be had hey. We seriously need to start showing the importance of being able to be vocal and stand up to yourself. Thank you so much babe. ❤️❤️🤗🤗
I was speaking about this with a colleague when we got back to the office. Weight gain, skin issues wada wada wada are not greetings. The fact that I wake up and look at myself in the mirror, means that I know what I look like. I DO NOT need a reminder. Futhi uhlanganaphi? Hai People must rest.
I love love and respect you Siza.your response and how you addressed the whole situation with such wisdom is admirable. Thank you for being a voice of reason! I totally respect how you handled this.
A lot of weight comments are from the older generation, and bacabanga ukuthi they're "complimenting" you, which is not nice. In my case it's like they love it when I gain, and to them it means wuuu uhleli kamnandi la ukhona😟 you're stress free, which is never the case. We all have internal battles, weight battles that we're fighting 😢
Bra you handled this with such grace which just speaks to the person you are ... and now you've got me inspired because when I get body shamed I'd just laugh it off that time I'm hurt but now I will say uba ubuzwe ngubani and futhi I'm comfortable in my skin and futhi ndi cute so ungenaphi. Thank you for sharing sometimes you feel you're the only one going through that type of stuff yazi ❤
I am very sad Siza, to think that there is a person who have a problem with your weight, I real love everything about you especial the way you dress you know what suits you. I mean the selflove you have inspires me a lot.
I swear after that restaurant issue and this one, I can safely say you are a better person than me when it comes to composure😂😂 my shady self would have said something kuye that’s worse than what you said. I hate how we are always expected to be bigger people in situations just to make people feel better about themselves. It gets tiring honestly, people must know their place and have some filter. Entlek umntu must THINK before talking
It definitely gets tiring but I think I’m really invested in teaching someone and helping them unlearn certain behaviors so they are better people instead of just fighting Fire with Fire. Maybe the day will come when I will kill everything in front of me 🤣🤣🤣
So sorry you had to go through that. This is a very sensitive topic and we need to constantly remind ourselves to mind our own business really. Big ups for educating us😘😘
Hi GG's notification gang 🤘🤘🤘. Yoh Siza you are driving us crazy with these looks. Like I can't keep up. Umuhle tjrr the flames 🔥🔥🔥🔥. As for this cleaner-The bloody nerve. Clearly she was foolish klaar.
Heyiii no no no mark me absent for that , fail me I don't care... Body shaming a woman from another woman. What have we come to as women nje in general. You look amazing in your body sthandwa sam, no one has no right to even have a say about that... You are gorgeous, FACT!!!!..... ❤️🌹
Thank you for uploading this video @Siza. It’s high time we spoke about these type of matters so that people could be more aware. Someone’s weight is not someone else’s cup of tea. It’s actually irritating. Let me share my story. I’ve never been a slender girl, I remember in grade 8, I was a size 36 already weighing 58kg. Mind you I was only 1.56m tall, anyway, So one day during lunch break with my so called ‘friends’ (friend A, B, C, D, E). we had a conversation and the topic was, *what would you like to be when you are older?* So I said something along the lines of, Mathematician, then friend A said “Pilot”, then this big mouth of “friend B” made a silly remark and said “Ja, when you are a pilot friend A, and Bongekile steps into the plane, the plane will fall, because she’s so fat”, I then said “ excuse me? “ She repeated, the Politeness in me baphela, ngathi “ it’s better to be fat and excelling at school, than to be thin and failing” You should have seen how red she got. All the other “friends” looked at me with disbelief, and were quite judgmental, forgetting that that other comment was vile. But anyway, She never mentioned my weight ever again. All in all, people should not raise such issues because they are insensitive. I don’t care ukuthi uyadlala, dlala nengane zakwenu, not me. Into ebuhlungu is that when such happens, you end up being the wrong one according to society when you retaliate.
Honestly , abantu bangenaphi eyindabeni zabantu? The older generation honestly doesn't understand how one comment can honestly set you back/trigger you to a dark place. And I understand why uthi we need to teach them to be mindful of what they say , when they say it and how they say it. Because honestly , it's unacceptable. People have so much already on their plates , people just need to mind their own yazi. And Siza, thank you for being such a great advocate and role model to us all ❤️
That is so true hey and when they carry on like this they grow and build a future generation that thinks it's okay to talk like this with people and it becomes and ongoing cycle. You are most well, I got you girl. ❤️❤️😘😘🤗🤗
These days I don't even edit my words for body shamers.. I tell them kak yong. I think I've reached a point where I just don't take it.. U handled it well sis
People are just so ignorant and they don't care about other people's feelings. What you are saying is all true mntase. I'd be having my acne breakout and people would be asking "ubenzeni ubuso?"🙄 Haibo what do you even mean?
What do you mean ngibenzeni ubuso? Ag that’s annoying! Why would I go out of my way to do this to myself. I’m so sorry babe hey. That so rude and uncalled for nxa. 😔❤️
For those that feel like she took things out of proportion bc Sarah meant “no harm”, when someone feels offended/hurt by something it’s not up to anyone to decide that they were or not. Sarah or anyone have not control over Siza received it. Love how you handled it Siz! Sometimes how people act is really a reflection of their insides or what they’re going through rather. That helps us love and be empathetic towards them🤍
i am a victim hey,people always feel the need to comment on my weight gain especially during lockdown when i was home and it used to hurt so much r.n i am okay with responding to anyone because they do not know what led to me gaining so much in one year.it hurts even more when your own family is involved in the whole body shaming process.i didn't even go home in august deliberately ,there was a gathering ngoba i am protecting my peace. thoroughly enjoyed this vid
Siza I admire you and how you handle issues, I would have dealt with her right there and then shame and chase her out of my space. I hate body shaming it just kills me.Just a reminder Mrs N you are a beautiful and phenomenal woman♥️😍 Restani bafethu nge personal lives zabantu
If it has to do with weight,skin or overall appearance and if it can be interpreted as a negative comment, DON'T SAY IT. Thanks for this Mom, I think it is a conversation we all need to hear because sometimes we say things nje and it ends up affecting the receiver badly. ❤❤
Yea that's our problem, we need to be a better generation when it comes to open conversations with our peers and EVEN younger people who have the ability to impose knowledge.
The older generation is toxic sometimes, they break other women's confidence and self esteem, it's so sad😞
True, and it's never too late for anyone whether old or young to learn new things because we're evolving as people
They can be very toxic those ones 😭😭
@@patiencemoremi9033 it’s definitely in the unlearning old habits
Some truth in this.
True,it has happens to me everytime
Ukuqhela kakubi sana! She wouldn’t have even reached the top step kwami yoh. I would’ve asked her to walk down those very stairs & leave my home. Angeke.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ungijwayelile yena no lies 🤦🏾♀️. Ei babe and how you would’ve handled it would’ve been soooo understandable honestly. 🌸
I was body shamed by my aunt at a family gathering.. Me and my cousin(who's petite) were coming back from the shops and we put the goods on the table and sat down,aunt came in and said "no wonder y'all are so big, cant even put stuff where they belong". It got to me so badly I broke down cause I knew it was directed to me.
I've always avoided comments about my weight especially when it comes from strangers cause they don't know crap about my life but it gets to me when it's a family member because that should be my safe place away from all the body shaming..
Thank you for sharing this. I LOVE YOU SIS❤️
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Sorry Keabetswe😘😘
I’m so sorry you had to go through that mama. Ag 😔. The very same people that should be protecting us hey. It’s sad. But one day is one day kuzolunga. It’s my pleasure and I love you too 🤗❤️
Sorry sis. Family members are the worst honestly! I was insecure about my weight for a very long time coz of body shaming from family members.
People hate us lmao 🤣 they say the dumbest thing
Askies my love♥️
Siza you're here to change certain narratives... dump stereotypical thinking. I love this... You're defs an influencer! We are learning from you sis ❤️
Thank you mama. 🙏🏾❤️
The saddest thing is learning to love yourself, accepting your body and getting to a point of smiling when you're naked in front of the mirror and then someone triggers you with unnecessary comments which will be playing in your head long after they have left and forgotten about you.
I love how you said "sometimes you won't know what a person is going through" sometimes I wake up personally feeling like I left my confidence in my sleep. I wake up with insecurities about my weight and little things that people say will trigger so many emotions. Thank you so much for this ❤
It’s my pleasure 🥺❤️
Vele va nghenaphi? Especially when:
1. God who made me is not complaining
2. My parents accept, love and are proud of me
3. When I love myself just the way I am
4. When my GG mommy inspires, motivates and advices me.
Uzo nghenaphi umuntu🙄. You are beautiful Siza and I really like how you handled the situation with her excuses on top of that. We as women need to stand together and uplift each other. 💕💕💕💕
Well said 👌
Love love this. Thank you for this Pash. Women are just not getting it hey ag. Sakuthandi angel ❤️
I can see you are addressing us with a triggering issue but have you seen how gorgeous you look😍😍😍 I'll have to rewatch the video coz your beauty distracted me😢😍😍 umuhle Ntombooo😰
Lol Konje unje 🤣🤣. Thank you my love 🤗❤️
Lol😂 it's the love I have for you 😍
I was thinking the same thing, I am just like no man this lady is beautiful
Body shaming has been my life and I used to cry a lot until my mom told me that everyone who body shames you has a problem.
My dear mom continue, girl look yourself in the mirror and tell me what you see,you are so very beautiful very pretty indeed.
Siza you are pretty confident and through out your life you will attract negativety.
Jeolus don't even bother married to the man who loves you very much.
Keep shining dearest.🙏🏾🙏🏾
The nerve!!!!! When will some women understand that another woman’s weight or womb is NOT their business?? 🤮
One household at a time mama. We’re fixing the country 😭❤️
Siza, last Dec I got in trouble because I said to my aunt commenting about weight is not a greeting because there is alot going on with her looks but we not saying anything, when my family wanted to call me to order I explained where I was coming from and it went on to many other avenues, asking my recently married cousin about kids and all that other stuff like you saying that has NOTHING to do with them, I told them our houses don't have dogs that bite, and if they carry on with this behavior we won't go home anymore...
People were shook, my dad even stood with me because he saw ukhuthi I was at my last wit with this behavior, ndi dikwe finish!
I stand with u, mindfulness is important, kindness important and I will repeat my Dec stance if I have to o, it needs to change.
The movement continues 🤜🏾
Love love this. If it means we distance ourselves from toxic family then so be it honestly! UNkulunkulu ukhona. 😭❤️
It will be nice if siza had her own channel so we engage more on this kinda topics 😍😍😍
True. Older people really dont know how to speak to people. They get rude and still expect respect... Im also vocal but elders hate the truth and they see it as disrespect. We need to stand our ground and voice out our feelings. Im happy you didn't let her go without voicing out your feelings ❤️❤️
Your story time is so spot on. Went home for the weekend for the first time after giving birth and my moms friend says 'you dont look like you breastfeeding yazi, usually people that are breastfeeding are so skinny'. That time its been only 3 months and ive actually lost 14 kg's... I had a brief moment of explosion in my head at that time but I decided to let it slide, since my baby was born ive been soo intentional about protecting my peace.
I echo your sentiments exactly, rest bafwethu! Futhi kube ngisho njalo kuye 😂😂😂😂
Ngabe ushilo Yazi 🤣🤣🤣. Yho ngeke andbthese are the very same women that should be protecting us and holding us down. I’m so glad you’re intentional about protecting your peace mama. Sorry you had to go through that man Ag 😔🤗❤️
@@MzwandileSiza - ♥️♥️♥️ all lessons man! Take care Siza🌼
I applaud you for keeping your cool. A few ago weeks a male colleague of mine made some body shaming remarks to me, I honestly couldn't keep my cool. I got physical(not proud) but I really felt like the guy was being ignorant nje. You have no idea what I am dealing with, I might be having a medical issue that is the cause of my weight gain. Hay no people must rest maan.
So so true hey. Also most of the time we can’t control how we react which then causes an even bigger issue. Abantu bazofa coz of their big mouths smh. So sorry you had to go through that hey 😔❤️
i saw someone on the comment section say it was probably the way you handled the situation & its not like you even handled it badly.
most people would have probably been extremely rude to uSarah & chased her out .
abanye ke could have even hit her cause some people dont take nonsense at all .
you handled the situation very well because you didnt belittle or say rude things to her instead you decided to let her know where she was wrong & telling her not to do that to the next person .
you expanded her knowledge & that shows how much of a great woman that you are .
you radiate positive energy & that is very good.
Ncaaaaah Kea, this is so heartwarming to read. 🥰 Thank you so much babe. ❤️🤗
I’ve been body shammed by my aunts, female church members, my mom and random other people in the streets. When are people honestly going to keep their nasty opinions to themselves about other people’s bodies. Hayi suka man! 😔🙄
Well done Siza on handling the situation with such grace. I can’t imagine how much chill it took you not to come out a can. ❤️💐
I’m so sorry mama. Ag no man Mxm 😔
I'm so proud of you for "saying" something... Siyabonga joh... I've had those a lot of times, I excerise and constantly on eating plans not because I wanna lose weight but because I wanna keep healthy and someone said but there are no results.. I kept quiet but I wish I could go back to that moment and giver her my mind...
So sorry you had to go through that mama 😔🤦🏾♀️
@@MzwandileSiza we move but you just encouraged me ukuthi ngingathuli umuntu mengphaphela
Everytime I see your face it feels like an affirmation of something, you're beautiful sisi ❤️❤️
Kodwa mntase she is very beautiful😍
Ncaaaaah Siba you're so sweet. 🥰🥰 Thank you so much and I'm happy I make you feel that way. ❤️🤗
@@sasalubelwana4520 Thank you Sasa. ❤️❤️
Very beautiful like her to bits!!!
Hi Siza i think wena u are a nice person nje under G-general . This are trully convos we should be having daily . For wena u might have been able to think and internalise it during the day when that lady was working and even be strong enought to speak to her about it .
What about that boy or girl who cant even say anything after such words, this is also what causes di mental health issues to those who are not as stong as you Siza .
#Little education is dangerous
Not education in a formal sense but in an informal way where we learn to teach each other to be sensetive and think before speaking anything .
Ohhh but o montle shammmmmm
#Summer colours
#You popping sisterrrrsssss
That is why it's so important for us to be sensitive, how what we say and how we say it because not everyone is strong enough to brush things off. So these are definitely conversations we need to constantly have with the older generation, the current generation and the future generation. 🙌🏾
Thank you so much Moja. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for addressing the behavior Siza,
I just feel like we tolerate so much body shame from our elders/ family or loved ones and it needs to stop, they need to know when to shut it ... my body and my struggles are my business.
🥰✌🏽
Pleasure mama. We need to stop with the tolerance hey 🤦🏾♀️
"Umshado uyakthanda" got to me. I got married just a month before lockdown and haven't been back at work/ gym since. I have been struggling with how I look for a while now, even prior to marriage so every time I hear that line I am triggered and it sticks.
People bodyshame with smiles on their face like it's nothing. Arg, thank you for this video.
I’m so sorry for this mama Ag. It’s honestly my pleasure 😭❤️
Hey Gentle Giants 💕💕
I'm so annoyed
Especially as a thick girl, small comments can make you feel so self conscious
Thank you for standing up for us
#roadto20k
PS that 20k giveaway eyami guyzini let's not fight angisho
Aawwww it’s a pleasure angel. Lol that PS ❤️
I love how you corrected her inlove and you being intentional to inform her to never comment on people's weight. Thank you for this I will now know how to respond ❤️❤️
Aawwwww it’s my pleasure. Thank you boo ❤️
yhooo SIza in all honesty i know this video was not meant to be an emotional one but rather educational but somehow i found myself crying to a point where i had to pause a bit from watching not because of anything bad that you said but i acually realised how heavy my heart has been and how i supressed everything i felt people would call be sdudla or other names but i would laugh and brush it off and think to my self that because it is a norm in our society for bigger people to be called that so i might as well settle for that but i was lying to my self clearly because i just realized how everything hurt me and how its continuing to hurt me ...and with how you are also comfortable with your body even around your husband is really admirable ...i wish i can reach that stage cause im not even comfortable undressing infront of someone else and your videos are really helping me with my self acceptance journey
We live in a toxic world where people do not mind their business, we go through a lot as individuals!!
I like the way you addressed the issue Siza, personally have learnt a lot from this video.
I lost my husband in 2012 and I have decided to wear my ring and my friends, family and colleagues are always making a big issue out of it
Thank you so much Siza now I will not get angry but explain in a calm manner💖
You have a good heart, you are a motivator, influencer and YES YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL MY DEAR😍😍😍😍
Obviously we were not there to grasp tones but there is so much power in you being able to remove yourself and show her perspective in general because even though she might not be genuinely sorry, it will always be in the back of her mind to be calculated and thoughtful with her words or intensions... we really don’t even need to feel sorry for you because you my dear resonate Power!!!! Keep at it 💫💫
You treated it well MmaNdlovu.
It truly is a taught thing, a teaching that is so invasive and insensitive. It’s currently how we feel about the “married for so long and no babies yet?” comment.
I've had the same experience with my family, honestly it's disgusting. I almost fell into a depression because of these kind of comments, and when you try to speak to them they always say " you must take the kind of things to heart". People don't understand these things really do affect people.
They do and they will keep pushing and pushing. Someone needs to put them in their place once
They think what they are saying is acceptable because they're family 😭
And we are so quick to give grace to our toxic family members. We need to stop. At this point and mental health in mind your wellbeing comes 1st 😭❤️
I always tell my son, u can't hate on ppl u don't know or say negative things about them. I tell him, '' asibizan ngama gama'' meaning if some1 is chubby don't say sdudla or umbize nento anayo😔😩 this society we live in tho... 😞
So true. Beautiful to see how you’re being him up also ❤️
I really love the way you addressed the situation, I'm actually going through the same situation everywhere I go. All my mother's friends feel the need to body shame me every time they come to visit and I fear to respond or address it because I'm scared I'll come off rude and they'll think I'm disrespectful..... I'm constantly told to go to the gym or my mother should lock up the fridge or I should get my jaw locked..... BTW YOU LOOK STUNNING AND I LOVE YOU ❤️❤️❤️
Omggg I'm so sorry😭😭❤️
You and me. The same person. I hate it. I fought with my mom about it because she said I needed to change my attitude when someone says such. I'm like wtf woman. Now I'm in the wrong when I'm the one being offended.
I'm so sorry that you're going through such 💔 but remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are beautiful in every way. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. ❤
Sis, perhaps you should talk to them (respectfully) that it bothers you. If they react or feel like you're disrespectful, that's on them but they'll know not to speak rudely about your body.
You should definitely address it mama. Or maybe even ask your mom to speak to her friends on her behalf. They have no right to do that. Ag man thank you so much and I love you too. 🤗❤️
@@tholakelemasha oh no I’m so sorry mama. The same person that should be protecting you 😔
Your beauty is unmatched sis😍
I love how you handled the situation, like a pro!
Thank you boo ❤️
We all need to ask ourselves "ngi ngenaphi" before making remarks regarding things that don't concern us♥️
Definitely. Let’s normalize this
Thank you for this! People really don’t know how to treat the next person. The lady that stays with us always comments on my weight. I even started a diet she’d comment saying, “ hhay ngeke soke sibone” or “ ngeke uze unciphe wena khohlwa”. It was literally my first day on the diet I was so pissed, I asked her if she was a dietitian since she knew so much of weightloss. She stopped commenting that day. I was so tired of being body shamed.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that mama Ag 😔❤️
@@MzwandileSiza ♥️♥️♥️♥️
People don’t realize the amount of psychological damage they can cause to a person with those snaaks comments. Umuntu talks nonsense then walks away her life continues while it takes you weeks to get over what was said. I’m happy you spoke to her it’s the only way it will stop
It’s definitely the only way babe hey ag. Communication sibonisane. Angsaykhulumi ke eyePsychological damage 😭🙏🏾
Beautiful message. We have a lot to learn
Thank you 🙏🏾❤️
Most of my body shamers are family members who cover their body-shaming as " caring for my health". My aunt once said to me that once I lose weight I will find a man and that I will be beautiful. I finally learned that not every opinion matters and I love how you approached the situation. I had to teach some of my family members how to be mindful of their words. I agree with everything you said in this video and even watched it with my mom.
What your aunt said was definitely bullying and body shaming Ag. I’m so glad you’ve empowered some of your family members. That’s amazing to see mama. Thank you for watching this with your mom. Aawwww 🙏🏾❤️
I agree so much with you here - it starts at home, teach you parents, sisters and aunts. I actually cannot stand people who complain about this but their own families body shame friends who come over to their places or events. I sat my mom down because she honestly didn't know it offends people to say 'Waze wakhulphala mtanam!' even if you mean well. Cima cima cima nje that you have the right to comment about other people's business. Thula! Rest!
Kudos to you for sitting her down babe. Most of the time it’s learnt behavior which gets past down from generation to generation hence we have to be change the narrative thina ngoba abayboni into ewrong
Very informative video . I sent the link to my aunt who didn’t really understand why i was offended when she commented on my weight gain . You literally put my thoughts into words. Siyabonga 🥺🙏
Aawwww this is so special. I hope it helps out things into perspective for her
I commend how you handled the situation siza. it really shows you're a woman of virtue. the fact that she's older and you were able to approach in a right way. ukuth abone naye ukuth njengomuntu okhulile.
Abantu abadala abakwazi ukukhuluma especially about izinto ezi sensitive. resulting to us sibe affected mentally.
i don't understand people who feel as if kuright to pick on somebody's weight or looks and they don't even apologize. it's totally disrespectful and out of line.
It’s really disrespectful and out of line. Thank you mama 🙏🏾❤️
What a comment! I have been wanting to try Krispy Kreme for so long, so when I finally decided to go buy at PnP because it was the closest outlet that sells the doughnuts. The cashier said to me that I'm still eating doughnuts at my size. Probably won't forget it but I tore the doughnuts apart - they were delicious! I have learn to go "buzz off" at such negativity.
Thanks for sharing the story!
I love it here Siza! 👏👏
People should be mindful of the things they say to others because one phrase can take a person back to square one of progress.
So true Koena. Aawwww glad that you love it here. ❤️
Story of my life it's always"are you sure you didn't give us a wrong age"
I'm still watching ads, preparing for whoever body shamed my queen because yerrrr 😡😡😡😡😡😡
Thank you so much for watching the ads. ❤️❤️🤗🤗 Sizomushaya!! 😂
i'm very happy with how you dealt with the situation. no matter who you are mntkbw , getting body shamed gets to u even if its for 2 minutes then you forget. but futhi ukuuqhela kakbi lo uzokuxelela ngomzimba wakho KWAKHO. and people enter no where!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we love you sis, keep flourishing
Thank you angel. I love you too. ❤️
A LOT of people are not mindful some a going around throwing jabs at other people.. Im glad you addressed it. She will be mindful next time.
Thing is weight is a very sensitive issue. I had a fallout recently with one of my colleagues making funny comments like "you're ruining that lovely body by gaining weight." I asked her if she has ever told me that i have a lovely body and she went mute. People have no right to speak about such because we have different struggles, could be genes, hormones etc.
I get that a lot too. It could be from cashier at a petrol station where I am a regular, and I’ll carry on and pretend as if I didn’t hear what they said to avoid being in a muddy state with them. I also tell myself that hurt people, hurt people and to me it also comes across as jealousy (I think) to see a black woman soldiering on and somewhat get a shock in their system given where they are in life. Not making an excuse for such abuse, but zikhonkotha ehambayo!
Thank you siza... We face this alot as young and old women... You know some people loose or gain weight because of sicknesses etc. Then people start to make such comments and they don't know how they fill in that skin, body etc. There's a lot to say but thank you so much hopefully people who do that they change from their behavior we need to build each other as women...enjoy day too.
So true. People need to be mindful of what they say. Thank you Kwanda 🙏🏾❤️
I also was body-shamed by a security guard at a mall, a week ago. He said "You are standing in the way, people will not be able to pass. Awuboni usdudla sdudla?" I turned around and I saw an old man, old enough to be my mother's older brother. I felt myself heating up and then I wanted to let it go. I then said no ways, I am addressing this. If I can address my family at home, including the older generation then lo tata naye I can address him. I said "ntate do not call me sdudla. It is very inappropriate and offensive. I know what I look like, I see myself in the mirror every day. Do not ever call me sdudla." He then laughed and said, "But you are fat, what must I say fatty?" I cringed and my voice came out higher than I thought it would, my friend joined in on this and he laughed. My other friend Tshiamo found us in the middle of it all and she joined this fight, she told him off then added "ungenaphi wena umdala kangaka endabeni yomzimba?" and even threatened to report him. Another lady we do not know joined in also and told him off. When we left, he was quiet and no longer laughed. He seemed very sour and moved away from us. I do not know if he will do it again to another woman but I left that mall feeling powerful and not small. I stood up for myself and it is all thanks to you Siza. I am a very affirmative person but when people used to call me sdudla, I would brush it off or I would find something extremely mean to say about their body or skin and that did not make me feel better because I would feel like a bully too. Now I am a happy hot girl, not a sdudla.
I always get body shamed by my family members and I dont say anything and they don't know how it has affected my confidence and the way I look at myself . People ned to stop with the body shaming because they don't know what the person is going through . People should just learn to mind their own business, they must REST!!!!
Thank you Siza for motivating us , sharing with us your story and I love the way you say REST 😂😂😂♥️. We love you Mama♥️♥️🥺
Aawww I’m so sorry Angel and it’s my pleasure. I love you too ❤️
People need to stop commenting on peoples flaws period! we have mirrors in our homes we know what we look like and we are okay with it what we cant change we learning to love ,I remember growing up and being called names in senior primary because I had really bad acne ,it was the pits shame , people broke my sself esteem with the negative comments it took me a long time to love and accept myself .
Wait, in your own home haybo the nerve 🤔, I love how you handled the situation, so calm and muture, hayi if it was me kwakuzonyiwa shame. People need to drink water and mind their business really.
Mme Ndlovu those earings sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😍, you are beautiful 😍😍
In my house sis lol. Thank you baby lol 🤗❤️
I love the way you handled the situation Siza. I have been body-shamed by people in the name of jokes. Sadly those people just laugh it away kuthiwe nawe you take things serious. If it makes me feel somehow then it is definitely wrong but the society we live in never sees a problem with it.
That’s another problem. People turning these issues into jokes. Ag man Mxm. I’m so sorry hun ❤️
Siza wam hle but love the approach you took, so lady like and mature.
Am currently also being asked questions about my weight and why sometimes I handle it well sometimes it goes south because it comes from judgemental and disrespectful place, sicela umuntu nomuntu ancome adlule if awaz mele thini thula because our mouths are the sharpest weapons we own.
Umntu akanake inxaki zakhe hle, asizifundiseni ukuthi okungasifuni sikuyeke❤
I'm glad you addressed it Siza... Body shaming ain't cool whether fully figured or petite there's no need for someone to comment on your body... It's mine mus so ungena phi...
You also mentioned fertility yoh that one gets to me tjerr people just talk without thinking I get the fertility comment most of the time "kanti when are you having kids you are 30 after 30 it's hard having kids" eish ungena phi 🙄🤷🏽♀️
Yea these conversations seriously need to be had and more awareness conversations need to be had be had. We just all need to do better. 🙌🏾
Siza, you look beautiful ❤️😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏 Zwandi would be saying "baby umuhle yoo"
You know him so well. 🥰🥰😍😍
Thank you very much for confronting her❤️. You are totally correct, the older black generation are just so entitled to make comments about our weight, skin etc, with the excuse that we "take things too personally" or "una itliziyo encane"
🙌🙌🙌 This is fire, we often don't take note of what we say and how it's received 😢
Thank you for sharing and also confronting the situation. It wasn't easy but it really has to be done as you said. Clearly Sarah was suffering coz of the stairs. All she had to say was " I'm suffering coz of the stairs" Periodt, not project her issues on you.
I have big feet, when I was younger I was called " Big foot" and "Loaf size" by some men at the market. Ever since then I started buying smaller sized shoes... they hurt. Years later I'm suffering the consequences ALONE! My hubby is sweet, he pushes me to buy those loaf sized shoes and rock them and be happy. That has definitely boosted my confidence.
We should love one another not tear each other down ♡♡♡
Aawwww man Rose. So so true. Thank you for sharing this and I’m so sorry you had to go through this. 😔❤️
That's so disrespectful, haibo. I'm sorry that you experienced that in your own home ma❤️
Semhle Sis Siza 😍
Thank you so much for this vid, I was body shamed some time last week and I was surprised that people still pass such remarks. 😓
I'm taking everything I learnt from this video and using it going forward 😊♥️
Aaawwww thank you my love. It’s a pleasure man 🙏🏾❤️
Siza you really have a good heart coz someone in your place would have reacted differently. Weight is a very sensitive topic and I'm glad you corrected and educated her♥️
#Roadto20K
Aawww thank you so much ❤️🤗
The more they body shame you the prettier you become. U ya baba siza gul
I love that your platform is not just entertainment but EduTainment❤️❤️❤️. Thank you for this Siza❤️
It’s my pleasure boo 🙏🏾❤️
Hi Siza,
you handled the matter in a mature manner and what’s even better is that you maintained your confidence throughout the confrontation. You’ve taught me a lot from this video, thank you for sharing your story.
Kudos to you, Queen. 👏🏽
It’s a pleasure my love. 🥺❤️
I get you. I hate it when ppl say negative things about others. I'm a size 34, but bliv me wen I say I've been body shamed at work, uth ubheka lomuntu who's doing that😳 n I think to myself yey if I were to say what I see myself ppl will cry but for peace sake Ive kept quiet to a point where I've cut communication except for business purposes cz I feel like the minute I confront you or behave in the same manner, ngeke sizwane. I told the 2 ukuth however I look, angikulandanga ebhish, if how I look or how I do things kungahambi nama debit order akho, usalala udlile, how is it your business 🙄 yey ngashiselwa😒 some1, inlaw uth kimi I look like I'm still pregnant, and that was 5 days after I've given birth😒 njani... Listen these ppl dnt know wen to stop... Worse ke Sarah ndini uzosebenza😩 jus keep shining wena Siza, some of us c beauty 😘
They never know when to stop mama yhuuuuu Ai bayadina hey ag. Such valid points. Thank you my love ❤️
Yoh trust me I get your point Siza. I'm a short person and always get such irritating comments about my hight as if ngizenzile ukuthi ngibe mfisha. And it's mostly family and family friends for me. The people who should be protecting me. Ukuthi bangenaphi angazi....they must just go rest nam I agree! I'm proud of how you handled it hey, not many would handle it that way hey, I wouldn't have lol she wouldn't even have cleaned my house ngoba I would have asked for someone else immediately. I love your make up look by the way 😍 umuhle ❤
So true. It’s so sad Buyi. The people who should be having your back ultimately smh. I’m so sorry. Thank you boo 🤗❤️
You're absolutely beautiful,people can be so annoying. I have experience with body shaming throughout my entire life, as long as im happy to hell with people's opinions. They even have the nerve to ask when you'll join a gym.
They have the nerve to ask a lot of things these people hey smh lol. Thank you my love ❤️
I feel you sisi. I hate that too. People think food makes us voluptuous kanti nje ufuzo. I wish people would stop this behavior
They need to stop, it's long over due manje.
Sorry for what happened to you hle sis no one should be saying whatever they like about ppls bodies. But what you were discussing about with your hairstylist is very crucial. Health is key whether over weight od under weight. When it threatens your well being close ppl around you say it, I know we don't want to hear that but they also don't want to lose you over something that can be dealt with and controlled. We have bad eating habits, we are not making healthy decisions when it comes to our health most of the time. And that road lead to many health problems. Am speaking from experience because I am someone who is struggling to put some weight off, and made a decision to look after myself because I have kids and I want to be there when my kids grow up. Am not saying am not gonna die but at least I am willing to do what I can to stay healthy. Leading a healthy lifestyle is good for everyone, they say prevention is better that cure. Let's just take care of ourselves. Let's not be ignorant. We are All beautiful in our own way yes. I agree. But let's stay healthy
I totally agree. And when we speak about health I believe it’s the ones close to you or the ones who care about you or whatever the case may be that would bring it up if they feel like it’s getting out of hand, nalapho the approach is very important. Like I said, people are dealing with a lot and have a lot of healing to do so another person’s ignorance or unkindness can literally push them over the edge.
However with this story it was a whole lotta ignorance and learnt behavior that I had to correct at that point.
We all just need to be aware of what we’re saying, to who and how. Even if it’s health related, BE KIND. Don’t be unnecessary.
@@MzwandileSiza good bbe as long we dont over look the health aspect. Have yourself a lovely week
Once had a fight with my Momz because she always does that to me😭shii hurts actually it's breaking, I ended up hating my body and I still do. I try by all means to lose weight but ngiya hluleka and but at the same time I am tired of being body shamed by my loved ones. I like how you addressed it Sis👏🏼❤️
I’m so so sorry Kamo. Phephisa sthandwa. And try speak to her. She’s causing you so many wounds that you’ll need to heal from later on 😔❤️
It's the look for me😍😍😍
Thank you for the heads up mama♥️I hope people have learnt that commenting on people's weights and other things is not a compliment
Thank you and it’s a pleasure boo 🤗
I absolutely hate it when people make such comments about people’s bodies! “Oh you’re so fat, oh you’re so skinny, when are you having a baby, why did you have a baby” all that nonsense really gets to me. My best friend liked making such comments (mind you, I’m actually very happy with my body weight and had been working hard towards my current weight) the first thing she and her fiancé would say after not seeing me since the lock down was “oh my goodness, you’re so fat” and that time I’m thinking, I’m 58kg and I’m actually happy with my weight.
Me and her kwakuzoba ewrestling, I really hate people who body shame others Joh wayezonya shame..
You handled her with so much maturity. She definitely would have tested my gangster 🥴
So inspired and proud of you Siza. These conversations must be had. And regarding the concerns about health and what not, I hardly believe that health concerns are the reason why majority of people feel the need to comment on other people's weight. It's just u'kthanda izindaba. And you'll find that many plus size people are leading far healthier lives than those who appear look tinier. People must "rest" ngempela 😂😂.
Side note: You're super gorgeous 💕 (not that you need a reminder from me since that's Zwandi's field of expertise 😅)
These conversations definitely need to be had hey. We seriously need to start showing the importance of being able to be vocal and stand up to yourself.
Thank you so much babe. ❤️❤️🤗🤗
I was speaking about this with a colleague when we got back to the office. Weight gain, skin issues wada wada wada are not greetings.
The fact that I wake up and look at myself in the mirror, means that I know what I look like. I DO NOT need a reminder. Futhi uhlanganaphi? Hai
People must rest.
Rest rest bafwethu 😔
I love love and respect you Siza.your response and how you addressed the whole situation with such wisdom is admirable. Thank you for being a voice of reason! I totally respect how you handled this.
Thank you mama 🙏🏾❤️
I love how you handled the situation, people can be so insensitive.
Calm down. We all dealing with our own things.
Thank you Siza. This needed to be said.
Be Kind💜💜
We honestly are. Pleasure boo ❤️
A lot of weight comments are from the older generation, and bacabanga ukuthi they're "complimenting" you, which is not nice.
In my case it's like they love it when I gain, and to them it means wuuu uhleli kamnandi la ukhona😟 you're stress free, which is never the case.
We all have internal battles, weight battles that we're fighting 😢
So so true Nontobeko 😔. Sending you all the love ❤️
@@MzwandileSiza ❤️❤️❤️
Bra you handled this with such grace which just speaks to the person you are ... and now you've got me inspired because when I get body shamed I'd just laugh it off that time I'm hurt but now I will say uba ubuzwe ngubani and futhi I'm comfortable in my skin and futhi ndi cute so ungenaphi. Thank you for sharing sometimes you feel you're the only one going through that type of stuff yazi ❤
And futhi ucute baby!!! Thank you friend. You’re never alone. Zyabuya la ngaphandle but we soldier on even amongst the unkind 🤦🏾♀️
I agree. We need to empower ourselves as women and stand up for yourself
Definitely mama 😔
I am very sad Siza, to think that there is a person who have a problem with your weight, I real love everything about you especial the way you dress you know what suits you. I mean the selflove you have inspires me a lot.
Aawww thank you angel. There’ll always be someone who things or feels the opposite of another person lol
I swear after that restaurant issue and this one, I can safely say you are a better person than me when it comes to composure😂😂 my shady self would have said something kuye that’s worse than what you said. I hate how we are always expected to be bigger people in situations just to make people feel better about themselves. It gets tiring honestly, people must know their place and have some filter. Entlek umntu must THINK before talking
It definitely gets tiring but I think I’m really invested in teaching someone and helping them unlearn certain behaviors so they are better people instead of just fighting Fire with Fire. Maybe the day will come when I will kill everything in front of me 🤣🤣🤣
So sorry you had to go through that. This is a very sensitive topic and we need to constantly remind ourselves to mind our own business really. Big ups for educating us😘😘
Aawww it’s my pleasure 🙏🏾❤️
Hi GG's notification gang 🤘🤘🤘. Yoh Siza you are driving us crazy with these looks. Like I can't keep up. Umuhle tjrr the flames 🔥🔥🔥🔥.
As for this cleaner-The bloody nerve. Clearly she was foolish klaar.
Lol Askies Bathong ❤️. It’s the nerve for me stru
Heyiii no no no mark me absent for that , fail me I don't care... Body shaming a woman from another woman. What have we come to as women nje in general. You look amazing in your body sthandwa sam, no one has no right to even have a say about that... You are gorgeous, FACT!!!!..... ❤️🌹
Thank you for uploading this video @Siza.
It’s high time we spoke about these type of matters so that people could be more aware. Someone’s weight is not someone else’s cup of tea.
It’s actually irritating.
Let me share my story.
I’ve never been a slender girl, I remember in grade 8, I was a size 36 already weighing 58kg. Mind you I was only 1.56m tall, anyway,
So one day during lunch break with my so called ‘friends’ (friend A, B, C, D, E).
we had a conversation and the topic was, *what would you like to be when you are older?*
So I said something along the lines of, Mathematician, then friend A said “Pilot”, then this big mouth of “friend B” made a silly remark and said “Ja, when you are a pilot friend A, and Bongekile steps into the plane, the plane will fall, because she’s so fat”,
I then said “ excuse me? “
She repeated,
the Politeness in me baphela, ngathi “ it’s better to be fat and excelling at school, than to be thin and failing”
You should have seen how red she got. All the other “friends” looked at me with disbelief, and were quite judgmental, forgetting that that other comment was vile.
But anyway, She never mentioned my weight ever again.
All in all, people should not raise such issues because they are insensitive. I don’t care ukuthi uyadlala, dlala nengane zakwenu, not me. Into ebuhlungu is that when such happens, you end up being the wrong one according to society when you retaliate.
I get body shamed on a regular by my family and sometimes i feel worthless.
Your make up looks amazing ❤❤
I’m so sorry Taati 😔
Me too about having big breast and small bums,it hurts
@@patriciamotsamai3850 sending love to you ❤️
Honestly , abantu bangenaphi eyindabeni zabantu?
The older generation honestly doesn't understand how one comment can honestly set you back/trigger you to a dark place. And I understand why uthi we need to teach them to be mindful of what they say , when they say it and how they say it. Because honestly , it's unacceptable. People have so much already on their plates , people just need to mind their own yazi.
And Siza, thank you for being such a great advocate and role model to us all ❤️
That is so true hey and when they carry on like this they grow and build a future generation that thinks it's okay to talk like this with people and it becomes and ongoing cycle.
You are most well, I got you girl. ❤️❤️😘😘🤗🤗
These days I don't even edit my words for body shamers.. I tell them kak yong. I think I've reached a point where I just don't take it.. U handled it well sis
Kudos to you mama ❤️
People are just so ignorant and they don't care about other people's feelings. What you are saying is all true mntase. I'd be having my acne breakout and people would be asking "ubenzeni ubuso?"🙄 Haibo what do you even mean?
What do you mean ngibenzeni ubuso? Ag that’s annoying! Why would I go out of my way to do this to myself. I’m so sorry babe hey. That so rude and uncalled for nxa. 😔❤️
For those that feel like she took things out of proportion bc Sarah meant “no harm”, when someone feels offended/hurt by something it’s not up to anyone to decide that they were or not. Sarah or anyone have not control over Siza received it.
Love how you handled it Siz! Sometimes how people act is really a reflection of their insides or what they’re going through rather. That helps us love and be empathetic towards them🤍
Thank you angel 😔❤️
i am a victim hey,people always feel the need to comment on my weight gain especially during lockdown when i was home and it used to hurt so much r.n i am okay with responding to anyone because they do not know what led to me gaining so much in one year.it hurts even more when your own family is involved in the whole body shaming process.i didn't even go home in august deliberately ,there was a gathering ngoba i am protecting my peace.
thoroughly enjoyed this vid
Love that you are aware of protecting your peace and you’re taking it seriously mama. This shows a great amount of self love aawwwwww ❤️
Yohh Siza as women we go through a lot..... Some people think they have a right to ask us when are we going to have kids 🙄🙄🙄🙄... Why why why
So true. We need to show them that it’s not ok. Stop it!
Siza I admire you and how you handle issues, I would have dealt with her right there and then shame and chase her out of my space. I hate body shaming it just kills me.Just a reminder Mrs N you are a beautiful and phenomenal woman♥️😍
Restani bafethu nge personal lives zabantu
Ngyabonga sthandwa 🙏🏾❤️
If it has to do with weight,skin or overall appearance and if it can be interpreted as a negative comment, DON'T SAY IT. Thanks for this Mom, I think it is a conversation we all need to hear because sometimes we say things nje and it ends up affecting the receiver badly. ❤❤
So true. It’s my pleasure boo ❤️
I'm watching this video with my 2 year old daughter and she's like "mama uphi uZwandi lana"
Ncaaaaaaw🤣 My son also comments when I'm watching saying "You are always watching them". That's how much into TH-cam and the GGs I am🙈❤
Ncaaaaaaaaaaah the absolute sweetest man. 🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍 Zwandi will be back soon. 🤗
@@motheowalerato701 We totally love this, so so special man. ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for watching. 🤗
My issue with the older generation is that abafuni ukuboniswa. I go through the same thing and I’ve gotten tired of addressing it because ketlareng.
Yea that's our problem, we need to be a better generation when it comes to open conversations with our peers and EVEN younger people who have the ability to impose knowledge.