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My cat is 12 or 13, and still just as adorable as ever! He's slowed down a little, but shows no sign of stopping, especially when he gets the zoomies and runs around the house, leaving a trail of fur behind. Silly boy.
Funny story: Out of curiosity I asked about personal training prices at our local gym, and they are anywhere from 400 to 800 dollars a MONTH depending on the package. I thanked the gym representative and said I wouldn't be able to afford that right now, and she suggested that I open a credit card so I could pay it over time in smaller payments. It turned into one of those moments where I cackled because I thought she was joking but she wasn't, and now I have to deal with her glare every time I enter the gym.
@@vg7985 They do offer three 30 minute personal trainer sessions for $100 total when you first join the gym, which I decided to take the plunge for, and I don't regret it. However at the end of those three sessions is when they talk to you about continuing with the regular pricing and try to persuade you that you need the trainer, which is when this conversation happened.
1) A lot of alcohol. 2) Pre pandemic bod back spending. 3) A new vehicle. 4) A new pet. 5) Vacations just for the sake of it. 6) A massive wedding. 7) A new wardrobe. 8) Self help books and seminars. 9) Luxe loungewear. 10) An air fryer.
Thank you sooo much! I always appreciate so much people who take the time to share the notes. Not all of us have time to watch the whole video, but the take home points are what truly matters. Thank you! ❤
1 @2:15 A Lot of Alcohol 2 @3:48 Get Your Prepandemic Bod Back Spending 3 @5:56 A New Vehicle 4 @7:04 A Pet 5 @9:50 Vacations Just for the Sake of them 6 @11:26 A Massive Wedding 7 @12:40 A New Wardrobe 8 @14:10 Self-Help Books and Seminars 9 @16:07 Luxe Loungewear 10 @17:28 An Air Fryer
TFD, it would literally take one of your social media employees minutes to put this in the description. Would love to see you take advantage of the TH-cam chapters function, pretty please!
i have a $40 airfryer that is dishwasher safe, and it has many times been the only thing that has kept me from skipping meals because I lack the executive function to preheat an oven, wait 30 minutes and dirty a whole baking sheet or then put leftovers away (so I make individual portions in an air fryer rather than bulk in the oven and they take about 10 minutes rather than 40 minutes). As someone who used to think airfryers were silly because they were just ovens I WAS WRONG. It's a fantastic investment actually
I agree with this comment 1000 percent. I got my air fryer from Costco for $50 and use it everyday! It is easy to clean and cuts the cook time in half! Love Love my air fryer!
I also have executive function challenges, and I used my dad's that he got at Costco, and we had fries in 15 minutes! I like the feel of them too, they have a lighter texture. I'd definitely get one. My grandfather had one for a few years, before they really got popular, and it was the first time I'd heard of one, and I was a little skeptical, but now they have more options for sizes and shapes, which makes it easy to find one that works, even at a lower price.
The air fryer has been great for me, especially in the summer, because I don't have to heat my whole darn house to roast something! And if I've not planned ahead in the winter it makes dinner prep faster. I don't think it is any harder to wash than a pot or baking sheet, it's just a matter of do you have storage space and will you use it enough. And I do!
I think the ability to throw something in and set a time is a really stress free way to cook. I'm not worried about burning my lunch if a meeting runs on. Also the low bar of effort and ease to cook has saved me multiple times from ordering in a takeaway when I just couldn't be bothered.
I got my cat during the pandemic, but I had been planning on getting her for almost a year before that. She just got switched to a special diet and so got exorbatantly more expensive, but I wouldn't give her up for anything. It makes me so sad when people treat their animals like they're disposable, or like they're toys. They're living beings, and should be treated as such.
Same. half the people around me who got pets got rid of them, but the other half, thankfully, free roam, feed the appropriate diet, and plan for medical expenses, I just wish I got a rescue instead of buying. Instead, I’ve become a regular donator to animal shelters and buy from small-business pet stores cuz the big chains still sell malnourished animals in store.
I got a cat during lockdown too and she has a stomach issue that also requires prescription food. Same boat, my friend. She’s definitely a financial burden with all the vet visits and prescriptions but i wouldn’t give her up for the world. I hope the special diet helps your kitty ❤️
I adopted a kitten this summer, and he ended up having a heart defect and had to have surgery to correct it. It was really expensive but by that point I was already ride or die for him and fortunately, he now has the chance to live a relatively normal life. I would say that all my pets have been added to my family very intentionally (I have 2 dogs as well), but just like people, you never know what's going to come up and it's important to remember you're taking in a living thing with all the requirements that entails.
I remember when I adopted my cat (2+ years ago) i had to be interviewed and one of the things they asked me was to estimate the yearly costs of adopting a pet! Such a relevant, important question / thing to bring up! I was way off lol but I love my son lol
Agreed! I wouldn't dream of ever abandoning my kitties! I knew going into it that there is a lot of responsibility involved. Daily care and attention sounds easy enough but there are also unexpected costs that some aren't prepared for. I just spent over $2k at the vet because my 15 year old cat got very ill (he's on the mend but will likely need meds going forward).
I have to say the conscious effort Chelsea makes to avoid any kind of shaming almost makes me tear up ! I fall down the self improvement hole quite often and I can now see that there is actually a lot of victim blaming which is also the norm in my culture so that was just my world view! Thank for showing us the other side
I’m not sure if most air fryers have this, but mine also has a bunch of settings. I use it as a toaster, oven and fryer. Plus in summer it won’t heat my whole house like the oven does. It’s been amazing!
@@turtlescanfly7 It sounds like yours is similar to mine. I have basically a counter top convection oven, because I wanted an air fryer, but also wanted something that could replace my oven if need be, since it's just my partner and I.
Omg she is tripping I LOVE my air fryer!!! I got it on sale for 100.00 and saves me so much time I kept my slow cooker for more soup based meals but yes love air fryer
Yes and yes! I'm a dietitian and worked thru the pandemic. Almost everyone is talking about their weight gain from quarentine and honestly giving themselves a hard time about it. But I have had so many conversations about appreciating their bodies because they are effing alive! It got them thru a pandemic! I'm Navajo and there was so much news about how hard it was hitting our communities and seriously, what more can we ask of our bodies when everyone i know has a family member or friend lost to the pandemic, including me. 15 or 20 lbs is a small price and even then, so effing what. Your weight is not your worth.
I am all about this. I'm also thinking a lot about body neutrality rather than body positivity as a real option for me. Maybe there's a lot of people discovering this as a result of body changes in the pandemic...or maybe just me?
Yes!! And your weight not even be that correlated with your health. I’ve been working with an RD for the last year and she’s showing me so much data to indicate that what we know of weight is deeply ingrained in racism / moralizing fatphobia. The extra lbs might not even matter in terms of our mortality, but the stress we give ourselves over hating our bodies will definitely shave time off our lives.
@@sarahwatts7152 Yes, I align a little bit more with body neutrality, too. Our bodies are just there... existing... we don't need to put a value on it, negative or positive.
I foster dogs and rescues & shelters are so overwhelmed atm. So honestly if people are ready for a life-time commitment and are wanting to adopt a dog, especially an adult dog, this is a great time to do that. OR a great time to get into fostering if someone does want a dog short term without worrying about costs or the long-term commitment. DO NOT GET A PUPPY JUST TO RETURN IT IN A YEAR. (Multiple people have done this from the rescue I foster with and it's the worst! Puppies are much more adoptable than adult dogs, do not get a puppy if you're not prepared for the 10+ year commitment)
thank you for helping these pets. I hope they're all able to find forever homes. I'm allergic so I can't foster or own any so I appreciate you doing this.
I just so happened to be browsing the website for my local shelter last night. I work from home but don't want a puppy. Been torn between possibly getting a cat (though I don't know much about cats) or an adult dog. I found one who looks like a sweetheart per her description, but she's on the larger side and I'm not sure if me living in a small apartment might make adopting her a bad idea. I can take her on walks and to the park on off days, but I wonder if she'd still dislike the small space. I don't really like small "yap yap" dogs, as I call them, I'm used to at least something the size of a pitbull (and would prefer to get a pit, but of course, they're part of the stupid "restricted breeds" list). The girl I'm looking at looks like she might have a smidgen of pit in her but enough like something else to maybe get past that restriction. I'd check with my apartment front office before the adoption to make sure. Either way, I wasn't looking to make a move right now anyways. My job at the moment is in a precarious spot and the company might end up having to let all of us go if a contract isn't renewed (and even if it is, some of us might be cut as work is slow). So, ensuring my employment is stable is of course the most important thing right now. But I just wanted to see what animals my shelter had, so I was browsing. I absolutely want it to be a lifetime commitment, so I'm not rushing this.
I would add though, anyone looking to get a dog should make sure they have a vet, groomer, and trainer ready to go as there are massive employee shortages in the pet industry causing many in all 3 fields to no longer be taking on new clients.
When we adopted our cats 3 years ago it was over an hour of filling out paperwork and talking to the lady. She wanted to know all kinds of things like if we'd ever given a pet away, what kind of cat litter we used, how long the cats would be alone during the day ect. She asked under what circumstances would be get rid of the cats and I couldn't think of any. Now that we've had them for a few years, even though they are little psychos sometimes, I couldn't imagine not having them. We've had cats live into their 20's, you have to be committed to be their forever home.
Same! The humane society that was in my area was very thorough and asked all the same questions. They even asked what would happen to Morty in the event that we broke up (which we did) and we stated that he would go with which ever one of us had the means to give him a better quality of life which was my ex and that’s where morty went when we broke up. He unfortunately passed away of leukemia last year.
Chelsea - the anti-Alexa over here. I’m planning a wedding, my partner is booking vacations and mini-trips like he’s got 2 months to live (he’s fine), literally just talked to my personal trainer about air fryers this morning. Then Chelsea hits me with this video. Thank you for being the cold water on my face that I needed. Brrrr! I’m awake!
Yes! I find fostering animals is a wonderful way to love on shelter animals until they find their forever homes if you know your life isn't stable enough to commit to an animal forever. They get a safe, loving home out of a cage, and you get the joy of knowing and caring for them.
I agree with the spirit of your advice about gyms/trainers, but I want to offer a different perspective. Personal training gets a lot of resistance because of the cost, but the advice from a professional who has guided me through my fitness journey has changed my life. Yes - I am now spending A LOT on my gym membership and hourly training sessions, but it’s changed the quality of my life immensely. After being sedentary for years (pre-pandemic as well) seeing a trainer allowed me to learn how to listen to my body while working out. Idk - maybe it feels more reasonable because I spend less than $50 a year on alcohol lol. But my point is - I feel like this kind of advice steers people away from Personal training, especially those who are already workout resistant. It leads to DIY injuries and quitting before they make any progress.
I think it’s not for many people, but it is for some certainly. If you can afford it & it works for you, then I say go for it. I’m really happy for you btw. Congratulations on your success & finding something that works for you
I think everyone has that “one expensive thing” that they spend money on because for their situation, the return justifies the price. It’s great that personal training works for you 😊, I pay for a dietician for similar reasons. You definitely have to acknowledge the effects of predatory marketing that the health and fitness industry uses, though (I’ve already started receiving ads for losing weight for the New Year, ugh). There’s this idea if you put enough money into it you’ll magically get rid of any self-esteem issues you have about your body image, which is terrible! And this is statistically verifiable, lots of people spend money on health and fitness paraphernalia without getting any substantial returns. Chelsea is definitely outspoken about it, but if you watch her older videos you’ll find it’s because she was a victim of this system for many years. I’d say you’re definitely the exception, not the rule.
Yup my trainer not only makes sure I’m going at a good pace and not over doing things but also tailors my workouts to be time efficient, functional to my needs and goals and also keeps me accountable. I’m more likely to get myself to the gym if I have an appointment I’m paying for than if I have to self motivate. Even if it’s not for you, I always recommend beginners see a trainer even if just for a month to get a basic knowledge of how to use the equipment properly but also how they should be maneuvering their body for safety and efficiency.
Yeah I agree, trainers can be invaluable to lots of people! Health should be a top priority for everyone and spending a little extra (if you can) shouldn't be on this list. Heck I even joined a dance class and my happiness and health has skyrocketed
"Do we still really need 200 person weddings?" Tell me you've never been to a Mexican wedding without telling me you've never been to a Mexican wedding.
My husband is Mexican and an introvert and he was so happy to use the pandemic as an excuse to limit to the guest list to only families members he knew and liked.
As a therapist, I love and recommend "The Body Keeps the Score" more for people with past trauma. What I really wish we had was some version of this for people who went through something like WW2 or the Spanish flu back in 1918-1920. Most ancient and medieval writings simply talk about everyone dying when a plague hits and few survivors living to tell the tale. However, when someone coughs in a restaurant, doesn't wear a mask or gets too close to you, do you react? You 50/50 do. Bluntly, the books about how to survive a worldwide pandemic are being written NOW and at best we can infer from other things like religious writings, superhero movies, keeping a routine and doing the best we can.
Hi as someone whose going through therapy , the book has been recommended to me and I believe they are worthwhile investments for people who have experienced trauma .
not really trauma-related (although maybe) but I found When the Body Says No very motivating in seeking therapy. I know it's an older one but it had such gentle and beautiful writing that I think it can still be useful today.
The body keeps the score is THE BEST book on trauma and trauma recovery I have ever read. I can't begin to imagine how anyone might think it was about the pandemic though. If you read it, it is very very specific about the kinds of trauma it is about.
@@ashassassin it sounds a great companion book to The Deepest Well, another book about childhood trauma and health outcomes. I’ll check out The Body Keeps The Score.
I suspect she hasn’t actually read it. And is also not taking into account that the uptick in people seeking “self-help” type books is not necessarily because they want to recover from pandemic trauma, but because the pandemic has caused them to look at the childhood trauma they’ve never dealt with before. But who knows.
@@deed3259 No. It deals with PTSD/trauma, mostly from [things that require trigger warnings], including the physiological and neurological changes in the body's systems. It also discusses what forms of therapy help PTSD and which are generally ineffective. You know you need the book when you can barely read the first chapter because it's hitting all the fight or flight buttons. There's some mention of emotional abuse and neglect as well because that can cause similar systemic changes in the body.
Wow, that's horrible! I didn't know that people were so cruel and got disposable,"pandemic" pets. That's so sad... I'm glad that you are bringing attention to this issue! I have had birds all my life and having them is much easier and affordable...And I also agree with you: they are family, not objects.
My local humane society had an increase of dogs coming back to them once vaccines rolled out and people started travelling again. They were running out of funds and room for all the animals. Don't forget to donate to your local shelters. They will appreciate it!
I see this as a complex issue. I volunteered in rescue for a bit. Ultimately an animal having a safe, good and happy home for two years than living in a shelter for two years or getting put down. I don’t think anyone should be buying animals pandemic or not, but I welcome short term animal owners to give good homes to rescue pets during the time they can provide it.
Take it from me, don't plan a big/normal wedding during a pandemic. I had planned an 80 person reception and it blew up in face when Delta came back with a vengeance. Just focus on what you need to do to feel married and cut whatever isn't necessary.
@@deed3259 a few we did. Two vendors ghosted us but a few gave us our deposits back, which was nice. Plus those vendors were overbooked and needed the flexibility more than the money.
I cannot agree more on the pet point! I’m a college student, and I am so excited to adopt a dog after I graduate! I love dogs, and my friends are always so surprised I won’t adopt one during college. It’s a lifetime decision for the animal, and one shouldn’t adopt or buy a pet ‘just for fun’.
I’m an exception with the clothes lol. I’ve had the same clothes for a decade & I have always hated most of them. So I’m donating the clothes I don’t want to the women’s shelter nearby. But I’m still not going crazy with the clothes I want. I very carefully picked them & was incredibly careful to not over indulge
My Style Just changed completely during the pandemic, and i dont mean active or Casual wear. I mean indulging on the Vintage/goth stuff that i never felt confident buying as a Teen. Doesnt mean i will Chuck Out my entire wardrobe but i am slowly buying the pieces that i Like, either proper Vintage or good reproduction clothing, neither of which is cheap. But that is going to Take a while and i will use Up or donate or sell the clothes i have in the meantime. Most of my Jeans are Close to dying anyway
Almost the same here. I wasn't wearing most of my work clothing during the pandemic and a majority of the items got tight or stopped fitting so I'm doing a massive overhaul and buying new things. Also i was dressing just to put clothes on my body and not for my body type or taste. With purchasing all this new clothing, i know i feel way more confident, comfortable and stylish.
The wardrobe thing is so true, and because a lot of us put on weight during pandemic there is this feeling of "needing to" but changing a few specific items can completely update the whole wardrobe
Based on your comments about weight loss spending, I want to remind people out there how important it is to remember that different things work for different people and weight loss ideas are NOT one size fits all. My body’s situation is very complex and I lost weight with a combination of noom and an endocrinologist who could monitor me. A nutritionist did not help me. But for people with an eating disorder, noom is often disastrous and a nutritionist really helps. People are different and how we each go about this process should be different!! Ok, thank you for listening to my spiel. Lol
Yeah MyFitnessPal and a food scale did miracles for me, but like Noom I would never recommend it to people with disordered eating. I'm actually pretty cautious about recommending it unless I know the person well because it can be really bad for certain people. One of my relatives bought a tupperware set that roughly measures their food, which would drive me nuts because I want the numbers, but it has worked amazingly for them and reversed their type 2 diabetes. To anyone reading this - if you are struggling with your weight first ask yourself a) do I really need to lose this weight for health reasons and b) is the method that I am using just not right for me.
@@tigrovna_ totally. The thing I love about noom is having a coach to text and keep me accountable and also be super supportive and keep me calm. That really adds value for me.
I’m just here to say: a toaster oven with an air fryer setting is a great investment if you have the counter space for it. I have a gas oven, and operating it in the California summer is just a huge energy sink as it increases the need for air conditioning to offset the oven venting and requires a decent time to pre-heat. I almost exclusively use the toaster oven during the summer to roast vegetables, chicken, bake bread, etc. If you get one with the convection/air fryer option, you can cram 3 appliances into the counter space of one. I do agree that a dedicated air fryer seems unnecessary unless you’re going to make a whole lot of chicken wings.
I started fostering dogs because so many were abandoned after lockdown. I have no clue why people are doing this. Dogs sleep 16 hours a day and can remain in the home even if you're going back to work. Its truly the cruelest thing to do to a pet
Unless it's a greyhound! The ultimate couch potato - 2 x 30mins zoomies, 20 minutes eating and hours of sleep. I even get the evil eye if I suggest she gets up before 10am.
LOL - I literally just bought an air fryer ... but I hear you, and agree in principle. As a single person the air fryer was about cooking quicker/easier and not having the time and cost of preheating my oven for smaller batches (and it is something I thought about for a long time since I generally hate gadgets). I think the main problem is when you get swept up in spending for your fantasy self ... that never works out.
I absolutely agree with you! I don't think that Chelsea was saying that nobody should ever get an air fryer. I think it's true that we sometimes buy things based on this fantasy that can sound something like, "If I had this gadget, I would cook air fried meals every single day." I almost got sucked into that, but I realized that most of the food that I cook is stir fried and I don't think I would change the kind of food that I eat most often just to make an air fryer purchase worth it.
I cheated the preheat game by placing the food before preheating. I adjusted all of my recipes to include preheating as part of the bake time. Apparently, it keeps glassware from cracking.
I’ve had my air fryer since 2019 and I love it. My new favorite thing is air frying frozen shrimp and frozen broccoli. I’m actually considering getting the two slotted one. It’s the perfect tool for people who eat to survive.
Pets are living creatures, not commodities! Be kind to them. If you can't keep them, rehome them. Euthanizing a healthy animal just because you can't keep it is cruel.
My air fryer has changed my life for the better. No preheating time, cooks in 10 mins, CRIPPPPY AF, has lower wattage compared to an oven, cost me $40, and has lasted for two years now. $$$aving$$$
Can you do a type of video where you debunk tik tok videos ? It's a great platform but I've noticed the promotion of over consumerism is a popular trend on there, even if it's unintentional. Seemingly innocent hauls have turned into "look how much stuff I bought today"
As far as accessing therapy, see if your employer (if you have one) offers/participates in an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) where so many therapy sessions are completely free or heavily discounted and it doesn't go through insurance. I started with 8 sessions a year ago and it truly has made a world of difference. :)
Highly recommend, but understand that therapists are in short supply right now. So the options may be slim. I tried two different EAP-recommended therapists and both their approaches (CBT and CBT-lite) were not a good match for what I realized I needed.
So we did end up purchasing an air fryer BUT living in a small townhouse we are very selective of the items we purchase for the kitchen. We actually had an older model a friend gave us but it was too small for our needs - so we challenged ourselves to using it regularly for several months before shelling out the money for a newer larger unit. By doing this we are happy we purchased this particular unit - and using this sort of method we actually have NOT purchased several other kitchen gadgets. I think it just takes some thought and intention behind your purchases.
Yeah similar happened to me, my mom bought me one last year for my bday, it was a pretty small model but we use it all the time, now my partner and I are wanting to splurge on a larger one simply because it would be more helpful for meal prepping.
Absolutely love my air fryer bc it's faster for us since our rented apt's oven is garbage (but not technically broken so the landlord won't replace it). But I wholeheartedly agree, if you don't see yourself using it at least 4-5 times a week, don't buy it. I made that mistake with an instant pot and ended up selling it on FB. There were some great holiday deals on air fryers though, so if you're determined to have one, wait for a sale!
I bought a crock pot and air fryer because they were on sale and I'll use the crock pot for holidays and the air fryer every 3-4 days. You're right though. I remember when rice cookers were the big thing. Everyone I know bought one and never used them.
@@Animefreak242 Lots of Asians eat rice daily, often for more than one meal. Depends on what you like to eat. I've used mine for ages, and now I got a new one I can stir-fry and do quinoa in too.
@@dingfeldersmurfalot4560 Heh, just got my mom a Ninja double air fryer as her Christmas gift. If she doesn't use it though, or when it's not in use, I might borrow it from her. I habe more counter space than her and didn't think of that when I got it, so we'll see how much she uses it.
80% of my work is done from home now so comfortable good quality loungewear that can look smart enough for a zoom call is definitely worth it in my book.
As a person who has really took a hit on all parts of life since Jan 2020, I can say if I didn’t have my $30 air fryer I probably wouldn’t eat. My mental health (and chronic health condition) makes eating a big task so being able to throw something in there for 5-10 mins whether it be broccoli or chicken nuggets, it’s better than me not eating at all. Also, can y’all do a video about disability benefits offered through employers vs the government and the hoops disabled ppl have to go through financially, emotionally, and physically and possibly give advice on that too? -not from a standpoint of someone who has a strong support system -how to live off such small funds (example: $2313 per month) bc a lot of Tfd content seems to be based around able bodied people who can work and seem to at least make $4,000 a month or more. Another idea-what to do if you are working but have a health issue come up or develop a chronic disability? A video on employee rights and options? I really could still use a guide this hellofayear🙄
The pet point was SO poignant. That anecdote you told is just one of many similar ones that I heard this year. It makes me sick and I'm so glad you brought it up.
Two comments, one is, pre pandemic I had a pretty good gym habit, my membership was inexpensive as the gym was owned (in part) by my employer. They announced about two months into the pandemic that the gym would never reopen! I felt so defeated! Second of all, I knew Noom cost money! But holy cow $60 a month? Almost double what I was paying for my gym membership! And I live in a rural area, there isn’t a lot of choices in gyms near me!
I bought an air fryer in 2019 for like $40. So worth it! Its quick, its perfect for 1-2 people and clean up is super simple. My brother and his wife got a fancier one that cost more and fit more but I'm definitely pro Air Fryer! I use mine at least 3 times a week. But I agree with the sentiment that you do not need to buy every gadget that is marketing to you. Build the habit of cooking first, and figure out if you need anything to help supplement or make things easier for you.
I had my pets prior to the pandemic. But during the pandemic, I spent $700 on my cat for surgery and $2,000 on my dog for tests. He most likely has pancreatitis. So now I spend a lot for his food. Pets are a huge responsibility.
i love how she just went IN on people who treat pets like toys. when she was like "if you return a pet you weren't prepared for, you're a bad person" i screamed YES BINCH at the screen hahhaha
Proud to say that I adopted my two little pandemic pets from an adoption centre just before lockdown kicked in and I honestly don't know what I would have done without them. I guess the difference is, I've had pets before and planned how I would care for them post-pandemic. I am looking forward to (fingers crossed!) spending the next decade of my life with them. The worst part of people abandoning their pandemic pets is that *every single* person in that situation thinks it's unavoidable and not their fault. They all think they're the exception to the rule and could never be an irresponsible pet owner.
I live alone, my air fryer by Tefal cost me 183$ I use it everyday, even before to go to work, I cook my lunch, super fast, I don't fry things, I don't have an oven and the air fryer is super small. I use it everyday and on weekends twice a day. So it's an investment and I'm eating better, like you say it's an oven, I guess it was super advertised as a healthy air fryer so people will buy them
I think Luxe PJ… maybe at least decent PJs or other things to wear around the house is important to get rid of those body positivity issues. It shows we dress for our self image, not for people outside. Of course you can walk around naked, but not every season. We have winters :)
In relation to pets: they take up a tremendous amount of time and energy. When you’re not having to commute or work in the office, you’re able to balance the pets needs with your life. Once we return to normalcy, I think a lot of people will find that the amount of time available to them to meet the needs of these pets will significantly decrease which will lead to a lot of rehoming. However, the issue here is mostly the breeders of these animals that bred large amounts of pets to take advantage of the profits, which will now lead to a large amount of animals in shelters or in less than ideal situations. Ultimately though, I think the real issue is having such a screwed work/life balance that we don’t even have time for our pets and family and other things that bring meanings to our lives but I digress.
This is exactly why i dont have a Dog despite desperately wanting a pet. I Work in Home Office and i live on my own. Having a pet around would be amazing. But i will Go Back to the Office sooner or later, and what then? I cant afford doggy daycare and my partner, even If we move in together, works 3 week shifts on ships. Once ive moved i will probably Look for 2 Guinea pigs or rabbits, sth that i can lock Up in its enclosure while im gone without having to worry that they will go insane.
maybe guinea pigs, but whatever you choose make sure you give it enough space. A rabbit would need constant social companionship, so best to get two if you’re going to be away long hours and also try rabbit proofing an entire room so they have enough space. If you don’t have the room for a rabbit then guinea pig might be good - although I don’t know anything about their care requirements. Unfortunately, there are no pets that don’t require a fairly substantial time requirement. Even fish require a weekly tank clean that could take an hour or longer to do and careful balancing of their enclosure which requires a lot of time to research ect. Ultimately, we should all have more time to enjoy our lives instead of having to work u too we are dead or disabled. Hope you find something that works for your life and brings you happiness! :)
The expense of shelter and “free” animals is so true! My parents have spent $15,000 over the 13 years they’ve had their rescue lab mix - two bouts of a rare fungal pneumonia and two ACL tears add up super quick! They’re family members so plan accordingly.
I was randomly given an air fryer last year. It sat for maybe 3-4 months in my kitchen before I really started to use it… it is AMAZING!! It cooks a meal in the same time that it would take my oven to preheat… I used to think they were overrated but I was so wrong. I just made chicken thighs for dinner tonight with it. 20 mins on 400 and I didn’t even have to flip them. The best part about it is that it was free lol
Nah! I'll keep buying expensive (comfy) PJ's until I'm no more. It's the only type of clothing that pays for themselves as I wear them more often that anything else in my wardrobe. I sleep on them, play with my pets, do my household chores, even go pick up my kids (as long as I don't have to leave the car) wearing my lounge stuff. But all the rest, yes. Great advices 👍🏾
I got a cat during this pandemic and it was a very serious process! I volunteered at a cat shelter for several months in advance as “practice” and i recommend this to anyine who is considering getting an animal for the first time! I consulted everyone I knew who actually owned a cat, about the financial expenses-lucky for me a couple of my friends keep extremely detailed budget spreadsheets. I had detailed discussions with my housemates, family, and close friends about every contingency I could think of-figuring out who would be able to babysit and backup babysitter for various situations, who would be able to take care of the cat if something terrible happened to me, etc. We talked to the shelter about how much time we spend at home vs. out, both our current lifestyles and pre covid lifestyles, so we could try to select for a cat personality that would be comfortable with the balance of alone time vs people time. Even with all that, there were things that have happened that we werent prepared for!
I agree with all, other than the air fryer! The potato wedges/fries I make with mine are 1000% better than the over version. You dont need to spend tonnes of money on it, I got my very basic one for 60€.
There's a unaccounted for category of pandemic pets. That second cat you got because Jackson Galaxy said 2 cats are less work than 1 and a kitten bothering your beloved little bastard who doesn't let you work sounds like a great revenge. I joke, but yeah I fully advocate for the ownership of two cats, they meet each others needs a lot better than you can. Also don't worry my cats love each other.
We bought an air fryer before the pandemic started and this was one of our best purchases - even if we do not use it daily. It all depends on how you eat, how you cook, and if you have enough space in your kitchen to store it. Before you buy one, juyt think over if it would improve your cooking or would make it more complicated - this actually applies to all devices.
Who's buying $200 airfyer? In my country airfyer starts at $50 and it's a decent one. Coming from a country where ovens are not the norm but a luxury, having an airfyer is the best. Granted I am already skilled in cooking and baking before having one. I get to bake cakes, bread and roast in mine. So yes, if you have an oven, dont bother with an airfryer (i dont even use it to fry coz it's too dry, i prefer deep fry). But if ur a renter without any oven, airfyer is the bomb.
I got an air fryer as a gift and it's Hella convenient. It takes 5 minutes to preheat to 400 degrees vs the 15-20 it takes the oven. And I altered majority of my meals to cater to the air fryer to save time when cooking.
I also adopted an anxious, bitey, spinny dog during the panorama. I just loved him until he came around. Now I have a much less anxious, still spinny, best friend.
I actually got a load of discounts and freebies from my wedding vendors. Likely because people were faced with the stress of "is this even worth it" so venues were pushing to keep their existing clients. If your vendors are charging too much just keep looking around because its super competitive out there.
Thanks for the tips. My family has been making a post pandemic bucket list. We look at it occasionally and reassess what is a priority and what conditions make everyone feel safe doing that again and what else it needs (budget/vacation days/border crossings/etc). We did get a pandemic pet, but we didn't seek him, he called to us; a cat who had 3 homes, multiple returns to the shelter and clearly loved people but the shelter considered him a barn cat at best and possibly unadoptable. A friend showed me his info and I saw a misunderstood cat, that liked people but might need some space, so I called the shelter and said that if he would let me pick him up and touch him enough for general care and going to the vet that I'd adopt him and also told them what my experience with cats is. the cat is a complete nightmare if he's indoors when you're cooking meat, but otherwise he's just an energetic cat, he might be in kitten mode permanently. We knew that if we took him, we'd never return him, it's important for people to understand a pet's needs and have a commitment to a forever home.
The best thing about everyone doing wardrobe overhauls? You can actually totally get yourself a new wardrobe from thrifting/marketplace at a TINY fraction of the cost it would be to buy new.
My car died this summer and I'm trying to hang on to being a one car household for the time being (my husband and I work the same hours in the same place luckily)...things are WAY too expensive right now.
I have an air fryer/pressure cooker/slow cooker combo and it’s the best thing we’ve ever bought for our house. I’ve had it for 3 years and it gets used multiple times a week. So nice not to have to preheat an oven and heat my while kitchen up.
I can tell you the rise in clothing purchases in March in Canada, was probably because we were allowed to actually buy clothes again. Some provincial governments decided people were not allowed to buy "unessential items" and clothing was deemed "unessential" for pretty much all of Dec, Jan, and March." I'm not a big shopper, but it was pretty annoying that I wasn't able to replace needed clothing items for my fast growing children. So when they removed that restriction, there was 3 months worth of actual needed items being purchased. But there was definately some of the "I can buy this again, give me ALL of it".
After a friend received an air fryer for housewarming gift, and she said once she used it for several chicken pieces she felt could have cooked the pieces in a skillet with less fuss (the appliance only allowed so many pieces in the pan); it convinced me that I can just save up to get a convection oven/stove -- which I had been wanting for years.
I can’t believe people do that to their pets. When I adopted my dog, I had NO idea how hard it would be to suddenly have an 80 pound, fearful and unsocialized adult dog on my hands, and I live alone. Months of tears and major adjustments, a ruined carpet, and we’re good! These animals need a family too. They’re not disposable just because one isn’t prepared. We adjust. Getting off my soap box now.
What a weird relief it is to have inadvertently followed this to a T. We did take a drive to Portland for a weekend with a bestie, but it was a fairly affordable little shlep for my birthday. Shoot, my big pandemic revelation habit has been purging hoarded cosplay supplies and really trimming my wardrobe. Some crafter folks will get some RAD fabric at the thrift stores here soon. :D
The post pandemic return of dogs and cats showing up at shelters right now is horrible and shelters are becoming overpopulated. A lot of people got pets because the kids are at home and they need to something to keep them busy or because they're at home and they had the ability to give the pet more attention. But of course, now that more people are returning to work and school, they don't want to put in the effort to keep their pet. At the shelter I work at, since we are only legally required to take in strays, we tend to not take in surrenders or if we do, we have people do it in appointments weeks in advance. The only exceptions we make are pets we adopted out within 30 days (and staff is very lenient on that) or if the animal poses some sort of danger. As you can expect, there are a lot of strays that show up that we've adopted out and since we microchip every pet, we know exactly who they belong to and their owners tend to ghost us, their numbers are not in service or they gave the pet away X time ago and don't have contact information for the new owner. Another factor that is leading to the increase of surrenders and unclaimed strays is the fact that because COVID eviction protections are being lifted and there are still lots of people with no stable income, pet owners are being evicted out of their homes or having to move to places that don't allow pets and they're surrendering/abandoning their pets out of "necessity." Another thing that most people are probably not aware of is that there is a nationwide outbreak of Distemper in dogs right now that spreading through communities and shelters. It's a very deadly and contagious virus that's easily preventable through vacation. However, I speculate (emphases on speculate) that because it was difficult to get vet appointments and low-cost community pet vaccine clinics were closed during lock down, people did not get their dogs vaccinated which may be a major contributing factor to that. IDEXX is currently swamped by samples from across the country and their labs are behind on testing. Needless to say, that overpopulated shelters do not help during a pandemic for animals. As for the story you brought up, I don't know the details or about the story itself but none of it surprises me. A lot of times, people adopt pets despite not being the right fit for many reasons. Usually, ignorance and a lot of good meaning people can be duped into adopter pets with behavioral issues because certain people who can be overzealous with animal rights push animals that are on euthanasia lists on social media despite them having issues that really need an experience owner to deal with, hoping to get someone to take them. Again, I can't say that's what happened there but it wouldn't surprise me. As far as the shelter not needing to take the animal back, that is true and depending on the shelter's policies; however, it is very prevalent with private shelters. If I had to guess based on the details you gave, I'm willing to bet that person adopted that dog from a private shelter as most municipal shelters would likely take the animal back if it was a safety concern. And I suspect that's what happened here, the owner likely took the dog to a municipal shelter to request it be euthanized since most private practice veterinarians are very reluctant to euthanize animals for behavioral issues. And if that story upset you, I'm sorry to say that this is rather common, I've seen this happen a lot over the years and still see it happen.
I'm one of the many people coming out of the pandemic an entirely new size and it's been really difficult to avoid the either/or of spending on a weight loss program or a new wardrobe. For now I've just bought a couple inexpensive things suitable for the office -- since we're there back part-time -- but it's stressful to try to get back into my old clothes on my own.
As a clinical vet student, I'm so glad you mention the pet thing. I can not begin to express the heartbreak when someone didn't fully consider the costs of a pet, so they end up either not being able to afford veterinary care, leading to the pets being either euthanized or not receiving optimal care (with resultant poor outcomes). One thing I can 100% advocate for is pet insurance. It is a massive relief for veterinarians because it means we can give the pet the best care possible. And it's a massive relief for the pet owners because they don't have to make decisions about their pet's care based in finances alone because it will be covered. I can not recommend it enough.
As a dog trainer that works in the rescue industry, I agree that getting a pet during the pandemic was/is largely a bad idea. It is true that sanctuaries are full af and oftentimes can't take aggressive animals, and a lot of pandemic puppies were not socialized properly and now have behavioral issues as a result. Most people don't realize that socialization can happen without direct contact with people, and walking around in different places is the ideal form of socialization for puppies. Now there are even more under-socialized dogs in the rescue system that are not suitable for the average pet home, and adopters are not prepared. In addition, many have been surrendered now that their owners can go in vacation and they haven't bothered to teach the dog to be comfortable being left alone.
I have accustomed so much to online classes and staying at home and doing the dishes, laundry, whatever between the lectures.... I think once everything is back to "unplugged" I'm going to get hit by anxiety, depression, exhaustion, confusion,...
It was quite easy to save an enormous chunk during pandemic, what with not having to spend over a third of my income on student loan payments. It will be sad to see that forbearance end.
Although i agree with you on self-help shenanigans, permission to disagree on specific part about the book 'The body keeps its score', please. This book is genuinely helpful for a trauma victims and i think i will continue to cherish this book forever. IT is not really a self help book too, my therapist and i love that Bassel van der kork. So i agree with everything except this tiny little part. But, AS ALWAYS, thank you, Chelsea and congrats on the new apartment.
I was on the fence about adopting my in-laws next door neighbors dog in 2020. They were moving and my son loved him, he was cute, and my hubs wore me down. I was hesitant because I believe a pet is as much investment as a child. Training, socialization, grooming, vet visits, quality time are important and I didn't feel like I could take all that on at the time. We love our pup but honestly we don't have the time or resources to give him all I'd want beyond the basics. That said I'd never give him up. They joke at me when we're cuddling "and you didn't want a dog", it was never about me not wanting him, it was about being able to give a pet what they deserve. That's when I realized we see pets differently, my hubs sees something that loves you unconditionally and you get to play with. I see something that requires responsibility for it's raising, well being, and care which in turn provides companionship which is not to be taken lightly.
My dog will never leave my house, he’s family and no matter what he stays. Unfortunately, when I adopted him I had no clue that he had significant health issues. Just his monthly medication runs me around $500 per month. Throw in the multiple specialty clinics he has to visit he costs me somewhere around 12-15k a year between vet bills and medications. I just consider myself blessed to have the financial resources to take care of him the way he needs as he is deemed uninsurable by pet insurance companies. To send him back to the rescue would automatically sign a death warrant for him. I knew the minute I met him he was the dog I was supposed to have and there was a reason a purebred English bulldog was in a shelter with no interest, he needed to come to me so I could take care of him properly. He’s the best boy ever and I can’t imagine my life without him. Even if I had known about the health issues there’s no doubt in my mind I would have still adopted him because I know what his fate would have been. He deserves to live the best life possible even if he has issues. I can’t imagine him left alone to die in a shelter. I am 150% committed to giving him everything I can until his last day. So now I’m watching this channel to save as much $ I can to continue giving my boy everything he needs and the best veterinary care possible
Pets are animals that, we are blessed to by choice. A new family member who, you should Research about it meeting your needs and Expectations that you'll be able to meet their needs in all their lifetime. It is your choice to get such such prized animal/addition, that will be part of your wonderful family if you are the one who is making a true conscientious choice not the pet. Be properly prepared. They are not disposable beings, just because they don't speak our language, be responsible respectful, to the true responsibility of getting a pet of any kind. I have been wanting a fury family member of my own for about 10 years. Not till I have a permanent house/home where their needs will be taken into importance, I will start the adoption of 2, four leg new family members. Air fryer. The time it saves me, in my weekly cooking, How wonderful it reheating food to taste as if I just cooked it, it is worth the price. I personally didn't know how much I would use it. We are a family whom enjoys fry foods, now they are just a bit healthier. I can allow my 11 year old to cook certain things without worrying about food burning. We got ours for Christmas 2020. When I have a bigger kitchen, I will get a 2nd one, the kind that is also a grill, while not getting rid of this Wonderful Appliance.
So we adopted our dog in 2018 and, likely as a result of him trading hands a lot before us, he has separation anxiety. We spent a lot of time pre-pandemic working with him with behavioral training to get him comfortable with being alone for a few hours at a time, and we knew that it was a possibility with an adult adopted dog so we were prepared for it. COVID quarantine has torched that behavioral therapy so we're back to square one. But as someone who loves my dog and wait to get my first dog until I was 32 so we could adequately care for him and whatever needs he would have, seeing pet adoptions during COVID has made me absolutely livid. Pets aren't furniture! Don't adopt an animal if you cannot commit to fulfilling their physical AND emotional needs for their life! Be
The pet thing is infuriating! Am I worried about my baby if/when I go back into the office because she's become VERY used to me always being around? Sure, but giving her up for adoption is not a solution to that for me!
My biggest issue with air fryers is they're large and bulky. They just didn't work well in my tiny apartment cupboards. Despite wanting to use it a lot, having to shuffle it out of the back of the cramped kitchen cupboards beind a bunch of other things was too difficult.
My dad's air fryer was under $100 CAD... It's great for fries, and I like some of the different texture. But I would just say any appliance you wouldn't use at least once a month. I sew, I love making clothes, and I've seen so many sewing machines get thrown out or donated when people don't have time for it anymore. While the cheapest ones are around $80, a good current model is going to be at least $250 and some are a couple thousand if they have computerized things like embroidery, or will trim your fabric edges. I started with a machine that was only $50, and then I moved up, now using a 45 year old one from my grandparents that works better than anything I've used. I'm glad I stuck with the hobby, even though maintenance isn't cheap ($60 tune up every 1-3 years, plus buying new needles regularly). I also learned to sew clothes by turning old sheets into dresses, so it was a good way to start and see if it was something I'd actually enjoy before committing to getting the old one fixed up.
I'll never buy uggs, nor a new wardrobe, nor a new car. But don't take away my new front-opening Air Fryer. Yes, it did cost me over $200. Just one person's opinion. I'm 74, widowed at the start of the pandemic, and I use my new air fryer at least once every day. I'm trying to think wheyher I've used my oven since receiving the AF. I purchased a perfect cabinet for it from a thrift furniture store, On top I have a large board, hot pads, a large fork and spoon for turning food if needed. Underneath in the cupboard are my cookbooks. Love it! Worth every penny.
I bought an airfryer 4 years ago for 60 bucks and we use it many times a week. It uses a lot less electricity than the oven and the result is often better. The fries are my least favorite in the airfryer, but roasted potatoes, chickenwings and small buns are amazing (I don’t know if you have that in America, literally translated we call them bake off buns)
Lol I’m apart of the air fryer hive 😂😂 But what I love more than my air fryer is my crockpot , I bought a 7qt one at Walmart for $15 and I use it 2-3 times a week I love it
I did get an air fryer but like, it’s actually a toaster oven with a “air fry” setting that is really just a convection setting. I got it when I was moving out for school in 2020 bc my dorm didn’t have an oven or stove and all of the common rooms were closed for covid so I didn’t have access to a kitchen (they didn’t take the cost of residence down though🥲)
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"Adopting an animal is a 10-20 year commitment." Wrong. My kitties are going to live forever and we're going to be together forever and ever.
damn straight
Yes, my dog and I have an agreement that he will live to be 1000.
Haha
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My cat is 12 or 13, and still just as adorable as ever! He's slowed down a little, but shows no sign of stopping, especially when he gets the zoomies and runs around the house, leaving a trail of fur behind. Silly boy.
Funny story: Out of curiosity I asked about personal training prices at our local gym, and they are anywhere from 400 to 800 dollars a MONTH depending on the package. I thanked the gym representative and said I wouldn't be able to afford that right now, and she suggested that I open a credit card so I could pay it over time in smaller payments. It turned into one of those moments where I cackled because I thought she was joking but she wasn't, and now I have to deal with her glare every time I enter the gym.
Wow I’m shocked, the audacity of her to suggest you could pay it off in smaller payments as if credit cards don’t charge ridiculous interest rates.
They should offer one lesson for free just for test drive. When I was younger, I used it in different gyms to learn few tricks.
This is a great story. People literally will tell you to finance anything just to get their cut. It's so ridiculous. I love the cackle part 😅😅
Wow, that's wild!
@@vg7985 They do offer three 30 minute personal trainer sessions for $100 total when you first join the gym, which I decided to take the plunge for, and I don't regret it. However at the end of those three sessions is when they talk to you about continuing with the regular pricing and try to persuade you that you need the trainer, which is when this conversation happened.
1) A lot of alcohol.
2) Pre pandemic bod back spending.
3) A new vehicle.
4) A new pet.
5) Vacations just for the sake of it.
6) A massive wedding.
7) A new wardrobe.
8) Self help books and seminars.
9) Luxe loungewear.
10) An air fryer.
Thank you
Thank you sooo much! I always appreciate so much people who take the time to share the notes. Not all of us have time to watch the whole video, but the take home points are what truly matters. Thank you! ❤
Thank youuuu
I use my air fryer everyday. It is a lifesaver.
I want an air fryer though :p
1 @2:15 A Lot of Alcohol
2 @3:48 Get Your Prepandemic Bod Back Spending
3 @5:56 A New Vehicle
4 @7:04 A Pet
5 @9:50 Vacations Just for the Sake of them
6 @11:26 A Massive Wedding
7 @12:40 A New Wardrobe
8 @14:10 Self-Help Books and Seminars
9 @16:07 Luxe Loungewear
10 @17:28 An Air Fryer
Thank you kind sir 😊
You are a lifesaver! Thank you!
TFD, it would literally take one of your social media employees minutes to put this in the description. Would love to see you take advantage of the TH-cam chapters function, pretty please!
This should have more likes. Thank you!
@@fortheloveofLDS yes!!
i have a $40 airfryer that is dishwasher safe, and it has many times been the only thing that has kept me from skipping meals because I lack the executive function to preheat an oven, wait 30 minutes and dirty a whole baking sheet or then put leftovers away (so I make individual portions in an air fryer rather than bulk in the oven and they take about 10 minutes rather than 40 minutes). As someone who used to think airfryers were silly because they were just ovens I WAS WRONG. It's a fantastic investment actually
Agreed!! There’s less space to heat up so they’re very efficient and I don’t have to preheat. I treat mine like a fancy microwave.
I agree with this comment 1000 percent. I got my air fryer from Costco for $50 and use it everyday! It is easy to clean and cuts the cook time in half! Love Love my air fryer!
I also have executive function challenges, and I used my dad's that he got at Costco, and we had fries in 15 minutes! I like the feel of them too, they have a lighter texture. I'd definitely get one. My grandfather had one for a few years, before they really got popular, and it was the first time I'd heard of one, and I was a little skeptical, but now they have more options for sizes and shapes, which makes it easy to find one that works, even at a lower price.
The air fryer has been great for me, especially in the summer, because I don't have to heat my whole darn house to roast something!
And if I've not planned ahead in the winter it makes dinner prep faster. I don't think it is any harder to wash than a pot or baking sheet, it's just a matter of do you have storage space and will you use it enough. And I do!
I think the ability to throw something in and set a time is a really stress free way to cook. I'm not worried about burning my lunch if a meeting runs on. Also the low bar of effort and ease to cook has saved me multiple times from ordering in a takeaway when I just couldn't be bothered.
I got my cat during the pandemic, but I had been planning on getting her for almost a year before that. She just got switched to a special diet and so got exorbatantly more expensive, but I wouldn't give her up for anything. It makes me so sad when people treat their animals like they're disposable, or like they're toys. They're living beings, and should be treated as such.
Same. half the people around me who got pets got rid of them, but the other half, thankfully, free roam, feed the appropriate diet, and plan for medical expenses, I just wish I got a rescue instead of buying. Instead, I’ve become a regular donator to animal shelters and buy from small-business pet stores cuz the big chains still sell malnourished animals in store.
I got a cat during lockdown too and she has a stomach issue that also requires prescription food. Same boat, my friend. She’s definitely a financial burden with all the vet visits and prescriptions but i wouldn’t give her up for the world. I hope the special diet helps your kitty ❤️
I adopted a kitten this summer, and he ended up having a heart defect and had to have surgery to correct it. It was really expensive but by that point I was already ride or die for him and fortunately, he now has the chance to live a relatively normal life. I would say that all my pets have been added to my family very intentionally (I have 2 dogs as well), but just like people, you never know what's going to come up and it's important to remember you're taking in a living thing with all the requirements that entails.
I remember when I adopted my cat (2+ years ago) i had to be interviewed and one of the things they asked me was to estimate the yearly costs of adopting a pet! Such a relevant, important question / thing to bring up! I was way off lol but I love my son lol
@@kelseypartridge7909 vet visits are brutal oof dude 💸
As a veterinarian and dog mom, I am so happy that you brought up pandemic pets!
This veggie cat mom agrees 😭
Agreed! I wouldn't dream of ever abandoning my kitties! I knew going into it that there is a lot of responsibility involved. Daily care and attention sounds easy enough but there are also unexpected costs that some aren't prepared for. I just spent over $2k at the vet because my 15 year old cat got very ill (he's on the mend but will likely need meds going forward).
I have to say the conscious effort Chelsea makes to avoid any kind of shaming almost makes me tear up !
I fall down the self improvement hole quite often and I can now see that there is actually a lot of victim blaming which is also the norm in my culture so that was just my world view! Thank for showing us the other side
Okay but as a single adult who doesn't need to cook family sized portions of food, I literally replaced my actual oven with an air fryer LOL
I’m not sure if most air fryers have this, but mine also has a bunch of settings. I use it as a toaster, oven and fryer. Plus in summer it won’t heat my whole house like the oven does. It’s been amazing!
I can’t replace my oven (unfortunately) so I’ve taken to roasting whole chickens or pounds of chicken breast, shredding it, and freezing.
@@turtlescanfly7 It sounds like yours is similar to mine. I have basically a counter top convection oven, because I wanted an air fryer, but also wanted something that could replace my oven if need be, since it's just my partner and I.
Omg she is tripping I LOVE my air fryer!!! I got it on sale for 100.00 and saves me so much time I kept my slow cooker for more soup based meals but yes love air fryer
@@turtlescanfly7 but in winter you have a combination oven and home heating system. I’ve always enjoyed that about ovens.
Yes and yes! I'm a dietitian and worked thru the pandemic. Almost everyone is talking about their weight gain from quarentine and honestly giving themselves a hard time about it. But I have had so many conversations about appreciating their bodies because they are effing alive! It got them thru a pandemic! I'm Navajo and there was so much news about how hard it was hitting our communities and seriously, what more can we ask of our bodies when everyone i know has a family member or friend lost to the pandemic, including me. 15 or 20 lbs is a small price and even then, so effing what. Your weight is not your worth.
I love your mentality! Our bodies have all made it this far and that’s fkn amazing.
I am all about this. I'm also thinking a lot about body neutrality rather than body positivity as a real option for me. Maybe there's a lot of people discovering this as a result of body changes in the pandemic...or maybe just me?
Yes!! And your weight not even be that correlated with your health. I’ve been working with an RD for the last year and she’s showing me so much data to indicate that what we know of weight is deeply ingrained in racism / moralizing fatphobia. The extra lbs might not even matter in terms of our mortality, but the stress we give ourselves over hating our bodies will definitely shave time off our lives.
@@meghansullivan6812 yes! so appreciative!
@@sarahwatts7152 Yes, I align a little bit more with body neutrality, too. Our bodies are just there... existing... we don't need to put a value on it, negative or positive.
I foster dogs and rescues & shelters are so overwhelmed atm. So honestly if people are ready for a life-time commitment and are wanting to adopt a dog, especially an adult dog, this is a great time to do that. OR a great time to get into fostering if someone does want a dog short term without worrying about costs or the long-term commitment. DO NOT GET A PUPPY JUST TO RETURN IT IN A YEAR. (Multiple people have done this from the rescue I foster with and it's the worst! Puppies are much more adoptable than adult dogs, do not get a puppy if you're not prepared for the 10+ year commitment)
thank you for helping these pets. I hope they're all able to find forever homes. I'm allergic so I can't foster or own any so I appreciate you doing this.
Absolutely!
I just so happened to be browsing the website for my local shelter last night. I work from home but don't want a puppy. Been torn between possibly getting a cat (though I don't know much about cats) or an adult dog. I found one who looks like a sweetheart per her description, but she's on the larger side and I'm not sure if me living in a small apartment might make adopting her a bad idea. I can take her on walks and to the park on off days, but I wonder if she'd still dislike the small space. I don't really like small "yap yap" dogs, as I call them, I'm used to at least something the size of a pitbull (and would prefer to get a pit, but of course, they're part of the stupid "restricted breeds" list). The girl I'm looking at looks like she might have a smidgen of pit in her but enough like something else to maybe get past that restriction. I'd check with my apartment front office before the adoption to make sure.
Either way, I wasn't looking to make a move right now anyways. My job at the moment is in a precarious spot and the company might end up having to let all of us go if a contract isn't renewed (and even if it is, some of us might be cut as work is slow). So, ensuring my employment is stable is of course the most important thing right now. But I just wanted to see what animals my shelter had, so I was browsing. I absolutely want it to be a lifetime commitment, so I'm not rushing this.
I’ve applied for a few adult dogs, but it seems like every place requires a fenced in yard. I’m still hopeful though!
I would add though, anyone looking to get a dog should make sure they have a vet, groomer, and trainer ready to go as there are massive employee shortages in the pet industry causing many in all 3 fields to no longer be taking on new clients.
When we adopted our cats 3 years ago it was over an hour of filling out paperwork and talking to the lady. She wanted to know all kinds of things like if we'd ever given a pet away, what kind of cat litter we used, how long the cats would be alone during the day ect. She asked under what circumstances would be get rid of the cats and I couldn't think of any. Now that we've had them for a few years, even though they are little psychos sometimes, I couldn't imagine not having them. We've had cats live into their 20's, you have to be committed to be their forever home.
I’m fostering and tho I love my two foster babies I know that I can’t commit for 15+ years of life so I’m helping how I can
Same! The humane society that was in my area was very thorough and asked all the same questions. They even asked what would happen to Morty in the event that we broke up (which we did) and we stated that he would go with which ever one of us had the means to give him a better quality of life which was my ex and that’s where morty went when we broke up. He unfortunately passed away of leukemia last year.
We got our cat for free on clear the shelter day. We still have her after 6 years and a cross country move and treat her like a princess.
Chelsea - the anti-Alexa over here. I’m planning a wedding, my partner is booking vacations and mini-trips like he’s got 2 months to live (he’s fine), literally just talked to my personal trainer about air fryers this morning. Then Chelsea hits me with this video. Thank you for being the cold water on my face that I needed. Brrrr! I’m awake!
“This makes you a bad person.” YES, say it louder for the people in the back! Don’t take on responsibility if you’re not prepared to follow through.
Yes! I find fostering animals is a wonderful way to love on shelter animals until they find their forever homes if you know your life isn't stable enough to commit to an animal forever. They get a safe, loving home out of a cage, and you get the joy of knowing and caring for them.
“This makes you a bad person” haha yes pets are not free return items!
I agree with the spirit of your advice about gyms/trainers, but I want to offer a different perspective. Personal training gets a lot of resistance because of the cost, but the advice from a professional who has guided me through my fitness journey has changed my life. Yes - I am now spending A LOT on my gym membership and hourly training sessions, but it’s changed the quality of my life immensely. After being sedentary for years (pre-pandemic as well) seeing a trainer allowed me to learn how to listen to my body while working out.
Idk - maybe it feels more reasonable because I spend less than $50 a year on alcohol lol.
But my point is - I feel like this kind of advice steers people away from Personal training, especially those who are already workout resistant. It leads to DIY injuries and quitting before they make any progress.
I think it’s not for many people, but it is for some certainly. If you can afford it & it works for you, then I say go for it. I’m really happy for you btw. Congratulations on your success & finding something that works for you
Totally agree. Personal training saves a LOT of time and headache if a person can afford it.
I think everyone has that “one expensive thing” that they spend money on because for their situation, the return justifies the price. It’s great that personal training works for you 😊, I pay for a dietician for similar reasons. You definitely have to acknowledge the effects of predatory marketing that the health and fitness industry uses, though (I’ve already started receiving ads for losing weight for the New Year, ugh). There’s this idea if you put enough money into it you’ll magically get rid of any self-esteem issues you have about your body image, which is terrible! And this is statistically verifiable, lots of people spend money on health and fitness paraphernalia without getting any substantial returns. Chelsea is definitely outspoken about it, but if you watch her older videos you’ll find it’s because she was a victim of this system for many years. I’d say you’re definitely the exception, not the rule.
Yup my trainer not only makes sure I’m going at a good pace and not over doing things but also tailors my workouts to be time efficient, functional to my needs and goals and also keeps me accountable. I’m more likely to get myself to the gym if I have an appointment I’m paying for than if I have to self motivate.
Even if it’s not for you, I always recommend beginners see a trainer even if just for a month to get a basic knowledge of how to use the equipment properly but also how they should be maneuvering their body for safety and efficiency.
Yeah I agree, trainers can be invaluable to lots of people! Health should be a top priority for everyone and spending a little extra (if you can) shouldn't be on this list. Heck I even joined a dance class and my happiness and health has skyrocketed
"Do we still really need 200 person weddings?" Tell me you've never been to a Mexican wedding without telling me you've never been to a Mexican wedding.
yeah my sister had the standard traditional jewish wedding shortly before covid (dec 2019) and it was "small" and had 250 people
My husband is Mexican and an introvert and he was so happy to use the pandemic as an excuse to limit to the guest list to only families members he knew and liked.
And Indian weddings 🤣
I’m Mexican and my wedding was small. It was 250 people 😂 that is small were I live
jajajajaja de veras
As a therapist, I love and recommend "The Body Keeps the Score" more for people with past trauma. What I really wish we had was some version of this for people who went through something like WW2 or the Spanish flu back in 1918-1920. Most ancient and medieval writings simply talk about everyone dying when a plague hits and few survivors living to tell the tale. However, when someone coughs in a restaurant, doesn't wear a mask or gets too close to you, do you react? You 50/50 do. Bluntly, the books about how to survive a worldwide pandemic are being written NOW and at best we can infer from other things like religious writings, superhero movies, keeping a routine and doing the best we can.
Hi as someone whose going through therapy , the book has been recommended to me and I believe they are worthwhile investments for people who have experienced trauma .
not really trauma-related (although maybe) but I found When the Body Says No very motivating in seeking therapy. I know it's an older one but it had such gentle and beautiful writing that I think it can still be useful today.
When Chelsea said “mix it up, buy some weed.” I lost it lol finally someone said it!
I was just shocked to hear her say it so plainly, lol. Makes me really curious about "off the air" Chelsea 😂
I agree, though it's definitely not cheaper, lol.
@@justingerald not cheaper but way better for your health compared to alcohol
@@M3l155a absolutely
@@justingerald I guess it probably depends on where you’re at. My state, medical only, it’s really expensive and I have my med card.
The body keeps the score is THE BEST book on trauma and trauma recovery I have ever read. I can't begin to imagine how anyone might think it was about the pandemic though. If you read it, it is very very specific about the kinds of trauma it is about.
It's a wonderful book. And very clearly all about childhood trauma. It offers so much insight into how our bodies store and relive that trauma
@@ashassassin it sounds a great companion book to The Deepest Well, another book about childhood trauma and health outcomes. I’ll check out The Body Keeps The Score.
Is it a therapy book for those who can’t afford therapy?
I suspect she hasn’t actually read it. And is also not taking into account that the uptick in people seeking “self-help” type books is not necessarily because they want to recover from pandemic trauma, but because the pandemic has caused them to look at the childhood trauma they’ve never dealt with before. But who knows.
@@deed3259 No. It deals with PTSD/trauma, mostly from [things that require trigger warnings], including the physiological and neurological changes in the body's systems. It also discusses what forms of therapy help PTSD and which are generally ineffective.
You know you need the book when you can barely read the first chapter because it's hitting all the fight or flight buttons. There's some mention of emotional abuse and neglect as well because that can cause similar systemic changes in the body.
Wow, that's horrible! I didn't know that people were so cruel and got disposable,"pandemic" pets. That's so sad...
I'm glad that you are bringing attention to this issue!
I have had birds all my life and having them is much easier and affordable...And I also agree with you: they are family, not objects.
My local humane society had an increase of dogs coming back to them once vaccines rolled out and people started travelling again. They were running out of funds and room for all the animals. Don't forget to donate to your local shelters. They will appreciate it!
@Lisa M 😨 are you serious? Some people are garbage!
People also do this during Christmas season. They buy pets for their young kids and then rehome or give them up within 6 months. It’s extremely sad
I see this as a complex issue. I volunteered in rescue for a bit. Ultimately an animal having a safe, good and happy home for two years than living in a shelter for two years or getting put down. I don’t think anyone should be buying animals pandemic or not, but I welcome short term animal owners to give good homes to rescue pets during the time they can provide it.
I don't know, but my fish is not very friendly to call them family.
Take it from me, don't plan a big/normal wedding during a pandemic. I had planned an 80 person reception and it blew up in face when Delta came back with a vengeance. Just focus on what you need to do to feel married and cut whatever isn't necessary.
Did you lose the deposits
@@deed3259 a few we did. Two vendors ghosted us but a few gave us our deposits back, which was nice. Plus those vendors were overbooked and needed the flexibility more than the money.
@@astrea79 that’s good
I cannot agree more on the pet point! I’m a college student, and I am so excited to adopt a dog after I graduate! I love dogs, and my friends are always so surprised I won’t adopt one during college. It’s a lifetime decision for the animal, and one shouldn’t adopt or buy a pet ‘just for fun’.
I’m an exception with the clothes lol. I’ve had the same clothes for a decade & I have always hated most of them. So I’m donating the clothes I don’t want to the women’s shelter nearby. But I’m still not going crazy with the clothes I want. I very carefully picked them & was incredibly careful to not over indulge
My Style Just changed completely during the pandemic, and i dont mean active or Casual wear. I mean indulging on the Vintage/goth stuff that i never felt confident buying as a Teen.
Doesnt mean i will Chuck Out my entire wardrobe but i am slowly buying the pieces that i Like, either proper Vintage or good reproduction clothing, neither of which is cheap. But that is going to Take a while and i will use Up or donate or sell the clothes i have in the meantime. Most of my Jeans are Close to dying anyway
Almost the same here. I wasn't wearing most of my work clothing during the pandemic and a majority of the items got tight or stopped fitting so I'm doing a massive overhaul and buying new things. Also i was dressing just to put clothes on my body and not for my body type or taste. With purchasing all this new clothing, i know i feel way more confident, comfortable and stylish.
The wardrobe thing is so true, and because a lot of us put on weight during pandemic there is this feeling of "needing to" but changing a few specific items can completely update the whole wardrobe
Yeah, I felt called out, but its good advice.
I had to buy new pants ;_;
Based on your comments about weight loss spending, I want to remind people out there how important it is to remember that different things work for different people and weight loss ideas are NOT one size fits all. My body’s situation is very complex and I lost weight with a combination of noom and an endocrinologist who could monitor me. A nutritionist did not help me. But for people with an eating disorder, noom is often disastrous and a nutritionist really helps. People are different and how we each go about this process should be different!! Ok, thank you for listening to my spiel. Lol
Yeah MyFitnessPal and a food scale did miracles for me, but like Noom I would never recommend it to people with disordered eating. I'm actually pretty cautious about recommending it unless I know the person well because it can be really bad for certain people. One of my relatives bought a tupperware set that roughly measures their food, which would drive me nuts because I want the numbers, but it has worked amazingly for them and reversed their type 2 diabetes. To anyone reading this - if you are struggling with your weight first ask yourself a) do I really need to lose this weight for health reasons and b) is the method that I am using just not right for me.
@@tigrovna_ totally. The thing I love about noom is having a coach to text and keep me accountable and also be super supportive and keep me calm. That really adds value for me.
I’m just here to say: a toaster oven with an air fryer setting is a great investment if you have the counter space for it. I have a gas oven, and operating it in the California summer is just a huge energy sink as it increases the need for air conditioning to offset the oven venting and requires a decent time to pre-heat. I almost exclusively use the toaster oven during the summer to roast vegetables, chicken, bake bread, etc. If you get one with the convection/air fryer option, you can cram 3 appliances into the counter space of one. I do agree that a dedicated air fryer seems unnecessary unless you’re going to make a whole lot of chicken wings.
I started fostering dogs because so many were abandoned after lockdown. I have no clue why people are doing this. Dogs sleep 16 hours a day and can remain in the home even if you're going back to work. Its truly the cruelest thing to do to a pet
I agree it’s cruel to abandon animals in any way but no dogs do not sleep 16 hours a day. They average 12.
Unless it's a greyhound! The ultimate couch potato - 2 x 30mins zoomies, 20 minutes eating and hours of sleep. I even get the evil eye if I suggest she gets up before 10am.
I would suggest stopping alcohol all together tbh. It ages you, makes people angry and violent, extra unnecessary calories.
LOL - I literally just bought an air fryer ... but I hear you, and agree in principle. As a single person the air fryer was about cooking quicker/easier and not having the time and cost of preheating my oven for smaller batches (and it is something I thought about for a long time since I generally hate gadgets). I think the main problem is when you get swept up in spending for your fantasy self ... that never works out.
I absolutely agree with you! I don't think that Chelsea was saying that nobody should ever get an air fryer. I think it's true that we sometimes buy things based on this fantasy that can sound something like, "If I had this gadget, I would cook air fried meals every single day." I almost got sucked into that, but I realized that most of the food that I cook is stir fried and I don't think I would change the kind of food that I eat most often just to make an air fryer purchase worth it.
I cheated the preheat game by placing the food before preheating. I adjusted all of my recipes to include preheating as part of the bake time. Apparently, it keeps glassware from cracking.
I use mine every day!
I’ve had my air fryer since 2019 and I love it. My new favorite thing is air frying frozen shrimp and frozen broccoli. I’m actually considering getting the two slotted one. It’s the perfect tool for people who eat to survive.
Pets are living creatures, not commodities! Be kind to them. If you can't keep them, rehome them. Euthanizing a healthy animal just because you can't keep it is cruel.
Agree! Convenience euthanasia should be illegal.
My air fryer has changed my life for the better. No preheating time, cooks in 10 mins, CRIPPPPY AF, has lower wattage compared to an oven, cost me $40, and has lasted for two years now. $$$aving$$$
Can you do a type of video where you debunk tik tok videos ? It's a great platform but I've noticed the promotion of over consumerism is a popular trend on there, even if it's unintentional. Seemingly innocent hauls have turned into "look how much stuff I bought today"
Ugh please I’d love them to talk ab TT
I had a 20 people wedding, and then my parents forced me into a 300 people reception on another day. Guess which one means more to me…
I hope you had a brilliant 20 people wedding
Hope they footed the cost for the extra 280 people...it's not their wedding or reception to dictate that.
@@Finkeldinken my most favorite day thus far 🥰
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley you feel me?!?! Yeah they paid for it, I refused to as a deterrent but it didn’t work lol (the two weddings cost the same!)
Oh my I’m so sorry for you, I fully understand what you went through, this intrusively is in my culture as well 😤
As far as accessing therapy, see if your employer (if you have one) offers/participates in an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) where so many therapy sessions are completely free or heavily discounted and it doesn't go through insurance. I started with 8 sessions a year ago and it truly has made a world of difference. :)
Highly recommend, but understand that therapists are in short supply right now. So the options may be slim. I tried two different EAP-recommended therapists and both their approaches (CBT and CBT-lite) were not a good match for what I realized I needed.
So we did end up purchasing an air fryer BUT living in a small townhouse we are very selective of the items we purchase for the kitchen. We actually had an older model a friend gave us but it was too small for our needs - so we challenged ourselves to using it regularly for several months before shelling out the money for a newer larger unit. By doing this we are happy we purchased this particular unit - and using this sort of method we actually have NOT purchased several other kitchen gadgets. I think it just takes some thought and intention behind your purchases.
Yeah similar happened to me, my mom bought me one last year for my bday, it was a pretty small model but we use it all the time, now my partner and I are wanting to splurge on a larger one simply because it would be more helpful for meal prepping.
Absolutely love my air fryer bc it's faster for us since our rented apt's oven is garbage (but not technically broken so the landlord won't replace it). But I wholeheartedly agree, if you don't see yourself using it at least 4-5 times a week, don't buy it. I made that mistake with an instant pot and ended up selling it on FB. There were some great holiday deals on air fryers though, so if you're determined to have one, wait for a sale!
I'm a huge fan of these! I use mine all the time as well.
I bought a crock pot and air fryer because they were on sale and I'll use the crock pot for holidays and the air fryer every 3-4 days.
You're right though. I remember when rice cookers were the big thing. Everyone I know bought one and never used them.
@@Animefreak242 Lots of Asians eat rice daily, often for more than one meal. Depends on what you like to eat. I've used mine for ages, and now I got a new one I can stir-fry and do quinoa in too.
I got a Ninja one and it was fine, but cleaning it was really a bear. And it was huge! Returned it.
@@dingfeldersmurfalot4560 Heh, just got my mom a Ninja double air fryer as her Christmas gift. If she doesn't use it though, or when it's not in use, I might borrow it from her. I habe more counter space than her and didn't think of that when I got it, so we'll see how much she uses it.
80% of my work is done from home now so comfortable good quality loungewear that can look smart enough for a zoom call is definitely worth it in my book.
As a person who has really took a hit on all parts of life since Jan 2020, I can say if I didn’t have my $30 air fryer I probably wouldn’t eat. My mental health (and chronic health condition) makes eating a big task so being able to throw something in there for 5-10 mins whether it be broccoli or chicken nuggets, it’s better than me not eating at all.
Also, can y’all do a video about disability benefits offered through employers vs the government and the hoops disabled ppl have to go through financially, emotionally, and physically and possibly give advice on that too?
-not from a standpoint of someone who has a strong support system
-how to live off such small funds (example: $2313 per month) bc a lot of Tfd content seems to be based around able bodied people who can work and seem to at least make $4,000 a month or more.
Another idea-what to do if you are working but have a health issue come up or develop a chronic disability? A video on employee rights and options? I really could still use a guide this hellofayear🙄
The cheapest air fryer I could find was $50. Did you buy a used one?
The pet point was SO poignant. That anecdote you told is just one of many similar ones that I heard this year. It makes me sick and I'm so glad you brought it up.
Chelsea’s voice at “and that makes you a bad person” and “I don’t know 200 people” 😌 - love you girl
Two comments, one is, pre pandemic I had a pretty good gym habit, my membership was inexpensive as the gym was owned (in part) by my employer. They announced about two months into the pandemic that the gym would never reopen! I felt so defeated! Second of all, I knew Noom cost money! But holy cow $60 a month? Almost double what I was paying for my gym membership! And I live in a rural area, there isn’t a lot of choices in gyms near me!
I bought an air fryer in 2019 for like $40. So worth it! Its quick, its perfect for 1-2 people and clean up is super simple. My brother and his wife got a fancier one that cost more and fit more but I'm definitely pro Air Fryer! I use mine at least 3 times a week. But I agree with the sentiment that you do not need to buy every gadget that is marketing to you. Build the habit of cooking first, and figure out if you need anything to help supplement or make things easier for you.
I had my pets prior to the pandemic. But during the pandemic, I spent $700 on my cat for surgery and $2,000 on my dog for tests. He most likely has pancreatitis. So now I spend a lot for his food. Pets are a huge responsibility.
i love how she just went IN on people who treat pets like toys. when she was like "if you return a pet you weren't prepared for, you're a bad person" i screamed YES BINCH at the screen hahhaha
Eloping is really the way to go! My partner and I did a destination elopement and it was so stress free and inexpensive.
That's what we did too! No regrets.
@@kristennorth3268 where did you go?!
@@corinacorina5028 Granada, Spain
Proud to say that I adopted my two little pandemic pets from an adoption centre just before lockdown kicked in and I honestly don't know what I would have done without them. I guess the difference is, I've had pets before and planned how I would care for them post-pandemic. I am looking forward to (fingers crossed!) spending the next decade of my life with them.
The worst part of people abandoning their pandemic pets is that *every single* person in that situation thinks it's unavoidable and not their fault. They all think they're the exception to the rule and could never be an irresponsible pet owner.
Who the hell is spending $200 for an air fryer?? The one I got was $70 and most air fryers I see online are less than $100.
I got a cat during the pandemic and I love her to bits!!
I think cats can transition easy to post pandemic life. They are pretty independent. Dogs is another story.
LOL "200 person weddings"...girl I got married in India (my spouse is Indian), my 200-person wedding was considered absurdly tiny.
I live alone, my air fryer by Tefal cost me 183$ I use it everyday, even before to go to work, I cook my lunch, super fast, I don't fry things, I don't have an oven and the air fryer is super small.
I use it everyday and on weekends twice a day. So it's an investment and I'm eating better, like you say it's an oven, I guess it was super advertised as a healthy air fryer so people will buy them
I think Luxe PJ… maybe at least decent PJs or other things to wear around the house is important to get rid of those body positivity issues. It shows we dress for our self image, not for people outside. Of course you can walk around naked, but not every season. We have winters :)
I like this as someone who has been tripping over ripped PJs the past month. I think I needed to read this comment today!
@@grrrgrl101 Clothing as any other. You have to have some dignity in front of the mirror (and other flatmates). Go get it!
In relation to pets: they take up a tremendous amount of time and energy. When you’re not having to commute or work in the office, you’re able to balance the pets needs with your life. Once we return to normalcy, I think a lot of people will find that the amount of time available to them to meet the needs of these pets will significantly decrease which will lead to a lot of rehoming. However, the issue here is mostly the breeders of these animals that bred large amounts of pets to take advantage of the profits, which will now lead to a large amount of animals in shelters or in less than ideal situations. Ultimately though, I think the real issue is having such a screwed work/life balance that we don’t even have time for our pets and family and other things that bring meanings to our lives but I digress.
This is exactly why i dont have a Dog despite desperately wanting a pet. I Work in Home Office and i live on my own. Having a pet around would be amazing.
But i will Go Back to the Office sooner or later, and what then? I cant afford doggy daycare and my partner, even If we move in together, works 3 week shifts on ships.
Once ive moved i will probably Look for 2 Guinea pigs or rabbits, sth that i can lock Up in its enclosure while im gone without having to worry that they will go insane.
maybe guinea pigs, but whatever you choose make sure you give it enough space. A rabbit would need constant social companionship, so best to get two if you’re going to be away long hours and also try rabbit proofing an entire room so they have enough space. If you don’t have the room for a rabbit then guinea pig might be good - although I don’t know anything about their care requirements. Unfortunately, there are no pets that don’t require a fairly substantial time requirement. Even fish require a weekly tank clean that could take an hour or longer to do and careful balancing of their enclosure which requires a lot of time to research ect. Ultimately, we should all have more time to enjoy our lives instead of having to work u too we are dead or disabled. Hope you find something that works for your life and brings you happiness! :)
My big post pandemic splurge is getting a deep clean of my apartment. I've been spending 18 months in my apartment like a gremlin, it NEEDS it.
Pets are a luxury not a right! They are not gifts and they are not disposable. Happy to see so many people agree with me on this.
The expense of shelter and “free” animals is so true! My parents have spent $15,000 over the 13 years they’ve had their rescue lab mix - two bouts of a rare fungal pneumonia and two ACL tears add up super quick! They’re family members so plan accordingly.
I was randomly given an air fryer last year. It sat for maybe 3-4 months in my kitchen before I really started to use it… it is AMAZING!! It cooks a meal in the same time that it would take my oven to preheat… I used to think they were overrated but I was so wrong. I just made chicken thighs for dinner tonight with it. 20 mins on 400 and I didn’t even have to flip them. The best part about it is that it was free lol
Nah! I'll keep buying expensive (comfy) PJ's until I'm no more. It's the only type of clothing that pays for themselves as I wear them more often that anything else in my wardrobe. I sleep on them, play with my pets, do my household chores, even go pick up my kids (as long as I don't have to leave the car) wearing my lounge stuff. But all the rest, yes. Great advices 👍🏾
I got a cat during this pandemic and it was a very serious process! I volunteered at a cat shelter for several months in advance as “practice” and i recommend this to anyine who is considering getting an animal for the first time! I consulted everyone I knew who actually owned a cat, about the financial expenses-lucky for me a couple of my friends keep extremely detailed budget spreadsheets. I had detailed discussions with my housemates, family, and close friends about every contingency I could think of-figuring out who would be able to babysit and backup babysitter for various situations, who would be able to take care of the cat if something terrible happened to me, etc. We talked to the shelter about how much time we spend at home vs. out, both our current lifestyles and pre covid lifestyles, so we could try to select for a cat personality that would be comfortable with the balance of alone time vs people time. Even with all that, there were things that have happened that we werent prepared for!
I agree with all, other than the air fryer! The potato wedges/fries I make with mine are 1000% better than the over version. You dont need to spend tonnes of money on it, I got my very basic one for 60€.
There's a unaccounted for category of pandemic pets.
That second cat you got because Jackson Galaxy said 2 cats are less work than 1 and a kitten bothering your beloved little bastard who doesn't let you work sounds like a great revenge.
I joke, but yeah I fully advocate for the ownership of two cats, they meet each others needs a lot better than you can. Also don't worry my cats love each other.
I'd love to see a TFD capsule wardrobe video!!!
I have been thinking the exact same thing re: capsule wardrobe!! Give it to us, Chelsea! TFD CAPSULE WARDROBE!
Yes
We bought an air fryer before the pandemic started and this was one of our best purchases - even if we do not use it daily. It all depends on how you eat, how you cook, and if you have enough space in your kitchen to store it. Before you buy one, juyt think over if it would improve your cooking or would make it more complicated - this actually applies to all devices.
Who's buying $200 airfyer? In my country airfyer starts at $50 and it's a decent one. Coming from a country where ovens are not the norm but a luxury, having an airfyer is the best. Granted I am already skilled in cooking and baking before having one. I get to bake cakes, bread and roast in mine. So yes, if you have an oven, dont bother with an airfryer (i dont even use it to fry coz it's too dry, i prefer deep fry). But if ur a renter without any oven, airfyer is the bomb.
I got an air fryer as a gift and it's Hella convenient. It takes 5 minutes to preheat to 400 degrees vs the 15-20 it takes the oven.
And I altered majority of my meals to cater to the air fryer to save time when cooking.
I also adopted an anxious, bitey, spinny dog during the panorama. I just loved him until he came around. Now I have a much less anxious, still spinny, best friend.
I actually got a load of discounts and freebies from my wedding vendors. Likely because people were faced with the stress of "is this even worth it" so venues were pushing to keep their existing clients. If your vendors are charging too much just keep looking around because its super competitive out there.
Thanks for the tips. My family has been making a post pandemic bucket list. We look at it occasionally and reassess what is a priority and what conditions make everyone feel safe doing that again and what else it needs (budget/vacation days/border crossings/etc). We did get a pandemic pet, but we didn't seek him, he called to us; a cat who had 3 homes, multiple returns to the shelter and clearly loved people but the shelter considered him a barn cat at best and possibly unadoptable. A friend showed me his info and I saw a misunderstood cat, that liked people but might need some space, so I called the shelter and said that if he would let me pick him up and touch him enough for general care and going to the vet that I'd adopt him and also told them what my experience with cats is. the cat is a complete nightmare if he's indoors when you're cooking meat, but otherwise he's just an energetic cat, he might be in kitten mode permanently. We knew that if we took him, we'd never return him, it's important for people to understand a pet's needs and have a commitment to a forever home.
The best thing about everyone doing wardrobe overhauls? You can actually totally get yourself a new wardrobe from thrifting/marketplace at a TINY fraction of the cost it would be to buy new.
My SO is obsessed with instant pots and airfryers. We have a few and use them constantly.
My car died this summer and I'm trying to hang on to being a one car household for the time being (my husband and I work the same hours in the same place luckily)...things are WAY too expensive right now.
My family is a one car family too and it works for us. Walking a lot also is a free workout lol
I have an air fryer/pressure cooker/slow cooker combo and it’s the best thing we’ve ever bought for our house. I’ve had it for 3 years and it gets used multiple times a week. So nice not to have to preheat an oven and heat my while kitchen up.
I can tell you the rise in clothing purchases in March in Canada, was probably because we were allowed to actually buy clothes again. Some provincial governments decided people were not allowed to buy "unessential items" and clothing was deemed "unessential" for pretty much all of Dec, Jan, and March." I'm not a big shopper, but it was pretty annoying that I wasn't able to replace needed clothing items for my fast growing children. So when they removed that restriction, there was 3 months worth of actual needed items being purchased. But there was definately some of the "I can buy this again, give me ALL of it".
After a friend received an air fryer for housewarming gift, and she said once she used it for several chicken pieces she felt could have cooked the pieces in a skillet with less fuss (the appliance only allowed so many pieces in the pan); it convinced me that I can just save up to get a convection oven/stove -- which I had been wanting for years.
I can’t believe people do that to their pets. When I adopted my dog, I had NO idea how hard it would be to suddenly have an 80 pound, fearful and unsocialized adult dog on my hands, and I live alone. Months of tears and major adjustments, a ruined carpet, and we’re good! These animals need a family too. They’re not disposable just because one isn’t prepared. We adjust. Getting off my soap box now.
Thank you for adopting! They can be work but I am sure your dog is so worth it ❤️
What a weird relief it is to have inadvertently followed this to a T. We did take a drive to Portland for a weekend with a bestie, but it was a fairly affordable little shlep for my birthday. Shoot, my big pandemic revelation habit has been purging hoarded cosplay supplies and really trimming my wardrobe. Some crafter folks will get some RAD fabric at the thrift stores here soon. :D
The post pandemic return of dogs and cats showing up at shelters right now is horrible and shelters are becoming overpopulated. A lot of people got pets because the kids are at home and they need to something to keep them busy or because they're at home and they had the ability to give the pet more attention. But of course, now that more people are returning to work and school, they don't want to put in the effort to keep their pet. At the shelter I work at, since we are only legally required to take in strays, we tend to not take in surrenders or if we do, we have people do it in appointments weeks in advance. The only exceptions we make are pets we adopted out within 30 days (and staff is very lenient on that) or if the animal poses some sort of danger. As you can expect, there are a lot of strays that show up that we've adopted out and since we microchip every pet, we know exactly who they belong to and their owners tend to ghost us, their numbers are not in service or they gave the pet away X time ago and don't have contact information for the new owner.
Another factor that is leading to the increase of surrenders and unclaimed strays is the fact that because COVID eviction protections are being lifted and there are still lots of people with no stable income, pet owners are being evicted out of their homes or having to move to places that don't allow pets and they're surrendering/abandoning their pets out of "necessity." Another thing that most people are probably not aware of is that there is a nationwide outbreak of Distemper in dogs right now that spreading through communities and shelters. It's a very deadly and contagious virus that's easily preventable through vacation. However, I speculate (emphases on speculate) that because it was difficult to get vet appointments and low-cost community pet vaccine clinics were closed during lock down, people did not get their dogs vaccinated which may be a major contributing factor to that. IDEXX is currently swamped by samples from across the country and their labs are behind on testing. Needless to say, that overpopulated shelters do not help during a pandemic for animals.
As for the story you brought up, I don't know the details or about the story itself but none of it surprises me. A lot of times, people adopt pets despite not being the right fit for many reasons. Usually, ignorance and a lot of good meaning people can be duped into adopter pets with behavioral issues because certain people who can be overzealous with animal rights push animals that are on euthanasia lists on social media despite them having issues that really need an experience owner to deal with, hoping to get someone to take them. Again, I can't say that's what happened there but it wouldn't surprise me. As far as the shelter not needing to take the animal back, that is true and depending on the shelter's policies; however, it is very prevalent with private shelters. If I had to guess based on the details you gave, I'm willing to bet that person adopted that dog from a private shelter as most municipal shelters would likely take the animal back if it was a safety concern. And I suspect that's what happened here, the owner likely took the dog to a municipal shelter to request it be euthanized since most private practice veterinarians are very reluctant to euthanize animals for behavioral issues. And if that story upset you, I'm sorry to say that this is rather common, I've seen this happen a lot over the years and still see it happen.
I'm one of the many people coming out of the pandemic an entirely new size and it's been really difficult to avoid the either/or of spending on a weight loss program or a new wardrobe. For now I've just bought a couple inexpensive things suitable for the office -- since we're there back part-time -- but it's stressful to try to get back into my old clothes on my own.
As a clinical vet student, I'm so glad you mention the pet thing. I can not begin to express the heartbreak when someone didn't fully consider the costs of a pet, so they end up either not being able to afford veterinary care, leading to the pets being either euthanized or not receiving optimal care (with resultant poor outcomes).
One thing I can 100% advocate for is pet insurance. It is a massive relief for veterinarians because it means we can give the pet the best care possible. And it's a massive relief for the pet owners because they don't have to make decisions about their pet's care based in finances alone because it will be covered. I can not recommend it enough.
As a dog trainer that works in the rescue industry, I agree that getting a pet during the pandemic was/is largely a bad idea. It is true that sanctuaries are full af and oftentimes can't take aggressive animals, and a lot of pandemic puppies were not socialized properly and now have behavioral issues as a result. Most people don't realize that socialization can happen without direct contact with people, and walking around in different places is the ideal form of socialization for puppies. Now there are even more under-socialized dogs in the rescue system that are not suitable for the average pet home, and adopters are not prepared. In addition, many have been surrendered now that their owners can go in vacation and they haven't bothered to teach the dog to be comfortable being left alone.
I have accustomed so much to online classes and staying at home and doing the dishes, laundry, whatever between the lectures.... I think once everything is back to "unplugged" I'm going to get hit by anxiety, depression, exhaustion, confusion,...
It was quite easy to save an enormous chunk during pandemic, what with not having to spend over a third of my income on student loan payments. It will be sad to see that forbearance end.
Although i agree with you on self-help shenanigans, permission to disagree on specific part about the book 'The body keeps its score', please. This book is genuinely helpful for a trauma victims and i think i will continue to cherish this book forever. IT is not really a self help book too, my therapist and i love that Bassel van der kork. So i agree with everything except this tiny little part. But, AS ALWAYS, thank you, Chelsea and congrats on the new apartment.
I was on the fence about adopting my in-laws next door neighbors dog in 2020. They were moving and my son loved him, he was cute, and my hubs wore me down. I was hesitant because I believe a pet is as much investment as a child. Training, socialization, grooming, vet visits, quality time are important and I didn't feel like I could take all that on at the time. We love our pup but honestly we don't have the time or resources to give him all I'd want beyond the basics. That said I'd never give him up. They joke at me when we're cuddling "and you didn't want a dog", it was never about me not wanting him, it was about being able to give a pet what they deserve. That's when I realized we see pets differently, my hubs sees something that loves you unconditionally and you get to play with. I see something that requires responsibility for it's raising, well being, and care which in turn provides companionship which is not to be taken lightly.
So true that when we come out the pandemic keeps moving😂. As a mom with 2 little ones, I really feel it. Thanks for the great content.
My dog will never leave my house, he’s family and no matter what he stays. Unfortunately, when I adopted him I had no clue that he had significant health issues. Just his monthly medication runs me around $500 per month. Throw in the multiple specialty clinics he has to visit he costs me somewhere around 12-15k a year between vet bills and medications. I just consider myself blessed to have the financial resources to take care of him the way he needs as he is deemed uninsurable by pet insurance companies. To send him back to the rescue would automatically sign a death warrant for him. I knew the minute I met him he was the dog I was supposed to have and there was a reason a purebred English bulldog was in a shelter with no interest, he needed to come to me so I could take care of him properly. He’s the best boy ever and I can’t imagine my life without him. Even if I had known about the health issues there’s no doubt in my mind I would have still adopted him because I know what his fate would have been. He deserves to live the best life possible even if he has issues. I can’t imagine him left alone to die in a shelter. I am 150% committed to giving him everything I can until his last day. So now I’m watching this channel to save as much $ I can to continue giving my boy everything he needs and the best veterinary care possible
Pets are animals that, we are blessed to by choice. A new family member who, you should Research about it meeting your needs and Expectations that you'll be able to meet their needs in all their lifetime. It is your choice to get such such prized animal/addition, that will be part of your wonderful family if you are the one who is making a true conscientious choice not the pet. Be properly prepared. They are not disposable beings, just because they don't speak our language, be responsible respectful, to the true responsibility of getting a pet of any kind. I have been wanting a fury family member of my own for about 10 years. Not till I have a permanent house/home where their needs will be taken into importance, I will start the adoption of 2, four leg new family members.
Air fryer. The time it saves me, in my weekly cooking, How wonderful it reheating food to taste as if I just cooked it, it is worth the price. I personally didn't know how much I would use it. We are a family whom enjoys fry foods, now they are just a bit healthier. I can allow my 11 year old to cook certain things without worrying about food burning. We got ours for Christmas 2020. When I have a bigger kitchen, I will get a 2nd one, the kind that is also a grill, while not getting rid of this Wonderful Appliance.
So we adopted our dog in 2018 and, likely as a result of him trading hands a lot before us, he has separation anxiety. We spent a lot of time pre-pandemic working with him with behavioral training to get him comfortable with being alone for a few hours at a time, and we knew that it was a possibility with an adult adopted dog so we were prepared for it. COVID quarantine has torched that behavioral therapy so we're back to square one. But as someone who loves my dog and wait to get my first dog until I was 32 so we could adequately care for him and whatever needs he would have, seeing pet adoptions during COVID has made me absolutely livid. Pets aren't furniture! Don't adopt an animal if you cannot commit to fulfilling their physical AND emotional needs for their life! Be
The pet thing is infuriating! Am I worried about my baby if/when I go back into the office because she's become VERY used to me always being around? Sure, but giving her up for adoption is not a solution to that for me!
My biggest issue with air fryers is they're large and bulky. They just didn't work well in my tiny apartment cupboards. Despite wanting to use it a lot, having to shuffle it out of the back of the cramped kitchen cupboards beind a bunch of other things was too difficult.
My dad's air fryer was under $100 CAD... It's great for fries, and I like some of the different texture. But I would just say any appliance you wouldn't use at least once a month. I sew, I love making clothes, and I've seen so many sewing machines get thrown out or donated when people don't have time for it anymore. While the cheapest ones are around $80, a good current model is going to be at least $250 and some are a couple thousand if they have computerized things like embroidery, or will trim your fabric edges. I started with a machine that was only $50, and then I moved up, now using a 45 year old one from my grandparents that works better than anything I've used. I'm glad I stuck with the hobby, even though maintenance isn't cheap ($60 tune up every 1-3 years, plus buying new needles regularly). I also learned to sew clothes by turning old sheets into dresses, so it was a good way to start and see if it was something I'd actually enjoy before committing to getting the old one fixed up.
I'll never buy uggs, nor a new wardrobe, nor a new car. But don't take away my new front-opening Air Fryer. Yes, it did cost me over $200. Just one person's opinion. I'm 74, widowed at the start of the pandemic, and I use my new air fryer at least once every day. I'm trying to think wheyher I've used my oven since receiving the AF. I purchased a perfect cabinet for it from a thrift furniture store, On top I have a large board, hot pads, a large fork and spoon for turning food if needed. Underneath in the cupboard are my cookbooks. Love it! Worth every penny.
I bought an airfryer 4 years ago for 60 bucks and we use it many times a week. It uses a lot less electricity than the oven and the result is often better. The fries are my least favorite in the airfryer, but roasted potatoes, chickenwings and small buns are amazing (I don’t know if you have that in America, literally translated we call them bake off buns)
Yes! We've had our buddy for 12 years, and we love him like family!! 🐶💕
Lol I’m apart of the air fryer hive 😂😂
But what I love more than my air fryer is my crockpot , I bought a 7qt one at Walmart for $15 and I use it 2-3 times a week I love it
I did get an air fryer but like, it’s actually a toaster oven with a “air fry” setting that is really just a convection setting. I got it when I was moving out for school in 2020 bc my dorm didn’t have an oven or stove and all of the common rooms were closed for covid so I didn’t have access to a kitchen (they didn’t take the cost of residence down though🥲)
Girl I needed this going into 2022! I overspent during quarantine. Now I’m trying to save going forward but it’s hard to break bad habits!
I have purchased an air fryer during le pandemic but from my local thriftstore. I see them ALL the time there for sub 20$