Based on many of the comments I’ve responded to I need to head you off at the pass. B was singing very quietly. The volume increased slightly so Stacey stood up to take her out of the room. At the same time the speaker asked her to stop singing or take her out. Nobody was in the wrong, it was just an opportunity to educate. She had been to a few other panels and done great. The entire situation was handled very well.
FatheringAutism thank you for clarifying. I agree that the speaker could have done it better, maybe having someone go to them and not announcing to the whole room. I hope mom is doing better and relaxing.
Sorry. I didn't want to be rude, I just got the impression (I guess mistakenly) that the blame was being placed on the speaker.. Thank you for clarifying. When you say you wanted to educate him and bring awareness about autism, do you think that knowing the child is autistic would or should have changed the way he reacted? I didn't see what he said, so I was wondering if maybe you were trying to bring awareness so he could do something different next time. Thank you for responding. I didn't see this comment when I posted the first time.
hoi its temmie time ,....you just taught me something. My husband, who is 78, has Asperger’s. I mistakenly thought that Asperger’s is the only one on the autistic spectrum that’s high-functioning. Now I know it’s not the only one. Thanks for that information.
Oh my goodness I can't count how many times I was asked to leave with my daughter! She's 20 now. She soothes quietly now with chewing and flicking. She has hearing loss so we were kicked out of stores, the ENT, daycares, kindergarten, so many places because she screamed! (I ended up homeschooling her) It was a really high pitched squeal because I guess she liked the vibration. Then when her hearing was restored she turned on every noisemaker at Christmas and we almost* got kicked out of Walmart until a worker who knew of her hearing loss spoke up and told him to leave that baby alone she's hearing Christmas for the first time! - Dang, your channel brings back so many memories. Tears! I totally get Priscilla struggling with Isaiah. There should be a badge or pin!
Leesa Marie Love my almost four year old should start school soon & he also has a high pitch scream. I’m not sure how this is going to turn out. But knowing someone has gone through this made me realize it’s okay. Thanks for your comment.
My heart aches that happened to you!!!! I have a quick story. One of my Beautiful Butterflies( AkA my students) who had just become apart of our class ;flap stims. This student who is 8 has been told nearly all her life stop, stop, stop, don't do that. one day her behavior was on and over the top horrible level. I was able to stop her long even and said let's flap. She immediately calmed down I told her it is ok to flap as long as she did not hit her friends doing it. Her face lit up and her eyes seriously began to sparkle, she smiled the biggest smile I had ever seen. She then said as she started flapping from excitement " I get to be me, I get to be me". Needless to say water begin running down my face. Thank you guys as always for sharing and Abbie proud how well you are doing!! Love You All!!!
Also as a kid we had “beast meals” so we could eat with our hands or like a dog if we wanted sometimes. It’s nice to be given a space to do what you want even if it’s as simple as eating spaghetti like a dog 😁
I think it's great that you brought it to the person's attention, but in situations where there is a crowd you also have to be aware that there are people that the stims are going to genuinely bother. I have a mental disorder that makes me incredibly sensitive to noises. It's a recently "discovered" mental illness but it's being found to be quite common among people. It's when certain noises can cause uncontrollable emotions, and in severe cases, it can cause actual meltdowns. For us, we're unable to process sounds and not connect it to a strong, negative emotion. On top of which, it's very difficult for us to understand how to deal with annoyance and frustration. And unfortunately/fortunately (whichever way you'd like to take that), the rates of diagnosis of this illness is increasing with every year. It's called Misophonia. While I am happy that you guys speak up for people with Autism, and I don't doubt that you're understanding of the emotions of others, I just wanted to voice my thoughts on why I think that's such a grey topic.
I'm autistic and also probably have misophonia, I have really extreme reactions to some sounds like chewing, rustling and all sorts of "mouth sounds". I can't control it at all! It's really hard finding the balance, everyone is so different and we can't all just be 100% ourselves everywhere... Even though I stim, other people could have stims that really bother me. If I could, I'd leave, but if I couldn't, it'd be tough and I'd want the other person to either stop stimming in that way or go somewhere else. Tough indeed!
I have it too. It's awful. Makes me climb out of skin. I also have anxiety and sensory issues (unrelated to autism I believe). If I was trying to listen to a presenter and someone was making a lot of competing noise it might cause me to have an anxiety attack/sensory overload. I definitely wouldn't be able to hear or focus on the presenter.
@@redtarka I also suffer from misphonoa, and some of my triggers are actually more visual than audible. The reaction it prompts is unbearable and uncontrollable.
Love you Cilla for speaking your truth about feeling shunned when the hubby took the band and didn't advocate for one for you, Ab and Isaiah. I feel bad for the Wees, especially the triggering mom experienced when the speaker asked them to leave. I feel bad for the presenter, too. There is such a fine line between advocating for your child stimming in a public forum where an audience is expected to be quiet and listen while also respecting the rights of the presenter and audience members who wanted to hear and focus. It was a sad situation all the way around. I am sure Bray was really struggling, as any child her age would be, sitting in a large auditorium listening to a presentation. I LOVE how you guys made preparation for Abbie by providing Summer to occupy her so you guys could attend and listen to speakers. I feel bad for Isaiah and wish he was more free to explore and do his thing. In so many clips, you see him attending to Abbie, keeping her from running off or out of the house. He is such a great brother.
I’m sending that beautiful girl a ball pit. Abby has the best parents but her Dad is amazing. Having the patience to turn any experience into a learning experience is so valuable for all kids with disabilities. I knew nothing about Autism and I learn things all the time watching the channel and Pricilla’s skin care products is making me look younger and younger. This is my favorite channel..
I love how cute Abbie and B are together. So adorable. And I understand the frustration for Stacy and B being asked to leave the panel. As an autistic person myself, it makes me VERY upset if someone asks me to stop stimming. But I can also understand why they would ask her to leave. It's a hard situation to navigate but I think you and the Wees handled it as best you could. Thank you for going and advocating for B, Asa.
Hey guys, first off I want to say how much I love your videos and your informative content, thank you for putting out such an honest vlog for us all. I do want to respectfully state my opinion though in regards to what was brought up in this video. I do think there is a fine line between the general public being aware of autistic stims and allowing for them and the parents or carers of an autistic person/child knowing when to remove them from a situation due to respect for other people. In this situation I believe the parents should have removed the child from the panel/conference room. This is a situation where if it was a none autistic child having a coughing fit for example (another thing out of the child's control) they would be expected to step outside. The people at vidcon have paid anything between $150-$850 to be there and I don't think it's fair to expect them to put up with a stim when they're trying to listen to someone talk. I think respect is a two way thing and just because someone has a disability or impairment doesnt mean they should automatically get to infringe on others, It shouldn't even be in question to take one child out of a room so everyone else can have the experience they've paid for.
Asa, I have a question, where do you think the line should be drawn? I understand that it is a stiming behavior, but if it is causing others to not be able to hear the presenter and missing the presentations, don’t you think there has to be a point where something has to give? I’m torn here and seeking your viewpoint.
Mike Wilder I agree. It’s a no win situation for everyone. Their child has a way to calm herself, yet others have attended to listen to the speaker. It’s like being in church and a child acts out, you leave the room. I’m sorry this happened, it’s hard. Thanks for clarifying Asa.....I agree it could have been handled better and she didn’t need to be called out.
Mike Wilder I am a little confused too. Even neurotypical kiddos need to be removed from church/audiences when they are fussing & keeping others from hearing. I don’t understand any parent (whether their child has special needs or not) who allows their child to disrupt an entire audience of people or throw a preacher/speaker off. Maybe I don’t understand the whole context, but kids (including my own boys when they were little) do need to be taken out of a situation when they are super loud.
Michelle Horak I agree. They’re not being asked to remove their child because of special needs, but because it is disruptive. Any child that is being loud should be walked out until they’re calmed. Just like having a baby when they cry....they cry....I get where the parents are upset, but if their child was not autistic and were making loud noises, would they have gotten up and left u til they calmed down?? Probably, any parent would have.
I do t think it’s what was said as much as HOW it was said. The presenter could have approached it differently. Sent someone over to ask them kindly to leave. Instead he called them out in the mic. That was unnecessary on the presenters part. Stacy didn’t mind leaving the class, she was already heading out. It’s just the way it was handled.
Although I do agree that if a child (I’m talking mostly about in church here) is disruptive to the point that they are, maybe screaming, they do need to be taken out. But, and this was my parent’s viewpoint, how can children learn to calm down without staying through the whole service? They’ll never learn to sit and be calm if every time they make a sound, you take them out to the fun place. I ran the nursery at my church and the kids I had during the service never learned how to sit through the service. They were trained that if they made noise, they could go play. Not all, but most of them showed up around the sermon time because it was easier for their parents to not deal with it. In this case here, I think it could have been handled better by the presenter. And if her singing was really that loud, then yes they should have left. But calling out and embarrassing is not the best way to deal. I’m sure there were Vidcon staff who he could have told to ask them quietly to leave.
She's tiny...any child would have become bored.. why place her in a presentation like that? Curious. My 3 year old would have been disruptive after a while and she is not on the spectrum.
I have Tourette syndrome and this makes me so mad that people think that way. Thank you for being such an advocate and making me feel better about my existence in public places.
That people think what way? What do you mean? They did say in the Video the person didn't know B had autism, he thought it was just a "normal" little child making loud noises.
There is situations like this event that she shouldn't be singing and its understandable... The parents should of took her out outta respect 4 everybody same with a crying baby or a child... No big deal...
@@tanishavasquezbanks1699 He never said that her mom was taking her out... He said he said that she needed to stop or leave while they were standing in the corner but ok...
This... I am heartbroken for the Wee family. Thank you guys for educating others! There is nothing wrong with being different. It’d be a boring world if we were all the same! Love you guys ☺️
People that are rude to others (ESPECIALLY ones that are trying to deal with this crazy world in the only way they can) I wish they would have to experience whatever makes them most uncomfortable for a day.... that might open their eyes a tiny bit. I know some early teen children and small ones that are on the spectrum. I just say PEOPLE, these are precious individuals that need love and understanding and we all do! Let’s change the world one person at a time or 10 at a time! Also Pricilla, you are such an inspiration and so beautiful!
VidCon is turning out to be quite the experience. Some great stuff and so much SUPER awareness and advocacy! A huge thank-you to you guys for paving the road for all of our kids! :-)
Question: what would the proper thing to do about her singing be? Sounds like it was getting hard for the room to concentrate when the singing was going on during a seminar. What should they have done?
This may be an unpopular opinion, and I definitely don't mean any offense by it.. But, if anyone, even an autistic child is disrupting the situation enough that it's affecting the whole crowd's ability to focus on what's going on, it really wasn't "wrong" of him to request that she not be as loud in the room.. Infants also can't help themselves and they need to cry to communicate, but it's not wrong to ask a parent to leave the room with the baby so everyone else can hear what's going on. Even though the girl needs to stim, it's still not unreasonable to want the majority of people to be comfortable too. I hope that didn't come off as rude, I just can't imagine making the whole room have difficulty hearing just for one individual. I know she has special needs, but it's still not right to just stay, knowing everyone else can't focus.
Yes!! Not to mention the poor presenter who worked so hard to put their presentation together. It’s beyond difficult to stay on track and present accordingly when there is constant interruption. It’s so rude to that person. A time and a place (for kids in general) and I’d hope that B’s mom-instead of getting irate over this- can learn from this.
@yulyu Saying that was completely unnecessary and brought nothing to the table. I very much enjoy this channel, and I said what I thought in a respectful way. From my perspective, it seemed like a lot of the anger/blame was being directed towards the speaker who had to ask them to leave and the people who were looking around at the noise. I simply wanted to address the possible issues from the other perspective. I never intended to be rude or make anyone feel bad for no reason. I simply had a question and an opinion. Later a pinned comment went up saying that they did not blame anyone and that was that.
@@fatheringautism thank you for saying something! Its not rude, because its somethinbg abbie needs to do. Im autistic too, and i have some loud stims like abbie. It bothers my class, so my aide sometimes tries to redirect it with a sensory toy. Im glad the situation you had didnt escalate. And im happy abbie had fun in the ball pit!
*Asa trying to get Abbie's attention, she has her back turned* Asa: "Hey glitter- head... Sparkles" *Abigail turns her head to look at him* 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💖 I absolutely loved that bit! 😁 Those sparkles looked super pretty in Abbie's hair!!! 😀😄💓💕💓💕 Keep spreading that Autism awareness, you guys are doing great! 😊 Can see why awareness is so important, am slowly starting to see just how crucial it is to get awareness out there ☺❤💙💜 xo
Asa, what a great friend and a great spokesperson for all with Autism. You handled it very professionally. You’re a great speaker and you helped your friends educate someone. This world needs more education when it comes to Autism. Abbie was awesome. She convinced me to get that hair bling thing for my granddaughter. I just saw it on tv. Thank you, you are all very awesome!!! Especially Abbie 👸🏼💜
I want to thank you guys for creating this channel. I am still fairly new, but have watched many of your videos. As a future educator, I make it a point to make sure I am aware and am able to gather different strategies to handle different situations. I witnessed my first autism meltdown at my work the other day, and thanks to your channel I feel as if I was able to handle the situation well. Even after the situation, I feel like I was also able to spread awareness to many of my coworkers and customers about autism, especially the ones who were irritated, angry, or just had no idea what autism really is. So, thank you so much for your work in advocating and spreading awareness for autism.
Great job guys! Autism parents all over the world face this daily in the mainstream world. People not understanding or recognizing a person in a room with autism. Hopefully that changes one day! Keep spreading awareness and educating people little by little. 💙
I have been diagnosed with autism late in life, I have not been able to get to know myself through childhood and adulthood. The period before I got diagnosed I felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. I still feel like I don’t belong. I am now in a situation where I am getting to know myself with a person who has been helping me since my second diagnosis of Autism level 2 with SPD. I still feel I don’t belong in public and family life but it’s less stress for me. I am working on it.
If my children are disruptive I remove them. It's embarrassing bc it got to the point where the speaker felt the need to say something in front of everyone. When the lady started to notice and turn around I would've gotten up and left.bc I then wouldve realised my child was disrupting others.
I think if anyone needed to be 'educated' about the situation, it's vidcon! The presenter should *never* have been put in a position to have to ask an audience member to leave because he was being distracted. It's not only embarrassing for the audience member, but it also disrupts the entire presentation. Since so many youtubers are families, it would be nice if they could stream the presentations to a side room so that people with crying, restless, or nursing children can still watch the speaker they paid to see without being a distraction. Loads of churches, town hall meetings, graduations, plays, etc, do that. Its not terribly expensive and it's usually really convenient and appreciated. Plus it keeps late arrivals from needing to walk in and find seats. If that's not an option, the vidcon really needs a dedicated staff member to fill that role in each large class. Its a courtesy to the audience and the guest speakers
My son (asd) used to absolutely crave the input he'd receive from his ball pit. I think Abbie needs herself a ball pit 😉 A million Thank you's just aren't enough for the awareness and advocacy💙💜
How do you know when to draw the line? I mean between scenarios in which the other people in the situation should ignore the stimming for Abbie's sake and when you should leave so as not to disturb others? I ask as someone with autism who constantly has to figure out where that line lies for me personally. How far I am justified in inconveniencing others with my disability is a big question that I grapple with daily. I can imagine that it's even harder when you're making those decisions for a child.
You are not an inconvenience and I am sorry if you have ever felt like it. You can’t control how you stem/self soothe anymore than neurotypical people can. Like Asa said- it’s like asking someone to stop breathing- unacceptable in my opinion. But I can understand when you have to take yourself away from the situation to calm down. And that’s ok. There is so much more acceptance now in the real world but there is definitely room for improvement. And this goes for people who are deaf, blind, etc. But I repeat- you are not an inconvenience that needs to worry about every single other person around you. You need to do what’s right for yourself.
@Rico Williams it is ok sometimes i think. But please be aware that we on the spectrum do try to leave so we can stim. Sometimes though it is hard to leave because we don't know what to do or we are very overstimulated/ overwhelmed
That’s a good question. It’s also difficult to answer because your situation may be different from Abbie’s because removing her from the situation that she may be disruptive in doesn’t negatively affect her. In your situation you may have paid to attend whatever it is that your doing just like everyone else in the room and it would negatively impact you to leave the situation. That’s tough. I think we all have to make judgment calls case by case.
Hmmm that gets into a weird spot. Is it ok for any other 2,3,4,5 year old that doesn’t have autism but is being loud to be asked to leave the room? Is it fair to let her stay, if she was making too much noise to stay just because she has autism? 🤷🏼♀️ I have no great answer for that. To be honest, I don’t think it is fair IF the stem is not disruptive. But it’s also not fair to the other people who paid to be there for the presentation also so....such a fine line. 😬 I still say that the presenter could have dealt with it better than calling it out and making it a bigger deal then it needed to be. She was already leaving when they did that.
I totally understand the frustration and anxiety but as her parents they know she sings to soothe it just makes sense to stay in the back of the room in case you need to leave. I feel for them but they put themselves and their daughter in that situation. I’m also glad you stepped up and talked to the presenter to help him understand.
Please don’t take this the wrong way I’m asking with no malice or ill will but....Why does everyone have to be accommodating to someone creating a disturbance? If people are attending a keynote speech that they have paid to attend why is a child (with or without special needs) even in the room? Again no shade just wanting to understand?
First off: Abbie looks great and seems so calm with everything!! As for the incident at the event, glad you guys brought advocacy and awareness. It IS a tough situation to be trying to do a presentation and you have this major distraction in the back (as someone with ADD I would probably have my attention drawn to it and off topic as well :-/). However, it seems like it was handled politely and respectfully. He didn't know and did apologise. It is a tough situation though and tbh I probably would have removed the child. Not out of discrimination or "appeasement" but rather to provide a sensory break for the child. With Autism it's not just noise that can be stimulation. It's people, sights, spaces, smells etc. Every sense that is encompassed adds to the mix and all of that combined can be overstimulating for some. It's really reading her behavior and the discretion of the parents but I think I probably would have offered a walk as a sensory break.
The only TH-camrs I follow are you guys, Squirmy and Grubbs, and true crime TH-camrs. Lots of true crime TH-camrs. I wouldn't know like any of the TH-camrs there, but I'm so glad you guys got to fangirl a bit.
I honestly thought this was click bait, I’m very sad that it is not. Keep doing what you are doing and spreading awareness for your kiddos and all of the kids. I have anxiety as well and I could feel the tension when Stacey was talking about the incident.
Wow I love watching your family! I am the second oldest of 3 brothers and my youngest brother has Asperger's Autism. Back when he was diagnosed there wasn't as much awareness of Autism as such and our family was judged alot and my mum had such a hard time. I am so happy that there are parents like you who continue to spread awareness. Abby has such a beautiful family. I can't wait to watch your next video. BE SO PROUD of what you have achieved as a family!
It’s a hard situation, I’m sorry it was handled that way. Awareness is s important and you guys are doing an awesome job. When I was teaching in a kindergarten class I had two little boys who were autistic. They had a full time aid with them at all times and many many times these little guys would disturb the lesson I was teaching. However, the class and I soon just accepted the disruption and did the best we could during the lesson. If it got too bad or distracting their aid would take them back to their other classroom. But we always tried to integrate them into everything we were doing and by the end of the year they had made huge strides.
I think Abbie did great on yesterday’s vlog. Probably because there was so much music and hands on things like you guys were saying. There was more stuff for her to do so it kept her mind off of other things (food probably haha) But I think she liked having both Isaiah and Summer there because she trusts them completely. She trusts you guys as well but she has a special bond with Summer that you can’t get with family- you know? It was wonderful to see her participate and enjoy the activities!
That is awesome that the guy was so receptive. I live in a small town and especially elderly people aren't so nice about it. Like one time my mom and I decided we were going to go to a thrift store my son was about 3 at the time and after about 10 mins he started crying I tried to show him some stuff to see if maybe that would spark his interest and help him focus on something else but he started to flap his hands in front of ears so i knew it was time to leave and quickly made for the exit. Meanwhile my mom was finishing up shopping and the lady behind her pointed us out as we were leaving the store and said don't you hate kids like that. So my mom kindly stopped her and tried to explain that he has autism and that some things can be harder for him then the lady precceeded to tell my mom that if I spanked him more he wouldn't act like that and that I should just leave him home until he learns to behave..
I hope this doesn't offend, I'm just torn. I don't have autism, but I do have physical disabilities. There's places or situations that I purposely avoid. I know I'll be a burden or negative impact to others. If someone's disability involved sound, would it be wise to take them to a quiet panel? Idk. I also feel that she should be able to do whatever. It was a lose/lose crummy situation. I'm sorry regardless. Maybe I'm just projecting my constant guilt of feeling in the way of everyone. Idk.
I truly love B's singing. She is an incredibly beautiful girl whom I believe will advance continually until she blends in with mainstream. BUT as a performer if someone was loudly stimming (like Abbie) it would be an awful distraction for the performers who work so hard to put a show together. Even a nervous flyer could freak out on a plane with such screaming. Reality is Autism or whatever sometimes we have to have an exit plan, extra hands, or opt out. No love lost. My niece used to have these severe tantrums and even as a teen I was a responsible and considerate caretaker.
Asa, great job making that a teaching moment! That’s awesome! Keep spreading that awareness. I have really enjoyed these VidCon vlogs. The best part is seeing you all interact with your subscribers as they approach you. 💙
I miss my students who had Autism at my other job. They were such gems.💎 A lot of people who aren’t familiar with autism from someone they personally know, truly do not understand. This is why autism awareness is important like you’re doing. I’ve been in the store before and seen parents say things like, “Can you believe that child is so loud? What a brat!”, or something else, and I’m just still surprised that a full adult doesn’t realize that that child has special needs. It has made me feel angry because we love these children and want to protect them but we have to understand that many people just aren’t trying to be mean....they just have no idea.That’s why we need to still be patient and kind but still try to help them understand. 💜
You guys are the best. You always make sure things work out the best they can. I’m going to tweet this to VidCon to spread awareness to those who went and maybe more ppl will understand how they can help ppl with autism. 👐👍🤝🤗 let’s turn this into a teaching moment.
I just gotta say, my three children and three of their friends busted out Jingle Bells at 4th of July fireworks at the park. Yelling it repeatedly. And they are all neurotypical to my knowledge. We definitely had a Christmas in July experience 😂 totally not the same but I just had to share since it happened to be the same song and it made me chuckle. Sing on, B! And thank you for spreading awareness, Maass and Wee families ❤️
Thanks for not being afraid to put the topic of being kicked out in the video. This is happening to us more and more as our son gets older. It's not easy staying calm and not getting frustrated. Remembering to advocating is not always the easiest thing in those situations but we can never stop trying. Not everyone will be receptive but if we have to try.
I love Braylee’s singing so much. And I love the explanation that you gave after the presentation of why she was singing. Our older daughter has always has loud verbal stims and I’m definitely going to remember how you explained it going forward.
I love seeing the Maass squad and the Wee Family hanging out together. Kids always pick up habits from each other, so it will be interesting to see if Abbie and Braylee pick up some of each other's stims. I think you kinda wish Abbie sang instead of yelling sometimes, or maybe that's just me because I can be sensitive to loud noises. You did well to talk to the panel person instead of trying to confront them during the panel. You never know, that guy might have asked that because he's been around neurotypical children with parents who don't care if they're being loud during a panel, or they hate Christmas songs, or whatever other reason that would make them be especially bothered by B's singing. I'm only taking that from the perspective of the things that annoy me as a teacher. At least when I've got the same group of students on the regular, I can communicate to them that these particular things annoy me and what the consequences of annoying me are (e.g. I can't get through an interesting story or the instructions for an experiment, so I have to stop talking and get them to write notes instead). Teaching is a whole lot different than being on a panel though, since I can give consequences/call parents/send kids out if need be, and I'm usually provided with information on who has autism etc. and can cater for my known audience.
Amazing of you to bring awareness!! Especially if the guy had no idea and felt terrible when you talked to him!!! Braylee's Mom needs get over herself and realize not everyone is familiar with the Autism world... therefor they don't understand!
I agree. Truth is, I’m actually mad that SHE got so mad. Like, is she joking?!? I say that for several reasons which I’ve decided I’m just going to put into my a separate comment since I have a strong opinion on what happened with this whole thing.
She wasn’t upset that she had to leave as she was already getting up to leave she was upset that she was being publicly shamed when she was already going to leave. Maybe try to be more understanding you don’t know what someone is going through and why she reacted differently than you would the world would be a better place if everyone was a bit more understanding. 😁
I have the same problem with my brother. Although he is high functioning, there are many times where it’s hard for him to try and control himself or know when to remove himself from a situation. He has many stims, but he does have a few main ones. The flale, which is basically like a full arm hand flap, the jog, which is when he kinda quickly paces around, the jaw lock, which is when he locks his jaw, and then opens it up and down, and the “yah”, which is, if I’m think correctly, is his only vocal stim. It goes hand in hand with the jaw lock a lot of the time. They can be distracting, and interrupt people’s experience. It’s hard to draw the line, and decide exactly what to do in that situation. Especially since he’s considered a legal adult (he is 18). There’s just no winning in that sort of situation
My eldest step sister (her name is Becky she’s 15) has autism and sever social anxiety (I have moderate social anxiety) and always has to know where we’re going and what time we’re going and coming back. She’s awesome and I love her so much. Ps she also hates being touched ie hugs, holding hands etc.
FatheringAutism ahhhhhh I did!!!!!!! And I couldn’t believe it!!! That’s so cool!! And congrats on the shorty award well deserving even though I’m a bit late lol!!!!
I don't think I could ever tell a child to stop singing...weather they have autism or not. I am so glad you spoke to him Asa! But yes what your doing is amazing..making people more aware of the autism life!!!! And Abbie, you look so beautiful!! Love the sparkles!!!❤😉🤗😘
Watching this from the past, it's really apparent how much Abbie has grown and changed. She has changed from a little girl to a young woman. It seems like even her stimming has lessened. I could be wrong, but it just seems like there has been a ton of growth!
I noticed Isaiah said something about eyes looking on several of these recent blogs. Have you been working on that. She seems to be trying to look up more.
I'm sorry but I feel that of your in a situation and somebody is giving a speech and the whole situation that happened her parents should of took her out before he had to say anything... Its the same thing if somebody had a baby or a kid that's throwing a fit or crying the parents should take the kid out... Autism awareness is awesome Asa but honestly that situation she should of been taken out before she disrupted the speech... I know y'all gonna prolly attack me but that my opinion...
I agree with this 100% and am actually kind of appalled that people are saying how their reaction (as a parent) would’ve been way worse and so on. Public speaking is difficult for many and the person who has prepared a presentation gets so thrown off track with multiple disruptions. Why not take your child out of the room, the same way you would a crying child on a movie or other place where quiet is expected? And for the sake of the child as well, who probably needed a break. I gotta make my own separate comment for this because I’ve got such an opinion on it, clearly. Ha!
Everyone commenting this opinion (especially Fara who has commented her unsolicited opinion so many times) clearly haven’t watched the Wes’s vlog. She was standing up to take B out at the moment he said something. Fara you really should have read the response to the other comment you shared this same opinion on. It makes your point moot.
Yes I don't watch the Wes family just you. Just saying I'd assume it to be something similar to how parents feel when their baby is crying at an important moment we take our child outta the situation. And the guy couldn't see her standing up so its an understandable moment no big deal
@@fatheringautism I like your channel but I don't see why your getting so upset at this... I work with children and adults with mental disabilities and d.d waiver individuals. I have experience with this and I understand where people are coming from who don't deal with this... I often get and understand that just because a child or adult has autism not everybody cares... So we look at it from both points... Like I said NO BIG DEAL...
If I am really anxious, I start singing (LALALA more) jingle bells. I try to stop that and learned myself to ABC things. A is apple, B is etc etc etc. It works for me, but I understand this little girl totally. I learned myself this after seeing so many strange looks, they still look a bit strange when I mummble my abc, but it is less stressfull (for me)
Red is your color, Priscilla!! You look gorgeous! And btw, you all should have been able to go back in the creators lounge. Just as much as anybody else!
I wish they had a sensory friendly room at VidCon that youtubers who are invited to can have access to and have a place to calm down. There are many youtubers are vulnerable when it comes to going to big events like this.
YOU GUYS CAN GET SOME COOL IDEAS FOR STIMMING AT YOUR HOUSE!!!! I loveeee the way abby interacts with a few of the displays and especially the ball pit 💜💜💜💜
Based on many of the comments I’ve responded to I need to head you off at the pass. B was singing very quietly. The volume increased slightly so Stacey stood up to take her out of the room. At the same time the speaker asked her to stop singing or take her out. Nobody was in the wrong, it was just an opportunity to educate. She had been to a few other panels and done great. The entire situation was handled very well.
Pin this! I think you meant to but it is not yet pinned...
FatheringAutism thank you for clarifying. I agree that the speaker could have done it better, maybe having someone go to them and not announcing to the whole room. I hope mom is doing better and relaxing.
Patti V. Derp, thanks.
Sorry. I didn't want to be rude, I just got the impression (I guess mistakenly) that the blame was being placed on the speaker.. Thank you for clarifying. When you say you wanted to educate him and bring awareness about autism, do you think that knowing the child is autistic would or should have changed the way he reacted? I didn't see what he said, so I was wondering if maybe you were trying to bring awareness so he could do something different next time. Thank you for responding. I didn't see this comment when I posted the first time.
everything is a learning curve! we just gotta keep going!❤❤❤
I honestly feel like no one did anything wrong. People with autism cannot control certain things but these people also want to see a presentation
They have every right to be able to see a presentation, like were supposed to tolerate Jingle Bells being sung over and over again
i wouldnt want to hear Jingle Bells being sung over and over again, take your kid out!
it's def a difficult situation for sure
I hate when people tell people with autism to stop stimming I have high functioning autism and I have aspergers too with adhd
My 24 year old grandson does as well. He doesn't stim but I know what you mean. It is amazing what you can all do. I'm impressed 💗
hoi its temmie time I lov u
@@judyberends4586 when there is so many people around me I will shut down and stim and so does my severly autistic cousin
@@mallary1012 thank you
hoi its temmie time ,....you just taught me something. My husband, who is 78, has Asperger’s. I mistakenly thought that Asperger’s is the only one on the autistic spectrum that’s high-functioning. Now I know it’s not the only one. Thanks for that information.
Oh my goodness I can't count how many times I was asked to leave with my daughter! She's 20 now. She soothes quietly now with chewing and flicking. She has hearing loss so we were kicked out of stores, the ENT, daycares, kindergarten, so many places because she screamed! (I ended up homeschooling her) It was a really high pitched squeal because I guess she liked the vibration. Then when her hearing was restored she turned on every noisemaker at Christmas and we almost* got kicked out of Walmart until a worker who knew of her hearing loss spoke up and told him to leave that baby alone she's hearing Christmas for the first time! - Dang, your channel brings back so many memories. Tears! I totally get Priscilla struggling with Isaiah. There should be a badge or pin!
Leesa Marie Love my almost four year old should start school soon & he also has a high pitch scream. I’m not sure how this is going to turn out. But knowing someone has gone through this made me realize it’s okay. Thanks for your comment.
Do i foresee a giant ball pit “coming soon” to the Maas house
Jai Jai great pressure for when you’re overstimulated.
They use to have a small one but I don't think Abby used it that much.
This Vlog and "yesterday's" vlog 100% made me want to buy her the biggest ball pit EVER!
they probably need another spare bedroom just for that.....
They could make her a ball pit by putting a large kiddie pool on the patio or that guest room.
You all are the best!!! Thanks for keeping up on videos while you're traveling!! Priscilla looks Amazing!! 💛💙
My heart aches that happened to you!!!! I have a quick story. One of my Beautiful Butterflies( AkA my students) who had just become apart of our class ;flap stims. This student who is 8 has been told nearly all her life stop, stop, stop, don't do that. one day her behavior was on and over the top horrible level. I was able to stop her long even and said let's flap. She immediately calmed down I told her it is ok to flap as long as she did not hit her friends doing it. Her face lit up and her eyes seriously began to sparkle, she smiled the biggest smile I had ever seen. She then said as she started flapping from excitement " I get to be me, I get to be me".
Needless to say water begin running down my face.
Thank you guys as always for sharing and Abbie proud how well you are doing!! Love You All!!!
Lareka Smith I flap when I’m excited and my parents get annoyed... I wish they were more accepting of them and tolerated them...
Also as a kid we had “beast meals” so we could eat with our hands or like a dog if we wanted sometimes. It’s nice to be given a space to do what you want even if it’s as simple as eating spaghetti like a dog 😁
Lareka Smith I would of told the parents to let her flap it brings her joy and helps her stay calm
2 Great families in one great place. It is always awesome to see them both together.
I think it's great that you brought it to the person's attention, but in situations where there is a crowd you also have to be aware that there are people that the stims are going to genuinely bother. I have a mental disorder that makes me incredibly sensitive to noises. It's a recently "discovered" mental illness but it's being found to be quite common among people. It's when certain noises can cause uncontrollable emotions, and in severe cases, it can cause actual meltdowns. For us, we're unable to process sounds and not connect it to a strong, negative emotion. On top of which, it's very difficult for us to understand how to deal with annoyance and frustration. And unfortunately/fortunately (whichever way you'd like to take that), the rates of diagnosis of this illness is increasing with every year. It's called Misophonia. While I am happy that you guys speak up for people with Autism, and I don't doubt that you're understanding of the emotions of others, I just wanted to voice my thoughts on why I think that's such a grey topic.
I'm autistic and also probably have misophonia, I have really extreme reactions to some sounds like chewing, rustling and all sorts of "mouth sounds". I can't control it at all! It's really hard finding the balance, everyone is so different and we can't all just be 100% ourselves everywhere... Even though I stim, other people could have stims that really bother me. If I could, I'd leave, but if I couldn't, it'd be tough and I'd want the other person to either stop stimming in that way or go somewhere else. Tough indeed!
I have it too. It's awful. Makes me climb out of skin. I also have anxiety and sensory issues (unrelated to autism I believe). If I was trying to listen to a presenter and someone was making a lot of competing noise it might cause me to have an anxiety attack/sensory overload. I definitely wouldn't be able to hear or focus on the presenter.
Have it to. Any kind of scrapping setts me off/angers me.
@@redtarka I also suffer from misphonoa, and some of my triggers are actually more visual than audible. The reaction it prompts is unbearable and uncontrollable.
Love you Cilla for speaking your truth about feeling shunned when the hubby took the band and didn't advocate for one for you, Ab and Isaiah. I feel bad for the Wees, especially the triggering mom experienced when the speaker asked them to leave. I feel bad for the presenter, too. There is such a fine line between advocating for your child stimming in a public forum where an audience is expected to be quiet and listen while also respecting the rights of the presenter and audience members who wanted to hear and focus. It was a sad situation all the way around. I am sure Bray was really struggling, as any child her age would be, sitting in a large auditorium listening to a presentation. I LOVE how you guys made preparation for Abbie by providing Summer to occupy her so you guys could attend and listen to speakers. I feel bad for Isaiah and wish he was more free to explore and do his thing. In so many clips, you see him attending to Abbie, keeping her from running off or out of the house. He is such a great brother.
I’m sending that beautiful girl a ball pit. Abby has the best parents but her Dad is amazing. Having the patience to turn any experience into a learning experience is so valuable for all kids with disabilities. I knew nothing about Autism and I learn things all the time watching the channel and Pricilla’s skin care products is making me look younger and younger. This is my favorite channel..
8:10 I see David sneaking some snacks
I was looking for someone to point him out
And at the last second of the scene, there’s emery bingham haha.
I love how cute Abbie and B are together. So adorable. And I understand the frustration for Stacy and B being asked to leave the panel. As an autistic person myself, it makes me VERY upset if someone asks me to stop stimming. But I can also understand why they would ask her to leave. It's a hard situation to navigate but I think you and the Wees handled it as best you could. Thank you for going and advocating for B, Asa.
Abbie pushing braylee is the cutest thing
abi182838 agreed!!
Spoiler!
Yep
The ball pit with Abbie, is the best part of this vlog.. lol
Hey guys, first off I want to say how much I love your videos and your informative content, thank you for putting out such an honest vlog for us all.
I do want to respectfully state my opinion though in regards to what was brought up in this video. I do think there is a fine line between the general public being aware of autistic stims and allowing for them and the parents or carers of an autistic person/child knowing when to remove them from a situation due to respect for other people.
In this situation I believe the parents should have removed the child from the panel/conference room. This is a situation where if it was a none autistic child having a coughing fit for example (another thing out of the child's control) they would be expected to step outside. The people at vidcon have paid anything between $150-$850 to be there and I don't think it's fair to expect them to put up with a stim when they're trying to listen to someone talk.
I think respect is a two way thing and just because someone has a disability or impairment doesnt mean they should automatically get to infringe on others, It shouldn't even be in question to take one child out of a room so everyone else can have the experience they've paid for.
I know this is old, but 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Asa, I have a question, where do you think the line should be drawn? I understand that it is a stiming behavior, but if it is causing others to not be able to hear the presenter and missing the presentations, don’t you think there has to be a point where something has to give? I’m torn here and seeking your viewpoint.
Mike Wilder I agree. It’s a no win situation for everyone. Their child has a way to calm herself, yet others have attended to listen to the speaker. It’s like being in church and a child acts out, you leave the room. I’m sorry this happened, it’s hard. Thanks for clarifying Asa.....I agree it could have been handled better and she didn’t need to be called out.
Mike Wilder I am a little confused too. Even neurotypical kiddos need to be removed from church/audiences when they are fussing & keeping others from hearing. I don’t understand any parent (whether their child has special needs or not) who allows their child to disrupt an entire audience of people or throw a preacher/speaker off. Maybe I don’t understand the whole context, but kids (including my own boys when they were little) do need to be taken out of a situation when they are super loud.
Michelle Horak I agree. They’re not being asked to remove their child because of special needs, but because it is disruptive. Any child that is being loud should be walked out until they’re calmed. Just like having a baby when they cry....they cry....I get where the parents are upset, but if their child was not autistic and were making loud noises, would they have gotten up and left u til they calmed down?? Probably, any parent would have.
I do t think it’s what was said as much as HOW it was said. The presenter could have approached it differently. Sent someone over to ask them kindly to leave. Instead he called them out in the mic. That was unnecessary on the presenters part. Stacy didn’t mind leaving the class, she was already heading out. It’s just the way it was handled.
Although I do agree that if a child (I’m talking mostly about in church here) is disruptive to the point that they are, maybe screaming, they do need to be taken out. But, and this was my parent’s viewpoint, how can children learn to calm down without staying through the whole service? They’ll never learn to sit and be calm if every time they make a sound, you take them out to the fun place.
I ran the nursery at my church and the kids I had during the service never learned how to sit through the service. They were trained that if they made noise, they could go play. Not all, but most of them showed up around the sermon time because it was easier for their parents to not deal with it.
In this case here, I think it could have been handled better by the presenter. And if her singing was really that loud, then yes they should have left. But calling out and embarrassing is not the best way to deal. I’m sure there were Vidcon staff who he could have told to ask them quietly to leave.
looks amazing, I love that they have stuff where Abbie can feel involved. love you all so much!!!!
She's tiny...any child would have become bored.. why place her in a presentation like that? Curious. My 3 year old would have been disruptive after a while and she is not on the spectrum.
I have Tourette syndrome and this makes me so mad that people think that way. Thank you for being such an advocate and making me feel better about my existence in public places.
That people think what way? What do you mean? They did say in the Video the person didn't know B had autism, he thought it was just a "normal" little child making loud noises.
It's 1 in the morning and I'm binging your videos love you all!!
I appreciate these videos! They are so great! Love the Autism Awareness!
Abbie really seems to be enjoying her trip! It makes me happy to hear that VidCon is so accommodating! 😍
PRISCILLA you look AMAZING!!! So glad to see you guys growing and growing!
Cilla- Your hair and make up is on point girl! I love the way you curled it.
Jackie Lowrey totally agree. She is 🔥
Only way to bring awareness is to have the courage to speak up! Great job!
Sidenote: I think y'all need a ball pit!
Braylee should never stop singing. Everytime I watch the wee family vlogs, I love watching her sing.
There is situations like this event that she shouldn't be singing and its understandable... The parents should of took her out outta respect 4 everybody same with a crying baby or a child... No big deal...
@@zaqu33n88 her mom was taking her out when the presenter called her out.
@@tanishavasquezbanks1699 He never said that her mom was taking her out... He said he said that she needed to stop or leave while they were standing in the corner but ok...
@@zaqu33n88 have you watched the video on the wee family TH-cam channel
@@zaqu33n88 I agree but at 14:08 they say the mom was in the process of taking the kid out
This... I am heartbroken for the Wee family. Thank you guys for educating others! There is nothing wrong with being different. It’d be a boring world if we were all the same! Love you guys ☺️
People that are rude to others (ESPECIALLY ones that are trying to deal with this crazy world in the only way they can) I wish they would have to experience whatever makes them most uncomfortable for a day.... that might open their eyes a tiny bit. I know some early teen children and small ones that are on the spectrum. I just say PEOPLE, these are precious individuals that need love and understanding and we all do! Let’s change the world one person at a time or 10 at a time!
Also Pricilla, you are such an inspiration and so beautiful!
VidCon is turning out to be quite the experience. Some great stuff and so much SUPER awareness and advocacy! A huge thank-you to you guys for paving the road for all of our kids! :-)
Question: what would the proper thing to do about her singing be? Sounds like it was getting hard for the room to concentrate when the singing was going on during a seminar. What should they have done?
This may be an unpopular opinion, and I definitely don't mean any offense by it.. But, if anyone, even an autistic child is disrupting the situation enough that it's affecting the whole crowd's ability to focus on what's going on, it really wasn't "wrong" of him to request that she not be as loud in the room.. Infants also can't help themselves and they need to cry to communicate, but it's not wrong to ask a parent to leave the room with the baby so everyone else can hear what's going on. Even though the girl needs to stim, it's still not unreasonable to want the majority of people to be comfortable too. I hope that didn't come off as rude, I just can't imagine making the whole room have difficulty hearing just for one individual. I know she has special needs, but it's still not right to just stay, knowing everyone else can't focus.
Yes!! Not to mention the poor presenter who worked so hard to put their presentation together. It’s beyond difficult to stay on track and present accordingly when there is constant interruption. It’s so rude to that person. A time and a place (for kids in general) and I’d hope that B’s mom-instead of getting irate over this- can learn from this.
Read the pinned comment. Fara...just stop already.
Justine Spink ahhhh I hate this but like ahhhh
@yulyu Saying that was completely unnecessary and brought nothing to the table. I very much enjoy this channel, and I said what I thought in a respectful way. From my perspective, it seemed like a lot of the anger/blame was being directed towards the speaker who had to ask them to leave and the people who were looking around at the noise. I simply wanted to address the possible issues from the other perspective. I never intended to be rude or make anyone feel bad for no reason. I simply had a question and an opinion. Later a pinned comment went up saying that they did not blame anyone and that was that.
@@fatheringautism thank you for saying something! Its not rude, because its somethinbg abbie needs to do. Im autistic too, and i have some loud stims like abbie. It bothers my class, so my aide sometimes tries to redirect it with a sensory toy. Im glad the situation you had didnt escalate. And im happy abbie had fun in the ball pit!
*Asa trying to get Abbie's attention, she has her back turned* Asa: "Hey glitter- head... Sparkles" *Abigail turns her head to look at him* 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💖 I absolutely loved that bit! 😁
Those sparkles looked super pretty in Abbie's hair!!! 😀😄💓💕💓💕 Keep spreading that Autism awareness, you guys are doing great! 😊 Can see why awareness is so important, am slowly starting to see just how crucial it is to get awareness out there ☺❤💙💜 xo
I thought it was cute too when Abbie looks at Asa after being called Sparkles. :)
Asa, what a great friend and a great spokesperson for all with Autism. You handled it very professionally. You’re a great speaker and you helped your friends educate someone. This world needs more education when it comes to Autism. Abbie was awesome. She convinced me to get that hair bling thing for my granddaughter. I just saw it on tv.
Thank you, you are all very awesome!!! Especially Abbie 👸🏼💜
I want to thank you guys for creating this channel. I am still fairly new, but have watched many of your videos. As a future educator, I make it a point to make sure I am aware and am able to gather different strategies to handle different situations. I witnessed my first autism meltdown at my work the other day, and thanks to your channel I feel as if I was able to handle the situation well. Even after the situation, I feel like I was also able to spread awareness to many of my coworkers and customers about autism, especially the ones who were irritated, angry, or just had no idea what autism really is. So, thank you so much for your work in advocating and spreading awareness for autism.
Great job guys! Autism parents all over the world face this daily in the mainstream world. People not understanding or recognizing a person in a room with autism. Hopefully that changes one day! Keep spreading awareness and educating people little by little. 💙
I have been diagnosed with autism late in life, I have not been able to get to know myself through childhood and adulthood. The period before I got diagnosed I felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. I still feel like I don’t belong. I am now in a situation where I am getting to know myself with a person who has been helping me since my second diagnosis of Autism level 2 with SPD. I still feel I don’t belong in public and family life but it’s less stress for me. I am working on it.
If my children are disruptive I remove them. It's embarrassing bc it got to the point where the speaker felt the need to say something in front of everyone. When the lady started to notice and turn around I would've gotten up and left.bc I then wouldve realised my child was disrupting others.
I think if anyone needed to be 'educated' about the situation, it's vidcon! The presenter should *never* have been put in a position to have to ask an audience member to leave because he was being distracted. It's not only embarrassing for the audience member, but it also disrupts the entire presentation. Since so many youtubers are families, it would be nice if they could stream the presentations to a side room so that people with crying, restless, or nursing children can still watch the speaker they paid to see without being a distraction. Loads of churches, town hall meetings, graduations, plays, etc, do that. Its not terribly expensive and it's usually really convenient and appreciated. Plus it keeps late arrivals from needing to walk in and find seats. If that's not an option, the vidcon really needs a dedicated staff member to fill that role in each large class. Its a courtesy to the audience and the guest speakers
My son (asd) used to absolutely crave the input he'd receive from his ball pit. I think Abbie needs herself a ball pit 😉
A million Thank you's just aren't enough for the awareness and advocacy💙💜
You are teaching so many people about autism!!! Keep up advocating!
How do you know when to draw the line? I mean between scenarios in which the other people in the situation should ignore the stimming for Abbie's sake and when you should leave so as not to disturb others? I ask as someone with autism who constantly has to figure out where that line lies for me personally. How far I am justified in inconveniencing others with my disability is a big question that I grapple with daily. I can imagine that it's even harder when you're making those decisions for a child.
You are not an inconvenience and I am sorry if you have ever felt like it. You can’t control how you stem/self soothe anymore than neurotypical people can. Like Asa said- it’s like asking someone to stop breathing- unacceptable in my opinion. But I can understand when you have to take yourself away from the situation to calm down. And that’s ok.
There is so much more acceptance now in the real world but there is definitely room for improvement. And this goes for people who are deaf, blind, etc.
But I repeat- you are not an inconvenience that needs to worry about every single other person around you. You need to do what’s right for yourself.
@Rico Williams it is ok sometimes i think. But please be aware that we on the spectrum do try to leave so we can stim. Sometimes though it is hard to leave because we don't know what to do or we are very overstimulated/ overwhelmed
That’s a good question. It’s also difficult to answer because your situation may be different from Abbie’s because removing her from the situation that she may be disruptive in doesn’t negatively affect her. In your situation you may have paid to attend whatever it is that your doing just like everyone else in the room and it would negatively impact you to leave the situation. That’s tough. I think we all have to make judgment calls case by case.
Hmmm that gets into a weird spot. Is it ok for any other 2,3,4,5 year old that doesn’t have autism but is being loud to be asked to leave the room? Is it fair to let her stay, if she was making too much noise to stay just because she has autism? 🤷🏼♀️ I have no great answer for that. To be honest, I don’t think it is fair IF the stem is not disruptive. But it’s also not fair to the other people who paid to be there for the presentation also so....such a fine line. 😬
I still say that the presenter could have dealt with it better than calling it out and making it a bigger deal then it needed to be. She was already leaving when they did that.
@Rico Williams by the way sorry it didn’t tag you in my reply ^^^^
Abbie in that pool, just chilled, having fun, great times, i can't wait for the meeting at DD yessss !!
.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗.
I totally understand the frustration and anxiety but as her parents they know she sings to soothe it just makes sense to stay in the back of the room in case you need to leave. I feel for them but they put themselves and their daughter in that situation. I’m also glad you stepped up and talked to the presenter to help him understand.
Please don’t take this the wrong way I’m asking with no malice or ill will but....Why does everyone have to be accommodating to someone creating a disturbance? If people are attending a keynote speech that they have paid to attend why is a child (with or without special needs) even in the room? Again no shade just wanting to understand?
@@my7thoughts7exactly63 your not intelligent
@@Joesahejdhf 🫠check the spelling. Did you mean ”you’re”?
First off: Abbie looks great and seems so calm with everything!!
As for the incident at the event, glad you guys brought advocacy and awareness. It IS a tough situation to be trying to do a presentation and you have this major distraction in the back (as someone with ADD I would probably have my attention drawn to it and off topic as well :-/). However, it seems like it was handled politely and respectfully. He didn't know and did apologise.
It is a tough situation though and tbh I probably would have removed the child. Not out of discrimination or "appeasement" but rather to provide a sensory break for the child. With Autism it's not just noise that can be stimulation. It's people, sights, spaces, smells etc. Every sense that is encompassed adds to the mix and all of that combined can be overstimulating for some.
It's really reading her behavior and the discretion of the parents but I think I probably would have offered a walk as a sensory break.
If you watched this video, you would know that he (Matt^) was NOT referring to Asa or Abbie in his comment above.
@@faragee5286 thank you
The comment section is kinda volatile today. Let’s all get along. 😉
The only TH-camrs I follow are you guys, Squirmy and Grubbs, and true crime TH-camrs. Lots of true crime TH-camrs. I wouldn't know like any of the TH-camrs there, but I'm so glad you guys got to fangirl a bit.
I honestly thought this was click bait, I’m very sad that it is not. Keep doing what you are doing and spreading awareness for your kiddos and all of the kids. I have anxiety as well and I could feel the tension when Stacey was talking about the incident.
“They’re glittering” you mean shining? 😂🤣 I love this family.
Wow I love watching your family! I am the second oldest of 3 brothers and my youngest brother has Asperger's Autism. Back when he was diagnosed there wasn't as much awareness of Autism as such and our family was judged alot and my mum had such a hard time. I am so happy that there are parents like you who continue to spread awareness. Abby has such a beautiful family. I can't wait to watch your next video. BE SO PROUD of what you have achieved as a family!
It’s a hard situation, I’m sorry it was handled that way. Awareness is s important and you guys are doing an awesome job. When I was teaching in a kindergarten class I had two little boys who were autistic. They had a full time aid with them at all times and many many times these little guys would disturb the lesson I was teaching. However, the class and I soon just accepted the disruption and did the best we could during the lesson. If it got too bad or distracting their aid would take them back to their other classroom. But we always tried to integrate them into everything we were doing and by the end of the year they had made huge strides.
I think Abbie did great on yesterday’s vlog. Probably because there was so much music and hands on things like you guys were saying. There was more stuff for her to do so it kept her mind off of other things (food probably haha)
But I think she liked having both Isaiah and Summer there because she trusts them completely. She trusts you guys as well but she has a special bond with Summer that you can’t get with family- you know? It was wonderful to see her participate and enjoy the activities!
That is awesome that the guy was so receptive. I live in a small town and especially elderly people aren't so nice about it. Like one time my mom and I decided we were going to go to a thrift store my son was about 3 at the time and after about 10 mins he started crying I tried to show him some stuff to see if maybe that would spark his interest and help him focus on something else but he started to flap his hands in front of ears so i knew it was time to leave and quickly made for the exit. Meanwhile my mom was finishing up shopping and the lady behind her pointed us out as we were leaving the store and said don't you hate kids like that. So my mom kindly stopped her and tried to explain that he has autism and that some things can be harder for him then the lady precceeded to tell my mom that if I spanked him more he wouldn't act like that and that I should just leave him home until he learns to behave..
Sad Bee got kicked out... glad you were all together to work through it all together 💕
I hope this doesn't offend, I'm just torn. I don't have autism, but I do have physical disabilities. There's places or situations that I purposely avoid. I know I'll be a burden or negative impact to others. If someone's disability involved sound, would it be wise to take them to a quiet panel? Idk. I also feel that she should be able to do whatever. It was a lose/lose crummy situation. I'm sorry regardless. Maybe I'm just projecting my constant guilt of feeling in the way of everyone. Idk.
I truly love B's singing. She is an incredibly beautiful girl whom I believe will advance continually until she blends in with mainstream. BUT as a performer if someone was loudly stimming (like Abbie) it would be an awful distraction for the performers who work so hard to put a show together. Even a nervous flyer could freak out on a plane with such screaming. Reality is Autism or whatever sometimes we have to have an exit plan, extra hands, or opt out. No love lost. My niece used to have these severe tantrums and even as a teen I was a responsible and considerate caretaker.
Asa, great job making that a teaching moment! That’s awesome! Keep spreading that awareness. I have really enjoyed these VidCon vlogs. The best part is seeing you all interact with your subscribers as they approach you. 💙
SING YOUR HEART OUT B ...spreading that awareness 💙💙💙
Lauren Brazee YES LAURENNNNNN STIM ONNNNNN
I miss my students who had Autism at my other job. They were such gems.💎
A lot of people who aren’t familiar with autism from someone they personally know, truly do not understand. This is why autism awareness is important like you’re doing. I’ve been in the store before and seen parents say things like, “Can you believe that child is so loud? What a brat!”, or something else, and I’m just still surprised that a full adult doesn’t realize that that child has special needs. It has made me feel angry because we love these children and want to protect them but we have to understand that many people just aren’t trying to be mean....they just have no idea.That’s why we need to still be patient and kind but still try to help them understand. 💜
Abbie not giving two f’s about anything is such a relatable mood! 😂😂😂 love her lol
Asa, I'm so glad that you were able to educate the speaker.
David Dobrik stalker footage!!! 😂😂😂
I talked to him for a minute but didn’t want to be a tool and vlog it in the creator lounge lol.
You guys are the best. You always make sure things work out the best they can. I’m going to tweet this to VidCon to spread awareness to those who went and maybe more ppl will understand how they can help ppl with autism. 👐👍🤝🤗 let’s turn this into a teaching moment.
I just gotta say, my three children and three of their friends busted out Jingle Bells at 4th of July fireworks at the park. Yelling it repeatedly. And they are all neurotypical to my knowledge. We definitely had a Christmas in July experience 😂 totally not the same but I just had to share since it happened to be the same song and it made me chuckle.
Sing on, B! And thank you for spreading awareness, Maass and Wee families ❤️
Thanks for not being afraid to put the topic of being kicked out in the video. This is happening to us more and more as our son gets older. It's not easy staying calm and not getting frustrated. Remembering to advocating is not always the easiest thing in those situations but we can never stop trying. Not everyone will be receptive but if we have to try.
I love Braylee’s singing so much. And I love the explanation that you gave after the presentation of why she was singing.
Our older daughter has always has loud verbal stims and I’m definitely going to remember how you explained it going forward.
I am so proud of Isaiah! He's a wonderful young man!
Pracilla is THRIVING! She looks so beautiful!
I love seeing the Maass squad and the Wee Family hanging out together. Kids always pick up habits from each other, so it will be interesting to see if Abbie and Braylee pick up some of each other's stims. I think you kinda wish Abbie sang instead of yelling sometimes, or maybe that's just me because I can be sensitive to loud noises.
You did well to talk to the panel person instead of trying to confront them during the panel. You never know, that guy might have asked that because he's been around neurotypical children with parents who don't care if they're being loud during a panel, or they hate Christmas songs, or whatever other reason that would make them be especially bothered by B's singing.
I'm only taking that from the perspective of the things that annoy me as a teacher. At least when I've got the same group of students on the regular, I can communicate to them that these particular things annoy me and what the consequences of annoying me are (e.g. I can't get through an interesting story or the instructions for an experiment, so I have to stop talking and get them to write notes instead). Teaching is a whole lot different than being on a panel though, since I can give consequences/call parents/send kids out if need be, and I'm usually provided with information on who has autism etc. and can cater for my known audience.
Pause the video and look at Stacey at 13:52 giving us a side eye lol
Love how you capture David eating. Cake 😂😂
Kayleigh Fosker he was just an extra on the vlog 😂
@@annageng1361 😂😂😂
When Abby moves in on Asa's ice cream.. Hilarious.
Amazing of you to bring awareness!! Especially if the guy had no idea and felt terrible when you talked to him!!! Braylee's Mom needs get over herself and realize not everyone is familiar with the Autism world... therefor they don't understand!
I agree. Truth is, I’m actually mad that SHE got so mad. Like, is she joking?!? I say that for several reasons which I’ve decided I’m just going to put into my a separate comment since I have a strong opinion on what happened with this whole thing.
@@faragee5286 I'll be waiting to read your reply.
She wasn’t upset that she had to leave as she was already getting up to leave she was upset that she was being publicly shamed when she was already going to leave. Maybe try to be more understanding you don’t know what someone is going through and why she reacted differently than you would the world would be a better place if everyone was a bit more understanding. 😁
Fara Gee Yeah everyone has seen you respond to every single comment. Trust us, we know you have an opinion.
Looks like it has been a lot of fun :) At 11:23 I thought David was holding a very small strange child for a second before I realized it was a camera.
I have the same problem with my brother. Although he is high functioning, there are many times where it’s hard for him to try and control himself or know when to remove himself from a situation.
He has many stims, but he does have a few main ones. The flale, which is basically like a full arm hand flap, the jog, which is when he kinda quickly paces around, the jaw lock, which is when he locks his jaw, and then opens it up and down, and the “yah”, which is, if I’m think correctly, is his only vocal stim. It goes hand in hand with the jaw lock a lot of the time.
They can be distracting, and interrupt people’s experience. It’s hard to draw the line, and decide exactly what to do in that situation. Especially since he’s considered a legal adult (he is 18). There’s just no winning in that sort of situation
Abs peacefully laying in the ball pit is A MOOD
My eldest step sister (her name is Becky she’s 15) has autism and sever social anxiety (I have moderate social anxiety) and always has to know where we’re going and what time we’re going and coming back. She’s awesome and I love her so much. Ps she also hates being touched ie hugs, holding hands etc.
Ahhhhh my two worlds colliding I love Zane!!! And the vlog squad and David I couldn’t believe he was in your vlog!!! That’s awesome
You should watch the vlog from the Shorty Awards!
FatheringAutism ahhhhhh I did!!!!!!! And I couldn’t believe it!!! That’s so cool!! And congrats on the shorty award well deserving even though I’m a bit late lol!!!!
Less than a minute in and had to pause to say how beautiful Pricilla looked. So pretty 💗
I like how you just filmed David dobrik for a course one of seconds eating.
I am glad you got the chance to educate someone about autism and stemming
I don't think I could ever tell a child to stop singing...weather they have autism or not. I am so glad you spoke to him Asa! But yes what your doing is amazing..making people more aware of the autism life!!!! And Abbie, you look so beautiful!! Love the sparkles!!!❤😉🤗😘
I love Zane!!! And im so addicted to watching yall.. im a new subscriber but love yalls family and abbie is awesome..
I love that you're such a passionate advocate.
Way to spread awareness.
Watching this from the past, it's really apparent how much Abbie has grown and changed. She has changed from a little girl to a young woman. It seems like even her stimming has lessened. I could be wrong, but it just seems like there has been a ton of growth!
i found u guys yesterday! i absolutely love you guys now i’ve been binge watching 😂!! you guys are so sweet 💞💞
Great video. Keep up the great work with your channel and your family.
I’m amazed at how soothed Abbie was by the ball pit! That’s awesome!
what is that black yellow thing on abby's back pack shoulder strap?
I noticed Isaiah said something about eyes looking on several of these recent blogs. Have you been working on that. She seems to be trying to look up more.
Nah, just for photos.
My son makes horse sounds winnes and clip clopping sounds bless him stim on
😆 My little brother makes noises like a Macaw.
He didn't like her singing Jingle bells in July lol, Abbie pushing the buggy is so sweet 😍 I love her hair with the sparkly hair accessories 😍
I'm sorry but I feel that of your in a situation and somebody is giving a speech and the whole situation that happened her parents should of took her out before he had to say anything... Its the same thing if somebody had a baby or a kid that's throwing a fit or crying the parents should take the kid out... Autism awareness is awesome Asa but honestly that situation she should of been taken out before she disrupted the speech... I know y'all gonna prolly attack me but that my opinion...
I agree with this 100% and am actually kind of appalled that people are saying how their reaction (as a parent) would’ve been way worse and so on. Public speaking is difficult for many and the person who has prepared a presentation gets so thrown off track with multiple disruptions. Why not take your child out of the room, the same way you would a crying child on a movie or other place where quiet is expected? And for the sake of the child as well, who probably needed a break. I gotta make my own separate comment for this because I’ve got such an opinion on it, clearly. Ha!
Everyone commenting this opinion (especially Fara who has commented her unsolicited opinion so many times) clearly haven’t watched the Wes’s vlog. She was standing up to take B out at the moment he said something. Fara you really should have read the response to the other comment you shared this same opinion on. It makes your point moot.
Yes I don't watch the Wes family just you. Just saying I'd assume it to be something similar to how parents feel when their baby is crying at an important moment we take our child outta the situation. And the guy couldn't see her standing up so its an understandable moment no big deal
Z¡a Qu33n Exactly, everyone did what was appropriate in the situation. It sucked nonetheless and she was terribly embarrassed.
@@fatheringautism I like your channel but I don't see why your getting so upset at this... I work with children and adults with mental disabilities and d.d waiver individuals. I have experience with this and I understand where people are coming from who don't deal with this... I often get and understand that just because a child or adult has autism not everybody cares... So we look at it from both points... Like I said NO BIG DEAL...
.... she feels like a teenager when she chills with Summer and she seems to just hang and stroll all day long! Amazing !!!! 💜💜💜💜🌶
If I am really anxious, I start singing (LALALA more) jingle bells. I try to stop that and learned myself to ABC things. A is apple, B is etc etc etc. It works for me, but I understand this little girl totally. I learned myself this after seeing so many strange looks, they still look a bit strange when I mummble my abc, but it is less stressfull (for me)
Red is your color, Priscilla!! You look gorgeous! And btw, you all should have been able to go back in the creators lounge. Just as much as anybody else!
you guys are the best! love all your vlogs
What does Mrs. Wee say at 15:08?
I wish they had a sensory friendly room at VidCon that youtubers who are invited to can have access to and have a place to calm down. There are many youtubers are vulnerable when it comes to going to big events like this.
I just dont know how you dont have a million views all the time
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its mind blowing!!!!
YOU GUYS CAN GET SOME COOL IDEAS FOR STIMMING AT YOUR HOUSE!!!! I loveeee the way abby interacts with a few of the displays and especially the ball pit 💜💜💜💜