What Men Should Do Instead Of Pursuing Women
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
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A man's purpose should NEVER be chasing women. EVER.
ESPECIALLY in an era where women keep rosters and are not loyal to any one man.
Facts!! Focus on yourself cause they don’t give a fuck about us they are selfless as hell.
All the “woman” turned into narcissistic leeches with no skills but to lay on their back
@johnlevel30calhoun23 men do the right thing, women do what's right for them.
I've started doing what's right for me. Thanks girls.
@@rally_chronicles facts that’s how they operate they only look out for themselves and their other girls so you’re right we have to look out for OURSELVES! They use onlyfans to get money from men to pay their bills and travel and act like they are in the right! If we could do the same thing girls would go to police and demand their money back!
No truer words have been spoken.
I left the dating market in 2018. Since then I focus solely on myself, work, my home, my hobbies, and my favorite sports teams. Life is so much better since then.
What are your hobbies? Technical, sport,...?
Work, watching sports, hobbies empty home…probably some substance abuse along with a pron addiction and no women for 6 years, nothing about that is “better” stop lying to your self
@@giveitatry951 I have a large model railroad and I build models. Mostly build race cars and WWII subjects. My model railroad is modeled after the 1940s-50s era. They are good constructive hobbies that keep me busy and out of trouble.
I feel you. I've not dated for like 3 years. Simply not dating saved me money, headaches and distraction from my work and hobbies
@@bigmoney1723 Nice. I want to get into a few new things myself. Learn welding, 3D-Printing or CNC. Models of WW2 Tanks would also interest me.
Here’s the cheat code.
1. Health (focus on your fitness/ sleep/ diet/ mental health)
2. Wealth (build a business or find something that makes 100k+ per year)
3. Women. Constantly talk to every women and ask every single one out that’s even borderline decent so that you can IMPROVE with repetition.
It’s simple, not easy. You get what you work for.
Gonna do #3 for sure.
Facts. Simple but effective
I know 2 passport bros. One that is in his 60’s and one in his 30’s. Both are divorced from their foreign wives because they brought them to the US and they turned into modern women. If your going to marry a foreigner then stay where they are. That’s the community you are looking for.
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Focus on entertaining and interesting yourself. Do what YOU want. Do not do what makes you more attractive to women.
Passport bros is not necessarily economic arbitrage. You can actually find women that are FEMININE in other countries. The difference in quality is shocking. I highly recommend men traveling to different cultures on different continents. It helps you grow as a person, and the women are an added bonus.
American audacity has absolutely zero limits. They truly think they're above all 196+ countries. The ego is impressive, honestly.
@@asparrow9876What the hell are you talking about ?
@@nealmccoy5727 He was saying that you "can actually find feminine women in other countries". Bruh, THEY NEVER STOPPED BEING THERE. It's America who got rid of them. They're still NORMALLY PLENTIFUL all around the world. Hence my previous comment. That's what I'm on about.
@@nealmccoy5727 Traveling overseas isn't a "recommendation" anymore, like it use to be. Moving abroad is now a *necessity* seeing how many men get either NOTHING or RUINED. Most men are now either staying alone or fleeing to greener pastures, which happens to be _almost everywhere else._
@@asparrow9876 I agree with you. I just stated my concern that Instagram is having on all women, including those overseas.
I definitely agree with working on yourself. However, the monk mode “get the money first and the women will come” hardly pans out.
Few guys, even if they put in the work will truly achieve top tier status/wealth and even if they do, it takes time.
I went down that path and saw my mid 20s pass me by and thought “I am making 6-figs, I am in decent shape, I am close to 6ft, where are the women?”, then it hit me issue wasn’t those things. I was doing ok there, my issue was lack of direct action. (socializing and going out, cold approach, fixing my dating apps.)
Chasing wealth and my purpose buying the whole men peak close to 40 became a cope to avoid rejection more than anything.
yea, I dont think that should even be part of it. I think the correct thing is assume you're going to die alone and go from there. Not 'do all this and THEN finally maybe some high bodycount hoe will be with you'. Thats stupid and rarely even true.
Looks and Heights are number one if you was a Chad you would know it you would have 50 b****** at all times
Yes, I agree. but I think there is a huge difference between "chasing" women and getting into social situations and meeting people. One thing I recommend to a man who is pursuing his purpose is to get a hobby that puts you into contact with lots of people, both sexes. For me it was community theater. And it got me lots of dates, and that was not my intention going in.
....bruh same thing. The reason a man is motivated to get into the social situations is for women, so there's no difference. the point is, the primary motivation is women even if he doesnt want to admit it.@@impudentdomain
@@impudentdomain Great point there. Having a good lifestyle and social life will both help your development and networking as a man, as well as allow you to meet cute women there. Cold approach, while good to be able to do, will have its limitations.
This all sounds good in theory but is flawed for 2 reasons.
1. The good women go young and early. If you 'focus on yourself', you might miss women that are good that you could have a happy life with. and then, when you're in your 40s your options are a lot worse even if you managed to hit your other goals. This idea that its one or the other is stupid. the happiest people do both. They can be with a woman and do other things at the same time. telling men to purposely ignore women to chase other things is not a recipe for success because most of these men dont want to be alone their entire lives.
2. ' Focus on yourself and then the women come' is flawed, because they often dont but the bigger issue is that the goal should be to get men to do things for themselves regardless of whether it helps with women or not. When you say ' and then the women will come' those men subconsciously are still doing everything with the goal of women in the end. And then they get pissed off when it doesnt work. Better to tell these men ' assume you're going to be alone your entire life regardless of what you do.' then, men will genuinely do what they want with zero expectations.
No such thing as "happy life" today. No stability either. If numbers don't frighten you either, please, do eat the red berries.
You'll see why there's a mountain of piled up monkeys next to it soon enough.........
Doesn't work. I've worked out every day for two years since I quit drinking. I lost 75lbs. In 2023 I made $128,000. I have zero debt and own my house outright. I'm under 10% body fat.
My life satisfaction is at the lowest it's been in years.
I haven't so much as a date since 2017. I haven't had an actual girlfriend since I was 22. At 35, bald, even at over 6 feet tall, I'm realizing it is likely completely over for me. It's not happening.
Dude I feel the same it's hard to get dates! Even if you're successful.
You ve done a lot of good in your life by keeping up yourself which is beyond great at 35 you’re the perfect age for women! You ve gained experience in life, got your money up, got your body up, now you need to learn about female nature so you don’t get finessed and then learn an important secret about women which is when your happy about who you are and what you are and where your going and have boundaries then you ll attract women instantly! Now you just need to put yourself out there by cold approaching women or going on dating apps or going out to bars and clubs, maybe sporting events and just talking to women!
@@JimmyHeightyou have to go to the women unfortunately! In this day and age women expect men to go talk to them they don’t approach us unless is business related. Women think they’re too good to approach us
I’m 31 paid off house make 80k a year and haven’t had a gf since high school but that doesn’t bother me a bit I realize I would rather be alone seeing how most women these days are bat shit crazy it’s not our fault it’s society and culture the way peoples minds are warping and it’s just gonna get worse
Serious question:
1. Do you do a social activity that introduces you to new people often? Weekly, biweekly(co-ed volleyball, weekly trivia, church, volunteering, festivals)
2. Do you approached women in casual encounters? (e.g. more probable in a city)
3. Do you use dating apps (difficult depending on your face. At your age show a physical activity to show your body. No shirtless pics, you’re not in your 20%)
I think he's missing it on religion. Being religious doesn't mean you can ignore this life because you believe there is something after death. You can still want to make the most of this life and still have faith/religion. The fact of the matter is that lack of faith has resulted in more of a nihilistic/fatalistic despair in people than it has a "make the most out of this" mindset.
One thing I will say about the statement at the end is that I think it's fine if someone is looking for a woman to marry overseas, regardless of whether or not they have tried literally everything they can here first. If you're a guy that actually has enough value to get a good woman and would rather do it overseas because you understand the probability of finding a better woman is much greater out there, then I don't give a sh!t if you've dated 50-100 American women first or not. These western women are almost all terrible, there are very few left that aren't terrible, and you can't even tell the bad actors apart from the real ones a lot of the time. Why not just go out there and skip all that bs from the start, and not waste your time trying to turn a 304 into a housewife?
I generally agree with the PP Bros, as I was one myself from 2014-2018. The difference was night and day and my experiences with women were incredible.
What worries me, however, is seeing the effect IG is having on the girls overseas. IG is turning them into entitled narcissists and this is particularly bad with the younger ones. I fear it won't be long until the overseas dating pools are polluted because of this.
Unfortunately, you're all too right. Western culture always seems to spread across the world, regardless of whether or not it's actually good for society. That's why if I were to ever go overseas in search of a wife, I would go to Japan. While they have adapted a lot of western culture, they still stand *very* strong in their own culture.
@@itranscendencei7964which hurts me because I’m really into Korean culture. From what I’ve been hearing and seeing feminism is starting to run rampant there. Not to the scale of other western countries, but it’s the seeds that make it worse over time.
@@Kyle-fp5lm Unfortunately, it seems like that's just the natural conclusion of the US being recognized as the worlds largest super power. Everyone wants to be like big brother, so it's only natural that there will be a lot of people that will follow in the footsteps of their perceived superior.
@@itranscendencei7964 agreed, it’s a sad sight to see, but inevitable.
I’m currently in cosmetology school and focused on becoming a hair dresser and having my own salon some day. Having a goal and a mission has made the quality of my life so much better.
Focus on pleasure and chasing women in your 20s, you end up broke later in your life. Focus on education and making money while young, you end up making good money later in life but now you are too old and society will shame you for wanting to date young attractive girls that you missed out on, and even the young girls don’t find you physically attractive and you feel their interest is not genuine from the heart.
If you try to balance the two, you will end up with mediocre achievements in both worlds and that’s never satisfying
Moral of the story is there are inevitable sacrifices and the price to pay is never an easy pill to swallow. The only people that hack the game of life are the ones that achieve high social status at a young age, become rich quickly, and most of all they are very attractive physically.
"If this is it" I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you honestly think a universe made of patterns and cycles made you specifically to have one finite window of existence with endless darkness between for no reason you might be setting yourself up for disappointment.
Yeah theres trilions of planets. No way this is the only one we on lol
Here's a weird thing that these guys should discuss: thirdworlders are the proto passport bros.
I live in the Philippines and the dating meta has always been, go to 1st world country, save up and come back to your 3rd world home and settle down with young gal that is a compromise of useful to you, submissive(considering you will finance their life, this is fairly reasonable) and hot.
Take it from someone who has had lots of success with women throughout my whole life, women are greatly overrated, and every day that you're with a woman, you have to ask yourself when is she going to wake up and suddenly lose interest for any given number of reasons. Every relationship with a woman is finite, has a shelf life, and take it from me: you should never, ever base your happiness, contentment, or self-worth around what anybody else on this Earth thinks about you, especially women, because they will think the world of you one day, then lose all interest for you and have all their eggs in the basket of another man the next.
Trust me fellas, it is not worth getting yourself worked up over or being depressed over if you don't have a woman in your life. If you just don't attract women easy, stick to porn, and enjoy other things in life that make you happy, because you won't find happiness in a woman.
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'Focusing on yourself' is a good way to waste prime years of your life. When I was in my 20s, I was fairly attractive, and a lot of women showed interest, but I was too busy 'focusing on myself', and figured I had plenty of time for dating. Now in my early 40s I am financially secure and very fit ( I was skinny as a younger man), and get near zero interest from women. They simply don't care about your $100,000 or your nice body if you're an 'old guy'. Unless you can get very lucky and become a millionaire or some kind of celebrity, then the focus on yourself thing is a waste...you have to make a HUGE effort in dating, women aren't going to come knocking at your door.
But then the opposite is to focus on women throughout your 20s and then after 30 be broke and destitute for the rest of your life. Surely a middle ground can be found where you focus the MAJORITY of your efforts on your upward mobility as a man whilst simultaneously dedicating only a SMALL fraction of your time on women
@@simplyballing1592 Nah he's right man. The male prime is 25 to 34. Before that you're too inexperienced and after your too seasoned. It's really carpe diem, you gotta seize the day or else you are screwed.
@@icantsneeed So the general consensus is for young men to dedicate themselves to women throughout their 20s and not prioritize their upward mobility during that same time period?
I was going to post this exact thing. I "focused on myself" for the last 10 years. Now I'm 40, and I'm considered an "old guy". Focusing on yourself seems like the male form of manifestation. Things aren't going to happen unless you make them happen.
It’s case by case imo.
If you are really broke, out of shape and with bad acne, you’ll get higher ROI putting your energy for 1-2 year into gym, skin care and getting a stable job and making chasing women a secondary mission vs
However, if you are a decent looking guy, making ok money (say $40k-$60k in Tier 2 city) and you are in a dry spell, your money and fitness are likely not the issue. Sure, try to improve them, but you’ll likely get more building your social life, approaching women and going on the dating apps.
I was the latter: $120k W2, decent shape and had good relationships w friends/family but dating was my struggle until i went at it directly in 2022-early when i met my gf.
I feel like the problem with working on yourself is that you get old fast. So you work on yourself, but then by the time you've achieved success you're like 45 years old and the girls don't want you anymore.
If an 18 year old guy takes the decision to focus on himself by 28 - 30 chances are high he'll be a very appealing option for women
Don't believe that. I turn 40 in 2 days and I feel the best I have ever been, started judo and muay thai, live well and I feel like I can be a lot more selective with women. What I'm lacking is more friends/social network. Cause yes, u wont get women by just going to the gym and earning six figures. You also need to meet women. So you have to cultivate your social media, your network of friends, do group activities. Dating apps suck, the trick is amplifying your social network and no one talks about this. More friends/social encounters = more happy you will be = increased chance to meet women.
I didn't know all these about women and dating market when I was 18. Same with most men. By the time they learn and start their self improvement journey they are already in late 20's
@@brettm7345 yea "some sort of success isn't good enough". I'm talking about the success of the guys that get girls which is like a top guy.
most men are not going to stop pursuing women
only a small percent will
Every passport bro is one less potential sucker err customer for MoA.
Which is why the video ended with him saying "just get jacked, bro".
I'm so happy to stay in SA 🇿🇦
Women are still traditional enough to prepare food for their man, and dont have these ridiculous, unrealistic requirements from men
I don't know.
South Africa looks an awful lot like what happens when male workforce participation plummets
Inconsistent power grid, unreliable transportation, understaffed police departments...
But, don't worry, we here in the US will be joining you in your basement-tier standards of living in about a decade!
Thanks for the video! I always need inspiration to improve myself.
The only way to win in the dating market, is to not play. Focus on yourselves kings 👑👑👑👑
NO marriage; NO divorce; Keep it Simple Salty.
I reject the idea that women “just appear.” Unless you become a global celebrity, they never just appear.
I have to agree. Great commentary.
I have never thought that the mall santa actually could give pretty solid advices.
6:15 yup, I plan to get enough money to retire early and enjoy a cheap hobby. Me working hard only benefits society, not me. If Society wants me to work hard for it, then it needs to change the incentive structure. Otherwise, I'm going to do what's best for me
Even if you reach 14% body fat you still have to deal with western women…hard pass!
And the laws that come with being in the U.S. I think Michael Sartain mentions this at some point, I know Aaron does, so it’s kind of weird for them to advocate this.
I'm old now so am out of the game, so can sit back and watch with amusement. Wish I knew then what I know now. Looking back, when I was on the prowl trying to attract females, I was pathetic. I got laid more when I wasn't looking, was doing my own thing not thinking about chasing puzzy, and they seemed to appear out of thin air making themselves available. Funny how that works.
You just reak of desperation when you are looking for it. Like you are a man who doesn’t get laid. Women can sense that and it’s an immediate turn off. When you aren’t looking you are content with yourself and signaling you are probably sexually satisfied. Same reason woman love married men
Focus on God. Living righteously.
Align yourself with Gods way.
Focus on yourself involves: to be more healthy, to get married and have a family but many guys struggle with pornography and committment issues because of a big checklist molded by media and victoria secret. Career issues despite an economy that is loosing jobs.
So, the realization that our lives, our health, our jobs to survive, - everything is in a sovereign God's hands. All we can do is - strive to live ethically and do our best.
Focus on yourself - not everything is in our control and it never is. Culture changes every five years but human condition and Gods ways don't change so we need to align our broken selves to Gods ways to be spiritually nourished. Then we can become morally and mentally steong despite what happens in the world around us, to be rooted like a firm strong tree.
A fruit of Focusing on God's ways is self improvement. So focus on God.
I focus on myself too I workout read books see TH-cam could care less about women I hardly think about women
Thank You Gentlemen ☺️
Worrying about an addict death machine is so stupid.
4:44 it's not that I can't it's that it's cost prohibitive, or time prohibitive. It's just not worth it. I've put my reps in. I know where I stand, and how much more money, or more fitness helps. Or more social skills. The time and cost of dating, for the quality of woman out there, isn't worth it, unless you're in the top bracket of players. Otherwise, the reward isn't worth it. Even easy casual sex isn't worth it. The last hookup, was 40 minutes total driving. And the idea of driving 40 minutes and talking to her for 20 minutes, just for sex? 70% of SINGLE Women just aren't worth it now.
What works like magic? frienship, spent time whith friends is like magic, even on online gaming, spent time with friends is better for health jajaja that women... people that spent time with friends never regret wen old jajajaja never say i should have work more for the bithch, nope they regret not spending more time with friends... having fun, and you have fun and women want you, for some reason she desire you, and there is this women delusion new think that is crazy, and the result is loneliness of women and men, so the problem is high expectations of women, but having fun is the best, if you have fun you made it, money women spend it all no matter how much you win, never is enough.... is madness now.
Aaron Clarey is to todays men what Yoda was to the Jedi
Why do people shit on videogames so much. I want to make the most of my life too and video games are one of my favorite things so I play them a lot. if 'making the most of your life' is doing things you like to do, video gams count just as much as anything else.
Because video games are garbage dude.. they are just like porn. Huge dopamine spike, you can waste alot of time without realizing it and let your life slip away
If there was only one sex, human, and you didn’t need an opposite sex to reproduce or have sex, what would your goals be???
3:00, makes sense that a guy with such a cynical and distorted view of women just randomly throws in how labor unions are getting “uppidty” and that companies should therefore violate labor laws by threatening to move their plants overseas.
World war one, known as the 1917-1918 war in the US.
pursuit ....
The fool says in his heart there is no God. He is pursuing all those things he listed for pleasure and pleasure is only a temporary high. Vanity of all vanities.
More regular dudes leave the market. The top 10-1 percent thunderstrokes are gonna have a field day, many those guys are the biggest mis-soggy-kneeists
14%😂😂😂
So you are eather a coward or your cannon fodder? Why is it stupid to try something else when what you’re doing or what you’ve tried doesn’t work? The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result?😂
You can do the escort thing in the west where its safer, if want a wife and marriage you can look over seas but there is a weird culture shock and marrying into a different family / culture, also if you live in a big city but you havent visited every state or town in your nation to see the dating / marriage market there, your just making yourself desperate for no reason, just chill, you can find a wife in the US.
You’ll still be subject to those marriage/ divorce laws though. While some states are becoming a bit more fair for both parties, it’s still heavily skewed against the man. Good women may exist in the U.S. the chances are still higher for getting divorced and dealing with said laws.
Become a carpenter? kinda wack bro
I feel sorry for this buy. If I didn’t believe in God, seems easy just being a slob