if easy only can.go in korea sir rick even not like that big salary u gave me as.can i help u to nanny of danna its ok for me... money easy can see but ur nice and good attitude is so hard to find💜💜💜 and mam erica also have a good haert saranghae po
Agree...mas maganda talaga na may trabaho tayo mga babae.dito sa country namin.until 3yrs. Old ang bata bago ka pa allowed bumalik sa work.at walang sino mang employer na magtanggal sa iyo.
Word of advise,it would be nice if you can ask for another 6 mos leave,by then after 6 mos you might be able to find a solution as to who will care for Dana,how about if you pay someone in the Phils to come every 6 mos to care for Dana,for instance your mom or sister or cousin,of course you pay them,you do this for 2 yrs coz after this Dana will be ready for pre school.It is important you work so that you have your own income,self confidence and self esteem,these days it is not enough that only one partner works,you need 2 income.Just make sure only someone you trust takes care of Dana.
I've work in Korea for 10years and the law that time once you've pass the legitimacy of citizenship in Korea they can easily found a job specially if you are skill workers ,while her baby will never get back the time at least for 2 years she must be hands on Dana then she can go back to work
Keep your Job girl,mas maganda kong may trabaho ka, para di ka lang aasa sa asawa mo,kong meron naman ibang option na may magbantay kay Danna. That decision is crucial girl.
I agree with both ladies. You want to have your own income. You don't want to be fully dependant to your husband. You never know the future. Your income will be your safety net.
@@poheijo It depends on priorities. If the amount of pay you get is the same or almost the same as what you pay nanny, then it's better that you stay home to keep that close relationship with the kid. And of course it also depends on family income like how much your husband earns. Some husbands only earn barely to sustain the family needs and the wife's income even if part time pay helps a lot.
@@mark72141 I think in Korea, they got day care centers from babies- toddlers until they go to proper school. Nowadays, most households need 2 incomes. With the unpredictable time and constant economic changes, it's better to have 2 incomes. With parents such as Erica and Ricky, I think their kid will not lack love despite their being working parents. But, if Ricky's income can sustain the well being of his family very well, why not?
My husband and I are both chem engrs. Although he’s earning more more than I am earning when my two kids were growing, I still continue to work in a plant. Time came when it’s hard to find a yaya and wouldnt know which of us will not go to work for the day. So, I decided to quit and just be a full time mom. At first I enjoyed but after a year I felt so bored and depressed. There is no agenda for the day. After praying so hard for a job, luckily, a high school near our home needed a science teacher. This is my 18th year of teaching.
This kind of conversation is very relevant as there are many factors to be considered. Glad that Daddy Ricky's very understanding and supportive of Mommy Erica's concerns. 😊
Hi Erica, even I am the sole bread winner of the family, letting my wife have a job is a sense of security for her even I can provide to whatever the family needs. I can see that way as we are reaching our retirement age and our kids are settling down on their own. Full time house work is hard as I experience it for 4 yrs when we went back to the Phil. But whatever decision you make is a treasure to remember and keep.
@@edinasosing1436 What's the purpose of your question? I wonder then if you just want to feed your curiusity? Anyway, I believe in MYOB (Mind Your Own Business) but then I guess you have more time to mind other business too. 🤔
Erica don’t feel guilty about it, it’s important that you have a career also. It does not make you less of a mother. Iba pa rin me work ka at me income na sarili.Later on mahirap na mgbuild again ng career esp dyan sa Korea, mamiss mo ang work, maybe there are other options of child care dyan.
Totally agree. What is important is creating a balance...to not be stressed by work and leave all your workload or office stuff as soon you finish and head for home right away. And be in pleasant mood for home life to spend quality time with your family.
So true just like me it's very hard to build something from scratch though it's also good to see our kids grow up but if we think about the future iba pa rin yong may career or work tayo, not only for ourselves para din kasi sa mga anak natin..♡
Just to share my opinion, you are a smart and intelligent woman, i think you can do both your career and mothering your child with the help of your husband. Maybe, just choose the best nanny to take care for Dana and equip your house with CCTV and connect your mobile phone in your CCTV so you can monitor how your nanny do to take care Dana. God bless.
Keep your job. I'm saying this as a working mom who lives abroad. I have to juggle work and home, career and motherhood, everything.... It's not easy but doable. Keep your job not because you need money but because you need to do achieve something for yourself. Here are my reasons. 1. Working gives you a "me" time. It gives you a break from the routines of motherhood and housework. It gives you moments where you don't need to cook or clean. Rather, you do something productive for your ownself. 2. It gives you some form of financial security. Your husband might afford to raise your family single-handedly but, it helps when you have your own money. You don't know what the future holds. Let the pandemic be a lesson to you. Lots of people have lost their jobs and it helps when both are working. Firstly, there will a surplus income and secondly, if one loses his/her job, then the other could still provide for the family. There will be lesser strain financially. It gives you that reassurance that everything's going to be OK. Think of a cart that runs on two wheels. If one wheel gets a flat tire, you can still manage to pull it but you just have to redistribute the weight. If your cart functions on one wheel alone and that too, gets a flat tire, then you're in big trouble. 3. Working gives you confidence. It gives you a sense of empowerment as a woman. You know that you can stand on your own no matter what happens. A lot of housewives struggle after their divorce or their husband's death, illness or job loss. Why? Because they've left working a long time ago and they've lost the skills or confidence to get back into the workforce. Women in their 50s, late 30s and 40s with young children will find it hard to find a job. Remember, companies prefer young, energetic employees who require a low salary vs older, slower women who still need to be retrained at work and expect a higher salary. At the most, they'll end up doing menial jobs. They'll struggle to balance family life and work. 4. It's a Filipino culture to help out our relatives back home. Your husband will help them only to some degree. You can't always rely on your hubby's hard-earned money to help out your relatives. Masakit sa loob pag makikita mong parang ayaw nya nang tumulong sa pamilya mo. Nagtatrabaho sya para sa inyong mag-ina at hindi para sa buong angkan. Iba yung may sariling pera ka para ipadala sa Pinas. Puede kang magsiga-siga at sumigaw-sigaw dahil di nya naman pera ang gamit mo. Pero pag pera nya ang gamit mong pampadala, then you are at his mercy. Di mo sya puedeng away-awayin lang at baka one day, susumbatan ka nya. Isa pa,iba na yung may sariling pera. Yung in-laws mo igagalang ka at di nila iisiping palamunin ka lang. Di ka rin nila kayang away-awayin o insultuhin dahil may sarili kang pera. Harsh words but true. So yes, get back to work. Do a part-time job. Don't lose your skills or knowledge. Love yourself.
Don't feel guilty, Erica. You are allowed to have a good career and also be a good mother. Millions of women all over the world are doing it. Also, if you need to help your family in the Philippines you will not have to feel guilty relying on Ricky. Dana will be in pre-school in 2.5 years, it will go by fast.
Sayang naman yong career if she quits.. its not about the money but building your self worth..Now adays husband and wife should work hand in hand for the family.. I was a working mom too till my kids graduated from college I resigned right after
I beg to disagree, being a mother gives you self worth. Being a mother and handling a household is not easy and is a whole level of different identity. If 'financially independent' is the matter, then I understand, but being a mother is worthy in it's own. That's why a lot of housewives feel down, because it's not easy. But being a mother is a noble and worthy identity. I don't know why people think it's not worthy.
Nah, a wife doesn’t need to give up her career in order to fulfill her role as a mom. Just like other comments here, she can ask a relative from PH to babysit her child. I mean she put a lot of efforts in finishing her studies and landing her job. And it looks like she enjoyed her work too. Its not about money everytime but the fulfilment of being a career woman can give to someone. It will be really sad to give up your career now that you’re a mom.
Job will always be there. Time, being there as a mom especially at the child formative years, can never replay/rewind. You are both good parents to Dana.❤
I disagree. If jobs will always be there, then how come there are lots of unemployed graduates in the Philippines? There at lots of qualified people who can't seem to find a job. Strike while the iron is hot. Work while you can and when the opportunities are still present.
Erica, you might want to consider home- based jobs or be creative to think other sources of income while being there physically rearing Dana. Woman power! 💪💡 lots of love from Ph❤
I like both of you, especially you, Erica with your disposition like that of Son Ye Jin, cute, very cheerful and full of laughter while your husband is like Hyun Bin, handsome and considerate.
Get someone from the phils your relatives/ parents a tourist visa, you will feel comfortable leaving your daughter with them. Unlike hiring someone or leaving Dana to a daycare you will be constantly worried whats going on with Dana.
yes it is much easier from the Phils., like relatives what is Important right now is for you financially stable independent you can save for Dana's future too. Also it is important para sa sarili mo na magka save dahil hindi natin alam ang panahon alam mona ang ksabihan na walang forever kmuha ka ng nvestment sa Phil. o khit saan pangalan mo para kung ano man hindi ka umuwing luhaan na dapat meron ka sa sarili mo.
That's the hardest part when you go back to work after a maternity. Here in UK we have 9 months maternity and you can extend to 1 year. We manage to ask our employer to have a flexibility of hours. I did cut down my hours into part time as I really wanted to be hands on with our children.I ask my mum to come here and help me out while me and my husband at work. It's nice to go back to work to keep my sanity as well. My children is now 9 and 11. Looking back I'm glad that I work and the same manage to take care of our children it's a team work.Just ask God for discernment both of will be fine. Good luck whatever decision you will make Erica.
I was a working mother before. Am now retired . It was really difficult to be a working mom but i chose to work not only for economic reason but to grow as a person. Erica you're right when you say u love the recognition & the credit when u accomplish something. That's very true & its part of your growth as a person that nobody can give. It's your very own fulfillment as a person. Its the physiological needs of an individual that has to be satisfied b4 anything else. I didn't regret keeping my job then and now that am old & my children living their own lives now i feel that i have made the right decision. Only u can finally decide because its your life. There are plenty options on how your child shd be taken cared of. I love your family & how you live your lives. God bless you always
Teamwork Dreamwork that's what i observe as a very supported Papa n Mama to acute Baby Girl Dana likes to eat new food. Take care as Pop's n Mom's care's for u so much! love u Baby Dana!***
I think quit your job is best to do or deside right now because you wont missed the moment growing your child because 0 months to 7 years old is very important to be with her but if you cant sustain the things with out work then i think you should not quit your job but i think your partner can understand that because being mom and working so much stressful and tiring but for my suggestion as a friend this time try to focus to your baby because anytime you can find job God bless
Annyeong. I started watching your videos for days and it was great to see how much you respect and show love to each other. Erica, please do not lose your job because it was hard to find a better job with kind co-workers. It helps you a lot if you are both financially stable. Being a good husband, surely Rick will help you out along the way. God bless your family. Be proud to be a multi-tasker mom just like me. 🤣 You resemblance my sister who are in Sweden with her baby and husband. Thanks for the joys you bring in this vlog. Kasamhamnida 🤗❤❤❤
Erica is both - a good mother and a good wife. Erica, being a good daughter and sibling to her family, has always been helping her family in the Philippines. I think most Filipinos who worked overseas has this mindset that by giving up their careers, is a difficult decision and a lot of consideration has to be weighed in. Ricky's assurance and support to Erica regardless of her career decision is a big help. Though I don't want to impose my belief, I believe that resigning from the job isn't really that bad. Just use the time to reinvent, be creative and use her skills as a sales person into online business. That way, Erica can earn still even being a stay at home mom. In fact, Erica already did by starting a TH-cam channel last year. Just maintain the momentum. As for Erica, being a wife and a mother is a blessing. Whether she becomes successful as a sales woman (by climbing to the business / social ladder) or become a full-time mom and a stay at home wife - both deserves the same respect. Being a stay at home mom doesn't make Erica less of a person. Some may say being a mom is the most difficult job in the world but also the most fulfilling. Sometimes we make sacrifices for the people we love. Erica is already are an empowered woman.
Find a work from home job, Erika. I do not believe in leaving the baby to a stranger. It is very risky. If you love the challenges of your job, then get someone of your relatives from home 5o take care of Dana, your Mother, perhaps, or an Auntmor cousin. Someone responsible and sensible from your family. You can give her a salary, which kung mapag usapan ng mabu5i, mas mababa pa kaysa sweldo na ibibigay nya sa Korean nanny. Praktikal na suggestion lang po.
Hi Ricky and Erica! Just want to share you my journey of being a career mom. I was working and on my first year taking law degree when I got married. I got pregnant with my first born, I stopped for one semester with my studies but I never stopped working. I went back to university and finished my law course and at the same time working. I had my second child thereafter. I lost count of how many yayas I had. May pasaway, may abusado, may nagtagal din naman who had to leave because she was getting married. Looking back, I don't know how I was able to cope. Both of my children are bachelor degree and master degree holder, acquired them here in the UK when we moved more than a decade ago. It's a sense of fulfillment knowing that you make yourself grow as a person and at the same time you are rearing your children. I'm a few years nearing to retirement. I was thinking of what to start before retirement because I don't want to be idle not doing anything. My son suggested that I should do vlogging. He bought all the equipment I needed and yes I started just last month. My dear Erica, decide what is best for you and Dana.
I am mother too with 3 children i did not give up my csreer I work in government i hired yayas for 3 children a d continue w0rking until my 3 children are now proffesionals and i retire at the age of 63 yrs old but i served 36 yrs in service so continue your your work Erica sayang din ung work mo
Watching you from London I started following you two months ago, watched all your old vlogs and always looking forward for next, thanks for this new one. God bless you all, hugs and kisses to lovely Dana
Hi Erica, I support whatever decision you's guys will make and most of you...but for me I'll opt that you stay in your job, for that is also a treasure that you have planned and worked out, and in the process it will be a place for you to grow more as a person in professional arena being in a different setting. I believe with the support of your goody and kind husband Ricky, things will be fine. You are great in looking after your family and that is both a talent and a gift. Besides you are still young. Your family will be both proud of you and you will set a good role to others to value things they have worked so hard. Maybe for now, while Dana is little, if possible to extend your leave will be great. Godbless and such a joy to see your family. Keep safe!😍
Agree. Your knowledge and capability to cope with the demands of home life and workplace can be balanced. You and Ricky can make adjustments as to setting up a well-balanced schedule.
It’s also good to take care of Dana. Kids grow so quickly. You just need 2 days to give you a break. I did it, and I’m so bonded with my daughter. I’m back working full time after 11 years. I was there with her attending school activities too.
"Ricky is so sweet and a very supportive husband to Erica.I admired both of you for sharing your ideas about problems like that.Being a mother is not an easy job,but I guess it is the most rewarding and fulfilling one above all the jobs in this world.Kudos to all the lovely,hardworking and caring mother's out there.!"
Ricky said your Boss seems to like you. He understands your dilemna and is supportive of whatever your decision is. I can see that Dana is growing up to be an intelligent baby. That is because you are both raising her well. I would go with Ricky's suggestion of leave extention if that is possible. If not, quit your job. If you are good, you can always build a new carèer. Dana needs you more while growing up. Nobody can replace what you can do with your kid. Pray for right discernment. God bless!!!
A very though decision indeed.Its so inspiring to know that Ricky is so supportive of Erica on whatever decision she may come up with in the future.Keep it up and may God always bless your family.❤
This is the time to shine Erika,your very young...d naman ibig sabihin na pag ngtrabaho ka ulit is,mawawala na ang good mother image mo...keep up Erica n godbless your family...😘
You can keep both, I'm working, also a student and a mom. So far so good I am still doing fine. Struggle is real so far but I love being financially capable of buying things we need.
I am mother of 2 girls and i'am also a working mom til now but i don't feel like i need to give up my career for them instead i make them as my inspiration to work hard for them to have good life and future as well....so i think just my personal opinion i'm not less of a good mother because i choose to work /pursue my own career at the same time because the intention i have is also for their good future and for my growth as well as woman and as a person....
I quit my stable job, no regret at all😁. I been a full time mom for almost 7yrs to our only son. It was a hard decision, we came a lot of struggles financially but later on was able to cope up because i got also my own small business at the same time while taking care of my son. It was very hard at first but worthy at the end.I see how my son grown up and his happiness that Im around even though he cant see his dad often because he is an ofw. It is priceless😊. As a woman even we are at home never forget to take care and love ourselves. But still, choose what is the best for your family either working or stay at home. Always be happy👪😀
Hi, Ricky and Erica, I'm so happy to see you both, a good relationship being a husband and wife, hope And pray that you can have a good and right decision for your family. God Bless always
You dont have to get a nanny from Philippines, you can get it there in Korea, why is Philippines a land of Nannies? Like you are picking a fruit in a guava tree? Merlina Royeras???
It's not allowed for Koreans to hire Filipino nannies or house helpers, that's why most nannies there are Chinese nationals. Mostly they are women who are just fond of taking care of kids. Most Koreans leave their children in a day care center instead of hiring nannies
Either one chooses to be a stay at home mom or working mom, one will have to face a lot of challenges. Both has its own has ups and downs. I have tried both and I would have to say as long as you are happy with the choice you make, there will be no regrets. Hope you can find the balance that works best for the whole fam! 💕
I actually like this kind of discussion bcos yes, self-growth is important for everyone and also taking care of the baby personally.. I am truly excited about what your decision is Erika. :)
You are at your best when you take care of Dana and your home. It is God's design for moms to take care of the kids and your hubby, and keep the house in order. ❤ you can work though-homebase😊
Back to work if you ask me😁 precisely we went to college to have a career. Your husband anyway is so supportive of your decision. Iba pa rin ang may sarili kang kinikita ( lalo na magkaiba customs natin sa kanila) If you want to buy something for yourself or send money to your family in the Phils, hinde ka hingi ng hingi sa husband mo. Mahihiya ka din and in the end mag self pity ka. Going back to work does not make you less as a mom. About Dana, there will be always a solution od options. Temporarily, 🤞you can ask your mother-in-law, then when everything will be back to normal, you can ask your mom to visit ☺️. That’s one option. Another is you can bring Dana to a daycare center from 9-5 or when you’re both done with your work. May kotse naman kayo kaya you can bring Dana to the daycare before going to work. 😁 Di na uso ang mother eh dapat sa bahay lang para mag alaga , magluto etc 🤣😂
I love seeing how you take good care of Dana po, iba talaga kasi kapag yung mother mismo yung mag aalaga. God bless you po may God will continue to guide your decisions po. //don't skip ads 💖
Do what makes you happy. My wife work when our twins were little because I couldn’t find work at that time.Now she is sick with terminal cancer and regrets not spending enough time with our children when they were young . You have a very supportive husband. God will bless you.
So nice of you both to share your "supposedly" private conversation with us and by sharing each other's honest opinions when it comes to handling finances.
Erica, if I were you don’t RESIGN; 1. You have a good position into the company you are working in which is not easy to build relationship and have good teamwork. 2. As a woman we need to have a back up and also personally I feel my relationship with my children are healthier if I am working. 3. Find alternative to find a babysitter for Dana. Here in Singapore 🇸🇬 if both husband and wife working there’s a subsidised for childcare expenses I don’t know in Korea. 4. You are young and this is the time you need to build your financial stability for your child and future children/ family. 5. But if you are contented and happy being a housewife and able to sacrifice also is good. I’m sure whatever decisions you both make still the BEST coz I could tell that you both work hand in hand together!! All the best Dana is also very smart baby I’m sure in a few more years there’s more expenses for her education and so on. As a Mom myself of a 3 boys to have that extra income is VERY important coz of the demands of their extra curricular activities!!!
There are a lot of digital jobs available now where it allows you to work remotely. I've been a remote worker for three years already. I understand the self worth that you are talking about because you know work itself is a reward to ourself. It gives us a sense of accomplishment. I can have both worlds by doing digital jobs. Anyway, God bless on whatever decision you make for you and your family.
You do you Mommy Erica. If you would ask me.. Keep your job. There's a lot of mothers out there that keeps their career and still be a great mom. Kung kaya nila kaya mo rin. Fighting!
KOREK ka kabayan...mabuti yung mga babae na hindi lang umaasa sa kanilang husband.at saka sayang din ang pinag aralan kung hindi mo na magagamit pa.pwede rin mag invite ka nlang ng pamilya mo sa PINAS as tourist para taga Alaga muna kay DANA.yan kung allowed ba jan na maka stay ng mas matagal.
Keep your job, don't quit,and having a baby is a blessing, you have very supportive loving husband,and you sweet caring wife, you are both intelligent and noted you have a smooth marital relay always having open communication to each other and you can come up with a good results considering pros and cons ,as to baby's care/baby sitting,God bless!
RICKY IS THE DREAM HUSBAND THAT EVERYONE WANTS TO HAVE. I HAVE SO MUCH RESPECT FOR THIS MAN. VERY HUMBLE AND ALSO ERICA. SHE'S VERY VERY LUCKY TO MARRY A MAN LIKE RICKY. ALL I CAN SAY IS "SANA ALL!" 😅❤
Agree with you in fact I always encourage my husband to watch their videos hoping to motivate him or get influenced by Ricky.... Hahahaha... as we know that we can't change a person but maybe if we witness anyone perhaps we can be influenced to do the same.. Just hoping... Hehehe..both Ricky and Erica looks smart, I would say, swak na swak talaga sila sa isa't isa.. Hehehe
@@LawasFamilyVlog i guess its how was ricky raised by his parents. If your parents are good then so are you. Just like ricky he grew with respect and humble. with a good, kind and genuine heart.
Hi Erica! What you feel right now is normal. And what ever you feel and think is best for your family is the right decision. Before I became a mother, I work for 9 years to a job I loved but as soon I get pregnant I told me husband that I what to be a full time Mom. I choose my kids than my beloved work and our dream to save for our own house because of my experiences as a child. My father is working abroad and my mother is businesswoman. I’m always with different nannies. That experience had a bad impact on me and I don’t want my kids to have that experience. I don’t regret staying home full time for almost 4 years and change my career. Because of it I know my kids better and be able to give their individual needs. Now, my kids is in virtual school and me working part time.
When I become a mother someday I want to be with my kids every moment. I don't want another woman to raise them if I have a choice. Lots of my friends want to be with their kids instead of working but they struggle financially. Erica Dana is worth more than any achievements. I hope you reconsider. You are a loving and caring mom. I admire you for that. Dana needs you.
It all comes down to budget. Some must work to be able to survive. But if they have to pay the nanny, may as well not work and just take care of the kid. Why not look for relatives willng to take care then give them decent pay not as much as ordinary nanny?
Yes its difficult to take care a baby but it is very rewarding. You have to talk to the baby so she can learn to talk early. If Ricky is a good provider, Momshie Erica can stop working maybe until she's 2 or 3 years old, then you can return to work by then.
Ricky is a wonderful man. How amazing that he asked his wife if she wants to go back to work. He considers how she felt about it rather than manipulate a pressured decision. God bless your family x
Just a cent cost of advice. Dana is in the early stage of growth & development esp the first 2 years of life. Everything is fast developing in her - the foundation. Erica is still young and will have more future opportunities based on her academic background as well as her already accumulated work experience. In the past it was hard for her to find a job bec she was just starting her portfolio. Dana will only pass through ONCE in one of the most important foundational phase of her life. It is really a matter of what is important in life in the long run that would make up your decision.
As a mother who has 3 boys, the conclusion is : Whatever your decision is, it doesn't make you less of a good mother. So take that out in consideration.❤️
I agree! Same as your situation as mine but unfortunately i need to resigned after 3 years I gave birth to my 3rd boy because of Big C...and in God’s graces I really understand what His plan for me and my family..So, Erika, whatever decision you may have i think it will make easier for u because Ricky is very supportive 🥰 Goodluck💖
For me I'm a mom but working overseas was a hard but I need to coz I'm a single mom.Just lucky to have a sister by my side now who taking care of my son.I was so proud to seen both of you talking about this and Ricky is a good husband to be this open and considerate to Erica's career.God bless your family.
-The formative years are the most important milestone of a child's life... it forms a childs character and focus in life and mommy should be there. - I think you should also take into consideration the situation of Covid. You will come home to your baby everyday exposed from the outside world and if Nanny is Not Stay in, then baby can also be exposed. Nice video though! 😊
I was a stayed home Mum to our 2 boys my husband was a good provider though we have to watched our outgoing bills we've managed 1 wage coming in ..then,when my boys started going to school full time i went back to work part time happy that i did looked after them 👍.anyway,at the end of the day its up to you Erica what you've like to do..good luck!
that was a decision that would covers a lot, financially, physically, emotionally. i myself a mother of three had sacrificed for my kids. when the 2nd child came i decided to go full time because i dont want to miss the formative years of my kids that i could impart them instead of the yaya...which i didn't regretted because when they become more matured, i went back to work force again..anyway i am in construction. But the emotional, physical and spiritual bond i built up with them could never be replaced as i could hear them talking about anecdotes of their younger years with me was detailed in their memory and the values i imparted. They could even remember the song i used to sing them before sleeping, the smallest detail that you couldnt just "insert" in their memory as their mom specially on their most feared moments that a mom should be at their side.
I agree so much with you.With COVID you would be bringing in an outsider to your home and you don’t even know what kind of exposure she had with so many different people. The young years are very important in a child’s life. It’s best if you were there instead of a stranger raising her. When she starts school then you can go back to the workforce. You can’t put a price on the time that you will invest in Dana’s life. She is so precious.
YOU ARE RIGHT in saying that it is not about the money. It won't make you less of a mother if go back to work. Thinking about your self worth and growth is not being selfish either. A person almost always yearns for that sense of fullfillment that makes one happy. REMEMBER THAT WE CAN ONLY GIVE WHAT WE HAVE. Maybe you can start off by asking your boss if you can worK from home temporarily, then you can take it from there. It will be challenging at the beginning, but having seen the both of you in your vlogs...i think it will work out. It will also make you appreciate each other more. I wish you both well.
As a mom, I would rather take care of my own child rather than a nanny. I find it hard to trust another person to look after my child. Especially now a days we hear that some children got abuse from their nannies. Its better to be safe than sorry.
We mothers all had that dilemna after our children are a few months old. As much as you love being a full time mom and it’s rewarding, it is also very very tiring bec you end up doing housework, cook, clean, laundry, in between baby naps!! It is not about money at all, for your own sanity and emotional & mental well being, you also need other adult interaction besides your supportive & loving hubby. If it is possible perhaps work part time instead. or the better option, hire a relative backhome till Dana goes to Daycare to be your nanny for a much lower salary bec you’ll be providing room and food too. This way you are helping that person and same time you have confidence that Dana is atleast safer. God bless your plans and decisions Tengkers.
Hi Erika.. I'm crying now seeing this. My life unfolded before my eyes because that's been my struggle too. But the more for you because you are not in the Philippines.. I can feel you.. just hold tight. This moment will pass. The most important thing is Dana. When she is in the right age to be left in kindergarten school that's the time for you to restart. Or if you can hire a caregiver from Philippines like for 2 years only then you can go back to work in peace... financially indeed it's stressful..I hope you decide well 🙏 😊 sending virtual hugs
Thats stressful and there's no such thing as superman or superwoman. She should do what's best for her and her family, not what's best for someone else just so she looks like a supermom to some fan.
i wish im stay home mom but here in.US 1 household income isnt enough to pay bills so i have to work. Afterall its all up to parents how to raise their kids. And all the hardwork we do is to prepare their better education. Im still thankful how many filipino parents left the country to provide better future. I can still go home after work make dinner cuddle my husband read bedtime stories and let my kids know how much they're love. I have a daughter I want to be a good example working mom doesn't make you less.
Hi Erica and Ricky, so nice that see you talking about decisions together. @Erica, you have to look after yourself too and if it is going back to work, then go for it. Things will work out. You are lucky to have a very supportive husband, Ricky. Anyway, I wish you both the best of luck! Hugs to Dana🥰🤗
Your Job is important po yet being a mother is also hard . But everything will work at what God's plan for your family. You have them throught out the years .
I hope you don’t work until she is at least 18 months because every minute counts. The changes in the baby are so quick and you might regret that you will miss those moments. Believe me, when I had my first baby, I could not leave her, I get so emotional. I did not finish college because I had the baby but it is all worth it. I started my career when I was 40 yrs old. Well maybe you can work at home part time. Pray for it, I know The Lord will guide you. Always remember that God always provide.
Madami pang pagkakataon na maka hanap ng trabaho.pero ang moment at bonding at oras at memories na maibigay mo sa anak mo ay hindi na ma uulit..minsan lang sila maging bata..Ang trabaho anjan lang yan...hanggat anjan ang asawa mo na suportado ka walang masama maging fulltime mother...Pag malaki na ang anak hanap ng work ulit.
I am happy to see you discussing an impt subject that really needs the opinion of your partner. In the end, it will be Erica's decision but at least she has Ricky at her back. Erica, you are youbg and it os undèrstandable that you want to continue with your career for your parsonal development. If you are here in Pinas, madaling iresolve yan. But you can try recruiting from here. Mahirap kasi ipagkatiwala sa hindi mo kilala talaga si Dana. Medyo mahirap maging working mom. But you can always try....go back to work, hire a good nanny. After working for a few months, you can arrive at a better arrangemnt.
Whatever you decide on Erica, Ricky will be there to support you. I say go back to work and see how you feel because you really can’t gauge it unless you are going through the motions of juggling work and motherhood. Kiss the little peanut for me❤️love from your NJ mom.
It looks like you enjoyed the job that you have Erica and the self growth that you experienced. That is priceless. It is worth to keep it. At the same time, I do understand how you must have felt leaving Dana when you need to go back to working already. I hope you will be able to make the decision about this dilemma. There is no right or wrong decision actually. Do what what makes you happy and fulfilling for you. ❤️
![Tengkers World [PHIL-KOR Family]](http://yt3.ggpht.com/e6iyzR4tSPmdI3Cfbum_X09Ugn9RnNCqbdKYWcx5HNzSlAwvIYg64ZaV1Tbwg78CqJKRqKKr4w=s48-c-k-c0x00ffffff-no-rj)
![[ALL ABOUT PINAY #2] WHY KOREAN THINKS FILIPINAS ARE CUTE AND FUN? 🇵🇭🇰🇷](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/u7LpcsU8Gsk/mqdefault.jpg)
![[ALL ABOUT PINAY #2] WHY KOREAN THINKS FILIPINAS ARE CUTE AND FUN? 🇵🇭🇰🇷](/img/tr.png)
![[ALL ABOUT PINAYS #42] “Do you regret marrying Filipina?” An Interview with Korean Husband](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/ga1tx1Dz3Kc/mqdefault.jpg)
![[ALL ABOUT PINAYS #24] Filipina Wife Finds a Hidden Birthday Gift in the Kitchen... ㅣEpic Reaction](/img/n.gif)
“Whatever decision you make, it doesn’t make you less of a good mother” 👍👍
Thats true
thank you Kuya Riicky for being supportive to our fellow kababayan Ate Erica. Dana and Ate Erica is lucky for having you.
True its also exciting as a working mom like me you always feel excited everytime you go home to see your baby
True.
if easy only can.go in korea sir rick even not like that big salary u gave me as.can i help u to nanny of danna its ok for me... money easy can see but ur nice and good attitude is so hard to find💜💜💜 and mam erica also have a good haert saranghae po
Keep your job. Your husband is so supportive and you make a great team. It’s so hard to find job you actually like. Things will work out 😊
Agree...mas maganda talaga na may trabaho tayo mga babae.dito sa country namin.until 3yrs. Old ang bata bago ka pa allowed bumalik sa work.at walang sino mang employer na magtanggal sa iyo.
Yes keep your job....
Word of advise,it would be nice if you can ask for another 6 mos leave,by then after 6 mos you might be able to find a solution as to who will care for Dana,how about if you pay someone in the Phils to come every 6 mos to care for Dana,for instance your mom or sister or cousin,of course you pay them,you do this for 2 yrs coz after this Dana will be ready for pre school.It is important you work so that you have your own income,self confidence and self esteem,these days it is not enough that only one partner works,you need 2 income.Just make sure only someone you trust takes care of Dana.
I've work in Korea for 10years and the law that time once you've pass the legitimacy of citizenship in Korea they can easily found a job specially if you are skill workers ,while her baby will never get back the time at least for 2 years she must be hands on Dana then she can go back to work
Keep your Job girl,mas maganda kong may trabaho ka, para di ka lang aasa sa asawa mo,kong meron naman ibang option na may magbantay kay Danna. That decision is crucial girl.
Don't quit your job.. you should have a fall back.. you will never know the future.. things will pass by.. 😊🤗
I partly agree. You also want to have your own income no matter how small rather than entirely depending on your husband.
I agree with both ladies. You want to have your own income. You don't want to be fully dependant to your husband. You never know the future. Your income will be your safety net.
@@poheijo It depends on priorities. If the amount of pay you get is the same or almost the same as what you pay nanny, then it's better that you stay home to keep that close relationship with the kid. And of course it also depends on family income like how much your husband earns. Some husbands only earn barely to sustain the family needs and the wife's income even if part time pay helps a lot.
I agree
@@mark72141 I think in Korea, they got day care centers from babies- toddlers until they go to proper school. Nowadays, most households need 2 incomes. With the unpredictable time and constant economic changes, it's better to have 2 incomes. With parents such as Erica and Ricky, I think their kid will not lack love despite their being working parents. But, if Ricky's income can sustain the well being of his family very well, why not?
My husband and I are both chem engrs. Although he’s earning more more than I am earning when my two kids were growing, I still continue to work in a plant. Time came when it’s hard to find a yaya and wouldnt know which of us will not go to work for the day. So, I decided to quit and just be a full time mom. At first I enjoyed but after a year I felt so bored and depressed. There is no agenda for the day. After praying so hard for a job, luckily, a high school near our home needed a science teacher. This is my 18th year of teaching.
This kind of conversation is very relevant as there are many factors to be considered. Glad that Daddy Ricky's very understanding and supportive of Mommy Erica's concerns. 😊
Hi Erica, even I am the sole bread winner of the family, letting my wife have a job is a sense of security for her even I can provide to whatever the family needs. I can see that way as we are reaching our retirement age and our kids are settling down on their own. Full time house work is hard as I experience it for 4 yrs when we went back to the Phil. But whatever decision you make is a treasure to remember and keep.
I just would like to ask you Erica, what was your purpose of having a baby?
@@edinasosing1436 It's God's purpose and commands us to increase and multiply.
@@edinasosing1436 What's the purpose of your question? I wonder then if you just want to feed your curiusity? Anyway, I believe in MYOB (Mind Your Own Business) but then I guess you have more time to mind other business too. 🤔
Erica don’t feel guilty about it, it’s important that you have a career also. It does not make you less of a mother. Iba pa rin me work ka at me income na sarili.Later on mahirap na mgbuild again ng career esp dyan sa Korea, mamiss mo ang work, maybe there are other options of child care dyan.
Totally agree. What is important is creating a balance...to not be stressed by work and leave all your workload or office stuff as soon you finish and head for home right away. And be in pleasant mood for home life to spend quality time with your family.
So true just like me it's very hard to build something from scratch though it's also good to see our kids grow up but if we think about the future iba pa rin yong may career or work tayo, not only for ourselves para din kasi sa mga anak natin..♡
Just to share my opinion, you are a smart and intelligent woman, i think you can do both your career and mothering your child with the help of your husband. Maybe, just choose the best nanny to take care for Dana and equip your house with CCTV and connect your mobile phone in your CCTV so you can monitor how your nanny do to take care Dana. God bless.
Keep your job. I'm saying this as a working mom who lives abroad. I have to juggle work and home, career and motherhood, everything.... It's not easy but doable. Keep your job not because you need money but because you need to do achieve something for yourself. Here are my reasons.
1. Working gives you a "me" time. It gives you a break from the routines of motherhood and housework. It gives you moments where you don't need to cook or clean. Rather, you do something productive for your ownself.
2. It gives you some form of financial security. Your husband might afford to raise your family single-handedly but, it helps when you have your own money. You don't know what the future holds. Let the pandemic be a lesson to you. Lots of people have lost their jobs and it helps when both are working. Firstly, there will a surplus income and secondly, if one loses his/her job, then the other could still provide for the family. There will be lesser strain financially. It gives you that reassurance that everything's going to be OK. Think of a cart that runs on two wheels. If one wheel gets a flat tire, you can still manage to pull it but you just have to redistribute the weight. If your cart functions on one wheel alone and that too, gets a flat tire, then you're in big trouble.
3. Working gives you confidence. It gives you a sense of empowerment as a woman. You know that you can stand on your own no matter what happens. A lot of housewives struggle after their divorce or their husband's death, illness or job loss. Why? Because they've left working a long time ago and they've lost the skills or confidence to get back into the workforce. Women in their 50s, late 30s and 40s with young children will find it hard to find a job. Remember, companies prefer young, energetic employees who require a low salary vs older, slower women who still need to be retrained at work and expect a higher salary. At the most, they'll end up doing menial jobs. They'll struggle to balance family life and work.
4. It's a Filipino culture to help out our relatives back home. Your husband will help them only to some degree. You can't always rely on your hubby's hard-earned money to help out your relatives. Masakit sa loob pag makikita mong parang ayaw nya nang tumulong sa pamilya mo. Nagtatrabaho sya para sa inyong mag-ina at hindi para sa buong angkan. Iba yung may sariling pera ka para ipadala sa Pinas. Puede kang magsiga-siga at sumigaw-sigaw dahil di nya naman pera ang gamit mo. Pero pag pera nya ang gamit mong pampadala, then you are at his mercy. Di mo sya puedeng away-awayin lang at baka one day, susumbatan ka nya. Isa pa,iba na yung may sariling pera. Yung in-laws mo igagalang ka at di nila iisiping palamunin ka lang. Di ka rin nila kayang away-awayin o insultuhin dahil may sarili kang pera. Harsh words but true.
So yes, get back to work. Do a part-time job. Don't lose your skills or knowledge. Love yourself.
Don't feel guilty, Erica. You are allowed to have a good career and also be a good mother. Millions of women all over the world are doing it. Also, if you need to help your family in the Philippines you will not have to feel guilty relying on Ricky. Dana will be in pre-school in 2.5 years, it will go by fast.
Sayang naman yong career if she quits.. its not about the money but building your self worth..Now adays husband and wife should work hand in hand for the family.. I was a working mom too till my kids graduated from college I resigned right after
I totally agree, its building your self worth.
I beg to disagree, being a mother gives you self worth. Being a mother and handling a household is not easy and is a whole level of different identity. If 'financially independent' is the matter, then I understand, but being a mother is worthy in it's own. That's why a lot of housewives feel down, because it's not easy. But being a mother is a noble and worthy identity. I don't know why people think it's not worthy.
Nah, a wife doesn’t need to give up her career in order to fulfill her role as a mom. Just like other comments here, she can ask a relative from PH to babysit her child. I mean she put a lot of efforts in finishing her studies and landing her job. And it looks like she enjoyed her work too. Its not about money everytime but the fulfilment of being a career woman can give to someone. It will be really sad to give up your career now that you’re a mom.
A woman before she is a wife & a mother, she is herself. A woman should be financially independent.
I agree
I agree.
I agree.
Ricky is right. Ricky is a responsible husband. Erica should listen to his husband for the common good. Family first and you won't regret it Erica..
Job will always be there. Time, being there as a mom especially at the child formative years, can never replay/rewind. You are both good parents to Dana.❤
I disagree. If jobs will always be there, then how come there are lots of unemployed graduates in the Philippines? There at lots of qualified people who can't seem to find a job. Strike while the iron is hot. Work while you can and when the opportunities are still present.
Erica, you might want to consider home- based jobs or be creative to think other sources of income while being there physically rearing Dana. Woman power! 💪💡
lots of love from Ph❤
I like both of you, especially you, Erica with your disposition like that of Son Ye Jin, cute, very cheerful and full of laughter while your husband is like Hyun Bin, handsome and considerate.
Very responsible couple... I like you guys. Ricky was so respectful. Good Christian... God bless your family Ricky and Erica. Watching from Masbate!
Get someone from the phils your relatives/ parents a tourist visa, you will feel comfortable leaving your daughter with them. Unlike hiring someone or leaving Dana to a daycare you will be constantly worried whats going on with Dana.
yes it is much easier from the Phils., like relatives what is Important right now is for you financially stable independent you can save for Dana's future too. Also it is important para sa sarili mo na magka save dahil hindi natin alam ang panahon alam mona ang ksabihan na walang forever kmuha ka ng nvestment sa Phil. o khit saan pangalan mo para kung ano man hindi ka umuwing luhaan na dapat meron ka sa sarili mo.
That's the hardest part when you go back to work after a maternity. Here in UK we have 9 months maternity and you can extend to 1 year. We manage to ask our employer to have a flexibility of hours. I did cut down my hours into part time as I really wanted to be hands on with our children.I ask my mum to come here and help me out while me and my husband at work. It's nice to go back to work to keep my sanity as well. My children is now 9 and 11. Looking back I'm glad that I work and the same manage to take care of our children it's a team work.Just ask God for discernment both of will be fine. Good luck whatever decision you will make Erica.
I was a working mother before. Am now retired . It was really difficult to be a working mom but i chose to work not only for economic reason but to grow as a person. Erica you're right when you say u love the recognition & the credit when u accomplish something. That's very true & its part of your growth as a person that nobody can give. It's your very own fulfillment as a person. Its the physiological needs of an individual that has to be satisfied b4 anything else.
I didn't regret keeping my job then and now that am old & my children living their own lives now i feel that i have made the right decision. Only u can finally decide because its your life.
There are plenty options on how your child shd be taken cared of.
I love your family & how you live your lives. God bless you always
Teamwork Dreamwork that's what i observe as a very supported Papa n Mama to acute Baby Girl Dana likes to eat new food. Take care as Pop's n Mom's care's for u so much! love u Baby Dana!***
You can hire one of your relatives in Pinas as Nanny! You have stable job, strike while the iron is hot for the future of your baby.
i agree
i agree also.
I agree too
Sabi ko nga ako nalang yaya kahit di korean standard ang salary pwd na sa akin hahahha
Yes agree,get a helper fr pinas,and you both can afford nman,
I think quit your job is best to do or deside right now because you wont missed the moment growing your child because 0 months to 7 years old is very important to be with her but if you cant sustain the things with out work then i think you should not quit your job but i think your partner can understand that because being mom and working so much stressful and tiring but for my suggestion as a friend this time try to focus to your baby because anytime you can find job God bless
It's hard to go back to the job market once you quit and go back after 3 to 5 years from now... and times are uncertain right now.
Annyeong. I started watching your videos for days and it was great to see how much you respect and show love to each other. Erica, please do not lose your job because it was hard to find a better job with kind co-workers. It helps you a lot if you are both financially stable. Being a good husband, surely Rick will help you out along the way. God bless your family. Be proud to be a multi-tasker mom just like me. 🤣 You resemblance my sister who are in Sweden with her baby and husband. Thanks for the joys you bring in this vlog. Kasamhamnida 🤗❤❤❤
Erica is both - a good mother and a good wife. Erica, being a good daughter and sibling to her family, has always been helping her family in the Philippines. I think most Filipinos who worked overseas has this mindset that by giving up their careers, is a difficult decision and a lot of consideration has to be weighed in. Ricky's assurance and support to Erica regardless of her career decision is a big help. Though I don't want to impose my belief, I believe that resigning from the job isn't really that bad. Just use the time to reinvent, be creative and use her skills as a sales person into online business. That way, Erica can earn still even being a stay at home mom. In fact, Erica already did by starting a TH-cam channel last year. Just maintain the momentum. As for Erica, being a wife and a mother is a blessing. Whether she becomes successful as a sales woman (by climbing to the business / social ladder) or become a full-time mom and a stay at home wife - both deserves the same respect. Being a stay at home mom doesn't make Erica less of a person. Some may say being a mom is the most difficult job in the world but also the most fulfilling. Sometimes we make sacrifices for the people we love. Erica is already are an empowered woman.
Find a work from home job, Erika. I do not believe in leaving the baby to a stranger. It is very risky. If you love the challenges of your job, then get someone of your relatives from home 5o take care of Dana, your Mother, perhaps, or an Auntmor cousin. Someone responsible and sensible from your family. You can give her a salary, which kung mapag usapan ng mabu5i, mas mababa pa kaysa sweldo na ibibigay nya sa Korean nanny. Praktikal na suggestion lang po.
Hi Ricky and Erica! Just want to share you my journey of being a career mom. I was working and on my first year taking law degree when I got married. I got pregnant with my first born, I stopped for one semester with my studies but I never stopped working. I went back to university and finished my law course and at the same time working. I had my second child thereafter. I lost count of how many yayas I had. May pasaway, may abusado, may nagtagal din naman who had to leave because she was getting married. Looking back, I don't know how I was able to cope. Both of my children are bachelor degree and master degree holder, acquired them here in the UK when we moved more than a decade ago. It's a sense of fulfillment knowing that you make yourself grow as a person and at the same time you are rearing your children. I'm a few years nearing to retirement. I was thinking of what to start before retirement because I don't want to be idle not doing anything. My son suggested that I should do vlogging. He bought all the equipment I needed and yes I started just last month. My dear Erica, decide what is best for you and Dana.
I am mother too with 3 children i did not give up my csreer I work in government i hired yayas for 3 children a d continue w0rking until my 3 children are now proffesionals and i retire at the age of 63 yrs old but i served 36 yrs in service so continue your your work Erica sayang din ung work mo
Watching you from London
I started following you two months ago, watched all your old vlogs and always looking forward for next, thanks for this new one. God bless you all, hugs and kisses to lovely Dana
Hi Erica, I support whatever decision you's guys will make and most of you...but for me I'll opt that you stay in your job, for that is also a treasure that you have planned and worked out, and in the process it will be a place for you to grow more as a person in professional arena being in a different setting. I believe with the support of your goody and kind husband Ricky, things will be fine. You are great in looking after your family and that is both a talent and a gift. Besides you are still young. Your family will be both proud of you and you will set a good role to others to value things they have worked so hard. Maybe for now, while Dana is little, if possible to extend your leave will be great.
Godbless and such a joy to see your family. Keep safe!😍
erica don't quit,the world is changing.just find a best way.
Correct!
Agree. Your knowledge and capability to cope with the demands of home life and workplace can be balanced. You and Ricky can make adjustments as to setting up a well-balanced schedule.
agree🙌
true and correct!!!
It’s also good to take care of Dana. Kids grow so quickly. You just need 2 days to give you a break. I did it, and I’m so bonded with my daughter. I’m back working full time after 11 years. I was there with her attending school activities too.
"Ricky is so sweet and a very supportive husband to Erica.I admired both of you for sharing your ideas about problems like that.Being a mother is not an easy job,but I guess it is the most rewarding and fulfilling one above all the jobs in this world.Kudos to all the lovely,hardworking and caring mother's out there.!"
Ricky said your Boss seems to like you. He understands your dilemna and is supportive of whatever your decision is. I can see that Dana is growing up to be an intelligent baby. That is because you are both raising her well. I would go with Ricky's suggestion of leave extention if that is possible. If not, quit your job. If you are good, you can always build a new carèer. Dana needs you more while growing up. Nobody can replace what you can do with your kid. Pray for right discernment. God bless!!!
A very though decision indeed.Its so inspiring to know that Ricky is so supportive of Erica on whatever decision she may come up with in the future.Keep it up and may God always bless your family.❤
Yup and they grow UP so fast...
This is the time to shine Erika,your very young...d naman ibig sabihin na pag ngtrabaho ka ulit is,mawawala na ang good mother image mo...keep up Erica n godbless your family...😘
This is the reason why their relationship works...honest and sincere COMMUNICATION...
You can keep both, I'm working, also a student and a mom. So far so good I am still doing fine. Struggle is real so far but I love being financially capable of buying things we need.
I am mother of 2 girls and i'am also a working mom til now but i don't feel like i need to give up my career for them instead i make them as my inspiration to work hard for them to have good life and future as well....so i think just my personal opinion i'm not less of a good mother because i choose to work /pursue my own career at the same time because the intention i have is also for their good future and for my growth as well as woman and as a person....
i barely started watching ur channel. n i appreciate HOW NICE n MATURE ricky iis. BOTH of u r very lucky to have each other... CONGRATULATIONS...
I quit my stable job, no regret at all😁. I been a full time mom for almost 7yrs to our only son. It was a hard decision, we came a lot of struggles financially but later on was able to cope up because i got also my own small business at the same time while taking care of my son. It was very hard at first but worthy at the end.I see how my son grown up and his happiness that Im around even though he cant see his dad often because he is an ofw. It is priceless😊. As a woman even we are at home never forget to take care and love ourselves. But still, choose what is the best for your family either working or stay at home. Always be happy👪😀
You are both loving and sweet parents to Dana. Being young parents maturity count a lot. Dana is getting more beautiful and cute.
Hi, Ricky and Erica, I'm so happy to see you both, a good relationship being a husband and wife, hope And pray that you can have a good and right decision for your family. God Bless always
I really feel blessed to have my mom living with me to take care of my son. Especially I'm a single mom so I have to work to support my child's needs.
Is it possible to get a nanny from the Phils. You have to continue working and career moves who knows...Pinoy moms are excellent in doing both ..
Get a relative from the Philippines to be the nanny.
You dont have to get a nanny from Philippines, you can get it there in Korea, why is Philippines a land of Nannies? Like you are picking a fruit in a guava tree? Merlina Royeras???
It's not allowed for Koreans to hire Filipino nannies or house helpers, that's why most nannies there are Chinese nationals. Mostly they are women who are just fond of taking care of kids. Most Koreans leave their children in a day care center instead of hiring nannies
hope you dont quit your job and always be there to cute baby dana, more importantly don't skip adds guys to help and support ate erica and kuya ricky.
Either one chooses to be a stay at home mom or working mom, one will have to face a lot of challenges. Both has its own has ups and downs. I have tried both and I would have to say as long as you are happy with the choice you make, there will be no regrets. Hope you can find the balance that works best for the whole fam! 💕
I totally agree with this. Don't let other make the decision for you. Only you know what is best for your family.
I actually like this kind of discussion bcos yes, self-growth is important for everyone and also taking care of the baby personally.. I am truly excited about what your decision is Erika. :)
You are at your best when you take care of Dana and your home. It is God's design for moms to take care of the kids and your hubby, and keep the house in order. ❤ you can work though-homebase😊
I like how u discussed this issue. I pray that your family will choose the best for your family
I always bear this in mind when things get knotty as a MOM; I have made you ; I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you ~ Isaiah 46:4
I like to apply as your daughter's nanny. I like to see u both in person. The sweetness and kindness you've shown us.
Back to work if you ask me😁 precisely we went to college to have a career. Your husband anyway is so supportive of your decision. Iba pa rin ang may sarili kang kinikita ( lalo na magkaiba customs natin sa kanila) If you want to buy something for yourself or send money to your family in the Phils, hinde ka hingi ng hingi sa husband mo. Mahihiya ka din and in the end mag self pity ka. Going back to work does not make you less as a mom. About Dana, there will be always a solution od options. Temporarily, 🤞you can ask your mother-in-law, then when everything will be back to normal, you can ask your mom to visit ☺️. That’s one option. Another is you can bring Dana to a daycare center from 9-5 or when you’re both done with your work. May kotse naman kayo kaya you can bring Dana to the daycare before going to work. 😁 Di na uso ang mother eh dapat sa bahay lang para mag alaga , magluto etc 🤣😂
I love seeing how you take good care of Dana po, iba talaga kasi kapag yung mother mismo yung mag aalaga. God bless you po may God will continue to guide your decisions po.
//don't skip ads 💖
Do what makes you happy. My wife work when our twins were little because I couldn’t find work at that time.Now she is sick with terminal cancer and regrets not spending enough time with our children when they were young . You have a very supportive husband. God will bless you.
kuya Ricky is such a good husband. Its so inspiring to see. Godbless you both po. 💙
Whatever your decision is, it doesn't make you less of a good mother. ❤️
I agree.
💞
tama 🙌
So nice of you both to share your "supposedly" private conversation with us and by sharing each other's honest opinions when it comes to handling finances.
Erica, if I were you don’t RESIGN;
1. You have a good position into the company you are working in which is not easy to build relationship and have good teamwork.
2. As a woman we need to have a back up and also personally I feel my relationship with my children are healthier if I am working.
3. Find alternative to find a babysitter for Dana. Here in Singapore 🇸🇬 if both husband and wife working there’s a subsidised for childcare expenses I don’t know in Korea.
4. You are young and this is the time you need to build your financial stability for your child and future children/ family.
5. But if you are contented and happy being a housewife and able to sacrifice also is good. I’m sure whatever decisions you both make still the BEST coz I could tell that you both work hand in hand together!! All the best Dana is also very smart baby I’m sure in a few more years there’s more expenses for her education and so on. As a Mom myself of a 3 boys to have that extra income is VERY important coz of the demands of their extra curricular activities!!!
There are a lot of digital jobs available now where it allows you to work remotely. I've been a remote worker for three years already. I understand the self worth that you are talking about because you know work itself is a reward to ourself. It gives us a sense of accomplishment. I can have both worlds by doing digital jobs. Anyway, God bless on whatever decision you make for you and your family.
I think at that age baby need more attention from the parents and Baby grow so fast😍
GO GO GO ERICA and RICKY
You do you Mommy Erica. If you would ask me.. Keep your job. There's a lot of mothers out there that keeps their career and still be a great mom. Kung kaya nila kaya mo rin. Fighting!
For me iba talaga pag may trabaho ka, nang hindi ka dependent sa asawa mo when it comes to financial status
Agree!
KOREK ka kabayan...mabuti yung mga babae na hindi lang umaasa sa kanilang husband.at saka sayang din ang pinag aralan kung hindi mo na magagamit pa.pwede rin mag invite ka nlang ng pamilya mo sa PINAS as tourist para taga Alaga muna kay DANA.yan kung allowed ba jan na maka stay ng mas matagal.
Yes and later on money becomes a problem sa mga mag asawa
Agree!
Keep your job, don't quit,and having a baby is a blessing, you have very supportive loving husband,and you sweet caring wife, you are both intelligent and noted you have a smooth marital relay always having open communication to each other and you can come up with a good results considering pros and cons ,as to baby's care/baby sitting,God bless!
Full time mom with everyday vlog, ayos yon.. like Simply Rhaze pero minsan nag d-day iff din siya friday hehehe
Ricky very supportive husband, hi baby Dana, you grow up so fast and very cute.god bless your family and always keep safe guys!
RICKY IS THE DREAM HUSBAND THAT EVERYONE WANTS TO HAVE. I HAVE SO MUCH RESPECT FOR THIS MAN. VERY HUMBLE AND ALSO ERICA. SHE'S VERY VERY LUCKY TO MARRY A MAN LIKE RICKY. ALL I CAN SAY IS "SANA ALL!" 😅❤
Really is a dream husband ❤️❤️❤️
Agree with you in fact I always encourage my husband to watch their videos hoping to motivate him or get influenced by Ricky.... Hahahaha... as we know that we can't change a person but maybe if we witness anyone perhaps we can be influenced to do the same.. Just hoping... Hehehe..both Ricky and Erica looks smart, I would say, swak na swak talaga sila sa isa't isa.. Hehehe
@@LawasFamilyVlog i guess its how was ricky raised by his parents. If your parents are good then so are you. Just like ricky he grew with respect and humble. with a good, kind and genuine heart.
Hi Erica! What you feel right now is normal. And what ever you feel and think is best for your family is the right decision.
Before I became a mother, I work for 9 years to a job I loved but as soon I get pregnant I told me husband that I what to be a full time Mom. I choose my kids than my beloved work and our dream to save for our own house because of my experiences as a child. My father is working abroad and my mother is businesswoman. I’m always with different nannies. That experience had a bad impact on me and I don’t want my kids to have that experience.
I don’t regret staying home full time for almost 4 years and change my career. Because of it I know my kids better and be able to give their individual needs. Now, my kids is in virtual school and me working part time.
Tough decision to make. I totally understand Erica’s feelings about her job.
It's good to see the two discussing about the family. Good communication is necessary in family relationship.
When I become a mother someday I want to be with my kids every moment. I don't want another woman to raise them if I have a choice. Lots of my friends want to be with their kids instead of working but they struggle financially. Erica Dana is worth more than any achievements.
I hope you reconsider. You are a loving and caring mom. I admire you for that. Dana needs you.
It all comes down to budget. Some must work to be able to survive. But if they have to pay the nanny, may as well not work and just take care of the kid. Why not look for relatives willng to take care then give them decent pay not as much as ordinary nanny?
Kayang kaya yannn ate erica.... whether you keep your job or not po I know na you're the best mother for Dana❤️
Yes its difficult to take care a baby but it is very rewarding. You have to talk to the baby so she can learn to talk early. If Ricky is a good provider, Momshie Erica can stop working maybe until she's 2 or 3 years old, then you can return to work by then.
Ricky is a wonderful man. How amazing that he asked his wife if she wants to go back to work. He considers how she felt about it rather than manipulate a pressured decision. God bless your family x
kinikilig sya dun sa forehead kiss 😂😍🥰🥰...and before i forgot,look how Erica is soo cute with her hair like that 🤩🥰
Just a cent cost of advice. Dana is in the early stage of growth & development esp the first 2 years of life. Everything is fast developing in her - the foundation. Erica is still young and will have more future opportunities based on her academic background as well as her already accumulated work experience. In the past it was hard for her to find a job bec she was just starting her portfolio. Dana will only pass through ONCE in one of the most important foundational phase of her life. It is really a matter of what is important in life in the long run that would make up your decision.
As a mother who has 3 boys, the conclusion is : Whatever your decision is, it doesn't make you less of a good mother. So take that out in consideration.❤️
Agree..!
I agree! Same as your situation as mine but unfortunately i need to resigned after 3 years I gave birth to my 3rd boy because of Big C...and in God’s graces I really understand what His plan for me and my family..So, Erika, whatever decision you may have i think it will make easier for u because Ricky is very supportive 🥰 Goodluck💖
For me I'm a mom but working overseas was a hard but I need to coz I'm a single mom.Just lucky to have a sister by my side now who taking care of my son.I was so proud to seen both of you talking about this and Ricky is a good husband to be this open and considerate to Erica's career.God bless your family.
-The formative years are the most important milestone of a child's life... it forms a childs character and focus in life and mommy should be there.
- I think you should also take into consideration the situation of Covid.
You will come home to your baby everyday exposed from the outside world and if Nanny is Not Stay in, then baby can also be exposed.
Nice video though! 😊
That is exactly true, baby's sake/safety or financial gain?
I was a stayed home Mum to our 2 boys my husband was a good provider though we have to watched our outgoing bills we've managed 1 wage coming in ..then,when my boys started going to school full time i went back to work part time happy that i did looked after them 👍.anyway,at the end of the day its up to you Erica what you've like to do..good luck!
I agree, early years of a child's development is critical and a loving parents can provide that role
that was a decision that would covers a lot, financially, physically, emotionally. i myself a mother of three had sacrificed for my kids.
when the 2nd child came i decided to go full time because i dont want to miss the formative years of my kids that i could impart them instead of the yaya...which i didn't regretted because when they become more matured, i went back to work force again..anyway i am in construction.
But the emotional, physical and spiritual bond i built up with them could never be replaced as i could hear them talking about anecdotes of their younger years with me was detailed in their memory and the values i imparted.
They could even remember the song i used to sing them before sleeping, the smallest detail that you couldnt just "insert" in their memory as their mom specially on their most feared moments that a mom should be at their side.
I agree so much with you.With COVID you would be bringing in an outsider to your home and you don’t even know what kind of exposure she had with so many different people. The young years are very important in a child’s life. It’s best if you were there instead of a stranger raising her. When she starts school then you can go back to the workforce. You can’t put a price on the time that you will invest in Dana’s life. She is so precious.
YOU ARE RIGHT in saying that it is not about the money. It won't make you less of a mother if go back to work. Thinking about your self worth and growth is not being selfish either. A person almost always yearns for that sense of fullfillment that makes one happy. REMEMBER THAT WE CAN ONLY GIVE WHAT WE HAVE. Maybe you can start off by asking your boss if you can worK from home temporarily, then you can take it from there. It will be challenging at the beginning, but having seen the both of you in your vlogs...i think it will work out. It will also make you appreciate each other more. I wish you both well.
As a mom, I would rather take care of my own child rather than a nanny. I find it hard to trust another person to look after my child. Especially now a days we hear that some children got abuse from their nannies. Its better to be safe than sorry.
Agree
Continue workinggg erikaaa!
The Dear CEO part is so funny, i can't!! it's like im watching a fast forwarded comedy skit from the 70s, very chaotic and entertaining. HAHAHAHA
Dont give up your career..kaya mo te pagsabayin ang maging ina aswa at trabho..pinoy kaya tayo..Godbless
IT'S TUESDAY TODAY YAYYY NEW VLOG OF TENGKERS 🌏❤️❤️❤️
We mothers all had that dilemna after our children are a few months old. As much as you love being a full time mom and it’s rewarding, it is also very very tiring bec you end up doing housework, cook, clean, laundry, in between baby naps!! It is not about money at all, for your own sanity and emotional & mental well being, you also need other adult interaction besides your supportive & loving hubby. If it is possible perhaps work part time instead. or the better option, hire a relative backhome till Dana goes to Daycare to be your nanny for a much lower salary bec you’ll be providing room and food too. This way you are helping that person and same time you have confidence that Dana is atleast safer. God bless your plans and decisions Tengkers.
one option is for someone from the family to come over during weekdays to watch over dana...the role of grandmothers...hehe..just saying😊
Hi Erika.. I'm crying now seeing this. My life unfolded before my eyes because that's been my struggle too. But the more for you because you are not in the Philippines.. I can feel you.. just hold tight. This moment will pass. The most important thing is Dana. When she is in the right age to be left in kindergarten school that's the time for you to restart. Or if you can hire a caregiver from Philippines like for 2 years only then you can go back to work in peace... financially indeed it's stressful..I hope you decide well 🙏 😊 sending virtual hugs
Don’t quit. Supermom can do everything. Nakakapagod but fullfilling.
Thats stressful and there's no such thing as superman or superwoman. She should do what's best for her and her family, not what's best for someone else just so she looks like a supermom to some fan.
Keep ur job, u bloom always, its hard to find a job..and for the future of ur kids,.. Its up to u still... We love u both
i wish im stay home mom but here in.US 1 household income isnt enough to pay bills so i have to work. Afterall its all up to parents how to raise their kids. And all the hardwork we do is to prepare their better education. Im still thankful how many filipino parents left the country to provide better future. I can still go home after work make dinner cuddle my husband read bedtime stories and let my kids know how much they're love. I have a daughter I want to be a good example working mom doesn't make you less.
Hi Erica and Ricky, so nice that see you talking about decisions together. @Erica, you have to look after yourself too and if it is going back to work, then go for it. Things will work out. You are lucky to have a very supportive husband, Ricky. Anyway, I wish you both the best of luck! Hugs to Dana🥰🤗
Your Job is important po yet being a mother is also hard . But everything will work at what God's plan for your family. You have them throught out the years .
Ricky is very considerate and understanding ❤️ i love the idea of extending the leave .
I hope you don’t work until she is at least 18 months because every minute counts. The changes in the baby are so quick and you might regret that you will miss those moments. Believe me, when I had my first baby, I could not leave her, I get so emotional. I did not finish college because I had the baby but it is all worth it. I started my career when I was 40 yrs old. Well maybe you can work at home part time. Pray for it, I know The Lord will guide you. Always remember that God always provide.
Keep your work.ricky is there also to help u.god bless u all.
Madami pang pagkakataon na maka hanap ng trabaho.pero ang moment at bonding at oras at memories na maibigay mo sa anak mo ay hindi na ma uulit..minsan lang sila maging bata..Ang trabaho anjan lang yan...hanggat anjan ang asawa mo na suportado ka walang masama maging fulltime mother...Pag malaki na ang anak hanap ng work ulit.
Another great video, maraming Salamat po.
A blessed couple to each other this is all what I can say 😊. I know no one is perfect but I can't think of flaws of this couple 🤔... God Bless 🙏
I am happy to see you discussing an impt subject that really needs the opinion of your partner. In the end, it will be Erica's decision but at least she has Ricky at her back. Erica, you are youbg and it os undèrstandable that you want to continue with your career for your parsonal development. If you are here in Pinas, madaling iresolve yan. But you can try recruiting from here. Mahirap kasi ipagkatiwala sa hindi mo kilala talaga si Dana. Medyo mahirap maging working mom. But you can always try....go back to work, hire a good nanny. After working for a few months, you can arrive at a better arrangemnt.
Never quit your job. Just find a right schedule so that you can still take care of Dana.
Whatever you decide on Erica, Ricky will be there to support you. I say go back to work and see how you feel because you really can’t gauge it unless you are going through the motions of juggling work and motherhood. Kiss the little peanut for me❤️love from your NJ mom.
Kung hindi ka magiging masaya na umalis sa trabaho, hindi ka din mabubuo ang pagkatao mo at maari nitong maapektohan ang pagaalaga mo sa anak mo.
It looks like you enjoyed the job that you have Erica and the self growth that you experienced. That is priceless. It is worth to keep it. At the same time, I do understand how you must have felt leaving Dana when you need to go back to working already. I hope you will be able to make the decision about this dilemma. There is no right or wrong decision actually. Do what what makes you happy and fulfilling for you. ❤️