A question to the Subscribers here and viewers, how do you support / Empower your househelps ? ( in the Hope that they will not stay on this Job for all their lives)
First. Teach them basic things about life, frugality, importance of saving, etc. basically, so them the world, so that they are able to dream and discover their purpose. Then discuss ways you can support their dreams.
Bruh, the way Joel breaks down structural issues and his awareness of his male privilege is superb. You guys complement each other so well. I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Well done.
Thank you PPJ for sharing your experiences . Last year I realised that even in the middle lower class, or upper lower class, there might be someone you have a certain privilege over. My househelp who could not complete school because of schools fees shared how hard someone in their village has to work to earn 1000Ugshs ( if anyone has farmed before, imagine having to make 30 sweet potato heaps to earn 1000Ugshs)...when will a parent raise 200,000 for Schools fees and if they have to multiply thi by 3 children. ) I appreciated that I was privileged and I pledged to support atleast 2 of her siblings through school for as long as they are interested.
This was a long overdue and insightful conversation. I truly understood the extent of privilege for the first time during my masters abroad. My white classmates were driving the latest car models to school and I was walking from my hall of residence and pinching pennies because I was on a stipend. They sat around all day listening to music and studying at leisure while I frantically did my best to get through the course and return home so I can get a job to survive. Yet when I got back home everyone thought I was so lucky and so special for having achieved that milestone, yet..deep down it just made me feel that I needed to work so hard. I liked Joel's takes based on his readings (the master slave thing)...It puts things into perspective and has reminded me that I need to go back to reading more. And Pumla, thanks for reminding us clever people that we think our academic privilege is more worthy than pretty privilege. It's all privilege. On the opposite side of privilege I've been there but like Prima, I let it roll off my back. We can't afford to be emotional and entitled about things, we only have to do better. Thanks PPJ! Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
As someone who studied abroad and also lives abroad. On the first day of school, I wondered how many professors we had only to find out that most of the vehicles in the parking lot were for students 😂😂😂😂
Amazing Amazing conversation. Joel said something I often tell people around me these days, when it comes to the trajectory of marriage and how men are getting shocked by the women’s need to actually see character in them beyond financial provision! Once that economic thing got settled for women, they start to demand for more which finds men who expected that their financial provision should be enough! - It begs the question… how to leada modern day woman today?!! I also concur with y’all when you talk about how pretty priviledge is not consequential for men, i feel that itd not long lastingly consequential for women either because in terms of long term commitments, work or personal, other factors come into play (character) and if they don’t weigh as much, even that existing priviledge could be useless or maintain use in short term non long lasting engagements. I love conversations like these and love listening to y’all ❤️ Keep it up PPJ 👌🏾
Happy holidays PPJ. As for me, my privilege is being able to listen to you guys. Thanks for all the insightful shows this year. My take home “Don’t be ashamed of your privilege”
I love the chemistry between the 3 of you.. the roasting is on another level.. I learned so much and also laughed equally. it's true that you realize the level of privilege you have when you move to a new place or country. It's eye opening
Today's quote: Joel: "I remember Nietzsche said you can only pity children and dogs. You can pity a child, you can pity a dog but to pity an adult is to reduce their experience to what has just happened to them."
Something about this show, you shoot when you want, move from one set up to the next in the middle of the show because of light issues 😂, the one in the middle is taking her drink in what appears like a plastic cup the rest of you your drinks are down! No norms to tie you down! Y’ll are cool people🙂↔️
23:49 @Prima we do OKRs at work so I decided to apply that to my personal life but mapped initiatives under blocks (Spiritual ,financial , Physical, Learning & Devt ). That helped to keep me organised and accountable - will be auditing myself this week 🙈🤭
This was a brilliant choice of topic. It made me grateful especially at this time of the year. I’ve put myself on the pyramid scale of privilege. I understand what you all are saying!!! Gratitude
Always making us me reflect on life, thank God for how much I have and have had and not to sulk over what hasn’t happened. This should have been closed with the Lukusuta song…. Thnx PPJ.
Really enjoyed the conversation as always..was pleased to hear about privilege from neurotypical point of view as well..munnange racism is the worst to experience as there is no working your way out of your race like maybe social and economic... my favourite quote of privilege is that where your privilege meets someone else's oppression is your opportunity to make change.. we all have some privilege and can use it for good 😀
I was always looking forward to every Friday to see what u had for us on bump love....now I came here on PPJ ...but u should make it weekly or monthly,u take long namwe mulimbamu ko
For women, pretty privilege is consequential! In that it permeates aspects such as your dating/ marriage prospects, your access to goods, sometimes services ( pretty people tend to be listened to more, helped more, etc). Promotions too. And even believability/ halo effect comes from how attractive someone is to a degree. There are whole studies on how pretty privilege even for men, they may not be termed as pretty, but attractiveness has a role to play in how far in life sometimes you can get.
Merry Christmas people! Thank you for the episodes throughout the year. My best episode is the one of advise to younger self. Thank you Joel for that insight. I now understand the part of we cannot heal alone; because I just realized I get triggered when I get back into society by the things that I thought had healed. A better coping mechanism is to go through the situation rather than avoid it and the discomfort. Primah we forgive you for delaying this shoot😂😂...we listen but we do not judge. Our word for the day is pergola, that balcony away from the house; an arched structure in a garden consisting of a framework covered with climbing or trailing plants.😂😂 This year my highlight has been lessons, it has been a tough year, so tough for me on all levels. I am also in that category of; you can use your papers/degree/education/what you learned, etc to get that good job and I enjoy it no matter what. I definitely grew up in privilege because I got a good education, and never went without a meal, clothes, roof over our head! Until I interacted with the wealthy, I realized we did not have it all. But then, my grandma and dad also really made it easier because they taught us to be content; basics are all you need, life, food, clothes, shelter, clean water. Affording these things is all that I need; any other thing is a bonus. I get the pretty privilege thing; but now imagine men's privilege washes this away when it comes to like gender roles in the marriage, security when outside, catcalling, etc.. for women, whether you are pretty or not, you will always look over your shoulder in most spaces. I think to have the proper grounding and confidence to stay in our lanes and be okay there, we have to be really self-aware 85% and above. My first housing as a student was so horrible abroad because the handler assumed all black students were on welfare, string budgets, etc. Shocked when we had more and wanted better accommodation; the question was, what do your parents do for a living? Oil/Gas? hmmm. My dad is a businessman. I think schools, jobs and such spaces should be an equalizer Lastly, I really do not want that too much money that will not let me sleep. And my take home today; do not be ashamed of your privilege, use it to create a positive impact.
I looove this. Thank you for engaging…..while you’re clearly aware of your ‘privilege’, you were also prepared on how to handle it. Such an important lesson. Also I now real know what a pergola is:)
Joel is busy meditating on his girlfriend who left, the way he is always out of the room when pumla and primah are busy yapping 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣ooooh....... so sorry lover boy i feel your pain😂
Pumla 48:36 men are more privileged. Let’s even use your example of child birth, child rearing and what not. Because we are privileged to be the ones that bear and nurture the children, it affects several aspects of our lives. After child birth, you can just walk out and go to work. You have to stay home for some months before you can work again. Some employers are hesitant to hire newly wed women or women of child bearing age, because they will soon get pregnant and their productivity will reduce. Then we have to deal with the mum guilt. While at work, you are restless and wondering whether the people you left in charge if your child are doing a good job. That stuff doesn’t affect most men as much. Some men are excited about paternity leave because it’s more time to watch soccer.
What a nice way to close 2024. Me, I can tell u about pretty privilege. In high school, being dark-skinned, I was friends with lighter skinned girls, n trust me, the experience was horrible for me.
I loooooove the show. We need to see more of you. Your intelligence, fun loving and respect for each are such a hit on the show. Ssenga Pumla, kajjambo. Merry Christmas PPJ
@@primahkyambadde6436 you'd have asked her what made her think you're workers,then the kavuyo ensues(let me use ko bombastic words like Joe who spent 10 yrs abroad 😂😂😂😂😂)
1:11:03 when Joel spoke on how we speak. I recalled how I could never date a guy because of how he speaks. Guy is so bright and all, but his accent puts me off. I find it hard to date such a guy with a weird accent.
A question to the Subscribers here and viewers, how do you support / Empower your househelps ? ( in the Hope that they will not stay on this Job for all their lives)
First. Teach them basic things about life, frugality, importance of saving, etc. basically, so them the world, so that they are able to dream and discover their purpose. Then discuss ways you can support their dreams.
We don't acknowledge how much joy prima brings
@@GraceAyebazibwe-c1c She's an absolute delight. 🤗
We truly should. We couldn't be us without her ❤
Awwwww thank you❤
Bruh, the way Joel breaks down structural issues and his awareness of his male privilege is superb. You guys complement each other so well. I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Well done.
Thank you PPJ for sharing your experiences .
Last year I realised that even in the middle lower class, or upper lower class, there might be someone you have a certain privilege over.
My househelp who could not complete school because of schools fees shared how hard someone in their village has to work to earn 1000Ugshs ( if anyone has farmed before, imagine having to make 30 sweet potato heaps to earn 1000Ugshs)...when will a parent raise 200,000 for Schools fees and if they have to multiply thi by 3 children. ) I appreciated that I was privileged and I pledged to support atleast 2 of her siblings through school for as long as they are interested.
This is such a practical way to close the privilege gap🙏🏾
Interesting conversation,,,,Joe's thought process is👌🏽,the ladies contribution too,,😊😊
This was a long overdue and insightful conversation. I truly understood the extent of privilege for the first time during my masters abroad. My white classmates were driving the latest car models to school and I was walking from my hall of residence and pinching pennies because I was on a stipend. They sat around all day listening to music and studying at leisure while I frantically did my best to get through the course and return home so I can get a job to survive. Yet when I got back home everyone thought I was so lucky and so special for having achieved that milestone, yet..deep down it just made me feel that I needed to work so hard. I liked Joel's takes based on his readings (the master slave thing)...It puts things into perspective and has reminded me that I need to go back to reading more. And Pumla, thanks for reminding us clever people that we think our academic privilege is more worthy than pretty privilege. It's all privilege. On the opposite side of privilege I've been there but like Prima, I let it roll off my back. We can't afford to be emotional and entitled about things, we only have to do better. Thanks PPJ! Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
You've summed it up pretty well. Merry Christmas
As someone who studied abroad and also lives abroad. On the first day of school, I wondered how many professors we had only to find out that most of the vehicles in the parking lot were for students 😂😂😂😂
@Flourish_today my friend...it's a different life those ends.
Wabuuuuuula y’all are smaaaaaaaaaaaaart. Pheeeeeeeeeeeuuuw. #PPJ what a perfect combination on the set. Well done
Oh thank you so much love.
My best podcast in Uganda to watch!Always looking forward to your episodes. Notifications have been turned on.
Yaaaaaaaayyyyy here for it. Thank you ❤
Very enlightenment 😊
Thank you guys
What a Privilege to be schooled by PPJ....2025 , I'm already at the front seat👏. A Happy New Year to the PPJ Community 🎉
Amazing Amazing conversation. Joel said something I often tell people around me these days, when it comes to the trajectory of marriage and how men are getting shocked by the women’s need to actually see character in them beyond financial provision! Once that economic thing got settled for women, they start to demand for more which finds men who expected that their financial provision should be enough! - It begs the question… how to leada modern day woman today?!!
I also concur with y’all when you talk about how pretty priviledge is not consequential for men, i feel that itd not long lastingly consequential for women either because in terms of long term commitments, work or personal, other factors come into play (character) and if they don’t weigh as much, even that existing priviledge could be useless or maintain use in short term non long lasting engagements.
I love conversations like these and love listening to y’all ❤️ Keep it up PPJ 👌🏾
Happy holidays PPJ. As for me, my privilege is being able to listen to you guys. Thanks for all the insightful shows this year. My take home “Don’t be ashamed of your privilege”
Happy holidays Brenda ❤
Thanks PPJ for a year of brilliant, thought provoking and extremely well balanced dialogue! Your episodes are utterly engrossing.
Ingrid😊😊thank you for being here
Thank you PPJ for sharing your knowledge and experiences with us. I have enjoyed every episode you released this year!
Another wonderful conversation. Thank you.
I love the chemistry between the 3 of you.. the roasting is on another level.. I learned so much and also laughed equally. it's true that you realize the level of privilege you have when you move to a new place or country. It's eye opening
It truly is eye opening
Conversations that need to be revisited...
Pumla, about giving back to less privileged women you said it at bump love. You’re just ❤❤
Oh yes I did. I do what I can and I'm thankful for the privilege to
A very humbling episode..thanks guys.
it was an excellent conservation and entertaining!
Today's quote:
Joel: "I remember Nietzsche said you can only pity children and dogs. You can pity a child, you can pity a dog but to pity an adult is to reduce their experience to what has just happened to them."
Wow! This is deep
Love u guys
Something about this show, you shoot when you want, move from one set up to the next in the middle of the show because of light issues 😂, the one in the middle is taking her drink in what appears like a plastic cup the rest of you your drinks are down! No norms to tie you down! Y’ll are cool people🙂↔️
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is such a funny analysis. Mazima - We do what we want.
23:49 @Prima we do OKRs at work so I decided to apply that to my personal life but mapped initiatives under blocks (Spiritual ,financial , Physical, Learning & Devt ). That helped to keep me organised and accountable - will be auditing myself this week 🙈🤭
Beautiful conversation peeps
This was a brilliant choice of topic. It made me grateful especially at this time of the year. I’ve put myself on the pyramid scale of privilege. I understand what you all are saying!!! Gratitude
Gratitude ❤
I looooove Joel's mind.
Watching this on Christmas Day and far away from home but enjoying ❤. PPJ❤,Merry Christmas and happy New Year 2025🎉🎉
Merry merry Christmas🎉
yhoo... you guys are intelligent. your conversations are always eye opening. always looking forward to your episodes
Interesting wholesome episode that I've enjoyed watching. Thank you PPJ❤ Happy Holidays🎉
Glad you enjoyed it!
I love the lighting on this set. Y’all are so smart
Thank you Sophie ❤
Joel's POV is just spot on. Big ups. We need a special episode for Pumla's Nigerian boyfriend 😂😂😂
I love u guys. Pumla thank you for giving back to the less privileged ❤.
Thanks team, I cerebrate PPJ 🙏
Happy holidays PPJ🎉we appreciate you selflessness in sharing your experiences. Lots of love from. + 254
Happy holidays our big brother next door
Happy holidays PPJ ,i learned and evolved since i started listening to you 🎉 pumla . thanks for sharing .God bless you 🙏
Happy holidays Bryan
Thanks for tuning in! 🙏
It was anice conversation thank you 🙏🙏 may God bless you all for me ,merry Xmas and happy New Year
Joel is such a philosopher. I have to pose after some of his points to ‘load’. 😅
Had never observed Privilege this deep! Surely the higher the privilege, the bigger the responsibility.
Happy holidays 🎉
Now you get it 😊
@pumlanabachwa8668 absolutely. I'm conscious about t, having recieved your perspective.
Interesting insights on privilege...well done PPJ
Wowwww Joel wowwww 👌👌👌😊❤️🥰
I just got the notification 🥳🥳🥳I came running ,falling, standing up
Glad you're here!
Always making us me reflect on life, thank God for how much I have and have had and not to sulk over what hasn’t happened. This should have been closed with the Lukusuta song…. Thnx PPJ.
Hooray 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 happy holidays 🎉
Now that I have heard Joel is single I can say out loud I think he is cute. I like the thoughts he has around choices😅😊
Thank you 😊
I love how stimulating this is mentally but also very relatable
Thanks a lot for the conversation
Happy holidays
From Kigali
Thank you team Kigali😊
Kigaliiiiiiiiiiii. Hello little sister ❤
Thank you for this episode.
Guess what !!! I become better and smart every time I watch you guys. Please continue educating us in 2025. I appreciate it.
Really enjoyed the conversation as always..was pleased to hear about privilege from neurotypical point of view as well..munnange racism is the worst to experience as there is no working your way out of your race like maybe social and economic... my favourite quote of privilege is that where your privilege meets someone else's oppression is your opportunity to make change.. we all have some privilege and can use it for good 😀
Nze racism tonyumiza
@pumlanabachwa8668 eh mama 🤣🤣
This was a very good discussion. I enjoyed it.
Hahahahaa.i swear u guys should hold a live audience show. Am watching from the village deep in bushenyi 😅😅😅
Second time am watching this but the Namulindwa part caught me off guard each time😂😂😂😂
😊😂😂😂😂
This PPJ is power. 🎉
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Listening to this conversation and realising the privilege that is already in this conversation
And we are not ashamed of it munange because it is what it is. It's just how we use it that matters.
I hear "say it again" got me smiling 😅
Like your conversation guys❤❤ 254
Oyegeza bwavu keeps on taking me out...😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You guys have u seen Pumla's ring ??🥰❤.PPJ thank u for keeping us going this year. Happy new year.
It's a fashion ring love. Calm down 😅
I was always looking forward to every Friday to see what u had for us on bump love....now I came here on PPJ ...but u should make it weekly or monthly,u take long namwe mulimbamu ko
I had missed these people
Beauty is the greatest recommendation
For women, pretty privilege is consequential! In that it permeates aspects such as your dating/ marriage prospects, your access to goods, sometimes services ( pretty people tend to be listened to more, helped more, etc). Promotions too. And even believability/ halo effect comes from how attractive someone is to a degree. There are whole studies on how pretty privilege even for men, they may not be termed as pretty, but attractiveness has a role to play in how far in life sometimes you can get.
Agreed Pippa. Whilst it does exist, I still believe it can take you only so far.
Merry Christmas people! Thank you for the episodes throughout the year. My best episode is the one of advise to younger self.
Thank you Joel for that insight. I now understand the part of we cannot heal alone; because I just realized I get triggered when I get back into society by the things that I thought had healed.
A better coping mechanism is to go through the situation rather than avoid it and the discomfort.
Primah we forgive you for delaying this shoot😂😂...we listen but we do not judge.
Our word for the day is pergola, that balcony away from the house; an arched structure in a garden consisting of a framework covered with climbing or trailing plants.😂😂
This year my highlight has been lessons, it has been a tough year, so tough for me on all levels.
I am also in that category of; you can use your papers/degree/education/what you learned, etc to get that good job and I enjoy it no matter what.
I definitely grew up in privilege because I got a good education, and never went without a meal, clothes, roof over our head! Until I interacted with the wealthy, I realized we did not have it all. But then, my grandma and dad also really made it easier because they taught us to be content; basics are all you need, life, food, clothes, shelter, clean water. Affording these things is all that I need; any other thing is a bonus.
I get the pretty privilege thing; but now imagine men's privilege washes this away when it comes to like gender roles in the marriage, security when outside, catcalling, etc.. for women, whether you are pretty or not, you will always look over your shoulder in most spaces.
I think to have the proper grounding and confidence to stay in our lanes and be okay there, we have to be really self-aware 85% and above.
My first housing as a student was so horrible abroad because the handler assumed all black students were on welfare, string budgets, etc. Shocked when we had more and wanted better accommodation; the question was, what do your parents do for a living? Oil/Gas? hmmm. My dad is a businessman. I think schools, jobs and such spaces should be an equalizer
Lastly, I really do not want that too much money that will not let me sleep.
And my take home today; do not be ashamed of your privilege, use it to create a positive impact.
I looove this. Thank you for engaging…..while you’re clearly aware of your ‘privilege’, you were also prepared on how to handle it. Such an important lesson. Also I now real know what a pergola is:)
“You chic you have normal privilege” took me out😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Joel is busy meditating on his girlfriend who left, the way he is always out of the room when pumla and primah are busy yapping 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣ooooh....... so sorry lover boy i feel your pain😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Waiting for part 2
I prophecy second generational wealth🎉
AMEN 🙏🏾
🙏🏾AMEN
Pumla 48:36 men are more privileged. Let’s even use your example of child birth, child rearing and what not. Because we are privileged to be the ones that bear and nurture the children, it affects several aspects of our lives. After child birth, you can just walk out and go to work. You have to stay home for some months before you can work again. Some employers are hesitant to hire newly wed women or women of child bearing age, because they will soon get pregnant and their productivity will reduce. Then we have to deal with the mum guilt. While at work, you are restless and wondering whether the people you left in charge if your child are doing a good job. That stuff doesn’t affect most men as much. Some men are excited about paternity leave because it’s more time to watch soccer.
yeeeeeeee
Absolutely loved today's conversation. Just a suggestion though, led lights would be a good addition for the lighting and visuals.❤
Next year diya 😂
@pumlanabachwa8668 😂😂we trust👌🏽
Second P, the word is GAZEBO oba😅😅😅😅
The crew has taught me- there is a pergola and a gazebo too
Meanwhile today Joel has schooled me, and I have loved it...
Thank you guys, it has been an amazing conversation..
eeeeh banange the english was top notch
Ffe he always schools us.
Normal privilege with Pumla's leg swing like a child killed me😂😂😂
😂😅😂😅😂
🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
Brilliant conversation here. So, all along, Joel is a high-end fellow who comes off on us as omuntu wawansi? The guy speaks international jazz only!😂
He just loves bantu bawansi Bambi
My Pumla ❤❤
My Nakitende ❤
What a nice way to close 2024. Me, I can tell u about pretty privilege. In high school, being dark-skinned, I was friends with lighter skinned girls, n trust me, the experience was horrible for me.
This is so true. We don’t talk enough about colorism!
0:21Alan is light skinned we were told by Sharifa 😂 era we can't wait to see him. 😊
And he has a moustache 😅
Hahhaahahaha small small hints are coming out….
We need a sketch artist now...😅
DEAD 😂😂😂😂😂
Dying 😂😂😂😂😂
I loooooove the show. We need to see more of you. Your intelligence, fun loving and respect for each are such a hit on the show.
Ssenga Pumla, kajjambo.
Merry Christmas PPJ
Merry Christmas 🎉🎉🎉
Gazebo @Prima🤣🤣26:26
Hahahahaha banange I’m learning. Even pergola I learnt from here😊
Sad i kept it in watch later for this long.
Damn Joe, smart and a cutie 😊. It's giving husband material
Hhahahaha it really is
Hahahahahahaha. He has too much clever 😂
Thought i was the only one who noticed 😅
The kids would be clever. My type of man
Kati where is the wife please 😅
Pumla and Prima are lawyers in this show, Joel is the judge😀
😂😂
Male privilege is a real thing dear Pumla.
53:20 I'm on the floor!!!😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😆😆 53:34 now I'm scared of saying I have once experienced pretty privilege .
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Be confident please
Allan, show ko your face just once a year😊
1:03:41 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This has been such a good insight on privilege. Well done 👍
❤❤❤
Eeeh! Pumla, that laugh has superceded Manuella's 😂
Hahahaha! I've always had a terrible laugh naye it seems age evened it out. Lol
Is pumla expecting? My eyes are fooling me I guess 😊
Not. At. All.
Stomach has just grown a bit 😂. Too much peace I think 😅
Naye pumla ayagala okulwaana😂😂😂😂
Always 😂😂😂😂
@pumlanabachwa8668 hahahaaaaaa
@Pumla, the hair lady hook up again please. It is always giving
Please DM me. Whenever I share contacts here ), they get deleted
Primah didn't tell us what they did when the Latina called them workers 😂😂😂😂
Mwana we considered fighting then let it roll off our backs otw….
@@primahkyambadde6436 you'd have asked her what made her think you're workers,then the kavuyo ensues(let me use ko bombastic words like Joe who spent 10 yrs abroad 😂😂😂😂😂)
@ vuyos would have real ensued
😂😂😂😂@@primahkyambadde6436
Last month banange, I was like I missed PPJ
We are here 😂
These episodes take long 😭
Which is great
Eeeh but joe, you are too intelligent
Prima meant Pergola!
I thank you wama
I thought she wanted to say gazebo 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@anonnona6433She also said gazebo.
1:11:03 when Joel spoke on how we speak. I recalled how I could never date a guy because of how he speaks. Guy is so bright and all, but his accent puts me off. I find it hard to date such a guy with a weird accent.
We are following hmmm 😂