You have incredible insight! My first response is that you are attracted to the person you are drawn to. You will still learn something about yourself until you find your person. Go for it! But then the rational brain steps in. Being authentically you as you were created is best when you respect the laws of the universe. When you find your soul person, you will be better able to fulfil your destiny. The difficulty comes in this way: what about the other person? What is their life purpose? Is there anything you can do to help yourself and then on their way there? I wonder if anyone else is thinking this way?
I definitely relate to the not so functional/drama attraction when it comes to men. There´s an addictive quality to it. It seems to have a force of it’s own - before you know it you’re sucked in and it overpowers you. Even if you have insights and you know and feel it’s coming and it’s gonna take you on a jet another crazy ride that ultimately will leave you burnt out - it takes you over. So much for self responsibility. But having insights must be the starting point and adding the deeper work where the actual change takes place. So maybe the most realistic approach for you right now is to commit to continue doing the healing and believe that gradually your position towards men and the men you are drawn to will change. With the added learning as you talked about - when you rise again from the ruins - and the dedication to healing, you probably can shorten the period and move to a more functional space sooner then many of us who haven’t been as diligent in doing all the important inner work😊
Beautifully said. Thank you. Staying on the path, committing to our own healing, dedicating our time and energy to that above all else. Yes. Thank you 🫂
The third door 🚪 🚪 ? 🚪 ? Leave room for something unknown that's trying to get through. Your planning could, in this case, even with the best intentions, be pushing it away. Do something nice for yourself tonight. Really put some thought into it, and have the intention of doing it because you love yourself, and remember that you deserve it. Then, go to bed tonight feeling loved, and wake up in the morning, remembering that all the love you ever feel, have ever felt, and will ever touch is always yours. Have faith, what you want is yours already and is coming to you in divine timing. The universe knows, and it is unfolding your destiny. Let it, and it may surprise you.
Hello Jessie! You seem like a lovely person, I've stumbled upon your newest video "a reflection of you". Regarding your question, I think that it is completely possible for us to heal in different circumstances and environments, and sort of break the cycle of unhealthy relationships. I don't agree with a statement that is quite popular at the moment that goes "you can't love someone until you don't love yourself" or "you can't start a new relationship if you didn't heal from the last one" something along these lines. I think it is wrong since it is difficult to go through hardships alone and even if we are not completely healed from toxic or traumatic relationship, who knows, maybe we will never heal completely but that doesn't mean we are not ready to love someone and to love them fully and heal along the way. I strongly believe that. The general rule, I think is if you feel this urge or impulsive attraction towards someone (you can even call them intense butterflies) it is not a good sign. From my experience the person that you feel safe, stable with, loved and cared - that is the person you are looking for.
Thank you, I agree with you actually. Not to say either is right or wrong, but more of a which perspective do I choose that will thus influence the reality I experience? And your approach is much more gentle, forgiving and kind. Appreciate you sharing this a lot 🥰
10:46 It’s interesting how you know and then 10 seconds later you think about it in the complete opposite. Definitely feel like we can relate there. I often times catch myself in this dilemma; I’ll feel passionate about the first thing but then when I think about it logically I come up with the complete opposite and go with that. I wonder if it’s a fear driven decision, because I tend to go with the safer option but also, is that the right option? It definitely feels like the right option, especially since we have seen what the other option has in store. Still figuring this out you’re not alone 😂 thank you for sharing, and please keep us posted, I really feel like we’d learn something out of either decision YOU decide to make
I will keep you posted of course. And thank you for sharing your equal confusion on the topic, makes me breathe out and relax a little:))) another comment somewhere said rather this or that, hiw about this AND that 🫠
@@heytherejessiehere EXACTLY I saw another comment about a third door 🚪 and it just served as a reminder that gods timing is always right. Definitely practicing making room for the uncomfortableness because that’s when change occurs within us ❤
During all my recent wacky quantum adventures, I've really seen healing more like organic wounding. Less the thickening of the trunk, and more of the great big oak burl. Sometimes there are scars to trace but if we don't pull out the x-acto and retraumatize ourselves, we may be healed enough. maybe you're attracted to challenges and types of stimulation where the people youre not attracted to just bore you on some level. You seem pretty bubbly most of the time but I guess it's worth asking if you acquire some sense of depth or substance(or stimulation) from the fall after the rise. Do you secretly enjoy the feeling when things fall apart? Or the peek between the escalation and the drop?
Wow, I think your questions just hit some kind of nail in my head ... I think I do secretly love it, when panic entails, it is then I jump into action 🤭 Thank you for the questions
Yes. It's like when we/they say, deep down you really know, we just don't always want to admitt it to ourselves because it usually means feeling that which we are running from....doh! 😁
@@heytherejessiehere yeah... this is something I am staring right down the barrel right now too... funny to know many people have the same thing to deal with. but in wider terms, we all have our poisons!
I am living through something very similar. All of my relationships have been on an exponential WTF curve and the last one could have cost me my life. When you talked about how maybe you have to go back to these relationships to learn because that's where you're drawn, I had a visceral reaction because I see these dynamics as an basic addiction. I understand the whole concept of needing to hit rock bottom but at some point you realize you won't ever really stop being drawn to it if you keep feeding that part of your brain. You have to starve it, despite the urge. That's where I'm at in my thinking anyway. I hope I'm strong enough to not get on the next trainwreck that's bound to come around. 🥲
Oh babe i feel you. We dont have to go back to the train wreck if we dont want to! I just like to know and claim it when thats what im doing 🤣 Thank you for sharing 💕💫🤘
You have incredible insight! My first response is that you are attracted to the person you are drawn to. You will still learn something about yourself until you find your person. Go for it! But then the rational brain steps in. Being authentically you as you were created is best when you respect the laws of the universe. When you find your soul person, you will be better able to fulfil your destiny.
The difficulty comes in this way: what about the other person? What is their life purpose? Is there anything you can do to help yourself and then on their way there? I wonder if anyone else is thinking this way?
I definitely relate to the not so functional/drama attraction when it comes to men. There´s an addictive quality to it. It seems to have a force of it’s own - before you know it you’re sucked in and it overpowers you. Even if you have insights and you know and feel it’s coming and it’s gonna take you on a jet another crazy ride that ultimately will leave you burnt out - it takes you over. So much for self responsibility. But having insights must be the starting point and adding the deeper work where the actual change takes place. So maybe the most realistic approach for you right now is to commit to continue doing the healing and believe that gradually your position towards men and the men you are drawn to will change. With the added learning as you talked about - when you rise again from the ruins - and the dedication to healing, you probably can shorten the period and move to a more functional space sooner then many of us who haven’t been as diligent in doing all the important inner work😊
Beautifully said. Thank you. Staying on the path, committing to our own healing, dedicating our time and energy to that above all else. Yes. Thank you 🫂
@ Yes absolutely 🫂
The third door
🚪 🚪 ? 🚪 ?
Leave room for something unknown that's trying to get through. Your planning could, in this case, even with the best intentions, be pushing it away.
Do something nice for yourself tonight. Really put some thought into it, and have the intention of doing it because you love yourself, and remember that you deserve it.
Then, go to bed tonight feeling loved, and wake up in the morning, remembering that all the love you ever feel, have ever felt, and will ever touch is always yours.
Have faith, what you want is yours already and is coming to you in divine timing.
The universe knows, and it is unfolding your destiny. Let it, and it may surprise you.
The third door!!! Thank you for the reminder, and your lovely suggestions, very loving 🥰
Hello Jessie! You seem like a lovely person, I've stumbled upon your newest video "a reflection of you". Regarding your question, I think that it is completely possible for us to heal in different circumstances and environments, and sort of break the cycle of unhealthy relationships. I don't agree with a statement that is quite popular at the moment that goes "you can't love someone until you don't love yourself" or "you can't start a new relationship if you didn't heal from the last one" something along these lines. I think it is wrong since it is difficult to go through hardships alone and even if we are not completely healed from toxic or traumatic relationship, who knows, maybe we will never heal completely but that doesn't mean we are not ready to love someone and to love them fully and heal along the way. I strongly believe that. The general rule, I think is if you feel this urge or impulsive attraction towards someone (you can even call them intense butterflies) it is not a good sign. From my experience the person that you feel safe, stable with, loved and cared - that is the person you are looking for.
Thank you, I agree with you actually. Not to say either is right or wrong, but more of a which perspective do I choose that will thus influence the reality I experience? And your approach is much more gentle, forgiving and kind. Appreciate you sharing this a lot 🥰
10:46 It’s interesting how you know and then 10 seconds later you think about it in the complete opposite. Definitely feel like we can relate there. I often times catch myself in this dilemma; I’ll feel passionate about the first thing but then when I think about it logically I come up with the complete opposite and go with that. I wonder if it’s a fear driven decision, because I tend to go with the safer option but also, is that the right option? It definitely feels like the right option, especially since we have seen what the other option has in store. Still figuring this out you’re not alone 😂 thank you for sharing, and please keep us posted, I really feel like we’d learn something out of either decision YOU decide to make
I will keep you posted of course. And thank you for sharing your equal confusion on the topic, makes me breathe out and relax a little:))) another comment somewhere said rather this or that, hiw about this AND that 🫠
@@heytherejessiehere EXACTLY I saw another comment about a third door 🚪 and it just served as a reminder that gods timing is always right. Definitely practicing making room for the uncomfortableness because that’s when change occurs within us ❤
Thanks for sharing🙏🏻. Is there not a fear of commitment some where in this? Maybe you just did not mention it but are aware of it?!😘
Oh yes, that's there too, I am avoidant. Well spotted ! 😆
During all my recent wacky quantum adventures, I've really seen healing more like organic wounding. Less the thickening of the trunk, and more of the great big oak burl. Sometimes there are scars to trace but if we don't pull out the x-acto and retraumatize ourselves, we may be healed enough. maybe you're attracted to challenges and types of stimulation where the people youre not attracted to just bore you on some level. You seem pretty bubbly most of the time but I guess it's worth asking if you acquire some sense of depth or substance(or stimulation) from the fall after the rise. Do you secretly enjoy the feeling when things fall apart? Or the peek between the escalation and the drop?
Wow, I think your questions just hit some kind of nail in my head ... I think I do secretly love it, when panic entails, it is then I jump into action 🤭
Thank you for the questions
maybe its your choice and part of you - maybe a part you don't fully know of - doesn't want to make that choice? :)
Yes. It's like when we/they say, deep down you really know, we just don't always want to admitt it to ourselves because it usually means feeling that which we are running from....doh! 😁
@@heytherejessiehere yeah... this is something I am staring right down the barrel right now too... funny to know many people have the same thing to deal with. but in wider terms, we all have our poisons!
I am living through something very similar. All of my relationships have been on an exponential WTF curve and the last one could have cost me my life. When you talked about how maybe you have to go back to these relationships to learn because that's where you're drawn, I had a visceral reaction because I see these dynamics as an basic addiction. I understand the whole concept of needing to hit rock bottom but at some point you realize you won't ever really stop being drawn to it if you keep feeding that part of your brain. You have to starve it, despite the urge. That's where I'm at in my thinking anyway. I hope I'm strong enough to not get on the next trainwreck that's bound to come around. 🥲
Oh babe i feel you. We dont have to go back to the train wreck if we dont want to! I just like to know and claim it when thats what im doing 🤣 Thank you for sharing 💕💫🤘