I moved to Australia over 23 years ago. Everything you are saying is valid and I remember feeling how you do. I pushed myself to make friends at playgroups where I took my daughter which saved me at the time.
Ignore the haters, trolls and emotional cripples, its a brave and mature thing to be able to express how you feel and what you are experiencing currently. Hang in there you are a very nice person and a great mum, leave the emotional cripples in your wake.Its difficult to find your own people/tribe at times (that has been my experience also).Sometimes though these difficult times and feelings forge a stronger and better you.
This is really lovely for you to say, thank you for sharing. I'm not doing it for sympathy but more for others who are experiencing the same. Its hard to find new friends, i find its very much friendly conversations but nothing really comes of them and maybe thats just the way it is. I have my own family here so it's not like i'm on my own - i had just expected to have made more friendships than i have. I really do appreciate your comment and support - thank you again for your lovely words.
Aw I love how you are so honest and show the real struggles you have but like you say you don't let it keep you down. I hope you stick around after getting a PR VISA and give it a few more years on that before you make decisions. I think your current visa is tying you down. I have kept thinking you'd be better suited in Perth. Keep going! Hang in there! X
Thank you for this. Wouldn't be right for me to share all the great parts but not also show the side that i've found to be hard - if not the hardest part. There's lots of positives to being here, and i am for sure willing to give it my best shot, fingers crossed things will improve! :) x
Hiya Kim, Ive said before that you truly remind me of my younger self, like a lil sis! You are such a nice person and that shines through. Anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. When my sons were younger, I went to tons of clubs, groups, activities like you and often felt lonely there. I would have gravitated towards you and been friendly! My advice is just keep being your lovely self, when you meet other parents in the playground it opens up a whole new set of options for friends. Hang in there mate 🧡
Awww this made me smile! Thank you for this ❤ I would absolutely be your friend ❤ I'm sure it will come, these things just take time and it can happen most likely when I least expect it to! I'm enjoying playgroup etc but I'm just always so busy with the kids that it's hard to speak with others for longer than 3 minutes 😅 I appreciate your kindness, thank you ❤ xx
@@kimberleylucas Oh god yeah I remember that so well! Your attention has to be spread so thin. I always say I don't think I had a hot cup of tea for 7yrs and never had a bath without one son coming in to show me Lego or Pokemon for 12yrs!! But you are right, its THE best job in the world. Did I see in a different video that you were working now too? If so what are you doing and how the heck do you juggle that with your 2 smalls when neither is in school yet?! Take care, Jessie x🧡
@aye70aye yep this is exactly it! My 2 are non stop and I'm desperate for a break but when I go somewhere myself all I do is buy for them 😅 yes I'm working 1 day a week in a lovely spa, just helping out but the girls are lovely and it's good to have some adult chat! It's a juggle for sure and sometimes I do wonder if it's worth it but it's working for now 😊 x
Living by the beach is nice, but it’s a mother’s happiness that truly matters for her children. I hope it all works out here Kim, but there is also nothing wrong with returning to where your source of warmth and love resides if that’s what your family ends up deciding. Either way, I’m sure your family’s adventures and experiences have made you so much closer.❤
Thank you for this lovely comment. I can't agree with it more. Thankfully both Euan and I feel the same and we're making decisions each time with all of this in mind. ❤ I hope you have a lovely evening x
Hope it works out Kim sadly last year I lost my daughter which has been the worse journey that my husband has ever gone through, I belong to Scotland been in Melbourne for 38 years just came back from Scotland and now thinking of relocating back home to be near family as we are both retired here now, but the loneliness without my daughter is just heartbreaking. 🥰💕💜💜
@@kimberleylucas thank you Kim for your kind words greatly appreciated, it should say the worse journey my husband and I have both ever went through. I hope you have a great day, pity you are not in Melbourne we could’ve met up for a coffee and a chat, even though I am older I would like to think I could help you in your time of loneliness, look after yourself 👍🙏🥰
If u aren’t happy in Aussie go home u do moan a lot I am a Aussie living in another country I don’t moan about the country I am in if I did I would go home
Your kids are the easiest way to bridge that gap - Not sure of their ages, but get them involved in social activities - sports, clubs, groups - both organised like team sports and less competitive like swimming lessons - easy to connect with other parents and you instantly have multiple points of common ground for discussion
Kim, loneliness is a normal feeling, especially for parents at home with young kids. Just remind yourself that it is temporary and things will get better. Hope your little one is feeling better. ps. Gorgeous outfits, especially the printed pants from CottonOn.
I'm definitely feeling better than I was 3 months ago so there's a plus 😅 it does take time and I'm sure things will all work out the way they are supposed to ❤ thank you for your kind comments! Ps... the trousers are beautiful! Love them 😊
Thinking of you, and really appreciate your honesty for those of us in the process of coming over! Another vote for WA frome me, us Scots can hang together ❤
Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. I moved to a new area when my kids were little and I totally understand the struggle. I know you didn't like the playgroups you tried (those were in Sydney but yeah?), but try again. Ask the lovely ladies at the clinic and check for notices there too. MAybe Isla might enjoy a dance group or early gymnastics class? Exploring your childs interests with groups, classes, sports is a great way to meet other mums. When she does start school, volunteer to help out, schools appreciate it, kids love seeing you at school and you become part of the school community and make friends while you're at it. Everyone wins. The coast has lots of great groups for little ones and adults to join. Hope you find your niche❤
Thank you for this. We actually joined a new playgroup and so far i absolutely love it. I actually look forward to it each week, the kids love it too which definitely helps! Isla is starting dancing this weekend and we go to swimming lessons too! I'm hopeful ❤
I came here as an expat too 5 years ago. Remember this feeling, it does feel lonely and isolated at first. Sometimes it takes years to settle down and built strong connections. Take your time Kimberly, everything will be there❤️
Thank you for this. People always tell me the first 2 years are the hardest and we aren't even through them yet so I definitely need to give it more time ❤
Do they have any friends apps like peanut over there? There will be so many people feeling the same as you going through this journey. Parenthood is so tough to handle on its own, I have 4 YO and nearly 2 YO so get it but you definitely need that adult connection. Like you said to just have a rant and be yourself. Really hope you meet friends soon just to top up on another positive for being over there. No matter where you are in the world hard times come in all shapes and sizes. The fact you guys are still sticking it out and not giving up shows so much about the kind of people you are. Hopefully even on socials you can make connections with people locally. 🤞 x
This is a lovely message, thank you for taking the time to post it. ❤ we do have peanut here, I think I'll give it a shot! You never know, I may just meet one person who becomes my life long friend! ❤
Kimberley, I know what that loneliness is like we moved to California and I never really settled I lost my sister at home while I was there . I moved back home to Ireland and it was the best decison we ever made. For me I wanted to be home with friends and family and wanted that for my girls who are now 21 and 19. Its ok to come home its not a failure, everyone is different everyones experience is different. I am happy here with friends and family especailly now our girls are off at university... just do what makes you happy💚
This is so lovely to read, thank you for taking the time to write it. Home was never terrible for us, despite what people may think... we just wanted to try something new and hopefully better for our kids. So far it's beautiful and they are having a great time but it's definitely hard being away from family, especially for the support aspect. Time will tell, but we also aren't against going home ❤ so glad things worked out for you. Ireland is like Scotland.... beautiful scenery as well as people ❤
I think you should meet some people who follow you on social media . Go to a nice cafe in the Central Coast and then go for a coastal walk along beaches etc . You are such a wonderful lady . God bless ♥️
My brother felt exactly the same in Sydney, he found it extremely hard to make friends, and i can only put that dien to it being the big city, you know, like London. Us northerners are a different breed Kim, if you know, you know. 🤣 My brother made the decision to moved to Perth, and he has made so many friends. I hope you make headway soon lovely lady. ❤️
Thank you for this. I'm so happy he is settling better in Perth! If you have found friends then you have made it! They become the family you are missing and it all works out nicely ❤ I think we may have to make some decisions soon, as we are both feeling the exact same! Hope you are well 😊
@@kimberleylucas I'm good thanks Kim. And yes, he has settled so well in the mines. I really feel for you, but don't give up, it's just taking time. You're working now and friendships are made that way too. But maybe Euan can get a transfer to Perth with his work. It's the last piece in the puzzle for you, you've done so well getting this far so quickly. X
There are many people who are lonely and isolated in the middle of big cities who would love to have a new friend in their lives. If you want a grandpa figure to chat with I would love to be that person.
I’m in perth would love to be friends 😊 I have a 6 year old son ❤ my grandmother is from Glasgow and had moved to perth when she was young. And it became her home for the rest of her life 😊❤
Kimberley you have got to put yourself out there. You can't expect people to come to you. Join a local club, become a committee member of your childrens kindergarten. Like minded people will enjoy each others company. Involve yourself with wives and girlfriends connected with Ewans work. And no, Australians are not hostile and unfriendly as @Wayne-fn1sw has stated, ridiculous statement. Good luck
Thanks for the advice. We currently do playgroup, swimming lessons, dance lessons and also daycare, people do talk but it doesn't go much further. I know it takes time, it's still early days. I'm sure when isla starts school I'll meet people as I love to help out whenever I can 😊
Australians are originally British people who left the cold UK to Australia 🦘 but I heard Australians can be hostile and unfreindly many are very outspoken in Australia and very direct unlike in the UK its fake behaviour some similarities. The grass is not always greener on the other side too many English Brits are in Australia thier second home.
I hope that means you're leaving this channel, you have absolutely no use here. But no, you'll probably sit on here lurking until there's another video you want to pick holes in! 🤔🤔 I'm sure your life is just perfect by the sound of your tone 😂😂😂 sad, sad Wally!
@@aye70aye iv'e been following Kimbo and family since her first post in Aust.. It gives me no pleasure in saying that she has hardly stopped bleating and farten since she arrived. I have said before and I'll say it again, I think She would be a lot happier being back in gloomy Scotland with her family and friends. Sorry if my comment offends you but everybody finds or looks for something to be offended aboot these days. I only wish happiness for her and her family. Not for her to live a life of misery because the lady is a brilliant mum.
I moved to Australia over 23 years ago. Everything you are saying is valid and I remember feeling how you do. I pushed myself to make friends at playgroups where I took my daughter which saved me at the time.
Ignore the haters, trolls and emotional cripples, its a brave and mature thing to be able to express how you feel and what you are experiencing currently. Hang in there you are a very nice person and a great mum, leave the emotional cripples in your wake.Its difficult to find your own people/tribe at times (that has been my experience also).Sometimes though these difficult times and feelings forge a stronger and better you.
This is really lovely for you to say, thank you for sharing. I'm not doing it for sympathy but more for others who are experiencing the same. Its hard to find new friends, i find its very much friendly conversations but nothing really comes of them and maybe thats just the way it is. I have my own family here so it's not like i'm on my own - i had just expected to have made more friendships than i have. I really do appreciate your comment and support - thank you again for your lovely words.
Aw I love how you are so honest and show the real struggles you have but like you say you don't let it keep you down.
I hope you stick around after getting a PR VISA and give it a few more years on that before you make decisions. I think your current visa is tying you down. I have kept thinking you'd be better suited in Perth. Keep going! Hang in there! X
Thank you for this. Wouldn't be right for me to share all the great parts but not also show the side that i've found to be hard - if not the hardest part. There's lots of positives to being here, and i am for sure willing to give it my best shot, fingers crossed things will improve! :) x
This reminds us all to reach out and be more inclusive. Hope you make connections soon as I’m sure you would be a fabulous friend 😊
Thank you for this ❤ I'm sure it will happen in time 😊
Hiya Kim, Ive said before that you truly remind me of my younger self, like a lil sis! You are such a nice person and that shines through. Anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. When my sons were younger, I went to tons of clubs, groups, activities like you and often felt lonely there. I would have gravitated towards you and been friendly!
My advice is just keep being your lovely self, when you meet other parents in the playground it opens up a whole new set of options for friends. Hang in there mate 🧡
Awww this made me smile! Thank you for this ❤ I would absolutely be your friend ❤ I'm sure it will come, these things just take time and it can happen most likely when I least expect it to! I'm enjoying playgroup etc but I'm just always so busy with the kids that it's hard to speak with others for longer than 3 minutes 😅 I appreciate your kindness, thank you ❤ xx
@@kimberleylucas Oh god yeah I remember that so well! Your attention has to be spread so thin. I always say I don't think I had a hot cup of tea for 7yrs and never had a bath without one son coming in to show me Lego or Pokemon for 12yrs!! But you are right, its THE best job in the world. Did I see in a different video that you were working now too? If so what are you doing and how the heck do you juggle that with your 2 smalls when neither is in school yet?! Take care, Jessie x🧡
@aye70aye yep this is exactly it! My 2 are non stop and I'm desperate for a break but when I go somewhere myself all I do is buy for them 😅 yes I'm working 1 day a week in a lovely spa, just helping out but the girls are lovely and it's good to have some adult chat! It's a juggle for sure and sometimes I do wonder if it's worth it but it's working for now 😊 x
Can totally relate to this. Thanks for sharing. Glad to see you getting some "me time in". x
Living by the beach is nice, but it’s a mother’s happiness that truly matters for her children. I hope it all works out here Kim, but there is also nothing wrong with returning to where your source of warmth and love resides if that’s what your family ends up deciding.
Either way, I’m sure your family’s adventures and experiences have made you so much closer.❤
Thank you for this lovely comment. I can't agree with it more. Thankfully both Euan and I feel the same and we're making decisions each time with all of this in mind. ❤ I hope you have a lovely evening x
Hope it works out Kim sadly last year I lost my daughter which has been the worse journey that my husband has ever gone through, I belong to Scotland been in Melbourne for 38 years just came back from Scotland and now thinking of relocating back home to be near family as we are both retired here now, but the loneliness without my daughter is just heartbreaking. 🥰💕💜💜
@maggief1137 I'm so sorry to hear this, I can't imagine how you are feeling 😢 you do whatever you need to do to for you ❤ sending you so much love x
@@kimberleylucas thank you Kim for your kind words greatly appreciated, it should say the worse journey my husband and I have both ever went through. I hope you have a great day, pity you are not in Melbourne we could’ve met up for a coffee and a chat, even though I am older I would like to think I could help you in your time of loneliness, look after yourself 👍🙏🥰
If u aren’t happy in Aussie go home u do moan a lot I am a Aussie living in another country I don’t moan about the country I am in if I did I would go home
Your kids are the easiest way to bridge that gap - Not sure of their ages, but get them involved in social activities - sports, clubs, groups - both organised like team sports and less competitive like swimming lessons - easy to connect with other parents and you instantly have multiple points of common ground for discussion
Thank you, we currently do swimming, dancing and playgroup so hopefully I'll meet someone soon!
Kim, loneliness is a normal feeling, especially for parents at home with young kids. Just remind yourself that it is temporary and things will get better. Hope your little one is feeling better. ps. Gorgeous outfits, especially the printed pants from CottonOn.
I'm definitely feeling better than I was 3 months ago so there's a plus 😅 it does take time and I'm sure things will all work out the way they are supposed to ❤ thank you for your kind comments! Ps... the trousers are beautiful! Love them 😊
Welcome to Australia! 😊
Thank you 😊
Thinking of you, and really appreciate your honesty for those of us in the process of coming over! Another vote for WA frome me, us Scots can hang together ❤
LOVE this 😊❤
Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. I moved to a new area when my kids were little and I totally understand the struggle. I know you didn't like the playgroups you tried (those were in Sydney but yeah?), but try again. Ask the lovely ladies at the clinic and check for notices there too. MAybe Isla might enjoy a dance group or early gymnastics class? Exploring your childs interests with groups, classes, sports is a great way to meet other mums. When she does start school, volunteer to help out, schools appreciate it, kids love seeing you at school and you become part of the school community and make friends while you're at it. Everyone wins. The coast has lots of great groups for little ones and adults to join. Hope you find your niche❤
Thank you for this. We actually joined a new playgroup and so far i absolutely love it. I actually look forward to it each week, the kids love it too which definitely helps! Isla is starting dancing this weekend and we go to swimming lessons too! I'm hopeful ❤
Another very honest video of moving to Australia Kimberley. Sending you love ❤🇬🇧
Thank you so much, always appreciated ❤
In the UK you meet your friends at the pub, the US at the church, in Aus at sporting clubs.
I came here as an expat too 5 years ago. Remember this feeling, it does feel lonely and isolated at first. Sometimes it takes years to settle down and built strong connections. Take your time Kimberly, everything will be there❤️
Thank you for this. People always tell me the first 2 years are the hardest and we aren't even through them yet so I definitely need to give it more time ❤
Do they have any friends apps like peanut over there? There will be so many people feeling the same as you going through this journey. Parenthood is so tough to handle on its own, I have 4 YO and nearly 2 YO so get it but you definitely need that adult connection. Like you said to just have a rant and be yourself. Really hope you meet friends soon just to top up on another positive for being over there.
No matter where you are in the world hard times come in all shapes and sizes. The fact you guys are still sticking it out and not giving up shows so much about the kind of people you are. Hopefully even on socials you can make connections with people locally. 🤞 x
This is a lovely message, thank you for taking the time to post it. ❤ we do have peanut here, I think I'll give it a shot! You never know, I may just meet one person who becomes my life long friend! ❤
Kimberley, I know what that loneliness is like we moved to California and I never really settled I lost my sister at home while I was there . I moved back home to Ireland and it was the best decison we ever made. For me I wanted to be home with friends and family and wanted that for my girls who are now 21 and 19. Its ok to come home its not a failure, everyone is different everyones experience is different. I am happy here with friends and family especailly now our girls are off at university... just do what makes you happy💚
This is so lovely to read, thank you for taking the time to write it. Home was never terrible for us, despite what people may think... we just wanted to try something new and hopefully better for our kids. So far it's beautiful and they are having a great time but it's definitely hard being away from family, especially for the support aspect. Time will tell, but we also aren't against going home ❤ so glad things worked out for you. Ireland is like Scotland.... beautiful scenery as well as people ❤
I think you should meet some people who follow you on social media . Go to a nice cafe in the Central Coast and then go for a coastal walk along beaches etc . You are such a wonderful lady . God bless ♥️
My brother felt exactly the same in Sydney, he found it extremely hard to make friends, and i can only put that dien to it being the big city, you know, like London. Us northerners are a different breed Kim, if you know, you know. 🤣 My brother made the decision to moved to Perth, and he has made so many friends. I hope you make headway soon lovely lady. ❤️
Thank you for this. I'm so happy he is settling better in Perth! If you have found friends then you have made it! They become the family you are missing and it all works out nicely ❤ I think we may have to make some decisions soon, as we are both feeling the exact same! Hope you are well 😊
@@kimberleylucas I'm good thanks Kim. And yes, he has settled so well in the mines. I really feel for you, but don't give up, it's just taking time. You're working now and friendships are made that way too. But maybe Euan can get a transfer to Perth with his work. It's the last piece in the puzzle for you, you've done so well getting this far so quickly. X
@@teamclarke6999 keep your fingers crossed! What's for us won't go by us 😊👏❤️
@@kimberleylucas Are you a Christian, Kim? Are you in Melbourne where I am?
There are many people who are lonely and isolated in the middle of big cities who would love to have a new friend in their lives. If you want a grandpa figure to chat with I would love to be that person.
I’m in perth would love to be friends 😊 I have a 6 year old son ❤ my grandmother is from Glasgow and had moved to perth when she was young. And it became her home for the rest of her life 😊❤
Ahhh this is so lovely!! If only you were NSW 😢😢 so many people have contacted me from Perth, seems like there is a big community there 😊❤ xx
that is the big thing is not what you going to have it's what you going to miss when you move away.
Kimberley you have got to put yourself out there. You can't expect people to come to you. Join a local club, become a committee member of your childrens kindergarten. Like minded people will enjoy each others company. Involve yourself with wives and girlfriends connected with Ewans work. And no, Australians are not hostile and unfriendly as @Wayne-fn1sw has stated, ridiculous statement. Good luck
Thanks for the advice. We currently do playgroup, swimming lessons, dance lessons and also daycare, people do talk but it doesn't go much further. I know it takes time, it's still early days. I'm sure when isla starts school I'll meet people as I love to help out whenever I can 😊
The SUN shining through the car windows must be annoying as well Kimbo. You wouldn't have that problem back in sunny Sco land. 😮😮😮😮
Australians are originally British people who left the cold UK to Australia 🦘 but I heard Australians can be hostile and unfreindly many are very outspoken in Australia and very direct unlike in the UK its fake behaviour some similarities. The grass is not always greener on the other side too many English Brits are in Australia thier second home.
POOR SAD, WOE IS ME old Kimberley. Are you running for president of the Central Coast Glee Club? Bye bye Kimberley, enough is enough.
You have the right name mate , Wally. What a rude and sad little man.
What a vile, unnecessary comment!
I hope that means you're leaving this channel, you have absolutely no use here. But no, you'll probably sit on here lurking until there's another video you want to pick holes in! 🤔🤔 I'm sure your life is just perfect by the sound of your tone 😂😂😂 sad, sad Wally!
@@aye70aye Why, are you a fully paid up member of the Glee club? HAHAHA.
@@aye70aye iv'e been following Kimbo and family since her first post in Aust.. It gives me no pleasure in saying that she has hardly stopped bleating and farten since she arrived. I have said before and I'll say it again, I think She would be a lot happier being back in gloomy Scotland with her family and friends. Sorry if my comment offends you but everybody finds or looks for something to be offended aboot these days. I only wish happiness for her and her family. Not for her to live a life of misery because the lady is a brilliant mum.