4 Reasons Why You Can't Leave a Toxic Relationship

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  • @FredSismoS
    @FredSismoS 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    There is also the situation where you love the person so much, that you expect things will change.

    • @fighterinmkiwiscience3517
      @fighterinmkiwiscience3517 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      And it never change

    • @theironbolt716
      @theironbolt716 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yup even when your do good and loving to them they take there anger and feelings out on you and treat you like sgit and allways make you feel like everything is your fault

    • @ksprakalya3303
      @ksprakalya3303 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly

  • @mickavoidant4780
    @mickavoidant4780 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I've gotten out of toxic relationships and always felt good for doing so.

    • @algj
      @algj ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same, I felt great, but somehow now I miss her now after a month :/ in reality, I was thinking about breaking up with her for 2-3 months.

    • @mickavoidant4780
      @mickavoidant4780 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@algj I understand you missing her, but you don't miss the behaviours. If it's like mine, you'll see more and more behaviours that you've left behind. Keep yourself for someone worthwhile.

    • @algj
      @algj ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mickavoidant4780 True... I'll heal with time, it happened a month ago, so I just need to find some distractions, hobbies like photography, skating or something else:) We'll all get through it

    • @mickavoidant4780
      @mickavoidant4780 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@algj That's it; live your life, now that you're free to. When you get flashbacks, tell yourself 'It's over'.

    • @ariannefaith9482
      @ariannefaith9482 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Help 😒😞

  • @A55a551n
    @A55a551n ปีที่แล้ว +255

    Timestamps
    1). Emotional attachment 0:49
    2). Low self-esteem 1:56
    3). Fear of change 2:46
    4). Manipulation 3:34
    Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

    • @unknown11215
      @unknown11215 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👍💙

    • @nicholaswilliams429
      @nicholaswilliams429 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you. You too❤

    • @A55a551n
      @A55a551n ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nicholaswilliams429 not a problem happy to help

    • @noonegirl
      @noonegirl ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you 😊

    • @A55a551n
      @A55a551n ปีที่แล้ว

      @@noonegirl happy to help

  • @timmyedie-eseh208
    @timmyedie-eseh208 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I'm mainly alone, however, this isn't a bad thing, I been able to focus on myself. I do have friends which fall into those types of relationships but I know who are real ones that'll support me.

  • @lisamartin3346
    @lisamartin3346 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I had a “friend” who had borderline personality - ugh! She always lured me in bc she’d use dogs which I love. After about a year, my husband heard my conversation with her on the phone. I hung up after being “trapped again.” He said to me these six simple words. “It’s either you or the dogs.” THAT WAS IT! I shaped up and told her I couldn’t help her anymore. Saw n heard from her less n less. Broke free. So so glad.

    • @karolinanie5946
      @karolinanie5946 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why do you have to say about borderline personality? Shitty behavior is shitty behavior. I imagine you wouldn't say "my friend who had depression". Always borderline as devil 😂

  • @JaeJaeDances
    @JaeJaeDances ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I'm stuck in a friendship I don't want to be in. she never intentionally hurts anyone, but she's hurt me multiple times (accidentally offending me, threatening to sh/khs) and I've never said anything. I know it's my fault I'm in this mess. I never say anything about how I feel. I know that if I do tell her how I feel, she'll say "it's okay, I'm not hurt" but I know she will be. she's going to spiral if I leave her. that's why I'm trapped. I don't know what to do.

    • @Auzhana8
      @Auzhana8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Call someone important to her & make them put her in the hospital and check on her that way

    • @JasElsee
      @JasElsee ปีที่แล้ว +12

      If she messages you and threatens to sh/khs then ask where she is and call ambulance or police to her place. If she really just lying to manipulate you then she’ll hopefully learn from what might come of it and sees the consequences of her own actions. And if she was serious then you did the right thing getting her the help she needed. Either way, it gets resolved. You should never feel like it’s your responsibility to make sure she stays away from doing bad things, she’s responsible for her own life and well-being and should seek help instead of affecting your well-being. You are being manipulated and the fact that you think it’s your fault that you are in this says a lot already. Prioritize yourself and what you want and set boundaries even if the other person might get hurt. Your feelings are your responsibility to take care of and her feelings are hers to care for. There’s only so much you could do for her, try more to be with yourself and never blame this on you.

    • @happyblackwoman6154
      @happyblackwoman6154 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jalynn Rae cut her off immediately. Be assertive about it. You may need to confront her in front of someone. If she does these things in the workplace, tell your manager everything ahead of time before you confront her. And once you cut her off, don't let her attach herself to you again. Yes, people can change, but two people can still be toxic for each other. Whatever happens after that is solely her fault. Don't let her contact you through text messages or social media ever again.

    • @bobbruce4135
      @bobbruce4135 ปีที่แล้ว

      Many good comments here. I'm not sure how tall and handsome you are, but your looks SMV dictates how you are treated and your options with ladies. Wheat Waffles channel has some great content on how to determine this and what types of relationships will be available for you. Casey Zander talks of categories women put men in such as: friend zone, lover, provider, etc. All will give you false hope and cope and the illusion that you "have a chance" but that's not true. Good luck.

    • @bobbruce4135
      @bobbruce4135 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@CynicalSpheres Have you reviewed the videos of the channels, such as Wheat Waffles, that I put in my comment? You're welcome.

  • @come2me007
    @come2me007 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I was in a toxic relationship. It felt like suffocation everyday. The other women did everything to harass me and my family just to satisfy herself and be happy. She felt happy by making others suffer. Finally I got out of that relationship

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Good people bring out the good in other people.

  • @eddiestray4870
    @eddiestray4870 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Let's not forget the most insidious trap: "Hey, they are doing their best to overcome those negative traits and you're helping make the difference, it's just a slow process and since their effort is so distressing, giving this inch won't turn into a mile right? Right?"

  • @Socially_aquard
    @Socially_aquard ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My friend may hate to hear this but he really needs to.

  • @maryamshaaban74
    @maryamshaaban74 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    It's also how much of yourself you've put into that person/relationship. You sacrifice so much for them that you start changing, you re no longer happy, able to focus, etc. And only your partner knows of these sacrifices and you might feel or they might promise you that they'll return all of that to you later, based on the fact that they emotionally drain you by making you belive that THEY are th victim, the broken pigeon in need of urgent care and once you've healed them it'll be your turn and their heald self is strong enough to bring back what you've lost for them. Suffice to say, that'll never happen, it'll never be your turn and they'll just keep draining more out of you. So really, you're attached to yourself that you've lost in this relationship, not them. You might even tell yourselves that you've lost way too much to wall out of that relationship so you're waiting to be paid back and then YOU'LL be the one that breaks up with them. Again, it won't happen and you'll just keep losing more which I know is painful as hell but think of it this way, losing a million dollars is better than losing 2 millions. Your million won't be paid back because that person took them and used them to build their life, it's no longer liquidated. Hope this helps the falsely hopeful people out there who are afraid to lose their sense of identity.

    • @ladytionne1
      @ladytionne1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I started crying so hard reading this. He only text me when he wants some money or food. He never calls or text me or even plans a visit without the promise of him getting money…I feel so used and tossed aside..

    • @maryamshaaban74
      @maryamshaaban74 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ladytionne1 I'm so sorry he treated you that way. I hope my comment was a wakeup call for you. Walk out, you deserve better. And remember, you can heal in the same environment that made you sick.

  • @Raph_Coffee
    @Raph_Coffee ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Wow this was perfect timing because I feel like I can't leave my toxic bf, so this is nice I really need it so I am glad that I got a message for this video

  • @AnabelNunes
    @AnabelNunes 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I’m currently in a toxic relationship. I can see the end but I feel so guilty for leaving. Everyone around me says my partner is no good but I feel so sad thinking about everything we’ve been through and being single for the rest of my life. I feel worried no one will want me and he would be the best person I will get and it’s me who’s the problem. I can’t seem to get over him. 🥺

    • @Anneyong6985
      @Anneyong6985 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why is it so? My sister's bf is so toxic . He used to hit her and abuse her. Force her for xxx etc evn if she was on her periods. Treat her like trash. He evn stopped contacting her fr straight 8 months. But still my sister want to marry him only she wants him to become a good guy. What shit is this?

  • @evem6890
    @evem6890 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Currently trying to leave my toxic relationship. I think I'm too scared to be alone and i still love the "idea" of him, i don't know how to stop loving this image
    He is abusive in every way but then comes back and is the sweet guy i met. I know I'm being manipulated

    • @moneytime1556
      @moneytime1556 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Did you grow up in a similar way ? Did your parents treat you similar? Because I believe it are not are are attracted to people that reminds of us of our parents and wen I say remind us I mean the negative traits that people be attracted too.

    • @cindyhernandez1787
      @cindyhernandez1787 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      did you leave? That’s my situation right now

    • @garimarana8972
      @garimarana8972 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hope you did it and you are in a better place ❤

    • @arlenemartinez829
      @arlenemartinez829 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m in the same situation:/

    • @monaasmr2936
      @monaasmr2936 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too😢😢😢😢I'm very practicall person otherwise but the sweet manipulator controlled me with fake love and robbed me of my money

  • @uklejamini
    @uklejamini ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Timestamps
    0:49 1. Emotional Attachment
    1:56 2. Low Self-Esteem
    2:46 3. Fear of Change
    3:34 4. Manipulation
    Have a great day!

    • @unknown11215
      @unknown11215 ปีที่แล้ว

      👍

    • @sweetexpressionsoflove815
      @sweetexpressionsoflove815 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Peace everyone ! Sending love your way!
      If anyone is struggling with reclaiming your power after leaving a toxic relationship;
      Check out this healing journal! 30 DAYS OF LOVING ME AFTER LEAVING A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP!!! IT HAS HELPED SO MUCH!

  • @smolbean9879
    @smolbean9879 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My guy friend who at first thought was my friend that I could trust but I can’t take anymore rude comment, judgement for the people I talk to, the talking behind my back, the gaslighting and the manipulation. I’m tired of feeling I need their validation or for them to like me because we’ve been thru so much. I’ve been scared of loosing this friendship and having him hate me but now I realize that I shouldn’t care. He doesn’t give a damn about me, doesn’t care about me nor my feelings all he wanted was someone to control. I know that it’s better to let them go because it will be for the best for me, my mental health, and life.

  • @brain_respect_and_freedom
    @brain_respect_and_freedom ปีที่แล้ว +10

    💙🎯🙋👍It's a great affirmation, the last part of your video:
    "I, You, We deserve to be in a relationship that makes me, you, us feel RESPECTED, VALUED, and LOVED.💙💙💙

  • @lovelyollie
    @lovelyollie ปีที่แล้ว +9

    i used to have a toxic bf trust me it is so not worth it to keep them. I missed him at first but its heals and you feel better and i found out he was talking crap about me to my best friend because he thought i liked my best friend that he introduced me to

  • @ripkowai
    @ripkowai ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Just a couple of weeks ago i finally managed to get away from my toxic relationship. She kept saying that she could change the whole time but at the end after a few weeks she gets back to normal... I gave her so many chances during the last 7 months but i kept feeling shit all the time. So it was time to end it. Now i feel amazing and so free

    • @ripkowai
      @ripkowai ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ddwfw interesting enough me and her just had a talk how she still loves me but she will stop texting me so that she can get over me. I genuinely have a hard time finding anything good that happened in the relationship

    • @Auzhana8
      @Auzhana8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Atleast it wasn’t 5 years that really good for you though

    • @Tesseslife2342
      @Tesseslife2342 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Good for you I didn’t even know I was in a toxic relationship 😢

  • @baeldaikokuten_yj6792
    @baeldaikokuten_yj6792 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I have problems like that before and I thought if I don’t hangout with that toxic or narcissistic person much, they would know I’m trying to stay away from them

  • @mcarms3743
    @mcarms3743 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    A video idea: what to say to your crush when you first meet them.

  • @andreimircea2254
    @andreimircea2254 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I am more curious about neglect. Because all of these signs covered manipulators or abusers, but none covered for people who have neglected others emotionally. How do people know if that’s the case and how do people who have rely on emotionally neglectful people can handle their situations. I am curious because emotional neglect seems not so talked when it comes to emotional toxicity.

  • @FlyingBrick-te7rk
    @FlyingBrick-te7rk ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thanks for making these videos! They have really helped me realize a lot of helpful things that have made my life incredibly better.❤

  • @833dbmOsbejz
    @833dbmOsbejz ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It could be them making you feel inferior or so superior they need you and can’t survive without you. I’ve been that person and I regret it

  • @Eluderatnight
    @Eluderatnight ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Might I recomend listening to Unbroken by Sierra on 1h loop as a positive affirmation.
    Remember "The cost of doing nothing gets more expensive each day"

    • @laurenleon2061
      @laurenleon2061 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well said!!! I needed that!!! Thank you😊

  • @koobpheej3313
    @koobpheej3313 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yes my friend started to get mad and all that stuff all this like yes did things for years but the normal him is gone... 1:12 all my friends are toxic most of them the ones who say its ok are not here no more

  • @smodrow9203
    @smodrow9203 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I myself am in a toxic marriage/relationship but I've been finding it hard to follow-through in getting the help I need to be able to remove myself from the situation, it's been super stressful..

  • @Vishfeast
    @Vishfeast 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The moment you get the strength to have the inner strength of "hey mother f'er i know your using your words and actions to make me feel guilt and shame, and you knowing that my inner world is chaos, i hold you in contempt of my happiness and you no longer serve my life" (then walk away (then feel empowered)).

  • @onlycomment6502
    @onlycomment6502 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg this video arrived right on time have a toxic friendship and i decided to break up and this video just pop up is an other sign i should do it.

  • @presntnow
    @presntnow ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Get away from toxic relationships.

  • @NexusNemesis
    @NexusNemesis ปีที่แล้ว

    I was stuck in mine (fiancée) for 6 years, finally got out because she "got tired of my whining". I might've lost my house, my cats and most of my belongings, but I'm glad, I'm still broken, but I'm glad.

  • @venus.or.perish
    @venus.or.perish ปีที่แล้ว +2

    last year was my breaking point. i had to leave my toxic ex-bestfriend of 6 years. the outcome of this was almost 7 months of bullying, self-isolation because of the bullying and lies she told about me. this whole school year i’ve only talked to my parents and the occasional adults, no people my age which i think is a little bit… well, traumatizing. im not trying to say that i have it bad, ik some people have it worse, but being socially isolated ain’t pleasant. i now find it hard to talk to other people, especially those my age.

  • @VVCj542
    @VVCj542 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for making this video this is exactly what I needed to watch

  • @jollymor1516
    @jollymor1516 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh this is so true, I can so relate with this video, sometimes, it’s just so easy to have low self esteem or feel as though you don’t deserve to be happy or to question your self worth, but this video is so so helpful and I just love it!! Awesome content. Thanks, psych2go. ❤😊💕

  • @GlenHunt
    @GlenHunt ปีที่แล้ว

    Yup yup yup. For me, the right move is to move from the US to Portugal, where it's more mellow, less triggering, where I'm not dependent on anyone, where I can start from scratch and admit only those who are awesome like me. Good weather, awesome vibe, great beach, mountain biking and hiking super close by...

  • @GodammitNappa
    @GodammitNappa ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I feel really bad because i am noticing many of these signs in myself but also noticing i was doing some of these as well. Took a while to realize myself and my ex were just really hurt confused souls and we were there for each other but not good for each other.

  • @Drew-J.H.-Rochester
    @Drew-J.H.-Rochester ปีที่แล้ว

    My screen: 0 comments. Scrolling further: I'M STILL SEEING COMMENTS.
    Thank you for all of the psyche facts, they let me know when I'm imagining things, when I'm in a bad relationship, and what I can do to fix it. Thank you so much Psyche2Go. I started watching you after trying to figure out what to do to get over the loss of a girlfriend. I've been watching you ever since, thank you so much. God bless.

  • @creepikpedaass2133
    @creepikpedaass2133 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i just can't, i love her too much, but she doesn't, yet she makes me feel loved yet hated, i just keep hoping eventually she would love me back

  • @inari3298
    @inari3298 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I sometimes wonder If im more toxic than i think. I want to change, both for myself, but also my friends around me, they deserve better, just like I deserve the chance to do right by them all, and myself. Change what I can change, accept what i cannot and move on.

  • @MsLilac88
    @MsLilac88 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I always feel empowered by your amazing relationship advice videos. 😊

  • @Hollyy_0
    @Hollyy_0 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mine is a very hectic situation he is aware of his destructive ways and wants to change. He wants me in his life and says I don’t deserve the things he says… in person our relationship in perfect it’s only when he drinks and I get calls and it’s always constant fighting and him making things up gaslighting me to get a reaction out of me… it’s so hard it’s like two different people. I want him to get help he knows he needs it.. idk if I need to stay strong and hopeful or leave 😔

    • @fika.violent
      @fika.violent ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I recommend that the both of you go to therapy together

    • @Hollyy_0
      @Hollyy_0 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@fika.violentI definitely see that being the outcome since I’m very big on mental health and try to be his support system for it but it gets draining🙁

  • @Girl_-fs6nx
    @Girl_-fs6nx ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes, my mom, literally.

  • @leneig
    @leneig 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    currently in an ldr situationship. it's draining. but i keep hoping that he will change.

  • @botman234langer6
    @botman234langer6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing also can you do paranoid schizophrenic please cuz i want to know why you get that and what happens to you when you have it

  • @The_Bizarre_Umbra
    @The_Bizarre_Umbra ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I srs needed this..

  • @crumblemuffin1257
    @crumblemuffin1257 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Personally it would always get me pissed when I would see one of my friends in a toxic relationship and then my other friends would go "Just leave X,you know that its horrible for you!"
    It's easier said than done isn't it ( ͠° ͟ ͜ʖ ͡ ͠°)

    • @terrancetyrell6797
      @terrancetyrell6797 ปีที่แล้ว

      Totally. I left for months and she showed up at my job one day....

    • @PinaColada-lg6fz
      @PinaColada-lg6fz ปีที่แล้ว

      I like your pfp it’s Miss Kobabyashis dragon maid!

    • @Cat-hr9xp
      @Cat-hr9xp ปีที่แล้ว

      How are you doing right now?

  • @nayumichan_desu
    @nayumichan_desu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    watching this cause i know many people suffering from toxic relationship yet they can't leave for some reason even when they're being advised by their friends and family to leave their abusive partner.

  • @nicharaasvoidd
    @nicharaasvoidd ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Early! Love your videos, they help me alot

  • @bluefox175_
    @bluefox175_ ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I had gone through my entire teenage years going through countless toxic relationships that expressed all of this and more. At first i kept refusing to believe that what I went through was emotionally and mentally traumatic because every time i would even attempt to think that i would scream in my head that im being so inconsiderate and that other people have it far worse than i did, that i just needed to suck it up and get over it even when it left me with nightmares and spontaneous emotional breakdowns and constant exhaustion.
    When i started standing up for myself more and finally dragging myself away from toxic relationships, and letting myself admit that what i went through was a form of abuse, i started being a lot less harsh on myself. I still struggle with a lot of these insecurities and every once in a while have a nightmare or the yelling in my head, but not nearly as often or as intense as i used to 2 years ago. Im very grateful for the supports ive had in my life to help me before and now to get me to the point that i am now with my mental health, and im trying to keep it going as best as i can.
    Psych2Go has helped me over the years as well with understanding different things that are good or bad in my life and learning about why i feel the things i do and I dont know where id be if i didnt have these videos early on to help learn from and share to those i know who also struggle with challenges like these. Thank you for making amazing videos for so long, and i love learning more from this channel and sharing the love and learning to those i care about ❤

  • @amdeko
    @amdeko 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤ i will always clap for others until it's my turn 🎉🎉

  • @AstridRutherford
    @AstridRutherford ปีที่แล้ว +7

    its hard to leave a toxic relationship it took me 18 years to leave a toxic relationship

  • @ascenethgarza8142
    @ascenethgarza8142 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, you're so realistic, thank you, thank you

  • @nomoredatingblind
    @nomoredatingblind 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great Information! I wish I would've had this information when I was with my toxic ex. Maybe I would;ve gotten out faster.

  • @JustAltron
    @JustAltron ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The sad part is: I have more toxic relationships then normal ones.
    If I where to take away all of my toxic friends I’d be left with… well nothing :(
    Im only being bullied while they say „nah we’re still fwiends“
    I’ve been gaslight to the point where I don’t know who I can trust and who not. I have trust issues with my parents. And about reaching for help… I’m underaged and couldn’t go to a therapist and because my parents don’t care/can’t do anything about it, I’m stuck in a life of pain and agony D:
    (And I’m being called emo for this)

    • @smolbean9879
      @smolbean9879 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel your pain and in the same boat with being left with no one if I really think about who my actual friends are

  • @pooriyapishdadi628
    @pooriyapishdadi628 ปีที่แล้ว

    Please make a video about why is too hard to forget someone who don't like you anymore after break up❤

  • @Aerational
    @Aerational ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I got another one for you, fear. By the time you realize you've ended up with a psycho, it can be too late. You know if you leave they are going to go to the ends of the earth to make it as painful as possible for you. PS it's always a woman.

    • @algj
      @algj ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My friend had a "crazy" gf. She created quite a few accounts to reach my friend, and he suspects she may accuse him of r*ping her. She already accused him of leaking her nudes (nope, he declined all of her nudes, asked her not to send him any). She got him in trouble in school not even once... Stay safe everyone...

  • @teen42
    @teen42 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have left my bf of 2 years 4 times now. I realized that i need to stick through therapy and see if it helps me do the right thing. The problem is I'm toxic too. This relationship has turned me into a monster and i can see it. He's getting help separately and is in another state. I don't know what is going to happen, but i do know that only good can come from trying to better yourself. I had a very messed up childhood and i realize it stems from that. Just remember you have to work on yourself because you can't change anyone else.

  • @Newmoniebigella
    @Newmoniebigella 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I thought I love this guy but after many mental research. I found out I am traumatized that is why I can't forget him even after he treated me like the most worthless thing on earth..

  • @AlternativeBIackBarbie
    @AlternativeBIackBarbie 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im glad i left my toxic almost 3 year relationship with my ex late october or early november several months ago. He threatened to unalive me and my sister andmy mom he talked trash about me that wasnt true he kept texting and calling off different phone numbers after i dumped him he did shaming tactics he was OBSESSSSSEDDDD with me he manipulated me into staying in the relationship claiming theres other reasons i feel like dumping in my several other attempts of breaking up with him now im with somebody else and i feel way happier with him leaving my ex was HELL on earth even the cops had to get involved im glad hes not harassing me anymore he was obsessed and jealous of my whole existence

  • @luanbui.3010
    @luanbui.3010 ปีที่แล้ว

    Actually, i'm in a toxic relationship and I'm trying to quit this. It'll easier when I realized all of things in this video. Thanks

  • @Lee_1-l9u
    @Lee_1-l9u ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a toxic friend and it's hard to try not to talk to em but I did my self some good personally by no longer being friends with em

  • @puppypr1nc3
    @puppypr1nc3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My reasons are a bit different but some of these explain a lot

  • @mothercoyote351
    @mothercoyote351 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm living in a toxic relationship rt & feel trapped.

  • @sosyrobinson2636
    @sosyrobinson2636 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Basically you were brought up in a toxic environment and have to teach yourself how to think and behave like a grown up and not a toddler anymore. Most people not only
    Lack self reflecting skills but have no effort into working on these things once they realize that the victims can’t manipulate other people to get them where they emotionally need to be maturity wise. It goes both ways

  • @PirateGirlypop
    @PirateGirlypop ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ever since I joined secondary school, I have had this friend. At first, she seemed alright. Just a normal friend you'd make on your first day of school, is what I thought.
    My twin brother even hanged out with her too, but that is when toxicity began to form. When she asked him for a pen or something he'd always lend one to her but she'd hide it behind her face. My brother would always have to confront her about it and then she would give it back. Apparently one lesson while he was watching a video she dug her hand in his pencil case and tried to steal something. Thankfully she didn't manage to steal anything. But just recently she successfully stole something from him. I immediately confronted her about it when my brother told me, at first she said she gave it back (which she didn't), then she said that she gave it to someone else (she is definitely lieing at this point). And then she came out with a "I don't know". During lessons I find her using the exact same pen my brother owned.
    That's not all. She always brags about her maths, science and history. At first I was applauding her. But soon enough, she was talking about herself all of the time. I got annoyed about it and all I could do was go along with it. I still do to this day. But anyways, she lies about her test scores and always tells me how "good" she is. Once she got 13/20 (which is alright) but suddenly she was bragging to me about how she got 19/20. It's okay if you want to lie about your score, but if she's gonna brag to me about it I can't accept that. Plus, she cheats in her history tests which is comepletely okay as long as she doesn't torment me about it. Unfortunately she did. She was like "I got 34/34 on my history test!". I had to act surprised because I am long-sighted and I could see that she was cheating.
    That's all. I want to leave her but I don't know how to tell her. I'm sorry for the random vent, i just needed to get it off of my chest.

  • @Kaisaccountt
    @Kaisaccountt ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wanted to end my relationship for the longest time but for some reason I just can’t do it. I never really had a girlfriend before and I’m so terrified of not being loved again that I allow myself to be treated like garbage.
    Edit I finally ended it and I have been happy ever since.

    • @melishawilliams1157
      @melishawilliams1157 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is not love and never was so take the chance amd find true love.. what else she treats like garbage? When you love something or someone you take care of it.

  • @_JP3
    @_JP3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Could you make a video about misophonia? I feel like it goes unnoticed

  • @Simply_that123
    @Simply_that123 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had a friend who slap me if I was messing around. Like embracing someone tightly in your arms as a gesture of affection or comfort is commonly known as hugging a friend. Then she thought I was starting rumors about, so I took that as a chance to end the friend ship. Also when I meant she slapped me she would hit my arms hard,swear at me a lot, and tell at me.

  • @Noruv_4
    @Noruv_4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is only *ONE* or more ways to get out like
    -If you are in high school, sit far from the person
    -Do not accept calls and be mysterious like putting your head down so he will not be concenred
    -Don't go into their house

  • @Janabrook
    @Janabrook ปีที่แล้ว

    When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it's not personal. "It isn't personal" is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth.
    Narcissists don't know how to love or be a friend; they can't afford to spare the energy to learn, because they're always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don't understand the concept - they can't feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing.
    They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it's no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old.
    None of this is personal. They're too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn't know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it's from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection.Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions.Cheating is a choice and there's simply a lot of ignorance in the process..Thank you so much for helping me out cyberalbert4@gmail. com.Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,..thank you very much..

  • @rlgrnd
    @rlgrnd ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Trauma bond is the main cause.

  • @sennahulogsabangin6175
    @sennahulogsabangin6175 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    real.

  • @allyjane1328
    @allyjane1328 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just got out of a toxic relationship with an ex partner. They were and to some point still are being emotionally abusive and controlling. They also have narcissistic tendency. To the point where i even feel bad about laughing at things i find funny anymore. At the moment they are trying to interfere with me moving away from the house we have together purely because i made the step to try and get out first

  • @saharvarona
    @saharvarona 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😢 my first relationship and i hit the toxicity jackpot

  • @niasiamack9333
    @niasiamack9333 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm stuck with the toxic relationship with my mom all these years hopefully I'll seek help

  • @a-goblin
    @a-goblin ปีที่แล้ว

    i wish i could just leave, but i've always been too sickly to have stable work, so there's no way out.

  • @silvercipher6797
    @silvercipher6797 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have two friends. I've been friends with each of them for over 10 years. They have their own issues which makes me feel guilty for thinking this.
    I can't stand their voices. I dread hearing them speak, I hate hearing their names mentioned, seeing messages pop up.
    Friend A is all the way across the country but he's still a pest. I had to mute our chat.
    Friend B has family issues and sees me and my family like more of a family than their own. They're like a leech. Has trauma they haven't really faced- it's just the little things they say and do that bother me. My brother in law said that it's my fault for being their friend then wanting to back out of the friendship when it is too much. If he wants to fix Friend B, then that's not my problem. He knows how hard it is now, I shouldn't have to deal with it. It feels like an endless loop.
    I can't get out of these friendships.

  • @smi_m_k
    @smi_m_k ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wanted to off myself like two hours ago, but I found here, it's funny that I don't even remember what I wanted to do, and now I've been watching your posts on TH-cam for two hours straight, I just wanted to say thank you and sorry for bad grammar English is my third language

  • @aniezzkahh
    @aniezzkahh ปีที่แล้ว

    I have always , always wanted to get out of this relationship forever. But it seems like i couldnt, and even if i want to i still wouldnt do it. Why? Because we have a lot of fun together when we were younger. We give eachother support. And we met a new friend. We started becoming a trio but the trio broke, because i found her talking bad about me, abandoning me, made events and would not invite me, and she would only talk about herself and make herself look great to anyone else, even though she isnt. I mightve would break through this, and now im still trying to.

  • @whoamIGG
    @whoamIGG ปีที่แล้ว

    Im in a toxic relationship and it's honestly draining it consumes my mind and lately ive been thinking about leaving her
    And starting new ans fresh and be completely done with her this time no more going back to her im done im done im done ✅

  • @Lennakanci999
    @Lennakanci999 ปีที่แล้ว

    And keep in mind: toxic people attract toxic people.
    So don’t think you’re an angel victim. But rather, fix yourself first. Instead of mingling w the next toxic partner..

  • @rufoisaiahbracamonte338
    @rufoisaiahbracamonte338 ปีที่แล้ว

    My brother is toxic that manipulating me for doing mistakes which makes me feel upset and I'm afraid that he yelled my name with anvry tone while having some meal even my mom doesnt help me with those problems which can lead to my brother's punishment. That's why I decided to leave inside the house to move another safe place which is comfortable and lovable

  • @chichikent
    @chichikent ปีที่แล้ว

    Was dreading to watch this

  • @krista9852
    @krista9852 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m currently at work I had to step out I’m in my car crying because I know my 13 yr relationship is no good, he constantly cheats, he has a problem with coke, and he often doesn’t respect me with the way he talks to me…but for some reason I can’t let go I’m scared too and it’s really getting to me 😓 a big reason I don’t want to let go is because I’m scared or constantly thinking of what girls he will be talking to after we break up will they be better than me will he be happier etc and I know I shouldn’t care cause I know I’ve been so good to him and have been the best girlfriend possible to him and he’s been the shittiest to me. When I bring up how it’s bothering me he’s giving other girls attention instead of trying to make things work he shuts down and refuses to talk then I’m the one calling after him I have a good family that cares about me and I know they know I deserve better but for some reason I can’t let go 😥 I also keep saying I’m 28 yrs old already I want to have kids if I leave now when will I find the love of my life when will I have kids all these things are really having my mind running 😔

  • @Mentally-Unstable69
    @Mentally-Unstable69 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yipee! I've been waiting for a vid like this :)

  • @skalita7533
    @skalita7533 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condition is most complicated. After more than one year trying i couldn't escape from the most toxic relationship 😢😢

  • @ehørnchenontour6305
    @ehørnchenontour6305 ปีที่แล้ว

    very good video.
    The captions are to limpid for people with visually and auditive handycap. Its needs more white/ black contrast and bigger size of letters .

  • @Oak-g3i
    @Oak-g3i ปีที่แล้ว

    i didn't know if i needed to watch this bc i'm to young for a relationship

  • @neeraatkins6091
    @neeraatkins6091 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I benefit from this message

  • @vanamalachandrikarao5504
    @vanamalachandrikarao5504 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes I can resonate to some of the signs......like fear of change.....my father is a toxic person and I wanna get rid of him emotionally.......how can I keep him far from my life without knowing that I'm avoiding him?? any suggestions please.....

  • @DragonGirl718
    @DragonGirl718 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have a toxic relationship with one of my guy friends and he just so toxic and I am not sure how to stop it or help him and leave because he brings out the best in us and makes me and my friends laugh but he is also selfish, greedy, bossy, meant, toxic, etc and I am sure what to do😢

  • @najma_palsyt
    @najma_palsyt ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I always telling him that we should be friends for now because we're always fighting and hurting
    Then he always reply that's how loves works it's just some test from god how stable our relation is and ofc i was convinced... Like he's good at it.. I really wanna end it but i always miss him.. Like i feel depression even he's so big red flag.. It's just... So hurt... Idk what to do he always playinh the victim like "no one loves me" even though i loved him like idk if he appreciate me or maybe im just not good enough... Idk..

    • @teen42
      @teen42 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's the thing, you always feel like you're at fault when in reality it's not. I have left my toxic relationship 4 times and I'm getting ducked into going back again. It's a vicious cycle and I hate to see anyone else have to go through this. Love is hard to just quit, I feel like I shouldn't quit on someone I love I should help them. I'm so lost, I hope you made it out. 😢

  • @billieketter6823
    @billieketter6823 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can you please do a video on how to leave a toxic job and what the effects of toxic job can do to your body and mind?

    • @wrecker717
      @wrecker717 ปีที่แล้ว

      From personal experience, after a paycheck just dont show up and block all calls. Move on.

  • @yomiseno
    @yomiseno 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah

  • @findinggfaiith
    @findinggfaiith ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I LOVE YOUUUUU

  • @jacksonyoung1284
    @jacksonyoung1284 ปีที่แล้ว

    It is so hard to leave a toxic friend 😪 I'm having a really hard time right now I know this video says to let it go but it's so hard

  • @keyboardevangelist
    @keyboardevangelist ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The good news has once again come to you today. You can inherit the kingdom of God even if you are a sinner.. after all we are all sinners in God's standards of justice and holiness (he says that if a man looks at a woman with lust he has already committed adulterly with her in his heart NO MAN IS THAT PURE😅).....All you have to do is to honestly humbly pray repent/turn away from sins (read the10 commandments) and trust that Jesus for his love❤ for you he left his throne in heaven and came to the world he was humbled humiliated betrayed beaten and killed for your sake to pay the fine of your sins and mine so that we won't spend our eternity in hell but with him in heaven...this might be the last time you read the gospel...Look around🔥 be smart..the end is nigh🔥🔥 ..He is coming back soooon not as the sacrificed lamb of God🐑..but as King of Kings🤴 the judge of the whole world..Your soul is on the line😭. Eternity is a long time.

    • @wrecker717
      @wrecker717 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was waiting for a religious fruitcake too pop up and ive found it

  • @mizuwantsfictionals
    @mizuwantsfictionals ปีที่แล้ว +2

    WONDERHOY!

  • @Nightmaremily95
    @Nightmaremily95 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    1:53 hits hard :’(

  • @happyblackwoman6154
    @happyblackwoman6154 ปีที่แล้ว

    How come toxic people never realize they are toxic? But yet, they can clearly see the toxic traits of others around them. It's like they never look in the mirror at themselves.