OCD Coach Videos - How to Stop Hand Washing with ERPT
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- OCD Coach Videos - How to Stop Hand Washing with ERPT. OCD Educator, James Callner explains Exposure Response Prevention Therapy (ERPT or ERP). And, demonstrates how to use it for compulsive hand washing. He shows us his own challenges as he works with his ERP coach.
I’d say the worst part about this for me is my hands getting so dry they bleed and everyone staring at me and making jokes
Mine are completely wrecked at the moment ..I dnt wana live anymore. .doing everything is so stressful coz I dnt wana touch anything
I can't belive the stupid ignorant people who would actually laugh at this
I always wash my hands. I just can't help it. It's SO annoying. I get bad dry skin. IDK if I should check if I have OCD. Also, if one hand touches something, the other needs to too.
Me too! My hands crack so bad no matter how much lotion I put on. I still keep washing them.
@@farky42 Me too! I make my life so miserable with my excessive hand washing
if i don’t wash my hands when i feel like i need to, it’s like there’s a layer of invisible grime and heavy dirt all over my hands. i cant sleep or focus on anything until the hands are clean
Same!
Nice to know someone else has a problem like me
Me also!!😐😐😑😑😑😓😓😓
@@alexevans8806 me too I wash my hands 10 times a hour 😞 look I can’t overcome it okay I try 😭
Me too. Is there a cure for this.
This video made me cry because I’m tired of being in a mental prison this takes up so much of my time and I know it’s not logical but I can’t stop 😩
I am exhausted. I am shattered. I would give everything in order for it to stop
Rodela dc
You can stop if you don’t give into the anxious thoughts that tell you that you need to go wash again “or else..”
I work in retail and touch many things all day long..money, that many other people have touched first, counters, products, etc..and I don’t have the anxiety to go wash my hands or I’ll get sick and die.
I’m still here after 35 years and I only get a regular cold once in awhile.
Our bodies and most, everyday objects, have normal communal germs on them that our immune systems are used to. I am evidence that by touching many things all day long, that your fears of germs are not logical...your brain had somehow been scared in your past by some bad experience with germs.
But, don’t believe it, just try it out, and don’t give into the compulsions to go wash your hands and eventually your anxiety will lessen!
Good luck and God-bless!
@@user-hx7mi7ml8u thank you so much. I'm trying my best and people who overcame inspire me a lot. ❤❤❤
@@nuzhatnueryhossein9015 i never thought i will get this type of mental sickness and even having these symptoms i was ok but as a medical student when i came to know what this thing is i started to treat my self and i had already came over many of my fears and now working on hand washing good luck for you from pakistan...
@@khanpathan3403 thank you so much sir. I wanna ask a personal question that is did you sort to any medications? Or did you just force yourself to not act out the compulsions?
When you were washing your hands I wanted to cry because that's exactly how I wash my hands; taking care not to touch the sink, washing the wrists and lower arms, putting water over the nozzle, Kleenex everywhere- thank you so much for giving me the steps to stop something that I'm not alone in.
RedAIs did you stop your ocd yet?
RedAIs i do that exactly
same, i skipped that part bc i was tearing up
Same here😢
Omg am actually the same 😔😔😔
I totally understand this because I wash my hands after even touching a wall and I’m not proud of it, I have really bad ocd
Same as me.. don't need to feel ashamed or embarassed ..we can't control it
Same here it’s hard 😭
@@mgarza742 it's very hard to leave this habit😭😭😭I m dying with this habit
I wash my hands after scratching my face
Touching the wall
Door.
@K omg SAMMEEEE!!
I dont even touch my face ,even if I was to ,I'd wash it quick before I touch my phone or anything.
When I saw her washing her hands I realize, "it doesn't have to be perfect, she does things wrong and it's okay, she will be okay"
I was thinking same....i even hate when my hands just touch any part of sink and it makes me wash my hands again and many more times..nd now i think its ok
When you turn on the faucet with dirty hands, the handle becomes contaminated. After washing your hands, for ocd sufferers, touching that dirty handle again will contaminate one's hands again, thus repeating the process. It's a vicious cycle. It's a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone I care about.
Facing the same problem.. Any cure??
@@varishadar8812 no. I'm sorry 😞 my hands are dry as a bone. I go through so much water, soap, and paper towels. So much time is spent washing my hands, I'm exhausted. I'll say a prayer for you.
@@gtyrone83 I too have small cuts in my hand due to constant use of soap and water and paper towels of course,, I can totally empathise with you. However I would suggest, if it will be Ok for you, then at least try putting some oil onto your hands and palms, (I do use hand creams/ edible coconut oil). This really helps. In this way, your hands get some good rest & recoveey time..
When I look at therapist solutions like the one shown in this video, exposure & response treatment, it gives me more of an anxiety as to how I will be ever able to cure this as I know I don't want try ERP as it is not making sense to me for the very reason you pointed out (that the tap is still contaminated).
Also, if you can, try if you can get your tap fixed to get tap with sensor. We have this in our office, it really gives some relief as the hands are completely untouched from tap and even soap dispenser. So try for automatic / sensor detected liquid soap dispenser and tap sensor as well if possible
@@gtyrone83if your hands are dirty just use your shoulder, that what i do (unless the back of my hand is clean)
@@varishadar8812 do you only have this problem with handwashing? Or showering as well? Everyday I take such long showers…1 hour. It’s ridiculous, I don’t know what else to do with myself 😢 idk how to make my showers shorter..where I still feel clean
I can completely relate to this. I get so embarrassed washing my hands in public restrooms and have been bullied by my mother-in-law for my hand washing. Thank you for sharing this it’s very brave of you and makes me feel like I’m not alone in this.
Dont worry i am same ocd i take more than 30 minutes to wash hands and am afraid of school becoz of that
@@winxclubflora8446 i don't know what to do
@@winxclubflora8446 how to stop ocd
@@KINGJUNAID555 I don’t know either but i guess you have to imagine two parts of your brain and imagine one of them is effected with ocd and other is not so just follow the other one.the thing with ocd is that we know we are wrong for doing the compulsions but still do it,so utilise the we know we are wrong part and force yourself to be confident.but i cant really guide you since i am still in ocd and cant get over it unfortunately
For me, all of this is happening when corona started.
I cant get it, its like if u dont wash ur hands like that then u will feel so weird and uncomfortable and think its all full of germs :/
I have social anxiety too
I just want to say god bless all of you fightig this doubting disease it's a lonely place to be ..worrying 24 7 & such an inner battle, people really don't know what it feels like unless they have been through remember peeps you are strongn! (Getting up every day) though you may not feel it beleive that you are i wish each and everyone of you a recovery free from this anguish n torment much love💖💖
To see how he washes his hands makes me shiver cause i would want to scream at him NOT to keep the soap under running water and keep his hands under running water cause that's not how you wash your hands. You should leather your hands with the soap away from the running water and THEN rinse them. Otherwise you are just wasting all the soap down the drain and never creating the friction necessary to remove the dirt for which you are using the soap. The soap used under constant running water only is like not using soap at all. And I believe this regardless of my OCD which makes me repeat the process 10 times or more or less according to the level of dirtiness i believe i have in my mind.
Marianne North I’m with you. I’m going to try my very best to do a very good scrub down ONCE, and leave the sink. It’s going to be tough, but I know it will get better. We should update each other on how we are doing with our hand washing and to share new ideas or tricks that are helping us.
@@daniellephongsay8422 can u msg me on instagram
I have this problem and I can't stop washing my hands I sometimes stand in the toilet for 30 minutes this has destroyed my life it even got to the point that I fear my own cloth.
I used to also take 30 mins now 5-10 which is still bad :(
Pschologist ,u need sister,,
U can consult me i am life coach and counsler .....i have cured several similar cases
I take at least an hour in the toilet usually more...
Same this sucks 😭😭
My anxiety does not come so much from contamination on my hands. It is more like a weird grimy feeling that goes away after washing. My feet as well. I have been in therapy and did not know that I was even overwashing. This was the first winter that my hands did not burn from chapping.
James you are doing a wonderful job,we need more people like you.
“We’re safe, our bodies know how to take care of us”
This is something so important I hear, difficult to internalize. We can overcome ourselves, I believe in all of you!
I am in literal tears because my hands are cracked right now from my excessive hand washing. It only got worse in 2020 with the pandemic, I am embarrassed to even show my hands half the time. I have to remind myself often that the cracking/bleeding is what is actually allowing germs/bacteria to get in!
I saw a video somewhere that doctors used to use crazy glue for minor cuts, I’ve taken to that too. The glue really does help it heal, but I know I should just stop…I need to stop! This video is very comforting. Thank you for sharing.
I also have small cuts on my hands and lower arms cause I think it was during the winter my hands were dryer and I got eczema on my hands and it spread to my lower arms. It's so dry but I still wash them after every little thing. I make sure not to touch the sink when washing them and if I do then I re wash them. I try not to but if I don't if bothers me so I do it. It is truly a difficult thing to have.
I cried watching this video because I related to everything you said, especially about the nozzles. I’m convinced there are germs on the nozzles so while washing my hands I get some antibacterial soap and wash the nozzles with it. The type of soap I use comes from a pump and it has to be antibacterial. After washing the nozzles I then proceed to wash the pump itself with soap. Lastly, after I’ve convinced myself that both nozzles and pump are clean, I proceed to actually washing my hands. I have to wash my hands at the least 5 times, most of the times more. There’s been several occasions where I’ve washed my hands so much, that they get super dry and start bleeding...
I didn’t think I actually had a “problem” because I didn’t want to downplay the symptoms from those who truly suffer from ocd. But watching this video and seeing how I related so much to it makes me think maybe I do suffer from some form of ocd.
Yes u do have
But u can overcome
It can sometimes take me a half hour just to wash my hands. Sometimes 4 hours to take a shower. I hate living with this.
I want to say THANK YOU to you. I used to watch this video years ago when I was struggling a lot with my hand washing issues. I found this video very calm in my mind. Now my friend's partner is suffering a lot from OCD, and I shared your videos with my friend!
It makes sense to wash the handles on the sink because you just wiped your butt or something, just a fast swipe of soapy water, I dont think I will stop doing that even when my OCD gets cured
ann3tt how about turn the handles with your clean hand rather than the hand you wiped you butt ?
ann3tt or touch handles with dirty hands and turn off water with tissue.
I used to wash my hands for at least 5 minutes or longer. My mom reminded me of something recently from medical research. To wash your hands thoroughly all you need to do is sing Happy Birthday 2 times. Because my OCD is very stressful and anxiety provoking, I am now able to wash my hands by singing Happy Birthday 3 times and then I shut off the water in dry my hands. I feel this is a good improvement to take some control of my OCD. Obviously, I still have to fight my OCD more!
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I literally wash my hands so so so much, they are very dry and bleed. And i can relate to the guy at the start that was washing his hands, with the tissue barrier to turn the tap off, that's exactly what I do. Because there's bacteria on the tap, so what's the point in washing your hands if you're just going to get them dirty again by the tap?
i use my foot or elbow
Same :-/ Worst condition ever
This was confronting as I have started to develop similar symptoms, however, this has really helped ease my mind on the whole thing. I'll try and remind myself of how our skin protects us to try and ease my habits a bit and start re-training my brain. Thanks a ton for sharing this.
Did your brain get retrained? I'm struggling
@@thefrizzell91 Over time, yeah. But it starts very difficult. Sometimes a little medication can help to make it easier for your brain to get started and calm down when resisting compulsions. Maybe mention it to your doc to see what they think.
Oh hi, PhantomStrider. I love your channel! I had no idea you were going through OCD like me
At Max what will happen if we get some of the germs in our body. We will get cold or cough or stomach pain. Still better than bleeding hands I say. I made myself understand by this logic.
I always have to wash my hands three or more times or else I won't feel relaxed. If I end up accidentally touching the handles or the inside of the sink, I have to wash my hands one more time, or two, or even three if the dread is bad enough. I even stomped my feet on the ground when it happened today because I was so close to freedom, then with one small mistake, I got sucked back into my habit. I just want to get over this already. I want my normal life back
This is exactly how I feel
Same here 😔
OCD is a manifestation of a form of anxiety. It is caused by neurotransmitter imbalances in the brain caused by hyperactivity in the frontal lobe. Amino acids such as GABA can be tremendously helpful. Also NAC, Tyrosine & L Theanine (Green Tea) etc. are very helpful. Once the brain activity is down regulated over a matter of few weeks, most of the recurring / broken record thoughts and rituals go away. I know this because I lived it for 40+ years and have finally been helped by the above without the dangers and side effects of prescriptions. No one deserves to suffer from this in this day and age. God bless!
GyanniBubba thank you so much for sharing your break threw. God is good, I’m going to do my best today with ONE good scrub down and leave the sink. I’m not a tea drinker but I will definitely add Green Tea to my diet
Who helped
Can you suggest how to increase GABA and rest other things on our body.
@@bhagyashreechoudhary6149 you can buy GABA supplements!!
@Bhagyashree Choudhary you can also drink chamomile tea. The calming chemical in it is called Apigenin and it also works on GABA receptors much like benzodiazepines do, and produces a calming effectm
Omg, just thinking about touching the noozle with my freshly washed hands... it's giving me goosebumps. I really don't know if that's something I can do... But I want to. I mean, obviously I don't feel like doing it, but I want to be able to do things that way. The time and stress I'd save are incredible. I want that. I'm gonna ask my friend to help me with it. Reality has to win. Thank you so much for making these videos. There's a lot of stuff on OCD out there, but your videos touch me in a way that almost none of the others do.
It seems so easy but it's not It's just make me crazy
I am also facing OCD. I met counsellor. She gave me few affirmations to speak everyday. I think it is effective. But I stopped after few days then problem started again. Now I am thinking to continue it. Thanks for the video.
I just want a rule of whats normal washing, then I'll follow that rule. I don't know what's normal anymore. I don't want to use ERPT to the point of beeing excessively dirty, I just want to stop at the normal point. And I wish I had germ fobia, that would be much easier to overcome. My fear is of the ickyness that comes from my own body, especially vaginal fluids, I'm not scared of them for myself, but I feel responsible for not spreading them onto others, especially my family. I do understand that if I spread a few microparticles, that's normal and inevitable and also OK, but I don't know were the limit is drawn. if my pair of dirty underwear touches the floor and I drop a book on the same spot on the floor, can I touch my book and then the table were we are going to eat? I had to do the laundry in my new home today, and the washing machines are in another building, the struggle was too much. I must find a better system. I just need to agree with myself of what is dirty and what is clean enough so it aligns with my ethics, and then I can change my habits in an instant with little anxiety
ann3tt I’m dealing with this right now!! Same exact thoughts!!! I didn’t know anyone else was battling the same exact thing as me. How are you doing now?
These are the same things running through my head.. is especially bad after going to the bathroom :'/ and the way this lady washed her hands in the video is WAY too short to be a normal hand wash, so I'm not too sure if this will work or not ;-;
An update from you would be amazing even if your still having trouble. I’m curious. I think a lot of us can relate a lot to your comment.
Sounds like me but in female form. Did you get better? I wanna stop so bad
I wash my hands sometimes up to half an hour, sometimes I cry because I don’t know why I have to. I wash my hands once, than splash my face with water, then I have to wash my hands again and again and again. I can’t open doors, I can’t touch the metal or I have to wash my hands again. I can’t touch the sink or even my hair brush in the morning after washing, I don’t know what I have but I’m tired. It hurts my hands.
Same 😢
How are you? Have you managed to get over this?
Mine is getting so bad I told my friend I would bring something to her house his weekend and now I'm having terrible anxiety about how it's going to be dirty now. I hate feeling like this, I hate feeling like everytime I go outside or touch anything I claim "dirty" that I can't ever use it again or i have to wash my hands a thousand times. It's gone so far I'm really debating buying a new one and just giving her the one I use. (Firestick and remote) it's just consuming my life..
I feel the same :(
This has taken over the my life in every sense. Despise living with OCD. Mentally and physically a burden, overwhelming me 24/7. My hands are awful, from the start of covid. I wash or wet them every 5 minutes if that. Never ending. It's stopped me doing so many things. Constantly on alert especially in public. As if the thoughts and compulsions aren't enough. Perfect explanation "know it but don't trust it" hope everyone dealing with this hell finds their peace.
I sincerely hope you find something that help you live peacefully. I'm so sorry you struggle so much. I've just begun SSP therapy to help with the anxiety and sensory aspects of ocd, so hopefully I'll feel results soon. Don't give up hope. Really, don't give up. 🌻
Hand washing and checking are the two biggest things that get to me, and they go hand and hand. Thank you for this video
I wish and hope everyone will get better and overcome ocd. You're not alone
This video is very helpful and inspiring for me...I have OCD, have gone to therapy, take medication, but I still do have OCD on a daily basis. I usually have contamination issues so I will wash my hands several times during the day, and in a thorough manner to get under the fingernails, and I totally understand about the washing of the knobs. I often feel like I get the sink itself (knobs, spout, etc.) dirty and I end up spraying them with bathroom cleaner after using the sink sometimes. And sometimes I'll worry that the soap container itself is dirty and I'll have to wash that. I've had dry skin for a few years now on my hands, and the color on my hands is darker than the rest of my arm. Seeing that my skin looks unhealthy is reminding me that I need to confront my OCD. Thank you for this calming and inspiring video as I learn to manage my OCD.
I wash mine no less than 3 minutes but most often atleast 5 minutes. I have people look at me in public even had a lady in a theme park say "you must be a nurse!" To which I commented close...massage therapist lol except that was just to awkwardly place my OCD on my job as a massage therapist vs admitting that I feel crazy and can't wash my hands a normal amount of time. 🤦♀️ I feel most frustrated that I'm still fighting with the thoughts in my head even once I stop and then it hits me how much time I waste everyday washing my hands for 5 or so minutes at a time.
This helped! I ALWAYS have to was my hands 10 times wash your hands two pumps of soap then one hand under water then the other and repeated. It really helped me with my anxiety. Also helped my skin get healthier. My skin used to break and bleed and people even my own family would make fun of my skin.
Hey everyone i am excited to say that I took a leap and stopped washing my hands last night , It took me 1 hour of straight judging myself and letting myself know that , will i let this "thing" shape my life. I have no urge anymore to wash my hands anymore . Guys I know It`s hard but just take that leap , I had this problem for over 1 year and it only took 1 hour of my life to fix this . Best of luck to everyone .
RNS K Congratulations! How are you now?
RNS K bet all the anxiety accumulated and busted out all at ounce doesn't work like that it takes time
RNS K are you still ocd free
Nah there's no way I can belive that or I could've easily conquered mine by now if it was so simple
Farkhandah Daar that’s not true, it’s possible. It’s literally a decision, a very hard one but it’s a decision. If you can stand up to yourself like that person did it’s possible. I do it all the time. My OCD is definitely there but it’s way more under control. I tell myself I can only wash my hands once and for a minute, not any longer and I do. You can get your life back but it’s YOUR decision.
thank you... you guys are really helping me deal with my OCD better!
Wow I had no idea if someone felt the same way like me . Your video almost made me cry bc it's truly how I feel a lot of times well everyday and it's hard to face things at times. It has affected my relationship bc she doesn't truly understand what I go through not many people do. But she does help me through things bc I have to ask her questions and I know it annoys her but I'm glad she's there bc I wouldn't want to face this on my own .
Thanks William, more videos coming soon. My wife is my biggest support. No one can really be in our shoes and totally understated. But, if the support and love is there it can make a tremendous difference. Never Give up hope, Jim Callner
+James Callner your absolutely right it's very hard to deal with what's going on in your head at times . My family and fiancé try to understand but don't get it totally and I don't expect them to . How long have you had this ? I got mine when I quit smoking and drinking when I was 23 I'm 28 now and now I'm back to smoking and drinking and from when I started I was an absolute mess and now I can somewhat control somethings I would like to personally message you and get to know you better bc you totally understand me
@@williamtaylor8291 Try finding a local support group at iocdf.org. Good luck.
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@@jamescallnerocdcoach sir plz upload more videos
I would most likely be able to do this with some help and overcome my OCD , however EVERYONE around me either mocks me about it or makes it even worse .. I really need some proffesional help if anyone could recommend anything..
+Midnight_Phantom I recommend you check out this site, below. I work with them and my own therapist works here. You can do online ERP. Really. Check it out. And, find your extended family on Facebook OCD support groups. Everyone there understands.. I'm part of 10 pf them. Check this out for help first. ocdtreatmentcentre.com/
+James Callner can you email me at bmchoszen@yahoo.com I want to talk to you privately and maybe give you a call. I'm 27 years old and I'm struggling deeply with OCD contamination and It's hard to do ERP now because I have Health Anxiety that prevents me from starting ERP and certain beliefs why I can''t do the ERP for the OCD. The OCD contamination comes from the fact that I get recurrent sinusitus and rhintis. But I've done Immunoglobulin tests came back normal. I also did WBC test and normal is 4-11 I would always get like 4.3 4.4 the Dr says its normal but recently It's been around 6.0 which is still normal. I said 4.3 is on lower end but they said It's your normal because It's been that way for years. I OBSESS about catching infections that will cause Sinus Infections that linger for months. Usually this is the case but usually its allergies that cause it. I told the Drs theres something wrong with me and my immune system but they said immunoglobulins are normal and that my blood count is fine several times. They just said you have allergic rhintis and thats what gets you sinus infections not because your deficient or have HIV or something.
I take allergy shots for 2 years now and I also see a ENT soon to see if I need sinus surgery. I cant do ERP because I need to protect myself I tell them
+BAM DAM I understand your fears. But remember , they are fears not facts. I'm not the best person to help you because I am not a therapist, just an educator. I can recommend you check out the site below. I Skype with them for my own therapy. They are the best I have ever had because they have experienced OCD and recovered to an extremely high lever to help people. They are professional OCD Therapists. I highly recommend you contact them. Here's the web site. ocdtreatmentcentre.com/
Yeah I'll check them out I also purchased the OCD workbook of Amazon as well as a health anxiety book which is causing more anxiety really but I like the ocd workbook better.James Callner
COVID-19 pandemic has made my OCD WORSE. When I come home after going to the grocery or getting food, i spend 1 hour washing my hands and my freaking forearms. wish I had a coach like James does to help me wash LESS.
Same. Covid really messed. With me. You should try too get some therapy.
Thx for making this video i do constant hand washing but its not about germs its a ingredent found in slime in slime called borax.I used to make slime but then i became afraid that i was acidently eating the borax when i touched something slime was on.So i kept washing my hands aging and aging to the point they became cracked and red and started to bleed.Lots of people stared at me and even made faces if they saw my hands.But after i saw this video i think its going to help thx for uploding this so much your truly awesome people.
the most effective way to stop OCD is to do a different thing than the compulsive activity
Litterly, if I touch my hair or foot - In my brain: "Dude, wash you hands, WASH EM!'" I haven't been diagnosed, so IDK if I do. I hate it. People tell me, "STOP WASHING YOUR HANDS!" If they were me, they would know it's so hard to stop. I KNOW it is bad, it is destroying my skin.
Same my family is telling me to stop but I can't I always wash them whenever i touch something that i believe is dirty
@@littlechef5600 yeah I mean I've gotten better over the past year (or at least I think I have) but I still can't stop
@@GameDiagram i managed to stop for a while but then I came back
That's like how I wash my hands, and I tried hard to not touch the sink or anywhere else. After I washed my hands, sometimes I have the thought "It feels like a specific part of my hands still have soap that didn't get rinsed off, I should wash my hands again." It's not like there is visible soap on my hands, it's just me fearing that if there will be too much ingredients of the soap left on my hands that could harm my skin. What should I do? HELP. I am tried of spending a lot of time washing my hands and having a lot of anxiety which affect my life and studying.
Once is enough
I have pure O and germaphobia. I get so frustrated when making myself a plate of food sometimes.
I know many persons are not going to agree with the washing technique shown here. However the idea and purpose stay. We need to wash our hands without over-doing it. Expose yourself to the trigger, stick to your plan and practice again and again. Sooner or later you will know when rationally you have to stop. Thanks for posting, this video is a wellcome help!
What if iam not scared of bacterias killing me but bacterias making my bed,table,chair dirty? I live with it for almost a year and iam loosing my mind from this.
I have the same obsession. I'm not afraid of germs making be sick or something, but of something (dirt or germs I don't really know) making things around me dirty. I've lived with this for at least 10 years. It's cutting half of my life away. If you want, let me know how you are doing and if you are improving some how.
@@martamariotto ugh I can’t imagine 10 years 😔 you’re so strong
Thanks, i've been dealing with this problem for over the past year and its been gradually getting worse. I have bunch of different rituals now and its very exhausting. Looking for support groups now thanks to your other video mentioning them.
Thanks so much. There will be more videos coming. Lot's of private OCD support groups on Facebook. Never give up hope. Jim
High water bill
Being under running water is very grounding. I find if I do other grounding practices like connecting to the earth through bare grass or hugging a tree or an animal I am more grounded and less anxious and don't feel the need to wash my hands quite as much! Also, Garnier Hand Repair - intensive restoring hand cream with maple sap and glycerine. This is a lifesaver for me whenever I wash my hands so much they crack and bleed.. heals them up almost overnight.
The thing is soap takes at least 20 seconds to disinfect. He didn’t even wash his hands correctly. Soap has to foam up.
Cari Galli this post was right a year ago and nobody listened
Uhhh, every time i touched something , I cant stop myself from washing my hand . Even after i touched my own face , now my hand become more and more dry . Need to stop myself T-T
I start washing my hands too long now as well , its like when one thing gets better the ocd picks another way to make your life a nightmare … The worst thing is that I am a mechanical engineer and I have got an OCD. And it is a contamination OCD. It is very difficult when people dont know what it takes.
I realised yesterday that I have been suffering from OCD since almost last two years. And today I was looking for every possible solution to move out of this disorder. It's humongous suffering. Thank you for making this.
after washing my hands, I came to this video. and after watching it, i cleaned my phone and washed my hands again😂 they’re becoming so dry very fast and i still keep washing them. is this ocd or just me being afraid of germs?
It seems like OCD.
I have been jumping to this video, your channel and other videos daily after my Mom showed me this video and the 'Don't follow that thought' video. Tourettes and OCD has proven to be a big problem with me. My memory has faded about this over time but apparently 2020 or so, around Christmas, I kept on saying 'I don't want to be here.' As the OCD had spiked that much. It did calm down of course, as it always does but it has gotten to the point where now I'm trying to avoid going to use the toilet. so step by step it's, I go to the loo takes about a minute maybe two, so now lets move to the hand washing, I turn on the tap and I put soap on my hands and all the way up to my elbows on my arms, I dig my nails into the soap and scrape them over the tops of my nails and I wash off the soap and push the soap out from under my nails, I wash my hands again, do my nails again, and then I do that one more time, I set the soap down, dig my nails in and scrape the tops again on the set down soap and I rinse them, I wash the rim on the bottom of my shirt, I grab my soap, wash my hands and dig my nails, I have been trying to cut down, at the moment its about two or three times, then I drop water onto my feet. Thanks to your videos I've been able to reduce washing my hands again by repeating the 'I saw it, I heard it." Line. I do the tops of my feet, maybe the lower parts of my legs depending if there up or not. then I do the bottoms of them. I continue with my hand washing about one to three times again, I do my arms again in that process so likely three. I scrape the soap off my arms with my hands and continue to wash with the nail digging again. (the reason in my OCD mind is that soap does not go under the nails, therefore it must not be clean and given it doesn't really feel like it goes over your nails I have to do the tops as well.) Again thanks to the shower video with 'One is all you need.' I've been able to cut down on how much I wash over the tap handle to just once, I finish washing my hands about once or twice after washing the tap and I set the soap down, Dig my nails in, do the tops of my nails, push the soap out, wash the soap off, and turn off the tap. It is not the most ideal I am aware, but progress is being made. I have set out some goals and what is very annoying about my OCD at least is that it adds logic into its thoughts. Due to holding off for so long I end up missing some times when I go the loo and it lands on my feet. Hence why I do my feet and it also will tell me that theirs bacteria and germs from where I'm standing due to previous misses hence why I do the underside of my feet. so the feet I don't think I will be able to calm down unless I can avoid missing as much in which case I'll need to calm down these first (my goals.) Goal 1: Stop doing my arms. Goal 2: Stop doing the rim of my shirt. And Goal 3: Turn the tap off normally.
Progress on these goals are already being done. I'm planning to get kitchen roll inside my room so I can try my hands after turning off the tap and the bonus being I can scrape away the bacteria and germs that (while there aren't) are on the tap. (Please don't tell me if this isn't the case as I have found with OCD it is sometimes better to lie to it or be in the unknown so you can bend it into your way.) For my arms I have to see what I can do but perhaps saying due to not touching anywhere that could set it off I'm fine? then same goes with my shirt. I may have to still do it occasionally as I have to hold it up when going. (I can not tuck it under my trousers otherwise when I do go to the loo I'd have to get in the shower.) It will occasionally get caught by my trousers in which case I just need to do that part and move on.
This is definitely an early work in progress but these videos have proven to be vital to me standing up to my tourettes and OCD of which I originally took in as a second mind or person inside me. (Yes I do sometimes end up having conversations with it.) However the four year old bully analogy has been a much better comparison and much better into helping my recover.
And for the OCD and tourette readers know that things will get better, OCD will calm down after a spike, if you are new to Jim's channel then I highly suggest going through more of his videos, these are my suggested ones, This one, How to take a shower, How to turn off a stove, Don't follow that thought, How ERP works, Your Senses vs OCD, and for the very long one, Facebook Live with James Callner. (That one is on TH-cam btw.) There are many others but these are the main ones I suggest and the ones that have helped me the most. The, How to calm anxiety by breathing, one has also been a help but not as big as those ones. You can do it and you will get on top of OCD, maybe not fully but once you do you will take control. Know that you are not alone in this fight and you are loved. Good night. ❤❤❤❤❤
Will always be by your side with every step you take on this journey. Moment by moment. xx 🩷
i dont know how to start, im 1, and have had this since i was i think 6 years old. It really stinks to have this. This seems like torture to me.i will try nevertheless
hah your name
Even after going to the bathroom, washing that short?
I recognized myself instantly in this. Right now my hands are so dry and itchy
main problem lies inside the base.
You are only teaching the ways to divert the mind.
But reality is that There is chemical imbalance in the brain which needs to be treated with proper medication.
Obsessive hand washing is a manifestation of my emetophobia. I hate how dry and cracked my hands get in the winter. It hurts so bad sometimes and it’s also annoying when people comment on how bloody and cracked they are. In the summer they heal up. They used to be pink every summer but this year they’re back to they’re normal color. My hands are healing more, the skin is still thin though. I’m definitely better than I was 4 years ago.
thank you for making this video. I have very bad ocd hands washing at home not because of a fear of germs. But I fear bad luck will befall me if I don't wash my hands adequately after touching things in the house my parents touched, mainly my dad.
It all started ever since I was molested in a bad way by a pedophile on a public bus when I was about 6 years old. My parents placed me to sit with him(a stranger) and left me there at the back of bus. I was tortured and violated in a very bad way.
After the incident, I was bullied on a school bus where a senior student 2 years older she called me a jinx, bad luck and I didn't even know her name. She was just bullying me. It went on for a long time as long and I grew afraid of taking the school bus that I would always wonder if i would see her. I feel very depressed because I feel that if the sexual abuse didn't happen to me, maybe I wouldn't have this anxiety issue. I couldn't touch anything outside my room I would touch it with tissues paper or toilet paper and left a trail of these because I was scared to take it up to throw away. My fear isn't with germs. My fear is with fear of catching bad luck from contact with things my dad touched. My dad passed away last year november 6. I was very sad because i recalled how he loved me when I was rejected as a the ugly kid by my mom. I feel that if i wasn't molested on the bus, my life could have been better. I would have a closer relationship with my parents. I felt that if I wasn't bullied on the school bus being called bad luck and a jinx by a senior student, maybe I wouldn't have such anxiety now.
I hope you could give me some advice on this and if i were right that my symptoms were a result of being violated as a child.
littlehamster83 Your OCD is easier to overcome! Because it's completely irrational! When it's germs it's more difficult, my case, because it's not irrational as a whole! You can get contaminated with dangerous germs, but normal people don't care about it and take the risk! When it's completely irrational as yours, it's only dealing with the anxiety that it brings! Stop the rituals, that you will get used with the exposure, you can do it! Good luck!
Please do more videos like this,it will help a lot by just watching and trying same way
I wash my hands probably excessively after going for a number 2, just in case they aren't clean enough though to be fair my ocd is better than it was 20 years ago although its not completely gone, I have it over different things, rumination, obsessive thinking etc
I just want to cry and cry. My teenage daughter does this and its ruining her life and body. Its putting so much strain on the family, only those who live with it can understand. I just want her to stop. She also goes through 1 litre of mouthwash a day. It gives her mouth ulcers, and she washes more and more because of the sores. Its horrible.
im freaking out cause when he was turning off the taps I also use the soapy water on my hands and put it over the tabs before I can turn it off. Or I use my sleeve in public toilets, especially on handles and I carry anti bacteria hand gel with me everywhere. i get called a freak for it, i wash my hands so much I always feel they're dirty......
Again it truly helps
How can I stop washing hands after touching something...? It's like dirty hands is end of the world!
This comment aged perfectly
I just wish I knew how to do things the normal way.. I wear gloves or have to wash my hands several times after I take trash outside to the garbage can or when I move the van to and from the road. Or after touching other things that make me feel like my hands are dirty afterwards.
I used to cry with my ocd, it can really be time consuming thing
I've come a long way, am looking so forward to the day OCD barely affects my life 😁 My OCD demands I wash my hands perfectly to be able to use my computer, but not when eating 🤨 if only acknowledging the irrationality of it all was enough to stop OCD 😅 To anyone here struggling, you can get better!! NOCD is online therapy done via video calls. If you can afford it, your insurance covers it, go for it! Otherwise there's a TH-cam channel called OCD and Anxiety that uploads helpful videos, and has a course online, a one time price for self help ERP therapy. Remember there is no middle ground with OCD, it has an infinite stomach and will always be hungry for more! Starve it! Expose yourself to that which triggers OCD and focus on the anxiety that grows, don't do anything to neutralize it, just feel it, and observe how it lessens, all on its own!
I have such bad ocd for over 35 years it is a devil and it destroys life.
Awesome video, I been Having OCD for about 3 years now and for me it's really hard to get over, there are some stuff that I won't touch or sit somewhere that I think might have germs or something like that. I'm am 22 years old. this all started when I was 19 year's old and me and my family went to my dad's brother house to visit. but my dad's brother was sick, I took some of my stuff and he was coughing and that what started this OCD, over the few years I would not yet no one touch me or I would not sit somewhere that I don't like. I would throw some of my clothes if someone I don't want to touch me, touches me then I would give the clothes to my mom.
Same problem with me 😞😞 I'm so helpful Nobody understand Me..
That is not how you wash your hands to remove germs...20 seconds of scrubbing including your nails.
When I saw him washing his hands, I thought "dude just stop, it's enough" but I for myself wash my hands very often...
Same
Thanks, it helped me. Thanks again from India (Hindustan).
my aunt has this problem since i can remember. I wish something can be done about it.
I feel this sometimes I use a whole case of soap a day, from excessive hand washing . My knuckle crack and bleed as well and I have dray skin flakes falling off . It fucking sucks ass
Omg that woman made hand washing look so easy lol... while for me, my brain was like “no no no, she’s doing it wrong, I can’t do that, you can’t do that. You have to wash them 4 times, and you cannot touch anything after washing them”
I do 5 times smh. I wanna stop so bad
Same sigh
Have you got a email we can write to you and ask questions? I have been suffering fro, severe germaphobia and ocd the last 3years. And want to completely stop it.
thank you so much, i'm terrified but i reallt want to get over this, i will try my best..
thank you its really helpfull
😭thank you!!👏🏼
Hailing from other part of the Globe, in Southeast Asia. I also suffer from this and I get looked at by my family and people around my family.
I'm embarrased.
One time I got sick after touching a doorknob on my way to my study spot and then scratching my nose. And now my hands look like they have lupus because I wash my hands after touching anything I know other people frequently touch. Or if I feel like they're "dirty," which is quite random. I like to use scalding water, because it soothes the itchiness from the cracks in my dry skin.
I appreciate a lot the video and I think this is truly helpful for people that fear germs, but what kills me inside is that I never find any content regarding people like me that are just afraid to the bottom of oneself of natural biomolecules of the body, body fluids, etc. I mean, I have 0 fear of germs, actually Microbiology was my favorite subject in Uni by far, I would understand Bacteria and Viruses like no one else in my class and not feel disgusted by Petri dish colonies or anything. I just am really disgusted by my body and fat/proteins and fluids, so the problem is washing everything. I think the same concept of exposure applies, but I can't find relief in finding out facts that my skin protects me, because I'm not worried to get sick at all, actually I never ever get sick anyways and never feared it, I'm worried with the contents on the skin itself, it is more like I want to protect the skin rather than myself. No matter how much I search it seems it is really not that a common of a thing, even though I see some people mentioning fear of "body fluids" and "dirt" (which is very unspecific it seems to me). Anyways, it seems to me it is a much worse predicament, but I realized that expose might just let you "live with it", but there is no escaping using anything rational, because by studying I just realized more and more that the logic behind my thinking was correct (I reckon one might say OCD is just good with creating narratives or whatever, but in some aspects of my case I find that it would be like negating scientific facts and just having a convenient belief you are not getting into contact with certain contents), I just think that my compulsions are too extreme or that maybe there is no need to fear it. But it makes me very confused because even though people ignore it or don't have strong compulsions like me, I always notice they all worry about this and dislike a lot having contact with things like that. I think I just have to come in terms with this and live with it or die, which might be good enough solution, but for me it becomes a very deep and basically philosophical problem I have to figure out together or first, like what I value and how other things in life are more important and making that be a significant part of my life, detaching from the "self" or something, my "thoughts" from my "character" and value others more than myself. Which becomes like a "spiritual" journey of sorts, but is extremely hard to pull off and figure out. Sometimes I fear I'm just doubling down on OCD by not caring about being happy myself and enjoying life, and just worried about trying to find salvation in worrying about others more. But again, I see a lot of other disorders get better after having children for instance, even though I have seen people getting really bad OCD after they had children, even though they do sacrifices only for the sake of their child, but sufficient ones to be a good enough parent. I will try but I'm not too sure if I can make it anyway...
Does anyone else suffer from a skin condition due to excessive washing?
Yes
Yeah I get a rash when I use regular soap and there’s splits in my skin
Seriously dude this has helped me when the OCD spikes thank you soooooo much
When you splashed the water on the handles and said "as if this is doing anything we know it doesn't we just don't trust it" my entire day in a life!!!! I'm struggling with carrying 91% isopropyl alcohol and spraying any surface I touch and any part of my body that touches any surface. I noticed I have started to coach myself through this recently bcuz I used it so much in the restroom, I failed a drug/alcohol screening!!! I never knew ocd coaches existed, I will look into this. It truly is so many what if thoughts. I'm trying to remain more logical these days. Thank you
Logic doesn't work with OCD. You can explain to someone until your blue in the face and it just doesn't sink in.
I wish handwashing was my only problem!
Hollie Hilton What is yours? Germs Contamination OCD is not easy! It's probably the hardest one to overcome!
비텡쿨에밴더슨 I have symmetry OCD that has destroyed my life. I have the urge to complete rituals that if I do not complete perfectly with everything in my environment exactly where it was when it started. I obsess until I am physically ill. Think the movie "Groundhog Day." I have had five rituals I have been unable to complete since NOVEMBER. I have essentiially had to keep everything in the same place since then. I moved to my new apt. in October and still haven't unpacked. I wash and wear the same outfits so that I can keep everything as close to where it was until I complete my rituals just right.. No one can help me. Even people I've met in groups no longer know how to help.
Well I wish you didn't have that either!
But I think you mean you have others too..
So do I.
I dnt even want to think of those things its so stressful and distressing. .and makes me feel like I've then touched that disgusting dirty stuff.
I need help 😭
Thank you for this...I have reached a point where if I don't do at least 3-4 rounds of pumping soap and washing hands, I just don't feel okay. The thin top layer of my skin is almost totally peeled off. I will start doing this from today.
same, i have a fear of soap tough instead of bacteria and etc, because what it did to me over time.
This is amazing!!! Thank you very much!! This channel has helped me a lot to get rid of my germs phobia!! THANKS A LOT❤️
Ocd creates extreme anxiety so if you were to meet a friend you would feel distracted in conversation until you clean your hands, clothes etc and constantly aware of this, its annoying and it affects your ability to relax and to concentrate
Great video. The background music is a bit loud.
I recovered from OCD by watching your videos.. Tqsm❤❤
Neither of you were thoroughly washing your hands you have to use the bar to get lots of soapy bubbles on your hands and make sure theres a lather and then put the soap back on the counter and scrub your hands and clean under fingernails and other things it really only takes 30 seconds but you do it for only 10 which isn't effective at getting the germs off
Anyone else washing their hands not because of the fear of germs but because you always feel like your hands feel weird and sticky and need to be cleaned? What do I do about that? I can't stop but when I think they feel sweaty and wrong I need to wash them. My hands are always dry and cracked up and bleed because I wash them too much. It hurts and itches.