I had messes all over my small house. I needed peace. Every half done project went into the project room. I cleared three rooms into the project room. So one is messy AND 3 are clear. I clean, update, and enjoy 75% of my house right NOW. The project room is still out there on the list, but I feel much better about dealing with it over time.
I like how you said death cleaning after each season of life. Makes so much sense. And yes, the flood gates do open. Mine was a nativity set. Started by my grandparents and I added to it each year for many years. But the catch was that I never had a horizontal surface worthy of setting up a whole nativity scene and village full of people and animals. My fantasy self had a buffet and grandkids would come play with all the characters. But alas, small house living, no grandkids and cats make this a fantasy, not reality. The guilt every year of seeing the box in storage and not opening it was overwhelming. Letting go felt so good. I've let go of many more guilt laden objects since then. Thanks for sharing.
I love your channel! Your explanations are clear, and you don't overwhelm the listener with "extra" information. You know how to stick to your topic well. This is the second video of yours I've watched. I was already familiar with some of the methods you discuss but learned some new ones. Will watch more of your videos. Thank you!
I can relate to the Christmas village that was my mother’s. She put it up for years. I kept it for years and my grandchildren enjoyed it for a few years but it is time consuming. I pared down from 9 to 4. I kept the best. Able to set up on 2 end tables. Same with her Hummels 28 to one that represents my older brother and myself. I tried to sell ended up with about $2 figurine. Lost lots of time with that. Candlewick glassware from 50s. I kept 12 donated 58. Now I’m a senior citizen and don’t want to pose this on my children. I kept enough for memories and some in use every day. Just found your channel today.
Dana K White's NO MESS method and her CONTAINER method. Works every time! I also in my mind use the Swedish Death Cleaning because I don't want to leave my kids a MESS to take care of, so I am decluttering continually. Thanks for inspiring us!
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I chose the room by room decluttering, spacing each room several days. I did a massive declutter upon moving five years ago, so now it is spring and fall incl closets much goes to group homes in area. Laura Ann
I only just discovered Dana K Whites method when looking up ideas for a friend. I think this is definitely the way to start, you're only just building your decluttering muscles decision fatigue is real - with this method you can just walk away from the space when you feel overwhelmed. I'll add if you are just starting out, set up a trash bin with bags in it and a donation box in each room. Everytime you are in that room and happen to discover trash or something you no longer want it has a place it can go. Decluttering is then happening outside your designated decluttering times too. The multiple bags in trash bin allows you to tie it up and set up a new one quickly.
I'm thrilled it works for you.. for me, not so much. I think it's a waste of time taking items where they go, coming back and doing it all over again. My method has never ever failed me and I never get irritated with it. Wasting time and energy are never on my list of things to do.
Great video! And good job on letting go of the snow village. I know that was hard. I have faced and conquered similar things. And very smart to keep one. Thats something I can use moving forward. Thank you!
Ended up doing the minimalists packing party with my kitchen. It wasn't intended but we packed up the kitchen for renovation. When it was done I decided I wasn't just going to pull it all back out again, we pulled items as we needed them and parted with the rest after about 6 weeks. There were of course items we don't use very often and did still keep, thankfully a lot of items we were able to think of multi uses for so could let go of almost all the single use items. My set up is really functional, everything I use daily is within a side step of the cooker. We have what we refer to as the seldom used cupboard, which houses the cookware we still want and do use, just not often enough to give it prime space.
I've recently started Decluttering my bathroom. It's all done except the cleaning. I'm starting that shortly. I'm just doing a little at a time. I don't want to get overwhelmed and then quit. Kitchen cabinets are next. Of course there is more to do in the kitchen. It's going to take awhile for sure.
I am 100% THAT Hoarder. I have a LOT of trouble letting go of items. Clothes, sentimental items, I have a mug collection and I love all of them. I have Craft supplies-- more than I could ever use. It is just hard to decide to let it go. But I can and do have friends over. I don't have pathways carved out-- but I do have piles. I don't keep garbage, pee in jugs or poop in bags. My bills are paid and my utilities work. However, I do see my mindset in some of the people on the Hoarding shows. Did you know the person?
I agree with getting rid of even a treasured memory of your grandmother. You kept one piece and that held your connection to that memory enough. But, I have to wonder about her other grandchildren. Are you the only one? I'm guessing so, OR she blessed the others with equally treasured tangible memories.
Kids clothes: when our kids were little, we periodically did a thing where we put aside the clean laundry and it forced them to wear their non-favorites until we had worked through all of their clothes. It brings out the stuff that they dont like or are too small because once their favorites arent an option, all the stuff they dont wear is whats left
A question if you have left furniture and things that are heirloom are very expensive antiques to your children and they said they want what is a timeframe. You should give them to come and get it before you decide. I can’t keep it any longer. It’s got to go.?? I have a bedroom suit that’s way over 300 years old machine that’s just dissolved and a mixture that my grandmother used my children but yet they will not come and get them because I say they don’t have room now when will they have room?
That’s a great question and definitely something to have a mutually respectful conversation with the children about it. Letting them know that you would absolutely love for them to get to have and enjoy those items - but that you simply no longer have the capacity to store it until a later date. Let them know, and give them some time to reflect on how important it is to them to take ownership of those items; you can set a date to chat about it again and get their updated positions. (Which is great; it gives them and you both a timeline you can adhere to!) Then when you chat about it again, they may have decided that they’ll make space for one or two items they’d like, but that, regretfully, as much as they wish they could take all of it, they might just not be in the position to do so at this time, and they can have some time to make that decision themselves and come to terms with the fact that you do need to get rid of it. (Do let them know ahead of time that this is what you’ll have to do though!) I’d say this is a great method, however it can get tense if someone wants something very badly, doesn’t have room for it immediately though, and then a sibling with a bigger house takes it instead… that can be a bit of a depressing situation for someone who’s in a less stable/spacious living situation, so if there’s potential for something like that, it could even be useful to discuss ahead of time. (It may even prompt them to REALLY make some tough choices and make space if it’s that important to them!) I wish you the best of luck and I hope it all goes very smoothly! No nagging, just clear and respectful communication, and things usually go as best as they can!
My method is define the chores that are maintenance, do them. Then 5 minutes on a small category, like health books, or outdated vitamins. Nothing overwhelming. (Of course, I don't have a family of 4 messing up my apt daily.) So I chip away at sets, until they seem reasonable.
If you happen to have a bigger family, the Christmas Village and similar types of items could be a great opportunity to reach out to other family members who had a connection to the original owner and offer pieces to everyone; pick your most treasured piece (s), and offer to your family to each pick their favourite(s) so you can all share in the same kind of memories. Then you can also part with it without guilt, and still feeling like the collection is “in the family” and being kept together that way for as long as every member who’d like to partake would like to! Not saying you did anything wrong whatsoever - I just speak as someone who would sometimes have loved if any family thought to reach out to me with such an offer. I don’t want a whole collection, but a lovely token I can take down and treasure every now and then could be nice!
Agreed!! I've seen that done with great granny Betty's china, Uncle Frank's model trains, Janet's Elvis memorabilia, etc. It really can be a great way to deal with *stuff.*
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I had messes all over my small house. I needed peace. Every half done project went into the project room. I cleared three rooms into the project room. So one is messy AND 3 are clear. I clean, update, and enjoy 75% of my house right NOW. The project room is still out there on the list, but I feel much better about dealing with it over time.
I like how you said death cleaning after each season of life. Makes so much sense. And yes, the flood gates do open. Mine was a nativity set. Started by my grandparents and I added to it each year for many years. But the catch was that I never had a horizontal surface worthy of setting up a whole nativity scene and village full of people and animals. My fantasy self had a buffet and grandkids would come play with all the characters. But alas, small house living, no grandkids and cats make this a fantasy, not reality. The guilt every year of seeing the box in storage and not opening it was overwhelming. Letting go felt so good. I've let go of many more guilt laden objects since then. Thanks for sharing.
Wow, thanks for sharing this! 😊
I love your channel! Your explanations are clear, and you don't overwhelm the listener with "extra" information. You know how to stick to your topic well. This is the second video of yours I've watched. I was already familiar with some of the methods you discuss but learned some new ones. Will watch more of your videos. Thank you!
I can relate to the Christmas village that was my mother’s. She put it up for years. I kept it for years and my grandchildren enjoyed it for a few years but it is time consuming. I pared down from 9 to 4. I kept the best. Able to set up on 2 end tables. Same with her Hummels 28 to one that represents my older brother and myself. I tried to sell ended up with about $2 figurine. Lost lots of time with that. Candlewick glassware from 50s. I kept 12 donated 58. Now I’m a senior citizen and don’t want to pose this on my children. I kept enough for memories and some in use every day. Just found your channel today.
Wow, thank you for sharing this! ❤️
Dana K White's NO MESS method and her CONTAINER method. Works every time! I also in my mind use the Swedish Death Cleaning because I don't want to leave my kids a MESS to take care of, so I am decluttering continually. Thanks for inspiring us!
I chose the room by room decluttering, spacing each room several days. I did a massive declutter upon moving five years ago, so now it is spring and fall incl closets much goes to group homes in area. Laura Ann
Love this! Dana K White has had such an impact on so many of us! 😊
I only just discovered Dana K Whites method when looking up ideas for a friend. I think this is definitely the way to start, you're only just building your decluttering muscles decision fatigue is real - with this method you can just walk away from the space when you feel overwhelmed.
I'll add if you are just starting out, set up a trash bin with bags in it and a donation box in each room. Everytime you are in that room and happen to discover trash or something you no longer want it has a place it can go. Decluttering is then happening outside your designated decluttering times too. The multiple bags in trash bin allows you to tie it up and set up a new one quickly.
I'm thrilled it works for you.. for me, not so much. I think it's a waste of time taking items where they go, coming back and doing it all over again. My method has never ever failed me and I never get irritated with it. Wasting time and energy are never on my list of things to do.
Me looking for a link to order the snow village in the description box lol…I think I have more work to do 😅
Hahaha! 😂
Great video! And good job on letting go of the snow village. I know that was hard. I have faced and conquered similar things. And very smart to keep one. Thats something I can use moving forward. Thank you!
You bet! 😃
House hushing is from The Cozy Minimalist book. I highly recommend it.
Is that where it originated?! Thank you! I need to check out that book, I love her first book! 😊
Ended up doing the minimalists packing party with my kitchen. It wasn't intended but we packed up the kitchen for renovation. When it was done I decided I wasn't just going to pull it all back out again, we pulled items as we needed them and parted with the rest after about 6 weeks. There were of course items we don't use very often and did still keep, thankfully a lot of items we were able to think of multi uses for so could let go of almost all the single use items.
My set up is really functional, everything I use daily is within a side step of the cooker. We have what we refer to as the seldom used cupboard, which houses the cookware we still want and do use, just not often enough to give it prime space.
I love this! A renovation is a great opportunity to do the packing party! 😊
I've recently started Decluttering my bathroom. It's all done except the cleaning. I'm starting that shortly. I'm just doing a little at a time. I don't want to get overwhelmed and then quit.
Kitchen cabinets are next. Of course there is more to do in the kitchen. It's going to take awhile for sure.
Way to go, that’s fantastic! 😃
I'm so jealous of that snow village!! Those are super collectible and complete sets sell for good $$$
I have started trying to declutter a hoarders estate. At least its just clothes and stuff. No rotting food.
I am 100% THAT Hoarder. I have a LOT of trouble letting go of items. Clothes, sentimental items, I have a mug collection and I love all of them. I have Craft supplies-- more than I could ever use. It is just hard to decide to let it go. But I can and do have friends over. I don't have pathways carved out-- but I do have piles. I don't keep garbage, pee in jugs or poop in bags. My bills are paid and my utilities work. However, I do see my mindset in some of the people on the Hoarding shows. Did you know the person?
@@lauraann7816 Crafts...lots of craft stuff Started and looks really nice, but never 100% finished.
I agree with getting rid of even a treasured memory of your grandmother. You kept one piece and that held your connection to that memory enough. But, I have to wonder about her other grandchildren. Are you the only one? I'm guessing so, OR she blessed the others with equally treasured tangible memories.
Yes, we all got to speak up for what we wanted to hold on to. ❤️
Kids clothes: when our kids were little, we periodically did a thing where we put aside the clean laundry and it forced them to wear their non-favorites until we had worked through all of their clothes.
It brings out the stuff that they dont like or are too small because once their favorites arent an option, all the stuff they dont wear is whats left
Fantastic idea! 😃
Great ideas ☺️👍
more cleaning motivation videos please😊😊
We move a lot so I’ve gotten a little more ruthless with getting rid of stuff with each move.
Moves are magic in that way!
A question if you have left furniture and things that are heirloom are very expensive antiques to your children and they said they want what is a timeframe. You should give them to come and get it before you decide. I can’t keep it any longer. It’s got to go.?? I have a bedroom suit that’s way over 300 years old machine that’s just dissolved and a mixture that my grandmother used my children but yet they will not come and get them because I say they don’t have room now when will they have room?
That’s a great question and definitely something to have a mutually respectful conversation with the children about it. Letting them know that you would absolutely love for them to get to have and enjoy those items - but that you simply no longer have the capacity to store it until a later date. Let them know, and give them some time to reflect on how important it is to them to take ownership of those items; you can set a date to chat about it again and get their updated positions. (Which is great; it gives them and you both a timeline you can adhere to!) Then when you chat about it again, they may have decided that they’ll make space for one or two items they’d like, but that, regretfully, as much as they wish they could take all of it, they might just not be in the position to do so at this time, and they can have some time to make that decision themselves and come to terms with the fact that you do need to get rid of it. (Do let them know ahead of time that this is what you’ll have to do though!) I’d say this is a great method, however it can get tense if someone wants something very badly, doesn’t have room for it immediately though, and then a sibling with a bigger house takes it instead… that can be a bit of a depressing situation for someone who’s in a less stable/spacious living situation, so if there’s potential for something like that, it could even be useful to discuss ahead of time. (It may even prompt them to REALLY make some tough choices and make space if it’s that important to them!) I wish you the best of luck and I hope it all goes very smoothly! No nagging, just clear and respectful communication, and things usually go as best as they can!
Agreed, it’s such a challenge, but open and honest communication with family on these kinds of things has always worked the best for me personally. ❤️
My method is define the chores that are maintenance, do them. Then 5 minutes on a small category, like health books, or outdated vitamins. Nothing overwhelming. (Of course, I don't have a family of 4 messing up my apt daily.) So I chip away at sets, until they seem reasonable.
This sounds like such a great process! 😊
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If you happen to have a bigger family, the Christmas Village and similar types of items could be a great opportunity to reach out to other family members who had a connection to the original owner and offer pieces to everyone; pick your most treasured piece (s), and offer to your family to each pick their favourite(s) so you can all share in the same kind of memories. Then you can also part with it without guilt, and still feeling like the collection is “in the family” and being kept together that way for as long as every member who’d like to partake would like to! Not saying you did anything wrong whatsoever - I just speak as someone who would sometimes have loved if any family thought to reach out to me with such an offer. I don’t want a whole collection, but a lovely token I can take down and treasure every now and then could be nice!
Agreed!! I've seen that done with great granny Betty's china, Uncle Frank's model trains, Janet's Elvis memorabilia, etc. It really can be a great way to deal with *stuff.*
This is such a wonderful idea! ❤️
The onion method! I use it, and now I have a name for it. Thank you! 😊
You bet! 😊
My whole house is filled with piles of things I don't know what to do with.... 🙄😬
It can be such a challenge! But you’re not alone, it’s worth persevering. ❤️