Are You the Black Sheep of Your Family? |
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- Do you feel like you don't fit in with your family? Do you feel like no one understands you?
Sometimes the people closest to us seem to be the least supportive. Cyrus offers encouragement to those of us who feel we are the outcast of our family. We're reminded to not take it personally when we receive pushback and encouraged to persevere despite others not seeing our vision.
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It happened to me... They celebrated my failures. I am the first. male in the family to graduate from college. Working on my second masters. I still can't believe they stabbed me in the back. I don't forgive.
Very similar situation.. any advice i havent quite achieved the success yet?
Yes, has happened and is still going on. I will never forgive them
@@ok-hz7ff same here I even feel like they planned to kill me so I been there
Same situation
I struggled with this for years man... It's like you're in disbelief of all the pushback you receive by your family. You can expect it from haters, but not your family. Although we share the same blood, we do not share the same mentality--- and that's okay. Respect everyone and keep it moving.
Same for you hit the nail right on the head
Exactly! This is so true.
Blood doesnt make you family unfortunately loyalty does ❤️ hope u find peace im the same still shocked at how they just discard you like a stranger for doing nothing except standing up for yourself! But siblings who do way worse and so loved 🤷🏻♀️there loss they gonna wish they were better to us one day 💯😬
Black sheep/ scapegoat of the family:
-Thinks differently from the family usually feels adopted and has astrology placements to be successful outside of homeland, meet soul family and twin flames outside of immediate family.
- Gifted, talented, artistic, intuitive, psychic, introverted, genius, unique identity. Can be over achiever or under achiever never much the middle. Mostly valued and praised when doing things for the family like cooking and cleaning not for just being themselves.
- Usually isolated in your room for peace, always blamed for what is wrong in the family, never finishes sentences without being interrupted, can stutter when speaking, always focused on what you did wrong, always criticised and bullied at school too.
- Called too angry or too sensitive because you learn to suppress emotions, can have anxiety and bipolar disorder.
- Called disrespectful, stands up for self and beliefs, called rebellious or rebels in many ways as not trusting authority.
- Called a liar for seeing the dysfunction in the family, passionate about justice or being reasonable, non judge mental, compassionate and kind hearted, loves animals and children. Loner and has major self doubt issues often feels crazy from being invalidated.
- Usually ends up most successful in family if they self heal and learn to love themselves and just leaves to create their own lives.
Teal Swan -Orphan Complex
Spot on! 👏🏽
So true and that's me
Yeah, that sounds like me
After grandma died everything shifted
Oh yes. My grandma was the glue also.
That was deep I felt the same way when my grandmother passed away on November 21,2022 due to cancer 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥
Lost 200 pounds.....was fat all my life...some family would not even speak to me anymore.... This is dead on.
Wheewww . I been dealing with this my whole life. Got in an argument with a close family member. Their energy was so full of hate. I have to get away from them. Smh it's sad. I love them but 🤷🏾♀️
This video is so true I am just built different and I know it. My mom has 5 kids Im the one of who has been sick their whole life, might not be able to have children, put my dreams on hold to make sure everyone was good and now they said F me. I know in my spirit I am the chosen one that's why I am working so hard to get my life back. I will be the one to break Generational curses.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
That's deep!
@@CyrusAusar To be honest i need to get as far away from my mother as possible
The fact that you said you know and understand you have been that chosen one And your spirit is telling u this Confirms the validity of what you are seeking . God has a great plan for you I can feel it in my bones as I’m writing this reply . Please continue and don’t stop doing what ever gods plan is for you in your life . Trust me I know it hurts . It brings me so much pain coming to the understanding that my family just does not see things clear what so ever .
Your not alone.I was a good child until I went to live back with my mother my and half brothers and sister sisters .my mother did not give me to my right father.She gave me away.cause I wasn't ft or her husband..I ask her the truth and she denied it. I am not love by any other if her other children.now am 41yrs old.My life was mess up since going back to live with them.But I know I have greatness in me. And am fighting with the help of God for there eyes to be open to see who I am.I really think differently f tu on them. They hate me and my children.My elder brother wrote me off from I was 14 yrs old because of ignorance and misunderstanding.My second eldest brother almost blind my eye by hitting me.All my life i was abuse by them. Even my own mother.but most of all I forgive them. But I believe everything is not yet clear out my heart the hurt the rejection and the gossip they gossip me and bring me down.The Most High God reveals to me that I am the black sheep was under generational curse.by a pastor
Exactly the same
I literally dropped the whole family and never looking back. I didn't belong and they treated me like I was a stranger. Wanted to see me fail even up until today want to see me fail. God delivered me from them and life is good. Headed toward my future graduating college.
Mannnn nd it sucks when you genuinely love them smh
it does suck!!!!
I need to keep praying because for three generations, there has been chaos in my family and I do not want that for my children.
I believe I’m the black sheep of my family and although I have my immediate family, it still saddens me seeing my siblings and I turn into how my mother and her siblings are.
I cried watching this because it's true with me. I don't have any parents, was a teen parent and ALWAYS get talked down on. They don't even respect me and it hurts.
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That's really deep! They need to respect you.
Thanks man. I needed this
Thank you!
My Brotha, thank you for this video. The things that I have went through with some of my family members the last three months has truly shown me that I do not fit in with them at all. They hate on me, tried to destroy my property and more because they want to make sure that I don't excel. Mind you, I never bother them but simply go to school, work, come home, and sleep and yet it's like they view me as competition for some reason and try to create smoke with me. I never understand how a human can treat another human like this for no reason. I got my Master's degree a few months ago and I regret ever telling them about it because ever since they heard that it seems as though they became even more mean.
Spacely Man thank you very much for this comment!
@@CyrusAusar No problem man. Please keep doing these video's. It's helps bro in case you didn't know.
They took it out of my hands when my concept was ready to come to fruition- took it from me and the golden child is taking all of the credit and they act like he was the one who came up with it all along and I should be in awe.
Please help me get away from my toxic family
Bro I feel that I have learned that you can defeat them by succeeding in life performing well in school and life etc makes them jealous because they can't get to my level can't let them get to your head get u see the mind is a interesting place but you must guard it with your life seriously if you left it unguarded they will target you, your mind strength in mind is extremely powerful this is a test to become stronger mentally!!
Watching this on Christmas as I spend another holiday alone
5th year in a row
Thank you man💯💯 you seriously took the words outta my mouth been feeling this way ever since I was 6 and I’m 25 now. My family and most of my friends pretty much proved to myself that I am the Black Sheep among all of them
I feel like im different from everyone else in my family, im very talented at music and since a young age . my mind is unique i dont think like none of my family i have a vision n they dont i care about being someone in the world
You're so right! I know exactly where you are coming from.
Thank you!!! Im all the bad things in my family. I have been in every kind of shit (and still is) in life. Need someone who tell me im not Wrong. Not bad. Not nothing. This gives me something. THANK YOU.. ❤🌼
It sucks & definitely hurts but I can't changed the way people feel or think & I respect that...I feel outcasked pushed away ,not included it's lonely but I'm a lone wolf & I don't mind anymore
Thank you so much for this
I needed this, I’m only 19 and I’ve been the black sheep for years
They’re so controlling, so strict and them being Christians makes it more difficult because of their believes
They’re homophobic, would never let me go out with friends without making it a big deal, was never allowed to even get my nails done or put in wigs or colour (pretty dumb but they were intense about it)
Would tell me how ugly I looked doing those things and forced me to play music In the church
Never brought a friend of mine home cause they’re so judgemental I was always afraid of what they’d say
And I finally moved out cause I couldn’t take it anymore, I could be 25 and they’d still try to tell me how to live my life
They didn’t want me doing things but when I leave they want me to come back just to make my life a living hell still
I just can’t wait to save enough money and move as far away from them
I’m still to this day dealing with all of the guilt they constantly make me feel for being so different and make everything seem like it’s my fault
Ugh I now got piercings
I just want to finally live my teenage years before I start having adult responsibilities
Same sis same
same sista, my parents always talk down on me because had awaking and my parents and grandparents are Romam Catholics but had spritiual awaking at 15 and my mom want to be confirmed to the Calthoic Church but im Calthoic or believe in Christianity anymore and now im Spritual and told my mom that she told me that it was non sense and they think my clothing style is "feminine and ghetto" because i like pink and also wanted a Jean Jacket that rose and my dad thought it was gay so feel you!
It just feels so good to know you're not alone in this even while experiencing this God has kept me! I always felt like those who have been left out God has an amazing purpose for them!🙏❤
To get such an honest and truthful message from a video and guy I just came across less than 6 minutes ago is so humbling it really grabs my heart and makes me feel like everything in my path is happening for a reason I know this already but something about the reminder
🌹 Thank You Sir ... 😞
This is an old video but damn it came right on time. I like the baby analogy. Makes sense.
My family has been in the same religion for generations. I have been practicing spirituality ( meditation, yoga changing my thoughts etc.) I still believe in God but believe that there’s more to life than just one thought process or belief. They say what I’m doing is satanic and that I need to get back to my old way of doing things. It just sucks because they don’t know where I’m coming from and only know their way of doing things. Feels like I’m trapped sometimes.
Hey, what you are practicing is called new age. Type in deception of the new age on TH-cam. You will see the other side of the coin
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Lol I'm on the opposite end and they label me as "toxic masculinity" for being a better man
26 and going thru this
I am so thankful to you.
Thank you for your honesty and truth.
Life changing. Real support appreciate you
I cried. Thanks for this message sir 💕
This helped me alot I needed to hear this... I know I gotta testimony after I bring myself out of the situation I'm in... I love this video!!
When I achieve greatness, then they'll want to talk to me again. By then it'll be too late, F em'.
I can relate on about all that you talk about. I am a Spiritualist and a Empath. I believe in Reincarnation and our Soul's plans on the physical plane on earth. I am a old Soul with many past lives. My wife and mine Spiritual Healer and Psychic medium did a Past life Regression which my last past life I was a Ascended Master which I reincarnated in my present life to rescue and help my wife. Which her past life she was an Angel too. In my present life, growing up my family picked me as the Black Sheep on our Family. Everything that you said you tell the truth. Thank you!
Love your video and message friend. Nail on the head. Stay strong.
I needed to hear this today❤️
Where have you been my whole entire life. 😞
Thank you.
Thank you I feel better now
I fit in with everybody. I keep friends close and enemies closer. Fuck with me? You're my best friend.
Thanks man...
I can’t save a dime my family have torn me down I’m homeless atm 😢
Any update? Where'd you end up going ?
I Really Needed This ❤️💯
Thank you
I really needed to hear this I’ve been going through something with fam personal things but I know the man upstairs helps and watches over me god bless and help as much as you can LOVE
Thank you, lots of identification in your video. Very incouraging.
Thank you for taking out the time to listen! I am happy it helped.
It happen to me my family didnt like me also ah been isolated wanted love from them no love from them
Thank you for this..
you are welcome!
Thanks bro I almost lost hope
You are welcome! Keep going!
I actually found out im adopted. And you say it's a blessing but you've ONLY said how shitty it is.
Thank you.
You're welcome!!! Thank you for listening.
I thought I let this go years ago but after another bout of explotation from them...... I'm back in a depressing downward spiral..... My mother continues to lie to everyone in the family and since she's mom - she's always right.....long distance family won't even get to know me because of her lies.......But oh well, with all the stomach pains and headaches, I guess some of us were just meant to be Isolated and suffer alone. I just refuse to kill myself because hey some people have it worse right? Smile everyday even if you are extremely alone.....
Amanda Jones took all of the words out my mouth smh
444 😈
Sad but true I have felt like this for a long time and I feel like slowly just cutting them off. They make me feel sad not happy, they confuse me, don't ask me how I am feeling or if I ever need anything, don't understand me full stop. Yes it's lonely but you can't change people unless you teach them a valuable lesson.
Can I just say I take back my words in fact I am going to try and make a video. The moment I told them how I felt with much passion they started to listen.
@@ljinuk81 and how are they acting now towards you? Cause I'm 23 living alone and I told them multiple times but it's just the same thing as you explained . It seems like nobody cares ,till you tell them and then 1-2 months later it just goes back to how it was ..
@@ljinuk81 they won’t listen to me ever i hate them
Blacksheep Gang's in the comment section around the world, always remember that you are born special with extra courage to live the life that you want,in a good way.... Respect yourself.
I shared with my mom , my dreams 2 years from now ; did not expect she would say "stop dreaming about things out of your reach , stop dreaming things bigger than you" great to know I like my own company so I don't share anything with my family anymore.
@@Sarahh_ I think it is jealousy
@@Supriya100kar I do too. I think some people have good intuition which I myself have. I can read deeply. i've been sensing my moms jealousy but tried ignoring it cause "she's my mom there's no wayy" I literally don't trust anyone anymore. I only have myself
@@Sarahh_ I think people like us (black sheeps) have good intuition and are empaths. This is a reward for years of abuse and mistreatment I guess.
But please don't be disheartened by your mother's jealousy. If someone is jealous of you that means they believe that you are superior than them. You might be much more than what you think you are!
Try to make friends with like-minded people and try to trust people. Who cares if our mothers are bad people?
There are plenty of good humans out there, just explore and be happy girl!😊💐
@@Supriya100kar you are absolutely right girl. I am borderline lupus as well and she keeps telling me its all in my head. even my diet switch she nags about. it hurts when nobody understands us. but I know that with god and our own strength we can overcome anything in the world as long as we believe in ourselves
@@Sarahh_ I am struggling with same thing. My father and brother along with my evil mother gaslights me every now and then because I am about to get married in a richer family which they seems to despise. I am counting my days here and waiting to get free.
I begin to cry watching your video because I most definitely feel like the black sheep of the family.They do not like me or my son.. No matter how much I have achieved. I have been feeling so hurt and sad since june 8th 2022. My 16 year old son Graduated high school with his high school diploma and he has been awarded a full scolorship to further his education in college as a software engineer. Nobody on my late mother side of the family even said congratulations to him or called me. My late Mother side of the family always has treated me like the blacksheep of the family .
I would love even if they argued with me. They just don't care, doors slammed in my face, ignored and spat at. But I have to accept that. And try to learn to love myself.
For me I’m adhd (considered hsp from what I’ve researched). All these things are true but I’ve also got the hsp blacksheep stuff too. Sucks cuz your family always say they love you then never understand how degrading they are. And if I try to bring it up suddenly I’m the bad guy and I’m ungrateful
Oh my gosh ~ I am so thankful for this. I needed this because my heart is so crushed by my family over and over. You are speaking truth and I feel so much better now. You helped ground me. Thank you for sharing your gift.
its crazy how this video is so accurate my mind is advanced and I think different my family on their hand they have baby minds and never I mean never ever understand my visions and goals for the big picture I don't agree with their mentality which is a baby mind when my mind is ahead in years and goals that i want to achieve so this video accurate of black sheep thank you cyrus
Thank you for listening! Isn't it funny how you advanced mind can work against you sometimes?
"I can do all things through him who strengthens me"philippians 4:13 fear not,for I am your god I will strengthen you I will help you,I will up hold you with my righteous right hand" Isaiah 41:10 be strong and courageous do not fear or be in dread of them for it is the lord your god who goes with you he will not leave you forsake you"
Thank so much for sharing this information. It was the light I needed to understand the darkness I am experiencing in my life right now. My family has always been so dysfunctional and no one has ever took the time to address the baggage. I will always love and forgive them, but now I have to protect my own peace and unfortunately I am becoming more content separating myself from all of the toxicity. I feel so alone , abandoned and rejected at times, but I am stronger and wiser and now understand God’s plan, love and comfort. He will restore the relationships in his own time or replace the hurt with better individuals. We all have too continue to work on ourselves to change negative narrative of past hurts and dysfunctions.
I almost did not watch the video because it was short...but man I am glad I did, this video packs a punch....thank you for your insight my friend
Was considering blocking all contact and moving away - needed to hear this, appreciate you man
It’s so sad pray for them and keep moving 💯
Thanks for the affirmation. 😊 I'm the "crazy" one trying to follow my dreams, create new and amazing experiences for my girls and myself, in order to live the life that I want and encourage my daughters and others to do the same. I don't want to be that one saying...I wish I would have done such n such when I was younger. I know the eyebrows will raise and the doubt of others will come but its not their life that I am striving for. Your words are so true 🤜🏾🤛🏾✌🏾
You are welcome! You will change everything.
Definitely! If I don't look like them I would wonder if I was adopted. Thank you for this ❤
you soothed my soul tonight, thank you.
Thank you for listening!
Powerful message brother
DLR Express, LLC thank you!
I hope your channel blows up because you have a great message to give🌸 thank you so much for making this video and showing me a different perspective on my place in my family.
I always was the Black Sheep. I don't see eye to eye with neither parent, neither of my brothers or sister. Both parents support the siblings they want to support. They were always tough on me but extra lenient on my siblings but guess what? I am educated, my brothers are dropouts. I have no record while my brothers are felons. I have 2 kids to 1 female while they have a fleet of kids to a bunch of ratchet chicks. My parents rarely helped me financially but constantly had to Western Union $ to my siblings. They need Mommy to cosign for them and I'll get what I want by myself. They need Mommy to put shit in her name while everything is in my name. I grew up to be independent while they grew up to be dependent. They all are contradictory when it pertains to being religious while I am openly Atheist. I love being the Black Sheep.
Honestly after my my mother kick me out its been hard thank you.
Thank you for recommending me this video, it means a lot and you opened my eyes to a new perspective to not be angry at my family for them taking baby steps. I hope I can be something they can be proud of when I reach my full circle
Thank you for this was reassuring i was always different to them more sort of intelligent and wanting more from life they all do not, they do not help me in any way and the thing that hurts the most is they have tried to scapegoat my child too they will not help with childcare for me to work so my daughter walks past there home after school like a stranger to go to the babysitters house whilst her cousin is there every second weekend Friday Saturday Sunday 😬I will be the one who changes everythingi wont be putting up with there bull and i was the scapegoat til i left home but my child will not be subjected to that! It hurts but its for the best i will be a stronger person because of it! I pray to god to help me let go if the hurt and bitterness left by them and that I become the mum i needed when i was small
Man you have got a good perspective on being the outcast (black sheep) we are all misunderstood in how we communicate , in trying to understand or seeing both sides of the coin , and then we are labeled by ignorance and a failed understanding of the ideas we explore to find truth in what is not so evident ... idk but thank you for your insight and you now have another sub !!! Great video 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🔥🔥🔥 made my Sunday night a little more insightful , thx again
you hit the nail right on the head brotha i feel the same way
You're the black sheep too!
This is very accurate. Thank you
Thanks I needed this. I feel that I can relate to this.
You are so welcome
Thankyou from Australia. 😊
Still going through it, very true they know am a failure
Ah dor get support from them
Yaassssss. So true!
Ty brother
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Thanks man. You're a cool dude 😎
Thank you, I appreciate that!
I am the black sheep of my family, and at it has got so bad that I hope and pray EVERY night that I don't wake up in the morning. I see it as I am better off dead than suffering like I have been for the past thirty years.
Blessings
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Thank you for video this video hit home
Thank you.
Thank you for listening. I am glad it helped.
Always
YESS thank you.
Thank you😍
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Thanks bro... am in that zone
You are welcome, brother! Anything else you would like me to discuss?
Needed this today.
I'm glad it could help you!
Helped me today.....
Thank you
You are welcome. Thank you for watching it