I'd be more inclined to believe that Japanese corporate culture cared about employee health if they weren't working them to death and encouraging drinking after work parties. I think the companies are more concerned with how the employees look (not fat) than about their overall health.
@@ASHERUISE the amount of psychological stress and and overwork japanese people get throughout their lives, from school 'til retirement can't be less harmful than being obese.. you might be self conscious about your body but it's possible to die happy that way. Having a 1/2 chance of having alcohol dependence and depression paired with anxiety is far worse than being obese tbh
@@chadchad3582 Seriously when I complain about the high stress culture people are always like "oh so you want public transport to always be unreliable? How about you be grateful for the convenience it's brought you in life." Like you can point out both at the same time it's not a race. Also, I would much rather live in a society where trains don't always arrive perfectly on time, but depression, suicide, and harassment aren't prevailing social problems. At this point we have failed at being a healthy functioning society.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 Bless your heart and may you be strong when facing hardship ❤️ We can always wish for their system to soften when enough immigrants have voiced their complaints, or with the younger generation being more self aware and wary of mental health and their serious consequences What’s counter productive though, is people moving to Japan, having pressure at work all the time, but not voicing it enough. Japan is sure a treasure mine when it comes to culture and language, but the country has flaws and it’s hard to watch those aspects being so hidden.. immigrants might receive another treatment, or they get used to the amount of work and pressure, that gets countered with Japan’s beauty.. I still have hope for the future though.. maybe they’ll open their eyes after Covid, since everyone suffers with mental health more than before. ✨
@@PrinzessKennY meh im chinese and currently living with my chinese family so i guess i have some say to this since the stigma against fat people is pretty similar between our cultures. basically they DO call it out because they think you are indeed well fat and that it helps you get pressured to diet and get skinnier. kinda backfires when the person is already insecure and takes it more as humiliation than criticism? i used to do that before i just stopped caring about what my family thought. also about the not showing love in public, i think thats because of the different cultures between the usa and most east asian countries? i dont know what to call it specifically though...
@@cyberpunklain My fatness is mostly from lack of exercise, my diet just kinda changes depending on what's at home (since I'm...probably not gonna go anywhere anytime soon) - and I usually only have like 1 bowl of rice regardless of whatever side dishes there are So with the context over with: [also sorry for the rant] : (This is probably just the type of ppl around me..) I don't get why, but if you call someone fat, why would you then continue giving them food if they say they don't want any. Like I said it as clearly and as politely as I could. Like I say "I don't 'go on diets'" because * I don't * , but that doesn't mean 'even if I say no, give me all your food'....the worst part is when they're like 'it's a waste of food if you don't eat it' - like...I eat as cleanly as possible, but I still have a threshold- I'm not like one of those ppl who compete to eat as much as they can - if someone's like "hey, I can't finish this" then I'll probably eat it BECAUSE it's like a couple bites or sth - but when you're telling me to eat like 3+ times what I usually eat (and I say very clearly that I usually don't eat n amount of x) - I'm sorry if it's rude, but I physically can't eat that much (like during maybe large meals, I *have* to take a break halfway through because I don't want any leftovers but I rly don't want to eat anymore)
@@606aichan7O7 "It's a waste of food if you don't eat more"... that mentality made me gain so much weight. Then I've realized my body is not a trash can for leftover food. Now I try to dispose of it in responsible way
@@cyberpunklain yeah I live in China as well, and it's just shallowness showing. Appearance is everything to them. (And also everyone wanna be white.. Sigh)
Being fat in Japan CAN come in handy sometimes. I used to commute on the Den-en-toshi Line every morning. At Azamino station there was always a big dude getting on the train. I wouldn't say he was sumo-size, but pretty big. He had this technique where he would take a few steps back, charge at the door like a bull and throw himself into the train. No matter how crowded it was, he ALWAYS got on. Too bad about the people he crushed though...
what a legend! reminds me of the time i hulked my way into a train. it was about to leave and i would have been late otherwise.. now i'm relatively strong so i basically used my arms as a wedge between the doors and made an outward motion to get in.. there were two guys that looked at me in a way that just screamed: wtf who is this monster?
When I was modeling in Japan and came back from dangerously underweight to regular healthy weight almost all of my Japanese friends and people who hired me commented on my "big size" - I have also had friends come who ended up crying because people kept calling her fat and asking how her body got so "out of control" .. she was a medium ..
Something I noticed about sizes - in the U.S. I usually fit the smallest adult clothing sizes, and I stand out as small here. But in Japan, the smallest adult size is too small for me... I also feel like in the U.S. being thin / healthy can be socially isolating because many people here buy in to the "body-positivity" narrative that implies a BMI > 40 is something to celebrate... Different sides of similar issues but I appreciate your story and hope you're well.
@@liselotte6384 who the hell is celebrating a bmi over 40? apart from a few idiots on the web praising obesity, who the hell loves being fat ?! accepting yourself and companies being more size inclusive =/= promoting obesity. fat people are not feeling good in their own skin, it’s a fact. nobody except stupid magazines stated fat = healthy, damn. so yeah, fat people are allowed to dress up as well, sorry for that. if you still search for good fitting clothes for a small size, you can try brandy melville though.
@@liselotte6384 “socially isolating”???? ma’am are you good? being skinny is one of the best things you can be in america and you’re very ignorant if you think otherwise.
I’m Japanese but most of us wouldn’t do that only rude people would. And I think it’s the same in every country. I don’t even know what she mentioned this in the video.
I lose 6 kg without trying in Japan. It's not because diet or eat healthier. But because I don't have time to eat properly, and a lot of body activities for commuting & at work. Lose weight, but I gain less sleep, vatigue & stress every day. No time for self care.
Serious question: Why is it in Japan they are all so obsessed with being polite and courteous but the moment you gain a bit of weight they feel it's alright to tease you and touch your body? I wouldn't be allowing people to slap my belly if I had one.
From what I know they have a lot of pride but lack respect for peoples personal feelings, they may respect your family and what you do but that doesn't mean anything when it comes to what you look like.
I think in Asia in general, there's not the respect/demand for "personal space" that we get accustomed to here in the US. They have less mental/cultural inhibitions against getting up close and touchy feely with strangers. Everyone there lives close together. That's just the way it is.
@@LoyaFrostwind I think USA is the outlier here. They're really weird about physical contact. When we travel for work, everyone gets reminded to not be effusive when greeting.
Well, that’s just how we Asians work. We might just meet somebody for the first time who has a pot belly, and immediately we’d be playing drums. We might never again, yet we have no problem manhandling the other person. It’s just common grounds here.
The walking/public transportation culture in Japan is nice. I live in the US and I've been walking to work for the past year (about an hour of walking round trip) and people are always surprised that I don't drive. It'd be nice if the more people here used transportation and walking/biking. We'd all be a lot healthier. It'd be nice to have more farmer's markets and a stronger "cook at home" culture in the US too. Going to a nearby grocery store every day and cooking food for friends and family at home is so nice.
Lol, I'd love to walk to the closest town to go grocery shopping, but considering how that's a 30 min drive with 20 minutes of that on a 60mph highway, I think I'd die before I got to buy my apples. More plausible in cities though!
I grew up in the US. Unfortunately, unless you live in very close proximity to a major city or smack-bang in the middle of a student town, most places are car-dependent. In my neighborhood, the walk to the nearest Loop bus stop takes over an hour. That’s not the fault of people living there; it’s the fault of a lack of initiative for local governments or even private companies to make well-connected bus and rail systems.
I'm a foreigner and I can confirm that I in fact do get the negative attention about my weight from Japanese people. Most of it I don't really care about unless they're poking fun at me. I just tell them I ate all the karaage because I had depression and they get uncomfortable and go away.
How sad that is to hear. I would love to come to Japan, but worry about this happening to me as well. I just can’t imagine doing that to someone. How cruel!
@@lemccoy1 it's really not that bad. it's a certain minority of rude annoying people and you can just ignore them. it's fairly unlikely as a tourist that you'll experience it at all. as a foreign resident, you'll get way worse culture shock than just people telling you you're fat, but that's because japan it's a country and that's what counties are like. the benefits of living abroad (if you stick it out for a few years and learn the language) far outweigh the irritation of there being new types of rude annoying people - and on the plus side, there's other kinds of rude annoying behavior that will be less common here.
I did a research essay on eating disorders and Japan had one of the highest rate. Not to mention there are pro eating disorders movements such as pro-ana (pro anorexia) and pro-mia (pro bulimia). They're mostly popular among teenagers, and is spread through gossip, social media, and websites. School children would teach each other how to throw there lunch away and participate in these movements without raising alarms. Despite this, there are little to no eating disorder treatment centers. Sensing love to anyone struggling with body image, you deserve to feel happy in your own skin.
I was wondering about this, thank you for sharing! People also say how the French are so skinny, but there's a lot of eating disorders and smoking reduces appetite.
I guess in Japan eating disorders are just fine? They are so proud to say they are “healthy”. Not to mention mental issues coming along with eating disorders 🥺
When I was a kid about 8 or so I got pulled aside by my school principal, she then proceeded to ask me if I was alright and I replied yes, why wouldnt I be. She then went on to say some kids were calling me fat, I had no idea I was chunky then and was not self concious of it. Needless to say I would of been happier kid if I wasnt told what other kids were saying about me. Bullying hurts.
Yes, bullying hurts really. . I was picked on when I was at school because of my weight too. I hope you were able to move on from those hard times. you are not alone!
@@MrsEats thank you! I actually used to be very fit in my teenage years but now Ive been struggling again trying to stay under 300 lbs. I started a light exercise regiment but ended up hurting myself while doing assisted squats. Gonna just start going for walks once my leg is better.
I'm pretty chunky, thankfully I live in a city of decency and schools take bullying seriously, children are all aware of the consequences of bullying and avoids it and reports possible instances even tickling is bad and if fighting starts the teachers come, calms the two students and let's them talk about their problems properly and have the two students apologize, If they can't do that the teachers usually call the parents and schedule a meeting, but if it's really drastic the teachers have no problem scaring the students to death lol. Also it's not just "who hit first" they reason why it happened, for example if the student was being teased and he or she retaliated by hitting, then the people teasing her will be the one who gets punished. In my case the moment you don't let it bother you is the moment they don't have power, and when I faced actual targeted bullying(a transfer student essentially calling me fat on the first day of school), I can retaliate all I want(I punched him in the face after telling him we're not close for such "jokes" and my classmates all agreed) Didn't get in trouble, and the transfer student transfered to another school. Most cases of bullying is really gossips, and being fat doesn't really have much juice to squeeze when it comes to gossips. So it's usually thin "sexy" students get the "I hear she has another boyfriend/ I hear he got someone pregnant" kind of gossips. And when these things are reported it's pretty private talk with the teachers and nobody is allowed to disclose what was talked about. Disrespecting the teachers is equal to a death sentence... Lol they will get so mad they can break school property, one once punched the wall next to the student, and it made his knuckles bleed and left a small crack on the wall.
It's SO true! I have a Japanese friend who, every time he sees me, walks up and pats my stomach like "Oh, your wife is feeding you well!" I'm like "Yes, thank you." Thanks for making me laugh!
I got fat living in Japan and it appalled me how Japanese people openly stared at me,talked about me,pointed out my weight. For such a polite people they made me feel so uncomfortable every day
In Spain women of a certain age will say things like "Every time l see you, you're fatter!" And then if you blush or get upset they act like *you're* wrong to feel hurt! After a while l just responded, "And every time I see you, you're older!"
Same in the Philippines. My Aunts like to say " Oi, you gained weight dai." It usually very distant relatives you only see during the holidays. I finally got sick of it and said "You got ugly" and then walked away. I hide everytime this aunt visits.
I agree. The problem is that Japanese people have a much higher risk of weight related diseases at a lower weight, so they have to be thinner to be healthy. But bullying isn’t encouraging.
This lady is absolutely charming!!! Anyway...I know a dentist in my town that would insist his female employees get liposuction, he even paid for it! These women were not overweight at all. He was just a narcissistic sociopath. I used to pray for the safety of his wife and daughters. He passed away a few years ago. I don't think he was missed by many people.
It's interesting to see this video, because in a company that I worked for, I was made fun of by my boss for being bigger and they would often tell me to go lose weight. I definitely understand how it feels when people talk negatively about your weight, but overall, it can become a bit easier to lose weight in Japan since most people walk everywhere and eat generally more healthy.
Not as many processed foods, or foods with additives, in Japan, compared to the shit we eat here in the US. There have been many studies showing that you could eat the exact same food, if not more food in other countries than in America and you could still lose weight. It's not about the food itself, it's about the nutrition the food gives you. American foods nowadays lack so much nutrients in them. That is why we have to eat so much of the food...
My grandmother is from Japan and she moved to the states in the early 50's. My whole life one of the first things she says to me when I see her is about my weight. Then she always asks me when I'm getting married. I remember when I was in high school she didn't want my junior prom picture because she thought I looked fat and was ashamed to show her friends. I was only 90lbs! Now I'm usually between 100-105lbs and when she sees me it's always ooh gosh you get soo big how will you find a husband! She's 92 now and has dementia but she still always brings up my weight and marital status and now it's actually comforting like ooh she's still the same.
I had an aunt like that. Everytime I saw her it was something something about my appearance weight, hair, clothes. She would tell me to exercise. I would say I do exercise. Which I do. She would add some people can work out and work out and never lose weight. My entire life. The only time she ever uttered anything nice about my appearance was when I was 19 years old. She kept saying how better I looked. I had spent my last few years as a teen not eating. Living on black coffee and an apple a day. I saw her once a few years ago after not having seen her in years and she asks when am I getting married. I'm 38 now she passed away about a month ago. My 17 year old kid asked which aunt was this? I told him the one who gave you 20 bucks for dropping off groceries for her once. He says oh no she was nice😂
Ugh family members can be so rude. I guess that's one thing common among cultures. My husband had to go to the hospital for hypertension and all his parents could talk about was how many pounds he needed to lose. Totally discounting how much progress he made undoing his bad habits (which by the way they contributed hugely in his childhood...). Health is a lifestyle, not just a number on a scale.
@incontentia buttocks I know exactly what you mean. Besides my grandma I remember my friends/classmates used to call me fat when I was in 3rd grade. They used to point out how fat my thighs looked when I sat down. I still had my "baby fat" as some ppl call it. When I had my one and only growth spurt I slimmed down but I couldn't shake what they all had said. So in fourth grade I slowly started limiting how much I ate and that slowly progressed into me not eating at all for years. It wasn't until my mid 20's when I said screw it and started to feel comfortable with myself. It also wasn't until my 20's that I wore shorts again. From 3rd grade till 22 I never wore shorts bc 9f what they said about my thighs. It's crazy how much of an impact words can have on your life.
I once did a method similar to the bendy-chopstick method, but I just used regular chopsticks. Since I was so terrible at using them, I thought it would slow down my eating by a lot. I ended up just getting really good at using chopsticks really quickly lol
Fun fact: I couldn't use chopsticks at all. Then me and my wife were famished after a whole day at Versailles and about 28km walk under the scorching August sun. The only place we found with a free table was a Korean restaurant near The Opera. We waited a bit for our food as they were overwhelmed, and they brought us only chopsticks: that day we both managed to use the chopsticks like pros, grabbing even the smallest bits of food :D :D
TH-cam recommended me and I clicked because it's about Japan culture, not expecting a humorous take on the topic. Then I browsed the merch. Well done on the designs! They brought more laughs
I grew up in USA but Im mixed Japanese. my jiji always make a really big deal abt me being chubby. When we moved to Japan I got so bullied especially since I have green eyes they used to say "she wld be so pretty what a waste." Or that I was a "pig w a painted face." Just cause I was chubby I was trash, plus I was into anime/ manga and street fashion so my family talked down on me even more for being an otaku. I had a complete breakdown after H2, I became anorexic & bulimic but I got so much praise it reinforced my body dysmorphia. I got so thin; I cldnt go to college cause my anxiety was so bad. I tried to kill myself and my mom took me to a inpatient clinic in USA. I took a couple years for me thankfully my mom & bro were always supportive, my bro moved to USA w me to support me. I ended up going into mental health as Psychiatrist and when I finished my MD my Jiji would brag that Im a Dr. And so pretty. It still hurt everytime cause she didnt support me till I was her idea of beauty & success. Thankfully Im more stable & having struggled it helps me connect to others. I hate when people talk badly about others bodies or looks cause you never know what someones going through.
You're really strong. Praying for you. Big or small, you still will ALWAYS have innate worth no one can take away with mean or careless words. God bless you.
I'm so sorry you went through that 💙 It sounds like you took the experience and did your best to grow from it and now are helping other people. I hope you know that this internet stranger thinks you're amazing!
Getting comments on weight also happens here in Indonesia. When I used to be overweight, they’d compare me to my beautiful sister. After I lost weight, they told me I was too skinny I looked like a dried ginger. Good thing I was able to follow a new diet: restriction on caring about other people’s blabber!
I went to Japan in '16. I'm an American. I went to a pub and met some girls there. They were really friendly and gave me hugs. They liked my belly. One of them even started to jiggle my belly like in the video and that was my exact reaction too 😅 I didn't really know how to feel about it lol
I still remember the women’s toilet in Japan. In Tokyo stations you will hear women vomiting out everything they just ate at a date. It’s a really scary toxic culture when it comes to the body.
Your friends and relatives in Greece are the same as your friends and coworkers in Japan. I remember so much pressure when I was living in Greece to be thinner.
The fact that Zara is considered "bigger size" in Japan when here in Spain, the country the store is from, it is considered one of the stores with the smaller sizes xD
I made friends with a guy at college here in Scotland. He had recently moved from Japan to study here. The third time we met up, he started slapping my belly asking if I had gained more weight. I just picked him up and put him over my shoulder saying: “you can’t do this to me!”. When I put him down he was so taken aback by it and just burst out laughing. We’re still friends haha
For me, what got me about that scene is how her husband does the "I am dead on the inside" look at the camera, as you hear her making the belly pounding noise. I laughed so hard for like a straight minute!
She must cook delicious food a lot.... For him to get fat like that. ...seeing her do wardrums while her husband has that deadpan "save me" look was so funny. Reminds me of a friend of mine , all of our friend tend to squeeze his chunky tummy every now and then when we see him and go...hmmmm, chuuubbbyyy. Lol. Needless yo say we have immediately get out of his reach as he would definitely swat the heck out of us. Lol.
Years ago I was on Christmas vacation in Japan. For New Year's my friends and I stayed at an onsen hotel, and somehow we got friendly with the proprietor even though only one of us spoke a little Japanese. He helped us with the shopping and cooking, and even drove us to an amusement park. So before we left, we took a picture with him, and at that point he started rubbing my belly. I didn't mind it, since I'm aware of my weight and noticed that people in Japan are much slimmer. But it was unexpected for sure!
Whoa. I disagree about being hard to be friend and very quiet. Japanese people know how to have a good time when they want to they work hard. And my Japanese friends are some of the most loyal
This actually sheds some light on a manga I just finished. One of the side characters is a chubby girl, and her best friend was constantly making comments about her weight that would be considered incredibly rude in America, and would even cause the end of the friendship. It was surprising to me to see these characters continue their friendship over several years despite the thinner one constantly making fun of her weight.
Years and years and years ago I visited Japan I was 5",1 and 102 lbs. I worked out a lot so I was muscular and I'm also large chested. I was in extremely good shape ( fitness model shape)but got a lot of weird/ dirty looks at the gym. I felt huge compared to the slim/ frail women of Japan. Very intimidating. In the city things were fine but at the gym not so much. Guess it's just like America. So much body shaming at the gym. This lady in the video doesn't look fat to me either she's beautiful. Not only do women come in different sizes but also our body compositions vary.
Yep, body shaming is forever and it sucks esp if u dont fit the standard there, im from asia and like if youre like severely underweight youre almost god like cuz you have nothing to insult esp if u are pretty or of the dominant culture and class, cuz my friend she's (tw weight mentions) 160 cm and 37 kg and she gets a lot of compliments and stares and makes me uncomfortable as a plus sized person
@@kookie_krissy6728 It depends how they gain weight, I guess. Im the same size but I look small;however, I have long legs and my weight goes to my thighs. It makes me look slim or "skinny"(people make fun of me for being skinny but wtvr lmao)
Mrs. Eats is the funniest TH-cam channel that isn't even trying to always be funny haha, seriously you have such a natural skill at making so many of us giggle. A lot of people forget that so much of humor/comedy is in the facial expressions and comedic timing, haha, it's always fun to learn on your channel!
I visited for two weeks in 2011. A man in Kyoto remarked that I "should eat healthy food", and then poked my stomach and added a sound effect "pon pon"
I'm overweight with an eating disorder and I'm planning on going to Japan for work/school. This is doing NOTHING to help my anxiety! Shit, I thought it was bad enough in the USA!
I came to Japan at 70+ kilo and lost 15 naturally over the last few years. I remember one time I went to a health checkup and I was at 60kg (I’m a 166cm tall woman so completely healthy) and the older nurse who took my weight laughed saying 「ごめんねー笑ちゃいいけないけど」 and I cried after that visit. My coworker also who is on the heavier side who is Japanese was teased in the teachers room on the day we handmade mochi . We worked all day and finally were able to sit down and eat what we made when everyone did buffet style and took the mochi they wanted to eat. She took a plateful and one of our senpai’s laughed saying, “Is that really gonna be enough for you?” I felt terrible for her.. I love Japan, but this part of the culture needs to have some changes..
166cm and 60kg is just perfectly healthy. I would even say slim...the what a strange way to judge people. Not stick thin = fat? I hope you are doing fine, don't let those ridiculous standards get to you.
@Churble Furbles sorry, I am a bit confused by your comment ;;; Isn’t it okay if someone is 170 lbs? You can be a higher weight and be healthy, for example my friend is an athlete, is 5”5 and weighs around 160lbs but she is very muscular and fit. Isn’t it okay to weigh more (or less as well), as long as you’re healthy?
I'm personally of SE Asian descent and what was always aggravating for me was that when I was a kid my mom was always trying to fatten me up. To be fair I was a very skinny kid but I don't think I was unhealthily so. It was just my frame. But whereas many people were self-conscious bc of their parents due to being fat, I was always self-conscious and insecure due to being skinny, especially since a lot of other people my age in our ethnic community were/are chunky and I was the outlier. I'm still very thin today but my mom's mentioned that my body turned out "all right" now since I filled out a little with age. 🙄 And when I say a little, I mean very little lol.
I'm pretty sure my parents put me in gymnastic to lose weight. I ended up getting so fat because my grandma would take me to practice after school and she would let me pick out whatever from the vending machines. muffins, cookies, beef jerky, your girl had it all! lol
This is giving me flashbacks to when I taught in Japan in 2017 and when I was a Teacher's assistant the other kids were calling an overweight student (豚/ ぶた) pig and the teacher heard them and joined in...
As a foreigner living in Japan permanently, I can tell you, you will definitely experience the same. Just yesterday I was asked if I lost weight by a worker at a restaurant I frequently eat lunch at. It's really bothering, but it's just a part of living here. Also, damn, how invested my former coworker was in me losing weight even tho I tried to tell her many times I am never gonna become a petite japanese girl cause that's just not how genetics work.
That must be annoying/hurtful from a western viewpoint, but maybe take it to mean that your coworker considers you as more integrated to Japan now haha.
@Macy Webster Ramirez I had the same thought. @@greenleeaf111 She said as a kid, but i get the feeling, she *still* probably wasnt that big even then, by our standards. And I'm betting that the rules were stricter on girls than boys too
@@beakittelscherz5419 Toxically high standards. People talk about having 'high standards' as a good thing, but the only standards that matter are whether you're a decent person, and that you _try_ to be healthy. Including mental health; which being kind reinforces
I didn't expect to finish the whole video, since I was in a very bored mood and just kept flipping through short videos. But honestly the more I watched, the more I felt drawn in by your way of speaking and mannerism. You seem so cute and pleasant! I don't remember the last time I subscribed to a channel because of a single video
I grew up as the fattest. But according to American standard, I'm normal. Often times when I was younger, I wish I had money to fly to America and live there because it was so difficult to find clothes, not to mention the harsh words people say.
Same here..i mean not japan, but i am in asia...clothes are small..and im like pear shaped ..so i found some shirts but its stuck at my ass...its hard finding clothes im just stuck with either baggy or short above butt shirt
I'm American and my sizes would be either a small or a medium in America but I would have to get larger sizes in Japan. Big bodies (in Japan's standards) is be completely normal here in America!
Funny how companies are entrusted with minding the health of their workers in terms of their diet but also have a reputation for working them too hard.
I was heavy in Japan. Not talking about being "an obese giant American", but more like 175 (80kg), due to being in a increasingly abusive marriage I went from 145 to 175. I felt like I might as well be on My 600lb life when I was at that weight, I could feel friends and strangers silently judging me. And finding clothes that fit, forget about it! Even though I was a US 13/14, I couldn't even find stuff that fit in the men's section! I had to order from the USA. And even before I put on the weight, I was a size 9/10, NO clothing in my size was available!
Not everyone in America lives in a city with access to public transportation. Our cities are also less densely populated and more spread out in comparison. While walking and bicycling can be done, it's not convenient in our daily commute.
I hate that akdjflkjdfkdj but on the other hand, it sure makes me feel good when I meet up with an aunt or my grandma after a while and they say "Oye, te veo mas delgada!" even though I know I haven't been exercising nor eating too healthily 🤣
I am Chinese and I was the chunky kid in class. It was such a struggle. I’m still struggling with the judgements even though I’m no longer in that environment.
There's nothing wrong with you. They are wrong, bullying should be considered a crime. Stay strong and don't let these mean people disturb you. THEY are wrong!
I lost a lot of weight in Japan, but not because anyone stared at me or slapped my tummy. I would go to a supermarket and look at the prices. Then I didn't feel so hungry.
I gained 10kg during my exchange to Japan (combination of being really sick before my trip and wanting to try ALL the Japanese sweets in just 7 months) and I did not get the foreigner-pass at all haha. Whenever I hadn't seen someone for a bit, they'd always greet me with "へー、ソフィーふとっちゃったの？" 😂
@@kitbracadabra it means "you've gained some weight", in Japan it's not considered quite as rude as it may be in other cultures to comment on someone's weight, especially if you haven't seen them in a while. More of an observation than an insult. But in reality, it does contribute to the negative cultural ideas about being pudgy/chubby in Japan.
@@Lottienn I'm Asian and that's the one thing I still can't wrap my head around about the cultural norms here, like how wouldn't that be considered rude LOL
I'm Indian and would probably be considered humongous in Japan, even though I'm a solid US size 0/2 lol 🤣 I had lost weight down to being a size 0/00 but I felt cold a lot and tired, so I decided to purposefully put some weight back on. Now I'm doing a lot better. Some people just aren't made to be super super thin, even Asians :)
It's true, I've always wanted to lose weight on my stomach, but when I did I felt like I was disappearing - it made me kind of scared like I was ceasing to exist. Maybe I'm just too used to my stomach ha
I'm cold and tired a lot too. Unfortunately I naturally have a poor appetite and easily lose track of time. When I purposefully tried to gain weight I got up to a healthy weight and felt better, but it was tiresome to be constantly checking the clock and force myself to eat when I had no appetite. When I stopped I went back to the same weight I was before, and have been since 14 lol.
Whenever we have the BMI test at school, I always end up getting the result that screams "OVERWEIGHT" and my classmates (or bullies, rather) kept on laughing at me. I never really blamed my belly for it. But I always did blame my butt and boobs.
I'm from Eastern Europe and remember BMI was never discussed in primary school but it was so embarrassing having your weight announced out loud in front of the entire class, especially since no one in the class really cared about your height in relation to your weight. I remember always crying after school on weight-height check-up days. Luckily at the end of middle-school it was more discreet. Worst part was that while you were getting laughed at for it, the measuring was ultimately pointless because there were no programmes in place to actually help any of the kids who were too pudgy to help them overcome overeating.
@@Turtletoots3 I mean, yeah, sure, that's the true thought behind it. To help the skinny kids eat more and the chubby kids eat less. But that's a bit too biased, don't you think? I mean, now that I'm older, being chubby or fat doesn't really mean that you're overeating. What if it's in your genes? What if it's your body type? Like, for example, I've got the endomorphic body type, but I don't eat that much. How can I be "overweight" and be urged to "eat less" when I don't eat too much in the first place?
Lots of negative attention in the States as well! When I was a fat kid, older people were NOT shy about telling my mom that she needed to put me on a diet. And of course my fellow classmates didn't let me get away with it, either. I am also Hispanic, so all of my older relatives on that side of my family loved to grab my sides and call me gordita. Very embarrassing!
@@Falloff When I say "embarrassing" I am understating the damage they did because I don't care to speak of it, so I don't think I need to soften my words any further to protect them and their "worries."
When I was teaching in South Korea, it was similar- some adults, but especially children, saw nothing unusual in commenting on people’s weight or appearance. I’m not a large guy, and I had one boy who would ask me why I didn’t grow taller. Coworkers who were overweight had to deal with people commenting on it, not maliciously, but just in a casual tone that we would normally use to comment on a person’s shoes. It took some getting used to.
It's a standard greeting. Kinda like how British always complain about the weather. The way to do this well is always tell the other person how thin they've gotten. It shows that you care and pay attention. If the other person have gotten fat. Just don't say anything.
totally agreed. i lost 10 kg when i was studying in japan. I took a month to get used living in japan including commuting, walking and cycling for more than 2 hours per day.
It also helps that they walk literally everywhere cause Japan is more over crowded then what America is and because we’re a bigger country and own vehicles plus a lot of our transportation system sucks if it’s public unless you live in NYC
Spaciousness determines a lot of behavior - Americans cannot walk since distances are too far (unless in an urban area) and public transportation is nonexistent in rural areas
A good comparison is obesity rates in Europe. Places like Greece, with very high car ownership, have higher obesity rates. It's a pretty natural correlation.
@@picardy7488 in Japan too, unless you are in an urban area with underground you cant walk. In Japan and in everywhere. Tokyo is the bigger city in the world. But you can get buses, bikes, trains, etc. In nordic countries the distances are far, a lot of places had very little population. They use always bikes. The car in USA is a cultural think. You always can go walking to the stations. And obviously, in all the world to walk big distances you are not going walking. You use the train.
@@Ssaidak you could walk the entire length of Japan twice and that distance still won't get you half way across Texas. the USA is HUGE. most don't realize how big but you can fit most of Europe inside the USA and still have room. also not many places give people a safe area to walk in the USA. sidewalks are always in disrepair and the roads are very dangerous as most drivers don't pay attention. its only in the big cities like LA, New York, Chicago that the sidewalks are fit for walking. you can't find any good places in small towns or the country areas. Japan has a bullet train that spans almost its entire length you can take their train and it won't cost you 2 weeks paycheck unlike here in the USA where a 1 way train ticket will cost you near $300. the cheapest form of transport in the USA for long distance travel is airplane flight in the lowest class seats. even the bus system is expensive. they don't make travel cheap because they don't like the idea that people can move or go to a different part of the country for work or to live. its how they keep their citizens poor and trapped.
@@Ssaidak the nearest train station to me is 145 miles...that's like 234 kilometers. I am not walking that far. Nor biking, its already a nearly 3 hr drive. My state is bigger than Scotland. Welcome to Wisconsin. Why does everyone forget some of us live in that "fly over" part of the country, not everyone is living on the Coasts of the USA. The "town" I live in which has a gas station is actually 4 miles away. The town with a store in it is a further 12 miles from the town I already need to hike nearly 4 miles to get to. There isn't a shoulder of the road to walk on, you have to walk either on the road or in the ditch...and they don't maintain ditches around here.
Japan has a lot of surface level good points but living here is a different story. The other day I noticed I've never seen ramps for disabled people, then I noticed I've never seen a person in a wheelchair. So then I asked a few people (locals) and the honest answers I got were along the lines of. "The government thinks Disabled people makes the country look bad" 🤧
my mom got a Japanese massage at a carnival once, they did this to her butt because it was big... all of my siblings and i laughed but she later said it was emotionally traumatic edit: we all just kind of call it an inside joke, but yes, as kids we didn't understand that it was harassment or ab*se in any way. we know how it effected her and we don't talk about it negatively, but to bring light to the situation for her emotional outlook.
I’ve lived in Japan for nearly five years. I’m an average size Australian female. I’ve never received negative comments about my weight. Except for this year, I’ve been asked twice if I’m pregnant and was told I was “big” by an older male student (I’m an English teacher). I don’t have quarantine weight either 😒
I love your presentation - it is informative, compares cultural differences admirably, and so doing is light hearted, which makes me want to see more. Well done.
Italy here, we do the same about saying "ehy, you have gained some weight ha!" with friends, relatives, colleagues, pets, strangers, strangers friends, stranger relatives...
@@MrsEats yes, we are affectionately rude with everyone, we speak loud, we kiss and hug you as soon as you are in our social circle, armony is a mith we really like chaos and passion
Same in Greece😉 You can't say it to strangers because it will be very rude but family members,friends and yes,pets!My uncle says my cat has put on weight every time he sees him😅.It's an unspoken rule though that you don't say these things to women,no one would dare.
I would love to visit Japan but I'm obese and I have to say that the idea of being stared at the whole vacation is not my idea of a good time. And that was before I even knew that could imply having people rub my tummy 😳
Same..its a a shame really cuz japan sound so amazing and all but if im gonna have to deal with people givinv condescending playful stares at me (me whk is already self-conscious enough abt body image) imma have to skip this one 😒
One of my Japanese friends introduced me to her other friend once, and within an hour this other friend was rubbing my stomach while making aggressive eye contact in the middle of Costco. It was really crazy and unfortunatable
I gained like 50 pounds from high school to when I was 22 and when I met up with the host family I had in Japan in high school, the actual first thing out of his mouth to me after 5 years was the english question "Hey, Are you Fat????" Shit caught me off guard, made me self conscious, and made me lose my shit laughing all at once. Shit was hilarious.
In Hispanic cultures things like this are also quite common, like my parents will go “You’re so pretty but you need to eat less,” just casually in a random conversation. They also do the belly-poke thing lol. I’m not even obese :p
I’m Latina and it’s kinda the opposite in my situation, every time my mom or grandma sees me they want me to eat because I’m so “skinny”. Well I’m 154 cm and 45 kg so it’s fine, but to them I’m underweight 🤷🏻♀️
I find it interesting that the same country that is super big on everyone being skinny is also the one that created and admires Sumo Wrestling. I’m sure those guys stand out like crazy, yet they are admired for it. Just kind of weird.
@@MsAngelique probably has to do with the prizes. the winners got their weight in gold. so naturally they started trying to put on more pounds to get more gold.
@@8AKI47 ah yes, leave my home country, where my family, friends, and associates live, move to a new place in the world, where I may have to adopt completely new cultural rules, a new environment, new jobs, and trying to make friends in a new place because of my race! How logical, how smart!
Being a larger person, I learn to laugh at myself. I make jokes about my belly all the time. I am trying to take better care of myself, but I also accept where I am right now. I enjoyed your video, by the way. It made me smile. :)
I feel like this was such a perfect and well-balanced explanation of the societal expectations, good points and bad points, and the ways the society is slowly changing. Also very entertaining. ^^
The bit with Mr. Eats was hilarious! I hope we see more of him in your videos. I grew up chunky too, and the world really isn't designed for bigger people. Clothes shopping was the worst.
Yes, had this struggle as a teen. The average teen girl is super slim so I couldn't shop in stores geared for teens. For one thing I developed weirdly early and had curvy hips first in my class but on top of that had a hard time with my weight so I never got the fun of shopping in a trendy store, had to go to women's clothes stores when I was like 13 XD
I'm overweight because I'm disabled, so the combination of medication, not being able to exercise as much, and a medically diagnosed slow metabolism, have lead to me being very over weight. What people don't realise is that I also significantly under eat because my slow metabolism means I just don't really feel hungry, and I also have a lot of food allergies and chronic nausea, so can't really eat junk food or things like that, but the chronic under eating means my body constantly thinks it's in a famine. People find it incredibly difficult to get their heads around the fact that I don't over eat or eat junk food. I once had a new doctor recommend I not eat cake, then be surprised when I explained I can't eat cake because of allergies. They were so convinced that I must be a junk food addict by looking at me, that it didn't occur to them to actually look at my file. Once they did, they were suddenly telling me I have to eat more despite the nausea and not feeling hungry, and I've since seen a dietician who recommends I set alarms to eat more regularly. There is a lot of medical bias and assumptions around weight in the world!
Almost the same here. I don't have food allergies but I never eat or drink anything with sugar, it makes me sick. In the past 3 days I had one bowl of homemade egg drop soup. No weight loss though because I can barely stand or walk so I'm either sitting or laying down. My Dr too said my metabolism is nonexistent. I'm afraid to try eating more than 1 meal every other day. Best of luck to you!
@@charliedavis8894 it's really hard to make yourself eat, especially when your body doesn't tell you you're hungry, and I think that's what many doctors can't get their heads around because they've not experienced it themselves, so they always think "how could someone not be hungry?"
I used to want to live in Japan and was considering joining the JET program at one point as some of my friends had done. The fear of being the fat loud American in a sea of skinny, quiet, fashionable people stopped that in its tracks. I’m even anxious about going to visit my friends there now.
I'd be more inclined to believe that Japanese corporate culture cared about employee health if they weren't working them to death and encouraging drinking after work parties. I think the companies are more concerned with how the employees look (not fat) than about their overall health.
Good point. It's certainly unhealthy to be obese, buuut not any more than drinking too much or working 12 hours a day.
@@ASHERUISE the amount of psychological stress and and overwork japanese people get throughout their lives, from school 'til retirement can't be less harmful than being obese.. you might be self conscious about your body but it's possible to die happy that way.
Having a 1/2 chance of having alcohol dependence and depression paired with anxiety is far worse than being obese tbh
@@chadchad3582 Seriously when I complain about the high stress culture people are always like "oh so you want public transport to always be unreliable? How about you be grateful for the convenience it's brought you in life."
Like you can point out both at the same time it's not a race. Also, I would much rather live in a society where trains don't always arrive perfectly on time, but depression, suicide, and harassment aren't prevailing social problems. At this point we have failed at being a healthy functioning society.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 Bless your heart and may you be strong when facing hardship ❤️ We can always wish for their system to soften when enough immigrants have voiced their complaints, or with the younger generation being more self aware and wary of mental health and their serious consequences
What’s counter productive though, is people moving to Japan, having pressure at work all the time, but not voicing it enough. Japan is sure a treasure mine when it comes to culture and language, but the country has flaws and it’s hard to watch those aspects being so hidden.. immigrants might receive another treatment, or they get used to the amount of work and pressure, that gets countered with Japan’s beauty.. I still have hope for the future though.. maybe they’ll open their eyes after Covid, since everyone suffers with mental health more than before. ✨
@@chadchad3582 I think that’s why they said “not any more than”
I find it ironic that Japanese people have no problem poking your stomach (which I hate) but don't want to hug or kiss in public.
I was thinking the same thing!
@@PrinzessKennY meh im chinese and currently living with my chinese family so i guess i have some say to this since the stigma against fat people is pretty similar between our cultures. basically they DO call it out because they think you are indeed well fat and that it helps you get pressured to diet and get skinnier. kinda backfires when the person is already insecure and takes it more as humiliation than criticism? i used to do that before i just stopped caring about what my family thought. also about the not showing love in public, i think thats because of the different cultures between the usa and most east asian countries? i dont know what to call it specifically though...
@@cyberpunklain My fatness is mostly from lack of exercise, my diet just kinda changes depending on what's at home (since I'm...probably not gonna go anywhere anytime soon) - and I usually only have like 1 bowl of rice regardless of whatever side dishes there are
So with the context over with: [also sorry for the rant] :
(This is probably just the type of ppl around me..)
I don't get why, but if you call someone fat, why would you then continue giving them food if they say they don't want any. Like I said it as clearly and as politely as I could.
Like I say "I don't 'go on diets'" because * I don't * , but that doesn't mean 'even if I say no, give me all your food'....the worst part is when they're like 'it's a waste of food if you don't eat it' - like...I eat as cleanly as possible, but I still have a threshold- I'm not like one of those ppl who compete to eat as much as they can - if someone's like "hey, I can't finish this" then I'll probably eat it BECAUSE it's like a couple bites or sth - but when you're telling me to eat like 3+ times what I usually eat (and I say very clearly that I usually don't eat n amount of x) - I'm sorry if it's rude, but I physically can't eat that much (like during maybe large meals, I *have* to take a break halfway through because I don't want any leftovers but I rly don't want to eat anymore)
@@606aichan7O7 "It's a waste of food if you don't eat more"... that mentality made me gain so much weight. Then I've realized my body is not a trash can for leftover food. Now I try to dispose of it in responsible way
@@cyberpunklain yeah I live in China as well, and it's just shallowness showing. Appearance is everything to them. (And also everyone wanna be white.. Sigh)
Being fat in Japan CAN come in handy sometimes. I used to commute on the Den-en-toshi Line every morning. At Azamino station there was always a big dude getting on the train. I wouldn't say he was sumo-size, but pretty big. He had this technique where he would take a few steps back, charge at the door like a bull and throw himself into the train. No matter how crowded it was, he ALWAYS got on. Too bad about the people he crushed though...
He used his strength!
what a legend! reminds me of the time i hulked my way into a train. it was about to leave and i would have been late otherwise.. now i'm relatively strong so i basically used my arms as a wedge between the doors and made an outward motion to get in.. there were two guys that looked at me in a way that just screamed: wtf who is this monster?
Omfg I went to school on the Den-en toshi line for 6 years and it made me fucking hate humanity.
Wth 😂 no I don't believe this.
MAN USED BODYSLAM!
MAN GOT ON TRAIN SAFELY!
When I was modeling in Japan and came back from dangerously underweight to regular healthy weight almost all of my Japanese friends and people who hired me commented on my "big size" - I have also had friends come who ended up crying because people kept calling her fat and asking how her body got so "out of control" .. she was a medium ..
Something I noticed about sizes - in the U.S. I usually fit the smallest adult clothing sizes, and I stand out as small here. But in Japan, the smallest adult size is too small for me... I also feel like in the U.S. being thin / healthy can be socially isolating because many people here buy in to the "body-positivity" narrative that implies a BMI > 40 is something to celebrate...
Different sides of similar issues but I appreciate your story and hope you're well.
@@liselotte6384 who the hell is celebrating a bmi over 40? apart from a few idiots on the web praising obesity, who the hell loves being fat ?! accepting yourself and companies being more size inclusive =/= promoting obesity. fat people are not feeling good in their own skin, it’s a fact. nobody except stupid magazines stated fat = healthy, damn. so yeah, fat people are allowed to dress up as well, sorry for that. if you still search for good fitting clothes for a small size, you can try brandy melville though.
Wow!!😔
@@liselotte6384 “socially isolating”???? ma’am are you good? being skinny is one of the best things you can be in america and you’re very ignorant if you think otherwise.
lol a US medium is a Japan XL, that's fat there , that's why this dainty woman is explaining that she's the "fat" one there
Japan: don‘t shake hands, don‘t hug, don‘t stare in the eyes
also Japan: slap that belly
Yeah, it was weird to hear that they would slap a big belly because their culture has always seemed so polite, the times I've been there.
@@jamilgotcher5456 i would slap a big belly too its just btw im fat too lol
😂😂😂
SORRY IT'S OUT OF CONTEXT IS THAT KISSHU FROM TOKYO MEW MEW CNEJAOSMNS
I’m Japanese but most of us wouldn’t do that only rude people would. And I think it’s the same in every country. I don’t even know what she mentioned this in the video.
I lose 6 kg without trying in Japan. It's not because diet or eat healthier. But because I don't have time to eat properly, and a lot of body activities for commuting & at work. Lose weight, but I gain less sleep, vatigue & stress every day. No time for self care.
I lost weight without trying in Japan too. I was too busy to eat or sleep well too :(
Same, I lost 10 kg :(
It is the opposite for me. I gained weight because of stress eating :(
ngeri juga ,gan dari kapan ikit arubaito ?
Lost 10Kg in a year. I love stress
Serious question: Why is it in Japan they are all so obsessed with being polite and courteous but the moment you gain a bit of weight they feel it's alright to tease you and touch your body? I wouldn't be allowing people to slap my belly if I had one.
@@ilikemydonutswithjaminthem5606 tbh korean ppl tend to be very blunt or "rude" in general
From what I know they have a lot of pride but lack respect for peoples personal feelings, they may respect your family and what you do but that doesn't mean anything when it comes to what you look like.
I think in Asia in general, there's not the respect/demand for "personal space" that we get accustomed to here in the US. They have less mental/cultural inhibitions against getting up close and touchy feely with strangers. Everyone there lives close together. That's just the way it is.
@@LoyaFrostwind I think USA is the outlier here. They're really weird about physical contact. When we travel for work, everyone gets reminded to not be effusive when greeting.
Well, that’s just how we Asians work. We might just meet somebody for the first time who has a pot belly, and immediately we’d be playing drums. We might never again, yet we have no problem manhandling the other person. It’s just common grounds here.
The walking/public transportation culture in Japan is nice. I live in the US and I've been walking to work for the past year (about an hour of walking round trip) and people are always surprised that I don't drive. It'd be nice if the more people here used transportation and walking/biking. We'd all be a lot healthier. It'd be nice to have more farmer's markets and a stronger "cook at home" culture in the US too. Going to a nearby grocery store every day and cooking food for friends and family at home is so nice.
Sadly my ankle wouldn't be able to handle that, since it needs surgery and I have no money
Lol, I'd love to walk to the closest town to go grocery shopping, but considering how that's a 30 min drive with 20 minutes of that on a 60mph highway, I think I'd die before I got to buy my apples. More plausible in cities though!
I grew up in the US. Unfortunately, unless you live in very close proximity to a major city or smack-bang in the middle of a student town, most places are car-dependent. In my neighborhood, the walk to the nearest Loop bus stop takes over an hour. That’s not the fault of people living there; it’s the fault of a lack of initiative for local governments or even private companies to make well-connected bus and rail systems.
@@someoneiguess560 You can always walk or run at the park as an exercise though
I'm a foreigner and I can confirm that I in fact do get the negative attention about my weight from Japanese people. Most of it I don't really care about unless they're poking fun at me. I just tell them I ate all the karaage because I had depression and they get uncomfortable and go away.
How sad that is to hear. I would love to come to Japan, but worry about this happening to me as well. I just can’t imagine doing that to someone. How cruel!
@@lemccoy1 it's really not that bad. it's a certain minority of rude annoying people and you can just ignore them. it's fairly unlikely as a tourist that you'll experience it at all. as a foreign resident, you'll get way worse culture shock than just people telling you you're fat, but that's because japan it's a country and that's what counties are like. the benefits of living abroad (if you stick it out for a few years and learn the language) far outweigh the irritation of there being new types of rude annoying people - and on the plus side, there's other kinds of rude annoying behavior that will be less common here.
I eat all the karaage, then get depressed it's gone. That's about the same, right?
@@ItsYaBoiV joke's on the karaage, I already had depression
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I did a research essay on eating disorders and Japan had one of the highest rate. Not to mention there are pro eating disorders movements such as pro-ana (pro anorexia) and pro-mia (pro bulimia). They're mostly popular among teenagers, and is spread through gossip, social media, and websites. School children would teach each other how to throw there lunch away and participate in these movements without raising alarms. Despite this, there are little to no eating disorder treatment centers.
Sensing love to anyone struggling with body image, you deserve to feel happy in your own skin.
I was wondering about this, thank you for sharing! People also say how the French are so skinny, but there's a lot of eating disorders and smoking reduces appetite.
This was terrifying to read!
I guess in Japan eating disorders are just fine? They are so proud to say they are “healthy”. Not to mention mental issues coming along with eating disorders 🥺
Then me, wanting to get fat cause im so skinny af.
Hey can I ask if there's a difference between anorexia and pro-anorexia same with pro-bulimia
When I was a kid about 8 or so I got pulled aside by my school principal, she then proceeded to ask me if I was alright and I replied yes, why wouldnt I be. She then went on to say some kids were calling me fat, I had no idea I was chunky then and was not self concious of it. Needless to say I would of been happier kid if I wasnt told what other kids were saying about me.
Bullying hurts.
Pffftt..them bullies are dusty and probably got pink eye. You’re fine. I love you.
Yes, bullying hurts really. . I was picked on when I was at school because of my weight too. I hope you were able to move on from those hard times. you are not alone!
@@MrsEats thank you! I actually used to be very fit in my teenage years but now Ive been struggling again trying to stay under 300 lbs. I started a light exercise regiment but ended up hurting myself while doing assisted squats. Gonna just start going for walks once my leg is better.
@@thedukeofdorks6001 Your profile picture trips me out... lol
I'm pretty chunky, thankfully I live in a city of decency and schools take bullying seriously, children are all aware of the consequences of bullying and avoids it and reports possible instances even tickling is bad and if fighting starts the teachers come, calms the two students and let's them talk about their problems properly and have the two students apologize, If they can't do that the teachers usually call the parents and schedule a meeting, but if it's really drastic the teachers have no problem scaring the students to death lol. Also it's not just "who hit first" they reason why it happened, for example if the student was being teased and he or she retaliated by hitting, then the people teasing her will be the one who gets punished.
In my case the moment you don't let it bother you is the moment they don't have power, and when I faced actual targeted bullying(a transfer student essentially calling me fat on the first day of school), I can retaliate all I want(I punched him in the face after telling him we're not close for such "jokes" and my classmates all agreed)
Didn't get in trouble, and the transfer student transfered to another school.
Most cases of bullying is really gossips, and being fat doesn't really have much juice to squeeze when it comes to gossips.
So it's usually thin "sexy" students get the "I hear she has another boyfriend/ I hear he got someone pregnant" kind of gossips.
And when these things are reported it's pretty private talk with the teachers and nobody is allowed to disclose what was talked about.
Disrespecting the teachers is equal to a death sentence... Lol they will get so mad they can break school property, one once punched the wall next to the student, and it made his knuckles bleed and left a small crack on the wall.
It's SO true! I have a Japanese friend who, every time he sees me, walks up and pats my stomach like "Oh, your wife is feeding you well!" I'm like "Yes, thank you." Thanks for making me laugh!
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People do that here in America to men and ask if they are pregnant. Jokingly of course
"No, YOUR wife is feeding me well!"
I got fat living in Japan and it appalled me how Japanese people openly stared at me,talked about me,pointed out my weight. For such a polite people they made me feel so uncomfortable every day
I think maybe Japanese people generally have a problem with empathy. They follow the status quo, and don’t realise how their words affect others.
@@cometvaudin2850 yes omg I agree
@@cometvaudin2850 “stick to the status quo” 🎵
@@-criedjupiter-8464 HSM
Lol, the same happens in my country, n i dont see that its bad like very bad thing. Imagine, all ppl comfy, n become 300 kg, all over the world n die
In Spain women of a certain age will say things like "Every time l see you, you're fatter!" And then if you blush or get upset they act like *you're* wrong to feel hurt! After a while l just responded, "And every time I see you, you're older!"
hahahahaha😭😭 asi son las dominicanas, especialmente las tias oh mai gahhh eso le voy a decir cuando me digan q toy mas “gorda”
anna-- excellent retort! I doff my chapeau!
U should say, you're still alive?
Joder como te entiendo las señoras no tienen escrúpulos
Same in the Philippines. My Aunts like to say " Oi, you gained weight dai." It usually very distant relatives you only see during the holidays. I finally got sick of it and said "You got ugly" and then walked away. I hide everytime this aunt visits.
i may be a westerner but no matter who you are, being bullied for your weight is awful.
Bullied or even discriminated.
I think it’s awful regardless of the reason ^^’
I agree. The problem is that Japanese people have a much higher risk of weight related diseases at a lower weight, so they have to be thinner to be healthy. But bullying isn’t encouraging.
NOT being mocked for it is part of the problem.
(mockery can be useful, bullying is excessive and abusive)
We ain't tolerating this type of abuse anymore. No ma'am
This lady is absolutely charming!!! Anyway...I know a dentist in my town that would insist his female employees get liposuction, he even paid for it! These women were not overweight at all. He was just a narcissistic sociopath. I used to pray for the safety of his wife and daughters. He passed away a few years ago. I don't think he was missed by many people.
"Diet slippers"
Me: people eat slippers now?
You dont?
yogen fan? :p
@@batatanna Slippers are for children. Real men eat Steel-toe boots.
LMAO
My mom has always said you could fry a shoe and it would taste good, maybe some people took that literally.
For a hot minute I thought she was currently calling herself fat
It was the first 3 seconds she clarified she was fat as a kid... But at least you caught on faster than some of the other people here.
1000th like :)
@Yongo Bazuk Rude and ignorant for what
@Yongo Bazuk go out, touch some grass. That's not a "fat chin" at all
@@KP0p1437 more like check his sight, it's concerning
Ok, but... she's not fat.... or is she considered fat in Japan? Because if that's the case then I'm a Hippo in Nippon.
I would be considered a whale in Japan, I think.
I'm a whale outside of japan, I'd be a whole aquarium in japan
just as a child i think. she looks thin now, like thinner wouldn't be healthy
ひっぽんです
She was fat, not anymore.
It's interesting to see this video, because in a company that I worked for, I was made fun of by my boss for being bigger and they would often tell me to go lose weight. I definitely understand how it feels when people talk negatively about your weight, but overall, it can become a bit easier to lose weight in Japan since most people walk everywhere and eat generally more healthy.
Not as many processed foods, or foods with additives, in Japan, compared to the shit we eat here in the US. There have been many studies showing that you could eat the exact same food, if not more food in other countries than in America and you could still lose weight. It's not about the food itself, it's about the nutrition the food gives you. American foods nowadays lack so much nutrients in them. That is why we have to eat so much of the food...
My grandmother is from Japan and she moved to the states in the early 50's. My whole life one of the first things she says to me when I see her is about my weight. Then she always asks me when I'm getting married. I remember when I was in high school she didn't want my junior prom picture because she thought I looked fat and was ashamed to show her friends. I was only 90lbs! Now I'm usually between 100-105lbs and when she sees me it's always ooh gosh you get soo big how will you find a husband! She's 92 now and has dementia but she still always brings up my weight and marital status and now it's actually comforting like ooh she's still the same.
Sounds like a nightmare..
I had an aunt like that. Everytime I saw her it was something something about my appearance weight, hair, clothes. She would tell me to exercise. I would say I do exercise. Which I do. She would add some people can work out and work out and never lose weight. My entire life. The only time she ever uttered anything nice about my appearance was when I was 19 years old. She kept saying how better I looked. I had spent my last few years as a teen not eating. Living on black coffee and an apple a day. I saw her once a few years ago after not having seen her in years and she asks when am I getting married. I'm 38 now she passed away about a month ago. My 17 year old kid asked which aunt was this? I told him the one who gave you 20 bucks for dropping off groceries for her once. He says oh no she was nice😂
Ugh family members can be so rude. I guess that's one thing common among cultures. My husband had to go to the hospital for hypertension and all his parents could talk about was how many pounds he needed to lose. Totally discounting how much progress he made undoing his bad habits (which by the way they contributed hugely in his childhood...). Health is a lifestyle, not just a number on a scale.
@incontentia buttocks I'm 4'11 and was the same height than as well. So not tall but still pretty thin at 90lbs.
@incontentia buttocks I know exactly what you mean. Besides my grandma I remember my friends/classmates used to call me fat when I was in 3rd grade. They used to point out how fat my thighs looked when I sat down. I still had my "baby fat" as some ppl call it. When I had my one and only growth spurt I slimmed down but I couldn't shake what they all had said. So in fourth grade I slowly started limiting how much I ate and that slowly progressed into me not eating at all for years. It wasn't until my mid 20's when I said screw it and started to feel comfortable with myself. It also wasn't until my 20's that I wore shorts again. From 3rd grade till 22 I never wore shorts bc 9f what they said about my thighs. It's crazy how much of an impact words can have on your life.
The faux wondercore jingle after the chopsticks and slippers! 😂🤣
Let’s sing along!
LOL the jingle was so funny especially when you had to act silly XD
I freaking lost it 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are practically rapping!
I just keep replaying it 😂
I once did a method similar to the bendy-chopstick method, but I just used regular chopsticks. Since I was so terrible at using them, I thought it would slow down my eating by a lot. I ended up just getting really good at using chopsticks really quickly lol
I used to eat with a spoon (don't judge) and the same thing happened to me when i started to eat only with forks
You could use this ya know, next Kung fu panda XD
Fun fact: I couldn't use chopsticks at all. Then me and my wife were famished after a whole day at Versailles and about 28km walk under the scorching August sun. The only place we found with a free table was a Korean restaurant near The Opera.
We waited a bit for our food as they were overwhelmed, and they brought us only chopsticks: that day we both managed to use the chopsticks like pros, grabbing even the smallest bits of food :D :D
Lol that's actually hilarious
Now, you need to use chopsticks in your off hand.
Not so easy now.
TH-cam recommended me and I clicked because it's about Japan culture, not expecting a humorous take on the topic. Then I browsed the merch. Well done on the designs! They brought more laughs
Japanese people: we don't really like physical contact.
Also Japanese people: ohhhhh big tummy!! *smack smack smack*
Smack smack smack 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣😂🤣✋🏾
That reminds me of kid Goku
This actually happened to Chris from Abroad in Japan
LMAO, this legitimate made me spill some of my coffee! Thanks for the laughs!
I grew up in USA but Im mixed Japanese. my jiji always make a really big deal abt me being chubby. When we moved to Japan I got so bullied especially since I have green eyes they used to say "she wld be so pretty what a waste." Or that I was a "pig w a painted face." Just cause I was chubby I was trash, plus I was into anime/ manga and street fashion so my family talked down on me even more for being an otaku. I had a complete breakdown after H2, I became anorexic & bulimic but I got so much praise it reinforced my body dysmorphia. I got so thin; I cldnt go to college cause my anxiety was so bad. I tried to kill myself and my mom took me to a inpatient clinic in USA. I took a couple years for me thankfully my mom & bro were always supportive, my bro moved to USA w me to support me. I ended up going into mental health as Psychiatrist and when I finished my MD my Jiji would brag that Im a Dr. And so pretty. It still hurt everytime cause she didnt support me till I was her idea of beauty & success. Thankfully Im more stable & having struggled it helps me connect to others. I hate when people talk badly about others bodies or looks cause you never know what someones going through.
Someone I know had a similar experience. Thank you for sharing your story, it's very powerful, and I'm glad you're still around to tell it.
You're really strong. Praying for you. Big or small, you still will ALWAYS have innate worth no one can take away with mean or careless words. God bless you.
I'm so sorry you went through that 💙 It sounds like you took the experience and did your best to grow from it and now are helping other people. I hope you know that this internet stranger thinks you're amazing!
💜💚💜💚
I find it hard to believe someone who writes like this is a psychiatrist. The way you write sounds like you’re a kid.
Getting comments on weight also happens here in Indonesia. When I used to be overweight, they’d compare me to my beautiful sister. After I lost weight, they told me I was too skinny I looked like a dried ginger.
Good thing I was able to follow a new diet: restriction on caring about other people’s blabber!
Amen!!!
ah, yeah.. indonesia, the land of overcommenting.
Forgive me for laughing when u said you look like a dried ginger 😭🙏🙏
@@iknowimgaywhenisaythisbut1369 🤣🤣 I laughed so hard too when I heard it! Maybe I can be friends with Groot then 😛
@@tatianaromanovasurya groot is cute, so are u uwu
I lived in Japan in the mid 1970's. I loved the elevators that said capacity 12 people or 8 foreigners.
I went to Japan in '16. I'm an American. I went to a pub and met some girls there. They were really friendly and gave me hugs. They liked my belly. One of them even started to jiggle my belly like in the video and that was my exact reaction too 😅 I didn't really know how to feel about it lol
You have to roll with it.
@@marvnuts noice 👌(was that pun intended?)
I still remember the women’s toilet in Japan. In Tokyo stations you will hear women vomiting out everything they just ate at a date. It’s a really scary toxic culture when it comes to the body.
Omg, I love her already.
Me too.
Hi xiao
Me 2 1 minute in age is so funny
Same! ^_^ also hi Xiao!
Yes! ☺️💖
Your friends and relatives in Greece are the same as your friends and coworkers in Japan. I remember so much pressure when I was living in Greece to be thinner.
The fact that Zara is considered "bigger size" in Japan when here in Spain, the country the store is from, it is considered one of the stores with the smaller sizes xD
I made friends with a guy at college here in Scotland. He had recently moved from Japan to study here. The third time we met up, he started slapping my belly asking if I had gained more weight. I just picked him up and put him over my shoulder saying: “you can’t do this to me!”. When I put him down he was so taken aback by it and just burst out laughing. We’re still friends haha
Yes! That’s amazing haha
So wholesome
Lol that's one way to handle it!
This made me happy. Wholesome.
did you slap him on the butt or something? XD
Mrs. Eats - It's sad to see my husband's belly being caressed.
Also Mrs. Eats - *Proceeds to destroy aforementioned belly, war drums style*
For me, what got me about that scene is how her husband does the "I am dead on the inside" look at the camera, as you hear her making the belly pounding noise. I laughed so hard for like a straight minute!
She must cook delicious food a lot.... For him to get fat like that. ...seeing her do wardrums while her husband has that deadpan "save me" look was so funny. Reminds me of a friend of mine , all of our friend tend to squeeze his chunky tummy every now and then when we see him and go...hmmmm, chuuubbbyyy. Lol. Needless yo say we have immediately get out of his reach as he would definitely swat the heck out of us. Lol.
*This* is how you love on a belly.
Years ago I was on Christmas vacation in Japan. For New Year's my friends and I stayed at an onsen hotel, and somehow we got friendly with the proprietor even though only one of us spoke a little Japanese. He helped us with the shopping and cooking, and even drove us to an amusement park.
So before we left, we took a picture with him, and at that point he started rubbing my belly.
I didn't mind it, since I'm aware of my weight and noticed that people in Japan are much slimmer. But it was unexpected for sure!
I’m fat as hell and lived in Tokyo for two months. Japanese people always treated me with kindness and respect and I will never forget it.
@@Vile_Nightmare or maybe they’re more harsh towards fat women?
Cause u are a foreigner duh.
Cuz they are more harsh to their own people ESPECIALLY WOMEN
@@Diana72910 bcs women wont get married if she has a tummy, but men just need a good income regardless of their looks is what i hear a lot
@@IraQxNajafia that’s true
Her: So this bendy chopsticks won't pick up the food u won't be able to eat.
Me whose culture uses bare hands to eat food: 👁️ 👄 👁️
All I need is a normal pair of chopsticks, I suck at using them so it'll be basically as effective as a native user using bendy chopsticks lol.
Same lol. Do I break my hand?
Ooh which culture?
@@xfakelucid6504 Filipino, traditionally we use bare hands.
You need bendy hands? Japanese ppl can eat sushi with bare hands( at a sushi place) and soups with spoons so you could still eat food.
Japanese people: very quiet and hard to befriend
Also Japanese people: *rub your tummy furiously*
lmao
Whoa. I disagree about being hard to be friend and very quiet. Japanese people know how to have a good time when they want to they work hard. And my Japanese friends are some of the most loyal
I was thin but not bony. Working w chinese and Japanese people is hard when you're white and harder if you're not paper thin.
@@teekotrain6845 Asians in general love fat jokes is my experience travelling with a fat friend
I like that tbh
This actually sheds some light on a manga I just finished. One of the side characters is a chubby girl, and her best friend was constantly making comments about her weight that would be considered incredibly rude in America, and would even cause the end of the friendship. It was surprising to me to see these characters continue their friendship over several years despite the thinner one constantly making fun of her weight.
Years and years and years ago I visited Japan I was 5",1 and 102 lbs. I worked out a lot so I was muscular and I'm also large chested. I was in extremely good shape ( fitness model shape)but got a lot of weird/ dirty looks at the gym. I felt huge compared to the slim/ frail women of Japan. Very intimidating. In the city things were fine but at the gym not so much. Guess it's just like America. So much body shaming at the gym. This lady in the video doesn't look fat to me either she's beautiful. Not only do women come in different sizes but also our body compositions vary.
Yep, body shaming is forever and it sucks esp if u dont fit the standard there, im from asia and like if youre like severely underweight youre almost god like cuz you have nothing to insult esp if u are pretty or of the dominant culture and class, cuz my friend she's (tw weight mentions) 160 cm and 37 kg and she gets a lot of compliments and stares and makes me uncomfortable as a plus sized person
You were very muscular and big but only weighed 102, which is the average of a 12 year old? Dude how?!
@@kookie_krissy6728 i think they mean big compared to others
@@kookie_krissy6728 It depends how they gain weight, I guess. Im the same size but I look small;however, I have long legs and my weight goes to my thighs. It makes me look slim or "skinny"(people make fun of me for being skinny but wtvr lmao)
Mrs. Eats is the funniest TH-cam channel that isn't even trying to always be funny haha, seriously you have such a natural skill at making so many of us giggle. A lot of people forget that so much of humor/comedy is in the facial expressions and comedic timing, haha, it's always fun to learn on your channel!
Wow! Thank you!!
I visited for two weeks in 2011. A man in Kyoto remarked that I "should eat healthy food", and then poked my stomach and added a sound effect "pon pon"
Did you knock on is head and tell him he should think more?
Yeah, I would literally pass away
wooahh 😮😮
The pon pon part is kinda adorable- sorry-
Japanese people are cute even when they’re being openly rude
@@horseconfused okay so body shaming is cute when it's done by japanese people 👌
I'm overweight with an eating disorder and I'm planning on going to Japan for work/school. This is doing NOTHING to help my anxiety! Shit, I thought it was bad enough in the USA!
I could never have a corporate job in japan I'm too bitchy someone would say 'You need to loose weight' and I'd start taking off my jewelry
I came to Japan at 70+ kilo and lost 15 naturally over the last few years. I remember one time I went to a health checkup and I was at 60kg (I’m a 166cm tall woman so completely healthy) and the older nurse who took my weight laughed saying 「ごめんねー笑ちゃいいけないけど」 and I cried after that visit. My coworker also who is on the heavier side who is Japanese was teased in the teachers room on the day we handmade mochi . We worked all day and finally were able to sit down and eat what we made when everyone did buffet style and took the mochi they wanted to eat. She took a plateful and one of our senpai’s laughed saying, “Is that really gonna be enough for you?” I felt terrible for her..
I love Japan, but this part of the culture needs to have some changes..
166cm and 60kg is just perfectly healthy. I would even say slim...the what a strange way to judge people. Not stick thin = fat? I hope you are doing fine, don't let those ridiculous standards get to you.
What was the Japanese quote saying?
@@potatopotatoeOG Sorry, I forgot to write that. It said, "Sorry, I shouldn't be laughing."
@@coralecho2485 is it? "acceptance" in the US has led to the average american 20 year women to be 5'4" 170LB.
@Churble Furbles sorry, I am a bit confused by your comment ;;; Isn’t it okay if someone is 170 lbs? You can be a higher weight and be healthy, for example my friend is an athlete, is 5”5 and weighs around 160lbs but she is very muscular and fit. Isn’t it okay to weigh more (or less as well), as long as you’re healthy?
This is so genius
Its you again:0
why tf are u literally in every comment section
Do you know how to comment anything else?
Kita org biasa komen kt semua video kita tengok, org perasan kau sbb kau ada verify 😂
Kau ni memang desperate sangat ke nk subscribers?
I'm personally of SE Asian descent and what was always aggravating for me was that when I was a kid my mom was always trying to fatten me up. To be fair I was a very skinny kid but I don't think I was unhealthily so. It was just my frame. But whereas many people were self-conscious bc of their parents due to being fat, I was always self-conscious and insecure due to being skinny, especially since a lot of other people my age in our ethnic community were/are chunky and I was the outlier. I'm still very thin today but my mom's mentioned that my body turned out "all right" now since I filled out a little with age. 🙄 And when I say a little, I mean very little lol.
So the real question is... when is Mrs Eats gonna get that recording contract? Her singing here is straight fire!
Thank you
I'm pretty sure my parents put me in gymnastic to lose weight. I ended up getting so fat because my grandma would take me to practice after school and she would let me pick out whatever from the vending machines. muffins, cookies, beef jerky, your girl had it all! lol
Everything tastes better after workout, right??
Lol what a grandma 😂😂😂
Everyone's grandmas be like 😂😂😂
This is giving me flashbacks to when I taught in Japan in 2017 and when I was a Teacher's assistant the other kids were calling an overweight student (豚/ ぶた) pig and the teacher heard them and joined in...
Omg!
The fuck?
That’s terrible! I hope you’re somewhere where people treat you better now, because no one deserves to be bullied like that!
Thanks!
WOW!! Thank you for your SUPER THANKS!! Are you surprise by Japan strictness on weight?
As a foreigner living in Japan permanently, I can tell you, you will definitely experience the same. Just yesterday I was asked if I lost weight by a worker at a restaurant I frequently eat lunch at. It's really bothering, but it's just a part of living here.
Also, damn, how invested my former coworker was in me losing weight even tho I tried to tell her many times I am never gonna become a petite japanese girl cause that's just not how genetics work.
That must be annoying/hurtful from a western viewpoint, but maybe take it to mean that your coworker considers you as more integrated to Japan now haha.
If she’s asking you that congrats you’re less foreign now lmao
Permanently? I’m jealous! Are you an English teacher?
@@Folphin I can't believe that I am asked this question even online 😆😅 No, I am not an english teacher. It's not the only job to have in Japan!😅
@@captainkacke1651 can I ask what your job is? Or what field it is in?
I loved your advertising singing. The whole video was entertaining and funny. Thank-you, Mrs. Eats!
Thank you! We had a blast making the song:)
I think the fact that she's not fat is reflective enough of how extremely high the standards are in japan
She was talking about when she was a kid
she didn't mean that she'd still be fat and chubby. she said that she was "fat" as a kid, when she was younger.
@Macy Webster Ramirez I had the same thought. @@greenleeaf111 She said as a kid, but i get the feeling, she *still* probably wasnt that big even then, by our standards. And I'm betting that the rules were stricter on girls than boys too
how extremely high the standards are in japan# ...or toxic?!
@@beakittelscherz5419 Toxically high standards.
People talk about having 'high standards' as a good thing, but the only standards that matter are whether you're a decent person, and that you _try_ to be healthy. Including mental health; which being kind reinforces
I didn't expect to finish the whole video, since I was in a very bored mood and just kept flipping through short videos. But honestly the more I watched, the more I felt drawn in by your way of speaking and mannerism. You seem so cute and pleasant! I don't remember the last time I subscribed to a channel because of a single video
I grew up as the fattest. But according to American standard, I'm normal. Often times when I was younger, I wish I had money to fly to America and live there because it was so difficult to find clothes, not to mention the harsh words people say.
We accept you here! I offer you ticket as an unofficial American.
Lol I'll offer you a ticket as an official American
Same here..i mean not japan, but i am in asia...clothes are small..and im like pear shaped ..so i found some shirts but its stuck at my ass...its hard finding clothes im just stuck with either baggy or short above butt shirt
A extra large in Japan could be considered as medium in America
I'm American and my sizes would be either a small or a medium in America but I would have to get larger sizes in Japan. Big bodies (in Japan's standards) is be completely normal here in America!
Funny how companies are entrusted with minding the health of their workers in terms of their diet but also have a reputation for working them too hard.
Animal Farm. Just more subtle
I was heavy in Japan. Not talking about being "an obese giant American", but more like 175 (80kg), due to being in a increasingly abusive marriage I went from 145 to 175. I felt like I might as well be on My 600lb life when I was at that weight, I could feel friends and strangers silently judging me. And finding clothes that fit, forget about it! Even though I was a US 13/14, I couldn't even find stuff that fit in the men's section! I had to order from the USA. And even before I put on the weight, I was a size 9/10, NO clothing in my size was available!
If it makes you feel any better, know that im an average asian size 😁
man, I'll probably never go outside if i ever go to Japan
I’m a size 15/16 due to weight gain from medication AND a 6’1” woman. I have accepted that getting stares in Japan will be inevitable.
@@marikojournals How would that make her feel better? LMFAO
@@aitanac.3320 RIGHT LMAO
Not everyone in America lives in a city with access to public transportation.
Our cities are also less densely populated and more spread out in comparison.
While walking and bicycling can be done, it's not convenient in our daily commute.
The "Oh, hi! You've gained weight!" Is also a standard Hispanic greeting. 😂
It’s also used as a Chinese greeting (usually towards younger people, such as kids), but it’s more like “Oh, hi! I’m so happy you gained weight!” 😂
@@cSedx00022 LMAOOO
Same in India 😂🥺
I hate that akdjflkjdfkdj but on the other hand, it sure makes me feel good when I meet up with an aunt or my grandma after a while and they say "Oye, te veo mas delgada!" even though I know I haven't been exercising nor eating too healthily 🤣
Preach it 🤣 yes!! Hahaha
I am Chinese and I was the chunky kid in class. It was such a struggle. I’m still struggling with the judgements even though I’m no longer in that environment.
There's nothing wrong with you. They are wrong, bullying should be considered a crime. Stay strong and don't let these mean people disturb you. THEY are wrong!
I lost a lot of weight in Japan, but not because anyone stared at me or slapped my tummy. I would go to a supermarket and look at the prices. Then I didn't feel so hungry.
Wdym Japan is super cheap atleast compared to where I live lol.
WTF does this even mean, food is cheap in Japan. Are you saying you're broke as fuck?
This lady is a riot!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
She is not very fat at all!!! 😍😍😍😍
I gained 10kg during my exchange to Japan (combination of being really sick before my trip and wanting to try ALL the Japanese sweets in just 7 months) and I did not get the foreigner-pass at all haha. Whenever I hadn't seen someone for a bit, they'd always greet me with "へー、ソフィーふとっちゃったの？" 😂
YESSS
What does that mean?
Also huh, your channel looks cool! Do you still upload, or should I watch your older content?
@@kitbracadabra it means "you've gained some weight", in Japan it's not considered quite as rude as it may be in other cultures to comment on someone's weight, especially if you haven't seen them in a while. More of an observation than an insult. But in reality, it does contribute to the negative cultural ideas about being pudgy/chubby in Japan.
@@Lottienn I'm Asian and that's the one thing I still can't wrap my head around about the cultural norms here, like how wouldn't that be considered rude LOL
1:10 “instead of losing weight, die from stress” lol 😂
I'm Indian and would probably be considered humongous in Japan, even though I'm a solid US size 0/2 lol 🤣 I had lost weight down to being a size 0/00 but I felt cold a lot and tired, so I decided to purposefully put some weight back on. Now I'm doing a lot better. Some people just aren't made to be super super thin, even Asians :)
It's true, I've always wanted to lose weight on my stomach, but when I did I felt like I was disappearing - it made me kind of scared like I was ceasing to exist. Maybe I'm just too used to my stomach ha
I'm cold and tired a lot too. Unfortunately I naturally have a poor appetite and easily lose track of time. When I purposefully tried to gain weight I got up to a healthy weight and felt better, but it was tiresome to be constantly checking the clock and force myself to eat when I had no appetite. When I stopped I went back to the same weight I was before, and have been since 14 lol.
I like being size 10. I feel healthy.
Whenever we have the BMI test at school, I always end up getting the result that screams "OVERWEIGHT" and my classmates (or bullies, rather) kept on laughing at me.
I never really blamed my belly for it. But I always did blame my butt and boobs.
Suffering from success 😔
queen.
I'm from Eastern Europe and remember BMI was never discussed in primary school but it was so embarrassing having your weight announced out loud in front of the entire class, especially since no one in the class really cared about your height in relation to your weight. I remember always crying after school on weight-height check-up days. Luckily at the end of middle-school it was more discreet.
Worst part was that while you were getting laughed at for it, the measuring was ultimately pointless because there were no programmes in place to actually help any of the kids who were too pudgy to help them overcome overeating.
@@Turtletoots3 I mean, yeah, sure, that's the true thought behind it. To help the skinny kids eat more and the chubby kids eat less. But that's a bit too biased, don't you think? I mean, now that I'm older, being chubby or fat doesn't really mean that you're overeating. What if it's in your genes? What if it's your body type? Like, for example, I've got the endomorphic body type, but I don't eat that much. How can I be "overweight" and be urged to "eat less" when I don't eat too much in the first place?
wait really? they do bmi tests at school? *im scared*
This is hilarious... and your husband's face when you were tapping his tummy...
I'm glad Uniqlo has 4XL size now...
Yes! Uniqlo is 4XL is available:) and they even offer longer pant leg only online!
Lots of negative attention in the States as well! When I was a fat kid, older people were NOT shy about telling my mom that she needed to put me on a diet. And of course my fellow classmates didn't let me get away with it, either. I am also Hispanic, so all of my older relatives on that side of my family loved to grab my sides and call me gordita. Very embarrassing!
Old people be some of the mosg shameless people out there-- they really think they can just say whatevr they want 😭
It might be embarrassing but they were probably just worrying for your health.
@@Falloff When I say "embarrassing" I am understating the damage they did because I don't care to speak of it, so I don't think I need to soften my words any further to protect them and their "worries."
@@magicdoll9914 wow ok you have a problem I recommend seeking help about your weight issues instead of turning into a twitter stan
@@Falloff I recommend minding your business if you don't like the way people reply to your stupid assumptions about their personal lives. Byeee.
When I was teaching in South Korea, it was similar- some adults, but especially children, saw nothing unusual in commenting on people’s weight or appearance. I’m not a large guy, and I had one boy who would ask me why I didn’t grow taller. Coworkers who were overweight had to deal with people commenting on it, not maliciously, but just in a casual tone that we would normally use to comment on a person’s shoes. It took some getting used to.
Same thing in China
looks like cjk have some upsetting similarities 🥲
It's a standard greeting. Kinda like how British always complain about the weather. The way to do this well is always tell the other person how thin they've gotten. It shows that you care and pay attention. If the other person have gotten fat. Just don't say anything.
I think it's an Asian thing.
As someone from the US i am 100% here for the "you should be proud not to be number 1" that had me laughing so hard 😂
totally agreed. i lost 10 kg when i was studying in japan. I took a month to get used living in japan including commuting, walking and cycling for more than 2 hours per day.
It also helps that they walk literally everywhere cause Japan is more over crowded then what America is and because we’re a bigger country and own vehicles plus a lot of our transportation system sucks if it’s public unless you live in NYC
Spaciousness determines a lot of behavior - Americans cannot walk since distances are too far (unless in an urban area) and public transportation is nonexistent in rural areas
A good comparison is obesity rates in Europe. Places like Greece, with very high car ownership, have higher obesity rates. It's a pretty natural correlation.
@@picardy7488 in Japan too, unless you are in an urban area with underground you cant walk. In Japan and in everywhere. Tokyo is the bigger city in the world. But you can get buses, bikes, trains, etc. In nordic countries the distances are far, a lot of places had very little population. They use always bikes. The car in USA is a cultural think. You always can go walking to the stations. And obviously, in all the world to walk big distances you are not going walking. You use the train.
@@Ssaidak you could walk the entire length of Japan twice and that distance still won't get you half way across Texas. the USA is HUGE. most don't realize how big but you can fit most of Europe inside the USA and still have room. also not many places give people a safe area to walk in the USA. sidewalks are always in disrepair and the roads are very dangerous as most drivers don't pay attention. its only in the big cities like LA, New York, Chicago that the sidewalks are fit for walking. you can't find any good places in small towns or the country areas.
Japan has a bullet train that spans almost its entire length you can take their train and it won't cost you 2 weeks paycheck unlike here in the USA where a 1 way train ticket will cost you near $300. the cheapest form of transport in the USA for long distance travel is airplane flight in the lowest class seats. even the bus system is expensive. they don't make travel cheap because they don't like the idea that people can move or go to a different part of the country for work or to live. its how they keep their citizens poor and trapped.
@@Ssaidak the nearest train station to me is 145 miles...that's like 234 kilometers. I am not walking that far. Nor biking, its already a nearly 3 hr drive. My state is bigger than Scotland. Welcome to Wisconsin. Why does everyone forget some of us live in that "fly over" part of the country, not everyone is living on the Coasts of the USA. The "town" I live in which has a gas station is actually 4 miles away. The town with a store in it is a further 12 miles from the town I already need to hike nearly 4 miles to get to. There isn't a shoulder of the road to walk on, you have to walk either on the road or in the ditch...and they don't maintain ditches around here.
Japan has a lot of surface level good points but living here is a different story.
The other day I noticed I've never seen ramps for disabled people, then I noticed I've never seen a person in a wheelchair. So then I asked a few people (locals) and the honest answers I got were along the lines of.
"The government thinks Disabled people makes the country look bad"
🤧
Ho my god.....
That's horrible!O.O
Omg... 😞
Oh wow. Echoes of fashism even.
@@KaoXoni Its in their history
I love the way you speak! It's so easy to understand for non native speakers like me
my mom got a Japanese massage at a carnival once, they did this to her butt because it was big... all of my siblings and i laughed but she later said it was emotionally traumatic
edit: we all just kind of call it an inside joke, but yes, as kids we didn't understand that it was harassment or ab*se in any way. we know how it effected her and we don't talk about it negatively, but to bring light to the situation for her emotional outlook.
This makes me sad. :(
I'm sorry but this sounds illegal or sexual harassment.
I'm sorry that happened to your mother.
@@ilickgrandmas2854 this is not the right time or place buddy
@@ilickgrandmas2854 Bro, something is seriously wrong with you.
@@sakurafalls2468 Just report him :)
She’s hilarious 😂 she had me with the “bendy chop sticks” song! Liked and subscribed ❤️
Thank you so much
Same. Lol
I’ve lived in Japan for nearly five years. I’m an average size Australian female. I’ve never received negative comments about my weight. Except for this year, I’ve been asked twice if I’m pregnant and was told I was “big” by an older male student (I’m an English teacher). I don’t have quarantine weight either 😒
what the Japanese consider as "chubby" is pretty wild. Any heavier than that and you're considered obese.
yeah they expect foreigners to be fat, it's part of the stereotypes. And if you're average in your white country of origin, you're pudgy in JApan.
I love your presentation - it is informative, compares cultural differences admirably, and so doing is light hearted, which makes me want to see more. Well done.
I can't IMAAAGINE what it's like to have an eating disorder in Japan!!
I feel like having a binge eating disorder is a complete nightmare
Italy here, we do the same about saying "ehy, you have gained some weight ha!" with friends, relatives, colleagues, pets, strangers, strangers friends, stranger relatives...
Oh really! Do people mind being said about their weight?
@@MrsEats yes, we are affectionately rude with everyone, we speak loud, we kiss and hug you as soon as you are in our social circle, armony is a mith we really like chaos and passion
Same in Greece😉 You can't say it to strangers because it will be very rude but family members,friends and yes,pets!My uncle says my cat has put on weight every time he sees him😅.It's an unspoken rule though that you don't say these things to women,no one would dare.
@@j.h8758 lmao
which part of italy, i live in rome and its definitely not something you say here
4:23, please why is this so funny
hahahaha fr
this happens in china too, its an asian thing (not great)
An ad? No 2 ads??
This channel is very informative and funny. Mrs eats speaks very good english, with a cute japanese accent.
Japanese public: "You're a big fat bastard!"
Me: "I'm sumo wrestler in training!"
Wasn't the first white sumo wrestler a country boy that chose the name "Tonkatsu"? I shudder to think how many fans yelled, "Squeal like a piggy!"
Then there's the Polynesian response - become Yokozuna.
I would love to visit Japan but I'm obese and I have to say that the idea of being stared at the whole vacation is not my idea of a good time. And that was before I even knew that could imply having people rub my tummy 😳
Visit in the winter. That's what I did and with a puffer coat and long scarf, nobody can see :X
Same..its a a shame really cuz japan sound so amazing and all but if im gonna have to deal with people givinv condescending playful stares at me (me whk is already self-conscious enough abt body image) imma have to skip this one 😒
I know this will get controversial, everyone will hate and everything will get corrupted but....
How about lose some weight?
@@adandelionwish lmbo, if I wore a puffer coat, people would really stare - thinking I was in a costume, smuggling humans, or carrying a mattress lol
@@frog6054 thats good and all but u gotta understand how much time and effort that takes .. not everyone has time unfortunately
One of my Japanese friends introduced me to her other friend once, and within an hour this other friend was rubbing my stomach while making aggressive eye contact in the middle of Costco. It was really crazy and unfortunatable
That is called a fetish. She was flirting with you, hard.
Shoulda gone for it. :)
This is the third video I watch from this channel, every single one has AT LEAST one JoJo refererence. Thank you for that, your channel ROCKS!
I gained like 50 pounds from high school to when I was 22 and when I met up with the host family I had in Japan in high school, the actual first thing out of his mouth to me after 5 years was the english question "Hey, Are you Fat????"
Shit caught me off guard, made me self conscious, and made me lose my shit laughing all at once.
Shit was hilarious.
Mrs Eats has a great shape. Sorry Mr Eats I couldn’t resist.
I agree she looks pleasant and attractive.
In Hispanic cultures things like this are also quite common, like my parents will go “You’re so pretty but you need to eat less,” just casually in a random conversation. They also do the belly-poke thing lol. I’m not even obese :p
and look at how beautiful your (and japanese) females are!
That’s how white american families are but not as much in the 2020s it seems and in more recent years
I have a Hispanic family too and I can confirm
I’m Latina and it’s kinda the opposite in my situation, every time my mom or grandma sees me they want me to eat because I’m so “skinny”. Well I’m 154 cm and 45 kg so it’s fine, but to them I’m underweight 🤷🏻♀️
Yes... My father
That "song" with the chopsticks really had me laughing!
I especially liked it when you screamed at them! haha 🤣
I find it interesting that the same country that is super big on everyone being skinny is also the one that created and admires Sumo Wrestling. I’m sure those guys stand out like crazy, yet they are admired for it. Just kind of weird.
Sumo wrestlers were originally kinda normal looking. I'm not sure when in history they got fat.
@@MsAngelique probably has to do with the prizes. the winners got their weight in gold. so naturally they started trying to put on more pounds to get more gold.
@@Dragnmastralex ooooo really?
"Why it SUCKS being fat in Japan"
*Also Sumo exists*
Sucks to be black in America but NFL players exist
only if it's a sport
And that 4% cover Sumo athletes...so, basically almost none normal people are fat...compared to other countries...
@@jazwhoaskedforthis then leave?..
@@8AKI47 ah yes, leave my home country, where my family, friends, and associates live, move to a new place in the world, where I may have to adopt completely new cultural rules, a new environment, new jobs, and trying to make friends in a new place because of my race! How logical, how smart!
Being a larger person, I learn to laugh at myself. I make jokes about my belly all the time. I am trying to take better care of myself, but I also accept where I am right now.
I enjoyed your video, by the way. It made me smile. :)
It's very common for American women to gain weight because we take care of everyone but ourselves.
@@jamilgotcher5456 also food, snacks, culture based around food. Jobs that require long shift but shit pay that results in shit food.
I love this woman, she is so wholesome and hilarious! I subbed!
I feel like this was such a perfect and well-balanced explanation of the societal expectations, good points and bad points, and the ways the society is slowly changing. Also very entertaining. ^^
The bit with Mr. Eats was hilarious! I hope we see more of him in your videos. I grew up chunky too, and the world really isn't designed for bigger people. Clothes shopping was the worst.
Jennei, yes, clothes shopping is hard! Now I can order bigger size but before, it was so hard to find my size! Let's stay safe and healthy!
Yes, had this struggle as a teen. The average teen girl is super slim so I couldn't shop in stores geared for teens. For one thing I developed weirdly early and had curvy hips first in my class but on top of that had a hard time with my weight so I never got the fun of shopping in a trendy store, had to go to women's clothes stores when I was like 13 XD
I'm overweight because I'm disabled, so the combination of medication, not being able to exercise as much, and a medically diagnosed slow metabolism, have lead to me being very over weight. What people don't realise is that I also significantly under eat because my slow metabolism means I just don't really feel hungry, and I also have a lot of food allergies and chronic nausea, so can't really eat junk food or things like that, but the chronic under eating means my body constantly thinks it's in a famine. People find it incredibly difficult to get their heads around the fact that I don't over eat or eat junk food. I once had a new doctor recommend I not eat cake, then be surprised when I explained I can't eat cake because of allergies. They were so convinced that I must be a junk food addict by looking at me, that it didn't occur to them to actually look at my file. Once they did, they were suddenly telling me I have to eat more despite the nausea and not feeling hungry, and I've since seen a dietician who recommends I set alarms to eat more regularly.
There is a lot of medical bias and assumptions around weight in the world!
Almost the same here. I don't have food allergies but I never eat or drink anything with sugar, it makes me sick. In the past 3 days I had one bowl of homemade egg drop soup. No weight loss though because I can barely stand or walk so I'm either sitting or laying down. My Dr too said my metabolism is nonexistent. I'm afraid to try eating more than 1 meal every other day. Best of luck to you!
@@charliedavis8894 it's really hard to make yourself eat, especially when your body doesn't tell you you're hungry, and I think that's what many doctors can't get their heads around because they've not experienced it themselves, so they always think "how could someone not be hungry?"
You do not break the laws of physicals. Hope that helps.
I used to want to live in Japan and was considering joining the JET program at one
point as some of my friends had done. The fear of being the fat loud American in a sea of skinny, quiet, fashionable people stopped that in its tracks. I’m even anxious about going to visit my friends there now.