My girlfriend has a 13 year old son and she basically lets him do whatever he wants. She doesn't enforce any types of rules and he doesn't even have chores; all of the household work falls on us. So based on my experiences, permissive parenting is not only negatively affecting her son, its also putting a strain on our relationship. I can see him already developing a sense of entitlement, which is scary. When I was growing up, my mother and father expected me to help out around the house, and when I didn't, they raised their voices. I respected my parents growing up and I turned out to be a respectful and responsible adult. I think permissive parenting is more common that we think and parents need to understand the negative impacts it can have on their children's lives and on their own relationships as well.
I relate to this totally.. my partner has two kids well.... ones 18 and ones 23.. but they're still 'kids'.. no accountability for anything.. no responsibility for anything... her son just plays xbox all day everyday and night 24/7 unless he's sleeping (at sporadic times no pattern as no rules) or eating (which is usually obtained by "what's for food" to his mother/my partner) I agree that this type of parenting not only affects the children but also the adult relationship too.. I find myself being made out to be the bad person all the time because I can only bite my tongue for so long before trying (and failing everytime) to instill a little normality or order into the house... I'm just glad in a way that permissive parenting is a thing and it's not just me being crazy or a "sergeant major" when it comes to how to bring up children. Rules are needed consequences are needed.. but apparently not in my home..
@@DanC1987 leave that woman. You are letting your time, energy, and resources be funneled into ungrateful, lazy adults. Your partner might see you as an ATM machine and nothing more.
It's none of my business and you don't have to answer but did your relationship survive and is her son well off or worse in his condition? I'm in the same boat and it looks like the titanic
I thought I was a permissive parent, as I am not very strict with my child, but after watching this series of videos I realize I am an authoritative parent which I am very happy about.
I think permissive parenting was popular 20 years ago. I may be wrong. But I still see it around me. And I don't like the kids from such parenting families because they feel entitled.
Great information in the video. I like how you are positive and don’t put blame on being a permissive parent but give good examples of why it back fires when kids are adults...especially at work.
Hi Adriana, thanks for pointing out the intention. Permissive Parents aren't lazy or bad. They probably are reacting to a negative experience from their childhood, and think this approach is the best way. It is not.
You know, I didn't realize what permissive parenting is...but I have to say your video really resonates with me. While I don't let my son "run wild and run free", LOL, I WILL say that I find myself wanting to be more of a friend to my son as opposed to a parent. But I agree that the results can be disastrous...so I've had to rein things in. Hard? Yes. Worth it. Double YES! I look forward to your next video! Thanks so much for this one!
Stacey Storino it was great to hear from you. It’s great that you have a worm, loving relationship with your son..you just have to make sure there is a difference between you and his other friends. You have wisdom and experience that his other friends can’t match. In this Thursdays video I’ll share 9 tips on how to set high expectations in a living way. Thanks for watching!!
I completely agree with your explanation. I believe there can be a balance between discipline and allowing your child to explore their personality. Like you said, structure is important. Excellent video!!
Mixing parenting styles is a nightmare. I'm authoritative but had a partner who was permissive. She was constantly looking to excuse and normalise the negative behaviours associated with it. She shut me down on everything, passively but i was not allowed to say no even in my own home, so in the end I kept quiet and stopped having my child and myself eventually around her child. Inevitably it ended the relationship.
If you are a child of permissive parenting, this is the first thing you must do 1. Do not complain, nor blame your parents because of this I myself am one, and ive been applying this to myself recently.
Great permissive parenting lesson here! Kids thrive with structure and clear expectations. I've found that there is actually more freedom and less correcting after the fact when clear boundaries and rules have been communicated and honored from the beginning. I can think of one friend in particular who is definitely a permissive parent and her three boys are really difficult to be around. Thanks for sharing
I'm 3 years late to this thread and I hope all is well with your family! What I can say is that for a permissive parenting style to work a structure needs to be implemented. My parents are sort of Authoritative/Permissive. We have family values such as Integrity, Grit, Love, Respect, and our love for God. If I'm being honest, it all depends on the cooperation between the child and parents, because I chose not to abuse the freedom, and my parents kept the role of guiding with rules and consequences. I remind myself usually that my parents are giving everything to make my life easier and in return I made my objective to strive to be the best and make my parents proud. I do agree that permissive parenting can go wrong because of the amount of freedom and less restrictions that are given, but the way that it affected me as I grew older is that I am much closer and open with my parents, I understood that they want to guide and teach me like how they were guided by their parents. In terms of Academics I am in Grade 11, currently in STEM flying with high marks.
I don't think permissive parenting is good for kids. I was on the stricter side, and we had family rules. As I told my kids when they were teenagers and not happy with me, my job is to raise you right, even when that's not easy. It was tough at times, but both my kids grew up to be amazing people!
Hi Jill, congrats on raising amazing kids! I'm going to try to follow your example with my kids too. My son is now 11 and so the hard part is coming up :)
Thank you, for your transparency. How would you say it impacted your development? I was dating a man who was Overly Permissively parenting his 18yr old daughter...I tried explaining this to him & how that could set her up for failure in life... Let alone it was what drove us apart...being he also ultimately allowed her to control us.
Pros of permissive parenting: Encourages creativity, self-reliance, promotes independence in childhood play and activities, strengthening usage of internal problem solving, child faces the world with fearlessness and zeal Cons of permissive parenting: lack understanding of reciprocation in interactions with others in childhood and as an adult, often lacks emotional regulation, short-sighted as an adult when challenged with real-world demands, blame shifting and/or lacking cause-and-affect thinking (I.e. because self did this, it affects self or others in a negative way)
Well said, although I'd argue that some of the pros maybe muted (especially problem solving), as children need some help from their parents to get started.
Thank you for the personal address to each of your comments. Your futher input is exponentially invaluable and engaging. With no disagreement with the insight you've put forth, the mind a hypothetical toddler or younger, if given permissive guidance would surely surmise it's own answers as being the correct response. Though a child left to it's own devices the choice may prove consistently erroneous, when lacking input from the parent directly on the affect of the child's choice as in permissive guidance makes those shortsighted decisions to the child's detriment. The result of child rearing without challenge of a learned adult that knows the inevitable consequences I find grave indeed having two adult children of my own. I too am not an advocate for this type of parenting because it lacks defined boundaries that the child, as an adult, will be expected to function within as an employee, relationship partner, potential parent, etc.. It breeds selfishness and self indulgent short-term reward with possible longer term negative consequences. Again, many sincere thanks for addressing the comments.
@@ineedavaykation4016 Hello, thank you to you for your feedback and input! I have seen examples of permissive parenting up close, and my biggest issue is the child generally is going to make the wrong decision...since the part of their brain that makes smart long term decisions isn't fully developed until they are an adult. The best way is to allow your child to make some small decisions, but the tough calls have to be made by the parent.
It's sad especially when a child is very young. I can see this more when they become 16. I think it makes a child feel more secure when they know a adult is in charge and not them..
Overall, good video. I think you are a little one sided on permissive parenting and intrinsic motivation. It would make sense that high levels of independence and decision making for kids with permissive parents could increase intrinsic motivation, too.
Children crave structure. A permissive parent doesn’t realize that they are actually harming their children and putting a big burden on their child’s shoulder. By letting them decide everything and letting them do whatever they want you are putting them in charge and children might want that once in a while but that’s not what they want all the time. They don’t want to be the adult that’s too much to ask of the child. Children want guidance, love and structure. They will respect you more if you guide them but also respect their opinion without forcing them to make all the decisions in their lives.
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My partner is a vigilant permissive parent. His daughter bullies, is sneaky, lies about illness. One day, we were getting ready for bed, our rooms are across from each other. He comes in our room to ask advice about work, she screams from the top of her lungs "I SAID GET ME WATER! NOT TALK TO RAYESSA!", he ignored her. By this time, im seeing red. He's said nothing and continues to talk. She screams "I SAAAID, GO GET ME WATER! DONT TALK TO RAYESSA! NOW!". He rushed to the sink to get her water and continued to put her down. She's horrible, and its not her fault. As someone who was raised in a Japanese and African household, I don't even understand how people can let their own guilt ruin their children.
My son's friend's mom is a permissive parent. The kid is so spoiled, that he didn't want to come over anymore because a few times I said no to something, and no amount of fake pouting/pitty parties changed it. I wasn't phased at all. That is how he gets whatever he wants from his mom.. he lies to her, emotionally manipulates her to get out of having to do what his dad said, throws toddler-like fits to make her give in.. he even has tricked her(and me) when she wasn't feeling good into getting me to bring my son over by lying and when I was omw, she texted me to casually and light heartedly tell me what he did and I said I would just turn around and plan for another day and she was like, "Noo, it's ok. The boys want to hang out." Like.. WHAT?! He honestly acts like a mini narcissist and even my son is taken aback a lot of the time by the way he acts, and by the way he tries to manipulate him. It has been a good opportunity to help him practice setting and maintaining personal boundries.
I just found this. Is your son still friends with this person? I’m dealing with something very similar but they’re 6 years old. I’m friends with the mom and by default the kid has been friends with my son and she said her culture was to spoil children and make them happy. So far, her boy has turned out very selfish and entitled.
I have two kids. Both are sons. My elder son who is 11 years old. He is very dominant to me. When I do not fulfill his wishes. He abuses me and hits me. My younger son is also affecting by his behavior. My spouse and in laws also Treat and tell them that your mother is not a good. My
I have seen permissive parenting.children just lose their way and make one wrong decision after another and the parents keep supporting them .Sadly no one is happy now and regrets have not helped either.Too late.
Aarthi Shetty yes, and the sad thing is the parent originally thought they were doing the right thing. Parents need to do their job. Just because you don’t like how controlling your parents were, doesn’t mean you should do the exact opposite!
I’d say when they’re 2 or 3. Obviously I don’t know how your child is but there are kids that already start disobedience by that age. When they start showing that I say you should let them know that you are the one who is in charge you know what I mean? Although at that age they may be too little to understand but as they grow they will start to understand. I feel like when you start to try and discipline them when they are a older it won’t work the same but it’s just my opinion. I also say don’t always give them what they want so they don’t start trying to take advantage of you. Don’t be a permissive parent is what I got to say.
My girlfriend allows her 14 yr old to use every swear word insult grandparents and family have no respect for anyone or anything it's 2 am and she's eating dinner she threw a fit wanted home schooling 2 months into her freshman year I'm up at 2 am have to work can't say anything mommy still has the imbulical or permissive parenting attached this is a joke parenting style
Have you seen examples of Permissive Parenting? If so, what are the pros & cons you've seen? Please share below!
You've clearly explained why permissive parenting doesn't work...especially if they encounter failures
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My girlfriend has a 13 year old son and she basically lets him do whatever he wants. She doesn't enforce any types of rules and he doesn't even have chores; all of the household work falls on us. So based on my experiences, permissive parenting is not only negatively affecting her son, its also putting a strain on our relationship. I can see him already developing a sense of entitlement, which is scary. When I was growing up, my mother and father expected me to help out around the house, and when I didn't, they raised their voices. I respected my parents growing up and I turned out to be a respectful and responsible adult. I think permissive parenting is more common that we think and parents need to understand the negative impacts it can have on their children's lives and on their own relationships as well.
I relate to this totally.. my partner has two kids well.... ones 18 and ones 23.. but they're still 'kids'.. no accountability for anything.. no responsibility for anything... her son just plays xbox all day everyday and night 24/7 unless he's sleeping (at sporadic times no pattern as no rules) or eating (which is usually obtained by "what's for food" to his mother/my partner) I agree that this type of parenting not only affects the children but also the adult relationship too.. I find myself being made out to be the bad person all the time because I can only bite my tongue for so long before trying (and failing everytime) to instill a little normality or order into the house... I'm just glad in a way that permissive parenting is a thing and it's not just me being crazy or a "sergeant major" when it comes to how to bring up children. Rules are needed consequences are needed.. but apparently not in my home..
@@DanC1987 leave that woman. You are letting your time, energy, and resources be funneled into ungrateful, lazy adults. Your partner might see you as an ATM machine and nothing more.
Your girlfriend's son is 15 now. Any updates?
It's none of my business and you don't have to answer but did your relationship survive and is her son well off or worse in his condition? I'm in the same boat and it looks like the titanic
Run if you haven't already 😅
I thought I was a permissive parent, as I am not very strict with my child, but after watching this series of videos I realize I am an authoritative parent which I am very happy about.
Riaz Khan happy to hear that too!
@@melissadietz6374You're confusing authoritative and authoritarian parenting.
I think permissive parenting was popular 20 years ago. I may be wrong. But I still see it around me. And I don't like the kids from such parenting families because they feel entitled.
Thanks Katarina, yep kids from these types of parents certainly lack the social skills necessary for success.
Great information in the video. I like how you are positive and don’t put blame on being a permissive parent but give good examples of why it back fires when kids are adults...especially at work.
Hi Adriana, thanks for pointing out the intention. Permissive Parents aren't lazy or bad. They probably are reacting to a negative experience from their childhood, and think this approach is the best way. It is not.
You know, I didn't realize what permissive parenting is...but I have to say your video really resonates with me. While I don't let my son "run wild and run free", LOL, I WILL say that I find myself wanting to be more of a friend to my son as opposed to a parent. But I agree that the results can be disastrous...so I've had to rein things in. Hard? Yes. Worth it. Double YES! I look forward to your next video! Thanks so much for this one!
Stacey Storino it was great to hear from you. It’s great that you have a worm, loving relationship with your son..you just have to make sure there is a difference between you and his other friends. You have wisdom and experience that his other friends can’t match. In this Thursdays video I’ll share 9 tips on how to set high expectations in a living way. Thanks for watching!!
Permissive parenting is ultimately not beneficial for a well adjusted child. Great video.
Thank you Heather. Agree. Kids need some structure, goals and guidance. Parents have to play that role.
I completely agree with your explanation. I believe there can be a balance between discipline and allowing your child to explore their personality. Like you said, structure is important. Excellent video!!
Ebony Rose thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. Next week I talk about authoritative parenting, and how to implement it.
Thanks for sharing these permissive parenting style video. This is so good.
Thank you Professor Austin for watching!
I agree. Structure is important. Guidance is needed
AliNowak thanks for watching!
Interesting pros and cons! Thanks for explaining this!
Thanks for watching Christina!
my parents raised me like that and now i'm lazy asf 💀
Mixing parenting styles is a nightmare. I'm authoritative but had a partner who was permissive. She was constantly looking to excuse and normalise the negative behaviours associated with it. She shut me down on everything, passively but i was not allowed to say no even in my own home, so in the end I kept quiet and stopped having my child and myself eventually around her child. Inevitably it ended the relationship.
Great knowledge for parents. I wish this kind of information was available to us when we were young parents
Ajaz Khan it is amazing how much more information is available every year
If you are a child of permissive parenting, this is the first thing you must do
1. Do not complain, nor blame your parents because of this
I myself am one, and ive been applying this to myself recently.
Such a great video!!! As a parent, you must use the word NO when necessary or you will end up with little monsters! LOL
Totally agree. Thanks for watching. This Thursday video will share 9 tips for parents on what they should do to be an authoritative parent.
I think this is an excellent presentation, providing clear information about the drawbacks of this parenting style. well done, I learned a lot.
Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback Chantmagick. New videos every Thursday!
Interesting video! I'm not a parent but I can certainly imagine how it could be challenging to find the right balance when raising your children!
Wendy Leung Coaching yes it is challenging, but it also is the most amazing experience I’ve ever had. I LOVE it.
Great permissive parenting lesson here! Kids thrive with structure and clear expectations. I've found that there is actually more freedom and less correcting after the fact when clear boundaries and rules have been communicated and honored from the beginning. I can think of one friend in particular who is definitely a permissive parent and her three boys are really difficult to be around. Thanks for sharing
Heather Terveen great points! Structure helps kids focus, and parents owe their kids that. Thanks for watching
I'm 3 years late to this thread and I hope all is well with your family!
What I can say is that for a permissive parenting style to work a structure needs to be implemented.
My parents are sort of Authoritative/Permissive. We have family values such as Integrity, Grit, Love, Respect, and our love for God.
If I'm being honest, it all depends on the cooperation between the child and parents, because I chose not to abuse the freedom, and my parents kept the role of guiding with rules and consequences. I remind myself usually that my parents are giving everything to make my life easier and in return I made my objective to strive to be the best and make my parents proud.
I do agree that permissive parenting can go wrong because of the amount of freedom and less restrictions that are given, but the way that it affected me as I grew older is that I am much closer and open with my parents, I understood that they want to guide and teach me like how they were guided by their parents.
In terms of Academics I am in Grade 11, currently in STEM flying with high marks.
Was curious on learning about permissive parenting style. Glad you backed it up with well researched reasoning.
Amatul jamila Khan thanks for watching and sharing your feedback!
Thanks for your video! It's important to teach kids to listen and be sympathetic, if not empathetic.
Thank you for watching, and I agree with your comments!
Great tips, you really break it down and give great examples.
Linda Armstrong thanks for watching!
I don't think permissive parenting is good for kids. I was on the stricter side, and we had family rules. As I told my kids when they were teenagers and not happy with me, my job is to raise you right, even when that's not easy. It was tough at times, but both my kids grew up to be amazing people!
Hi Jill, congrats on raising amazing kids! I'm going to try to follow your example with my kids too. My son is now 11 and so the hard part is coming up :)
Truly helpful, thanks
Great video... Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks for watching!
Absolutely!
Parenting can be so difficult. I think you're raising some great conversation by discussing permissive parenting and the pros and cons!
Thanks for watching Cindy-lou. Tomorrows video has 9 tips for raising a high expectation child. Hope you'll watch and share your thoughts.
It's a responsibility a serious one maybe one of the greatest raise a problem and a liability or raise a good person
this is such a great topic for video and you make so many great points!
Kay's Kreations thanks for watching!
My father was permissive and spoiled me a lot growing up...as an adult today I would say it has negatively affected my development...
Thank you, for your transparency. How would you say it impacted your development? I was dating a man who was Overly Permissively parenting his 18yr old daughter...I tried explaining this to him & how that could set her up for failure in life... Let alone it was what drove us apart...being he also ultimately allowed her to control us.
Pros of permissive parenting: Encourages creativity, self-reliance, promotes independence in childhood play and activities, strengthening usage of internal problem solving, child faces the world with fearlessness and zeal
Cons of permissive parenting: lack understanding of reciprocation in interactions with others in childhood and as an adult, often lacks emotional regulation, short-sighted as an adult when challenged with real-world demands, blame shifting and/or lacking cause-and-affect thinking (I.e. because self did this, it affects self or others in a negative way)
Well said, although I'd argue that some of the pros maybe muted (especially problem solving), as children need some help from their parents to get started.
Thank you for the personal address to each of your comments. Your futher input is exponentially invaluable and engaging. With no disagreement with the insight you've put forth, the mind a hypothetical toddler or younger, if given permissive guidance would surely surmise it's own answers as being the correct response. Though a child left to it's own devices the choice may prove consistently erroneous, when lacking input from the parent directly on the affect of the child's choice as in permissive guidance makes those shortsighted decisions to the child's detriment. The result of child rearing without challenge of a learned adult that knows the inevitable consequences I find grave indeed having two adult children of my own.
I too am not an advocate for this type of parenting because it lacks defined boundaries that the child, as an adult, will be expected to function within as an employee, relationship partner, potential parent, etc.. It breeds selfishness and self indulgent short-term reward with possible longer term negative consequences. Again, many sincere thanks for addressing the comments.
@@ineedavaykation4016 Hello, thank you to you for your feedback and input! I have seen examples of permissive parenting up close, and my biggest issue is the child generally is going to make the wrong decision...since the part of their brain that makes smart long term decisions isn't fully developed until they are an adult. The best way is to allow your child to make some small decisions, but the tough calls have to be made by the parent.
It's sad especially when a child is very young. I can see this more when they become 16. I think it makes a child feel more secure when they know a adult is in charge and not them..
Some excellent points. I am done parenting, but grand-parenting also comes with some responsibility too..
Thanks for watching. Tomorrows video has 9 tips for raising a high expectation child. Hope you'll watch and share your thoughts.
Thank you this was helpful!
Overall, good video. I think you are a little one sided on permissive parenting and intrinsic motivation. It would make sense that high levels of independence and decision making for kids with permissive parents could increase intrinsic motivation, too.
Very interesting. Definitely agree about the rules
Salma Saciid thanks for watching!
Great video and really wonderful information. Thank you for sharing.
Dal Dhaliwal thanks for watching!!
I had two different parents. One was loving and one was controlling. I approach each with different restraint now.
Thanks for watching. Tomorrows video has 9 tips for raising a high expectation child. Hope you'll watch and share your thoughts.
Children crave structure. A permissive parent doesn’t realize that they are actually harming their children and putting a big burden on their child’s shoulder. By letting them decide everything and letting them do whatever they want you are putting them in charge and children might want that once in a while but that’s not what they want all the time. They don’t want to be the adult that’s too much to ask of the child. Children want guidance, love and structure. They will respect you more if you guide them but also respect their opinion without forcing them to make all the decisions in their lives.
Great points! Completely agree.
Really great video. I can't imagine what that does to children! Yikes!
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My partner is a vigilant permissive parent. His daughter bullies, is sneaky, lies about illness. One day, we were getting ready for bed, our rooms are across from each other. He comes in our room to ask advice about work, she screams from the top of her lungs "I SAID GET ME WATER! NOT TALK TO RAYESSA!", he ignored her. By this time, im seeing red. He's said nothing and continues to talk. She screams "I SAAAID, GO GET ME WATER! DONT TALK TO RAYESSA! NOW!". He rushed to the sink to get her water and continued to put her down. She's horrible, and its not her fault. As someone who was raised in a Japanese and African household, I don't even understand how people can let their own guilt ruin their children.
Great video, new sub
Great video. Good advice
Nailed it,
Sir please let me know that my son is so dominating to me how to deal with him.
Tayyaba Fatima hello, let’s start with how old is your child?
My son's friend's mom is a permissive parent. The kid is so spoiled, that he didn't want to come over anymore because a few times I said no to something, and no amount of fake pouting/pitty parties changed it. I wasn't phased at all. That is how he gets whatever he wants from his mom.. he lies to her, emotionally manipulates her to get out of having to do what his dad said, throws toddler-like fits to make her give in.. he even has tricked her(and me) when she wasn't feeling good into getting me to bring my son over by lying and when I was omw, she texted me to casually and light heartedly tell me what he did and I said I would just turn around and plan for another day and she was like, "Noo, it's ok. The boys want to hang out." Like.. WHAT?! He honestly acts like a mini narcissist and even my son is taken aback a lot of the time by the way he acts, and by the way he tries to manipulate him. It has been a good opportunity to help him practice setting and maintaining personal boundries.
I just found this. Is your son still friends with this person? I’m dealing with something very similar but they’re 6 years old. I’m friends with the mom and by default the kid has been friends with my son and she said her culture was to spoil children and make them happy. So far, her boy has turned out very selfish and entitled.
This is my major problem that I am facing. Guide me. Wait for your response.
I have two kids. Both are sons. My elder son who is 11 years old. He is very dominant to me. When I do not fulfill his wishes. He abuses me and hits me. My younger son is also affecting by his behavior. My spouse and in laws also Treat and tell them that your mother is not a good. My
I have seen permissive parenting.children just lose their way and make one wrong decision after another and the parents keep supporting them .Sadly no one is happy now and regrets have not helped either.Too late.
Aarthi Shetty yes, and the sad thing is the parent originally thought they were doing the right thing. Parents need to do their job. Just because you don’t like how controlling your parents were, doesn’t mean you should do the exact opposite!
@@Seed2Stem I agree.
At what age do start to discipline a child?
I’d say when they’re 2 or 3. Obviously I don’t know how your child is but there are kids that already start disobedience by that age. When they start showing that I say you should let them know that you are the one who is in charge you know what I mean? Although at that age they may be too little to understand but as they grow they will start to understand. I feel like when you start to try and discipline them when they are a older it won’t work the same but it’s just my opinion. I also say don’t always give them what they want so they don’t start trying to take advantage of you. Don’t be a permissive parent is what I got to say.
Agree with you! Earlier the better.
You are not negative enough.
My girlfriend allows her 14 yr old to use every swear word insult grandparents and family have no respect for anyone or anything it's 2 am and she's eating dinner she threw a fit wanted home schooling 2 months into her freshman year I'm up at 2 am have to work can't say anything mommy still has the imbulical or permissive parenting attached this is a joke parenting style
If your permissive parenting then it's child abuse that simple stop
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