florzinha estudiosa Please don’t hurt yourself. Even if this is a joke ( I can never tell when people are joking ) but if you are being serious please don’t hurt yourself. I’m afraid of growing old to but don’t do anything at would purposely cause yourself harm.
Same. I'm 23 too and I honestly thought that I would be so much more successful by this age. But girl, we both have so many years in front of us to achieve that! We just have to push harder and work towards our goals EVERY DAMN DAY. 💪
same! i'm 20 and seeing so many other teenagers a lot younger than me makes me so anxious like what am i doing wrong? why am i not having the time of my life?
Wow I feel the same way and I'm 21 and a male I want to be a model I'm literally stuck in a loop I'm also in college to but I'm so eager to become successful and acheive at a early age so fast it drives me crazy huh literally.
I've Lost my Teenage to my OCD And Depression And Now Im 20 💔 I Thought I'm Alone In this World With This Fate But Seeing Others With Same Situation Is Weird 💔
I try to look at my depression period as a inevitable part of my life - I had go through it because of some "dark" parts of me that were hidden and then shown up. For, me, going through this tough time made me who I am now, and so I accept it fully. Maybe looking from this perspective will help you :)))
At 22, I agree... like the world still sees us as young and youthful, but then again, I feel as if I was just 16... wow... it's just insane.... eventually, it all has to come to an end....
Jesus christ most of you guys here are around early 20s. You haven't even peaked yet. Physicality doesn't peak until around 26-33. Go fall on the concrete right now and try doing that at 40, you're going to miss it.
I think the reason that your 20’s are seen are the golden time is because most people have kids by 30 and feel like they can’t do the things they want to do, so the pressure gets put on other people in their 20’s. You have a lot of years left to do every little thing that you want to do. Everyone’s timeline is different.
true. i am experiencing this the other way around, i got my first child not long ago, some people (the depressed kinds) tried to tell me and stress so much how 'different' and fucked my life is going to be and so on... umm of course its going to be 'different' but i never felt happier!!!! it all depends on how you see the world
@JIM DIM you are so scared of being alone that you are projecting hard. Get a grip and stop worrying about looks and options. If it has nothing to do with you, why do you care?
I see so many 50-year-old women and even older living their best lives and looking good. They give me inspiration. Remember to do your facial yoga and exercise + healthy diet.
Hi! I’m 31 and just wanted to say, from my own experience, that not long after turning 30 is when I realised how NOT old I still was and became more comfortable with my own pace of life. I feel like you will definitely hit a sweet spot soon where a lot of things come in to place and becoming older just isn’t something you even think about anymore (again, from my own experience). Also, Happy Birthday!
yes, 30 was a traumatic birthday but honestly about a month after that, it got a lot easier & i can wholeheartedly say that my 30s are already so much better than my 20s were!
@@99sparks93 You don't even know the circumstances, yet you're so quick to judge and draw a conclusion based off of a comment, that in itself is what's pretty pathetic.
29 year old here, with only another 1 and a half months left of it. Thank you for this video. One thing I'm noticing more and more as I age, is that I feel like those around me are getting younger and younger... it weirds me out a little. Like 20 year old people born in 1999 and I remember what the year 1999 was like, you know? Edit: Also. Seriously. You're like my twin. Dental phobias, driving phobias, thinking about aging, boyfriend younger than you, being a late bloomer, not having a passport yet... Dude, you're scaring me lol.
I'm 29 as well and relate to ALL of these things. -Everyday I'm more and more aware of my skin changing. -I worry about falling behind with what's hip and becoming irrelevant lmao. -I'm also paranoid of driving (I still do though, but avoid freeways after being in a 5 car pile up years ago 😥). -I have no passport - haven't gotten to travel much in general in the US. -And my boyfriend/fiance is 5 years younger than me as well lol.
@@WaveOfEmocean me too girl . I stay away from freeways too . Ive been in accidents with other people driving not me . So Im scared to drive very far distances or freeway.
My career didn't really start till I was thirty. I graduated from university, and now, three years later, I can hands down say my thirties are far better than my twenties. Increased emotional stability. Better insight. Even less fucks given. I wasted my twenties on my emotions and bad decisions. So thirty has been waayyyyy better and the mistakes of my twenties, have molded my successes. I work as an ER RN, and I face death most days at work. Going into nursing has forced me to face death and my anxieties with aging. Our society is so afraid of death and aging. We like to push it under a rug. But it's part of a cycle that adds beauty and significance to the life we have. Life wouldn't matter if we lived forever. We wouldn't cherish it. There would be nothing beautiful about it. Life would be redundant. When my Dad died last year, Alan Watts helped a lot with my thoughts on death. I see someone else has also suggested it. Give him a listen. His philosophies are comforting. (However, I do get botox in my forehead because my wtf face as a nurse would be way too deep otherwise).
Absolutely love what you have written here Aimee! & I am glad you have found something to comfort you since the passing of your dad, it's so important to find something to soothe us through the process. What you say reminds me of the Anne Rice Vampire series - the underlying theme in them is the fact that life is so beautiful and precious because it is finite =]
@@Weeflowerofscotland Hey i am a 14 year old girl who’s scared to die and ive always wanted to ask someone who was older than me a few questions. Are you afraid of dying? Was it scary to age physically (wrinkles etc)? Are you okay with the fact you’re dying? I’m know im young but I always think about this. Thank you
meidraw I’m turning 19 this August and I’m freaking out. It’s to the point I get panic attacks. I swear I was just 14 yesterday. Where did all those years go? Almost 19 and still feel like a 14 year old.
I can totally relate! I remember being about 8 or 9 and bawling my eyes out because I was panicking about dying and not existing anymore. It still gives me anxiety but I try not to think about it
sweet creatures that’s exactly how I am right now ... I’ve always been pretty introverted and I think to myself a lot. The last few weeks it got so much worse.. I’ve been crying every night because I’m so afraid of growing up, and I’m so scared of not existing. It doesn’t help that I just turned 13, and I don’t feel like a little kid anymore. My mom had this same anxiety when she was my age but she just tells me to ignore it. I can’t. Honestly, idk what to do. It was bad when I was 10-11 and had no friends. I have good friends now, so there should be no reason for me to be so scared, but everything is just freaking me out. I can’t stop looking at my parents and my sister and thinking, “someday we’re all going to be dead.” and i can’t stop crying. I’m not suicidal, I’m just scared and I can’t deal with everything. I’m scared to die and I’m scared to live with my stupid fricking anxiety. Is there any help for me? I’m totally lost. Will a therapist help? Should I just ignore my anxiety or should I think about it and get over it? Right now I’m trying to think abt dying and trying to accept it, but that just makes things worse. :(
sweet creatures this is my EXACT reasoning. I don’t believe in an afterlife and the thought of just simply not existing scares me. But living forever brings me the same type of fear, I find that ironic tbh. Uncertain of who I am, who I want to be, and who I wanna be with.
sweet creatures totally agree! I read something where your fear of death is often linked to something else.... but tbh I don’t really know what that is. The idea of growing up/old terrifies me... losing all those I love... non-existing... It’s just weird bc I’ve never thought of dying at all even when death was so normalized bc of all the video games I’ve played lol. Until one day it just hit me and it never left my mind some days I’m busy enough that dying is only a thought... but some days when I’m stuck at home it’s like I’m trapped in my own thoughts and they just consume me. When I hangout with my friends, I laugh and everything’s alright and then the thought just hits me that this will end... everything will end. I just don’t understand why I have this fear. Everything just seemed so much more simple back then.
sweet creatures ughhh why can’t I just live life. This is probably the most frustrated I’ve been in myself. Incapable to overcoming this makes me feel idk... I’m 18 do you mind if I ask your age?
I’d suggest doing the things you want to do or have been postponing. Daily mediation and gratitude will do wonders. It’s not the external things that make us feel how we feel but how we deal with them and our feeling towards it. Stoicism might help you understand this. Good luck 🍀
I'm turning 30 in a few months and I can't sleep at night. The fear is overwhelming me. It feels like time is going too fast, I can't believe I was 20 years old 10 years ago. It passed by in a blur so fast. I'm scared the next ten years will go by fast too and one day I wake up and I'm 40 but feeling wise it feels like it passed by too fast. I want to stop feeling this way but I don't know what to do. It's really emotionally drained me and even depressing.
this is exactly how i feel rn i'm only 19 but i feel like time is going by too quick i can't even look at my parents the same it's super draining in depressing 🫤
this is...this truly couldnt have been posted at a better time. wow. ive struggled with severe agoraphobia for almost 3 years now and i recently started a new therapy and ive been pushing myself to my limits and past my limits. my agoraphobia also stems from my fear of death (as well as my emetophobia but thats neither here nor there..) and i recently heard news about a friend's friend that passed away from a heart attack and she was only 19. since i heard that almost a week ago, it feels like all of my recovery and everything ive overcome was just thrown out the window. i havent left my house since that day and i truly feel so alone and like im back at square one. thank you for posting this. it made me feel a lot less alone and a lot less crazy. thank you for talking about this. really. it means a lot.
jovie emily wow I’m sorry you’re going through all that. I am curious though (and I hope you don’t take offense to this!) but why would hearing about someone dying from a heart attack make you not want to leave the house? If you’re going to have a heart attack you would have it regardless of whether or not you’re at home. It would probably be worse at home actually (if you live alone) because there wouldn’t be people around to help.
ccap3211 thats a fair question, haha! i honestly couldnt tell you..i think it's less about the actual heart attack and more about the "wow, i really COULD die this young" that gets to me. and when my anxiety is really high, my agoraphobia just skyrockets; if that makes sense?
jovie emily yeah I get what you’re saying. That’s no way to live. That must be really hard. I hope you stick with therapy and things get better for you and that you recover from this. ❤️
Yes. My biggest fear is my mom. I was handling retirement paperwork at work. And I'm only 33 and just doing that made me have a break down. I can't take that thought. Especially after losing my dad I became more paranoid about losing my mom. Ur beautiful!
Hey I’m 32!! My 20’s were definitely hectic. My 30’s have definitely been wonderful! I feel confident, more in tune with my emotions and have even been more present with important people in my life like family. Hello from Houston, TX!
JOYxELECTRIC same! I’ll be 31 in July and people at work always tell me that I look like I’m 20ish and then acting so shocked when I tell them how old I am, like 30 is SO old. Most of them in their early 20s tho, so I kinda get it, but it’s getting annoying.
Be proud of your age. ESPECIALLY if you look younger than you are. I'm 44 and still get clocked as early 30s. I'd rather be an amazing higher number than "oh ok, you look that".
I’ve been watching you religiously since you first started TH-cam, and this video hit the closest to home than any other video I’ve ever seen of yours. I have an extreme fear of aging as well. So much so that a month after my 30th birthday, I got Botox for the first time. I ended up having a severe reaction and have been suffering from the neurological impacts of the toxin for the past month. I’m unable to work right now (I’ve worked every week since I was 15) and I just had to sign up for short term disability. Doctors can’t tell me how long it will take me to recover, but their best guess is anywhere from 3 months to 2 years. Although this has been the hardest month of my life, this experience has dramatically changed the way I think about aging. I risked my health to try to halt the aging process and it backfired on me. It’s forced me to think long and hard, and has given me a completely different view and appreciation for the aging process. It’s been so scary and so hard, but I truly think that in the long run it will end up being a blessing that shapes who I am. Thanks for this video - you’re a beautiful, healthy, talented, strong 29 year old woman and I can’t wait to continue this weird journey through life watching your content!
I can relate to this so well! In order to get rid of my Menstruation I started to take the birth control pill .... I always had some sort of a fear being a female human. I hate the though of pregnancy, I hate being in this cycle, I hate that a womans value is almost always connected to her looks by society and so on. I wanted to get at least rid of this annoying cycle which remembered me every month which kind of body I have. Worst decision ever.... it gave me chronic migraines. Even after stop taking it .... it lasted almost 2 years! 2 full years of my precious 20s wasted to pain just because a freaking birth control pill! Even tho I only took it for a view months. I almost could not finish college because of it. I was in hospital, no meds could help me I went trough hell. Only staying alive for my family and boyfriend and the little hope of maybe it still.can get better. I had hard times befor but this beat everything. It finally starts getting better now ... But also a perfect example how you do something out of fear (of aging or of female body functions) and end up making it worse. I definitely value my life more now. Every day where I feel good in my body and can get up is a precious day. If I would have knew that before ... I would have Never complaint about my period ever again. Oh how nice those 2 years could have been if I wouldn’t have decided to take the pill. Still I feel like I only dealt with my health my early 20 and now get scared because I only have 5 more years left till I am 30. It’s a Long time but time flyes... I feel like I am 19 when in face I turn 25 in 3 weeks. One good thing tho ... I hear more and more Woman in their 30s saying that their 30s are much better then their 20s and if the could go back they wouldn’t. This gives me hope.
love how real this is, even at 21 these are things that i think about but it is comforting to know that we're not alone in these feelings!! being human is WEIRD
Happy birthday! I'm gonna be 44 this year and honestly, I feel like aging gets easier. I stopped caring so much about the beauty standards and I simply embraced the process and I'm creating my own aesthetics. And my body is honestly stronger than what it used to be when I was in my thirties. So hopefully you can work this out and be more relaxed in future. But I understand. Went through a similar thought process. It's absolutely understandable, given the unhealthy beauty standards being set by the beauty industry. I genuinely wish you reach your goal, live to 100 😍💖
Looks don't last forever and we don't take them with us.The body will rot. Looks have a very short shelf life , the soul is forever ! Take care of THAT.
I totally get you, I turned 23 this year and even that felt scary to me - I feel like I'm nearly in my mid-twenties and like you say, time flies the older you get. I worry I'm not using my 'prime years' to their full extent and I'll have regrets when I'm old (if I'm lucky enough to reach old age). I suppose the best thing we can do is try to live in the moment and take each moment as it comes - mindfulness is really helpful for me personally. Happy birthday, by the way :)
I'm 17 and I'm scared of my teen years ending, due to illness I have not been in eduction for 2 years. The thought of being 2 years behind peers and the people in my academic year scares me. Most people I know say "your so young don't be scared" however I feel like people don't understand. I've missed out on 3 and half years of my teenage years due to illness and not had the typical experience. I go to therapy for anxiety and other things but I understand where you're coming from. Much love and happy birthday 💕
same!! I'm eighteen this year, and I missed out on so much school, dropped out when I was 14, but trust me - you will be okay. the conventional education path doesn't work for everybody!! school will always be there for you to use to your advantage, but mental health won't. mental health is a priority x
I'm also 17 and 2 years behind for the same reason, and yep, the difference between me and my classmates now is huge, but I starting to be ok with it. You got this 💖💕
So feeling all of this right now. I'm turning 27 in a few weeks and my anxiety has been so bad leading up to it because I am also a late bloomer and still not living on my own yet, but hopefully soon. I'm just extremely self-conscious about my age and not being where society says I should be at this point.
I don't relate to your fears at all, but I respect and admire your willingness to put them into words on camera. Everyone has their struggles to face, running away from them has never helped anyone.
I'm almost 35 and have never felt my age. When I was younger, I felt more mature than my friends and after I hit 21 I feel like I got stuck at 16 mentally. I have very similar fears of you and I spend a lot of time at home as well. I honestly don't know how I moved from Florida to The Bay Area at 21. I'm not married but have been in a relationship for 12 years and have no plan for children. My cats are my babies. I also just got my official autism diagnosis which has me looking forward to my mid 30s now that I have the proper help. As for losing people, it's very hard but we have to push through it. I've lost 2 of my best friends, one in 2005 and the other in 2016 as well as close family members. I'm terrified of losing anyone from my immediate family. Sorry for the ramble, I just totally relate. Thanks for being so open about this topic.
Same here. I'm 26, people say I'm 18-20 and I feel like I am in fact 19 years old. All my close friends turned into married (or almost) no life couch potato mentally grumpy tired people. I think I need to do some segregation in my life. They constantly bring down my emotions and worry me.
I used to feel that way until actually getting old. Life is SO much better now without worrying about aging. My mind set is very positive now. Only bad aspect is my health getting worse no matter what I do & difficulties become harder to bounce back from. I have NO desire to live to a very old age but then again never had it. So nice feeling at peace these days. I am 70.😱
I am 28 but I love wearing clothes that teenager wear nowadays, I love new music like Lil Peep and stuff, I have no stable job, I smoke pot, I live with my parents because I find it comfortable, I don't want to have children and marry and I am all okay with that. The hardest part of all is the pressure from the society and parents. They expect you to be like them. Never give them away your power. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. They want you to fit in, be like everyone else. And you are not like everyone else. You are unique and fuck them all.
So true .... in the end it’s the Society. Like who says you can’t wear certain things just because you’re not a teen anymore. Why do you have to become boring. The age thing on society just feels dehumanising to me.
Dear my parents are forcing me to get married . As an asexual 😭 I can't marry bt I'm an Indian . In India LGBTQA is taboo. I don't want children coz this world sucks a lot of unfair stuffs like inequality , global warming, genetic diseases most importantly I don't like people in general . What to do . 😭
I was freaking out at 29, I didn't want to be in my 30's. I am 33 now and let me tell you, I am better now that I ever was in my 20's,I am more confident and a lot of my insecurities have gone away. I would never go back. I know it's easier said that done but embrace it. You will see how many things change for the better, your mindset just shifts and you will be amazed at yourself. Welcome to the best decade of your life!
i relate to this so much. i'm 23, i know i need to chill out, but i am always worried when i travel long distances, or when my friends go on trips and am scared shitless of losing my parents and my cats.
Hello Sarah. First off: happy birthday! Then: being a 33yo unmarried (but living with my man) childless freelancer working from home woman, I think that I have some similar experiences as you. I don't have death anxiety, so I don't have anything to say about that. The thing is that we put so much attention in our twenties and try to hit some milestones and it is really toxic. I had terrible twenties (I lived 10 years with an ED) and when I turned 30 something clicked in my brain and it entered in the "I'm too old for bothering" mindset, and that was so liberating. As far as I've learned so far, yes, you only have one life, and you have the right to live it for yourself and not for other's expectations and standards. Being 30 or 40 doesn't mean anything, it's always the same person with more stories to tell. TRIGGER WARNING ABOUT LOSING LOVED ONES: unfortunately that is tough. There's nothing to say about that. I lost my grandparents in my twenties and some of my friends too, and I saw many of my friends lose a parent and that's heartbreaking, but you'll learn to deal with that somehow, it's part of life. We still have our memories of them.
I just had a mental breakdown too. I am so happy that you made this video! Im only 18 but I worry about EVERYTHING in life. My future, jobs/school, my relationship. Everything is unsure. I hope thats a normal thought of a 18 year old? Anyway, Happy birthday and we love you!
Guys just enjoy the moment. Imagine being older and realizing you were just worrying about stuff when you were young and beautiful. I wish you happiness, things will work out. Don't see set backs as something bad, you'll learn from them.
Happy birthday, Sarah! I'm 38, and I don't mind aging. I've always felt a connection with "the crone" archetype, so I'm cool with getting older. I try to take care of my health, I moisturize, but I know aging is inevitable, so I just embrace it, and go with the flow.
I work as a Pharmacy Assistant and see people in their 90's and 100's all the time. Most still do all of their shopping and live independent lives. This is why i don't fear aging.
lol see I'm the complete opposite. Im an LTAC nurse and most of my patents are bedridden and on ventilators and it has made me fear aging a lot. Im always thinking this is what I have to look forward to being old. Of course I see the worst of the worst situations but yeah...
@@katierose1234 You just have to take care of yourself. If you exercise and eat healthy you are most likely going to live an independent life at 100. Our life span increases so rapidly, the medicine is so advanced that in the future we might live live to at least 150. Aging is also taken care of, even if we dont find a cure for it we will fir sure look and feel younger for a longer period
Im going to throw my 2 cents in.... I just turned 50 a few months ago. My 20a were great and so were my 30s. When I turned 40 I thought it would really bother me but surprisingly it didn't at all. Now that I turned 50...im not going to lie to you... it bothered the hell out of me. Its the first time its really been on my mind. All I can say is live life to the fullest EVERY single day. Ive always exercised and lifted weights since I was about 14. I can honestly say that I feel no different physically at 50 than I did when I was 25. No aches no pains and can still lift as much now as I could back then. Stay active! Eat the right foods... stay away from fast foods and processed foods as much as you humanly can. Keep your mind active as well. Keep learning new things as it will keep your mind healthy and in shape. It really is just like any other muscle in your body. Use it or lose it! Hope that helps some of you.
Definitely helps! Thank you! I think what makes it a lil harder or at least different for woman is the looks. Like we always get told and hear we're most beautiful and value when we’re in our 20s and this just fucks with our head. Because it’s such a Short time Frame. Sometime it feels almost like getting made fun of for getting older as woman ... even tho it’s the most normal thing. There’s nothing that can prevent it. I still wanna be cute when I am 30 or 40 ... I am 25 soon and I just don’t know how I gonna feel when I look even more adult. In my head I am still 19 ... actually most ppl think I am Stil 19 by how I look. But since aging can’t be prevented as at least I want to slow it down. I am also into weight lifting and definitely prefer healthy food. I wear sunscreen every day. And another important point ... I try to work on my inner self talk and mental hygiene. Improving myself as person. Being kind to myself and others. And keeping a child like curiosity for life. Keeping my own style fashion wise and being open for new things. I hope that this vibrates out of me through life. A persons looks and age can completely change just by their inner self talk and believes. Also I think nowadays is the best time to grow old .... today’s old ppl are much "younger" then 100 years ago.
Happy birthday!!! I know that this might sound kind of dark, but unfortunately accidents (not just car accidents, but also health problems) can happen at any age. In fact, it is so much harder to lose someone close to you when they are young and seemingly healthy (I sadly learned this through personal experience). And though that is scary, it actually makes me more grateful that I am still alive and have gotten to experience this much of life. I hope this comment isn't too depressing, seeing as it is your birthday, and I'm happy that you are starting to feel better about aging
I FEEL U. I've been dealing with a lot of emotional issues since I was a teenager and now I'm 24 and I feel like I wasted some of "the best years of my life" but now I'm just trying to be positive about my present, about this moment NOW. I think that helps. Focusing in the present because in fact, this moment is all we have now so let's try to do the best with it!
Happy birthday Sarah 💕 you’re definitely not alone! I’m only 22 and have spent a good amount of time being terrified of death. I wasted 5 years working on being accepted into my school’s funeral program and declined when I finally was. I can’t handle the idea of death like I thought I could. I know what you’re feeling. I have a lot of fear being in public as well. I have AVPD which makes living a normal life extremely difficult. I feel like I’ve missed out on so much. I live a mostly isolated life outside of my job, school, boyfriend, and family. It’s hard to push myself sometimes. Anyway, thanks for speaking about this, it’s made me feel less alone ❤️ I hope you have a wonderful birthday! 💕
i relate with your commentary. i’m in my mid 20s and i feel as if time is flying by. and am i happy with the (hopefully) quarter of my life that i lives? did i waste my past? it’s motivating and somehow also crippling to acknowledge those things. here with you, from a fellow sarah! you look gorgeous in this video, by the way!
Hello from Costa Rica, me I am turning 40 in June, lost both of my parents in a period of 2 years and learned that we humans are made to overcome it. I've watched you for almost 9 years and have enjoyed every single one of your videos. Have a very happy birthday brave girl!
You are stronger than you think you are honestly. I’m 26, experienced so much loss in my young life, not even just my young adult life. It’s not easy but there is always someone there, even if it’s just yourself (temporarily)
Hi! I'm a girl from Argentina and I never ever coment. I relate to you so much, I dont have a fear of aging but I feel the same about my parents, specially my mom, its so emotional and really hard to think about it. I also did so so little in my 20's in terms of what is socially expected, but honestly I love my journey, I cherish it. I don't know if you are going to read this but I am 32 years old, and i promise you are going to love being 30. I feel stronger than ever in every way, so many things fall into place. Trust in the process, you are going to do amazing. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey Sarah, I cannot agree with you more about your fear of aging. When you were describing the rationale behind your fear "Did I waste my 20s..? " and the pressure that comes with wanting to squeeze every drop out of your 20s is exactly how I can feel as well. I am 27, turning 28 in July, and that fear is what really has driven me to come out of my shell a bit more. I have never heard anyone describe this "fear" in such a similar way to the way that I think abut age.. I don't know it just tripped me out I guess. Glad to know I am not alone! Thanks! :D
It's all relative, you'll feel that same cold wind blowing on your back at 39, 49, 59 etc. But you'll find as you get older your anxiety will chill, either because the worst does not happen or because you can't stay in that state of heightened fear. I'm speaking from an age that would freak you out but really, it's going to be ok. My only regret is all the years spent avoiding things due to anxiety, so that is definitely something to work on.
Thanks I needed to see this a lot of the comments in this comment section have been making me feel worse because they are so negative. I know there are bad things that come with aging but thats all they focus on the negative.
My god it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one that feels the same way about a lot of these things! I’m 24, 25 this year and I still get told I look 16-18! I’m also a late bloomer and lately I’ve had an epiphany of exactly what you’ve been feeling - totally been freaking me out in regards to pressure and time, especially after comparing myself to friends.
I am 47 and the last two years I have started to see the aging process with gray hairs popping up, my metabolism slowing down, crow’s feet, etc but I feel more confident and comfortable in my body and my knowledge/skills in my job and life in general. I no longer pick on every little “flaw” and feel good that my body allowed me to have a baby and my mind was strong enough to endure losing a parent which I have worried about since I was a little girl. When my father passed almost four years ago, i didn’t think I could live through it. It was the hardest thing I ever endured. It has taught to make the most of today and the time I have left with my mom. Aging gets easier the older you get. You will work through it. No sweat. Love your videos!
Happy birthday 😊 You look amazing! I'm 37 and honestly my thirties has been sooooo much better than my twenties. Age is crazy. Sometimes I feel like I'm 25 and sometimes I can't even remember my age 😁 My body doesn't feel almost 40, I actually don't think I've ever been in a better shape, so it's definitely possible to keep feeling young. I dreaded turning 30. It felt like the end, but when the day came it was just like any other day. I've always felt and looked younger, not wanting to really grow up, and now I feel so much more confident and don't care as much about what other people think of me, and that's a huge relief. I wouldn't want to be 25 again, I like my age, youth is overrated in my opinion 😉 Thanks for being so genuine. You are an inspiration and totally rock being YOU.
Thank you thank you thank you .... you can’t imagine the positive impact posts like this have in ppl like me. I turn 25 soon and it’s just so much preassure as Society tells you it’s your Prime years especially if you happen to be female. So hearing this is just the most calming thing ever.
@@MikanManderinchen I'm soooo glad you think so 😊❤️🙏 Your comment really made my day! Yes, society puts all kinds of stupid pressure on us. I never followed the norms and didn't want to. We are all different and should live our life the way we want to 🙌 Actually I turned 40 two weeks ago - funny to see an old comment - and I feel better than ever. Our prime years are whenever we want them to be. We can dress, be and act anyway we pleases at any age. I wear pink tights and shorts all the time and I love it 🤩 Age really is just a number. Enjoy life, own who you are and just be your awesome self 😘❤️❤️❤️ You got this 😃
@@mariabogh Thank you! Actually your response made my day as well! 😭💜 I even screenshoted it to remember your words (I try to collect pictures, words, poems everything that has a good impact on my thinking haha 🙈) I am so happy to hear that you still feeling great and I hope it’ll continue for decades to come. 😊 💜 Oh and happy belated birthday! 🥳 🎂
Thank. You. For making this video. Seriously. I’m one of those OG’s you’re talking about, I feel like I’ve been watching you forever. You’re one of the first youtubers I ever watched and videos like this remind me why I’ll never stop watching as long as you keep posting!! My biggest fear has ALWAYS been aging and death and I’m being confronted with it in a huge way lately. I’m not going to ramble on here forever, but I’m 19 turning 20 and I feel like I’m exactly where you are. The reality that I’m already 20 is hitting hard and life isn’t at all what I thought it would be. Plus I have no clue how I’m going to make the next however many years I get worth living. I’m terrified at the thought that I might not ever figure it out and I might waste the rest of my life like I have the beginning.
Thank you for this video! This is so real! I'm only 24, and yes that is YOUNG, but something in me feels so strange. I cant explain. It's like i see people with 18 and 19, and i feel like that is my age - for more than 6 years now. Time is going by so fast and I feel so not prepared for a "adult life" (even tho i finished college 2 years ago and i'm in the midle of my masters degree in international law - i live in Brazil and things here are different- working in a really nice office setting), i just dont feel mature how I should be. My friends live in different coutries or are married with childs (funny enought) or, in the other end, are "party people" all the way, thing that I AM NOT. It's just dont feel right. Happy to know I'm not the only one! Blame me it on my anxiety and overthinking EVERY SINGLE THINK IN MY LIFE. Yes my goal its to live looooong as well. Sorry for the english, it's not my first language.
Oh God I feel the same way!!! And sometimes I hate this because it feels like I'm living in the past those teenage years and see myself as immature but deep down I know I'm mature because of all the shit I had gone through and the lessons I've learned. I'm 25 soon 26 I just want to leave this country and start my adult life somewhere else...
"18 and 19, and i feel like that is my age - for more than 6 years now." I relate with this so much! It's so weird to me how people 6 years younger than me are also grown ups!
Omg guys this is exactly my thought! I literally just told this my bf yesterday that for the past few year I still thought I am like 19 .. even tho I hit 25 in 3 days !! And now I am reading you’re all feeling the same.... I honestly don’t know how to deal with (hence why I found this video) I just wanna stop time and stay in my 24 body till I am 100.
Thank you, Sarah, for posting this video! I struggle with deep fear of aging and death too, so this vid was a bit triggering but surprisingly very therapeutic as well. What helps me a little bit with accepting the thought of mortality is thinking about how bad and terrifying it would be if we lived forever.
i'm about to turn 19 and feel 15 still, i can feel my childhood slipping away and i have the same feeling you talked about, that that section of my life is gone, except this is the first time i've had it. These thoughts have never crossed my mind till i reached 18, I know this is stupid to older people but I feel like it just gets worse from here.
You touched upon almost all of the exact same points I have regarding fear of aging. I could not watch your video without crying. But at the same time, it somehow made me feel better and it's nice to realize I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Aging has scared me since my late teens. Now in my early 30s the terror is palpable. It's no longer a farfetched theoretical thought, but something I live. The thought of the gradual inevitable deterioration is maddening. I despise when people try to romanticize the process; it's completely disconnected from reality. I hope the cure for this scourge finally arrives soon enough before I end up offing myself.
I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. I can't tell you to get on board with the romanticization (which can be annoying), but hopefully you can find a way to take the edge off.
I loved this video because I'm 60+ years old! I felt just like this and cried when I turned 30 because I felt like it was a rapidly increasing road to death. I can honestly say every decade gets better and better. Age is just a number and I don't give it a second thought. We're all going to die. Enjoy every day. The older you get, the more you learn about yourself and learn to love yourself and realize the only opinion that matters is your own! Growing up is hard because you do have to deal with loss......but you are strong and can handle anything. I can honestly say, I'd never want to go back to my 30's...getting older has moments that suck but I'm probably happier than I've ever been so don't dread getting older, you'll probably feel the same way I do and have a blast by living your best life and to Hell with defining yourself by your age!😀
I can relate so much to the fear of losing my loved ones. I'm also worried about them grieving for me when I'm gone. I've been trying so hard to train my mind to think differently about death and make peace with it. Thank you for sharing Sarah, I feel so emotional watching this.. Oh, and, happy birthday!
I was so afraid of getting older. I was afraid of looking old, feeling old bc I’m already pretty creaky, and afraid of death. Now I welcome aging. I have absolutely no idea what changed but it changed in like a month and a half and it’s so refreshing. I don’t feel weight anymore and I don’t feel doomed. I’m so excited to be like, 50 years old now lol. I just turned 20!
Fellow 29 year old here. I've got about 6 months left until the big 3-0. I've never been able to discuss my feelings about dying and aging with anyone and this video has been a comfort to me. We're in this together! The mortality factor is huge for me. My father, who is 67, was in the ICU last month with multiple blood clots in his lungs and legs. He's stable and on medication now, but it makes his life seem so much for fragile to me. Seriously, thank you for talking about your fears. We all are aging one day at a time and it's nice to not be alone in this.
Im 29 and i wasnt worried about dying until now lol!! JK, im actually happier the older i get because i become more and more secure, calm and confident.
I just turned 29 in January and relate sO much. Even down to the slight agoraphobia and not having a drivers license due to similar anxieties ( I STILL don't have it but Im trying to push myself, especially since I moved from Midtown to Placerville (city to the hills) and its left me so stuck. It finally dawned on me how I hurt myself this way) People literally think Im 19, and even though I should feel good about that, sometimes theres a small tinge of shame when I correct them haha. I lost my Dad in 2013, my mom is horribly chronically ill. Oddly these things have lessened the sting of death in one way, but heightened it in another. I could go on for hours about this, but just wanted to share in solidarity! Its true...it really is up to us and when Im honest with myself, I love growing older and learning and changing and seeing. Try to just spend more time/be more present in my own life & with the people I love. Especially my grandparents, and they remind me a lot how young/great your 30s are. We've got this lol
sarah, I have been watching you for a few years now and every time you talk about your age, it really really encourages me. although I am 10 years younger than you, I have already started experiencing similar fears. accepting where I’ve been, where I’m at now, and maintaining a /healthy/ amount of motivation is hard but... as it happens, I can totally feel it. and it feels good. thank you for being so transparent x
I totally understand you when you say you thought you'd be dead by 30, I never thought I'd live past 25. Always thought it was just some sort of nihilism. It's hard to move towards 30 thinking that I havent planned my life past two years ago 😥 oh shit the TH-cam comments turning into free therapy
It only gets better after 30! Everything you told sounds so relatable for my 29 year old self that I was 3 years ago. Now I'm happy I'm not young anymore. I'm now at peace with everything.
Since I turned 26 I feel my emotions...amplified. My childhood memories come to me so vividly. Especially the negatives ones. I don't feel my age, I kinda feel 24 lol(this july I will turn 28). Ps: Happy Birthday!!
Il be 40 on Monday and it’s scaring me so much that I’ve had thoughts of ending things just so people will think of me how I am.when I think about myself at the age of 60 ,I can’t even picture in my head of me that age.ive always had a problem with things changing,I’ve always had the notion that things have to look perfect,even then,it’s still not enough because it’s not going to stay the same,so stressful.your not alone in this.
Happy Birthday!! I just turned 32 and I remember being 29 and feeling full of dread. I thought when I turned 30 I would absolutely flip out. I didn’t though, don’t worry it isn’t as bad as it seems. You actually stop giving a fuck a little less every year after.
Same. I'm 36 and I feel so liberated now that I've figured out that I really don't care what other people think. I'm living my life for me and no one else. I've got hobbies, friends, traveling and making memories. Is it perfect? No, but I'm happy and that's all that matters.
Being young and beautiful was a huge part of my identity but as I’m approaching my late 20s, I feel like I’m losing myself. I never thought I would live this long. I thought I was die before 25 and I spent my 20s dealing with trauma and mental illness. Somehow it felt like I would never age. I can’t imagine myself as an old woman. How can I when I’ve never been old? It’s so unfair. You’re forced to become something else. I don’t know how I’m going to cope with this. People are so much nicer when you’re young. I feel like the world will become cold and harsh as you age
I also have a fear of aging, but it's the opposite of yours. Because I feel like I'm not suppose to be alive. Like I was suppose to commit sucidide at 16 (I'm 21) so I feel like I'm not suppose to be alive. So seeing my former classmates get married and have kids scares me and makes me uncomfortable because it feels wrong. Every birthday I have feels wrong, and every adult thing that I'm doing or suppose to do feels wrong. Anyways thanks for sharing. I appreciate it.
I’m 19 and all this really hits home. I think that part of it may be that despite being late bloomers, a lot of us are more mentally similar to someone in their 40s/50s than other people our age. I’ve noticed that many people who’ve had anxiety for a very long time are wise beyond their years due to the fact that we’re constantly overthinking everything, and we obsess over issues that many don’t contemplate until they’re older. Not trying to glamorize anxiety or anything, but based on myself & people I know this definitely rings true.
I feel this way currently as I will be turning 29 in July. By that time I will have three children, I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and a lot of people say I have it all. My mother once told me after I had my first child, I was wasting my intelligence and it made me feel really crappy about myself and it plays in my mind a lot when I have tough days at home as a stay at home mom. I don’t regret my children but there is a damned if you do and damned if you don’t mentality for women that if you want more, you’re ungrateful but if you have more like a job or if you choose to go back to school, you’re not doing enough for your family. As a person who cares so deeply for others, I am constantly pulled in a million directions while also feeling like self care is important. Also, the other emotions trigger each other so it’s difficult to sort through. When I tell people why or why not and try to talk about things they act like I’m a crappy person just because I would love to have it all and I believe everyone can. I feel how you feel about your 20s feeling wasted or things like that. I can’t call my 20s wasted but I didn’t do a lot of the things some people in their 20s and I have done. Watching this video is really helpful to me even if our lives are so different. Thank you so much, Sarah and thank you for sharing. I’ve been watching you for so long and realizing we are basically the same age is really exciting for me.
I dreaded becoming 30, too. Then I had my son and now I can't wait to be 45 when he is an adult and I have time for myself again xD PS: Love him more than anything needless to say.
Happy birthday! I'm 23 now and I've started having this fear recently and gosh it felt like you were taking the thoughts from my mind. The whole video I kept saying "same here". The worst fear is losing my parents and grandparents. I lost one of my grandmas in November of last year and I deal very badly with loss. I would love to live up to a 100 too.
I have all these same fears too. Especially the one about my family members dying. And everytime I drive I think about how today could be the day I die. For some reason I always imagined I'd die young too. Also, I remember you making a video about your phobias and you mentioned driving and how you got your license later than most people and that you were a late bloomer and how it's okay to be one. And since that video, whenever I freak out over getting older or not yet experiencing all these things people my age have, I feel a lot better knowing that I'm not the only person that feels like a late bloomer.
I think the fear of not enjoying life enough comes from overexposure to celebrities and rich people's lifestyles (and also heavily curated social media) that are unattainable for most of us. I'm turning 24 in a couple of months and if I stop and think about my age I definitely can get a bit panicky, especially when I think about my future in terms of a job, finances and living an independent life. A worry for me is also finding someone I can live with and share my life with. Seeing my parents age and experience health issues has definitely impacted my thoughts on aging, I've started exercising and I'm trying to live a healthier life. Love your honestly and definitely appreciate it!
I just want to let you know that you are strong enough because, as you said, when the time comes you won’t have a choice and will find that strength. I’m 23 and a fellow anxious person. I was just diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. Getting diagnosed was a 2 year long battle that stole my life from me. I’m only now undergoing the first parts of treatment. Accidents or illness can strike at anytime. This experience has completely changed my worldview. There’s that Arabic proverb, “The healthy wear a crown that only the sick can see.” I’ve never felt that more. Illness has made me appreciate what I used to be so anxious about all the time. It’s so odd.
Happy birthday!!! I relate soooo much... I'm going to be 21 this year and feel like death is knocking on my door. I never manage to keep the thoughts away if I start thinking about, but I cometimes concur the fear and stand above it... And that's when I do new things and live in the now. Having plans for the future are great, they are the big goals, but what matter is the way there. And the way there is NOW! 😊
I turned 30 in September last year. I was so nervous about it. But god damn... I fucking love being in my 30s. It's the weirdest thing but I feel reflective, optimistic, wise and just way more chill. Old enough to be taken seriously but young enough to be excited and relevant. I am loving it. You will too!
I’m about to turn 18 and it stresses me out so much! I feel like I’ve wasted my teenage years due to eating disorders and social anxiety and now I can’t get them back😭 also becoming an adult is a huge pressure and it scares the fuck out of me because I don’t feel ready at all. All my friends want everything to go faster but I just want life to stop😣
While I do not share your fear and am quite content with getting older, I appreciate this video so much. I feel like we don’t talk about this enough and if I’m honest i truly think my 50s will be my best decade. I’ll have all the stability, will probably own a house, will have a good job, probably a long term relationship, that’s all I could ever want.
I never worry about old age until I reached my 50s. I try meditation and prayer and it helps tremendously . Most humans worry about death. People don’t like to admit. It’s sort of a taboo
Hi hello I’m one of your viewers that’s been here for years, and has grown with you. I remember one time years ago I commented “when I grow up I want to be like Sarah” on one of your vids, and suddenly here I am grown and it’s scary ! But comforting to hear your take on it, because I can relate.
this is so raw and very real for me. I feel the same sentiments about aging and dying. Thank you for being so candid with us! We're all going through this weird thing called life together, and there's no right or wrong way to go through it.
As someone who has lost far too many loved ones at a young age. I see ageing as a privilege and if looking old is all I have to worry about I'm ok with that
I haven’t even finished this vid yet but tbh thank you so much for making it. I’ve been feeling crazy stressing the fuck out over turning 25 so it makes me so happy and inspired to see you talk about this stuff and be so real. ily 🧡
First of all, happy birthday Sarah! I hope you have an amazing day! I relate to every single point you brought up in this video to an almost scary level. Being the same age as you (I only turn 29 by the end of the year, but I'm also a 1990's baby) and having a similar temperament and outlook on life as you, I could really feel everything you said here and I got emotional when you got to the last subject about fearing the death of people around you. It's just devastating to think about the "rocks" in your life becoming older and not being there by your side your entire life. I also have a senior pet and the thought of inevitably losing her one day is overwhelming. But I wanted to leave you with a positive thought that I've personally found a lot of comfort in during recent times: we're on this journey together. I think there's so much beauty to be found in so many different people from so many different places and with unique experiences coming together to share the same anxieties, the same fears and weaknesses. And in a way you're in a very positive and unique position because you have this platform to directly reach out to those people and have them reach out to you in return to promote this on-going exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas in a way that ultimately translates into nurture, care and the reassurance that we're definitely not alone. I think the best mentality to have is to try to be as present as possible -- really live in the now as much as possible -- and to try to create a lot of happy memories while we still have the health and the energy to make them. All of that while still respecting our own rhythm and our own temperament. No one should feel pressured to live every day like it was the last day if you simply just need to rest and be lazy for an entire day (or days) for your mental health's sake. It's definitely a balancing game, but I know we're going to get through this just fine because, again, we're doing it together! :) lots of love to you x
I’m terrified of aging for vanity reasons. Death doesn’t scare me at all. It sucks
Same
OMG. Death doesn't scare me either, I'm just afraid of my health declining. I work with old people and stuff goes bad.
I Will wait 2 years before suicide, on the hope Science find a way to keep me young before i kill myself
same here
florzinha estudiosa Please don’t hurt yourself. Even if this is a joke ( I can never tell when people are joking ) but if you are being serious please don’t hurt yourself. I’m afraid of growing old to but don’t do anything at would purposely cause yourself harm.
My fear of aging is due to goals and achievements because I feel that in my age i should have done more already (in my early 20's)
@Anni Anxiety 23 :)
I feel like u do altough I’m 16 lol
Same. I'm 23 too and I honestly thought that I would be so much more successful by this age. But girl, we both have so many years in front of us to achieve that! We just have to push harder and work towards our goals EVERY DAMN DAY. 💪
same! i'm 20 and seeing so many other teenagers a lot younger than me makes me so anxious like what am i doing wrong? why am i not having the time of my life?
Wow I feel the same way and I'm 21 and a male I want to be a model I'm literally stuck in a loop I'm also in college to but I'm so eager to become successful and acheive at a early age so fast it drives me crazy huh literally.
I'm only 19 but I kinda can relate to some points. I have the feeling that I've lost many years of my youth to my depression which makes me really sad
Omg this is exactly how I feel, and I just turned 21. I literally feel as though I'm stuck in my youth and that my life is basically over
I've Lost my Teenage to my OCD And Depression And Now Im 20 💔 I Thought I'm Alone In this World With This Fate But Seeing Others With Same Situation Is Weird 💔
I try to look at my depression period as a inevitable part of my life - I had go through it because of some "dark" parts of me that were hidden and then shown up. For, me, going through this tough time made me who I am now, and so I accept it fully. Maybe looking from this perspective will help you :)))
At 22, I agree... like the world still sees us as young and youthful, but then again, I feel as if I was just 16... wow... it's just insane.... eventually, it all has to come to an end....
Jesus christ most of you guys here are around early 20s. You haven't even peaked yet.
Physicality doesn't peak until around 26-33. Go fall on the concrete right now and try doing that at 40, you're going to miss it.
I think the reason that your 20’s are seen are the golden time is because most people have kids by 30 and feel like they can’t do the things they want to do, so the pressure gets put on other people in their 20’s. You have a lot of years left to do every little thing that you want to do. Everyone’s timeline is different.
true. i am experiencing this the other way around, i got my first child not long ago, some people (the depressed kinds) tried to tell me and stress so much how 'different' and fucked my life is going to be and so on... umm of course its going to be 'different' but i never felt happier!!!! it all depends on how you see the world
Stop procreating please
@JIM DIM you are so scared of being alone that you are projecting hard. Get a grip and stop worrying about looks and options. If it has nothing to do with you, why do you care?
I see so many 50-year-old women and even older living their best lives and looking good. They give me inspiration. Remember to do your facial yoga and exercise + healthy diet.
Yoga? Healthy diet?? Nope im gonna live my life to the fullest while I'm still young.
Daniel Saldívar for some people yoga is living life to the fullest, why are you being so salty??
I dont think face yoga work and it can make lines
For the face i recommend bukkake
A bit contradictory statement
Jenna Marbles is a big role model for me when it comes to reaching your 30s, I love her attitude
Kyra?? ???? She’s my age, and that makes me feel less geriatric 😅
Jenna Marbles is a role model for everyone ❤️ freaking love her
I used to worry about getting old but when I hit the 3-0 I started embracing being an old lady.
Gotta love Jenna! She made it fun for me to say I’m a 30 year old lady 😝
This comment didnt age too well
One time a teenager called me sir. Felt like being stabbed in the heart with a dagger.
I got called ma'am by a guy the same age as me when I was like 21 .... I didn't know how to feel lol
Ikr
I get called ma’am all the time and I’m 21 and a lot of people think I’m a teenager.
i’m a teenager and i honestly say that to all people that seem over 21 just to be polite there’s not much thought behind it
Hahah!
cant even watch the video cause i know it will trigger a panic attack but just stopped by the comments to say: SAME.
SAME
SAAAAAME
SAAAAME omg
SAME
Same
Hi! I’m 31 and just wanted to say, from my own experience, that not long after turning 30 is when I realised how NOT old I still was and became more comfortable with my own pace of life. I feel like you will definitely hit a sweet spot soon where a lot of things come in to place and becoming older just isn’t something you even think about anymore (again, from my own experience). Also, Happy Birthday!
yes, 30 was a traumatic birthday but honestly about a month after that, it got a lot easier & i can wholeheartedly say that my 30s are already so much better than my 20s were!
I would suck every last ounce of your life energy just to extend my own life by one year.
ive already wasted 20 years and i will probably waste the rest
Ouch I'm 19 and that hit home
Lol, you guys are pathetic.
@@99sparks93 You don't even know the circumstances, yet you're so quick to judge and draw a conclusion based off of a comment, that in itself is what's pretty pathetic.
@@veronica- I apologize for being too impulsive with my comment.
Westbound 14 takes one to know one ig lol
29 year old here, with only another 1 and a half months left of it. Thank you for this video. One thing I'm noticing more and more as I age, is that I feel like those around me are getting younger and younger... it weirds me out a little. Like 20 year old people born in 1999 and I remember what the year 1999 was like, you know?
Edit: Also. Seriously. You're like my twin. Dental phobias, driving phobias, thinking about aging, boyfriend younger than you, being a late bloomer, not having a passport yet... Dude, you're scaring me lol.
I'm 29 as well and relate to ALL of these things.
-Everyday I'm more and more aware of my skin changing.
-I worry about falling behind with what's hip and becoming irrelevant lmao.
-I'm also paranoid of driving (I still do though, but avoid freeways after being in a 5 car pile up years ago 😥).
-I have no passport - haven't gotten to travel much in general in the US.
-And my boyfriend/fiance is 5 years younger than me as well lol.
Another twin! Nice to meet you. :D
@@WaveOfEmocean me too girl . I stay away from freeways too . Ive been in accidents with other people driving not me . So Im scared to drive very far distances or freeway.
I was born in 1999, turned 20 a month ago and I've never felt so old in my life lol I still need to get used to it
@@louisahauth10061999 babiesssss but I feel I turned 20 in february! couldn't get over not being a teenager anymore....
My career didn't really start till I was thirty. I graduated from university, and now, three years later, I can hands down say my thirties are far better than my twenties. Increased emotional stability. Better insight. Even less fucks given. I wasted my twenties on my emotions and bad decisions. So thirty has been waayyyyy better and the mistakes of my twenties, have molded my successes.
I work as an ER RN, and I face death most days at work. Going into nursing has forced me to face death and my anxieties with aging. Our society is so afraid of death and aging. We like to push it under a rug. But it's part of a cycle that adds beauty and significance to the life we have. Life wouldn't matter if we lived forever. We wouldn't cherish it. There would be nothing beautiful about it. Life would be redundant. When my Dad died last year, Alan Watts helped a lot with my thoughts on death. I see someone else has also suggested it. Give him a listen. His philosophies are comforting. (However, I do get botox in my forehead because my wtf face as a nurse would be way too deep otherwise).
Absolutely love what you have written here Aimee! & I am glad you have found something to comfort you since the passing of your dad, it's so important to find something to soothe us through the process. What you say reminds me of the Anne Rice Vampire series - the underlying theme in them is the fact that life is so beautiful and precious because it is finite =]
Beautiful, really helped me just reading your comment. Thank you for posting it
Sorry for your loss.
I turned 50 today. Girl 29 is a baby. I like my life and myself more now than at 29. There's so many insecurities when you're young.
It's true. I'm 42 but man... the self loathing and doubt in my 20s... and to think so many other young people feel the same. Man it's heartbreaking.
Really great to hear this because I feel the same as Sarah..
I’m the opposite 😢 I had confidence in my 20’s and 30’s . Now I’m 47 and entering menopause I’m terrified and filled with self loathing 😢
@@Weeflowerofscotland Hey i am a 14 year old girl who’s scared to die and ive always wanted to ask someone who was older than me a few questions. Are you afraid of dying? Was it scary to age physically (wrinkles etc)? Are you okay with the fact you’re dying? I’m know im young but I always think about this.
Thank you
I'm 24 and I feel like time is going by too fast. Like, I was 18 just yesterday and now I'm 24 and a "real" adult...LOL It's scary.
I still remember being 1st grade and now Im in high school :(
@@radwooah enjoy, times flies so fast once you enter high school... i havent see time passed 😭
I'm 32, so you're still a baby to me.
It’s just the beginning, brace yourself
meidraw I’m turning 19 this August and I’m freaking out. It’s to the point I get panic attacks. I swear I was just 14 yesterday. Where did all those years go? Almost 19 and still feel like a 14 year old.
I can totally relate! I remember being about 8 or 9 and bawling my eyes out because I was panicking about dying and not existing anymore. It still gives me anxiety but I try not to think about it
sweet creatures that’s exactly how I am right now ... I’ve always been pretty introverted and I think to myself a lot. The last few weeks it got so much worse.. I’ve been crying every night because I’m so afraid of growing up, and I’m so scared of not existing. It doesn’t help that I just turned 13, and I don’t feel like a little kid anymore. My mom had this same anxiety when she was my age but she just tells me to ignore it. I can’t.
Honestly, idk what to do. It was bad when I was 10-11 and had no friends. I have good friends now, so there should be no reason for me to be so scared, but everything is just freaking me out. I can’t stop looking at my parents and my sister and thinking, “someday we’re all going to be dead.” and i can’t stop crying. I’m not suicidal, I’m just scared and I can’t deal with everything. I’m scared to die and I’m scared to live with my stupid fricking anxiety.
Is there any help for me? I’m totally lost. Will a therapist help? Should I just ignore my anxiety or should I think about it and get over it? Right now I’m trying to think abt dying and trying to accept it, but that just makes things worse. :(
sweet creatures this is my EXACT reasoning. I don’t believe in an afterlife and the thought of just simply not existing scares me. But living forever brings me the same type of fear, I find that ironic tbh. Uncertain of who I am, who I want to be, and who I wanna be with.
sweet creatures totally agree! I read something where your fear of death is often linked to something else.... but tbh I don’t really know what that is. The idea of growing up/old terrifies me... losing all those I love... non-existing... It’s just weird bc I’ve never thought of dying at all even when death was so normalized bc of all the video games I’ve played lol. Until one day it just hit me and it never left my mind some days I’m busy enough that dying is only a thought... but some days when I’m stuck at home it’s like I’m trapped in my own thoughts and they just consume me. When I hangout with my friends, I laugh and everything’s alright and then the thought just hits me that this will end... everything will end. I just don’t understand why I have this fear. Everything just seemed so much more simple back then.
sweet creatures ughhh why can’t I just live life. This is probably the most frustrated I’ve been in myself. Incapable to overcoming this makes me feel idk... I’m 18 do you mind if I ask your age?
I'm 21 and I'm scared. After 17 everything started to fly. It seems impossible to catch up with life.
I can relate to this. Time is passing by so fast. It’s so sad and scary
I’d suggest doing the things you want to do or have been postponing. Daily mediation and gratitude will do wonders. It’s not the external things that make us feel how we feel but how we deal with them and our feeling towards it. Stoicism might help you understand this. Good luck 🍀
Grow up 😅😅
I feel you.
18 and I feel the same
I'm turning 30 in a few months and I can't sleep at night. The fear is overwhelming me. It feels like time is going too fast, I can't believe I was 20 years old 10 years ago. It passed by in a blur so fast. I'm scared the next ten years will go by fast too and one day I wake up and I'm 40 but feeling wise it feels like it passed by too fast. I want to stop feeling this way but I don't know what to do. It's really emotionally drained me and even depressing.
Wait till you get to 40.
this is exactly how i feel rn i'm only 19 but i feel like time is going by too quick i can't even look at my parents the same it's super draining in depressing 🫤
this is...this truly couldnt have been posted at a better time. wow. ive struggled with severe agoraphobia for almost 3 years now and i recently started a new therapy and ive been pushing myself to my limits and past my limits. my agoraphobia also stems from my fear of death (as well as my emetophobia but thats neither here nor there..) and i recently heard news about a friend's friend that passed away from a heart attack and she was only 19. since i heard that almost a week ago, it feels like all of my recovery and everything ive overcome was just thrown out the window. i havent left my house since that day and i truly feel so alone and like im back at square one. thank you for posting this. it made me feel a lot less alone and a lot less crazy. thank you for talking about this. really. it means a lot.
jovie emily wow I’m sorry you’re going through all that. I am curious though (and I hope you don’t take offense to this!) but why would hearing about someone dying from a heart attack make you not want to leave the house? If you’re going to have a heart attack you would have it regardless of whether or not you’re at home. It would probably be worse at home actually (if you live alone) because there wouldn’t be people around to help.
ccap3211 thats a fair question, haha! i honestly couldnt tell you..i think it's less about the actual heart attack and more about the "wow, i really COULD die this young" that gets to me. and when my anxiety is really high, my agoraphobia just skyrockets; if that makes sense?
jovie emily yeah I get what you’re saying. That’s no way to live. That must be really hard. I hope you stick with therapy and things get better for you and that you recover from this. ❤️
ccap3211 thank you, wow! youre very very kind 🖤
@@strawbemmy Omg same. I am constantly thinking about aging and death. Should I start a therapy too. Did it help you?
Yes. My biggest fear is my mom. I was handling retirement paperwork at work. And I'm only 33 and just doing that made me have a break down. I can't take that thought. Especially after losing my dad I became more paranoid about losing my mom.
Ur beautiful!
Girl I feel you. Its scary. I lost my dad a long time ago and still miss him.
Hey I’m 32!! My 20’s were definitely hectic. My 30’s have definitely been wonderful! I feel confident, more in tune with my emotions and have even been more present with important people in my life like family.
Hello from Houston, TX!
I’m in Houston too. Stay safe with the plume!
I feel you! I'm 31, I don't feel that "old". Also people always think I'm in my early 20's and I HATE telling my age.
JOYxELECTRIC same! I’ll be 31 in July and people at work always tell me that I look like I’m 20ish and then acting so shocked when I tell them how old I am, like 30 is SO old. Most of them in their early 20s tho, so I kinda get it, but it’s getting annoying.
Be proud of your age. ESPECIALLY if you look younger than you are. I'm 44 and still get clocked as early 30s. I'd rather be an amazing higher number than "oh ok, you look that".
@@chaoticlana Same.
I'm in my early 20s now and I want someone to mistaken me as being in my early 20s so I can tell them "Nope, I'm 46".
I'm 26 and work in retail. I went from people simple saying " excuse me" to " excuse me ma'am" in what felt like overnight. It's a gut puch everytime.
I’ve been watching you religiously since you first started TH-cam, and this video hit the closest to home than any other video I’ve ever seen of yours.
I have an extreme fear of aging as well. So much so that a month after my 30th birthday, I got Botox for the first time. I ended up having a severe reaction and have been suffering from the neurological impacts of the toxin for the past month. I’m unable to work right now (I’ve worked every week since I was 15) and I just had to sign up for short term disability. Doctors can’t tell me how long it will take me to recover, but their best guess is anywhere from 3 months to 2 years.
Although this has been the hardest month of my life, this experience has dramatically changed the way I think about aging. I risked my health to try to halt the aging process and it backfired on me. It’s forced me to think long and hard, and has given me a completely different view and appreciation for the aging process. It’s been so scary and so hard, but I truly think that in the long run it will end up being a blessing that shapes who I am.
Thanks for this video - you’re a beautiful, healthy, talented, strong 29 year old woman and I can’t wait to continue this weird journey through life watching your content!
I can relate to this so well! In order to get rid of my Menstruation I started to take the birth control pill .... I always had some sort of a fear being a female human. I hate the though of pregnancy, I hate being in this cycle, I hate that a womans value is almost always connected to her looks by society and so on. I wanted to get at least rid of this annoying cycle which remembered me every month which kind of body I have.
Worst decision ever.... it gave me chronic migraines. Even after stop taking it .... it lasted almost 2 years! 2 full years of my precious 20s wasted to pain just because a freaking birth control pill! Even tho I only took it for a view months. I almost could not finish college because of it. I was in hospital, no meds could help me I went trough hell. Only staying alive for my family and boyfriend and the little hope of maybe it still.can get better. I had hard times befor but this beat everything.
It finally starts getting better now ... But also a perfect example how you do something out of fear (of aging or of female body functions) and end up making it worse. I definitely value my life more now. Every day where I feel good in my body and can get up is a precious day. If I would have knew that before ... I would have Never complaint about my period ever again. Oh how nice those 2 years could have been if I wouldn’t have decided to take the pill.
Still I feel like I only dealt with my health my early 20 and now get scared because I only have 5 more years left till I am 30.
It’s a Long time but time flyes... I feel like I am 19 when in face I turn 25 in 3 weeks.
One good thing tho ... I hear more and more Woman in their 30s saying that their 30s are much better then their 20s and if the could go back they wouldn’t. This gives me hope.
Also I Hope you could recover!!
love how real this is, even at 21 these are things that i think about but it is comforting to know that we're not alone in these feelings!! being human is WEIRD
Happy birthday! I'm gonna be 44 this year and honestly, I feel like aging gets easier. I stopped caring so much about the beauty standards and I simply embraced the process and I'm creating my own aesthetics. And my body is honestly stronger than what it used to be when I was in my thirties. So hopefully you can work this out and be more relaxed in future. But I understand. Went through a similar thought process. It's absolutely understandable, given the unhealthy beauty standards being set by the beauty industry. I genuinely wish you reach your goal, live to 100 😍💖
Wolf Moon you look great though!
@@diedin1qq2 aww, thanks 🙏
JUST SUBSCRIBED ...because of this comment of urs ...u seriously look damn good ...
Looks don't last forever and we don't take them with us.The body will
rot. Looks have a very short shelf life , the soul is forever ! Take
care of THAT.
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"For the things we see are temporary, but the things we do not see are eternal." (Bible)
Amen
I totally get you, I turned 23 this year and even that felt scary to me - I feel like I'm nearly in my mid-twenties and like you say, time flies the older you get. I worry I'm not using my 'prime years' to their full extent and I'll have regrets when I'm old (if I'm lucky enough to reach old age). I suppose the best thing we can do is try to live in the moment and take each moment as it comes - mindfulness is really helpful for me personally.
Happy birthday, by the way :)
I'm 17 and I'm scared of my teen years ending, due to illness I have not been in eduction for 2 years. The thought of being 2 years behind peers and the people in my academic year scares me. Most people I know say "your so young don't be scared" however I feel like people don't understand. I've missed out on 3 and half years of my teenage years due to illness and not had the typical experience. I go to therapy for anxiety and other things but I understand where you're coming from. Much love and happy birthday 💕
same!! I'm eighteen this year, and I missed out on so much school, dropped out when I was 14, but trust me - you will be okay. the conventional education path doesn't work for everybody!! school will always be there for you to use to your advantage, but mental health won't. mental health is a priority x
I'm also 17 and 2 years behind for the same reason, and yep, the difference between me and my classmates now is huge, but I starting to be ok with it. You got this 💖💕
So feeling all of this right now. I'm turning 27 in a few weeks and my anxiety has been so bad leading up to it because I am also a late bloomer and still not living on my own yet, but hopefully soon. I'm just extremely self-conscious about my age and not being where society says I should be at this point.
I don't relate to your fears at all, but I respect and admire your willingness to put them into words on camera. Everyone has their struggles to face, running away from them has never helped anyone.
I'm almost 35 and have never felt my age. When I was younger, I felt more mature than my friends and after I hit 21 I feel like I got stuck at 16 mentally. I have very similar fears of you and I spend a lot of time at home as well. I honestly don't know how I moved from Florida to The Bay Area at 21. I'm not married but have been in a relationship for 12 years and have no plan for children. My cats are my babies. I also just got my official autism diagnosis which has me looking forward to my mid 30s now that I have the proper help. As for losing people, it's very hard but we have to push through it. I've lost 2 of my best friends, one in 2005 and the other in 2016 as well as close family members. I'm terrified of losing anyone from my immediate family. Sorry for the ramble, I just totally relate. Thanks for being so open about this topic.
Same here. I'm 26, people say I'm 18-20 and I feel like I am in fact 19 years old. All my close friends turned into married (or almost) no life couch potato mentally grumpy tired people. I think I need to do some segregation in my life. They constantly bring down my emotions and worry me.
I used to feel that way until actually getting old. Life is SO much better now without worrying about aging.
My mind set is very positive now. Only bad aspect is my health getting worse no matter what I do & difficulties become harder to bounce back from.
I have NO desire to live to a very old age but then again never had it.
So nice feeling at peace these days.
I am 70.😱
I am 28 but I love wearing clothes that teenager wear nowadays, I love new music like Lil Peep and stuff, I have no stable job, I smoke pot, I live with my parents because I find it comfortable, I don't want to have children and marry and I am all okay with that. The hardest part of all is the pressure from the society and parents. They expect you to be like them. Never give them away your power. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. They want you to fit in, be like everyone else. And you are not like everyone else. You are unique and fuck them all.
So true .... in the end it’s the Society. Like who says you can’t wear certain things just because you’re not a teen anymore. Why do you have to become boring. The age thing on society just feels dehumanising to me.
Dear my parents are forcing me to get married . As an asexual 😭 I can't marry bt I'm an Indian . In India LGBTQA is taboo. I don't want children coz this world sucks a lot of unfair stuffs like inequality , global warming, genetic diseases most importantly I don't like people in general . What to do . 😭
I was freaking out at 29, I didn't want to be in my 30's. I am 33 now and let me tell you, I am better now that I ever was in my 20's,I am more confident and a lot of my insecurities have gone away. I would never go back. I know it's easier said that done but embrace it. You will see how many things change for the better, your mindset just shifts and you will be amazed at yourself. Welcome to the best decade of your life!
i relate to this so much. i'm 23, i know i need to chill out, but i am always worried when i travel long distances, or when my friends go on trips and am scared shitless of losing my parents and my cats.
Hello Sarah. First off: happy birthday! Then: being a 33yo unmarried (but living with my man) childless freelancer working from home woman, I think that I have some similar experiences as you. I don't have death anxiety, so I don't have anything to say about that. The thing is that we put so much attention in our twenties and try to hit some milestones and it is really toxic. I had terrible twenties (I lived 10 years with an ED) and when I turned 30 something clicked in my brain and it entered in the "I'm too old for bothering" mindset, and that was so liberating. As far as I've learned so far, yes, you only have one life, and you have the right to live it for yourself and not for other's expectations and standards. Being 30 or 40 doesn't mean anything, it's always the same person with more stories to tell.
TRIGGER WARNING ABOUT LOSING LOVED ONES: unfortunately that is tough. There's nothing to say about that. I lost my grandparents in my twenties and some of my friends too, and I saw many of my friends lose a parent and that's heartbreaking, but you'll learn to deal with that somehow, it's part of life. We still have our memories of them.
I just had a mental breakdown too. I am so happy that you made this video! Im only 18 but I worry about EVERYTHING in life. My future, jobs/school, my relationship. Everything is unsure. I hope thats a normal thought of a 18 year old? Anyway, Happy birthday and we love you!
C h e r r y C h a n hello! I’m also 18 and i relate to everything you said! Sending you love
Guys just enjoy the moment. Imagine being older and realizing you were just worrying about stuff when you were young and beautiful. I wish you happiness, things will work out. Don't see set backs as something bad, you'll learn from them.
Happy birthday, Sarah! I'm 38, and I don't mind aging. I've always felt a connection with "the crone" archetype, so I'm cool with getting older. I try to take care of my health, I moisturize, but I know aging is inevitable, so I just embrace it, and go with the flow.
Growing old is a privilege, most people don't get that far.
I work as a Pharmacy Assistant and see people in their 90's and 100's all the time. Most still do all of their shopping and live independent lives. This is why i don't fear aging.
lol see I'm the complete opposite. Im an LTAC nurse and most of my patents are bedridden and on ventilators and it has made me fear aging a lot. Im always thinking this is what I have to look forward to being old. Of course I see the worst of the worst situations but yeah...
I guess it all comes down to perspective.
@@katierose1234 You just have to take care of yourself. If you exercise and eat healthy you are most likely going to live an independent life at 100. Our life span increases so rapidly, the medicine is so advanced that in the future we might live live to at least 150. Aging is also taken care of, even if we dont find a cure for it we will fir sure look and feel younger for a longer period
Everyone is different obviously, if you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to do that just because you see others do it
I'm also a pharmacist . Ur comment makes me happy 💞
Im going to throw my 2 cents in.... I just turned 50 a few months ago. My 20a were great and so were my 30s. When I turned 40 I thought it would really bother me but surprisingly it didn't at all. Now that I turned 50...im not going to lie to you... it bothered the hell out of me. Its the first time its really been on my mind. All I can say is live life to the fullest EVERY single day. Ive always exercised and lifted weights since I was about 14. I can honestly say that I feel no different physically at 50 than I did when I was 25. No aches no pains and can still lift as much now as I could back then. Stay active! Eat the right foods... stay away from fast foods and processed foods as much as you humanly can. Keep your mind active as well. Keep learning new things as it will keep your mind healthy and in shape. It really is just like any other muscle in your body. Use it or lose it! Hope that helps some of you.
Definitely helps! Thank you! I think what makes it a lil harder or at least different for woman is the looks. Like we always get told and hear we're most beautiful and value when we’re in our 20s and this just fucks with our head. Because it’s such a Short time Frame. Sometime it feels almost like getting made fun of for getting older as woman ... even tho it’s the most normal thing. There’s nothing that can prevent it. I still wanna be cute when I am 30 or 40 ... I am 25 soon and I just don’t know how I gonna feel when I look even more adult. In my head I am still 19 ... actually most ppl think I am Stil 19 by how I look.
But since aging can’t be prevented as at least I want to slow it down. I am also into weight lifting and definitely prefer healthy food. I wear sunscreen every day. And another important point ... I try to work on my inner self talk and mental hygiene. Improving myself as person. Being kind to myself and others. And keeping a child like curiosity for life. Keeping my own style fashion wise and being open for new things.
I hope that this vibrates out of me through life. A persons looks and age can completely change just by their inner self talk and believes.
Also I think nowadays is the best time to grow old .... today’s old ppl are much "younger" then 100 years ago.
@@MikanManderinchen Reeeally well expressed 👍🌷🌷🌷
Happy birthday!!! I know that this might sound kind of dark, but unfortunately accidents (not just car accidents, but also health problems) can happen at any age. In fact, it is so much harder to lose someone close to you when they are young and seemingly healthy (I sadly learned this through personal experience). And though that is scary, it actually makes me more grateful that I am still alive and have gotten to experience this much of life. I hope this comment isn't too depressing, seeing as it is your birthday, and I'm happy that you are starting to feel better about aging
I FEEL U. I've been dealing with a lot of emotional issues since I was a teenager and now I'm 24 and I feel like I wasted some of "the best years of my life" but now I'm just trying to be positive about my present, about this moment NOW. I think that helps. Focusing in the present because in fact, this moment is all we have now so let's try to do the best with it!
Happy birthday Sarah 💕 you’re definitely not alone! I’m only 22 and have spent a good amount of time being terrified of death. I wasted 5 years working on being accepted into my school’s funeral program and declined when I finally was. I can’t handle the idea of death like I thought I could. I know what you’re feeling. I have a lot of fear being in public as well. I have AVPD which makes living a normal life extremely difficult. I feel like I’ve missed out on so much. I live a mostly isolated life outside of my job, school, boyfriend, and family. It’s hard to push myself sometimes. Anyway, thanks for speaking about this, it’s made me feel less alone ❤️ I hope you have a wonderful birthday! 💕
What is AVPD?
Socrahontas avoidant personality disorder!
@@xVicari0usx ah I see. Thanks for clarifying :)
Socrahontas you’re welcome! :)
i relate with your commentary. i’m in my mid 20s and i feel as if time is flying by. and am i happy with the (hopefully) quarter of my life that i lives? did i waste my past?
it’s motivating and somehow also crippling to acknowledge those things. here with you, from a fellow sarah!
you look gorgeous in this video, by the way!
I’m only 20 and I’m already struggling with aging, I’m glad I’m not the only person having issues related to that!
Hello from Costa Rica, me I am turning 40 in June, lost both of my parents in a period of 2 years and learned that we humans are made to overcome it. I've watched you for almost 9 years and have enjoyed every single one of your videos. Have a very happy birthday brave girl!
You are stronger than you think you are honestly. I’m 26, experienced so much loss in my young life, not even just my young adult life. It’s not easy but there is always someone there, even if it’s just yourself (temporarily)
Hi! I'm a girl from Argentina and I never ever coment. I relate to you so much, I dont have a fear of aging but I feel the same about my
parents, specially my mom, its so emotional and really hard to think about it. I also did so so little in my 20's in terms of what is socially expected, but honestly I love my journey, I cherish it. I don't know if you are going to read this but I am 32 years old, and i promise you are going to love being 30. I feel stronger than ever in every way, so many things fall into place. Trust in the process, you are going to do amazing. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey Sarah, I cannot agree with you more about your fear of aging. When you were describing the rationale behind your fear "Did I waste my 20s..? " and the pressure that comes with wanting to squeeze every drop out of your 20s is exactly how I can feel as well. I am 27, turning 28 in July, and that fear is what really has driven me to come out of my shell a bit more. I have never heard anyone describe this "fear" in such a similar way to the way that I think abut age.. I don't know it just tripped me out I guess. Glad to know I am not alone! Thanks! :D
It's all relative, you'll feel that same cold wind blowing on your back at 39, 49, 59 etc. But you'll find as you get older your anxiety will chill, either because the worst does not happen or because you can't stay in that state of heightened fear. I'm speaking from an age that would freak you out but really, it's going to be ok. My only regret is all the years spent avoiding things due to anxiety, so that is definitely something to work on.
Thanks I needed to see this a lot of the comments in this comment section have been making me feel worse because they are so negative. I know there are bad things that come with aging but thats all they focus on the negative.
My god it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one that feels the same way about a lot of these things! I’m 24, 25 this year and I still get told I look 16-18! I’m also a late bloomer and lately I’ve had an epiphany of exactly what you’ve been feeling - totally been freaking me out in regards to pressure and time, especially after comparing myself to friends.
“So scared of getting older, I’m only good at being young”
"When I was young, I didn't know too much
I thought that I could rule the world
Then I grew up and found out life was hard
Harder than stone"
God give me back as a 9 year old i dont want to be 12 YEARS OLDDD
I am 47 and the last two years I have started to see the aging process with gray hairs popping up, my metabolism slowing down, crow’s feet, etc but I feel more confident and comfortable in my body and my knowledge/skills in my job and life in general. I no longer pick on every little “flaw” and feel good that my body allowed me to have a baby and my mind was strong enough to endure losing a parent which I have worried about since I was a little girl. When my father passed almost four years ago, i didn’t think I could live through it. It was the hardest thing I ever endured. It has taught to make the most of today and the time I have left with my mom. Aging gets easier the older you get. You will work through it. No sweat. Love your videos!
Happy birthday 😊 You look amazing!
I'm 37 and honestly my thirties has been sooooo much better than my twenties. Age is crazy. Sometimes I feel like I'm 25 and sometimes I can't even remember my age 😁 My body doesn't feel almost 40, I actually don't think I've ever been in a better shape, so it's definitely possible to keep feeling young. I dreaded turning 30. It felt like the end, but when the day came it was just like any other day. I've always felt and looked younger, not wanting to really grow up, and now I feel so much more confident and don't care as much about what other people think of me, and that's a huge relief. I wouldn't want to be 25 again, I like my age, youth is overrated in my opinion 😉 Thanks for being so genuine. You are an inspiration and totally rock being YOU.
Thank you thank you thank you .... you can’t imagine the positive impact posts like this have in ppl like me. I turn 25 soon and it’s just so much preassure as Society tells you it’s your Prime years especially if you happen to be female. So hearing this is just the most calming thing ever.
@@MikanManderinchen I'm soooo glad you think so 😊❤️🙏 Your comment really made my day! Yes, society puts all kinds of stupid pressure on us. I never followed the norms and didn't want to. We are all different and should live our life the way we want to 🙌 Actually I turned 40 two weeks ago - funny to see an old comment - and I feel better than ever. Our prime years are whenever we want them to be. We can dress, be and act anyway we pleases at any age. I wear pink tights and shorts all the time and I love it 🤩 Age really is just a number. Enjoy life, own who you are and just be your awesome self 😘❤️❤️❤️ You got this 😃
@@mariabogh Thank you! Actually your response made my day as well! 😭💜 I even screenshoted it to remember your words (I try to collect pictures, words, poems everything that has a good impact on my thinking haha 🙈)
I am so happy to hear that you still feeling great and I hope it’ll continue for decades to come. 😊 💜 Oh and happy belated birthday! 🥳 🎂
@@MikanManderinchen I'm so glad 😃❤️ I do that too. So important to collect uplifting stuff. Thank you very much 🙏 Wish you all the best 🌞🧡
Thank. You. For making this video. Seriously. I’m one of those OG’s you’re talking about, I feel like I’ve been watching you forever. You’re one of the first youtubers I ever watched and videos like this remind me why I’ll never stop watching as long as you keep posting!!
My biggest fear has ALWAYS been aging and death and I’m being confronted with it in a huge way lately. I’m not going to ramble on here forever, but I’m 19 turning 20 and I feel like I’m exactly where you are. The reality that I’m already 20 is hitting hard and life isn’t at all what I thought it would be. Plus I have no clue how I’m going to make the next however many years I get worth living. I’m terrified at the thought that I might not ever figure it out and I might waste the rest of my life like I have the beginning.
Thank you for this video! This is so real! I'm only 24, and yes that is YOUNG, but something in me feels so strange. I cant explain. It's like i see people with 18 and 19, and i feel like that is my age - for more than 6 years now. Time is going by so fast and I feel so not prepared for a "adult life" (even tho i finished college 2 years ago and i'm in the midle of my masters degree in international law - i live in Brazil and things here are different- working in a really nice office setting), i just dont feel mature how I should be. My friends live in different coutries or are married with childs (funny enought) or, in the other end, are "party people" all the way, thing that I AM NOT. It's just dont feel right. Happy to know I'm not the only one! Blame me it on my anxiety and overthinking EVERY SINGLE THINK IN MY LIFE. Yes my goal its to live looooong as well. Sorry for the english, it's not my first language.
Oh God I feel the same way!!! And sometimes I hate this because it feels like I'm living in the past those teenage years and see myself as immature but deep down I know I'm mature because of all the shit I had gone through and the lessons I've learned. I'm 25 soon 26 I just want to leave this country and start my adult life somewhere else...
"18 and 19, and i feel like that is my age - for more than 6 years now."
I relate with this so much! It's so weird to me how people 6 years younger than me are also grown ups!
Omg guys this is exactly my thought! I literally just told this my bf yesterday that for the past few year I still thought I am like 19 .. even tho I hit 25 in 3 days !! And now I am reading you’re all feeling the same.... I honestly don’t know how to deal with (hence why I found this video) I just wanna stop time and stay in my 24 body till I am 100.
Thank you, Sarah, for posting this video! I struggle with deep fear of aging and death too, so this vid was a bit triggering but surprisingly very therapeutic as well. What helps me a little bit with accepting the thought of mortality is thinking about how bad and terrifying it would be if we lived forever.
i'm about to turn 19 and feel 15 still, i can feel my childhood slipping away and i have the same feeling you talked about, that that section of my life is gone, except this is the first time i've had it. These thoughts have never crossed my mind till i reached 18, I know this is stupid to older people but I feel like it just gets worse from here.
I’m 15 and it feels like my childhood is gone :((
Because it does
20 y.o. Here
im 15, and im terrified of turning 16, it feels like my childhood years are gone
You touched upon almost all of the exact same points I have regarding fear of aging. I could not watch your video without crying. But at the same time, it somehow made me feel better and it's nice to realize I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Aging has scared me since my late teens. Now in my early 30s the terror is palpable. It's no longer a farfetched theoretical thought, but something I live. The thought of the gradual inevitable deterioration is maddening. I despise when people try to romanticize the process; it's completely disconnected from reality. I hope the cure for this scourge finally arrives soon enough before I end up offing myself.
I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. I can't tell you to get on board with the romanticization (which can be annoying), but hopefully you can find a way to take the edge off.
I loved this video because I'm 60+ years old! I felt just like this and cried when I turned 30 because I felt like it was a rapidly increasing road to death. I can honestly say every decade gets better and better. Age is just a number and I don't give it a second thought. We're all going to die. Enjoy every day. The older you get, the more you learn about yourself and learn to love yourself and realize the only opinion that matters is your own! Growing up is hard because you do have to deal with loss......but you are strong and can handle anything. I can honestly say, I'd never want to go back to my 30's...getting older has moments that suck but I'm probably happier than I've ever been so don't dread getting older, you'll probably feel the same way I do and have a blast by living your best life and to Hell with defining yourself by your age!😀
Offtopic but... That outfit and your hair are giving me Zelda Spellman vibes! Love it!
I can relate so much to the fear of losing my loved ones. I'm also worried about them grieving for me when I'm gone. I've been trying so hard to train my mind to think differently about death and make peace with it. Thank you for sharing Sarah, I feel so emotional watching this..
Oh, and, happy birthday!
I was so afraid of getting older. I was afraid of looking old, feeling old bc I’m already pretty creaky, and afraid of death. Now I welcome aging. I have absolutely no idea what changed but it changed in like a month and a half and it’s so refreshing. I don’t feel weight anymore and I don’t feel doomed. I’m so excited to be like, 50 years old now lol. I just turned 20!
Fellow 29 year old here. I've got about 6 months left until the big 3-0. I've never been able to discuss my feelings about dying and aging with anyone and this video has been a comfort to me. We're in this together! The mortality factor is huge for me. My father, who is 67, was in the ICU last month with multiple blood clots in his lungs and legs. He's stable and on medication now, but it makes his life seem so much for fragile to me. Seriously, thank you for talking about your fears. We all are aging one day at a time and it's nice to not be alone in this.
Im 29 and i wasnt worried about dying until now lol!! JK, im actually happier the older i get because i become more and more secure, calm and confident.
That's great :)
This video has really helped me thank you! I’m turning 27 soon and I’m scared shitless about ageing because of all the reasons you just mentioned! X
I just turned 29 in January and relate sO much. Even down to the slight agoraphobia and not having a drivers license due to similar anxieties ( I STILL don't have it but Im trying to push myself, especially since I moved from Midtown to Placerville (city to the hills) and its left me so stuck. It finally dawned on me how I hurt myself this way) People literally think Im 19, and even though I should feel good about that, sometimes theres a small tinge of shame when I correct them haha. I lost my Dad in 2013, my mom is horribly chronically ill. Oddly these things have lessened the sting of death in one way, but heightened it in another. I could go on for hours about this, but just wanted to share in solidarity! Its true...it really is up to us and when Im honest with myself, I love growing older and learning and changing and seeing. Try to just spend more time/be more present in my own life & with the people I love. Especially my grandparents, and they remind me a lot how young/great your 30s are. We've got this lol
sarah, I have been watching you for a few years now and every time you talk about your age, it really really encourages me. although I am 10 years younger than you, I have already started experiencing similar fears. accepting where I’ve been, where I’m at now, and maintaining a /healthy/ amount of motivation is hard but... as it happens, I can totally feel it. and it feels good. thank you for being so transparent x
I totally understand you when you say you thought you'd be dead by 30, I never thought I'd live past 25. Always thought it was just some sort of nihilism. It's hard to move towards 30 thinking that I havent planned my life past two years ago 😥 oh shit the TH-cam comments turning into free therapy
It only gets better after 30! Everything you told sounds so relatable for my 29 year old self that I was 3 years ago. Now I'm happy I'm not young anymore. I'm now at peace with everything.
Since I turned 26 I feel my emotions...amplified. My childhood memories come to me so vividly. Especially the negatives ones. I don't feel my age, I kinda feel 24 lol(this july I will turn 28). Ps: Happy Birthday!!
I turn 14 July 31st and I’m scared to be closer to 15 and that when I’m 15 I won’t be a kid anymore
Are u 30 now?
@@badanxiety6886 yes💫
@@m_a_r_a__ what it feels to be 30?
Il be 40 on Monday and it’s scaring me so much that I’ve had thoughts of ending things just so people will think of me how I am.when I think about myself at the age of 60 ,I can’t even picture in my head of me that age.ive always had a problem with things changing,I’ve always had the notion that things have to look perfect,even then,it’s still not enough because it’s not going to stay the same,so stressful.your not alone in this.
Happy Birthday!! I just turned 32 and I remember being 29 and feeling full of dread. I thought when I turned 30 I would absolutely flip out. I didn’t though, don’t worry it isn’t as bad as it seems. You actually stop giving a fuck a little less every year after.
Same. I'm 36 and I feel so liberated now that I've figured out that I really don't care what other people think. I'm living my life for me and no one else. I've got hobbies, friends, traveling and making memories. Is it perfect? No, but I'm happy and that's all that matters.
Being young and beautiful was a huge part of my identity but as I’m approaching my late 20s, I feel like I’m losing myself. I never thought I would live this long. I thought I was die before 25 and I spent my 20s dealing with trauma and mental illness. Somehow it felt like I would never age. I can’t imagine myself as an old woman. How can I when I’ve never been old? It’s so unfair. You’re forced to become something else. I don’t know how I’m going to cope with this. People are so much nicer when you’re young. I feel like the world will become cold and harsh as you age
I also have a fear of aging, but it's the opposite of yours. Because I feel like I'm not suppose to be alive. Like I was suppose to commit sucidide at 16 (I'm 21) so I feel like I'm not suppose to be alive. So seeing my former classmates get married and have kids scares me and makes me uncomfortable because it feels wrong. Every birthday I have feels wrong, and every adult thing that I'm doing or suppose to do feels wrong.
Anyways thanks for sharing. I appreciate it.
So much love to you ♥️
I’m 19 and all this really hits home. I think that part of it may be that despite being late bloomers, a lot of us are more mentally similar to someone in their 40s/50s than other people our age. I’ve noticed that many people who’ve had anxiety for a very long time are wise beyond their years due to the fact that we’re constantly overthinking everything, and we obsess over issues that many don’t contemplate until they’re older. Not trying to glamorize anxiety or anything, but based on myself & people I know this definitely rings true.
I feel this way currently as I will be turning 29 in July. By that time I will have three children, I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and a lot of people say I have it all. My mother once told me after I had my first child, I was wasting my intelligence and it made me feel really crappy about myself and it plays in my mind a lot when I have tough days at home as a stay at home mom. I don’t regret my children but there is a damned if you do and damned if you don’t mentality for women that if you want more, you’re ungrateful but if you have more like a job or if you choose to go back to school, you’re not doing enough for your family. As a person who cares so deeply for others, I am constantly pulled in a million directions while also feeling like self care is important. Also, the other emotions trigger each other so it’s difficult to sort through. When I tell people why or why not and try to talk about things they act like I’m a crappy person just because I would love to have it all and I believe everyone can. I feel how you feel about your 20s feeling wasted or things like that. I can’t call my 20s wasted but I didn’t do a lot of the things some people in their 20s and I have done. Watching this video is really helpful to me even if our lives are so different. Thank you so much, Sarah and thank you for sharing. I’ve been watching you for so long and realizing we are basically the same age is really exciting for me.
I saw the title AND FELT IT
I dreaded becoming 30, too. Then I had my son and now I can't wait to be 45 when he is an adult and I have time for myself again xD PS: Love him more than anything needless to say.
Happy birthday! I'm 23 now and I've started having this fear recently and gosh it felt like you were taking the thoughts from my mind. The whole video I kept saying "same here". The worst fear is losing my parents and grandparents. I lost one of my grandmas in November of last year and I deal very badly with loss. I would love to live up to a 100 too.
I have all these same fears too. Especially the one about my family members dying. And everytime I drive I think about how today could be the day I die. For some reason I always imagined I'd die young too. Also, I remember you making a video about your phobias and you mentioned driving and how you got your license later than most people and that you were a late bloomer and how it's okay to be one. And since that video, whenever I freak out over getting older or not yet experiencing all these things people my age have, I feel a lot better knowing that I'm not the only person that feels like a late bloomer.
I think the fear of not enjoying life enough comes from overexposure to celebrities and rich people's lifestyles (and also heavily curated social media) that are unattainable for most of us. I'm turning 24 in a couple of months and if I stop and think about my age I definitely can get a bit panicky, especially when I think about my future in terms of a job, finances and living an independent life. A worry for me is also finding someone I can live with and share my life with. Seeing my parents age and experience health issues has definitely impacted my thoughts on aging, I've started exercising and I'm trying to live a healthier life. Love your honestly and definitely appreciate it!
I feel you,
will be 29 in June and the stress is real. I don’t have the feeling of having accomplished anything career-wise before my 30
I just want to let you know that you are strong enough because, as you said, when the time comes you won’t have a choice and will find that strength.
I’m 23 and a fellow anxious person. I was just diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. Getting diagnosed was a 2 year long battle that stole my life from me. I’m only now undergoing the first parts of treatment. Accidents or illness can strike at anytime. This experience has completely changed my worldview.
There’s that Arabic proverb, “The healthy wear a crown that only the sick can see.” I’ve never felt that more. Illness has made me appreciate what I used to be so anxious about all the time. It’s so odd.
Happy birthday!!!
I relate soooo much... I'm going to be 21 this year and feel like death is knocking on my door. I never manage to keep the thoughts away if I start thinking about, but I cometimes concur the fear and stand above it... And that's when I do new things and live in the now. Having plans for the future are great, they are the big goals, but what matter is the way there. And the way there is NOW! 😊
You feel like death is knocking on your door at 21? Lol what?
@@ccap3211 Why is that so weird? 😅
Estera Babecka I mean 21 isn’t exactly old. 😂
Same.
I turned 30 in September last year. I was so nervous about it. But god damn... I fucking love being in my 30s. It's the weirdest thing but I feel reflective, optimistic, wise and just way more chill. Old enough to be taken seriously but young enough to be excited and relevant. I am loving it. You will too!
I’m about to turn 18 and it stresses me out so much! I feel like I’ve wasted my teenage years due to eating disorders and social anxiety and now I can’t get them back😭 also becoming an adult is a huge pressure and it scares the fuck out of me because I don’t feel ready at all. All my friends want everything to go faster but I just want life to stop😣
This is exactly how I feel right now. I'm about to turn 18. But what scares me the most is dying and things ending.
While I do not share your fear and am quite content with getting older, I appreciate this video so much. I feel like we don’t talk about this enough and if I’m honest i truly think my 50s will be my best decade. I’ll have all the stability, will probably own a house, will have a good job, probably a long term relationship, that’s all I could ever want.
Happy birthday. 💕💕💕 I hope it’s magical.
I’m not even a minute in and I already relate 😭
wow you understand exactly how i feel. especially the part about the fear of death
I never worry about old age until I reached my 50s. I try meditation and prayer and it helps tremendously . Most humans worry about death. People don’t like to admit. It’s sort of a taboo
Hi hello I’m one of your viewers that’s been here for years, and has grown with you. I remember one time years ago I commented “when I grow up I want to be like Sarah” on one of your vids, and suddenly here I am grown and it’s scary ! But comforting to hear your take on it, because I can relate.
I am so glad you made this video. I feel the exact same way as you do and it is a relieve to know that I am not the only one going through this ❤
this is so raw and very real for me. I feel the same sentiments about aging and dying. Thank you for being so candid with us! We're all going through this weird thing called life together, and there's no right or wrong way to go through it.
As someone who has lost far too many loved ones at a young age. I see ageing as a privilege and if looking old is all I have to worry about I'm ok with that
I haven’t even finished this vid yet but tbh thank you so much for making it. I’ve been feeling crazy stressing the fuck out over turning 25 so it makes me so happy and inspired to see you talk about this stuff and be so real. ily 🧡
My mom has a fear of aging as well and she's obsessed with skin care routines and stuff like that because she doesn't want to get old
First of all, happy birthday Sarah! I hope you have an amazing day!
I relate to every single point you brought up in this video to an almost scary level. Being the same age as you (I only turn 29 by the end of the year, but I'm also a 1990's baby) and having a similar temperament and outlook on life as you, I could really feel everything you said here and I got emotional when you got to the last subject about fearing the death of people around you. It's just devastating to think about the "rocks" in your life becoming older and not being there by your side your entire life. I also have a senior pet and the thought of inevitably losing her one day is overwhelming.
But I wanted to leave you with a positive thought that I've personally found a lot of comfort in during recent times: we're on this journey together. I think there's so much beauty to be found in so many different people from so many different places and with unique experiences coming together to share the same anxieties, the same fears and weaknesses. And in a way you're in a very positive and unique position because you have this platform to directly reach out to those people and have them reach out to you in return to promote this on-going exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas in a way that ultimately translates into nurture, care and the reassurance that we're definitely not alone.
I think the best mentality to have is to try to be as present as possible -- really live in the now as much as possible -- and to try to create a lot of happy memories while we still have the health and the energy to make them. All of that while still respecting our own rhythm and our own temperament. No one should feel pressured to live every day like it was the last day if you simply just need to rest and be lazy for an entire day (or days) for your mental health's sake. It's definitely a balancing game, but I know we're going to get through this just fine because, again, we're doing it together! :) lots of love to you x