Do you have fear of abandonment? Watch this video till the end to learn how fear of abandonment affects your life and ways to cope at the end of the video. As always, we encourage anyone who is struggling to always seek out for qualified mental health profession to support your journey.
It’s like you’re bracing your for the inevitable, knowing deep down that people in your life will come and go, even if you don’t want them to. Everyone is always on their way out, and you’re dreading the idea that you will soon be left navigating the void all alone.
at the end of the day… nobody really cares about you. they have their own lives to live, and I realized that nobody truly cares to look back. (I’m speaking for myself mostly and what I’ve realized from what I experience(d) ) Nobody cares. And the reality of this realization hits me like a strike of lightning in the gut each and every single time. If you’re not actively involved in their lives, they don’t even bother texting you to see how you’re doing or to talk to you at all. It hurts like hell but I somehow managed to build up walls and detach my interest from them. If they don’t bother, then they don’t and I won’t bother running after them again and again.
We hear you. We wished there was one solution to resolve it overnight. It takes time to heal and make sure you're seeking professional to guide you with your journey. We hope we can create awareness around this topic and encourage others to seek when they need the help
I am currently being ghosted by my best friend of 8 years. After all we have been through together, how much I had shown that I cared for her, all the advice I’d give when she’d be struggling, the friends I lost to defend her, I just don’t know what to think. I was always mostly left out of things, ignored, and left on read by people. It just feels like being kind, showing love and that I care, only ends up leaving me alone. I am definitely afraid of abandonment. I always was. But now, more than ever. Thank you very much for making these videos.
I also agree😢. I was ghosted by a good friend for like six months and idk why. Today, she tried to talk to me. Should I forget abt her or try to be friends again.
@@emolejules8665 I'm so sorry that happened to you. I think its definitely going to be hard for you because you may not trust her anymore, and it may have especially hurt if you see each other on a regular basis and you notice that she is having fun and hanging out with others while she ghossted you. In this case, if you want, you can try to just be formal and direct, like casual small talk whenever she talks to you and ultimately move on because real friends do not do that to each other. However, if you really want to try to talk more with her, you try to engage in simple small talk and you can bring up specifically that you guys haven't talked in 6 months and you used to be really good friends, but then everything just changed and see what she says about it. Maybe also check in with her, maybe she's been struggling and that may be why? Just see how she responds to this and by how she responds as well as acts towards you, you can see if you want to start talking with her again, but again, once we get ghosted by someone we were really good friends with and had truly trusted, there still may be a feeling of doubt on uncertainty, so try not to keep expectations so high on you guys getting your friendship back because unfortunately sometimes we expect and hope for this, and get excited when things seem to be well, but then they ghost us again. I'm not saying it will happen, I just don't want you to feel hurt again if it does. So really overall, I guess if you feel it bothering you and you want to start talking again, you can start to show you are giving her a 2nd chance, but really mention how you guys just all of a sudden "fell out" and see her response and follow your heart from there. Otherwise, just know that you owe her nothing. I wish you the best! Always remember, when someone ghosts you, it's their loss. They did you a favor by leaving because they don't deserve you. You will eventually find the ones that do. Keep your head up high!
Same here bud! We were like the closest friends in our school and our friendship was so popular everywhere that too for 5 yrs. Once we passed out and she moved to college, she got her new 'cool' gang and ever after that she changed. I was treated shit and i always had that gut feel that i dont deserve this. I was the only one to be with her when everyone disliked her and i had made her a lot of friends in school back then. And now she wont even wish on my birthday properly and when once i had an emotional breakdown and needed to talk to someone, i called her and even texted her the reason to call and all i got back was a text saying its time for her to sleep
Timestamps 1). How does a fear of abandonment form 0:16 2). Look at your attachment style 1:27 3). Physical touch 2:45 4). How will a fear of abandonment affect your future 3:57 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It's like constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop yet never being surprised when it inevitably does. It hurts every time but you always know what's coming. One of the worst parts is holding on to toxic people in your life out of the fear of being alone. Everyone thinks you're pathetic or secretly love the drama but it's the fear of loosing that connection if it started off good and/or they were someone you'd known for a long time.
This feeling definitely ruined a relationship I had with someone who meant the world to me… Now, she’s living her life happily and I live with regret, lack of hope, and depression every day…
It's time to move on. I promise you they weren't "the one". Love is learned over time, if you start building up relationships with others (just start with friendship), your life will improve drastically. Also I recommend therapy as well. Also idk if you're still in contact with them but people show the good parts of their lives while filtering out the bad bits, ESPECIALLY to exes and on social media. Everyone has issues.
Have you ever tried to just give up on women in all capacity, and accept your sentence of rotting up for the rest of your days, in darkness and loneliness?
This is a fear that I have. I don't know how to get rid of this fear, it just keeps me sad. Even when I'm happy, this fear ruins it. Ive been thru a lot, mental hospital n everything. Thankfully Im no longer there. Ive recovered from depression, but the fear of attatchment will most likely stay with me forever. Thank you for this video ❤
I do hv fear of abandonment ig , nd this causes me to think that what if this person leaves me? After having a close relation, so it's better not to build any close relations, but I don't think this is the real nd a healthy solution we need nd I don't even know what we can do to get rid of it, hey idk I jus feel like sharing dis with you wit a starngerrr
@@mangolanguage. samee... Im always worried that te ppl around me hate me and I dont deserve them.. it makes me break down at nights. You're a great person I can tell! I hope oyu havea good day stranger
@@NlNDE it makes you break down at nights ahh so relatable 🙃 dis nd we all do hv probs in our lives I mean why our human life isn't easyyyy, hope you hv a good day too
@@THENEONARCADE21 Like my entire future was done. Like my family's identity was being erased. I remember trying to save pictures of my dad from the family photo albums because my mom decided all evidence of him existing needed to be destroyed. Also remember picking up a metal folding chair and putting a hole in the ceiling of the basement before throwing it across the house.
I remember taking the Meyers Briggs test, and one of the questions was "you wonder how long it would take for others to be disappointed by you" or something like that. That really hit somewhere close to home with me
This is definitely one of my fears. I’ve had a lot of people leave me in my life, and I’m not sure how deal with this fear. This video definitely helped, and so does my therapy, so hopefully I learn how to manage it soon :)
Happy Sugar Life was a good manga (at least until THAT scene, also I don’t like the ending) I love this video, I do have a fear of abandonment, thanks for helping others understand :)
Some things that have helped in my fear of abandonment, and I got a doosy of that fear, is the development of self reliant skills, contemplating what and why my needs are, and how they can get met, and practicing as much self love/care as my schedule allows.
Man so it looks like I’ve got an anxious attachment style, coupled with a fear of abandonment. My parents didn’t divorce when I was younger but they still announced they would when I was 12 and have only ever lived in the same house rather than be a happy couple. It’s crazy to me how my lack of self worth is related to that. The constant fear of divorce around the corner but never happening obviously took a toll on me. I wish I didn’t feel the need to be reassured so much, but I’m working on it, slowly but surely. I’m so relieved and grateful my bf is very understanding of how I am
I have fear of abandoned sometimes because I feel that I may not see the friends I’ve known for a time anymore in the future. While I know who are true to me, there’s no telling what would happen.
The only way I show fear in abandonment is by being really nervous whenever I'm going somewhere with a family member thinking they left without me so I have to check their still home constently
Everyone I've ever been close to is now gone from my life, mostly by their choice. I'm at a time in my life where I seem to have given up trying to make new connections. I'm old now and have no faith in successfully forming new connections, much less having them last. This solitary life is meaningless and is slowly killing me, but it's like I've resigned myself to it indefinitely.
When my fears of being abandoned attack I try to remind myself that, if there are no concrete proof that people are leaving me (not telling me directly, or ignoring my messages completely, etc) then its most likely they are not secretely planning on abandoning me To quote a Steven Universe's song, "Here comes a thought, But it was only that, It was just a thought"
Once again; nail on the head Perhaps the bullying since i was extremely young until i was 16, had my growth spurt, and was suddenly bigger than everyone ***kinda*** messed me up a bit Can't really speak on "current relationships" because i have like 2 at most and they're busy guys so understandably we dont talk often but im used to being alone anyway so its nothing different I had like 2 "golden years" at 16 where i had friends, support, partner ( ;) ) and then the bubble popped and we're back to square -25 Can't get anymore accurate if you tried. Worst part? I kinda don't care. on some level im sure i do but on the surface i really just don't give a shit and haven't for a very long time
Thanks for going into the anxious attachment but you only mentioned one thing about avoidant which I related to and was looking forward to hearing more about.
I believe happines with someone is pointless if you cant aprove her your graditute, guilt or times when it puts you in doubt of trust or losing that gives yourself purpous. And most of all cant give the same as she does to you, to feel complete and greatfull. So my point is that often prove and manifesting yourself to others you care the most isnt always so bad as they think it should be.
Imagine .. JUST IMAGINE if I (or any other man) would be able to tell my girlfriend that I have a fear of abandonment without being judged and ultimately abandoned.. ironic isn’t it? I guess I’m just gonna live with this heartache till the end And please, for any lady who want to deny that, just take a moment and imagine YOUR man coming to you and saying “I’ve been abused by my parents and always watched them fight and now I have this resentful feeling that no matter what happened I’m gonna end up alone” … see how the mere image of that happening is so pathetic? Exactly what I mean
I really appreciate all of your videos! I do not watch them to improve myself, I am actually actively working on becoming a worse person and your videos give me a lot of insight on people’s doubts, fears, and weaknesses and how to exploit them. As well as how to improve my own manipulative behavior! Thank you so much for what you do ❤
I have the anxious attachment style, I'm in a long distance relationship and whenever she doesn't text me back within a few hours I start to get really anxious and think she's not interested in me anymore and going to leave me, I have told her my fear once and she reassured me that she will never leave me and that she loves me and wants a future with me but I'm still scared and think "what if". I've been cheated on and left abandoned in every relationship I had. :(
Not my best day to understand things but I can see how I fit in here with my mom during my puberty often couldn't help me and rather stick for herself. To be fair, she had lots of issues too and suffered from my father's loss but yea, I can imagine how things play together.
I had a dear friend who has ghosted me for 6 years, without any explanations. No matter how hard I tried to reach to her, she always kept silence and ignored me. Well, it did leave me a deep wound. But I've learned that, only true friends stay with me no matter what happens. And if they left, well, it's just a stage of life, when the feeling is not the same anymore. If they want to go, let them, free your mind and believe that eventually, you still can be happy with or without them. Thank you for the video. I wish all of us can be happy
Surprise they didn't talk about dismissive or disorganized, this is where I live, want love but cannot trust others, not sure how I made a 10 yr relationship work but I know to how make it crumble and fail, oh well it's my one and only
I have this. I wasn't over someone else yet, and another person sucked me in. I confided in them my fears that people always abandon me because im "Weird" and "can't pursue a romance with", and then they forced my trauma on me by acting it out just like I asked them not too at the start by dumping with with a text saying both of those things. Like, what happened to, "Its not you, its me?". Feels like a direct attack on me.
Ummm, yes. Problem is it means that I keep people at a distance. I've had too many people be friends with me just as long as they were benefiting some how from me. Just to push me away when it doesn't benefit them anymore.
Now imagine two people with fear of abandonment having a romantic relationship? That was me and my ex. We broke up and I feel so sad that I couldn't make it work. He have many traumas from his childhood and I was trying to save him at the same time I was trying to save myself. We loved each other but we were hurting each other, me for trying too much to make it work and him with toxic behaviours like jealousy, saying bad words to me (he was so insecure that whenever he could he would try to mock me just to feel better about himself you know? It was a pattern for him). I learned I need to take care of myself before taking care of others and that it's better to be alone than being with someone who hurts you all the time. I just got into college and guess what? I'm studying to be a psychologist. I want to have the tools to help people wherever I go, cause I hate all the pain present in the world, I hate that lots of adults with toxic behaviour was once a little kid who was abandoned and couldn't protect themselves and now as adults they only know how to repeat what they learned through trauma and then they treat other people the same way they were treated as a kid and this creates even more trauma in the society and the toxic cycle goes on and on and on, you understand me? I want to make people's lives better, that's why I got to psychology. My parents suffered as well when they were kids and then I was also hurt by their toxic behaviour. I feel sad for them. I feel sad for everyone that went through this and are not able to build healthy relationships and end up alone. I want to do the best I can to take people out from the darkness and bring them to light where they will live a happy and fulfilling life. I think that's my mission, no matter what I do or the profession I exercise, I want to make people's lives better. If you read this, thank you and I ask you to pray for me. Thanks! 🙏🏻
I relate to this quite alot. Only one issue. For an overwhelming majority of my life (I'm in my mid 20s at this moment) I never had a friend to my name and much less physical affection. Somwhow im doing okay for myself. Somehow.
I had a lot of people abandoning me in my life especially my childhood and as a teenager now I'm so use to people walking out of my life i just don't want to meet new people
hey psych2go maybe this is my first time commenting on your channel as I remember 😅 Well first of all I would like to thank you because of you I started accepting myself as the person I am I realised that its not bad to cry its not bad to feel a negative emotion after all we are humans with high and lows I learned that loving myself is an important thing I learned its okay to make mistakes I really feel reassure like whenever you talk about any emotion and says its okay to feel them sometimes thankyou for making me a better person ❤❤ thanks you guide me more than my parents did ( well I love them ❤) its just that in my country awareness of self love , respect , mental issues and all these type of things is not good so as a teen you helped me a lot I am really thankful to you and have a little request can you make a video on self respect like most people confuse self respect with ego and most people just ignore their self respect in the name of politeness can you pls help me in this matter ? thankyou ❤ ☺️
Why are you in my mind? It’s 6:11 which is my birthday number and I just saw this video as I was thinking of how I feel lonely. This is definitely a synchronicity.
When I was 6 years old, I was sent to an orphanage with nuns because they said I was hyper and needed structure.And I didn't understand what I did to get there
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THIS TO EVERYONE THIS MORNING, I DON'T HAVE ANYBODY TO TELL ME THIS, I LOVE YOU GUYS. HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 💯🙏💪💙🤪
It's not fear, it's insight. You become aware that people will dissappear when they have taken all they need. People are like ducks. They swim over when you have bread. Soon as you run out the ducks swim away
I dont have alot of friends, so I mainly rely on social meda for friendship. When I get left on read or blocked, I just think im too boring or ugly to talk too.
Yes. People with attachment anxiety love their partner, even when their partner doesn't give them enough attention. They just need reinsurance, which is why they desire all the attention; they are scared of their partner losing interest and leaving them, even though that's not the case. Their needs for attention are directed by being scared of getting bored of, rather than selfish or narcistic reasons. People with this problem will react differently when they feel "left alone." Some people will act cold just as they've already accepted that their partner is about to leave them; some will cry for attention even more and ask for reinsurance. Some will act like nothing is happening, even though deeply inside they feel neglected or undesirable. Very often, I have problems with attachment issues myself. If you have any further questions, feel free to ask! I will gladly answer them from my point of view, that being the person with attachment issues itself.
You can only manage it. Fixing it is impossible. You just have to find the right support system who will stick by you no matter what during your recovery. But triggers will always be there, sadly.
i have a avoidant attachment style i can't understand my emotions nor good as controlling my emotions more recently only because i have been avoiding my familial/friendships for 4 years. Now where as i have been able to get my emotions running again instead of lacking emotions and feeling numb physically and mentally around from a young age around 7-12 can't really tell/remember hence it being kinda out there by a 5 year difference. With these kind of emotions i have had now since early 2022 I've found it difficult to understand these bursting emotions even tho they could just be a normal/weird amount of emotions (typed "weird" because nothing is normal and everything is different from each other no matter what) i find myself trying to go back to not feeling my emotions in due to it being easier to manage life without feeling crippled from anxiety and longing to do sumthing more but can't/could not /will not doing anything because I am scared of being my true self... i can't trust myself i can't trust anyone around me i can only wait to actually do something instead of being at a standstill like being frozen in the winter of 2019
Eh: forgot to put anything on the mentioned "avoidant" attachment-style? All else pretty much focused on the "anxious" style, while the other seems neglected. More info, please?
Heyy random question but do you have a video possibly about the topic of: ‘having a crush on somebody but they’re showing slight signs of liking you back and u don’t know what the heck to do now??’ thanks and sorry
Let it fester a bit longer wait for more signs of them liking you and don't deny it when you see them they probably do like you then ask them out that's what you do 😅😊
I'm honestly unsure if I can or not relate to it- but I do honestly try to avoid getting close to people, it feels as though everyone who I get super close to I lose in some way, or they just completely change and I have to cut it off.. But it's fine, I'm just used to it at this point-
its a self fullfiling profecy ... there is no way around beaing alone .... ill just look for someone that is broken like me ... i could also ask my psy dock about this ... but i dought it helps
This and other videos that have come out recently make me feel invalidated. I see something in the title or the list of time stamps that I can relate to, but referring to childhood trauma invalidates everything. Most of my mental problems started after getting TBI from brain surgery, and my childhood didn't have major trauma besides some racism from extended family when I was young.
I went to a therapist and they said I have a fear of abandonment, depression and anxiety, and that I should probably get some kind of help(don't quite remember what) but my mom doesn't think that's important so signed me of therapy, but lately it's been affecting me a lot and my depression is worse and idk what to do(other than talking to my mom and if its the only way, how should I phrase it??) can anyone help!?
Do you have fear of abandonment? Watch this video till the end to learn how fear of abandonment affects your life and ways to cope at the end of the video. As always, we encourage anyone who is struggling to always seek out for qualified mental health profession to support your journey.
Thanks for this vid it rlly helped
Yall are just stalking me at this point 💀
i have a huge fear of abandonemt
Not anymore it happened long ago
As always I love your videos😊
STOPPP THE THUMBNAIL IS HAPPY SUGAR LIFE?!??!😭
IT ISSSS
My thoughts exactly?!?!?! Like what??
TAHTS WHAT I THIUGHT ONG
Thank you for noticing!
@@Psych2go omg?!? They replied 🤭 I love your videos btw!!
It’s like you’re bracing your for the inevitable, knowing deep down that people in your life will come and go, even if you don’t want them to. Everyone is always on their way out, and you’re dreading the idea that you will soon be left navigating the void all alone.
But thats true tho. Everyone , or maybe you, will leave a person at some point. 1000%
End of a chapter is always an embracing for a new chaper in life❤
at the end of the day… nobody really cares about you. they have their own lives to live, and I realized that nobody truly cares to look back. (I’m speaking for myself mostly and what I’ve realized from what I experience(d) ) Nobody cares. And the reality of this realization hits me like a strike of lightning in the gut each and every single time. If you’re not actively involved in their lives, they don’t even bother texting you to see how you’re doing or to talk to you at all. It hurts like hell but I somehow managed to build up walls and detach my interest from them. If they don’t bother, then they don’t and I won’t bother running after them again and again.
This video showed up just when my abandonment issues kicked in this does bring a bit of comfort but I still can't get over the feeling of abandonment
We hear you. We wished there was one solution to resolve it overnight. It takes time to heal and make sure you're seeking professional to guide you with your journey. We hope we can create awareness around this topic and encourage others to seek when they need the help
I am currently being ghosted by my best friend of 8 years. After all we have been through together, how much I had shown that I cared for her, all the advice I’d give when she’d be struggling, the friends I lost to defend her, I just don’t know what to think. I was always mostly left out of things, ignored, and left on read by people. It just feels like being kind, showing love and that I care, only ends up leaving me alone. I am definitely afraid of abandonment. I always was. But now, more than ever. Thank you very much for making these videos.
The one being ghosted ends up developing trust issues in the end. If only those weak selfish cowards knew the impact of their actions
@@darthvader0219 I definitely agree. It's very unfortunate.
I also agree😢. I was ghosted by a good friend for like six months and idk why. Today, she tried to talk to me. Should I forget abt her or try to be friends again.
@@emolejules8665 I'm so sorry that happened to you. I think its definitely going to be hard for you because you may not trust her anymore, and it may have especially hurt if you see each other on a regular basis and you notice that she is having fun and hanging out with others while she ghossted you. In this case, if you want, you can try to just be formal and direct, like casual small talk whenever she talks to you and ultimately move on because real friends do not do that to each other. However, if you really want to try to talk more with her, you try to engage in simple small talk and you can bring up specifically that you guys haven't talked in 6 months and you used to be really good friends, but then everything just changed and see what she says about it. Maybe also check in with her, maybe she's been struggling and that may be why? Just see how she responds to this and by how she responds as well as acts towards you, you can see if you want to start talking with her again, but again, once we get ghosted by someone we were really good friends with and had truly trusted, there still may be a feeling of doubt on uncertainty, so try not to keep expectations so high on you guys getting your friendship back because unfortunately sometimes we expect and hope for this, and get excited when things seem to be well, but then they ghost us again. I'm not saying it will happen, I just don't want you to feel hurt again if it does. So really overall, I guess if you feel it bothering you and you want to start talking again, you can start to show you are giving her a 2nd chance, but really mention how you guys just all of a sudden "fell out" and see her response and follow your heart from there. Otherwise, just know that you owe her nothing. I wish you the best! Always remember, when someone ghosts you, it's their loss. They did you a favor by leaving because they don't deserve you. You will eventually find the ones that do. Keep your head up high!
Same here bud! We were like the closest friends in our school and our friendship was so popular everywhere that too for 5 yrs. Once we passed out and she moved to college, she got her new 'cool' gang and ever after that she changed. I was treated shit and i always had that gut feel that i dont deserve this. I was the only one to be with her when everyone disliked her and i had made her a lot of friends in school back then. And now she wont even wish on my birthday properly and when once i had an emotional breakdown and needed to talk to someone, i called her and even texted her the reason to call and all i got back was a text saying its time for her to sleep
Timestamps
1). How does a fear of abandonment form 0:16
2). Look at your attachment style 1:27
3). Physical touch 2:45
4). How will a fear of abandonment affect your future 3:57
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
TYSM ❤
@@jollylearning1798 not a problem happy to help 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I've been searching for timestamps in the comments, thanks a lot! ❤❤
@@boredblue9686 happy to help
@alliara289 happy to help 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It's like constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop yet never being surprised when it inevitably does. It hurts every time but you always know what's coming. One of the worst parts is holding on to toxic people in your life out of the fear of being alone. Everyone thinks you're pathetic or secretly love the drama but it's the fear of loosing that connection if it started off good and/or they were someone you'd known for a long time.
psych2go really knows how to call a whole fandom
This feeling definitely ruined a relationship I had with someone who meant the world to me…
Now, she’s living her life happily and I live with regret, lack of hope, and depression every day…
Same
It's time to move on. I promise you they weren't "the one". Love is learned over time, if you start building up relationships with others (just start with friendship), your life will improve drastically. Also I recommend therapy as well.
Also idk if you're still in contact with them but people show the good parts of their lives while filtering out the bad bits, ESPECIALLY to exes and on social media. Everyone has issues.
@@Cobalt985 I know you're right. Even still, it's easier said than done.
Have you ever tried to just give up on women in all capacity, and accept your sentence of rotting up for the rest of your days, in darkness and loneliness?
@@anderstermansen130 Don’t even get me started on that…Been single for 14 years. Seems like it’ll be for the rest of my life now.
This is a fear that I have.
I don't know how to get rid of this fear, it just keeps me sad.
Even when I'm happy, this fear ruins it.
Ive been thru a lot, mental hospital n everything. Thankfully Im no longer there. Ive recovered from depression, but the fear of attatchment will most likely stay with me forever.
Thank you for this video ❤
I do hv fear of abandonment ig , nd this causes me to think that what if this person leaves me? After having a close relation, so it's better not to build any close relations, but I don't think this is the real nd a healthy solution we need nd I don't even know what we can do to get rid of it, hey idk I jus feel like sharing dis with you wit a starngerrr
@@mangolanguage. samee... Im always worried that te ppl around me hate me and I dont deserve them.. it makes me break down at nights. You're a great person I can tell! I hope oyu havea good day stranger
@@NlNDE it makes you break down at nights ahh so relatable 🙃 dis nd we all do hv probs in our lives I mean why our human life isn't easyyyy, hope you hv a good day too
@@mangolanguage. Yeaaa I hate em but what can we do honestly.
Driving people away first before they can abandon you. Parents divorced when I was in high school.
How did that make you feel when your parents got divorced ?
@@THENEONARCADE21 Like my entire future was done. Like my family's identity was being erased. I remember trying to save pictures of my dad from the family photo albums because my mom decided all evidence of him existing needed to be destroyed. Also remember picking up a metal folding chair and putting a hole in the ceiling of the basement before throwing it across the house.
@@eljoel89 Sounds like it really affected you badly.
I remember taking the Meyers Briggs test, and one of the questions was "you wonder how long it would take for others to be disappointed by you" or something like that.
That really hit somewhere close to home with me
This is definitely one of my fears. I’ve had a lot of people leave me in my life, and I’m not sure how deal with this fear. This video definitely helped, and so does my therapy, so hopefully I learn how to manage it soon :)
Happy Sugar Life was a good manga (at least until THAT scene, also I don’t like the ending)
I love this video, I do have a fear of abandonment, thanks for helping others understand :)
Oh, ho-ho-ho! "THAT" scene?😏
I don't feel like reading it, please spoil it for me! What is that scene? :o
Shouko’s death @@marinamedinaa
I replied to another comment saying what scene @@Chilling_pal_n01anad91ct
@@Catsarecute231 wait... I've read it too long ago... You mean the little girl..?
Edit: you don't. phew.
New goal, try to trust that my loved ones really do care, no matter what my head says
Some things that have helped in my fear of abandonment, and I got a doosy of that fear, is the development of self reliant skills, contemplating what and why my needs are, and how they can get met, and practicing as much self love/care as my schedule allows.
Man so it looks like I’ve got an anxious attachment style, coupled with a fear of abandonment. My parents didn’t divorce when I was younger but they still announced they would when I was 12 and have only ever lived in the same house rather than be a happy couple. It’s crazy to me how my lack of self worth is related to that. The constant fear of divorce around the corner but never happening obviously took a toll on me. I wish I didn’t feel the need to be reassured so much, but I’m working on it, slowly but surely. I’m so relieved and grateful my bf is very understanding of how I am
I have fear of abandoned sometimes because I feel that I may not see the friends I’ve known for a time anymore in the future. While I know who are true to me, there’s no telling what would happen.
The only way I show fear in abandonment is by being really nervous whenever I'm going somewhere with a family member thinking they left without me so I have to check their still home constently
Everyone I've ever been close to is now gone from my life, mostly by their choice. I'm at a time in my life where I seem to have given up trying to make new connections. I'm old now and have no faith in successfully forming new connections, much less having them last. This solitary life is meaningless and is slowly killing me, but it's like I've resigned myself to it indefinitely.
When my fears of being abandoned attack I try to remind myself that, if there are no concrete proof that people are leaving me (not telling me directly, or ignoring my messages completely, etc) then its most likely they are not secretely planning on abandoning me
To quote a Steven Universe's song, "Here comes a thought, But it was only that, It was just a thought"
nahh the thumbnail got me off guard💀😭
i love you guys ❤ you’ve helped me through some tough times
Once again; nail on the head
Perhaps the bullying since i was extremely young until i was 16, had my growth spurt, and was suddenly bigger than everyone ***kinda*** messed me up a bit
Can't really speak on "current relationships" because i have like 2 at most and they're busy guys so understandably we dont talk often but im used to being alone anyway so its nothing different
I had like 2 "golden years" at 16 where i had friends, support, partner ( ;) ) and then the bubble popped and we're back to square -25
Can't get anymore accurate if you tried.
Worst part? I kinda don't care. on some level im sure i do but on the surface i really just don't give a shit and haven't for a very long time
Thanks for going into the anxious attachment but you only mentioned one thing about avoidant which I related to and was looking forward to hearing more about.
I believe happines with someone is pointless if you cant aprove her your graditute, guilt or times when it puts you in doubt of trust or losing that gives yourself purpous. And most of all cant give the same as she does to you, to feel complete and greatfull. So my point is that often prove and manifesting yourself to others you care the most isnt always so bad as they think it should be.
oh my goodness is this thumpnail really from CotE, dam dude that alone makes the vid just apselutely fantastic
Imagine .. JUST IMAGINE if I (or any other man) would be able to tell my girlfriend that I have a fear of abandonment without being judged and ultimately abandoned.. ironic isn’t it? I guess I’m just gonna live with this heartache till the end
And please, for any lady who want to deny that, just take a moment and imagine YOUR man coming to you and saying “I’ve been abused by my parents and always watched them fight and now I have this resentful feeling that no matter what happened I’m gonna end up alone” … see how the mere image of that happening is so pathetic? Exactly what I mean
I definitely have fear of abandonment. I feel like i cant trust any girl anywhere.
I really appreciate all of your videos!
I do not watch them to improve myself, I am actually actively working on becoming a worse person and your videos give me a lot of insight on people’s doubts, fears, and weaknesses and how to exploit them. As well as how to improve my own manipulative behavior! Thank you so much for what you do ❤
I have the anxious attachment style, I'm in a long distance relationship and whenever she doesn't text me back within a few hours I start to get really anxious and think she's not interested in me anymore and going to leave me, I have told her my fear once and she reassured me that she will never leave me and that she loves me and wants a future with me but I'm still scared and think "what if". I've been cheated on and left abandoned in every relationship I had. :(
Never met her in person?
@jinchuriki7022 Not yet, we only started dating in December.
Psych2go anime thumbnail is God like 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
Not my best day to understand things but I can see how I fit in here with my mom during my puberty often couldn't help me and rather stick for herself.
To be fair, she had lots of issues too and suffered from my father's loss but yea, I can imagine how things play together.
Thank you for sharing! Learning more every day & have great Love & support in my life!❤️🙏❤️🙏
I had a dear friend who has ghosted me for 6 years, without any explanations. No matter how hard I tried to reach to her, she always kept silence and ignored me. Well, it did leave me a deep wound. But I've learned that, only true friends stay with me no matter what happens. And if they left, well, it's just a stage of life, when the feeling is not the same anymore. If they want to go, let them, free your mind and believe that eventually, you still can be happy with or without them. Thank you for the video. I wish all of us can be happy
Fine I'll start exercising and turning to better habits. I did it once and my fear was that I might do it again. Love your channel either way. ❤
I feel like a real family here 😊
Surprise they didn't talk about dismissive or disorganized, this is where I live, want love but cannot trust others, not sure how I made a 10 yr relationship work but I know to how make it crumble and fail, oh well it's my one and only
I never expected a thumbnail to include the mc from HAPPY SUGAR LIFE, but I ain't complaining I guess😭😭😭
I have this. I wasn't over someone else yet, and another person sucked me in. I confided in them my fears that people always abandon me because im "Weird" and "can't pursue a romance with", and then they forced my trauma on me by acting it out just like I asked them not too at the start by dumping with with a text saying both of those things. Like, what happened to, "Its not you, its me?". Feels like a direct attack on me.
I need to watch this video later, because I definitely been thinking of happy Sugar life and how lonely I’ve been
NOT THE BARRAGE OF DESCRIPTIONS THAT ARE LITERALLY ME 💀💀💀 i didn't even realize whatttt
Good video as always, keep up the good work
Ummm, yes. Problem is it means that I keep people at a distance. I've had too many people be friends with me just as long as they were benefiting some how from me. Just to push me away when it doesn't benefit them anymore.
Now imagine two people with fear of abandonment having a romantic relationship? That was me and my ex. We broke up and I feel so sad that I couldn't make it work. He have many traumas from his childhood and I was trying to save him at the same time I was trying to save myself. We loved each other but we were hurting each other, me for trying too much to make it work and him with toxic behaviours like jealousy, saying bad words to me (he was so insecure that whenever he could he would try to mock me just to feel better about himself you know? It was a pattern for him). I learned I need to take care of myself before taking care of others and that it's better to be alone than being with someone who hurts you all the time. I just got into college and guess what? I'm studying to be a psychologist. I want to have the tools to help people wherever I go, cause I hate all the pain present in the world, I hate that lots of adults with toxic behaviour was once a little kid who was abandoned and couldn't protect themselves and now as adults they only know how to repeat what they learned through trauma and then they treat other people the same way they were treated as a kid and this creates even more trauma in the society and the toxic cycle goes on and on and on, you understand me? I want to make people's lives better, that's why I got to psychology. My parents suffered as well when they were kids and then I was also hurt by their toxic behaviour. I feel sad for them. I feel sad for everyone that went through this and are not able to build healthy relationships and end up alone. I want to do the best I can to take people out from the darkness and bring them to light where they will live a happy and fulfilling life. I think that's my mission, no matter what I do or the profession I exercise, I want to make people's lives better. If you read this, thank you and I ask you to pray for me. Thanks! 🙏🏻
This is quite true to me. Oh man...
I only clicked on this video because of the happy sugar life reference.
And, i think i also have some issues after watching this(i did halucinate for a bit b4, but it stopped so i thought i'd be fine now lol)
I relate to this quite alot.
Only one issue. For an overwhelming majority of my life (I'm in my mid 20s at this moment) I never had a friend to my name and much less physical affection. Somwhow im doing okay for myself. Somehow.
tysm for makng these videos
I watched Happy Sugar Life! I liked it!
Ain’t no way Happy Sugar Life is in one of these therapy videos 😂
I really need someone to talk to..i feel miserable i cant do this anymore. I can drop my social media if anyone is willing to listen and be a friend
I’ll be you bud :D
@@gentlenoob2576 thank u :') what socials do u use? I can give my user
I had a lot of people abandoning me in my life especially my childhood and as a teenager now I'm so use to people walking out of my life i just don't want to meet new people
hey psych2go maybe this is my first time commenting on your channel as I remember 😅
Well first of all I would like to thank you because of you I started accepting myself as the person I am I realised that its not bad to cry its not bad to feel a negative emotion after all we are humans with high and lows I learned that loving myself is an important thing I learned its okay to make mistakes I really feel reassure like whenever you talk about any emotion and says its okay to feel them sometimes thankyou for making me a better person ❤❤ thanks you guide me more than my parents did ( well I love them ❤) its just that in my country awareness of self love , respect , mental issues and all these type of things is not good so as a teen you helped me a lot I am really thankful to you and have a little request can you make a video on self respect like most people confuse self respect with ego and most people just ignore their self respect in the name of politeness can you pls help me in this matter ? thankyou ❤ ☺️
The assumption I have a close friend
Why are you in my mind? It’s 6:11 which is my birthday number and I just saw this video as I was thinking of how I feel lonely. This is definitely a synchronicity.
Yo the thumbnail, i started studying psychology as a hobby cuz this anime. So much mental illness and its reason
When I was 6 years old, I was sent to an orphanage with nuns because they said I was hyper and needed structure.And I didn't understand what I did to get there
What a timing, I was thinking about a scene from happy sugar life this morning 😂
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THIS TO EVERYONE THIS MORNING, I DON'T HAVE ANYBODY TO TELL ME THIS, I LOVE YOU GUYS. HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 💯🙏💪💙🤪
well then, that's a wonderful thing for me to know about myself now
THE HAPPY SUGAR LIFE REFERENCE IS KILLING ME./POS
😔REFS GO SO HARD IN THUMBNAILS
It's not fear, it's insight. You become aware that people will dissappear when they have taken all they need. People are like ducks. They swim over when you have bread. Soon as you run out the ducks swim away
🎶🎵My loneliness is killing me...and I...I still believe (still believe, still believe...) When I'm not with you I lose my mind...give me a sign....😅😂🎉
I dont have alot of friends, so I mainly rely on social meda for friendship. When I get left on read or blocked, I just think im too boring or ugly to talk too.
Hello and welcome to another episode of "hey that's literally me"
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING, SLEEP WELL MY FRIENDS 💯🙏💙💪
HEY GOOD MORNING SELF REMEMBER TO LOVE YOUR SELF
Can someone with anxious attachment truly love their partner? Or their love is actually just emotional dependence?
Yes. People with attachment anxiety love their partner, even when their partner doesn't give them enough attention. They just need reinsurance, which is why they desire all the attention; they are scared of their partner losing interest and leaving them, even though that's not the case. Their needs for attention are directed by being scared of getting bored of, rather than selfish or narcistic reasons. People with this problem will react differently when they feel "left alone." Some people will act cold just as they've already accepted that their partner is about to leave them; some will cry for attention even more and ask for reinsurance. Some will act like nothing is happening, even though deeply inside they feel neglected or undesirable. Very often, I have problems with attachment issues myself. If you have any further questions, feel free to ask! I will gladly answer them from my point of view, that being the person with attachment issues itself.
@@Dupson9 thank you!
WELL GOD, NOW I KNOW...i wasn't needy like they said i was this whole time- 😭
Her voice reminds me of that pink girl who talks like "my ex texted me today 'whats up' and I was like 'my standards!"
I love how this channel keeps telling me things I know. But how do I FIX it? ** bashes head against wall **
You can only manage it. Fixing it is impossible. You just have to find the right support system who will stick by you no matter what during your recovery. But triggers will always be there, sadly.
i have a avoidant attachment style i can't understand my emotions nor good as controlling my emotions more recently only because i have been avoiding my familial/friendships for 4 years. Now where as i have been able to get my emotions running again instead of lacking emotions and feeling numb physically and mentally around from a young age around 7-12 can't really tell/remember hence it being kinda out there by a 5 year difference.
With these kind of emotions i have had now since early 2022 I've found it difficult to understand these bursting emotions even tho they could just be a normal/weird amount of emotions (typed "weird" because nothing is normal and everything is different from each other no matter what) i find myself trying to go back to not feeling my emotions in due to it being easier to manage life without feeling crippled from anxiety and longing to do sumthing more but can't/could not /will not doing anything because I am scared of being my true self... i can't trust myself i can't trust anyone around me i can only wait to actually do something instead of being at a standstill like being frozen in the winter of 2019
So true
I guess my loss comes from losing most my friends when I went to middle school
So, and how do I get rid of it?
Contemplating on your authentic True Nature.❤
Meditation, mushrooms, slowly once at a time.
I’d love to see timestamps in your videos
Eh: forgot to put anything on the mentioned "avoidant" attachment-style?
All else pretty much focused on the "anxious" style, while the other seems neglected. More info, please?
How are you posting this right on time? Are you watching me??
Oh god! Don’t remind of this series!
Could it be...?? 🤔
HAPPY SUGAR LIFEEEEE YEAAAAAAAH
Looks like you're the first person to comment on this video! Good job! :D
Somebody pls fix me
Heyy random question but do you have a video possibly about the topic of: ‘having a crush on somebody but they’re showing slight signs of liking you back and u don’t know what the heck to do now??’
thanks and sorry
Let it fester a bit longer wait for more signs of them liking you and don't deny it when you see them they probably do like you then ask them out that's what you do 😅😊
STOP EXPOSING ME
I'm honestly unsure if I can or not relate to it- but I do honestly try to avoid getting close to people, it feels as though everyone who I get super close to I lose in some way, or they just completely change and I have to cut it off.. But it's fine, I'm just used to it at this point-
Where is that lady Voice Amanda Silvera 😢😢
My tip is here 😏
😮 wow thank u for letting me know
😂😂😂😂
its a self fullfiling profecy ... there is no way around beaing alone .... ill just look for someone that is broken like me ... i could also ask my psy dock about this ... but i dought it helps
I think I have an anxious attachment style is it over for me guys
True
Can you do a video on emo isn’t always just a phase please
So how can I communicate with her If she ended our friendship and won't tell me why? I just want her to be happy...even if it's not in my life.
This and other videos that have come out recently make me feel invalidated. I see something in the title or the list of time stamps that I can relate to, but referring to childhood trauma invalidates everything. Most of my mental problems started after getting TBI from brain surgery, and my childhood didn't have major trauma besides some racism from extended family when I was young.
I'm watching that anime ... Like right now...
Is it possible to self induced hypomania? How? Simply curious to know.
I went to a therapist and they said I have a fear of abandonment, depression and anxiety, and that I should probably get some kind of help(don't quite remember what) but my mom doesn't think that's important so signed me of therapy, but lately it's been affecting me a lot and my depression is worse and idk what to do(other than talking to my mom and if its the only way, how should I phrase it??) can anyone help!?
My brother just sent me this
Those who don't know:What a cute thumbnail.
Those who know:😐
This is me and I'm so lonely I could die.