When a parent has died : young people share their experiences
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 พ.ย. 2017
- Young people we’ve supported talk about some of the difficulties and what helped them after the death of their mum or dad.
Child Bereavement UK helps families to rebuild their lives when a child grieves or when a child dies. We support children and young people (up to the age of 25) when someone important to them has died or is not expected to live, and parents and the wider family when a baby or child of any age dies or is dying.
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Both my mom and dad died when I was 1 :'D
I don't even know how they sound,
Y'all with parents are so lucky, please don't be hard on them, you guys don't understand how lucky you are!
They are really lucky my dad passed in a mission at iraq and its the worse
Nick I want to hug you. My condolences to you and having just lost my mom I can only imagine what you felt losing your parents as a baby
God bless you dear.
@@cpmffeilberg4970 my dad was deployed to iraq and was shot by a sniper. When i was 4 10 years ago im 14. My friend didnt have a dad and his mom passed from cancer last Friday.
@@ilsecarrasco6596 I'll pray for all of you. God bless you.
@@cpmffeilberg4970 thxs i appreciate it🙏
My father died 30 years ago when I was only 11. I still remember it as though it was yesterday. It never leaves you.
I’m so sorry for your loss, this is hard to share..thank you. What ever you believe in is yours to keep, but in Jehovahs name may he bless you and give you strength to move forward everyday.😊
I lost my Dad when I was 8. That was 44 years ago. I still feel heartbroken. I have children and grand-chilldren off my own now. There is still times something triggers off and I go back to being that 8 year old boy. Only certain ones that have gone through this will relate to it.
My son is 13.... he lost his daddy Sept 7 2022. A month later, he lost his grandpa. His 2 most favorite ppl in the world just dropped .... unexpectedly...
Idk how to help him & he behaves like he's alright... which is the part that scares me even more.
@@PrettyPettyMaramy nephew is 15 he lost his dad 6 weeks ago motorcycle accident still inquest his sister my neice is 17
They done the ashes yesterday
The funeral 2 weeks ago was absolutely heartbreaking
I have no idea what I can say I’m fortunate my dad their grandad is 81 still here
It’s just awful
I hope ur doing ok xx
@crystalslade8056 it's been 9 months and I still can't believe everything happened. See a month after his daddy died, his grandpa died. Blood clots both of them, and no genetic relation bc grandpa was paternal grandma's husband after bio granddad. Regardless. They were my sons 2 most favorite ppl in this world & our lives changed in the blink of an eye... I think any sudden passing is horrific & heartbreaking.... u constantly want someone to blame but it doesn't make anything better. I drive my husband to work every morning and he works on the road of the cemetery so I drive back home every morning crying bc that was the last road his dad ever took. We weren't together since 2012 but he was my absolute best friend. Grief is such a horrible thing to experience. The only thing I'm truly realizing (as an adult), is that when everyone tells me time heals ? Nah. It doesn't heal anything. You just get used to the emptiness & hurt bc your loved one is no longer there. It's been the worst thing that's ever happened to me.... & that's mostly bc I can't make anything better for my son. I'll never be able to bring his daddy or grandpa back .... I can only pray I show my son enough love, share enough stories that my son feels comfort in that.
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss... maybe I'm not the right person to bring any words of comfort, but after 9 mts, I truly don't think anything has gotten better. Knowing the stages of grief did help & especially in children which is a little different than stages of grief for adults. Being there for them.... loving them... sharing stories...talking about ur departed one...and make sure u look at the world around u to see all the signs they're showing you they're still there. ❤️ my deepest, heartfelt condolences to all of you. Xo
It's hard when you lose a parent so young at age we all see the world a different way once it happens and yeah nothing will be the same but we get through it
Love makes the world go round 🌎.
Ti' so hard to be the youngest (I don't know what to do when my family died and me alone 😢😭😭💔💔)
I Know I lost when I was only 5
As The Youngest Son of My Mom I know I had the least amount of time with her
My Step Mother do Love me and Take care of Me ...I do love making Fun on My Younger Sister
But Something is Missing that's the Thing
Yeah Something is Missing that's That only To Mom we can show our all Feelings Love . Saying meanthings anger Without even Getting a Single Hate in Return ...
Mother is the Person who will love you in Every Stage of Your Life
I miss her the Most
so true
@@Naruto-ld6mh I feel you it hurts. That is like my biggest fear.
I always get so mad when people complain about their parents because u never know how much u love someone till they die
Don't you just want to give all these kids a HUGE Hug?.
A M Yes definitely :'(
Yes because I just lost my mom in January and am devastated, so to all who have lost your mom I hug you a HUGE HUG. My deepest condolences to you. Love from Canada 🇨🇦👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼
Absolutely! ❤
Yes
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My mum died when I was 10. 18 days after my birthday. I’m now 22 years old and I’m not going to lie and say it gets easier because it doesn’t but you find better ways of coping with it.
my mom died also when i was 10, 9 days after my birthday haha. I'm now 16 and the grief comes in waves
My dad died 15 days before I turned 11. I'm now 14. Still not over it.
I still haven't found ways to cope. I'm 23 and they passed when I was 5 and 11 ... My heart fucking hurts
I’m 22 now, mom died when I was 9. 10 days before her birthday. I agree, doesn’t get much easier but you get stronger. Especially if you use it as fuel to chase your dreams.
Sending hugs and love to all of you 💕
I lost my mom three years ago..and just recently this year I lost my maternal grandma....and I can't stop crying almost everynight in my bed. I pray that someday God'll make things better for me.
I also cry myself to sleep because i never had that love that comes from a dad and sometimes i wish i wasnt here
I don't know what to do when my family died 😭😭😢😢💔💔
I hope you are doing ok I loss mom at 3 and dad at 20 made some videos on it
Stay strong
God is on your side 🙏🙏
My mum died when I was just twelve, just watching this after a huge crying spree
Luna Shadow, my dad died when I was 12 too. Well get through this
I’m 12 and my mum died but I was in her room and I was in the house it was terrible and she only died like 5 weeks ago
Nicole Monteith oh I’m so sorry to hear that. Just remember tomorrow’s a new day
I know how you feel guys my mum died when i was 4 months old
My dad died when I was twelve too. The emotions slapped me across the face the most when I saw my dad in a casket
My dad passed away when i was 8 and now l’m 13 and it’s still really hard...i was the only one in class without a dad it was really hard to loose my best friend..I miss you daddy
I feel ya I lost my dad when I was 12. I’m 15 now and I’m a little better but it can still really hurt
I hope in the year that has passed since you left that comment things have gotten a little better.
My dad passed away when i was 10 but still most of my friends dont know this....
It's going to take a long time my mom's mom died 12 years ago and my mom still feels sad about it sometimes it's going to take a long time to get over losing a parent EXSPECIALLY losing 1 when that young that's horrible I think should talk to someone or get some help if you haven't already practically no 1 goes through this alone
I lost my father yesterday and hearing all this really helped
🙏🙏❤Im soo sorry i hope you feel ok god loves u🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
Take care of yourself, he loves you Juna. People like to say "time heals all wounds" but TRUST me, it is totally okay if you still miss him 4, 5, 6, or even 20 years from now because at the end of the day you still lost someone so close to you, and a parent at that. Don't put a timer on grief. It's okay to cry for as long as you need to, don't blame yourself and try not to let the pain hold you back, he wouldn't want that and neither should you.
That does not mean you shouldn't allow yourself to feel what you need to feel to move forward with your life. The pain will lessen and dull, but probably won't just go away 100%, so don't expect it to, but you will learn to continue your life and adapt to this change.
It will get easier, but it's okay to feel. I lost my dad 6 years ago today and I just sobbed my eyes out lol. Time will pass and you will still miss him, but the pain won't be as sharp, more like those safety scissors that they give you kindergarten that hardly even cuts the paper.
I hope I'm not making you feel worse, I'm just being honest and everyone is different, for me I still miss him, but I feel like I can finally breathe. When someone that close to you dies it's like you can't breathe without them there, but trust me you learn to be able to do it on your own. You'll be okay. Let yourself feel what you need to feel, cry, do what you gotta do, but then you gotta lift your head, and look forward. That doesn't mean you have to forget him and can't mourn from time to time, of course you can. Let it out!
I just think its really important to not let yourself stay in that dark place for too long ya know? You still have a life, you still have to live it.
So sorry for the long rant, i hope what I'm trying to say makes sense. I can't offer much in terms of advice (I'm only 15 lol) but I hope the words I can offer may help you get through this, or at least remind you that you're not alone. Thank you for reading, I really appreciate it!💕I hope you sleep well and wake up feeling rested and that both sides of your pillow are cold tonight.
I'm sorry for your lost and the only reason I'm watching this video is because I've also lost my father when I was 9 years old to cancer
This morning
Take care🥺❤️
To all you angels who have lost a parent or parents so young...my hugs dears.
I am in my late 50s, but I lost my beautiful mum when young. She was just 43 when she died.
I understand the loss, the pain and sometimes the sad memories of the absent parent that come on birthdays, special days, graduation, weddings, etc.
My mom used to make lovely desserts, cakes and cookies. I am sure your gone-parent did that too dears. My mom was a terrific cook, and a beautiful artist. She used to sing wonderfully, write poems, design jewelry, draw, paint, stitch, embroider and was warm and kind to my friends.
What do you remember about your gone-parent my angels? Record them, remember them and feel proud of them. Try to learn a few of their recipies, their art work, their writings, etc.
Keep the photos when they were strong, smiling, holding you, hugging you and kissing you.
I had wonderful aunts and uncles to step in and nurture and help when mom died. I hope you young angels have grandpas, grandmas, uncles, aunts, older cousins, and loving neighbors to do that for you.
We motherless or fatherless daughters and sons, whose parent died when we were young, must remember that the gone-parent did not abandon us, neglect us or abuse us...their life left their body and they went to another realm. From there that parent, mother or father or both, is watching over us, protecting us and loving us.
I want you to look at a clear bright night sky and see your favorite planet or star, or even a galaxy, and give it your mom's or pop's name...and then talk to it like you are talking to your gone-mom or dad. And then send your wishes and dreams there, because your mom or dad might be just there watching and listening with utmost love. Blow a kiss and wave.
Remember this angels: you are special, not alone and even an older stranger like me can understand, relate and empathize.
Look how boldly and honestly you all write your feelings my angels. I am so proud of each one of you, though I don't know all of you personally.
It is okay to cry, I still do. It is okay to feel sad when you remember mommy or daddy, and their passing away.
You will get strong. You will find love, friendship and happiness. I could not wish for anything less for you all my angels.
When you meet another like you, a motherless or a fatherless son or daughter whose parent has passed away, you take their hand gently and whisper with a genuine smile or tears, "I understand. I too list a parent. I am here for you. And know we are special. And angels are watching over us!"
You are all so dear! Remember that always!
From Dr. Meera
A motherless daughter like many of you angels.
You're so sweet. Just lost my mom 1 month ago. Cant cope right now, but I know things will get better and I'll be there too one day.
ThankYou So much I needed to hear that
@@swetabhattacharjee922 same lost my mum a month back, life seems meaningless
@@amazepk It gets better with time, trust me.. I've recovered a lot, Just keep going. After this is life and we all be gone one day.
Thank you very much for sharing. I, too, lost my mother to Cancer when she was 43 and I was 15. I miss her so much but I am very grateful for all the memories and experiences she had given me. I have been working on myself and understanding how these circumstances have affected me to this day. I will embrace her love and it will be passed on, reborn into new love that I have to give. All the best.
My mom died when I was 14 years old but still I miss her... Sometimes I feel like why I'm living...? I hate when someone ask where is your mom, I really want my mom back I know it's not possible but still I want her
Similar feeling,my mom passed away recently. I know she can't be brought back but I still feel if I could bring her back or have a time machine to meet her. My father passed away in 2014
my father died when I was only ten . everything changed my dad used to do everything for me. He is my world. So I am please requesting every one who have there both parents make them happy .because you don't when everything is going to change
My mom died when I was 9 it was really hard seeing her decay rapidly because of cancer, my father died when I was 22. Still coping with my unresolved grief with my mother, I'm so happy there's more awareness of mental health and resources today. Thank you for sharing your experiences it made me feel less alone.
I lost both parents at the age 5 and now am 27 but it still feels like yesterday.... its hurts every day
We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your parents as a child. We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children. We provide support to bereaved children and young people up to the age of 25, but if you would like to discuss bereavement support, there are organisations detailed on the linked page above which may be able to support you including Cruise Bereavement Care and Mind.
Warm wishes
Child Bereavement UK
One morning in 1981 at age 9. I woke up to find my father on the bathroom floor. Unconscious. My mom was screaming frantically for me to dial the neighbors phone number to get help. Back in those days 911 did not exist like it does now. The ambulance came and sat outside our house with my dad inside. About 45 minutes later the ambulance headed to the hospital and me and my mother followed. We found out that my dad had passed from a heart attack. Fast forward 2 years later after my mom and I bounced from relative to relative unsettled. My mother dropped me off to school that morning and told me several times she loved me. As I got out the car I did not tell her that I loved her. That afternoon I was surprised by relatives picking me up from school. We drove around all night. Then I was told that my mom had a heart attack and died. That night my cousin's pick me up. And I would spend the remainder of my childhood living with them as guardian. In sixth grade one of my cousins told me that my mom had committed suicide. I would like to say that suicide affects way more than just a person who commits it. And it still, haunts me daily and I'm almost 50. It has negatively impacted me to my core. And i will never recover. Buy you know what. The sun will come up tomorrow. And you have a responsibility to live your life too. You have to cope the best you can. And you need to seek help from others to talk about it. I never did nor did my family i grew up with. I had no counseling.
This is the George Strait I remember
my dad died at 10, im currently 13
it changed my whole life
im not me anymore
people always say they hate their parents but i loved my dad more than anything in the world
i wish i could just hug him 1 more time....
My father died when I was 9 years old in 1976. I share so many of the concerns of these young people. The class being told not to mention it, not knowing why he died, being bullied, thinking why me?
I’m 52 years old now. If any of these young people can read this I want to say, you will live wonderful lives. Never forget your lost parent or parents, they are always with you. But you will live the most amazing lives.
I have so much hope for young people.
My father also died unexpectedly when I was 7 in 1976. I’m so glad these kids are part of a bereavement support group with their peers. I felt so alone back then. I hope their experiences are healthy and they know they aren’t alone.
Thank you for your hope. Lost my mum recently and the world is unfair.
@@3k445I don't have both 😔😔
I'm 21, I lost my father when I was 14. I wish he was behind my back to help me into adulthood, now i feel like i'm still the same brat I've always been and haven't grown up at all
Fuck bruh. That actually describes what I think happened with me too.
I’m 18 rn, but I’m pretty much the same as I was when I was 12, when mine died.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through that. Just know that we’re always evolving so even if you’re not happy with who you are or have been, you can change. Even the most kind amazing etc. people on earth can improve in some ways
My mom died a month ago. I don't even know what the hell I am going to do right now. She was always the one that kept things running, Just last year was my first time flying, and it was by myself. Now I get confused in really hectic situations, especially when I am tired. So what happened was, my best friend's grandmother bought me a plane ticket to fly me from California to South Carolina with a layover in Texas. I was in Texas, my flight had already left because my flight from California landed late. I started asking around for help, nobody would point me in the right direction. I started breaking down crying. I called my mom. What she did was she called Dallas Airport for me and talked to someone. She told me that she said something along the lines of "My daughter is stranded in the airport. She was supposed to have someone escort her to her next flight." she told me the guy said, "How old is she." My mom responded with "twenty-five" she said he said there was nothing they could do. My mom said that she told the guy that I was a special needs person (Which I am). I couldn't believe that she was able to help me while we were a thousand miles apart.
Moral of the story, she was an amazing person and I feel bad because I just no realized that. I'm crying as I write this too. She's always helped me get out of situations before, but that was when we were never thousands of miles apart.
Wow, I lost my mom about 3 months ago, I feel bad because I never accepted her phone calls because the last time we talked it was a good memory, and if she did pass away I wanted us to have a last memory.
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I lost my dad when I was 14. I always feel like I need to fill this hole in my heart. I’ll always feel more empty inside.
I lost my dad at 14 as well. I have been depressed ever since.
i losyt my mum at eight years old, this was 18 years ago. No one understands the pain of losing your mum, especially when you are at an age where you you depend on them for literally everything. Your mum is the one who feeds you, makes sure you're safe, cleans, healthy, makes you feel comforted. I did have my dad but my parents were seperated and I was always closer to my mum,
I feel for you,I lost my mum when I was 6,she was 28, and I have struggled ever since,I have now outlived my mum and I feel for you so much, please try to find some form of peace within yourself because I have destroyed my life,messed up everything and I realise now that that would have been the last thing she would have wanted for me,I should have made her proud looking down and saying"that's my son", instead I feel she will be disgusted with me and I can't change all my mistakes, please make your mum proud.god bless you
I lost my mother when I turned 16 years old I really have anxiety attacks I don't know what to do today or not I can't find the happiness I needed
Stranger , I dont know you but I with you the very best , may allah help and guide you throught dark days and I hope you find your light in this never ending dark tunnel
I lost my mom and it's been 38 days. Hearing this makes me think that I'm blessed because God doesn't get both my parents. I'm blessed because I experience having a mom and how my mom take care for me.
I also lost my mom on 12th of sept this year, to a freaking road accident. I share your grief, my sister. I hope its getting better with every passing day, and please dont count days, it will hurt you.. keep on enjoying the limited lifetime you've at hand. I hope you find happiness soon.. Love to you 🌻🌟🌟
My daughters dads died this morning. We are completely devastated! My mind is all over the place. I just want to support my daughter the best I can
We are very sorry to hear that your daughter has so recently been bereaved of her dad. We have lots of information and guidance on the section of our website about supporting bereaved children which has information which may be helpful for you during this difficult time: www.childbereavementuk.org/supporting-bereaved-children-and-young-people.
Best wishes
Child Bereavement UK
I lost my dad when i was 11 and i lost my mum when i was 17 .
Life goes on . You just gotta be strong . Every day i wake up tears would be their, its gonna be hard but you just have to stay strong .
Never tell.someone to move in or get over it, because you don't. You just learn to cope with the loss of a parent. Gosh I miss my father. We had a bond like Kobe and Gigi 💝
Very true
My dad passed away 4 months ago, I am so jealous of people who can spend their time with their parents. Even when my dad was alive, he used to have no time to be involved in my life, yet I realized how much I love and loved him
I lost my mom when I was 18, she died in a car wreck, everyday has been a struggle, none of the grandkids in the family never got to know her like I did.
My father died when I'm was 12 and my mother died when I become 20 and I don't have a brother and sister... And now I am 20
Ye, am only child with no parents, it’s hard
I lost my dad to cancer when I was 12
Dude the sad part is I had to watch him die and yet I still had hope he would get better because “there’s no way he can die right? He’s dad! It’s gonna work out.” Even though he was getting more yellow ( idk how to explain it. He had liver cancer and it made him more yellow and he had to drain bile out)
Then one day I woke up to random people in my house carrying a stretcher or something with a sheet over it and I quickly figured out what happened. And let me tell you, the emotions don’t really hit you as hard until you see your loved one in a casket
My mother lost her long fight with Lupus when I was 10 months old, she was only 27. I never knew her, but I do know the stories of her crying on the bench at night because she couldn’t hold be since she was so sick, I know how she was such a kind person and how everyone cared so deeply for her. I still hear words about her from other people. It brings me so much pain. And honestly, I feel jealousy to my older siblings who did know her.
My step mother was emotionally and verbally abusive and has done so much to harm my family. So I had never known what it was like having a mother. I would feel so much help jealousy and sadness seeing others mothers picking them up from school, having a good time. I hated it so much. Even as a primary schooler. Kids would laugh and make fun of me. Sometimes I would even have to joke about it when in reality it hurts so much. I just want to yell it all out at everyone to tell them that it is not funny, it is painful and so hard. My father is the most important person to me. He has risked so much for me and my siblings, keeping us alive, healthy, making sure he is there as much as he can. And I know, I know he suffers so much and it hurts so much to see him in pain. I have witnessed a moment not long ago where he lost consciousness multiple times and kept convulsing then just stopped. It was terrifying and it felt like everything stopped, like eveyrthing shattered.
I want all the people that have suffered to know that there are more out there feeling the same. They understand you, understand your pain. And no matter how hard it all is we have to get through it, BEVAUSE sometime somewhere there will always be someone who cares, even if they don’t know you and you don’t know them. Life is cruel and hard, but I know we can get through THSI together
My mom died when I was 10 months.and I'm 39 and still crying fr her.i started my healing process only now
We are sorry that you lost your mother at such a young age. If you would like support, please do feel free to call our helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
My Dad died when I was 10. My mom when I was 11. I'm 41 now and there is still not a day I don't think about them and mourn their loss. Some days I break. 🥺😞♥️
We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your parents as a child. We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children.
Warm wishes
Child Bereavement UK
Please try to see a grief counselor. They can help you to process the grief that you still carry after so many years.
My dad died when I was 9, I’m almost 11 now and thinking about how young my brother was when it happened…all young boys should grow up with a father…
We are very sorry to hear your dad died when you were 9. If you would find it helpful to speak to someone about your bereavement, you can call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, or use Live Chat on our website, www.childbereavementuk.org. Our Helpline team are available Monday to Friday from 9am-5pm. We'd also encourage you to talk to a trusted adult about making contact with us so they can support you too.
Warm wishes, Child Bereavement UK
@@childbereavementchar thank you, but I’m fine about it. :)
This is sad i cant take the pain away😭😔😭😔😭😭😢
My dad died before I was born so I never got the gift of hearing his voice or making memories with him.. it’s a different kind of loss.. not comparing I just want to see anyone’s else stories or feelings like mine. I just have his stories and the same few pictures… I’m sure in a way it’s easier to not lose him after knowing him but I wish I had that..
I am sorry for your loss, it still is a loss, bacause you lost everything that could happened if he was still alive ❤️ i really hope one day we will be able to meet again those we lost and i hope you will meet your dear father as well
Feel really greatful as someone who's mum past away at 16 couldn't imagine going through that as a child, very brave kids !!!!
thx my mum passed away when i was 10
For those who reach out a kid whose parent died, please tell them, that they are forgiven, they have no mistake to their parent and no need to be guilty.
My mum died in 1991 when I was aged 9, 37 now and still haven't processed it properly,i can't remember her face or her voice,its like my minds deleted everything about her.
I try to remember but I only remember things about her cancer and her death.
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I do sorry
I'm so sorry
@@marinette299 ❤
I lost my mom a few months ago to kidney and liver failure along with some other medical reasons. I’m only 17. She was 35. I miss her so much. All i can tell myself is that she’s in a better place and no longer in pain. RIP mom. I love you with all my heart
Oh dear. Youre so young. Im 25 and just recently Lost my mom. She was 44. I cannot fathom why death took them so fast. I can imagine your pain. Please be strong for her everyday. Please take This love from me and remember that it will get better. Im supporting you in your onward life and healing. ❤
Im soooo jealous. My Dad died in 69 when i was 7. I got no help what so ever. Im glad kids do now.
My dad died 10 days ago. I'm 16 and my mom and I are doing our best. I feel like I won't be able to enjoy life again.
my mom died when i was ten. i can totally relate to all of this. i ran out of an assembly talent show because the song played at her funeral came on
😢❤🙏
I lost both of my parents when I was 9 in a car accident so my brother (who is 15 years older than me) and his girlfriend (now his wife) took me in raised me like a son 4 years later their twin daughters (my nieces) were born I was like more of an older brother than an uncle to them now me at 28 years old living my own life i thank my brother and my sister in law a lot for taking me under their wing I would do anything for both of them and be there for them as they were for me. ❤️😊🙏
My mother died at 6 and now as a 34yrs old woman, I am just grieving and healing my inner child. I'm proud of these young people
My mom died when I was 4 and I’m 31 still crying almost every night
Does the feeling of exhaustion each night ever go away??
Sometimes
Peach y yes, when your parents die you feel sadness and guilt but know it’s not your fault. All we can do is hope we can make the most of our lives.
We never should ignore our feelings, we'll get sick. Be yourself, feel your feelings and deal with them as they come. I've had many losses, but having just lost my mom find this a very hard one.
It probably doesn't. I lost my dad 1 year ago and the feeling of exhaustion and emptiness has never gone for some reason.
My dad died 8 years ago I was the first born and I had six siblings after me life was hard mum never worked all her life can't fix in to work.We all tried our best to go through everything together.I make sure my little ones complete their studies.I know how it feels.May God heal and bless you all.
My dad committed suicide when I was 5 1/2 yrs old. He was 26. I didn’t understand what death was, that he was really gone. After drawing pictures of angels and a coffin in the sky with stars my teacher called home and told my mom that I really needed counseling. She told me later that she didn’t want me to see the dr because they always blamed the mom. My grandmother interceded and insisted she make the appt. It helped me, but she stopped taking me. My dad was a wonderful father who is still loved by my mom’s family. He was always kind and gentle towards me. I realize now, as an adult, that my mom has narcissistic traits. Looking back, I can see how that affected my dad. He divorced her, but still came to see me so often that I didn’t realize then that he had moved out. She put so many financial demands on him that he began to despair and became hopeless. He left a suicide note that I allowed my therapist to read. I can’t bring myself to read it, but wanted the therapist to tell me what he thought. He told me that my dad felt hopeless, that he had no future because of her demands. He said it was such a sad letter, not angry, just sad. For years I could never say that he suicided. If people asked me how he died, I always said he just got sick. The anger I felt towards him came later. How could he leave me with her! Then it turned into anger that she should have died, not him! Now I feel sad for my dad. He had no where to turn in 1956. Therapy just wasn’t that accepted. I am 69 and still feel the loss of my dad. My mom’s family still love him. My mother lives with me now and has dementia. I have felt indifferent towards her for some years. She was never a good mom. She is lucky that she has children who have a strong sense of responsibility and are willing to care for her. I believe that is a trait I learned from my father. I feel blessed that he was my father and can now understand his sadness.
My names lily and my mom died when I was 7
I'm 11
I’m a mom with small kids and I have incurable cancer. This video has me in tears
I love you
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Those of us who lost parents before we were 10, we never got to talk to them about our hopes and dreams and what we wanted to do and what were their hopes and dreams.
My mom passed away 29,02,16 I was 15 at the time and my dad passed 25,05,19 I'm now 19
Sorry for your precious lose i know how it feel
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Hey your not alone and yes my dad passed when i was 4 im currently 14 and its the worse but you need a talk ill be here
@@ilsecarrasco6596 May his soul rest in peace 🙏
@@Sunrise-ow3jq thxs it means a lot its only 10 years sense i last saw him amd im going through that time were i really need him.
I'm currently 19 at the age of 6 years old I lost my father, and at the age of 16 I lost my mum. I remember feeling my mum's lifeless I can't dicribe how it feels. But it hunts me to this day. I've seen my uncle die from cancer as well when I was 14 and seeing him die. Loss it apart of life.
Sure I got it at a early stage.
But my mum day uncle etc hmare still alive in my heart and are with me for the rest of my life.
Anyway that's how I try to see it.
I lost my mom and dad when I was 5 & 11. I wish I could hug you
That's a really strong way of seeing this. I hope we can all heal from these experiences.
I was 6 when my dad unexpectedly passed away. At that time I was so confused because I didn’t understand what death was. Even though I was so young, I have very good memories of him. It’s been 13 years, and I don’t even remember what he sounded like. I wish he was still here.
Ishalllah may allah reunite you two I the here after
I buried my mom and dad when I was 5 and 11... I'm now 23 and I still cry myself to sleep and overthink of them regularly...
Honey, I’m so sorry, what kind of a childhood did u have. Who took care of u, did u like them
@@babyblue6743 my grandparents, they love me just show a lot of tough love. I am more gentle and soft spoken
I’m glad you had and still have a good life despite that. I got tough love and sometimes it’s necessary. I never experienced parental loss as a child, my mum had an accident when I was 14 but was pulled out of the way in time, it was one of these life seconds things, but after operations pulled through, I was really close to her back then, I overthink about that a lot and have to keep reminding myself that she’s ok, but it took her a long time to walk properly. I just could never have imagined it without them, because there was only my dad and no brothers and sisters and not really anyone else, my family was far flung, so things do or don’t happen for a reason, but it’s just different events in different people’s lives.
i lost my mother when i was 10 life was so hard without her :'( cheering up for those like me had lost their moms be tough sweetie life will be good💖
I lost my mom 2 months before. ,I m only 19 ,I can't accept &imagine life without mom 😭😭😭
Last year I lost my grandma ,this year my mom ,My life fully haunted ,grief
My father died when I was 18 months old and now at 48 it still hurts me despite decades of therapy
My mum is gonna pass away in 9 months guys I don‘t want this but eventhough I‘m not christian she always will be with me and my guardian angel
My mum died a month ago now, but the had been suffering from Alzeimers for years. I think I was about 14 or 15 when it started. And for such a long time I was so anxious because of it. When she died, I thought I could finally find peace, but I'm still anxious, scared and sad a lot of the time.
We are so sorry to hear about your loss. Such a sad and difficult time for you and all the family. Please check out our website for links to our helpline and support.
i like this video. i experienced the same after my dads death and now i am 33 and still i suffer from ptsd. i wished that there would be more support for kids.
My father died of an overdose when I was four and my mother died of one too when I was eight, and all of my memories of my mother are of her having an episode screaming around the house, and threatening to kill her self with knives. I was always reclusive and quiet, and never really smiled. I couldn't comprehend what was going on with me, and began to gain a lot of weight just eating away the pain that I had no idea how to process. So that resulted in a lot of bullying in school and me shutting down even more over the years. Ended up going down a bad road of abusing drugs myself, I'm 22 now and just wow idk anymore never thought my life would have gotten to this point. At least I'm making attempts to clean up, but my life is a complete mess. I never have really felt understood by anyone around me, and can't even really understand myself. Never did get adequate therapy for all of this and was mostly just thrown SSRI's here and there. I want to be the best me, and live my best life, but it's all so tiresome...
Although we do not offer support in the US, we are aware of an organisation called The Compassionate Friends, whose details you can find here: www.compassionatefriends.org/
It may also be helpful for you to have a look at some of the information and resources we have on our website. I have included a few links below which may be of interest:
The Path of Grief - www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/the-path-of-grief
The Invisible Suitcase - www.childbereavementuk.org/the-invisible-suitcase
Please note that this information about services and resources does not constitute a recommendation by Child Bereavement UK, as we are aware that whether a particular resource is helpful or not is a decision that can only be made by each individual
I hope these are helpful to you and thank you again for contacting Child Bereavement UK.
Support & Information Team
Child Bereavement UK
My parents both died when I was-a mature adult 6 months apart. But this is no way I can imagine losing them as a child, but society is a lot more geared up to deal with this now than in the past
My dad died when I was four and it sucks because I don’t even remember what he sounded like and it was 11 years ago and it just hurts because I can’t cry or talk to people about it because I don’t want people to stress over it
My dad was killed last month and I feel like I lost everything I miss him so much and I wish I could go back in time
Lost my mom, 2 months back.. I feel you. She was killed too, by a reckless driver. But please try to make your life beautiful, you owe yourself happiness too.. let positivity flow in 🌟🌟🌻🌻 the world is a family remember that, and every single soul is going thru some pain, and if not now, then one day they will too.. Try to be happy, its your responsibility.
I lost my dad when I was 4 I was so young I did not remember any time with my dad I remember calling him everyday I was so close to meeting him I was about a week away I was packing my bags and then he did not answer no answer no answer until my mom got the bad news and then she told me I was devastated he was found dead on a river a few days ago I got to hold one of my dads tools. Enjoy having parents and a perfect family.
Lost my dad at 7 now I'm 33, wish America had something like this for when I was growing up.
I have lost my dad 3 years ago, but i am so depressed about it, just the fact i Will never see him again
May allah ease your pain
my mama died when i was ten, my papa died when i just turned fourteen..
Im 23 lost my dad to suicide when i was 7 i never dealt with it properly and now that i have a daughter its with me every day
We are very sorry to hear that you were bereaved of your Dad when you were 7 years old. We support bereaved young people in the UK up to the age of 25, so if you would find it helpful to speak to us, please call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, or use Live Chat on our website. The Helpline team are available Monday - Friday, 9am - 5pm.
I lost my dad 2015 and my world was shattered but my mom was always there for me . But then 3 years later i lost my best friend who happened to my mom and even today I just cannot get over it ..it is so heartbreaking knowing that I will never see my parents again 💔
Can we all agree having a friend that has had the same experience makes it better. When you lose a parent you become careless at least in my experience. You get yelled at my some random person I don’t give an f. It makes you more vulnerable to emotion
Who people lose their mom or dad we'all remember the good memories that your first step your first bath your first day at school your parents always help you no matter what 😢😢💔💔😥😥. (it's break my heart when I saw somebody like that)
I lost my dad 2 months ago. It hurts everyday and gets worse. Highschool is getting hard I get panic attacks sometimes. I feel depressed. Everyone around me expects me to do academically well. And I just feel drained. I have exams starting next week and guess what I haven't even started studying. I feel even worse after getting my grades I was a topper literally the previous year. I am so confused and done with life. Just letting everything kinda happen because I am soo done. I AM TOO YOUNG FOR THIS.
I guess I'm an old lady now...67 years old. I lost my dad when I was 7. I think my life would have been very different had he lived. At the time when my dad passed away, kids didn't have access to therapy. I think it's very important that children having this experience get therapy...even if they don't feel they need it.
That’s sad losing him so young, it’s too young to lose a parent and there is evidence that children who lose a parent or parents under 16 years are more prone to depression and other things. I didn’t lose parents as a child, thankfully, but have lost them both in the last 4 years, I’m 54, but I can imagine the sense of loss as a child, because you have so much to learn, go through and rely so much on others. There really is a big difference in losing them as children compared to adults. In some ways an experience like that does make you more sympathetic to people who’ve lost parents as children. I take it your mum died when you were an adult. How do the two compare, I’m just interested and i don’t have to discuss it if U don’t want, one thing I could imagine is the feeling of loss as they are not there for u in those milestone life moments, to share things with u, or just to be there for u and comfort you when you are sad, moreover they’re not there to protect u either. a parents love is unique
@@babyblue6743 Unfortunately, I have very few memories of my dad because I was so young when he passed. I think my relationships with men might have been more successful had I had a male role model but I didn't. Mom passed when I was 39. I was in a complete panic when she became ill. She was the only parent I really knew. Sorry to hear about your Mom and Dad. The bottom line is it's always just terrible to lose them whenever it happens. Take care Penny!
Ye, it’s like everyone else has got that parent. I’ve been lucky, lost both in last 4 years, so there was acceptance and proper closure. But with premature parental loss there isn’t that closure, because the child was left partially grown. Also another problem arises if children haven’t got adequate roll models, ie; uncles, grandads, or older brothers, that’s so lonely, moreover a child can suffer a lack of affection and security and feel very vulnerable. Looking at this video has made me aware than nobody should take anything for granted, which those with intact childhoods do all the time. I did. But I was discussing this with my home help a few weeks ago and she said in the past it was just seen as life, grin and bear it years ago, people didn’t talk about their feelings and emotions like today. (I get input from my home helps) they weren’t aware of how early parental loss affected children, just the sheer trauma that they didn’t make it to see you to a certain age is a tragedy and it’s every parents worst nightmare to leave their young children like that, the child feels cheated out of that time together. I’m autistic, so marrying would have been difficult, although it never interested me because I had my dad, also autistics don’t see the world and relationships in the same way as other people do, when he passed I told someone that there was only one man in my life, that was him, because nothing more was expected of me than to be a daughter. I don’t know why early parental death affects me so deeply, it happened to a couple of my classmates when I was 10 and 12, to me that was awful and I became fearful of losing them, but quickly reasoned that it only happens to others, which isn’t true. I think it’s good that society is getting on top of this problem today, but there is still a way to go
I lost my dad when I was 8, I had a lot of kids in school laugh at me for it, I can still hear certain comments "haha you've got a dead daddy", I had a lot of teachers forget the memo as it were and I'd be forced to make father's Day cards etc next to my classmates in tears. I didn't cope well with my loss and I felt totally numb for years
My biological mom died in July 2013 and my biological daddy in July 2017. I'm 16 now and I never met them but I miss them lots :(
My dad died when i was 11. I was 6 monts going on therapy. I was scared to be left alone. That mom would die. Died from cancer and kidney stones. 13.6.2017 it was long fight. Everybody but me and dad hoped he would live. But others knew the truth. It was like from nothing. But mom made it perfect. She cared so much helped me So much. I know now a lot more and im okay. Im So thankful for her. im 15. My dads family (parents And his 2 siblings died from cancer and other 2 siblings had it 55 years into their life. Wish me and my brothers luck. Thank you.
Good luck.god bless
I lost my father .2months ago due to covid -19 .IAm from India .I will never forget my father . after12by my father had die .I never stop for crying .my mom has got a big responsibility for Handel me and my brother . I can't live without my father😢😢😢😢
We’re so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. If you would like support, please do feel free to call our helpline on 0800 02 888 40 or our Live Chat support via our website 9am - 5pm Monday - Friday (UK time).
My mother died one month ago,it has never being the same.i miss her
My mum died 2 months before my 3rd birthday. I have fleeting memories of her but the feeling of having a mum is alien to me. Bereavement happened over a period of 15 years because I didn't grasp the immenseness of the loss, didn't have the cognitive ability to process my feelings and I wasnt allowed to mention her again . My dad died from cancer when I was 22. The bereavement period was short and intense. The abandonment feeling of early maternal loss has never really left me, I can't connect to people emotionally as a means of self preservation.
My mother died 20yrs ago. I never went to a funeral as a child, for years I kept thinking I’d run into her in some alternate universe type of thing in another country. Now I’m thinking of having a funeral ( just for symbolic purposes) to move on. What do you think? Bad idea?
Please
Just have a therapist who will take you through the funeral process in experiential therapy
Sand tray world play
I lost both of my parents at the age of 8. I never know what is it be like a son to a mother. I never miss my father or mother, bcz I never knew them. Not their love, security and care. Especially in your early age , you will feel social anxiety, fear.. etc through out. Also in your 20s you will feel something is missing. The missing part is love and the support. It's true. It's a life time loss. Although I have relatives, thier efforts doesn't even come close. I can understand that they don't understand. Your 50 percentage life is already done when you had lost your parents. But don't give up.
It's more painful to watch when you are one of them,i lost my mother when was 8 she suisided hanging i can forget the scene where i and my dad opened the door and discovered her hanging body it's still traumatizing,never my dad got crumbled and crush like that day before,it was really really really hard to grow up like that without any emotional support and doing every single thing by my own and not even a single person to understand,dad never got married again he became alcoholic but never did any wrong to me he supported me till my graduation, but you know its just i never understood that how to make friends or become good at relationships every time i tried i failed life was a mess and still is i am confused of what to do in life no one to share nothing, getting depression most of the time and just wishing what if my mother was alive what if i could have stopped her from doing that,how could she do that to her how selfish she is didn't she even thought about a 2nd time about me and my dad? Sometimes I feel like giving up because i feel tired exhausted and just die man it's tough but my father don't deserve this pain of losing me
Lost my father when I was 6 and it’s still hard always is hard but it makes you stronger all we can do is live our lives to best we can and make them proud
We are very sorry to hear you were bereaved of your father when you were six. We support bereaved young people up to the age of 25. If you'd like to see our resources, you can visit our website: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people
or call our Helpline on 0800 02 88 40, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, or via Live Chat on our website: childbereavementuk.org
Warm wishes
Child Bereavement UK
My hearth doesnt let me if my parent die but i am crying because they cand die
Now after before in future i am so scared
When I grow up I want to adopt a little girl without a family and be her family/ mommy
I lost them both my parents when I was kid but never lost my mind they are with me now in my heart in my brain telling me kid do not drink drug do bad things hurt your self or anybody else they telling everyday how much they love me I still feel their hands passing all over my body to make me feel scuer and loved no body in the world can replace them ever
hugs... my father died when I was 7 years old and I am 31 now but still I miss my daddy... thank you for I know you understand what I have been through and am going through...
We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your father when you were 7.
We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children, and which includes some details of support organisations for adults bereaved as children if you would find this helpful.
Warm wishes
Child Bereavement UK
I lost my Mum back in 1972, I was just four years old, she was 27 and lost her life to Acute Myeloid Leukaemia. My father kept his grief to himself, until he died in 2018. I had attempted suicide at 14, having lost Mam and three of four grandparents, I believed it was my fault.
I’m 55 now and my life has been so difficult, I have had no help, diagnosed with clinical depression in 2003, I have no sense of identity, I feel like a stranger on this earth, I don’t make friends easily and I’m alone. My wife is all I have, my kids are grown up and I’ve tried to hide how I feel from them. I feel like i’ve let Mam down. I wish Childhood Bereavement UK had existed back in my childhood.
Keep doing all you do to help those young people affected by the loss of a parent or grandparents.❤
We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your mum when you were 4 and that you have struggled with your grief.
We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children, and which includes some details of support organisations for adults bereaved as children.
Warm wishes
Child Bereavement UK
I lost my dad when i was 5. I dont have any memories of him other than the funeral and it kinda hurts because when i think of him i can only remember that day. At that time I didn't knew what it meant by my father's death, i knew he was gone but i didn't understand that it was forever. I only started realising when i saw other kids with their dads and i slowly started to understand and man even after all this time i will break down in tears.
I was bright kid until then, after that i sort of became helpless and became the opposite of what i used to be. I felt alone and my grades dropped. I only gained myself back just 3 years back when i gathered myself up and started to take care of myself and focus on myself without needing anyone's help. It hurts tho, im 18 now and still the void is there
We are very sorry to hear your were bereaved of your dad when you were five.
We have a section on our website which is for bereaved young people which you may find helpful to look at: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people.
We support bereaved young people up to the age of 25, so if you would like to talk to us about your grief or about bereavement support, you are welcome to contact our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40 or by using Live Chat on our website: www.childbereavementuk.org. Our team are available Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.
Best wishes
Child Bereavement UK
My mother passed when I was 13 in an accident and it changed the trajectory of my life. 10 years of rage and a distant military father who couldn't relate to me. I know he meant well but a quick marriage to a step mother was not the best idea. I was always the reminder of my mother to her. I'm in my 50s now and I have a lot of empathy for these kids. I just want to sit down and talk to them. I know what all of them feel and are going through.
I lost my mom at 11,13 years later she's on my mind constantly
We are sorry to hear that you were bereaved of your mom when you were 11. We have a section for young people who were bereaved on our website which may have some helpful information for you: www.childbereavementuk.org/pages/category/18-to-25
Best wishes
Child Bereavement UK
i'm 29 soon..., but, im still a child of my mama and papa.... my mama is turning 68 and papa is going 60 soon.. Thinking of their aged really turns me sad... I can't imagine life without them and maybe if you read this you'll think that imma psychopath ... I Keep on praying to God to stop people from aging in return their faces and body 30 years ago....huhuhu...as we all know noah died at the age of 950 why dont let them atleast 150 .... without letting their faces aged too much...so they can still see me graduated college and born my child and we can travel and made a lot memories....
ooh girl I thought I was the only one like you reading this comment section. same boat I still have both but see them aging and fear there will be a day I won't even remember the sound of their voice. 150 years sounds soooo good!!!!
a Hindi teacher once told me that sometimes the people who worry about their parents dying so much that they themselves actually die first. I mean, it happens. they worry during car driving or their worry cause stress to the body and it becomes ill.
my grandpa who has recently turned 100 was shocked when i suggested that i didnt expect him to live much longer because hes already so old. dumbest thing ive ever said because ever since he started seeing it this way he more clearly sees his body declining where before he wasnt at all thinking about it like that and he was very fit. maybe i should stop reminding people of death.
I lost my dad 8 and a half years ago. His oldest was 18, then the next was 15. I was 12 and his youngest was 9….
We are very sorry to hear you and your siblings were bereaved of your dad.
We support children and young people up to the age of 25 when they have been bereaved of someone important to them. If you or your siblings would like to discuss bereavement support with us, please contact our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, or via Live Chat on our website.
We also have a section on our website for bereaved young people which has other resources and guidance which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people
Best wishes
Child Bereavement UK
I lost my father 16 years ago when i was 11 from cancer. I still remember it like it was yesterday. I still miss him everyday and can still hear his infectious laugh.
This made me cry..really.
My empathy goes towards them. 🙏
I really appreciated watching this video. My dad passed a week before my eighth birthday, and the support I received from teachers, and family really helped. My faith in God grew immensely during this period. Being so young, I didn't have anyone of my peers I could talk with about this. I hesitated bringing my dad up in conversions, bc I hated sympathy (I still kind of do). It wasn't until college that I was able to open up about the experience. To those who have lost a parent at a young age, yes it changes your perspective on life, but you will get through it and move forward.
just realize this things is affected so much after a years by years.
keep strong guys we can do it!!