All of my anxiety has ALWAYS been about work. When I was in school it was school. It's basically extreme social anxiety when it comes to performance of any kind. If I could just sell my jewelry and not have to work for people anymore I'd be happy but it's unfortunately not realistic and I feel like crap.
Omg I am the same it feels so comforting to know others feel the same to. My ex says that I need medication and thinks I'm Bipolar 1 but I know it's just being around people that scare me and who are rude I can't take that kind of environment and it's sad because I really do like bussing and dishwashing but my last manager was awful and the owners did not care that she was yelling at us. I also felt as if the owner was narcissistic because he did talk about himself a lot. He said to me I'll give you $20 if you guess my favorite song and honestly I didn't want to guess his favorite song when I had just met him day off. Idk maybe it's in my head but people like this creep me out a lot. Also where is the professionalism? That has gone out the window to it's weird. I'm not as bad I'm pretty open but I will only admit stuff to people if I feel that I can trust them but I usually try to be private.
This is exactly my situation in my newish job… my boss doesn’t seem to have my back & is always questioning me, feel our relationship is very tense, awkward & cold which causes me to be super anxious. :( I wish I could just start my own thing but it’s easier said than done.
This is my situation at my current job. Even if my supervisor is re-training me and trying to be helpful, she is throwing shade at me, yelling at me and easily losing her temper with me, being hypercritical, and micromanaging me. I want to quit and I also want to report her bad behavior. The job we work is already stressful enough with rude and demanding patients. Why make it more stressful for employees?😒
How about we stop trying to work around the elephant in the room and admit that capitalism and working 50/60 hours a week (especially with computer jobs in my case) is SOUL CRUSHING, anxiety inducing and most workers aren't paid enough for their efforts. This "be a wage slave or starve" society we live under is SICK, manipulative and overbearing. My job has my mental health so deteriorated that I spend my free time either raging or crying. I deal with so many people in the run of a work week that I find myself depleted and avoiding the people important to me because I'm too agitated and talked out. We're all expected to be perfect little worker bee's when our employers don't account for mental illness, upbringing, social status or the last 2 years for everyone on the planet. Corporate level people don't care about us. They treat us like batteries. Use us until we're burnt out then throw us away.. ISN'T CAPITALISM GREAT?
I studied web development for 7 months, i was technically okay but i had to be honest with myself that web dev snd programming in general is not for someone who stresses for nothing, it was hard to admit that mentaly i stress quickly so i quit the course snd don't regret, later my agent told even if i finish the course, once at work i will have troubles.
Agreed, as an IT person and behind a pc all day I have come to hate it very badly, I cant leave it due to the salary...and doing a different kind of work is out also as all employers think you want to keep doing the same thing forever. Its the golden handcuffs scenario and it is soul crushing.....I hate my life and am full of anxiety, depression and fear. I have never wanted to retire until the last year when it finally dawned on me that this is a winless battle....I regret the career decisions made when I was younger.....wish I would have known how things would have turned out 25 years later.
Agreed, although I think we should be specific: what is really stressful about is actually the lack of physical engagement. If you were farming for 12 hours a day getting out in the sun and seeing directly the fruits of your labor it would be way less stressful.
@@MrMadalien I'll admit that when I was in construction, I did enjoy the exercise and outdoors, but even then I was sore and over worked a lot of the time.
I've put on weight and started taking anxiety medication because of work. Depression is also a struggle for years. I'm sometimes bullied even though I'm a team player, always on time and barely take off well all that is changing I'm ready to move on. I hope not to go through this on my next job.
Hey John when you told the guy to be friends with his gf do you mean literally be friends without dating or still being friends while dating? Just would like some clarity cause I’ve had some peers tell me before to slow down as well
It's a job that makes you miserable... I did it for awhile. I would make sure managers was loading Into the correct trailers and going to the correct location. Once the trailer is full you assign to a driver/team and they take the trailer to the destination that you dispatch them to.
One thing that John didn’t address is if the workplace environment itself is toxic - and your anxiety and dread is based on impending drama and abuse you go through daily at work. What then? This isn’t exactly the best time to change jobs if your income is stable.
KeepYourHeadUp 9 very true. I’ve worked with toxic people and hated the job. Previously at the same job I loved it as the toxicity didn’t exist. Best to look for a new job.
This. We have lost 30% of our employees 12/40 in the last year because I believe the culture is now toxic. We use to never have turnover. Then there was a shift to grow and a hyper-focus on time and budgets and now people are jumping ship. Nothing is ever good enough unless you're perfect. People don't want to live this way.
@@Firerose101 Omg I thought something was just wrong with me. Yes exactly this I don't want to live this way I'm so tired of it. Idk what to do though I'm 38 and it's gotten worse over the years. I'm afraid to work and I feel like I am in a foreign country because everyone else seems fake to me and I feel like an alien. Their were only some I felt I could trust the others I did not. But maybe it's just in my head but then I would hear the harassment and just see so many red flags that it scarred me off. The manager was very passive aggressive and I'm sorry you don't act that way when you have all new employees the fact she acted that way was pathetic it's like look lady I do not know you I just met you day off how rude. It would be like me going up to you on the street and telling you off I don't know you. It was just scary to me the way they treat their employees like slaves especially in the service industry. I'm really sad to because I really loved my job. I tell management to do something about the toxic work culture but they never listen to me they are like robots.
I hated every job that was shift work too!! I felt the same, its such a drag and finding a stable job is not easy trust me I tried minimal jobs is all around and they consist of shift work
For the impulsive marriage: I got married at19, my husband was 24. 14 years later we are stronger than ever but please know it was a very challenging first 10 years of learning to compromise and really accept each other as we are. Take it slow, if it’s meant to happen it will in time. If you jump in quickly, be prepared for a lot of struggles before finding the true joy of marriage and having a partner for life. Best wishes!
Yup that’s why I don’t quit. I have this friend that quit his job because of anxiety. Then he started losing his hair because he was so stressed that he had no money.
I don't mind working but it's really constant and you have to rest up for most of the day off. I make it a habit to get plenty of sleep. The thing I hate is varied lunch schedules that throw off digestion. Other than that I am doing pretty well. Now about "other" things, this RONA allows you to have to tell people a special rule, ie wear masks and they may not want to. That can cause more stress than needed. So how do we help customers feel safe, cared for, understood while practicing social distancing rules?
I just started a new job and I'm letting myself feel pressured to move up because it's been mentioned. However, I'm very happy where I am. I was constantly pleasing and taking care of everyone else and now I have to do what's right for me. I've already spoken to my bosses and I just need to know they took it seriously. Is this something I should be reaching out to HR about?
Hmmn... sounds like an inpatient nursing job during this pandemic. I have chosen to switch my specialty in order to change my pre-shift anxiety levels, so far, it has worked for me. 👍
Say, "Inhale the Present and Exhale the Past..." taking a deep breath. Say, "Inhale the Calm and Exhale the Anxiety..." taking a deep breath. Do this a couple of times throughout the day...
I work in a nursing home… and I’ve noticed that when I worked on rehab unit which is fast pace my anxiety no bad but when I work on other units that’s slow pace my anxiety kicks in cause I’m overthinking about everything.. should I quit and find a new work field or should I bring it to the supervisors attention?
It's about time I listen to this. Every time someone like a manager is passive aggressive toward me (just had it happen) I end up feeling like such a child and it sounds like my father is reprimanding me. Now I don't want to work at all and feel like an alien...I'm always quitting a job. Plus I have Auditory Processing Disorder and no one understands that disorder so it's tough. And like @keepyouheadup9183 says that the work place is toxic in itself and it's abusive and I can't be around that I will shut down then go home and won't be able to sleep.
All of my anxiety has ALWAYS been about work. When I was in school it was school. It's basically extreme social anxiety when it comes to performance of any kind. If I could just sell my jewelry and not have to work for people anymore I'd be happy but it's unfortunately not realistic and I feel like crap.
YOU CAN DO IT ❤️
Same here. Hoping your hobbies turn into passionate income! God bless!
Omg I am the same it feels so comforting to know others feel the same to. My ex says that I need medication and thinks I'm Bipolar 1 but I know it's just being around people that scare me and who are rude I can't take that kind of environment and it's sad because I really do like bussing and dishwashing but my last manager was awful and the owners did not care that she was yelling at us. I also felt as if the owner was narcissistic because he did talk about himself a lot. He said to me I'll give you $20 if you guess my favorite song and honestly I didn't want to guess his favorite song when I had just met him day off. Idk maybe it's in my head but people like this creep me out a lot. Also where is the professionalism? That has gone out the window to it's weird. I'm not as bad I'm pretty open but I will only admit stuff to people if I feel that I can trust them but I usually try to be private.
Workplace anxiety is usually due to your boss not being supportive, if they aren’t helping you feel supported or appreciated, find a new job.
This is exactly my situation in my newish job… my boss doesn’t seem to have my back & is always questioning me, feel our relationship is very tense, awkward & cold which causes me to be super anxious. :( I wish I could just start my own thing but it’s easier said than done.
I am living through this right now!
This is my situation at my current job. Even if my supervisor is re-training me and trying to be helpful, she is throwing shade at me, yelling at me and easily losing her temper with me, being hypercritical, and micromanaging me. I want to quit and I also want to report her bad behavior. The job we work is already stressful enough with rude and demanding patients. Why make it more stressful for employees?😒
Dr. John, you are such a great addition to the Ramsey team! 🥰
Totally agree
Yes! Adding him to the team was very timely and needed.
That work stress is real, some days I literally feel like throwing up when I’m at work. Just gotta take it day by day.
Me too 😢
How about we stop trying to work around the elephant in the room and admit that capitalism and working 50/60 hours a week (especially with computer jobs in my case) is SOUL CRUSHING, anxiety inducing and most workers aren't paid enough for their efforts. This "be a wage slave or starve" society we live under is SICK, manipulative and overbearing. My job has my mental health so deteriorated that I spend my free time either raging or crying. I deal with so many people in the run of a work week that I find myself depleted and avoiding the people important to me because I'm too agitated and talked out. We're all expected to be perfect little worker bee's when our employers don't account for mental illness, upbringing, social status or the last 2 years for everyone on the planet. Corporate level people don't care about us. They treat us like batteries. Use us until we're burnt out then throw us away.. ISN'T CAPITALISM GREAT?
I studied web development for 7 months, i was technically okay but i had to be honest with myself that web dev snd programming in general is not for someone who stresses for nothing, it was hard to admit that mentaly i stress quickly so i quit the course snd don't regret, later my agent told even if i finish the course, once at work i will have troubles.
Agreed, as an IT person and behind a pc all day I have come to hate it very badly, I cant leave it due to the salary...and doing a different kind of work is out also as all employers think you want to keep doing the same thing forever. Its the golden handcuffs scenario and it is soul crushing.....I hate my life and am full of anxiety, depression and fear. I have never wanted to retire until the last year when it finally dawned on me that this is a winless battle....I regret the career decisions made when I was younger.....wish I would have known how things would have turned out 25 years later.
Agreed, although I think we should be specific: what is really stressful about is actually the lack of physical engagement. If you were farming for 12 hours a day getting out in the sun and seeing directly the fruits of your labor it would be way less stressful.
@@MrMadalien I'll admit that when I was in construction, I did enjoy the exercise and outdoors, but even then I was sore and over worked a lot of the time.
I've put on weight and started taking anxiety medication because of work. Depression is also a struggle for years. I'm sometimes bullied even though I'm a team player, always on time and barely take off well all that is changing I'm ready to move on. I hope not to go through this on my next job.
God Bless! I pray you find what you’re looking for!
I deal with the same thing
How are you doing now???
I have social anxiety and I get so much anxiety before work I drink alcohol before clocking in
Never thought of doing that. Coffee helped a bit because it gets me wired.
Was listening for workplace anxiety coping strategies and then one question about premarital courtship was addressed. 😑
Whining down to get ready for hell again . Man I can't live my life like this .
always have anxiety before going to work as a healthcare worker 🥲🥲🥲🥲
2nd Email: Sounds like these two lovebirds finish each other's...sandwiches.
I get anxious at work cause I'm the target of a female narc! Lol sheeesh
Hey John when you told the guy to be friends with his gf do you mean literally be friends without dating or still being friends while dating? Just would like some clarity cause I’ve had some peers tell me before to slow down as well
Good advice, like always! I want an invite too, Lol...I'm happy for the happy couple!
Logistics dispatcher what that position?
It's a job that makes you miserable... I did it for awhile. I would make sure managers was loading Into the correct trailers and going to the correct location. Once the trailer is full you assign to a driver/team and they take the trailer to the destination that you dispatch them to.
👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 advice not great
One thing that John didn’t address is if the workplace environment itself is toxic - and your anxiety and dread is based on impending drama and abuse you go through daily at work. What then? This isn’t exactly the best time to change jobs if your income is stable.
KeepYourHeadUp 9 very true. I’ve worked with toxic people and hated the job. Previously at the same job I loved it as the toxicity didn’t exist. Best to look for a new job.
Income may be stable but you are paying a price in other ways.
This. We have lost 30% of our employees 12/40 in the last year because I believe the culture is now toxic. We use to never have turnover. Then there was a shift to grow and a hyper-focus on time and budgets and now people are jumping ship. Nothing is ever good enough unless you're perfect. People don't want to live this way.
@@josephj6521 I was fine, happy, everythign was great until it became toxic then I became toxic. No one would listen to me though.
@@Firerose101 Omg I thought something was just wrong with me. Yes exactly this I don't want to live this way I'm so tired of it. Idk what to do though I'm 38 and it's gotten worse over the years. I'm afraid to work and I feel like I am in a foreign country because everyone else seems fake to me and I feel like an alien. Their were only some I felt I could trust the others I did not. But maybe it's just in my head but then I would hear the harassment and just see so many red flags that it scarred me off. The manager was very passive aggressive and I'm sorry you don't act that way when you have all new employees the fact she acted that way was pathetic it's like look lady I do not know you I just met you day off how rude. It would be like me going up to you on the street and telling you off I don't know you. It was just scary to me the way they treat their employees like slaves especially in the service industry. I'm really sad to because I really loved my job. I tell management to do something about the toxic work culture but they never listen to me they are like robots.
So much anxiety about work it’s crippling
I say most anxiety is job related. Most stress is caused by work and anxiety comes along. People need to do what they love.
I also having anxiety when i don't have work.
@Anthony Garcia Something else is stressing you out then, Something has you worrying about.
I have that same issue with anxiety the day before work. Thank you for addressing this. Very glad you are part of the Ramsey team
Mama D and Family what are your work colleagues like to work with?
I hated every job that was shift work too!! I felt the same, its such a drag and finding a stable job is not easy trust me I tried minimal jobs is all around and they consist of shift work
I have the issue as the lady in the first e-mail. I am struggling to understand how do I fix the work related anxiety, can we have info on that?
For the impulsive marriage: I got married at19, my husband was 24. 14 years later we are stronger than ever but please know it was a very challenging first 10 years of learning to compromise and really accept each other as we are. Take it slow, if it’s meant to happen it will in time. If you jump in quickly, be prepared for a lot of struggles before finding the true joy of marriage and having a partner for life. Best wishes!
I have anxiety because I don't have a job and can't find work 😭
You will be alright dear.
Yup that’s why I don’t quit. I have this friend that quit his job because of anxiety. Then he started losing his hair because he was so stressed that he had no money.
I don't mind working but it's really constant and you have to rest up for most of the day off. I make it a habit to get plenty of sleep. The thing I hate is varied lunch schedules that throw off digestion. Other than that I am doing pretty well. Now about "other" things, this RONA allows you to have to tell people a special rule, ie wear masks and they may not want to. That can cause more stress than needed. So how do we help customers feel safe, cared for, understood while practicing social distancing rules?
Wow 😳 is me thank you so much , help me a lot ,mirror with first letter🙏
I just started a new job and I'm letting myself feel pressured to move up because it's been mentioned. However, I'm very happy where I am. I was constantly pleasing and taking care of everyone else and now I have to do what's right for me. I've already spoken to my bosses and I just need to know they took it seriously. Is this something I should be reaching out to HR about?
Dr,, you are such a awesome addition to the team !! Thank you for you 👍
Fam I work at mattress firm and it’s 12 hour shifts lol
I’m a store manager and I’m a basket case
Hmmn... sounds like an inpatient nursing job during this pandemic.
I have chosen to switch my specialty in order to change my pre-shift anxiety levels, so far, it has worked for me. 👍
Very relatable! Thank you!
Good stuff. There is no road map or book. Good stuff
Good advice
Say, "Inhale the Present and Exhale the Past..." taking a deep breath.
Say, "Inhale the Calm and Exhale the Anxiety..." taking a deep breath.
Do this a couple of times throughout the day...
I work in a nursing home… and I’ve noticed that when I worked on rehab unit which is fast pace my anxiety no bad but when I work on other units that’s slow pace my anxiety kicks in cause I’m overthinking about everything.. should I quit and find a new work field or should I bring it to the supervisors attention?
Or a security guard
This and I can relate!
This should be retitled to “If you have anxiety it might be you, also most of this video is about marriage and has nothing to do with anxiety”.
Stop listening to these people
This is really great advice!
It's about time I listen to this. Every time someone like a manager is passive aggressive toward me (just had it happen) I end up feeling like such a child and it sounds like my father is reprimanding me. Now I don't want to work at all and feel like an alien...I'm always quitting a job. Plus I have Auditory Processing Disorder and no one understands that disorder so it's tough. And like @keepyouheadup9183 says that the work place is toxic in itself and it's abusive and I can't be around that I will shut down then go home and won't be able to sleep.