Thank you Ms Sue 😀!!! I would love to hear about the history of the waves that you have seen!!! And Happy belated Mother's Day ❤🌹 Ps I know that my son is doing just fine by the unschooling way (actually I think he likes it better 😉) and honestly I like it better too.
Hello Sue, I came across a thread on reddit the other day of grown unschoolers who are very much regretting their unschooled experience, and feel as though their parent's did a huge disservice to them. That it did nothing to prepare them for life. A few said their parents were very influential in the unschooling community, and that they touted unschooling as being this wonerful thing, but in fact it was very harmful for the children. I was very interested in unschooling, but when I read all of that from so many different people it definitely shook me and made me shy away again. So now I feel as though I am back at square one. I am interested in anything you would have to say about all of this?
Hi Dawn, I’ve seen that too. There’s even an entire website built for dissatisfied grown homeschoolers - but that is mainly for those who were in super conservative authoritarian households. The Unschoolers that are unhappy… I’m sad when I hear about them. I have a couple of thoughts. The term “unschooling” is often used by people that don’t do school at home, but don’t spend any time connecting with their kids. A totally hands-off approach. I can see how that could go wrong. There was a period of time where there was a big push to let kids “unfold organically” with any suggestions from parents seen as interference in the process. So if they were part of that, I get it. But… another layer is that kids in their 20s (not necessarily that age, but as kids are moving out to an independent adulthood, it OFTEN doesn’t go as they had hoped. And usually the blame falls onto whatever made them “the most different.” It’s an easy scapegoat. My experience is that as kids get older, if those kids who may have felt disadvantaged, they begin to see some of the benefits of their parents’ choices. We all have things we wish had happened differently in our childhood. Most of those things are fixable as we become adults. As for your concern & now hesitation, it’s something everyone has to work through. Weigh out the pros and cons, prioritize communication and connections. And make your best choices. I always joked that we all need to have loose change go toward a therapy jar! Probably a good idea for everyone.
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This was powerful and confirmation, it take an incredible sense of accountability for a parent to give the gift of unschooling. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you Ms Sue 😀!!! I would love to hear about the history of the waves that you have seen!!! And Happy belated Mother's Day ❤🌹
Ps I know that my son is doing just fine by the unschooling way (actually I think he likes it better 😉) and honestly I like it better too.
Thanks for letting me know! I'm so glad to hear that you and your son are doing well!! Happy belated Mother's Day to you too!🌻
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Hello Sue,
I came across a thread on reddit the other day of grown unschoolers who are very much regretting their unschooled experience, and feel as though their parent's did a huge disservice to them. That it did nothing to prepare them for life.
A few said their parents were very influential in the unschooling community, and that they touted unschooling as being this wonerful thing, but in fact it was very harmful for the children.
I was very interested in unschooling, but when I read all of that from so many different people it definitely shook me and made me shy away again.
So now I feel as though I am back at square one. I am interested in anything you would have to say about all of this?
Hi Dawn, I’ve seen that too. There’s even an entire website built for dissatisfied grown homeschoolers - but that is mainly for those who were in super conservative authoritarian households. The Unschoolers that are unhappy… I’m sad when I hear about them. I have a couple of thoughts. The term “unschooling” is often used by people that don’t do school at home, but don’t spend any time connecting with their kids. A totally hands-off approach. I can see how that could go wrong. There was a period of time where there was a big push to let kids “unfold organically” with any suggestions from parents seen as interference in the process. So if they were part of that, I get it.
But… another layer is that kids in their 20s (not necessarily that age, but as kids are moving out to an independent adulthood, it OFTEN doesn’t go as they had hoped. And usually the blame falls onto whatever made them “the most different.” It’s an easy scapegoat. My experience is that as kids get older, if those kids who may have felt disadvantaged, they begin to see some of the benefits of their parents’ choices.
We all have things we wish had happened differently in our childhood. Most of those things are fixable as we become adults.
As for your concern & now hesitation, it’s something everyone has to work through. Weigh out the pros and cons, prioritize communication and connections. And make your best choices. I always joked that we all need to have loose change go toward a therapy jar! Probably a good idea for everyone.
@@UnschoolingMom2Mom Thank you, Sue, for your response. I greatly appreciate it. 🙂