Our Final IVF Update
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- We share the final results of our IVF journey. To hear more about the entire process, start with this video: • Our First IVF Appointm...
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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
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Shane and Hannah have been together for over seven years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
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C4/C5 spinal cord injury here. My wife and I tried IVF for 3 sessions, but my fishy swimmers just would not cooperate. After taking a little time and doing some soul-searching we decided to have a child through a frozen donor. My wife is perfectly healthy and able to get pregnant and it was mainly my pride causing the delay in deciding to go this route. We went to the donor company in Seattle and found a donor who looked somewhat like me and met some of my personality types. We now have a beautiful and crazy 3-year-old boy. The irony is that most people say he looks and acts more like me than my wife! The main thing is turning taught me is that you do not need to be the biological sperm source to be a child’s father. He is the total world to me and it melts my heart every time he screams “daddy” when he comes into a room and climbs my chair like a jungle gym. Whether you decide to have a child through IVF, donor or adoption, that child will be the pride of your life (until they become teenagers.) You both will be incredible parents no matter what you decide!
Maybe it’s my pregnancy hormones or maybe not but this was so sweet to read it almost made me emotional! I’m so happy you and your wife were able
To have the family that you wanted. You are right, blood does not make you a parent but being a good father does. I’m very happy for you and your family 😊❤
Respectfully, what about the baby’s rights to know the biological father? Why not adoption instead?
There are 1-2 MILLION on the adoption waiting list.
@@mommak8342not everyone wants or can deal with a child with mental health issues due to being in foster care. I’m not saying these kids aren’t worthy but just that not all people that want kids are worthy to parent them. I hope you understand what I’m saying. Also, I’m not saying all foster kids have issues but a very high percentage of them do and if you don’t want to take that risk you shouldn’t be guilted into it.
This is BEAUTIFUL! I got chills. Thank you for sharing ❤
I too had three IVF procedures back in the early 90s. None of them took but looking back almost 40 years, I’m so happy because otherwise I would’ve never had been able to adopt two children that were meant to be mine. I adopted privately in my area from birth and kept a relationship with the birth mother for 36 years. The second fell into my lap as a friend had gone to Ukraine and visited the orphanage is there an arranged for me to adopt this little girl. She’s 33 now. My son unfortunately passed away. I am so blessed to have them and be their mom. I’ve always said to myself, whatever will be ,will be. God brings you the right children when the time is right. Keep shining and keep up your spirits although I know it is hard as I’ve been there like I said. From a 67-year-old mom❤
What a lovely story you’ve shared! Your family sounds really wonderful and lively. ❤️
Me, too! My Chinese daughter is now 28 and gave me 2 beautiful grandsons who are my life! Take care, Jane. 😍🇨🇦
@JaneRumes- xc3ns Iam so very sorry for your deep loss of your precious son.
Wow you are my hero!! 💗 I want to adopt so bad 1 day!! I'm 40!!
I absolutely agree. We always told our two adopted children that they were meant to be ours but had to come through another vessel. They are grown now but have never doubted our love for them and no difference was made between them and the one we finally were blessed with naturally. My adopted son has given us two wonderful grandchildren and the blessings just keep coming!
Infertility is so hard. We did 8 IVF's in 5 years and I'm finally holding our 2 month old miracle baby at 48. Wishing y'all the best and don't give up ❤️
Congrats!
Is it because man can't get a woman pregnant?
My mum had problems getting me here. She had 5 rounds of IVF and fifth time lucky I was conceived. Its difficult having kids but adoption is a great thing to do
Blessings!
Applause to your dedication and tenacity! Congratulations.
I have done IVF and had the heartbreak of a cycle with no fertilization and then another with no embryos making it. I know you all are putting on a cheery face for this video, but I know its an incredibly difficult and emotional process. Wishing you all the luck in the world on whatever you choose to do next!
I’m proud of you guys.
I only had one IVF attempt back in 1984 and it was truly one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. I had 17 eggs, 9 embryos and 7 implanted, but…none “stuck.” Back then it was our life savings…around $30g. I’ll be sending the energy of comfort your way. No matter what, if anything more, you decide on the journey, my heart and I’m sure many others, are with you.
I’m so sorry. I did a couple of rounds of IVF 20 years ago and none resulted in a live birth. My (now ex) went on to impregnate our neighbour, promptly kicked me out of my home, married her and now they have a child together. Life is pretty shitty sometimes.
@angelasmith3332, that's terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you.
@@kellylogsdon thanks x
Sending hugs n love your way
@@angelasmith3332f him Angela! ❤
I'm an embryologist, from Minnesota but currently live/work in Houston, TX, and omg I'm so sorry to hear about your journey! Working in the IVF lab, it's so heartbreaking when embryos die or a pregnancy doesn't "stick". Wishing you guys all the positive energy presently and in the future if you try IVF again.
Thank goodness for embryologists! We go to NY for treatment and they are amazing. Which clinic are you with in Houston?
It’s great that you have time to comment you should call them maybe.
@heathergosse can 7 million per mL successfully fertilise egg without any complications?
I would not have had my children without embyrologists or ivf. I suffered with recurrent miscarriages for over 10 years until I had my little miracle and currently pregnant with my 2nd after few more losses.
It is equally heartbreaking they are destroyed if not used . Your logic makes no sense. Be happy only when the embryo is wanted. I am a lab tech also, 30 years
IVF is such a roller coaster of emotions and it’s so personal ! I will share that I was 41 did 3 cycles and have a beautiful 23 yr old son . So it can happen if you decide to try again . Love to you both .
I love this story ❤
I was adopted at 11 and so grateful! Adoption is a beautiful gift. Please consider!❤
Some people are really miserable and have long lasting trauma from adoption though, like myself. I wouldnt wish it on anyone even though i am happy that it works for some ppl like yourself.
Just a thought that adoption is not always appreciated or happy, and it makes perfect sense for a couple to want biological or not at all
@alexisreiter3214 well if the choice is death or adoption what do you choose? I choose life regardless of how hard.
@@katharine2435 i personally would prefer to have been aborted a million times over, but i am happy you found comfort and peace in adoption and hope that for more people. I just think it’s a very personal, intimate, and polarizing subject. I myself am about to go through ivf and when ppl suggest adoption it really hurts me bc i have to get rlly deep to explain why that will not be an option for me. So that is why i share my opinion, bc if someone wants to adopt they will. I dont think advocating it is a tactful thing to do, bc some adopted kids will NEVER be grateful for being adopted, bc their life is inherently miserable. Aka how i was until i worked through my problems
Me too and very grateful!
Love to y'all as I go through IVF I know how EXHAUSTING the process is and the fact that y'all did all you could I know was so tough and you're so tough
so well done for being so very open,i am disabled .married 25 years ,my wife is..not..disabled.we was told we could not have children,..we have 1,girl and 3 boys .so amazing .i am from,england.mark
I dont want to BE rude but are you sure you are the father?
He is the father, as long as he shows the purest love to the kids..
@@MrMo-bl5pq nah man...He needs to do a paternaty test unless he wants to keep being in doubt.
@@extremebrah I think he won't have the courage to ask for a paternity test since he already feels he's over compensated because his woman has stopped down to date a disabled man.
"stopped" down to date a disabled man. What does that even mean? They are husband and wife and she didnt stop down or step down to be with the man she fell in love with. The problem isnt with them, its with poor souls that cant imagine disabled people having so much more to offer than their disability.
I went through AIs and IVFs for several years! Many tests, bloodwork, surgeries, pills & injections! It was very emotional and stressful to go through, without much support 🥺. I did have good news January 14, 2002, I conceived my beautiful daughter. I wish everyone good luck be strong and patience.. Endocrinologist in Louisville, Ky were wonderful to work with!!
I am so, so very sorry. Please consider adoption. My youngest son is adopted. His birth mother was one of our foster children and she came back and gave us her son because, she said, living with us was the only time she ever felt like a part of a family and she wanted that for her son. He was only 3 weeks old and weighed just 5 pounds when we got him. He is now 26 😊❤
That is a TRULY special story! Very happy for you. :)
Beautiful!!! ❤
Love this. Thanks for sharing.
Sounds like she made a really good decision. ❤ You did good, in many ways.
Your youngest son WAS adopted 😉 it’s a one time event, not a permanent state of being🥰. My kids were adopted at birth and I’ve always told them it was how they came into our lives, but it didn’t change their dna ❤ adoption is pretty cool, isn’t it? Just another way to build a family 😊 Someone told me that adoption is like…some people take a plane to Australia…others take a boat!
I have SMA too, and with my ex-girlfriend we tried to freeze some of my fishy-swimmers while I stopped my medication for several months. Unfortunately, there wasn't one to be found. I guess there are plenty of ways to become a parent. If my swimmers aren't here in the future, it's fine, I don't need them to become a loving parent. Thank you guys for keeping us updated, what you do is so important.
@Koriikoh you’ll be a great dad no matter how you get your children.
@@WendyH10 Thank you so much, means a lot! Of course, growing up as a disabled person without any reference was hard, so I used to reject my parenting wishes. I'm 28 years old now, and I have not a single doubt in my mind: I'm going to be an incredible father one day.
Exactly. That's why I don't understand why they don't just use a donor's sperm... or maybe even his brothers if he was cool with it? Then at least there wouldn't be a risk of an innocent child brought into the world with the same disease as Shane 😕
@@WendyH10 great dad? how? can't even hug them or hold them. Kids need to be held and loved in the arms of both parents, not virtually held. A dad holds them, cleans them, hugs them, feeds them, takes them to school, carries them plays with them, protects them and more. A healthy person and a disabled person is not a good match. Too much work for the healthy person, especially if you start a marraige that way.
@@ThatTaRaGiRL why not the seed of a strapping black guy? Whats her name might enjoy it
I have not watched you for awhile - but came across this video this morning- I was so sad to hear this and now I’m sitting on the sofa with a heavy heart for you. I hope an unexpected blessing comes your way today that lifts you up. Kindest regards
I’ve followed you guys for awhile. My parents got pregnant at 36 after 2 years of trying via IVF. My mom had a bad pregnancy many years prior to me being born and lost the baby, had major complications, hence the IVF strategy because she couldn’t go another route due to the previous complications. I was in the last batch and they had basically no hope, but here I am. I was one of the first 30 babies in MN to be successfully conceived through IVF in MN (according to my parents). I’m 31. They went through a lot of heartbreak before their last attempt (me). I am sending you a lot of hugs because this is such a crazy journey that not many people understand. My parents have explained it to me, and I actually have issues conceiving myself, now that I’ve gotten to adulthood - so I have a lot of empathy surrounding this topic.
I am considering adoption if I continue to have issues. It may not be for everyone but may be an option. Anyways, thank you for the update even though it was a tough one. I am sending yall the best. Don’t lose hope. Or if you do, make sure it’s on your own terms. I’m not there yet myself - still trying. Hugs.
Sending you both lots of love. I have definitely come across people who did several cycles of IVF and one embryo suddenly “stuck” and all was well, but obviously the whole process sounds extra exhausting for the two of you, and it’s not exactly a small amount of money I imagine!
Keep doing you, enjoy this time to rest and reset and who knows what other avenues you might want to explore in future ❤
Shane - I've been there/done that only to have multiple blanks most of which I never shared w my wife bc it worsened her heartbreak. Just have to live life and something may change down the road - it did for us! Lead on, ride on, fly on in solidarity!
Thank you for sharing your IVF journey with your audience. Your resilience in the face of disappointing results will no doubt be helpful to others experiencing issues. Much love to you both❣
I did IVF with my disabled hubby and they did a surgical retrieval including tissue as they weren’t optimistic about the quality due to him being in a chair 25 years. I only had 5 eggs retrieved. We did ICSI and had 4 successful day 5 blast. 2 which are now our girls (ages 10&7.5) I’m so sorry you went through this loss, it’s so hard to process it all. I did have to do 2 rounds before I could do retrieval too. I hope you try again in the future and that you find success in creating a family.
Adopt, adopt, adopt! We adopted our daughter 13 years ago because we couldn't get pregnant. It is wonderful and she was my very own since the time she was born. It is a beautiful thing. I encourage you to adopt!!!
You guys have been through so much. Your sharing will help others. Glad you're at a point to just enjoy your life together now.
Quite the rollercoaster life has been for you these past few months. I'm so sorry the IVF did not work out for you. It is so nice to see your strong support for each other. Much love to you both.
Thank you both for being so honest. Do not give up hope. I appreciate you both sharing your lives.
I'm so sorry things haven't worked out SO FAR, but I have great hope for you. I know it couldn't have been easy to make this video, and I also understand that there's nothing cavalier or easy about the message you delivered. So appreciate you sharing your lives, and I'm glad you're here in the city of LA. We love you.
I’m so sorry this didn’t turn out how you’d hoped. 💙 thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about it though!
Thank you for the update but I’m glad you took the time to yourselves. I love you guys I’m so sorry I didn’t work out as you’d hoped.
I have watched you both since before you were married. I have never communicated. Thanks for sharing your lives together with us. You are both beautiful human beings.❤
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They are a fake couple.
@@jakebiomask I don't believe they are a fake couple.
@@DavesRange Sheep?
Love and solidarity to you both. Appreciate you continuing to share your story and ways to help and encourage others.
my husband never had any fishy swimmers! But we have kids from Peru, Guatemala and Korea! Wishing you the best in the future!
Congratulations on your family.
Oh Thank Both of YOU ! To give a child a home, a mom and dad, siblings, a family and LOVE is what honest to GOD parents do. The skin color doesn't matter, the country doesn't matter they are helpless little humans that NEED A LOVE AND A FAMILY ! So SINCERELY THANK YOU for being Those People!!!
You are blessed. My Chinese daughter is now 28 and has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. 😍🇨🇦
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Why couldn't they adopt from America? MANY kids in America need homes and to be adopted.
You 2 are so generous and brave to share your challenging journey and difficult results. Sending you very best wishes for peace and ultimate happiness.
Thank you both for sharing your journeys. We are honored to be a part of your lives!
Seeing my friends go through IVF, I’m pretty sure this is about the most you can ask of people. So hard. Glad to see you’re in a good place now and whatever will happen in the kids department, you will leave a beautiful mark on the world.
Y'all are champs for putting this out there. It's such a tough thing that lots of people go through, but not that many people hear about. So happy you have a strong relationship and can get through the hardship. Much love to you both.
That entire process can be exhausting and full of very high highs and very low lows. Lean on each other. The Serenity Prayer helped us a lot to keep on going. Wishing you both all the best
I'm so sorry for all the IVF struggles. It is so difficult. In 2005, my husband and i went through an unsuccessful IVF attempt. It was so extremely hard. For us the next year, we were blessed with our daughter amazingly naturally after 6 years of infertility.
Thinking of you both. Wishing you all the best.
Hannah and Shane, thank you for sharing your journey with this. So many people need to hear this. I am sure it's very very hard to share.
Aw man, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you. Glad you took time to yourselves to “get over it” as you say, who knows what the future holds for you two!
Sending you both so much love from the Carolinas. Thank you for feeling safe to share that and for being vulnerable. I’m certain this video will help others who may be currently or have been down a similar path. I love seeing you two and admire your fairytale together. ❤
All support in your journey, it will come 🙏 ❤
Thank you for the update! You two are so brave to share your journey.
So sorry to hear about how your IVF journey ended this time. Thank you for sharing with us. Heartbreaking how hard it can be to conceive sometimes and how IVF is definitely not a guarantee of a baby 😢 I cried listening to this. It’s clear you both have been healing and getting through the heartache together. I had to do IVF too and it is incredibly emotional and overwhelming with so much pressure. Prayers for you both 💛
You gave it a good shot. My heart goes out to you. IVF is so emotionally and physically taxing. I didn't read any comments and hoped for a happy ending (sans fishy swimmers), but I'm glad you two took some time and are feeling a bit recovered. Maybe one day you'll feel up to trying again, but if not, that's OK too.
So sorry to hear the emotional rollercoaster you guys have been through. We were all rooting for the “fishy-swimmers” along with you. 💔 Whatever path leads you two to parenthood will be well worth these trials. It’s easy to see how much love you have to give your future child(ren), and each other. Thank you for being so open & honest - I’m sure your transparency is comforting to many. 🫂❤️
My husband had very low sperm and we did several rounds of ivf. Finally we went the adoption route and had a beautiful baby girl and boy. Totally happy but after 10 years I suddenly got pregnant all on our own! A precious son was born. They are all grown now but we have been blessed with 3 children who are all ours. Keep doing what you can for a child but there are precious babies out there that need good parents!
My 28 year old Chinese daughter has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. Aren’t we lucky?😍🇨🇦
You're husband needs enclomiphene. His testosterone is probably flat lined
@@SJC49 we absolutely are!
Such precious blessings.
I hear this so often, that people are told they will not get pregnant naturally and when they give up, suddenly the miracle happen. Nature goes weird ways sometimes.
I just love your relationship with each other. I'm 65 and happily single since I never found anything close to what u 2 have. I wouldn't settle for less so I fell in love with my independence. Cheers 🥂. Your admirer and lover of happiness, no matter how we get there ❣️.
I agree 🎉 that single life is way UNDERRATED. I’ve enjoyed a GREAT life and am very happy. Part of the reason I am single is because I love my freedom, independence, and ability to do WTF I wanna do! Life is good and I plan to keep it that way. ❤
Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex
Take a shower 🚿 for me then I will tell you what to do to your body on tex
Saaame! Just turned 43. I live for my 3 daughters (ages 20, 18, and 14) and MYSELF. I'm 1000000% content!
Right, my mother had me in her 40's and Dad was nearly 50. He too was disabled. U all have time and new advances can come around in the mean time as you continue to recover from the stress of it all.
Thanks for sharing this rough news guys. So glad you can support one another through this tough time. Be kind to yourselves xxx
The journey of infertility is so difficult! my husband and I have been on it for over a year now! We are starting our first IVF cycle in the next few months! Sending you both love in this challenging season🫶🏻
This was similar to my story. We only tried once. Too many people will say things to you that hurt but are intended to help! I don’t know how many times someone told me, “You’ll see, it’ll happen when you’re not expecting it!” “Just relax, it will happen eventually.”
We had our kids through foster adoption and I am at a place where I am happy in many ways that it happened that way.
IVF can be all consuming, it gives hope to so many but the void can be devastating & long lasting if unsuccessful. To remain focused on each other is so important & like many couples, this journey can take you to those unexpected chapters in your story. Thank you for sharing, your honesty and courage will help others in so many ways.
Oh wow, sooo emotionally intense! Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Wishing you happiness in whatever form it takes.
Love your intro song!!! You guys are loved and supported ❤ thank you for being so open and brave going through this! I am so glad you have each other
You guys are the best, you can see the love between you two. Don't give up.
Best of luck to both of you. I and your many viewers care!
Praying for you, and everyone going through such troubles. It’s hard!
You guys always cheer me up, no matter what. Thanks. :)
So much empathy for you both. 💕
I'm sorry for what you've gone through and the unfortunate result. I'm glad you're relaxing, enjoying each other...and you'll figure out what's next when you do. Love from St. Louis.
Infertility is just this side of emotional hell. Making the decision to discontinue treatment is so hard but the best one we ever made. Sending you love and peace in this chapter.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for sharing with us all.
Talk about an emotional rollercoaster, I´m so sorry for you that it didn´t happen. Hope you´re doing well in LA.
So sorry, hugs from Minnesota ❤
My heart just sunk for you 2. You have been on this for quite some time now. You both so deserve each other right now and always. Sending big hugs.
Thanks for telling your story! I can't imagine how that felt! Praying things work out for you in whatever way that may be!🙏🏻💞
I just started watching you both, hugs and enjoy each-other ❤️❤️
God bless you both. We're all rooting for you. Keep your chins up and maybe you will see better luck with it in the future. ❤
I’m so sorry! I pray you’re blessed with many babies together sooner than later .. healthy and happy!!
Sending love. I used a donor from a cryobank and did IUI. My girls are 18 and 21 now. I am forever grateful to that person. There r all kinds of paths to parenthood or deciding not to is ok too.❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I am a single woman and adopted a beautiful baby girl from Guatemala when she was 10 months old.... Cannot believe she's now 22. There are so many options out there .... Donor sperm, donor egg, surrogacy, adoption... As long as you stay open-minded and don't close any doors you will become parents!! Love you guys!♥️♥️
I thought I was not fertil myself. I got pregnant at 41. I couldn't believe it. You 2 are young. If you want to have a baby take time and try again later. You will be great parents ❤❤
41 wow! Did your pregnancy go smooth? If you feel comfortable answering of course but I was just curious because I know as you get older it’s more high risk. My mom was pregnant at 38 with her 8th (and last) baby she needed a c-section I forget why, but my sister turned out perfectly healthy and she is pretty advanced. I’m 26 but I still feel as if I’m running out of time to have kids. Someday I want to be a mom! Your family is beautiful btw!
@@CourtneyLynne0513I was 39 when I had my third. It was 17years after I had my first. It was a smooth pregnancy other than super tired. 37 weeks my blood pressure shot up so they induced me at 37 weeks. He was born perfect and I recovered well. He is 13and I’m now 52.
@@CourtneyLynne0513 I feel the same way. I'm 33. 😬 I feel like I need to make my final decision when I'm 34 (I'm still not 100% sure if this is what I want).
I was 47. Truly thought I was done. I am now 52 with a 5 year old son a 32 and 29 year old daughter and 2 grandkids. Don’t get discouraged
I have to say- I was saying the same thing you all are when this happened to friends/family....until my daughter in law & my son went thru infertility....she found the courage to tell us to just hug them, allow them to grieve, & that often we say " she's infertil" when alot of times, we don't know. I wish for nothing but the best for you both! Xo
You two are awesome. Take all the time you need... it was but a stepping stone for future blessing. You're still young, and you never know what the future holds. ❤
You both share so much, I hope people appreciate your willingness to share such personal experiences. I’m incredibly sorry for the difficulties. With how hard I’m sure things have been, you both seem so strong! Praying for the best in your future journey 💕🙏🏻
So new to the lives of Squirmy and Grubs ,sounds like an exhausting rollercoaster ,Im sure you both had some pretty tough days but I love how you are both still able to smile and kid around ,laughter can be the best balm ,sending good vibes from Melbourne Australia .PS you guys give me hope regarding having a relationship I've kissed sooooo many toads that I lost hope ,but your love is beautiful and yeah I get it nothing is perfect ect but it feels to me so healthy and respectful ,guess what Im trying to say is ... I'd love to have what you guys have
Embryo adoption might be an option for you! We struggled with infertility and loss for the past five years before we moved onto embryo adoption. I got pregnant on the first try and it has been such a blessing for us! We love this little boy so much even though he’s not genetically related to us. Being pregnant with him makes me just as much his mom and it’s created a special bond. You can even adopt whole batches of embryos so that you can have genetic siblings! I know it’s not everyone’s first choice but it’s a beautiful option to consider.
What the... Playing with life. This is not natural at all
@@mekol3627 so rude. IVF and IUI aren't natural either but MANY people are here because their parents did them. how children are brought into this world is none of your business.
Genes make people, but
People make families 🥰🥰🥰
@@mekol3627 the embryos are already created when another couple goes through IVF, whether you agree with it or not. People often have remaining embryos that they’re not able to carry or they made so many that they are done growing their family and can’t possibly use them all. I think it’s amazing that we’re able to give those babies life that they wouldn’t otherwise have.
@@catwmn14 so. Adress the cause of these "remaining embryos". Sounds like you talk about shoes or something. What is the limit in this playing with lives topic?
Totally there with you both. We are only just starting our IVF journey but everything in the UK takes SO long. Not sure how it is in the US, but here in England the communication is awful especially when it comes to giving bad news/bad results.
I think it's really sensible to pause and reflect and give yourselves time to heal. At the end of the day, children are a blessing but they aren't the be all and end all of happiness. True happiness can be found all around us as long as we look for it. Sending you both lots of positive vibes ❤
I love you both. Sending big hugs & just knowing you have each other is amazing. ❤
Been a watched for years! Love you guys so much!
You are such beautiful people. Thank you for sharing your story and journey. It can be such a process and we are sending you all hugs!
Lot’s of love for you guys. You’re helping others so much. Thanks for sharing your story.
As an adoptive mom to 2, don't give up. Take your time to process. Sending love and peace ❤
Sending you all love and peace. You are a beautiful couple and I hope there is a way - any kind of way - adoption or IVF or surprise - for you to be parents. Only because I know you’d like to be parents and you’d be wonderful ones! But your life is already filled with love and respect and adventure. I am glad you have each other and your beautiful family together. ☮️
Well we are excited to see where life takes y’all. A new road isn’t always easy but we know you’ll find adventure along the way
Keep making videos you both bring joy to the world and a smile to my face.
So so sorry it didn't work for you both, IVF is often hailed as an answer and for some it is,the rest of us,a different story. Definitely take time to yourselves whenever you need,it's such a tough thing to go through
I hope you guys don’t give up in the long run, you guys would make great parents.
I am sorry your IVF journey was not as you hoped. It is good that you have allowed yourselves the space and time to lean on one another and find strength to move forward. It is brave of you to share this part of your life with us. It is not easy, but know that we do care. We see your love is strong and it is nice to see you have found a place to once again have fun and positivity. ❤
My husband and I did two IVF's and it was so exhausting. I am thinking of you guys as it doesn't end as soon as the results are given. The process from beginning to end is a roller coaster and even after. I kept it all in, until years later (5ish) and now I allow myself to express the hurt. You two are so optimistic from all the videos I have seen, please make sure to take care of yourselves. I am glad you took the holidays for yourselves. If anyone has something to say - omg, what world are we living in? oh, a weird one.Maybe not the best choice of word, but I can't even think of one that fits. It's a sad time where there is no respect and I just hope people are not selfish and give you hate because they didn't get a video, or question your channel legitimacy. I adore both of you and followed from the start and now my mom watches 63yr old :) Positive thoughts your way for a future with a little one or with the family you have now, like my husband and I. Maybe adoption or big sister for me, but who knows :)
Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs to you both.
Sending you both SO much love...❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It's an honor to be let in to parts of your life that are so private and special to you. Many blessings to you and your family ❤
Feel free to go as slowly as you want. We will be here! Brightest Blessings
Aw so sorry to hear your news ……glad you took time to adsorb this ….its so difficult to go through …take care both of you .enjoy your videos ♥️🇨🇦
I'm sorry it didn't work out this time. It's good that you've given yourself time to be able to talk about it. You didn't have to. Hugzzzz to you both.
So sorry, wishing the VERY best for you !! Keeping good thoughts for you!!
There are so many things I love about you guys. Thank you for being wise with what you share. I really respect that.! It sucks so bad that this IVF journey has been so difficult. So sorry you have not gotten the results you wanted. Love you guys! ❤️
Wishing you both the very best❤❤❤
I'm so sorry, honeys. That's a super, super rough thing. Thank you for being willing to share this very deep low. Best to you both.
Thank you for your openness and honesty in your journey of life and love.
Hey Kristin🌹🌹🌹
How are you doing??
Currently going through a similar procedure. I feel this to the core. Sending you guys prayers and strength ❤
The way I clicked on this video so quick! Aha love you guys!!