Wish I could pin point all the wonderful things about this conversation but think will do full justice by saying his is one of the conversation making me to go back and listen to again n again. Thank you❤
Though I've been meditating for a few years, this is the first time I am beginning to understand self and non-self. Loved this and will listen to it several more times. Thank you!
I had a yoga instructor who would tell us that meditation is about checking in rather than checking out. As others have said meditation doesn’t get boring for me. Each day is different. Whether my mind is all over the place or a little more focused I know that it is the one thing I do that makes me a slightly better person for myself and for others.
As always, thank you for this excellent content. 56:00; so much of my long-time practice has been this - an opportunity to soften the negative thought patterns I get running. I never thought of that time with myself as a time for mothering myself. Really love this idea💙
Dan's sense of humor works all the time... Just love it! It helps lighten up. I think on one of your shows, you quoted Sayada UPandita saying: The mind is not yours but it is your responsibility. This clinches it - without healing and transforming the woulds and the programming, we are not whole. There was a great young Buddha teacher, very well known and very successful, by the name of Michael Stone who took his own life. That tells me that we need to integrate the healing therapy part of the teachings because it is vital and so important for wholeness and to get us experientially to the middle way!
Thank you Mark Epstein. It’s so interesting that meditation can be so very personal and individualistic but also reveals our interconnections, the universals. I remember a quote from you where you said that meditation hasn’t bored you yet. Thank you again. I am really enjoying your new book, The Zen of Therapy. 🙏❤️
Practising the dharma is our life's work. Really liked listening how Epstein applies Buddhism or Buddhist psychology to western psychotherapy. Great conversation.
IMO, if everything is impermanent, then suffering is too. The relief of suffering is to not hold onto the view of suffering as a permanent reality but rather to know that it will be followed by pleasantness, and that a deep understanding of impermanence and spaciousness allows for both.
Seeing the clinging without judgment - and that is tough because we are judging ourself and therefore do not allow ourselves to see what is happening on the inner plane! That too is part of the work on how to work with the inner judge so we may clear the path to the patterns and what is real behind the guard, so to speak.! To me, that is a crucial part that Buddhist teaching are missing in many cases.... the Jungian work - the therapy - the inner child work...etc. so that can be integrated and we become whole and are able to live the teachings.
(John Bradshaw: dysfunctional families and inner child work used to say:)The way out is the way through - and that is what Mark is talking about. Some Buddhist teachings do by pass the emotions and the love and is a bit too cerebral. I also call that: side stepping the feminine aspect of existence. Our world is out of balance because of that - it is one sided... more yang than yin and has to be both and then, the middle way. But now, it is out of balance. Your questions Dan are very helpful because you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. That is a great questioner. Also both of you are totally open to each other, allowing this conversation to synergistically integrate in a very helpful way to us. Thank you!
There's a Buddhist monastery near where I live. The monks there practice and teach Vipassana meditation techniques. They also host short and long silent retreats. I've been meditating for a few years now and would like to attend a retreat, but I wonder, how similar would their beliefs and practices be to those discussed by the teachers featured on the Ten Percent Happier app?
As I am listening to this beautiful conversation as Dan talks about Metta - loving kindness...below me in TH-cam appears a BP news clip - "Netanyahu flips at Trump calling for peace"...oh the contrast of all this...and then there is Karma...❤
13:26 "There is someway that this all connects up with love. That the understanding that one's own separateness is illusory and that if your separateness is illusory, then you must be connected. So, if we're not separate the way we imagine we are and we're actually connected in a way that we don't quite understand? What is it that makes the connection? Then it becomes sort of obvious. What is it that connects us all, really? It must be some kind of love. So when they pull back from love, some of the Buddhist; then they talk about ......relationality or relativity. You know, that nothing exist without our observation of it. Like we are always in a subjective mode in our experience of the world. So the thing just exist without our perception of it. That is another way of trying to get at the same thing. But I feel like that can be too remote; that that pulls back too much. That the actual experience of (it) that tends to dawn in meditation is some kind of heart opening." A bit of love can make "Listening to the heart" that has been broken open. Mark, you lovely one.,thanks for the statement around 51:00 where you say: "There is an essence to Mark and that essence is love....." Mark, do please listen back to this conversation: the phrase "you know" once had a different purpose for you and still does to a certain extent yet it has also now fallen into serving the automatic energy rather than the sensitive and conscious energy of the mind. No need for me to say this your own intelligence and heart will veal all that is needed to bring the phrase "you know" back to its original function. It is love in action but we need to be aware of this and let the effectiveness of love re-inform it when we use words "automatically", i.e., the silence behind the words gets squeezed out too much making the words less effective. May not just the thought or idea of love rule us but the reality of love go to further awaken the heart of us and therefore be that as it is. Thanks be for you and all your huge work.
So grateful for this conversation. Mark is a genius and we are very lucky to have him. Dan is a great interviewer, asking great questions. Thanks.
Our pleasure!
Wish I could pin point all the wonderful things about this conversation but think will do full justice by saying his is one of the conversation making me to go back and listen to again n again. Thank you❤
A true compliment! Thank you for watching.
Though I've been meditating for a few years, this is the first time I am beginning to understand self and non-self. Loved this and will listen to it several more times. Thank you!
Love this! You're so welcome.
I had a yoga instructor who would tell us that meditation is about checking in rather than checking out. As others have said meditation doesn’t get boring for me. Each day is different. Whether my mind is all over the place or a little more focused I know that it is the one thing I do that makes me a slightly better person for myself and for others.
Thank you for sharing!
As always, thank you for this excellent content. 56:00; so much of my long-time practice has been this - an opportunity to soften the negative thought patterns I get running. I never thought of that time with myself as a time for mothering myself. Really love this idea💙
Thank you for sharing your practice!
Excellent conversation. So very helpful. Gratitude. Thank you! 🙏💕🌿🌷
So glad!
Dan's sense of humor works all the time... Just love it! It helps lighten up. I think on one of your shows, you quoted Sayada UPandita saying: The mind is not yours but it is your responsibility. This clinches it - without healing and transforming the woulds and the programming, we are not whole. There was a great young Buddha teacher, very well known and very successful, by the name of Michael Stone who took his own life. That tells me that we need to integrate the healing therapy part of the teachings because it is vital and so important for wholeness and to get us experientially to the middle way!
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Thank you Mark Epstein. It’s so interesting that meditation can be so very personal and individualistic but also reveals our interconnections, the universals. I remember a quote from you where you said that meditation hasn’t bored you yet. Thank you again. I am really enjoying your new book, The Zen of Therapy. 🙏❤️
Great quote!
Practising the dharma is our life's work. Really liked listening how Epstein applies Buddhism or Buddhist psychology to western psychotherapy. Great conversation.
Yes, thank you!
Very insightful talk. This is called science of mind. Great talk❤
IMO, if everything is impermanent, then suffering is too. The relief of suffering is to not hold onto the view of suffering as a permanent reality but rather to know that it will be followed by pleasantness, and that a deep understanding of impermanence and spaciousness allows for both.
Love this!
Seeing the clinging without judgment - and that is tough because we are judging ourself and therefore do not allow ourselves to see what is happening on the inner plane! That too is part of the work on how to work with the inner judge so we may clear the path to the patterns and what is real behind the guard, so to speak.! To me, that is a crucial part that Buddhist teaching are missing in many cases.... the Jungian work - the therapy - the inner child work...etc. so that can be integrated and we become whole and are able to live the teachings.
Thanks for sharing!
I really enjoyed listening and,earning. Thank you for the honesty in this exchange.
Our pleasure!
(John Bradshaw: dysfunctional families and inner child work used to say:)The way out is the way through - and that is what Mark is talking about. Some Buddhist teachings do by pass the emotions and the love and is a bit too cerebral. I also call that: side stepping the feminine aspect of existence. Our world is out of balance because of that - it is one sided... more yang than yin and has to be both and then, the middle way. But now, it is out of balance. Your questions Dan are very helpful because you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. That is a great questioner. Also both of you are totally open to each other, allowing this conversation to synergistically integrate in a very helpful way to us. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing and your feedback!
That was helpful, thank you both.
Our pleasure!
Thank you ❣ 📡🪶💗
Thank you for watching!
There's a Buddhist monastery near where I live. The monks there practice and teach Vipassana meditation techniques. They also host short and long silent retreats. I've been meditating for a few years now and would like to attend a retreat, but I wonder, how similar would their beliefs and practices be to those discussed by the teachers featured on the Ten Percent Happier app?
The retreat center should be able to give you a good idea!
This is reminiscent of a conversation with Bruno Bettelheim, about the myth of the perfect mother.
Great recommendation!
As I am listening to this beautiful conversation as Dan talks about Metta - loving kindness...below me in TH-cam appears a BP news clip - "Netanyahu flips at Trump calling for peace"...oh the contrast of all this...and then there is Karma...❤
Life can be quite the dichotomy. Thank you for watching this episode!
Thanks for creating beauty in the world.❤🙏🏼♥️
Thank you for watching!
13:26 "There is someway that this all connects up with love. That the understanding that one's own separateness is illusory and that if your separateness is illusory, then you must be connected. So, if we're not separate the way we imagine we are and we're actually connected in a way that we don't quite understand? What is it that makes the connection? Then it becomes sort of obvious. What is it that connects us all, really? It must be some kind of love. So when they pull back from love, some of the Buddhist; then they talk about ......relationality or relativity. You know, that nothing exist without our observation of it. Like we are always in a subjective mode in our experience of the world. So the thing just exist without our perception of it. That is another way of trying to get at the same thing. But I feel like that can be too remote; that that pulls back too much. That the actual experience of (it) that tends to dawn in meditation is some kind of heart opening." A bit of love can make "Listening to the heart" that has been broken open. Mark, you lovely one.,thanks for the statement around 51:00 where you say: "There is an essence to Mark and that essence is love....." Mark, do please listen back to this conversation: the phrase "you know" once had a different purpose for you and still does to a certain extent yet it has also now fallen into serving the automatic energy rather than the sensitive and conscious energy of the mind. No need for me to say this your own intelligence and heart will veal all that is needed to bring the phrase "you know" back to its original function. It is love in action but we need to be aware of this and let the effectiveness of love re-inform it when we use words "automatically", i.e., the silence behind the words gets squeezed out too much making the words less effective. May not just the thought or idea of love rule us but the reality of love go to further awaken the heart of us and therefore be that as it is. Thanks be for you and all your huge work.
Early Buddhism mentioned the word Sunna/Sunya (zero or emptiness).
Thanks!
And also how can you sign up for the retreat?
Great question! Insight Meditation Society is one of the most well-known places.
Where can I find information regarding the retreat organized by you and Mark? I think is it next year January 25? Thank you
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that's what I did already @@TenPercentHappier
I would do a meditation retreat with you two
Note taken!
Why say “does it make sense?” It creates so much doubt in the listener