The part where Mystie said that she was just trying to find the "system to make [insert whatever chore] effortless," but it turns out that the only "system" is to consistently and daily pour yourself out - OH. MY. GOODNESS. I actually went back and watch that snippet multiple times because she literally dropped a truth bomb and BLEW. MY. MIND. Wow, just so convicting and so simple (yet, so difficult).
It doesn't hurt a child to have daily chores, it gives them a feeling of self worth. Being a "housewife" is very hard work, no matter how many children you have.
I am almost in 35 years of homemaking... Raised five children on my own when my ex husband left... Every night before bed I would first pray and then write down things that were on my mind... Things I need to do. The next days lesson plans for homeschool when the children were at home. They are now grown.. I cleaned houses for a living back then so I would also add any jobs to my list.... This is the only way I could keep my sanity in this time... Looking back now I'm thankful for these days as it has made me the woman I am today . Was my house always spotless... Lol no.. again I was raising five kids on my own while working, homeschooling and also keeping a farm....
No not a super woman.. a woman who did what she needed to do with all of God's grace... Spent more time on my knees in prayer asking god to help guide me... And he did. Now I have five grown children. Two are paid firefighters two are cnas at a local nursing home and one is a stay at home momma... There were many nights I laid in bed crying and praying that God would help me raise well adjusted humans... Ones that loved him and that would add honor to him.... By the grace of God they turned out well...
@@glendabyford8074I appreciate this response. I’m in no way close to what you went through, but with homeschooling 3 out of the 5 kids and one more on the way, I still don’t feel comfortable when people call me super woman. It’s all by God’s grace, a learners heart, and a good perspective that won’t make us drown in a glass of water (even though MANY times it does feel like that! 😅). I look at Wonder Woman. No kids. No husband. And super powers. Haha! I’m no where near that! But I do have a powerful God who strengthens me and surrounds me with women wiser than I to learn from and get to work. ❤
Lately your podcasts are so reflective for me. I’m in a busy season, newly homeschooling and have 4 kiddos 10 down to 3. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s so helpful to hear I’m not alone and how to calm the chaos in your head and validate myself.
I struggle often with this. I have been home making for 24 years now and now I have added homesteading on top of that. Figuring out what to work on daily can feel overwhelming because there are tons of areas needing my attention daily. I like daily routines that help but I still have days I feel overwhelmed. It is very important work❤ it can be a beautiful life.
I’m now a grandmother but remember so well those feelings of being overwhelmed. I always thought it was just me,lol. Now I know better. I’m glad you make episodes like this and find I can still learn from them! 🥰
I used to say to myself ‘As long as my house is clean by 3pm (when kids got home from school) I was a valuable stay at home mom’. So not true! I’m still the mom in the house 20 years later, but now I work outside the house 40 hours a week. I gave up having a perfectly clean home, not planning all the meals for the week and my adult children that are still at home pitch in because they learned as kids how to cook, clean and care for themselves as well as our home. 😊
Definitely can relate to the fallacy of just having to find the "right system". I think like with everything on life we should stop to waste time on researching how to make shortcuts and just do what needs to be done. Most of the time it is not as bad or hard as we think it would be😅
I came to your channel for sourdough, I stayed for blogging, watched dozens of your videos, and now I'll say this has been the most helpful & encouraging episode for me so far, for the season I'm in. ❤ Thank you both!
The Lord really does hear our prayers and burdens. The first few minutes my heart posture was checked 😔 I haven’t wanted to pour myself out but… very honestly put… the work is pour from ourselves day in and day out. Not without reward, but without knowing in the moment what the reward will Be.
Literally one of the best interviews I’ve listened to. This was sooo encouraging. Things got extremely “off track” for us over the past 5 years due to major chronic illness and unexpected life events. I never saw my life going in the direction it has. This gave me hope. Hope to keep on going and that things don’t have to be perfect. And I’ve been at the homemaking, homeschooling gig now for 18 years.
Such a great conversation! Had always worked full time (40 hours) away from home when having and raising kids was able to stay home from work longer after having my 2nd (twins) and thought that was why they behaved and slept better, especially when compared to my oldest (single), hearing you both helps me realize that all Moms just go through this type of situation. Thanks so much for sharing this talk!
I only have five kids Lisa but I do love that y'all said to only put on your list what you know can be accomplished in that day. We homeschool and so it's frustrating for my list to only be school laundry meals and dishes. And rarely anything extra
My first two babies slept through the night at 6-10 weeks old. My third never slept through the night until 2.5 years old, at which point, my fourth baby as a new born was sleeping better than my toddler. The toddler still only sleeps through the night about 50% of the time, half of the nights he gets up multiple times. Each child is different and nothing I do will force this kid to sleep.
I make my bed everyday. My father told me growing up that I needed to and it stuck. Ironically my grandmother (father's mom) told me not to make the bed first thing in the morning. The bed needed time to air out. End of story I figure if it gets done by noon I am doing good. I have to say that I do appreciate the room more with the bed made.
Becky at the Seasonal Homestead would be fun to hear on your podcast! Garden talk. Planting for a big family, cooking from the garden and preserving ;)
I don't have children, and I am much older than you two ladies, and I still enjoyed listening to you and I also learned a lot... and I also could relate to many things regarding prioritization, "justification" for being on or off the list etc. The incremental approach is a big one - I also tend to do it all/perfect or don't do it all 🙃🤦Congratulations to both of you for all the good work of raising children and maintaining organized and lovely homes.
It helps children to help with house and farm chores. They learn how to do it for when they're grown in their own place. They also learn what you're talking about. It doesn't stay clean. It ALWAYS need repeated daily or weekly. They learn responsibility as well. I'm sure there are other lessons, b7 how els does a person learn to do for themselves, what needs to be done and how it's done if we as parents don't teach them how to GROW!❤😊
Thanks for the video Lisa. Would you consider having Erica Komisar on the podcast? She’s been on couple of other podcasst recently and it’s fascinating what she is saying to us mothers.
Lisa and Mystie, can you expand on what it means to pour yourself out each day? Our children are now adults and living wonderful joyful lives. I’m asking for myself in this season as a Mom, Gammie, Wife, and now exploring the next chapter as an entrepreneur. I really want to understand this concept better and apply it to both our home and my next chapter. Thank you. 💖
Yes! Pouring ourselves out is more obvious when everyone is little, but we still can invest in building up people after our children are launched. Being involved with grandkids and the church is one avenue, but business also does (or can) promote growth in ourselves and others. I try to think about how I can offer hospitality in whatever I'm doing - homeschooling, church, and business.
@@simplyconvivial Thank you so much Mystie. Your answer is exactly what I was thinking. Nurturing our now adult children, as a Gammie, my husband, and in fellowship and friendship in our community. It only makes sense to extend this into my entrepreneurial creativity, as I have in the past. I just had not heard the term before.
In my case i don't have kids (wish though) i sometimes have days where i don't have anything planed to do except like food etc. Essentials but if i do something then i feel good.
I was a stay at home mom. I homeschooled, kept the home, paid the bills, maintained a successful cottage industry (because I believe women should have their own money), the list was long. I'll never forget when my now ex-husband said, "you dont do anything". I was crushed. It would definitely help having the support of your husband.
But not anyone does do it! (homekeeping, mothering) It's up close and personal. It's a sacred ritual. I wish I'd have had your excellent advice years ago! Great job! I love your epiodes!
How to sleep train a thirteen month old? Still nurses about 2-3 times per night. I’m ready not sure if he is. Both me and hubby are ready for our bed back. Want to start trying for another by the time our baby reaches 18 months. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.
I kept waiting to hear *how is home making valueable*. Y'all mentioned/agreed that home making *is* valuable. But *how* is it valuable? I want to value it, but find it very menial (as y'all discussed).
When God made Adam and Eve, he told them to tend the garden. The work of upkeep to promote human flourishing was work given us by God before sin entered the world. It's what God made people to do. It's valuable work because God made it to be so. When we disagree with God, we know we're missing something. Prayer, Bible reading, repenting, and obeying in gratitude reorient our heart and mind to align with reality as God made it rather than the lies of the world we've swallowed.
The part where Mystie said that she was just trying to find the "system to make [insert whatever chore] effortless," but it turns out that the only "system" is to consistently and daily pour yourself out - OH. MY. GOODNESS. I actually went back and watch that snippet multiple times because she literally dropped a truth bomb and BLEW. MY. MIND. Wow, just so convicting and so simple (yet, so difficult).
Yes, very same.
I’ve definitely to this day been down on myself because none of my systems have worked. 😂 I can laugh now because she absolutely right
Same here
It doesn't hurt a child to have daily chores, it gives them a feeling of self worth. Being a "housewife" is very hard work, no matter how many children you have.
It actually hurts them to not have chores.
Agreed! In a family, everyone contributes. It shouldn't have to fall on the mom to do everyone's work and pick up after everything!
As a parent, you are teaching your children they will be working in the world. They learn this servitude at home ....
I am almost in 35 years of homemaking... Raised five children on my own when my ex husband left... Every night before bed I would first pray and then write down things that were on my mind... Things I need to do. The next days lesson plans for homeschool when the children were at home. They are now grown.. I cleaned houses for a living back then so I would also add any jobs to my list.... This is the only way I could keep my sanity in this time... Looking back now I'm thankful for these days as it has made me the woman I am today . Was my house always spotless... Lol no.. again I was raising five kids on my own while working, homeschooling and also keeping a farm....
You are a super woman!
No not a super woman.. a woman who did what she needed to do with all of God's grace... Spent more time on my knees in prayer asking god to help guide me... And he did. Now I have five grown children. Two are paid firefighters two are cnas at a local nursing home and one is a stay at home momma... There were many nights I laid in bed crying and praying that God would help me raise well adjusted humans... Ones that loved him and that would add honor to him.... By the grace of God they turned out well...
@@glendabyford8074I appreciate this response. I’m in no way close to what you went through, but with homeschooling 3 out of the 5 kids and one more on the way, I still don’t feel comfortable when people call me super woman. It’s all by God’s grace, a learners heart, and a good perspective that won’t make us drown in a glass of water (even though MANY times it does feel like that! 😅). I look at Wonder Woman. No kids. No husband. And super powers. Haha! I’m no where near that! But I do have a powerful God who strengthens me and surrounds me with women wiser than I to learn from and get to work. ❤
🇨🇦This is beautiful. God is so faithful and gracious.@@glendabyford8074
She is on to something…it really is all about how you look at things. We enjoy your vlogs thanks for helping us think more clearly.
Thanks for watching!
Lately your podcasts are so reflective for me. I’m in a busy season, newly homeschooling and have 4 kiddos 10 down to 3. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s so helpful to hear I’m not alone and how to calm the chaos in your head and validate myself.
"Learn to love what must be done." Brilliant. Thank you
I struggle often with this. I have been home making for 24 years now and now I have added homesteading on top of that. Figuring out what to work on daily can feel overwhelming because there are tons of areas needing my attention daily. I like daily routines that help but I still have days I feel overwhelmed.
It is very important work❤ it can be a beautiful life.
I’m now a grandmother but remember so well those feelings of being overwhelmed. I always thought it was just me,lol. Now I know better. I’m glad you make episodes like this and find I can still learn from them! 🥰
Yes! Thank you!
7:42 13 years in and this is totally my struggle. I am always looking for the system that makes it effortless 😂 I need a reality check LOL
❤ Thank you for this! “Pouring yourself out every day” is such a beautiful way of describing homemaking!
I used to say to myself ‘As long as my house is clean by 3pm (when kids got home from school) I was a valuable stay at home mom’. So not true! I’m still the mom in the house 20 years later, but now I work outside the house 40 hours a week. I gave up having a perfectly clean home, not planning all the meals for the week and my adult children that are still at home pitch in because they learned as kids how to cook, clean and care for themselves as well as our home. 😊
Definitely can relate to the fallacy of just having to find the "right system". I think like with everything on life we should stop to waste time on researching how to make shortcuts and just do what needs to be done. Most of the time it is not as bad or hard as we think it would be😅
I came to your channel for sourdough, I stayed for blogging, watched dozens of your videos, and now I'll say this has been the most helpful & encouraging episode for me so far, for the season I'm in. ❤ Thank you both!
The Lord really does hear our prayers and burdens. The first few minutes my heart posture was checked 😔 I haven’t wanted to pour myself out but… very honestly put… the work is pour from ourselves day in and day out. Not without reward, but without knowing in the moment what the reward will
Be.
Literally one of the best interviews I’ve listened to. This was sooo encouraging. Things got extremely “off track” for us over the past 5 years due to major chronic illness and unexpected life events. I never saw my life going in the direction it has. This gave me hope. Hope to keep on going and that things don’t have to be perfect. And I’ve been at the homemaking, homeschooling gig now for 18 years.
So happy to hear you found some encouragement!!!
Not ten minutes in and out of no where my heart felt heard and tears welled up. Thank you for all that you said!
"Having to be the one to make the judgement call....and then it's a learned skill...."
This really stood out to me
Oh my goodness!
Two of my most favorite ladies chatting on a podcast together! Thank you for the delightful discussion!❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Such a great conversation! Had always worked full time (40 hours) away from home when having and raising kids was able to stay home from work longer after having my 2nd (twins) and thought that was why they behaved and slept better, especially when compared to my oldest (single), hearing you both helps me realize that all Moms just go through this type of situation. Thanks so much for sharing this talk!
I only have five kids Lisa but I do love that y'all said to only put on your list what you know can be accomplished in that day. We homeschool and so it's frustrating for my list to only be school laundry meals and dishes. And rarely anything extra
My first two babies slept through the night at 6-10 weeks old. My third never slept through the night until 2.5 years old, at which point, my fourth baby as a new born was sleeping better than my toddler. The toddler still only sleeps through the night about 50% of the time, half of the nights he gets up multiple times. Each child is different and nothing I do will force this kid to sleep.
Super conversation!! Great motivation to build those homemaking muscles!
Probably one of your most influential podcasts Lisa! Especially for new moms.
I make my bed everyday. My father told me growing up that I needed to and it stuck. Ironically my grandmother (father's mom) told me not to make the bed first thing in the morning. The bed needed time to air out.
End of story I figure if it gets done by noon I am doing good. I have to say that I do appreciate the room more with the bed made.
One of the best podcasts I’ve heard in a while. Very helpful. Thank you.
Super helpful to a first time mom from the uk! Thanks!!
Becky at the Seasonal Homestead would be fun to hear on your podcast! Garden talk. Planting for a big family, cooking from the garden and preserving ;)
This video was absolutely perfect! Just long enough for me to tidy up my kitchen and do my dinner prep! Thanks for the motivation and body double. 😊❤
I don't have children, and I am much older than you two ladies, and I still enjoyed listening to you and I also learned a lot... and I also could relate to many things regarding prioritization, "justification" for being on or off the list etc. The incremental approach is a big one - I also tend to do it all/perfect or don't do it all 🙃🤦Congratulations to both of you for all the good work of raising children and maintaining organized and lovely homes.
Love Azure standard cleaning products! I have them all! Glad they're sponsoring your channel!
Great show, Ladies! Thank you!💐🌺💐🌺
The negative mental reinforcement is HUGE!! It's all about perspective and your internal narrative, which can be so difficult sometimes.
This was such a great and mich needed episode for me. Thank you thank you !
Wow I haven't listened yet (I'm sure I will love the content) but I just wanted to say wow you look gorgeous in the thumbnail!
Oh thank you!
Yes absolutely agree, she looks stunning❤
It helps children to help with house and farm chores. They learn how to do it for when they're grown in their own place. They also learn what you're talking about. It doesn't stay clean. It ALWAYS need repeated daily or weekly. They learn responsibility as well. I'm sure there are other lessons, b7 how els does a person learn to do for themselves, what needs to be done and how it's done if we as parents don't teach them how to GROW!❤😊
Congratulations to Mystie's family on the marriage of her child.
Thanks for the video Lisa. Would you consider having Erica Komisar on the podcast? She’s been on couple of other podcasst recently and it’s fascinating what she is saying to us mothers.
So encouraging, Thank you!
A great insight! Thank you so much for your help🙂
I really needed this one.
This so resonated with me! Wish I could have heard this when raising my kids!
Lisa and Mystie, can you expand on what it means to pour yourself out each day? Our children are now adults and living wonderful joyful lives. I’m asking for myself in this season as a Mom, Gammie, Wife, and now exploring the next chapter as an entrepreneur. I really want to understand this concept better and apply it to both our home and my next chapter. Thank you. 💖
Yes! Pouring ourselves out is more obvious when everyone is little, but we still can invest in building up people after our children are launched. Being involved with grandkids and the church is one avenue, but business also does (or can) promote growth in ourselves and others. I try to think about how I can offer hospitality in whatever I'm doing - homeschooling, church, and business.
@@simplyconvivial Thank you so much Mystie. Your answer is exactly what I was thinking. Nurturing our now adult children, as a Gammie, my husband, and in fellowship and friendship in our community. It only makes sense to extend this into my entrepreneurial creativity, as I have in the past. I just had not heard the term before.
In my case i don't have kids (wish though) i sometimes have days where i don't have anything planed to do except like food etc. Essentials but if i do something then i feel good.
Great chat! Thank you.
Hello Lisa and Mystie. Thanks for sharing. STTB
Thank you what ever is the next right thing !😊
I was a stay at home mom. I homeschooled, kept the home, paid the bills, maintained a successful cottage industry (because I believe women should have their own money), the list was long. I'll never forget when my now ex-husband said, "you dont do anything". I was crushed. It would definitely help having the support of your husband.
What a difficult experience to endure. Of course you know your worth and value is not defined by someone else's angry words or discontent heart.
But not anyone does do it! (homekeeping, mothering) It's up close and personal. It's a sacred ritual. I wish I'd have had your excellent advice years ago! Great job!
I love your epiodes!
Great listen!!
Thank you❤
How to sleep train a thirteen month old? Still nurses about 2-3 times per night. I’m ready not sure if he is. Both me and hubby are ready for our bed back. Want to start trying for another by the time our baby reaches 18 months. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.
The discussion fatigue is real!
I kept waiting to hear *how is home making valueable*. Y'all mentioned/agreed that home making *is* valuable. But *how* is it valuable?
I want to value it, but find it very menial (as y'all discussed).
When God made Adam and Eve, he told them to tend the garden. The work of upkeep to promote human flourishing was work given us by God before sin entered the world. It's what God made people to do. It's valuable work because God made it to be so. When we disagree with God, we know we're missing something. Prayer, Bible reading, repenting, and obeying in gratitude reorient our heart and mind to align with reality as God made it rather than the lies of the world we've swallowed.
It’s never going to be smooth sailing. Just learn how to sail. Wow!!